This is the part in my story where I felt unbelievably stuck and wondered if things are ever going to get better and if I'm ever going to find something that makes me feel alive.
@@Alocubano6174if you were to write it all out or speak it all into a voice recorder, you or someone else who is listening with all their Presence, would uncover one or two core wounds that you have been identified with. The long story you keep hearing stems from these 1-2 beliefs. Knowing that is a start to reduce the amount of inner burden. From there you can start working with the parts who feel unloved like Julia is explaining here ❤🙂
This is the part where I made the decision to try to find a way to overcome the depression, anxiety and isolation and feel something positive in my life again. 🌸
This is part of my life i have been struggling with avoidant personality disorder, distorted beliefs about existence, low self esteem and confidence, helplessness. I hope I overcome it.
This is the part of my story where i feel i keep making the same mistakes and i realised where i need to change my pattern of behaviours, and not let others dictate what i do in a situation.
Reading these comments reminds me that we’re all hurting and we’re not alone in that, it’s part of being human. Thanks Julia for reminding me this is just a part of the Story, everything is temporary.
Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here! This was such a great video on an important topic and presented very well! Good job! “This is the part where...” I am grieving and at a place of fear and unknown. I can look back at past times when I went through the same thing and remember that grieving is part of life journey and healing does happen over the years. The unknown part is where I am in life and knowing I don’t have to have it all together and to work those steps towards any goal that I want to achieve. I am just working on the confidence and can-do attitude that I can at least try. Here are my notes: *Having uncomfortable feelings like sad, depressed, hurt, heartbroken and anxious is part of the full human experience. Nothing has gone wrong; it is normal to have difficult feelings. *Life will have disappointments and hurt and fear. *Accept that life comes with all of it. *See your life as a series unfolding and "This is the part where…" *Create that space for that experience. *Reflect on the past and use it as evidence that there is going to be that again, that is all just part of it until our life is complete. It is all part of the story.
This is the part of my life where I'm having to realise that I now live with bigger limitations from bipolar, high anxiety & PTSD. Having spent all my life having to deny these to myself & others, now I have to embrace them & live each day with them. It's really hard. Gary, a new member to your community Julia, living in Coventry, United Kingdom.
This is the part where I’m supporting people through their extreme suffering and learning how to stay healthy and not getting crushed by their suffering
This is the part where my co-worker's discontent and resentment of a past employee has made me face the fact that I am hurt by the ex-employee's narcisttic abuse. The self-entitlement of that person while I worked so hard and realize that I feel undervalued, underpaid, and overworked. That I have to search for a better circumstance even if I still like this job.
This is the part where I got sick and the sickness didnt go away, and I found myself falling into feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness and I started watching videos and learning about toxic shame, toxic perfectionism and negative core beliefs.
This is the part in my story when I am the most alone, and it hurts deeply, but is necessary as I shift my need for external validation into an inner strength and inner validation.
Oh my word. I literally just said "is it EVER going to stop?" I am absolutely weary and just done. Yiu video popped up and all I can say is thank you. ❤️
This is thepart where.. I'm recovering from caregiver burnout, and depression, processing grief and death, working with my therapist, healing from narcissist abuse at work and from my sister. And creating hope for life. this is the part of my ife, where I learned I can make it on my own, and that mom and dad are always with me.. and I am loved and worthwhile and deserving of life, even when Im my only support system. I will be okay. As long as I never give up.
1:53 - "Underlying hum". Yes, this is an excellent description. It could be caused by recent events, or long past ones which are still active in the mind. 7:30 - You have to go through the grief. There is no other way to get past it than by going through it. It is like ripping off a huge bandage. Better to have a lot of pain in one shot than to drag things out unnecessarily.
I really love how you explain things. It does make it much easier to deal with. Another situation I am having a hard time dealing with is when you have friends or family that are not speaking to each other because of something that happened. And I really like and care about them both. It's so uncomfortable because I like and care about them both. They don't realize how they affect other people around them.
Then it might get easier for you if you tap into their experince of their situation... They both probably feel very un-heard, un-seen, and not at all understood. That hurts a lot. And so when it comes to a certain point it might get difficult to see from the opposing persons perspective. What you can do, as a person outside of their issues, is to knowledge their struggles and try to understand what they both are going through.
Thank you so much for replying. It seems to be happening with a few people I know. Both family and friends. I will to talk to the people in my family about not bashing the other person. It's just bugging me, because it seems to happen quite a bit with people I know. I just wish that they can just get along. I know I shouldn't take on their drama.
This is the part where I feel my depression and anxiety will never get better. This is the part where I'm financially afraid. This is the part where I wonder if me and my wife will ever have the intimate, emotional closeness that I need so badly.
This is the part where - having avoided any intense emotion ( I don't do anger - I don't do grief - I don't do joy - they all feel dangerous) when I'm hurt enough to feel disappointed and angry - I literally don't know how to be these things it's scary........
Thank You Julia. This really, really helped me and I so appreciate you being here. At times, I have really struggled over the past few years and I simply don’t know what I would have done without you.
This is the part where im lost and trying to figure out the next step in my life after passing my boards. I thought id be sure at this age of where i wanted to live, what i want and that I’d have a partner but i dont. This is the stage where i move on to the next chapter in my life and it will be hopefully be filled with new blessings and experiences I never expected.
This was very helpful. I would not post my problems here publicly though, but I did do a journal entry starting with 'This is the part where...' I had generally forgot about and stopped using journalling.
This is the part where I feel guilt, lost, conflict, worry but also following my heart against my head, the unknown is scary. Thank you so much, only discovered your videos this week and I think you are saving my sanity!!! Bless you.
This is the part where I have been struggling with major health issues, (2yrs debilitating long covid). I lost my business, lost my health, finances dissolved, relationships fractured, major depression, feels like I’ve lost almost everything. This is the part where I am in survival mode, just living day to day. This is the part where I am just looking for a small win. This is the part when I just discovered Your channel and content. Thank you Julia Christina.
This is the part where a number of things can shift in my life . I just need to hold on tight to what I know is working and not be frightened by the chaos. Thank you Julia!
This is the part of my life where I’m by myself in a new state for 1.5 years and get fired from each job (3) in a career field that is so toxic & exploitative but I need the money to survive.
This is the part where I'm a single mother taking care of an anxious three year old with extreme behavior issues, where we came out of an emotionally and verbally abusive home with an alcoholic.
Tears came to my eyes instantly. Yes, I am 'in it' going on 3 weeks now, likely the resistance stage. I am deeply grateful for your talk today that is gift from God (for me). I do all I can to ignore my struggles telling myself I have no right to how I am feeling and I should just snap out of it.
This is the part of my life that I'm 2 yrs clean and sober, I'm proud of myself don't get me wrong but I feel stuck now, my crotch has disappeared and has left me feeling riddled with social anxiety and um worthiness, I'm getting offered all kind of volunteering jobs but my low confidence due to me smile and teath and paranoia are really making me resist good opportunities 😢
This is the part where I’m feeling so overwhelmed by things beyond my control and I caused myself a lot of needless suffering. This is the part where I chose to take back my power and be on the other side of my suffering.
I have considered people to be books, especially back when I was doing more reading. I always wondered if they would have interesting stories, or if the stories would be boring, or what would at least be the most interesting part(s)? A new co-worker once asked me, "What's your story?" and I responded, "I haven't killed anyone yet!" His eyes got big, and I explained that I had been on a kick where I watched the movie Chicago, or parts of it, over and over. The part where different women explained their stories for why they were in jail came to mind when he asked his question. (If you haven't seen this movie, the story is an interesting commentary on society, and the singing dancing choreography and presentation is superb. Even if you don't care for musicals, this one is a must see!) As for me, this is the part of my story where I'm in survival mode, waiting for something apocalyptic to happen.
This is the part where I feel unloveable, not enough, he’s going to see me as not enough to stay in the relationship for, that I’m not worth the effort. Anxiety in my gut off and on. This is anxious attachment and it’s stalling my happiness.
This is the part of my life where I was feeling lonely and sad, wondering whether I'll ever find meaningful friendships and the strength to continue pursuing my dreams to become an entrepreneur. Thank you Julia for sharing this insightful perspective at a time I needed it so much. I will definitely start using this more often!
This is the part where I joined the Shift Society and am looking forward to gaining tools that will help me manage my anxious brain. I love the concept in this video! Very helpful to look at my life as a story unfolding. Thank you Julia!
This is the part where I am gifted someone's teaching and it makes me more resilient and have more control over my perspective. It's where I know that even in my 60's I am glad to be learning to be excited about a more positive future. Thank you.
I'm in a very small apartment that is too small for me and my roommate, but this was a necessary step in the new place we are living. I keep thinking will I ever get a bigger place and a place of my own.
Shifter here. This is the part where I am struggling to get past the symptoms of crippling precipitory anxiety and depression. I’ve been going through another depression episode for about a year now which has now turned in to anxiety. I wonder if it will ever end?? This video has been soooooo helpful!! Radical acceptance of the whole human experience has helped me come to terms with these mental struggles. I realize it is the total human experience and while I don’t like it, I am having the thought that I can lay this depression and major anxiety down and jut let it be… Thank you Julia for helping me see this in a more tangible way. ❤
Hello, my fellow Shifter. I understand your struggles; these ones are similar to my own. This is why the work is going to be a step-by-step process for me.
This is the part where my recovery of eye surgery has me limited, but it is a blessing. I don't have to be worried. I am thankful I have this time in my life to be able to recover without stress.
This is the part of my life where I am coping with the many life changes that happen in our 60's: thinking about retirement, empty nest, one son's marriage, other one expecting our first grandchild, finding a way to be married without kids, maintaining good health and attractiveness while aging, realizing that 85 year old mom, although healthy and active, won't be here forever... lots of challenges, some of them joyful, some hard, but all a part of the human experience.
Let me just say thank you so much for your kind contributions. Every little bit helps. I also work in the mental health field. I have for 27 years. Unfortunately I am so beyond burnt out, especially when so many people in my field seem to have given up on certain frequently seen patients suffering from Acute and debilitating mental disorders. And unfortunately that translates to the patient who also seems to have given up..and it's a discouraging cycle. With that being said, I unfortunately also suffer from what some call MDD,when I was first diagnosed, it was Severe Reoccurring Depression. and I have dealt with it since approximately 12..I just wanna say that I am in NO way ever minimizing anyone's experience or struggles. However, I've spent countless hours with others who also have Depression, and it's not often that I work with someone who just raises my intuition and makes me realize they're on a whole other level that I need to make sure I'm Very conscious of possible red flags signs..and sadly that small percentage of patients are the ones I relate to most,in regards to my depression. It consumes everything. I've been on on medication for over 20 years that have left me with permanent side effects such as tremors, and it seems the older I get the more and more difficult it is it's a function at a normal job or to maintain social relationships, and you would think that being in the field would give me a leg up unfortunately I've become jaded and can anticipate the responses if I were to ask for help and I'm just....tired. my depression waxes and wanes usually with no trigger at all externally. So for someone to ask me what happened most of the time nothing happened it's just becomes unbearable sometimes and what's also exhausting is constantly trying to hold it in so someone doesn't tell me to get over it or get through it. Anyways thank you for everything you do I appreciate it coming from a kindred spirit in the workforce.. P.s- No im not thinking of hurting myself and no i don't have a plan.
This is the part where I am just fed up with life being completely unenjoyable all the time, but I still lack the courage to finally end things like I've wished I would for years.
This is the part, where I get through a tough week, day by day, to feel back into my work, understanding what's happening and building for the next stage. I will get through today, and I will be feeling better at 6pm. Tmrw will be easier. Just handle today, but by bit, and smile...because I'm the star of my own movie and I do have control and freedom to smile.
"This is the part in my life" when I need to iron out the highs & lows to control mood swings. Something as simple as coffee (even b4 lunch) can seemingly ruin your life. I've throw the caffeinated jar in the bin again . Love the way u want to help people Julia unbiased, giving freely. Maybe there are angels walking the earth 🤔 2day I really needed this info.
This is the part where I chose to put anothers' needs before my own for a while.... leave a good job and become a caregiver. This is also the part where I hope for something better on the other side of this experience.
This is the part where I started a life career change and found out that in college Full Time was not going well at all. I became discouraged. This is the time I discovered. My mother having dementia and going to memory care by force. This is a time I couldnt find ANY therapist even WITH insurance. This is a time when all of this and feeling sad I did not meet my goals from last year. A part where I believe Im going to be single the rest of my life. I dont do well with challenge well. This is THE OART that led me here to your videos. I wish I had you for my aftercare from DBT & CBT
This is the part of my life where at the age of 68 I have to start all over! Working thru a divorce after finding out about his long-term affair, finding a job after being out of the work force for 20 yrs, selling my house, and finding a new place to live!
I recently ended a seven year friendship with a narcissistic toxic person who was very draining. I was wondering if you could possibly make more “friendship ending” videos? I have replayed your previous videos on that topic endlessly because I love your content :)
This is the part where I am experiencing a loss of a friendship of someone, many months after losing my mum. This is another loss that life is putting upon me. Life now is something that I am more lost with as I no longer have my mum, and I am only 22.
This is the part where I’m scared because my cat has recently had a hypertensive crisis and went blind and no one knows why. This is the part where I don’t feel ready for more people or animals I love to die. This is the part where I miss my uncle, who was one of my only relatives who never treated me like I was broken. He died suddenly last week. The last time I got to see him was 2016. Now I’ll never see him again. I miss him a lot. This is the part where my brothers and their families have just visited my dad overseas and my dad made sure to pressure me heavily to come visit him too, which wouldn’t be healthy for me right now. This is the part where I feel lonely and longing for family connection that come so much more easily to them than it can to me. The is the part where my abusive ex just asked again if she can move back in with me. This is the part where I wonder how many times I’ll have to relive the heartbreak of saying no. This is the part where I’m sad because I think the friend who was most there for me for the past year or so while my ex was engaging in post-breakup abuse and I was stuck living with her for much of it has just discarded me for reminding him he said it would be unethical to keep seeing a significantly younger woman with relationship trauma and jealousy issues he keeps telling me he’s “using as a distraction” to avoid getting over another even younger woman, suggesting it’s wrong to lie to her about why he’s seeing her (she doesn’t know the other woman exists), and asking him to ask himself what’s changed so that he thinks this is ethical now. This is the part where I wonder if I can stay friends with someone who thinks it’s okay to lie to people to get what they want. This is the part where I feel I have to question what he’s lied to me about. This is the part where I realize I’ve lost so much trust in him and that I’m going to have to mourn that even if we are able to stay friends in some capacity. This is the part where I joined the Shift Society last week, and I haven’t even had the bandwidth to get started engaging there. This is the part where I’m tired, sad and frustrated every day and have been for over a year. This is the part where I worry I’m burning out again. I so appreciate this video. I can use the help. Thank you.
This is the part where I want to live my life to the full after being through a lot. I do not want to get caught up about what friends / people think or judge about me.
Thank you ♥ I always love your videos ~ "this is the part where..." is truly very good. I love and applaud everything you're saying ~ still, reality wins in the long run. Sometimes the hurt goes way too deep, and there honestly is no light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong, everybody...And God bless us, every one. ♥
Hi Julia, I am so thankful for all you give to people around the world. As a Shifter, it must be a small step process, until I learn to walk faster as I journey.
This is the part where it was difficult 12 hrs ago. Got your notification in the midst of it. Brain saw you and started telling the other part of brain to “shut up she’s watching!” “Don’t act that way in front of her!” 😂. It worked out. Your pretty strong Jules.
I do try to step outside myself during these intense feelings… but sadly i feel like I’d just say “this is the part that seems to never end ..the part ive been in for 20 years and logically, im not sure it will ever end.” 😅 I can i get over break ups or deaths eventually, but the depression and anxiety just never seems to subside.
Most of my children do not want anything to do with me. The one that does want something to do with me, lives in another state and is unavailable most of the time.
Hi! Here's the link to my free 10 min guided mindfulness exercise: tt.juliakristina.com/free-mindfulness/
What did you find helpful about this talk?
I sort of feel bad that you didn’t get a Cabbage Patch doll. Thanks for all your videos. Lost my job recently.
This is the part in my story where I felt unbelievably stuck and wondered if things are ever going to get better and if I'm ever going to find something that makes me feel alive.
sending you love during this part.
Wow
If I had to explain what's ripping me apart right now I can't fit it all in the comments
@@Alocubano6174if you were to write it all out or speak it all into a voice recorder, you or someone else who is listening with all their Presence, would uncover one or two core wounds that you have been identified with. The long story you keep hearing stems from these 1-2 beliefs. Knowing that is a start to reduce the amount of inner burden.
From there you can start working with the parts who feel unloved like Julia is explaining here ❤🙂
Ain’t that the damn truth
This is the part where I focus on what I have control over. Myself.
This is the part where I felt so misunderstood and judged unfairly, by people I respect and love so much.
This is the part where I feel a little lost at the moment and not knowing which way my life is going right now .
This is my part feeling sad everyday because I’m dealing with anxiety and other health issues not knowing what to do on a daily basis
This is the part where I made the decision to try to find a way to overcome the depression, anxiety and isolation and feel something positive in my life again. 🌸
This is the part where I feel overwhelmed and beaten and struggling to find the motivation to keep going.
New and been struggling for 60 years the duration is unsustainable🦋
This is the part where I struggled with the loss of a relationship and fear of not finding that connection again.
This is part of my life i have been struggling with avoidant personality disorder, distorted beliefs about existence, low self esteem and confidence, helplessness. I hope I overcome it.
This is the part of my story where i feel i keep making the same mistakes and i realised where i need to change my pattern of behaviours, and not let others dictate what i do in a situation.
Reading these comments reminds me that we’re all hurting and we’re not alone in that, it’s part of being human. Thanks Julia for reminding me this is just a part of the Story, everything is temporary.
This is part of my life i have been struggling with health issues and can’t wait to feel better and free from pains,thanks Julia for this
AI relate. Illnesses are hard fought.
Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here!
This was such a great video on an important topic and presented very well! Good job!
“This is the part where...” I am grieving and at a place of fear and unknown.
I can look back at past times when I went through the same thing and remember that grieving is part of life journey and healing does happen over the years.
The unknown part is where I am in life and knowing I don’t have to have it all together and to work those steps towards any goal that I want to achieve. I am just working on the confidence and can-do attitude that I can at least try.
Here are my notes:
*Having uncomfortable feelings like sad, depressed, hurt, heartbroken and anxious is part of the full human experience. Nothing has gone wrong; it is normal to have difficult feelings.
*Life will have disappointments and hurt and fear.
*Accept that life comes with all of it.
*See your life as a series unfolding and "This is the part where…"
*Create that space for that experience.
*Reflect on the past and use it as evidence that there is going to be that again, that is all just part of it until our life is complete. It is all part of the story.
This is the part of my story when I have a tension headache feeling lonely anxious and angry, overwhelmed at age of 65
This is the part where I felt I shouldn’t believed that life would get better for me
This is the part of my life where I'm having to realise that I now live with bigger limitations from bipolar, high anxiety & PTSD. Having spent all my life having to deny these to myself & others, now I have to embrace them & live each day with them. It's really hard.
Gary, a new member to your community Julia, living in Coventry, United Kingdom.
This is the part where I’m supporting people through their extreme suffering and learning how to stay healthy and not getting crushed by their suffering
This is the part where my co-worker's discontent and resentment of a past employee has made me face the fact that I am hurt by the ex-employee's narcisttic abuse. The self-entitlement of that person while I worked so hard and realize that I feel undervalued, underpaid, and overworked. That I have to search for a better circumstance even if I still like this job.
This is the part of my life where I feel I will never forget about this person, and I will never find someone I love and match this much anymore.
This is the part where I got sick and the sickness didnt go away, and I found myself falling into feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness and I started watching videos and learning about toxic shame, toxic perfectionism and negative core beliefs.
This is the part in my story when I am the most alone, and it hurts deeply, but is necessary as I shift my need for external validation into an inner strength and inner validation.
I suffered from OCD and delusional beliefs for 20 years of my life I’m getting better and improving every day, oh thank God
Oh my word.
I literally just said "is it EVER going to stop?"
I am absolutely weary and just done.
Yiu video popped up and all I can say is thank you. ❤️
Radical Acceptance!🙏🏻❤️
This is the part where I fight through being stuck building a new life and business to get back on top after my accident.
This is thepart where.. I'm recovering from caregiver burnout, and depression, processing grief and death, working with my therapist, healing from narcissist abuse at work and from my sister. And creating hope for life. this is the part of my ife, where I learned I can make it on my own, and that mom and dad are always with me.. and I am loved and worthwhile and deserving of life, even when Im my only support system. I will be okay. As long as I never give up.
This is the part where I learn to cope with a new job, with new people and new ways of doing things.
good for you! Cheering you on from Vancouver, Rob.
1:53 - "Underlying hum". Yes, this is an excellent description. It could be caused by recent events, or long past ones which are still active in the mind.
7:30 - You have to go through the grief. There is no other way to get past it than by going through it. It is like ripping off a huge bandage. Better to have a lot of pain in one shot than to drag things out unnecessarily.
I really love how you explain things. It does make it much easier to deal with. Another situation I am having a hard time dealing with is when you have friends or family that are not speaking to each other because of something that happened. And I really like and care about them both. It's so uncomfortable because I like and care about them both. They don't realize how they affect other people around them.
Then it might get easier for you if you tap into their experince of their situation... They both probably feel very un-heard, un-seen, and not at all understood. That hurts a lot. And so when it comes to a certain point it might get difficult to see from the opposing persons perspective.
What you can do, as a person outside of their issues, is to knowledge their struggles and try to understand what they both are going through.
Yes - it can be really hard to feel caught in the middle like this. Have you asked them not to talk about the other person around you?
Thank you so much for replying. It seems to be happening with a few people I know. Both family and friends. I will to talk to the people in my family about not bashing the other person. It's just bugging me, because it seems to happen quite a bit with people I know. I just wish that they can just get along. I know I shouldn't take on their drama.
This is the part where I feel my depression and anxiety will never get better. This is the part where I'm financially afraid. This is the part where I wonder if me and my wife will ever have the intimate, emotional closeness that I need so badly.
This is the part where - having avoided any intense emotion ( I don't do anger - I don't do grief - I don't do joy - they all feel dangerous) when I'm hurt enough to feel disappointed and angry - I literally don't know how to be these things it's scary........
Thank You Julia. This really, really helped me and I so appreciate you being here. At times, I have really struggled over the past few years and I simply don’t know what I would have done without you.
so glad you're here Rob.
This is the part I sometimes feel things can never get better. As it's gone on a good while now.😢
This is the part where im lost and trying to figure out the next step in my life after passing my boards. I thought id be sure at this age of where i wanted to live, what i want and that I’d have a partner but i dont. This is the stage where i move on to the next chapter in my life and it will be hopefully be filled with new blessings and experiences I never expected.
All life's transitions are difficult. You will get through this difficult process, and things will be better! ❤
This was very helpful. I would not post my problems here publicly though, but I did do a journal entry starting with 'This is the part where...'
I had generally forgot about and stopped using journalling.
This is the part where I need to go back to work,at 63 years old also dealing with teeth issues.
This is the part where I feel guilt, lost, conflict, worry but also following my heart against my head, the unknown is scary.
Thank you so much, only discovered your videos this week and I think you are saving my sanity!!! Bless you.
Welcome here! Glad you're enjoying the talks.
Ivd been bit strugling with Depression about my past with my crush that her bf try to threating me this video help me alot
I have a lot of ongoing health issues..... I've had a lot of depression resulting from feeling like I can't just walk away from chronic health issues
Long Covid for me. Are you still going through?
This is the part where I have been struggling with major health issues, (2yrs debilitating long covid). I lost my business, lost my health, finances dissolved, relationships fractured, major depression, feels like I’ve lost almost everything. This is the part where I am in survival mode, just living day to day. This is the part where I am just looking for a small win. This is the part when I just discovered Your channel and content. Thank you Julia Christina.
Julia, I love your new hair style. It’s awesome! Infact you are awesome! Thanks for the great video.
You're welcome! And thank you for your encouraging words.
This is the part where a number of things can shift in my life . I just need to hold on tight to what I know is working and not be frightened by the chaos. Thank you Julia!
you are so welcome. We are here with and for you Marek.
@@juliakristinamah Thank you!
This is the part of my life where I’m by myself in a new state for 1.5 years and get fired from each job (3) in a career field that is so toxic & exploitative but I need the money to survive.
This is the part where my sisters addictions has torn my family apart and I wonder if any of us will ever feel whole and happy
This is the part where I'm a single mother taking care of an anxious three year old with extreme behavior issues, where we came out of an emotionally and verbally abusive home with an alcoholic.
Thank you for welcoming all of us 🥰❤❤
You are VERY welcome here.
This is the part where I have to learn to accept my scars from an illness and believe that I’ll find love and fulfillment.
what a beautiful part. Thank you for sharing with us.
I like this. It was when I finally decided to radically acceptance helped me. Sometimes we have to sit down and rest your mind.
amen to this!
Tears came to my eyes instantly. Yes, I am 'in it' going on 3 weeks now, likely the resistance stage. I am deeply grateful for your talk today that is gift from God (for me). I do all I can to ignore my struggles telling myself I have no right to how I am feeling and I should just snap out of it.
Remember that feelings are not right or wrong or good or bad - they are just information.
Glad you're here. I see you doing the work.
This is the part of my life that I'm 2 yrs clean and sober, I'm proud of myself don't get me wrong but I feel stuck now, my crotch has disappeared and has left me feeling riddled with social anxiety and um worthiness, I'm getting offered all kind of volunteering jobs but my low confidence due to me smile and teath and paranoia are really making me resist good opportunities 😢
You are not worthless. Every life is worth living, just need to figure out how to live it.
Wow that is amazing that you are two years sober, well done! Don’t give up you ARE WORTHWHILE😊
This is the part where I’m feeling so overwhelmed by things beyond my control and I caused myself a lot of needless suffering. This is the part where I chose to take back my power and be on the other side of my suffering.
I just want to say thank you. Listening get me out of my own head and give me other points of view
You're welcome. Glad you're here - I see you doing the work.
This is the part where I feel a bit anxious about possibly starting a new full time job and going to grad school full time.
you've got this!
I have considered people to be books, especially back when I was doing more reading. I always wondered if they would have interesting stories, or if the stories would be boring, or what would at least be the most interesting part(s)? A new co-worker once asked me, "What's your story?" and I responded, "I haven't killed anyone yet!" His eyes got big, and I explained that I had been on a kick where I watched the movie Chicago, or parts of it, over and over. The part where different women explained their stories for why they were in jail came to mind when he asked his question. (If you haven't seen this movie, the story is an interesting commentary on society, and the singing dancing choreography and presentation is superb. Even if you don't care for musicals, this one is a must see!)
As for me, this is the part of my story where I'm in survival mode, waiting for something apocalyptic to happen.
This is the part where the waiting for love demonstrations and attention from someone I love felt excruciating.
This is the part where I actually started to love and appreciate myself.
This is the part where I feel unloveable, not enough, he’s going to see me as not enough to stay in the relationship for, that I’m not worth the effort. Anxiety in my gut off and on. This is anxious attachment and it’s stalling my happiness.
This is the part where my anxiety and stress is getting bigger than I want. This too shall pass.
This is the part of my life where I was feeling lonely and sad, wondering whether I'll ever find meaningful friendships and the strength to continue pursuing my dreams to become an entrepreneur.
Thank you Julia for sharing this insightful perspective at a time I needed it so much. I will definitely start using this more often!
Sending you relentless determination as you work to build your dreams.
@@juliakristinamah Thank you ❤
This is the part where I joined the Shift Society and am looking forward to gaining tools that will help me manage my anxious brain. I love the concept in this video! Very helpful to look at my life as a story unfolding. Thank you Julia!
Welcome new Shifter! Really glad you've joined us and that you found this talk helpful. See you over there ❤
This is the part where I am gifted someone's teaching and it makes me more resilient and have more control over my perspective. It's where I know that even in my 60's I am glad to be learning to be excited about a more positive future. Thank you.
Brilliant concept, really helpful, thank you
You're welcome. Happy you found it helpful.
I'm in a very small apartment that is too small for me and my roommate, but this was a necessary step in the new place we are living. I keep thinking will I ever get a bigger place and a place of my own.
Shifter here. This is the part where I am struggling to get past the symptoms of crippling precipitory anxiety and depression. I’ve been going through another depression episode for about a year now which has now turned in to anxiety. I wonder if it will ever end?? This video has been soooooo helpful!! Radical acceptance of the whole human experience has helped me come to terms with these mental struggles. I realize it is the total human experience and while I don’t like it, I am having the thought that I can lay this depression and major anxiety down and jut let it be… Thank you Julia for helping me see this in a more tangible way. ❤
Hello, my fellow Shifter. I understand your struggles; these ones are similar to my own. This is why the work is going to be a step-by-step process for me.
This is the part where my recovery of eye surgery has me limited, but it is a blessing. I don't have to be worried. I am thankful I have this time in my life to be able to recover without stress.
This is the part where and when I broke through to new levels of consciousness and created more space in my brain than I ever thought to be possible.
This is the part of my life where I am coping with the many life changes that happen in our 60's: thinking about retirement, empty nest, one son's marriage, other one expecting our first grandchild, finding a way to be married without kids, maintaining good health and attractiveness while aging, realizing that 85 year old mom, although healthy and active, won't be here forever... lots of challenges, some of them joyful, some hard, but all a part of the human experience.
Let me just say thank you so much for your kind contributions. Every little bit helps. I also work in the mental health field. I have for 27 years. Unfortunately I am so beyond burnt out, especially when so many people in my field seem to have given up on certain frequently seen patients suffering from Acute and debilitating mental disorders. And unfortunately that translates to the patient who also seems to have given up..and it's a discouraging cycle.
With that being said, I unfortunately also suffer from what some call MDD,when I was first diagnosed, it was Severe Reoccurring Depression. and I have dealt with it since approximately 12..I just wanna say that I am in NO way ever minimizing anyone's experience or struggles. However, I've spent countless hours with others who also have Depression, and it's not often that I work with someone who just raises my intuition and makes me realize they're on a whole other level that I need to make sure I'm Very conscious of possible red flags signs..and sadly that small percentage of patients are the ones I relate to most,in regards to my depression. It consumes everything. I've been on on medication for over 20 years that have left me with permanent side effects such as tremors, and it seems the older I get the more and more difficult it is it's a function at a normal job or to maintain social relationships, and you would think that being in the field would give me a leg up unfortunately I've become jaded and can anticipate the responses if I were to ask for help and I'm just....tired. my depression waxes and wanes usually with no trigger at all externally. So for someone to ask me what happened most of the time nothing happened it's just becomes unbearable sometimes and what's also exhausting is constantly trying to hold it in so someone doesn't tell me to get over it or get through it. Anyways thank you for everything you do I appreciate it coming from a kindred spirit in the workforce..
P.s- No im not thinking of hurting myself and no i don't have a plan.
This is the part where......
I thank the Universe for Julia....
This is the part where I learn who I am and what my future life purpose is
I feel so unbelievably lost and unsure of who I am, or where I belong
This is the part where I am just fed up with life being completely unenjoyable all the time, but I still lack the courage to finally end things like I've wished I would for years.
Thank you for all your help and guidance.
This is the part, where I get through a tough week, day by day, to feel back into my work, understanding what's happening and building for the next stage. I will get through today, and I will be feeling better at 6pm. Tmrw will be easier. Just handle today, but by bit, and smile...because I'm the star of my own movie and I do have control and freedom to smile.
"This is the part in my life" when I need to iron out the highs & lows to control mood swings. Something as simple as coffee (even b4 lunch) can seemingly ruin your life. I've throw the caffeinated jar in the bin again .
Love the way u want to help people Julia unbiased, giving freely.
Maybe there are angels walking the earth 🤔
2day I really needed this info.
This is the part where I chose to put anothers' needs before my own for a while.... leave a good job and become a caregiver. This is also the part where I hope for something better on the other side of this experience.
This is the part where, I struggle with the fact that my wife of 12yrs has moved on with someone else... and I try to accept it.
This is the part where I started a life career change and found out that in college Full Time was not going well at all. I became discouraged. This is the time I discovered. My mother having dementia and going to memory care by force.
This is a time I couldnt find ANY therapist even WITH insurance.
This is a time when all of this and feeling sad I did not meet my goals from last year. A part where I believe Im going to be single the rest of my life. I dont do well with challenge well. This is THE OART that led me here to your videos. I wish I had you for my aftercare from DBT & CBT
This is the part of my life where at the age of 68 I have to start all over! Working thru a divorce after finding out about his long-term affair, finding a job after being out of the work force for 20 yrs, selling my house, and finding a new place to live!
Oh sooooo sorry. Best wishes in the days to come
I went through a similar experience--keep looking forward....
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to make videos like this
You're welcome - really glad you're here.
I recently ended a seven year friendship with a narcissistic toxic person who was very draining. I was wondering if you could possibly make more “friendship ending” videos? I have replayed your previous videos on that topic endlessly because I love your content :)
that's a great topic suggestion. thanks for offering it.
This is the part where I'm feeling heartbroken and sad and that's OK. It will pass it's just very hard right now and would be for anyone
This is the part where I feel that life is incredibly hard for various reasons.
This is the part where I am experiencing a loss of a friendship of someone, many months after losing my mum. This is another loss that life is putting upon me. Life now is something that I am more lost with as I no longer have my mum, and I am only 22.
This is very very good, this teaches us to accept our feelings and emotions when going through difficult situations
you got it ❤
This is the part where I'm going through a separation from my wife and filing for divorce very soon and wandering what will happen to me
This is the part where I am trying to work through past painful issues while living with a narcissist.
This is the part where I’m scared because my cat has recently had a hypertensive crisis and went blind and no one knows why. This is the part where I don’t feel ready for more people or animals I love to die.
This is the part where I miss my uncle, who was one of my only relatives who never treated me like I was broken. He died suddenly last week. The last time I got to see him was 2016. Now I’ll never see him again. I miss him a lot.
This is the part where my brothers and their families have just visited my dad overseas and my dad made sure to pressure me heavily to come visit him too, which wouldn’t be healthy for me right now. This is the part where I feel lonely and longing for family connection that come so much more easily to them than it can to me.
The is the part where my abusive ex just asked again if she can move back in with me. This is the part where I wonder how many times I’ll have to relive the heartbreak of saying no.
This is the part where I’m sad because I think the friend who was most there for me for the past year or so while my ex was engaging in post-breakup abuse and I was stuck living with her for much of it has just discarded me for reminding him he said it would be unethical to keep seeing a significantly younger woman with relationship trauma and jealousy issues he keeps telling me he’s “using as a distraction” to avoid getting over another even younger woman, suggesting it’s wrong to lie to her about why he’s seeing her (she doesn’t know the other woman exists), and asking him to ask himself what’s changed so that he thinks this is ethical now. This is the part where I wonder if I can stay friends with someone who thinks it’s okay to lie to people to get what they want. This is the part where I feel I have to question what he’s lied to me about. This is the part where I realize I’ve lost so much trust in him and that I’m going to have to mourn that even if we are able to stay friends in some capacity.
This is the part where I joined the Shift Society last week, and I haven’t even had the bandwidth to get started engaging there. This is the part where I’m tired, sad and frustrated every day and have been for over a year. This is the part where I worry I’m burning out again.
I so appreciate this video. I can use the help. Thank you.
This is the part where I want to live my life to the full after being through a lot. I do not want to get caught up about what friends / people think or judge about me.
The talk was as beautiful as you. Thank you 🫡 very very helpful 👍
Thank you ♥ I always love your videos ~ "this is the part where..." is truly very good.
I love and applaud everything you're saying ~ still, reality wins in the long run. Sometimes the hurt goes way too deep, and there honestly is no light at the end of the tunnel.
Stay strong, everybody...And God bless us, every one. ♥
Julia thank you, your videos have helped me more than you may ever know. I appreciate you ❤
You're welcome Terri. Really glad you're here.
Hi Julia, I am so thankful for all you give to people around the world. As a Shifter, it must be a small step process, until I learn to walk faster as I journey.
You are doing the work - and I see that. Once one small shift that you've noticed recently?
This part is hard struggling to get out of the stuckness I know there’s another part going to reveal itself I just don’t know how to unlock that part
I am glad to have found you!
This is the part in which I feel very empty and depressed and feel there is no way out of this part. I feel totally stuck.
Manage that Shift 🥰
This is the part where it was difficult 12 hrs ago. Got your notification in the midst of it. Brain saw you and started telling the other part of brain to “shut up she’s watching!” “Don’t act that way in front of her!” 😂. It worked out. Your pretty strong Jules.
I do try to step outside myself during these intense feelings… but sadly i feel like I’d just say “this is the part that seems to never end ..the part ive been in for 20 years and logically, im not sure it will ever end.” 😅
I can i get over break ups or deaths eventually, but the depression and anxiety just never seems to subside.
Most of my children do not want anything to do with me. The one that does want something to do with me, lives in another state and is unavailable most of the time.
Hello Julia I’m Jonathan thank you so much for your ideas about dealing with things in life thank you