I absolutely had to listen to this message several times. I have to keep reminding myself the way others treat me isn’t a reflection of me but rather of them. And you’re right it’s hard because we are humans and we seem to take things to heart and it doesn’t make it any better when we’re struggling with learning how to love and trust ourselves(It actually makes it a little worse) I really needed to hear this message such a great message thank you again for continuing to share these GREAT MESSAGES with us. It’s so greatly appreciate it. Thank you🙏🏾
A lot of us feel the same way. I think relationship problems / social dysfunction are rampant throughout the world. Many want to fix / change things for the better.
Your message is pure empowerment in the context of emotional maturity. I truly appreciate your vibe/ simple yet complex subjects/ the black and white presentation aesthetics/ the soothing voice. Invaluable❤️
You brought back to my memory of something I once read…….often times the way people treat you is more of a reflection of how they feel about themselves than they do about you. 👍
Managing our minds is definitely a game changer for me. I could show a picture of a forest here in British Columbia to 2 people. Person A would think about how beautiful the land is and considered going on a hike. Person B thinks it would be a great spot to start a logging business. Are these 2 thoughts wrong? Nope. It is a neutral event but we make drama out of it in our minds and we lash out, backed up by how we see the world and how the world should run. I feel that emotions run high in politics but we create theses emotions in our mindset. So great to hear from you again!
One of the four agreements is "Don't take anything personally." I was reminded of it. Also I have positive thoughts about Julia Kristina. I could share them but I'm not convinced she's dependent on hearing them.
Thank you for this video which supports and reinforces the things I'm working on in the Shift Society!! For anyone who is on the fence about joining the Shift Society, let me tell you that it's SO worth it!!! 👍😁
PROBLEMS ARE CREATED IN OUR MINDS. SO true!!!! Your videos are always relatable. Always. I found you a long time ago through YT4B and you're an inspiration. Mindset is everything and my turn around was my burnout, the BEST that ever happened to me. I began being AWARE of my thoughts, then learned the power of my thoughts and now I manifested my dream life. Everyone can do it and it all starts with awareness, which you mention so often too. Thank you
I really needed to know peoples' behavior is not about me but it's their reaction toward me. I deal with passive aggressive people alot and I couldn't understand it until now. Thanks
Thank you. The messages are so nice and concise. Perfect. Thank you for helping so many of us lost or misunderstood children. I greatly appreciate the light you shine in the fog. Blessings to you Christina!!!
Yes it's true that we have our own expectations of a given outcome....but it's when other people give me expectations of an event, and they fail, it's on them, but it screwed up me too.
Julia kristina at her best. Thank you for this film. It feels like julia kristina knows me personally, can see all my flaws , and might help me fix it.
I have not finished the video, only a minute and 44 in actually, but I just wanted to share that today I relapsed. I have been... circumventing my issues lately even though I always tell my kids and wife to push through, not get past them. I need all the shifts I can get. Thanks in advance for what you do.
Our experiences as well as our environment play a key role in how we interpret things - especially our thoughts and/or words that others say to us. There's way too much self-loathe in this world when there should be more self-love. This is a great video and such good advice!
I am new. I love your videos and they are truly helping me to dig deeper. And empower me to be the best I can be. Sating the boudies with my kids and others.
People are reacting to their thoughts about us Experiences are neutral but we react to what we make it mean about us. See things as experiments. We’re not afraid of the outcome but what we’re going to make it mean something about us. We don’t fear what people think about us, we fear what we’re going to make it mean. We worry about what people might think about us because we think of ourselves that way and it’s a sensitive topic. We need to change how we think about ourselves ❤
I am currently reading your Book and it has been really helping me to see that I am not who others think I am- and the issues I am having relate to reacting to my perceptions of what others are doing in relation to their thoughts - so, it matters what I think of me- and what I need to do in order for me to be able to neutralize this cycle.
Don't take things personally. I have been struggling with this lesson for more than a decade, and this reminder is synchronously timed for me, because I've been beating myself up for stuff going on in my life now. Thank you
@@freshliving4199 thank you for the thought provoking question. My identity has grown organically from early childhood trauma with extreme punishment for authentically expressing who and what I am and the decades of partly self inflicted continuation of trauma, which I am finally making progress in healing. I am now beginning to learn that the trauma of my past doesn't have to define me. I once identified as a slave, but now I serve in pursuit of my dreams, not those of any owner. Now that I'm learning to take ownership of me away from others and own myself, maybe I can get better with this and other lessons that I've been struggling with.
@@xtinamariem3683 The identity you have today is not the real you. Its the identity the world around you has caused you to believe you are. The real you is your SOUL. This world builds you up just to break you down. And it breaks you down just so that it can build you up again. I call it the roller coaster of dying life. To become you, you have to unbecome who you are not. Do you have anger?
@@freshliving4199 my anger has been tempered by understanding and compassion for others and the traumas they have experienced. I get much more angry with systems of oppression, than I do with the individuals within those systems. I am also very aware that I cannot force those individuals who have caused my trauma to take accountability for their actions. I don't even try. My work is more directed toward the creation of systems of support for oppressed individuals and communities. I have never been good at displaying the persona that others expect, because my soul keeps shining through the mask that I create to try and make myself "acceptable" within prevailing systems. I also get angry with individuals who try to keep the light of my soul for themselves, and that anger serves as a catalyst for change within my life. I have watched the identity that I built in response to the pressure of the world crumble, many times. The result of this is that I don't try to tell people who and what I am, rather, I show who and what I am with my actions whenever possible.
@@xtinamariem3683 Interesting. What if i tell you its not actually your anger. In fact you have no anger to give. In reality its your mothers spirit of anger that has made a home in you when she traumatized you as a child. This spirit of anger leads only to destruction and death. Can you see it? Do you want to be free from it?
Failure is painful not just because of the meaning you attach to the result but the time, effort, resources and sacrifices you invest in that particular project.
Your video popped up in my TH-cam feed at just the right time. I ended a two+ year new friendship with a gal I liked and had fun with. I knew she was “ fragile” and I always took a lot of care to be kind, compassionate, and supportive. Unfortunately- she viewed a comment I made as “unforgivable” simply because I disagreed. I tried to move past this hoping she would too but apparently not. So I made the decision on my side that I was not a good friend fit for her. I do have enough confidence in myself and like myself to know it is not my issue - and your video explained it even better. I do feel sad though; it has been a tough week for me but I know time will improve that. I’m newly retired and want to enjoy this time of life; it’s the right decision to eliminate people who bring too much drama and are too needy.
I think I you’re right, I want to watch this one like once a week. So they’re not reacting to us they’re reacting to their thoughts about us. And we aren’t reacting to fundamental truths about us, we’re reacting to what we think they think about us and what what they think means about us.. phew! It’s all just so convoluted, do we even like this person at all? lol
🤯🤯. Wow. That was intense. I am definitely going to have to watch this again. But from what I grasped, it seems to make sense. What holds me back is not a fear of failure but I hear my mom’s voice and other voices from my childhood criticizing me. So I end up not doing . Not that I actually hear the voices. I should clarify. But it just triggers these moments from my youth when I was criticized. If that makes sense. One of these days I will overcome!! Thanks so much.
I discovered your content thru my wife. So, glad I finally listened lol. This is the first video of yours I've watched and 🤯🤯🤯! It's like I felt it was going to be amazing and subscribed and liked the video only 10 seconds in. All I can say is THANK YOU!
Hi Julia. I have been using your videos in team leadership discussions. It’s incredible how well they apply in leadership. People (including myself) try to be an effective leader while still.dragging around this kind of baggage. It’s been very effective and lead to great discussions and change. Thank you 🙏
Oh you were so right in the beginning of this video. I will be coming back!, to listen again and again. So right on what I needed to hear. All five puzzle pieces I've been looking for...it all clicked is what I mean to say and thank you.
I agree with you. But what if they're not telling but they feel worried if they suddenly find you're not there (unexpectedly). I understood this point recently and I believe only some people get worried in such a scenario. Thoughts? I'm open to understand it from your perspective too.
JK you are fabulous. After a 29 year marriage I now find myself alone in my thoughts, but your channel challenges me and puts them in the right perspective. As we say here in Australia, you are such a good egg! Thank you
Thanks for sharing! I'm going to keep this in mind today. The self- trust exercise was outstanding. I bought it a couple weeks ago and found it super helpful😃
I love it! it’s not what they say, rather it’s what they say they I think is true , or believe about myself. Awesome! Definitely words to live by. I love this content because it helps me find strength and meaning for my children. I think I’m gonna sign up and be shifter. It’s hard to go without listening to your videos.
It is a great video. I am here to trust myself more each day to have a more inspiring life. I continue to develop self-trust with my ideas and thoughts. I learned that when I was part of the shift society. I needed to trust my thoughts and my abilities. trusting my thoughts has allowed me to express myself more, send many voice notes in different languages (shift society goal), go out on dates and have a lot of fun, have better conversations and have more confidence for my plans to travel around the world soon
Queen. You are everything!!!!! Is it possible to be a fan of a counselor?! Because I’m your biggest fan. You are amazing!! You’ve helped me so much you have no idea. Thank you x10000. God bless you!
Once again I have learned a lot 😃 I needed this so badly because I am always lost in what others are saying 😂. Now I feel I can work on this right now. TY again and again.
If you react to circumstances then you are giving away your internal power - you aren't living through your internal locus of control. I subscribe to Neville Goddard's 'everyone is yourSELF pushed out' In other words, everyone's (percieved) behaviour towards you is a reflection of your concept of yourself.
Found your channel searching for locus of control. Good stuff. Thank you. If possible, could you please let me know what microphone you are using? Your audio quality is great. I would like to give one of those as a gift. Subscribed and staying tuned in 🙏🏼
Yes they sure do & I agree with you because I have experienced this but they do this so often to me I start feeling like I am crazy and it has driven my Anxiety and Depression up even higher & so much more & I really try so hard to ignore it & put it in one ear & out of the other ear but when it keeps happening as it does it's so hard to control my Anxiety & Depression from getting higher and worse too, so what else do I do to help myself & to control the ignoring part of it so I can keep my Anxiety and Depression from getting any worse?
@@victoriastallard I am experiencing the same thing ! At first I use to take it very personal because it doesn’t seem I loved me enough why I made it affect me but now I look at it as If they really do need some help (unhappy with themselves) with that thought it keeps me going
@@temerawhyte2942 Thank you so much now I know I am not alone & I am absolutely not crazy either. I really appreciate you commenting on what I said & again thank you.
@@temerawhyte2942 I am also going to keep in my mind that the reason I go through this with people myself is because they are unhappy within their selves just as you said because it will help keep me going not just for myself but my Beautiful Daughter & come October my Handsome Cute Grandson's too 😊
@@juliakristinamah it's happened a few times and as someone who can't afford to support the youtubers she enjoys financially, i try to do all the things TH-cam algorithm likes and that includes commenting. I really appreciate what you do here and you may never know how much you've saved my marriage and helped me.
Crows and Ravens are actually impressive birds, LOL! xD This video indeed needs to be watched more than once in order for all of these ideas to register properly. For many of these neutral situations, "The war is in your head.". More often than not, failures are best seen as lessons. 14:38 - The thoughts of any given individual are that person's own business. (If a person has severely distorted thoughts and then actually acts on them, then this is an entirely different issue.) I like your hair, actually, LOL! xD I like that you film your videos in Black & White, even though most things in life are not B/W ;-) Many thanks to you. Cheers!
It's like a spiritual awaking for me I've lived most of my life on autopilot what a shift in my thinking julia is a gem.
I absolutely had to listen to this message several times. I have to keep reminding myself the way others treat me isn’t a reflection of me but rather of them. And you’re right it’s hard because we are humans and we seem to take things to heart and it doesn’t make it any better when we’re struggling with learning how to love and trust ourselves(It actually makes it a little worse)
I really needed to hear this message such a great message thank you again for continuing to share these GREAT MESSAGES with us. It’s so greatly appreciate it. Thank you🙏🏾
“Let’s get right into this.” 2:03
Not kidding, every one of your videos comes at the exact moment I need to hear what you’re talking about.
A lot of us feel the same way. I think relationship problems / social dysfunction are rampant throughout the world. Many want to fix / change things for the better.
I love that our brains are on the same wave length ;-)
@@juliakristinamah I really think they are! ✨✨✨✨
After watching a couple of her videos, I realize I need to see a counselor.
@@wg8290 it never hurts. I see one off and on. ❤️
I dont stop watching your video. Audio always perfect.
Your message is pure empowerment in the context of emotional maturity. I truly appreciate your vibe/ simple yet complex subjects/ the black and white presentation aesthetics/ the soothing voice. Invaluable❤️
Thank you for your thoughtful comment Cynthia - that is a very big compliment and I receive it ❤️ .
Empowerment through emotional maturity, I like it! I never realized how much personal power comes from emotional maturity.
Collaborative over competitive mindset has been one of the most transformative for me.
Amen. Me too.
You brought back to my memory of something I once read…….often times the way people treat you is more of a reflection of how they feel about themselves than they do about you. 👍
Managing our minds is definitely a game changer for me. I could show a picture of a forest here in British Columbia to 2 people. Person A would think about how beautiful the land is and considered going on a hike. Person B thinks it would be a great spot to start a logging business. Are these 2 thoughts wrong? Nope. It is a neutral event but we make drama out of it in our minds and we lash out, backed up by how we see the world and how the world should run. I feel that emotions run high in politics but we create theses emotions in our mindset. So great to hear from you again!
One of the four agreements is "Don't take anything personally." I was reminded of it. Also I have positive thoughts about Julia Kristina. I could share them but I'm not convinced she's dependent on hearing them.
Thank you for reminding me of the wording of that agreement, and it is exactly the lesson I was referring to in my earlier comment
thank you!
Thank you for this video which supports and reinforces the things I'm working on in the Shift Society!! For anyone who is on the fence about joining the Shift Society, let me tell you that it's SO worth it!!! 👍😁
You go straight to the core of what is needed! Clear and direct communication! Well done!
PROBLEMS ARE CREATED IN OUR MINDS.
SO true!!!!
Your videos are always relatable. Always. I found you a long time ago through YT4B and you're an inspiration.
Mindset is everything and my turn around was my burnout, the BEST that ever happened to me.
I began being AWARE of my thoughts, then learned the power of my thoughts and now I manifested my dream life.
Everyone can do it and it all starts with awareness, which you mention so often too.
Thank you
I really needed to know peoples' behavior is not about me but it's their reaction toward me. I deal with passive aggressive people alot and I couldn't understand it until now. Thanks
This is saving me so much money. I listen to them, and ask the questions to my self and journal these. THANK YOU!
I don't know why but I like you I like the way you talk your energy your soul everything about you.
Goodluck and wish you best of the best.
Thank you. The messages are so nice and concise. Perfect. Thank you for helping so many of us lost or misunderstood children. I greatly appreciate the light you shine in the fog. Blessings to you Christina!!!
You're welcome - I'm really glad it connected.
Yes it's true that we have our own expectations of a given outcome....but it's when other people give me expectations of an event, and they fail, it's on them, but it screwed up me too.
Julia kristina at her best.
Thank you for this film.
It feels like julia kristina knows me personally, can see all my flaws , and might help me fix it.
I have not finished the video, only a minute and 44 in actually, but I just wanted to share that today I relapsed. I have been... circumventing my issues lately even though I always tell my kids and wife to push through, not get past them. I need all the shifts I can get. Thanks in advance for what you do.
Our experiences as well as our environment play a key role in how we interpret things - especially our thoughts and/or words that others say to us. There's way too much self-loathe in this world when there should be more self-love. This is a great video and such good advice!
I am new. I love your videos and they are truly helping me to dig deeper. And empower me to be the best I can be. Sating the boudies with my kids and others.
People are reacting to their thoughts about us
Experiences are neutral but we react to what we make it mean about us.
See things as experiments. We’re not afraid of the outcome but what we’re going to make it mean something about us.
We don’t fear what people think about us, we fear what we’re going to make it mean.
We worry about what people might think about us because we think of ourselves that way and it’s a sensitive topic.
We need to change how we think about ourselves ❤
I am currently reading your Book and it has been really helping me to see that I am not who others think I am- and the issues I am having relate to reacting to my perceptions of what others are doing in relation to their thoughts - so, it matters what I think of me- and what I need to do in order for me to be able to neutralize this cycle.
I try not to be snappy and rude with my mother, but she’s a perfectionist Julia.
Don't take things personally. I have been struggling with this lesson for more than a decade, and this reminder is synchronously timed for me, because I've been beating myself up for stuff going on in my life now. Thank you
In order to not take things personally you have to understand who you are.
Where did you get your identity from?
@@freshliving4199 thank you for the thought provoking question. My identity has grown organically from early childhood trauma with extreme punishment for authentically expressing who and what I am and the decades of partly self inflicted continuation of trauma, which I am finally making progress in healing. I am now beginning to learn that the trauma of my past doesn't have to define me. I once identified as a slave, but now I serve in pursuit of my dreams, not those of any owner. Now that I'm learning to take ownership of me away from others and own myself, maybe I can get better with this and other lessons that I've been struggling with.
@@xtinamariem3683 The identity you have today is not the real you. Its the identity the world around you has caused you to believe you are.
The real you is your SOUL.
This world builds you up just to break you down. And it breaks you down just so that it can build you up again. I call it the roller coaster of dying life.
To become you, you have to unbecome who you are not.
Do you have anger?
@@freshliving4199 my anger has been tempered by understanding and compassion for others and the traumas they have experienced. I get much more angry with systems of oppression, than I do with the individuals within those systems. I am also very aware that I cannot force those individuals who have caused my trauma to take accountability for their actions. I don't even try. My work is more directed toward the creation of systems of support for oppressed individuals and communities. I have never been good at displaying the persona that others expect, because my soul keeps shining through the mask that I create to try and make myself "acceptable" within prevailing systems. I also get angry with individuals who try to keep the light of my soul for themselves, and that anger serves as a catalyst for change within my life. I have watched the identity that I built in response to the pressure of the world crumble, many times. The result of this is that I don't try to tell people who and what I am, rather, I show who and what I am with my actions whenever possible.
@@xtinamariem3683 Interesting. What if i tell you its not actually your anger. In fact you have no anger to give.
In reality its your mothers spirit of anger that has made a home in you when she traumatized you as a child.
This spirit of anger leads only to destruction and death.
Can you see it?
Do you want to be free from it?
Failure is painful not just because of the meaning you attach to the result but the time, effort, resources and sacrifices you invest in that particular project.
Your video popped up in my TH-cam feed at just the right time. I ended a two+ year new friendship with a gal I liked and had fun with. I knew she was “ fragile” and I always took a lot of care to be kind, compassionate, and supportive. Unfortunately- she viewed a comment I made as “unforgivable” simply because I disagreed. I tried to move past this hoping she would too but apparently not.
So I made the decision on my side that I was not a good friend fit for her. I do have enough confidence in myself and like myself to know it is not my issue - and your video explained it even better. I do feel sad though; it has been a tough week for me but I know time will improve that. I’m newly retired and want to enjoy this time of life; it’s the right decision to eliminate people who bring too much drama and are too needy.
Day one under your mentor an I'm impressed. Il stay under your podcast mentorship
Thanks for the advise. I hardly comment on TH-cam videos but yours. Appreciate your insight and advise again
Wow!! Check, check, check... A game-changer for me. Know thyself.
I think I you’re right, I want to watch this one like once a week. So they’re not reacting to us they’re reacting to their thoughts about us. And we aren’t reacting to fundamental truths about us, we’re reacting to what we think they think about us and what what they think means about us.. phew! It’s all just so convoluted, do we even like this person at all? lol
I think the world of you, to NO Ends and No Matter What!!
Wow, you put it in a way that it resonated with so many of us , thank you Julia ❤
Julia, *high five* and thank you as usual 💖
You're welcome! Thanks for being here.
A wonderful talk. I'm understanding more about the mechanics of self-esteem and feeling freer than ever before. Thank you.
I think you’re a very intelligent young woman Julia.
🤯🤯. Wow. That was intense. I am definitely going to have to watch this again.
But from what I grasped, it seems to make sense.
What holds me back is not a fear of failure but I hear my mom’s voice and other voices from my childhood criticizing me. So I end up not doing . Not that I actually hear the voices. I should clarify. But it just triggers these moments from my youth when I was criticized. If that makes sense.
One of these days I will overcome!!
Thanks so much.
Valuable information always so empowering to listen to U . Thnx U ♥️
I love and hate (😂🙈🙈)your videos at the same time because there’s so much truth in them and invoke a need to change and grow!! Thank you Julia!!!! Xx
I like this. It's a really cool concept to play with. Seems like a great starting point to self acceptance/trust.
I discovered your content thru my wife. So, glad I finally listened lol. This is the first video of yours I've watched and 🤯🤯🤯! It's like I felt it was going to be amazing and subscribed and liked the video only 10 seconds in. All I can say is THANK YOU!
Hi Julia. I have been using your videos in team leadership discussions. It’s incredible how well they apply in leadership. People (including myself) try to be an effective leader while still.dragging around this kind of baggage.
It’s been very effective and lead to great discussions and change. Thank you 🙏
Oh you were so right in the beginning of this video. I will be coming back!, to listen again and again. So right on what I needed to hear. All five puzzle pieces I've been looking for...it all clicked is what I mean to say and thank you.
I would never be with someone who’s telling me what time to come home. I’m not a child!
I agree with you. But what if they're not telling but they feel worried if they suddenly find you're not there (unexpectedly). I understood this point recently and I believe only some people get worried in such a scenario. Thoughts? I'm open to understand it from your perspective too.
Sadly lot of people are like that
I have seen a few films of Kati morton.
I am back here.
Julia kristina is much deeper, knowledgeable, professional, cuter, nicer TO ME.
Love this. An absolute game changer for me and my relationship with my husband ♡♡
so glad it connected
JK you are fabulous. After a 29 year marriage I now find myself alone in my thoughts, but your channel challenges me and puts them in the right perspective. As we say here in Australia, you are such a good egg! Thank you
My thoughts on you are that you are amazing. Thank you for your help and insight.
Julia Thank you for a life- changing advice. My job is to get good and solid in myself because I can trust myself and I know where I am going and why.
I think you are terrific, and you are helping me. Not to be to critical of my self. Thank you Julia ❤️
The best counseling videos on TH-cam!
Awesome content! Clear communication is key in mitigating a lot of these issues.
Thanks for sharing! I'm going to keep this in mind today. The self- trust exercise was outstanding. I bought it a couple weeks ago and found it super helpful😃
So grateful for your TH-cam content and book!
Wow really good one and very relevant to what i am going thru . Thank you
Much gratitude Julia 🙏This is a great topic 🙂Listening to u now. I hope you have a lovely day 💗 Iyvonne Heisner 😎
I love it! it’s not what they say, rather it’s what they say they I think is true , or believe about myself. Awesome! Definitely words to live by. I love this content because it helps me find strength and meaning for my children. I think I’m gonna sign up and be shifter. It’s hard to go without listening to your videos.
It is a great video. I am here to trust myself more each day to have a more inspiring life. I continue to develop self-trust with my ideas and thoughts. I learned that when I was part of the shift society. I needed to trust my thoughts and my abilities. trusting my thoughts has allowed me to express myself more, send many voice notes in different languages (shift society goal), go out on dates and have a lot of fun, have better conversations and have more confidence for my plans to travel around the world soon
Queen. You are everything!!!!! Is it possible to be a fan of a counselor?! Because I’m your biggest fan. You are amazing!! You’ve helped me so much you have no idea. Thank you x10000. God bless you!
Once again I have learned a lot 😃
I needed this so badly because I am always lost in what others are saying 😂. Now I feel I can work on this right now. TY again and again.
You're welcome Lylah - thanks for being here.
I really learned a lot from this one, and I thought I knew a lot about psychlogy already :) Thanks, all best from Copenhagen, Peter
Your videos always on time. This message was so comforting. I have lots of work to do within myself.
Pretty much spot on 🎯🤷♀️👍 I totally love the advices, really good❣️ Thank you so much for sharing 💖❣️
Excellent! Thank you for taking the time to post such a powerful video. It is full of wisdom.
Thank you so much from Saudi Arabia, I love listening to your insightful videos, keep them coming and have a great day. 🌻
If you react to circumstances then you are giving away your internal power - you aren't living through your internal locus of control.
I subscribe to Neville Goddard's 'everyone is yourSELF pushed out' In other words, everyone's (percieved) behaviour towards you is a reflection of your concept of yourself.
Julia…. I genuinely appreciate you and your work!!! ❤️
♥️👍😊😇🙏🥰
Thank you Kari - I receive that ❤️
This is excellent and life changing. Thank you Julia ❤
You are awesome, thank you for taking your time to film these videos! ❤️
Much needed video. Thank you!
Thank you Julia! I've been working on this. Certainly isn't easy but it does get easier 🥰
Very powerful mind set.
Thank you so much for the information
My brain resists this so much. It just tells me, "well, if you think you suck AND they think I suck, then I must suck." 😢
I agree with absolutely everything you say in this video.It gives perfect advice! I couldn’t Thank you more.
Found your channel searching for locus of control. Good stuff. Thank you. If possible, could you please let me know what microphone you are using? Your audio quality is great. I would like to give one of those as a gift. Subscribed and staying tuned in 🙏🏼
Thank You, Sooooo Needed This!😃
Thank you Julia 🌹🙏🏻
5am! He is gonna get it!
People also project their unhealed traumas on to others.
Yes they sure do & I agree with you because I have experienced this but they do this so often to me I start feeling like I am crazy and it has driven my Anxiety and Depression up even higher & so much more & I really try so hard to ignore it & put it in one ear & out of the other ear but when it keeps happening as it does it's so hard to control my Anxiety & Depression from getting higher and worse too, so what else do I do to help myself & to control the ignoring part of it so I can keep my Anxiety and Depression from getting any worse?
@@victoriastallard I am experiencing the same thing ! At first I use to take it very personal because it doesn’t seem I loved me enough why I made it affect me but now I look at it as If they really do need some help (unhappy with themselves) with that thought it keeps me going
@@temerawhyte2942 Thank you so much now I know I am not alone & I am absolutely not crazy either. I really appreciate you commenting on what I said & again thank you.
@@temerawhyte2942 I am also going to keep in my mind that the reason I go through this with people myself is because they are unhappy within their selves just as you said because it will help keep me going not just for myself but my Beautiful Daughter & come October my Handsome Cute Grandson's too 😊
absolutely. And it's important that we learn not to absorb them.
Love your work
Thank you for posting
I am feeling extremely seen rn and I don't know how to handle that. 😂😅 Yet again your video comes out precisely when I need the message in it. ❤
lol. Glad it connected - even if there's a bit of a creepy how-does-she-know-my-brain-so-well vibe ;-)
@@juliakristinamah it's happened a few times and as someone who can't afford to support the youtubers she enjoys financially, i try to do all the things TH-cam algorithm likes and that includes commenting. I really appreciate what you do here and you may never know how much you've saved my marriage and helped me.
Always love your videos. Super quality info and insights. Thanks for making and sharing them. This one was extra helpful on my morning walk. ❤️
This just blew my mind, thank you for this
Crows and Ravens are actually impressive birds, LOL! xD
This video indeed needs to be watched more than once in order for all of these ideas to register properly.
For many of these neutral situations, "The war is in your head.".
More often than not, failures are best seen as lessons.
14:38 - The thoughts of any given individual are that person's own business.
(If a person has severely distorted thoughts and then actually acts on them, then this is an entirely different issue.)
I like your hair, actually, LOL! xD
I like that you film your videos in Black & White, even though most things in life are not B/W ;-)
Many thanks to you. Cheers!
So timely. Bless you!
Great videos ! So helpful !
This is so good. Thanks.
Very helpful, thank you
You're so right thanks for this info
Thank You so very much for the amazing video, Julia. You and your work are just wonderful 🙏😇❤️👩⚕️
Can you please talk about emotional abuse in friendships? And narcisism in friendships? Thank you.
Always a good day I can listen and learn from u!!!
Your hair is fabulous btw😂🙂🥰
Thanks! I was having a good hair day that day 😉
Thank you ❣️
this was amaaaazing! well done!
So powerful, thank you 🦋🦋🦋
I get it!! So good ♥️