It didn't go as planned but I learned a lot | 9 Days of Potty Training | Oh Crap! Method |Montessori
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- I was ready to start Potty Training our 23 month old after reading the Oh Crap! Potty Training Book: amzn.to/364s4dc I also watched a Montessori online workshop: www.themontess... It didn't go as planned but I learned a lot.
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Finally someone who’s going through the very REAL struggles of potty training!!!! Thank you for putting this up❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sure! Sorry you are struggling. When it doesn’t click for them it is so frustrating.
I was literally losing it the last 2 days. She gets up from the potty, takes a few steps and pees. 🤷🏾♀️
Thank you!!!
I just keep hearing about everyone's fast success and it seems like everything goes perfectly for most parents (at least from my research on the topic). Needed a video that I can relate to and that doesnt make me feel like such a failure with this.
You're so welcome! We are still struggling with #2 but she's got the pee down. Good luck. I wanted to share because it was such a struggle for us.
@@magicalmomlaura any progress with #2? Do you have any tips? We have been struggling with it since day 1..
@@srivarshinibalaji3255 Still struggling a year later. We tried everything. She does it about half the time on the potty and half on the diaper. My pediatrician recommended letting her poop in the diaper but it must be in the bathroom then move to on the potty with the diaper. I think the pressure off of her helped because once I said just let me know if you want a diaper she quickly started going on her own.
@@magicalmomlaurathanks for sharing.. I guess I will trying.. I have nothing to lose at this point and at my wits end! great to know.. please let us know how it goes and what worked for you guys..
Thanks for being real! All TH-cam videos seem to be about super fast potty training yet all my Facebook potty training groups seem to share lots of struggles. Thanks for sharing the normal so we’re not alone.
I’m so glad it helped. I wasn’t planning on making a video but it was going so bad and such a struggle I wanted to share since I didn’t see any of that in my research.
So glad I found this video! My son is potty training right now and is so similar. I've been so frustrated bc he is so smart and capable and was showing every single sign of readiness. But he is so strong willed, potty training is a struggle. One month in now and we're still figuring it out.
You got this! Sorry to say but we still have some struggles at 4 years old. Some kids just need a gentler approach I think and do it on their own time. I'm glad it helped!
Thank you so much for this video. I found this after 3 WILD days of potty training and this resonated with me a lot and motivated me to not give up for at least a week. Well, on day 5, everything turned around! Thanks for being so open and honest!!
That's awesome! Thanks for letting me know. We still have our struggles 2 years later. Ha!
Thank you for this video . We are on day 4 and I’ve experienced every emotion at this point . I’m happy to finally see a video that shows the real struggle , not just the “I potty trained my child in 3 days” videos that make you feel like a failure . Mine is 21 months and fully capable , so I’m still holding onto hope that these days will soon be over
I'm glad you found something to relate to! You have to go with each child's personality. It does get easier! good luck to you!
I’m glad you made this video, every other Oh Crap potty training video I watch the kid gets it in a couple days, the mom is perfectly calm every moment and I am like crying every day. It’s been like 5 days and I still feel like we are at day 1. I tried just sitting in one room with her and just watching her, she hated being confined so then I ended up just following her around the house. Idk man, I feel like she is so close but I just can’t relate to these over happy moms who seem to never have emotions or say it’s hard. Thankfully we never really hit a power struggle but it’s just the getting her to realize she has to go and actually go. Thanks for sharing! I also feel like what has worked better is just to sit her down on the potty when I know she has to go and she goes, rather than just waiting for her to pee on the floor 100 times 🤷🏻♀️
You know your child best and some respond better to a longer low pressure learning method. That was my daughter! Glad it helped!
Everything you have said completely resonates with what we are currently experiencing with our two year old daughter. Thank you for this video- it makes me feel better that we aren’t alone with our sweet (once easy) daughters whose stubbornness will someday be a blessing. 😊
It was one of the hardest struggles. It did finally click with her. Now we are still struggling with going #2. 🥴. Good luck to you!
I tried everything when my daughter was 2 and a half. Worked for a little bit. I think Mom's feel like they can and will accomplish pt so early in age, some may. When it didn't fully work the first several days, I backed off. On her 3rd birthday I said we're doing this now and she was on board and was potty trained in 4 days!! My advice, give it time. They'll be ready when they're ready.
You look great by the way!!
Thanks for sharing!! It's been a struggle. I'm so tempted to back off and see if she needs time to process this whole thing. I'm going to see how it goes! Thank you!
Thank you so much for this .I feel like this right now struggling to potty train.
I’m so sorry. Take it slow and be patient! They will eventually get it.
So thankful for your video!!! I was starting to believe my child and me were never going to get it when I found your video. And I could not wait for to hear whether or not she actually got it. I would love to hear more about your Montessori schedule because I think that's what's working for me today no pressure just we're going to go potty before doing the next thing. Also I was pushing too much fluid and just giving regular amounts of fluid worked better. I think it was hard to control that much fluid. Again I would love to hear about your schedule
She did get it but it was a long process and she took her time. She actually potty trained herself at night. Check out the Montessori workshop I linked below the video it helped a lot. If you look back at my channel in 2020 there should be some routines and DITL videos! Good luck!
Wow
I’m about to start this journey. Let me just preface that I was terrified to start potty training Before watching your video.
Now I feel so grateful to have found a mama who’s experience wasn’t a cake walk!
I have a deep gut feeling it’s gonna be a major shit show potty training my girl. For different reasons than you had.
Who’s ever heard of a toddler who’s already embarrassed by farts and poo! Bless her heart. No matter how hard we try to be silly and joke, or go the route of ‘EVERYONE poos!’
She still hides her face and seems so embarrassed.
Some days I think maybe I should wait longer, but she hates her diapers so much.
It’s already a struggle and we’ve yet to start!
Regardless- Thank you so very much for posting your less than perfect experience! I’m so very grateful
It was not a 3 day experience for us. It was a slow learning experience for her. Best of luck to you. Being embarrassed is a new one I’ve never heard of that. 🤣
Thank You for sharing this Video Landon is super intelligent she will get it soon🤗 and you look Great
I hope so! Thank you so much!
I am on day 4, 23 months old. We are having one success a day. If we get a second one today it will be freaking amazing. I am so glad to hear I am not alone in that I fear we will spend a month on block one.
Like I was so frustrated the first time and this time, I am not stressed. I hope that is helping.
I really want an update. My daughter is now fully naked at my parents house, refusing clothes, and hasn't peed in 6.5 hours.
That’s a long time. I think the longest my daughter went was 5 hours. Stick with it and try to relax. It will click. The harder I tried the harder she resisted. If you have one of those than you really have to take all pressure off of you and the child. Hang in there. It will happen! 😘
@@magicalmomlaura I so much appreciate your reply. We have a sitter today. We are both working full time from home. She won't pee for the sitter. She would poop for my mom but won't even pee for the sitter. I am trying to just stay in my office and work. I am watching your video again. Our girls seem so similar. I am listening to you talk about BLW. We did that too. She is a great eater. She is so so smart. She is going to get this but we are in it for the long haul, even if it takes a month to leave block 1.
@@magicalmomlaura Will you tell me when it clicked for your daughter? Like how many days and weeks?
I can feel you cause I am feeling like I wanna give up now on my son, but yea I will keep going than you for posted that make me feel every mum have to go through this and it’s not easy on potty training
Don't give up! It's so hard and some kids make it harder!
Oh girl me too. This is hard. We FIGHT over sitting on that potty. Knock down drag out power struggles.
Crazy right? I had to let it go because she wins.
Just when you were about to give up, it happened! Kids keep us on our toes, that’s for sure. OMG I am so scared now when I start to potty train the twins!!! I still have at least a year. Landon is sure lucky to have you as her mama. Xo
I feel like for most it clicks in the first few days. So hopefully it goes smoothly for the twins. If not, you can come back to this video and commiserate!
@@magicalmomlaura oh gosh no. It took my former nanny child MONTHS to slightly get it
Such good tips mama!! I love your positive parenting approach! I just uploaded my video of tips for potty training too! Love how each mama has different things to help because each kid is different!
I'll check it out!
Yeah, I'm trying to potty train my 2-year-old girl now and she says nope. She don't like it. She don't want it. lol
I'm sorry. Sounds like same as mine. She eventually got it though and believe it or not at 4 years old potty trained herself for no diapers at night!
It's okay. We've been trying for like 2 weeks. Now I back down. I was going to take a break and then all the sudden she will pee in her diaper one time and take it off. And then today she's telling me that she has to go before she has to go. So today is better.
I’m doing self led as well. And when I can’t really have focus on her I will put diaper on. What I’ve noticed is she’s not going back in progress every time I put diaper on her. She just keeps getting better. I’ve been doing it this way for three week and she self initiate and is 18 months. This is only for naked. Haven’t tried clothes yet. I don’t care how long it takes her anymore. She’s progressing anyways
That’s interesting. When we went on vacation I used pull ups and she never regressed. My daughter ended up (she’s 5 now) being very strong willed (spirited as my husband says) so letting her lead was what she needed.
@@magicalmomlaura I feel like it makes it so much easier on both the parent and the child. It doesn’t have to be so stressful if we stop with these expectations and time that society has set.
@@magicalmomlaura now here to say she self initiates with full clothes on. So definitely didn’t hurt her the approach we took
I feel your pain. We are midtraining.
Thanks so much for sharing. I too was feeling like a failure after watching all the 'trained after 3 days ' videos. The idea that a child can be trained after only 3 days is just so vague and realistic I've started to find it really irritating 🙄 most likely it'll take at LEAST a good few months and at worst a year or more! Nothing mentally prepares us for this it seems!
You mention a lot about pee, what was the poop situation like for you? My little one is terrified of pooping in general even in her nappies, so she's been holding it I'm these last 3 days of potty training :/
It’s a long learning process for some. We struggled with poo for years. We use chewable probiotics and I give her lots of options. Small potty, big potty with insert and stool. No insert. My pediatrician recommended letting them use a diaper then diaper on the potty then diaper with a hole in it on the potty. Just go slow and be patient!
We are 9 days in. Ours will hold it for 6+ hours then just release randomly and we have to be there to catch it. Still going bottomless. He is either afraid to release or just doesn’t understand it. He is 2 years old. We’ve tried everything in the book and then some to get him to release but he just holds and holds. We’ve had 0 successful pees (him initiating and peeing without prompts). We tried at 18 months too but same story basically.
I understand your struggle. I had to back off and let her learn it at her own pace and it just clicked for her. They can feel the pressure and if he is like my child it caused more resistance. I found this incredibly difficult but we got through it.
My daughter turned 3 in April and we're 3 months into potty training. She was so emotionally attached to her diapers that I kept trying every few months for a year and a half and she would just melt down over it. Finally, I just had enough and refused to stop this time. We just had our first accident in three weeks today because we're still not able to wear underwear without using it like a diaper. This whole thing just sucks. I see why people outsource this and sleep training!
Wow! It's so crazy how resistant they can be. I'm glad it finally worked for you. I've considered doing a call with an expert! It's going better now at least.
Omg this video makes me feel so seen. Potty training has broken me 😅😢
You are not alone. Some kids do not learn in a weekend!
My son has just started realizing that peepee comes out. I haven’t really tried potty training yet but have slowly incorporating toilet. My sister finally got her kids to potty train with food dye in the toilet and making it change colors
Ooh. That’s a great idea. I might try that on the big potty.
The idea that any child can learn any new skills in 3 days is convlued! We need to stop putting so much pressure on this. Hang in there
Yep. I think with some kids it is too much pressure. I learned the hard way.
Can I ask how long it took to potty train your little girl in the end? I’m only watching your video now :)
Potty chart is your new friend! Stick a big poster board in the bathroom with stickers of who she loves. If she goes she can put a sticker on the chart. Go every 15 minutes. Show her that of you get 10 stickers we can go to the store and buy a prize. It's less stress on you and her. Give it two weeks and if it doesnt work than retry again a few weeks later.
I can see how this would work and I considered it a few times. I wanted to do a no rewards approach which is what the book Oh Crap and Montessori teaches. I always try to build on an intrinsic motivation with my daughter so she gets satisfaction doing it herself.
My advice is if it's really making your life miserable, it's ok to stop and come back to it like in a month, 2 whatever. That might be an unpopular opinion but idk. A friend told me, no one starts kindergarten in diapers. It'll be ok! We used pull ups because I wasnt gonna deal with a bunch of nasty laundry. Also my girls didnt have a potty chair. They just used our normal toilet (and we only have one in our house). So it can be done!! Lol and honestly sometimes even now I have to tell my kids omg go to the bathroom!! Because they're doing a wiggleworm dance. So if the child led thing doesnt work dont feel bad lmao sometimes you gotta just tell em what to do 😂
I've considered a reset. It's still in the back of my mind if she gets really resistant again. The book I read has a plan for that.
Glad I found this video. I read the book also. My child is very independent and only wants to do things if she wants to do them. We've been doing the book method. Sometimes she will go potty but only if I bring her, she still has accidnet were on day 6. I'm so confused. Every time she wakes from nap or morning she HATES getting on potty she literally cries. Did you do bare bum or undies or what in the beginning?
I followed the book and started naked. It was not easy and to be honest we still struggle at 4 yrs old. I try and let her have independence with it and encourage her.
I feel ya, struggle is real
It's so hard.
I worked with a little kid who was like this and she was hard to train. The pull ups didn’t help, to add to matters for her
I think I have a hard to train one too!
I'm laughing thru this video as my daughter is regressing in potty training. It's literally TORTURE. I hated the process initially (which was only 5 days) and now we are back at training. Nightmare. And no one gets it 😭😭
haha Total nightmare! I hated it!
Success today on the potty. Yeah. Team Effort. Tinkle, tinkle, tinkle. 🤩
Yes!!
on day 9 with my 21m son he still has so many accidents but we have had progress. My daughter was fully trained in 3 days, fully clothed and could go out for hours. I finding it a nightmare and its completely messed up his sleep. How long did it take ill accidents where very rare, was this on day 9?
It really does just depend on your child. She is a camel so she will hold it. My issue with her was getting her to release the pee. She still waits until she has her diaper on to go poo.
A power struggle will only make it harder. There will be occasional accidents. However, if she is fighting you to the point where she is deliberately eliminating all over your house, then you have to put her back into diapers and tell her when she decides to be a big girl to let you know. There are a few victories here, but you cannot have her defecating and smearing feces all over rooms, so she may have to have diapers at nap time only. Do you have a monitor to watch her? It is generally not recommended to have them sit on the potty endlessly. If they feel like they have to go or if they have just awakened, then you can sit them on it for no more than maybe 20 minutes at most. The problem is that sitting on the potty becomes its own thing and stops relating to doing their business in their minds. It has clicked. That's why she's holding it in. She is perfectly capable of going in the potty. She needs not to be sitting on it for 5 hours. Keep her bottom bare and let the pee run down her legs and as soon as she feels it or you see it, then pick her up and place her on the potty for the rest of the urine stream. She may need to feel that it's coming on her legs. Some children do. You are getting to the point where you are defeating your own purposes and you need to go back to diapers and tell her when she wants to be a big girl and use the potty she must tell you. You are in a power struggle that she is either winning, which is not good, or she does not fully understand yet that she is allowed to pee et al outside a diaper. She may even see your sticking a cup between her legs as a test to see if she will illicitly pee in it, so she has to hold it to prove she won't. The cup is not the potty. Have you modelled peeing and pooping in the toilet, so she can see the results in the bowl when you are finished? It is very hard in the child's mind for you to reset and try something else without it just being a continuation of the same to the toddler. Stop for a few weeks and start anew awhile down the road. She may be ready physically, but not mentally to do this. Get her little girl panties and make sure she knows what they are for and put them in her bureau drawer and let her know they are there when she is ready to dress like a big girl and use them. This is funny, but I have known children who loved the potty book obsessively and still would not go to the potty until they were ready. It just clicks in at odd times. Good for you for figuring out that she needs to tell you when she needs to go, but she needs to be responsible for not making messes or cleaning them up. But, it is wise to have her automatically, as part of her schedule, go sit on the potty when she awakens or shortly after meals so that she begins to anticipate that these may be times most people have to go. Good that you have calmed down.
Thanks for all of the advice. That's interesting about just letting them sit for 20 min. It makes sense. She has a diaper on for naps and overnight. We did do the modeling and she has been interested in it since she was around 14 months old.
My biggest issue is our whole house is carpet. So all accidents will be on the carpet. 😬
Maybe you will have a camel and they will hold it like mine did!
So while you were in this phase with her where she wasn’t super motivated - did you still go out in public? Did you have her wear pull-ups or anything? My biggest struggle right now is feeling trapped at home until my LO gets more consistent. It’s only Day 5 for us but I’d like to be able to go to the park again lol.
Yes we did. There will be accidents. I kept a potty in the back of the car for parks with a dog pad underneath. I used diapers on long car rides, planes and when we went to Disney. Good luck! It's still a process!
@@magicalmomlaura Thank you! We are definitely not giving up yet but may move away from being super strict with the Oh Crap method.
@@HistoryGeek2199 yes, they can control what goes in and out of their bodies so with my little independent girl a gentler and slower learning approach worked best. They will get there! It will click.
My son took 5 days before it really clicked. Now day 9 he goes and sits himself on the potty and got my first poop today! When I noticed his signal I would just tell him “hurry pee on potty.” Try not to push. If I put him on there he won’t just start
. So I stopped forcing him, stop asking him to go to the bathroom. Also repeating over and over he goes in the potty not on the floor...
I am doing the oh crap potty method block one naked method
That’s great. I agree. Pushing was backfiring for me as well. She was resisting.
Day 18, getting no where. She only does it if she is forced. Otherwise it's just wherever she wants. We do a dance every time she performs and let her get a lollipop and take a walk outside
Sounds familiar. My only advice would be to take all pressure off her and let her learn it at her pace.
The main problem iam facing is baby peeing on me 😂😂 do you faced the same problem ??
Oh no! I did not have that problem. That's another level of frustration for you. It's so funny how different every kid is and the issues they have.
@@magicalmomlaura yeah we are going through the journey of motherhood all these are accepted 😂😂