Tough Love
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- Sometimes the best thing we can do for people is let them figure it out for themselves.
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The cowboy wizard has spoken
Some people call him the Space Cowboy
Squidward: Could I have something to eat?
Magic Conch: No
Should be his second channel name
@@Vendzor bang… see you space cowboy…lol
This is the way
This man is gem of a man and should be considered a NATIONAL treasure! 🤙🏾🖤
Not a national treasure …. A world treasure , I’m from the U.K. and I love this dude
One of the greats
Most the country hates him..guarenteed. society's common sense is gone
@@shadowbanned4days With almost half mil subscribers to his channel I think we can be more optimistic.
I would estimate MOST people actually like him.
It's just that the other sort always yell very loud that makes us feel the world goes all to bits
He makes my day always.
Somebody who actually deserves to have half a million subscribers
I love it he's almost mill and a Q now
Well, here we are. It seemed like just a few months back you were more than greatful you had about 65k subscribers. Now you are about to hit 1/2 million. You got to be one of the fastest growing channels on youtube.
Came for the horse and packing stories, stayed for the wisdom and life lessons.
I have no use for equine education.
I need the wisdom!
The world is desperate for real men and their wisdom
likewise, great fellow & well versed.
The algorithm HAS to represent every single demographic as cornerstones of it's monolithic masterpiece.
Now he has a million.
As a young man who never had a man in my life that was worth a fuck, I wish I could make you understand how much your wisdom helps. You're a great man.
Agree with you 100%. You can try to show people the right path, but you can't walk down it and fight their battles for them. If you do that then all you do is make them weaker from it by robbing them of the struggle it takes to overcome hardship.
Sir, you are the kind of guy who I would love nothing more than to sit down and talk about life and just enjoy the world even if it feels like it’s falling apart
Right, and ignore me haha
Repent and Endure!
Me too just sit across from him smoking by a fire talking about whatever
I’m 25 going on 26 years old, just engaged and buying our first home. You’ve been a big inspiration and source of knowledge for me and I just wanted to say I really appreciate the time and effort you put into this community to help build people up. Thank you!
I know you said it right on point I love this channel and his beautiful mama wife
Makes me happy seeing this man, I wish you a healthy and a prosperous marriage . I'll be 25 in a month been thinking a lot about finding me a compatible partner and settling down the coming years in a beautiful place . Best wishes man 🙏
@@Memento__Mori thank you bro! You can do it too man, your mate will come along when you least expect. Roughly 4 years ago I woulda laughed If you told me I’d be married and a homeowner by 30. Life really is what you make of it and there isn’t any barriers to what you can do when you put your mind and soul into it. Keep up the work man, you’ll be living your dream before you know it as long as you stay focused! 💪🙏
God bless your family
@@DamascusBurrito just out of curiosity im 18 what would you have done different at my age to achieve your goal
I appreciate his neatness in his delivery , nice and stern , the way a good life lesson should be....
Good stuff! I was that baby, my dad wasn't around to raise me. I'm thankful for my mother, but the strong hand of a man is really needed to raise healthy people.
I am glad you had your mom there for you.
Yup I tell every father I meet to be in there child's life an a net positive influence on them because all of this as I point to myself don't happen in a healthy early childhood experience people who know me understand why I'm not someone children should aspire to be as polite and God fearing I may be I'm not healthy in important way that can't be fixed only eased.
I think paternal influence is overrated as a family stabilizer. If anything, most men I talk to were moe influenced by uncles, grandpas or trusted teachers rather than fathers. Also, I think society mystifies masculinity as some mandatory aesthetic without any function.
Form a young age I've always aspired to *be* around 'those with desirable characteristics.' I don't know where I picked that phrase up, but the idea was to reach old age with a wealth of experience and knowledge, eager to pass it on. Thank you, sir. Appreciate what you do.
Perfect analogy! I was raised with tough love and rebelled as a teenager and tried to go my own way and it took me straight to prison for 2 years so that was a bust lol. Got out had a job in 2 weeks 2 years later bought my own house and have been trouble free for 15 years. Family man, recovering addict, felon and all but I've learned so much in a short time, I promise to possible if I can do it you can to!
Thank you Dewayne. I'm 22 and have felt pretty lost for a while now because honestly I'm definitely one of these babies that need to face life and walk it off. I forgive my parents for their shortcomings but understand that even though they're kind good honest people sometimes that gentle comfort isn't what one needs, it prevents the important lesson of struggling and proving your worth to yourself. I want to make a change and grow into the man I know I can be, and I know it's going to be tough but tough is just what I need. I'm gonna do it, even though right now it feels scary for me to suck it up and move on with my life I'm promising to myself that I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna get back up, and fail, and get back up again.
I hear you Santomar, I'm a 32 year old guy who lost his popsicle-giving mother to cancer nearly two years ago now, and I really relate to having been a baby craving to be picked up everytime I have fallen. Now I have to try and face the grief of my mothers death and the loss of the main popsicle provider in my life. It's been a rough two years but I have also felt that having that seemingly eternal motherly comfort being snatched from you is what is making the man in me starting to grow for real.
I feel you, im 24. And as we go on this path we'll get stronger and stronger and more independent. Keep going bro
Hold yourself accountable and follow through on your decision.
Thank you for your responses guys, hope ya'll are doing well. I've had my fair share of setbacks these last couple of months and won't bore with details and self-pity, but I finally got a job and feel like it will really help with accountability. It's not a great job, it's just a job and I'm taking it as such, an opportunity to exercise commitment. It's the first step to becoming consistent, just putting in the effort and showing up when you're supposed to and doing what you're supposed to, every day. I don't have much else to say other than for the first time I feel the need of putting my free time to use and build better habits, not just wait around and starie at my phone or following whatever flimsy impulse I have until it bores me. Time is all we have and I'm finally learning that, I won't lie down and wait for things to happen. So yeah. Thanks again for responding to my original comment, it actually meant a lot that you took the time to read what I wrote and share some words with me.
Just make sure if you fail, you dont stop. Recenter, analyze what/why/how things went wrong, find at least one solution and most importantly ACT. Failing to get back on the horse can lead you down the road of stagnation and eventually towards focusing on regrets and "what could have been", unless you nip it in the bud. You'll fail. Everyone does. It's part of being human, but what we do after failure that is often times more important than any success we could have achieved on that particular goal. Tenacity, or determination if you will, will take you further in life than most any skill or mindset out there.
As a father of four boys, im glad there are good men out there like our friend Dwayne, people who are God fearing, hardworking and full of wisdom. It takes a village. God bless sir!
Every married couple who is planning on having kids need to watch this video. This is a must see!!👍👍
That's why mommies and daddies are so important. Mommies comfort while daddies support autonomy
I’m from a small town, and now I work in big corporate America. I learned invaluable lessons on the farm, but I never felt like I had someone wise enough in that setting to look up to.
I am thankful to have finally found that person I can seek wisdom from. Thank you.
Amen!! thank you I feel the same way
JFK once said “ don’t pray for easier lives, pray for stronger man” and that holds true!
I thought Bruce Lee said that
A lot of your videos about how to be a better man help me to be a better person. Thank you. This is like a chat I would have with my dad. Something I’m making a point of doing more these days. I’m going to send this one to a friend, I’m not willing to put a band aid on what he’s going through because I’m not going to enable my friends to be weak and say everything is okay when it’s not, but maybe he can find some new courage in what you have to say.
I wish you would understand how much I needed this right now. Like always, thank you for your words of wisdom. All your videos teach me so much and make me think critically about myself and the people around me. God bless 🙏🏼
Thank you for talking about my journey with my son. We adopted him and spent many years trying to make him understand how to stand on his own two feet.
This man can dig me out of the deepest pit and give me the confidence to lift a house
This definitely resonates with me! I have to learn to stop always helping this person, because you’re right I do it because I do feel bad, and I just don’t know how to sit and let that person be where they’re at. Thank you for this message! 🙏🏾
We need words such as this.
Like the mountains need the White Chestnut Tree. All we have now are Wastelands and Wasteful talking.
Thanks for being a remnant of common sense.
Just brilliant. I have 5 kids and 3 stepchildren and yes, a set of twins (babies 4 and 5). I relate to heaps of your messages. So refreshing. I have been very blessed with 14 grandchildren over many years. I love them all so very much. There have been interesting times over the years. I was a young Mum like Deanna. Would do it all over again in a heartbeat.
You are absolutely spot on with this one. Most parents are very guilty of it producing mentally weak adults. Courage is the right word, courage to stop picking the kids up when they fall.
You inspired me to get up and stop being lazy and to do something with my life, so for that I thank you
I feel this was going wrong with my mom. She always wanted attention for her struggles. If you didn’t had time she would get angry and acting out way worse with self harm and push it into your face and told you look what you have done. If she hadn’t someone to talk to for a few hours she then complained that everyone let her down. Had many sleepless nights while growing up because she needed full time attention. If there was something with me? She had it worse. I felt burned out all the time. After I quit contact. She got way worse after grandma died. The burden got 10 times worse. After I said no she broke my hand out of spite. Because she wanted to take the things I love away. I love to draw and playing music.
After that I thought this was the last straw. I packed up everything and was on my way. Lived in a squatting home. And she got worse and trying to contact me and control me. I kept saying no because it wasn’t helping to help her. She doesn’t wanted to learn how to stand on her own feet. After a while she started using heroine. And blamed everyone that she started using. Because people didn’t help her enough. At that time people finally started to understand what the burden was to he her full time care taker. Because at first they got angry at me for letting her down. Eventually everyone let her down because it was a full time job.
It got to a place that she kept on nearly killing herself for attention. And blamed everyone that they weren’t in time to stop her. That nobody quited their job to lay next to her and comfort her full time.
Eventually she died by abusing her body way to much for attention.
It’s a pretty sad story. But sadly a true one. Some people you can’t helpt without losing yourself. And I’m still learning to let people go down that path.
It’s not helpful to push yourself to oblivion for helping someone. People need to learn it sometimes the hard way. Sometimes they need you out of there lives to grow. And that is hard. And sometimes it goes wrong. But it isn’t your fault. Nobody is made to save the world. Sometimes kindness is accepting that it is what it is.
I needed to save myself. Get myself in to therapy. And grow. I also needed to do it on my own. Because nobody can help you with the internal struggle, only someone can save their selfs.
There is a different between supporting and enabling. It’s a fine line between them. And it ain’t easy. Life isn’t easy. And that is also the beauty in it.
Thank you for bringing some balanced wisdom to this world. We need this now more than ever. You are a Gem and Mama too💎
Coming from a small town in southern Greece, working construction (family business) every summer since I was 10, I've been living in the US for the past 6 years (PhD in math) and it is safe to say that I consider you as my American dad. Thank you! And keep it going as long as you have something to say.
You’re gonna hit 1 million subs this year sir, prepare yourself! 🙏🏼 thank you for the great content, it’s much needed!
It'll probably be about 4 million but it's worth every one these videos!!
Thank you, Dewayne. I'm a single mum of a beautiful 22-year-old daughter. I give her everything, and thanks all to God, she also loves God. That said, I needed to hear this, and never before have I had the talk so eloquently given. Thank you. It's not like I have to do anything drastic but I needed this line in the sand explained. Thank you. We will be better for this, and if we live many more years, your advice and (I think you are doing God's will,) council will affect my family for years to come. Thanks. Want to meet you and Mumma in Heaven! God Bless you and your family. See how many times I said thank you. Ha
The perspective and insight you're able to provide is remarkable. Your videos always provide me with some clarity or chill me out when it's needed. Thank you for everything Dwayne 🙏
This is exactly the way my parents and my grandparents raised me. Especially my grandparents. My grandparents were raised in the depression and survived WW2. They would do the same thing if I fell or got hurt. They would say crying gets you know where. Getting up and trying again is the only way to get there. I was never spoiled had to buy my on first first truck a 77 f100. It made me appreciate everything I bought myself. Made me the man I am today. Sadly this world does not get enough tough love. It sure would make it a better place. The cigar while watching this sage advice is a Cain Daytona. As always another great vid.
My dad did a lot with that with me. He let me figure out a lot. I was resentful when I was younger, but I understand now.
I've heard people say "if you constantly help someone, you're taking away their own lesson and strength, and it's a bit selfish".
That's my interpretation of what they've said, but yeah, you need to tumble a bit to figure it out. Those lessons always stick with you.
My brothers wife coddled my brother so much he almost died. Before work she would leave him a 30 pack of beer and leave cash on the counter for smokes for the day after 2 years of that he fell off a snowmobile and had a heart attack. He gave himself wet brain she never wanted to be the bad person and gave him everything he needed and because of it he is worthless and miserable.Since then he still hasn't changed his ways been 12 years or better no job and she still buys everything truck payments new snowmobiles.I went over and did a whole bunch of work thinking I was helping trying to encourage him to do something with his Life Instead all I got was resentment. We have not spoke to one another for over 5 months and I do not mean to.The things he said to me and the spewing of anger and lies killed our relationship.I have kids to support they do not I can see how his wife could not have kids so instead she built one. Thanks for the advise Dwayne wish my heart and mind was in the right place and I should have let my brother hit the wall instead I live with regret.
Very good message Dewayne! Love your channel! You say what a lot of folks are afraid of saying nowadays.
You speak wisdoms and lessons, so I learn from you and discover new things were hidden to me , thanks, >>> Saad, Baghdad, IRAQ
As a mamas boy this has been a hard lesson to learn. I realized that I was pampered when I got into industrial maintenance and realized how no one will watch your back and pat you on the butt when you make a mistake. I’m still learning but I like to think I’m now a grown toddler and not a grown baby 😂
My nephew fell down and was visibly panicked. In our culture (pakistani/muslim) which is mostly abusive, you get in more trouble for being in pain than the pain itself. He was visibly shaken and was not asking for help. I went over to him to calm him down and make sure he was ok. When he realized he could trust me enough to breathe a sigh of relief, he did, and then was ok to play again without requiring coddling. His mom came over and just said "he's fine he's a big boy". When children aren't properly loved in the first place, there's no such thing as "tough love", it's abuse.
I agree with everything Dewayne said but adding this on to say that each situation is unique and requires the appropriate response according to that situation.
couldn't agree more 💯 when to say yes & when to say No sometimes is very hard to choose. All Depends upon the nature of pain someone's been going through.
My mother was always really caring and my dad is a kind hearted man, so I always cried when hurt. But one day I smaked myself in the face with a branch and my nose was bleeding. I was crying walked up to my dad crying. I was looking for attention. He looked at me said "your getting blood on the truck go clean yourself up." I snapped outa it. That's when it clicked I gotta deal with my own issues.
A word in due season! Thank you Dewayne, appreciate ya!🤠🌺
Reminds me of that Harrison Ford movie where he built an ice machine in the jungle to cool the villagers off. Then everyone started taking his invention for granted.
Wise words, your messages come from a place of wisdom and caring. These messages need to be spread around and reflected on.
Much needed thank you!!!
My dad's family is in Kentucky, Harlan/Evarts area. Some are still there today. Love going back! This wisdom was much needed. Tough love is the best we can give sometimes!
Just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. I cant express how many times your videos have kept me going. Thank you for the wisdom. God bless you and keep you.
This dude has serious lifestyle goals!
My daughter fell off her bike into a cactus when she was about 7. We were at a friend's birthday party, so there was 10-15 adults and a whole bunch of other kids. She come in boo-hooing, limping pretty good. Asked me for a pair of needle nose pliers and tweezers and proceeded to sit down and pull the spikes out of her leg all by herself. Only 2 other parents were NOT amazed by the fact that my kids didnt panic and need medical help for a basic bicycle accident. The rest were all up in arms and mad that I didnt go off the deep end. My kids learned young that life happens, and sometimes it hurts. You deal and move on. If ya need help, ask for it, if you can do it yourself, get on it.😂
Man you are great to listen to such a guy of experience and wisdom I love listening to your views and stories, would sure love to live that ranch life one day sir, dreaming of that total fulfilment from the earths natural source, sending love from Liverpool UK
I love and support everything y’all are doing! I’m upset I couldn’t make the school this year but there’s always next year
I just found this channel, and my goodness this man gives absolutely the best sound advice.
AMEN!!!! I needed to hear this just like so many other parents
Love this guy! Great philosophical discussions. You look and sound like my old landlord, he was an ol cowboy from Tennessee. Many chats over a cold one on his porch. Keep it up Sir
Another great reminder of the way of the world. God bless Duane
as a former "enabler", knowing when to help, and when to NOT help, is very hard.
Dwayne, I appreciate you so much. Your philosophy supported by your faith has been a real blessing for me to find here on TH-cam. Thank you for all you do.
I remember clearly there was this commercial for the comedy series "Malcolm in the middle". Little Malcolm and his brother (probably 6-7) sat at the port in the lake splashing with their feet. Al walked up to them. He threw one of them off to the lake, "Time to learn swimming", then he threw the other one, "Time to save your brother". That has really stuck by me and I took that approach with my son.
I dumped my boy to work in a garage for summer/part-time job as early legal age (14) as possible. That has set off the his entire attitude to life. It's amazing to see how your kid to ride/plan/risk the journey at very young age.
I do think you gave her attention. The difference is that you gave her the right kind of attention where you made her calm down and realise that it isn't worth to cry over. I just fojnd this channel and you my friend, have found a new subscriber/buddy.
Thank you, Dwayne.
I believe in balance.
And that every person's story is unique.
I appreciate the tough love message -- I also think it is important to be open-minded and to consider differences and the complexity of the whole.
Some lost people come from broken homes where there was no support for them, they had to be the support. They had to grow up too fast.
For me, it all comes back to the rule of balance.
I greatly appreciate all you share.
✌️❤️
The onlly one way to get rid of a monster is to stop feeding it..
I needed to hear this! Thank You!❤
I definitely needed kindness gentleness and support. Tough love in my opinion can be a form of emotional abuse. Not calling you abusive but tough love has never ever worked for me. It's made me feel horrible. It made me feel unloved, unwanted and now that I've grown, hated.
Greetings from south america! Im not into horses but got your channel recommended a few days ago. Instantly subscribed. 38 yo guy here and I feel like Im being mentored by a type of wise masculine man that is going instinct in todays word. Thank you for your effort and words!
And that horse is: "Oh no you don't" :))
I've never gotten such good advice from anyone in my life I've been a single mother of 3 children 2 sons 31 is 26 and a daughter that is 17... And I know you said it right hit it right on the nail no more Mickey Mouse bandaids that 20 six-year-old of mine has been trying to move in-and-out of here 4 and 5 times in the past 2 years it breaks my heart that it's time for this mama to finally have a dining room after 25 years keep up the good work Tell your lovely wife I said God-bless her God-bless you and I absolutely adore your channels with all my heart
Man, you speak the truth here .. One of my favorite sayings: "The fear of God goes a looong ways".
Thank you sir for putting out this content, I have drawn so many parallel’s in my life and can see these values as I raise my two young kids. Please continue to do more! I am a fan
❤ every one needs to hear your wisdom.
True words. But beware of grandparents who don't quite see it that way.
Hi I loved this video it was spot on so true life is hard but that's how we learn love your videos You an your wife seem to have a great relationship My husband an I will be on our 19 wedding anniversary in April it's been hard he is 12 yrs older than me so it's been interesting I am a type 2 diabetic an I have stage 3 kidney disease an I have several medical issues an he has never left my side an he has been good to me I love him so much . I love your videos thanks Angela
“Are ya having a heart attack?” 😂😂
Thx pops👏🏽💯❤️
THIS WAS... AMAZINGGG😂😂Beautiful Message🙌❤
I was one of those babies for a long time, took some of the worst pain I ever felt, loss, grief, you name it, then I woke up one day and realized I am actually ok, as long as I don't act like I'm not. If no one taught me how to be a man then I will teach myself with God's guidance. Today I will do things simply because I don't want to, simply because it makes me afraid, or whatever it is. If you're still alive, then everything is fine, have faith. I love you man and you help keep me grounded as well. Thank you.
In the crib starts a need for attention
Tough love is of the best of intention
Ignore the cry that's just for attention
Tough love is spoiled kids prevention
Parents responsibility is a new dimension
Hi man, watching all the way from Papua New Guinea. ❤
Great insights & advice, God Bless 🤙
Thank You for your knowledge! I really enjoy hearing your stories and life lessons!
Your an absolute legend doing so much more than you even know so many youth who grew up without father figures that you can help guide
My dad was way too tough on us girls, he wanted boys. Made me feel like i had no one to run too and care for me. Children need that. Made me look for it in many boyfriends as i grew up..
Girl: **cries**
Dewayne: "Do you have Diabetes?"
"Men with a little weak ankle's" 😂😂😂😂
I love your channel & would like to meet you in person one day!
I'll say one thing! You speak the hard truth....😊😅 but it's nice to hear me and my daddy were right ✅️
Sir your wisdom is much needed in the world god bless you sending good ridance and much health from Venezuela!!!
As a parent, it's not my job to keep my kids from getting hurt, only from getting harmed
This man acts like a father for me. Thank you sir.
Well said brother. Your just what the doctor ordered,we need grown people like you in the classroom today. Can we only imagine how society could change? That's how my daddy was growing up.
In the crib starts a need for attention
Tough love is of the best of intention
Ignore the cry that's just for attention
Tough love is spoiled kids prevention
Parents responsibility is a new dimension
Dwane. If you could ponder and maybe give some advice on friendships and how to navigate “brotherhood vs friendships” that would be much appreciated. It’s something I’ve been thinking about and can’t seem to find the right advice for.
"Do you have prostate trouble?" 😂
Great Video ! Thank you from Eve Green San Rafael Ca
Hi Dewean, Deanna. How do you stop the cattle from moving off in the middle of this night on a 3-4 day cattle drive. What's the routine for when you have covered enough miles for the day and are camping up for the night. Hello from Scotland
Thank you Duane. Awesome video, sir.👍👍😂
I needed to hear this🙌
It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.
Frederick Douglass
I am a German citizen we have such a "good" social system that 1/3 of our young men do not want to work any more. That is the consequence when your government wants to help the whole world. So much truth what this man says.
My Dad made a lot of bad parenting decisions, but he taught me how to box. Whenever you block a punch with your face, get it together and tear on in to your opponent ten times harder than before. Don't ever give up. What ever you do in life after that, that applies.
Sir you are AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!
Real talk right here 💛✨️