Learn Self Acceptance Self Confidence By Letting Go Of Ego & Being Yourself
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The weight of carrying a false identity, constructed from insecurity and ego can be overwhelming. Everyone already sees you for who you are and has chosen to accept or reject you. Show up as who you are. You have nothing to prove. This is the path to true self confidence. Love yourself and accept that you are perfectly imperfect.
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I don't know about all people but this thing is deep and if you understand and master it. You can be the best version of yourself for rest of the life.
wow. thanks for the words.
I agree with you !!
This "thing" is ascension and you have 222 likes.
False ego?
@@thefutur you look fine. I wish I was as slim as you! There is nothing wrong with your voice. You come across as highly intelligent and likeable.
You proved some of us are harder on ourselves than anyone.
Why does it always feel like these videos are tailor-made for where I am in life.
Callum Griffith we feel the pain through the ethos.
Agreed
They're spying on us creatives o.o
I was thinking the same thing
@@woodylee4924 I would have sworn that too haha just kidding XD
Caring more about other people is the easiest way to gain confidence
Have you experienced this?
The Futur definitely!
As long as you let go of your ego...!!!!
Just the oposite in my opinion
Benjamin I Meszaros it is true as long as you dont help for validation
This is soul cleansing! Man I can't tell you how many times I avoid speaking or engaging with people because I have this self built fear of saying something invaluable. I feel like this is still a work in progress for me, so thank you for this.
Jordan Peterson said something amazing in one of his videos, "the willingness to being a fool is a precursor to transformation".
that jordan peterson guy knows a thing or tow NDS. glad to help.
0:40 IMPOSTER AMONG US 😳
That and it's always comforting to know nobody cares about the things you're insecure about but you. Everyone else is absorbed into their own realities
That line "Everybody is already okay with who you are" was great and made so much sense. Like, duh, any "mask" or front I put up isn't fooling people. Same way I can tell when others are putting on a "mask". Awesome strategy to just focus on how to serve the person or people you're interacting with rather than focusing on our egos. Great video.
Have hit a total crisis with ego and insecurity at the moment - I needed to hear this. (It's been a bad day) And I myself have often felt I needed to leave ego behind as I've been aware for some time now that humility/selflessness and true confidence go hand-in-hand. I am really struggling with a sense of failure in my life, feel I have a lot to prove, and need to let it go. You broke it down so well, thank you.
Thank you. Here for you.
after a year, I'm crying again while watching this video, feeling better again about myself and rembering that I'm more important to the world than my ego. Thank you, Chris. Thank you so much!
You’re very welcome. Take care of yourself.
You can’t change your external factors always but can mould your inner self and be content with what you are. Love these type of videos from you Chris.
thanks buddy.
This is exactly what I needed at this moment. Your channel has been a game changer for me ever since I discovered it!
thanks. consider becoming a sustaining member if you're not one already. Appreciate it!
this is something i can relate to. i'm introvert and i do have same problem, just i'm still studying. but i know i'm always be myself, though more likely "my own pace". and to know that "Everyone already sees you for who you are" really open something new for me today.
You can’t have victory without vulnerability. Thank you Chris!
0:40 I genuinely thought this was an among us joke and then realized this video was published in 2018
When the people that matters accepts you for who you are, it will help you find your way to self-acceptance
The world already sees you for who you are
Go out with the mindset of "I want to help people" and boom with confidence.
Amazing video
I've also come to this realization naturally, however this also helps explain the concept to me. Very good talk.
This is literally one of the best advice I've heard untill now... It's simple but genius - “Be of service to people whilst being who you already are.” Thank you so much for this. You're great !! 😍💜
I can literally feel the sincerity in his words.
Thank you for the inspiration, Chris.
This came timely for me,
Chris I don't know you personally but I am going to be forever grateful that I have stumbled across your content.
Wow...this sounds precisely like me...I struggled with this every single day of my life and i have been lost for so long😔.almost all of my life I suffered keeping myself back in life, being highly interverted in an mainly extroverted world was always a challenge.....I thought I was the only person in the world that I had this issue. Thank you Chris, I love you man.
Looking back on it, how much you have been able to transform, that is what is so inspirational to me and so many others. Makes me feel like I can do that. If it came naturally to you like it did for Jose, I don't think you'd have as powerful of a story or connect as deeply with many of us here. That in and of itself is incredibly motivating.
thanks Alex. I hope by sharing the struggle, work and transformation of my own story that it will empower and encourage others to believe anything is possible. just watch the old videos if you don't believe me.
This simply resonates a lot in me. I have tried my whole life to be something I'm not, and that does take a lot of energy that hardly gets paid back.
It's simply not worth trying to fake it.
Felipe Silva it’s what I learned.
Thank you Chris for sharing so bravely and vulnerably THE big key that can potentially change everything in a person’s life. Understanding that the Ego is not us but a false construct arising from deep insecurity to protect us from rejection, self and others, due to our subconsciously perceived inadequacies or the learned notion that we are somehow not enough innately. It’s a very heavy, stressful, painful way to live.Thank you for bravely putting yourself out here vulnerably, man, just to help us understand this. That took heart and guts.
I love how you make the contents of your videos so honest and concise that they pierce through the minds and hearts of your viewers---somehow in some ways rekindle this "fire" within them.
Great lecture. Battling this crap my entire life.
sorry to hear. hope this helps.
White and Christian here, Chris. I will say you are more motivating and encouraging than a lot of the preachers/pastors I have heard. It’s your heart, Chris. That’s what we see and feel through what you provide others. Service!
Thanks 🙏
Real happiness comes into your life when you accept yourself as you are x
I absolutely love this mans voice. And the way he carries himself. So this is very funny. Because I feel the same way about myself. This is beautiful
Thank you 🙏
This 2 year old video just popped up on as a recommended video & it was something I truly needed to hear.
Just wanted to thank Chris Do for sharing that personal story like this & for you guys continuing to make such powerful content right now during this time.
we got some stuff on the back shelf. ;)
Great video Chris! Thanks for sharing, really resonated with me and it’s good to know it’s totally normal to feel like that 🤟
Dansky thanks Dan.
Two legends in the same room! Big inpiration!!!
This is a legacy video...it will still be talked about decades later.... thanks Chris for sharing
Timothy Adekunle let’s hope you are right.
Describing yourself during your first videos, you described a good part of my life.
I avoid thinking about it as much as possible, but hearing about it certainly did me good.
Thank you
BartzITA95 glad I told that story.
once you are comfortable with who you are, you start to attract the right crowd for you.
on a less related topic, I was just reading about the Dunning-Kruger effect... also about self-image and performance.
do you recommend?
the Dunning-Kruger effect? yes of course! Once applied to our field, it basically explains why beginners can overestimate the quality of their work, while experts can underestimate theirs.
for example with typography: someone buys a pen and starts writing with absolutely no clue about the anatomy of letters. He's so happy with the result and can't see mistakes because he doesn't know the basics.
On the other hand, an expert who knows a lot more than the basics may think the basics are so easy and everyone knows them. it's a matter of cognition or perception..not of ego.
I love that this channel has turned into much more than design, deliverables and pixels. Thanks Chris!
one day you wake up and we evolve. it happens right?
I have been stuck in my own head and stressing about how to act and what to say for a preflight/portfolio review event tomorrow. As a first year Graphic design student who stutters, this video was exactly what I needed to hear at the right time. Thank you Chris Do. This helped bring me peace.
so glad to hear.
Andre Clark How has it helped you? What did you change?
This is the best video. I play football and have problems with some of my teammates. They don't accept me. i m good player still not accepting it n pass me ball. And after the match I can't stop thinking about it .. can't sleep because of a 90 minutes match. But now i realized that i should let it go. My ego. That i will prove to them that i m better. I should spend my energy n time on me. N let go of my ego. N focus on me. N accept me.
Humility is what jumps out at me, so beautiful.
Things use to scare me too before but after watching your videos Chris I have changed a lot and its amazing feeling. I love it. I am more confident and more relaxed while meeting people now. Thank you so much.
Sumeet Gupta you bet.
Accept that nobody’s perfect and so am I. Yeah people can judge me or look down on me or do/talk whatever about me. I’m the one who always scared people judges me so what people talks about me really matters to me. I’ve used the “Observe Thoughts” technique and I realize most of my thoughts in day just about caring about what people will think/talk about me. I knew I just don’t need to care those things but I don’t know how to do that. But since now, just by watching your video I just know what I need to learn rn is Self-acceptance. Thank you so much!
I am 18 and i go to college, I don't have any real work still i feel as an imposter. This video inspires me for the journey that lies ahead.
It must take a lot of courage to go so deep inside you and bring these vulnerable stories to the surface and share them with everyone. Thank you.
Ana Marcu hi Ana.
Amazing. I accept myself as I am and I accept everyone else as they are :)
3 years later and it's still so powerful to hear
It's refreshing to hear someone who isn't just spouting some intro to psychology 101 BS and speaking from genuine experience acceptance realization and growth. Thank you
Thank you 🙏
This video showed up on my recommendation exactly the time I needed this video the most.
Ah man, this is so relatable to me, and im sure with many others. Thank you, Chris, every time I listen to you it feels so awesome.
I have really liked their videos. But this one is the best so far. I really needed this because I really have an ego of what things should look like or who I am. This is so freeing that my ego doesn't define me because I have never measured up.
My mind has been officially blown. This is a truly incredible revelation, and you have just helped a fellow jaw-clencher out big time !!
The best talk I've ever watched. It's so deep and genuine. Chris do really doing it big time! ☇
I swear to God, I feel like its self-awareness day for me (first an article on human flaws and then this video comes in a moment later) but I really needed this video. Regardless how crucial It is, it hits home. Hard. But it helps me open my eyes and open my mind and makes me be quiet and think what's important because there are times I feel like I'm going through an existential crisis not too long ago. But now, I know what i need to face and finally accept. Thank you so much for this video The Futur. I appreciate it. A whole lot.
you're welcome. hope you are okay. 🙏
Thank you (btw no offense but Chris looked awkward in that first video sorry please don't be mad I said that lol)
This is such an amazing thing to tell to people. I can't thank you enough Chris!
I'm still working on accepting who I'm. Thanks for sharing your story Chris!
This is one of the best videos you guys ever made. Really really inspiring. Hope you get this message, it helped me a lot to understand so much things i´ve been doing with my clients and the people around me.
I read all the comments Ema.
Thanks a lot Chris, this channel is what I and other creatives needed. This video is really powerful
, I struggled with this a lot and finally breaking through this year.
A audiobook that really helped was “the courage to be disliked” . Highly recommend it. It can be a tough listen but it’s worth looking into. It might hit others different depending where your at.
This video is a pure gem. I can feel that anxiety of being in such rooms filled with talented people and have absolutely nothing to share. Being an introvert it's hard to find voice in writing as well. So one can imagine how worse things can be when you have to phase something physically. But I keep boosting myself and practicing such good suggestions. 🙏
The Futur of Design. The Futur of education. The truth of life. Thank you Chris and The Futurers for the value given. LOVED IT.
Proud to be a sustaining member and part of the Community!
Appreciate you Jose! you make the dream possible.
I can totally relate. 😔
Most inspiring thing I've heard in a long time. 🙏
Its really valuable to know you were going through that stuff even after years of experience.
Definitely opened my eyes to how i look at myself
Thanks
This was very impactful for me thank you Chris it helped me because I struggle with this throughout my life ✊🏾✊🏾
Thank you! I needed that because I’m always changing my hair Color and style. It’s frustrating because I can only change so much about myself without feeling fake.
🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much. I'm so scared to step out and start doing videos about something that has being on my heart for months now because I don't feel confident enough behind camera. This helps.❤
Honestly one of the best videos I saw. Thank you Chris!
Appreciate it.
Man that was powerful. Thank you for being open and sharing this!
This is really inspired me ! I’ve been follow the stoicism for awhile and it give me so much confidence in front of people no matter who that was .
I originally from Taiwan 🇹🇼 started learning English when I turned 24 years old . At the time I was a single mom just got divorced.. I have no where to go . So I moved from Taiwan to NYC with my baby .. since then my English still isn’t great , but now I work at design agency in Norway and I’m comfortable to talk to client and handle design project with so different culture perspective.
I just wanted to thanks Chris and Jose , I watched your video around 3-4 years ago till now and I have grown so so much and become more and more confident with my design . 😍
This really resonated with me. Thank you for being so open Chris! thats no easy task.
this made me feel better srsly i am confident but i sort of do it for myself rather than just helping everyone else
I looked around the net for something that can help my self love. I gave girth recently and I'm struggling with weight gain, self image and self awareness... I don't know what's going on with me. I've always accepted myself and felt confident and in peace. Now I'm overwhelmed with work and motherhood and my sex life... It's been rough. This was really helpful I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thanks a bunch. Sending you lots of love.
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This channel is uploading exactly what I need to do in my life.
Thanks, Master Do and team.
Love from India.
I wanna give my man Chris a hug. I was in the feels the whole video :'') thanks Chris for being able to be vulnerable all respects to you. I've learned so much from this video. Imay doubts myself and not want to be on camera but I realize that everyone already loves me for who i am so putting on a persona is just wrong.
hugging you back over the internet Eden.
❤️ I love you for doing this! Chris Do & Thefutur = Best thing I could have ever come across.
Thank you soo much Chris, the other day I looked at you and I looked at myself and realised that of many people out there you are just a normal person doing great things. I am African but I saw myself in you in sense that I am a simple guy who just speaks his mind, loves to speak power in other people's lives. I am not the ideal model but I'm just me and that just fine, my job is just to serve. Thanks again
You're very welcome. we are just humans.
Wow! It’s one of the best videos, if not the best video, I’ve seen in the last weeks and months.Thanks so much!
Appreciate it!
Video worth replaying when one is down or lost
I really needed to hear this. Thanks Chris.
You're such an inspiring and wise man, Chris. You help me improve myself with each video, thank you for everything.
Pablo Torres happy to share.
Watched it again, and still amazing.
This video was beautiful. I love how thefutur doesn't only deal with design, but with personal development and mindfulness. Beautiful talk Chris, your growth is an inspiration to us all.
Jephthe Ferdilus Thank you so much.
Its human phenomena, that "when you learn share it to serve". Thank you, Chris, for sharing a simple solution. I have the same issue of facing people but I want to serve them. And this video gave me the energy to move on. All the best for making more videos to serve people, animals or to the aliens :).
go to hear Hani.
Excellent talk Chris.
I like the (new?) "Do" signature at the end. Feels like a little touch of hand-made authenticity to close it out. And there's a nice double-entendre of telling the viewer to go out and "Do". ;)
hehe. Caleb did a great job with the signature animation. Now go do it!
Thanks for sharing your experiences with self-doubt and insecurity, Chris. Personally, I tend to lap up anytime a man, especially an accomplished man such as yourself, speaks with honesty and sincerity about his self-doubts and insecurities. As someone who tries to approach jobs with humility and a willingness to serve, your comments validate my intent to continue doing so.
oh, if you like vulnerability, we got another video in the works for you.
Looking forward to it.
Happy the be #500 to like this teaching by Chris. Between all the selling and false people on the internets, it's refreshing to know that Chris in his heart is just "one" of many, but will open his heart and mind to his audience and not speak words he doesn't believe in. Hopefully, this will be a "good" reference, but he's the new "Mr. Rogers" in the neighborhood of the web. Because he cares about his neighbors and his community. - I really appreciate an honest man in this day. May you continue to be blessed, Mr. Do! Love you, man!
John Beatty thank you sir.
This is the most relatable video I've actually seen of you Chris I can relate to a lot of those fears and problems although I'm not as influential as you so thank you for sharing
thanks Darren. i will make a great effort to share some of struggles.
I meditated this morning on self acceptance and confidence. And I came across this video today. Very interestingly that it came to me at this time in my life. I do got to say this mirror mask is real and holding onto this idea of ourselves does drain our energy, which can be exhausting and a waste of living instead of living an authentic flowing life. Thank you 🙏 for the Videos! God Bless you all on your journeys!
Bless you!
Great video Chris. Thank you for sharing those stories. It is so connecting to see other people allowing themselves to be human.
Chris, thank you for sharing, it was very important to me to know that you felt the same in the past and overcame it! very inspirational! thank you again!
This is Deep !
Incredible message. Thank you, Chris!
THIS LECTURE WAS AND IS ONE OF THE BEST. IT TOUCHED ME CLEARLY . THANK YOU. THANK YOU
This just completely healed a part of me. Thank you Chris
well said man! as we all are anxious, this really helps.
It’s all about love! Thank you.
Andrea Philippon ❤️
Damn, I wish I found this video earlier. It is one of the most important life lessons and literally changed me. Big thanks to Chris and your team again for this resource.
This might be one of the most important videos you have made so far. Amazing advice that we all need to hear. Thanks!!
Jarrod Dowalter thanks Jarrod. Going deeper on this video. Glad to see that you also recognize it.
My today's meeting is going to be really great after watching this.
Chetan Dogra good!!
I was literally just researching humility and what it means to be humble and this resonates so profoundly. Also, Chris, your voice is lovely :)
awww. thanks. I have grown to tolerate my voice.
So important clip! I can see myself in this and always thought about this as a designer/human. More this kind of videos 👍🏼
Chris, day by day your videos are covering the whole inside out and outside in. Just not the Design, Business but Life. I feel very much connected to this video. Keep doing great work! May thanks.
thanks so much. we are going to open up the mindset stuff a little more.
Great video The Futur team. I deal with what I call an imposter syndrome at times when I sit down with new clients. If it's an existing client, I feel comfortable and composed. But if it's a new client, I tend to think too much and try too hard. Thank you for putting more clarity on the purpose I'm meeting with in the first place.
Nicholas David be of service and everything else wil be okay.