As a young man who never had a man in my life that was worth a fuck, I wish I could make you understand how much your wisdom helps. You're a great man.
@@shadowbanned4days With almost half mil subscribers to his channel I think we can be more optimistic. I would estimate MOST people actually like him. It's just that the other sort always yell very loud that makes us feel the world goes all to bits
I just had this very conversation with some people recently. The difference between enabling and compassion. One is out of love and the other merely disguised as love.
Well, here we are. It seemed like just a few months back you were more than greatful you had about 65k subscribers. Now you are about to hit 1/2 million. You got to be one of the fastest growing channels on youtube. Came for the horse and packing stories, stayed for the wisdom and life lessons.
As a father of four boys, im glad there are good men out there like our friend Dwayne, people who are God fearing, hardworking and full of wisdom. It takes a village. God bless sir!
Thank you for talking about my journey with my son. We adopted him and spent many years trying to make him understand how to stand on his own two feet.
Agree with you 100%. You can try to show people the right path, but you can't walk down it and fight their battles for them. If you do that then all you do is make them weaker from it by robbing them of the struggle it takes to overcome hardship.
Eeeeek. The word “tough love”. Everyone tried to tell that’s what the head of my family did with me, your words “teach them how to be appreciative”… i did everything i was asked for my first car, and then some. The day i was supposed to get it, through sweat and work, the car was sold. Many other examples, but the tough love that i was taught screamed “everyone you ever loved will demand things from u, they will need you to succeed for their benefit, once you do, they end up doing what is better for them”. And from there i grew my trust issues. These videos keep me going. Thank you.
I’m 25 going on 26 years old, just engaged and buying our first home. You’ve been a big inspiration and source of knowledge for me and I just wanted to say I really appreciate the time and effort you put into this community to help build people up. Thank you!
Makes me happy seeing this man, I wish you a healthy and a prosperous marriage . I'll be 25 in a month been thinking a lot about finding me a compatible partner and settling down the coming years in a beautiful place . Best wishes man 🙏
@@Memento__Mori thank you bro! You can do it too man, your mate will come along when you least expect. Roughly 4 years ago I woulda laughed If you told me I’d be married and a homeowner by 30. Life really is what you make of it and there isn’t any barriers to what you can do when you put your mind and soul into it. Keep up the work man, you’ll be living your dream before you know it as long as you stay focused! 💪🙏
I found you when you had a few thousand subscribers. Gives me faith in humanity you have grown your channel like you have . I enjoy your videos with a cigar on a regular basis. Thanks
Sir, you are the kind of guy who I would love nothing more than to sit down and talk about life and just enjoy the world even if it feels like it’s falling apart
Dewayne, you and I are about the same age, give or take a few years. I just turned 54 a couple of days ago. 3 years ago l thought I had been through the fire and had it all figured out - US Marine, combat, seen things worse than any horror movie, PTSD. at that time I had overcame and was doing great and have been doing so for years. Then suddenly about 3 years ago my wife, the mother of our son, walks out suddenly, without a word, on both of us. Threw him and me for a loop. I worked with him & lovingly held his feet to the fire. He’s better, going to college like he always wanted to do. Thanks for your videos, the confirmation of others going through the same thing helps. Working on myself now again.
What a great message- thank you Dewayne! Our barn swallow babies were lined up on a romax wire one morning, ready to fledge. We'd watched the parents work tirelessly to feed and defend them for weeks and now looked forward to their moment of truth. The babies were reluctant. Ma and Pa swallow sidled next to them in what looked to be a Disney moment, then proceeded to peck the dog snot outta them until they flew away. Later I told my daughter the best thing I could do for her was to raise her knowing she'd be able to live without me. Love your wisdom and observations. Nature is indeed the best teacher!
A lot of your videos about how to be a better man help me to be a better person. Thank you. This is like a chat I would have with my dad. Something I’m making a point of doing more these days. I’m going to send this one to a friend, I’m not willing to put a band aid on what he’s going through because I’m not going to enable my friends to be weak and say everything is okay when it’s not, but maybe he can find some new courage in what you have to say.
Dwayne, I appreciate you so much. Your philosophy supported by your faith has been a real blessing for me to find here on TH-cam. Thank you for all you do.
Form a young age I've always aspired to *be* around 'those with desirable characteristics.' I don't know where I picked that phrase up, but the idea was to reach old age with a wealth of experience and knowledge, eager to pass it on. Thank you, sir. Appreciate what you do.
I’m from a small town, and now I work in big corporate America. I learned invaluable lessons on the farm, but I never felt like I had someone wise enough in that setting to look up to. I am thankful to have finally found that person I can seek wisdom from. Thank you.
You’ve reached half a million subscribers!!! and rightfully so! listening to you talk reminds me of my grandpa in West Virginia. This is a vital part of being human, to share our experiences and wisdom. Keep sharing, Dwayne. I’ll keep paying attention and taking note. Thank you so much and congratulations!!
Thank you Dewayne. I'm 22 and have felt pretty lost for a while now because honestly I'm definitely one of these babies that need to face life and walk it off. I forgive my parents for their shortcomings but understand that even though they're kind good honest people sometimes that gentle comfort isn't what one needs, it prevents the important lesson of struggling and proving your worth to yourself. I want to make a change and grow into the man I know I can be, and I know it's going to be tough but tough is just what I need. I'm gonna do it, even though right now it feels scary for me to suck it up and move on with my life I'm promising to myself that I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna get back up, and fail, and get back up again.
I hear you Santomar, I'm a 32 year old guy who lost his popsicle-giving mother to cancer nearly two years ago now, and I really relate to having been a baby craving to be picked up everytime I have fallen. Now I have to try and face the grief of my mothers death and the loss of the main popsicle provider in my life. It's been a rough two years but I have also felt that having that seemingly eternal motherly comfort being snatched from you is what is making the man in me starting to grow for real.
Thank you for your responses guys, hope ya'll are doing well. I've had my fair share of setbacks these last couple of months and won't bore with details and self-pity, but I finally got a job and feel like it will really help with accountability. It's not a great job, it's just a job and I'm taking it as such, an opportunity to exercise commitment. It's the first step to becoming consistent, just putting in the effort and showing up when you're supposed to and doing what you're supposed to, every day. I don't have much else to say other than for the first time I feel the need of putting my free time to use and build better habits, not just wait around and starie at my phone or following whatever flimsy impulse I have until it bores me. Time is all we have and I'm finally learning that, I won't lie down and wait for things to happen. So yeah. Thanks again for responding to my original comment, it actually meant a lot that you took the time to read what I wrote and share some words with me.
Just make sure if you fail, you dont stop. Recenter, analyze what/why/how things went wrong, find at least one solution and most importantly ACT. Failing to get back on the horse can lead you down the road of stagnation and eventually towards focusing on regrets and "what could have been", unless you nip it in the bud. You'll fail. Everyone does. It's part of being human, but what we do after failure that is often times more important than any success we could have achieved on that particular goal. Tenacity, or determination if you will, will take you further in life than most any skill or mindset out there.
Mr Dwayne I know I say this about every time but I really appreciate you taking the time to sit down and share, I absolutely take value from these lessons. Thank you
I wish you would understand how much I needed this right now. Like always, thank you for your words of wisdom. All your videos teach me so much and make me think critically about myself and the people around me. God bless 🙏🏼
You are absolutely spot on with this one. Most parents are very guilty of it producing mentally weak adults. Courage is the right word, courage to stop picking the kids up when they fall.
This definitely resonates with me! I have to learn to stop always helping this person, because you’re right I do it because I do feel bad, and I just don’t know how to sit and let that person be where they’re at. Thank you for this message! 🙏🏾
Good stuff! I was that baby, my dad wasn't around to raise me. I'm thankful for my mother, but the strong hand of a man is really needed to raise healthy people.
Yup I tell every father I meet to be in there child's life an a net positive influence on them because all of this as I point to myself don't happen in a healthy early childhood experience people who know me understand why I'm not someone children should aspire to be as polite and God fearing I may be I'm not healthy in important way that can't be fixed only eased.
I think paternal influence is overrated as a family stabilizer. If anything, most men I talk to were moe influenced by uncles, grandpas or trusted teachers rather than fathers. Also, I think society mystifies masculinity as some mandatory aesthetic without any function.
Just brilliant. I have 5 kids and 3 stepchildren and yes, a set of twins (babies 4 and 5). I relate to heaps of your messages. So refreshing. I have been very blessed with 14 grandchildren over many years. I love them all so very much. There have been interesting times over the years. I was a young Mum like Deanna. Would do it all over again in a heartbeat.
Hi duwayne, I’m from Canada and Chinese 40year old, and love listening to you and your wife “mamma bear” 😊. So wise with wisdom, knowledge , intellectual, mentor, joyful and laughter with you . 👏
Thank you, Dewayne. I'm a single mum of a beautiful 22-year-old daughter. I give her everything, and thanks all to God, she also loves God. That said, I needed to hear this, and never before have I had the talk so eloquently given. Thank you. It's not like I have to do anything drastic but I needed this line in the sand explained. Thank you. We will be better for this, and if we live many more years, your advice and (I think you are doing God's will,) council will affect my family for years to come. Thanks. Want to meet you and Mumma in Heaven! God Bless you and your family. See how many times I said thank you. Ha
I (in my mid 20s) still cannot know when to help someone or let them be. I have been through pain and sadness, I know the feeling. And you said it correctly, sometimes people just want to help to make themselves feel better. I know I am one of them. But when to stop I still can't figure that out
I definitely needed kindness gentleness and support. Tough love in my opinion can be a form of emotional abuse. Not calling you abusive but tough love has never ever worked for me. It's made me feel horrible. It made me feel unloved, unwanted and now that I've grown, hated.
Dewayne, I don't know if you'll read this, but lord willing you will. I found your channel at a real low point. Through the video most folks (probably) know you from, "How to deal with loneliness" After I watched that, I took to watching some of your others, and it has helped me to find the motivation to get off my ass and make something of myself. I've been recommending your channel to everyone I can too, because you've made me rethink how I approach a lot of things in life. God bless you for doing this, and may you continue sharing your stories for years to come.
Coming from a small town in southern Greece, working construction (family business) every summer since I was 10, I've been living in the US for the past 6 years (PhD in math) and it is safe to say that I consider you as my American dad. Thank you! And keep it going as long as you have something to say.
Perfect analogy! I was raised with tough love and rebelled as a teenager and tried to go my own way and it took me straight to prison for 2 years so that was a bust lol. Got out had a job in 2 weeks 2 years later bought my own house and have been trouble free for 15 years. Family man, recovering addict, felon and all but I've learned so much in a short time, I promise to possible if I can do it you can to!
Going through something with a family member and this advice is so simple and straightforward that it's exactly what I needed to hear to help my family.❤ thank you so much.
Amen brother preach it from the book. I was tough on my kids and they're strong men today because of it. I'm right proud of the men they've turned out to be. Now I get to watch them raise my grandchildren the same way. I'm right proud of that. I know I did that much right. It wasn't always easy but it's been worth it.
We need words such as this. Like the mountains need the White Chestnut Tree. All we have now are Wastelands and Wasteful talking. Thanks for being a remnant of common sense.
Interestingly Germany has begun removing a lot of the safety practices and regulations surrounding school playgrounds. For effectively this exact reason. To allow kids to develop strength and the natural sense of danger. They do obviously still maintain structural regulations (meaning they aren’t gonna let a school build something that’s gonna fall apart) but a lot of the other helicopter parent regulations are being removed
The perspective and insight you're able to provide is remarkable. Your videos always provide me with some clarity or chill me out when it's needed. Thank you for everything Dwayne 🙏
I'm not a parent yet, but I've been beyond anxious about how I'm going to parent my babies, if I'm blessed with them. But I've learned so much about this topic from listening to you. Thank you, Sir!
Man you are great to listen to such a guy of experience and wisdom I love listening to your views and stories, would sure love to live that ranch life one day sir, dreaming of that total fulfilment from the earths natural source, sending love from Liverpool UK
Hi I loved this video it was spot on so true life is hard but that's how we learn love your videos You an your wife seem to have a great relationship My husband an I will be on our 19 wedding anniversary in April it's been hard he is 12 yrs older than me so it's been interesting I am a type 2 diabetic an I have stage 3 kidney disease an I have several medical issues an he has never left my side an he has been good to me I love him so much . I love your videos thanks Angela
I stumbled on your video a few days ago, way down here in the Arizona Pines. I'm 5th generation here. I've really enjoyed your videos, you remind me much of my daddy. I think what your doing is a beautiful thing. You've got sweetest little wife. I can tell she's good people too. I have you in the background sometimes while I'm cleaning. 😊 Krissy
My dad's family is in Kentucky, Harlan/Evarts area. Some are still there today. Love going back! This wisdom was much needed. Tough love is the best we can give sometimes!
I'm so glad i came across this video. Dewayne really spoke to me and i understood his message and I know i can be a better man. Thank you for your wise words of wisdom. R.i.p to your father
Just wanted to say I appreciate your dedication and thoughts my friend! Very well said and it’s something I actually haven’t considered before. Thanks for cutting decades down to days for me. Keep making these wonderfully packaged life lessons, they really help. Thank you.
I feel this was going wrong with my mom. She always wanted attention for her struggles. If you didn’t had time she would get angry and acting out way worse with self harm and push it into your face and told you look what you have done. If she hadn’t someone to talk to for a few hours she then complained that everyone let her down. Had many sleepless nights while growing up because she needed full time attention. If there was something with me? She had it worse. I felt burned out all the time. After I quit contact. She got way worse after grandma died. The burden got 10 times worse. After I said no she broke my hand out of spite. Because she wanted to take the things I love away. I love to draw and playing music. After that I thought this was the last straw. I packed up everything and was on my way. Lived in a squatting home. And she got worse and trying to contact me and control me. I kept saying no because it wasn’t helping to help her. She doesn’t wanted to learn how to stand on her own feet. After a while she started using heroine. And blamed everyone that she started using. Because people didn’t help her enough. At that time people finally started to understand what the burden was to he her full time care taker. Because at first they got angry at me for letting her down. Eventually everyone let her down because it was a full time job. It got to a place that she kept on nearly killing herself for attention. And blamed everyone that they weren’t in time to stop her. That nobody quited their job to lay next to her and comfort her full time. Eventually she died by abusing her body way to much for attention. It’s a pretty sad story. But sadly a true one. Some people you can’t helpt without losing yourself. And I’m still learning to let people go down that path. It’s not helpful to push yourself to oblivion for helping someone. People need to learn it sometimes the hard way. Sometimes they need you out of there lives to grow. And that is hard. And sometimes it goes wrong. But it isn’t your fault. Nobody is made to save the world. Sometimes kindness is accepting that it is what it is. I needed to save myself. Get myself in to therapy. And grow. I also needed to do it on my own. Because nobody can help you with the internal struggle, only someone can save their selfs. There is a different between supporting and enabling. It’s a fine line between them. And it ain’t easy. Life isn’t easy. And that is also the beauty in it.
Love this guy! Great philosophical discussions. You look and sound like my old landlord, he was an ol cowboy from Tennessee. Many chats over a cold one on his porch. Keep it up Sir
Just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. I cant express how many times your videos have kept me going. Thank you for the wisdom. God bless you and keep you.
Sir you speak direct...no filters. .I'm 66 years old and see what you mostly speak is truth..I'm here in indiana and wish I could have heard you when I got married 47 years ago..and listen more about tough love with my son..
Not sure how i came upon your channel, but so so glad i have. You definitely have a great way to get a great message that is the absolute truth of life! Thank you!
In the crib starts a need for attention Tough love is of the best of intention Ignore the cry that's just for attention Tough love is spoiled kids prevention Parents responsibility is a new dimension
I do think you gave her attention. The difference is that you gave her the right kind of attention where you made her calm down and realise that it isn't worth to cry over. I just fojnd this channel and you my friend, have found a new subscriber/buddy.
The cowboy wizard has spoken
Some people call him the Space Cowboy
Squidward: Could I have something to eat?
Magic Conch: No
Should be his second channel name
@@Vendzor bang… see you space cowboy…lol
This is the way
As a young man who never had a man in my life that was worth a fuck, I wish I could make you understand how much your wisdom helps. You're a great man.
This man is gem of a man and should be considered a NATIONAL treasure! 🤙🏾🖤
Not a national treasure …. A world treasure , I’m from the U.K. and I love this dude
One of the greats
Most the country hates him..guarenteed. society's common sense is gone
@@shadowbanned4days With almost half mil subscribers to his channel I think we can be more optimistic.
I would estimate MOST people actually like him.
It's just that the other sort always yell very loud that makes us feel the world goes all to bits
He makes my day always.
Somebody who actually deserves to have half a million subscribers
I love it he's almost mill and a Q now
I just had this very conversation with some people recently. The difference between enabling and compassion. One is out of love and the other merely disguised as love.
Well, here we are. It seemed like just a few months back you were more than greatful you had about 65k subscribers. Now you are about to hit 1/2 million. You got to be one of the fastest growing channels on youtube.
Came for the horse and packing stories, stayed for the wisdom and life lessons.
I have no use for equine education.
I need the wisdom!
The world is desperate for real men and their wisdom
likewise, great fellow & well versed.
The algorithm HAS to represent every single demographic as cornerstones of it's monolithic masterpiece.
Now he has a million.
As a father of four boys, im glad there are good men out there like our friend Dwayne, people who are God fearing, hardworking and full of wisdom. It takes a village. God bless sir!
Thank you for talking about my journey with my son. We adopted him and spent many years trying to make him understand how to stand on his own two feet.
Agree with you 100%. You can try to show people the right path, but you can't walk down it and fight their battles for them. If you do that then all you do is make them weaker from it by robbing them of the struggle it takes to overcome hardship.
Eeeeek. The word “tough love”. Everyone tried to tell that’s what the head of my family did with me, your words “teach them how to be appreciative”… i did everything i was asked for my first car, and then some. The day i was supposed to get it, through sweat and work, the car was sold. Many other examples, but the tough love that i was taught screamed “everyone you ever loved will demand things from u, they will need you to succeed for their benefit, once you do, they end up doing what is better for them”. And from there i grew my trust issues. These videos keep me going. Thank you.
I’m 25 going on 26 years old, just engaged and buying our first home. You’ve been a big inspiration and source of knowledge for me and I just wanted to say I really appreciate the time and effort you put into this community to help build people up. Thank you!
I know you said it right on point I love this channel and his beautiful mama wife
Makes me happy seeing this man, I wish you a healthy and a prosperous marriage . I'll be 25 in a month been thinking a lot about finding me a compatible partner and settling down the coming years in a beautiful place . Best wishes man 🙏
@@Memento__Mori thank you bro! You can do it too man, your mate will come along when you least expect. Roughly 4 years ago I woulda laughed If you told me I’d be married and a homeowner by 30. Life really is what you make of it and there isn’t any barriers to what you can do when you put your mind and soul into it. Keep up the work man, you’ll be living your dream before you know it as long as you stay focused! 💪🙏
God bless your family
@@DamascusBurrito just out of curiosity im 18 what would you have done different at my age to achieve your goal
I appreciate his neatness in his delivery , nice and stern , the way a good life lesson should be....
I found you when you had a few thousand subscribers. Gives me faith in humanity you have grown your channel like you have .
I enjoy your videos with a cigar on a regular basis. Thanks
Sir, you are the kind of guy who I would love nothing more than to sit down and talk about life and just enjoy the world even if it feels like it’s falling apart
Me too just sit across from him smoking by a fire talking about whatever
Dewayne, you and I are about the same age, give or take a few years. I just turned 54 a couple of days ago. 3 years ago l thought I had been through the fire and had it all figured out - US Marine, combat, seen things worse than any horror movie, PTSD. at that time I had overcame and was doing great and have been doing so for years. Then suddenly about 3 years ago my wife, the mother of our son, walks out suddenly, without a word, on both of us. Threw him and me for a loop. I worked with him & lovingly held his feet to the fire. He’s better, going to college like he always wanted to do. Thanks for your videos, the confirmation of others going through the same thing helps. Working on myself now again.
Thanks for your service, devil dog, from this Army veteran.
God bless you, I hope things are going okay for you and your son 🙏
What a great message- thank you Dewayne! Our barn swallow babies were lined up on a romax wire one morning, ready to fledge. We'd watched the parents work tirelessly to feed and defend them for weeks and now looked forward to their moment of truth. The babies were reluctant. Ma and Pa swallow sidled next to them in what looked to be a Disney moment, then proceeded to peck the dog snot outta them until they flew away. Later I told my daughter the best thing I could do for her was to raise her knowing she'd be able to live without me. Love your wisdom and observations. Nature is indeed the best teacher!
A lot of your videos about how to be a better man help me to be a better person. Thank you. This is like a chat I would have with my dad. Something I’m making a point of doing more these days. I’m going to send this one to a friend, I’m not willing to put a band aid on what he’s going through because I’m not going to enable my friends to be weak and say everything is okay when it’s not, but maybe he can find some new courage in what you have to say.
Dwayne, I appreciate you so much. Your philosophy supported by your faith has been a real blessing for me to find here on TH-cam. Thank you for all you do.
Form a young age I've always aspired to *be* around 'those with desirable characteristics.' I don't know where I picked that phrase up, but the idea was to reach old age with a wealth of experience and knowledge, eager to pass it on. Thank you, sir. Appreciate what you do.
I’m from a small town, and now I work in big corporate America. I learned invaluable lessons on the farm, but I never felt like I had someone wise enough in that setting to look up to.
I am thankful to have finally found that person I can seek wisdom from. Thank you.
Amen!! thank you I feel the same way
I recently found this channel, bout 3 days ago and I’ve never felt so validated as a man. Thank you.
Every married couple who is planning on having kids need to watch this video. This is a must see!!👍👍
That's why mommies and daddies are so important. Mommies comfort while daddies support autonomy
You’ve reached half a million subscribers!!! and rightfully so! listening to you talk reminds me of my grandpa in West Virginia. This is a vital part of being human, to share our experiences and wisdom. Keep sharing, Dwayne. I’ll keep paying attention and taking note. Thank you so much and congratulations!!
Thank you Dewayne. I'm 22 and have felt pretty lost for a while now because honestly I'm definitely one of these babies that need to face life and walk it off. I forgive my parents for their shortcomings but understand that even though they're kind good honest people sometimes that gentle comfort isn't what one needs, it prevents the important lesson of struggling and proving your worth to yourself. I want to make a change and grow into the man I know I can be, and I know it's going to be tough but tough is just what I need. I'm gonna do it, even though right now it feels scary for me to suck it up and move on with my life I'm promising to myself that I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna get back up, and fail, and get back up again.
I hear you Santomar, I'm a 32 year old guy who lost his popsicle-giving mother to cancer nearly two years ago now, and I really relate to having been a baby craving to be picked up everytime I have fallen. Now I have to try and face the grief of my mothers death and the loss of the main popsicle provider in my life. It's been a rough two years but I have also felt that having that seemingly eternal motherly comfort being snatched from you is what is making the man in me starting to grow for real.
I feel you, im 24. And as we go on this path we'll get stronger and stronger and more independent. Keep going bro
Hold yourself accountable and follow through on your decision.
Thank you for your responses guys, hope ya'll are doing well. I've had my fair share of setbacks these last couple of months and won't bore with details and self-pity, but I finally got a job and feel like it will really help with accountability. It's not a great job, it's just a job and I'm taking it as such, an opportunity to exercise commitment. It's the first step to becoming consistent, just putting in the effort and showing up when you're supposed to and doing what you're supposed to, every day. I don't have much else to say other than for the first time I feel the need of putting my free time to use and build better habits, not just wait around and starie at my phone or following whatever flimsy impulse I have until it bores me. Time is all we have and I'm finally learning that, I won't lie down and wait for things to happen. So yeah. Thanks again for responding to my original comment, it actually meant a lot that you took the time to read what I wrote and share some words with me.
Just make sure if you fail, you dont stop. Recenter, analyze what/why/how things went wrong, find at least one solution and most importantly ACT. Failing to get back on the horse can lead you down the road of stagnation and eventually towards focusing on regrets and "what could have been", unless you nip it in the bud. You'll fail. Everyone does. It's part of being human, but what we do after failure that is often times more important than any success we could have achieved on that particular goal. Tenacity, or determination if you will, will take you further in life than most any skill or mindset out there.
Mr Dwayne I know I say this about every time but I really appreciate you taking the time to sit down and share, I absolutely take value from these lessons. Thank you
I wish you would understand how much I needed this right now. Like always, thank you for your words of wisdom. All your videos teach me so much and make me think critically about myself and the people around me. God bless 🙏🏼
You are absolutely spot on with this one. Most parents are very guilty of it producing mentally weak adults. Courage is the right word, courage to stop picking the kids up when they fall.
This definitely resonates with me! I have to learn to stop always helping this person, because you’re right I do it because I do feel bad, and I just don’t know how to sit and let that person be where they’re at. Thank you for this message! 🙏🏾
Good stuff! I was that baby, my dad wasn't around to raise me. I'm thankful for my mother, but the strong hand of a man is really needed to raise healthy people.
I am glad you had your mom there for you.
Yup I tell every father I meet to be in there child's life an a net positive influence on them because all of this as I point to myself don't happen in a healthy early childhood experience people who know me understand why I'm not someone children should aspire to be as polite and God fearing I may be I'm not healthy in important way that can't be fixed only eased.
I think paternal influence is overrated as a family stabilizer. If anything, most men I talk to were moe influenced by uncles, grandpas or trusted teachers rather than fathers. Also, I think society mystifies masculinity as some mandatory aesthetic without any function.
Just brilliant. I have 5 kids and 3 stepchildren and yes, a set of twins (babies 4 and 5). I relate to heaps of your messages. So refreshing. I have been very blessed with 14 grandchildren over many years. I love them all so very much. There have been interesting times over the years. I was a young Mum like Deanna. Would do it all over again in a heartbeat.
This is how I fall asleep at night - and that’s a HUGE compliment.
I started watching your content roughly a week ago, gotta say mate your words are wise! Loving the videos, god bless ☝🏻
Powerful message....👍🏾
Hi duwayne, I’m from Canada and Chinese 40year old, and love listening to you and your wife “mamma bear” 😊. So wise with wisdom, knowledge , intellectual, mentor, joyful and laughter with you . 👏
Thank you, Dewayne. I'm a single mum of a beautiful 22-year-old daughter. I give her everything, and thanks all to God, she also loves God. That said, I needed to hear this, and never before have I had the talk so eloquently given. Thank you. It's not like I have to do anything drastic but I needed this line in the sand explained. Thank you. We will be better for this, and if we live many more years, your advice and (I think you are doing God's will,) council will affect my family for years to come. Thanks. Want to meet you and Mumma in Heaven! God Bless you and your family. See how many times I said thank you. Ha
I (in my mid 20s) still cannot know when to help someone or let them be. I have been through pain and sadness, I know the feeling. And you said it correctly, sometimes people just want to help to make themselves feel better. I know I am one of them. But when to stop I still can't figure that out
Mastering the Art of Letting Go!
I definitely needed kindness gentleness and support. Tough love in my opinion can be a form of emotional abuse. Not calling you abusive but tough love has never ever worked for me. It's made me feel horrible. It made me feel unloved, unwanted and now that I've grown, hated.
Thank you for bringing some balanced wisdom to this world. We need this now more than ever. You are a Gem and Mama too💎
Dewayne, I don't know if you'll read this, but lord willing you will.
I found your channel at a real low point. Through the video most folks (probably) know you from, "How to deal with loneliness"
After I watched that, I took to watching some of your others, and it has helped me to find the motivation to get off my ass and make something of myself. I've been recommending your channel to everyone I can too, because you've made me rethink how I approach a lot of things in life. God bless you for doing this, and may you continue sharing your stories for years to come.
Coming from a small town in southern Greece, working construction (family business) every summer since I was 10, I've been living in the US for the past 6 years (PhD in math) and it is safe to say that I consider you as my American dad. Thank you! And keep it going as long as you have something to say.
Perfect analogy! I was raised with tough love and rebelled as a teenager and tried to go my own way and it took me straight to prison for 2 years so that was a bust lol. Got out had a job in 2 weeks 2 years later bought my own house and have been trouble free for 15 years. Family man, recovering addict, felon and all but I've learned so much in a short time, I promise to possible if I can do it you can to!
You have officially hit 500k subscribers. Amazing
Man so true! Facts Brother!
Going through something with a family member and this advice is so simple and straightforward that it's exactly what I needed to hear to help my family.❤ thank you so much.
Love your site! We're watching this one on TV now. Couldn't agree more, sometimes we get in God's way for HIM to work with someone...
Thanks!
Dan
Amen brother preach it from the book. I was tough on my kids and they're strong men today because of it. I'm right proud of the men they've turned out to be. Now I get to watch them raise my grandchildren the same way. I'm right proud of that. I know I did that much right. It wasn't always easy but it's been worth it.
We need words such as this.
Like the mountains need the White Chestnut Tree. All we have now are Wastelands and Wasteful talking.
Thanks for being a remnant of common sense.
You inspired me to get up and stop being lazy and to do something with my life, so for that I thank you
When your elders talk it's often a good idea to listen to them, you might learn a thing or two. Thank dry creek for being here today.
It would be much better if more elders did actually talk.
They talk alot but they don't actually do any of the things they preach about
So true in every single way. Thanks for sharing your life's experience and insights.
Interestingly Germany has begun removing a lot of the safety practices and regulations surrounding school playgrounds. For effectively this exact reason. To allow kids to develop strength and the natural sense of danger. They do obviously still maintain structural regulations (meaning they aren’t gonna let a school build something that’s gonna fall apart) but a lot of the other helicopter parent regulations are being removed
The perspective and insight you're able to provide is remarkable. Your videos always provide me with some clarity or chill me out when it's needed. Thank you for everything Dwayne 🙏
JFK once said “ don’t pray for easier lives, pray for stronger man” and that holds true!
I thought Bruce Lee said that
Recently found your videos and I thank you for these small monologues. I appreciate your work sir.
Thank you for the video. 😎
You’re gonna hit 1 million subs this year sir, prepare yourself! 🙏🏼 thank you for the great content, it’s much needed!
It'll probably be about 4 million but it's worth every one these videos!!
Your advice, experience and philosophy is always inspiring and out of this world. Thank you sir!
You speak wisdoms and lessons, so I learn from you and discover new things were hidden to me , thanks, >>> Saad, Baghdad, IRAQ
Wise words, your messages come from a place of wisdom and caring. These messages need to be spread around and reflected on.
I listen to what you say. I take what's useful and yes you're helpful. Thank you. You're not wasting your breath. You are wise.
I'm not a parent yet, but I've been beyond anxious about how I'm going to parent my babies, if I'm blessed with them. But I've learned so much about this topic from listening to you. Thank you, Sir!
Man you are great to listen to such a guy of experience and wisdom I love listening to your views and stories, would sure love to live that ranch life one day sir, dreaming of that total fulfilment from the earths natural source, sending love from Liverpool UK
Much needed thank you!!!
A word in due season! Thank you Dewayne, appreciate ya!🤠🌺
This man can dig me out of the deepest pit and give me the confidence to lift a house
Yup! Every person on the face of the earth needs to LISTEN, HEAR and UNDERSTAND this! Thanks !
Hi I loved this video it was spot on so true life is hard but that's how we learn love your videos You an your wife seem to have a great relationship My husband an I will be on our 19 wedding anniversary in April it's been hard he is 12 yrs older than me so it's been interesting I am a type 2 diabetic an I have stage 3 kidney disease an I have several medical issues an he has never left my side an he has been good to me I love him so much . I love your videos thanks Angela
I stumbled on your video a few days ago, way down here in the Arizona Pines. I'm 5th generation here. I've really enjoyed your videos, you remind me much of my daddy. I think what your doing is a beautiful thing. You've got sweetest little wife. I can tell she's good people too. I have you in the background sometimes while I'm cleaning. 😊 Krissy
My dad's family is in Kentucky, Harlan/Evarts area. Some are still there today. Love going back! This wisdom was much needed. Tough love is the best we can give sometimes!
I'm so glad i came across this video. Dewayne really spoke to me and i understood his message and I know i can be a better man. Thank you for your wise words of wisdom. R.i.p to your father
Just wanted to say I appreciate your dedication and thoughts my friend! Very well said and it’s something I actually haven’t considered before. Thanks for cutting decades down to days for me. Keep making these wonderfully packaged life lessons, they really help. Thank you.
I feel this was going wrong with my mom. She always wanted attention for her struggles. If you didn’t had time she would get angry and acting out way worse with self harm and push it into your face and told you look what you have done. If she hadn’t someone to talk to for a few hours she then complained that everyone let her down. Had many sleepless nights while growing up because she needed full time attention. If there was something with me? She had it worse. I felt burned out all the time. After I quit contact. She got way worse after grandma died. The burden got 10 times worse. After I said no she broke my hand out of spite. Because she wanted to take the things I love away. I love to draw and playing music.
After that I thought this was the last straw. I packed up everything and was on my way. Lived in a squatting home. And she got worse and trying to contact me and control me. I kept saying no because it wasn’t helping to help her. She doesn’t wanted to learn how to stand on her own feet. After a while she started using heroine. And blamed everyone that she started using. Because people didn’t help her enough. At that time people finally started to understand what the burden was to he her full time care taker. Because at first they got angry at me for letting her down. Eventually everyone let her down because it was a full time job.
It got to a place that she kept on nearly killing herself for attention. And blamed everyone that they weren’t in time to stop her. That nobody quited their job to lay next to her and comfort her full time.
Eventually she died by abusing her body way to much for attention.
It’s a pretty sad story. But sadly a true one. Some people you can’t helpt without losing yourself. And I’m still learning to let people go down that path.
It’s not helpful to push yourself to oblivion for helping someone. People need to learn it sometimes the hard way. Sometimes they need you out of there lives to grow. And that is hard. And sometimes it goes wrong. But it isn’t your fault. Nobody is made to save the world. Sometimes kindness is accepting that it is what it is.
I needed to save myself. Get myself in to therapy. And grow. I also needed to do it on my own. Because nobody can help you with the internal struggle, only someone can save their selfs.
There is a different between supporting and enabling. It’s a fine line between them. And it ain’t easy. Life isn’t easy. And that is also the beauty in it.
Love this guy! Great philosophical discussions. You look and sound like my old landlord, he was an ol cowboy from Tennessee. Many chats over a cold one on his porch. Keep it up Sir
Tough love also means that your parents trust you.
Trust to be able to communicate when things are actually bad.
Thanks for this video
"Love is love, but sometimes love needs to be tough love.
At times if it ain't tough love, it ain't love at all."
fun to listen to experience. your a good man 56 here sir. michigan raised mom was raised on a dairy farm in northern ohio appreciate your words.
Just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. I cant express how many times your videos have kept me going. Thank you for the wisdom. God bless you and keep you.
Another great reminder of the way of the world. God bless Duane
Sir you speak direct...no filters. .I'm 66 years old and see what you mostly speak is truth..I'm here in indiana and wish I could have heard you when I got married 47 years ago..and listen more about tough love with my son..
Good afternoon ☕️ Thanks for the morning thoughts and horse sense.
Not sure how i came upon your channel, but so so glad i have. You definitely have a great way to get a great message that is the absolute truth of life! Thank you!
As always, an excellent video! Needed to hear this today, thank you.
Thank You for your knowledge! I really enjoy hearing your stories and life lessons!
I love and support everything y’all are doing! I’m upset I couldn’t make the school this year but there’s always next year
Thank you, man. Just after praying I got myself here and that was exactly what I was in need of.
In the crib starts a need for attention
Tough love is of the best of intention
Ignore the cry that's just for attention
Tough love is spoiled kids prevention
Parents responsibility is a new dimension
I do think you gave her attention. The difference is that you gave her the right kind of attention where you made her calm down and realise that it isn't worth to cry over. I just fojnd this channel and you my friend, have found a new subscriber/buddy.
Very good message Dewayne! Love your channel! You say what a lot of folks are afraid of saying nowadays.
I am learning so, so much. Thank you☺️
Amen. So true ❤️
I just found this channel, and my goodness this man gives absolutely the best sound advice.
Thank you. Bless you.
It’s a pearl Duane. Very good advice. You struck gold with this one. Good on you cowboy 👍😊🍀
Words. Well. Said. Many thanks!
Just facts! Thanks for sharing
Thanks . Helped me this morning a lot
I love your videos. You and your family are old school, thats whats missing in this country, so thank you!!
Sir your wisdom is much needed in the world god bless you sending good ridance and much health from Venezuela!!!
F YA i needed this. 15 year old daughter and I totally done this! Needed this.