Bipolar Disorder DENIAL: Refusing Treatment For Mental Illness
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Bipolar Disorder is truly a journey - and not just for those of us with the diagnosis. The impact of this illness can be far reaching to include our friends, spouse, family, coworkers, and more.
I've had many people ask me to make a video talking about "how to approach someone who denies that there's a problem." This is actually a challenging topic without a simple answer. Everyone's situation and challenges are different. I have some valuable advice I'm going to share, but it's important to be realistic with expectations when it comes to someone struggling with mental illness. Progress can be slow. It takes time for people to become self-aware of their symptoms, develop new habits, seek treatment, and mend broken relationships (where possible).
Even if our symptoms are obvious to those around us, "part of the illness includes not being able to see them ourselves." This is where the gentle observations of those close to us can be of huge benefit - IF the Bipolar individual is open to hearing them.
Hopefully after watching this video, you will have some new tools, ideas, and information about Bipolar Disorder to help you on your journey. I'd love to hear what you think in the comments, and if you have any questions, I always do my best to help.
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As we speak my 42 year old daughter is in a manic. She was gone all weekend. Just sent me a text saying she is in Venice Beach, CA and lost her debit card and would I put her up in a motel. I said no, but I would send an Uber to bring her home. She said no. This has been going on since 2012. She is in complete denial. I can’t enable her. She goes manic, loses her job, gets put in jail, then is homeless and comes home to me in a depression, doesn’t work for a long time, gets a job and then it begins all over again in a manic. I’m the target of her anger.
Virginia Miller hugs. I’m so sorry you are going through this. My mother has it too. She is diagnosed and on meds but currently manic as well. She is in the hospital, but wanting to go home. She has kicked my dad out of the house and wants to divorce him, but he hasn’t done anything wrong. It’s very frustrating.
Anna Keene - I’m sorry for you and your Dad. Manics can be brutle and evil. Like a Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde!
I meant Anna Keefe
Stay strong :(
Update on my daughter. She stabbed a man outside a bar in Venice Beach. Was arrested on 4/25/18. I attended her pre-hearing on a Monday. She was looking at a Felony and up to 4 years Jail time. Went to her Hearing on the following Thursday and she accepted a plea bargain to be admitted to 6 mos to 1 yr in-house Rehab for dual diagnosis (mental illness and substance abuse). Praise God. Hopefully her and our nightmare since 2012 will end. I thank LAPD in L.A. not LASD in Santa Clarita. ❤️🙏❤️
This channel is a godsend. My 30 yo son is experiencing BP1 with delusions and hallucinating. His anger at his wife and me, his mom is terrifying and upsetting. She has left for her own safety and we are both trying to help and keep a conversation open. Ive learned so much from you!
Hi Lisa! I am so sorry with all you and your family are currently going through! If you haven't already, please consider getting support for yourself through counselling and or joining a local friends and family support group. If you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord where we have a lot of family members joining us. Take gentle care!
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I am experiencing the same. My parter accused me of hurting them and their family. Why do they choose certain people
To anyone reading with bipolar disorder: you are no less loved for that. YOU MATTER. You are a great person, despite any mistakes you may have made. Stay strong, and don’t forget you have people who love you.
spot on
@@danalina6014 Mmm, I feel the same way you do but, I have something that might give you a headache. Before I do though, how old is your daughter? I have a 6 year old and twins that are 4 years old.
@@danalina6014 it’s important you know that you are loved and are not a disappointment. I’m sending you so much love because you deserve it ❤️
@@danalina6014 Please be kind with yourself Dan. Imagine your daughter coming to you and telling you the exact same things you are saying, what advice would you give to her? You are doing the best you can with what you have. That being said, anxiety and depression are fucking liars and it sounds like you are in a nasty episode. Please seek treatment, you may only need a med or dosage change. If you broke your leg you would go to the doctor, well, mental health is just as important. You have a medical condition where your thoughts and emotions are unregulated. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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Thank you for that wonderful message! ❤️
Whilst I respect what professionals have to say on this condition, it is good to hear the experiences etc of those who actually have to live with this condition, personally.
Definitely, like only an Alcholic who is sober can understand another alcoholic who is not. Thank God for Rob! trying to help my daughter is so so hard... trying to hang in there for her
It’s harder when they are in denial and refuse meds.
Personally I can manage just fine without medication. Medication makes me uncomfortable and disconnected from reality. I don’t like how they make me feel at all. Therefore I refuse to take any.
@@basedcat2349 That's my husband's situation too. Sometimes he tries medication again but gives up because of the way they disconnect him and all the other bad side effects.
That's what I'm saying, he's been helping me through my journey too!
As much as I wanted to be there for my friend she would not listen and it just felt like I was enabling really exhausting behavior. There were no boundaries. I was so exhausted and my head was spinning I had to walk away. I know bipolar isn’t easy and cannot imagine. However if you are losing yourself to help someone who is not listening, treating you badly and sucking out all of your time, you need to detach. We glorify helping but for those trying to help, creat strong boundaries and take breaks. If you don’t, you may just end up being in a co dependent toxic relationship.
Bet like me you feel guilty for giving up, God knows I tried my ex used to put it down to the menopause. Since I've been watching Polar warriors I've learned so much and have actually joined up all the dots I would be more upset if I found out she actually knew she is bipolar. But I think shes in denial as it was always my fault, you explained it to a T thank you ❤
And sadly from my family’s experiences with our brothers psychotic episodes he turns on the ones that are trying to help him the most. The fear is very real…we’ve had to call the police and all have ptsd from his very scarey episodes. He’s threatened family members and doesn’t remember what he did after. It’s a very mean, cruel illness for everyone involved :(
My ex-wife is bipolar and I tried for years to help her. She was in denial and refused to get professional help. In the end, we divorced because the damage and suffering was too great. My mental and physical health was badly affected and I had to separate to survive. Very very sad. I hope she will get the help she needs but it can only happen if she acknowledges that she's got an illness.
Thanks for posting I don't feel as guilty for walking away now, it's a massive club I've learned so much from polar warriors and the comment section. ❤
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she needed a supportive family to remind her. for my mom, we put up signs everywhere reminding her about meds, that she's loved and that bipolar is real. as soon as it seems bad, she goes to the hospital. also case managment in the community. without this, most people with bipolar become homeless or alcoholics. a tattoo on the arm saying take your meds, really helps.
My mother is suffering from it . And my mother is not happy with my father. I'm 24 the eldest daughter. And are 3 siblings in total. And it's been 10 years we are still fighting after sacrificing alot , studies mental health etc . But we are fighting because we know that she is patient.
Am living the same thing right now
My wife won't admit there is an issue and it is breaking my soul. I don't think I'll ever be the same person and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. It's really affecting my already fragile mental health 😔
I appreciate your efforts. It has helped me considerably.
I’m so sorry things have been this difficult. I’m going to be making a couple more videos expanding on this topic. I should have them out on the channel in the upcoming months.
there is another condition that impacts around 40% of people with bipolar disorder called Anosognosia. It’s a condition where someone literally cannot see the fact that there’s a medical problem. I’ll be making a video talking about that also. There’s a book I would like to recommend called “loving someone with bipolar disorder” by Julie Fast.
If you’d like to connect with me, there’s a link in the video description where you can reach me by private message or even phone.
-Rob
So sorry to hear that. My bf recognises he has BP but refuses to medicate - and it gets in the way of our relationship big time..
It's so difficult trying to face this when you're alone with no support or love from others!!!
❤️🙏
Maybe there are online support groups for people diagnosed with bipolar as well as family members?
@@lesliebird6690 yes there are Facebook groups for people with this illness and their families, I’m on several of them
Same boat
@@thestevestandardanthinggoe4170 I'm sorry ...it's tough, but we can make it I BELIEVE!!!!
There is also a lot of misdiagnosis and misdiagnosis is more damaging to people than anything else.
I was diagnosed in 2012 and Rx'd Lamictil for Bipolar II. I took it for 35 days and then refused to take it because I made me very depressed and lethargic. Since then I have just been in denial. I self medicate every day and it seems like it's just getting worse and worse.
Now I found your channel and it's getting me closer to seeking help. I never told anyone I was diagnosed, I am heavily ridden with guilt.
Paul Odenfield that is extremely normal my friend. I am so glad that my channel is making a difference in your life. Making these videos is one of the most rewarding things I’ve done. I hope you will continue to stop by and if you keep learning about this, you will become so much more comfortable with asking for help. There’s a big community of people here on my channel and we all support you :-)
You're not a bad person. You just have a hard time regulating your moods and there are ways to get help with that. You deserve a good life!
Fernando Gaviria O was diagnosed like age 5 with ADHD and placed on Adderall which made me cry all day 3 years later and maybe 15 medication changes later I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I always knew it the back of my mind this whole thing was total bull shit. I read shit on the internet about eating health foods but fuck that. About 6 months ago I decided enough is enough and lowered the doses. Now I am pill free and I can actually have my cake and eat it too. Moral of the story is I was being lied to about mental illness. I sleep better, eat better, don't feel retarded from cloudiness, and I actually never had a single manic episode. Not a single thing that is bad happened when I stopped and I didn't have to change a thing. I was on pills for 15 years. Just imagine how much better my childhood could have been if there were no fucking doctors. I am now 20.
Maybe the lethargic feeling was out of mania. Mania you can clean a dirty three bedroom house and wax the car in a day! Normally takes days to do.
You don't need to feel guilty. It's not your fault. It's the brain getting too creative. Meds help it to communicate better on the cellular level. The most amazing thing I learned in a college human biology class was looking at cells with wheels and cogs. I wanted to fall off of my chair. That really brought home to me how little we know, but how much we're learning, and rapidly so.
If my girlfriend refuses to get help? Im done. I need to say that for my own mental health. Theres nothing wrong with that.
Never get into relationships with bipolar people ever.
@@qjtvaddict that's a pretty shitty thing to say
@@qjtvaddict blame the illness not the person
@@qjtvaddict add love lessen judgement.
@@awakeningblacksheep9610 they clearly said all bipolar ppl, not only ones refusing treatment which adds to those suffering staying in denial because of fear of rejection, that no one could possibly love someone with mental illness. That is very damaging rhetoric, unfortunately the same rhetoric of our society. I agree with you on leaving ppl alone who refuse to take positive action towards healing their illness, it’s enabling if they stay and damaging to both parties in the end. Best!
I had been abused by the system since I was diagnosed. It was so hard to trust the “professionals” treating me like an animal. Finding the right care made a big difference in acceptance.
Just wanted to let you know that your videos are so helpful to me and my spouse. I am the one with bipolar and it took 4 years from my diagnosis until I was stable and found the right combination of medications. Thanks to my husbands patience and love we have just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. Hope you keep making these kinds of videos. They are so helpful!
Dana Yeoman YAY!!!! I am so excited for your success and I want you to personally tell your husband how much I respect him for sticking there by your side through this crazy ride. It’s rare to see relationship stories like yours. You both are definitely Polar Warriors! I’m so glad you found my channel and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon :-)
Congrats on 30 years!! 🎈
I am bipolar( from a year) and I am 13 years old.
I wanted really to to say thank you so much because your channel helped me and my family ❤👏👏👏 ( actually my psychologist advised my family on your channel to learn more about bipolar disorder and how to deal with me)
I think you’re too young to be diagnosed with this, it’s extremely difficult, Id get evaluated around 18 again to be extra sure :$)
@@Ashuhby actually there are some who start to show symptoms at around that age, I know cause my family member started around that age, was advices to see a psychiatrist back then, but symptoms went away until 18,that’s when it fully kicked in, after cannabis usage, if they would have seen a psychiatrist back then, we would have found out then.
Yeah bur cannabis has a strong effect on brain chemistry and neuronal disposition due to THC (it multiplies the risk of schizo-affective disorders or mood disorders). And being diagnosed again later in life around twenties is important because bipolar disorder take roots in specific neuronal dispositions that differ from "normal people" brain's.
It's until late 20's that the brain is stabilising itself.
I am 59 and was diagnosed BP cyclothymia age 23. Survival and thriving is possible my friend. I never thought I’d make it but went on to have a family of my own, and many dogs over the years who have loved me! Truth is - looking back - I was depressed as far back as I can remember - a withdrawn and melancholy child, moody with rages, existential crises as a child? Not possible people say but there you have it… it was me. most of the time I was depressed- with occasional highs. My psychiatrist explained my condition this way: the brain, the human soul, is largely a mystery. Diagnosis is a helpful tool to recognise and manage our pain, but we can’t put a person in a box with a label on it. As you can see BP has many different forms. Point is you are suffering and have found help early - which is a gift. You will find a way through this strange landscape, knowing others have made this journey too. Solidarity young friend.
I was diagnosed at 13 too 25 now mental health services suck in my city I only get help through hospitalization
Sometimes the guilt kills me racing thoughts they're killing me and sometimes your family makes you feel bad sometimes I want to go to the hospital but I am scared that they are going to leave me there I feel like My life is over I can't even have a normal relationship because I am scared of what they will think about me thank you for your videos
Hi! Gosh, I am so sorry that you are having trouble right now. Feeling guilty is the worst! I try to remember that I was doing the best I could with what I had at the time. It helped me make better choices now and I'm grateful for that. Also, it takes two to tango, we are never 100% at fault. Please do not worry about going to the hospital if you need it! They don't keep people permanently anymore and on average you only stay 1-3 days. It's a place where you can get much needed rest and it's the best place to get a proper diagnosis and treatment plan b because they can observe whether the med change is working. If you broke your leg you would go to the hospital right?! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Take gentle care!
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God bless you
My wife refuses to admit she’s sick, it’s been 3 yrs of a living hell, btw she’s pregnant ( unplanned) I’m gonna one last time tell her, either she gets help or I’m gonna leave, I will also fight for full custody of the baby if she refuses. Hopefully the very real scenario of her losing everything will wake her up, if not, then I have no choice but to leave, MY mental health demands that
How did things turn out? This illness is awful. My nephew was recently diagnosed. He’s completely in denial and ruining his life. It’s so sad.
I resent the ultimatum by loved ones to take a bunch of meds which have terrible side effects on the person affected just to make life easier for them. If I don't do drugs, never spend money or do anything risky, why does my mental health which is either normal or depressed mean I have to live a shell of a life on meds? Would you like to take a medication that meant you couldn't ever orgasm again? Now flip that around. If you force someone to take a medication that means they can't orgasm, then you should never orgasm either. That's right. No sex, no masturbation. Let's see how long it takes for meds to be back off the table. There are terrible side effects to these medications. Some suck but can be tolerated, some are absolute deal breakers.
@@Ss-dz6cmmy brother goes through mania and its almost guaranteed he goes into full psychosis within a week. Hes in denial, and thinks dsm 5 is all a lie. Now hes in the psych ward and still refusing medication. At what point does someone wake up and get help? I take ssris for depression and i have sexual side effects and i suck it up, because it affects me and people around me. Take responsibility and treat your illness. Nobody has time for fuckin games ive had it with this bullshit
For me, it's kinda been the other way around. I always knew something wasn't right with me, but family and friends kept telling me that it would blow over blah blah. They made me believe it too.
The worst thing about it was the guilt. People telling me to change my thinking (i always was philosophical) etc. made me doubt my self. Thinking i was weak in character and all causing it personally. That led to me hating my self so much that i was living as unhealthy as i could, constantly flirting with danger and drugs.
This had gone on for about 8 years before my first manic episode where i lost 15 kg in like 2 months.
This is really relatable, but I have always been bullied and the school says it is because of that and it’s very confusing…
got diagnosed at 6 years old which is rare and never been medicated due to my parents being in denial now I'm feeling it at 25.
Thank you so much for this. I stopped my meds in December because I was in denial over my September diagnosis. I didn’t realize it until I had a really bad manic day today that paralleled my unusual behavior from almost two years ago. For me, my mania is the worst when it comes to love and men. “Falling in love” when I just met them, pushing and pulling away, being so obsessed, etc. it’s horrible and I know it’s not me at all. That’s why gets me. What I did tonight wasn’t me at all, and I need help. I wanted to embrace mania because of how happy, interested in love, and sociable i am. Yet, I’m so anxious. I used to have severe social society and it’s scaring me. I can’t live this way. I need help. Going to call my school’s psychiatrist. I’m so embarrassed thinking I didn’t need help nor meds. I’m crying a bit. I don’t want to be stigmatized or have an incurable mental health. I hate it; I really do.
That's a great plan! Please be kind to yourself, your doing the best you can and your learning. Being self-aware and knowing you need help is half the battle right there! Take gentle care, you are NOT alone!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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My father has bipolar disorder and has never left the denial phase. He is above 70 now, and it seems unlikely that he will live a stable happy life. This year I have given up, because I could either drown with him or save myself. I have ptsd from all the things that he did when sick. I wish I had resources like these videos when I was a child. I always empathized with him, but could never get through to him.
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm so sorry you had to experience that! Take gentle care.🙏
You're a brave man and I appreciate your honesty. Facing mental illness is difficult - my sister will not believe she is either Bi-Polar or has paranoid schizophrenia, even though she suffers greatly and her life is a mess. It hurts us deeply because she will not listen to any of us, and believes we are all out to harm her and her son. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.
Thank you, I'm having a hard time with my partner and after years don't know how much more I can take. Thank you for the booster shot of strength and perspective!
I understand that this can happen with a lot of people who have bipolar disorder, but this fact makes life a living hell for those who have been misdiagnosed with it
Yeah it looks like I have some kind of autism spec disorder; i never really had bipolar disorder. It's scary how easy it is for psychiatrists to misdiagnose people.
I denied that I had a problem for two years, when I withdrawal no one noticed so I denied it even more it was when my aunt said to me that its not normal for a teen to lock themselves in their rooms or to cut themselves. That talk knocked some sense into me when I started to check my life, I'd document it all on a calendar and tell all my friend to tell me all the changes even the slightest one. When I looked at the calendar after 6 months I knew something was wrong I knew my aunt was right that I had a problem because if I didn't fix me maybe there would be anymore of me left. I had to say it out loud to feel better 'I'm bipolar and that's OK' I'd say that when I get depressed or manic and that's caused me to accept me
Javis Simpson i’m so glad that you had the insight to document the way you were feeling. That’s huge! Thank you for sharing a little bit about your journey and for supporting my channel. It means a lot to me :-)
I didn't know I am bipolar right fm 1979 to 2018.Once I was browsing for polar bear & I came across bipolar disorder through polar warriors.Suddenly I realised I m bipolar. Immediately I visited a psychiatrist who told my guess is correct.Though I am not totally normal,still I am recovering . Because.of my behaviour,I lost my younger brother also.We have to forgive ourselves & forget the past.I tell my close friends,so sometimes Inyell at them,they remain silent.I was pushed out of my house In 1981.My neighbours & best friends together made me courageous to get on with life.Robert,as you told,we are alive bcuz of some understanding friends.
Thank you for the channel. My son is bi-polar and I and his mother are struggling through ANOTHER rage episode from him. My heart hurts for him but he is far from ok. Your channel has been there for information and support. He tells me he watches your videos so I'm thankful for that.
You're welcome 😊 Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He's doing free support calls for patreons this holiday season. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 last year, (this was after scoring a 28/30 on the post partum screening) & went to a intensive partial hospitalization therapy program where it was M-F from 9 am - 2pm for almost two months. Felt great, was on meds for the first time & etc. well, it’s been about 4 months now that I completely stopped taking all my medications & just allowing myself to suffer again. Im too afraid to reach out for help (I only got help last year bc I didnt really have a choice). My dr that I was seeing for my bipolar treatment ended up closing down their office & once that happened, about a month or two after the office closed, I just stopped & started ignoring everything I learned to deal w/ my bipolar. I’ve been dealing with intense mixed episodes, depressive episodes & hypomania. Like I mentioned before, I’m too afraid to ask for help. I know that one day, my bipolar will most likely take my life. When, who knows but I feel like it will happen. I’m only 25, I’m engaged & have two boys & a step daughter. I’m only here for them but I’m tired of fighting but I cant get past my fear of reaching out, getting help & putting myself first. This probably makes no sense either, my mind is kinda all over the place as I write this..
Yeah I'm struggling with myself, I been trying to exercise to increase my mental awareness
Hi Rob, I find my music style and choice indicates my mood swing before I'm aware of it. It seems to be quite subconscious, by the time I'm aware of it I'm in the thick of it.
I completely understand you on this. My usual choice of music is hard rock and metal. When I'm starting to go down: I go to sad & soft rock, then to lana del rey. Then once in a full depressive episode I have no music. Just silence, no energy or want for anything.
I'm 24 and was recently diagnosed. I actually started noticing severe behavior that I hadn't really acknowledged before... then, I started thinking about really bad things and would fly off the rails for no reason.
I asked my therapist if she thought it could be bi-polar disorder, because it runs in my family, and she kept pushing it aside, and telling me she didn't see that.
Then I went to my mom who works for mental health in my state, and told her my symptoms. She told me then, that I needed to go to the doctor and so, I set up the appointment after having a severe anxiety attack and then, I didn't sleep for 2 days.
Go to the doctor and told him about the continuing symptoms, he asked me a bunch of questions... and then... he leans back and says: "I think your right, your bi-polar." Double checked the symptoms and now, I'm like: "What the fuck do I do now? What's type 1 bi-polar? How do I manage this? How do I handle it?
It's a recent diagnosis, but... I'm not sure how to really feel about it.
@Nancy Jaimes Reyes same at 25
Why I started to become ill because of my bipolar disorder. My mom lied and tricked me into going to the hospital. When we got there, I was furious, yelling, screaming, swearing. But I'm glad she did. It saved me. But not totally there was a very long road ahead of me.
Your every video is the same. Priceless.☺
You're doing a wonderful job and your loved ones are actually doing something better. They are kinda help you do this job, right?
May I suggest something? It could be difficult for you but let me say it anyway.
How about some role-play on actual taking care of a bipolar loved one? A spouse (definitely a spouse), daughter, son, friend, like that. In a role play, we can get to see it like a movie and we can learn a lot if it's a video (Your talks are Top Of the class, but you know what I am trying to say)☺
Brave Heart that is a fantastic suggestion! My video where I showed the different sides of mania and depression was really popular. I think more conversational videos like that would be really good. I’m saving that to my list of future topics :-)
Seeing it as an illness has helped me so much. I took it as me being a mistake for years and years too.
Kelly Styron meeeee tooooo!!! The first time I heard that, it was like a switch in my head. Sometimes little perspectives like that can make the most profound difference. Pretty cool stuff :-) thanks again for the comments Kelly and for supporting my channel!
Polar Warriors it took me awhile but I got through to myself eventually. I’ve been trying to treat myself the way I do others after years of just flat out neglect.
Thank you Rob, I shared this with my brother who wanted more positive ways to help me.
You are helping lives. Families and us diagnosed.
All the best to us all.
Wow..I am living this episode currently with my wife. The deflection, evasive behavior,anger,abuse, etc..but mostly the Denial!!
I have passed along this episode to our large extended family as a tool to aid in our understanding Bipolar.
Thank you for your continued efforts to assist all and anyone dealing with mental illness. You may not realize but you are ministering to many for the good🙏.
Thank you sincerely ☮️
I really wish I could talk to someone in your position, like you, because we have lived this struggle with our daughter for years. I’ll keep watching.
RAW and ORDER,
You are very kind.
Thank you. Our older daughter is bipolar, was medicated for 10 years successfully, then went off meds. She deserted her oldest daughter with us (grandparents) and we took her with open arms-this child has suffered so much.
Thank you so much for this video. As a spouse of someone with bipolar, I struggle with the denial and lose patience for the excuses. This video reaffirms that we are not alone and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and to not give up.
I'm living this with my sig other. He has had a hard time. He recently got back on meds after my urging him to after his dad's death. He recently has new symptoms regarding focusing. He's also dealing with anxiety which he hasn't shared with his doctor. It's so frustrating. It feels like I'm waiting for the healthy normal one to come back because I miss him alot. Unique and special.
Thank you a thousand times. I’m glad to see a person with bipolar talk about it and help everyone understand and that you can make a difference in your life ... thank you.
Felicia Battelli 1000 you’re welcome’s! Stop by my channel anytime :-)
My wife is presently hospitalized after her first big manic episode and it has left our family with so many questions and feelings of despair. Your videos are helping to pieces things together for us so thank you, perhaps when she's stops thinking we put her in the hospital we can work together to be together.
Hi idlehands! I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord where we have a lot of partners who attend as well. Take gentle care!
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thanks may God continue to bless u and keep you.
E. Black thank you so much for the kind words and blessings 😊❤️🙏☀️👍
Polar Warriors anytime sir much love from here in new jersey.continue to be a blessing to those of us who struggle bpd.luv you man.exactly job👍
E. Black right on! Much love right back to you from California! Talk to you soon my friend and stay well this week :-)
Hey, I would like to see a video about how to manage money when (hypo)manic, or how to make yourself a bit calmer at all. I could really use some advice about that :)
Marloes van den Bosch very good idea.
Second. Great request.
I’m on it! That is a fantastic suggestion. Thank you so much for jumping in the conversation. I have a couple of videos scheduled, but I will work on this topic very soon :-)
Yess great request
That’s an awesome idea! Thank you for mentioning this have such issues as we all do with this and could be so helpful for as you know can put us in extreme financial duress!
My brother struggles like you describe and he is in a facility rn resenting everyone for putting him there. Your video has been helpful to me and his very upset mother.
EVERY video you present speaks to me personally. It's like you're inside my head or narrating my life. THANK YOU for giving me a reason to live again.
Looking back I realized I was self medicating for years with alcohol until it didn’t work any more putting me into anxiety and depression!
How long did it take you to realize you needed help and what made you do it? I have a loved suffering and doesn’t realize he needs help just uses alcohol to self medicate
actually bi polar drugs are worse than alchohal.
My best friend has been telling me I’m bipolar for 8 years now. And as I enter my 50th hour awake I’ve been researching and watching videos on the subject for a few hours now. Definitely starting to believe him now.
Hi Kyle! I'm glad you found Rob's channel! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a support group for patrons only on discord. Would love to have you there!
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My 26 yr old son just got out of the hospital yesterday for maybe the 5th time in 9 yrs. He knows he has this illness but is in complete denial that he needs medication. He has usually self medicated with Marijuana. Before that, alcohol....what a disaster that was! Ive been educating myself on bipolar disorder and your videos have been so helpful to me. I sent my son this particular one and hope he listens. Ive set up therapy for myself and my first session is this morning. Things have got to get better. I just want my son back 😢 😢
Ho Andrea! I'm so sorry to hear your family is in such a painful situation. In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a support group for patrons only on discord where we have a lot of loved ones who attend. He also has a specific group for partners and family as well. Would love to have you there!
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Thank you. This is me. I wish my family would listen to this. You are so empathic and articulate. I appreciate your wisdom sharing.
Yes, thank you. This is happening to us now. My son is the same - bp1 with psychotic features. Will not touch recreational drugs or alcohol. Ten years of being stable on lithium and he suddenly decided he didn’t need his meds. His brain doesn’t register what is happening. His girlfriend left and he says she will be back after her testing from god. This has been going on for 9 months, mostly manic, not working, but not homicidal or suicidal. He thinks he is God. I can’t get anyone to admit him and feel so lost. Thank you for your guidance.
Hi, thanks for reaching out. The best way to talk to Rob directly is through Patreon. He responds to direct messages only on that platform. If you are already a Patron, just cut and paste what you wrote into a message and put the recipient as Polar Warriors and that is Rob exclusively. Take care!
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Rob:
I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much
How is your son now
Much better. Thank you.
@@Gruene2010what worked for him? My son is going through the same
He is better but not completely functional. But his moods are better controlled and delusions of being god are gone. Still spiritual.
He says going completely natural helps. His food choices are strict with completely organic, no additives whatsoever. He has limited himself to a few foods and meditates. No meds, not even a vitamin. No sodas. Only drinks natural lemonade. He says eliminating inflammation is key.
Thanks so much , my brother diagnosed with bipolar l three months ago so I needed this so much , i am from Saudi Arabia excuse my bad English again thank you very very much.♥️♥️🌹🌹
Your English is great.
Well done, that is such excellent English! Hope you and your brother are okay, God bless you!
Your an amazing young man. Thank you so much for your courage in helping others.
I'm here watching this because I have to live with a bipolar sibling who does the exact same things you are describing in this video: denial, refusal of treatment and borderline delusional sociopathic tendencies. I care way too much for her and it's gotten to the point where she has given me trauma-based anxiety and fear. I can't do it anymore. I wanna get away but I can't because I can't afford to move out...
I got diagnosed with Bipolar II, I’ve gone to a mental hospital and that’s when they “officially” diagnosed it. I have also recently, November 10, went to get evaluated to be correctly diagnosed. It was weird, had to do with memory, doing math, doing correct shapes, it was all frustrating and made no sense. Obviously I understand that they have their methods but it felt like I was being mocked. Your channel has brought a lot of light into my life and my significant others because I don’t know how to deal with any of this.
Thank you for all the caring you do through these videos.
Thank you!!!! Absolutely fantastic job!
My hubby has bipolar disorder for 12 years now. He is still in denial. Always stopping his melds. really difficult for family as well.
Nazreen Mohamed it is the most difficult on our family, and especially our spouses. My heart really goes out to you and I respect you so much for sticking through all of the good & bad times to make it through 12 years. It can take time for people to struggle, ask for help, think they are fine, and quit treatment until they finally get tired of that horrible cycle. I know it isn’t easy to set boundaries with someone who is in denial, but remember that your mental health is just as important. If things get bad, it is very reasonable to come up with certain expectations and consequences if they are not met. There is a book that I would like to recommend to you that completely changed my relationship life. I am not affiliated with the author at all, I just really love her books. It is called “loving someone with bipolar disorder” by Julie Fast. You can find a cheap used copy online if you’d like. You will learn more from that book than most therapists even know. It’s really brilliant and I hope it helps. If you have any questions let me know :-)
It was the opposite with me, I had a friend who knows she was diagnosed with bp but just couldn't be bothered to seek help. She just expected people to put up with it....which it didn't really work as lots and lots of friends and partners were driven away because of her bp getting out of control because she didn't want to seek treatment.
Her name is not Charley by any chance?
Thank you sooo much young man. Stat blessed and healthy
Thank you for your videos. I relate in every single way with my diagnosis. I'm glad to be medicated and steady now.
Beautifully done.
how brave and unconditional of you to make this video. thank you
Call their Dr. ,have the doc do a checklist of symptoms on them.
Thank you Robert, your so knowledgable, informative & honest. THANK YOU
This was me for 31 years. Just started this year 2023 medication and I'm 32 now. I'm finally accepting it and learning to manage the symptoms.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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I'm so proud of you please continue to take your meds..lors of luck to you
This channel is so amazing. I believe that my so is bipolar and having his first severe manic episode in the course of our almost 4 year relationship. I was having such a hard time understanding what happened until I found this channel and I finally understand. Thank you so much I have so much hope for us if he ever decided to come back from this episode.
I discovered your videos just today, and they are so so so helpful! I suspect ('suspect' since he denies that anything is wrong with him, apart from "occasional depression") my boyfriend have bipolar disorder, and I have been angry, confused, deeply saddened and extremely hurt for years by his behavior. I am already learning so much and already I understand so much more about how I can treat him, help him, what to say and what not to say, and so on. Thank you for sharing all of this with the world! It is so needed and so so helpful!
Hey Rob, I have to say your videos are fantastic and have been very helpful in learning more about my family member's struggles.
I have a friend in his fifties diagnose in his late thirties been in the hospital on meds told me he didn't take them 2 years ago ended up back in the hospital had been put on injection had his daughter take him off now for 3 months claiming it was reefer madness now I'm just trying to see what's going to happen to him and stand by him thanks for this video and your help channel your helping me cope God bless you
Thank you so much for this video.
I can't thank you enough for your videos..... Love this channel. It's also not only been helpful to me as a bipolar warrior but also to family and friends to help them better understand the illness... Bless brother
Sherry from Rhode Island you are so very welcome and I’m really glad that you found my channel. Stop back by anytime - fellow Warrior!!! 😊😊
Thank you. This is so needed right now. Right in the trenches of this denial right now with a loved one.
Thank you for the video... It was encouraging.😃
Awesome job Sir!!!
Wow, you are an amazing human! Your content is helping so many people! Thank you for your commitment to helping others!
Thank you.
I am from Greece thank you for being so clear on your videos..
Thank you xx
Thank you so much for this
Robert you’re awesome amazing young man and I’m glad we have you on here because you helped me out more than you could ever imagine helping anybody because I quit my medicine two years ago and I didn’t know what you saying you’re an awesome amazing man I’m back on my meds I’m doing good again may God be with you and ride along
Beautiful presentation, sharing, educating and supporting. I have a few friends I that situation, so I shared your video. Stay strong and love your family more than anything in the world. Great comment:’ people who are hurting will also hurt other people”. It’s symptom of the illness ...yes .. important words to repeat and remember.
Thank for EXPLANATION
Very helpful thanks
Thank you Rob and your team. I have learned in Polar Warriors You Tube channel in a few videos more than I have on my own in ten years. Good intended Psychiatrists and therapist haven't been the right ones. The content you share in your videos have been game changing for me. Particularly on the subject of recognizing my triggers before I go Hypo manic or depressed. I have finally put my finger on the issue of rapid cycling. I can go from depressed to neutral in a matter of hours. My meds are not working as effectively as they did ten years ago. Ouch. I am so glad to have upped my Patreon membership. So much content to go through. It will take me at least a year of continuous reading and watching vids. Thank you again!
Thank you so much for your wisdom, advise and knowledge ❤️ I'm very positive my boyfriend is undiagnosed bipolar and even he has voiced his relatability to the disorder but I can tell he is hesitant to see a doctor about it. It's been months of me hoping and praying he will finally see a professional. It can be frustrating sometimes to want him to get help but I know I can't make him do anything he isn't ready to do for himself. Your videos have really educated me on what I can do to be observant and help where I can but also not take things so personal when he is not doing okay. I cried watching your video on bipolar and relationships because it was so relatable and was relieving to know him and I are not alone in the struggle. So far every video I've watched of yours has helped me understand this disorder better and hopefully my knowledge will in turn help my boyfriend be more comfortable with the idea of finally getting a diagnosis. I will definitely be showing him your channel. I just really needed to comment to say thank you and add to all the other comments on here with everyone opening up about their stories ❤️
THANK YOU !
Thank God I found this channel, thank you so much for the advices ! Best wishes
I'm so glad you found my channel too! Thanks for being so supportive of what I'm doing here and leaving a comment. You are very welcome here =)
-Rob
You will never have any idea how much you help my little family thank you and God bless you stay well bud you’re awesome
And thank you for this wonderful video!
Thank you so much for your content. 3 weeks ago my husband of 11 years raged on me and my children. We found an amazing therapist and it's looking like bipolar 2. I always thought he was just a high energy busy guy but now it makes sense as this illness can get progressively worse when untreated. My heart goes out to everyone affected by this illness and you are lovable in every moment no matter what your mood is.
Awe thank you so much for taking the time to comment. If you ever have any questions or if there’s anything I can do to help, there’s a link in the video description where you can reach me directly anytime.
-Rob
Thank you
well done! again, you provided a lot of info here. nicely delivered.
Thank You!!! This helps tremendously 🧎🏾♀️
Thank you for that video... it is so much about me... denial for years treatment having bipolar II mainly depression episodes, haven't seen for years my life was f*cked by the imbalance, using spirituality to try to heal it, stop taking meds when feel hypomanic, so many years of my life wasted withouth proper education and finally proper meds and psychotherapy in order to help myself to deal with my bipolar reality. You are doing great work with those videos. Thanks again for that :)
Thank you for making this. My eldest sister has bipolar and has gone to the psych ward 3 times already and absolutely refuses to believe that she's sick. I'm learning a bit of perspective to see what my sister sees and getting calmer toward her behavior. It's not completely her fault and I'm starting to see that.
i am so glad i found your videos! it has helped me to understand bipolar, i have a friend who has been diagnosed as bipolar.
Thank you dear so much. God bless you.
Thank You! 😊
Thank you so much for all the videos and information. I know this one is 2 years old but it's the exact thing I need right now. I just took my son to emergency yesterday. He's 17 and this is his 2nd acute manic episode with psychosis. I caught it a bit faster this time, now that I can recognise whats happening. After the first in the spring he wasn't given a diagnosis other than 'mood disorder'. My son refused to believe it was anything other than school stress and lack of sleep. He's tried to control his symptoms himself by determination and will alone. I believe he's been hypomanic this whole time with only a few weeks in between of 'normalcy'. He took the meds willingly this time in emergency and I'm praying he'll agree to stay on medication until we find one that works for him. I have hope. This is a horrible illness that robs people of their lives. My heart hurts for anyone enduring the pain and fighting for their lives. You are worth it and I love you. ❤
I have a family member who has children and so far refuses to tell their children their diagnosis with severe bipolar disorder. It’s sad to me because just like any physical illness mental illness is a part of a family medical history. This family member has been diagnosed much later in life and I just don’t want to see that happen to the next generation.
Thank you for sharing your story. This is immensely helpful.
I'm so glad!