The stinky moist hole is not worth the drama. Stack cash, live free in your cave, play video games, go fishing, spend time with friends and enjoy life to its fullest.
I don't know. There's a lot to be said about an experience good or bad as opposed to a whole lot of nothing. Wouldn't be the first time I've overpaid for a lemon.
In marriage, men’s obligations (to provide, support the family financially, etc.) are enforceable by law. Women’s obligations (to be intimate with their husband, take care of the children) are not.
@@screenplay78deA woman is very much a ticking time bomb. That can blow up in your face for any reason. No accountability by women to be reasonable. It is essential to bring up the boys in a different way. And that way has not yet been realised, identified or set in motion.
its been that way since before I was born. its got worse but even at my birthtime it was already too bad. men have been choosing to suffer for decades still. sad.
Not only does the feem ale have zero burden of performance, but she is actively encouraged, incentivized and rewarded for destroying the family/man. Truly an untenable contract.
Same here. I thought being single would be a hollow existence. Now, I don't think so. I miss the three letter word (the one with s and ends with x, heh), with the women I've been with. What I don't miss is the grief, the entitlement, the psychological fighting "just to do it" quite a few women would do, the masking of their selfish motives, and as you stated, the misery. And nearly almost ALL of them were not good with finances, which if I was making a little or much more at job I would generally live on my means---and invest gradually.
Agreed. Been over 2 years since my last relationship. I must say, I don't regret staying single. 10 years or so ago, yeah...I would've felt lonely for being single. But nowadays, I feel glad and happy for it, solitude 100%. 👏🏻🗿
I once harbored the notion that I would have a happy relationship, but now I see that there is no way I could satisfy any of them. I know I am not alone. People are not getting married. Are people having sex? I don't know, but I am not. Porn is a poor substitute, although I am sure glad it exists. Definitely better than running to the corner store, pal! And the birthrate is down across the world. I think Korean is in negative numbers big time. Hey, that's fine by me. I am living a miserable life and humankind is dying out as well. Well, ok, so be it.
@@pondeify The God thing is your best bet to regulate the sexual urge that keeps men thinking about women in the first place. If you're renting you're still an addict.
Picture this: you are always right, never wrong.. every day, with every decision you make... that's life as a single man. And when you are not, you take accountability for your actions, because we are men.
Imagine getting married and providing all these resources only to find out your wife cheated and your kids might not be yours. Feminism tells women to cheat. That it’s her body and she’s not a slave to her husband for sex. In divorce court she’s rewarded for her cheating and breaking her vows. Why would any man enter into such a relationship? It’s insane.
Feminism doesn't tell women anything, it gives more choices than only one which some random male wants to force upon women. As for cheating there was study done analyzing DNA and proving historically only 40% of males reproduced (>80% women) which means most raised milkman's children or consequences of nobles having first night rights with every woman who get married or woman having secret bf because nobody loves and stays loyal if they are forced into marriage. Meanwhile men cheated so much there was never time in history when worlds oldest profession would sit without job. Ironically despite males today crying about big bad feminism the paternity rates are much better because women are not forced to breed with garbage someone else chose for her.
76, single and alone 45yrs..no kids, no debt....maybe not sane, but happily at peace....I have learned to repel most women by looking poor. Shabby house, old car, simple-well worn dress.....simple pleasures.....works like a charm
@@mikedee8876 Fact is a relationship will very soon spend the lot. You will be left bereft and wonder why you could ever have been that stupid. Stay safe. Best Regards Better out than in.
@@Educatedlame single life is honestly better. Modern women are absolutely useless to say the least. Life is so much better off single and alone. I have twins 👯♀️ boys 🧒 that are my only priority in life
With all the info on the net right now, I don’t understand why young men continue to get married. Do they think they’ll be the lucky one? Only 10% of marriages are actually happy marriages. So you have a 90% chance of being in a miserable marriage or losing your assets and kids. Don’t young men understand those odds?
The marriage license is a contract with the county/State. For the contract to be binding, all parties must provide equal consideration. I have never seen a woman or the county/State provide equal consideration. Also, the county clerk withheld a lot of information about the contract. This makes the contract null and void. Rescind your signature, have it notarized, and send it to the county clerk’s office.
I don't know what you are talking about bro, I don't have sex options. Travelling abroad for sex for me has been a total failure. I don't even get to square one with women and sex. I have wasted much money and time on "dating" with no return. And, I have no clue how I could get involved in a "marriage". My experience with women is that they are a conniving bunch, 100% focused on shaking men down for money. I am super afraid of such a situation. I think she would divorce me as soon as she can get whatever I have. While I really want a woman in my life, I am afraid that it is too late and too expensive for me to get one.
So learn what just about every man has learned. Commit everything Lose everything. There are children on the receiving end of their some of this flagrant behaviour usually as a result of the pill or the workplace which will undermine all your relationships. Men no longer possess their relationships.
If our a passport bro it could be you wasn't doing the necessary things to find a partner. I'm a passport bro as well and I have my partner, however like everything else it's work!!
@VoxWodler escorts. Use condoms. Always. No kisses. Keep your phone and watch and wallet close. There. No magic secret. There laid multiple times that way. Blond, brunette, Asian, even a redhead once. You get to choose, and you know exactly what you're getting.
The law needs to change there. Here in Norway, the assets you had before marriage are yours; she can't take them, so if she comes with nothing, she is leaving with nothing. If she has kids, they might be with the father, and she has to pay child support. That's automatic but limited to 25% of her income in total. This goes both ways, of course.
Everything you've said is true, but ask any man who has been divorced and they will tell you that marriage is a death trap. Even not being married but living with a woman for a period of time is a huge eye opener. It's not worth giving up your freedom and peace to just have a live in girlfriend. They aren't worth what they bring to a relationship, which is only going to drain you, your time, energy, and most of all, your peace. Date them...fine, but never again will I live with one.
You mentioned Thailand and the Philippines, and other such places, but they have division of assets too. (It's annulment, not divorce, in the Philippines but it's the same result.) The Philippines also has common law marriage. There is no escape once you get government involved. Smart men don't marry (Bone Tomahawk). It really sucks, though - I wanted kids, white picket fence, etc.
@@redemissarium There is no practical difference - that's why I said "it's the same result." If I had not pointed out that the Philippines has annulment, not divorce, someone would have called me out on that, this being the internet and all. Are you trying to understand, or are you trying to make a point?
@@parrotshootist3004 Truly this, we want to believe in the fairy tales so much we delude ourselves into believing the lies. Part of it isn't just on us though, as humans we are social creatures, we are supposed to be around other people but everything has changed.
As a man, the only thing wrong with western men is that we expect the modern western woman to be traditional. When a woman doesn’t need a man (because she’s “successfully independent”), she’s no longer a traditional woman. Get your passport.
Yup!!! That's why I DON'T TRUST ANY WOMAN!! Mind you I'm a passport bro and im NOT bringing my girlfriend/ potential wife over. Once the poison of the u.s she'll completely change. Plus America is fucked up in multiple ways! I'm ready to buy/build outside the US and leave.
Ok but the biggest problem is I don't exactly expect them to be traditional but they refuse to compromise on anything. Try to talk to them logically about any plan you have for a family together, it won't work. I made three times as much money as my ex wife. I had to divorce her because she had an alcohol addiction and she wouldn't pick up after herself. Yes she worked and I didn't have a problem with that, I even split chores with her, rather fairly in my opinion but she was a slob and I'm not and she wouldn't give up alcohol. The final straw was her drinking heavily behind my back while we were trying to have a child. According to her I was "The love of her life!" Her actions definitely proved otherwise. Anyways she died at 36 because she wouldn't stop and her liver could only take so much abuse. I doubt I'll marry again, I honestly can't even find any decent women to date anymore. I might try the passport thing but I haven't really wanted to leave the states. I'm guessing I'll just do the rent-a-woman program and spend my days doing what I wish instead of trying to save another Trainwreck, because in women's eyes apparently that must be all I deserve!
@@Anotherguy1st Not all women are like this, but if you think they are then you're probably best to stay single as you have not yet healed from your last relationship. It's like women who have bad experiences with a alcoholic husband or selfish narcissistic men, just because some men are like that doesn't mean they all are. As for her being a slob that can very easily apply to the man being the slob in a relationship too. It just depends on the individuals and the type of people they are. Putting al women in to one box and men in another is extreme black and white thinking. Dichotomous thinking is very rigid and allows no competing or mitigating information. It constitutes a kind of denial that usually occurs in tandem with other cognitive distortions like filtering and disqualifying the positive, where the things that do not fit into the narrative are disqualified, rejected or re-framed in order to fit into it. That's why you have to reality test at times and make sure your not projecting your own feelings or past experiences onto a person or a situation that isn't really there and not grounded in reality. There's toxic men and women and theirs none toxic men and women. It's not some women are toxic and therefore it applies to all women, same with men. Everyone on the planet are individuals and no two people are exactly the same. No one is all good or all bad. You have to evaluate people on their own merits and actions, not on someone else's. This applies to both good and bad behaviour and if someone can be nice sometimes or has good qualities(everyone has some good qualities) it still does not excuse or mitigate abuse ever. Good people can do bad things. Bad people can do good things. All people can do all things and if we can stop trying to fit people into a category, evaluating their behavior really does become a lot easier. It speaks for itself. And remember no one is perfect, we all have flaws, weaknesses and make mistakes at times, that's part of being human.
@@kmarie7051 you said a whole load of nothing. First balme the victim for generalisation. Then said good people can be bad and vice versa. Give people a chance, good or bad essentially. What's your point? Keep dating people that fake the initial phase of the relationship? Why not just have the initial phase, and go your separate ways? This was the mentality of the friend of a narcissistic lady "if we officially don't date and are just seeing each with no labels. there will always be that ability to still keep the honey moon phase going and feelings won't be hurt as much when cheating occurs because they never were truly yours" I saw it as delusional at first, because why not just keep trying to be creative in the relationship long term. However this is what works for some people, so allow people choose to abandon all romantic relationships or manage it as they chose. Not keep trying the same old formular.
@@sneak9407 Yes that's something a narcissist could say. That's because narcissists don't bond or attach properly to people so the honeymoon phase is the only good time for them and it's all built around fantasy. They value the supply and attention from people they barely know over those they know well. Those people can't reflect the narcissist's flaws and failings back to them because they don't know any of them. The narcissistic supply from them is much more satisfying and more pure because it is not tainted by anything. When someone they don't know says something good about them, the narcissistic person can't convince themselves that the person doesn't really feel that way because there is no reason to. They've never done anything to that person. This is why they fear exposure. It ruins that pure supply, those good opinions. Anyone who knows the pathologically narcissistic person in a more intimate capacity is a potential danger and ultimately, an enemy. They only get into relationships to validate themselves and your only function in the relationship is to provide whatever reflection they can turn into fleeting self-worth and personality traits they can mimic. That's it. Their self-esteem is very, fragile. The normal stresses and blows to the ego that are nothing to most people are intolerable for someone with such little self-worth. They cannot abide by anything less than perfection, because any flaw or mistake - no matter how small - is considered a terrible failing and indictment of character. It is seen as proof of their worthlessness. But no one is perfect. No one is flawless. Everyone makes mistakes. The narcissist avoids the enormous pain of flaws, imperfections and mistakes through denial and projection, by blaming them on other people. You are literally there in part to take the blame for things so that they don't have to. Even if we disregarded the totally unrealistic demand for perfection being made of you, how can you ever be perfect when someone rejects all of your good qualities and even makes up bad ones that you don't have? It's a set up. Everyone becomes tainted in the end, either because they see behind the facade of the narcissist and can therefore expose them, or because the narcissistic person cannot find a flaw in the person and begins to hate them because they are jealous. Your jobs in this relationship are to give them the perfect, unconditional love they desire by reflecting their perfect self back to them always and to be the disgustingly flawed scapegoat they can blame everything on. Unfortunately, these things cancel each other out. Even if you were the perfect victim, so to speak, someone with no boundaries who always took the blame and never asserted yourself, someone who worshipped the narcissist and saw them as godlike, who let them do whatever they wanted and still loved them and never chastised them, it still would not be good enough. Their opinion of you would be extremely low and you would be treated terribly. They would still go to others for supply as well. What good is supply from someone who is that pathetic?..There is no chance that you can become perfect enough for a person who does not understand love to love you. The whole relationship with a narcissist alternates between idealization and devaluation cycles and neither is based in reality or is the other person seen for who they really are through any of it, it's not really based on the other person at all. it's all based around the narcissists feelings and their flawed perception only'. Their feelings are all self focused and they only have feelings for themselves. Other people are seen as objects or extensions of self to narcissists. The best a narcissist can do is enmeshment which is really toxic. After the honeymoon phase a narcissists lose interest in their partner and the kind treatment they may have demonstrated in the beginning vanishes. The second stage of their romantic relationships are often dramatic, painful, fluctuating, riddled with secrets, and unstable, and periods where you might go back to the idealization for a period and then devalued again over and over and then very often a discard. The relationship never really goes back to what it was at the start because that was just a mask and not who the narcissist really is. The devaluation part of the cycle will just keep getting longer and the idealization shorter. Pathological narcissists have a condition that impairs the social neuronetworks of the brain. The very regions of the brain that handle how we relate, connect, empathize, manage our emotions, take accountability, reason (socially), inhibit impulses, and practice morality are dysfunctional in this population.There's a break-down of affective resonance in their inability to connect deeply with us. To feel with, for, and about us which destroys their chances at a true connection. They may tell you that they care, but because affective resonance is nearly always in action when we are in the presence of another living being. you will not feel that they care. What you may feel, especially if you are a person of high empathy, is that their words are hollow, superficial and shallow. You will feel that something is missing when your limbic system searches for a healthy connection in your partner and it comes up empty. Affective resonance is all about the feeling of the interaction and the dynamic entanglement of moving and being-moved. This condition impacts their social interactions, thought processes, personality and behavior. We rely on these components to be stable when we interact with others - especially our intimate partner. When someone has deficits of this magnitude means most people will not be able to have a peaceful, cooperative, reciprocal relationship with them. The level of accommodation one would have to extend to maintain a relationship with them will be extreme (e.g., walking on eggshells; always submitting to a fragile ego). We lean on our social neuronetworks within the brain to be able to connect to others; to relate to them; respect and appreciate them. It is not uncommon for an individual with pathological narcissism to tell their intimate partners that they will change, get better, or do better. This is usually short-lived. The brain disorder will predominate and the pathological narcissists’ manner of thinking and functioning re-emerges. Example - You love and bond with him/her across the span of your relationship, however the individual with pathological narcissism will disconnect, become disinterested, and antagonistic, perhaps even hateful across that same time period. Their behavior is in complete opposition to what ‘normals’ do when they are intimately involved and care about someone. There will be no change to their emotional processing LIKE their ability to form empathy, care, demonstrate morality, and bond. Aside from their minimal empathy, a tendency toward boredom, and aggression, one of the primary facets of their character that creates problems in their relationships is their lack of morality. They cannot genuinely relate well to others, especially in intimate relationships. Their emotional disorder simply prevents this. They cannot connect and fulfill that deep desire we have to feel bonded to someone. There is no empathy, compassion, bonding, understanding, appreciation, trust, Honesty, respect, stability, peace... There's no moral reasoning, care based morality, healthy boundaries, healthy emotional regulation, accountability, impulse control in Intimate relationships on the part pathological narcissists. They do not value or consider the emotions of their partner important. They value self only. Rather than love their partners, the deepest they can reach is to treat them like possessions or objects. Abuse and love are combinations you’ll never find in healthy relationships. Healthy and mature partners instinctively know the line that should not be crossed. They don’t cross it because they love you and care about your feelings - even when they are angry or disappointed in you. Arguments and disagreements cannot erase the extremely deep bond a healthy person has for their partner. They love you, even if they may not like your actions at the moment. Without empathy the relationship is shallow and everyone is disposable. And everyone is just as easily retrieved. Pathologically narcissistic people objectify other people. They view all people as objects that can be controlled, used, stolen, bought and sold on and owned, including themselves. They don't appear to understand any human beings as complete Sovereign individuals with all their own needs, wants, feelings, beliefs, preferences or anything else. For narcissists not acknowledging the feelings needs or wants of others goes beyond not caring into a space of not even seeing these things.They only care how others can be used to make them feel about themselves. Other people in these relationships are merely props to make the performance more believable and mirrors to reflect this performance to the only audience that matters, the narcissistic person themselves. The narcissist's entire life is a performance of one for one by one. Even narcissists who believe they "love" someone at the start are usually referring to loving the way the other person makes them feel about themselves, because the other person mirrors back to them an idealized perfect image of themselves back to them and sees them as perfect at the start. They are so self centered they don't realise that and this is their only experience of situations where they used that word "love" so they know no different..eventually that perfect reflection will be tainted for even the smallest thing and then the devaluation starts and their feelings change with it.
I see a married women in the gym daily with her husband. She must be in her early 50s but she seems so miserable and cold. Yesterday I said how you doing, as a friendly gesture. She looked at me and looked locked up without even saying a word. I wonder what's going on with her. Her husband seems uptight. I hate seeing people look like this, it doesn't make for a good atmosphere.
I shall see some of my friends on Facebook making a mistake they got that goofy grin and they're with their girl and they're like hey we just got to engaged it's always that goofy grin
My awakened buddy and I share and discuss these pictures privately between us and cringe when we come across one... that goofy grin of the man who has loaded himself into the cannon and doesn't even realise.
Mandatory paternity testing at birth. No man should escape his responsibility and no man should be able to accept responsibility for a kid that isn't his.
My dad said that marriage is compromise and sacrifice, Who wants that chit ? And the same old gal night after night ? I laugh at my married buddies and tell them, you look defeated, I tried to tell you, but you didn’t listen…
Demographics? I'm 73, and at my age, single women far outnumber single men (perhaps 8 to 1). Women date, marry, and divorce for resources, it is all business. I learned an expensive lesson at the settlement table in mid-life and it took about a decade to recover. I quickly share my insight with my grandsons and caution my granddaughters about the feminism my generation spawned. The smart ones heed my advice and prosper. Me? I remarried 27 years ago and replaced it all several times over. We are better off than 95% of our peers and my wife delights in the country club life I provide. There is great satisfaction in massive success and Karma deals with my EX. I chuckle.
@@andre1987eph agreed, once past 45, forget it, (post-)menopause removes the last vestiges of the hormones making women have the jitters for the opposite sex! Why bother with what mother Nature is trowing on the trashheap?
Consider not just the withdrawal of intimacy- But it's reallocation to another man during the marriage. The no fault scenario not only negates any penalty but incentivizes. Now consider a man reallocating financial resources to another female during the marriage. Family Court would (and has) literally put the man in jail
Feels to me that a little bit of “cold hearted bastard” is the required armor men must wear when dealing with modern relationship dynamics Brother John!
Marriage was a religious agreement designed to protect women-because they could not compete against men in the work marketplace. Given that few today have any religious standards and that women can take on careers alongside men there’s really no purpose for marriage because all it really does is protect female hypergamy-Men got married because they believed it ensured sexual access for life-Now that this doesn’t ensure this there’s no reason to even “commit” because we all know she will more than likely lose interest and take at least half your resources in the process.
well said....men get married for one main reason....no teenage boy man dreams of is wedding day ..they go into reluctantly because they have craving for that one thing......that one thing is cut off real fast but now its to late
Rental Hyundais, used and abused, dented, scratched, battered, now back on the lot after years of rentals and tons of miles demanding full retail price.
That a government can negate legal contracts such as a prenuptual agreement will make all marriage agreements a thing of the past imo. In Canada if a couple cohabitates for 2 years they automatically become commonlaw which equates to marriage in every way regardless of them not having a marriage contract. A couple can enter into a legal cohabitation agreement to avoid the commonlaw marriage laws but judges can and have negated these agreements as well. The consequence of this government interference is that men (and women too) are either avoiding cohabitating altogether or when they do they are sure to break the living arrangement before the 2 years is up. So I think a new marriage contract such as is suggested in this video is a fantastic idea, but if a judge can't be trusted to uphold them then what good are they?
Gyn0centric law = maximum redistribution of the man's assets to the feem ale. Oh, she left a toothbrush at your house? Pay her. Untenable contracts for men.
First off, never get married and you'll never have to worry about all this BS. If you have to for some demented reason, look into trusts to save/protect your assets. Prenups are like swiss cheese.
The thing is this---it is easy to say there is all this negativity toward marriage----but you keep seeing these guys who are together upstairs, physically fit like this dude, have resources obviously---and they are all walking away. I live in foreign countries and ALL the expat males say the same from ALL western countries. They don't want their own women. One guy in Cambodia had rentals in Milan that gave him income--had a Kumar live in. Another dude from France--fitness trainer---Kumar live in. You keep hearing the same stories---good together dudes who keep saying the same thing. Hmmmm
No mate I'm 50yrrs old worked all over Australia met alot of people I saw this phenomenon 30yrs ago social media exposed what most men already knew marriage is dead in western countries
@@airadaimagery692poor analogy...not a worthy comparison...a radio station you can switch whenever you want....marriage is a LONG TERM financial commitment..I have seen my Dad and Mom, my older brother Greg, my sister, several freinds get divorced....it's messy...NOT like a radio station
John…very good topic. I also thought of this concept being the contract..where there is a standard timeframe, say 20 years…then a new renewal term is set, say for a further option of 2-5 years. At that point again it is renewed or terminated. Like a commercial lease…after all, are we not just leasing these women anyway?
Marriage is contract, divorce is termination of marriage contract and not divorcing is keeping marriage contract active. Why tf anybody needs to "renew" it after every few months as you suggest it? Sounds like scam business to fill the pockets of some and waste other peoples time just because some men are cowards who can't do anything in their life without someone else making them to do it. If you want to divorce, Steve, just do it! You don't need to be coward who "forgets" to renew marriage to get out of marriage you hate so much although I think you are not even married. Without children there is not much reason for women to marry men or even live with men but if there is children involved they need stronger family than something what could be forgotten to be renewed or not done because financial reasons at the moment or forbidden by big brother because you don't have up to date booster.
Yeah, going overseas and then bringing the drama of a third world single mother into your life. Then there's all their family dramas. You're just a wallet over there too. Guys need to stop simping for punani.
I just turned 50 a little over a week ago. No kids and never married. If someone would have told me when I was in my 20's and through my late 30's that by the time I hit 50 years of age, I would be looking at everything involved with "romance" as a SEVERE quality-of-life affecting issue and must be avoided, I would not have believed them. There is so much wrong. My heart goes out to the younger guys who are hell bent to "be the man."
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Ever since I was a teenager I thought legally shackling oneself to another person based on transitory emotions unbelievably unwise, demented even. The though of marriage makes me feel ill and I've never done it nor ever will. Now, in my fifties, my friends all want to know what my secret was.
im with you......the idea of marriage is ridiculous when it comes to the legal definition and consequences.....humans are not naturally monogamous...society needed a way to build and its a good idea in theory just not realistic.
There should be a law that requires young men to have a min of 3 hrs,or whatever, course on the legal implications of marriage and what can happen during a divorce. Us old boomers did not have the internet and youtube videos to educate the men as to the serious ramifications of marriage.
I did not get divorced, but my wife passed away years ago. However, marriage is not something to enter into lightly as the responsibilities and challenges are far greater than one would imagine. Yes, one should take a marriage course like what is required to get that first drivers license at the least.
@@marianitozz1 They're awesome, but they still limit your freedom, cost you a ton of money over the long run (especially as they get older) and you will spend years looking after the bathroom habits of another living being. Love my doggy, she's almost 15 now-I will be crushed when she passes, but I wouldn't do it again; at least not at this age.
The womem who divorce arent sad bc they lost the person that was their husband, but what that husband provided. You are a means to an end, not one yourself.
Even a dead husband often provides a widow a paid off house, survivor benefits, life insurance, a pension, on which she lives off of for another 7-12 years.
I am using a drone called the Hover X1. And like the other comment or said it does use facial recognition, and it does have preset patterns. I can actually fly it by moving my body on one side of the trail or the other, and the drone will follow me. it’s extremely cool
In Africa, we don't face the challenges of loosing our assets or paying alimony. But the problems of the fair transaction in the marriage is still present considering female nature is the same anywhere you go. Men here are still meant to provide and protect and women can ration intimacy or simply break the marriage at will. Which is why our fore fathers had many women outside marriage cos the intimacy was never fully met. Find what works for you though but at least know what you're getting yourself into.
What’s really fascinating is I just just saw a comment from a guy in India who had similar complaints. So it seems like we’re dealing with a worldwide problem.
Young men are still getting married because they are being raised by women in the house and feminized by women in school, work, recreation, and told everyday in the media that they need a women and suffering in a marriage and losing everything is the honorable thing to do. They are literally surrounded by feminism from birth. Until they get married and divorced do they start to wake up. It might take a decade or two to figure it out (and maybe another marriage & divorce) but if they are committed to improving themselves, and life long learning, they will make it to the other side which is indifference to women and a deep understanding that what they currently offer is standard equipment on all models (since you used the car analogy) worldwide at a fraction of the cost.
Hardcore feminists oppose marriage from the women’s perspective … we can all agree on something 😂. Seriously though fellas never EVER get married … zero reasons for big govt to be involved. Some men think wife can be hedge against life’s risks until they realize a wife IS the biggest risk.
And remember Jack Jordan, a vegan, & a stalker ( single) of actress Uma Thurman was found guilty and landed in a mental institution. His mother Mrs Jordan spoke to the NYT years ago remembering her son 😢 before he went off the bonkers!
Youre hitting on something big with this one. I think that TPTB are resisting this new reality because the traditional family structure was the engine of the economy. Now they have to figure out a new system to keep things rolling.
@@parrotshootist3004 TPTB are not humans who care about thriving, they are spiritual parasites who are hellbent on destroying humanity but doing so slowly with plenty of suffering for the greatest level of distress, which is their food. They're not concerned about the "economy". What makes them tick is completely foreign to us.
@@john-griffin living after having a knife pulled outta yer back - does not make you cold hearted. we Greeks have a saying... once we burn our mouths with hot food we even blow on the refrigerated yogurt.
You know what's even better, ignoring a stunningly beautiful woman. It's like not making that impulse purchase, and feeling glad you didn't not 6 months later.
The divorce rate is 65 percent now, if you include all the LGBT marriages and second marriage. Every older male friend I ever had warned me not to get married. Glad I never did
What’s really telling is that lesbians seem to have the highest divorce rate! That’s what happens when you get two women in one relationship. Everything goes to hell fast.
@@john-griffin when you're right, you're right. It's time for LGBT to stop hogging up so much air time in the media. With an 80 percent lesbian divorce rate, they may want to consider stepping out of the lime light
In my close circle of Men friends we support each other alas, despite our best efforts, one of our brothers fell under the spell of the marriage trap. 10 years ago we tried everything to stop him or at least do a prenup to no avail. Next week he will end 9 years of suffering and lose half of his assets. Which are substantial.
Hope-strategy suckers can't fathom that their woman would ever do that. "She's different" was no doubt said. See 'the marriage wheel' by Coach Greg Adams, happens every time.
if it wasn't a CIA operation why was Gloria Steinem recognized the CIA agent in with sentient filtrate Playboy club there's even pictures of her in a Playboy bunny uniform and she had eventually gotten married but her husband died suddenly? if you want to see a coincidence okay ...but as far as so-called black American women were concerned why were they unable to have her husband stay in their homes with them and be on government assistance when other women Asian Caucasian and others were allowed to have their husbands or boyfriend and their children in the same household? and thus the United States government came the husband for these women the so-called black women? government whoever runs at dirty Moors or Caucasian together a separately ..have become the god for these women also known as the government operational Department call g o d
Plus those countries ate entering into reciprocity contracts with usa called NATO, European Union, etc. It's 1980 in Phillipines. Don't get burned twice.
Good luck trying to change the rules when the system makes 10 percent of every child support and judges get bonus for collected child support. The best thing to starve the monster is not to get married.
I quite enjoyed However I disagree with your idea that there are no powerful groups of people (example world economic forum) lead by people who openly support any way of reducing population. Model of nuclear family has been targetted by many. To deny it is unfortunatelly clear to lack of education in that particular topic.
This is true imo, however I have talked with and know many men who married in Orthodox Eastern europe after the Cold War ended and their marriages suffer from the same problems. A lot of them have become alcoholics to escape. One guy owns a house with 3 bedrooms 3 toilets, and his wife has pushed him out of the house into his garage. The 11 rooms in the house are for guests, decorated by her. We are talking about religious Orthodox christians here. I also come from such a broken home from Easte Europe, we are catholics. Grandparents and parents never separated.. but their relationships are more like psychological torture built on contempt.
I read something about someone who had been married for a number of years thay end up getting divorce the assets got split up and I think she got the kids and had to pay for there up keep she even got the place to live as well.i think she went back to court to complain that he never mentioned to her he had a private pension in there relationship and asked the judge for him to give her half of his pension even though she was no longer married to him .I can't remember who thay where rich or not but it was ouch I don't know what the out come but I can see why people don't want to get married if your going to get taken to the cleaners if it all gos wrong another good talk john
and when you say you can write up on his contract on your own thank you and the lady can go buy it and it's like a mortgage payment but also in mortgage payments sometimes the mortgage company conveniently loses your payment and if you don't do the due diligence and find the money you end up being behind on your payments and they take their house and any woman can say that her husband is abusing her and so marks on her face she may even put those marks on her face who could prove differently? unless you want to have a relationship where you tape everything and if you don't have that kind of trust such as in the Amber Heard case then what do you have anyway? ..just saying
My neighbour is a single unmarried man without kids. He has 2x sports cars and 2x motorbikes. His house looks fantastic, and he's always chatty and cheerful 👍
I saw a meme that said, “Women want a man to be more successful, taller, stronger, and richer and they want that man to pretend that they are equal.” It fucked my head up and made so much sense. And after the divorce you are still required to make payments on the Bentley (the ex-wife in his analogy) although you aren’t allowed to drive it.
"There's a Sucker born every minute" is the exact quote and it was uttered by P.T. Barnum. P.T. Barnum was a 19th century carnival barker. The Greatest Show on Earth and so on... And he wasn't very wise. In fact, he was a greedy american bleep hole. Not unlike a certain modern american politician.
Hello Mr. Griffin. I was wondering if you have advice for parents of a daughter(s). I imagine that you hope your daughter will be married to an honorable man one day. Do you have any tips on raising a girl into a sensible young woman who can one day be the “right woman” for her potential future husband one day? Also, how would you raise a young man to find such a woman? Thank you very much and God bless you sir.
I think you have to earn their trust first. When your adult children come to you for advice, you will know you have their trust. My philosophy is to understand that just because they came through me, they do not belong to me. Their lives are their own. Life is very good at bringing lessons at the right time for each of us to learn. My daughters confide in me about their boyfriends and they want my opinion. This creates an opportunity for a conversation. I never tell them what to do or not do. I just have a conversation and ask them questions that will lead to self discovery. If they choose badly, I will just wait and allow the inevitable to happen. then we have another conversation. I support them in all of their decisions so long as they aren't hurting themselves or anyone else. I do that so as not to alientate them. It just requires patience. So far, it has been working pretty welll.
The juice ain’t worth the squeeze
Absolute fact, anyway you slice it.
@@DanielBergerHewitt 💯
The stinky moist hole is not worth the drama. Stack cash, live free in your cave, play video games, go fishing, spend time with friends and enjoy life to its fullest.
I don't know. There's a lot to be said about an experience good or bad as opposed to a whole lot of nothing. Wouldn't be the first time I've overpaid for a lemon.
Lately the juice has gotten bitter.
In marriage, men’s obligations (to provide, support the family financially, etc.) are enforceable by law. Women’s obligations (to be intimate with their husband, take care of the children) are not.
Yes, it´s a trap for men, it´s a ticking timebomb.
Damn!……..Got damn! That’s a bomb on marriage dude! 😂
@@screenplay78deA woman is very much a ticking time bomb. That can blow up in your face for any reason.
No accountability by women to be reasonable.
It is essential to bring up the boys in a different way. And that way has not yet been realised, identified or set in motion.
its been that way since before I was born. its got worse but even at my birthtime it was already too bad. men have been choosing to suffer for decades still. sad.
Not only does the feem ale have zero burden of performance, but she is actively encouraged, incentivized and rewarded for destroying the family/man. Truly an untenable contract.
I rather be single and childless than miserable with a miserable person
Same here. I thought being single would be a hollow existence. Now, I don't think so. I miss the three letter word (the one with s and ends with x, heh), with the women I've been with. What I don't miss is the grief, the entitlement, the psychological fighting "just to do it" quite a few women would do, the masking of their selfish motives, and as you stated, the misery. And nearly almost ALL of them were not good with finances, which if I was making a little or much more at job I would generally live on my means---and invest gradually.
Agreed.
Been over 2 years since my last relationship.
I must say, I don't regret staying single.
10 years or so ago, yeah...I would've felt lonely for being single. But nowadays, I feel glad and happy for it, solitude 100%. 👏🏻🗿
No compromise. No negotiation. Family on our terms, surrogacy-supplemented single-fatherhood, or freedom. There's no going back.
I once harbored the notion that I would have a happy relationship, but now I see that there is no way I could satisfy any of them. I know I am not alone. People are not getting married. Are people having sex? I don't know, but I am not. Porn is a poor substitute, although I am sure glad it exists. Definitely better than running to the corner store, pal! And the birthrate is down across the world. I think Korean is in negative numbers big time. Hey, that's fine by me. I am living a miserable life and humankind is dying out as well. Well, ok, so be it.
It's a great life....UNMARRIED!!
You sign a contract that you will pay her for leaving you.
@@themoonsea9893 👰🏼♀️➕📜🟰🧛🏼♀️
Yes 👍 Precisely
Much like Charlie Sheen said. "You don't pay a prostitute for sex. You pay them to leave".
That is 💯 correct. You enter into a contract where the other party has an incentive to break it as soon as they sign it.
Never marry.
Rent
seen too many of my friends lives destroyed by marriage, put me off for life.
No prostitution. No exchange of money for box. True life is experienced in serving God and his creation.
@@involuntarilychad4048 yeah this whole god thing is how they get guys to waste their whole lives. rent - it's much better.
@@pondeify The God thing is your best bet to regulate the sexual urge that keeps men thinking about women in the first place. If you're renting you're still an addict.
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Picture this: you are always right, never wrong.. every day, with every decision you make... that's life as a single man.
And when you are not, you take accountability for your actions, because we are men.
Been married. Was ALWAYS wrong then.
Now divorced. Sometimes right/sometimes wrong, but usually learn from my mistakes. ✊
@@TestOverload This is the way.
Imagine getting married and providing all these resources only to find out your wife cheated and your kids might not be yours. Feminism tells women to cheat. That it’s her body and she’s not a slave to her husband for sex. In divorce court she’s rewarded for her cheating and breaking her vows. Why would any man enter into such a relationship? It’s insane.
Worst business contract ever!
Feminism doesn't tell women anything, it gives more choices than only one which some random male wants to force upon women. As for cheating there was study done analyzing DNA and proving historically only 40% of males reproduced (>80% women) which means most raised milkman's children or consequences of nobles having first night rights with every woman who get married or woman having secret bf because nobody loves and stays loyal if they are forced into marriage. Meanwhile men cheated so much there was never time in history when worlds oldest profession would sit without job. Ironically despite males today crying about big bad feminism the paternity rates are much better because women are not forced to breed with garbage someone else chose for her.
@@map3384 even with a prenup in place it’s precarious.
OK so you can get an over the counter paternity test at least.
Women grow old.
Men grow up.
@@jonmueller2117 Menopause Menopause = male death wish. pre Menopause= woman's suicide wish.
Either we work and support each other or we do not.
@jonmueller2117
LOL -
You’ve never spent a single fecking day of your life on a construction site, have you?
Hoeflation is real.
funny!
@@fudogwhisperer3590 hyperhoeflation 2025
I'm done
Rather be single
Sober and sane
I'm 45
No kids No debt
Even lost 40 lbs
I've has girlfriends
Got tired of.em spending my.money up
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76, single and alone 45yrs..no kids, no debt....maybe not sane, but happily at peace....I have learned to repel most women by looking poor. Shabby house, old car, simple-well worn dress.....simple pleasures.....works like a charm
@@mikedee8876 😄@ "learnt to repel most women by looking poor"
@@mikedee8876 Fact is a relationship will very soon spend the lot. You will be left bereft and wonder why you could ever have been that stupid. Stay safe. Best Regards Better out than in.
@@Educatedlame single life is honestly better. Modern women are absolutely useless to say the least. Life is so much better off single and alone. I have twins 👯♀️ boys 🧒 that are my only priority in life
Men have rejected marriage but more importantly many of their parents also feel the same way.
"There's a sucker born every minute", P.T. Barnum.
I believe Barnum claimed that he never actually said it. (Like Queen Victoria never said: "We are not amused").
a preacher at the podium said it
now its every second.
You're describing the phenomenon known as *HOEFLATION* (and currently *Hyperhoeflation* )
14:15 "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."
I disagree with him on this, there were no good intentions involved with any of this.
The data is in. Men generally are happier, healthier, fitter, and wealthier unmarried.
Source?
The data shows that marriage generally is better for men than women. There are a bazillion women's channels rejecting marriage.
Not sure. Marriage tends to be the gateway to sexual activity, with all its risks.
@@VoxWodlerThat's weird, marriage is when my sex life ended. Ending marriage is when it began again..
@@VoxWodler being single was the gateway for me ;-)
read the forbidden book Magnetic Aura on Borlest, and you'll see the secrets they're keeping from us.
@@ZacharyPlayford scammers gonna scam
Read Thieves steal from you, by Mark Robbed. To learn how scammers scam.
Feminism killed society brother.
It certainly did.
…and commercialism.
Death cult.
@@JamesHawkeTH-cam Correct Correct.
No Civilization can survive Feminism
Marriage only works for the three percent of people who married their high school sweetheart. They exist, but it's a rare breed
Even then it is overrated.
Marriage new name is business and it's the worst deal for businessmen !
@@singhgotnochill..805 We understand the mantra now. Men are in love....Women are in Business. And they are good at it.
With all the info on the net right now, I don’t understand why young men continue to get married. Do they think they’ll be the lucky one? Only 10% of marriages are actually happy marriages. So you have a 90% chance of being in a miserable marriage or losing your assets and kids.
Don’t young men understand those odds?
No unfortunately they don’t
and of those 10% its only a matter of time until it falls apart!
Marriages plummited below 1 per 1000. I think we can celebrate.
Blinded by the pooosaaay
@@feralandroid That's what he is doing and many others in the TH-cam space, deprogramming the centuries old training.
The marriage license is a contract with the county/State. For the contract to be binding, all parties must provide equal consideration. I have never seen a woman or the county/State provide equal consideration. Also, the county clerk withheld a lot of information about the contract. This makes the contract null and void. Rescind your signature, have it notarized, and send it to the county clerk’s office.
Yep. People unfortubately dont know the difference between lawful and legal.
High risk, low reward.
*All risk/zero reward.
no reward at all
@@masterblaster1502exactly my friend
You had the reward and used up the reward before getting married.
I don't know what you are talking about bro, I don't have sex options. Travelling abroad for sex for me has been a total failure. I don't even get to square one with women and sex. I have wasted much money and time on "dating" with no return. And, I have no clue how I could get involved in a "marriage". My experience with women is that they are a conniving bunch, 100% focused on shaking men down for money. I am super afraid of such a situation. I think she would divorce me as soon as she can get whatever I have. While I really want a woman in my life, I am afraid that it is too late and too expensive for me to get one.
So learn what just about every man has learned. Commit everything Lose everything. There are children on the receiving end of their some of this flagrant behaviour usually as a result of the pill or the workplace which will undermine all your relationships. Men no longer possess their relationships.
If our a passport bro it could be you wasn't doing the necessary things to find a partner.
I'm a passport bro as well and I have my partner, however like everything else it's work!!
@VoxWodler escorts. Use condoms. Always. No kisses. Keep your phone and watch and wallet close.
There. No magic secret. There laid multiple times that way. Blond, brunette, Asian, even a redhead once. You get to choose, and you know exactly what you're getting.
It might be you...not the women
Hire!!
The law needs to change there. Here in Norway, the assets you had before marriage are yours; she can't take them, so if she comes with nothing, she is leaving with nothing. If she has kids, they might be with the father, and she has to pay child support. That's automatic but limited to 25% of her income in total. This goes both ways, of course.
never happen here in the states.....woman have to much influence and politicians are scared to get them mad...
Everything you've said is true, but ask any man who has been divorced and they will tell you that marriage is a death trap. Even not being married but living with a woman for a period of time is a huge eye opener. It's not worth giving up your freedom and peace to just have a live in girlfriend. They aren't worth what they bring to a relationship, which is only going to drain you, your time, energy, and most of all, your peace. Date them...fine, but never again will I live with one.
Yeah I agree. Honestly they never live up to the expectation anyway. I can have more sex now than when I had a wife! Ain't that something!
100% truth right there brother ☝️
I did the same....deep down all women want marriage...it's worse than a cult!
You mentioned Thailand and the Philippines, and other such places, but they have division of assets too. (It's annulment, not divorce, in the Philippines but it's the same result.) The Philippines also has common law marriage. There is no escape once you get government involved. Smart men don't marry (Bone Tomahawk). It really sucks, though - I wanted kids, white picket fence, etc.
did annulment also involve man losing half and pay all child sport and alimony or no?
@@redemissarium Yes, some mix of that. That's my point.
@@nunuvyurbiz123 so whats the difference other than term? 😲
@@redemissarium There is no practical difference - that's why I said "it's the same result." If I had not pointed out that the Philippines has annulment, not divorce, someone would have called me out on that, this being the internet and all. Are you trying to understand, or are you trying to make a point?
@@nunuvyurbiz123 'white picket fence' - did you really want that or is it more the idea of that. Be careful what you wish for.
Gents please stay out of the divorcentration camps.
I can't fathom how men willing walk in to that these days.
@@andre1987eph Your Divorce Decree: "Arbeit Macht Frei"
@@andre1987ephignorance and 'madness' called love.
@@parrotshootist3004 Truly this, we want to believe in the fairy tales so much we delude ourselves into believing the lies.
Part of it isn't just on us though, as humans we are social creatures, we are supposed to be around other people but everything has changed.
I won't get married because I can't afford to get divorced
Very true you’re a smart man
Bingo, the same reason for me lol
I won't get divorced because I'll never.get married! Hahahhahaha!
As a man, the only thing wrong with western men is that we expect the modern western woman to be traditional. When a woman doesn’t need a man (because she’s “successfully independent”), she’s no longer a traditional woman. Get your passport.
Yup!!!
That's why I DON'T TRUST ANY WOMAN!!
Mind you I'm a passport bro and im NOT bringing my girlfriend/ potential wife over.
Once the poison of the u.s she'll completely change.
Plus America is fucked up in multiple ways! I'm ready to buy/build outside the US and leave.
Ok but the biggest problem is I don't exactly expect them to be traditional but they refuse to compromise on anything. Try to talk to them logically about any plan you have for a family together, it won't work.
I made three times as much money as my ex wife. I had to divorce her because she had an alcohol addiction and she wouldn't pick up after herself. Yes she worked and I didn't have a problem with that, I even split chores with her, rather fairly in my opinion but she was a slob and I'm not and she wouldn't give up alcohol. The final straw was her drinking heavily behind my back while we were trying to have a child.
According to her I was "The love of her life!" Her actions definitely proved otherwise. Anyways she died at 36 because she wouldn't stop and her liver could only take so much abuse.
I doubt I'll marry again, I honestly can't even find any decent women to date anymore. I might try the passport thing but I haven't really wanted to leave the states. I'm guessing I'll just do the rent-a-woman program and spend my days doing what I wish instead of trying to save another Trainwreck, because in women's eyes apparently that must be all I deserve!
@@Anotherguy1st Not all women are like this, but if you think they are then you're probably best to stay single as you have not yet healed from your last relationship. It's like women who have bad experiences with a alcoholic husband or selfish narcissistic men, just because some men are like that doesn't mean they all are. As for her being a slob that can very easily apply to the man being the slob in a relationship too. It just depends on the individuals and the type of people they are. Putting al women in to one box and men in another is extreme black and white thinking. Dichotomous thinking is very rigid and allows no competing or mitigating information. It constitutes a kind of denial that usually occurs in tandem with other cognitive distortions like filtering and disqualifying the positive, where the things that do not fit into the narrative are disqualified, rejected or re-framed in order to fit into it. That's why you have to reality test at times and make sure your not projecting your own feelings or past experiences onto a person or a situation that isn't really there and not grounded in reality.
There's toxic men and women and theirs none toxic men and women. It's not some women are toxic and therefore it applies to all women, same with men. Everyone on the planet are individuals and no two people are exactly the same. No one is all good or all bad. You have to evaluate people on their own merits and actions, not on someone else's. This applies to both good and bad behaviour and if someone can be nice sometimes or has good qualities(everyone has some good qualities) it still does not excuse or mitigate abuse ever. Good people can do bad things. Bad people can do good things. All people can do all things and if we can stop trying to fit people into a category, evaluating their behavior really does become a lot easier. It speaks for itself. And remember no one is perfect, we all have flaws, weaknesses and make mistakes at times, that's part of being human.
@@kmarie7051 you said a whole load of nothing.
First balme the victim for generalisation.
Then said good people can be bad and vice versa.
Give people a chance, good or bad essentially.
What's your point?
Keep dating people that fake the initial phase of the relationship?
Why not just have the initial phase, and go your separate ways?
This was the mentality of the friend of a narcissistic lady "if we officially don't date and are just seeing each with no labels. there will always be that ability to still keep the honey moon phase going and feelings won't be hurt as much when cheating occurs because they never were truly yours"
I saw it as delusional at first, because why not just keep trying to be creative in the relationship long term.
However this is what works for some people, so allow people choose to abandon all romantic relationships or manage it as they chose.
Not keep trying the same old formular.
@@sneak9407 Yes that's something a narcissist could say. That's because narcissists don't bond or attach properly to people so the honeymoon phase is the only good time for them and it's all built around fantasy. They value the supply and attention from people they barely know over those they know well. Those people can't reflect the narcissist's flaws and failings back to them because they don't know any of them. The narcissistic supply from them is much more satisfying and more pure because it is not tainted by anything. When someone they don't know says something good about them, the narcissistic person can't convince themselves that the person doesn't really feel that way because there is no reason to. They've never done anything to that person. This is why they fear exposure. It ruins that pure supply, those good opinions. Anyone who knows the pathologically narcissistic person in a more intimate capacity is a potential danger and ultimately, an enemy.
They only get into relationships to validate themselves and your only function in the relationship is to provide whatever reflection they can turn into fleeting self-worth and personality traits they can mimic. That's it. Their self-esteem is very, fragile. The normal stresses and blows to the ego that are nothing to most people are intolerable for someone with such little self-worth. They cannot abide by anything less than perfection, because any flaw or mistake - no matter how small - is considered a terrible failing and indictment of character. It is seen as proof of their worthlessness. But no one is perfect. No one is flawless. Everyone makes mistakes. The narcissist avoids the enormous pain of flaws, imperfections and mistakes through denial and projection, by blaming them on other people. You are literally there in part to take the blame for things so that they don't have to. Even if we disregarded the totally unrealistic demand for perfection being made of you, how can you ever be perfect when someone rejects all of your good qualities and even makes up bad ones that you don't have? It's a set up. Everyone becomes tainted in the end, either because they see behind the facade of the narcissist and can therefore expose them, or because the narcissistic person cannot find a flaw in the person and begins to hate them because they are jealous.
Your jobs in this relationship are to give them the perfect, unconditional love they desire by reflecting their perfect self back to them always and to be the disgustingly flawed scapegoat they can blame everything on. Unfortunately, these things cancel each other out. Even if you were the perfect victim, so to speak, someone with no boundaries who always took the blame and never asserted yourself, someone who worshipped the narcissist and saw them as godlike, who let them do whatever they wanted and still loved them and never chastised them, it still would not be good enough. Their opinion of you would be extremely low and you would be treated terribly. They would still go to others for supply as well. What good is supply from someone who is that pathetic?..There is no chance that you can become perfect enough for a person who does not understand love to love you.
The whole relationship with a narcissist alternates between idealization and devaluation cycles and neither is based in reality or is the other person seen for who they really are through any of it, it's not really based on the other person at all. it's all based around the narcissists feelings and their flawed perception only'. Their feelings are all self focused and they only have feelings for themselves. Other people are seen as objects or extensions of self to narcissists. The best a narcissist can do is enmeshment which is really toxic. After the honeymoon phase a narcissists lose interest in their partner and the kind treatment they may have demonstrated in the beginning vanishes. The second stage of their romantic relationships are often dramatic, painful, fluctuating, riddled with secrets, and unstable, and periods where you might go back to the idealization for a period and then devalued again over and over and then very often a discard. The relationship never really goes back to what it was at the start because that was just a mask and not who the narcissist really is. The devaluation part of the cycle will just keep getting longer and the idealization shorter.
Pathological narcissists have a condition that impairs the social neuronetworks of the brain. The very regions of the brain that handle how we relate, connect, empathize, manage our emotions, take accountability, reason (socially), inhibit impulses, and practice morality are dysfunctional in this population.There's a break-down of affective resonance in their inability to connect deeply with us. To feel with, for, and about us which destroys their chances at a true connection. They may tell you that they care, but because affective resonance is nearly always in action when we are in the presence of another living being. you will not feel that they care. What you may feel, especially if you are a person of high empathy, is that their words are hollow, superficial and shallow. You will feel that something is missing when your limbic system searches for a healthy connection in your partner and it comes up empty. Affective resonance is all about the feeling of the interaction and the dynamic entanglement of moving and being-moved.
This condition impacts their social interactions, thought processes, personality and behavior. We rely on these components to be stable when we interact with others - especially our intimate partner. When someone has deficits of this magnitude means most people will not be able to have a peaceful, cooperative, reciprocal relationship with them. The level of accommodation one would have to extend to maintain a relationship with them will be extreme (e.g., walking on eggshells; always submitting to a fragile ego). We lean on our social neuronetworks within the brain to be able to connect to others; to relate to them; respect and appreciate them.
It is not uncommon for an individual with pathological narcissism to tell their intimate partners that they will change, get better, or do better. This is usually short-lived. The brain disorder will predominate and the pathological narcissists’ manner of thinking and functioning re-emerges. Example - You love and bond with him/her across the span of your relationship, however the individual with pathological narcissism will disconnect, become disinterested, and antagonistic, perhaps even hateful across that same time period. Their behavior is in complete opposition to what ‘normals’ do when they are intimately involved and care about someone. There will be no change to their emotional processing LIKE their ability to form empathy, care, demonstrate morality, and bond.
Aside from their minimal empathy, a tendency toward boredom, and aggression, one of the primary facets of their character that creates problems in their relationships is their lack of morality. They cannot genuinely relate well to others, especially in intimate relationships. Their emotional disorder simply prevents this. They cannot connect and fulfill that deep desire we have to feel bonded to someone. There is no empathy, compassion, bonding, understanding, appreciation, trust, Honesty, respect, stability, peace... There's no moral reasoning, care based morality, healthy boundaries, healthy emotional regulation, accountability, impulse control in Intimate relationships on the part pathological narcissists. They do not value or consider the emotions of their partner important. They value self only. Rather than love their partners, the deepest they can reach is to treat them like possessions or objects.
Abuse and love are combinations you’ll never find in healthy relationships. Healthy and mature partners instinctively know the line that should not be crossed. They don’t cross it because they love you and care about your feelings - even when they are angry or disappointed in you. Arguments and disagreements cannot erase the extremely deep bond a healthy person has for their partner. They love you, even if they may not like your actions at the moment. Without empathy the relationship is shallow and everyone is disposable. And everyone is just as easily retrieved.
Pathologically narcissistic people objectify other people. They view all people as objects that can be controlled, used, stolen, bought and sold on and owned, including themselves. They don't appear to understand any human beings as complete Sovereign individuals with all their own needs, wants, feelings, beliefs, preferences or anything else. For narcissists not acknowledging the feelings needs or wants of others goes beyond not caring into a space of not even seeing these things.They only care how others can be used to make them feel about themselves. Other people in these relationships are merely props to make the performance more believable and mirrors to reflect this performance to the only audience that matters, the narcissistic person themselves. The narcissist's entire life is a performance of one for one by one.
Even narcissists who believe they "love" someone at the start are usually referring to loving the way the other person makes them feel about themselves, because the other person mirrors back to them an idealized perfect image of themselves back to them and sees them as perfect at the start. They are so self centered they don't realise that and this is their only experience of situations where they used that word "love" so they know no different..eventually that perfect reflection will be tainted for even the smallest thing and then the devaluation starts and their feelings change with it.
It has and always will be a BUM DEAL
It was ok before no-fault/no-reason incentivized divorce grape became the law. Now? Only for delusional knee-takers.
I see a married women in the gym daily with her husband. She must be in her early 50s but she seems so miserable and cold. Yesterday I said how you doing, as a friendly gesture. She looked at me and looked locked up without even saying a word. I wonder what's going on with her. Her husband seems uptight. I hate seeing people look like this, it doesn't make for a good atmosphere.
I shall see some of my friends on Facebook making a mistake they got that goofy grin and they're with their girl and they're like hey we just got to engaged it's always that goofy grin
That Sphinx-like smile
My awakened buddy and I share and discuss these pictures privately between us and cringe when we come across one... that goofy grin of the man who has loaded himself into the cannon and doesn't even realise.
@@WildB06💥
@@dy4710 😂
Beta males submitting and being knee-takers. Comical to watch because they are beyond help or reason.
Young men! DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! Take it from this old 50 yr old man…
Second and third that from a 47 year old who was wiped out by divorce! Stay single and gaurd your lives young fellas! Learn from our mistakes!
@@richrivers1232 🙏 my brother
Mandatory paternity testing at birth. No man should escape his responsibility and no man should be able to accept responsibility for a kid that isn't his.
no man should be forced to support anothers mans seed..
Men need to stop obsessing about sex, this is just a small part of life & so overrated in my opinion. Concentrate on yourself guys.
So true. Once you realise that you can enjoy it but don't really need it, the world around you becomes far more peaceful & productive.
No seggs is had in marriage.
When needed hire!!
Ironically if simps and chads did this, wed all be okay...
Yup women don’t put out but divorce men and score men’s assets in divorce court. Through no fault divorce. Stay single guys.
My dad said that marriage is compromise and sacrifice, Who wants that chit ? And the same old gal night after night ? I laugh at my married buddies and tell them, you look defeated, I tried to tell you, but you didn’t listen…
Freedom isn't for everyone. Low-vibrational norm1e plantation males can't fathom it.
Agree...just go to any mall and see how miserable the men are with their women....both on their phones....
@@vincentbaca790 The guy at the mall knows that the piece of leather in his pocket is going to get more wrinkled.
Didn't you ever want children though? They are the great gift that, with good nurturing, will keep on giving.
Demographics? I'm 73, and at my age, single women far outnumber single men (perhaps 8 to 1). Women date, marry, and divorce for resources, it is all business. I learned an expensive lesson at the settlement table in mid-life and it took about a decade to recover. I quickly share my insight with my grandsons and caution my granddaughters about the feminism my generation spawned. The smart ones heed my advice and prosper. Me? I remarried 27 years ago and replaced it all several times over. We are better off than 95% of our peers and my wife delights in the country club life I provide. There is great satisfaction in massive success and Karma deals with my EX. I chuckle.
That's the key...
You ARE successful... 90% of men won't experience this unfortunately
Absolutely NO reason ANY man should be checking for a 73 year old lady. 😅
@@andre1987eph agreed, once past 45, forget it, (post-)menopause removes the last vestiges of the hormones making women have the jitters for the opposite sex! Why bother with what mother Nature is trowing on the trashheap?
Consider not just the withdrawal of intimacy-
But it's reallocation to another man during the marriage.
The no fault scenario not only negates any penalty but incentivizes.
Now consider a man reallocating financial resources to another female during the marriage.
Family Court would (and has) literally put the man in jail
Truly an untenable gyn0centric scam contract for men.
Feels to me that a little bit of “cold hearted bastard” is the required armor men must wear when dealing with modern relationship dynamics Brother John!
Just a bit 😀
No, one needs The Full Armour of God (Ephesians 6:12). It's spiritual at this point.
@@andre1987eph - has nothing to do with gods of any sort.
Watch _Chasing the Dragon_ by Paul Elam.
The OG!
@@lpsglitterpaws8536
So far as I know? Probably. He's even older than Rollo.
One of the best video's on the subject indeed, also watch the sequel: Slaying the dragon!
Marriage was a religious agreement designed to protect women-because they could not compete against men in the work marketplace. Given that few today have any religious standards and that women can take on careers alongside men there’s really no purpose for marriage because all it really does is protect female hypergamy-Men got married because they believed it ensured sexual access for life-Now that this doesn’t ensure this there’s no reason to even “commit” because we all know she will more than likely lose interest and take at least half your resources in the process.
Great insights. Thanks
well said....men get married for one main reason....no teenage boy man dreams of is wedding day ..they go into reluctantly because they have craving for that one thing......that one thing is cut off real fast but now its to late
@@workingshlub8861You mean no more brief occasional moments of ejaculatory relief in exchange for all your energy time and money 😊
"It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife." -Proverbs 21:19
Men are realizing there a misalignement with the traditional romance...hyundais with csdillac prices
Rental Hyundais, used and abused, dented, scratched, battered, now back on the lot after years of rentals and tons of miles demanding full retail price.
Amen
Come on, I don’t think a lot of guys married caddys, more like Chevys and Ford pintos!
@@kimlambert4394maybe an AMC pacer....like in Wayne s World....
So very true ! 😀
That a government can negate legal contracts such as a prenuptual agreement will make all marriage agreements a thing of the past imo. In Canada if a couple cohabitates for 2 years they automatically become commonlaw which equates to marriage in every way regardless of them not having a marriage contract. A couple can enter into a legal cohabitation agreement to avoid the commonlaw marriage laws but judges can and have negated these agreements as well. The consequence of this government interference is that men (and women too) are either avoiding cohabitating altogether or when they do they are sure to break the living arrangement before the 2 years is up. So I think a new marriage contract such as is suggested in this video is a fantastic idea, but if a judge can't be trusted to uphold them then what good are they?
Gyn0centric law = maximum redistribution of the man's assets to the feem ale. Oh, she left a toothbrush at your house? Pay her. Untenable contracts for men.
First off, never get married and you'll never have to worry about all this BS. If you have to for some demented reason, look into trusts to save/protect your assets. Prenups are like swiss cheese.
The thing is this---it is easy to say there is all this negativity toward marriage----but you keep seeing these guys who are together upstairs, physically fit like this dude, have resources obviously---and they are all walking away. I live in foreign countries and ALL the expat males say the same from ALL western countries. They don't want their own women. One guy in Cambodia had rentals in Milan that gave him income--had a Kumar live in. Another dude from France--fitness trainer---Kumar live in. You keep hearing the same stories---good together dudes who keep saying the same thing. Hmmmm
No mate I'm 50yrrs old worked all over Australia met alot of people I saw this phenomenon 30yrs ago social media exposed what most men already knew marriage is dead in western countries
@@airadaimagery692poor analogy...not a worthy comparison...a radio station you can switch whenever you want....marriage is a LONG TERM financial commitment..I have seen my Dad and Mom, my older brother Greg, my sister, several freinds get divorced....it's messy...NOT like a radio station
Any logical man with options and self-respect knows that being a beta who signs untenable contracts and submits on his knee is and absurd proposition.
@@airadaimagery692 Noticing trends of this magnitude is a little beyond your radio station analogy.
My advise to american men,, young or older. Never get married. Have girlfriends and keep yuor money that u worked hard for👍👍
If you touch a hot stove and get burned you learn not to do that again. Marriage is like that.
Not true. Maybe after 2 or 3 times
@@fredflinstone6601Only for slow learners.
you pretty much said it all. thanks
John…very good topic. I also thought of this concept being the contract..where there is a standard timeframe, say 20 years…then a new renewal term is set, say for a further option of 2-5 years. At that point again it is renewed or terminated. Like a commercial lease…after all, are we not just leasing these women anyway?
Marriage is contract, divorce is termination of marriage contract and not divorcing is keeping marriage contract active. Why tf anybody needs to "renew" it after every few months as you suggest it? Sounds like scam business to fill the pockets of some and waste other peoples time just because some men are cowards who can't do anything in their life without someone else making them to do it. If you want to divorce, Steve, just do it! You don't need to be coward who "forgets" to renew marriage to get out of marriage you hate so much although I think you are not even married. Without children there is not much reason for women to marry men or even live with men but if there is children involved they need stronger family than something what could be forgotten to be renewed or not done because financial reasons at the moment or forbidden by big brother because you don't have up to date booster.
Stay single Lol. I wish someone said this 30 years ago.
FYI - men got to the Philippines chasing left over women with kids, facts. The local men don’t want them 😂
Yeah, going overseas and then bringing the drama of a third world single mother into your life. Then there's all their family dramas. You're just a wallet over there too. Guys need to stop simping for punani.
As a man in 2024 , you get sexual access, sexual exclusivity and children from women without being married. Why do we still need to get married??
In such a setting you'll still be legally married. Even cohabitation for five years or more will get you into trouble if she wants to.
@@dw4956 in the US , only a few states practice common-law marriages. Just look it up and enjoy dating.
I don't have any of that. And I am pretty sure if I ever "married" I still would not.
Those are excellent points
I just turned 50 a little over a week ago. No kids and never married. If someone would have told me when I was in my 20's and through my late 30's that by the time I hit 50 years of age, I would be looking at everything involved with "romance" as a SEVERE quality-of-life affecting issue and must be avoided, I would not have believed them. There is so much wrong. My heart goes out to the younger guys who are hell bent to "be the man."
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@@JurassicJerkyAmazon nah, just check out and go full caveman, who cares
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I like the way you think!
Ever since I was a teenager I thought legally shackling oneself to another person based on transitory emotions unbelievably unwise, demented even. The though of marriage makes me feel ill and I've never done it nor ever will.
Now, in my fifties, my friends all want to know what my secret was.
Common sense and looking at reality was the secret. Hard for your average NPC zombie today.
I feel the same way. I am 64 and never married. The risks seem way too high for me to ever consider it. I am so glad that I didn't cave.
Sentience, less restrained by education.
Transitory emotions,well done!
im with you......the idea of marriage is ridiculous when it comes to the legal definition and consequences.....humans are not naturally monogamous...society needed a way to build and its a good idea in theory just not realistic.
To honest for a lot of guys.
There should be a law that requires young men to have a min of 3 hrs,or whatever, course on the legal implications of marriage and what can happen during a divorce.
Us old boomers did not have the internet and youtube videos to educate the men as to the serious ramifications of marriage.
I did not get divorced, but my wife passed away years ago. However, marriage is not something to enter into lightly as the responsibilities and challenges are far greater than one would imagine. Yes, one should take a marriage course like what is required to get that first drivers license at the least.
The first half of life belongs to women, the second half, to men. Stay single, gentlemen.
Recipe for happiness:
No Wife, No Kids, No Pets, No Debts,
Why not pets? they love you uncoditionally what s wrong with that?
@@marianitozz1 They're awesome, but they still limit your freedom, cost you a ton of money over the long run (especially as they get older) and you will spend years looking after the bathroom habits of another living being.
Love my doggy, she's almost 15 now-I will be crushed when she passes, but I wouldn't do it again; at least not at this age.
Agree with all but pets.
I like having a pet, a cat gives great joy to me.😅
@@danmslacker6782 love my dogs. Get home from work and they wags their tails.
Conspiracy theories…Ever heard of the WEF? Klaus Schwab chum? 😢😢😢
Either he's naive or a member of a certain tribe.
@@JayTide You nailed it.
Handsome, author carnivore man, Paul Saladino, MD, 46, no kids, and living in Costa Rica has never been married
The womem who divorce arent sad bc they lost the person that was their husband, but what that husband provided. You are a means to an end, not one yourself.
Even a dead husband often provides a widow a paid off house, survivor benefits, life insurance, a pension, on which she lives off of for another 7-12 years.
What do you use for those panning/moving shots? Is it a drone, because I don’t see you use a remote?
A follow me drone, one probably with ActiveTrack (subject recognition) and obstacle avoidance.
They have hands free remotes that drones can be pre-programmed to track
DJI Osmo Pocket 3
I am using a drone called the Hover X1. And like the other comment or said it does use facial recognition, and it does have preset patterns. I can actually fly it by moving my body on one side of the trail or the other, and the drone will follow me. it’s extremely cool
In Africa, we don't face the challenges of loosing our assets or paying alimony. But the problems of the fair transaction in the marriage is still present considering female nature is the same anywhere you go. Men here are still meant to provide and protect and women can ration intimacy or simply break the marriage at will. Which is why our fore fathers had many women outside marriage cos the intimacy was never fully met. Find what works for you though but at least know what you're getting yourself into.
What’s really fascinating is I just just saw a comment from a guy in India who had similar complaints. So it seems like we’re dealing with a worldwide problem.
@@john-griffinfemale nature/entitlement/social media/hypergamy are to blame
Women are women first regardless of country or traditions. Protect yourselves at all times
Prenuptial agreements aren't worth the paper it's printed on.
Marriage "CONTRACT" is the key word in this whole video. Study UCC contract law.
Trusts too.
Screw that, yeah never getting married.
Young men are still getting married because they are being raised by women in the house and feminized by women in school, work, recreation, and told everyday in the media that they need a women and suffering in a marriage and losing everything is the honorable thing to do. They are literally surrounded by feminism from birth. Until they get married and divorced do they start to wake up. It might take a decade or two to figure it out (and maybe another marriage & divorce) but if they are committed to improving themselves, and life long learning, they will make it to the other side which is indifference to women and a deep understanding that what they currently offer is standard equipment on all models (since you used the car analogy) worldwide at a fraction of the cost.
Some. It's nothing like it was.
Hardcore feminists oppose marriage from the women’s perspective … we can all agree on something 😂. Seriously though fellas never EVER get married … zero reasons for big govt to be involved. Some men think wife can be hedge against life’s risks until they realize a wife IS the biggest risk.
And remember Jack Jordan, a vegan, & a stalker ( single) of actress Uma Thurman was found guilty and landed in a mental institution. His mother Mrs Jordan spoke to the NYT years ago remembering her son 😢 before he went off the bonkers!
Youre hitting on something big with this one. I think that TPTB are resisting this new reality because the traditional family structure was the engine of the economy. Now they have to figure out a new system to keep things rolling.
It's tptb that's driving it.
@@parrotshootist3004 TPTB are not humans who care about thriving, they are spiritual parasites who are hellbent on destroying humanity but doing so slowly with plenty of suffering for the greatest level of distress, which is their food. They're not concerned about the "economy". What makes them tick is completely foreign to us.
@@parrotshootist3004 They are replacing and restructuring. No more white people.
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My ex discarded me took everything important to me and destroyed our family. Women fully deserve what is happening.
I sense a kindred "Cold Hearted Bastard". Thanks!
@@john-griffin living after having a knife pulled outta yer back - does not make you cold hearted. we Greeks have a saying... once we burn our mouths with hot food we even blow on the refrigerated yogurt.
They are just testing the water.... oh let me have kids first, and then run to lawyers
Women are much better when they are rented and not owned
You know what's even better, ignoring a stunningly beautiful woman. It's like not making that impulse purchase, and feeling glad you didn't not 6 months later.
My Money, My Choice...... Booking flights to Thailand, Vietnam and Philippines to enjoy the real Feminine ladies, Culture, and Food.
The divorce rate is 65 percent now, if you include all the LGBT marriages and second marriage. Every older male friend I ever had warned me not to get married. Glad I never did
What’s really telling is that lesbians seem to have the highest divorce rate! That’s what happens when you get two women in one relationship. Everything goes to hell fast.
@@john-griffin when you're right, you're right. It's time for LGBT to stop hogging up so much air time in the media. With an 80 percent lesbian divorce rate, they may want to consider stepping out of the lime light
In my close circle of Men friends we support each other alas, despite our best efforts, one of our brothers fell under the spell of the marriage trap. 10 years ago we tried everything to stop him or at least do a prenup to no avail. Next week he will end 9 years of suffering and lose half of his assets. Which are substantial.
Hope-strategy suckers can't fathom that their woman would ever do that. "She's different" was no doubt said. See 'the marriage wheel' by Coach Greg Adams, happens every time.
if it wasn't a CIA operation why was Gloria Steinem recognized the CIA agent in with sentient filtrate Playboy club there's even pictures of her in a Playboy bunny uniform and she had eventually gotten married but her husband died suddenly? if you want to see a coincidence okay ...but as far as so-called black American women were concerned why were they unable to have her husband stay in their homes with them and be on government assistance when other women Asian Caucasian and others were allowed to have their husbands or boyfriend and their children in the same household? and thus the United States government came the husband for these women the so-called black women? government whoever runs at dirty Moors or Caucasian together a separately ..have become the god for these women also known as the government operational Department call g o d
You are right. The black family unit was targeted by the government.
Other races are up next though, as you see today.
American men must be careful if they wish for a foreign wife. There are so many scams out there for that. I agree with everything you said. Take care.
Plus those countries ate entering into reciprocity contracts with usa called NATO, European Union, etc. It's 1980 in Phillipines. Don't get burned twice.
Good luck trying to change the rules when the system makes 10 percent of every child support and judges get bonus for collected child support. The best thing to starve the monster is not to get married.
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So what? What is the purpose of a huge population, or any, for that matter?
The system if u divorce in usa are absolutely insaine. I am norwegian. I would never get married in the us😂
Exceent channel and video. I enjoy watching all your videos.
I quite enjoyed
However I disagree with your idea that there are no powerful groups of people (example world economic forum) lead by people who openly support any way of reducing population.
Model of nuclear family has been targetted by many. To deny it is unfortunatelly clear to lack of education in that particular topic.
This is true imo, however I have talked with and know many men who married in Orthodox Eastern europe after the Cold War ended and their marriages suffer from the same problems. A lot of them have become alcoholics to escape. One guy owns a house with 3 bedrooms 3 toilets, and his wife has pushed him out of the house into his garage. The 11 rooms in the house are for guests, decorated by her. We are talking about religious Orthodox christians here. I also come from such a broken home from Easte Europe, we are catholics. Grandparents and parents never separated.. but their relationships are more like psychological torture built on contempt.
@@Brakka86 "A lot of them have become alcoholics to escape" - sad story of my fathers life.
@@Brakka86
That's harsh! Don't the church fathers rebuke the wives?
@@Brakka86'Trojan Mice'.
@@joostvanwijk3842why would mystery Babylon rebuke, their successes? Let the mask slip off, don't put it back on.
I read something about someone who had been married for a number of years thay end up getting divorce the assets got split up and I think she got the kids and had to pay for there up keep she even got the place to live as well.i think she went back to court to complain that he never mentioned to her he had a private pension in there relationship and asked the judge for him to give her half of his pension even though she was no longer married to him .I can't remember who thay where rich or not but it was ouch I don't know what the out come but I can see why people don't want to get married if your going to get taken to the cleaners if it all gos wrong another good talk john
and when you say you can write up on his contract on your own thank you and the lady can go buy it and it's like a mortgage payment but also in mortgage payments sometimes the mortgage company conveniently loses your payment and if you don't do the due diligence and find the money you end up being behind on your payments and they take their house and any woman can say that her husband is abusing her and so marks on her face she may even put those marks on her face who could prove differently? unless you want to have a relationship where you tape everything and if you don't have that kind of trust such as in the Amber Heard case then what do you have anyway? ..just saying
The phrase that a sucker is born every day is true today as well...
What the Groom says the day of the marriage: "I Do". What the husband says five years after the marriage: "I Shouldn't have"
What the groom should have said..."I do......NOT!"
@@vincentbaca790 😂
My neighbour is a single unmarried man without kids.
He has 2x sports cars and 2x motorbikes.
His house looks fantastic, and he's always chatty and cheerful
👍
Happiness is being single
I saw a meme that said, “Women want a man to be more successful, taller, stronger, and richer and they want that man to pretend that they are equal.” It fucked my head up and made so much sense.
And after the divorce you are still required to make payments on the Bentley (the ex-wife in his analogy) although you aren’t allowed to drive it.
Hilarious
Boy I hope this guys ex never watches these videos , they are excellent but she would be pissed to say the least !
According to him, she is watching
You make too much sense. Everything else with humanity is so insane, I don't see any chance of improvement.
Thanks
Good stuff, thanks for the perspective
"There's a Sucker born every minute" is the exact quote and it was uttered by P.T. Barnum. P.T. Barnum was a 19th century carnival barker. The Greatest Show on Earth and so on... And he wasn't very wise. In fact, he was a greedy american bleep hole. Not unlike a certain modern american politician.
10% for the big guy.
Hello Mr. Griffin. I was wondering if you have advice for parents of a daughter(s). I imagine that you hope your daughter will be married to an honorable man one day. Do you have any tips on raising a girl into a sensible young woman who can one day be the “right woman” for her potential future husband one day? Also, how would you raise a young man to find such a woman? Thank you very much and God bless you sir.
I think you have to earn their trust first. When your adult children come to you for advice, you will know you have their trust. My philosophy is to understand that just because they came through me, they do not belong to me. Their lives are their own. Life is very good at bringing lessons at the right time for each of us to learn. My daughters confide in me about their boyfriends and they want my opinion. This creates an opportunity for a conversation. I never tell them what to do or not do. I just have a conversation and ask them questions that will lead to self discovery. If they choose badly, I will just wait and allow the inevitable to happen. then we have another conversation. I support them in all of their decisions so long as they aren't hurting themselves or anyone else. I do that so as not to alientate them. It just requires patience.
So far, it has been working pretty welll.
Don't give them children and they can't abuse another.
Why do we worry so much about winning when our purpose is to merely experience.
@@ajstockt4832 winning? That's where your mind is at. That's not a game I'm playing, like you.
i could talk about for awhile, just lived through it ….
Maybe make a channel?
@@joostvanwijk3842 i’m not very articulate, but you wouldn’t believe some of it