My stepfather used to say all the time to "Let go and let God" It has helped, and so has "Have the courage to change the things you can." from the Serenity Prayer. Julia's way of breaking things down and explaining things in different ways is comforting and inspiring.
Am I the only one who gets excited when her videos are longer than usual? 😂 The level of knowledge and self awareness I’ve received from watching this one time, does not compare to what I’ve unlocked the second time. I needed this message and I’m so thankful to you, for sharing your time with us and teaching us how to activate that incredible versions of ourselves. You’ve changed my life and continue to do so. Thank you thank you thank you.
These videos are amazing self-development thank you for them being free because I would not be able to pay for them your a real deal the best therapist I have ever listened too
Julia's fantastic! I only found her more recently and she's one of only 3 mental health professionals on here that can actually make me cry. lol. That may sound bad, but it's really not! If I cry, it's because the words and concepts are finally getting through! 💞
Hi Julia - I know you’re in Canada and I’m in the States, but I still want to refer to you as a National Treasure. What you just described is so accurate and usable, once again, it’s life changing. Thank you 🙏
😮 The sad and unfortunate story about the cancer patient will change my life philosophy moving forward….I say unfortunate but his mindset is one of the greatest gift to us…. I’m stopping with the entitlement mindset of less to no pain and mostly pleasure. AS A HUMAN BEING pain and the unfortunate times are part of the life arrangement so when they happen and they will I am blessed and grateful to be participating and be a part of life 🤗🙏🏿 I’m so grateful ☺️
Two years ago, I had myself checked up at a hospital for any complications, because I felt like there's something wrong going on with me, only to find out that there never was any complications other than anxiety. It was triggered one night, a few weeks before it continued to get worse, it was the first time I've experienced fear in a way that it felt like I was in extreme danger even tho everything is fine and well. The doctor told me, "Happiness is a choice", and never did I really understand it until I watched your video. I let myself suffer for too long, always looking for a cause or something to blame, for why I suddenly got anxiety disorder, even tho I'm already told that anxiety runs in my family. But I always knew, that it was me making it worse. Two years, and I'm still struggling with it, no job, dealt with numerous problems along with existential crisis, burnout, depression, and now, the ongoing pandemic. I'm 23 years old and I felt like my life already ended when I graduated from college. I keep telling myself, there was no reason for this to happen to me, I was so happy then, I was always grateful for what I had, how come it's so different now. And that's where it hit me. The only difference between now and then, is that back then I chose to be happy, I had trust in myself, I knew about life having bad days or even years of it, but always believed in myself, that I can handle it, despite the pain. Your words are just so great to hear, pain indeed is inevitable, suffering however, it's a choice, much like happiness. Thank you.
To me saying happiness is a choice is like saying that we have to be happy in spite of all the shit we go through, whatever it is. Some people have that nature, others do not. I feel very trapped and like an hostage
You sound just like me, but I’m SOO HAPPY, you are AWARE NOW......& NOT SUFFER for DECADES,Needlessly.... I’m NOT GIVING UP,She has really helped me..... esp THIS VIDEO.... & I actual understand what exactly she is saying❤️🙏🌿,
@@kaypowell407 it's not that "we have to be", it's that we can always 'choose' to be. There is such thing as a false positivity. You need to feel sad as well if you actually are going thru something. But staying there for the rest of your life, being sad, is the same as trying to stay happy despite of the bad things happening around. Allow yourself to feel stuff, but learn where and when to draw the line. Easier said than done, but better than not trying at all.
Most of my unhappiness comes from those that are unhappy in their own lives, interrupting my bubble. Without outside influences, I'm happy as a pig in ... stuff. Hawaii is awesome. Hope you get to Maui. Good stuff.
Thankyou so much for talking about suffering with uncertainty,it helped me a lot......I was really feeling down because I felt like I had so many questions unanswered and that made me slow down on my life and be negative and was feeling stuck. What u said made me feel better because...Yes! We don't really need to know everything to be fine and confident❤️lysm
Julia kristina is the only person i know, that gets to me. Thank you for this video. If you think you win, you win. If you think you lost, you already lost. I admit to picking at people's minds/psych. Nasty habit. Cant help it. Worse, i use a speakcard. I might be transpassing on private personal human domain.
This really hit home with me this morning! I have so many self limiting beliefs! I'm going to start working on this beginning today! Thank you for your insight!🥰🙏
Good to hear! Yeah….The good comes with the bad and this video reminded me of this….we can’t rip December (winter) off the calendar and just keep spring as they both are inseparable but in December we can get wiser, stronger and better…..Even when we can’t overcome challenges we can at least get a little bit better and smarter and knowledgeable 😊
It's tough when you want those you love to be safe, but the worrying is only taking away from your happiness, and not helping your children stay safe. What could you do instead of worrying?
Thanks for the awesome video JULIA ! You are right about impermanence, everything is temporary. According to Buddhist philosophy everything is impermanent. 1. Everything that is born is impermanent and bound to die. 2. Everything that is joined is impermanent and bound to come apart. 3. Everything that is stored is impermanent and bound to run out. 4. Everything that is built is impermanent and bound to collapse. Everything that goes up is impermanent and bound to come . I got a copy of your new book, it is absolutely wonderful. Thanks fo being you.
Thank you, Julia. I already recognized my struggle in just the first belief. IAlways thinking that one day I will get to the point where everything is finally easy and good and I have "resolved" all my (perceived) problems is keeping me unhappy, and not able to enjoy a lot of things. But on a side note: how you talked about the pandemic and "not having freedom" made it sound like you saw the measures and restrictions just as "freedoms being taken away" and disregard that they actually save lives, and that maybe they were there for a reason, other than preventing you from travel and people from going to mass events and consuming... I am sure this is not how you intended it to come across, but with so many anti science/anti vaxx/denial BS being spread, it matters how we talk about attempts to control the spread of disease...just my humble opnion.
Wow Julia's talk helped me to the truth to trust in Jehovah God 🙏 and Jesus Christ in every situation and you will find life will be easier with the true God on our and your side in life
I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses too. This channel has helped me too. I thank Jehovah for helping me find this channel. I never realized how many of my own thoughts was causing so much unhappiness.
During these last 15+mo or so, say 18mo situation of the world, there's been a lot of simultaneous road construction this exact period. There's warning signage in every direction heading to work that reads 'Stay in Lane'. Stay in my lane? Are you kidding? Oddly, this had been an extremely helpful reminder. Just focus on my Own Business? I can do that! And your comments feel super-relevant to the worries of the economy and jobs in general at this time, even relationships and altered roles. Who Knows??? (Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own - timeless 'lane' advice)
This was great and interesting to see how these all play into each other. Your trip to Hawaii for example, your choosing to go and choosing to think it'll all work out and you'll go BUT (what you didn't say but I take away from everything you've just said) it's not CERTAIN, you are aware of this and know you can't CONTROL the outcome but you TRUST that whatever happens YOU will be able to deal with it because life can be UNCOMFORTABLE but you will learn from it, you'll be ok in the end and will focus on the good and move forward because of the above. You're not COMPARING your holiday disaster to someone else on Instagram who may be having the best holiday, your focusing on YOUR JOURNEY 🙂 that's how I tie everything you've just said together if that makes sense. Thanks for another great video!
Very interesting about the 3 Cs... I believe it is an indirect cause of my Dysregulation-( Also part of it id CPTSD from an auto accident and childhood molestation..)..
True Positivity Is Yea sure this is going on right now, and it’s okay to be where I am at what can I do right now in this moment? What am I learning in this moment?
You are so amazing I relate everything you say is definitely how I think. Struggle to do the points made in this video. Thankyou for sharing your experiences to firstly help me but also the thousands of other people. You are an inspiration
Thank you so much, Julia! I do completely resonate and agree with you, and do have kinda awareness in mind. But I still make myself miserable sometimes, even after knowing it all in my mind. As if I want to be miserable in the moment, though it's surely painful. Could you please give some tips here, what am I missing? Much ❤️ to you!
I absolutely LOVE ❤️ how Viktor Frankl is CONSTANTLY mentioned throughout all my years of recovery ☺️👌 especially because Mans Search For Meaning was literally one of my most Significant lightbulb 💡 times in my life! (Such a powerful book !!!📕 🙌✨😚)
6 REASONS WHY WE ARE UNHAPPY: 1. Thinking that life should always be comfortable. Suffering or being happy is a choice. 2. To be certain,to know exactly what happens next. We just need to trust that whatever happens is gonna be ok. 3. focus on the negative thoughts . Be optimistic. Be responsible. 4. Comparison 5. Always think that it'll not work out. Better to think it's gonna be ok. 6.
Enjoying your TH-cam & subscribed. I tried getting lists you mention but only get TONS OF ADS. Would you know how I can get the lists w/o trouble. Your video therapy is AWESOME and VERY HELPFUL. Thank you Julia.
Question to responsible thoughts- would it be a responsible thought to take charge and ensure one's career provides purpose, or it this the mind's trick to be comfortable and thus contributing to one's unhappiness? I'm in the process of career change- yes partly for money, but the main driver is to enhance my life's purpose. Comments welcome
I would say if this career change makes you feel better about your life's purpose then that is the point. To feel fulfilled in what you are doing regardless of the money.
So what if life is hard all the time and you can't remember a time when you were happy ? Could wanting full control be because you don't trust others, not because you don't trust yourself?
25:58 - 40%? I thought it was higher than this. In my own experience, I have found that 40% of people are by nature good and that 60% are by nature not good.
@@juliakristinamah My own mood is not determined by my circumstances. In my opinion, relying on circumstances is a way of avoiding responsibility. "It all just happens by itself." I don't think like this.
You’re right Julia the antidote to anxiety is trust.
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
Thank you for those kind words💛✨!
Thanks, we need this is a good reminder
beautiful words. Thank you.
So sweet xx
I needed to read this. Thank you from France 💜
My stepfather used to say all the time to "Let go and let God" It has helped, and so has "Have the courage to change the things you can." from the Serenity Prayer. Julia's way of breaking things down and explaining things in different ways is comforting and inspiring.
so glad you found this helpful - and yes, I love the Serenity Prayer too -it's really powerful.
Am I the only one who gets excited when her videos are longer than usual? 😂
The level of knowledge and self awareness I’ve received from watching this one time, does not compare to what I’ve unlocked the second time. I needed this message and I’m so thankful to you, for sharing your time with us and teaching us how to activate that incredible versions of ourselves. You’ve changed my life and continue to do so. Thank you thank you thank you.
These videos are amazing self-development thank you for them being free because I would not be able to pay for them your a real deal the best therapist I have ever listened too
Wow, you nailed it! Covid literally shook every ounce of our comfort and control. Having you to listen to has been enormously helpful. Thank you.
Grateful to have you here Linda - it's been one heck of a year, hasn't it?
This is my first exposure to Julia - it won't be my last.
Really glad you're here David - welcome!
Julia's fantastic! I only found her more recently and she's one of only 3 mental health professionals on here that can actually make me cry. lol. That may sound bad, but it's really not! If I cry, it's because the words and concepts are finally getting through! 💞
Hi Julia - I know you’re in Canada and I’m in the States, but I still want to refer to you as a National Treasure. What you just described is so accurate and usable, once again, it’s life changing.
Thank you 🙏
An International Treasure
😮 The sad and unfortunate story about the cancer patient will change my life philosophy moving forward….I say unfortunate but his mindset is one of the greatest gift to us…. I’m stopping with the entitlement mindset of less to no pain and mostly pleasure. AS A HUMAN BEING pain and the unfortunate times are part of the life arrangement so when they happen and they will I am blessed and grateful to be participating and be a part of life 🤗🙏🏿 I’m so grateful ☺️
Two years ago, I had myself checked up at a hospital for any complications, because I felt like there's something wrong going on with me, only to find out that there never was any complications other than anxiety. It was triggered one night, a few weeks before it continued to get worse, it was the first time I've experienced fear in a way that it felt like I was in extreme danger even tho everything is fine and well. The doctor told me, "Happiness is a choice", and never did I really understand it until I watched your video. I let myself suffer for too long, always looking for a cause or something to blame, for why I suddenly got anxiety disorder, even tho I'm already told that anxiety runs in my family. But I always knew, that it was me making it worse. Two years, and I'm still struggling with it, no job, dealt with numerous problems along with existential crisis, burnout, depression, and now, the ongoing pandemic. I'm 23 years old and I felt like my life already ended when I graduated from college. I keep telling myself, there was no reason for this to happen to me, I was so happy then, I was always grateful for what I had, how come it's so different now. And that's where it hit me. The only difference between now and then, is that back then I chose to be happy, I had trust in myself, I knew about life having bad days or even years of it, but always believed in myself, that I can handle it, despite the pain. Your words are just so great to hear, pain indeed is inevitable, suffering however, it's a choice, much like happiness. Thank you.
To me saying happiness is a choice is like saying that we have to be happy in spite of all the shit we go through, whatever it is. Some people have that nature, others do not. I feel very trapped and like an hostage
You sound just like me, but I’m SOO HAPPY, you are AWARE NOW......& NOT SUFFER for DECADES,Needlessly.... I’m NOT GIVING UP,She has really helped me..... esp THIS VIDEO.... & I actual understand what exactly she is saying❤️🙏🌿,
@@kaypowell407 it's not that "we have to be", it's that we can always 'choose' to be. There is such thing as a false positivity. You need to feel sad as well if you actually are going thru something. But staying there for the rest of your life, being sad, is the same as trying to stay happy despite of the bad things happening around. Allow yourself to feel stuff, but learn where and when to draw the line. Easier said than done, but better than not trying at all.
@@rhondapelletier2141 that's good to hear. Keep holding on dude, keep going.
why am I crying (sadness) right now?? Thank you Julia :)
Pain is inevitable Julia you’re right.
Most of my unhappiness comes from those that are unhappy in their own lives, interrupting my bubble.
Without outside influences, I'm happy as a pig in ... stuff.
Hawaii is awesome. Hope you get to Maui. Good stuff.
Thankyou so much for talking about suffering with uncertainty,it helped me a lot......I was really feeling down because I felt like I had so many questions unanswered and that made me slow down on my life and be negative and was feeling stuck. What u said made me feel better because...Yes! We don't really need to know everything to be fine and confident❤️lysm
So glad that one connected with you Tiara - thanks for being here.
@@juliakristinamah thankyou more ♡
Me too !!!!!
You don’t have full control Julia you’re absolutely right.
Julia kristina is the only person i know, that gets to me. Thank you for this video.
If you think you win, you win. If you think you lost, you already lost.
I admit to picking at people's minds/psych. Nasty habit. Cant help it.
Worse, i use a speakcard.
I might be transpassing on private personal human domain.
Holy macaroni. I needed to hear this to start my day! Thanks, Julia
so glad it connected - thanks for being here.
This really hit home with me this morning! I have so many self limiting beliefs! I'm going to start working on this beginning today! Thank you for your insight!🥰🙏
I never realize soon enough that my thoughts are getting out of control so I can stop doing it in time, before I start losing sleep 🙄
Life doesn’t always have to be comfortable Julia right on.
This video answered a lot of “mysteries” I had as to why it is challenging at times to find happiness and contentment in everyday living.
Good to hear! Yeah….The good comes with the bad and this video reminded me of this….we can’t rip December (winter) off the calendar and just keep spring as they both are inseparable but in December we can get wiser, stronger and better…..Even when we can’t overcome challenges we can at least get a little bit better and smarter and knowledgeable 😊
Great message! I need to change my habit of worrying about my adult children every day!
It's tough when you want those you love to be safe, but the worrying is only taking away from your happiness, and not helping your children stay safe. What could you do instead of worrying?
Thank you❤ what your grandad said was powerful. He was a saint
As usual, Julia hits the nail on the head! The part about control is spot on and something I deal with every day.
We should think responsible Julia you’re right.
That first one hit anyone else so hard. I literally put this on pre-panic attack. As soon I started feeling uncomfortable and a little overwhelmed.
did you get curious about what came up for you with that first one?
Thanks for the awesome video JULIA ! You are right about impermanence, everything is temporary. According to Buddhist philosophy everything is impermanent. 1. Everything that is born is impermanent and bound to die. 2. Everything that is joined is impermanent and bound to come apart. 3. Everything that is stored is impermanent and bound to run out. 4. Everything that is built is impermanent and bound to collapse. Everything that goes up is impermanent and bound to come . I got a copy of your new book, it is absolutely wonderful. Thanks fo being you.
Thank you, Julia. I already recognized my struggle in just the first belief. IAlways thinking that one day I will get to the point where everything is finally easy and good and I have "resolved" all my (perceived) problems is keeping me unhappy, and not able to enjoy a lot of things.
But on a side note: how you talked about the pandemic and "not having freedom" made it sound like you saw the measures and restrictions just as "freedoms being taken away" and disregard that they actually save lives, and that maybe they were there for a reason, other than preventing you from travel and people from going to mass events and consuming...
I am sure this is not how you intended it to come across, but with so many anti science/anti vaxx/denial BS being spread, it matters how we talk about attempts to control the spread of disease...just my humble opnion.
You help me look and things that I WOULD NEVER know or think about before. Definitely exercises my conscious mind.
Her voice is really relaxing, for some reason. Sometimes I put her playlists on repeat and fall asleep.
Life isn’t always wine and roses Julia.❤
Wow Julia's talk helped me to the truth to trust in Jehovah God 🙏 and Jesus Christ in every situation and you will find life will be easier with the true God on our and your side in life
I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses too. This channel has helped me too. I thank Jehovah for helping me find this channel. I never realized how many of my own thoughts was causing so much unhappiness.
Incredible wise words. Listening over and over to retain these nuggets of wisdom, thank you.
Thanks so much for the information, its so great to hear you say you want to help the world be a little better.
Excellent understanding of our thoughts and how they affect us thanks
Nothing is ever certain Julia.
Bad things do happen whether we like it or not.
During these last 15+mo or so, say 18mo situation of the world, there's been a lot of simultaneous road construction this exact period. There's warning signage in every direction heading to work that reads 'Stay in Lane'. Stay in my lane? Are you kidding? Oddly, this had been an extremely helpful reminder. Just focus on my Own Business? I can do that! And your comments feel super-relevant to the worries of the economy and jobs in general at this time, even relationships and altered roles. Who Knows??? (Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own - timeless 'lane' advice)
I'm also working really hard on not fearing the worst..... Again not easy to change that thinking but I'm trying really hard!
This was great and interesting to see how these all play into each other. Your trip to Hawaii for example, your choosing to go and choosing to think it'll all work out and you'll go BUT (what you didn't say but I take away from everything you've just said) it's not CERTAIN, you are aware of this and know you can't CONTROL the outcome but you TRUST that whatever happens YOU will be able to deal with it because life can be UNCOMFORTABLE but you will learn from it, you'll be ok in the end and will focus on the good and move forward because of the above. You're not COMPARING your holiday disaster to someone else on Instagram who may be having the best holiday, your focusing on YOUR JOURNEY 🙂 that's how I tie everything you've just said together if that makes sense. Thanks for another great video!
Agreed! More people with managed minds definitely makes the world a better place! I hope one day mental health care can be accessible to everyone
Thank you for doing this. I love your videos and the help you provide
I am constantly amazed when I hear her say, "These one's"
Perfect video! Ty so much💞We love watching you!💗🙏
Thanks for your videos 😊
Thank you Julia for this video. I needed it
I would love to take a trip to Hawaii Julia. Have fun!❤
Wonderful video!
This is so me. Definitely going to watch this several times & work on myself.
Thank you!
Very interesting about the 3 Cs... I believe it is an indirect cause of my Dysregulation-( Also part of it id CPTSD from an auto accident and childhood molestation..)..
Wise words, thank you.
Thanks Julia 😊 I am listening to the video right now on TH-cam. Much appreciation and respect! I hope you have a lovely day 💗 ☺🤙
Just amazing…
Love your videos. Have really helped
Really need this video this week. Thank you!
Absolutely - glad you're here.
Wow! I do all of this at certain times. Thank you for making this video. This is one video that I can and will play over and over❤
True Positivity Is Yea sure this is going on right now, and it’s okay to be where I am at what can I do right now in this moment? What am I learning in this moment?
You are so amazing I relate everything you say is definitely how I think. Struggle to do the points made in this video.
Thankyou for sharing your experiences to firstly help me but also the thousands of other people. You are an inspiration
Thank you Julia, i needed to hear this today 😉🙏😊
Shout out to you from WA🇦🇺
Another timely video, coach! 💕🤗 #SeniorShifter #Shifter
Thank you so much, Julia!
I do completely resonate and agree with you, and do have kinda awareness in mind. But I still make myself miserable sometimes, even after knowing it all in my mind. As if I want to be miserable in the moment, though it's surely painful.
Could you please give some tips here, what am I missing?
Much ❤️ to you!
My dad’s father died of Cancer as well Julia in 1993.
My mother’s brother died from Brain Cancer in 2022.
This is validating
Sending this to All my friends!!! Super informative!!!
These videos are REALLY amazing! thank you!
I absolutely LOVE ❤️ how Viktor Frankl is CONSTANTLY mentioned throughout all my years of recovery ☺️👌 especially because Mans Search For Meaning was literally one of my most Significant lightbulb 💡 times in my life! (Such a powerful book !!!📕 🙌✨😚)
At times we create our own suffering...
I love listening to you and learning .thankyou
Thanks Julia Kristina.
Thank you Julia, as always, I take so much from your videos.
Really appreciate all your videos!! Very relevant
Thank you 😊
We don’t live in a perfect world.
Thankyou! 💕
Hello there! Thank you!
I'm trying really hard to concentrate on what is going right... It'd not easy but I'm trying very hard....
Your videos always speak so true to me and gives me so much food for thought ❤️
The pandemic changed everything Julia.
You're so right I love your videos
Acceptance!
6 REASONS WHY WE ARE UNHAPPY:
1. Thinking that life should always be comfortable. Suffering or being happy is a choice.
2. To be certain,to know exactly what happens next. We just need to trust that whatever happens is gonna be ok.
3. focus on the negative thoughts . Be optimistic. Be responsible.
4. Comparison
5. Always think that it'll not work out. Better to think it's gonna be ok.
6.
Enjoying your TH-cam & subscribed. I tried getting lists you mention but only get TONS OF ADS. Would you know how I can get the lists w/o trouble. Your video therapy is AWESOME and VERY HELPFUL. Thank you Julia.
Question to responsible thoughts- would it be a responsible thought to take charge and ensure one's career provides purpose, or it this the mind's trick to be comfortable and thus contributing to one's unhappiness? I'm in the process of career change- yes partly for money, but the main driver is to enhance my life's purpose. Comments welcome
I would say if this career change makes you feel better about your life's purpose then that is the point. To feel fulfilled in what you are doing regardless of the money.
@@Mel.H_ this is my thought for doing this. Trouble is I don't know until I get down and dirty with it. Thanks for the feedback
Bad things happen it’s inevitable.
I agree with u
So what if life is hard all the time and you can't remember a time when you were happy ? Could wanting full control be because you don't trust others, not because you don't trust yourself?
that makes sense, i think if you want control then it's like you want that power back with you where it belongs, so it means you trust yourself.
There is no free ride in life.
Good advice
How can I lose someone I never had
Don’t compare yourself to people.
25:58 - 40%? I thought it was higher than this.
In my own experience, I have found that 40% of people are by nature good and that 60% are by nature not good.
I think 40% is quite high considering most people think their moods are 100% determined by their circumstances.
@@juliakristinamah My own mood is not determined by my circumstances.
In my opinion, relying on circumstances is a way of avoiding responsibility.
"It all just happens by itself."
I don't think like this.
The only constant in life is change - Bashar
Amen
Vertika...n I am tired of unwanted intrusive illogical thoughts...
👍
Thank you!!! Wonderful message.
Hello
Like, every one of them…😬
Nope, I'm not. Never will be.
Canadian: "ankshuuuuus"
American: "ankshis"
lol
Interesting eh!
Society normalizing immoral things make me unhappy
I know Exactly what u mean bro
@@Damn-p7w yea
21:30 "Assuming" is a very bad habit. It often turns into Self Fulfilling Prophecies.