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(What will happen to the narcissist?) It often appears like narcissists walk off into a better sunset after causing their targets pain and destruction, this is a total illusion. By the very fact of the manner in which a narcissist needs control over others and situations they end of facing many and varied collateral consequences to their actions. Good situations are abandoned, jobs are lost, reputations ruined, financial problems are all consequences of a narcissists need to maintain an illusion of success, mask preservation and they are ultimately controlled by their desperate need for control. We explore the trajectory of a narcissists life in this educational talk and hopefully bring some comfort and reevaluation of your current situation to assist healing and thriving.
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What's done in the dark will ALWAYS be brought into the Light 💝
Amen
Luk12:1-7
Still waiting ….
Hallelujah 🙏🏻
A very Biblical perspective. 🎉
Narcissist Psychopaths have Criminal Behavior!
There is no narcissist that does not cheat guys, she's 100% right
Faithful as their options
Mine would have stretched the truth about cheating - because he didn't physically cheat. BUT he was looking for something better, flirting with women, trying to find someone shiny and new. That is cheating - like the commandment 'thou shalt not covet' your neighbour's wife. Emotional cheating.
Nope, my narcissistic father never cheated. He treated us (his family) like shit and enjoyed seeing us suffering, but he never cheated. He was too stupid to find another woman. My mother was even more stupid than him for having ended up with a "man" like that.
There are narcissists who do not cheat. Watch Dr Ramani's video on the self-righteous narcissist. She discusses this exact topic and explains it. I know for a fact that my narcissist husband has never cheated. He's done horrible mean cruel things to me but I know for a fact he's never cheated
@gloriadonahue7241 Can't stand "Dr." R
In my opinion, forgiving a narcissistic person is granting them permission to continue destroying you. No thanks!
I have forgiven the narcissist who brought me to the brink of unaliving myself.... not to relieve HER sense of guilt... a narcissist does not feel guilt, cannot feel guilt. I forgave her to release myself from the trauma bond. I needed to do this for my own health. I wasted 2 years of my life wishing karma upon her.. those two years I could have spent enjoying time with my dogs. I could have done more things for myself. She wasn't effected at all by my rumination, though if she knew of it, she'd have gloated and giggled herself to her narcissistic slumber. I forgave her to set myself free. It had nothing to do with her, it wasn't granting her permission. She doesn't need my permission to destroy other people's lives.. she's gonna do that regardless of what I think. That's not in my control. But it took a long time for me to come to these crossroads. If you choose to never forgive, that is also OK. We each walk our own paths. There is no definitive right or wrong answer in how we respond to abuse.
I 💯 Agree. She literally destroyed my home my relationships w my be..
I left a narcissist 2 yrs ago after being married to him for over 50 yrs…..I always knew there was something wrong with him but couldn’t put my finger on it……it was awful……I don’t want to be in this position at my age but I’m at peace now. I do look back and feel sorry for him. I used to say to him…..I’m glad I don’t live in your head. Onwards and upwards aged 76. Good luck everyone 💕 xx
Definitely my friend you are on point.❤️💟💪⭐🙏🏾
@@gangGreenthumbI love your comment,❤️💟💪⭐🙏🏾
The maddening thing is they cannot even see what they are, but they are ALWAYS the victim once they’re held accountable.
They will do anything not to accountable
The Narc knows exactly what they are doing. They focus on the kill.
They are exactly an inner species predator no matter how that narc is dressed up to appear different. Premeditated thought process. Does a wild mountain lion know what it is doing when it hunts
I grew up in a narcissistic family cult. The narcissists in my family know exactly that they are lying, threatening, manipulating, stealing and abusing others mentally, physically and financially. But I don’t know if they realize the damage they cause. Or they just simply don’t care that they cause a lot of damage, pain and loss.
Precisely!
Repulsive
I wouldn't want to spend one day in the shoes of a narcissist. What a sad and miserable life it must be. Thank you, Paula ❤
Absolutely Thank God for our Blessings,[ sometimes in disguise]
Correct
Living to screw people over what they don't realise they take that same negative energy with them when they die then have to try and sort themselves out again when reborn. I think they have many life cycles before they realise they have to get their shit together. Most of them don't and can't work. I wouldn't employ the scattered one I know.
Yes, mine lost a loving wife and 3 lovely children and a granddaughter. They are their own worst enemy aswell as their victims. Mine doesn't even care or realise, I don't think. I hope mine, rots in hell.
@@LaurieB-hk6tl are u kidding me no accountability they seem like their happy and always have alot of 3ex and they have alot of options explain to me how being a narcissist is a bad thing ? No disrespect fyi I’m generally curious
Their lives are truly pitiable.
Not always,everything in his life goes well…he is extremely heathy at 78,no blood pressure or cholesterol or anything..people love him,etc,etc
@@rosinastrippoli7768Mentally ill though does matter. Healthy physically but mindset is unhealthy ❤
No one knows these type of people exist and they are so unworldly that there is no medication or treatment for a narcissist. They are able to deceive everyone even children of God. But this is a teaching lesson for us. Because adversity brings about humiliation. Believe me after God breaks you away from the narcissist you will pray and thank God for everything that he has blessed you with. The knowledge is the key. Thank you Paula
I'm finding the numbers of narrsissiists at large are many in numbers in governments, war industry, theater; Hollywood, music industry, medical profession, education system, prison system, mental institutions and churches.
My God tells me "Don't panic". I will always protect you, love you. I will never leave you.
I trust God is not a "man" that He should lie. I am trusting and obeying & anything other is taking a dangerous path down. I don't have to suffer that is my choice and one I do not use all of the time. It's OK God is like air I need only 1 breath at a time.
Your last statement..
God is like air.
Oh my what a keeper
Remember this a narcissist does not know what real love really is! Their own selfish agenda is to hurt you and use you! A narcissist or other narcissists think of you only as a Object or a thing to use for their own needs and wants blaming you for their own selfish behavior and actions towards you which is wrong and hurtful!
It is ashamed we didn't know they existed because we were taught for generations by the church not to see evil but good in people even when their deeds are evil. We never understood why these evil deeds existed. The pastors never wanted you to see evil because they was practicing evil. We would never suspect the man of God to be a narcissist.
True. God shows at every step who they are. Keep praying. Our lord used the narcissist to get me to him, I found Jesus through the narc and he created a story that he was the chosen one for my salvation and that I need to now financially support him for his ministry which is proselytising on Internet.
Guys, when you reach the pinnacle of indifference you wouldn't care where your narc is, what he does and how he'll end up. With each day he'll become smaller and smaller. It took me more than 2 years and a lot of education thanks to channels like this one. Thank you Paula. Good luck to all, and let's transform all the negative energy into positive.
It took me 3 years to educate myself and finally escape his prison he created.
Amen! Congratulations!
Agree 100%! I've been out of the "situationship" with the narc for almost 5 yrs. It's been a long road, but I'm at the point now that I no longer care where he is, who he's with (this week), or what he's doing! 13 yrs of my life wasted on him but many lessons learned too!
You couldn't have said it better! I experienced a malignant narcissist many years ago and find it still has a damaging effect on me. Through education and hard work I believe I have developed an immunity towards these people. It's so important that we realize it's not our problem but theirs but never give them access to our inner self. I've heard it said that with some hard work, we can become much bigger while they become much smaller. Wise words indeed. Good luck and much happiness.
It took me 30+ years to get out of the narcissist and his family
Satan is the biggest narcissist ever! Narcissism is a demon, deliverance is needed.
do you know of any who have been delivered?
Deliverance is willingness to change and admitting. It's rare with a narcissist.
How does it end for the narcissist? My x husband blew up our marriage, his mistress ran away when he got bone cancer,none ,not even his own children would take care of him,nor his " friends ". Sad. He would have died alone if I hadn't helped him in the end. He did it ALL to himself. I don't think anyone should die alone. It's all between God & him now.
That is why these mistresses are called purses. And the wife or ex-wife are called nurses. Why? These mistresses are only in it until the well runs dry. When the narc is very ill and close to death, now they want to try and get humble and wonder what went wrong with the marriage. Make that make sense. 🤔
I see it as they are SOoo lacking in ANY self introspection; everything/ everyone around them is to serve THEM OR THEIR purpose. Total 100% USERS IN LIFE.
This speaks so well of you! Mine has had 2 pulmonary embolisms in 5 years. He has a source......I honestly would nit be sure I would be there for him at this point after all ge put me through.....even tho he will be facing Our Heavenly Father one day. He disgusts me.
I really wish that he didn’t have that final kindness from you. Though that just me projecting. He didn’t deserve you! You are a good person. I hope you now have peace and happiness in your life w/o him . 🙏
I always tell myself. I wont be there but I dont know how true ill hold to that
CAN YOU IMAGINE??? My narc had all of my three children around him for Father's Day. He's sick with cancer -so the children have been with him to help out - so I had no children with me for Mother's Day but I understood that it's a difficult time for them. What did he do - the ungrateful sod??? He left them for the day to meet up with a woman. They put aside all plans to be with him for the day and he went out for the shiny object. Narcissists are never satisfied even when they have it all right in front of them.
I completely understand!! My ex husband left me & took my only child- daughter- who we were always very close at age 10!! I was/ am very strong Christian but knew nithing about narc personality- just always a living kind honest girl & nurse!! He lied to attorneys, judges etc... about me & I only got limited visits!! I got no holidays!!- Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc...
@@barbaradecker4358 My narc won't be on earth much longer - I will get the kids, unless he tries to control me from the grave!! My kids are pretty much wise to him, only putting up with him at this point.
I would expect no less. The less time they spend with him all the better. My son has become a narcissist. Extremely abusive.
@@catherinewindsor1654 So is one of my sons - he did something wrong, a minor thing really (ripped the door handle off my car during a temper tantrum) but could not take responsibility for it. Ranted at everyone, including me. Looked like a complete idiot. Still can't apologize or deal with it. I don't respond but it's hard to watch.
@wendynash2587 Watch! No way. If police don't take him , kick em out! Still wants to have temper tantrum get 5 yr restraining order. Can get renewed. Paralegal can assist. WAKE UP! HES DANGEROUS.
Karma is very real, it comes in ways most unexpected.
Yep, he lost his job, had to sell his home, married a wealthy old supply his friends hate, so they cut ties with him because of her...and he has health problems. Karma gets them for sure! Sometimes it takes awhile but its gets them.
@@annmaddock4569My ex covert narc (I left him after 10 years of toxic relationship) for about 10 years ago - he died alone in is home last year in miltiple illness of his alcohol addition, only 55 years old.
So. Karma never miss an adress ...
@@annmaddock4569 yes and yes 🙌
I respectfully disagree about Karma. My mothers, ex wife, grandmother were all high level Narcopaths. My trauma went on for about 40 years. Nothing bad happened to any of them over the years. I wish they had, nut no
Hibbertsh.oh I hope so...almost 10yrs..never ill,never has accidents nothing,
I believe in karma....its just taking so long for the creature I know...
I (being an empath) fell right into the trap of marrying a narcissistic woman. It was 26 years of chaos, drama, and insanity. We were financially well off at the beginning, but her crazy schemes led to financial ruin. She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, followed by multiple live-in boyfriends after our divorce (7 years ago). My life is so much happier and peaceful now that I have gotten away from the situation. Paula, every word you spoke is exactly what I have experienced as a decent man married to a narcissist. Thank you. - Mike (from South Dakota in the United States).
Thank you for your story Mike!
Also for letting people be aware this is not a gender specified attack.
I can relate , because my story is similar but with the male persuasion.
I’m an empath and married a narcissist 8 years ago. Took me a while to figure out making excuses for him. Now awaiting divorce after he lied, cheated and stole from me. Jog on with your side chicks. I am walking to freedom filled with happiness, love and laughter. 😊
Same story here Mike. 23 years worth. I feel your pain man!
It’s very common for the narcissist to meet a worst narcissist or even a psychopath- AND the narcissist at that point lost narcissistic supply for good - this ruins that narcissist
Normal people and especially those with a healthy spiritual life are very resilient. When they go through difficult times they learn and grow as people. Everything that Narcs learn is superficial and shallow. As they get older the immaturity and delusional mindset becomes more and more obvious. It's the creepy older man or woman at a bar trying to seduce someone much younger. They are in complete denial that the things they value the most are fleeting. Looks, money and influence will fade. The love that you have shown to family, friends and pets is a legacy that holds true value. I feel sorry for them, I can leave the abusive relationship and God will help me heal, they are trapped in a Hell of their own making. 🙏
Excellent comment. I completely agree.
@@transitionsnc Thank you
Perfectly said!!!
Nice comment
@@barbaradecker4358 Thanks
I grew up in an abusive home. As a result, I became highly attuned to people around me. I can usually get a feel for people very quickly. When I have encountered Narcs it's like a blank feeling, as if I'm interacting with a cardboard cutout. I used to mistake that for strength. With others, I could tell almost instantly if they were lying to me, however I could never tell if a Narc was lying to me so i was inclined to believe them. Now when I get the cardboard cutout impression, I take it very seriously and distance myself immediately.
Same!!!
Love the 'cardboard cutout' analogy.
@einstein63 Thanks, it's hard to describe because I would never say someone has no soul. I don't really think that's the case. I think that perhaps the darkness they surround themselves with is almost like a cloaking shield. When someone tries to ping them, the darkness swallows it up. Although I really don't know. I hope they have a soul and can be saved.
That was exactly what my divorce attorney said, she said, "I can usually get a good read on people " and she couldn't with my soon X husband. Ya, thats the Very thing you just described
@ladyvirgo9514 I honestly very rarely come across people like that. It sounds like it was the same for your divorce attorney. I'm sorry that you were treated very poorly by your ex-husband. Unless someone has been targeted, manipulated, and abused by a Narc, they have no idea how painful it can be.
I'll tell you how blinded and desperate I was when I met this person......when he told me he had set his mom's yard on fire with firecrackers, burnt his grandpa's shed down, two dui's, was molested by his brother, and HE was sent to live with his grandparents????? THAT RIGHT THERE.......hello, RED FLAGS????????🤦♀️
But what did I do??? Felt SORRY FOR HIM AND HE KNEW IT!! Three weeks on he "thinks he loves me?" Dear Jesus where was my head??? I'll tell you.....up my A$$!! Ha!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Please give yourself grace. You didn't know what you didn't know. Hindsight is 20/20. Yes you see it all now because what happened then and self reflection. You are stronger, wiser, have more discernment now having been through that. There's a lot of people that are either still in it and don't know or are in denial. Unlike them you now see the light
Sounds more psychopathic to me… fire setters are always a major red flag in the world of mental health 😳
Mine would cuss me out in ways I have never been spoken to in my 70yrs.
And in the next breath say "I love you"...
Laughable.
Pathetic
repulsive.
We live and we learn. I just didn’t know that such characters existed.
It wasn’t up your “a$$,” it was in your heart. I think we all heard fantastical stories of their victimhood and it registered sympathy instead of alarm. My children’s father (ex husband) sounds like a Conduct Disorder (pre-NPD diagnosis for teens) based on the stories of violence he told me about in middle and high school. I would never have dated him if I had met him back then, but he made me feel seen and heard.
Now I know I have to start those things within myself.
What a ride.
My heart goes to those who have been injured by a vampire. I pray 🙏 for recovery. A frightening thought of how it ends for the soulless. 😵💫⚡
They blow up all friendships and relationships, it’s actually sad, pathetic, I’m at the stage where I actually feel pity for them. Ty Paula everything you say is truth.
You should know what I went thru
Oh yes.....God says Vengeance is Mine, I will repay. God is not a man that He should lie and His word cannot return to Him void❤❤
Thank you, Heather, I need to be reminded of this constantly.
@@bobtaylor170 me too😌
I also liked a fellow. Later years. Same thing so so mean At first no. I got caught up how wonderful he was. When he was love bombing.
I became addicted to his nice ways. His karma will come
around also. It’s how I started to learn about narcissist. After I moved away. I sucked in every once in awhile. Hard to get out of it. That’s the awful part.
They can’t Love.
AMEN 🙏, I am patiently waiting...
AMEN 🙏🙌
My husband is a narcissist. From the beginning of our marriage he literally referred to me as his retirement plan to my friends and relatives. So humiliating and embarrassing. He said he was just kidding. Actually not. We are going through a divorce after 28 years of marriage. I left him. He absolutely did everything you described. All of it. And he’s fighting for my retirement plan. He is very sick and alone and totally dependent on his brother who is not in great health either. I still have compassion for him as I would anyone in his pathetic and pitiful situation, but I am strong in my faith that God is removing him from my life. You are spot on about the magical thinking and sense of entitlement. He has pretty much ruined me financially but I am at peace. I have a fulfilling career and supportive family, thanks be to God. I also have my daughters who are amazing . I am breaking the generational curse of my family. God bless you Paula for your videos. So reassuring and helpful in my recovery from narcissistic abuse. ❤❤❤
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Sounds like you did break the curse.. now it's all on him and what he needs to do ..
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At least you have some time now, without this nasty piece of work! I got away after 20 years. That was 17 years ago now. He left me nearly destitute, after claiming he had no wages, gave up his job and relied on his new rich girlfriend! But I'd rather be homeless, than with that pos. Good luck to you. Leaving my nasty, narc was the best thing I ever did.
@@rowannestripe2964you're one strong individual ❤
They lack the ability to love, which is what makes life joyful and satisfying.
Exactly, I'd feel sorry for mine, if I didn't hate him as much as I do! He has no love in his life, he lost it all! Its weird because they want admiration, but in doing their control thing, they end up with no control and certainly no admiration! So they always 'hang themselves '!
My Narc brother just passed away.. and nobody was there for him.. His daughter's can't stand him. He caused me so much pain when I was a child.. There was no funeral because nobody would come.. sad situation.
Yes, my ex narc's daughter only uses him for expensive presents and early airport pickups😂😂
They reap what they've sowed!!!
So sad.
I don't feel sad. In the end, I will be indifferent if not for a passing thought of relief that they can never hurt anyone again, especially my son. The most exciting thing is justice they will now receive by God.
Rarely,from my experience ☹️
My ex inherited £800k. He has sod all left. Cars, failed businesses, flashy hotels. It was endless. He never made anything work because he just expected it to work…just because. He a loser in life and can’t self reflect that this keeps happening. When he fails it is everyone else’s fault
To me not wanting harm to come to them is enough. That is enough forgiveness.
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I hope some harm comes to mine.
Give him a wake-up call, you know?
I don’t want any harm to come to him at all. Even though I finished up an emotional wreck I always thought that I could change him or what ever was wrong with him.
They, as a group, are so predictable….yet, so many are hoodwinked by them. 🤷🏼♀️. It’s baffling.
Yeah they do the same thing it’s easy to spot them
I am a well educated woman who was under the control for 13 years. They are very good at what they do but will be alone in the end and unhappy.
I never heard tell of Narcs till I met my first one. I guess I never ran in their circle of friends. I guess I will never understand how they wake up each morning knowing they will play some game to hurt another human .
@@wendylou8963 13 years 🤣 don’t be naive NEXT TIME learn how to read and study people that’s why narcissist hate Empaths we STUDY ANYONE LIKE WERE GETTING A PHD OUT OF THEM u should learn would’ve saved u a decade 😆🤷♂️
@chellotrevino7323 quite unsupportive of you. This community is kinder so maybe move along to find one more suited to you
FACT!
“There is nothing behind the mask!”
What is there… is the dead soul of that vessel a complete waste of human skin bound by chains trapped in a cage just a ghost of a shadow in a shell.
The moment a person see’s those black eyes split face and smirk…that is not an illusion. That is the Devil with Caligula’s grin peering back at you.
Good luck, on your next choice or word and action. It is a spiritual battle of the soul; armor up!
Thank you 🙏 Paula
Spot on! TY&TC
Your spot on about the black eyes,frightened the life out of me,this I seen on the day he knew the game was up,I seen pure evil
That unfortunately, is a very accurate description of what is under the mask. I still can't wrap my head around it. It's chilling beyond words.
@@JH-td4mn if that experience does not wake you up…then you are dead too! That mask hides a many things but in the right conditions with the right light…it exposes everything.
God has many names, but the Devil has many more. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
@@marylynch2510 yes! They slither in under disguise manipulating, deceptive, playing with your emotions. They do not want you, they want what you have and what you are, and what you’re capable of…learn to walk and balance upon the edge of the shadows in the grey. Protect and shield your light. The Cluster B Clowns are drawn to the light like a parasitic moth.
Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
When they discard you, Discard them too and no way back in for them. Focus on yourself and your children and the narc doesn't exist and even their children grow to hating them and seeing right through them and cutting them off from their lives. Infact the narc is their own worse enemies. They're miserable and sad for the rest of their lives
Life is exciting, peaceful and expansive without the demon.
If the narc decides to self check-out which he threatened to do so when we're together, it's none of my concern and I'm not heartless. The amount of harm they'll inflict on others would be much worse.
The only regret I have is teaching the narc communication, social and even life skills when we're together. I wanted this poor hurt soul to be able to fend for himself but not knowing he'll use all of these skills to deceive future victims. Him checking out would be the best thing for society.
May light flow into all of your truthful and honest lives.
I relate
Ty Paula. 2 years out and strong. Diacarded 4 times. I own that because I kept letting him back in. At the end I knew he was going to leave again. But this time I told him my home was not a bed and breakfast. Get out! The damage that man caused is horrible. I keep my chin up and give myself extreme grace and self love.
I am 6 months out, and will never go back . They have Demonic spirits. They use humans. And have no conscious. They scan your personality and like the terminator will assess your weakness .
I was bpd and full blown narc and I was delivered by the grace of God. Literal demons came out of me and then strongholds have been being broke down over the course of years. God can change anyone. I have recently had dealing including a friendship of with someone who turned out to be narcissist and I’m just now understanding through this exactly what I put people through. It’s truly humbling.
The splitting is psychological and spiritual. Extreme prayer and repentance are needed, and Jesus Christ.
I've never heard the term "somatic narcissist", but wow does that make sense.
The pycho in my life was so desperate that he was using a photo as a profile pic that was over a decade old. (A motorcycle accident on top of normal aging, and he's going downhill fast.)
He has no car, no license, no money, and everything he owns (which isn't much) has been donated, inherited, stolen, or exploited from someone.
I saw a recent photo of him...emaciated, bad teeth--I was stunned. He was a decent-looking guy, but not anymore.
In the two and a half years since I left him in the corner he painted himself into, he's never attempted to hoover me, but two days ago, I got a short text asking if I wanted to be friends.
I just chuckled to myself...our split was so incredibly acrimonious that if he's trying to get me back in his life, he has to be beyond desperate.
Good.
"The need for absolute control interferes with forward-planning of a narcissist." When Narcissists get old, they cannot stand losing control of their lives. But even in the Bible it says "Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go. (John 21:18)" The elderly narcissist FIGHTS this so hard. It's impossible to take care of them. My narcissistic mother cannot accept that she is developing dementia, and refuses to de-hoard and sell her four-bedroom house. She wants ME to take care of it. I do not have the funds to take care of MY FAMILY and her stupid house at the same time. And yet, she will not give anyone a POA to help her with her house. She cannot even pay her bills online. Yet she won't let anyone see her bills. She's seriously devolving into psychosis. It's amazing. And because she's lost the mask and ability to hide her deceptions, I've learned how she was financially manipulating me all my life. Every time my dad got sued, she would use me to hide money (ineffectually) and screw up my finances with bizarre investments that always failed. I finally divorced myself from her financially last year (2023) at 51 years old. It took me THAT long to figure her out. They keep fooling people and fooling people, until they get too old to hold the mask anymore. And by that time, I've got my own family to protect from her shenanigans, I'm not falling for it anymore. I can't even afford to fall for her manipulation anymore. She is on her own. And it's a sad end, because it was of her own making. A lifetime of bad choices have pushed away her only child. She doesn't even remember ANY of her grandchildren's birthdays anymore. Just the days her social security check arrives. It's creepy. Pathological narcissists are soulless. I know it's from her abuse and neglect in her infancy -- by her maternal grandmother who I think ended up committing suicide. The demon entered her then. And it stayed in her, despite ALL the chances people gave her to turn around. She CHOSE the demon of selfishness. And that demon's false promises of wealth and power. We all die in the end. And it's as the Bible says.... it's easier for a camel to go through an eye of a needle than for this "rich" woman to go to heaven. She will not change. And as she gets older, she only digs her heels in harder. She chose objects over people. Money is her God. And so money is all she will have left. Look at Jeffrey Epstein. Even money couldn't protect him in the end. The Devil will come for his due. Pray hard that these people stay away from you.
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for this video! I remember telling him that his disfigured face is perfect reflection of who he is on the inside. Its true. Nobody wants to stay with a monster. He will never find another woman like me.
He sleeps with his mouth open wide he done told so many lies and he looks just like the scream mask he will look ugly in his casket I'm so serious
Oh yah they became a 3 old child in a decrepit, ugly, gross body. They faces show the Hugly , disgusting inner
Amen 😂
My ex-beloved-narc is just driven by hatred and bitterness, perversion and greed, everything is about competition, rivalry and revenge. He needs to destroy others and he seems to enjoy it. It's like he has to channel all his darkness and destructive energy to a scape goat, because otherwise, it eats him up. For me his presence and even just attention feels like a disturbing electro magnetic field that makes you feel bad instantly
They will throw you away in an instant
Madness ... exactly. It seems like a syphilis infection of the brain where all empathy disappears.
You are exactly right. At 73, he's burned all his bridges, nobody wants him, his reputation has caught up with him. His alcoholism, dementia, and physical problems are catching up with him. I don't have any sympathy. He's getting paid back for his years of abusing people and animals. Nobody needs to seek revenge. It's happening right before our eyes. This narcissist has been so cruel that I honestly question if he's human. I see someone who is demon possessed. I've never been involved with him. He just trapped me so he could abuse me. I've taken all of him I'm willing to take and he knows I'm done. He should leave the planet before it's time but on one hand I think he's too arrogant and on the other hand I think he's too weak. I can't wait to get away. Thank you Paula!❤❤❤
They are not human he actually acts like a animal
@@Dale-ei4sm Yes pretty much. One thing animals don't do and that's talk baby talk. Drives me insane. Someone so cruel has no business acting like they're 4.
Otherwise, I completely agree. He's devoid of anything civilized. Should not be allowed to participate in society.
@@Dale-ei4sm I replied to you and apparently YT didn't like it. Yes. I agree completely. I've never met someone so cruel and completely devoid of feelings. He will hurt my little dogs and laugh about it because it makes me furious. He doesn't have any access to them anymore. He just isn't human.
This is just entree, listen to the latest video on Touching the Afterlife for what’s waiting for him.. 😱 for eternity
@@martyrosehappens to me all the time it’s infuriating 😤
A narcissist, as you are laying on the ground, bleeding will step on you. And, go their way.
...and feel completely justified in doing so.
@Jen.K Nay, THEY are the victim: why you're lying there...
Yes, my husband ran at me and pushed me into the floor. Once I was down he kicked me. When he was done kicking me he grabbed my foot and started kicking my knee backwards. I have a broken tibial plateu. I wish I would have left sooner.
@@Angela-u1l I'm sorry...
Gospel: Acts 2:38 Acts 22:16 Mark 16:16
Revelation 1:5 Hebrews 9:17*
1 Corinthians 11 (veil)
@@memoryrinehart thank you
The misery they project onto their partners is utterly horrendous, hey thanks for another good informative video 😊
I believe that this type of spiritual vampires and predators were prepared for these times in which we live now - times called the final times,
where evil takes on various extreme forms.
Those who believe in the victory of good must also know that the fight between good and evil has always been a fight to the death, which is why these fights are so painful and require tactics.
TRUTH AND GOODNESS is the Lord Jesus who stands up for us when our hands are already weak...🙏.
Thank you Paula for helping us to understand what narcissistic behavior is all about 💕
Amen
Einstein's definition of mental illniss is continuing going back to something believing it will magically transform into something else.change.
It's so illogical. They spend their whole life trying to control the false narrative about themselves through manipulation when the answer is there all along. We have the option as to the choices we choose to make, but no matter how choose ultimately God is in control.
And they get very nasty when they loose control over you. Because they don’t know what you will tell others about them. They will start controlling everyone around you, to save their reputation and their world built up on lies. They will tell everyone that you are a liar and crazy. So should you tell someone something about the narcissist, that they won’t believe you. This happened to me. I lost all family, friends and my reputation.
Pls teach the young to know about these evil people. Don't waste your life. I did...50 yrs ... 6 yrs free finally!
Yes but, isn’t it wonderful.
Good for you! Thank God!
Career narcs are the most dangerous they leave a trail of broken people and family's They lie right untill they depart this mortal coil lets hope karma gets them first
A long trail of broken home and family poverty too
so true
Amen to that
God doesn't even control us, hence free will of choice. However, there are consequences......good, bad, and indifferent.
If there really was free will, I would not remain in this Hell Realm. Still here.
My ex narc did not leave a loving relationship. On the contrary. For 20 yrs I went grey rock, realizing that he wasnt going to change. The last decade of the relationship I denied him sex and safety, threatening to leave him out of sheer despair. When he finally left with new supply, I felt guilty for pushing him away, but now I see how it couldn't have ended any differently. While Im grieving the lost years, a quarter of a century in a shared fantasy at best, a fake relationship at worst, Im healing faster than id have, had I provided him a loving relationship till the end. It has cost me, nonetheless.
Tell me about it 😢
❤ justice for Mica Miller❤ Let's remember, not everyone who deletes themselves are narcissistic. They could be coersivly controlled by a narcissist and see no other way out.
Paula, In my opinion, both people need to be in love before the partnership will work. When a NARC feels they are the perfect person, that partnership is in trouble from the start.. It can never work out. When a person is always looking for someone better, I do not think they know the true meaning of love. If your spouse hears the word cancer, and you start looking for someone better, you are not worth much as a human. They gave you a gift when they said goodbye.
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I don’t think so this is different
I feel that in order to love someone you have to love yourself. They don't love themselves. They hate themselves and everyone else.
Narcs are not able to fall in love so that would never be possible.
Paula you’re adorable.
“This is a bit rude”
In this application- PEEING in the wind is perfectly fine here🩵
im so unbothered. we had a family birthday dinner saturday and my covert narc mom was there. i sat at the other end of the table, left early, didnt speak and had a great time!
I don't see the man(child😉) anymore, blocked him and don't call him an ex- boyfriend. It was an learning experience, nothing more know. I became so much stronger🙏❤
This one really hit me💡
I do wanna say…
They are SO good at making everything look
Well…. Hunky Dori😬😂
You are extraordinary. I have been listening to your podcasts over the last 7 months of the shittiest time in my life after the end of a 24 year marriage to a narc. I listen through the night to your wisdom to help calm me and make sense of the crazy my ex wife has created in our lives and I am deeply grateful for what you do. Each episode has so much accuracy, insight and depth of understanding that it’s like you can see inside my world. I am not overstating it when I say you are a life saver. Your honesty and authenticity are a shining beacon and you have let the light get in. Thank you.
The light back in is everything sending you strength Rachel thanks for your message 🌹
So am I Paula. You’re a treasure and I would still be lost and traumatized out of my mind without you.
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I studied my narcs life and Paula is right,nothing will ever end well with the narc,it shaming sometimes when i think about it even though my narc did all dirt on me with her family but i see no good end for them and my narc
I had a lawyer to help me claim my money… I pulled out last minute. I know a narc living in their own head is worse than any law. I left it to KARMA.
Thank you Paula. They are so destructive, that they ultimately destroy themselves. Knowing how they operate, helps avoid being trapped into their toxic web. Yes, being black and white in their thinking is a big clue. Always needing to be right and knowing everything. I believe that they are not human, they don't have a heart. We need to be aware, and go by your intuition what feels right. Love and blessings from Australia. Big hug to Remy. xxx🥰😇🥰
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There are no exceptions this demon cheats
I have survived several narcissists starting with my parents. AFTER 70 odd years of this abuse, I studied NPD. Knowledge is power and wisdom is freedom. Never, ever going back! My response to the last one is the most powerful of all and it is SILENCE . AMEN.
Paula you are correct in stating, " He messed with the wrong woman". Now he has a criminal charge. Addictions ruin people one way or another. I'm on my own now.. away from all the toxic people holding me back. Dad died 2 months ago, so one permenantly removed. Now I'll spend the rest of my days writing, sharing the truth, traveling, and meeting my fellow empaths to lift each other up! I met 2 empaths here at the beach today! There's still hope for us good people! Thank you Paula for bringing light to this subject! 🙏
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God my father ,I need your hand for total deliverance from a narcissist to enjoy my life and family in Jesus mighty name.Amen
God fix it ,God solve it for there is no impossibility in you .Amen
We need to stop thinking about forgiving ...this word is used too much. Accepting what happened is enough.
Forgiving yourself is what the forgiveness part is, never forgiving the narc for the abuse.
@@wendylou8963 How can one forgive another for being sick, and acting out of that sickness? All one can do is pray they seek and receive heallth, but they don't, because they refuse to believe they are sick, az illness is abhorant to them, IRL. That's why so many abuse sick and elderly, or try to paint/smear "us" as sick. Pure projection and denial, unfortunately. But yeah, you have to forgive yourself, so you don't think you're just the sad sack sap they try to make you be. Don't get fooled/hoodwinked again! Live, learn, and be grateful for this deep knowledge o' ass't. species in the human zoo. ;);) TC
Thankyou.
Also the new age think..
That i chose this lesson.
This lesson almost took me out after 60 plus years of generations of abuse and betrayal by family.
I have learned to say "Hell no!"
And did.
Deception is evil.
I did not choose to experience deception.
When I found I had married a cold hearted con..
I ran around 10 months.
I'm free again.
Someone told me that I need to apologize to the narcissist and things will improve when I do. Apologize for what I wondered but realize the person handing out the advice has never really encountered a narcissist.
@@martyrose Yes, no one understands how cruel a narcissist is unless they've encountered one. A narcissist will use any means necessary to get their supply, and then when a victim refuses to be used anymore, they will somehow make it look like the victim is at fault. It's crazy-making. I hope you have good friends around you to support you during this time in which the narcissist and their flying monkeys (who may not even understand the darkness that you were dealing with!) are trying to hoover you back into the abuse. STAY FREE! Stay away. Stay with good people who understand what happened to you and can help protect you.
Ex Narcissist has a heavy addiction which he makes out he no longer has...in denial. I have finished with him now. Impossible to help him. So I now help myself.
Where do they find this boundless energy?
It's like they're riding on the back of the devil.
My narc mum is 82, physically disabled but has the energy that I've abuse in other Narcissists.
They seem to live longer than people who feel.
It's true, the best die young.
My mother has made me so angry with her abuse towards my father for years on end.
We are sorting out a resthome for her, so Dad can get some peace and quiet.
His heart has gone out of rhythm due to my mothers screaming abuse.
Im totally done with her....and my sister.
And I've been the target for Narcissists three times in my life, so my patience for them is nil.
My brother recently told me that I'm a good communicator yesterday.
He said my sister doesn't talk much and is poor at communicating.
I dont have any contact with my sister as she is a hollow mask and a self referencing joy sucker.
At least my youngest sibling is starting to realize that their are basic problems within our family.
Mum is always on my arse about something and is an abusive drama queen.
My sister is a sneaky, underhanded delusional control freak.
They are both different but both as difficult as each other.
I just want a quiet life of honest connections with good people.
45 minutes worth listening to it TWICE
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The narcissist have a hunger for acceptance and greed! They need to praise to be seen and heard! And of course from a new audience!!
Alex Murdaugh has become a PRIME example of ALL of what you speak here, Paula.......
Do you know if Murdaugh also cheated on his wife with other women? I heard he was just an extremely addicted drug addict who used financial schemes to get extra money for his out of control, self destructive drug addiction to pain killers.
I had a horrible boss named Elizabeth Murdaugh. She bullied and took advantage of people. Everyone had to be bullied into submission and became her flying monkeys. People had to buy her gifts or risk her wrath. She wasn't a boss, she was a tyrant. It was a very oppressive work environment. Peace, among other things was destroyed at that place. When I look at that name (Murdaugh), it sounds a lot like murder. Wonder if those two are related?
He told me that the reason he was so controlling is becasue he had no control of his life growing up and when he got away from his Narc father and all the abuse, he felt he had to be in control of everything and everyone...To keep safe. He couldn't trust anyone!
I think the hard part of losing someone you love in this type of situation is that it takes a while ( 4+ years for me so far ) to see how it all plays out.
They may be “ happy” with the new supply for a long time.
Mine left me for a very controlling female narcissist…. She decides everything.
I bought him out of our home…. He lives under her roof…. And has to behave and toe her line so she doesn’t kick him out.
He is getting his karma.
Many of our mutual friends who see them together tell me they can’t stand his new gf…. She is aloof and disinterested in anything that isn’t someone or something she wants to do or be around.
He’s her prisoner…. She is his warden.
God is seeing to it that he gets his just desserts.
If you see this whole thing as a spiritual journey, narcissists seem to be stuck in some very primitive realm where they can’t become unstuck or evolve. My departing instinctive thought with The Narc was: you are not going to get it right this time around. You will die in this condition and may or may not get another shot. Only a force much bigger than us knows that.
Yes!!!
Correct
My thoughts too
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That’s right, because God forgives everyone, including Narcissists, they only have to ask.
You have perfectly describe the mental torture I endured for years. This maniac of an ex husband I was with wouldn’t let me go down to the Mail room because he was intensely jealous. He wouldn’t let me walk across the street to the grocery store. He wouldn’t let me work out. He told my family I was “ just unable to control !!! “ without providing context which is how he swooned them into believing and validating his behaviour. I went crazy thinking I was being unreasonable.
Later when I asked to divorce he said he was trying to protect me and said anything could happen to me in the Mail room. He cried saying he saw his friends get raped and felt helpless that he couldn’t do anything .. literally what ?
I couldn’t believe my ears especially knowing all of his control tactics were no where CLOSE to being enforced for protection. I was in awe when he used that as an excuse because in those moments he was calling me a whore a slut everything even though I wore sweats to the gym.
My family believed him.
I still can’t believe how mental this man is and how crazy he has made me. The physical and mental abuse has changed me forever. But I won’t let this ruin my life forever.
Thanks Paula, nearly a year out of my entanglement with the narcissist , the more times passes, the more what a fractured broken person i see them to have been.
Coverts tend to get physically ill over time.
My covert/Malignant mother had multiple surgeries for illnesses. She was sick my whole life. At the end, she had no money, had no control over her body functions, was losing her hearing & sight. She was stuck on the second story of our house because she couldn't get up & down the stairs. She went about two months of not being able to eat solid food, then she went about three weeks of not being to eat anything. In her last two weeks she barely drink water. She died a horrible & painful death...alone! No one cared that my mother died.
Glad you made this video. People need to know Narcissists don't always get away with their bad behaviors...it just takes time.
I’ve chosen to forgive my narcissists. I’ve given them over to God, which set me free from the rage and has healed my heart in many areas. I’m still healing… My father died of pancreatic cancer. One is struggling to hang onto a man in her life who isn’t her husband. He has left her more than 6 times over the last 4 years. She will lose the last few people in her life. You see the ramifications of various narcissists within the public view. Look at Weinstein, Epstein, Ailes, all of the serial killers that have been apprehended. We are all blessed by our right choices and we suffer consequences for the wrong ones. A narcissist is the number one fan in their fan club of one. They end up alone. If they don’t repent, they will exist alone, eternally.
Often they end up like my creepy father, no friends, miserable, delusional and in shame.
Thank you Paula. I loved all the info this video was filled with. I left my narc husband almost 2 years ago because I caught him cheating. Now, I realize he probably always cheated. He stole lots of money over the years from me and his dad. He said there wasn’t anything wrong with taking our money. He lies! He is addicted to porn! He drinks and smokes weed now! He is angry all the time! How long can they go before they collapse or become sick? When I do see him, he looks worse every time. The path of destruction he created was huge! He had to leave the state to be excepted by people that have no idea who he really is. He continues to live a lie. He spends money on so much crap, he is constantly trying to buy happiness. He truly believes that whatever he buys next will give him so much happiness. It’s one high after the next. I am so grateful I saved myself!
"he is angry all the time" 😂👍
.. Sounds familiar to me.
The addictions and porn etc as well..
@@Miss5852-lotta is all this the same for you? They are so evil! It scares me now to know just how evil yet he had me in such a state that I thought he was normal.
@@sharonshepherd3728 oh yes, my perception was so disturbed as well.. Like hypnotized. Most beautiful, wonderful person on the planet with a hidden heart of pure gold 🫣🥴
I can only imagine that they end up a fractured OAP child with really shitty supply because anyone who lasts that long is going to be very bitter. What an awful existence. Paula, you’re ace my dear ❤️🌷
Wow your on point my ex who was the worst ive met is now living on the street a full blown junkie . And he has lost everything in cluding hes looks
The good news is for us. Most of us listening to these vids, know what to look for now, and have enough self care now to smile and walk away when one pops up. Like last year for me at church, noticed this person lied about some pointless stuff, when I said no to the littlest thing he was visibly angered and asked are you sure? Yep with a smile. Then it was sending me a pic of himself of just getting my number the day before. (Love bombing). Then noticed the black eyed stare one day. Then an attempt at intimidating me, these people are strange and completely unhinged. Smile and walk away with ANY new narc you meet. NO explanation, excuse needed.
Yep, I just met One about two weeks ago, he is a below knee amputee he claims it happened in the military, but I don’t believe him due to not having a disabled veteran tag, no medals nothing but an army shirt you can buy anywhere, and stuck some US flags on the back of his SUV, I think he’s too prideful to say how he lost his leg but you know Narcissists, and he was African too, but anyway, he blurted out What the F are you doing? Because I made a simple mistake. Yeah he supposed to be Christian etc. etc. talk to Talk but doesn’t want to walk but when he blurted that out to me, I already knew it was time for him to bounce amongst other things. He did like treatment, but I was so kind, but you know how it goes.
These people walk with a mirror hmm...All they see is themselves...Thanks lady❤
They are never happy so they are always looking for the next thing to make them happy, but it never happens for long, the happiness they may feel is fleeting.
Ends in hades, hell.
Another excellent video Paula you are so accurate ,
We send our best wishes
You are a great comfort to us
Thank you
They end up bitter in life, on their deathbed they will ask themselves" What did I do good"?
Be well, Paula and Remy.
What you sow you will reap iis straight out the bible😊
Measure for Measure. Also biblical
The real tragedy is when the narcissist doesn’t leave. They can hang on for decades, wearing down the person who continues to put up with them until they are a shell of their former self. I’ve seen this.
The behavior is hell and the persona is heaven.
They live in the flesh and mimic the spirit.
I think karma comes around. Last few yrs my ex husband wasn’t even respected by the hospital. He was so mean.
I didn’t even talk to him anymore for years. Just as a decent human being. It was done
Everything you have said resonates with me 💯
My narc ex steals at the hospital he works at. He's convinced he won't be caught, because he's done it for so long. What an idiot!
He may be an addict and an idiot but not npd…
They are the Victim or the Hero in Every Story they tell . Every.
The more we are aware of them the better for us.
Forgiveness is for us, not them
None of the Narcissists I have known, ex, family members…. none like to work. None could keep a job.
You make me sound like I'm the narcissist, as I'm now totally on my own, had high anxiety, suicidal thoughts and paranoid. But this was because of the abuse. I doubt I'll ever trust anyone ever again, and with regards to a relationship highly unlikely as I'm so damaged by this. 33 years for goodness sake, more than half my life!
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What confuses me is how we refer to the narcissist as the one who ends up alone and suicidal.
I have witnessed not just myself, but others who have endured these relationships… they end up not trusting, isolating themselves and being alone because they don’t want to be hurt anymore. They feel suicidal because of the damage that has been done. I’m sure there have been many suicides due to narcissistic abuse.
If anything, I’ve seen narcissists off living their best lives, surrounded by supply and not giving a damn. It shows how they have no attachment to the person and can just move on without a care in the world or any reflection on how they have treated someone. Once they have supply, they don’t care what happens to us… doesn’t even have to be a love interest… it can be family, new friends, a job… anything.
@HTHTNT77 100%! 👏 they just move on to someone who doesn't know..... happy healing sis 👑❤️
I was discarded after 12 yrs marriage with 2 kids. I was blamed for causing him to discard me. I laugh now that I’ve healed that I once blamed myself too. He also blamed the kids 4yrs and 10 yrs.
There was a new supply of course being groomed. I divorced him & he’s married new supply 5 months post divorce.
Thank you Paul for this amazing video.
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The narcissist's comeupance... I was angry for a long, long time. But when something (slightly) bad happened to her, I just had empathy for her. I'm out of the trauma bond, there is zero chance of reconciliation... I rejected several hoovers and flying monkeys. But I don't wish harm upon her. The way I see it... the desperation for attention that she >>needs
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A great way of putting it. a waste of a life
This is 100 percent true I am understanding all this after a painful discard
Hi Paula 👋😊😃🇱🇷 Illinois 🪻
Your home looks beautiful 😻!!
Her home really is beautiful.
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You are amazingly gifted. Ty for your support 💜🙂
Thank you for yours also…🌹
Spot ON again!