10 Things to NEVER SAY to Someone With Bipolar Disorder!
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If someone has Bipolar Disorder, sometimes saying the wrong thing can be a HUGE trigger - causing devastating results and potentially impacting their overall stability or health!
This video will cover 10 common statements that should never be said to someone with Bipolar Disorder AND WHY. If I missed one, please let me know in the comments so we can help educate others! Together we can help fight the stigmas and social damage inflicted on those with this serious illness. PLEASE help share this video with family and friends so we can help educate others. Help them - help US!
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The 6th book I read about bipolar disorder - Loving someone with bipolar disorder by Julie Fast. The focus of the book was to enable ME to see what I was doing to trigger the bipolar in someone I loved. The book helped me enormously to take responsibility for provoking ( unknowingly at the time) his bipolar outbursts. Really helped our relationship. ❤️🙆♀️
"You don't look bipolar"
What do you want from me? You want me to light somebody's car on fire?
If she says it to you again, fire up her car.
@@sabotaje4174 😈🕯️
hahahah i get u look well god u wanba cut my brain out have a look lol
Hahahaha omg! I am in a bad episode right now and that made me burst out laughing. Thanks for that!
Hugs.... I totally agree
"Just calm down." Literally throws me into a psychotic break.
I saw a meme that summed it up: Never in the history of 'Calm Down' has anyone calmed down in response to 'Calm Down!'
🙏🙏🙏praying for your faith!! Do things make you happy diets are important sleep too
Damn! I hate that word
"Dude just chill bruh" lol
Humans are fucking stupid and I hate that gd saying.
"stop being sad it's effecting everyone, not just you"
"control yourself!"
"stop using it as an excuse"
I hear that every day and it makes me feel so small and broken , i feel like ripping myself apart every time i hear it
Ooh...this hit hard. "Stop using it as an excuse". The pain this kind of statement causes is so bad. Why would anyone choose to have bipolar disorder?
@@moirabij734 you bring everybody else down
@@johnjonesToffeeman People can't control brain chemistry issues any more than a diabetic can control their disease. Medication helps but sometimes it doesn't work because it can take years to find the right cocktail, so STFU.
@@aliciaandrews7914 The thing about any kind of neuro-diversity or physical variation (disability) in a person, is that they still have to get through the normal process of transitioning from Childhood to Teenager to Adult. Just like everybody else! How our brains and bodies manifest these natural stages of human development, and cope with all the changes and challenges, is all occurring even without a diagnosis of Depression. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you could well be hearing those comments regularly, even without bp. /I'm an older person. And it seems to me that true confidence and belief in oneself comes from 1) Being Authentic and 2) Finding Your Tribe. These are active steps you can take in daily life. They can also demonstrate to family and friends that you do NOT need them for everything. That you are not as helpless as they may think. By authentic, I mean showing and acting what you REALLY think and who you REALLY are. Best wishes on building your own path🌻
I fell for a woman with bipolar and I keep coming back to these videos so I can continue to support her, most people in her life never took the time to understand what she is going through so she thinks that I'm going to do the same, but each and everytime I prove to her that I'm there to support her through anything no matter how tough it gets ( it gets really tough at times) but I never give up, so thank you so much for helping me understand how to be there and help
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@Metal HeadI'm so sorry! obviously you've never felt love from or for another human being, hence why you take the time to troll and comment on people's comments. Here! Let me start *hugs* have an amazing day!
Similar situation, thanks James.
I was hoping there were other people like my boyfriend out there. Thank you and I hope ya'll are doing well!
I have a friend who is bipolar, I have told him repetedly I will with Gods help be there for him no matter what, also I will never try or force him to do someting he can't or doesn't want to do, I'm learning everything I can about this disorder so I can be of a benefit and supportive for him.
I really get pissed off when I hear someone tell another person "you're so bipolar".. It's a friggin' insult to people who are bipolar and have to deal with it everyday.
PREACH
One word. Ignorence.
Stuff like that is why i went so long not knowing I was bipolar. Ppl misuse the term most of the time and makes it sound like bipolar disorder is just "mood swings" where you are suddenly sad, mad, happy etc etc when it's actually a high or low
I had a friend say to me I must be bipolar because I feel like shooting people! She minimized what I go through.
well the are 17,274 videos about bipolars in TH-cam. So you cant blame people if in some countries this term is just a term.
My favorite is, "are you high?" when I'm manic.
Ooh fuck yea.. that makes me loose my shit.. 0 to fucked off in a blink
Thats what I think people think of me
i hate when people say i'm a psychopath when i'm manic. it makes my self esteem come piling down. i have struggled with bipolar disorder my whole life. it's not something fun to be manic. yeah it might seem fun when experiencing mania sometimes but sometimes it makes you feel the complete opposite.
Oh yea. Isn't that just so lovely. Lol. I have been clean 14 years now and I reply to people that the disease is what drove me there in the first place. People should never judge in an area where there is no knowledge or compassion.
I can be very sarcastic when people say this to me when I'm manic and I usually respond in a number of ways. 1. " Duh! It's called mania. Wanna try it?" Then I tell them it's because of the bipolar and not because I've taken something. 2. " No shit Sherlock! Well done for your amazing powers of deduction!" 3. "Really?" It all depends on who I'm talking to and the situation at the time. Some people I know take drugs for recreation and I've told them, " I prefer having bipolar because it's cheaper as my brain is a chemical factory and produces the chemicals to get me high so I don't need to pay a dealer. But the side affects are a real bummer and I can't change supplier."
0:30 “Why don’t you just snap out of it?”
1:13 “Are you taking your meds?”
2:15 “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”
3:22 “But you act so normal”
4:22 “It must be your time of the month”
5:13 “Everyone is a little bipolar sometimes”
6:06 “Have you tried going to church’s door praying it away?”
7:29 “Happiness is just a choice”
8:58 “How could you be depressed you are so well off?”
10:39 “Have you ever thought of taking/doing this to get off all those pills?”
Wow!! You are amazing, thank you!!
If you could comment on every 10 things channel, we could get rid of a lot of the dumber things like top 10 movies, and make more space for this content......... could work.
😆
5:13 is the most frustrating.
Most aggressive I found is that"have u taken ur med?"
I'm literally crying because of how accurate this is.
I'm struggling internally, the swings are so hard to manage that I often feel so disoriented and lost.
Having bipolar disorder is so hard and sometimes I really want it to go away.
I hate myself for having this cause I have no control over what I think, feel or do when it's triggered.
A lot of people have told me to "just cheer up" "think of positive thoughts" "be happy" and I wanted nothing more than to just disappear.
When people say shit like that it feels like they're invalidating my disorder and struggles.
It sucks man, it really does.
I hope we all are able to be in a better place.
❤️🙏
Don't say anybody that u r suffering from bipolar disorder. They never understand and they will force u to think in their way. If u don't (off course u can't) they will create a big problem for u. I think bigger than bipolar polar disorder 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃
I understand.......I feel the same way. Age 18 to 39 & 40 in August. So many psych-wards; so many different medications. The current meds I'm on seem to help.......Escitalopram Oxalate & Quetiapine Fumarate.......but everyone is different😉
I hear you, sometimes it gets to the point where I second guess myself, am I really bi-polar? Am I making it up? It can be exhausting. Blessings to you.
I was diagnosed with Bi Polar 2 less than two years ago after years of being listed as Major Depressive Disorder. These medications are a different class of drugs & they are still trying to find the right combination to help me. Two sent me to the ER. It is scary but please don't give up hope!
Another rule DON'T force someone who is bipolar to be around others
Yazmineee Thank You!😕
@@KatJael55 YES! I thought it was agoraphobia. Phew! It"s my Bi-polar.
Traci Emch You mean “asocial”. “Antisocial” actually is the proper term for sociopaths and psychopaths
@@KatJael55 I'm sorry... God Bless you. ❤🌷
@@KatJael55
Sounds like me!!!!!
I was diagnosed bipolar over 20 yrs ago... Ive made a mess of my life.
My own children aren't speaking to me... Ive wore my brother and mother out...
All i have is my sister. Thank God for her... She is a Trurle Blessing.
Ive been on a week long trip of major anxiety and teary eyed.
Im struggling...
Plus just found out my new hubby is also bipolar.
I cried for him.. It sucks!
Reading all these comments I realized I'm such an ass. I think I've said 90% of them to my gf in the last few days. Thank you all for showing me the mirror.
Not an ass just looking for solutions
@@indyajackson7215 thank you. 💚
@@AncientEnergyEyesOpen Of course dear!
Please talk to my bf!!!!!
Please talk to my husband.
My mom is undiagnosed bipolar and my older brother is diagnosed bipolar. I’ve gone my whole life trying to figure what was wrong with me, so I’ve been educating myself about mental health and personalities. I’ve struggled with depression, self harm, and lost the best job I’ve ever had due to substance abuse. My toxic behavior was never noticed, because my brother had all the attention. I took it upon myself to make an attempt at getting better, for my little girls sake. Living with my daughters mother was what brought out the worst in me. I am her scapegoat, who will never live up to her unrealistic expectations. She blamed me for everything wrong in our relationship. Drove me back to my toxic habits and then being shunned for not being better even “after all the work she’s put into me”.
Things she’d say that would trigger would be :
•Do better.
•It’s all in my head, i just need to work and get over it
•there’s no such thing as depression I just have to make better choices and stop being lazy.
•stop playing the victim
• happiness is a mindset
I could go on. The thing that drove me to the darkest time I’ve ever been through was when i lost my 401 k career, and as if I wasn’t at my point of break, she added “ I knew it was too good to be true, so i didn’t get my hopes high “.
Sorry for the rant some of its irrelevance, but I feel as if the cloud over my head is clearing. Feels good to vent and to know I’m not alone.
She sounds like a family member of mine!
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You are not alone! Same here! Thanks for your story! Makes me feel not alone anymore. ❤
I hope you are doing better!
I get what you are saying.
People closest to you at times can be your worst enemy.
I am glad this gentleman is putting this stuff out there so just maybe, others will start to see our struggles.
"you just need to get yourself on a schedule"
""why are you so anxious, you have nothing to be worried about"
"are you getting manic again?" (when you finally seem to stabilize and have some genuine happiness and fun)
"nothing i do is good enough/it's impossible to make you happy"
"lots of people in this world have it worse than you"
"how can you be tired., you've been sleeping all day/week"
"you are so smart, how can you make such stupid decisions?"
"in MY day all we did was drink a 6 pack and sucked it up"
"you have too much time on your hands. I don't have time to be depressed"
Can you please make a clip like this for bipolar 2? My husband of a wonderful 13 years just doesn’t understand how I broke after (and months leading up to) our move in October- none of my family does. I’m bipolar 2 diagnosed and wish I had a video to share with my loved ones
"Why don't you go to bed earlier? If I stayed up all night, I'd also feel bad."
Right!? Like we choose to stay up 20+ hours a day or as if we're not trying to get some rest.
So true, I get this all the time.
Yep. My wife has never understood why I'm awake & exhausted. I literally can't fall asleep 😐. She can't see the difference between sleepy & tired.
I hate it when someone tell me to stop being lazy. I'm not lazy dammit!!!!
walter smith I hate when people tell me to calm down or chill out it makes me mad and i start to yell
I get that all of the time like every day. My mom and my big brother always tell me that I am lazy, but I'm not. I really wish that people would stop say that to those who are mentally ill.
Yerp get it all the time
Yep that one really grates on me, i work hard ,im not lazy , just sometimes i just feel like doing nothing for myself , and just to remove myself from interactions for a while.
I have extreme feeling of guilt for feeling that I'm lazy when I can't get e.g. the housework done. Stop being lazy?! Thanks! Rub it in (and make sure to bring salt)...
The one I get from my ex-friends and family members is:
You are just faking it....
They have been calling me a liar for years. I am seeing a therapist, a psychologist, and am taking meds just to cope.
Telling someone who struggles everyday with bipolar 2 they are liars just makes them feel worse.
To me it was close to ending my life.
I cut ties with all of them and now I am much better. Not the best but better.
You are not alone. Close friends have said I fake BPD2 and epilepsy. How does one fake either of those? Why would one want to?! There is no faking being in the darkness. And there is no faking Epilepsy. That place we fight every day, the darkness, Without a choice, before even getting out of bed. My children are what brought and still bring me back. This channel is a Blessing. He is so easy to listen to and understand. I sometimes have my kids listen to it with me. So thankful. You stay strong. I eliminated the people from my life. I kept my true friends. The ones who trust me. If thats possible, thats my suggestion. I know a lot of times we can't.
Listening to this channel while I multitask is educational and calming. How about you?
I'm sorry, I see you did cut ties. Now just get right with yourself. Thats what I would do. If it matters. Random stranger with BP2 making suggestion to bring you relief. Exercise helps me. 🧡
My goodness, my family would say the same thing to me. That I was lying, making excuses, should get off the meds, I did go off the meds, they were happy about it. Then would put me down, scrutinize me when my bipolar took over worse, would ask why I wasn't around when I was upset. Would tell me its just a phase and ill get over it. Now I'm out of the house, living with my bf who actually has adhd, and he's loved and taken care of me and has been trying to learn about the disorder to better help me too.
Wow! How can I say it? I am 54 year old male and less than one year ago I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. It took me the destruction of my marriage of 29 years to realize that there was something wrong with me but I just could not put the finger on it. Thank God I found this channel. It has really made a difference in my life. Your videos have helped me to explain to my loved ones how it feels to be a bipolar person, the struggles that we go through, and how these diseases affect me and
my loved ones. Thank you so much for your videos.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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"I don't think you have bipolar, you're just anxious", yes, tell that to my medical team
You're not my doctor.
I've had people tell me this, totally understand, it pisses me off
That attitude of minimizing has made it difficult to get appropriate care. That's where the years of wrong diagnosis lays. We become professional patients. The better we get, the less bull.
@@baruchben-david4196 I learned doctors don't know it all. I have FIRED many doctors for incompetence and bad bedside manner.
Omg, yes
I really hate it when people who are closest to me say shit like “omg stop overthinking, you always do this...”
genuinely makes my blood boil
laurakategillifish94 😂 the more I’m reading I’m like YEP, YEP! The overthinking thing arghhhhhh.
Yeah sometimes family can be the most judgmental people out of which is my I have to love most of them from a distance since most of them are pretty toxic
Calm down, stop overthinking.....
I don’t remember much after that.
Yeah, those two phrases are ones I have the most issue with.
Storming Heaven m
laurakategillifish94 I truly believed I was the only person that was being told this. 😩
Not acknowledging our feelings and instead just calling us delusional
What gets my goat is "You just gotta push through!"
Right...that ain't happening &
what to hell does that mean anyway?
Be kind to yourself!
My husband is bipolar. We've been together for 14 years and it's heaven and hell for the both of us. I've tried to help him for years until I realized that just makes it worse. Now, all I do is hold him when he's sad or rub his back, but trying to "solve the problem" is futile. I don't try to find solutions anymore, and it's made it so much better. He knows he is having an episode and it will pass, so we just wait it out until it does.
I live with bipolar II, and this approach from my wife has been incredibly helpful to me, and I think to her too. Much less frustration for her and for me, and I'm so grateful to her for working with me to figure out the right approach.
Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been contemplating whether or not to date a guy with bipolar. This comment is actually reassuring. Not like many of the other comments I’ve seen out there.
Thanks for sharing. I am trying to support my fiance in moments when episodes may come up. How do you deal with it if your husband says something hurtful to you?
Good points. Sometimes it is so hard to be there for the loved one.
@@jpretty2u Based on my experience, some things have just been so very hard. Ever person is different, I've had to learn to feel abused, alone and accused. I've had to go to events alone, there have been so many experiences I could not share with my wife because she could not bring herself to get ready and leave the house.
"I can't help you if you don't help yourself"
AAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
I'm guilty of saying this to my financee. I feel shitty about it... I'm learning more about her everyday and trying to understand her more. I have depression with anxiety disorder and I try to keep it in control but like her disorder it isn't as simple. I love her so much and am willing to do whatever I need to make sure we have happy lives together.
A sure way to get me thoroughly upset. Anyone who says that can't help me at all because they have no clue about the illness.
Besides, the only people I want "helping" me are the trained professionals on the treatment team.
I almost left my husband over that stupid ass comment.
Cee Lee It’s true though, majority of treatment is on you, you can go to therapy for 20 years and not change if you’re unwilling to pull your own weight during recovery.
It’s in the context of how it’s said that pisses me off especially by people who can’t even help themselves with an issue.
I have Bipolar 2 disorder and these are my suggestions to never say to someone who has this condition :
1 “You’re too thin skinned. You’re so sensitive. “
2 “You take everything so personal “ If this statement needs to be used to address a person with bipolar disorder, It should be done with sincerity, explanation and intention. Making assumptions are one of the biggest things that hurt and at times elicited triggers.
I’m not a health professional, just someone who’s had this condition for many years and has seriously considered suicide more than once. Therapy and support has saved me.
Amen to therapy and support! They save me, too. Blessings to you.
My mom used these against me all the time. Thank you for sharing
“Just snap out of it.” I told her it wasn’t that easy, but she kept hammering. 😤😤😤
My late husband said that to me once. What to hell? They act like you do something to get this way.
So called "normal people" have no idea what Bipolar illness is about.
“Why are you being so sensitive?” Instant rage! 😤
Try “jesus will help you”.
@@eduardochavacano lol don’t get me started bro. Are you Latino? I am. Most of my family think that. Haha
Oooooo that one is an instant rage button for me. I actually just recently got diagnosed and it explains so much....for years I thought I was just “insane”...b even after telling my mom about my diagnosis...she still says things like “you need to learn about being in the present moment and finding your happy place”...worst thing to say during a depressive episode :( no one else in my life knows and I feel so alone
@@roxycait8542 you’re not insane. We just have such a hard time controlling emotions. For me it makes me upset at myself you know? Like why am I so upset but I’m not even upset I’m just Upset if that makes sense. Like my mind and body wanna be upset but I don’t. I just can’t control the emotion. Hopefully seeing all these people go thru what you go thru helps you feel less alone.
Or you are overreacting
Mine would be "I can't talk to you now, I'll talk to you again when you can be more rational"
I appreciate your comment! As the partner of a bipolar individual, what is something that I could say in this situation instead?
@@shelbywright3712 👍
@@shelbywright3712 I’d say, “I’m not sure I’m understanding you as you want me to. Can we sit down over here (deescalate) and discuss it further?” And then don’t you “discuss” it, just LISTEN as they talk. It usually only takes a few minutes for them to fully express themselves. Then end it by sincerely saying, “Thanks for explaining it. I understand better now.” Then get up and go about your separate ways for a while (cooling off time). Warning ⚠️ Make sure to be sincere because they see through insincerity fast.
@@reFocusZone thank you, I so appreciate this! I took a screenshot and I'm going to write it down- and use it. This will help!!
Wtf you mean relax? 😆😑
Here’s a point that’s always missed. There is an assumption out there that the “bipolar” person is the one who ALWAYS mistreats their partner. The reality is that the so called “NORMAL” person is very often (I’d say 50/50) the one whose doing the abusing. When their partner is ill they will exploit and control and when they recover they often use the illness to control the relationship. It is close to impossible to find any information on the internet about this took, meaning it doesn’t exist. But it does.All searches DEFAULT to the normal person being abuse when nothing further could be from the truth. It’s monstrous and so annoying that this serious issue never meet the light of day. Anyone out there in the same situation ? Stephen in Ireland.
ABSOLUTELY!!!! Rob has a video taped and ready to be posted soon that addresses this. You are so spot on!
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I’m bipolar and my wife can be very abusive, but I am the one who is perceived as being abusive because of my past. It sucks
I divorced my ex because he did exactly what you described. Went through 9 years of hell.
@@juliespencer6549
21/12/2020
Hi Julie,
Thank you for your reply.
Better late than never.
Abuse is abuse especially when somebody is unwell, be it psychologically, physically or both. Absolutely NO excuse.
You were very brave and strong to have finished the nightmare.
Best regards,
Stephen Murphy 🇮🇪
But my BP friend turns into a catty frenemy when he's riding a high AND when I point out he's being mean and calling it funny he gets offended that I'm using his BP to explain this. I really dislike the spot this puts me in.
I work in the medical field and I have bipolar 1. It annoys the crap out of me when people say, “oh watch out for patient ______, he’s bipolar.” Or “watch what you do, he/she has bipolar” it makes me cringe. I feel like saying, I have it too, I’ve told a few people and they are shocked that I am bipolar. They have such negative views on us that I want to make invisible illness more visible and let them know we have good days too, especially on our meds and a good psych team.
"everyone is depressed and has anxiety, you just need some yoga and meditation, you'll be fine..."
Jio koti
bollocks
sorry anything teaching weren'twerent u understandI now Sorry
I am a huge fan of targeting food products that help with all kinds of issues. I can't remember what they are right now, but, if you look it up on TH-cam, you will find some suggestions that very well may improve your symptoms. At least to some degree. I wish you well. You know, we are all in a minority group in one area or another. Anyone who finds it easy to diagnose someone with an issue they know nothing about, along with treatment options... LOL, is also in some minority group or another. Maybe without awareness? I hope that you will seek out healthy support resources and check on the food thing. After all, that sounds like a day at the beach compared to constant intolerance and quite frankly, ignorance, individuals who know everything about very little. Much love and best wishes. PS, This is an afterthought. somehow I truly believe that your friends and family mean well. they just want to see you happy. At least, That's what I want to think.
fuck off to those bitches. I've been told that too many times.
"You're delusional.". That one hurts me the most.
Julie Jones good god I can’t agree more!
People actually say that shit god people are so god damn stupid
I have said it before...many times...especially in fights. Their is so much we can take hey, we as non bipolar sufferers can take hey, we are human too. So, we going to get angry aswell. And in anger will get said...unless we as non bipolar sufferers go start medicating ourselves to cope with your bipolar affliction. End of the day , it's all sad and depressing for everyone. That's why I took it upon myself to leave my relationship with my bp girlfriend, for my own sanity aswell as hers. I do try to still be there for her for some emotional support but the relationship? I had to let that go.
Sometimes it is true...
Omg yes. I’m so tired of being told that.
As someone who is very religious, I agree. I saw a video of a mom praying away her son's autism and it made me sad. Don't add salt in the wounds of people who already feel rejected by society. We just want to be loved as we are and supported within that.
Bipolar mom here and you hit it on the nail.... too much ignorance and people who speak with no knowledge. I hate having this illness. I was diagnosed over 20 years ago and still haven't been treated correctly. It wrecks me. I've heard many times, you're too pretty to be depressed, or what could possibly make you so upset? We already have a hard time loving ourselves, so when someone makes us only feel worse about our actions or emotional shortcomings it is very dangerous.... like you said... it IS a life threatening illness. I think I'm still in denial after going through hell on earth in my mind and wanting to end my life on many occasions. If i didn't have kids and parents who loved me I would of been one of those statistics of suicide. Real talk. Real illness we deal with. I consider myself a warrior no doubt. Thank you so much for your videos.
this disorder is not an excuse , it's an explanation
It really sucks to have to "explain" to people that have no clue. I just don't explain anymore...I don't owe anyone an explanation because they just turn around and "stab you in the back" anyway.
My late husband would say, "I wish you would snap out of this." Like as if I deliberately chose to be this way. Eee, gads.
Seems like judgemental people think we are just stupid.
Thanks for your comment & putting up with mine today! Be kind to yourself!!!
"You just need to learn how to cope with things better."
Killer Bungle my husband told me this (not in a bad way) and that’s when I knew this disorder I have is real cause he being “normal” is so confused about that being impossible. He’s trying so hard but just doesn’t understand it.
"Have you tried yoga?" THANK YOU ALL BETTER NOW 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Every therapist ever 😒
I mean we do need to learn to cope with things better. That is a huge goal in bipolar therapy. But it only does so much. You still have to address the malfunctions in our brain that we cannot fix through pure "willpower"
Yeah, coping skills are fun to work on. Lol
The worst thing you can say to someone who is bipolar is to get over the things that have traumatized you. I'm so glad I seen your great video. I'm subscribed, thank you so much.
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Sometimes the best way to help is simply to be a great listener. Don’t try and fix them. Just love them and accept them for who they are!!
🙌🏽 beautiful!
I had to constantly hear my family members compare me to my siblings or "the rest of society." Bipolar is a very unfair thing to be born with. But I'm still here because I was strong.
I am so glad you are still here! And watching videos or learning about it. I wish more people would do that. A very warm welcome to my channel :-)
Same it's so lonely
Yes it hurts when you know you’re very bright just like your family, but you didn’t go to me school or law school and only have a masters degree and that’s not good enough. My family is nuts! 😂
“Must be so convenient to have an excuse”
This really sets me off yea so convenient that I feel like my world is crumbeling around me or that I feel like ending it all.
julio0082 I have never heard that one before. That would really set me off.
That is horrible! Physically felt that one.
That is so horrible!
Hey julio nice to know you met my dad. What an asshole eh?
And yet I hear it almost daily. My mother. And she actually took the NAMI program for relatives of people who live with mental illnesses. I don't know if she does it on purpose but when I try to talk about this she's not in the mood. Another big one for me (two) is "You're the most intelligent person I've ever met! Why are you wasting your talents?" Because I'm SURVIVING. Lastly, "You're always so sensitive." Yes, I'm hypersensitive. All that you tell me, positive and negative, will be amplified emotionally. And no, I wish I could shake off the horrible aftertaste of that one but I can't. I'm ill, I'm suffering, I'm not going to be able to shake it off. I mean, I WISH MYSELF THAT I COULD! Maybe then I wouldn't be so scarred.
"Gently lovingly kindly approach the person "
"If i can do it, you can do it" which goes along with the "just snap out of it" thing
I had someone tell me it's a choice ... like TF why would I choose this?
Right! I was just reading another comment where someone's DOCTOR told them that "happiness is a choice." There are still so many stigmas out there, and I'll keep working hard to prevent some of that
I had one doctor tell me it's all in my head and I dont need medication like no shit really? Maybe it's called MENTAL illness for a reason.
I now have a wonderful doctor who's taking it seriously. He point blank asked me in one of my last visits "I was looking at your file and I see you have Bipolar II. Why AREN'T you on medications? WTF?" He said he wanted to try a medication to help with my anxiety and BPD. I'm on 100mg buproprion (sp?) twice a day.
I know it's not an end-all-be-all cure but so far it seems to be helping. I go in for my 4-week check up tomorrow to see if we need to adjust my dosage to that and my pain meds.
Side note: The chronic pain def doesn't help at all.
Catherine McDonald right?!! Wtf so much ignorance. They just don’t get it!!!
My mother basically said this to me and I eventually for the most part cut her out of my life and oh my God everything has been so much easier!
She literally asked me "you think maybe part of your problem is made up in your head?" And I said why the fuck would I make this up and choose to live this shitty life!? And I never thought I'd ever say this to my mother, but I told her to go fuck herself because that's that most hurtful thing anybody has ever said to me...
Mia Peralta: You can't reason with unreasonable people. It doesn't happen to them, so they don't believe it exists.
My favorite is “Bipolar is just an excuse for bad behavior”
rebquist rebquist Oh totally! It is so amazing what people will say to us sometimes. Hopefully as time goes on, more and more people will understand what it means to be bipolar and our struggles. Thank you for all of the comments and interacting with my channel.😊👍☀️
I am not bipolar but I love someone who is, when i found out this was what was told to me by some of my friends: it's just an excuse for the things they do that they shouldn't do... I was so mad!!! "Don't use that to excuse his behavior!" I said: It is not an excuse, but it helps understand it and they need understanding...
Mariajose Hidalgo Yes!!! Thank you so much for educating yourself on the disorder, especially if you love someone who struggles with it. You can help them out so much just by knowing about it. I hope you have a great weekend and thank you for stopping by my channel!😊😊
I wish people who say this could experience the pain, discomfort and embarrassment we experience when our Bipolar is not under control.
Lol people tell I am this all the time. But I refuse to expect it and just feel I am who I am
When I’m at my lowest and can’t do any chores nor activities it ticks me off that they tell me “if only you did something about yourself you would have helped around here” or “the only person who can help you is yourself”. Like please I do NOT want to hear that right now, you literally have no idea what it feels like to have bipolar.
Hi, I was just hospitalized due to a really bad manic episode and was just diagnosed with bipolar 1, and I’m so thankful that I found ur channel. Thank you so much for making these videos
What are manic episodes
@@sobiasarfraz8789 Google it.
@@sobiasarfraz8789 Manic episodes are when a person who has bi-polar goes into a state where they feel anything is possible. Anywhere from starting a business and spending all their money on it then turn around and don't do it. Shopping sprees. Everything is in excess, thoughts are running fast, lack of sleep, but one can accomplish a lot in a short time, it's whether it ends up being constructive or not. If there's no support someone can go into a psychotic episode which can be dangerous. At least that's how I experience it.
I’ve been called lazy by family and friends when I am so depressed I can’t get out of bed. I hate that. I’m not lazy I physically can’t get out of bed.
One time my step dad called me lazy for staying in bed all week when I was 19 ( I was going through a break up, AND I thought I was pregnant) I looked him straight in the eyes and said " I'm in bed because In bed is NOT where the knives are and I'm not strong enough right now to go where the knives are
Happiness is a choice...very triggering for me.
mrjimbodangles omg seriously my mom tells me this, I hate it!
Yeah. My husband has been manic all week. Since he has now 'chosen' to be happy, what advice do they have to offer? Because the guy that is waking me up at all hours, blowing through our bank account and tripping on druids, and clandestine government assasins, and telling me that he loves me even if I am not 'woke' is pretty happy, but it wasn't a choice. Depression is a drought, mania is a flood, and both are catastrophic. One crummy bucket of 'choose happiness!' more or less isn't going help!
You are trapped in the depths and I have been there. You make your purpose and you can make your self be less unhappy. Takes effort. You may need to find the things which give you the strength to find the effort. Marijuana and healthy eating. Learn about the gut biome.
My friend tells me we make are own life
@@chevybrother6945 - Your friend never had RA, or a mental illness I guess. Sometimes you make your own life... sometimes life makes YOU. Or breaks you. We do our best to live life to the fullest, but seriously, if you have an incurable debilitating disease, you have an incurable disease. We certainly didn't 'deserve' it or 'ask' for it in any way, if that is what you are insinuating. If you are not insinuating that, then my apologies, but I get tired of people who tell me I can optimistic, meditate or pray away my illness, and I get down right cranky when someone suggests that about my husband!
The fact that you can open yourself up this way is amazing.
I love what you are doing here and TANK YOU!
I'm very grateful for this channel. I have a close person with bipolar disorder and don't know much about it. Your content is seriously very helpful. I'm kind of relieved that it would never occur me to say any of these (which doesn't mean that I can't unintentionally slip up at some other time, so I'm making mental notes), but these are helping me.understand the magnitude of emotional struggle that I was kind of sensing, but was completely unable to interpret, leaving me in the dark about how to behave at all (sort of frozen).
How about a list of 10 things to OFTEN SAY to a person with bipolar that somehow helps.
That's a really good idea! 🤔🙏🌞
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Definitely need one of those videos on here for sure!
I totally agree on this !
@@g.s777 what?!?
yeah need a video of that for sure because this video made me feel pretty much I can't say anything!!!
"Everybody's dealing with something."
Had to throw this in there. "You just need to retrain your mind." - My mother uses this and it drives me absolutely crazy.
You're right ✅ on.
Read a publication some time ago - 5% of people on earth are like cuckoo..
At the rate we are facing with
Covid 19 pandemic and what not, 5%++ are on the cards.
Yes, we all have depression anxiety. My response, you still have a job...
Being Bi-polar to me is like a disturbing seesaw!!!!
This 😭 It makes me feel so invalidated.
Hearts and hugs to you all 🥰💕 Stay strong, you matter.
This made me open my eyes ! Sometimes we say things without thinking! Words might mean meaningless to some but to others it will cause harm !
I have Bipolar II Disorder, and SO many well-meaning people have asked me if I've prayed for healing. I am a Christian, and yes, I have prayed for healing. I also have an excellent healthcare provider, meds that keep me stable, and a long-term care plan. I'm going to live with this for the rest of my life. I consider myself blessed to have the means to take care of myself.
Lisa Herrling That is one of the most brilliant comments Lisa. You absolutely nailed it with the way you said that in my opinion. Spirituality has been such a huge part of my own growth, but I have realized on my journey that I need many different things to achieve a comprehensive treatment program that gives me the balance I need. I just can’t get that from one single source. A very warm welcome to my channel and stop back by anytime :-)
Amen. I have Bipolar 3 or Cyclothymia. I do love ❤️ the Lord and I know He’s got me. So, I don’t tell many other Believers. Sometimes, God just gets us through our problems not remove them. I just lean on him more.
I am a Christian also, which is very important to me. And sometimes I see a real
increased level of compassion in myself, which I am thankful for.
But, it is still not alot of fun.
As I got older mania became
anxiety alot of the time, which has become a more commonly reported experience.
Yes, you are blessed to have the means to take care of yourself.
I have been on meds for BP for 10 years now. I'm also a believer in JESUS, and I too prayed for healing in the beginning. I love being in church, but there are times when I need to stay home and take a nap( I get up at 4am every day, but Saturday). I am sure that GOD understands, my wife and my Pastor both want me to take the nap on those days. I think that several people in the Bible may have had Bipolar disorder. David is a great example for us, and maybe Paul. There are others who seem to have had some issues as well Jonah for 1. I thank GOD for the love of JESUS and my wife and a good friend. Knowing that they were and are there for me is huge. Take care and GOD be with you
Getting told prayer is all you need hurts me deeply as a Christian and as a bipolar sufferer. I tell my mom all the time that I definitely want prayer and I pray too. Being bipolar doesn’t make me a non Christian and being a Christian doesn’t make me not bipolar.
I could see how hurtful that would be! I wanted to give you a little shoutout Virginia for being a subscriber for one year! Thank you so much!
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My pastor is also Bipolar so I have a connection with him a lot. I have been diagnosed bipolar 1 since I was 18 but I had the signs since I was 12. I met my pastor when I was at my worst of it at 15 and we have talked for years. Being a Christian who deals with bipolar also made me feel like I could express myself to him. Tell him how I really felt and him to not brush me off. Honestly he didn’t and I am grateful for that! I have thought of him like a mentor to my spiritual growth as well to my mental health. I am grateful that I talked with him 13 years ago and do not regret it either.
Omg i get so depressed and disappointed in myself when i make sinful decisions. I learned that god loves us all individually and he knows us better than anyone
Im bipolar.
I pray in this way .
Lord all that is not of you or shall keep me from drawing ever closer cast far from me .
Suffering transformed into a mystical dimension is thé corner stone to thé path of holiness .
Sée what thé martyrs of Russia endured and bé inspired .
I love saint Gregory Krug . Hé spent time in a psychiatric hospital . Hes got m'y back and understands all our pain . Hes one of my heavenly friends plus he was an icon writer ( painter ).
Peace
Dear Rob,
Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge. I have had bipolar for 50 years, that does not mean that it gets better with time, but it is most reassuring that I am not alone. Continue doing what you are doing because it has certainly helped me.
Warm regards
Byron Savory
Hey. I subbed because my girlfriend has been diagnosed with bipolar, thankfully as a person with depression there is a lot of overlap on what not to say!
I wanted to say that I really appreciate how gentle you are in talking about this, mostly towards people who only see bi-polar from the outside. My girlfriend gets frustrated because she doesn’t feel her diagnoses has been very well explained to her, and she really hates it when people tell her that what she’s going through is ‘normal’, it’s basically a swear word in our house right now. I don’t want her to feel isolated, like what she’s going through is totally unknowable or that each time she has an episode it’s not always that hard on people around her if we’re paying attention. Her problem has a name, it’s knowable, we can find a way to work through this, over and over again if necessary. I mostly just don’t want her to be so scared anymore.
So, thank you very much for your work. I’m going to send her the odd one so she can watch these in her own time.
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Another one is, “you’re crazy,” or, “ you’re psycho. “
That's when I give them my wild-eyed, crazy grin and my John Astin impression from the show, "Night Court"... "Oh, but I'm MUCH better NOW!" lol
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NaeNae’s Club ...I hear this a lot from my 65 year old sister.
I just own it. I got nothing to hide. The people that ever said that in my life were mad at me lol. Expecting to hurt me.
This goes for anyone even yourself.
ill say ty, ty for the comment, ty.
I really appreciate how he says 'we' and not 'I' or 'you'
Josh Sharma Thanks Josh!!! I go through a lot to choose my words carefully on this channel as best as I can. I’m still learning but saying the wrong thing to thousands of Bipolar individuals isn’t a good idea ;) lol
lol such a funny but extremely accurate reply Rob ;-)
Thank you so much for this video! My daughter is bipolar one and she has recently been diagnosed! This is going to be one hell of an eye-opener for many many people in her life
Watching your videos makes me emotional to the point I have horrible anxiety. Well worth the panic attacks and the subsequent calming exercises I have to do after watching. I enjoy this channel despite the responses to that I have. At least I can watch one of these and feel emotional and tear up and cry a little bit sometimes but it's better than just being numb. So that I can prove to myself daily that I can feel things
"Have you tried meditation and mindfulness?" honey, I'm buddhist
you make me laugh. I got someone asked me to yoga too or do some light exercise... ah well.. How can I do all that stuff when i don't have the will of live too? hufh
Oh wow, yea, mindfulness, don’t get me started
Mindfulness cannot switch off a mood swing.
@@JimiSurvivor I swing so hard but through meditation and mindfulness I am able to put another perspective on my thoughts. Still do some stupid shit even when I know what's happening.
Or you just need your vitamins. Ughhhh 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️!!!
"You only care about yourself" when i am to tired or my brain feels foggy and i cant do any chore at home
I'm WITH you
Same here! Sometimes I wish I could have people enter my mind and then I could tell them "c'mon pick yourself up by your bootstraps"!
@@danielfinger6223 yeah they cant get and most of them wouldnt be able to stand it
Yes. And thats why im a hoarder 🙃
yesss i get this all the time when i'm depressed, or "we shouldn't have to be victims of your mood swings" when i don't do my chores at home
Thank you. Living with the consequences of choices (made when manic) also hurts, knowing that being estranged from one’s own children ( 2 out of 3) and grandchildren (5 out of 8)...because of being ‘unstable’...is a very sad consequence yet I have to find a way to live through this ‘grief’...thank you for making this.
Hope that there is some way forward and you can reunite with your loved ones . When I had a manic episode and behaved in such a shameful way my daughter did not hear from her or speak to me for 3 years .We are back on speaking terms and meeting up again don't give up hope ❤
This is so accurate and well explained. Thank you. Other favourites sure to flip me into an extreme outburst of anger are “have you tried going for a walk?” and “here’s a book I read about a positive mindset, you should read it”.
Oh and I almost forgot - “I think you just need to be a bit emotionally stronger”.
@@StevieVBrown people who love you are trying to help the way they know how. I would recommend a DBT course as supplementary treatment. It helps with emotional regulation and awareness. When someone suggests to read a book about positive mindset, they are not trying to “cure you,” they are just sharing what helped them. Even if you are bipolar, those book may help.
"you don t look bipolar"
" it s all in your head "
" you are so strong and happy all the time " ( since they don t see the other side )
" you are crazy and always spend a lot of money on useless stuff "
" i don t believe in mental illness"
" reading about mental illness is scary you might catch it "
i get that a lot,'its all i your head.'
"It's all in your head" is a funny one... Do they realize that reality is understood thru the brain? So, if it's just in ones head, that seem pretty serious and shouldn't be so casually dismissed.
Horrible things is even my psychologist said you are not having any problem. But i know i have the bipolar within me. He said you are a goood smart person 😀.
" you are crazy and always spend a lot of money on useless stuff " so trueeeeee OMG
I was in prison with a guy who told me bipolar rage is just a reason to convince me to take their psychotropic medications. He said all mental illness is psychosomatic. He's full of crap.
"Everyone is bipolar sometimes" that was the one hahaha I've heard that plenty of times
jeremyshreds182 Said all the dummies out there that have no understanding of what bipolar behavior really is. They don’t even know what is like to have a manic or hypomanic episode nor could they even pretend lol
jeremyshreds182 yes that’s a bad one for sure. It is so insensitive.
That one really pisses me off out of all them
Can this be related to “Everyone loses their arms sometimes” ?
I just re-watched this one after a long time. Wow, it is really impactful, so comforting for those of us with bipolar to understand that these things people say are misguided and should not make us feel guilty for not curing ourselves. Thank you Rob!
We need more videos like this. Not enough people bring enough attention to mental health, as someone who struggles with mental health I understand that you can't express that you have these issues because people who don't struggle with them either think your making up excuses to act up or they demonize you and make you the bad person which only makes things worse by bringing out bitterness and anger.
“Just pray about it, and everything will be fine. There are people out in the world who aren’t as blessed as you.“
Sounds like my father who is a minister and should know better
Pray and everything will be fine, whatever Are these bible bashing, do gooders, god bothering idiots actually serious, if there was a god he wouldn’t give us this problem, I also have cancer, Multiple sclerosis, Crohn’s disease and a titanium cage round my spine, now tell me to pray that away don’t think it would work somehow, I smile and laugh and never sit on my arse, I’m always on the go and this is how I deal with my problems, and a shit ton of meds for it all, this way people don’t think there’s anything wrong with me and that’s how I like it, the less people know the better , then they treat as like a normal healthy person instead of people that just focus on my Health and not me the person that’s under the health issues
I also hate it when people casually say they have ocd because they like things in s particular order. Rarrgh.
Thank you. My daughter is bipolar and I’m learning so much. I want to be educated and I’m trying many sources but I find your channel has the best Info. Thank you again.
“Stop taking your anger out on me, I think your meds are making you worse” this one breaks my heart and makes me contemplate if the meds really are working, then I go over my overthinking stage.
In not so many words: “You’re a flake”. I’ve heard this so so much. I’ve got Bipolar 2 and people don’t understand that I’m not TRYING to skip out on responsibilities, it’s just that depressed me can’t live at the same pace as hypomanic me.
I 100% agree! This! So this!
This right here!!!!! My life is chaotic as it is and staying on time for anything is torture. People really don't understand how hard it is to do simple tasks at times because it's painfully emotionally mentally and physically hard to. The anxiety and depression takes over and the darkness can last for months withing that rabbit hole, I'm also bipolar 2 with PTSD and I suffer from alot of memory loss as well. My friends use to joke about I'll be late to my own funeral, but they don't understand how much I struggle to stay on time or to do things.
The statement ' Everyone is a little bipolar at times" is very dismissive of the severity of the symptoms😔is
Sad how overused the word is now.
@@insomniacat0088 I'm not bipolar, and I'm rarely on time. I just tell my friends when we start meeting up that I'm usually a bit behind. -Those who care, should be able to just accept it. No need for guilty feelings or too much explaining, unless you feel they're getting offended. A basic explanation should help two mature people understand that there's a reasoning behind it, not a personal vendetta.
I would hear things like, “stop being so sensitive” or “you’re so moody.” It solidified in my mind that my thought process was not normal, and made me feel guilty for feeling the way I do.
I understand the guilt. I second guess myself, am I really bi-polar? Am I pretending to be bi-polar? I've even gone so far as to ask my own psychiatrist this.
I'm so thankful I found your channel. I'm crashing as I type.
"Tomorrow will be better." That one slays me.
Thank you for this! I’m newly diagnosed and making sense of it all and I’ve shared it with a few people close to me. I’ve also had ongoing mental health struggles like most people who eventually get a bipolar diagnosis and I’ve heard many ignorant comments for most of my life.
One person who meant well recently said, after describing what I now to be manic/hypomanic symptoms that I was just excessively buying things to distract myself or make myself feel better about something and everyone has times like this. It was difficult because it’s already so hard to make sense of.
In a more general sense just the “everyone does that” or “I’ve done/felt that way too though” has always gotten me.
Or the “well yeah, but you still have responsibilities” when someone really doesn’t understand that just because you know and are responsible for what you do in life, bipolar and many other mental illnesses do NOT CARE about your responsibilities. They don’t wait until a slow time in life to come out.
❤ Truth
"I know how you feel" is one that grates my carrot the most...
Galen Schultz. ..."grates my carrot". Lol 😂 🤣 I'm stealing this one 🙋
You got that right.
They have no idea!
Stay strong. Be kind to yourself!
“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”
THAT. ONE.
I’ve realized the reality of it is “What doesn’t kill you makes you want to die.”
I can totally relate!
What doesn't kill us makes us who we are.
That or what doesn't kill you, is sometimes because EMTs are good at their job. Then everyone loves to just blame you and how selfish you are. Lol
no it does not
Agreed
Thanks for your info. Being tactful goes a long way.
What a noble, truthful, insightful, helpful video. Thank you!!!!
My favorite, "you stress me out" like I don't stress my enough.
I stress ME out, TOO!
Both can be true
People say I need to get out more, do things, etc. I can only handle trips to store or doctor, otherwise I stay home.
sons. It is a self stress; esp when done too often.
Dorothy Edge ...I’m the same way.
I hate when people tell me this, especially family😢!!!!
You are not alone.. 🙏 As I Wholeheartedly Agree....I live it
When I am high,I am everywhere.During low,I imprison myself.I am safe.Others are safe
You are freaking smart! I'm so glad to know a bp friend like u❤️
This is spot on. Here we are in 2022 and people still do not have a clue. I needed this. I'm struggling really bad today. My mania is probably upper 90's on a scale of 1-100. People who think it's just so easy for someone who is Bipolar to be happy are completely clueless. There's times when they're talking to me I literally don't hear a word although I'm looking right at them. In my mind I'm so irritated and frustrated, because they're trying to tell me it's easy to be happy, that I can imagine myself either knocking them. People that have known me for a long time still don't have a clue. Sorry if I'm rambling all over the place. I feel like I'm losing it.
Someone tells me, "Talk to me when you feel better" just makes me rage
Ben valdez ooooo that’s a good one Ben 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
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just don t talk to them ever again , either they accept both sides or neithe of them
My personal favorite, heard many times, “Why don’t you just take a walk?” Arghh!
To which I would answer, "Why don't you go take a hike."
Or.. go have a cup of tea.
Baruch Ben-David 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣
I go for really long walks every day. It sometimes helps me, sometimes it makes me feel exactly the same or worse.
It's still a healthy physical habit though.
As a teen when I still lived with my mother, she would antagonize me and I would shut down and internalize my negative emotions to the point of boiling over, then she’d tell me this exact shit. I would walk a half mile and come back to the house... by that point I’d riled myself up so bad that I was FUMING. Gah. Bad memories.
Thank you for this list, it's very helpful. Even well-meaning people can say some pretty unhelpful and offensive things. Before I got diagnosed and had constant depression as a teen, I broke down one day and told my dad that I wish my depression was more tangible and visible, like a broken leg. So that people could understand how much I was suffering.
Yes! Most people do not realize that there are so many invisible disabilities.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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I have bipolar! And he is the real deal and truly understands. Thank you for spreading awareness! ❤😊
This one's that get under my skin the worst would be
"You're just being dramatic" 😩
And "you have a perfect life what do you have to be sad about?" Yeah real perfect.. when you actually see me out and about. But before then I was in bed for 10 days wishing I was dead.
Thanks for your channel 👍
“You just need to learn how to budget and discipline your self control” when I’m manic and trying not to spend all my money
I was told by my social worker that I was not to 'give into temptation' but to resist the urges that came with the condition; 'you should say to yourself 'no, today I will not spend any money". Communicating with him can make me very ill.
Paige OMG do they think we don’t regret it and we don’t see the effects after what we have done and what our credit looks like
I have heard this so many times, I could just throw up!
Duh. Shopping makes it feel better. Then u regret what you buy or forgot u bought it in the first place
Indeed.
THANK YOU!! I REALLY APPRECIATE THIS...SOME OF THESE REALLY PISS ME OFF
Thank you so much for doing this channel! I found this video while doing research about my recent diagnosis, and some of these things have been said to me just recently by a friend I'm pretty close to, and you're right, she's innocent in her understanding and did not really know what her statement would mean to me. But this is something that I see is going to take time to understand, just for myself, even though I've lived with it most of my life. I made a promise to myself at 39 I was going to get some help and keep looking until I found a medication that worked.... first therapist told me I had bipolar, recent therapist thought it was major depressive disorder, now the recent therapist is seeing that I'm responding well to a medication for bipolar so we are back to the drawing board. Thank you so much for what you do!
I hear "I understand" alot which makes me want to slap someone, no you don't. Unless you ride this rollercoaster of hell you really don't
James Pomraning right. Pisses me off
Or, "I really do care about you", then they fail big time at actually listening to you.
That is exactly how it is a friggin’ roller coaster of hell!!! And no body ever helps!! Nothing helps all shrinks I have seen cannot or will not help because I self medicate due to I gotta get thru this friggin day!!!!! I have been a minister born again!!! I still suffer this hell!!!
Did you ever think maybe they were saying they understand that your not doing so well?
Your just looking on the negative side
People will stop wanting to understand and help you if your go to is anyone who says the wrong thing by accident deserves a slap
James Pomraning I lived with someone who suffered so much with bipolar. I felt compassion, but I couldn’t understand, there is no way to. So what can someone do other than leaving you alone, or say? Maybe: I can see this time is really hard for you., and I am here if you need anything.! I mean what else can those of us who do not have the condition do ?
I wish there was a "normal" button.
Lisa Marie Macabre Right!!! If you find one, let me know too!! LOL 😊😊
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Lisa Marie Macabre I am bipolar there is no such thing as normal it is just a setting on your washing machine
i have bipolar but i would only use the wish "to normal button" if i am depressed.
Lisa Marie Macabre oh but there is! It’s right by the “come to Jesus” and the “go try natural medications” buttons! 😂
Thank you for all that you have shared. I will try and keep in touch with your TH-cam . God Bless your mission. Please keep helping..you understand.
Thank you so much for making this video. I learned a lot about how to handle my sister's diagnosis of bipolar.
My personal favourite is ‘it’s all in your head’ as if that makes it ‘not real’. Like yes I know it’s in my head that’s the problem!
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Exactly,The ignorant people say it
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Next time, say "Yeah it is. That's how mental illness works. Where else would it be? In my knees?"
Yes!!! Thanks for that!!!!
The first one mentioned hit me in the chest. "Why don't you just snap out of it?" Just you saying it, verifying it happens to others gives me some comfort. Thank you.
BohoRho I am so happy that you found the video helpful and valuable! That’s exactly what I’m here for… To help as many people as I possibly can. Educating others and helping people increase their self awareness is so important. Thank you for jumping in the conversation and welcome to my channel :-)
Oh, were it just that easy!
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I absolutely hate when someone says "take a pill or something"
What? I'm taking a pill! My meds are great, but they're not 100% effective 100% of the time.
I’ve recently been diagnosed with bipolar your videos are so helpful to myself and family your amazing keep it up