The Instantaneous Girlfriend/ She Wants To Meet You at the Airport!!!
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- The Instantaneous Girlfriend/ She Wants To Meet You at the Airport!!!@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 The Philippines is open, and you are finally going to meet the woman of your dreams! Or are you?
Good advice! I am sure I will look like a White Roll of Toilet Paper! Everyone will try to wipe their rear end with me!
I've never heard of that analogy.
In some places they charge you big money for that 😂
That was such a sweet response from your lady. Patience is a virtue.
Asking for money, for travel or "investment" is a major red flag. Respect yourself and immediately block them
Just the tap of a finger to block can prevent so much heart ache and financial loss .
you are very wiseman ~
thank you for, all you're wise advice,,,
I appreciate that!
Paul,
Tks. much.
Tales from the Crypt by Paul! Bro thanks for your wisdom!
Thanks for listening
Great vid great advice!
Appreciate it!
You are pretty handsome for an old guy (No homo. I totally dig chicks).
Thank you for the great videos. What I would like to see is the areas designated such as Chinatown, Koreatown ext. in the Philippines like we have here in the USA, I have heard there are some areas like that in PHP, but I have never seen them even though I have visited the Philippines 5 times I have just heard rumors about them.
Noted
One bit of advice I would like to add to your wisdom. For the first timers (or even the second or third timers) learn to say NO, and don't feel bad about doing so. It is easy to get caught up in the event(s) and spend waaay too much.
NO!!
You gotta do that in America also!
In Thailand it's very common with professional holiday girlfriends, they really know how to enjoy guys during their holiday, and the guys think they found the best girlfriend, but it's actually their job and they are good at it 😊😂
Depending on how you look at it, that's ideal. As long as you look at her as a pro and dont catch feelings for the first woman to touch your pp.
Buy her a few gifts, she acts as you interpreter and keeps your balls empty... then you leave... everyone gets what they want.
She meets you at the airport and figuratively or in some cases literally handcuffs you to her. She's NOT going to let some HUSSY STEAL her meal ticket!!! She may even be carrying a machete to scare off the competition! LOL Imagine you are a 50 years old man getting off the plane and you have 20 yr old women cat calling you! LOL In the USA you can't even get a date with a 70 yr old women with a turkey neck. WELCOME to PARADISE.
PREACH IT BROTHER!
@@donbarnett1553 Thanks Don, I'm really wondering how I will react this year when I meet a REAL 20ish to 30ish yr old Filipina in-person. If she rolls me on my back and starts rubbing my belly I'll probably let her put a dog collar around my neck. I'm sure she will take me out for a walk and show all her Filipina friends her new rich foreigner puppy dog! Just rub my belly baby and hear me howl!!! Oh what a wonderful dog's life it will be in the PI! LOL I can tell you It's a hellish 60 yr old dogs life for me in southern California. You got to be a young stud or multimillionaire to get your belly rubbed everyday by a 20iish to 30ish women.
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@@Straight-White-Male I'm sure she will have a machete in her hand to protect you from all those airport floozies. LOL
@@Straight-White-Male where you met her?
Great video. I think there is a big difference between those coming to stay and those coming for vacation. If just coming for a few weeks I almost think it's better to meet the professional GF. No broken hearts or commitment, you get to try the living in the PI with a lady, tour guide, etc. So it costs you a phone, money well spent. IMO this is very different than someone coming to stay or looking for a life partner. I think the most important thing is being honest with yourself about what your actually looking for. Can you stay, do you want to bring her back to your country, can you work online and move abroad now or are you just looking to enjoy a vacation with a nice lady?
I think a 3-week GF costs more than a phone unless you're tall and hot. Many of us have no desire for rings and giving green cards. But, it seems there are just two extremes of brides or bar-girls. How do you lease, rather than renting something with miles than a space shuttle? Peace.
How does that work exactly?
A lot of wisdom in that vlog, That almost sounds like what happened to me also. Chatted for some time with phone calls and letters and met her at the airport. I did have a friend there that knew her and vouched for her character but that was the only girl I was with for the few weeks I was there. She did not ask for things and there were no red flags, things worked out well for us. That was over 22 years ago. She is my wife of 22 plus years now, and living with me in the USA. I guess I was one of the lucky ones and found a good one right off the bat.
That's great news Bruce
13 years marriage for me living in the US too. Coworkers wife's cousin best way someone who knows someone else
This is my personal feeling, a IMO kind of thing. If you feel like you want to do something other than meeting a GF at the airport, your not ready to have a GF.
I never once thought about doing anything different than finding the person I was going there to meet, was happy she was meeting me at the airport, and that was 17 years ago. Now, we fly together from the US to the PH and back again after 15 years of marriage. While I might be friendly to someone who talks to me, my gaze is on my wife because that's where it should be.
I've seen different takes on this, but I know if I say I'm going to go out with a person, or go on a date, or go spend some time, etc... I'm not going to do this via checking out other people on my way there. That's called setting yourself up for failure at the very beginning. Trust is a two way thing and without it there's nothing.
If you spend time with a person and want to do something else, cut that tie because one way or another, it's cut, on both ends. Desperation is not the basis of a good relationship.
@@johndoh5182 This comment seems authentic. So I will say I admire your commitment to your values. My values are different, I'm a player. But I certainly respect how you feel. Living from bedrock values is a good path to happiness. Best of luck.
My fiance finally arrived in the USA. We met at the airport too. October of 2019. I never wanted to meet another Filipina once I met my girl
Yeah, I can relate to your comments. I did the online dating meeting my Pinay in 2007. After I decided to visit, of course, she wanted to meet me at the airport in Manila! Over and over she asked to meet me there. I could not understand why. She is in the town I"m going to in Mindanao, so why.
Well, later after we were engaged and on my second trip to PH, her sister and I were talking; I mentioned off-hand about Kris wanting to meet me in Manila and how I could not figure out why -she wised me up. She said if she met me in Manila she could do two things: See if I was meeting another Pinay and keep another Pinay from 'stealing me' before we met. Hahaha.. What? Someone could 'steal' me? Wow, aren't I special.
Hey, is it safe for a white guy in the General Santos area?
@@docbunn Some say it is, as long as you keep a low profile it is safe in almost any area. That is the hometown of Manny!!
Little chance of someone trying to steal me... more than likely they will give her money to get me off the dating sites.
@@docbunn bein in gensan many times. Ther is not many foreigners ther so all eyes is on u everywer u go. Its is safe if ur with and not so safe depending wer u are goin. Wat part of the city are u planning to go to
@@docbunn just arrived there 3 days ago. the locals ive talked to are all telling me it is safe. Im going to get an apartment for a month or so and will see.
My Filipina met me at the airport along with a number of her siblings. Almost 10 years and 3 children later, she's still married to me.
Congratulations fella, mine met me at the airport some 16 plus years ago, she was late and when she turned up I was with another filipina , questions was asked ,,,haha, but in truth I met this lady in the airport and told her I was meeting someone but had no idea where this place was, she offered to take me there which was out side the airport and even offered to ring my girlfriend just to see where she was, once we met she left us and went on her way,
Same for me, her whole family was with her to meet me. Feb 2nd was 10 years for us being married
You good man just wanted family
@@damianjones6767 Great story. When I got off the plane, I couldn't find her until a Filipino led me to where she and her siblings were waiting.
@@gordonb1737 Happy 10th Anniversary to you both!
One time I was very pleased to be "met at the airport" was in mid 1999 on my first trip to Cagayan de Oro, Mindanao. Small airport, small plane, one check in bag. Baggage collection area a concrete slab under a tin roof, surrounded by high barred fence (like in jail), fully occupied by so many people. Also the porters trying to get help, yells of "taxi sir", just total confusion to my eyes. I was there to be best man at my mate's wedding later in the week in southern Bukidnon. Stood there stunned, with enough nouse to grab my bag. Didn't know I needed the luggage bag to get out of the area past the security guards. Young lady turned up at my elbow saying "are you Bruce". Being large with Acubra hat made me stand out so much. She was the niece of the future bride, 4 months older that said bride. Had to go with the flow, she had arranged a car and driver to being us to where we needed to go. "Stranger in a strange place", having the assistance of that young lady let me survive.
How I respond to money/loan requests. You must be psychic I was just going to ask you for that exact amount of money/loan.
"He loved her demeanor, compared to say, the demeanor of American women." Just another interesting factoid why Western men are willing to leave the USA and relocate 8,000 miles away.
Paul, I have noticed when talking to Asian women they would ask me if I was ever married. When I replied no, almost every one of them asked me why or some very blunt women would ask what's wrong with me. I guess in Asia it is a red flag to have never married. Me, it is the other way around. A woman with multiple marriages is a red flag.
Yes but multiple marriages is always worse than never married.
R.B.: I am always asked the same question by 'round-eyes' here in the States.
@@BillCollins0707 OK 1st marriage divorced together for 20 years. 2nd marriage we grew apart after 13 years only staying together for my daughter. According to my psyche professor with life expectancy now greater than ever, it won't be out of the ordinary to have 3-4 marriages lasting 20 years each. I didn't even mention the infidelity. So that's over, but I can't get over it.
@@donbarnett1553 they want to know that someone else wanted you, otherwise they lose interest. thats why so many go after married men.
,,, it is a Red Flag, Wether your in the US, China or any country. The philippines is know for attracting males that couldn't make it socially out side of that kind of environment. The large majority are drinkers and have other issues.,,
I have paid for so many sick Buffalos I could have went to vet school and fixed them my self
I wanted to do that back in the day
Wow Paul! Hit this one on the head. I started an online relationship with my Filipina in 2018. We chatted each other up for 6 months, But a week or so before arriving she informed me she was not going to meet me at the airport. Initially I was taken back by this and quite frankly a little hurt. I was going to be staying at her house with her, but now I'm thinking about calling the whole trip off. But being the smart, wise pragmatic lady she is, she explained that I may want to get a hotel for a couple nights(which she booked for me) and take my time to get acclimated and get my senses about me. Then come to her when I was ready. She is now my wife. That'll tell you how that worked out. I lucked out with her.
Great story Kevin!
Do you support her family financially now ?
@@walterpont2882 No.
@@kevingamblesonlife9999 my ex Pinay wanted me to pay her family 30.000 pesos a month.
@@walterpont2882 geeez. thats extortion
Spot on again grasshopper! Haha
I don’t know if I’ll ever make it out to the Philippines but if I do, I’ll be ready because of guys like you. Thank you😎
Thanks Darren
With all respect, you can never be ready for Philippines and the people until you experience it for at least the first time, but at least these videos can give you a heads up so you are aware of it
Paul, what you said is spot on. I can see if you are a guy is coming over to P. I. for the first time and for a short period then that could be OK. On the other hand if you are a guy moving to the Philippines even if it's for the first time, I would not have any Filipina waiting for me at the airport. In fact I would arrive with no established relationship , get my feet on the ground and slowly begin to learn my way around. The choices are endless so don't cramp your style by having something already started.
Exactly, leverage the internet when there. Or better screen the ladies face to face
Good morning Paul. My name is Larry. I have been living here in Daanbantayan Cebu since 2014. Having just watched your video, I listened to you describe my experience of being met at the airport by my online girlfriend 100% correctly. As you so correctly described, she never once let go of my hand everywhere we went. Silly me, at the time I thought it was sweet. As you so correctly stated, she was insulating me from the clutches of all other Filipina who would happily latch onto me.
We had a wonderful time together. Hopping from one island to another. Always staying at high price resorts, eating at high price restaurants. Sometimes including her nieces. Little did I know I was being played. When we talked online, she always mentioned her two friends. Violy and Terry. I foolishly suggested that we should invite her friends for dinner sometime. On my arrival, she asked was it ok to have dinner with her friends. I foolish thought she meant Violy and Terry. On our arrival at the restaurant, I was introduced to 16 friends.
I had also suggested I would like to have dinner with her family. Meaning her papa, brothers and nieces. How foolish can one be. She mentioned the day we were to have our dinner and asked "when can I pay the catering service". It never occurred to me she had invited 100 family members. Some traveling 150 km to enjoy a free dinner. And so, the meal that day was 25 thousand pesos. I wish I knew you in 2003!
Your videos are spot on. Keep em comming
lol!
Thanks buddy for sharing your experience. This is new kind of Gold diggers I came to know. I hv been Thailand and indonesia before and met girls there but i just had to pay for their expenses and they never invited any of family members. I was thinking of going to Philippines because response in online dating is just astounding compared to Thailand and indonesia. But now I understand many of the girls are ready to rip off you if you are alert.
I think whenever you see that many people coming you say no and RUN
Omg what a scamner she was and her family too😢
I know exactly what you are talking about I started talking to Filipinas a couple years ago I had thing happened to me the way they talk and want you to help them in one way or another but then finally I finally met the Filipina I have been looking for in a dating group on Facebook we chatted for more than a year and she has checked off all of the green flags no red flags with this girl we have been dating online since this past October she is working in Singapore and we are planning when we can meet in person
I have been there 2 times and both times I met girls at the airport . Things didnt work out the way I planed but I still had a good time . Now I plan to retire this year and move there as a single person . The women are looking for a newbe so am I . ha ha ha . I have met hundreds of Filipina women online but very few ever make it to my friend list .
In my humble opinion, Paul may have given bad advice on this one. Many expats on TH-cam who had long-distance relationships with a single Filipina for a period of a year or more are happily married because he went to the Philippines to meet her and her only. They had no intentions of "looking around" to check out what else may be available, but if you plant that "seed" to slow down so you can look around, that pretty much will end the LDR relationship with the Filipina. IF the foreigner decides to meet the Filipina in person after having a reasonable period of LDR, it is best to keep that focus when he goes to the Philippines, and not use that as an excuse to "look around" if there is anything better than the one you had an LDR - yes there is plenty of fish in the sea, but a wise person knows that he just don't have the time and financial resources to date all the fish in the sea in order to pick "the best one". YOU and her must constantly work at improving an ongoing lasting relationship.
Straight up - I have 42 plus years of very close ties with the Philippines, its people, culture and way of life. My wife and I appreciate your straight talk and are very impressed by your videos. My wife has informed me you will be returning to the USA. I do not know if your move will be permanent. My wife is asking what will happen to your GF. We wish you the very best of luck.
Paul is returning to the US to visit his ailing father, visit with rest of his family, carry on a few tasks that he must do, visit with a few friends but he will only be there for 2 weeks after which he will return to the Philippines.
Hi Paul! I enjoyed this vlog. You are on point to all topics about foreigners coming to visit and meet Filipinas. It happened to me in 1991. I met my husband through a pen pal club (it sound ancient). The only reason why my picture and profile was on a pen pal club magazine/book because a Filipino American came back to marry his girlfriend through a pen pal club, whom I knew through a common friend. We were at the beach and he started handing out forms for us to fill out, it was from the pen pal club he belongs to and was helping them recruit more Asian women to add to their book. I was hesitant, it was January 1990. He told me I have nothing to lose and was able to convince me and on top of that, ask me for a 2x2 picture, there were other friends who were there and filled out the form.
He went home and I totally forgot about it and in April of 1990 I start getting letters from all over USA. Some of them were out of my age range, so I just answered them and let them know I’m not interested.
I wasn’t really sure where this pen pal writing will go and how far. I finally communicated to only one person, he seems honest and answer all my questions. After writing for 8 months, he decided to come and visit and check me out and my family and the rest of his pen pals. My friends were asking me why is he meeting with other girls and I told them it’s none of my business and that we are pen pal and not boyfriend/girlfriend.
My father and I met him at the airport and escorted him to the hotel he is staying at, this was December 1990. He visit for 4 days and went on to Cebu and after he met all his pen pals he wanted to come back and spent more time with me but it didn’t happen.
He went home to the USA and we continued to write to each other and we’ll be getting 2 or 3 letters each week from each other. In March of 1991, he proposed through a letter and I said yes.
.We got married July 1991 and we will be celebrating our 31st anniversary this year.
I am one of the lucky ones to find my partner for life in one try. I am looking forward to coming home next year, 2023 and hopefully we will be able to visit Dumaguete. We normally pick one place in the Philippines as a side trip after visiting with family. FYI, no kids and we love to travel.
Keep up the good work, Paul.
Beth
Nobody going to meet me at the airport. After a 24 hours flight, I'm going to want a shower and a shave and most likely sleep before I want to meet any girls.
Hey Paul! Love your YT show. I rarely comment BUT...now you're in my wheelhouse! This is how l learned most of the things I know about the Phil. I lived in Mindanao (Zamboanga DN and Sindangan) with my exgfs parents for a whole summer before I realized what's really going on. I was plenty "street smart" when it happened, too. I got suckered for several reasons, one being when I was a younger man, I really did get a lot of attention from the ladies, my whole life. I just had it like that and got used to it. My looks flew out the window a few years ago. My profile photo is me two years ago (that is basically what I look like now if anybody is wondering. Not too horrifying 😂), so when a young fine Filipina flirted me on fb in 2016, I really fell hard, not realizing the mess I was about to get myself into. Long story short, after Sindangan police helped me out by escorting me to the bus station (I left out a lot, huh? Lol!!! Tell you about it some other time, hopefully in person? I'm not a crazy. Ok maybe a little 😁), I caught a jet out of Dipolog City and went island hopping, fell in love with the place and the people, and can't wait to finish my obligations here so I can finally move there. Oh yea, I left out the part about her and half her family meeting me at the airport! Anyone reading this, like Paul said, you might be about to have a wonderful life! Or you might be in real trouble, but that's how it starts. At the airport. Usually the one in Manila. Filipina rant over, moral of the story: don't let a couple bad apples spoil the whole picnic! On facebook I am Cliff Patrick, anyone please DM me if you want? Stay cool, stay safe! Bfn.
You wrote a long paragraph about a great story that you did not share with us ! ! !
Never ask a Filipino for directions. They don't like to say no or say that they don't know. Thanks to Phil. Pea!
Can I open a conversation about those who never ask for money, but just drop hints at how difficult life is for them and their family. These are often very subtle hints and not the outright asks for help. Wondering what others think.
Don't do it!
Sad stories
Vultures
Its a trap
I always get picked up at the airport, by Grab 😀
Geez I love your stories. Hahaha, I learned early that directions in the Phil’s consist of only pointing and saying “over there”.
Being I’ve gone thru the newbie thing in a couple countries, the only advice I can give is from my own clumsy experience. Guys, you need to get comfortable on your own with your new surroundings. You will trip, fall down and get lost but that’s the best teacher. Once I got over that adjustment, everything became easier. Expect for getting directions, still haven’t mastered that one.
Hoping to be there in June and hoping Lou and me can meet you and baby Mae.
well said Gene
Searching online for a Filipina to meet up with is as silly as searching online for sand to take to the beach. There are many great adventures awaiting you on the Islands of the Philippines, one of which is crossing paths with a never ending supply of some of the most beautiful, caring and fun loving available women in the entire world...that I promise you!!!
P>K> You absolutely get it!
Words of wisdom, you always have an invaluable lesson you have learned through the ages to pass along. Hopefully those listening will actually SLOW DOWN 😁😁
“Look how white he is”
The other white meat 🥩 🍖!
This video contains the best advice I have ever heard on TH-cam!
Lol… Stay in the friend zone and not the twilight zone. Once again Paul,informative,straight as an arrow videos. 😎🇨🇦👍🏻
How do I get your email address or a way to communicate with you Paul? Maybe you’re too busy and things get crazy so I would understand that. I would appreciate it if possible though. Thanks
Randy Owen from Alabama
The CULL, how to. A friend of mine has been married to a leyte girl for years - very happy, this is how he chose her. He joined a dating site and was bombarded by women. This is how he sorted them out - if they asked for money - THEY WERE GONE!!!!!, lol worked a treat, lol. p.s. 40 year age difference and she looks like a model.
Paul,
I found this video even more helpful than usual. I started talking to my present lady in the spring of the year before Covid. I visited for 3 weeks in October just before Covid hit. Everything locked down and we have video chatted for going on 3 years now. I have been spending most of the last year in the Cancun area (Puerto Morales) of Mexico. I arrived in Manila late on the 19th and was "picked up" at the airport again. I am now in Tacloban, nearish her home in Samar, struggling with jet lag. I will be here for a month, then I want to travel to several locations to see what works and I think the next is Duma. At least Duma is on my list if not the next location. I told her this month is to seer how we (and her 4 year old son) get along together when living and not on vacation. A trial period if you will.
I know I need to find some other friends to interact with. So did/have you met other friends mainly by walking thru town and such or something like Facebook pages or maybe expat groups? BTW I am mostly not a social media sort of person or hanging out in bars. I like to walk alot. The boulevard area there in Duma looks ideal. I choose poorly for an Air B&B here in Tacloban. I am sure you have many offers but I would like to buy you a cup or 2 of coffee if I see you around the area. Your videos have been very helpful. Keep up the good work.
In addition, a mechanical question should you or anyone have the time and inclination to answer. What is the best way to scout furnished apartments? How do you find what is available to rent short of riding around and seeing a sign? A real estate agent? I know how inexperienced I am right know. Kind of like the old meme about the 3 blind men and the elephant. I plan on an air B&B for a week to be able to better look for a place to rent. I saw your hotel video. It was great. I really appreciate the way your videos of late are more nuts and bolts on practical matters. Thanks!
There are Facebook groups in almost every area for rentals. You can find a decent real estate agent that way as well if you want to. Always negotiate the price and the deposits. As far as meeting other expats always be careful with that the worst people I have meet here are other expats. But there are FB groups that are expat and have different activities.
@@MichaelSmith-hp8qw thanks!
Yeah. But they're Filipino woman not western American women, they're better. Lol. All any of you guys are a trick or a career ATM for her and most likely the families ATM.
I'm very fortunate I'm still with the same young lady that I had met online we moved in together 5 years ago
Do you fund her family ?
I live in Philippines, lost a house here long ago, I did better than most I sold house for a lost and gave the girl half and I got the other house. That was sold late 2013 that money is long gone. I now live in the province which is more differcult than in the big city. Girls in province many live with their family and many expect u to support their family. I went through a few girls because they always wanted more than I was willing to give. I give the girl 5 or 6000 peso a month she can use the money how she wants to give some to her family or keep it. I pay the rent buy the food. I got in an argument with one of her family members and I was expecting her to go back to her family, she did not she picked me over them. Most would not do that. City girls don't have the strong support of their family as province girls. There are good girls out there but not many. Most want you to support their family and if you don't give enough their family will tell the girl to leave you.
If You are using Dating Apps you should be chatting with more than one girl. When you come to Philippines you should meet a few of them. There is nothing wrong with doing that, but its important to be honest with all of them. I met 4 different girls and i just picked the best one and 5 years latter we are still together. I did not sleep with them on our first meeting and I did not come here with the intention of sleeping with as many women as possible in 3 weeks. If you come here with that idea, you will not only ruin your reputation, you will also make people think that all expats are Sex Tourist, and you will never find a quality woman.
I have been chatting with a few online only Filipinas recently just a few months. I didn't accept 100000 requests. just 3 out of 10000. All of them are real. have degrees, have jobs. never asked for money, etc.
I will meet them at the beach resorts on Cebu and just chill and relax. Meeting all 3 during the same trip might be a little too much though lol... the filipinas seem to be a little obsessed quickly too. haha. and as you mention want all your attention too (so u dont find a possible new filipina to talk to) Hopefully covid restrictions keep loosening up for my June/July planned trip.
I forgot to mention.. 1 did already offer to pick me up at the airport. hahahahha. BUT I probably will decline just so i can settle in and get a nice sleep from the long travel time to get to PH and meet her the next day. lol.
d-trump: Meet each girl at a different resort/location.
Don't give all three your Cebu address. This is for: 1) your personal safety. 2) To avoid REALLY complicating your life, and 3) To ensure that your penis remains attached to the rest of your body. . . Don't be THE GUY who says: "Oh! THATS why its called a "butterfly knife!"
I met a girl online in 2012. We are still happily together. I have no regrets, and after ten tears and the impossible has happened. *_We have not had even one argument_* By the way, it was my first trip to the Philippines.
Do you fund her family ?
@@walterpont2882 They are not all after your money. I met my Jen online in 2011 and we talked for 2 years before I moved out here May 5 2013. Coming up on nearly 9 years later and every month for the last 3 years she pulls in more money than me as she is a very popular Real Estate Brokers Agent. While a lot may not have a lot there are many given the chance that do really well. As with all relationships you need to take your time and you need a little luck in finding the right one.
@@Hairyskinback does she send money she earns to her family ?
So she does correct. If she can't send money to her family she will throw you under the bus.
@@walterpont2882 Well her parents as mountain farmers put 4 daughters through school and all got their bachelor's degree. They have all they need but Jen will send 10,000 once in a while but it is not expected or asked for. She is making 150k PHP + a month so if she wants to send any money home it is her call lol. You hear all the bad stories because they make the most noise but I am settled and happy.
Great story Paul, would I be correct in saying that pilipinas are more genuine than say Thais in having a proper relationships and that pilipinas prefer foreigners as a partner
Man guys get their first piece of pie out of their league and are ready to sign over everything. Chill guys. There will be plenty.
I wish the Philippines would relax there Covid-19 testing rules. They are requiring a "RT-PCR" test for entry into the Philippines. The U.S Labs are financially gouging people for this type of test. It would be nice if they only required an Antigen test 48hrs before the entry into the country. The U.S could also change their rules a little. The U.S is asking for one of four tests be done, one day before travel. It would be nice if they both would accept the Antigen test 48hrs before travel.
No more negative Covid tests. Just proof of vaccination with one booster shot to enter the Philippines. Also have the One Health Pass ready downloaded from your phone .
Great topic, you did a bunch of guys a service Paul. Can only imagine how many guys have devastated their retirement funds/plans by getting duped.
Paul, great video, had to laugh my wife met me the airport in Manila also, 14 years ago...your correct there's a lot competition between Pina women for the great white guy! 😄 Or should I say the super white wash guy from America 🇺🇸. It's hard to tell these guys to be careful, slow down, your really not as good looking as she says, we don't hear that in America from women, so it's easy to see why they throw caution to the wind! Hopefully they don't get hurt!
Best regards Paul
Brian M
Maybe not related, but you have taught Baby Mae extremely well. You have given her the ability to take care of herself. Now that's a true gift!!!
Oh my gosh, what a comment! Very arrogant to think a woman who managed to find a meal ticket needs to be taught anything about survival. Gracious me.
I find all your videos really good...this one I think might be the best one in quite a while....cheers to you and all the great info you impart on us expats. The Pea just did one that is along the same lines for the unsuspecting expat and the "Professional GF".....
Many thanks!
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 Wow in Phils you do not use dating App? Dating App uses you! :D
I know all the tricks but the price to pay? You have to be old ...
I don't necessarily see a scam with the girl that met a guy and went on vacations and got gifts then went with another one. It's called dating. Maybe she decided the first guy wasn't going to work out. The only way it's a scam is if she led him to believe she wants a serious relationship and continues to receive gifts and money from a guy who thinks she's his girlfriend while she hangs out with the next guy. Deceit is the key here.
Paul, you forgot to mention about them bringing their whole extended family with them to the airport. Even the Pinay who is genuinely in love, will want to watch over her man 24/7.
As a lady, no way I would pick up a stranger at an airport without my friends or family with me. It is a safety issue. I also wouldn't "date" online but these Filipinas are desperate to find a way out of poverty
Old man Paul, you talk to hear yourself
Bording
Very helpful tips. Thanks man.
Utube algo's kept sending me your way. Glad they did. Interesting that I had no desire at all to go to the Philippines. But I'm binge watching your videos now. Love your channel.
Your are a rockstar, sage advice my friend, been there done that, but don't think for a minute just because I'm meeting you at the airport that I will be all clingy and sh*t! Ohh buy the way my kid has a hang nail can you help me out? Say 25,000? Lol roflmol joking! God bless you brother see you soon😂👍
sure you weren't a preacher prior to being a blogger. You seem to have the hook at the end that ties your reasons together with just one word. Almost an O'Henry moment
Thanks David
Just my observation, Paul. That story you told about the new foreigner, you would only know that story because Mae told you. That shows that she really trusts you because that kind of information filipinas would usually keep asking themselves. I think having that kind of trust with your gal is vital to having a successful relationship. Just my two cents worth. Thanks for sharing.
To be fair.... Many Filipinas are VERY attracted to white men. Sure, not all, but having a fair complexion is about all you need to be deemed handsome by many Filipinas. My Filipina wife has always found me attractive. Yet by western standards, I am about one notch above troll. So yeah, the online "You so handsome" is easy to dismiss, but it can often be somewhat true. Men in the west are used to western women who are WAY too picky for their own good, so we have difficulty believing we can be seen as attractive, especially when our experience with women has mostly been disinterest.
So true : I am also "one notch above troll" but in Thailand many women do not mind my big nose (it is bigger than average)... Men and women alike want a bigger nose over there ! The fact that my height is only 1m73 (5f 8/9inch) is also not a problem in Thailand to be found attractive..
Thanks for the video again Paul. They call it "the girl friend experience" - to have a beautiful woman half your age share your holiday is totally worth the few hundred dollars in gifts and fancy diners and money for the sick grandma's medicine in my opinion!
Agree. How do you find that? I seem to only find scammers (OnlyBegging) and brides (want babies and green cards). Pros on the billable hour have more miles than a space shuttle. So, how do you find a higher quality low-mileage "lease" for an entire holiday? Peace.
So you’re looking for a young prostitute half your age? Nasty.
@@bobbruce4135 Why do you care about the mileage, if you won't consider to marry her?
@@Universal_Craftsman Some men do not have "The Builder" traits as defined by Dr. Helen Fisher behind the Chemistry and Match dating site algorithms. They seek long-term live in but no babies. The problem is there are more men who desire this child-free lifestyle. But, that doesn't mean we want bar-girl and 304s.
Paul I've been listening to your program for a a while now and I really appreciate the content that you provide because a guy like me who's had a rough life in America with the opposite sex so to speak if you want to go there but if I was getting to the Philippines without the information you've given me boy would I make a mess of it I would do everything wrong and it would be a disaster so your information that you're putting out there for guys like me man it is priceless so just keep up the good work give us give us all the information good and the bad ugly everything in between a man when I get there I really want to shake your hand I want to buy you a cup of coffee I just want to thank you in person I'm not there yet but one day I hope to be and yeah man the hardest thing is going to be for me is just take it slow and not jump into a relationship and just feel my way around to Philippines a little big get familiar with the culture and stuff and I know that's going to be tough because I've had you know many many years of living alone here in this country because you just can't please American women at all nothing you do or don't do will ever please them but you already know all that racket man thank you appreciate it
Thanks Franklin
Hey Paul, how bout us guys that want to bring his white wife? Never any info on that. Would appreciate something on that. Thanks and hello to baby Mae.
Looks like Paul had to delete the pinned post, it was getting a bit heated. My suggestion to physicist poster living in BGC please do a live stream interview and face the YT public for questions. Don't just hide behind a keyboard snipping and boasting about your intelligence and talent. Let's hear you front and center and see how you hold up under SCRUTINY. I'm sure your massive ego is up to the challenge. Paul's friend Mark has a YT channel "Everyman Has a Story". He exclusively does interviews with expats living in the Phil's.
Thanks for the info but I am in to deep to turn back now since my fiance and chat every day for 4 years and already build a house there waiting for me, lol.... she is 64 of age and I am 67... %99 sure she is not a scammer but one never knows, lol...
Great topic and totally relevant, if they meet you at the airport you're under their spell, they are with you and exactly right your isolated I had that experience time after time and the last three times I was met at the airport were short-term fun while they lasted and interestingly enough all three of them included running me blindsided into an x or a death threat or the new boyfriend a jackass from Liverpool that seem to think he was the big man LOL I don't recommend online meeting at all I don't recommend online communication unless you've already established a relationship and I sure as hell don't recommend getting mad at the airport unless that is what she's been doing and that's what she's going to continue doing with out exception.
I had a Thai girlfriend and it started becoming obvious she was a little psychotic certain things she said just without any filter and that look on her face very attractive manager status in sales, she had many opportunities and I was one. At one point I should have left immediately she looked at me and said with a little smile now you're under my control. That control included her and I am not joking trying to drug and poison me. That's my story, you watch out who you meet online or anywhere these days
Great Paul really essential information
As a guy who has spent most of his life on his own I have really enjoyed learning to live here and all my experiences and adventures although I am still paying back the debt the scammer left me with hahahaha I really wish you had been vlogging when I was thinking of coming here 😊
“Hyperbole” is pronounced “hi PER bow LEE”. Lol I pronounced it “HI per BOWL” after only reading it. Dont worry lol no more questions to ignore 😉
"Locals" are very attuned to discerning "newbies" or tourists. When buying things I always hand around and observe how much "locals" pay for what you want. Then, kif a local doesn't volunteer to help, I have a very good idea of what I should pair without either side getting ripped off.
I also dress "rough", no fancy clothes, no flashing money, just like a local. I also frequent the same stores. This way they know you are not a tourist. I am used to the Chinese community - being from Toronto, Canada - so I have an advantage.|
I don't trust meat here, but Chinese meats are treated so they can be unrefrigerated for hours without degradation. Most anything barbequed is safe. Always eat at a crowded vendor - their food is freshest.
But dress down and mix with the locals where they shop.
When I did some dental tourism to Philippines, I preferred the "professional girlfriend". She would pick me up and the airport and take care of all the logistics for me, sleep with me at night. The whole trip was significantly less than a dentist in the USA.
Great advice Paul! I will have my eyes wide open, when I meet my Filipina at the end of 2022, or early 2023! I have some things to take care of, before I go over there to my LDR lady! Thanks!!
Best of luck!
That professional girl friend is the best lol
its all about the Experience
No ties and you both understand the situation
Usually love your philosophical topics, however this one is kInd of depressing as I'm coming back next month to finish my SRRV process, no "online" ltr or anyone meeting me at the airport besides my PRA rep, however having lived and worked in the Philippines over the past 20+ years understand the motivation behind the topic especially for the "newbies" to protect their own psyche and wallets from the get-go....Best advice is to Slow Down!!...Couldn't agree more on that! Cheers🍻
I understand
The money transfer is always from western men ---> Filipina women. Never the other way around.
I know Filipinas that have managed to get to Australia against all the odds and guess what happens when they get there? They behave very differently from the way they behaved back home. Now they see there are western men everywhere that are offering them money, luxury gifts, offering to do this or that for them for free or at the mans expense etc, etc. So they trade up. They go for higher earning richer men with money, wealth, status, etc.
Western men in the Philippines = walking ATM's dispensing money constantly.
Filipina women in the western world = deposit taking ATM's taking deposits or having the ability to take deposits of money from a western man or western men.
Try turning the tables and having Filipina women become earning assets and revenue generators for you.
If you're a 20 something good looking broke foreigner and you're willing to please a successful 60 something filipina, your wish might come true!
Truth. We hear from the happily married expats who say how wonderful it was being a white knight for an extended family and having babies. And that's great for those with that personality type. But, it's not for everyone. I've found the Uni grad girls (not begging for money or babies) mostly just want the green card and monkey branch on arrival. No money, No honey. Peace.
Great stuff Paul, you were wise that you took your time, which eventually led you to Baby Mae. But I am mystified by the 'professional girlfriends', especially the one you knew way back when ... was she addicted to the new stuff she was getting from the guys or was she actually hoping to meet the 'one'?
I can relate. I learned early on to weed out all of the girls that ask for money.
Anything left after the weeding? The ones I've met after the weeding had even bigger long-time scams up their sleeves. I only go for holiday fun now but that's difficult too. Peace.
Great video paul , been lucky enough to meet a good one (yea I trolled trough the bad ones like most of us ) I struck gold, have a beautiful 2 year 6 months baby girl and never been happier
Another little gem of a video , wise observations & lessons Paul
fly in fly out boyfriends the girls make a pretty good living out of it
More great advice from the Sage of Dumaguete. I was lucky that my work was always different, interesting and challenging. I never suffered from 'Ground Hound Days'. Most mornings, I was excited to get to work to see, if the solution I dreamed up over night would fix yesterday's problem. When I retired three years ago, I was busy going different places, meeting new people and learning interesting ideas. I even went back to university for a few classes. But since the pandemic started two years ago, I have been suffering from what I'm calling 'Gopher Days'. Watching the joy, you and Baby Mae share, has inspired me to venture out of my hole, and travel to the Philippines. When I get to Dumaguete, I'll buy you a cup of coffee. For now, I just want to say, Thanks for showing us, how it is done.
Oh man ‘The Conversation’ with online pinay really hits home. I pretty much stopped using online because of the danger to my sanity having that same conversation. Especially when I mentioned I’d had a pinay gf before . They always wanted to know every detail about it and why it ended and I’m like you only fricking met me 15 minutes ago! Occasionally I’d say this is a bit like an interview then they would be mortally offended lol Finding one that can actually converse and take it to that next level was like finding an ice cold coke in the desert …
They don't want to screw it
Great summation of the online experience I have stopped also doing online for my sanity, my next trip later this year will be just arrive and tour around and check out places.
Filipinas are crazy jealous- probably the kind of jealousy you've never experienced with your Western exes. And this is often causing a rift between a Westerner and his Pinay. So, before you sign up to these websites, book your tickets and meet her, study how we, Filipinas are. Don't be going into a relationship with us and complaining about how crazy we are 5 years later. Remember, you are getting involved with someone whose culture is way different than yours. The way we live, think, and do things is different than yours. You gotta expect there is a huge difference in attitudes.
On another note, Filipinas can be the best wives- if you choose the right one. We are submissive in a way that we think men are always the head of the family, and that they have the final say in everything. We baby you, that's how we treat our partners.
Sage non advice Paul, but hey that's why I watch you. You've been in my shoes and you know the invisible man.
thanx for the tip im gonna go to the tanning salon before i arrive at the airport in philipines :)
Have fun!
If it were me I would first move to the phillipines and get situated. After a year of being there I would then consider meeting a local and start dating. Dating online, and overseas is a recipe for failure, imho.
YOU TELL REALLY GOOD STORIES.
pointless.... the baby needs... send money... aunt sick in hospital... send money.... uncle dead ... send money... money money money money money money money money money money that is their only game... THEIR ONLY GAME!!!!!! "the foreigner" is just a "mark"... someone to get MONEY from for her, her kids, friends, family, BF's, GF's.... i wonder how many guys go over there and get a LESSON in "love" (MONEY) and if lucky have enough money left over to get on the plane out of there and call it "lessons learned"... never again!!!!! sad, but that is the reality of "love"... its all abt money money money. just the faces on the denominations are different
I have been here for 12 years mate and I am white as a wall, being sunburnt has nothing to do with how long you have been here, that is among the most stupid thing I have ever heard I must admit.
"how to transfer money"...
I'm tossing this out almost everywhere, lately, because I see a lot of expats having the money issue.
If you're a vet living out-country, especially if your income is by direct deposit, bank with USAA! They never charge a foreign currency exchange fee, and they'll rebate you up to $15 a month for ATM fees.
In the Philippines, that adds up. ATM withdrawals are capped at 10,000 php per transaction, and the ATM fees (usually 250php or about 5 bucks) mount up quickly. Currency exchange fees in my other bank (Chase) show up later and take me by surprise every time...and they hit you even if you're making a card purchase, not an ATM withdrawal.
Just sayin'.
Paul, you are a great story teller, thank you kindly sir.
Thank you kindly
Hey Paul wanted to give you a heads up. You may consider if your renting a car, to reserve it as soon as you can. The news here in the US is reporting shortages
Been chating with woman for over two years. Planning on moving next year but not just for her, if it falls apart, I'll still be staying. My monthly is about 3400 usd whoch should make for decent retirement. Thx for vids, love the look of Valencia.
Slow down Words of wisdom I totally absolutely agree She wanted everything fast the K1Visa & Allowance for motorbike. Everything on a expedited tempo I'm glad I saw this video
Hey Paul , Over The Hump From Pahrump, I’m now in the Philippines. Pasig City is my hang out until I complete some paperwork; then I’ll start seeing the sites I’ve wanted to visit, of course my LDR will be with me. No professional girl friends here. I’m the ugly American and if the goat died I’ll eat the goat.
Hey Paul , Over The Hump From Pahrump, I’m now in the Philippines. Pasig City is my hang out until I complete some paperwork; then I’ll start seeing the sites I’ve wanted to visit, of course my LDR will be with me. No professional girl friends here. I’m the ugly American and if the goat died I’ll eat the goat.