0:45 -#1: Jealousy 2:06 -#2: Easily affected by others' opinions 4:07 -#3: Sadness, Hopelessness 6:01 -#4: You focus on other people more 7:43 -#5: Making excuses Thanks Erin for a profound and well thought out video.
Sounds like you've watched Fight Club to many times. I've watched it 19 times... and this was fantastic. What if all big youtubers who have million of subscribers talked about the things you are... instead of clothes, make up & how to get guys.
+Filips Äventyr You see what you expose yourself to, there are tons of educational and interesting channels such as Crashcourse, Vsauce, PBS Idea Channel, Every Frame a Painting etc etc and they are all very popular. While on the other hand this video in particular is just a motivational video with anecdotal evidence at best. I mean, she mostly just states the obvious.
+Filips Äventyr If you can draw inspiration from that, what's the big deal? There are many things in life you can turn to motivators in your life. Her message is great but I have a sort of negative vibe about pretty girls and useful advice not going hand in hand. It's something I'm trying to beat but that's the truth. I do not have any female role models in my life but this girl (woman) is quite deep in her videos. Personally I prefer to read her blog or hear a podcast or what I"m doing now; listening to her advice in the background. All her points hit home. It's like she's describing me and many people I know.
This exact video is the thing that changed my entire outlook in life, I never thought this video would have such an impact on my life, Erin you are an inspiration and a legend I thank you for your honesty and clarity. I’ll always go back to this video and be grateful of your help.
Some of it sounds nice but you need to understand that if the opinion of other people doesn't affect you in anyway than you won't be able to grow. People's opinions should affect you in a small way, not in a huge way to make you miserable or do things you wouldn't normaly do but their opinions could help you stay on a straight path and be in line with normal behaviour and acceptable/appropriate social conduct.
That's exactly what I think. Combine that with intelligence & beauty & you got a powerful weapon. I am glad she his using these skills/perks for the greater good & make inspiring videos like this instead of wasting her potential just like so many people unfortunately do, like she explained in this video. I hope you will inspire as much people as you can. Thanks Erin for sharing these truths! Keep on doing what you do best & keep smiling to the world!
Do true interactive transformational WORK like Choice Center in Vegas. Every video you'll ever watch online is a spectator level experience. That's why years of browsing TH-cam brings no significant change/improvement/results. It's like one feel good movie after another. On to the next one.
I am not saying that is wrong for you dembsey, it could be exactly what you need. But if you apply what you've learned. You apply what you've learned. If you don't, you just watch.
Lostt watch? Yes. Listen to? Negative, Ghostrider. Not everyone can be successful, no matter what this broad says to the contrary. Her utopia does not exist. It never will, either.
@@boofert.washington2499 no you're right. But no master at something(art, guitar, chess etc) has ever become a master without doing what they love and connecting with their passion.
I dont understand why is the comment section filled with negativity and hate? She is presenting an advice, an outlook that honestly, will not harm you in any way if you just take a moment to reflect and consider MAYBE just MAYBE theres some value of truth? Its generally a postive video that pushes you to be a better version of yourself! Doesnt suit you and how you live your life ? Move on! We need more intellectual and deep-reflective videos like these in the internet !
I was just about to concede to a certain way of life, but after watching this video, I am now determined to follow my heart and do what I know I should be doing and stop making excuses.... THANK YOU!!!
You're an awesome person. A large fraction of female youtubers go with make-up tutorials, vlogs and any of the sort. But yours is more about self-development and bettering oneself--which goes to show that you're far more than just your looks.
I needed this :) Realized a year ago that I'm working TOO MUCH and spending money out of a desire to fulfill an emptiness. Gotta let go of the fear and step back from working so much.
Needed this! I am on a much better path than a year ago, starting our own business, but have so much left to do to get on track. New subscribers and supporters! Love everything you stand for!
This implies that their is some perfect essence ( or platonic form) to everyone that we could theoretically reach if we only applied ourselves enough. I have no reason to think such a thing exists. Perhaps it would be more fruitful for us to be happy with ourselves regardless of what we are doing with our lives. To not hold out for that great dream and enjoy life for what what we already have.
You're not supposed to get everything you want; studies in primates have shown that if you hook up stimulators to their brains that they can control themselves they'll just sit there hitting the orgasm button until they starve. "Oh, that Man's reach should exceed his grasp, or else what is a Heaven for?"
There is, why wouldn't there be? Of course it's not as simple as a single rule but depending on your roles in life, there is an abstract ideal of things like partner, parent, friend, etc. Act in such a way that things are as good for you as they would be for someone you are looking after, but that way has to also be good for your family, friends, society, and expanding out to that infinitely. The problem with putting happiness above everything else is there is no reason not to just shoot up heroin until you die in a crack house if happiness is all you want. And the problem with being happy with what you have (see: complacent) is that you'll never improve. You shouldn't hate yourself but self-improvement is essential.
If everyone was Leonardo da Vinci, no one would pollute the streets to begin with. And we would probably invent robots to clean them anyway. And we wouldn't overpopulate, and things would perhaps be a lot more chill.
I have seen this video on my recommendations for a few weeks now. Now I finally clicked on it and wow I am so glad I did. This type of channel is something ive been looking for a looong time :)
Erin Janus u are one of the most compassionate human being on. Human are born everywhere but humanity is born only is some places. Your parents must be so proud of you
Emptiness is your highest gift. Don't run away from it. Fulfillment doesn't come by a certain lifestyle but by realizing our true nature, not identifying ourselves with the body-mind. You have good intentions, but you are speaking from your persona, your ego. The self has absolutely not one goal or purpose in life. It just is, it pure consciousness. Love you from the bottom of my heart.
thats fine if you are a totally karma less being who has reached the buddha stage. for the rest of us, we are still doing things and undoing things, living and what have you...
Well Free Flow, I disagree with your opinion. We have a body and a mind and those are wired to do stuff. The highest possible form of joy comes through creating and sharing that creation with others or just doing something you really love that does not harm others, as we are also wired to live together in harmony. Living together in harmony requires greater effort than alone thus being more evolved. And to make it clear, Love is the highest gift :)
Your viewpoint and hers are simply points of view. You're judging her choice / path which doesn't feel like emptiness to rme. Your 'emptiness' seems like an intellectual exercise rather than a state of being. Allow all expressions of the One.
Key points discussed in this video: Sign #1 Jealousy Sign #2 Easily affected by others Sign #3 Sadness, emptiness, hopelessness Sign #4 You waste time on others Sign #5 Make excuses on things your can't
its quite amazing that someone produces a video advising that you should be focused on your own path...and then you read the comment section, lol, did some of you miss the point, and don't waste time replying, I'll be to busy getting on with life... thanks again for a great vid Erin.
+Tea Dawg not possible. look deep inside what u liked to do as a child..that helped me a lot, im telling u by expirience this feeling is a result of other things. all people have dreams and passions they are just "covered" with everyday problems and trauma that we have been expiriencing.....
+Lydia Papaioannou I look deep inside all the time but I see nothing. Nothing really excites me anymore either. I guess I should be saying this to a shrink instead of a stranger on youtube, eh?
+Tea Dawg First of all, I believe that we are all One... made of the same stuff so to speak. So in my opinion there is no such thing as a stranger. That's why I feel free to step into this conversation :-) In some cases it is really okay to 'see or feel nothing'. That means that you can start to fill yourself with 'new' stuff. The whole Universe is at our 'service' . Only you know things in 'the past' that made your Heart Sing. Even if those things seem to be so small or insignificant in your own eyes. If it made you happy, really happy for the 'good reasons.. Just.DO IT AGAIN :-) Namasté
+Eugenie Mac Gillavry thank you for you're helpful and sweet reply, i needed that :) +Tea Dawg not at all! thank you for asking the same question I've had for years! its such a difficult place to be in life, atleast for me, because its not like i am a lazy unmotivated person, my strength and work ethic is there! i make other people happy all the time ...but what is my passion? purpose? what would make me truly happy?.. i still don't know :( and by now i feel like this ''mental block'' has made me so stressed and anxious. i want so badly to have passions, to be a full person. please universe, help us get in tune with our souls, i know i can do better
+Tea Dawg sometimes strangers give the best of the answers we can get. i wish i could be more "open" when i was in my dark phase and listen to others more.. life has ups and downs and these may last longer than we are "capable of handling".. i know that. its hard. BUT u have to start thinking that in this period of your life u have TIME. time to explore old and new things-passions. what u did.. what u didnt.. this process can be very painfull. i know that also. but i tell u it worth it and when u finally change life becomes lovely again. u see.. first u have to realise the situation (in which case u are) , then accept it and eventually change.... many times i think that if we havent these "dark phases" we couldn't apreciate love and happines. i hope my words help u to see things differently i really do, even though i havent met u nor i ever will, but your comment ringed a bell so i replied in the same way i wish someone had told me then... :)
True, but we can give higher or lower attention (to such "behaviours") if that wasn't possible Meditation wouldn't be a Reality. Humans has an amazing capacity of flexibility some societies can be extreme individualistic/competetive, as others can be highly cooperative/sharing (even in a scarce envionrement).
After spending the last 2 weeks depressed out of my mind, I started watching your video and within a few minutes I decided to look at other jobs after being stuck somewhere I don't want to be, I've been looking for so long and I have just applied for my dream job! I feel a tiny spark enlightened inside me, I really needed this motivation! Thank-you. 🙏
Best version of myself? How about taking care about the whole family alone. Mother that is sick for years, dog, that has a cancer and father. It was like this for years in my case. How the hell can you make that decision? To leave them alone, leave them behind - if you are aware that they will not survive on their own. I can not walk through the patch of my choice. We often were born in wrong families. People that are holding as back, and that are loving us at the same time. I know your intentions. It was a very good video. You are really absorbing woman. I agree with what you said. The thing is - sometime - we have to make sacrifices. Just to be decend. Just to be there for people that will never undersand us. They are incapable of doing this shift while I feel that I'm able to do so. But I will not let them behind me. I will just support them the way I can - til everything will come to an end...
+Nizahe Ⓥ Its good that you have your priorities set, because you could call that a passion as well. I also agree with what she is saying, but it is very general and much easier said than done. I understand your troubles and wish you all the best.
+Ron Carvalho he never said that he was unhappy. and never did he said that he's blaming anyone for it. he is simply stating his priorities and that is a very good thing! If you love someone dearly, you will be with them through thick and thin. if your wife is suffering from an illness and she needs you more than ever, would you leave her behind so you can pursue your own selfish needs? that is not Self-Realization. That is Selfishness. +Nizahe Ⓥ you are doing the right thing! be proud of yourself for being a caring human being. the world needs more people like you.
Holy goodness. This is GOLDEN. I'm at a point where I wanna become a youtuber. There are other aspirations I have but right now TH-cam has got to be the hardest thing I've done. Thanks for this video. Thanks a lot.
Erin Janus u are one of the most compassionate human being on. Humans are born everywhere but humane/humanity takes birth and survives only is some places. Your parents must be so proud of you
I'm seriously depressed because i wanted to be a doctor but my mother but me down so i studed accounting and actually graduated and my mom wants me to find a job but i know in my heart i still dream of achieving my dream
+Alia Albinali Then become a doctor. It's your life, not your mother's. I'm sure she is coming from a place of caring, but imagine what you might feel like lying on your death bed never having tried to achieve your dream. No one looks back on their life at the very end saying "I wish I had made more money, or I wish I had driven a nicer car." Only you know what is right for you. I encourage you to go for it!
There is a thing that is called happiness fatigue. What if you had everything. What if you did everything you wanted to achieve. Being happy is not about the things, or success of bonus points. It's more about the daily fun, colorful and interesting things. There is no path for that. It's a continuous process of being aware of the good things in life.
Seriously? I haven't even viewed the video yet because I recently indulged in the sin of reading comments. Happiness Fatigue? Never heard of it. We exist in HELL! How about Hell fatigue? Your words are called Dog Latin because you were taught the Spell of thinking that words and presumed meanings could somehow shape the whirled around you, however, Happiness as defined by those who taught you these words as in: "The Pursuit of Happiness" is: the ability to profit in business. Peace, by those same dualistic demons of dementia is "the State of War where Commerce Proceeds". Fun and colorful flames licking up the caverns of Hell. Yeah, that sounds delightful. My 'path' is to destroy Evil. I will never be 'happy' until that is done and no memory of it ever exists.
Thank you Erin !!! That's the kick in the ass I think we all need !!! As an artist life is a struggle but still worth it !!! I shell try to stay focused on what matters !!!
I love the way you say “people who have helped me doubt myself” as opposed to maybe saying “made me” or “make me”. And I love that you kept that section more about you. You are quite amazing. You may enjoy the “I” challenge. I attended a mindfulness mediation and discussion group and we challenged ourselves to only say “I” as opposed to “we” or “you”. It was extremely uncomfortable, annoying and weird for me to do, but it was powerful and made me own what I was saying more and I believe people were much more receptive to what I was saying. Your example “people who have helped me doubt myself” as opposed to having said “people who help us doubt ourselves” was so much more powerful. I enjoy all the beautiful work you are doing! And great advice - have you ever read “The Artist Way?” - it has a great chapter on jealously that you might appreciate.
#4. Wow, My soon to be ex-wife will talk hours on end about other people and does so in the name of "caring"... I'd say it was a leading frustration in our 18 yr marriage. I finally had it when in the beginning stages of sex one evening, she answered a call from a friend. I considered it was an emergency, but turns out it wasn't and her friend just wanted to talk about her diabetes meds. Still listening to the conversation next to her in bed, she began to asknher friend about her kids.... when she got off the phone 20 mins later, she began to text someone and then turn away from me and went to sleep.
This sounds like my neighbor. She is obsessed with knowing my business. Shes always watching me asking people about me and causing trouble for me. I feel she is jealous of me because i am happy living a simple life. I have nothing to speak of. Her on the other hand is so materialistic its unreal. I dont have friend , I have my animals and ive very happy with my life.
I think she meant jealous actually, you can be jealous because you're so unhappy and you kind of want everyone around you to align with the way you're feeling.
Vicky you may envy someone's wealth and the life style it allows You may be jealous if a woman is dancing with your husband because you're worry she may steal him away She may envy you because she is still single and you're not People mix these words up and still communicate So yes, it matters little
Dunn Jefferson Sure, you'll never be happy if you're always trying to live up to your 'potential'. Your potential is actually how you are right now, so if you can accept that and be content, then you'll be happy and ironically you'll likely create a better future for yourself as a result (though this is not the goal). Be happy now, there's no other time to do so :)
+Think Vegan only if it comes with expectations of an actual outcome...thats setting boundries towards able dissapointments potentials r possibilities not actualised yet.. a spark of hope..and i believe not having hope is the actual trap..i believe potentials are all about the road to anywhere ..not somewhere..
Wow, beautiful, relevant wisdom from a soul who's faced and overcome enough challenges to communicate directly to other souls. Rare and precious. Thank you. You have a gift. Keep going, go deeper and keep growing and sharing.
I haven't been on the right path lately and this video is so inspiring . I've been watching all of your videos tonight because I came across you and love what you have to say and teach . I truly agree with everything I've watched tonight and it's so eye opening , sad , yet so inspiring , positive and true ! Thank you and please keep making these informative videos !!! ❤ Ive been trying to love myself and stop my bad habits for a couple years and still have not quite succeeded but I really want to !
Wow! What a powerful message! Thanks for laying this out so I can use it as a guide to achieving my own fulfillment while also “being the change I’d like to see in the world 🌎”. I ❤ you Erin!
A meme promoted by the Matrix movies is that there is only cause/effect. If there is free will then it comes with the responsibility and consequences that no one has the balls to face so free will may indeed exist but has been abdicated therefore it is as good as dead.
Just stumbled upon your channel, and love the content you create. This video especially resonates with me. For the past few years I've been striving towards something I knew deep down wasn't what I actually wanted, and I suffered from an addiction the entire time. As soon as I decided to give up that path, the addictions strength ceased and I've been able to live free of it since. Think you're right on point with this message. Thanks for taking the time to make this, I know you had you're own struggles and blocks, so thanks for pushing through them and being a light for the world. Shine on 😊
Hey Erin, thanks for your video. I literally just turned it on for background noise while I am taking care of some grunt work, and I actually didn't expect for you to share some very insightful and perceptive information. Thanks for taking the time to create this video. You showed up in my recommended videos, and happy you did. I'll be sure to follow you on all your socials to give you my small support. Keep it up, Erin. - CD
+yashia96 I think that could be used in a way that gives us permission not to take action and responisibility, if we ''blame'' our existence on a God, and expect him to give us everything we want without any effort or change from our part. It's basically just another excuse.
worship the Creator & not his Creations😎🌐🏧🌟🌈💞🎎🌐❓ Dreams R Unlimited but Life is Limited Creator has Guidance for Mankind through his massengers😇 Plz Read Qur'an for Purpose of Life🌈🌟 thanks😎 Welwisher🌈
wtf, i dont know what happened, but in a moment i looked in your eyes and got overwhelmed, like their was a deeper connection. You are so wise, often battling with depression, sometimes is difficult, i wish there were more people to talk about these things. Sometimes i feel i have to be more superficial and dont think much about it because i might get depressed, sometimes is hard to escape your feelings, also i feel that something is wrong with the typical adult life and see everyone more or less accept it, makes me feel even more weird. My whole life i am trying to fit in the norms of the society but my deeper need was always to escape if i want to be sincere .Your words was something i needed to hear. I wish we lived in the same country and had some chat. Thank you
Miles Bennett Dyson If you feel you are on the wrong path, you are certainly on the wrong path. If you feel you are on the right path, you probably are on the right path. It's not as cut and dry as you make it out to be. It is far more nuanced, it's not about wanting something, it's about being something. The Ego gets in the way of the path and purpose. When you seek to find it.. that is the ego. When you remove the ego.. you find you're already there. It is a paradox.
Sungwook Kim But not everyone believes in a God. So maybe something else? I, personally, am Atheist. Not here to bash your religion, I respect it. Just not everyone believes. c:
You actually made me go WOW in my head. You alone probably affected me more than everything else ive done, heard and maybe even taught for the last couple of months. You are a pure genius.
Very pretty girls rarely are authentic and true to themselves for a variety of reasons. I think she is 80%, which is not bad, but it's still a little annoying. I hope one day she gets rid of any artificiality/falseness residual.
Maybe it is not apparent to you, nonetheless, I'm sure many people who watched the video understood my statement. It is kind of subtle but it is there, watch one more time and you may get it too.
I know what you mean - she keeps pulling these particular poses and facial expressions. Also she seems to try and show the right side of her face to the camera more (maybe she sees it as her more photogenic side).
Thank you so much for taking the time to post this as well as all your other videos. You've taught me so much and inspired me to really reflect on a ton of things in life that I needed to think about in order to grow. Keep goin' girl! Much love
I like 2:22 - 2:41, it's like the secret to actually developing respect and admiration for ourselves thus self-esteem, made up of the thoughts, feelings, and opinions we have about ourselves. Once we have that, the world is ours. We also can't be all to ourselves, we have to be social, that's how we are designed, if i ain't creative to just hang out with my friends and talk about light gossip, fuck creativity, i'm having a life and having high self-esteem makes me feel i'm actually part of a group, a human, that connects with other groups and build communities that make our society. You will get skin hungry, making you feel more like a machine that all you do is goals and dreams. What does it matter if i got my dream job if i lose my good friends in the process. The happy mediums are worth it, even if we suffer a little, perfection is overrated anyways, there are no challenges. Our true nature is to be social, help others and even do a lot of sacrifices to help others cause they mean the world to you, to show you care and feel loved, creativity and dreams are just the drive for our self-esteem, they alone are shit. I am not my job, i am me.
WHAM! Popped up in my feed, just that slap from syncronicity I needed to see what the heck I've been doing lately. My heart shall go on! New sub. Thank you, Takk, Спасибо ♥
Damn, you describe everything around me and just the way I changed, I used to check what my friends were going to do (you know, 'fun things' ) but after like 2 of those vacations I totally HATED I started following my own path. Get out of your comfort zone, do whatever you want, just be yourself, don't pretend to be someone... ❤️
I really really am proud of this video and I'm really proud that you are spreading the truth that many ppl don't know.....thank you for reminding me about where I'm in my life and what should I do. 💗
I'm really loving your videos. It's so inspiring to see other people on TH-cam encouraging others to go for what they really want and not what society tells them that they should want. I made a lot of left turns this year to start doing things that align with my passions and values. I've never been so happy. Let's get this message everywhere.
0:45 -#1: Jealousy
2:06 -#2: Easily affected by others' opinions
4:07 -#3: Sadness, Hopelessness
6:01 -#4: You focus on other people more
7:43 -#5: Making excuses
Thanks Erin for a profound and well thought out video.
Peter Nguyen thanks bro!
7:19 - #4.5 Shoot in her mouth!
what lol
thank you
forth I strongly disagree
Just found your channel Erin..Great, inspirational content and exactly what I think about this society.
Keep up!
thank you for your videos.... its like detoxifying one's mind.
thank you...
the visuals, the tone and the focussing really drives the msg home.
Sounds like you've watched Fight Club to many times. I've watched it 19 times... and this was fantastic.
What if all big youtubers who have million of subscribers talked about the things you are... instead of clothes, make up & how to get guys.
+Filips Äventyr We must be able to get there.
It's happening, slowly.
Have faith, comrade.
+Filips Äventyr Haha and I felt weird for watching it 3 times XD
+Filips Äventyr You see what you expose yourself to, there are tons of educational and interesting channels such as Crashcourse, Vsauce, PBS Idea Channel, Every Frame a Painting etc etc and they are all very popular.
While on the other hand this video in particular is just a motivational video with anecdotal evidence at best. I mean, she mostly just states the obvious.
ive probably watched it 20 times
+Filips Äventyr If you can draw inspiration from that, what's the big deal? There are many things in life you can turn to motivators in your life. Her message is great but I have a sort of negative vibe about pretty girls and useful advice not going hand in hand. It's something I'm trying to beat but that's the truth. I do not have any female role models in my life but this girl (woman) is quite deep in her videos. Personally I prefer to read her blog or hear a podcast or what I"m doing now; listening to her advice in the background.
All her points hit home. It's like she's describing me and many people I know.
This exact video is the thing that changed my entire outlook in life, I never thought this video would have such an impact on my life, Erin you are an inspiration and a legend I thank you for your honesty and clarity. I’ll always go back to this video and be grateful of your help.
Bang on. This was an excellent video.
Meghan Livingstone This IS(you mean)..
Some of it sounds nice but you need to understand that if the opinion of other people doesn't affect you in anyway than you won't be able to grow. People's opinions should affect you in a small way, not in a huge way to make you miserable or do things you wouldn't normaly do but their opinions could help you stay on a straight path and be in line with normal behaviour and acceptable/appropriate social conduct.
Excellent comunication skills
That's exactly what I think. Combine that with intelligence & beauty & you got a powerful weapon. I am glad she his using these skills/perks for the greater good & make inspiring videos like this instead of wasting her potential just like so many people unfortunately do, like she explained in this video. I hope you will inspire as much people as you can. Thanks Erin for sharing these truths! Keep on doing what you do best & keep smiling to the world!
You're the friend I've really wanted/needed, but couldn't find. Thank you for this video!
Do true interactive transformational WORK like Choice Center in Vegas. Every video you'll ever watch online is a spectator level experience. That's why years of browsing TH-cam brings no significant change/improvement/results. It's like one feel good movie after another. On to the next one.
I am not saying that is wrong for you dembsey, it could be exactly what you need. But if you apply what you've learned. You apply what you've learned. If you don't, you just watch.
Right Me Too
ElectricMayhem87 (Ashleigh) love you💓
u wandering about it is a a proof enough !!!!!!!
you're so good to watch
Lostt watch? Yes. Listen to? Negative, Ghostrider. Not everyone can be successful, no matter what this broad says to the contrary. Her utopia does not exist. It never will, either.
@@boofert.washington2499
Ikr .
Doesn't mean one can't take from it as an inspirational push, and have it help them become that successful person.
@@boofert.washington2499 no you're right. But no master at something(art, guitar, chess etc) has ever become a master without doing what they love and connecting with their passion.
You are one of the most humble inspiring people I have ever seen and you will change the world
I dont understand why is the comment section filled with negativity and hate? She is presenting an advice, an outlook that honestly, will not harm you in any way if you just take a moment to reflect and consider MAYBE just MAYBE theres some value of truth? Its generally a postive video that pushes you to be a better version of yourself! Doesnt suit you and how you live your life ? Move on! We need more intellectual and deep-reflective videos like these in the internet !
Balance. Where there is much good, a whole lot of bad will gather to try and tear it down.
To be negative is to be positive.
Its something about your voice. It sounds so beautiful and authentic. Hope you read this.
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that's because she is.
couldn`t agree more :)
"your voice is so beautiful and authentic" xd ofc m8
Poor litle fellow are you in love?!You saw the frame between 7:19 and 7:20 and suddenly got horny?!
I was just about to concede to a certain way of life, but after watching this video, I am now determined to follow my heart and do what I know I should be doing and stop making excuses.... THANK YOU!!!
One of the most amazing video I've ever seen on YT, thank you a lot!
+Keep Ondra I agree. She's very smart and conscious of what's going on. Love her vids.
LucidityOfPower most of her clips were made 4 years ago. Hoping she’s ok.
Girl, I really love you - hope girls out there will use their brains rather than just exposing their beauty just for appreciation
You're an awesome person. A large fraction of female youtubers go with make-up tutorials, vlogs and any of the sort. But yours is more about self-development and bettering oneself--which goes to show that you're far more than just your looks.
God, this woman is amazing. I needed this...
her words "Hit U"... as if it's meant personally directed, specifically just for you.
This may be so... on a Meta/Quantum Physical Level. Yes ?
+Ravi Saini That just tells us that there are many of us in the same boat.
Ever considered being a therapist?
lmao ahahah
Unfortunately when people say these thing they are accused of being delusional by modern capitalism
@@chriswalker8948 Joe Biden
I needed this :) Realized a year ago that I'm working TOO MUCH and spending money out of a desire to fulfill an emptiness. Gotta let go of the fear and step back from working so much.
This is probably my favorite channel I’ve ever seen, and I’ve been on TH-cam very frequently for the past four years. I wish you the best!
Needed this! I am on a much better path than a year ago, starting our own business, but have so much left to do to get on track. New subscribers and supporters! Love everything you stand for!
you are good , we need more people like you out there.
Didn't expect such an appealing speech while clicking on the video.
Keep up the good work! (y)
Fantastic video Erin. Good job!
sucks she does not make youtube anymore. i have watched all of her videos so far. damn, these are good!
This video deserves more views!! Great job
Amazing you have no idea how much I needed this!
This is so well put. 💟
This implies that their is some perfect essence ( or platonic form) to everyone that we could theoretically reach if we only applied ourselves enough. I have no reason to think such a thing exists. Perhaps it would be more fruitful for us to be happy with ourselves regardless of what we are doing with our lives. To not hold out for that great dream and enjoy life for what what we already have.
that makes more sense.
You're not supposed to get everything you want; studies in primates have shown that if you hook up stimulators to their brains that they can control themselves they'll just sit there hitting the orgasm button until they starve.
"Oh, that Man's reach should exceed his grasp, or else what is a Heaven for?"
If everyone was Leonardo da Vinci who would clean the streets?
There is, why wouldn't there be? Of course it's not as simple as a single rule but depending on your roles in life, there is an abstract ideal of things like partner, parent, friend, etc. Act in such a way that things are as good for you as they would be for someone you are looking after, but that way has to also be good for your family, friends, society, and expanding out to that infinitely. The problem with putting happiness above everything else is there is no reason not to just shoot up heroin until you die in a crack house if happiness is all you want. And the problem with being happy with what you have (see: complacent) is that you'll never improve. You shouldn't hate yourself but self-improvement is essential.
If everyone was Leonardo da Vinci, no one would pollute the streets to begin with. And we would probably invent robots to clean them anyway. And we wouldn't overpopulate, and things would perhaps be a lot more chill.
I have seen this video on my recommendations for a few weeks now. Now I finally clicked on it and wow I am so glad I did. This type of channel is something ive been looking for a looong time :)
Erin Janus u are one of the most compassionate human being on. Human are born everywhere but humanity is born only is some places. Your parents must be so proud of you
Emptiness is your highest gift. Don't run away from it. Fulfillment doesn't come by a certain lifestyle but by realizing our true nature, not identifying ourselves with the body-mind. You have good intentions, but you are speaking from your persona, your ego. The self has absolutely not one goal or purpose in life. It just is, it pure consciousness. Love you from the bottom of my heart.
This is a great comment, I felt this also
thats fine if you are a totally karma less being who has reached the buddha stage. for the rest of us, we are still doing things and undoing things, living and what have you...
Well Free Flow, I disagree with your opinion.
We have a body and a mind and those are wired to do stuff. The highest possible form of joy comes through creating and sharing that creation with others or just doing something you really love that does not harm others, as we are also wired to live together in harmony. Living together in harmony requires greater effort than alone thus being more evolved. And to make it clear, Love is the highest gift :)
Your viewpoint and hers are simply points of view. You're judging her choice / path which doesn't feel like emptiness to rme. Your 'emptiness' seems like an intellectual exercise rather than a state of being. Allow all expressions of the One.
Key points discussed in this video:
Sign #1 Jealousy
Sign #2 Easily affected by others
Sign #3 Sadness, emptiness, hopelessness
Sign #4 You waste time on others
Sign #5 Make excuses on things your can't
You are such a smart young woman and I lucky to have discovered your channel. Keep spreading your truth :-)
its quite amazing that someone produces a video advising that you should be focused on your own path...and then you read the comment section, lol, did some of you miss the point, and don't waste time replying, I'll be to busy getting on with life... thanks again for a great vid Erin.
Man I'm so glad I came across your channel. You are saying all the right things, and it's really helping. Thank you for all that you do.
What if you have no passions or desires?
+Tea Dawg not possible. look deep inside what u liked to do as a child..that helped me a lot, im telling u by expirience this feeling is a result of other things. all people have dreams and passions they are just "covered" with everyday problems and trauma that we have been expiriencing.....
+Lydia Papaioannou
I look deep inside all the time but I see nothing. Nothing really excites me anymore either.
I guess I should be saying this to a shrink instead of a stranger on youtube, eh?
+Tea Dawg First of all, I believe that we are all One... made of the same stuff so to speak. So in my opinion there is no such thing as a stranger. That's why I feel free to step into this conversation :-) In some cases it is really okay to 'see or feel nothing'. That means that you can start to fill yourself with 'new' stuff. The whole Universe is at our 'service' . Only you know things in 'the past' that made your Heart Sing. Even if those things seem to be so small or insignificant in your own eyes. If it made you happy, really happy for the 'good reasons.. Just.DO IT AGAIN :-) Namasté
+Eugenie Mac Gillavry thank you for you're helpful and sweet reply, i needed that :) +Tea Dawg not at all! thank you for asking the same question I've had for years! its such a difficult place to be in life, atleast for me, because its not like i am a lazy unmotivated person, my strength and work ethic is there! i make other people happy all the time ...but what is my passion? purpose? what would make me truly happy?.. i still don't know :( and by now i feel like this ''mental block'' has made me so stressed and anxious. i want so badly to have passions, to be a full person. please universe, help us get in tune with our souls, i know i can do better
+Tea Dawg sometimes strangers give the best of the answers we can get. i wish i could be more "open" when i was in my dark phase and listen to others more.. life has ups and downs and these may last longer than we are "capable of handling".. i know that. its hard. BUT u have to start thinking that in this period of your life u have TIME. time to explore old and new things-passions. what u did.. what u didnt.. this process can be very painfull. i know that also. but i tell u it worth it and when u finally change life becomes lovely again. u see.. first u have to realise the situation (in which case u are) , then accept it and eventually change....
many times i think that if we havent these "dark phases" we couldn't apreciate love and happines.
i hope my words help u to see things differently i really do, even though i havent met u nor i ever will, but your comment ringed a bell so i replied in the same way i wish someone had told me then... :)
love your channel. this video is perfect. i've been saying this to my friends but it's nice to have someone say it to me.
All 4 points that she said are general human behaviour characteristics.Every human on earth feels them.
Except point one. I think that most of the people naturally feels not jealous but inspired by the talented and the geniuses.
True, but we can give higher or lower attention (to such "behaviours") if that wasn't possible Meditation wouldn't be a Reality.
Humans has an amazing capacity of flexibility some societies can be extreme individualistic/competetive, as others can be highly cooperative/sharing (even in a scarce envionrement).
Not every human...but a large percentage of them....and thats why our societies are in the mess they are.
I don't.I only feel despair and emptiness. I don't feel jealous of successful people, nor I care what others do with their lives.
Then, maybe you have to identify the source of your despair and emptiness, and do something about it.
This is the best video I've ever come across that dispells the haze, confusion and despair
After spending the last 2 weeks depressed out of my mind, I started watching your video and within a few minutes I decided to look at other jobs after being stuck somewhere I don't want to be, I've been looking for so long and I have just applied for my dream job!
I feel a tiny spark enlightened inside me, I really needed this motivation! Thank-you. 🙏
Thank you for the inspiring and insightful message.
Best version of myself? How about taking care about the whole family alone. Mother that is sick for years, dog, that has a cancer and father. It was like this for years in my case. How the hell can you make that decision? To leave them alone, leave them behind - if you are aware that they will not survive on their own. I can not walk through the patch of my choice. We often were born in wrong families. People that are holding as back, and that are loving us at the same time.
I know your intentions. It was a very good video. You are really absorbing woman. I agree with what you said. The thing is - sometime - we have to make sacrifices. Just to be decend. Just to be there for people that will never undersand us. They are incapable of doing this shift while I feel that I'm able to do so. But I will not let them behind me. I will just support them the way I can - til everything will come to an end...
+Nizahe Ⓥ Its good that you have your priorities set, because you could call that a passion as well. I also agree with what she is saying, but it is very general and much easier said than done. I understand your troubles and wish you all the best.
+Ron Carvalho he never said that he was unhappy. and never did he said that he's blaming anyone for it. he is simply stating his priorities and that is a very good thing! If you love someone dearly, you will be with them through thick and thin. if your wife is suffering from an illness and she needs you more than ever, would you leave her behind so you can pursue your own selfish needs?
that is not Self-Realization. That is Selfishness.
+Nizahe Ⓥ you are doing the right thing! be proud of yourself for being a caring human being. the world needs more people like you.
+Ron Carvalho then that means your response to his comment was absolutely unnecessary. you just contradicted yourself with your statement.
+Ron Carvalho yeah try telling that to the Syrian refugees. And btw my name is not Julian just because my username says so.
Nizahe Ⓥ this video isnt meant for you my man..take care of your family and bless them💓
how can u possibility dislike this video ??? she's totally right . awesome video.
Yea awesome video
Holy goodness. This is GOLDEN.
I'm at a point where I wanna become a youtuber. There are other aspirations I have but right now TH-cam has got to be the hardest thing I've done.
Thanks for this video. Thanks a lot.
Erin Janus u are one of the most compassionate human being on. Humans are born everywhere but humane/humanity takes birth and survives only is some places. Your parents must be so proud of you
Wondering why you left your channel 🤔
You have a great content
I'm seriously depressed because i wanted to be a doctor but my mother but me down so i studed accounting and actually graduated and my mom wants me to find a job but i know in my heart i still dream of achieving my dream
+Alia Albinali Then become a doctor. It's your life, not your mother's. I'm sure she is coming from a place of caring, but imagine what you might feel like lying on your death bed never having tried to achieve your dream. No one looks back on their life at the very end saying "I wish I had made more money, or I wish I had driven a nicer car." Only you know what is right for you. I encourage you to go for it!
***** yes its because i'm a girl abbarently i cant take that long to graduate accourding to my mom
There is a thing that is called happiness fatigue.
What if you had everything. What if you did everything you wanted to achieve.
Being happy is not about the things, or success of bonus points. It's more about the daily fun, colorful and interesting things. There is no path for that. It's a continuous process of being aware of the good things in life.
epSos.de yes this is a very Americanized definition of happy which is dependent on being successful
epSos.de You are on the right path, believe me ✌😂
Seriously? I haven't even viewed the video yet because I recently indulged in the sin of reading comments. Happiness Fatigue? Never heard of it. We exist in HELL! How about Hell fatigue? Your words are called Dog Latin because you were taught the Spell of thinking that words and presumed meanings could somehow shape the whirled around you, however, Happiness as defined by those who taught you these words as in: "The Pursuit of Happiness" is: the ability to profit in business. Peace, by those same dualistic demons of dementia is "the State of War where Commerce Proceeds". Fun and colorful flames licking up the caverns of Hell. Yeah, that sounds delightful. My 'path' is to destroy Evil. I will never be 'happy' until that is done and no memory of it ever exists.
Thank you Erin !!! That's the kick in the ass I think we all need !!! As an artist life is a struggle but still worth it !!! I shell try to stay focused on what matters !!!
I love the way you say “people who have helped me doubt myself” as opposed to maybe saying “made me” or “make me”. And I love that you kept that section more about you. You are quite amazing. You may enjoy the “I” challenge. I attended a mindfulness mediation and discussion group and we challenged ourselves to only say “I” as opposed to “we” or “you”. It was extremely uncomfortable, annoying and weird for me to do, but it was powerful and made me own what I was saying more and I believe people were much more receptive to what I was saying. Your example “people who have helped me doubt myself” as opposed to having said “people who help us doubt ourselves” was so much more powerful. I enjoy all the beautiful work you are doing! And great advice - have you ever read “The Artist Way?” - it has a great chapter on jealously that you might appreciate.
#4. Wow, My soon to be ex-wife will talk hours on end about other people and does so in the name of "caring"... I'd say it was a leading frustration in our 18 yr marriage. I finally had it when in the beginning stages of sex one evening, she answered a call from a friend. I considered it was an emergency, but turns out it wasn't and her friend just wanted to talk about her diabetes meds. Still listening to the conversation next to her in bed, she began to asknher friend about her kids.... when she got off the phone 20 mins later, she began to text someone and then turn away from me and went to sleep.
David Quincy Smart men dont get married
Anybody else think cutest hippie chick ever
31LEON24
Halo effect much?
🐱shes catwoman
Im wondering what made your mind get opened like that ? But that dose not matter keep making videos and open our minds.
This sounds like my neighbor. She is obsessed with knowing my business. Shes always watching me asking people about me and causing trouble for me. I feel she is jealous of me because i am happy living a simple life. I have nothing to speak of. Her on the other hand is so materialistic its unreal. I dont have friend , I have my animals and ive very happy with my life.
Seek first the Kingdom
small point.... you use jealous but I think you mean envious
happy for them and wish to be like them = envious, Jelousy is feeling envious for them with bitterness and resentment
I think she meant jealous actually, you can be jealous because you're so unhappy and you kind of want everyone around you to align with the way you're feeling.
Vicky you may envy someone's wealth and the life style it allows
You may be jealous if a woman is dancing with your husband because you're worry she may steal him away
She may envy you because she is still single and you're not
People mix these words up and still communicate
So yes, it matters little
I used to be on the right path
Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart I’ve lost so much motivation recently. Got to get it back..
Trying to 'live up to your potential' is also a trap.
+Think Vegan
Can you explain that more? Not trolling or anything serious question.
Dunn Jefferson Sure, you'll never be happy if you're always trying to live up to your 'potential'. Your potential is actually how you are right now, so if you can accept that and be content, then you'll be happy and ironically you'll likely create a better future for yourself as a result (though this is not the goal).
Be happy now, there's no other time to do so :)
+Think Vegan Exactly - this is unfortunately where the information on this video is far from accurate
+Think Vegan so true
+Think Vegan only if it comes with expectations of an actual outcome...thats setting boundries towards able dissapointments
potentials r possibilities not actualised yet.. a spark of hope..and i believe not having hope is the actual trap..i believe potentials are all about the road to anywhere ..not somewhere..
Wow, beautiful, relevant wisdom from a soul who's faced and overcome enough challenges to communicate directly to other souls. Rare and precious. Thank you. You have a gift. Keep going, go deeper and keep growing and sharing.
I haven't been on the right path lately and this video is so inspiring . I've been watching all of your videos tonight because I came across you and love what you have to say and teach . I truly agree with everything I've watched tonight and it's so eye opening , sad , yet so inspiring , positive and true ! Thank you and please keep making these informative videos !!! ❤ Ive been trying to love myself and stop my bad habits for a couple years and still have not quite succeeded but I really want to !
Making excuses means someone is on the wrong path? Doesn't it just mean they're lazy and/or that they have no accountability? The answer is yes.
Scott K Good one, lol
It appears by Extension.
*Great video! = : )*
Well put Erin!!!!
Pete :")
Have so many good things to say about this lady that I don't know where to start. Please give yourself a giant hug for me.
Wow! What a powerful message! Thanks for laying this out so I can use it as a guide to achieving my own fulfillment while also “being the change I’d like to see in the world 🌎”. I ❤ you Erin!
Anyone who know what music there is at the end? I love it
what is the name of the music at the end?
There's an interesting theory that free will doesn't actually exist.
Haha sure buddy.
It's called the predetermination theory and it has been debunked.
A meme promoted by the Matrix movies is that there is only cause/effect. If there is free will then it comes with the responsibility and consequences that no one has the balls to face so free will may indeed exist but has been abdicated therefore it is as good as dead.
Just stumbled upon your channel, and love the content you create. This video especially resonates with me. For the past few years I've been striving towards something I knew deep down wasn't what I actually wanted, and I suffered from an addiction the entire time. As soon as I decided to give up that path, the addictions strength ceased and I've been able to live free of it since. Think you're right on point with this message. Thanks for taking the time to make this, I know you had you're own struggles and blocks, so thanks for pushing through them and being a light for the world. Shine on 😊
Hey Erin, thanks for your video. I literally just turned it on for background noise while I am taking care of some grunt work, and I actually didn't expect for you to share some very insightful and perceptive information. Thanks for taking the time to create this video. You showed up in my recommended videos, and happy you did. I'll be sure to follow you on all your socials to give you my small support. Keep it up, Erin. - CD
Hell no!!!! Im on the right path, by looking at this Beautiful face I m totally ok
What about a God that designed you, gave you your ambitions, desires, dreams as made this whole world just to look at the bigger picture.
thats a fantasy. one that we WANT to believe. it makes absolutely no sense if you use the brain 'GOd' gave us
+yashia96 I think that could be used in a way that gives us permission not to take action and responisibility, if we ''blame'' our existence on a God, and expect him to give us everything we want without any effort or change from our part. It's basically just another excuse.
+BlackOreoCookie The self actualizing youtubers are becoming more and more :) which I consider a good thing
Irina Wolf Lol hoi irina XD (urla)
Haaaii Urlabae
worship the Creator
&
not his Creations😎🌐🏧🌟🌈💞🎎🌐❓
Dreams R Unlimited
but Life is Limited
Creator has Guidance for Mankind through his massengers😇
Plz Read Qur'an for Purpose of Life🌈🌟
thanks😎
Welwisher🌈
wtf, i dont know what happened, but in a moment i looked in your eyes and got overwhelmed, like their was a deeper connection. You are so wise, often battling with depression, sometimes is difficult, i wish there were more people to talk about these things. Sometimes i feel i have to be more superficial and dont think much about it because i might get depressed, sometimes is hard to escape your feelings, also i feel that something is wrong with the typical adult life and see everyone more or less accept it, makes me feel even more weird. My whole life i am trying to fit in the norms of the society but my deeper need was always to escape if i want to be sincere .Your words was something i needed to hear. I wish we lived in the same country and had some chat. Thank you
This is a proper motivational video, it’s honestly so refreshing
Right path? Purpose? This is all talk of the ego.
Yeah, is there something wrong with that?
Nick if you understood that the world is becoming increasingly narcissistic, ego being a big factor in that trend - then yes.
Miles Bennett Dyson focus on Cyberdyne please
Miles Bennett Dyson
If you feel you are on the wrong path, you are certainly on the wrong path. If you feel you are on the right path, you probably are on the right path.
It's not as cut and dry as you make it out to be.
It is far more nuanced, it's not about wanting something, it's about being something. The Ego gets in the way of the path and purpose. When you seek to find it.. that is the ego. When you remove the ego.. you find you're already there.
It is a paradox.
When you're in alignment, you aren't working from the ego. The ego becomes your servant, not master.
she kinda looks like Scarlett Johansson.
well scareltt is way to much sexy hehe
She's way hotter than Scarlett Johansson
The right path depends on how faithfully you walk with God, our Father in heaven.
Sungwook Kim tru
Sungwook Kim But not everyone believes in a God. So maybe something else? I, personally, am Atheist. Not here to bash your religion, I respect it. Just not everyone believes. c:
Sungwook Kim Amen
😂😂😂
Which one? Which God? The very one you worship by coincidence?
You actually made me go WOW in my head. You alone probably affected me more than everything else ive done, heard and maybe even taught for the last couple of months. You are a pure genius.
And fuck me you are CUTE
Very pretty girls rarely are authentic and true to themselves for a variety of reasons. I think she is 80%, which is not bad, but it's still a little annoying. I hope one day she gets rid of any artificiality/falseness residual.
Excellent observation.
+Dreaming#11 What artificiality/falseness residual? Makeup? She's being a girl, lol. If it is the slow talk, it's for power emphasis.
Maybe it is not apparent to you, nonetheless, I'm sure many people who watched the video understood my statement. It is kind of subtle but it is there, watch one more time and you may get it too.
I know what you mean - she keeps pulling these particular poses and facial expressions. Also she seems to try and show the right side of her face to the camera more (maybe she sees it as her more photogenic side).
and her tone of voice is pretty flat
She is unbelievable, so beauty and intelligent. Saying just the truth straight into eyes without any bullshit.
It's a pure pleasure watching you.
Thank you so much for taking the time to post this as well as all your other videos. You've taught me so much and inspired me to really reflect on a ton of things in life that I needed to think about in order to grow. Keep goin' girl! Much love
These kind of videos never get older, well done Erin.. my respect 3>
You’re changing my life with all the wisdom you share with us. You’re such a bliss!
I like 2:22 - 2:41, it's like the secret to actually developing respect and admiration for ourselves thus self-esteem, made up of the thoughts, feelings, and opinions we have about ourselves. Once we have that, the world is ours.
We also can't be all to ourselves, we have to be social, that's how we are designed, if i ain't creative to just hang out with my friends and talk about light gossip, fuck creativity, i'm having a life and having high self-esteem makes me feel i'm actually part of a group, a human, that connects with other groups and build communities that make our society. You will get skin hungry, making you feel more like a machine that all you do is goals and dreams. What does it matter if i got my dream job if i lose my good friends in the process.
The happy mediums are worth it, even if we suffer a little, perfection is overrated anyways, there are no challenges. Our true nature is to be social, help others and even do a lot of sacrifices to help others cause they mean the world to you, to show you care and feel loved, creativity and dreams are just the drive for our self-esteem, they alone are shit. I am not my job, i am me.
WHAM! Popped up in my feed, just that slap from syncronicity I needed to see what the heck I've been doing lately. My heart shall go on! New sub. Thank you, Takk, Спасибо ♥
I'm not kidding. I thought I wasn't even on TH-cam for a while without even realizing it. Damn you're good.
I'm definitely inclined to believe that there's some sharp truth in your words. Thanks for taking the time to post a video like this.
I love your content, it has helped me refocus on the things that matter! Keep doing your thing girl!
Damn, you describe everything around me and just the way I changed, I used to check what my friends were going to do (you know, 'fun things' ) but after like 2 of those vacations I totally HATED I started following my own path. Get out of your comfort zone, do whatever you want, just be yourself, don't pretend to be someone... ❤️
I really really am proud of this video and I'm really proud that you are spreading the truth that many ppl don't know.....thank you for reminding me about where I'm in my life and what should I do. 💗
More than anything your delivery is awesome. I've been watching some of your videos. You are so good
You Erin, are a genius . Everyone needs to see this.
Your videos are candy to me. Thanks for the great work you do, Erin.
I'm really loving your videos. It's so inspiring to see other people on TH-cam encouraging others to go for what they really want and not what society tells them that they should want. I made a lot of left turns this year to start doing things that align with my passions and values. I've never been so happy. Let's get this message everywhere.
What you speak from 9:30 to the end is completely truth, and makes me feel sad, we have to find a way to break the system in a legal way.
Just as beautiful in the inside as in the outside. Your service to society is immensely valuable.
1000% true. This really needs more views. People need to hear more of this.
Wow, so articulate and beautiful. What a great message. This should be mandatory viewing for a few people I know, including myself. Thanks Erin.
I just got out of a 7,5 year long relationship. This made me think more positive. Thank you Erin!