Saying "no" to others so that I can respect the "yes" to me. Thanks so much for your amazing videos, Julia! I get something out of them every single time, and little by little I absorb the information and transform it into actively "living" the newly aquired knowledge.
no matter what you do they will have a opinion starting a business, getting married , not getting married , traveling, not travelling, there is a reason way they say keep your dreams and goals to yourself.
Worry less about people's thoughts and focus more on your thoughts. Focus on what you are cultivating and let ourselves be imperfect. We definitely need more of this!
Julia, Former Senior Shifter here! My thoughts and notes on Julia’s TH-cam video (1/10/2025), 5 Things You Must Stop Caring About in 2025 to truly Love Yourself and Your Life. As I reflect on these five points, I can clearly see the areas I have been working on and those I still need to address. I particularly appreciate the point about not comparing yourself to other people's journeys. Engaging in my inner work has helped me with this, and I will continue to focus on it. Now, it's time to take more action. As long as I don't care about other people's opinions or compare myself to them, I can direct my energy toward my own journey. I have some ideas about what I want and need in my life. Now it's a matter of taking the first step to turn these ideas into a plan and goal. Here are my notes: Caring too much about the wrong things and not as much for the right things 1, Stop caring so much about other people's opinions. 2. Stop comparing yourself to other people's journey. 3. Stop trying to be someone else. 4. Stop trying to get it all right. 5. Stop being a people-pleaser. What you want, think, need or feel counts too.
I love how the video just jumped straight into the tips without the intro with the credentials ❤ on a side note, this has been my favourite video Julia. Each tip just resonated soo much and extremely powerful. Exactly what I needed today ❤❤❤❤
Hi Julia. Thank you for the clarification. In general I don’t compare myself to others. For me is that the first step to be happy in these short lifes that we’re living in! Love and invest in yourself! Greetings from Belgium 🇧🇪
Hi JKC Thanks for the valuable encouragement that says that it is IMPORTANT to see yourself, take responsibility for yours assumptions, values and navigate within and with other people to get something good out of it!
I've never really wanted to be anyone else but certain people I've found do have enviable qualities. It can be many things like fame, wealth, good looks, and things they accomplished that I haven't.
@@juliakristinamah When you, Julia were speaking about caring too much about peoples opinions and trying to get it all right- in other words perfectionism. :)
~Breathing Underwater ~ " Metric" Is an uptempo piece that I believe is about persistence in facing the challenges life brings and adapting to changes beyond our control. It’s about accepting our existence instead of looking for something fake to replace it. And it’s about realizing that everything in life is flawed, including our heroes… so it’s not wise to elevate anyone too highly in our perceptions, as that can become fantasy; they’re human and will probably disappoint us sometimes. In short: stay grounded, and stick with the real thing. “I’m the blade You’re the knife I’m the weight You’re the kite They were right when they said We were breathing underwater Out of place all the time In a world that wasn’t mine to take I’ll wait Is this my life? Ahhh Am I breathing underwater? Is this my life? Ahhh Am I breathing underwater? I’m the blade You’re the knife I’m the weight You’re the kite They were right when they said we should never meet our heroes When they bowed at their feet, in the end it wasn’t me Is this my life? Ahhh Am I breathing underwater? Is this my life? Ahhh Am I breathing underwater? Nights are days We’ll beat a path through the mirrored maze I can see the end But it hasn’t happened yet I can see the end But it hasn’t happened yet Is this my life? Ahhh Am I breathing underwater? Is this my life? Ahhh Am I breathing underwater? Am I breathing underwater? Am I breathing underwater?”
Step #5 is extremely difficulty to handle when you have diagnosises like ADHD and/or on the Autism-spektrum; especially if both of these. If you are your authentic self you are super annoying to other people. So you have to moderate yourself a lot (or you'll just end up completely ostracized and socially isolated). But limiting yourself, moderating yourself, means giving up authenticity, and it means you become constricted and often this leads to being much more "inside your head" instead of in the real world, so you become more removed from whatever social setting you are in. Which in turn also leads to becoming ostracized and socially isolated.... So you're kinda doomed if you do and doomed if you don't. Of course the key lies in figuring out striking a balance between both worlds. Easier said than done. (to put it very very mildly).
Please explain. I heard nothing that sounded egotistical. I don’t really want to be liked except by those who already like me. People like me a lot more than I like them. Feel like saying, hey, I’m just being nice. Not your new therapist and we’re not friends….now this may sound a bit egotistical but guess what? ….don’t care.
Hi! Thanks for being here and for watching this talk. I'd love to hear - what was one of your takeaways from this?
Tbh, I'd say everything 💯
Nevertheless, happy 2025 🎉
Saying "no" to others so that I can respect the "yes" to me. Thanks so much for your amazing videos, Julia! I get something out of them every single time, and little by little I absorb the information and transform it into actively "living" the newly aquired knowledge.
no matter what you do they will have a opinion starting a business, getting married , not getting married , traveling, not travelling, there is a reason way they say keep your dreams and goals to yourself.
That is for sure! One thing that will never change is that humans always have their own thoughts ;-)
Worry less about people's thoughts and focus more on your thoughts. Focus on what you are cultivating and let ourselves be imperfect. We definitely need more of this!
Julia, Former Senior Shifter here!
My thoughts and notes on Julia’s TH-cam video (1/10/2025),
5 Things You Must Stop Caring About in 2025 to truly Love Yourself and Your Life.
As I reflect on these five points, I can clearly see the areas I have been working on and those I still need to address.
I particularly appreciate the point about not comparing yourself to other people's journeys. Engaging in my inner work has helped me with this, and I will continue to focus on it. Now, it's time to take more action. As long as I don't care about other people's opinions or compare myself to them, I can direct my energy toward my own journey.
I have some ideas about what I want and need in my life. Now it's a matter of taking the first step to turn these ideas into a plan and goal.
Here are my notes:
Caring too much about the wrong things and not as much for the right things
1, Stop caring so much about other people's opinions.
2. Stop comparing yourself to other people's journey.
3. Stop trying to be someone else.
4. Stop trying to get it all right.
5. Stop being a people-pleaser.
What you want, think, need or feel counts too.
Thanks for the summary, great.
@@Marjoe4005 Thank you! My pleasure!
What a great video! Thank you! 🙏
I love how the video just jumped straight into the tips without the intro with the credentials ❤ on a side note, this has been my favourite video Julia. Each tip just resonated soo much and extremely powerful. Exactly what I needed today ❤❤❤❤
Hi Claire, so glad you got so much out of this one - what was one of the things that really connected with you?
I loved the one about not trying to be someone else. This one really struck a cord! I even mentioned it today in my support group ❤
@@claire6568 yes! I love to hear it.
Accepting reality + finding tailored solutions = personal freedom.
Inspirational message focus on yourself and you should make own decisions appreciate your sharing of profound knowledge
Hi Julia. Thank you for the clarification. In general I don’t compare myself to others. For me is that the first step to be happy in these short lifes that we’re living in! Love and invest in yourself! Greetings from Belgium 🇧🇪
Depressing but true. Live your own lives ✨️ and do the best you can with others 🤪
Hi JKC
Thanks for the valuable encouragement that says
that it is IMPORTANT to see yourself, take responsibility for yours
assumptions, values and navigate within and with
other people to get something good out of it!
Really glad it connected - thanks for watching and for all your support. I appreciate you.
I've never really wanted to be anyone else but certain people I've found do have enviable qualities. It can be many things like fame, wealth, good looks, and things they accomplished that I haven't.
Thank you! Always a joy, and always amazing!!
You are so welcome. Thanks for being here!
Julia I'm sorry for all my comments about your good looks. I will respect u and your channel and not only focus on that.😅
Actually I'm not sorry! It isn't my fault god made someone so hot.😃
Thanks Julia. Really on point!
Thank you. I needed to hear this today. ❤
Really glad it came at the right time. What was one thing that connected with you from this talk?
Thank you Julia for this video! These tips help a lot.
Did one thing stand out for your Marek?
@@juliakristinamah When you, Julia were speaking about caring too much about peoples opinions and trying to get it all right- in other words perfectionism. :)
back on track now on ... thanks
Glad to hear it - and, you're welcome!
Thank you ❤
You're welcome Louiza. Thanks for being here.
~Breathing Underwater ~
" Metric"
Is an uptempo piece that I believe is about persistence in facing the challenges life brings and adapting to changes beyond our control. It’s about accepting our existence instead of looking for something fake to replace it. And it’s about realizing that everything in life is flawed, including our heroes… so it’s not wise to elevate anyone too highly in our perceptions, as that can become fantasy; they’re human and will probably disappoint us sometimes. In short: stay grounded, and stick with the real thing.
“I’m the blade
You’re the knife
I’m the weight
You’re the kite
They were right when they said
We were breathing underwater
Out of place all the time
In a world that wasn’t mine to take
I’ll wait
Is this my life?
Ahhh
Am I breathing underwater?
Is this my life?
Ahhh
Am I breathing underwater?
I’m the blade
You’re the knife
I’m the weight
You’re the kite
They were right when they said we should never meet our heroes
When they bowed at their feet, in the end it wasn’t me
Is this my life?
Ahhh
Am I breathing underwater?
Is this my life?
Ahhh
Am I breathing underwater?
Nights are days
We’ll beat a path through the mirrored maze
I can see the end
But it hasn’t happened yet
I can see the end
But it hasn’t happened yet
Is this my life?
Ahhh
Am I breathing underwater?
Is this my life?
Ahhh
Am I breathing underwater?
Am I breathing underwater?
Am I breathing underwater?”
Thank you..
❤ thanks
You're welcome - thanks for being here.
How can you do the future you workshop if you don’t even know who you are right now? Don’t you need to know who you are first?
Step #5 is extremely difficulty to handle when you have diagnosises like ADHD and/or on the Autism-spektrum; especially if both of these. If you are your authentic self you are super annoying to other people. So you have to moderate yourself a lot (or you'll just end up completely ostracized and socially isolated). But limiting yourself, moderating yourself, means giving up authenticity, and it means you become constricted and often this leads to being much more "inside your head" instead of in the real world, so you become more removed from whatever social setting you are in. Which in turn also leads to becoming ostracized and socially isolated.... So you're kinda doomed if you do and doomed if you don't. Of course the key lies in figuring out striking a balance between both worlds. Easier said than done. (to put it very very mildly).
How nice to see that pic of you in color.
❤u just get better looking....u age like fine wine. Ur husband is lucky. 😅 still I often care about what others think. So I will consider this advice.
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Half the people are people pleasers ... The other half is more than happy to make use of them?
No offense but that sounds like jordan peterson future authoring program. 😂
sounds a bit egotistical...
Say more - I'd love to hear further thoughts on what you said here.
You need to educate yourself about the ego….
Please explain. I heard nothing that sounded egotistical. I don’t really want to be liked except by those who already like me. People like me a lot more than I like them. Feel like saying, hey, I’m just being nice. Not your new therapist and we’re not friends….now this may sound a bit egotistical but guess what? ….don’t care.
A lot of words, little substance
Thank you. Needed to hear this today❤.