10 Things That Will Get Better When You Love Yourself

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  • @Kassiex5
    @Kassiex5 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So grateful we live in a time where you can go on TH-cam to get guidance better than what an expensive , poor-fit of a therapist may try to give you

  • @kimhumiston2686
    @kimhumiston2686 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Retired a year ago. My philosophy now is that I no longer put up with people's crap. After many years of dealing with narcissists, I only give my time and attention to people who can give mutual respect. Time is too short, and none of us know how much time we have left. ❤

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 ปีที่แล้ว +201

    I always like to tell people to treat themselves like they would a good friend or loved one. Often times, we hold ourselves to such a high standard that we fail to show ourselves the same kind of love.

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      mmmm... so true.

    • @Inkironnrum
      @Inkironnrum 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Such a profound thought to ponder, Nicole. My most recent breakup built me up...not down. It took me time to realize this fact. At first I forced myself to treat the self with such high standards. I struggled at first. Yet it numbed the hurting in my heart. Then I challenged myself to create art I only dreamed of creating. I didn’t believe I could achieve such a creative challenge. But this was a test of, my ability to CHANGE my way of being and how I see myself. If I can accomplish what I deem to be impossible, i empower myself to confront self conflict with knowing I have the power and ability to think differently and more positively about myself. Thank you for your thoughts that have filled my spirit with such encouragement, Nicole.

    • @nicoleonfeels
      @nicoleonfeels 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Inkironnrum and thanks for sharing, David! Happy to hear your art is going well.

    • @Inkironnrum
      @Inkironnrum 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@nicoleonfeels Welcome, Nicole! Your kind thoughts truly uplift one’s spirit.

    • @Sashas-mom
      @Sashas-mom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s really good advice Nicole thanx

  • @raiderlove5923
    @raiderlove5923 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I need to build a good, strong relationship with myself. Growing up I was always told I'm not good, I won't amount to anything. And that has stuck with me into adulthood.

    • @amandac3362
      @amandac3362 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I feel like this is true for nearly everyone ---if we are honest---just that the shame and blame and bullying varies in intensity and whether or not we also had people building us up or not too

    • @jmm639
      @jmm639 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You are so incredibly capable and its never too late to start. You are cool man you are cool

    • @TrudysGal
      @TrudysGal 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jmm639aw ❤❤

  • @augustakankel8064
    @augustakankel8064 3 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    If you are reading this I just want to say that in no way are you not valuable or loved.

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Truth.

    • @lindasharpe7039
      @lindasharpe7039 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank You

    • @jameseaston5375
      @jameseaston5375 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I want to live single and build myself up work on me than once my life is stable and grounded I really want the right woman to come into my life as just a friend cause relationships are based off of friendship I have morals like not having sex until after im married I want to have a pure relationship with a woman.
      I want to obey God's commandments and live pure.

  • @mandolaa
    @mandolaa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +156

    When i started to love my self a lot of one sided and narc relationships faded away

  • @starseed8809
    @starseed8809 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I use to make excuses for bad behaviour because I didn't love myself. Now I love myself I don"t take any bad behaviour.

  • @PlanetC64
    @PlanetC64 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Sometimes i hate the youtube algorithm but right now i love it because it brought me to you. Hi everyone, i am 56 yo and have been on a self esteem journey like forever. Love from new england. THANK YOU!!!

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey! Welcome here. So glad you found us.

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Planet C64,You deserve better

    • @mirellafiore19
      @mirellafiore19 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can relate... feels like a lifelong battle

  • @psycheread3258
    @psycheread3258 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Being so hard on myself for making mistakes. I wasn't always this way.

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Can you work on going back to being kinder to yourself?

  • @nikkichristinar
    @nikkichristinar 3 ปีที่แล้ว +203

    "There's a difference between fighting for love and fighting to be loved."-Julia Kristina

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      make sure you know which one you're doing.

    • @jodie-b4g
      @jodie-b4g 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      How good is that one. Hunna remember that one for a loooong time

    • @kelpie1
      @kelpie1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much for doing these videos. They are so very helpful and enlightening ❤

    • @Deesknees2024
      @Deesknees2024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Struggling with end of relationship realise I have totally lost myself. Busy mum and doctor spend all my time caring for others including my recent boyfriend.
      I’m going to try to find me and focus on her.
      Thank you x

    • @kdortega
      @kdortega 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ohhh good one.

  • @user-ze8il8jq4x
    @user-ze8il8jq4x 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Julia you are GEM. 60 yrs old and I needed this. I wish I knew this in my 40s-50s. But now is also great to know

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      so good that you know it now ❤️

    • @beki1377
      @beki1377 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It’s never too late I would say ;-))

    • @simmagfm7536
      @simmagfm7536 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      This comment by itself motivational

    • @bbb-1-2-3
      @bbb-1-2-3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Im in my 50s now andI wish knew this in my teens :)

  • @escargot8854
    @escargot8854 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Context: You're the only person that has to live with you from birth to death. The root of many issues is in our lack of self-love and self-acceptance
    1. Taking things less personally - We think someone's words or actions mean more than what we think about ourselves
    2. Overthinking - it's putting our self worth in the hands of other peoples ideas. When we are solid we don't need to outsource that.
    3. Stressing about what other people think about you - We worry about what others think about us when we are unsure of what we think about ourselves
    4. Over-justifying your decisions - We over-justify to control other's thoughts about it. We need them to see it our way for us to feel good about it.
    5. Stressing about making the wrong decisions - It's less about making a mistake than what it means about us
    6. Needing to be right/people to agree - When we need to be right we need others to see something about us. When we don't doubt ourselves it's okay if other's don't agree.
    Interjection: Ego. Our made up sense of self there to protect our authentic self. It's nice when people agree but the ego will make us "have" to be right.
    7. Fearing making mistakes - Isn't about the outcome, it's about what we make it mean about you. You fear beating yourself up not the misfortune
    8. Fighting for acceptance - How often to find yourself convincing people that you are good enough. Fighting for love, not fighting to be loved

  • @reallifepsych3309
    @reallifepsych3309 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    When we speculate on what people think of us. Im guilty of that one. Starting to build a more solid relationship with myself!

    • @jewlzn7130
      @jewlzn7130 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      The truth is the more you do it, the more real it becomes. Confidence is really like a muscle, the more you work it, the stronger it becomes. The less important you allow people's thoughts to become, the more people just fade away into the background. Its amazing

    • @MarikaTheEmpress
      @MarikaTheEmpress 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      YES

    • @danielthornbrough2413
      @danielthornbrough2413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I spend a little time each day on myself and usually a portion of that time is spent watching and listening and learning from Julia Kristina Life Coach. I enjoy her upbeat approach and the look of the vids ( call it modern noire) and I often look at Julia while listening to her and it feels personalized. Her approach and the important information she shares has helped me tremendously especially lately. It's helpes me to identify things that I need to work on. And to understand others around me and identity how to react or respond to them and their actions. Keep up the intensity your passion comes across during every presentation I've watched. Thank You, Daniel T

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So happy to hear it.

    • @imaginethat1276
      @imaginethat1276 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@juliakristinamah
      Dear julia.i don't have a problem loving me.
      I just wished someone else did.lol praying for a Godly spouse.i know have enough love to go around.the Lord.me and her.promise.in Jesus name bless you sweetheart.🙏🌹🙏

  • @inspireresilience6413
    @inspireresilience6413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    20:12 so crucial in knowing to throw in towel with relationship that is very mistreating even though they say and act like love you, if there's a lot done and said to disrespect and disregard your feelings for feeling worthy enough then thats not loving to yourself no matter how they try to make up for it, thats not real love its toxic and taking you for granted.

    • @amandac3362
      @amandac3362 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      AMEN --and where im at

    • @jmm639
      @jmm639 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Preach!

  • @giggymontez
    @giggymontez 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The fighting to be loved hit me hard. I think Im always trying to get people to like me and want them to love me.

  • @kirstysewell367
    @kirstysewell367 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I'm here so no narcs can ever get near again. I want to learn about myself and others. There are so many manipulative people

  • @thebestwillow
    @thebestwillow 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Things that will get better when I love myself more: health, relationships, job prospects, home environment, skin, worldview, achievements, friendships, attitude, money management. Now to watch the video and see what you said!

  • @timothystone3726
    @timothystone3726 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You know,your exactly 💯 right,we have been programmed to rob ourselves of positive thoughts and experiences, but alot of people are evil with hidden agenda ,i am glad to be able to listen to your teachings

  • @fredabaayeh4133
    @fredabaayeh4133 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I used to overthink everything. This was largely because I was in a relationship that made me feel less of myself. I was never told that I'm loved, comforted, appreciated and also always second guessed myself. Even when I left the relationship because it was clear that it wasn't good enough, I still thought I did the wrong thing and that I've hurt him. But I asked myself what about all the things he did to hurt me, whatabout my joy and my mental stability which was always disturbed? I think I didn't love myself enough to even believe that a good decision I took.
    I beat myself

  • @galaxylucia1898
    @galaxylucia1898 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Julia--Thank you so much! This needs to be taught in homes, schools, temples and places of worship. When you fill your own bucket of self-love, then you're ok to pour love into other people's bucket and you also make room for people to pour into yours. To anyone reading this, I hope you have a wonderful, peace-filled day!!

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You're always with yourself, so you might as well Love You .❤❤❤

  • @christophergrasso8572
    @christophergrasso8572 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    when you said fighting for acceptance it made me cry, hit me right in the heart..

  • @Hashartnft
    @Hashartnft 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My uncle sent me here-now that’s love ❤️

  • @berthzy537
    @berthzy537 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've noticed that I am more courageous, I don't overthink as much, I don't talk so negatively about myself (fear, doubt etc.), I don't create stories in my head about what people might think of me (I realized this were my own doubts and fears), I am finding comfort in the uncomfortable (i am not as afraid of consequences), I don't feel like I need as much validation, I don't take things as personal anymore, I can start a conversation without being afraid of what the other person will think of me, I am more responsible for my actions (not avoiding responsibility).

  • @denisejones1279
    @denisejones1279 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow! This is so true. I’m so dependent on approval. Then take it personally when I don’t get the approval. I approve of me already. It’s meaningful to be reminded.

  • @victoria2226
    @victoria2226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    And Julia, I love the way you pause and take deep breaths. I love that and it helps me feel confident in what you’re saying. Thank you for being you! Appreciate! 🙏🦋

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      thanks Victoria - and thank YOU for being YOU!

  • @IvoryFrost
    @IvoryFrost 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    There is a difference between fighting for love and fighting to be loved!!!

  • @LaughingLead
    @LaughingLead ปีที่แล้ว

    definitely fighting to be loved but fighting for love from myself

  • @jillwylie6767
    @jillwylie6767 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sometimes in life we are so busy looking after everyone else, we forget about ourselves. You have to look after yourself ,nobody else will

  • @lylahboling6383
    @lylahboling6383 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Fighting to be loved, want to be loved, I've recognized the real thing too. So I need to work on this one. People Pleaser deluxe.

    • @starseed8809
      @starseed8809 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am working on that too

  • @songsforsale427
    @songsforsale427 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Really wonderful work and free to the public. She's gold

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    TRUST IS THE KEY! Trusting yourself and later acquiring the ability to slowly start trusting others is the fundamental basis of a healthy relationship with yourself and consequently with other people. This message is POWER! Thank you Julia.

  • @ConTrellTV
    @ConTrellTV 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I started watching you two years ago after getting out of a bad relationship. Throughout this time I’ve identified traumas & struggles I weren’t even aware of and today I can say I’m in a much better position than I was then. Thank you for the work that you do! It’s changing our lives❤️

  • @adriannalyon9514
    @adriannalyon9514 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love her guidance.

  • @1bighug
    @1bighug 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Julia, your weekly videos are like balm for the soul 😊

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad they connect - thanks for being here.

  • @hanisiryani43
    @hanisiryani43 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is one of the many amazing video updates that i automatically clicked thumb up too fast even before watching it.

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ha! Love it. Thanks for all your support.

  • @captaindan1000
    @captaindan1000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    These ten things are consistent with your own boundaries. That's what's good about them.

  • @1kmilez
    @1kmilez 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I was actually researching and reading about these things. I want to learn to depend, love, care and improve myself instead of depending on others who arent available. I feel devalued when they arent around and that sucks. I dont want to be emotionally dependent on them. I wanna be ok just being myself. Thanks for this vid!

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You will. Keep showing up and doing the work and you will.

  • @danny7500
    @danny7500 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank u mam your really helpful because the world is manipulative, I love your advise it's good for crazy people and life. Thank u!!

  • @adriannalyon9514
    @adriannalyon9514 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love the way you explain things. It's simple but yet sophisticated. You relate to people.

  • @TheEarthycrunchy
    @TheEarthycrunchy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I took the boundaries course a while ago and it just hit me. In order to set better boundaries I needed to get better at liking myself. It sounds obvious, but these layers keep getting revealed! Thank you! I always love your videos! ❤️

  • @kathyhubel6794
    @kathyhubel6794 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hi, just found your video tonight. This is the 2nd video i have watched tonight. And I have also subscribed as well. I have been married to a narcissist for over 40 years and needless to say it has not been pleasant. I know I need to break away from him as he is draining my energy being in a toxic relationship is not healthy for me. So I need to heal and get whole again, however, it is so difficult when I am still married and living in same house. I am so learning how I can love myself more and get to the freedom of a better life that God has in store for my future. Thank you Julia.

  • @jacquik6231
    @jacquik6231 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love myself now and do more every day. I was brought up however internalising the toxic negativity of parents and I experienced deep lack of self love for most of my life which led to extreme emotional pain and I never understood why. It is the most amazing liberation when the penny finally drops and gradually you start feeling it as well as knowing it..

  • @calebrackard2719
    @calebrackard2719 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I think loving yourself is also loving others. It isnt fair to family and friends for us to outsource our worth and self esteem to them.

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Agreed. The more we love ourselves, the more love we have to give to others.

  • @RoadRunnergarage8570
    @RoadRunnergarage8570 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    " Do you want to be right... Or do I want to be happy?"... L LOVE AND NEED THAT!!

  • @elainehiggins713
    @elainehiggins713 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sometimes when we don’t love ourselves, we treat others badly. It’s not always about the behavior of others.

  • @vanessaperez6863
    @vanessaperez6863 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have had a couple years learning how to love myself and never knowing how to get back up from falling on my feet. This video has helped me 10x more then I try to give myself advice every day.

  • @junesherlock425
    @junesherlock425 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I didn’t have friends as a kid. I fought to be loved. I want friends now. I do realize that first I could be my own friend. I want to know how. I remember about 40 years ago I read a book “How to be your own best friend”. It is finally the number one priority in my life

  • @fohmixmeister4162
    @fohmixmeister4162 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is pure gold Julia... if there were such thing as an Owner's Guide to Self-Awareness, this is it... thank-you!

  • @skajs426
    @skajs426 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You’re gifted at what you do, Julia Kristina!

  • @kentburke5274
    @kentburke5274 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    "When" we start to love ourselves. Problem is getting to the "when". Might as well ask me to change the color of my eyes!

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes, it is a process and does take work.

    • @xavierryan4602
      @xavierryan4602 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm sure there are other examples of that feeling of impossibility you're describing in your life, where you now just breeze right through it it without thinking about it.
      I'm telling you this partly to tell myself it, too, btw. My brain will come up with examples as I catch myself effortlessly doing something I used to think was not possible for me.

    • @faceofglam
      @faceofglam 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly

    • @nancymasuda9717
      @nancymasuda9717 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      When begins when you decide to you need do the work. Saying this from experience. Still a long way to go. I wish you well.

    • @kentburke5274
      @kentburke5274 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nancymasuda9717 I'm certain you're correct, but being retired and on social security leaves my options very limited at best.

  • @idaloup6721
    @idaloup6721 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Don't love anyone more than you should love yourself. Put yourself first across the board. Be kind with you, stroke your soul, listen to God's voice and not the ego's one. Be airy, be etherical, be bold, be playful.
    You live once therefore don't worry too much about what the others could think about you because who are they? More than you? Certainely not. Let your soul expresses loudly within you unapologetically

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ida loup,You must be a precious being

    • @samum5856
      @samum5856 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Easier said than done

    • @laylahunt6277
      @laylahunt6277 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love your videos love watching them.i learnt many things I never thought of. When I have had bad days your videos so inspiring. I love how it's clear and so easy to understand. You inspired me through rough times and opened my eyes threw my weakness. Thank you

  • @lakeeshabarrino4758
    @lakeeshabarrino4758 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved the whole message. I am working on self love now. I can say it's a beautiful sight to see. I'm loving the skin I'm in.

  • @admirbarucija2018
    @admirbarucija2018 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Looking forward to watching after work!! I’ve been steadily loving myself more and it’s a genuinely amazing feeling, though getting there is challenging ❤️

  • @victoria2226
    @victoria2226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Gosh.....I think I’m starting to LOVE MYSELF!!! BOOYAH! 🥂🙏🥰🥰🥰

  • @jonhinson5701
    @jonhinson5701 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love the idea of choosing to be happy over being right.

  • @clairebroadwater9328
    @clairebroadwater9328 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hello from the UK. I love your videos, they've really helped me, so thank you so much 😊

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Claire Broadwater,You got a lovely smile!

  • @alison-mw3tl
    @alison-mw3tl 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are such a great inspiration...thank you for all your information! It's absolutely helpful and puts us anxious and broken hearted back to loving ourselves. ❤

  • @danelleevans6202
    @danelleevans6202 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my goodness I have no idea why your first video popped into my Facebook feed (i think that's where I saw it?!) the growth and understanding I am gaining... yay!! Thank you!

  • @davidclark1412
    @davidclark1412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your videos have helped me enormously. Thank you.

  • @laurayates4033
    @laurayates4033 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow - I take everything so personally. I love this - thank you!

  • @thattexasmom5906
    @thattexasmom5906 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just found your channel. I was doing well with knowing who I am, self loving but in the last year I began to let others emotions run me! Thank you for your video, information!

  • @edwinromilly4645
    @edwinromilly4645 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks so much for this julia..Think i’ve been a volunteer victim,just need to keep contributing-calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace
    Mental strength is incredibly important. Take care of your mind and the way you speak to yourself. Don’t let negative self-talk weaken you. Talk like you are blessed. Walk like you are blessed. Think like you are blessed. Work like you are blessed. And you will be, one way or another.
    Everything gets a bit uncomfortable when it’s time to change (or when it’s time to recalibrate your expectations). That’s just a part of the growth process. Things will get better. Be patient, and remind yourself that you will never have to force anything that’s truly meant to be. Just do your best, then adopt a “whatever happens, happens” mindset. Don’t try to force things-let go and allow the right blessings to flow.
    peeeace
    Ed

  • @xxxx4726
    @xxxx4726 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just ordered the simple steps to self trust. Thank you!

  • @messue428
    @messue428 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I need to listen to this every single day, for the rest of my life. Thank you for this 🙏

  • @jonwhitney9559
    @jonwhitney9559 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video spoke volumes to me- I am constantly breaking promises to myself- then feeling guilt and shame and an utter lack of confidence in my ability to ever get anything done. This problem runs deep in my psyche and has kept me from moving forward with the things in my life that I am passionate about- I have skills, I can do hard tasks but need some way to actually DO THEM!

  • @karbo1sa
    @karbo1sa ปีที่แล้ว

    I listen to you every morning, you are a true blessing!

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Take good care of you! Absolutely great. Thank you.

  • @diveintocomfort
    @diveintocomfort ปีที่แล้ว

    soo grateful i found this channel!
    i'm ila, currently a sophomore, who recently trying to investing on self-love this past months.. because how much pain i caused for going the other way. it really sucks that the environment i'm in have people-pleasing tendencies, but i don't feel alone for bravely taking this decision, i have myself.
    finally breathe out after my lungs were drenched in sorrow for too long might be the best thing that ever happen to me. one year ago, you can find me in the backseat, avoiding interactions yet overly pleasing people.. only for shitty treatments (mostly from myself). i had no idea how toxic i was, and isolating myself like that wouldn't change anything. and like what this video said, the root of my problems were lack of self-respect.
    this video explained my changes after growing to love myself well. i trust myself with my own beliefs, abundance, opinions, and self identity, therefore everything feels less personal to me. if there's different opinions, i take it with a grain of salt aka respecting it without thinking mine is way low than that. i also grow to know the essence of mistakes.. it's not something to avoid but to handle with full responsibility.
    these healthy responses are what i must do for so long. atleast i finally learned how to do this, even with the hard way. i'm so grateful and will always thrive to grow positively more, together with myself!

  • @darciee.7337
    @darciee.7337 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so good! I recently made a big decision that a lot of people that are in my life do not like. This one really hits home for me right now.

  • @kathyjohnson3243
    @kathyjohnson3243 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for all your advice. It is waking me up to lots of issues I have .

    • @goodluckgood5774
      @goodluckgood5774 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

    • @goodluckgood5774
      @goodluckgood5774 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

    • @goodluckgood5774
      @goodluckgood5774 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      massage him on WhatsApp

  • @thespuditron9387
    @thespuditron9387 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Julia, you are an absolute gem. Your videos teach me something new every time and I’m very grateful, so thank you.

  • @YoSmitty55
    @YoSmitty55 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Listening to these videos makes me realize...I am better. Took 3 years and I am finally realizing that I am good.

  • @marydykes2564
    @marydykes2564 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Learning to trust yourself- I had never thought of that! Very helpful video!

  • @brendaclose1
    @brendaclose1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So helpful for me exactly where I am at because I can use this as a measuring stick for how much I have grown and how I’ve learned to value myself and display emotional maturity :)

  • @Leslie-x6y
    @Leslie-x6y 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was an excellent video very informative I spent 36 years in a marriage riddled with intimacy issues on my husband’s part due to his childhood trauma I did everything to be the perfect wife to no avail as through therapy after he passed in ‘22 I learned he had Madonna complex after getting over that shock I realized I needed to take a look at all my relationships and why I chose ones that were not on equal footing I do have some great friends but also some that weren’t healthy. Your video sheds light on how we think about ourselves I’ve always been a confident person but a lot of what you said I could relate to fear of failure and over thinking things were my two biggest thank you you’re an incredible therapist

  • @margarethana6787
    @margarethana6787 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love the simple plain language you use to explain each item. You are brilliant

  • @pamhelms291
    @pamhelms291 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am 65 yrs. old and I struggle with loving and accepting myself. I just found Julia K. and I will continue to listen to your videos. I'm afraid of failure. I'm afraid I will not be successful to make the necessary changes to be a better me. I will take it slow and do my best to learn.

  • @ashleecaliguire3016
    @ashleecaliguire3016 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have just started listening and she is awesome. I have a lot of trauma I life lately, my fiancee and my daughter's father killed himself 2 weeks ago. I needed this

  • @simplykatydid
    @simplykatydid 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm crying 😢... This video was so mind blowing for me. Thank you so much.

  • @martinegagne5326
    @martinegagne5326 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent video! This is an excellent guide to evaluate where we are in the process...thank you!

  • @suzannebonner3477
    @suzannebonner3477 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is one of the best pieces of advice I think I've heard for anyone ever. Just need to learn how to do it.

    • @goodluckgood5774
      @goodluckgood5774 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

    • @goodluckgood5774
      @goodluckgood5774 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Text him on WhatsApp

    • @goodluckgood5774
      @goodluckgood5774 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      +=2=3=4=8=0=7=0=7=6=8=9=9=2.

  • @saracute23
    @saracute23 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The best motivation to love yourself.....

  • @vius0013
    @vius0013 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I feel sad to recognize more than one statement here... especially the last one. I don't do this with everyone, but with my partner or the person that I like, looking for his approval all the time. I'm tired of this cycle...

    • @jaimwah
      @jaimwah 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You can change! the first step is to recognise, and you've done that 🤓 make some small changes today, you can do it, you are worth it.

    • @vius0013
      @vius0013 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jaimwah so sweet of you, thank you

  • @laurapernotto1470
    @laurapernotto1470 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Julia. Great video I needed this. Thank you. Subscribed.

  • @escargot8854
    @escargot8854 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you’ve made a lot of deep insightful content but this takes the cake. I’ve had a sense of these different areas contributing to self doubt but to see that they all have a common underlying issue of self acceptance makes the prescription to fix extremely focused. Thank you!

  • @sparkofwisdom3483
    @sparkofwisdom3483 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That's amazing! I just uploaded an interview with an awesome life coach talking about this exact topic. I love it that people are interested in knowing more about what self love is and how to truly love themselves. It's critical for our mental, emotional and social health.

  • @hedayahmagdy8068
    @hedayahmagdy8068 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Julia, I'm from Egypt, I follow you and you give me much inspiration and strength, thank you for being out there! ❤❤

  • @总有刁民想害朕-h8u
    @总有刁民想害朕-h8u 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm new to Julia's channel. I like the gray video filter to feel concentrated on the message and her body language.

    • @laughingalien
      @laughingalien 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I stream Julia's videos to my headphones to avoid visual distractions; and, as an added bonus, to do other things such as going for 3 hour walks to keep fit and grant myself personal thinking time.

    • @总有刁民想害朕-h8u
      @总有刁民想害朕-h8u 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@laughingalien Great tip. I will try that when I go on long walks later.

  • @code0vsilencetv86
    @code0vsilencetv86 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi I'm code and this video came to me not a day too soon . Like the universe showed me this . I'm on disability and have a hard time with everything in this video . Facing adversity of homelessness and the next obstacle in my life like having a job for a first time and a long time. Believing that I love and accept myself is such a foreign language. Something I battle with everyday . Ty for the vid

  • @christopherrosado6053
    @christopherrosado6053 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good discussion and advice
    Thanks.
    Christopher from Brooklyn

  • @Theresiliantnorwegian
    @Theresiliantnorwegian 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this. So,helpful. Thank you

  • @mikejarrells431
    @mikejarrells431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thanks & good job. I've been working on this as I try to self actualize (radical authenticity). It seems that our culture expects us to conform to toxic behavior (people pleasing, self abandonment, manipulation, etc.). Self love seems to be making things worse (rejection & isolation). I must be doing something wrong. 🤔😕🙂

  • @willl5970
    @willl5970 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You have an interesting way of wordking these things that's really helpful.
    I don't think I've heard this and a few other topics you've touched-on explained quite the same way.

  • @vdouglas0411
    @vdouglas0411 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your awesome. I truly enjoy your videos. The individuals that know you personally are lucky because I believe you are very genuine. ❤ your advice is amazing 🙏

  • @merrillgreen3584
    @merrillgreen3584 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are absolutely terrific. Talking about so many truths

  • @Dr.G555
    @Dr.G555 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your videos are amazing. You are such a positive force. :)

  • @rebeccaurdanivia8989
    @rebeccaurdanivia8989 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am new to your site. You are an answer to prayer. Thank you!!

  • @daledalessandro6184
    @daledalessandro6184 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for taking the time to do this video. I'm in the process of getting to love and accept myself. I was born with a handicap and I struggled a lot with it so I'm working on letting it go and finding my rhythm to say no or yes

  • @stephanimok1424
    @stephanimok1424 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you thank you for this wise and clear information and advice 🙏🙏🙏