I understand the point about not wasting your time on people and events that you think will be bad or not great, but at the same time, in my opinion, some of the best memories tend to happen when you don't expect them to. Like if I only go to a party or an event because I think it's gonna give me a core memory, I'm both setting myself up for disappointment if it's not all I expect to be, and missing out on other opportunities just because I think it won't give me a core memory. I think the solution is to avoid experiences that are giving you bad vibes or that you feel like aren't gonna be enjoyable at all, but to still give some of those experiences that you judged beforehand to be a "5/10" or "6/10" a shot. Some of those might be as you thought, but some of them might be that real core memory you're looking for.
I agree, personally even having pointless conversations with friends are one of the reasons why I can still smile, enjoy or even laugh even if I'm having a hard time. They indirectly helped lessen the burdens I've experienced in the past and still counting. The point is, we could never really tell the outcome of what we do so I still choose to be happy since being young is not forever, when we grow up to become an adult being busy with our lives, we won't have the time to be free like we used to be.
I snuck out of my society, didnt think it would be fun, but turned out to be a nice and chill night for me and my friends, plus we met some people as well. Not a core memory, but def very fun and I'm glad we went. I've been getting out of my comfort zone, hanging out with groups of ppl i felt uncomfortable with, and now I've made new friends and more people know of my existence. It's easier to socialize now too
Some good advice in here, and I want to add: if your friends are your type of people, you can do productive stuff together, like studying, going to the gym or whatever it is u do And think about when you had most quality time with your friends, when you really felt like it was lifting your spirits; for me it definitely wasn't at parties. There are ways to have fun with people you like without hindering your progress :>
Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out, but then I remind myself that I don't want to end up like an average teenager (alcohol, drugs, etc.), so I keep working instead.
it's crazy how your own mind makes you believe stupid things. like, i remember, i had this critical exam, and my friends went out partying. i. have. never. been. to any party. and that time, i felt like, what's the point of life anymore? when i cn't "live". even studying felt like wasting time smh. but goodness, i chose being "8/10", and i swear its the best thing ever. thank you ruff, u always lead me when i feel like im losing it.
As other people said, i think this video is really useful. yes choosing the experiences you really want and not doing smthg because everyone is doing it is important. However degrading eveyone in the way of feeling better isn't the solution. The first point is in my opinion wrong because there is people who attend a lot of parties that will still be very nice, athletic or intelligent. In fact i don't see why attending parties would make you less nice or intelligent. Fomo also happen when you see all these people that you admire to reuniting together. Even in this case, you should not attend this event if you truly don't want to go.
My friend group and I skipped high school prom. We planned our own cheaper and more enjoyable event, spending time with people we actually like. Even years later I don’t regret that decision.
I was just searching for a video about FOMO exactly like this and all the videos on the internet were just explaining FOMO rather than solution. Your video was such a lifesaver. Thank you!
I'm really in a difficult situation at the moment. I have my 10th boards from Feb so i gotta work hard now!! My 1st exam was not so good.. pretty bad. But this video came at the perfect time!! I have 6 months left to prove myself, along with 3 more minor exams in between. I have deleted Instagram and am planning to Install it only on some special days. But this video motivated me alot!! Thanks Ruff❤ I hope i can prove my worth and get 95%+ in my boards and make everyone proud💗
Yo ruff, lowkey you were the main reason why i started going to the gym (i watched your vids a few months back) and Ive been slowly making progress (i started at the beginning of the year) some of the advice you gave made me really think about how i was living out my life and i was lowkey in a really tough spot. So i've got to say is thanks man
nope. nope. nope. no. i dont even GO to parties and i know that not everyone who goes to parties is an awful person. am i a shit person for going to my mom’s birthday party? why are you telling people to judge others? if you do this, your kindess instantly drops to a 0/10. sorry.
I do agree with some parts of the videos where it talks about how to improve “productivity” which is basically the main overlapping theme of this video. Through I do disagree with other parts where it states that you need to judge your friends based on some of your values since not all of your friends is going to share the same value as you and no one will have the same interest as you so judging someone out of 10 is just very subjective in my opinion. I don’t think you’re ever going to have a fear of missing out on some events if you know how to “love yourself” and give yourself the respect that you need to give yourself. Another thing I would like to point out is the ratings of different types of experience since not every five out of 10 experience you push away is automatically going to result in a 10 out of 10 or 8 out of 10 since life, there’s always going to be obstacles and even the best of experience could be the worst in your opinion. Obviously, this isn’t something for me to just criticize on since I do agree with some of the statements that you have to better utilize your time for certain stuff that you truly care about and not forced by friends to go to a party when you don’t want to because of certain reasons such as “work”. But even still if you utilize your time correctly, you can still go to parties without regrets since you probably would still have enough time to finish all of your work. Life shouldn’t be so “objective” since your emotion isn’t something that you can totally control and same with your thought process you can’t totally control that. Life and emotions is like how the weather changes, basically random changes. So it would just be in my personal opinion that life is more “subjective” than what people make it seem. If people feel like if people like the videos opinion, then that’s totally up to them. Since not, everybody has to agree with one’s opinion. I guess a trained psychologist, unlike myself would have a better opinion on the situation since I do know that their opinion would be slightly different and might even totally disagree with the video. At the end of the day, what makes someone happy should be the most important to them and no one should be forced to make themselves unhappy since your emotion is valid even if other people states it’s not. ❤
Honestly the first point that you made about how if you are going to partys your overall health, Intelligence and Fitness levels are low. Yes going to partys consistently without doing anything from the side is not a good habit, but just by saying if you are a person who goes to partys and has this low ranks thats wrong, because Im a person who doesnt like partying but sometimes I indulge myself in it because I like the company nothing is wrong with that. My problem with that part was that you used going to a party as a whole
The timing of you uploading this vdo is perfect! Being an extrovert in school to doing my degree from home instead of going to college, I've been stuggling with FOMO A LOT recently (and on top of that I don't have an insta or discord acc so I'm missing out even more welp) Tysm for uploading this and talking about FOMO
no matter what path you take, whether you crowd yourself with hobbies, friends, events and parties, or whether you lock in for exaggerated amounts of work and exaggerated amounts of 'play' or, just pleasure, or whether you pursue being productive with just small slips of fun, and continue to march your life on and on, you'll never be truly happy or fufilled. your lifetime in this universe is just a tiny fraction, and though it means a lot to you, once you're gone, it doesn't matter anymore. (no shit). a lot of people say to follow your heart and do what you want, and that leads to a wasteful life. others decide to lock-in and go all-in to become wildly successful at a young age. ambition is driving them. but in the end, we're all human. most people think that we're born without a clear purpose in life, and a main goal that most normal people probably have is to find or create that purpose. but this is really wrong. because the only purpose in life is God. don't you know that if the earth was just a couple of, i don't know, kilometers or some shit closer or farther to the sun, we'd all die? don't you know that our bodies constantly remain at a consistent temperature, no matter what, to keep up alive? surely the beautiful wonders of our world, and the vast intelligence of humans means something. it can't just be a result of strict, logical big-bangs or whatever that clashed something-billion years ago. maybe it would be poetic that all this happened without purpose and us humans are left to deal with it. except it's not poetic. there are children being human trafficked right now, and there are also people being the happiest in their entire lives right now! that's so contradicting. in this vast world, just know that God loves you. His love is not logical. because, realistically, you have done nothing worthy of gaining his love. seriously, that sounds harsh, but if you barely know Him, then with what logic can he love you by? but he just does. and one day, Jesus is coming back to Earth. there are horrible, horrible times coming. but also good times! if you repent and believe in Jesus Christ! edit: sorry i felt like yapping also good video Ruff :3
as a Christian, God is important but we have an earthly purpose too. We should aim to glorify God, but we should still have a purpose that we want to work towards
@@joey4592 yeah true but I totally got what he meant when he said at the end of the day it doesn't matter, idk the way he explained everything in a nihilistic but religious way got to me I never heard someone talk about it in that perspective ,it's impressive 'The only main purpose in life is God' That line is hella deep
I am very grateful to have friends that I look upto...they are great in what they do (studies wise and generally), get to learn from them so much. If I miss out on any events they just fill me up with the info. 😅
This ranking thing actually blew my mind in a good way!! There are those one friends that I have, but somehow over time don’t enjoy being with. This ranking helped me understand, that our life goals and priorities don’t align.
This is true, ive been to so many parties and crazy days, sure they're great memories but at the end of the day they didn't change my life immensely. Just live your life and don't stress.
I don't really fell the left out kind of thing anymore since us friends seperated bc of high school so theres only me and other classmates from old sections and my one only friend, an i mean they are at different rooms, so im just alone in our class. I don't feel it anymore bc like- i don't know them. And also the sudden change in my environment made me so comfortable (My old class was toxic, i got in a drama, just terrible) and now i can express myself, who i am truly are. Because in my old class they knew me as 'rich' which isnt real now, and i sometimes lied abt my life, like i can escape from the unreal me and can become the real me
My all friends are in regular college. It means we are in college every single day, unlike me who has like open College program which you only go when exams are coming up or when it’s weekend and by side, I am in art field and I do freelancing work and mostly I spend my time alone with myself and I see my friends having the best time of your life because I have said no so many times to them, they don’t even invite me anymore. They just assume that I will not come, I do have friends, but I don’t wanna hang out with them. Anymore because I feel like there is very big distance between me and them, and now I will be not feeling that much connection what i used to feel I feel lonely, but also I have time with myself and I actually can work on myself
This video lowkey sounds like a huge cope with not experiencing new things. Yes, you should know your priorities and where you want to be in life but to assume that because the experience will be a 3/10 because of the people is…flawed. This is coming from someone that doesn’t go out much themselves. Having that assumption from a pretty subjective ranking system, can actually lead you to miss out on “core memories” b/c your judgement was off. Lots assuming and lots of coping laced with logical ways of navigating priorities when it comes to social events. Your perception of things can change that social event from a 3/10 to a 7/10 or maybe even an 8/10.
Hello Ruff, I hope you’re well, I was wondering about the same cause We had 2 competitions one beauty modelling and other quiz (I’m interested in both) but due to my Friends suggestion and saying lets enjoy the party and don’t join but them themselves joining without telling me at the last moment without the equipments and not having any team members for quiz I was feeling if I didn’t participate I’ll miss out but no way to join at last minute and as I’m freshman living in dorms and my college started a week ago I’m scared of the new environment.This video is right on time So thank you ❤️
But my problem is I don't have any friends. I just have a close friend. Everyone in my class ignores me or ig they don't like me. I always feel like I'm worst.
Quality over quantity, my friend. I used to hang out with a big group of friends but they didn't really care, but my one best friend will be there for anything, unlike them. Your close friend is worth 5 "friends."
Don't you think ruff that your editing is bit different then before, like i remember your old video were better than now in respect to editing and now you have almost stoped the putting clips wich you used to put before and also you have stoped sitting on your old setup like the setup in which was having those mirror and all so ya i thought i should tell you even you don't see it , actually the vibe of your old video were good.
Actually I prefer this kind of editings in ruff's videos... They are much less stimulated compared to other self improvement videos on the internet.... Pls keep your videos as such, we love them💗 whenever I feel oversimulated I look through your channel and I feel I can again focus on my life and work
So it means that I've been un necessarily despising my father for building a home in a more countryside like area where there is so much peace and quiet where i can focus better on my goals and I've just been more focused on social life, you say?
Hello ruff :) , I am tired of relying on a person I like. They are nice but my happiness literally depends on if they respond to my text or nah. Should I ignore them? Should I talk to them about it? Wth am I suppose to do???
Bro I’m having the same problem with my friends ‘they’re hella dry texter and Never text first what I’ve learned is that give them space if they want to they would text first but do check in on time to time also Try to change your happiness from just that person and channelize the energy to other things that make you happy like listening to music, study but don’t ghost. Hope this helps you🦋
I Just watched this video the insights I got are phenomenal yes I’m levelling up and I thought these competition or other Parties will lead me to have low to no network or nothing but Now I know I’ll delay the door to parties or these competitions that I have no control over and say yes to things I have that is study (even though this week’s is done but next week will come in handy) Thank you Ruff😘❤️
Tbh i dont think ive felt fomo like ever tbh heck i dont even feel "home sick" even as a kid. Ig for me ive been always liked doing things on my own not some self esteem issues or social anxiety but its just i dont have any energy to commit socializing. Being up in my room and do stuff on my own is what i always look forward to after going to work or school. Even when im being invited by my coworkers i would say no immediately cause ik i am gonna REGRET it afterwards which is what im more anxious about rather being anxious interacting with people which is kinda weird for me lol
I think it's really a think that young people experience more because they are still curious about these things but went you already went to parties you know not all are good and most of them are just ankware so there is no more fear in missing them
so basically it's like a reverse dungeon. Why go to 1st floor of the dungeon where u get less exp and less fun when you can lvl up and go to the next floor
Why are you directly relating FOMO with parties? You can fear missing out on literally anything. A lot of your points are only applicable to your average highschool or college party.
yo tip ruff: when you record videos put the night light on ur comp/ipad so less blue light comes out of it, and therefore ur glasses look less purple Just record in the morning bro
I am really confused about one situation atm since this is my last year at highschool we have a party the whole batch and the passes to it are slightly expensive. But my whole life I've never been to any party and after this we'll prolly never meet also I never went for school trips too. It's a tough decision for me rn
Ruff im a new student in a new school and basically im indefinitely a extrovert and i cant happen to make friends an its bugging me mentally and physically
I think you missed the mark a lil bit here. Imo what you said about the quality of the event and how things like house parties and clubbing aren’t that big of a deal is spot on. The thing I disagree on is how you measure weather or not their good or not. You talk about harshly rating your friends and realising your friends are mid so the activity is likely mid but I just don’t see the logic in that? What if your friends said “hey wanna come round my house and watch a movie”. Would you still harshly rate your friends the same way? And even then if you want to talk about the culture surrounding house parties (drinking copious amounts of alcohol, doing drugs, hookup culture, shit ppl who attend) you contradict yourself when you talk about how millionaires also party regularly. It came off to me more like you want to be wealthy and party with wealthy ppl (levelled up ppl) and not broke ppl. 90% of millionaires are equally if not more worthless then the average person. Wouldn’t it be better advice to instead rate the activity based on your personal experience and decide if you want to go or not. If u keep thinking “I don’t rly wanna go but all my friends are going” then that tells you that you most likely enjoy hanging with your friends but dislike the activity they have invited you too. If your friends are good friends they would take the no and arrange to do smthn else with you later on in the week that fits your tastes more. It’s not about the “level” your friends are, it’s about how much YOU like the activity based on your own personal experiences and weather or not you have other responsibilities to take care of.
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"If you say 'no' to something, You are indirectly saying 'yes' to something else"
4:51 "if it's not going to be a core memory, then it's not worth it to me" i needed this. THANK YOU.
Nah, cause bro literally is my therapist without knowing it-
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and also the timing of this video was just crazyy
@@Akshyaa_17 THAT WAS THE FIRST THING THAT CAME TO MY MIND WHEN I SAW ITTT like literally im moving school loll
I understand the point about not wasting your time on people and events that you think will be bad or not great, but at the same time, in my opinion, some of the best memories tend to happen when you don't expect them to. Like if I only go to a party or an event because I think it's gonna give me a core memory, I'm both setting myself up for disappointment if it's not all I expect to be, and missing out on other opportunities just because I think it won't give me a core memory. I think the solution is to avoid experiences that are giving you bad vibes or that you feel like aren't gonna be enjoyable at all, but to still give some of those experiences that you judged beforehand to be a "5/10" or "6/10" a shot. Some of those might be as you thought, but some of them might be that real core memory you're looking for.
I agree, personally even having pointless conversations with friends are one of the reasons why I can still smile, enjoy or even laugh even if I'm having a hard time. They indirectly helped lessen the burdens I've experienced in the past and still counting. The point is, we could never really tell the outcome of what we do so I still choose to be happy since being young is not forever, when we grow up to become an adult being busy with our lives, we won't have the time to be free like we used to be.
I snuck out of my society, didnt think it would be fun, but turned out to be a nice and chill night for me and my friends, plus we met some people as well. Not a core memory, but def very fun and I'm glad we went.
I've been getting out of my comfort zone, hanging out with groups of ppl i felt uncomfortable with, and now I've made new friends and more people know of my existence. It's easier to socialize now too
Some good advice in here, and I want to add: if your friends are your type of people, you can do productive stuff together, like studying, going to the gym or whatever it is u do
And think about when you had most quality time with your friends, when you really felt like it was lifting your spirits; for me it definitely wasn't at parties. There are ways to have fun with people you like without hindering your progress :>
The timing of this is perfect, i moved to a new school recently and i have been really scared of missing out on fun....
Gurl, I feel you😵💫
same here 🥲
same here. i guess i pay un necessary heed to these friendship things
@@Grayi.Lafleur same here.
Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out, but then I remind myself that I don't want to end up like an average teenager (alcohol, drugs, etc.), so I keep working instead.
it's crazy how your own mind makes you believe stupid things.
like, i remember, i had this critical exam, and my friends went out partying. i. have. never. been. to any party. and that time, i felt like, what's the point of life anymore? when i cn't "live".
even studying felt like wasting time smh.
but goodness, i chose being "8/10", and i swear its the best thing ever.
thank you ruff, u always lead me when i feel like im losing it.
As other people said, i think this video is really useful. yes choosing the experiences you really want and not doing smthg because everyone is doing it is important. However degrading eveyone in the way of feeling better isn't the solution. The first point is in my opinion wrong because there is people who attend a lot of parties that will still be very nice, athletic or intelligent. In fact i don't see why attending parties would make you less nice or intelligent. Fomo also happen when you see all these people that you admire to reuniting together. Even in this case, you should not attend this event if you truly don't want to go.
Every body should Have one ruff in his life
My friend group and I skipped high school prom. We planned our own cheaper and more enjoyable event, spending time with people we actually like. Even years later I don’t regret that decision.
I was just searching for a video about FOMO exactly like this and all the videos on the internet were just explaining FOMO rather than solution. Your video was such a lifesaver. Thank you!
I'm really in a difficult situation at the moment. I have my 10th boards from Feb so i gotta work hard now!! My 1st exam was not so good.. pretty bad. But this video came at the perfect time!! I have 6 months left to prove myself, along with 3 more minor exams in between. I have deleted Instagram and am planning to Install it only on some special days. But this video motivated me alot!! Thanks Ruff❤ I hope i can prove my worth and get 95%+ in my boards and make everyone proud💗
heyy that sounds so amazing!!! im a 12th grader myself and samee my boards are obviously starting from feb as well. Gotta lock in !
are u a 24-25 batch? if u are then we're on the same page cuz-
Yo ruff, lowkey you were the main reason why i started going to the gym (i watched your vids a few months back) and Ive been slowly making progress (i started at the beginning of the year) some of the advice you gave made me really think about how i was living out my life and i was lowkey in a really tough spot. So i've got to say is thanks man
this is such a sweet comment! keep it up, im really proud of you!! :)
nope. nope. nope. no. i dont even GO to parties and i know that not everyone who goes to parties is an awful person. am i a shit person for going to my mom’s birthday party? why are you telling people to judge others? if you do this, your kindess instantly drops to a 0/10. sorry.
yeah this is so toxic
The way ruff know what I want is crazy 🤯
I do agree with some parts of the videos where it talks about how to improve “productivity” which is basically the main overlapping theme of this video. Through I do disagree with other parts where it states that you need to judge your friends based on some of your values since not all of your friends is going to share the same value as you and no one will have the same interest as you so judging someone out of 10 is just very subjective in my opinion.
I don’t think you’re ever going to have a fear of missing out on some events if you know how to “love yourself” and give yourself the respect that you need to give yourself. Another thing I would like to point out is the ratings of different types of experience since not every five out of 10 experience you push away is automatically going to result in a 10 out of 10 or 8 out of 10 since life, there’s always going to be obstacles and even the best of experience could be the worst in your opinion.
Obviously, this isn’t something for me to just criticize on since I do agree with some of the statements that you have to better utilize your time for certain stuff that you truly care about and not forced by friends to go to a party when you don’t want to because of certain reasons such as “work”. But even still if you utilize your time correctly, you can still go to parties without regrets since you probably would still have enough time to finish all of your work. Life shouldn’t be so “objective” since your emotion isn’t something that you can totally control and same with your thought process you can’t totally control that. Life and emotions is like how the weather changes, basically random changes. So it would just be in my personal opinion that life is more “subjective” than what people make it seem.
If people feel like if people like the videos opinion, then that’s totally up to them. Since not, everybody has to agree with one’s opinion. I guess a trained psychologist, unlike myself would have a better opinion on the situation since I do know that their opinion would be slightly different and might even totally disagree with the video. At the end of the day, what makes someone happy should be the most important to them and no one should be forced to make themselves unhappy since your emotion is valid even if other people states it’s not. ❤
Watching your videos and making changes to my life is probably gonna be a core memory someday
Honestly the first point that you made about how if you are going to partys your overall health, Intelligence and Fitness levels are low. Yes going to partys consistently without doing anything from the side is not a good habit, but just by saying if you are a person who goes to partys and has this low ranks thats wrong, because Im a person who doesnt like partying but sometimes I indulge myself in it because I like the company nothing is wrong with that.
My problem with that part was that you used going to a party as a whole
The timing of you uploading this vdo is perfect!
Being an extrovert in school to doing my degree from home instead of going to college, I've been stuggling with FOMO A LOT recently (and on top of that I don't have an insta or discord acc so I'm missing out even more welp)
Tysm for uploading this and talking about FOMO
I can understand dude ..same situation here
no matter what path you take, whether you crowd yourself with hobbies, friends, events and parties, or whether you lock in for exaggerated amounts of work and exaggerated amounts of 'play' or, just pleasure, or whether you pursue being productive with just small slips of fun, and continue to march your life on and on, you'll never be truly happy or fufilled. your lifetime in this universe is just a tiny fraction, and though it means a lot to you, once you're gone, it doesn't matter anymore. (no shit). a lot of people say to follow your heart and do what you want, and that leads to a wasteful life. others decide to lock-in and go all-in to become wildly successful at a young age. ambition is driving them. but in the end, we're all human. most people think that we're born without a clear purpose in life, and a main goal that most normal people probably have is to find or create that purpose. but this is really wrong. because the only purpose in life is God. don't you know that if the earth was just a couple of, i don't know, kilometers or some shit closer or farther to the sun, we'd all die? don't you know that our bodies constantly remain at a consistent temperature, no matter what, to keep up alive? surely the beautiful wonders of our world, and the vast intelligence of humans means something. it can't just be a result of strict, logical big-bangs or whatever that clashed something-billion years ago. maybe it would be poetic that all this happened without purpose and us humans are left to deal with it. except it's not poetic. there are children being human trafficked right now, and there are also people being the happiest in their entire lives right now! that's so contradicting. in this vast world, just know that God loves you. His love is not logical. because, realistically, you have done nothing worthy of gaining his love. seriously, that sounds harsh, but if you barely know Him, then with what logic can he love you by? but he just does. and one day, Jesus is coming back to Earth. there are horrible, horrible times coming. but also good times! if you repent and believe in Jesus Christ!
edit: sorry i felt like yapping also good video Ruff :3
why was that actually deep. like im questioning everything now
Forreal 😭@@dear_shouske505
Mahn what you were saying was hella interesting ngl
as a Christian, God is important but we have an earthly purpose too. We should aim to glorify God, but we should still have a purpose that we want to work towards
@@joey4592 yeah true but I totally got what he meant when he said at the end of the day it doesn't matter, idk the way he explained everything in a nihilistic but religious way got to me
I never heard someone talk about it in that perspective ,it's impressive
'The only main purpose in life is God' That line is hella deep
The way this video actually came at the perfect time, literally instant click
How on the earth you do this ruff?? Posting the exact video i need at the exactly correct timeee 😭😭😭
Us 😭😭
I am very grateful to have friends that I look upto...they are great in what they do (studies wise and generally), get to learn from them so much. If I miss out on any events they just fill me up with the info. 😅
This ranking thing actually blew my mind in a good way!! There are those one friends that I have, but somehow over time don’t enjoy being with. This ranking helped me understand, that our life goals and priorities don’t align.
All this is soo true but the people giving me fomo are literally better than me in ever aspect except for morals and kindness
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Bro I needed this. Tnx so much!
Never clicked on a video so fast.
Why
fear of missing out on this video?
@@tsft_ 😝
This is true, ive been to so many parties and crazy days, sure they're great memories but at the end of the day they didn't change my life immensely. Just live your life and don't stress.
I don't really fell the left out kind of thing anymore since us friends seperated bc of high school so theres only me and other classmates from old sections and my one only friend, an i mean they are at different rooms, so im just alone in our class. I don't feel it anymore bc like- i don't know them.
And also the sudden change in my environment made me so comfortable
(My old class was toxic, i got in a drama, just terrible) and now i can express myself, who i am truly are. Because in my old class they knew me as 'rich' which isnt real now, and i sometimes lied abt my life, like i can escape from the unreal me and can become the real me
appreciate your works ruff i can't describe how much you've helped me. keep up the good work mate!
thank you
genuinely thanks man
3:46 “so it was just like me and like five different girls in the upstairs room doing it”
Timing perfect as always
What you said are really on point. Thanks for you advice.
Funny how nearly everyone don't have FOMO when it comes to skipping classes and important meetings
the advice comes at the most convenient moments
My all friends are in regular college. It means we are in college every single day, unlike me who has like open College program which you only go when exams are coming up or when it’s weekend and by side, I am in art field and I do freelancing work and mostly I spend my time alone with myself and I see my friends having the best time of your life because I have said no so many times to them, they don’t even invite me anymore. They just assume that I will not come, I do have friends, but I don’t wanna hang out with them. Anymore because I feel like there is very big distance between me and them, and now I will be not feeling that much connection what i used to feel I feel lonely, but also I have time with myself and I actually can work on myself
This video lowkey sounds like a huge cope with not experiencing new things. Yes, you should know your priorities and where you want to be in life but to assume that because the experience will be a 3/10 because of the people is…flawed. This is coming from someone that doesn’t go out much themselves. Having that assumption from a pretty subjective ranking system, can actually lead you to miss out on “core memories” b/c your judgement was off. Lots assuming and lots of coping laced with logical ways of navigating priorities when it comes to social events. Your perception of things can change that social event from a 3/10 to a 7/10 or maybe even an 8/10.
Im so fvckin shook when I saw this. Im looking for an advice about this. Thank you very much ruff!
Hello Ruff, I hope you’re well, I was wondering about the same cause We had 2 competitions one beauty modelling and other quiz (I’m interested in both) but due to my Friends suggestion and saying lets enjoy the party and don’t join but them themselves joining without telling me at the last moment without the equipments and not having any team members for quiz I was feeling if I didn’t participate I’ll miss out but no way to join at last minute and as I’m freshman living in dorms and my college started a week ago I’m scared of the new environment.This video is right on time So thank you ❤️
All the best
In a nutshell: Be like Burr and “Wait For It”
But my problem is I don't have any friends. I just have a close friend. Everyone in my class ignores me or ig they don't like me. I always feel like I'm worst.
Quality over quantity, my friend. I used to hang out with a big group of friends but they didn't really care, but my one best friend will be there for anything, unlike them. Your close friend is worth 5 "friends."
at least you have 1
Don't you think ruff that your editing is bit different then before, like i remember your old video were better than now in respect to editing and now you have almost stoped the putting clips wich you used to put before and also you have stoped sitting on your old setup like the setup in which was having those mirror and all so ya i thought i should tell you even you don't see it , actually the vibe of your old video were good.
This is such egotistic thinking that will cause you regret later on.
Actually I prefer this kind of editings in ruff's videos... They are much less stimulated compared to other self improvement videos on the internet.... Pls keep your videos as such, we love them💗 whenever I feel oversimulated I look through your channel and I feel I can again focus on my life and work
So it means that I've been un necessarily despising my father for building a home in a more countryside like area where there is so much peace and quiet where i can focus better on my goals and I've just been more focused on social life, you say?
nah sorry i mess wit da litty funcs sorry unk
Hello ruff :) , I am tired of relying on a person I like. They are nice but my happiness literally depends on if they respond to my text or nah. Should I ignore them? Should I talk to them about it? Wth am I suppose to do???
Bro I’m having the same problem with my friends ‘they’re hella dry texter and Never text first what I’ve learned is that give them space if they want to they would text first but do check in on time to time also Try to change your happiness from just that person and channelize the energy to other things that make you happy like listening to music, study but don’t ghost. Hope this helps you🦋
Dude tysmmm
Have been supporting ruff since his first vid💯 bro came a long way
I Just watched this video the insights I got are phenomenal yes I’m levelling up and I thought these competition or other Parties will lead me to have low to no network or nothing but Now I know I’ll delay the door to parties or these competitions that I have no control over and say yes to things I have that is study (even though this week’s is done but next week will come in handy) Thank you Ruff😘❤️
Great way to put it 🌸
I have serious problems with FOMST (fear of missing skibidi toilet).
any tips?
I have no FOMO because there is nothing to miss out on. (No friends rip💀)
This really helped me a lot thank you ❤
Speaking of 4/10's and 6/10's you're a ten out of ten king so I'm not sure why you cover half of your terrific face for your viewers.
Tbh i dont think ive felt fomo like ever tbh heck i dont even feel "home sick" even as a kid. Ig for me ive been always liked doing things on my own not some self esteem issues or social anxiety but its just i dont have any energy to commit socializing. Being up in my room and do stuff on my own is what i always look forward to after going to work or school. Even when im being invited by my coworkers i would say no immediately cause ik i am gonna REGRET it afterwards which is what im more anxious about rather being anxious interacting with people which is kinda weird for me lol
I think it's really a think that young people experience more because they are still curious about these things but went you already went to parties you know not all are good and most of them are just ankware so there is no more fear in missing them
Algorithm matches perfectly
thanks this video really helps
You just read my mind bro , i just felt fomo few minutes ago
I don’t care that much about parties but I do care about hanging with friends and going on. Adventure and exploring u know
Yeay !! Hair cut W .. great advice TYSM ! ❤
Me and 5 different girls in the upstairs room were doing it💀
Thank you so much ruff ❤❤❤❤❤❤
It's the fact that he didn't even hold the girl Im the thumbnail😂 nah bro violated her fr
so basically it's like a reverse dungeon. Why go to 1st floor of the dungeon where u get less exp and less fun when you can lvl up and go to the next floor
He literally posts when I need them the most
First man keep up the good work
your advice is the best, enjoy
Why are you directly relating FOMO with parties? You can fear missing out on literally anything. A lot of your points are only applicable to your average highschool or college party.
watching this instead of going to the 2 parties i was invited to today
Stress is literally Asian UNO
watching this while animating stick figures fight, peak life
How do you create your content? How do you come up with ideas and plan each video that you make?
Great advice
Love your videos keep going!❤🎉
It really helps me and motivates me thanks😊
Here before someone writes “first”
Thnak you❤
3:37 😮 ayeee RUFF LOST HIS V CA-
I'm missing out on 8 billion other lives every day bruh
Good points
Zou are zzmart brother, Zzank zou for zzis Vizeo
Your video is so good man btw I always want to ask u what the type and name of microphone You using???
Bruh this is really funny tlaking abt this with party terms bcs what i feel fomo isn't parties, we don't really have them over here anyway
yo tip ruff: when you record videos put the night light on ur comp/ipad so less blue light comes out of it, and therefore ur glasses look less purple
Just record in the morning bro
Perfect timeing
I am really confused about one situation atm since this is my last year at highschool we have a party the whole batch and the passes to it are slightly expensive. But my whole life I've never been to any party and after this we'll prolly never meet also I never went for school trips too. It's a tough decision for me rn
Didn't had a older bro,but maybe ruff would do it x
Huhu i love yow
How tall are you mr ruff
Ruff im a new student in a new school and basically im indefinitely a extrovert and i cant happen to make friends an its bugging me mentally and physically
Hi Ruff.
Big fan. Missed your videos a lot. Thanks.
being an animation channel is hard to catch up in consistency upload in youtube
I think you missed the mark a lil bit here. Imo what you said about the quality of the event and how things like house parties and clubbing aren’t that big of a deal is spot on. The thing I disagree on is how you measure weather or not their good or not. You talk about harshly rating your friends and realising your friends are mid so the activity is likely mid but I just don’t see the logic in that? What if your friends said “hey wanna come round my house and watch a movie”. Would you still harshly rate your friends the same way? And even then if you want to talk about the culture surrounding house parties (drinking copious amounts of alcohol, doing drugs, hookup culture, shit ppl who attend) you contradict yourself when you talk about how millionaires also party regularly. It came off to me more like you want to be wealthy and party with wealthy ppl (levelled up ppl) and not broke ppl. 90% of millionaires are equally if not more worthless then the average person. Wouldn’t it be better advice to instead rate the activity based on your personal experience and decide if you want to go or not. If u keep thinking “I don’t rly wanna go but all my friends are going” then that tells you that you most likely enjoy hanging with your friends but dislike the activity they have invited you too. If your friends are good friends they would take the no and arrange to do smthn else with you later on in the week that fits your tastes more. It’s not about the “level” your friends are, it’s about how much YOU like the activity based on your own personal experiences and weather or not you have other responsibilities to take care of.
The only FOMO is Ruff's face reveal
Yo make a sad face on ur face in thumbnail. Great vid❤
Early advice Sensei.
Racist??
How do u post at the PERFECT time??
He looks so tiny in his pfp wuaattttt
sup
Real