Postman, Policeman …or Bemused Observer?
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- It is not always our responsibility to step in and correct or direct to people. Nor is there any need for us to take it personal when someone does not heed our advice. One of the things that we need to do in life is to be able to determine in a given situation wither we need to step in and say something, we need to step in and stop something or we just need to stand back and enjoy the show 
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That's a rich one. Dark and Nicaraguan make for a good, heavy smoke.
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My life went a lot smoother when I kept my opinions to myself unless asked. There were exceptions but not many.
absolutely true. I used to give unasked "tipps" for friends with a good intend too, but most of the time it was interpreted as being a wannabe smartass. When I understood that good friends often just want to talk about a problem without getting any advise everything got better.
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Howdy folks. I have the distinct "honor" of being one of the students from this class Mr. Noel was talking about. I further have the even more dubious honor of being the jack wagon that got thrown off the horse that never cuases any problems. And Blue, the horse in question did not have any problems this time either. The problem was entirely with me, I was wearing my fathers spurs. They are something that mean a great deal to me. and they will never be worn again, and have since been retired and hung up. They are Bronc riding spurs and have no place on my boots and had no place near Blue or even Mr. Nowl's excelent school. It was a confluence of unintended and perfect circumstances that led to me getting rightfuly thrown onto my keester in the dirt. Right where I belonged. But like wise, lessons were learned and Blue and I went on that day and the next to having a fantastic ride, pushing some cattle, and learning even more. Anf Mr. Noel is far to himble to point it out, but beyond being bemused at me on my butt, and delivering the message as the postman, and then getting rid of the spurs as a policeman, he took on the even more valuable role, he mentioned, the teacher. Anf he did it with gentle grace. He won't tell you that. I cannot say this enough, listen to this man. Just listen to him. I learned more in my week from him, his family, and his crew, than I have ever learned in a lifetime around horses off and on. And I will never be able to be grateful enough. Thank you again Sir.
We need to hold others responsible if they do wrong just like we hold ourselves responsible if we do wrong. Accountability is a one-way ticket to maintaining peace of mind.
Take as many weeks as you need, your advice always comes when it's needed
I have been listening to this Dwayne cowboy (apologizes if I spelled it wrong) for a while now. He seams very sincere and he communicates a lot of wisdom!
I am 49 and I respect that the advice that he gives, he has earned overtime/life experience.
I think there’s a famous quote suggesting that, “A smart man learns from his mistakes but a wise man learns from others mistakes”
Exactly!
Dewayne, I do so enjoy your fireside chats. I do wish that I had grown old with your logic, common sense, and ability to pick and choose your fights. Thank you, Mike
Reminds me of one of my favourite sayings - when I am getting stressed about something happening that isn't my responsibility I remind myself 'not my circus, not my monkeys'
Ha ha! I say that alot! 👍👍
It's a polish proverb that sold abroad pretty well those last few years, and understandably so because it's awesome. The original goes "nie mój cyrk, nie moje małpy" :) Regards!
That doesn't work out at home. It literally is my circus and my monkeys!🎉😂
Once again… You have no idea how timely and encompassing this message is. Middle management in the corporate world can take your message and use it very wisely for their day-to-day activities and lower their stress level in particular situations that can highly irritate most. Thank you for your wonderful, and sometimes unintentional, parables.
Very interesting topic Dewayne! Definitely something we all experience. In any situation where this occurs, it’s good to stop and think first: what am I responsible for, and when should I go out and say something? Sometimes with friends I experienced some challenges where I knew what risks they were putting themselves in and pointed them out, but they decided to go with it anyway. Sure, while it’s a bit unfortunate to know some misfortune could have been avoided, I cannot live their life, and so it’s not my place to make decisions for them. Sometimes, we all have to make our own mistakes in order to learn and grow as people. I’m sure the guys from your story didn’t forget that experience either, and learned a great deal! Great insights once again Dewayne, take care!
My dad always said "there's a hard way and an easy of doing things"! We learn by doing!
I have had a lot of horses in my life. I have never had a bad horse. People would bring me "bad horses," and come to find out it it was the people and their communication with the horses. Spent more time training people than the animal. I really miss my horses. Your advice is straight on. Keep up the good work.
Dewayne you should consider writing a book we all would love to read your life struggles and experiences
Would buy it on the first day
Amen!
Amen!
Word 👍
i’m 14 and haven’t read a book in a year and i’d read that
“Good judgement comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad Judgment.” ~Will Rogers
You can lead a horse to water ..
But a pencil must be lead ..
Laurel and hardy
Sometimes being Kind is better than being nice. Seen many people be nice and regret it but those who are kind will address the difficult issues because it’s right.
I received my shirt last week. I plan on wearing it when I leave for Cincinnati in a couple of weeks. Happy to support this channel.
Reminds me of the time I was meant to go up to Edinburgh with my capoeira group. They all wanted to take the train but I took one look at the prices and said I'd drive, which was half the price. I parked easily at the endinbrugh park an ride, took the metro into the city centre and book at bed. Before i started off however the heavens opened and it was horizontal rain all weekend. It was vile weather. I started talking to an Itallian Lass at the hostel and we ended up having dinner together and I got an early night.
Meanwhile my group got on the train which was cancelled because of the storm. The train had three goes to go the 80 miles to Edinburgh and managed at 4am. I heard them all come in and had to stop myself from laughing.
Mr. Noel first of all I want to thank you for taking the time and making those videos. They are really encouraging. I can listen to you forever. I also listen to your Spotify channel on my way to work
Good luck on your trip to Idaho !
Great advice Dwayne. There comes a time you have to “give your horse his head” and that applies across the board. Kids, coworkers or others we cross paths with in life. Experience can and should be a good teacher. Failure and otherwise should be opportunities to learn. In the story you described, you offered sound advise or offered up some good points to ponder but those hands were intent on riding up that trail. There’s times in life we have to ask ourselves, “all because we can, is it still a good idea?” The situation with the spurs and folks riding your stock, you have every right to be the “postman” but quickly and matter-of-factly transition to “policeman”. People should learn from their decisions. We’ve all known or know those that don’t. Actually, I’d rather learn from others mistakes! It’s a lot less painful and that lesson is either witnessed or passed down through sage advice.
Good talk Dewayne, that was a concept that I didn't learn until my early 40's. On a side note, don't worry about the t-shirt fiasco; you made it cleat that it was a pre-sale.
It’s my personal belief it comes down to one’s own Ego. Once you let go of that thing you find yourself living life much more smoothly and in accordance to the way of things. Not worried about the necessities of tomorrow or worried about consequences due to the past. Life is filled with many more small moments than monumental moments. Less is more in my view, and living simply has granted me peace and clarity of mind for years. Thanks for the words Dewayne, always a pleasure 🍻
You are exactly right in my opinion. People want to be right due to a weak ego. Often confused with a big or strong ego.
It's been a long time. Finally I am happy you are back
Welcome back, Dewayne! We missed you. Congratulations on your daughter's wedding. P.S. Love the black hat.
Thanks for your channel Dewayne. Love your post and all your wisdom. Please post more videos!
I bought mine as a signal of support for you Dewayne! ❤
Thanks Dwayne, really enjoy your talks and insights keep them coming 👍
I'm not good at card games, but I do understand,
" You've got to know when to hold them,
And know when to fold them."
Unless Kenny Rogers was singing about doing the ironing, of course 🤔
Thanks for helping me out. Your wisdom and experience helps me out. I appreciate ya!!
Unless it's definitely your responsibility, bemused observer is the way to go. You'll have the most laughs, make the most friends and others will learn the most from their own mistakes. Best bang for your buck. Let other egos "be in charge" 😁
It's always a pleasure to sit down, relax and watch your videos Dewayne. Your voice is pleasant to hear and the words it vocalizes are just as pleasant.
I wish only the best for you and yours and thank you for your dedication and heart. :)
Great Talk Dewayne - Makes a lot of good sense! IMO - The trouble we have now days is we have a society of people who are victims. It’s never their fault the decisions they make turn out to be an unwanted adventure. Lol I’m trying to get my grandkids to understand that while they are still teenagers. Thank you!
Great to hear from you.
Love you uncle! Thanks for your advice. Now the attempt to determine which one to be and when... Enjoy Vegas!
Don't feel bad for being away for so long. I've been so busy with stuff I didn't even notice, then I was very pleased to see your video on the top of my feed. It's like you were never gone in the first place.
Thank you, Dewayne, this bit of wisdom came at a needed time. God bless.
Just wanted to say thank you for my shirts! They arrived today . (I did understand it was a presale sort of deal and thought the company who handled it was good with communication)
Many expect you to carry the person not just the message. You reminded me.of a time when I got a call from a young man saying he and his cousins were going to go do a drive by to kill some dude
I simply asked if any of them had experience in that sort of thing, and that there was a high likelihood they would get caught. People will make their own decisions in life. All I can do is point out the obvious the let the chips fall. I miss the sage wisdom I got around the campfire.
Did Western stunt work back in the day. Now I'm just an old timer with a bad back having had a life worth living.
Just the video I needed needed to see at exactly the right time. Thank you.
You’re part preacher, mostly cowboy, sprinkled with some philosopher. Good stuff my friend thank you.
this reminds me of a lot of laws we have allowed to be written that only "protect me" from myself. Too many people care way too much about what someone else is doing when it only effects that person.
Something to think about. Thanks.
Love your stories bud! ...glad you're back and have a safe trip.
Thank you Dewayne once again for great advice. I think that I make the mistake of wanting to be a postman, or even a policeman when I should just be a bemused observer. A part of that might be because I think that other people might think less of me if I don't do something when I'm in the presence of someone doing something stupid. But most of the time nothing really bad happens, and I end up causing myself a lot of stress and drama for no reason. So I think that I will try to take your advice to heart and to keep in mind what my responsibility is in any given situation. Growing up in Canada makes it weird because there's this weird sense of responsibility pushed on us by those in power to prevent people from making a potential mistake. I prefer the classical American mindset of looking after what you are responsible for, and allowing others to live their lives and to make the mistakes they need to make.
Keep doing what you’re doing Dwayne, I love listening to you tell these stories and life experiences and then telling the point or what you learned from such experience.
Mornin Dwayne, good to see you back.
This is the best channel on youtube! And you, sir , are amazing.❤Love the wisdom, please keep posting! 👍
Glad to hear from ya again uncle Dwayne, God bless you!
great example yet again how to live with others.
Blessed
Dwayne I love your channel. Your viedos are always great and on point. P.S. I saw TH-cam unsubscribed me from your channel for some reason.
I have had several folks tell me that they have been mysteriously unsubscribe by TH-cam. I have no idea what that is about, but I want to assure you that it was not my doing. Thank you for your encouragement.
Thank you.
_It is not always our responsibility to step in and correct or direct to people. Nor is there any need for us to take it personal when someone does not heed our advice._
Lesson learned two years ago
"if i am talking and you aren't listeneing, why am i talking?"
and
"do not educate or correct, turn the key and go. if they know what they are doing, they don't need me in the room"
YES!
Now, as it all falls down, by design, i sit far away with a cool drink going "well, best enjoy the decline. Didn't have to be this way...if the people doing, bulding, and running everything were listened to, and our traits weren't the important part...now you have black lesbian engineers with a collective IQ of 80 telling me that math is racist.
Good luck! I'm out.
This was great advice. Thanks Dwayne sincerely ❤
congratulations, on the new addition to your family!
Good story and advice.
I just wanna fall asleep on a pillow made of your voice. Pause. Lol
You are a list wealth of knowledge! You would have more followers then you would expect and you should explore some kind of memoirs or some sort of how to/what to/when to type of writing. Thank you sir
🤣🤣🤣... "everyone comes out with spurs on." That and a useless hat are dead nuts giveaways for folks that are either trying to look like a cowboy, or are overly aggressive and should be avoided because they are looking for trouble where there doesn't need to be any.
This is a great subject. It's good to care about others, but how we go about expressing that care makes all the difference. And too often people make themselves an authority figure in situations where it is not their place. Kind of like learning to pick your battles. I've recently found myself in middle management at work and I'm learning this kind of thing first hand. I had some wisdom on it but some things you can only learn in the moment, as our emotions try to tell us what to think and do, and we choose whether or not to let them lead the way.
Thanks Dewayne!🤠 I love to hear your stories and try to glean some of your wisdom! Have fun on your trip! Stay safe! GOD Bless y’all 🤠🙏💕🌺
“There are 3 kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves.” ~ Will Rogers (I think)
It's a good day when Dwayne makes a video
Hope he writes a book of some sort. I’d love to read it.
What area you live in? can you extand on your perssonal life? your videos make me less stress thank you for that.
My father in law once had a saying
If you can’t listen you will have to feel
Finally got one of your t-shirt I really like it Tnx 🤙🏼
What a Classic one 🙏🏽
No problem you were gone so long. After all you were taking advice from last video perhaps "just rest" good to see you again.
I've long waited for you uncle DeWayne. I've been worried about you
😂 I loved this video, absolutely true 👍
The lighthouse doesn't HAVE to chase nothing. Thank God!!
Good to see you again! 🙂
(I'd have ridden back to camp with you & eaten a good supper, even when I was younger. I tend to be a little on the conservative side.)
Hi Dewayne, Yeah, I've found that Accepting the things That I have and or Do not have Control Over gives Me So much more Peace, I have Control over Myself,And to B Accountable for my Actions, Also To Change and Grow to B a Better Version of Myself, And Also Being able to Share what I have Learned along the way with Someone, Than I had Planted a Seed there, And That Seed will take its course, As Iron Sharpens Iron, So One Man Sharpens Another, Love Hearing Some of Your Nuggets of Wisdom and Knowledge, Thank U, For Your Seed Planting, Very Much Appreciated 🦜 Take Care, Blessings to U and Family 🕊️🛡️👑🐦
If people cry over a tee shirt??? They need help! I bet they cry when the Dog farts???? Yeppers
Somebody charged his batteries and came back with the ⚡️electric bill of wisdom🦉.
Excellent Teaching I needed.
Thank you 🙏
Postman.
Policeman or…
Bemused Observer!
I absolutely love this channel! I've only been on a horse twice ever. The first time I was bare back and quickly treed. LoL The 2nd time it was at a recreation area that rented them for an hour ride. That was a way better time 😃. That first Appolusa* knew that I was nervous and as soon as her owner walked away it made sure that I was getting off! I grabbed a tree limb and pulled myself to safety. We all had a great laugh because it was funny because I didn't get hurt.
Now I want to tell of what happened today at work, I was picking up the tool's and talking to a framer who was waiting for the builder to leave so he could "borrow" 4 or 5 sheets of plywood for a project of his own. I hate thieves but don't want to get in the middle of any of that by telling another of their intention. Why he told me I have now idea? So I just kept picking up and merely said " That's between you and the LORD bud". He turned around and said something about going to buy some but I couldn't hear exactly what he said. In the past I have told of theft that I witnessed, but this was just word's and it is between him and the LORD!
That's why I love this channel, Morality is key.
Goodday,
From my point of view, if I've no responsibility I will not be a policeman. Everyone needs to make a mistake to grow. People nowadays were protected to much and that's why they didn't grow and learn to not be a policeman all the time.
I learned that in somecases it's better to not even be the postman so they can make the mistake and grow from it and know their place in future actions.
Thanks for this wonderfull video.
Greetings from The Netherlands.
I was raised under the wise adage that stupid SHOULD hurt. Unless the animal is in danger, or the person is in life threatening danger, I always set back and watch.
Hello sir I would like to respectfulluy ask why you chose a Honda Magna (Japanese bike) over a hancrafted in the USA Harley davidson or Indian.. I watch your videos every morning, and I learn a lot from your words of wisdom, to he honest. Im a proud Filipino and will never renounce my citizenship. I love my country. But I love USA products as long as they are truly handcarafted in the USA
Please try filipino cigars u might like the Don Juan Urquijo. The perfect "breakfast cigar"
love you Dwayne! ❤
Glad to hear you were able to get some rest Dewayne! We love the uploads but only if you feel like putting them out so don't feel any need to apologize!👍 great looking hat btw!
Damn it Dewayne, what are you smoking!? Congrats on the grandchild, lots of love from Denmark ❤
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Jack-Wagon is my favorite curse sir. I just had to hit pause right here and offer you a virtual High-Five for that!
Great advices. Thanks 🙏
I was hunting elk up in the Frank Church Wilderness in 1997. We drove into Big Creek, dropped the trailer off at the Air Strip. Took the pickup and horses/mules up to the trail head and then packed in 8 or 9 miles I believe. On our way back out one of my friend's son, who was maybe 7 at the time was hot roding down the trail on his shetland , jumping logs and having a good ole time. To start out with I was the postman, telling him he might want to settle down a little bit. Before I had to become the policeman his horse dumped him and I became a bemused observer for about a quarter of a mile telling Dakota that he needed to hurry up and get to his pony who looked up the trail to catch the rest of the pack string. Finally pulled him up on my horse with me, only thing hurt was his pride and I believe a lesson was learned. Enjoy your time away. I would love to go back to that country some day.
Good one Dwayne
As you get older you can start to see someone's future sometimes. You can try to deliver the message, but they are gonna learn either way. Sometimes it can be fun to watch.😅
Learned a long time ago just sit back n watch the train wreck .
I’m old enough now, I get to “enjoy the show” for the younger dumb ones🤣 making mistakes🤣
Always love your stories! Thanks so much for sharing with us!
I allways try and look at your tack , what bits do you use I'm from the uk so think there's a lot of diffrence in kit !! X
I really like Challis. Nice little town in a beautiful area.
It’s always better to watch the shit show than be the cause of the show 😂
I really appreciate you Dewayne
Your wisdom is beyond measure.
This was very helpful with a current situation I have. Gave me great insight. Thank you.
This man would definitely survive the zombie apocalypse.
Appreciate your illustration uncle Dwayne?
That's a darn nice looking hat!
Bemused observer mostly , glad you had some fam time
-Spook
12:00 - hey man, i used to take it personal..."why aren't you listening to me?"
Now i am older.
Now it's "if i'm talking, and you aren't listening, then why am i talking. I have other things to do "
I don't know EVERYTHING, maybe i know nothing. I do have some life experience. IF you don't want it, you don't HATE me, you just don't care.
I'm sure when i was young and stupid, now i am old and stupid, i didn't listen either.
Don't take it personal, it's not.
Don't listen? Then own the outcome and the consequences, NOT ME!
Dewayne, do you do interviews? I doubt you do twitter spaces (basically open conference calls) but we discuss philosophy twice a week and I think you'd bring some great wisdom to the group. If not, thanks for all you've shared this far.