@@Kris_Reece ???Could you do a video about love bombing; the red flags, and the overlap/difference with infatuation??? Curing is good, prevention is better! God made you a help for people to heal, and to recognise. May He bless you with even more of His wisdom. E. from Holland.
Thank you for this! ❤️ Almost every person who has walked through my life has had aspects of what you are teaching here! Mind blowing! 😫 I am a very strong Christian, because I am an NDE Hell survivor and they have tried to defeat me, as I just try to Help and Love them!!! I still pray for my enemies, who I did not make my enemy, they did it themselves, by refusing to Love with King Jesus’ Love and walk in His Ways. I wasn’t the only one commanded to Love by God……. People better stop abusing others, cuz they ARE going to reap what they have sown, either on the Earth or Under our feet, in Hell, by the demons they listened too! 😱☠️😱 God Says, They honor me with they’re Lips, but they’re hearts are Far from Me! So many carnal Christian’s at the end of this age! We’re almost Home! ⬆️ 🎺🤴😇 Thank you for the guide! God Bless your work in His Kingdom Mam! 🙏🥰🙏
No that's true I would ask him to pray for forgiveness he wouldn't admit he was wrong everything is my fault I feel like he used religion I'm not sure its still confusing its still new I'm learning a great deal😢
I can hardly listen - it brings back such painful memories. 21 years w him. Multiple affairs. The dark eyes. The silent treatment. The blame. The manipulation of my mind. The silent rage. The guessing of what I’ve done wrong. Lord, please don’t ever let me be back in this.
Let’s pray for all who remain victims, those who are suffering and unable to leave for some reason. I am 76yo and am finally free(one month divorced). It took me almost a decade , but I finally made it. Yes, there is still much to deal with and much healing to achieve. I will continue to pray for all my brothers and sisters for spiritual intervention. Remember that GOD has witnessed our persecution. Let’s all come through the trials, learn from them and be forever thankful to GOD for being there with us even though it may not have felt like it at the time. Forever Grateful ❤
Praying for those who are still enduring these toxic attacks. God actually pushed me out after things became physically violent. Trust in what the Holy Spirit is telling you. He, the Holy Spirit told me to leave 7 years ago. I thought I could endure too with giving love and understanding. Things only became worse.
It's normal to wonder what you did when someone else is abusive to you. The trick is to understand it's nothing you did to cause that abuser to abuse people. That person is abuser and it has nothing to do with you. You were just there to receive the abuse and that's most likely not your fault.
Before I did my research about covert narcissism, & BPD I was already telling her she was giving me bread crumbs, & things I did were never good enough, I became hypersensitive, I would lash out at insults and her ridicule. She criticized every aspect of my hobbies,my character, and spiritual well being and disliked kissing. Never have I been is a relationship that made me question so many things. After we broke up, I'm stuck in the rumination cycle of heartache because she moved onto someone new. She is a beautiful woman, and meeting guys isn't an issue. Meanwhile, im left to be alone with questions & suffering. It sucks.
My Mother 😢. She’s 85 and still healthy and strong in her demonic narcissistic ways , I always pray for her salvation. She has destroyed my family if I only knew then what I Know now. Praying for all here in the comments 🙏
Extremely sad! I was recently enmeshed with an 84 y/o woman who did the same with her family and me. It was an unbelievable nightmare! The control, entrapment, deceit, lies and slander was the likes I could never imagine. The older they get, the more skilled, more entitled and out of control they become without any remorse! I’m sorry and praying for you and yours!
My 86 yo MoMster recently caused my puncture ear drum after using her rest room. I was about 5 ft away from her with a wall between us, I was walking down the hall. NEARLY fell to the ground. Mum is very Christian in the Sadistically CATHOLIC way. Best friend is a Nun & she's tight with the now cold "FROST" LIKE MONSENIOR. GOT many FAMILY members that are Leo's, highway patrol, local city & county sheriff as well, one Superior Court Judge in the footsteps of her "NON"-NARCISSTIC FATHER.
my mother 84 ...its so clear now ..more than when she was younger or so it seems ..but when younger I also was irritated by her ..I hate Her Guts and false performance
@RitaMarie_CYFN1 I can totally identify too. This has been the story of my life since 1981. It's mind boggling that we've received such clarity with one video. I'm so grateful to have found this today. Wishing you well Rita. We have one job now which is to venture forth ti live our best lives. Whew! A light bulb moment.
Submission can't happen. They can fake it. They portray themselves as like a god, even if only to themselves. Unless they become changed, willingly, by God and hard work, they will continue believing there is no God.
Ive been married to a covert narcissist for 31 years. I have finally realized what he is, Thanks Be To God. Every word you've spoken describes my life with him.
He's too stupid to know what validation means! He breaks my things when I'm not around. He's a monster demon! I have no friends or to family and can't afford to leave.
@@tsholofelohuma7496 Yes. And the clever ones know how to fein empathy. And the empath is wrapped around their little finger. Such is the wickedness of narcissism how it winds its way into the lives of the unaware. Thx Jesus for people like Kris giving us the heads up on these creeps. What does Jesus command? Pray for them that despitefully use you. How do we pray? Lord Jesus, forgive me of my sins. Bless the narcissists so they can be convicted of sin, do a miracle in their lives. And give me wisdom, discernment, and understanding of what’s going on in the spiritual realm. Teach me how to keep my distance.
Yes they are financially destitute when you met them and then they try to train you in the process with sob stories of fraud on their account all the time it's hilarious to me the lies they make up
@rubberbiscuit99 yes exactly my husband blames me for his money issues all the time we have separate accounts I pay my bills and he's always behind paying his and some how it's my fault
My daughter in law is a covert narcissist. Total nightmare, who now does not allow me to see my two perfect grandbabies. Prayers please. Thank you Jesus for the validation.
I'm in the same situation--with 2 of my 3 sons. Both married covert narcissists--my oldest son's been married 28 years--and I've been KEPT from all 7 of their children--ranging in ages from 5 to 27!! All of their kids (mostly the oldest 4 so far) are her 'flying monkeys'--and the oldest (27) is their 'roving reporter'--always reporting every word I say to him right back to Mama, who STILL has COMPLETE CONTROL of him!--EVEN HIS BANK ACCOUNT! My life has been a nightmare because of my efforts to remain in my grandchildrens' lives--which now, I realize I can no longer do. I have had to BLOCK ALL OF THEM from my phone--because of all the hateful, nasty TEXT messages they were sending me. They will never know WHO I REALLY AM--because of the HOLD their evil mother has on their lives. My other son, also married a covert narcissist--and she has also succeeded in completely ISOLATING Me from my 2nd oldest son--and we've not spoken in 8 years. I have 4 step-grands that were hers via a previous abusive marriage, so she has isolated me from all 4 of her kids...not as big of a hurt, because I'd only just begun to know them when she isolated me. The isolation from my 2nd son devastates me. I will never understand how my sons--who I loved and nurtured as a dedicated Christian Mom--and who I prayed over from infancy, HOW CAN MY BOYS TURN THEIR BACKS ON THEIR OWN MOTHER--all because of these hateful, evil women?! Yet, that is what they have BOTH done. I am now 68 years old with huge health issues and NEED them, but they are NOT there for me. Believe me, I UNDERSTAND your plight. 30 years I've been living in this toxic situation. it HAS had its toll on my health. And I have to continually lay it squarly at Jesus' feet. I am ALONE in this world. I would love to have some supportive friends in Christ who are coping with the same problems....
I am so sorry for your pain. My daughter is a narcissist also abd I have not seen my first geandchild. But tgen....I choose to stay away ftom my daughter at this point due to having my fill of disrespect in word and action. I don't need the stress of her in my life. I will pray in your behalf ; trusting that God will work in your behalf according to His Will. So sad that these mean, evil hearted people exist.
@@CarolKenelFilley yes mine too, the stonewalling is so frustrating! I'm tryin to stay in w feet dug down hard for my family but most of All God. If you stay Just remind him calmly that a discussion isn't an argument! No is a complete sentence! Stop Talking and Listen and Watch for differences of behavior and take Mental notes. Proverbs 3:5&6 💕 🙏
I first met my ex when I was 17. We married 7 years later and I stayed for 36 years. I experienced it all. It got so much worse as he got older and he knew I knew. It ended with physical violence. I've been healing for 5 months now and really appreciate your videos.
Devaluation,she always would stare and glare at me with this cold blank look it was at times unnerving and sometimes alot not speaking too silent treatment never wanted too compromise her way or the highway at all times
One time she threatened too call me state police on me simply cuz she was not getting her way with me she never gave me any love or attention but she wanted it though and what your saying she would suck me in
My marriage to my narcissistic husband has ended. He once appeared to be a great Christian man, and in my codependency, we seemed like the perfect match. But as I began to heal with God and embrace my calling in ministry, his true, darker side started to emerge. Over the past 10 years, I endured emotional and financial abuse, and even physical violence-he even split many times on my face. As God lifted me up and strengthened me, the demonic nature behind his behavior became undeniable. Now, I’m stepping into freedom, trusting God for healing and a new beginning and the next chapter.❤ Now I have a peace and even my friends and adult kids want to come to me because all of them says that they see that that man wasn’t good attentions to you! It takes time even my body start to relax and I have so much fun by my self! Wau! I keep him as a fault God! I repent and trust God! This was not Love it was abuse 😭
FOG... So after you comply with the blackmail - my husband no longer is decent or *nice - he says nothing or speaks *what it's your job" then the silence .. why even after the more than two years now did I have been listening to you and Dr Les Carter and gained that much understanding- growth in myself; I no longer feel badly about anything that has to do with me directly as he criticizes. Of course it stings, but if I clean I know it's a good job, I know I'm fearfully and wonderfully made and I believe that I'm a daughter of the king and I am attractive I am kind, I'm good on the inside and out not an angel but nothing worse than someone attempting to be a good wife and a good person. This has been 17 years and I confronted finally in 2021 we went to two counseling sessions where he poured his heart out and we both cried - since it was truth I thought it was a start.. He went to two sessions then said I don't need this you do you're crazy. which I completely don't accept. I'm seeking exit God is provided me with a job recently that is that is going to make that possible. I have a boundary of high behavior in the household now and don't take his mother's or his comments on the home my cooking or myself personal anymore.. I don't spout off *I'm leaving! .. But I am looking for a place I can afford. More like constant conversation with the Holy Spirit and my Father thank you Jesus continually for every little change in me and provision that I couldn't have done on my own. I'm mourn as if my husband is dying, or rather that the marriage has died. But I have the acceptance that I cannot affect us in any way because I have done the thousands of things you could think of I'm going through all the stages of much of what you describe The Holy Spirit brought to me in the back of my mind "you can love him and still leave this is not what marriage is, & what any Father would want for His daughter -let alone the Holy Father of all of us. I have forgiven him I do so quickly as soon as the offenses made which is daily, I want no harm to come to him as in revenge but I do want him held accountable in some way. With all that I have learned over the last 3 years going on 4, with the girls in myself and then continued and worsening behavior of my husband; Why do I still want to know "why" .. Now why is he this way, because that's all so been brought to my understanding from his childhood and further knowing someone over 17 years, but why would he want to stay this way? Disregarding all our years and yes some of the good days as you call it in between the very very many crappy ones, the time with our children and all the love and serving he has received which now I can reduce down to what I think he views as me no different than anyone else giving him what he wanted - I have a nice house I have a good car I have a smart dog I have a favorite pair of shoes - I have a wife.. Like all of those things are just things to him. I've confronted him and clear calm language spoken in truth in love called it that specifically, grown to actually no that's not ok that you speak to me that way, no it's not okay to see whoever you want and spend time and money on them on your phone and in person, no it's not okay for you to stop treating me as a wife and more like a roommate still expecting what a wife does in the bedroom - while while he still does what he pleases against our marriage and me and his wife, on his way home and on days off.. Why do I still want to know why - he would remain this way? Hey stop the physical abuse 5 years ago going on 6 and if you could change that being clean and sober- it's like my mind can't comprehend why the disrespect an outright cruelty has escalated like he used to speak when he was under the influence and ready to pummel me. That has completely ceased, but was never acknowledged bringing up anything from years or even yesterday is always "the past" I want away from this really indescribable behavior to be clean and sober and still be who you used to be when you were out of your mind or so I thought - but I have & do separate the behavior from the man . almost desperately on some days I want to run. BUT I truly could move forward with him with acknowledgment and true changed behavior without any grudges. But I do accept that's not going to happen 😞
Yes I'm an over compensator developed over yrs of what is my nature & made excessive through this marriage. I hope you may eventually read this Kris & could make sense of the many typos in my last very long text ✨☝🏼✨
I could never explain what they do or for others to understand. You nail it so directly!!! And I'm so tired of being called crazy and irrational by even my own family because I couldn't explain it. Thankfully, they're out of my life!
My ex is a covert narcissist. I am so glad I am not with him anymore. He hurt me so much and the Lord removed him from me. He managed to turn my children against me also, and now I do not see my grandchildren either. I have been isolated. I am praying the Lord will undertake for me and bring healing and restoration.
I can really relate. My covert husband left me after 31 years without warning or consideration. He did this while my mother was living her last days (last month) He also turned our children against me slowly over time. I will pray for you... You are not alone. There are others like me who understand and will be here for your support if needed. God bless you with peace, healing and comfort.
Sounds just like my ex! I took my kids numbers off his phone. Hid his prized possessions in storage, prayed he wouldn’t beat me up. I waited until he started putting me down and cursing Jesus (he was supposed to be a christian), and I told him to leave or I wouldn’t give him his lock box/stuff back! He left, I immediately changed the locks! I later placed all of his stuff at a neighbor he liked so he could pick it up. Oh-he also started seeing a woman clerk who I work with…. Just to irritate me. She’s probably moving in with him-more gullible!
@@user-tl7mm78 He always tried to make my kids fight, he is my second married, and i already have 2 growing kids 21 and 16, 2 of my son under depressed since we married. Lucky God love us so much, i was under intimidation, until i ddidnt know my self, but God took him out from our life because all his job not working in my country so he left without nothing, he never provide anything even 1 penny, But when he left me, what i did is came to Jesus asked Jesus to help me to forgive him, i learned to not blame him but what God want do in my life through this narsistic husband. So after 1 month i prayed i can move on and God started blessing us with miracle way, God provided everyrhinb me and my kids need until now. We still married no divorced but we never talk anymore. He in his country and me in my country. I know where i am standing who am. I so he wil never intimidation me anymore so why he got angry he tried to blame me but i never angry like before , i reply witj nice words and he very upset.
@@user-tl7mm78 I'm so sorry, I read this and thought OMG ... This lady is me. I'm in the same situation and it's killing me. I'll pray for you my sisters in Christ 🙏
I learned from listening to professionals who discuss narcissism that I’m a very empathetic person and I attract toxic people. This brought me serious pain and lower self esteem. Through God’s love and kindness I have healed. Freedom from toxic people is a life changer and soooo good.
This is probably the most accurate helpful resource on covert narcissism (my soon to be former husband) I have ever heard! I am so grateful I came across this today. My husband of 31 years left me without warning or consideration after taking care of him (he has MS) and my terminally I'll mother at the most vulnerable time in my life. I had just buried my best friend since I was 4 years old the same month when he left me and my mother passed away. I have so much heartache and loss to process all at once. Any observant person would see that he did this at a time I needed him most. With God I know I can get through this even though I don't see how sometimes.
We are not alone. I understand your story because I'm living it too. So not only are we not alone because we share this in common sadly. We also have the holy Spirit to fill us with God's grace and strength to do this one day at a time. And that's all we can do. Stay strong my sisters in Christ.
If he tries to come back, don’t fall for it. He’s probably just progressing in his MS and wants to use you as a nurse in his decline. Don’t do it! It’s worse when they come back. Don’t fall for it. The love bombing will stop and he will return to his old ways but even worse bc he will see you as stupid and deserving of being treated with contempt. Stay away from him.
@@monalisa2662 That's the CLASSIC disgust of NPD. Kicked when down Do not expect less. Dangerous and the levels of deceit and vengeance are endless. Stay strong and off the grid. Blessings 💜🙏✝️
Wow this is exactly what my son and I dealt with. Your explanation makes sense. She came in like an Angel, I fell for it. She ruined my son’s life going on 20 years. Took him to court and tried to take away his daughter at 3 years, she is now 15. We don’t get to see her but once a year. She took him to court, told lies on him basically took everything from him Thank you!
I’m sorry for your losses. I’m just learning about this narcissism in my own family. My son has married a narcissist and I’m in the line of fire. I have 2 grown grandchildren and now one great grandson. They live on another coast. I’ll never know them. My son still believes the lies after 31 years. I pray for all of them . I’m a Christian but they don’t know Him and wouldn’t allow me to share Him with the grandchildren when they were young. Now we’re estranged. I love them, but refuse to be played any longer.
Thank you Kris! This is a extremely hard subject! Jesus said we are to love no one more than we love Him- these demonic entities will drain everything from us "that we are willing to give!" We got this! LET THE Holy Spirit alone guide you!💪👊👊 Those demonic entities hate you & want you dead! Their thoughts are "the dead don't speak!" But the saints are crying out to Father!
My whole life both my parents have been the worst of the worst narcissist. I had no idea there were videos on this and describing them to a T. And they wonder why my life has gone the way it has. And make me feel aweful for having mental health issues. I’ve slowly been dying inside every single day of my life.
❤❤❤❤ mine smell I’m so sorry it’s something we have to just give to God and say please we’re fighting and get angry about and ask him for guidance and make sure that we tell him we believe in trust in him to show us who people really are here on out to protect our spirit. Good luck to you God bless.
I told my ex narcissist husband back in September that he was a narcissist and as soon as I got a job he quickly devalued me and divorced me. I prayed before I told him too. I couldn’t take it anymore. I guess with God’s grace he answered my prayers . If someone does call them out it only works if it is God’s will. I’m free and feeling better than I have for 26 years
But beware of his revenge. They may hold grudges for life and do whatever they can at different points in time whenever they get reminded of you. Perhaps your case is different. To me, the biggest God’s mercy on me is when all my narcs will forget about me or get involved on other business. I never felt desire to call them out for worse for better…
@@debbie7326no contact when we decide to leave, Yes that bothers them! But during the marriage or relationship, when we’re expressing our needs or hurts by them, they will give the silent treatment to shut down the conversation and if we return the silent treatment… they do NOT care.
@Bre1002. She went no contact both break ups when we had an argument about her bad behavior. So, that makes me the narcissist, right? Especially if her silence hurts me alot because I called her out on her stuff??
The craziness of continually seeking validation from the one who invalidates - such a trap...even afterwards, thinking i needed him to admit Truth before i could find my own sanity... thanking God for freeing me from this delusion, & bringing me around to finally being able to see the narc as a person whose opinion means nothing to me 🙌
The grey rock method works with my husband. I told him to buy his own food, cook his own meals, I was so tried of him complaining about what I cooked for supper. I have set boundaries and a have been very verbal about my boundaries. One day he yelled at me something so stupid, I immediately said, “don’t yell at me, I don’t deserve that.” When he had time to think about it he came to me, kissed me on the head and actually said Im sorry, you didn’t deserve me yelling at you. I was shocked!!!! He has been cooking his own food, and been so much better ever since then. I’m praying he continues this, we have been married for 17 years.
God bless you! Sounds like my father in a way! He's not evil, but he does have a demonic stronghold that rears its ugly face every now and then! He will create arguments to gaslight my mother and I. I have been helping my mother cope with it. The thing is to heighten one's EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. It's CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT HASN'T BEEN DEALT WITH!!!
@@barbarapennington6998 - WOW! Sounds like my situation! Living with a nut job bf? who demands hit cooked supper every night and lunch! I'm 70 and forced to cook over 50 years for 2 bad things marriages! I retired from cooking which I hate yrs ago when I had my own place and ate mostly veg salads and no longer forced to suffer and cook for anyone! Every night I say I'm not cooking anymore! I don't like how you treat me! He said fine, he'll eat his cereal, but I always wind up cooking anyway! He's so freaking picky, he refuses to eat salads or heroes or whatever is easy and less stressful for me. I told him 100s of times, cooking is very stressful for me but he just doesn't care .. so I really hope your desperate cooking arrangements work with your partner, but this guy is such a toxic narc in every scary way, I can't wait to get out of this hell! And the enemy will never know when I get out! Right now, I can't afford to leave but I won't stop trying. Good luck to you my friend. ✌️
Good luck with that. It WILL return. I played that delusional game for over30 years and didn’t even realize it. When I left, I didn’t even know why. I just knew that I didn’t want to experience it anymore.
He probably yelled at you because you were using Grey Rock Method and he needed to double down on his abuse to get narcissistic supply out of you. When you said 'Don't yell at me, I don't deserve that' he probably felt a hit of narcissistic supply and kissed you on the forehead as a sign of domination. The narcissist always needs narcissistic supply the same way a cocaine addict needs cocaine.
My father was a genius and a classic narcissist! He even moved to another country! He was a Christian and could quote the Bible…I was concerned for his soul(even though he rejected me-he actually hated me!). But before he died, he suffered terribly (multiple strokes from receiving a madierna vaccine.)Broken hip with repair, became bedbound with dementia. Finally, the suffering he endured brought him to the Lord(all He wanted was my dad’s heart!) my dad became a sweet, loving person before he died! He also kept asking for me-the one child he never loved!
Thank you Kris for your support. Some of us have no family or friends and no support. I just got into therapy, but she doesn't get it, but it's better than nothing. I know God is watching and is the Almighty judge of evil doers. God help me and my pet forced to live with this psychopath or be homeless. ALL the authorities let me down and doesn't care. Hugs Kris and Zoe. God bless you and thank you ❤🙏
My mother has been doing all this what you said Chris 😢I’m so deeply hurt & I m a single mum, I didn’t know that this is narcissistic, but I knew she controlled me extremely & always turning everything against me. You speak really exactly what I m facing.i so thankful i finally find you Chris.
My heart ❤️ is with you. I can relate, I deeply feel your pain. May you find some comfort knowing you are not alone. Kris Reece is amazing, she has helped Mr understand all the abuse, support and validation is so important. I also follow Dr Sherri Campbell, another great lady who specializes in narcissism, etc. God’s grace and peace be with you 🌷
“We are not called to battle satan we are called to rebuke and flee”. Thank you bc I believed I was called to battled since it was one after the other and so exhausted and angry with God for my own misbelief he was using me to expose them! It’s me and not God! I will now rebuke and flee! Boundaries are everything!
Amen. We are told to turn away! 2Ti 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. Pro 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Pro 22:25 Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
That is not the great commission! We are to do as Jesus did; He gave us all power and authority over unclean spirit's. This was NOT a request. It is a command. Read your bible's, pray, and take your God given authority!
@@donnamarie2282 Pro 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Pro 22:25 Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul. 2Ti 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2Ti 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 2Ti 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 2Ti 3:4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 2Ti 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: FROM SUCH TURN AWAY.
I was Yo-yo'd. He'd push me away, pull me back in. Get me to the point that I'm done. But then, he would not STOP texting and calling and saying everything he could to convince me of how much he loves me. If I break up with him, he will be sitting and waiting on my return. I'm really messing up. I'm going to ruin his surprise. He had so much going on that he had my head spinning. Emotional Abuse on a whole other level. Gaslighting me continuously. Even when I know what I read, saw, and heard. He destroyed me emotionally, and my life was ruined in a period of 8 months with him. I had struggled to pull my life back together for 8 years. It took him 8 months to ruin me financially, independently, emotionally, and to avoid ever wanting to date again in the future. Therefore, that leaves me alone for the remainder of my life. Satan in the Flesh is truly how I viewed him. I believe he is the very epitome of evil. How can another human be okay with destroying another emotionally and their life as they knew it? It's like my whole body was electrocuted over and over. I felt my nerves in my body were on fire. In my brain, it was like if you poured coke into a computer's electrical system. My whole body was damaged. I became so depressed, I could barely move. I just wanted to ly down and ly there until I died. I've never felt anything like it in all of my life. I never ever want to feel it again. Therefore, I don't date for fear of meeting someone like them.
Peace, love and blessings. Trust your instincts always, and pay attention to the 7 second rule (first contact). Through God's grace, we are never alone.
I think crying is very healthy. My brother died when I was 15 and I'm 68 years old; I've cried every day for 53 years, but I live in the moment and my life is full of joy. 🙏
Thank you! This all makes sense re: the covert narcissist. This year has been fruitful in setting boundaries. As a result the disdain is increasing. Praise God for healing and deliverance. ❤
I feel like true and genuinely Godly people are humble and kind, not prideful and arrogant- as scripture directly teaches against that. So, if a person is behaving narcissistically, which implies they are prideful, they are disobeying God and therefore cannot be considered “Godly”in my opinion.
The way you spoke my life. I'm sitting here with my mouth open, saying "YES" to everything you say. Didn't take long to press the like and subscribe buttons. You spoke the WORD. 💥💫❤💫💥
When you said” they’re very careful to never bring them together” 🤯 . My mother has done this with me and my siblings and me and my daughter!😮 Eyes opening!
I appreciate your podcast so much. I dealt with three soon-to-be ex-husbands, an adult son, and his wife. The son's wife was a tie-in toxicity to my ex. My son broke my heart by marrying a woman like his stepdad. Learning about these people and healing from codependency Makes sense as to why my son is a narc and married a covert narc. Number # 3 brought pain to my heart and flashbacks. It's shocking for all of the abuse I went through with them. I am doing well with Jesus' help. You can't heal and interact with these people without Jesus, and having a solid prayer life and meditating on scriptures Psalms 31 is one of my favorites My doctors are convinced that my cancer diagnosis is from these people. Please don't stay in these relationships. The devil will absolutely use them to destroy you!
You're correct. I pray total healing for you from the crown of your head to the souls of your feet, holistically, in the Healing Name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Thank you for sharing that. I prayed for you and then read Psalm 31. I really needed that. You blessed me today. May God bless you with healing, now & forever.
Mine would say, sweetheart, let’s not ruin this nice day by talking about anything that’s negative. So he labeled my feelings and opinions as negative. I didn’t realize that’s what he was doing, but I would stuff my feelings to the point that my stomach hurt and then I would ask him for his opinions and listen carefully while ignoring my own. It’s so disturbing how they control your mind.
The eyes don't always just go cold. Sometimes they morph into serpent eyes. This seems to happen when they get very mad. Yes I'm not psychotic, seen it a few times in my life over the years.
You are not mad, the demon shows itself, along with the face shift and creepy grin with a voice changing laugh, but the eyes...u can never unsee that, and then you know the veil between good and evil is thin and real.
"they've got the words but not the music" - in my experience they even will have read all the books on emotional health, spirituality, mental health, etc.! they will even be really good at accusing OTHERS of narcissism.
I loved it when you said "The Stars weren't lined up right on a Tuesday afternoon' That is exactly what it's like living with a narcissist....They make you feel like you better line up them stars in the right way on a Tuesday afternoon or it's your fault... I can laugh about this now because I've been away from A narcissist for over a year and I'm healing... Thank God he opened my eyes.. thank you and God BLESS you for the help you have given me and so many people 🙏🙏🙏
I spent 20 years with a covert narsasist. Honestly, right before I finally left, I was considering comiting myself to a mental hospital. I had forfeited so much of myself to him.
I committed myself this month and then I decided we should separate. He filed for divorce and kept my son away from me for 10 days after I was released and called the cops on me every night falsely claiming I was a harm to myself. I'm completely traumatized.
The boundaries crossed are hard to forgive for yourself and your partners/other relationships bc you feel shame for Not posting them in the first place bc you have such a big accepting Heart! Proverbs 3:5&6
The narcissists that scurry away quickly when they discover, (or even think), that you've now got their number are the worst! However, IT'S A BLESSING! My new saying is "Ok, cool. BYE-BYE! Don't let that door hit you on the way out!".
@glendabuchanan-s5t yes perfect example a doc on Netflix the wife said that same thing after the fact she told him and it ever ended in a tragedy my crazy ex maybe
I had a hard time with this for a long time because it seems to be really rude and I thought that that reflected on me and I should always be polite and I'm the best person I can be but we have to remember you cannot solve unusual situations with usual rules and manners. It's okay to appear rude.
My husband is a covert narcissist. Everyone thinks he's such a nice guy and how lucky I am to have him in my life. I want to scream out the truth but then I would really look like the weird one. No one can believe what he is like at home when no one is around but the two of us. My children know how abusive he is. I can see the rage outburst coming. His is explosive rage, pounding loudly on the furniture, yelling in a very loud voice so that the neighbors are afraid of him. I feel like someone who has been kept captive and has no way of escape.
@@valw7422 It's NOT that easy. He is a citizen of a foreign country other than the one that I live in. I feel responsible for him. Where would he go? How can I facilitate his leaving my home that is in MY name only. I'm not a person who can throw all his clothes and belongings out on the lawn and order him gone. I just can't. I've put this situation in God's hands and sincerely asked God, in faith, to 'handle' this situation. I'm a giver and a responsible person. He is a taker who is blind to his narcissism.
Not EVERYONE thinks he’s nice if the neighbors are afraid of him. And you and your children know he’s not. And HE knows he’s not. And God knows he’s not. Those that think he is, tell them he’s not!
I have been a victim of a narcissist husband for 33 years. It’s everything you talk about and more. It’s disturbing to know this information and so stuck with no way out.
My husband is making me feel like I am the narcissist. He threatened to burn the house if I dare to ask court for a right division and I run away and he played the victim saying “my wife abandoned me”. I have been suffering so much, even feeling dying on bed.
I'm in YOUR Situation.... It SEEMS HES GOT YOU RIGHT WERE HE WANTS YOU .... YOUR NOT A NARCISSIST IT HIM DEFLECTING .... YOU SEE THE ONLY THING THERE GOOD AT IS CONVINCING US THAT EVERYTHING IS OUR FAULT.... IM TIERD IM MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, & EMOTIONALLY DRAINED.... ITS HARD BECAUSE HE LIVES WITH ME I WOULD HAVE TO LEAVE HIM IN MY HOUSE TO GO STAY WITH FAMILY.... THEY WILL NEVER YAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYTHING WRONG THEY DO..... 🙏🏼🫶🏼🙋🏼DONT GIVE UP. .
@@sunnyadams5842 As long as you have no pets like I do who are like your children you would never abandon, you can leave,! There's ZERO help for women with a pet!!! Shame on domestic violence shelters! Pets are so much easier to take care than kids!
@@sunnyadams5842 NO SHELTER TAKES A PET. MY PET IS MY CHILD. NO WAY I WOULD EVER GIVE UP MY PET!! GOD MADE ME STRONG WITH A LIFETIME OF EVIL ABUSE. GOD SEES ALL AND PUNISHES EVIL DOERS LIKE NO OTHER. GOD GAVE ME PEACE AMONG THE STORM, PRAISE GOD. AND I WILL OVERCOME!
You just described my mother. I’m 54 and I just went “no contact” May 23. I was no always the perfect daughter but my apologies were always sincere. I’ve never had a problem admitting I’m wrong. I’ve truly tried to repair our relationship. I went “all in”. She used that time to step her abuse. I’m heartbroken because now I also don’t have a relationship with my Dad and brother. She is pure evil. I’ve always known it in my heart. My entire life I always dreaded spending time with her. For my entire life I believed that our relationship problems were all my fault. I’m grateful to finally be away from her and be on my healing journey, but I miss the rest of my family. Thank you for this.
Awesome Advice! Mind games are the worst, and the enemy knows just how to use them to get to you! Thank you, Kris, God Bless you my friend and sis in Christ!!
Yep, I called them pant aches and copycats. What they do to you. They say you do to them and they can’t think of their own good ideas so they copy yours. I can’t believe I’ve survived such attacks for so long.
This is like listening to my three year situationship. Word for word, its like a script . I wondered how he brainwashed me. You exlained it perfectly. im not crazy now but thought back then i was going to end up in a nut home. he came back and i could feel the control straight away. its all over and im healed now🙏
Worse than an infestation of locusts. How did we not see this coming. God help us, this is human to human. Holy father, help us to overcome these problems. You are doing so much to bring us to our attention, thank you Kris for simplifying it with us.
Hi Kris, thank you very much for your ministry, i have been thru alot with some people, the gaslighting, blaming, lying etc... everything u talked abt caused me so much emotional, mental, trauma, and caused me physical healrh issues, yes, i need to cut the emotional cords, please pray for me, the bullying is to much, to much stress🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am an overcoming covert narc by the grace of God. You are correct about stonewalling: In public, I pretended to act very shy and timid. I did not practice looking people in their eyes in public because I did not want one to discern my total hatred for humans. I also did not practice being loud in public because I was too busy observing others behaviors so I could aim precisely to tear you down if you got in my way. Or, if I needed to use you to get supply. Now, if you insisted in bothering me; I would push my shyness aside and stare at you. Usually, this is all it took because I would allow certain demons to come forward seeing I was tapped to be the Bride of Satan. People froze in shock and backed away. Then I would go back to my normal shyness and they were left totally confused. Nobody would believe them anyways because I pretended so well to be nice. When younger in school a schoolmate caught me off guard. She asked me a question. I was so vexed I allowed the demons to surface up. The girl instantly froze up then took off running. It was then I realized that I could not allow myself to get that mad in public because people would discern I was demon possessed and would no longer be deceived that I was nice. However, behind closed doors to my close relatives and narc exes[twice married and divorced] who disturbed me. I was a nightmare. Later, I did believe the Gospel of Jesus Christ and repented. God delivered me from like a legion of demons. I feel light as a feather. It's been a journey. But, by the grace of God. I will endure to the end. Thank God Jesus Christ came for the sick and not the whole because I was spiritually dead and cut off from God. I love Jesus Christ for saving me from my sins and generational curses. Jesus Christ is Lord.
Thank you so much. You are helping so many confused people. I've dealt with this person o ver 40 years Married him 3 times and now divorced. And he's still trying to play the same games. Trying to get back in.
KRIS REESE YOU ARE SUCH A BLESSING TO ME! YOUR CHRISTIAN & TO THE POINT & DIRECT & STRAIGHT UP! I LOVE YOU FOR THIS! GOD BLESS YOU! I WAS WITH A COVERT NARCISSIST, HE WAS ALWAYS QUITE, SOFT SPOKEN & THEN VIOLENT OUT OF NOWHERE but STRANGELY CALM WHILE PHYSICALLY ABUSING ME AS I A TERMINALLILL & SHOWED NO EMOTION TOTALLY WOULD TRY TO INVALID ME BUT SAYING IM TOO FAT & I'D TELL HIM I DONT CARE WHAT YOU THINK, I DIDN'T ASK YOU WHAT YOU THOUGHT OF ME, TAKE A LOOK AT HIMSELF! HE'D TRY TO TAKE AWAY MY SELF ESTEEM & I WAS VERY AWARE OF IT & SHUT HIM DOWN FAST AS HE OPEN THAT POISION OUT OF HIS MOUTH. AND ITS TAKE MY MONEY TO KEEP ME. I PACKED UP & LEFT & LIVED IN MY CAR TERMINALLY ILL. AND IM STILL ALIVE & FIGHTING TO LIVE PRAISE GOD! AND YES IVE SEEN THE COLD EYE STARES & SLIENT RAGE & IT WAS FRIGTHING BECAUSE I DIDNT KNOW WHAT HIS EYES WERE HIDING. NOW I KNOW BETTER.
🙏🏻 GOD BLESS YOU! No one deserves to be Degraded like what he Did… And you being so Sick! I can not imagine what you have gone through! 🙏🏻Love & Healing! 🌸☀️🕊🍃
Thank you miss Reese for your vulnerable sharing moments. I've seen in small groups how an honest sharing from the heart made and me and others feel human. Fallible yet still redeemed. We all have our Achille's heel we'll always struggle with imo. Bless you sweetie...
The more I find out about covert narcissism, the more ex pastor/lover fits the mold! The woman he triangulated me with knew everything there at the end, but he got to her, just like he got to everyone who said that they would hold him accountable. I used to cry because I never thought that I would be worthy to be a pastor’s wife. Now I rejoice because I got out of the church of Babylon! And yes, he preached against all the things he was guilty of! So grateful to God for setting me free!
Kris, thank you! I have been watching your videos for a while now, about a year, and the Lord has done a mighty work in me and you have been a godly resource for my overcoming of people pleasing and having fear of toxic people. I feel like a new me. Thank you for the beautiful and heartfelt prayer, I praise God almighty and I thank you again and again may the Lord multiply his favor over you!
Kris Reece is the God's chosen Apostles of this changed world. May the Holy spirit continue to empower you and bless you, may the glittering light of Heaven surround you well forever, Hallelujah Amen. Prayers.
Just wanted say thank you Kris so much for your Godly teaching and the support Thank you so much for guiding me for the prayers Amen The teaching and the prayers are the healing power from God gave me strength wisdom knowing Jesus loves me and always with me God is in control Amen! God bless you and your family and your team❤️❤️❤️🙏😇
Hi i am a christian i just started to watch your videos and they are very painful for me but i am thankful that God brought me to you. For years been struggling and living in mental torment because i didn’t know but with you i understood that my son is one. He suddenly out of the blue arranged a big argument between us at 18 and left home wanted to be independent i knew he was immature and me as a single mother with a failed marriage and scared by a also narcissist mother was hard and difficult our life many times we lived like you if i understand a little by what you said so i always thought i had to make up for it for him and i guess i failed to give him the godly discipline as i was a new babe christian sorry, going back to the point so i arranged for him to go to a room in a older couple’s home in the church and we could see each other at church on sundays have a meal if he wanted and still independent he agreed moved in to their room started to work part time and still studying as i suggested for him not to drop out to continue with his studies but after awhile he started to treat me even worse always arguing shaming me started to see him deviating from biblical sound truth and until one day he got angry in the church stopped coming just disappeared and i don’t know anything from him for 2 years almost and he’s my only son and this is making so depressed always crying going in my mind what i did wrong where in our hardships life but i always tried to love him please him with little i had but since 14 he never listened to any advice any talk always closing himself now i know what is stonewalling i didn’t know then so i was in torment always trying to figure out why he was rejected me now i totally feel rejected lonely because even though we argued as mother and child we still did things together until the age of 17/18 he totally changed while still professing being a christian believing in Jesus i saw him being overdrawn more disrespectful and closing no love affections more and more until the total distance happened when he left home then church and now i don’t know if he is alive or dead for no reason i knew later that he was going behind my back at that time in church “ counselling “ without me involved or even knowing saying i was the one controlling mother and i know some people think i am the one narcissist mother and with no explanation he just left then on Christmas 2022 he told he had no feelings in his heart he had a problem he didn’t feel feelings couldn’t feel anything at that time i sat with him and tried while shocked sense of all and what that meant as a christian he didn’t feel the love of Jesus but still believed in Jesus God recognised me as his mother but nothing else and since then he is doing the no contact at all all these months i felt so bad broken rejected as a mother and living in torment in my mind with the whys ifs was our poor life being without a dad, me not giving enough attention going crazy in my mind and my heart so hurting and missing him so much worried sick about him for months and months. i can’t go on like this anymore. i don’t know what to do handle this just know it hurts so much so can you please talk about narcissistic children or young adults what to do? how to behave please. Thank for reading and listening to me. Ana
This is an amazing video. Thank you for creating it. I have experienced all of these dark tactics. I have been with my husband for 33 years ( 17 years married) and I feel so stuck and trapped. I came from a narcissistic abusive family ( scapegoat) and lo and behold I found someone who is just like my dad narcissistic and abusive. The problem is- I have a teenage autistic son who loves his dad and the thought of leaving ( I really need to for my dignity) makes me feel so overwhelmed and guilty. I don’t know what to do. I have been leaning on God and praying
me too, scapegoat of narc fam, married same. Just learned I am high functioning autistic. My ex does have legion in him. We fight not flesh, but spiritual wickedness. I dont want to scare you, but encourage you to get into your prayer closet, ask Father for His will. I did not know I was autistic, and imagine that fight in court. And family court really was filled with nasty people. So my ex bribed the judge and I lost my children to him, even though I had primary custody. I wont say more because it has been a nightmare. But it DID teach me to seek The Lord...and realize that The Bibel DOES SAY to look at the fruit, like Kris is teaching us. Please seek The Lord before you decide. Learn how viscious a malignant narc (filled with legion, I saw his black eyes) can be if you even tell them you might leave. Domestic violence can help, gather as much support around yourself before even hinting you might leave. Currently, my adult children hate me, though they claim to know Jesus - they refuse to reconcile or talk about things. Their dad did brain wash them to hate me, and a narcissist uses witchcraft manipulation to cause even your friends to take their side and defend them. Please research and learn...it will help you anticipate the narc's move. The better prepared you are...especially being able to hear Jesus our Shepherd's Voice...and Abiding in Word og God... it will make things smoother for your son. I promise to pray for you that Father God's perfect will is done in your life and your son's life. Keep learning...so you will stand strong :)
Hi Sarah, thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry that you are going through so much and you lost your children to your narc husband. I can’t image what that feels like and on top of that, your diagnosis of autism. That is so stressful :(. As you know married to a narc is absolutely draining and mind boggling. I have been reading a lot about narcissism in biblical and physiological perspectives- interesting and scary. Now I keep quiet mostly and watch my words and try not to get angry and share in his sin. I have a stepson too who is in his thirties and he’s a narc too - treating me badly right now ignoring me and treating his brother like he doesn’t care- praying leaning on God and asking him for direction. God has helped me so much especially in the last three years. I’ll pray for you and I wish God’s strength upon you 🤍
I call mine out cause I've always known when they are lying, this makes them uncomfortable. They have had to learn how to change not to what I want them to be, but what God want what's best for them. It has taken 34 years, when they changed it was amazing!
Thank you so much Kriss for your insight! Your videos help me greatly in dealing with my elderly narcissist mother. One of the hardest things in my life has been coming to the realization that my Christian mother is a narcissist...and now the Lord is helping me to learn and understand how to deal with her. Your videos have been a great blessing! Blessings and Shalom to you. ❤🙏❤️🙏
Nailed the stonewalling from my family.. Nailed my inlaws. My mother inlaw 87 still pits her kids against each other.. She's evil but only I see it.. Everyone says she's so nice.. She lies all the time. Manipulates everyone.. Cripe 30 years ago I said I wanted to start my own holiday traditions she said she didn't care and that WE WILL be at her house. She said she didn't care if we had fun either just be there. And she had get togethers for EVERY holiday. I swear flag day was time for a get together.. 34 years later I finally said NO..
Thank you, Kris! I am so tired after 24 years of dealing with these behaviors. I have to pray every day for God to give me a sound mind and to help me think clearly.
I definitely relate to the part of having a conversation with a covert narcissist and all of a sudden I start getting stonewalled and it's by my husband and there's a ton of trauma bonding going on love bombing and all that other crap please precious friends be praying for me
I know how, Kris you were sent, amazing. God's mercies. His will for you, has set me free! I watched the spiritual decline. His will be done. I'm blessed by your calling. Lord send me!❤
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Thank you! Blessings!
Could you please do a video on Narcissist Gangstalking
Thank you so much 🙏
God bless you always 🙏
@@Kris_Reece ???Could you do a video about love bombing; the red flags, and the overlap/difference with infatuation??? Curing is good, prevention is better! God made you a help for people to heal, and to recognise. May He bless you with even more of His wisdom. E. from Holland.
Thank you for this! ❤️
Almost every person who has walked through my life has had aspects of what you are teaching here! Mind blowing! 😫
I am a very strong Christian, because I am an NDE Hell survivor and they have tried to defeat me, as I just try to Help and Love them!!!
I still pray for my enemies, who I did not make my enemy, they did it themselves, by refusing to Love with King Jesus’ Love and walk in His Ways. I wasn’t the only one commanded to Love by God…….
People better stop abusing others, cuz they ARE going to reap what they have sown, either on the Earth or Under our feet, in Hell, by the demons they listened too! 😱☠️😱
God Says, They honor me with they’re Lips, but they’re hearts are Far from Me! So many carnal Christian’s at the end of this age!
We’re almost Home! ⬆️ 🎺🤴😇
Thank you for the guide! God Bless your work in His Kingdom Mam! 🙏🥰🙏
They never take responsibility or accountability for their actions. Never apologize.
No that's true I would ask him to pray for forgiveness he wouldn't admit he was wrong everything is my fault I feel like he used religion I'm not sure its still confusing its still new I'm learning a great deal😢
They never do as they don't think they have done anything wrong because it is all the other persons fault.
That's where the crazy making starts.@@JarofClay-g6t
Isn't that the truth! You telling the truth on this one
Never said a single sorry , never, none, zeroooo!!
I am mentally sound. I am not crazy. My boundaries are in place. I left three years ago. Praise God
May peace be with you by the grace of God.
Good for you!! You walk in freedom??
I can hardly listen - it brings back such painful memories. 21 years w him. Multiple affairs.
The dark eyes.
The silent treatment.
The blame.
The manipulation of my mind.
The silent rage.
The guessing of what I’ve done wrong.
Lord, please don’t ever let me be back in this.
Let’s pray for all who remain victims, those who are suffering and unable to leave for some reason. I am 76yo and am finally free(one month divorced). It took me almost a decade , but I finally made it. Yes, there is still much to deal with and much healing to achieve. I will continue to pray for all my brothers and sisters for spiritual intervention. Remember that GOD has witnessed our persecution. Let’s all come through the trials, learn from them and be forever thankful to GOD for being there with us even though it may not have felt like it at the time. Forever Grateful ❤
Dark eyes
Blame
Rage
Silent treatment
Yes, not knowing what I did
Belittling me
Playing the victim from the last 4 marriages he had
Twisting the Bible at my expense
Praying for those who are still enduring these toxic attacks. God actually pushed me out after things became physically violent. Trust in what the Holy Spirit is telling you. He, the Holy Spirit told me to leave 7 years ago. I thought I could endure too with giving love and understanding. Things only became worse.
yes the stoney cold stare
I was honestly believing it was me. I wasn't good enough. I couldn't do enough. I'm not a victim though. I am who God says I am.
It's normal to wonder what you did when someone else is abusive to you. The trick is to understand it's nothing you did to cause that abuser to abuse people. That person is abuser and it has nothing to do with you. You were just there to receive the abuse and that's most likely not your fault.
@@RitaMarie_CYFN1 Amen!!!!!
Before I did my research about covert narcissism, & BPD I was already telling her she was giving me bread crumbs, & things I did were never good enough, I became hypersensitive, I would lash out at insults and her ridicule. She criticized every aspect of my hobbies,my character, and spiritual well being and disliked kissing. Never have I been is a relationship that made me question so many things. After we broke up, I'm stuck in the rumination cycle of heartache because she moved onto someone new. She is a beautiful woman, and meeting guys isn't an issue. Meanwhile, im left to be alone with questions & suffering. It sucks.
@@clintonnagy1662 thank God she’s gone.Heal with pray. Forgive yourself.
Amen
My Mother 😢. She’s 85 and still healthy and strong in her demonic narcissistic ways , I always pray for her salvation. She has destroyed my family if I only knew then what I Know now. Praying for all here in the comments 🙏
Extremely sad! I was recently enmeshed with an 84 y/o woman who did the same with her family and me. It was an unbelievable nightmare! The control, entrapment, deceit, lies and slander was the likes I could never imagine. The older they get, the more skilled, more entitled and out of control they become without any remorse! I’m sorry and praying for you and yours!
🙏🏻Yes! Prayers for all that are suffering! 🌸☀️🕊🍃
You , too. My mom will be 80 this year…it’s oh so sad to watch, especially when they’ve gotten to this age in life.🖤
My 86 yo MoMster recently caused my puncture ear drum after using her rest room. I was about 5 ft away from her with a wall between us, I was walking down the hall. NEARLY fell to the ground.
Mum is very Christian in the Sadistically CATHOLIC way. Best friend is a Nun & she's tight with the now cold "FROST" LIKE MONSENIOR. GOT many FAMILY members that are Leo's, highway patrol, local city & county sheriff as well, one Superior Court Judge in the footsteps of her "NON"-NARCISSTIC FATHER.
my mother 84 ...its so clear now ..more than when she was younger or so it seems ..but when younger I also was irritated by her ..I hate Her Guts and false performance
Yes, they shift when they know that you know what they are.
@@ChristyWooten-fn6pgl certainly do thanks to sarcastic like this made me wake up he can't stand it
I meant parcast like this
Yes that is true.
It's what reptilian camilion's do. 🙂
Yep!
1. Invalidation
2. Emotional blackmail
3. Stone-walling
4. Love-bombing
5. Triangulation
6. Pity plays
7. Blaming
8. Projection
9.Gaslighting
Thank you Kris for another outstanding video. Very enlightening. Bless you.
This has been my life with my parents.
10. Future faking
11. RAGE
12.Silent treatment
Thank you Ingrid!❤
@@ingridn222 You forgot intimidation and belittling and everything else evil!
1 Timothy 2: 12-13
Im overwhelmed with what I'm hearing. I spent 38 years trying to find the answers and here it all is in 1 video.
I'm 61 and jus now figuring out what my 40 yr old Daughter is??!!
I'm with you! It's amazing to see it for what it truly is!
64 years old, been in Therapy for 8 years. I saw therapist off and own all my life.
@RitaMarie_CYFN1 I can totally identify too. This has been the story of my life since 1981. It's mind boggling that we've received such clarity with one video. I'm so grateful to have found this today. Wishing you well Rita. We have one job now which is to venture forth ti live our best lives. Whew! A light bulb moment.
Hang in there ! ❤❤
The Dark gets irritated by the LIGHT
Amen!!
@@Shel-y5w they hate the light because we expose their darkness.
Submission can't happen. They can fake it. They portray themselves as like a god, even if only to themselves. Unless they become changed, willingly, by God and hard work, they will continue believing there is no God.
The Light shines in the darkness, & the darkness overcomes it Not !!!
Thank you for this insightful discussion. May God bless you in delivering this important information to empower His children.
Ive been married to a covert narcissist for 31 years. I have finally realized what he is, Thanks Be To God. Every word you've spoken describes my life with him.
I’m 27 years in and this video describes him perfectly. It’s so sad I didn’t see it sooner.
All I can say is God led me here!
Thank you Jesus!!! ❤
He's too stupid to know what validation means! He breaks my things when I'm not around. He's a monster demon! I have no friends or to family and can't afford to leave.
Me too!!!
I am happy this has worked for you both. ❤
Me as well!❤
LOVE💖💖💖
Protect my children and me from narcissistic family members & potential narcissistic people trying to come into our lives. In Jesus name.
Read 2 Corinthians 12:9
Amen
It's so Amazing that we served the leftist democrats attacks on america and it's people think god for Turmp
They have NO empathy
For people or animals
They are very cold ppl
@@tsholofelohuma7496
Yes. And the clever ones know how to fein empathy. And the empath is wrapped around their little finger. Such is the wickedness of narcissism how it winds its way into the lives of the unaware.
Thx Jesus for people like Kris giving us the heads up on these creeps.
What does Jesus command?
Pray for them that despitefully use you.
How do we pray?
Lord Jesus, forgive me of my sins. Bless the narcissists so they can be convicted of sin, do a miracle in their lives. And give me wisdom, discernment, and understanding of what’s going on in the spiritual realm. Teach me how to keep my distance.
@@evilstorm5954both , but definitely humans are first target
The one thing you didn't mention, they simply have no sense of reality especially with finances
Yes they are financially destitute when you met them and then they try to train you in the process with sob stories of fraud on their account all the time it's hilarious to me the lies they make up
@@sherriwilson1290 Yes. Then they project all of their dysfunction onto you, telling you how irresponsible you are.
Ditto, however not a tell-tale trait or lack of capability. IMHO, I think the lack of empathy when revealed as a pattern, tops the list. 🙂
@rubberbiscuit99 yes exactly my husband blames me for his money issues all the time we have separate accounts I pay my bills and he's always behind paying his and some how it's my fault
@@rainescentralfloridamicomi8115 run!
My daughter in law is a covert narcissist. Total nightmare, who now does not allow me to see my two perfect grandbabies. Prayers please. Thank you Jesus for the validation.
Your in my prayers 🙏🏼
I'm in the same situation--with 2 of my 3 sons. Both married covert narcissists--my oldest son's been married 28 years--and I've been KEPT from all 7 of their children--ranging in ages from 5 to 27!! All of their kids (mostly the oldest 4 so far) are her 'flying monkeys'--and the oldest (27) is their 'roving reporter'--always reporting every word I say to him right back to Mama, who STILL has COMPLETE CONTROL of him!--EVEN HIS BANK ACCOUNT! My life has been a nightmare because of my efforts to remain in my grandchildrens' lives--which now, I realize I can no longer do. I have had to BLOCK ALL OF THEM from my phone--because of all the hateful, nasty TEXT messages they were sending me. They will never know WHO I REALLY AM--because of the HOLD their evil mother has on their lives.
My other son, also married a covert narcissist--and she has also succeeded in completely ISOLATING Me from my 2nd oldest son--and we've not spoken in 8 years. I have 4 step-grands that were hers via a previous abusive marriage, so she has isolated me from all 4 of her kids...not as big of a hurt, because I'd only just begun to know them when she isolated me. The isolation from my 2nd son devastates me. I will never understand how my sons--who I loved and nurtured as a dedicated Christian Mom--and who I prayed over from infancy, HOW CAN MY BOYS TURN THEIR BACKS ON THEIR OWN MOTHER--all because of these hateful, evil women?! Yet, that is what they have BOTH done. I am now 68 years old with huge health issues and NEED them, but they are NOT there for me. Believe me, I UNDERSTAND your plight. 30 years I've been living in this toxic situation. it HAS had its toll on my health. And I have to continually lay it squarly at Jesus' feet. I am ALONE in this world. I would love to have some supportive friends in Christ who are coping with the same problems....
🙏🙏🙏 for you hun, I also have one who does the same..sad really because they miss out on loving grandparents 😭
Prayers said
I am so sorry for your pain. My daughter is a narcissist also abd I have not seen my first geandchild. But tgen....I choose to stay away ftom my daughter at this point due to having my fill of disrespect in word and action. I don't need the stress of her in my life. I will pray in your behalf ; trusting that God will work in your behalf according to His Will. So sad that these mean, evil hearted people exist.
He will not discuss anything. He stops me by saying, “I am not going to argue with you.”
@@CarolKenelFilley yes mine too, the stonewalling is so frustrating!
I'm tryin to stay in w feet dug down hard for my family but most of All God.
If you stay
Just remind him calmly that a discussion isn't an argument!
No is a complete sentence!
Stop Talking and Listen and Watch for differences of behavior and take Mental notes.
Proverbs 3:5&6 💕 🙏
It's so frustrating. They do not want solutions. They only want control.
Thats wat they say to avoid accountability
All you are saying is so true! Wish I heard this earlier in life. May God send more listeners to this.
Wish I knew before too
I first met my ex when I was 17. We married 7 years later and I stayed for 36 years. I experienced it all. It got so much worse as he got older and he knew I knew. It ended with physical violence. I've been healing for 5 months now and really appreciate your videos.
Love and blessings. May you find peace by the grace of God.
Jealousy, Insecurity and Competition!!!
Devaluation,she always would stare and glare at me with this cold blank look it was at times unnerving and sometimes alot not speaking too silent treatment never wanted too compromise her way or the highway at all times
Struck me many times one time during a dispute she yelled out that I was hitting her when I was not
One time she threatened too call me state police on me simply cuz she was not getting her way with me she never gave me any love or attention but she wanted it though and what your saying she would suck me in
Mine triangulated me with her gf who ppl pleased her all the time
EVERYthing is a competition.
Even a conversation.
It’s exhausting. 😥
"I am not crazy." I can't thank you enough, Kris! God bless you.
Walk away, and dwell in the blessings in store.❤
Thanks, Kris. 👍
My marriage to my narcissistic husband has ended. He once appeared to be a great Christian man, and in my codependency, we seemed like the perfect match. But as I began to heal with God and embrace my calling in ministry, his true, darker side started to emerge. Over the past 10 years, I endured emotional and financial abuse, and even physical violence-he even split many times on my face. As God lifted me up and strengthened me, the demonic nature behind his behavior became undeniable. Now, I’m stepping into freedom, trusting God for healing and a new beginning and the next chapter.❤ Now I have a peace and even my friends and adult kids want to come to me because all of them says that they see that that man wasn’t good attentions to you! It takes time even my body start to relax and I have so much fun by my self! Wau! I keep him as a fault God! I repent and trust God! This was not Love it was abuse 😭
I wish you the best ❤
He is called a religious psychopath narcissist.
You spoke most of my own truth.
17 yrs for me & trying to exit with God's help..
FOG... So after you comply with the blackmail - my husband no longer is decent or *nice - he says nothing or speaks *what it's your job" then the silence .. why even after the more than two years now did I have been listening to you and Dr Les Carter and gained that much understanding- growth in myself; I no longer feel badly about anything that has to do with me directly as he criticizes. Of course it stings, but if I clean I know it's a good job, I know I'm fearfully and wonderfully made and I believe that I'm a daughter of the king and I am attractive I am kind, I'm good on the inside and out not an angel but nothing worse than someone attempting to be a good wife and a good person. This has been 17 years and I confronted finally in 2021 we went to two counseling sessions where he poured his heart out and we both cried - since it was truth I thought it was a start..
He went to two sessions then said I don't need this you do you're crazy. which I completely don't accept.
I'm seeking exit God is provided me with a job recently that is that is going to make that possible.
I have a boundary of high behavior in the household now and don't take his mother's or his comments on the home my cooking or myself personal anymore.. I don't spout off *I'm leaving! ..
But I am looking for a place I can afford.
More like constant conversation with the Holy Spirit and my Father thank you Jesus continually for every little change in me and provision that I couldn't have done on my own.
I'm mourn as if my husband is dying, or rather that the marriage has died.
But I have the acceptance that I cannot affect us in any way because I have done the thousands of things you could think of I'm going through all the stages of much of what you describe
The Holy Spirit brought to me in the back of my mind
"you can love him and still leave this is not what marriage is, & what any Father would want for His daughter -let alone the Holy Father of all of us. I have forgiven him I do so quickly as soon as the offenses made which is daily, I want no harm to come to him as in revenge but I do want him held accountable in some way.
With all that I have learned over the last 3 years going on 4, with the girls in myself and then continued and worsening behavior of my husband;
Why do I still want to know "why" ..
Now why is he this way, because that's all so been brought to my understanding from his childhood and further knowing someone over 17 years, but why would he want to stay this way? Disregarding all our years and yes some of the good days as you call it in between the very very many crappy ones, the time with our children and all the love and serving he has received which now I can reduce down to what I think he views as me no different than anyone else giving him what he wanted - I have a nice house I have a good car I have a smart dog I have a favorite pair of shoes - I have a wife..
Like all of those things are just things to him. I've confronted him and clear calm language spoken in truth in love called it that specifically, grown to actually no that's not ok that you speak to me that way, no it's not okay to see whoever you want and spend time and money on them on your phone and in person, no it's not okay for you to stop treating me as a wife and more like a roommate still expecting what a wife does in the bedroom - while while he still does what he pleases against our marriage and me and his wife, on his way home and on days off..
Why do I still want to know why - he would remain this way? Hey stop the physical abuse 5 years ago going on 6 and if you could change that being clean and sober- it's like my mind can't comprehend why the disrespect an outright cruelty has escalated like he used to speak when he was under the influence and ready to pummel me.
That has completely ceased, but was never acknowledged bringing up anything from years or even yesterday is always "the past"
I want away from this really indescribable behavior to be clean and sober and still be who you used to be when you were out of your mind or so I thought - but I have & do separate the behavior from the man .
almost desperately on some days I want to run. BUT I truly could move forward with him with acknowledgment and true changed behavior without any grudges.
But I do accept that's not going to happen 😞
Yes I'm an over compensator developed over yrs of what is my nature & made excessive through this marriage.
I hope you may eventually read this Kris & could make sense of the many typos in my last very long text ✨☝🏼✨
I have had 37 years of what you're describing and it has affected me physically, psychologically, and emotionally
May God bring healing in your life. God loves you so much. 🙏🏻
Yes, I’ve experienced the narcissist’s insanity.
I could never explain what they do or for others to understand. You nail it so directly!!! And I'm so tired of being called crazy and irrational by even my own family because I couldn't explain it. Thankfully, they're out of my life!
God knows who you are and that's all that matters
My ex is a covert narcissist. I am so glad I am not with him anymore. He hurt me so much and the Lord removed him from me. He managed to turn my children against me also, and now I do not see my grandchildren either. I have been isolated. I am praying the Lord will undertake for me and bring healing and restoration.
I can really relate. My covert husband left me after 31 years without warning or consideration. He did this while my mother was living her last days (last month) He also turned our children against me slowly over time. I will pray for you... You are not alone. There are others like me who understand and will be here for your support if needed. God bless you with peace, healing and comfort.
Sounds just like my ex! I took my kids numbers off his phone. Hid his prized possessions in storage, prayed he wouldn’t beat me up. I waited until he started putting me down and cursing Jesus (he was supposed to be a christian), and I told him to leave or I wouldn’t give him his lock box/stuff back! He left, I immediately changed the locks! I later placed all of his stuff at a neighbor he liked so he could pick it up. Oh-he also started seeing a woman clerk who I work with…. Just to irritate me. She’s probably moving in with him-more gullible!
@@user-tl7mm78 He always tried to make my kids fight, he is my second married, and i already have 2 growing kids 21 and 16, 2 of my son under depressed since we married. Lucky God love us so much, i was under intimidation, until i ddidnt know my self, but God took him out from our life because all his job not working in my country so he left without nothing, he never provide anything even 1 penny, But when he left me, what i did is came to Jesus asked Jesus to help me to forgive him, i learned to not blame him but what God want do in my life through this narsistic husband. So after 1 month i prayed i can move on and God started blessing us with miracle way, God provided everyrhinb me and my kids need until now. We still married no divorced but we never talk anymore. He in his country and me in my country. I know where i am standing who am. I so he wil never intimidation me anymore so why he got angry he tried to blame me but i never angry like before , i reply witj nice words and he very upset.
Father counts your tears! You will be justified in The Courts of Heaven! They have truly blasphemed "The Holy Spirit!
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I'm so sorry, I read this and thought OMG ... This lady is me. I'm in the same situation and it's killing me. I'll pray for you my sisters in Christ 🙏
I learned from listening to professionals who discuss narcissism that I’m a very empathetic person and I attract toxic people. This brought me serious pain and lower self esteem. Through God’s love and kindness I have healed. Freedom from toxic people is a life changer and soooo good.
This is probably the most accurate helpful resource on covert narcissism (my soon to be former husband) I have ever heard! I am so grateful I came across this today.
My husband of 31 years left me without warning or consideration after taking care of him (he has MS) and my terminally I'll mother at the most vulnerable time in my life. I had just buried my best friend since I was 4 years old the same month when he left me and my mother passed away. I have so much heartache and loss to process all at once. Any observant person would see that he did this at a time I needed him most. With God I know I can get through this even though I don't see how sometimes.
We are not alone. I understand your story because I'm living it too. So not only are we not alone because we share this in common sadly. We also have the holy Spirit to fill us with God's grace and strength to do this one day at a time. And that's all we can do. Stay strong my sisters in Christ.
If he tries to come back, don’t fall for it. He’s probably just progressing in his MS and wants to use you as a nurse in his decline. Don’t do it! It’s worse when they come back. Don’t fall for it. The love bombing will stop and he will return to his old ways but even worse bc he will see you as stupid and deserving of being treated with contempt. Stay away from him.
Maybe he did you a favor; his rejection is your protection?
God bless your heart. You will start healing with time. You can do it!
@@monalisa2662 That's the CLASSIC disgust of NPD. Kicked when down
Do not expect less. Dangerous and the levels of deceit and vengeance are endless. Stay strong and off the grid. Blessings 💜🙏✝️
Wow this is exactly what my son and I dealt with. Your explanation makes sense. She came in like an Angel, I fell for it. She ruined my son’s life going on 20 years. Took him to court and tried to take away his daughter at 3 years, she is now 15. We don’t get to see her but once a year. She took him to court, told lies on him basically took everything from him Thank you!
I’m sorry for your losses. I’m just learning about this narcissism in my own family. My son has married a narcissist and I’m in the line of fire. I have 2 grown grandchildren and now one great grandson. They live on another coast. I’ll never know them. My son still believes the lies after 31 years. I pray for all of them . I’m a Christian but they don’t know Him and wouldn’t allow me to share Him with the grandchildren when they were young. Now we’re estranged. I love them, but refuse to be played any longer.
Thank you Kris! This is a extremely hard subject! Jesus said we are to love no one more than we love Him- these demonic entities will drain everything from us "that we are willing to give!" We got this! LET THE Holy Spirit alone guide you!💪👊👊 Those demonic entities hate you & want you dead! Their thoughts are "the dead don't speak!" But the saints are crying out to Father!
My whole life both my parents have been the worst of the worst narcissist. I had no idea there were videos on this and describing them to a T. And they wonder why my life has gone the way it has. And make me feel aweful for having mental health issues. I’ve slowly been dying inside every single day of my life.
Redeem YOUR TIME F them, they aren't worth it!
❤❤❤❤ mine smell I’m so sorry it’s something we have to just give to God and say please we’re fighting and get angry about and ask him for guidance and make sure that we tell him we believe in trust in him to show us who people really are here on out to protect our spirit. Good luck to you God bless.
Man I'm so sorry! I understand you I have to had the same experience as you!
@@BrandyCaro my youngest child is a narcissist
I told my ex narcissist husband back in September that he was a narcissist and as soon as I got a job he quickly devalued me and divorced me. I prayed before I told him too. I couldn’t take it anymore. I guess with God’s grace he answered my prayers . If someone does call them out it only works if it is God’s will. I’m free and feeling better than I have for 26 years
Good for YOU!!
But beware of his revenge. They may hold grudges for life and do whatever they can at different points in time whenever they get reminded of you. Perhaps your case is different. To me, the biggest God’s mercy on me is when all my narcs will forget about me or get involved on other business. I never felt desire to call them out for worse for better…
Pride comes before a fall.
Do they care when you give them the silent treatment? NO!
I think it may depend on if the one who has gone silent or no contact was primo supply for them, or not
@@debbie7326no contact when we decide to leave, Yes that bothers them! But during the marriage or relationship, when we’re expressing our needs or hurts by them, they will give the silent treatment to shut down the conversation and if we return the silent treatment… they do NOT care.
No. Because they know they have control over you when you go silent.
@Bre1002. She went no contact both break ups when we had an argument about her bad behavior. So, that makes me the narcissist, right? Especially if her silence hurts me alot because I called her out on her stuff??
I have heard... Silent treatment and no contact make them go crazy. But idk. You guys made some good points.😮
The craziness of continually seeking validation from the one who invalidates - such a trap...even afterwards, thinking i needed him to admit Truth before i could find my own sanity... thanking God for freeing me from this delusion, & bringing me around to finally being able to see the narc as a person whose opinion means nothing to me 🙌
I have had the invalidation done to me for 26 years. I’m glad I’m free! By prayers and the grace of God I feel great!
The grey rock method works with my husband. I told him to buy his own food, cook his own meals, I was so tried of him complaining about what I cooked for supper. I have set boundaries and a have been very verbal about my boundaries. One day he yelled at me something so stupid, I immediately said, “don’t yell at me, I don’t deserve that.” When he had time to think about it he came to me, kissed me on the head and actually said Im sorry, you didn’t deserve me yelling at you. I was shocked!!!! He has been cooking his own food, and been so much better ever since then. I’m praying he continues this, we have been married for 17 years.
God bless you! Sounds like my father in a way!
He's not evil, but he does have a demonic stronghold that rears its ugly face every now and then!
He will create arguments to gaslight my mother and I. I have been helping my mother cope with it.
The thing is to heighten one's EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.
It's CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT HASN'T BEEN DEALT WITH!!!
@@barbarapennington6998 - WOW! Sounds like my situation! Living with a nut job bf? who demands hit cooked supper every night and lunch! I'm 70 and forced to cook over 50 years for 2 bad things marriages! I retired from cooking which I hate yrs ago when I had my own place and ate mostly veg salads and no longer forced to suffer and cook for anyone! Every night I say I'm not cooking anymore! I don't like how you treat me! He said fine, he'll eat his cereal, but I always wind up cooking anyway! He's so freaking picky, he refuses to eat salads or heroes or whatever is easy and less stressful for me. I told him 100s of times, cooking is very stressful for me but he just doesn't care .. so I really hope your desperate cooking arrangements work with your partner, but this guy is such a toxic narc in every scary way, I can't wait to get out of this hell! And the enemy will never know when I get out! Right now, I can't afford to leave but I won't stop trying. Good luck to you my friend. ✌️
Good luck with that. It WILL return. I played that delusional game for over30 years and didn’t even realize it. When I left, I didn’t even know why. I just knew that I didn’t want to experience it anymore.
Hes not sorry, they never are
He probably yelled at you because you were using Grey Rock Method and he needed to double down on his abuse to get narcissistic supply out of you. When you said 'Don't yell at me, I don't deserve that' he probably felt a hit of narcissistic supply and kissed you on the forehead as a sign of domination. The narcissist always needs narcissistic supply the same way a cocaine addict needs cocaine.
Yes, I’m constantly defending myself which now has caused me to be in an overexplainer🙄
Stop that .. taking blame they need that chaos … I noticed silence is golden w toxic ppl .
I'm the same way it is a pain in the but yes
im in the healing process right now.. Thanks be to God.🙏 and Thank you Kris..😇 God Bless you always.🙏
My father was a genius and a classic narcissist! He even moved to another country! He was a Christian and could quote the Bible…I was concerned for his soul(even though he rejected me-he actually hated me!). But before he died, he suffered terribly (multiple strokes from receiving a madierna vaccine.)Broken hip with repair, became bedbound with dementia. Finally, the suffering he endured brought him to the Lord(all He wanted was my dad’s heart!) my dad became a sweet, loving person before he died! He also kept asking for me-the one child he never loved!
Your Heavenly Father loves you so much so He sent Jesus to go to the cross for you.
Thank you Kris for your support. Some of us have no family or friends and no support. I just got into therapy, but she doesn't get it, but it's better than nothing. I know God is watching and is the Almighty judge of evil doers. God help me and my pet forced to live with this psychopath or be homeless. ALL the authorities let me down and doesn't care. Hugs Kris and Zoe. God bless you and thank you ❤🙏
My mother has been doing all this what you said Chris 😢I’m so deeply hurt & I m a single mum, I didn’t know that this is narcissistic, but I knew she controlled me extremely & always turning everything against me. You speak really exactly what I m facing.i so thankful i finally find you Chris.
My heart ❤️ is with you.
I can relate, I deeply feel your pain. May you find some comfort knowing you are not alone. Kris Reece is amazing, she has helped Mr understand all the abuse, support and validation is so important.
I also follow Dr Sherri Campbell, another great lady who specializes in narcissism, etc.
God’s grace and peace be with you 🌷
I went through this too. Hang in there! ❤
Toxic mother: children divided, father avoids to be around the house to escape the mother.
And you are a perp!!!!
“We are not called to battle satan we are called to rebuke and flee”. Thank you bc I believed I was called to battled since it was one after the other and so exhausted and angry with God for my own misbelief he was using me to expose them! It’s me and not God! I will now rebuke and flee! Boundaries are everything!
Me too! I thought I was called to battle instead of rebuke and flee!! No more!!! Thank you Jesus!!
Amen. We are told to turn away!
2Ti 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Pro 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
Pro 22:25 Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
God doesn't need you to fight his battles. EVER. that's another demonic tactic.
That is not the great commission! We are to do as Jesus did; He gave us all power and authority over unclean spirit's. This was NOT a request. It is a command. Read your bible's, pray, and take your God given authority!
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Pro 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
Pro 22:25 Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
2Ti 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2Ti 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
2Ti 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
2Ti 3:4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
2Ti 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: FROM SUCH TURN AWAY.
I was Yo-yo'd. He'd push me away, pull me back in. Get me to the point that I'm done. But then, he would not STOP texting and calling and saying everything he could to convince me of how much he loves me. If I break up with him, he will be sitting and waiting on my return. I'm really messing up. I'm going to ruin his surprise. He had so much going on that he had my head spinning. Emotional Abuse on a whole other level. Gaslighting me continuously. Even when I know what I read, saw, and heard. He destroyed me emotionally, and my life was ruined in a period of 8 months with him. I had struggled to pull my life back together for 8 years. It took him 8 months to ruin me financially, independently, emotionally, and to avoid ever wanting to date again in the future. Therefore, that leaves me alone for the remainder of my life. Satan in the Flesh is truly how I viewed him. I believe he is the very epitome of evil. How can another human be okay with destroying another emotionally and their life as they knew it? It's like my whole body was electrocuted over and over. I felt my nerves in my body were on fire. In my brain, it was like if you poured coke into a computer's electrical system. My whole body was damaged. I became so depressed, I could barely move. I just wanted to ly down and ly there until I died. I've never felt anything like it in all of my life. I never ever want to feel it again. Therefore, I don't date for fear of meeting someone like them.
Peace, love and blessings. Trust your instincts always, and pay attention to the 7 second rule (first contact). Through God's grace, we are never alone.
Maybe u shud see a therapist, u need to be feel OK to be rid of that sadist, pls seek help
AMEN!!!
SITTING AND CRYING AGAIN AGAIN....
@@SheilaBang I understand the hurt, confusion, anger, sadness...
I think crying is very healthy. My brother died when I was 15 and I'm 68 years old; I've cried every day for 53 years, but I live in the moment and my life is full of joy. 🙏
Thank you! This all makes sense re: the covert narcissist.
This year has been fruitful in setting boundaries. As a result the disdain is increasing. Praise God for healing and deliverance. ❤
"Godly" people can be the worst of narcs. Watch out who you ask to be a sounding board.
@artgirlmermaid Sad but very true.
"People" who CLAIM to be "CHRISTIANS" who aren't...
🕊🌿🍀
Yes. I agree with you. I believe my pastor is a narcissist.
I feel like true and genuinely Godly people are humble and kind, not prideful and arrogant- as scripture directly teaches against that. So, if a person is behaving narcissistically, which implies they are prideful, they are disobeying God and therefore cannot be considered “Godly”in my opinion.
Absolutely !
The way you spoke my life. I'm sitting here with my mouth open, saying "YES" to everything you say. Didn't take long to press the like and subscribe buttons. You spoke the WORD. 💥💫❤💫💥
This is so healing and helpful to hear!!!! It’s not an accident I came across this tonight. %Godislove❤
Praise God 🙏
When you said” they’re very careful to never bring them together” 🤯 . My mother has done this with me and my siblings and me and my daughter!😮 Eyes opening!
I appreciate your podcast so much. I dealt with three soon-to-be ex-husbands, an adult son, and his wife. The son's wife was a tie-in toxicity to my ex. My son broke my heart by marrying a woman like his stepdad. Learning about these people and healing from codependency Makes sense as to why my son is a narc and married a covert narc. Number # 3 brought pain to my heart and flashbacks. It's shocking for all of the abuse I went through with them. I am doing well with Jesus' help. You can't heal and interact with these people without Jesus, and having a solid prayer life and meditating on scriptures Psalms 31 is one of my favorites My doctors are convinced that my cancer diagnosis is from these people. Please don't stay in these relationships. The devil will absolutely use them to destroy you!
You're correct. I pray total healing for you from the crown of your head to the souls of your feet, holistically, in the Healing Name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Thank you for sharing that. I prayed for you and then read Psalm 31. I really needed that. You blessed me today. May God bless you with healing, now & forever.
Your doctor says your cancer is because of these people?!?! That’s interesting.
Mine would say, sweetheart, let’s not ruin this nice day by talking about anything that’s negative. So he labeled my feelings and opinions as negative. I didn’t realize that’s what he was doing, but I would stuff my feelings to the point that my stomach hurt and then I would ask him for his opinions and listen carefully while ignoring my own. It’s so disturbing how they control your mind.
The eyes don't always just go cold. Sometimes they morph into serpent eyes. This seems to happen when they get very mad. Yes I'm not psychotic, seen it a few times in my life over the years.
You are not mad, the demon shows itself, along with the face shift and creepy grin with a voice changing laugh, but the eyes...u can never unsee that, and then you know the veil between good and evil is thin and real.
I witnessed the eyes going evil too! I will never forget it
Red eye women
I have seen satan in his eyes, narrowed pupils and red glow prob a dozen times. Thank you for addressing this issue in the pod cast .
"they've got the words but not the music" - in my experience they even will have read all the books on emotional health, spirituality, mental health, etc.! they will even be really good at accusing OTHERS of narcissism.
Bless you for your openness & transparency. When we recognize and grieve over our sin it's not narcissism, it's evidence of God working in our heart.
She said he was a narc PRIOR to surrendering to Christ while he was ill.
I loved it when you said "The Stars weren't lined up right on a Tuesday afternoon' That is exactly what it's like living with a narcissist....They make you feel like you better line up them stars in the right way on a Tuesday afternoon or it's your fault... I can laugh about this now because I've been away from A narcissist for over a year and I'm healing... Thank God he opened my eyes.. thank you and God BLESS you for the help you have given me and so many people 🙏🙏🙏
I spent 20 years with a covert narsasist. Honestly, right before I finally left, I was considering comiting myself to a mental hospital. I had forfeited so much of myself to him.
I understand what your saying. Was put in exact same state of mind after their trauma
I committed myself this month and then I decided we should separate. He filed for divorce and kept my son away from me for 10 days after I was released and called the cops on me every night falsely claiming I was a harm to myself. I'm completely traumatized.
The boundaries crossed are hard to forgive for yourself and your partners/other relationships bc you feel shame for Not posting them in the first place bc you have such a big accepting Heart!
Proverbs 3:5&6
@@nattya9467that's so evil, u don't deserve that at all.
The narcissists that scurry away quickly when they discover, (or even think), that you've now got their number are the worst! However, IT'S A BLESSING! My new saying is "Ok, cool. BYE-BYE! Don't let that door hit you on the way out!".
Remember if you're leaving a narcissist? Don't tell them you're leaving. Wait until they're gone and just leave.
Just like that when my ex wife was gone after she refused to confess and take counseling
@glendabuchanan-s5t yes perfect example a doc on Netflix the wife said that same thing after the fact she told him and it ever ended in a tragedy my crazy ex maybe
.never tell the devil your plan.
@@electricLuLuland😂❤🎉 yes!!
I had a hard time with this for a long time because it seems to be really rude and I thought that that reflected on me and I should always be polite and I'm the best person I can be but we have to remember you cannot solve unusual situations with usual rules and manners. It's okay to appear rude.
Their behavior is a full-time job. I was exhausted I can imagine how he felt w the facade😳🙄🤦♀️
My husband is a covert narcissist. Everyone thinks he's such a nice guy and how lucky I am to have him in my life. I want to scream out the truth but then I would really look like the weird one. No one can believe what he is like at home when no one is around but the two of us. My children know how abusive he is. I can see the rage outburst coming. His is explosive rage, pounding loudly on the furniture, yelling in a very loud voice so that the neighbors are afraid of him. I feel like someone who has been kept captive and has no way of escape.
@@TheAarikja you have a way of escape. Divorce
I’m in that boat right now. 😢
@@valw7422 It's NOT that easy. He is a citizen of a foreign country other than the one that I live in. I feel responsible for him. Where would he go? How can I facilitate his leaving my home that is in MY name only. I'm not a person who can throw all his clothes and belongings out on the lawn and order him gone. I just can't. I've put this situation in God's hands and sincerely asked God, in faith, to 'handle' this situation. I'm a giver and a responsible person. He is a taker who is blind to his narcissism.
Not EVERYONE thinks he’s nice if the neighbors are afraid of him. And you and your children know he’s not. And HE knows he’s not. And God knows he’s not. Those that think he is, tell them he’s not!
If your kids and the neighbors know be assured he has exposed his rage to others. Begin your "secret" escape plan. Don't share it.
This so well describes psychological and emotional abuse. People on the outside don’t understand and you can’t explain it well. Thank God I got out.
A lot of educated narcissists will tell you they are an empath.....
That’s scary
@@amywoodson1623 A lot of dumb, uneducated ones will tell you that too!
I have been a victim of a narcissist husband for 33 years. It’s everything you talk about and more. It’s disturbing to know this information and so stuck with no way out.
My husband is making me feel like I am the narcissist. He threatened to burn the house if I dare to ask court for a right division and I run away and he played the victim saying “my wife abandoned me”. I have been suffering so much, even feeling dying on bed.
Get away at ANY COST. Just Go. No money. No nothing. Find a shelter and get out. It will not get better. Sorry. You can do this.
I'm in YOUR Situation.... It SEEMS HES GOT YOU RIGHT WERE HE WANTS YOU .... YOUR NOT A NARCISSIST IT HIM DEFLECTING .... YOU SEE THE ONLY THING THERE GOOD AT IS CONVINCING US THAT EVERYTHING IS OUR FAULT.... IM TIERD IM MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, & EMOTIONALLY DRAINED.... ITS HARD BECAUSE HE LIVES WITH ME I WOULD HAVE TO LEAVE HIM IN MY HOUSE TO GO STAY WITH FAMILY.... THEY WILL NEVER YAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYTHING WRONG THEY DO..... 🙏🏼🫶🏼🙋🏼DONT GIVE UP.
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@@sunnyadams5842 As long as you have no pets like I do who are like your children you would never abandon, you can leave,! There's ZERO help for women with a pet!!! Shame on domestic violence shelters! Pets are so much easier to take care than kids!
@@sunnyadams5842 NO SHELTER TAKES A PET. MY PET IS MY CHILD. NO WAY I WOULD EVER GIVE UP MY PET!! GOD MADE ME STRONG WITH A LIFETIME OF EVIL ABUSE. GOD SEES ALL AND PUNISHES EVIL DOERS LIKE NO OTHER. GOD GAVE ME PEACE AMONG THE STORM, PRAISE GOD. AND I WILL OVERCOME!
You just described my mother. I’m 54 and I just went “no contact” May 23. I was no always the perfect daughter but my apologies were always sincere. I’ve never had a problem admitting I’m wrong. I’ve truly tried to repair our relationship. I went “all in”. She used that time to step her abuse. I’m heartbroken because now I also don’t have a relationship with my Dad and brother. She is pure evil. I’ve always known it in my heart. My entire life I always dreaded spending time with her. For my entire life I believed that our relationship problems were all my fault. I’m grateful to finally be away from her and be on my healing journey, but I miss the rest of my family. Thank you for this.
Awesome Advice! Mind games are the worst, and the enemy knows just how to use them to get to you! Thank you, Kris, God Bless you my friend and sis in Christ!!
Yep, I called them pant aches and copycats. What they do to you. They say you do to them and they can’t think of their own good ideas so they copy yours. I can’t believe I’ve survived such attacks for so long.
This is like listening to my three year situationship.
Word for word, its like a script .
I wondered how he brainwashed me. You exlained it perfectly. im not crazy now but thought back then i was going to end up in a nut home.
he came back and i could feel the control straight away. its all over and im healed now🙏
Worse than an infestation of locusts. How did we not see this coming. God help us, this is human to human. Holy father, help us to overcome these problems. You are doing so much to bring us to our attention, thank you Kris for simplifying it with us.
Hi Kris, thank you very much for your ministry, i have been thru alot with some people, the gaslighting, blaming, lying etc... everything u talked abt caused me so much emotional, mental, trauma, and caused me physical healrh issues, yes, i need to cut the emotional cords, please pray for me, the bullying is to much, to much stress🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am an overcoming covert narc by the grace of God. You are correct about stonewalling: In public, I pretended to act very shy and timid. I did not practice looking people in their eyes in public because I did not want one to discern my total hatred for humans. I also did not practice being loud in public because I was too busy observing others behaviors so I could aim precisely to tear you down if you got in my way. Or, if I needed to use you to get supply. Now, if you insisted in bothering me; I would push my shyness aside and stare at you. Usually, this is all it took because I would allow certain demons to come forward seeing I was tapped to be the Bride of Satan. People froze in shock and backed away. Then I would go back to my normal shyness and they were left totally confused. Nobody would believe them anyways because I pretended so well to be nice. When younger in school a schoolmate caught me off guard. She asked me a question. I was so vexed I allowed the demons to surface up. The girl instantly froze up then took off running. It was then I realized that I could not allow myself to get that mad in public because people would discern I was demon possessed and would no longer be deceived that I was nice. However, behind closed doors to my close relatives and narc exes[twice married and divorced] who disturbed me. I was a nightmare. Later, I did believe the Gospel of Jesus Christ and repented. God delivered me from like a legion of demons. I feel light as a feather. It's been a journey. But, by the grace of God. I will endure to the end. Thank God Jesus Christ came for the sick and not the whole because I was spiritually dead and cut off from God. I love Jesus Christ for saving me from my sins and generational curses. Jesus Christ is Lord.
Omg GOD BLESS YOU FOR MAKING A TH-cam CHANNEL YOU SAVED MY LIFE !!!!!
Thank you so much. You are helping so many confused people. I've dealt with this person o ver 40 years Married him 3 times and now divorced. And he's still trying to play the same games. Trying to get back in.
KRIS REESE YOU ARE SUCH A BLESSING TO ME! YOUR CHRISTIAN & TO THE POINT & DIRECT & STRAIGHT UP! I LOVE YOU FOR THIS! GOD BLESS YOU! I WAS WITH A COVERT NARCISSIST, HE WAS ALWAYS QUITE, SOFT SPOKEN & THEN VIOLENT OUT OF NOWHERE but STRANGELY CALM WHILE PHYSICALLY ABUSING ME AS I A TERMINALLILL & SHOWED NO EMOTION TOTALLY WOULD TRY TO INVALID ME BUT SAYING IM TOO FAT & I'D TELL HIM I DONT CARE WHAT YOU THINK, I DIDN'T ASK YOU WHAT YOU THOUGHT OF ME, TAKE A LOOK AT HIMSELF! HE'D TRY TO TAKE AWAY MY SELF ESTEEM & I WAS VERY AWARE OF IT & SHUT HIM DOWN FAST AS HE OPEN THAT POISION OUT OF HIS MOUTH. AND ITS TAKE MY MONEY TO KEEP ME. I PACKED UP & LEFT & LIVED IN MY CAR TERMINALLY ILL. AND IM STILL ALIVE & FIGHTING TO LIVE PRAISE GOD! AND YES IVE SEEN THE COLD EYE STARES & SLIENT RAGE & IT WAS FRIGTHING BECAUSE I DIDNT KNOW WHAT HIS EYES WERE HIDING. NOW I KNOW BETTER.
🙏🏻 GOD BLESS YOU! No one deserves to be Degraded like what he Did… And you being so Sick! I can not imagine what you have gone through!
🙏🏻Love & Healing! 🌸☀️🕊🍃
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Thank you miss Reese for your vulnerable sharing moments. I've seen in small groups how an honest sharing from the heart made and me and others feel human. Fallible yet still redeemed. We all have our Achille's heel we'll always struggle with imo. Bless you sweetie...
This is on point so glad my eyes are wide open!! Glory to God!! Thank you for these videos you're phenominal!🙌🙏
The more I find out about covert narcissism, the more ex pastor/lover fits the mold! The woman he triangulated me with knew everything there at the end, but he got to her, just like he got to everyone who said that they would hold him accountable. I used to cry because I never thought that I would be worthy to be a pastor’s wife. Now I rejoice because I got out of the church of Babylon! And yes, he preached against all the things he was guilty of! So grateful to God for setting me free!
Kris, thank you! I have been watching your videos for a while now, about a year, and the Lord has done a mighty work in me and you have been a godly resource for my overcoming of people pleasing and having fear of toxic people. I feel like a new me. Thank you for the beautiful and heartfelt prayer, I praise God almighty and I thank you again and again may the Lord multiply his favor over you!
Meeee too. You said better what I could not!
Kris Reece is the God's chosen Apostles of this changed world. May the Holy spirit continue to empower you and bless you, may the glittering light of Heaven surround you well forever, Hallelujah Amen. Prayers.
My biological mother brought in one of my brother’s friends to take my place as her son, triangulation!!!
Learning about narcissists has put the phrase, Lord, give me strength into full prospective. 🙏
I'm not crazy 🙏
Just wanted say thank you Kris so much for your Godly teaching and the support
Thank you so much for guiding me for the prayers Amen
The teaching and the prayers are the healing power from God gave me strength wisdom knowing Jesus loves me and always with me God is in control Amen!
God bless you and your family and your team❤️❤️❤️🙏😇
Please pray for a young person that is a victim of a covert narcissist. Thank you for your ministry.
Hi i am a christian i just started to watch your videos and they are very painful for me but i am thankful that God brought me to you.
For years been struggling and living in mental torment because i didn’t know but with you i understood that my son is one.
He suddenly out of the blue arranged a big argument between us at 18 and left home wanted to be independent i knew he was immature and me as a single mother with a failed marriage and scared by a also narcissist mother was hard and difficult our life many times we lived like you if i understand a little by what you said
so i always thought i had to make up for it for him and i guess i failed to give him the godly discipline as i was a new babe christian
sorry, going back to the point
so i arranged for him to go to a room in a older couple’s home in the church and we could see each other at church on sundays have a meal if he wanted and still independent he agreed moved in to their room started to work part time and still studying as i suggested for him not to drop out to continue with his studies
but after awhile he started to treat me even worse always arguing shaming me started to see him deviating from biblical sound truth and until one day he got angry in the church stopped coming just disappeared and i don’t know anything from him for 2 years almost and he’s my only son
and this is making so depressed always crying going in my mind what i did wrong
where in our hardships life but i always tried to love him
please him with little i had but since 14 he never listened to any advice any talk always closing himself now i know what is stonewalling
i didn’t know then so i was in torment always trying to figure out why he was rejected me
now i totally feel rejected lonely because even though we argued as mother and child we still did things together until the age of 17/18 he totally changed while still professing being a christian
believing in Jesus i saw him being overdrawn more disrespectful and closing no love affections more and more until the total distance happened when he left home then church and now i don’t know if he is alive or dead for no reason
i knew later that he was going behind my back at that time in church “ counselling “ without me involved or even knowing saying i was the one controlling mother and i know some people think i am the one narcissist mother
and with no explanation he just left then on Christmas 2022 he told he had no feelings in his heart he had a problem he didn’t feel feelings couldn’t feel anything at that time i sat with him and tried while shocked sense of all and what that meant as a christian he didn’t feel the love of Jesus but still believed in Jesus
God recognised me as his mother but nothing else and since then
he is doing the no contact at all
all these months i felt so bad broken rejected as a mother and living in torment in my mind with the whys ifs was our poor life
being without a dad, me not giving enough attention
going crazy in my mind and my heart so hurting and missing him so much
worried sick about him for months and months.
i can’t go on like this anymore.
i don’t know what to do handle this
just know it hurts so much
so can you please talk about
narcissistic children
or young adults
what to do?
how to behave please.
Thank for reading and listening to me.
Ana
This is an amazing video. Thank you for creating it. I have experienced all of these dark tactics. I have been with my husband for 33 years ( 17 years married) and I feel so stuck and trapped. I came from a narcissistic abusive family ( scapegoat) and lo and behold I found someone who is just like my dad narcissistic and abusive. The problem is- I have a teenage autistic son who loves his dad and the thought of leaving ( I really need to for my dignity) makes me feel so overwhelmed and guilty. I don’t know what to do. I have been leaning on God and praying
me too, scapegoat of narc fam, married same. Just learned I am high functioning autistic. My ex does have legion in him. We fight not flesh, but spiritual wickedness. I dont want to scare you, but encourage you to get into your prayer closet, ask Father for His will. I did not know I was autistic, and imagine that fight in court. And family court really was filled with nasty people. So my ex bribed the judge and I lost my children to him, even though I had primary custody. I wont say more because it has been a nightmare. But it DID teach me to seek The Lord...and realize that The Bibel DOES SAY to look at the fruit, like Kris is teaching us. Please seek The Lord before you decide. Learn how viscious a malignant narc (filled with legion, I saw his black eyes) can be if you even tell them you might leave. Domestic violence can help, gather as much support around yourself before even hinting you might leave. Currently, my adult children hate me, though they claim to know Jesus - they refuse to reconcile or talk about things. Their dad did brain wash them to hate me, and a narcissist uses witchcraft manipulation to cause even your friends to take their side and defend them. Please research and learn...it will help you anticipate the narc's move. The better prepared you are...especially being able to hear Jesus our Shepherd's Voice...and Abiding in Word og God... it will make things smoother for your son. I promise to pray for you that Father God's perfect will is done in your life and your son's life. Keep learning...so you will stand strong :)
**Bible sorry for the typos
Hi Sarah, thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry that you are going through so much and you lost your children to your narc husband. I can’t image what that feels like and on top of that, your diagnosis of autism. That is so stressful :(. As you know married to a narc is absolutely draining and mind boggling. I have been reading a lot about narcissism in biblical and physiological perspectives- interesting and scary. Now I keep quiet mostly and watch my words and try not to get angry and share in his sin. I have a stepson too who is in his thirties and he’s a narc too - treating me badly right now ignoring me and treating his brother like he doesn’t care- praying leaning on God and asking him for direction. God has helped me so much especially in the last three years. I’ll pray for you and I wish God’s strength upon you 🤍
I call mine out cause I've always known when they are lying, this makes them uncomfortable. They have had to learn how to change not to what I want them to be, but what God want what's best for them. It has taken 34 years, when they changed it was amazing!
The vulnerability at 54:00 was powerful. I need to hear that. Thank you for sharing, Kris!
Thank you ma for the message. Which shows more about these people. It serves as an Eyes Opener. Am really blessed. Thank you ma.
Thank you so much Kriss for your insight! Your videos help me greatly in dealing with my elderly narcissist mother. One of the hardest things in my life has been coming to the realization that my Christian mother is a narcissist...and now the Lord is helping me to learn and understand how to deal with her. Your videos have been a great blessing! Blessings and Shalom to you. ❤🙏❤️🙏
Hi my sister I have been through all of this. Thank God I am not his pond anymore and God is healing me every day.
Nailed the stonewalling from my family..
Nailed my inlaws. My mother inlaw 87 still pits her kids against each other.. She's evil but only I see it.. Everyone says she's so nice.. She lies all the time. Manipulates everyone.. Cripe 30 years ago I said I wanted to start my own holiday traditions she said she didn't care and that WE WILL be at her house. She said she didn't care if we had fun either just be there. And she had get togethers for EVERY holiday. I swear flag day was time for a get together.. 34 years later I finally said NO..
Thank you, Kris! I am so tired after 24 years of dealing with these behaviors. I have to pray every day for God to give me a sound mind and to help me think clearly.
Kris thank you so much for the clarification the prayers the support the compassion and may the Lord be with you always through this mission! Hugs
You have hit the nail on the head and all especially on number 5!
I definitely relate to the part of having a conversation with a covert narcissist and all of a sudden I start getting stonewalled and it's by my husband and there's a ton of trauma bonding going on love bombing and all that other crap please precious friends be praying for me
I know how, Kris you were sent, amazing. God's mercies. His will for you, has set me free! I watched the spiritual decline. His will be done. I'm blessed by your calling. Lord send me!❤
Kris you’re a blessing to us!!!