That would be wonderful and I would be very grateful if he did that. Dwayne, if you read this, all the young people need your life advice and a commentary series on proverbs would build up strong Christian men.
Excellent. Story reminds me of my dad, a builder who was my toughest boss. As I followed him around (as a teenager) with the tools or the broom, he was a difficult task master. And at the end of the day, he was just Dad handing me a burger and Coke. He told me to use him as a "yardstick", the toughest boss I (should) ever have. It felt unfair sometimes, and many years later, I still say he was unfair sometimes. But any employer since then - well, the nice ones are a joy, and the tough ones, I think, "You can't hold a candle, compared to my old man." I laugh, and have a few tears, now. At least my old man bought me a burger and Coke at the end of the day. Resilience.
Dewayne, This is maybe my first or second time commenting on TH-cam ever; But I feel like I finally should. I just wanted to thank you for what you do. You may have no idea how big of an impact you're making. Personally, since I stumbled upon your channel about a year ago, I have become a much calmer man. Now calm is a big word, and it applies differently to the different aspects of one's everyday life. If I wanted to give you examples this would be a 4000 word comment, but that's not the point. Keep doing what you're doing. We love you. (P.S.: Please consider writing a book)
How you do ANYTHING is how you do EVERYTHING. I always remind myself of this when I face challenges and roadblocks in life. I ask myself what is the best way to handle the situation where I keep my dignity and hold true to my values and beliefs. What I've learned, is that, taking the easy route just a few times to many will start to deteriorate you as a person in many ways.. Find out who you are and stay true to your course and always try to do whats right, and good things will start compounding. Thank you for another great story!
I find that people that get ahead in life do not have this philosophy. They know what to compartmentalize what’s important to their goal and what’s not. I’m not saying their good people but I’ve noticed it’s not usually the case with people who get ahead
I want to share a thought I got on this too: In the Bible, Jobs test wasn’t whether he can restore all his fortune. Or how he will live the rest of his life in his new misery. The test was whether he would stick to Gods side while facing extreme adversity. Sometimes the test in life is something we cannot handle at all - we have no control whatsoever. But just by sticking to Gods side no matter what can be the way to pass the test.
@@polsyg6581 Well God agreed to the bet because that was the test. We dont see the bigger picture in the moment but as we know, since Job stood with God he gained twice as much as he had before.
@@TheWordWithGabe That "twice as much as he had before" includes *his children* , you know? Only a narcissist or a sociopath can look at children like they're mere pawns, mere possessions easily discarded and replaced, and not as precious irreplaceable lives. This says a lot about your imaginary narcissistic friend. And that you defend this as a proper outcome also says a lot about you.
This is brilliant! I really needed to hear this today, and I'm 70 years old! Sometimes we need reminders in life to keep things in perspective. Thanks Dwayne!
Me too 70 years old and I respect this wise advice I'm very grateful to have discovered Dewayne and I am a lady and now also listen to Momma's channel and love her. I am trying to not be disrespectful and just listen because I'm so happy for all the young fellows that are here in this caring territory. Blessings to all.
That is wisdom. Everything in a young man’s life seems so high stakes, but one look back and I see how off my priorities were. Thanks so much for sharing this
Man at 62 I can say this is such sound advice. How you handle stress and problems is so important. I had to take care of my mom who had Parkinson’s. It was the hardest time in my life because of the love I had for her and seeing her suffering angered me. I had to check that anger to be at my best for her. Now that she’s gone 4 years I sleep so well knowing I rose to the occasion & controlled my anger & frustration at times for one reason and one reason only. My love for her over rode my own problems & how I reacted to those problems. I had to do things I never thought I’d be capable of. All out of pure love. Thank you Dwayne your messages are so valuable. I hope some young people tune in. I could of used this in my younger days. Merry Christmas 🎄 everyone.
Reminds me of that famous motif in the Star Trek series - ‘The Kobiyashi Maru’. The test that cannot be passed, because, as you say, the test is not the test. The real test is to see how you cope with failure, defeat, and in that case, certain death. It’s the only test worth it’s salt because it’s easy to act well when you’re winning. It’s easy to proclaim good morality and values when you don’t have to sacrifice anything for them. When you don’t have to prove it. You don’t know a man, you don’t even know yourself, until you’ve had that experience. Great talk today Duane. God bless you.
20 years ago old me would have done the pushups even though I know the guy put lint on my stuff and lied to me/all of us. Today me would have had zero thoughts about making him know he got caught and paid dealy for having lied to me and my crew.
I put this video on for the drive after I finished a 12 hour shift. It really helped me understand my role better. I am a new grad nurse, just learning how to function when anything can happen in one shift. I'm realizing that there are days when as long as the patients are breathing and alive, it's a good day. It's impossible to get everything done. Prioritization is essential. The test is not about getting all those tasks done and all the little details in a row. The task is about keeping the patients alive and giving them the best outcome, all while juggling the needs of 1-6 people.
I had to smile reading your comment because this sounds like my everyday life as a single mum with 3 little kids. Well done and keep it up, take care 🙏🏻💜
Going thru a ton of stuff with the wife and our 15 year old daughter. This hit home. I’m going thru it now and it’s rough to the point I want to leave. But I’m not. Love you wise old mountain man. Thank you.
Brother hang in there teen behavior can tear up a family i went through it with my son 40 years ago now hes going through it today try to have prayer every morning with the family proverbs 22-6 train up a child in the way should go and they will not depart from it. That may take years it works my son is proof
Some great points, Dewayne! Thinking about it, it is apparent that even trials that are not part of military/paramilitary training seem to have some dual and sublime qualities. Such is to the point where I’ve wanted to say, “this is not the test!”
You have clarified so many muddy thoughts I've accumulated over 65 years of living. Your honesty, common sense and compassion help heal the many who have found you. Congrats for fast approaching a million subs! 👏 You, my friend, are making a huge difference in this complicated world with the wisdom you've earned and choose to share. Thank you.
Dewayne, thank you. I'm going through a divorce, unfortunately I married the wrong person and made a serious mistake. Thank you for talking about tests, this is the greatest tribulation i've ever experienced, I need prayers, from anyone right now.
Too often, I fall victim to the idea that the group would be better off without me. Not that I need to do better or do my pushups, but that I need to exit life for the betterment of those around me. This video resonated with me, but I’m not sure how to get past that phase. Gritting my teeth in the hard times hasn’t helped lessen it, but it’s helped me survive. I’m in my 20s, no friends, no support system, no relationship, and not even really sure how to go about getting those things anymore.
@@redstarling5171 I’ve got a good job and I own my home, I make decent money working in an industry I love at a job that makes an actual difference with people that I generally like with good, long-term career prospects even with all the kinda scary new AI stuff. But the aftermath of losing my fiancée after being together for 5+ years, and then honestly struggling with staying sober, on top of not having any real support system, along with the state of the world and the uncertainty of the future… If I don’t have someone to brave the future with, it’s hard to see the point of putting myself through the struggle, and too many days I’ve been left just wanting to check out. When you wake up everyday not just mentally exhausted, but also kind of… angry? that you’ve actually woken up and you have to face another day?? It’s taxing after a while. This is the test. But the test is NOT the test. It’s about how I respond to failing the test, and I’ve been failing and responding poorly. I need to figure out what responding correctly looks like. Part of that is probably trying to find male friends around my age. I don’t even know how people make friends nowadays, I don’t even have social media so I rarely get invited to events because people forget 😂 The earlier advice to “serve others” is probably good, volunteering would probably be a good way to meet good people with good hearts! EDIT: sorry for basically writing a whole book lol, this was way too long, I was just thinking out loud, haha
I hear you man, this was me 20 years ago. Sounds like you’re a tough cookie, a Survivor, but your brain is overwhelmed, not surprising. We live in a world with so much fake reality, we’re constantly bombarded with doom and gloom in the world and in contrast shown images on social media of “successful” people with tons of friends, money and a wonderful lifestyle, very little of it is actually real and only serves to leave so many people alienated and feeling like a failure when in their lives they are going through hell and often completely alone. Thing is many, many people feel exactly the same but we just cant see it. My advice and I hope with all my heart you take it is unplug from all that is fake, social media, TV, toxic people, it only serves to harm you. Find a situation where you can meet real people face to face, volunteering, charities, church etc. and if necessary be upfront, admit to them you may not have the sharpest social skills anymore and you will find real, good people respect that and it instantly starts to break down the barriers. You are strong, someone somewhere will take inspiration from your strength and experience, value your friendship, you have a lot to offer the world. 😊👍🏻🏴
Dewayne, I'm around your age (i guess) 63. Most of the things you talk about are things that I've also learned through my life. Sometimes a person can lose focus, and it's nice to be reminded by someone else...helps keep the heart right. I appreciate what You, and "Mama" have going.
This video could not have been posted at a better time than right now. I am in college right now and many others just like me are about to start taking final exams for the end of the semester. This is the time where students stress so hard about the outcomes of their exams and final projects that they find it hard to prioritize things, and instead keep worrying that they will fail a class, test, project, etc. Just like you said, the "test" (final exam) isn't really the test. The "test" is really to challenge you to prioritize what needs to be prioritized such as what topics to study on what days, and it also challenges you to make time management paramount. So many kids in their early 20's like myself worry so much about failing, and what the product of failing is. To me, "failing" means that you didn't try at all. If you give it your all, and still don't do well on the final exam, you didn't fail. Grades don't define anything about you. What defines you is what you did to achieve those grades.
For any trekkies out there, ak the old Star Trek TV series, this test was called the Kobayashi Maru. It was a test for cadets designed to fail. The no win situation. The cadets were graded on how they handled the no win situation.
EXACTLY, brother! I have been through Army basic training and a police academy. In the later part of life, I was also a commander of police academies. Adversity is an opportunity to learn. Keep preaching!
This was fantastic. People have quit at work unexpectedly and it fell to me to pick up the slack and teach others what I didn’t even know myself. I’m one to get all the work done end of the day or week and with the sudden quitting I was now the head I wasn’t expecting to be, but bosses expected of me. It’s been a mountain to climb and things haven’t been getting done as quickly as I’d prefer because of the new tasks but I’ve been slow to realize the same - I was focused on the wrong test. Turns out, what hasn’t gotten done as quickly didn’t matter to the bosses, they recognized I took the unexpected and made sure the team and the priorities were taken care of at the least. Finally got some big praise from the shareholders after months of beating myself up I wasn’t doing enough. Turns out, I was focused on the wrong test and doing a solid job all along.
If you know somebody or you are about too go through this kind of training, get them or you’re self to watch this over and over before going. I’ve been a drill instructor and these pearls of wisdom are worth more than platinum.
You’re an inspiration Dwayne, you’re guiding so many more than you know. You’re the father/grandfather people never got to have by which I mean it is uncommon now a days to have your elders sit down and pass on their knowledge and stories as you do. You’re changing it around and leading others to start sharing their knowledge & wisdom more with their families and friends as folks use to. Keep up the great work and being a light 🙌🏻🫶🏼
One of my favorite books on time management is 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman. One of its tenants is that there’s too much to do to get everything done. Learning to prioritize allows us to get the things that matter done. It helped me realize how much of my life I was wasting on unnecessary things
Ohhhhhh. The test was NOT THE TEST!! Maybe how we evolve after is the test… so yet, I will praise him! Watching my daughter suffer then die has taught me we may never understand the why. I am so blessed & grateful for everyone on this channel. Follow the light
Hey Dewayne, I'm not one to comment much on TH-cam, but I felt it was high time I did. I just want to express my gratitude for the work you do. You might not fully realize the profound impact you're having. Since I discovered your channel around a year ago, I've undergone a significant transformation. I've become a much more composed individual. Now, "calm" is a broad term, and its effects ripple through various aspects of daily life. If I were to delve into specifics, this comment would turn into a 4000-word essay, but that's not my intention. Just keep doing what you're doing. Your efforts are truly appreciated, and there's a lot of love coming your way.
One of the cooks in the kitchen I can’t stop laughing. Thank you for that. I needed a good belly laugh. You ever find yourself in northern Wisconsin with your horses stop by got plenty a room would love to share a cup of coffee with somebody that knows what they’re talking about.
This resonates with me. I worked in marketing in Africa for 5 years. And the volume of work+problems would mean that you had to fail some projects. But it wasnt about winning the game, it was about winning the season, and just like the story about ironing the shirt, you just had to learn to take some losses. Great vidéo as always, thanks Dwayne!
I’m grateful for your presence Dewayne. I’ve been struggling with school and work and feeling like I’m not doing enough in any aspect of my life. Thank you for your encouraging, wise words ❤
Hi, i just wanted you to know that your wisdom, talks and style have really helped me, I count myself to be lucky to have found your channel, and i listen to your videos while enjoying ice cold black coffee and trying to understand and grasp your wisdom. Real helpful, sir. Your knowledge has reached through to India, yeah, all the world over, I am an Indian and I love the videos, good sir.
I haven’t left my house in years and I’m a adult who thrives to be a man but yet I’m so in my own head from the years of pain people have brought me and the years of pain I have brought my self I always want to be the best me and I always work on being a better me your videos give me so much feeling I feel I can get up and leave the house but then the next morning comes and I coward my self away from people because I hate confrontation it breaks me you never speak a wrong word true wisdom comes out of you thank you for the motivation you bring to the world
Hey Dewayne, just saying hello from Scotland, and to say how much I enjoy your videos. You’ve got wisdom, calm and experience and are a great example to your fans here on TH-cam. It’s refreshing to see someone speak about important topics with such sincerity and acceptance of other viewpoints. I’d love to sit by a fire with you and a couple of cigars someday
Well said, and excellent advice for those going through academy, selection, or other trials. Maintain your composure and your calm. Keep your head down, keep pushing. It doesn’t get easier, you get stronger.
I work two jobs that both involve a lot of driving, and as of today, my drivers license is suspended for 3 months. I’ll get through it, by the grace of God and hopefully be a better man for it, somehow. 🙏
I really appreciate your message here today. I'm having some, what seems like , never ending health challenges. I'm exhausted. This is very encouraging. I appreciate you.
wow sir, amazing video and amazing advice. i have been struggling with my thoughts over a sin and a mistake i have done. I feel this video is coming towards me, like a message. It helps me re think all that's happening because i am going through evil cycle of thinking and can't get over it after repenting and doing my best to fix the past. now i will think about it and see the lesson and try to see the test. God bless you. Also short videos are nice, do more please
Hey, Dwayne, I enjoy watching your videos on repeat every day. Some of the examples I may disagree with but I agree with the concept behind them. Thanks to the internet, I can find brave, weathered men who are there to make videos as though they are my friends. I am learning from you, feeling inspired by you, and at 27 years of age, I have learnt that I am the product of my environment and I only want to listen to brave, strong people. The video you have "Do not go gentle" resonates with me on a personal level. I started a new life all by myself nearly three years ago now and now I see staying caged in a the fake comfort of a home is a paralysing prison for a man. The video "You can but will you?" is so true. I have made progress and broken barriers because I have chosen to step and forward at times in my life where it took courage. That is what separates men. Risk comes with consequences but there is no growth without it. Your video "When you don't have it together" is gold, pure wisdom." To me, you have intense yet kind eyes; there is no hint of duplicity in your eyes. You are a kind man by nature who is also capable of going on a hunt. Experience has shown me that people of this type are the kindest. I am also climbing my own mountains as a man and love listening to men like you along the way. PS You have also mentioned Jordan Peterson. I have been reading him and about him for years and my studies are a bit related to his. I will just say that he is not someone I would consider an intellectual. He is more of a laundry detergent to sell products and now anyone who wants to sell a book, goes on a tour with him. Because of this, they also protect him. I will give you an analogy. He is like someone who carries a gun around people in a city where no one has seen a gun. He sometimes aims and shoots well. He also knows a thing or two about the details of the gun. However, when you take him to a place where real gunslingers live, when you put him in front of a real gunslinger, you see he does not have anything to shoot. Thanks for your videos and please keep it up! I will also put one thing you said on my wall, "You can't catch a horse physically if you haven't caught him mentally." Hope you see this and I hope this finds you well! Love, Farid
I was talking to a coworker today about Army Basic training. I went in older than most of my peers, so I had already been through hardships. Young soldiers usually aren't ready for the diversity but at the end of the day it isn't that hard if you just live to fight another day.
i can say i'm through a test right now, and this video is just what i needed to hear. So much wisdom in this words, i thank god for you and your channel.
I'm sorry to say such a burdensome thing to someone so kind; you're the father I never had, and you're the father I'd like to have. Thank you for creating this account and for spreading words of wisdom.
Been through the police academy, for anyone worried about the police academy and what's to come, listen to this man. Been there for 5 months and it's exactly this. Breathe. You will succeed. A wrinkle in your shirt? You'll still be a good cop. Your bed corners aren't folded at a 90 degree angle, but a 85 degree angle? Dont worry, you'll still be a good cop. You made some mistakes in your life? Breathe. Own up to your mistakes, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. You will be a good cop and a better person. Love from 🇨🇦
God, this is so good and the message drops at the perfect time for me. Been dealing with some professional stuff currently that seems like it is impossible to succeed, but I am reminded today that test is prioritizing and how I handle failing the test. I am reminded that some test are meant to not be passed. I will be taking notes from this video and putting it in my journal. Thank you good sir, from the bottom of my heart!!!
_...for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me._ If only the thought preceding vs 13 was more commonly known- the hermeneutics pull it together properly. Today's talk reminded me of this- wisdom is wisdom- whether we face hardship, failure, ruin, despair- or any of the "opposite blessings", there is still the One who sustains all if we hold our focus.
Excellent words of wisdom! And so is true with the whole world and absolutely everything we do. You are one of the wisest, calmest, most sincere men I've ever listened to. Thank you for sharing all that you do.
Never thought about things in this way... but maybe i should Thanks for your wisdom... youve definitely offered me a new perspective on how i view hardships in my life
I wold really like to thank you. I never had a father and this is what I miss. Sometimes someone telling you what this life is about. Listening to you eases my troubled mind.
The great head football coach of Notre Dame, Ara Parseghian basically said the same thing. His players would ask him if they were tuff enough. He would answer the question with "I'm not sure, it's all how you handle the diversity as you go through life." "It's not what happens to you, it's how you work your way through it that matters the most."
I watched this video yesterday when it randomly came across my recommended. The following day I was hit with an unexpected turn of events that would have had a fairly drastic change in my life had I not stayed calm. Thank you for the video Duane. This content really does make a difference. You’re doing gods work.
❤❤❤One of your Best Vidz Dewayne on Mental Strength and Perseverance Awesome Wisdom from your personal Exoerience GRACIAS 🙏 I Appreciate You Momma and your Family Blessings
Good points. Taking one for the team and building team loyalty. Not getting upset, handling unfair situations with, like you said, maturity and foresight.💖
I cant remember what video of yours it was but you had mentioned keeping your truck half full cause you'll never know when you'll need it. A couple weeks ago i got a call from my mom saying my grandfather was going to pass. If i hadnt have watched your video a filled up i might not of had the chance to say goodbye. Thank you for your wisdom
I think it would be wonderful if this man did a reading and commentary series on the book of Proverbs.
yes
That would be beautiful
There’s enough videos of him for a tech savvy person to generate an AI reading
@@GangStalker17 I'm not talking about for the sound of his voice, but his insight and contemplations on the texts. AI can't generate that.
That would be wonderful and I would be very grateful if he did that. Dwayne, if you read this, all the young people need your life advice and a commentary series on proverbs would build up strong Christian men.
"If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else"
Keep your head up and keep lifting people up to the top
Excellent.
Story reminds me of my dad, a builder who was my toughest boss.
As I followed him around (as a teenager) with the tools or the broom, he was a difficult task master.
And at the end of the day, he was just Dad handing me a burger and Coke.
He told me to use him as a "yardstick", the toughest boss I (should) ever have.
It felt unfair sometimes, and many years later, I still say he was unfair sometimes.
But any employer since then - well, the nice ones are a joy, and the tough ones, I think,
"You can't hold a candle, compared to my old man."
I laugh, and have a few tears, now.
At least my old man bought me a burger and Coke at the end of the day.
Resilience.
@@whathappened246 Thank you. For the advice and the prayers.
Sincerely.
Dewayne, This is maybe my first or second time commenting on TH-cam ever; But I feel like I finally should.
I just wanted to thank you for what you do. You may have no idea how big of an impact you're making.
Personally, since I stumbled upon your channel about a year ago, I have become a much calmer man.
Now calm is a big word, and it applies differently to the different aspects of one's everyday life. If I wanted to give you examples this would be a 4000 word comment, but that's not the point.
Keep doing what you're doing.
We love you.
(P.S.: Please consider writing a book)
He is writing a book. He’s in the process of it right now.
He's currently in the midst of writing a book.
@@victorknuppe1 Made my day. Can’t wait to get my hands on a copy.
Thanks for letting me know!
he is writing a book.....A biography of Obama's wife.....tentatively titled "Massive Mike Robinson, They Call Me Moo'Shell"
@@natalliaf6387😂😂🤣😂🤣👍🏼
How you do ANYTHING is how you do EVERYTHING. I always remind myself of this when I face challenges and roadblocks in life. I ask myself what is the best way to handle the situation where I keep my dignity and hold true to my values and beliefs. What I've learned, is that, taking the easy route just a few times to many will start to deteriorate you as a person in many ways.. Find out who you are and stay true to your course and always try to do whats right, and good things will start compounding. Thank you for another great story!
In my 40s you need to remind yourself of this every day thanks for the reminder
Always Be Closing
Yup that's why i started taking the hard route
Check out Marcus Aurelius
I really appreciate this comment and I agree
Take our lives and everything we do serious
I find that people that get ahead in life do not have this philosophy. They know what to compartmentalize what’s important to their goal and what’s not. I’m not saying their good people but I’ve noticed it’s not usually the case with people who get ahead
I want to share a thought I got on this too: In the Bible, Jobs test wasn’t whether he can restore all his fortune. Or how he will live the rest of his life in his new misery. The test was whether he would stick to Gods side while facing extreme adversity. Sometimes the test in life is something we cannot handle at all - we have no control whatsoever. But just by sticking to Gods side no matter what can be the way to pass the test.
im not sure why sticking to gods side would be the thing since he agreed to the bet in the first place but having a better outlook i guess
@@polsyg6581 Well God agreed to the bet because that was the test. We dont see the bigger picture in the moment but as we know, since Job stood with God he gained twice as much as he had before.
@@TheWordWithGabe That "twice as much as he had before" includes *his children* , you know?
Only a narcissist or a sociopath can look at children like they're mere pawns, mere possessions easily discarded and replaced, and not as precious irreplaceable lives.
This says a lot about your imaginary narcissistic friend. And that you defend this as a proper outcome also says a lot about you.
This is brilliant! I really needed to hear this today, and I'm 70 years old! Sometimes we need reminders in life to keep things in perspective.
Thanks Dwayne!
Me too 70 years old and I respect this wise advice I'm very grateful to have discovered Dewayne and I am a lady and now also listen to Momma's channel and love her. I am trying to not be disrespectful and just listen because I'm so happy for all the young fellows that are here in this caring territory. Blessings to all.
That is wisdom. Everything in a young man’s life seems so high stakes, but one look back and I see how off my priorities were. Thanks so much for sharing this
Man at 62 I can say this is such sound advice. How you handle stress and problems is so important. I had to take care of my mom who had Parkinson’s. It was the hardest time in my life because of the love I had for her and seeing her suffering angered me. I had to check that anger to be at my best for her. Now that she’s gone 4 years I sleep so well knowing I rose to the occasion & controlled my anger & frustration at times for one reason and one reason only. My love for her over rode my own problems & how I reacted to those problems. I had to do things I never thought I’d be capable of. All out of pure love. Thank you Dwayne your messages are so valuable. I hope some young people tune in. I could of used this in my younger days. Merry Christmas 🎄 everyone.
Thank you for being there for your Mom. It’s such a hard time for carers to go through. May God Bless you.
I struggle with that and I feel so guilty for my shortcomings
"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit."
- Napoleon Hill
Reminds me of that famous motif in the Star Trek series - ‘The Kobiyashi Maru’. The test that cannot be passed, because, as you say, the test is not the test. The real test is to see how you cope with failure, defeat, and in that case, certain death.
It’s the only test worth it’s salt because it’s easy to act well when you’re winning. It’s easy to proclaim good morality and values when you don’t have to sacrifice anything for them. When you don’t have to prove it.
You don’t know a man, you don’t even know yourself, until you’ve had that experience.
Great talk today Duane. God bless you.
"I don't believe in the no-win scenario." Love it!
20 years ago old me would have done the pushups even though I know the guy put lint on my stuff and lied to me/all of us. Today me would have had zero thoughts about making him know he got caught and paid dealy for having lied to me and my crew.
I put this video on for the drive after I finished a 12 hour shift. It really helped me understand my role better. I am a new grad nurse, just learning how to function when anything can happen in one shift. I'm realizing that there are days when as long as the patients are breathing and alive, it's a good day. It's impossible to get everything done. Prioritization is essential. The test is not about getting all those tasks done and all the little details in a row. The task is about keeping the patients alive and giving them the best outcome, all while juggling the needs of 1-6 people.
I had to smile reading your comment because this sounds like my everyday life as a single mum with 3 little kids. Well done and keep it up, take care 🙏🏻💜
You nailed it. 👏
Prudent teaching. Thanks again Sir ❤ Have a blessed day and years to come 🙏🏿
Going thru a ton of stuff with the wife and our 15 year old daughter. This hit home. I’m going thru it now and it’s rough to the point I want to leave. But I’m not. Love you wise old mountain man. Thank you.
It will get better wives, and 15 year olds are tough for a while, I am a wife, and had 15 year olds, 6 times, hang on, it does get better!
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 the teen years are no picnic
Brother hang in there teen behavior can tear up a family i went through it with my son 40 years ago now hes going through it today try to have prayer every morning with the family proverbs 22-6 train up a child in the way should go and they will not depart from it. That may take years it works my son is proof
Just remember that he who finds a wife finds a good thing. You got this.
He's not old
As a woman, this man’s energy holds me in a rare safety.
Happy, healthy, whole men….! What a soul treat.
There is hope for humanity 🙏🏼🫶
yes!
Some great points, Dewayne!
Thinking about it, it is apparent that even trials that are not part of military/paramilitary training seem to have some dual and sublime qualities. Such is to the point where I’ve wanted to say, “this is not the test!”
Man I wish I had this kind of advice years ago.
Thank you Sir!
Doing hells week and having Dewayne as a roommate must have been such a blessing for those kids. Thank you for the video, cant wait to buy the book.
You have clarified so many muddy thoughts I've accumulated over 65 years of living. Your honesty, common sense and compassion help heal the many who have found you. Congrats for fast approaching a million subs! 👏 You, my friend, are making a huge difference in this complicated world with the wisdom you've earned and choose to share. Thank you.
Dewayne,
thank you. I'm going through a divorce, unfortunately I married the wrong person and made a serious mistake.
Thank you for talking about tests, this is the greatest tribulation i've ever experienced, I need prayers, from anyone right now.
I pray for this man Dear Lord and please be with him in his time of need in Jesus name Amen
✨🙏✨✝️✨🕊️✨🩵✨
I will pray for you my brother.
Too often, I fall victim to the idea that the group would be better off without me. Not that I need to do better or do my pushups, but that I need to exit life for the betterment of those around me.
This video resonated with me, but I’m not sure how to get past that phase. Gritting my teeth in the hard times hasn’t helped lessen it, but it’s helped me survive. I’m in my 20s, no friends, no support system, no relationship, and not even really sure how to go about getting those things anymore.
One breath at a time, just one breath at a time
Find your purpose, don’t quit, and serve others…and even if it takes a lifetime, you’ll leave it knowing you did all you could.
What do you want out of life? Home, family?
@@redstarling5171 I’ve got a good job and I own my home, I make decent money working in an industry I love at a job that makes an actual difference with people that I generally like with good, long-term career prospects even with all the kinda scary new AI stuff.
But the aftermath of losing my fiancée after being together for 5+ years, and then honestly struggling with staying sober, on top of not having any real support system, along with the state of the world and the uncertainty of the future… If I don’t have someone to brave the future with, it’s hard to see the point of putting myself through the struggle, and too many days I’ve been left just wanting to check out. When you wake up everyday not just mentally exhausted, but also kind of… angry? that you’ve actually woken up and you have to face another day?? It’s taxing after a while.
This is the test. But the test is NOT the test. It’s about how I respond to failing the test, and I’ve been failing and responding poorly. I need to figure out what responding correctly looks like. Part of that is probably trying to find male friends around my age. I don’t even know how people make friends nowadays, I don’t even have social media so I rarely get invited to events because people forget 😂 The earlier advice to “serve others” is probably good, volunteering would probably be a good way to meet good people with good hearts!
EDIT: sorry for basically writing a whole book lol, this was way too long, I was just thinking out loud, haha
I hear you man, this was me 20 years ago. Sounds like you’re a tough cookie, a Survivor, but your brain is overwhelmed, not surprising.
We live in a world with so much fake reality, we’re constantly bombarded with doom and gloom in the world and in contrast shown images on social media of “successful” people with tons of friends, money and a wonderful lifestyle, very little of it is actually real and only serves to leave so many people alienated and feeling like a failure when in their lives they are going through hell and often completely alone.
Thing is many, many people feel exactly the same but we just cant see it. My advice and I hope with all my heart you take it is unplug from all that is fake, social media, TV, toxic people, it only serves to harm you.
Find a situation where you can meet real people face to face, volunteering, charities, church etc. and if necessary be upfront, admit to them you may not have the sharpest social skills anymore and you will find real, good people respect that and it instantly starts to break down the barriers. You are strong, someone somewhere will take inspiration from your strength and experience, value your friendship, you have a lot to offer the world. 😊👍🏻🏴
This has been a rough couple months at work - this is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you.
This story is great and very relatable for most men out there.
Thank you. Just found out your channel now.
Dewayne, I'm around your age (i guess) 63. Most of the things you talk about are things that I've also learned through my life. Sometimes a person can lose focus, and it's nice to be reminded by someone else...helps keep the heart right. I appreciate what You, and "Mama" have going.
Love this channel. Either good or bad times, Dewayne is always here to calm my mind.
This video could not have been posted at a better time than right now. I am in college right now and many others just like me are about to start taking final exams for the end of the semester. This is the time where students stress so hard about the outcomes of their exams and final projects that they find it hard to prioritize things, and instead keep worrying that they will fail a class, test, project, etc. Just like you said, the "test" (final exam) isn't really the test. The "test" is really to challenge you to prioritize what needs to be prioritized such as what topics to study on what days, and it also challenges you to make time management paramount. So many kids in their early 20's like myself worry so much about failing, and what the product of failing is. To me, "failing" means that you didn't try at all. If you give it your all, and still don't do well on the final exam, you didn't fail. Grades don't define anything about you. What defines you is what you did to achieve those grades.
Dewayne, thank you for what you do. My son and I cherish your truths and learned wisdom. Thanks for passing them on.
For any trekkies out there, ak the old Star Trek TV series, this test was called the Kobayashi Maru. It was a test for cadets designed to fail. The no win situation. The cadets were graded on how they handled the no win situation.
Same as the final test for SAS
Powerful words. Things I've always known though never get to really hear that often. Thank you sir
This gave me a different perspective on my schoolwork and being behind on assignments, thank you.
EXACTLY, brother! I have been through Army basic training and a police academy. In the later part of life, I was also a commander of police academies. Adversity is an opportunity to learn. Keep preaching!
This was really brilliant and resonates with the unfortunate situations one can find himself in life... Sometimes not for only a few days.
One of the best descriptions of faith that I have ever heard! God Bless Sir!
This is perfect timing for my current situation. Overwhelmed is an understatement. Appreciate the lesson and will do my best to apply it
This was fantastic. People have quit at work unexpectedly and it fell to me to pick up the slack and teach others what I didn’t even know myself. I’m one to get all the work done end of the day or week and with the sudden quitting I was now the head I wasn’t expecting to be, but bosses expected of me. It’s been a mountain to climb and things haven’t been getting done as quickly as I’d prefer because of the new tasks but I’ve been slow to realize the same - I was focused on the wrong test. Turns out, what hasn’t gotten done as quickly didn’t matter to the bosses, they recognized I took the unexpected and made sure the team and the priorities were taken care of at the least. Finally got some big praise from the shareholders after months of beating myself up I wasn’t doing enough. Turns out, I was focused on the wrong test and doing a solid job all along.
The old man is real wise, I came for the cigars but remained for the man & his wisdom. He a real G
If you know somebody or you are about too go through this kind of training, get them or you’re self to watch this over and over before going. I’ve been a drill instructor and these pearls of wisdom are worth more than platinum.
You’re an inspiration Dwayne, you’re guiding so many more than you know. You’re the father/grandfather people never got to have by which I mean it is uncommon now a days to have your elders sit down and pass on their knowledge and stories as you do. You’re changing it around and leading others to start sharing their knowledge & wisdom more with their families and friends as folks use to. Keep up the great work and being a light 🙌🏻🫶🏼
This is fantastic! I never thought about it this way before. I wished I had heard this 30 years ago. Thank you so much !
I was a Cop for 25 years. Tough time but retired at 50 and loving it. God Bless.
I needed this more than ever, thank you Dewayne.
The Wisdom you share to us are worth more than gold during these hard times.
Wake up babe, new grandpa lore just dropped! Can't wait for your book
One of my favorite books on time management is 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman. One of its tenants is that there’s too much to do to get everything done. Learning to prioritize allows us to get the things that matter done. It helped me realize how much of my life I was wasting on unnecessary things
It's called living and acting with dignity. We're not born with it; it's something we learn through experience.
Once again, Spot On. Did the same thing in the RCMP, left and 30 yrs latter was asked to come back and become a trainer .
Watching from Northeastern Ontario Canada 🇨🇦 God bless you 🙏
Ohhhhhh. The test was NOT THE TEST!! Maybe how we evolve after is the test… so yet, I will praise him! Watching my daughter suffer then die has taught me we may never understand the why. I am so blessed & grateful for everyone on this channel. Follow the light
Hey Dewayne, I'm not one to comment much on TH-cam, but I felt it was high time I did. I just want to express my gratitude for the work you do. You might not fully realize the profound impact you're having.
Since I discovered your channel around a year ago, I've undergone a significant transformation. I've become a much more composed individual. Now, "calm" is a broad term, and its effects ripple through various aspects of daily life. If I were to delve into specifics, this comment would turn into a 4000-word essay, but that's not my intention.
Just keep doing what you're doing. Your efforts are truly appreciated, and there's a lot of love coming your way.
One of the cooks in the kitchen I can’t stop laughing. Thank you for that. I needed a good belly laugh. You ever find yourself in northern Wisconsin with your horses stop by got plenty a room would love to share a cup of coffee with somebody that knows what they’re talking about.
This resonates with me. I worked in marketing in Africa for 5 years. And the volume of work+problems would mean that you had to fail some projects. But it wasnt about winning the game, it was about winning the season, and just like the story about ironing the shirt, you just had to learn to take some losses. Great vidéo as always, thanks Dwayne!
I’m grateful for your presence Dewayne. I’ve been struggling with school and work and feeling like I’m not doing enough in any aspect of my life. Thank you for your encouraging, wise words ❤
I'm so glad I found this channel, this man is a well of wisdom
It always brightens my day to see you post. I appreciate what you have to say. Have a wonderful Christmas.
Hi, i just wanted you to know that your wisdom, talks and style have really helped me, I count myself to be lucky to have found your channel, and i listen to your videos while enjoying ice cold black coffee and trying to understand and grasp your wisdom. Real helpful, sir. Your knowledge has reached through to India, yeah, all the world over, I am an Indian and I love the videos, good sir.
Thank you for this advice! Your videos offer so much guidance for our daily and professional lives!
I haven’t left my house in years and I’m a adult who thrives to be a man but yet I’m so in my own head from the years of pain people have brought me and the years of pain I have brought my self I always want to be the best me and I always work on being a better me your videos give me so much feeling I feel I can get up and leave the house but then the next morning comes and I coward my self away from people because I hate confrontation it breaks me you never speak a wrong word true wisdom comes out of you thank you for the motivation you bring to the world
Hey Dewayne, just saying hello from Scotland, and to say how much I enjoy your videos. You’ve got wisdom, calm and experience and are a great example to your fans here on TH-cam. It’s refreshing to see someone speak about important topics with such sincerity and acceptance of other viewpoints. I’d love to sit by a fire with you and a couple of cigars someday
I never "see" things that side - design to fail. Thanks, Dwayne. You are right, a man should never have too much pride.
Well said, and excellent advice for those going through academy, selection, or other trials. Maintain your composure and your calm. Keep your head down, keep pushing.
It doesn’t get easier, you get stronger.
I’m so glad there’s millions of other people this guy is helping because the world certainly needs a cowboy like this
I’m halfway through and this brings back a lot of memories from a similar academy. Thank you for sharing. It’s all about the team and the mindset.
After watching until the end, what a profound message. Thank you Sir.
I work two jobs that both involve a lot of driving, and as of today, my drivers license is suspended for 3 months. I’ll get through it, by the grace of God and hopefully be a better man for it, somehow. 🙏
Thank you, Sir. Safe travels to you folks and Happy Holidays. Great message. The tests never end, regardless of age. It becomes easier with time.
Bingo 🎯
I really appreciate your message here today. I'm having some, what seems like , never ending health challenges. I'm exhausted. This is very encouraging. I appreciate you.
I really needed this today. Thank you, sir
wow sir, amazing video and amazing advice. i have been struggling with my thoughts over a sin and a mistake i have done. I feel this video is coming towards me, like a message. It helps me re think all that's happening because i am going through evil cycle of thinking and can't get over it after repenting and doing my best to fix the past. now i will think about it and see the lesson and try to see the test. God bless you. Also short videos are nice, do more please
A great word Dewayne 👏 . I so enjoy your videos a message of wisdom and truth so needed today.
Hey, Dwayne,
I enjoy watching your videos on repeat every day. Some of the examples I may disagree with but I agree with the concept behind them.
Thanks to the internet, I can find brave, weathered men who are there to make videos as though they are my friends.
I am learning from you, feeling inspired by you, and at 27 years of age, I have learnt that I am the product of my environment and I only want to listen to brave, strong people.
The video you have "Do not go gentle" resonates with me on a personal level. I started a new life all by myself nearly three years ago now and now I see staying caged in a the fake comfort of a home is a paralysing prison for a man.
The video "You can but will you?" is so true. I have made progress and broken barriers because I have chosen to step and forward at times in my life where it took courage. That is what separates men. Risk comes with consequences but there is no growth without it.
Your video "When you don't have it together" is gold, pure wisdom."
To me, you have intense yet kind eyes; there is no hint of duplicity in your eyes. You are a kind man by nature who is also capable of going on a hunt. Experience has shown me that people of this type are the kindest.
I am also climbing my own mountains as a man and love listening to men like you along the way.
PS You have also mentioned Jordan Peterson. I have been reading him and about him for years and my studies are a bit related to his. I will just say that he is not someone I would consider an intellectual. He is more of a laundry detergent to sell products and now anyone who wants to sell a book, goes on a tour with him. Because of this, they also protect him.
I will give you an analogy. He is like someone who carries a gun around people in a city where no one has seen a gun. He sometimes aims and shoots well. He also knows a thing or two about the details of the gun. However, when you take him to a place where real gunslingers live, when you put him in front of a real gunslinger, you see he does not have anything to shoot.
Thanks for your videos and please keep it up!
I will also put one thing you said on my wall, "You can't catch a horse physically if you haven't caught him mentally."
Hope you see this and I hope this finds you well!
Love,
Farid
I was talking to a coworker today about Army Basic training. I went in older than most of my peers, so I had already been through hardships. Young soldiers usually aren't ready for the diversity but at the end of the day it isn't that hard if you just live to fight another day.
i can say i'm through a test right now, and this video is just what i needed to hear. So much wisdom in this words, i thank god for you and your channel.
I'm sorry to say such a burdensome thing to someone so kind; you're the father I never had, and you're the father I'd like to have. Thank you for creating this account and for spreading words of wisdom.
You're so wise. Thank you for sharing your experiences and life lessons. It makes a big impact on my life. I love wearing your new t shirt too.
Thansk for all the wisdom. i have learned allot from you.
Another great video ! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom it makes such a difference to our lives!
Been through the police academy, for anyone worried about the police academy and what's to come, listen to this man. Been there for 5 months and it's exactly this. Breathe. You will succeed. A wrinkle in your shirt? You'll still be a good cop. Your bed corners aren't folded at a 90 degree angle, but a 85 degree angle? Dont worry, you'll still be a good cop. You made some mistakes in your life? Breathe. Own up to your mistakes, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. You will be a good cop and a better person. Love from 🇨🇦
It's so refreshing to see there are other introspective people in this world!!
God, this is so good and the message drops at the perfect time for me. Been dealing with some professional stuff currently that seems like it is impossible to succeed, but I am reminded today that test is prioritizing and how I handle failing the test. I am reminded that some test are meant to not be passed. I will be taking notes from this video and putting it in my journal. Thank you good sir, from the bottom of my heart!!!
In Life this is Wisdom ❤️🔥 Thank you for that Reminder
I wish you were at the PA state police academy when i was there. Great story and great meaning as well. Thank you
That’s a Fantastic message! Appreciate You! ✝️🇺🇸💪
_...for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me._ If only the thought preceding vs 13 was more commonly known- the hermeneutics pull it together properly. Today's talk reminded me of this- wisdom is wisdom- whether we face hardship, failure, ruin, despair- or any of the "opposite blessings", there is still the One who sustains all if we hold our focus.
This video is gold. Thanks, Dewayne.
Excellent words of wisdom! And so is true with the whole world and absolutely everything we do. You are one of the wisest, calmest, most sincere men I've ever listened to. Thank you for sharing all that you do.
Wow. Fantastic. What a healing message. ✌🏽👏🏽🌈
Never thought about things in this way... but maybe i should
Thanks for your wisdom... youve definitely offered me a new perspective on how i view hardships in my life
Damn, I was ill prepared for such a powerful message today! Thank you.😮
There should be one of you in every class like that. This is what needs to be taught in ALL our schools!
i love the depth of procesing the informartion. Not manny people are able to in my humble experience. Thanks for the reminder sir.
I wold really like to thank you. I never had a father and this is what I miss. Sometimes someone telling you what this life is about. Listening to you eases my troubled mind.
Thank you Dewayne!
These were just the words I needed to hear this morning! Always appreciative of your wisdom, Sir :)
This message is exactly what I needed!!
The great head football coach of Notre Dame, Ara Parseghian basically said the same thing. His players would ask him if they were tuff enough. He would answer the question with "I'm not sure, it's all how you handle the diversity as you go through life." "It's not what happens to you, it's how you work your way through it that matters the most."
I watched this video yesterday when it randomly came across my recommended. The following day I was hit with an unexpected turn of events that would have had a fairly drastic change in my life had I not stayed calm. Thank you for the video Duane. This content really does make a difference. You’re doing gods work.
Your stuff has been extremely helpful for me, even though I am not showing it right now. Thank you.
As always,Your advice is worth your weight in gold. Thank you and God bless You,your family and all good people here on this channel 🖐🏻🤠
❤❤❤One of your Best Vidz Dewayne on Mental Strength and Perseverance Awesome Wisdom from your personal Exoerience GRACIAS 🙏 I Appreciate You Momma and your Family Blessings
Awesome story sir. Love what you are doing. Has helped me a ton in my life.
Thank you Dewayne your wise words really hit home.
Good points. Taking one for the team and building team loyalty. Not getting upset, handling unfair situations with, like you said, maturity and foresight.💖
🪦🙏 we miss you friend! May his soul rest in peace.
I cant remember what video of yours it was but you had mentioned keeping your truck half full cause you'll never know when you'll need it. A couple weeks ago i got a call from my mom saying my grandfather was going to pass. If i hadnt have watched your video a filled up i might not of had the chance to say goodbye. Thank you for your wisdom