You cannot be around toxic people at all.2 Timothy ch 3 :5 you should have nothing to do with them. It is a death of a thousand cuts. Was married for 42 years
Thank you for the survival guide and for the online course information. Will be diving into them today. Just Want To Praise God's name! Saying thank you for showing christ-like concern and kindness to a stranger. I'm praying for this Channel and everyone involved may it be blessed and continue to help and lead to Jesus.
Finally someone who speaks truth. I have heard many pastors who told me it was because I had left doors open. Such ludacris.... its when we draw very close that we pose a threat to the realm of darkness.
I am in a narcissist marriage. I endured to the point that I felt I was either going to lose my mind and have a nervous breakdown or have a heart attack. Either way, I somehow knew I was going to lose my life. I prayed and prayed and one day in prayer the Lord spoke to me and told me to leave, and as hard as it actually was and as much as I felt my heart ripped in two, I left. That was a little over two years ago, and I know with no doubt, God saved my life.
All glory be to God! Your story is inspiring thank you for offering hope in God's plan. Just when it feels like my heart's going to break or I'm not going to make it. Jesus swoops in fills me with love, hope and faith. He reminds me that I have found what is good and it will not be taken from me. He reminds me that he has started a good work in me. He is my streangth and only hope❤💪🙏
You should pray for all of us who can't afford to leave these relationships, have no family or friends to go to, and exhausted all resources that won't help for years. Thank you.
If there isn’t a way out yet it’s because God isn’t done growing you. I am an orphan and don’t have anyone else other than my narc husband but God has made this my circumstance so that I could grow closer to Him. If you have no one start weeping to God and watch him work. It’s all I can do myself…
?.? I am 50 years married. I just found out what a narcissist is. I just talked to a Christian counsellor . You are spot on. At this stage in my life , I made the decision I am staying in my home, sleeping in MY bed, Not as asking permission or forgiveness for being who I am. We both are in mid to late 70s. Uprooting is not where I want to be. Now that I understand what a narcissist is, when he plays that hand,I smile. I think it sends him off guard.I-took his power away. Thank you for being so clear and Kind and scriptural. I will keep those who are not free to leave abuse like I am,in prayer. Thank you for making these podcasts. They have been a Godsend.
Same here, soon to be 44 years. Recently learning more about Narssicim. Mine, he is the Malignant Nares, one of the most dangerous. I am learning, & now knowing that I am not the one with issues.
Wow you are so str0ng!! I kept crumbling and I just couldn’t be that sly. I admire you and I wish I could have been strong enough to stay and “conquer him”.
@@laurenharper1510 it's not about conquering him. Dear lady, my heart breaks with you. It's not about strength or being sly. Be grateful slyness doesn't come easy for you. I had to learn it to survive, and pray it doesn't bleed into other parts of my life. This is not a job for you to conquer. THAT will be God, and believe me - what he will dole out will be exactly just and right. Your job is to love yourself and pray for discernment. To be closer with God, the beautiful side effect is that you are no longer conflicted on what's right and wrong. He's pulled the wool over your eyes, but remember we are HIS sheep, nobody else's. You are HIS daughter. Remember who you are, Who loved you before you were born, and loves you now and forever. It is unchanging. Does any other being, much less a goofy narcissist even come even close to that relationship? I write this to you as well as to myself. We have been embedded in long marriages where we've deferred to our husbands for so long, we don't know what's right from left. Let God guide you and he WILL give you strength. It may be a strength to endure for just a little while longer. It may just be a peace he can give while all the pieces come together. Don't force anything. Stay true to your nature. Let God do the talking.
I was in a narcissistic marriage 11/12yrs ago (for 10yrs) up until I got saved (God was an issue). I was single 7yrs and then attracted 2 different types of narcissist over 4/5yrs. After learning about narcissism I realised my parents were both narcs. To test it I tried to open up to my mum about some things she's said most recently that hurt me. I was accused of causing her poo (not her exact words) and that i should f'off and leave her alone, she's done! This isn't the first time I've heard that, but its the first time I've heard with my eyes open and I won't be running back to apologise when its I who is owed the apology. Unpacking the sheer amount of enabling I did as a kid that totally set me up for the abusive relationships I've attracted since is a lot. I had received the love of God and spiritual healing since being born again, but until I got the knowledge/understanding of narcissistic personalities I had no real idea of how broken I truly was and still am in many ways. If not for developing a sense of righteousness in Christ and basic self worth I wouldn't have learnt to set firm boundaries. I'm so grateful to these educating videos, especially from a Christian perspective! THANK YOU
20years I put up with shear Hell. The Lord carried me out of the house with my husband right there. I had no purse phone or ID on me. My husband didn't lay a hand on me. It looked like he was frozen. The police came to my aid when I walked 1.5 miles. I was crippled and broken. I was carried, by something unseen. Praise the Lord.
I went through a similar hell. Weighing 86 lbs. at the time of my escape- I dragged a duffle bag into a taxi- parked in front of the house. My husband at the time- just watched me. Almost as if he was enjoying "watching me struggle." Yeshua gave me the strength to get in that taxi. Yeshua gave me the strength to see the truth. I am free and becoming stronger every day. Get out NOW if you are entrapped, if you are able. Don't waste another day living in darkness!!! Your life is too precious.
My experience is when you mention God around a narcissistic person or give thanks to God they start to distance them self's as they start to realize you insist on putting someone above them they can't compete with .
Or they say lm an Atheist? I told my X not to take the poison v,. A X . He did with serious health issues... God has blessed me with protection all of my life..
When anyone says they are an atheist REALLY they just identify them self as a narcissist...no one is above them and they are never wrong...if you call them out they WILL have you removed so as you can't blow thier cover to anyone else (which they all ready do to themselfs)
My ex would say u praise God had especially in church bc u do so much sin u gotta ask for forgiveness. And in actuality Im praising God for his mercy and grace and asking God to help him bc he's the one doing everything wrong. He is sitting in jail right now for his narcissistic abuse among other thing
So true! It’s like what the guy says in the movie: War Room. In the scene where the cheating husband realized that his wife was getting support to fight against his nonsense, so he asked his best friend for help him. His friend said my dear if her defense is Jesus, I can’t help you coz I can’t go up against Jesus coz am no match for Him. Isn’t that powerful? Hence the scripture said that even demons tremble at His name/words🙏🏽
I saw the Red Flags 🚩 but i thought i could help her. She said she was loyal she said she was my best friend forever. But over 2 years she left me was never there when i needed her and i always was there for her. Gave away $250,000 to a narcissistic user. So praise God it didn’t go further but God is healing me. The little boy is getting the Love he never got. I am loving him.
The covert narc hated me because God is first in my life. The last i can remember was the smirks and the non stop passive aggressive silent treatment. I forgave him and just let God. 12 hours later i found him dead in his room. God indeed takes care of the faithful. Let go. Let God.
Narcissist can't truly be Christian cause they can't put Christ first, it's all about them and what they feel like they are getting by playing the part
I made excuses because the reality was too ugly. Once I got away, I found I felt so stupid and couldn't forgive myself. I have finally forgiven myself and am thankful to God for rescuing me.
I'm praising God for your freedom from bondage @!! Go With God and have faith that He will always be with you! God will Never leave You nor Forsake You!!! Amen!
That is me. I felt so bad for being so fooled. I feel that feeling of stupidity especially when some Job friend declare that they would NEVER be caught like I was. In other words they are smarter than me! 😢I am sorry I let God down. I know God has forgiven me and He has shown me, with love, how I even got here. I can't thank God enough for His faithfulness to me. Loving me when I was and are not loving myself the way I should. I'm happy for your deliverance. Stay in the process...I believe it will be worth it in the end. ❤
Yes, God is healing me while living with a narcissist. Learning to set boundaries with wisdom. Letting go of the ‘Hallmark Channel’ fantasies. Not fun but God is changing me into the person He created me to be. I am being set free in the storm.
I never realized how much I needed a Christian's input on narcissists. I am old and have had so many in my life. As a Christian, I did not know how to handle them. Thank you for opening my eyes. You are truly God sent.
That was me in a 30 uear toxic relationship with a covert narcissist who believes that his lies, job loss, and behaviors were all my fault. 1 month separated, and my blood sugars have come down so fast, and there is peace!
Type 1 diabetic here . Blood sugars are as sporadic as are my emotions and mentality. Dealing with spouse with narcissistic tendencies. So exhausted! Glad your blood sugars are more stable !!!
Thank you 🙏 so much, I am so appreciative of having you to show me all this. I have had difficulty thinking it was me or all my issues. So much abuse and toxicity. It's been 6 years. Working on me and taking care of my kids to heal and move forward.
The Lord helped me through the toughest time. I became emotionally detached and had to play the waiting game. We had to sell our house but I received the best advice to have escrow write two separate checks when house sold which was my out to take my kids and I away from my narcissistic husband. That was 20 plus years ago. Our lives have been blessed in so many ways since. Thank you Jesus!
Thank you! I was someone who thought I have no way out of my toxic relationship. I worked on strengthening my relationship with God, gaining better understanding of who I am and most importantly surrender that God has a plan. At some point I felt ready to make a change. I just didn’t know how. Help came from someone I didn’t expected. Yes, I had to let go of some perks in my life, some financial stability and convenience . The fear was creeping in every step of the way..” what if…” Today, 6 months later I look back and ask “ why didn’t I do it many years ago”. Perhaps I wasn’t ready. To all my brothers and sisters in Christ: believe me, there IS A WAY . With God every thing is possible!
I have had a narcissistic mother, 2 narcissistic husbands and a relationship with a diagnosed NPD (dishonourably discharged from the military). Until I went into therapy, started studying on the topic, and distanced myself from the narcissism, I finally learned how I was primed to believe I deserved abuse. I am 66, and I know that a healthy relationship is not in the cards for me, but I finally love myself, and treat myself as if I matter, and that is ok because I finally have peace.
They do! Put on a Religious mask like they are the most Righteous person. SO helpful to all the people in the church. While cheating them with overcharging them for supplies extra labor cost from his grandiose skills he thinks he gives!!! God will be the advenger! God will pay wrong for wrong!!!
🎉that is one of the best comments I have ever heard. Raised in the church, sexually abused as a pre-teen by church men, experienced more narcissistic pastors than Godly ones. The list goes on. Yes the church IS the narcs playground.
Absolutely, after 6 months no contact God is still revealing things I didn't realize we're lies and manipulation. It was absolutely worse than I thought. Every day I take that deep breath... hold it a second.. and realize I'm free. There is no elephant on my chest squishing the life out of me! Love your channel and Christian perspective! ❤
Kris thanks again for this blog and what u say my ex-wife narc she is or has played the victim card with everyone and everybody too me for alot of money 💰 and my time I was gaslighted,yelled and screamed at for over 17 years by this girl she is totally insecure and constantly Accused me of cheating when I was not Always creating chaos and confusion and drams always blame shited everything on me I gave too much money too her she took advantage of me and my kindness I'm empathic that's why,she held me prisoner in rooms screaming at at me we quite often,she used too too try too keep me fearful by threatening divorce or she was going too leave me I used too do everything around the house i cut the grass,cleaned up the pool,cleaned in the he house,the dishes,,cleaned in the house for her nothing was ever enough for her I gave her most of my money monthly check and when I worked when she got a really good job she treated me worse after that she thought she was above me then talked down too me and disrespected me was also jealous and envious of me she finally discarded me via a divorce no tears from her Nothing no empathy what so ever she cheated on me and I'm assuming she met someone at her job who had more money I'm glad she's gone no more fights or mental and emotional abuse and physical abuse I can see everything better now for what it was she was a covert Narc
I detached by reading library books, one of my joys. I also refused to be baited into an argument. It got worse but I am alive & that is a blessing. Also exercised my body according to what I can do at my age, and started eating healthier. And dived into the biblical teachings. God certainly showed me what I was dealing with. You are very correct in what you say.
These days we now have the blessings of earpods and headphones to listen to our music Even if the narc disconnects the internet signal, you can still have downloaded music on your device if you have a way to download
Losst my sister , lost an eye due to a doctors neglect, lost my brother tragicaly. Thought was true gentleman friend ends 24 year friendship. Realizing he was a narcicist. I'm grieving all by my self. I am lost. I know God is guiding me, he has a plan for me, but I cry a lot
So sorry for the grief you are feeling for so much loss. I’ll pray for you today to find new friends and to find a way to grieve in peace with no more hardships. God bless you ❤
@Beckysue7789... You are His beloved... You are not alone... You are so loved and cherished. Hide underneath His wings, hug The Lord tight, and know all of heaven is Fighting for you, JESUS Your Savior already defeated the enemy. He will restore EVERYTHING the enemy stole from you... Like Job, like Joseph. God bless you greatly.... You are His beloved in Jesus name!
Becky Sue, i know how much it hurts to have to leave someone you cared about so much. I went through this with a former boyfriend, and it almost destroyed me psychologically. I checked into a psychiatric hospital because i fell apart mentally. It is very difficult at first to feel ok. But, in time, you will cry less and slowly feel like yourself. Don't be hard on yourself. Reach out to friends and ask for support, go to God, and bear your soul to Him. Let yourself mourn over the death of your friendship. Also, learn from this breakup and ask yourself why you thought this person was good enough for you. This is what I did after i had time to cry my feelings out. My realization was that i grew up in a verbally abusive family that didn't praise or allow me to resolve issues in our dysfunctional family. There wasn't praise when i had successes in my life. So, i was looking for a man who would love and nurture the injured child in me. Now, i'm being loved by Jesus, and He has isolated me from others to heal my soul. Go to Him in prayer and ask for the support you need to look deep within yourself and find what is missing. When you begin to accept yourself as a child of the Lord, you will start to forgive yourself for all of the pain that came upon you and the other person who created it. Once you can let it go, you will heal and move on. It took me three years not to hate men after the terrible breakup of my relationship with my partner. I stayed away from all men, closed myself off, and didn't socialize throughout this period. It was a really hard time for me. But i'm glad i went through it. It taught me to embrace all of me....good and bad, and trust God with everything. Now, I put my faith and hope in Jesus Christ. Whatever path He wants me to take, I obey. You will be ok eventually. Give yourself a break from others for a while, and go inward. This is your time to heal and learn from this. God will give you strength even in despair. I promise. May you be blessed by the Lord. He loves you very much. Remember that. 🙏🙇♀️✝️💕🕊
I think so Lord that he allowed me to leave a 33 year marriage that has so many twist in terms. Living with a narcissist drag you down to the point that you don’t want to live. Luckily was God‘s help. I fought my way back up, it is so wonderful not living like that any longer. Maria lynn
I’ve been struggling in my 17 year marriage for almost the entire time before I “woke up” about 5 years ago & started setting boundaries which of course has made things worse in our marriage. Im still struggling with the biblical reasons to end my marriage which is when God out your channel in front of me. (I am not normally one who scrolls through social media). I’m very thankful God put your channel in front of me because this past year I believe God has put almost all of these signs in front of me-God provided an opportunity for me to ‘leave’, we are living in two different states, I have experienced many blessings this last year while God had been revealing more and more about him. Even through all this, I am still married because I am struggling with biblically justify divorcing him. Especially since divorcing seems very selfish 😢
Everytime I discern a narcissistic partner and end the relationship, I get attacked brutally for a few weeks by random people and circumstances. Every single time. However afterwards, I get blessed emensely by God for enduring. You cannot remain near toxic people.
It took me becoming a mom and wanting better for my child, for me to finally hear God's still, quiet voice - telling me that my child and I deserved better than where we were stuck 🙏. If not for becoming a mom, I would have likely stayed even longer in abuse because I did not feel very valuable or worthwhile before God giving me a purpose outside of myself 🥹🥲🥰
It would have been 37 years tomorrow. I left two months ago after it turned violent and he hurt me. He went to jail and I finally got help. I am homeless jobless and alone, but Im safe.
You are not alone, 36 long years in two months. In the beginning, I did not see the side he kept hid very well until after the marriage. Then slowly he began to de-mask revealing his true self, but kept hoping and praying he would change (since we were Christians). I knew something was wrong, but did not understand what was happening. I kept hoping for change, telling myself I’m staying because of the kids, I needed his financial resources to take care of the kids, he knew it too that’s why he was so satisfied in knowing I was trapped, but that was a mistake. I just could not see my way out with children having no support system. I got away 20 yrs ago., moved back home and was about to take a job, but he showed up to bring us back, he was so kind and that he missed us, the children were young they were glad to see their dad, I went back. But It never gets better, after a few months of kindness the crazy behavior began again, the yelling, gaslighting, name calling, cursing, the nothing you do satisfies them, the emotional neglect, the silent treatment, the threats, raised fist, but during all this I could here the LORD says show him No Fear, that’s how I survived it. After the children were in school, I took a job to help get financial support and to help out the household and things children need, education and such and tried to save a few dollars. I beg for us to go to marriage counseling. Not until 3 years ago I stumbled on this article about narcissism, all the symptoms he met. I felt good knowing that this was what I was suffering, this is wickedness. Finally after years of emotional, verbal, mental, abuse, I knew it would end with physical abuse, and it did, after being physically attacked. I then told the LORD (who was probably waiting on me), get me outta here, that afternoon, I was gone from the house, made a police report and not looking back. A month later after I found a place for us. I went back to the house and moved some of my things into my new place while he was at work. Now that I am free five months, I have had so much calm and peace. I was able to get a quick non contested divorce, and really do not want anything more, the price is worth my freedom and peace. Not sure about my future, but I shall trust GOD with that too, not looking back.
@@dorothywest2053 Yes, I tried many times to find out where my problems were coming from, tried to find good counseling and they seemed to ignore basics and morals and rely on find points and blarney language. And pharmaceuticals. (Trying to shut you up because they can't figure out real solutions either.) I had to be desperate but not looked at churches and found a lot of help. I guess I had to live my life to the point where I needed help AND believed I could get it. That's when people started making more sense. And it was free. I learned that a lot of people say they'll help but they just want to get paid and "live their best life now".
My wife had me believing everything was my fault and I fell for the enemies lies. I saw the red flags but was too timid to say anything about it. I was so deceived, but God is revealing a lot of what I swept under the rug. We are separated and I can now see how she’s been planning all this for years. The events that have progressed, how I’m being alienated from my daughters and a multitude of other things. We have no biblical grounds for divorce but she is convinced that’s what needs to happen. I’m now guarding my heart.
Actually there is biblical grounds for a divorce. When you look up what a revolver is in the Bible, we are told not even to eat with such a person... The church has kept many destructive marriages together and totally missed this. Look up revilers in the dictionary and all its synonyms. That's what you're probably dealing with.
I did not even know that I had been abused until - I picked up a little pamphlet at a hospital. Wow! I had been divorced 2 years until I started walking up.
now I know why the door slammed so loud just before religious narc was up to their evil shannanigans in church. Door slammed shut, no going back to their gaslighting narc baiting and picking fights and crossing boundaries. When one door shuts many others will open
After 25 years of living with a narcissist, and now looking back 12 years later, and really delving into what I was living with. Wow you don’t know how bad it is until you on the outside.
I see myself as a soldier of GOD. There is nothing before or after him in importance. I have gone through incredible bad hardship yet succeeded over all. Though I worked hard to overcome problems I believe God and his son walked with me all the way.
Pray for me to a way of escape too! I'm 77 y old, 45 years married alone, emotional abuse I had to get Brain Echo for stree fitness & emotional abuse treatments for 5 years to date.
Just breaking up with narcissist yesterday. Again. So stressed out but disgusted. Your message really hit home. And I know I’m truly done this time. I got flowers this morning as I knew he would do but I feel nothing because they really mean nothing. Thank you!!
Most of the time they do send flowers and gifts to “Hoover” you back in. It may happen 6 days, 6 weeks or even 6 months later. But it almost always happens because it works to suck you back in.
@@romancecatsandwhimsy Yep, I got sucked back in, there had been such trauma and so severe I couldn't even remember it. I thought this person was really good deep down, he wasn't even religious. I was used to religious people being the scary evil jerks. He wasn't, that's why I kept going back. Haha, he was religious alright, but an actual 😈 worshipper. And a "hooverist", unspeakably evil. Oh well, he will pay the eternal Price. What a *#@&$#*^€§@$&! Glad to be rid of that gigantic stinking 'teurd'. Sounds like I'm a terrible hater now, but I'd rather be that than someone who just doesn't care.
Hello, i am so sorry for u🙏🙏🥺🥺 Ive had same thing again and again after even physical abuse, last time was insane but he kept doing so many good things flowers flowers etc. and it happend again🥺 so dont go back never he will never change unless magic🥺🥺🥺
My Grandma and my sister is a spiritual Narcissist, I always knew things were not quite right. Never knew of Narcissists, I do now. I never realized just all what I were thru. I told my sister I gave her 59 years of grace and know I am giving it to my self. Self Care
I'm at the positive changes stage. I have distanced myself from my husband for over a year and a half. I have no feelings for him. It is so liberating.
The one thing that is rarely recognized is the fact that love is stronger than death, and for the believer we can even have a healthy love; and hope that creates immense heartache. Also, we are holding out for change! "...Love bears all things, believes all things." Our godly attitude causes us to endure longer and suffer more!
I too wanted to forgive biblically and I endured over forty years of marriage. I only learned after his death how negatively my children were impacted. In the last ten years my character has completely changed and I am popular, funny, ( I’ve discovered a sense of humour!) Am I glad I stayed? Was the heartache worth it? My relationship with the Lord became so deep in that time. He was all I had and He constantly ministered to me. So yes. I’m glad I stayed. Financially I had no alternative.
OHMYGOSH!! My 2 sons 40 and 34 have been verbally and emotionally abusive for years and years tellingly me I was the “psychopath” and now after years of therapy, I was finally able to say NO set boundaries and stop the abuse. Unfortunately I did loose the ability to see my grandsons and it’s a lot of pain that I had to accept to live a healthier life!🥺🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@theresaalbano4363 Although you can never replace your Grandchildren there’s a good chance that you can still give your love to them. The Lord can find your strength and good character and use you to help children grow. Maybe your Grandchildren can eventually benefit from our special gifts. Surely there’s a need in your community for people who care to share time and talents with children.
My daughter cut me off from her 5 daughters. She is a daddy's girl. My ex is a toxic narc. I was married and trapped by him for 33 years. I have been divorced now for 13 wonderful years.
‘Demonic enabling…’ I’ve always just moved forward (grace) but here recently, I’ve asked God to reveal to me when to standup and to cover me from the attacks that may come, from seeking justice. In Jesus Name!!!!
You are the first female counselor who bases what you say on the Bible that I have found! You are a blessing!! God has put you in my life at the right time❤
I wish I could find people like her in my real life. I grew up in a toxic, abusive and alcoholic family. The parents drank, all their friends drank excessively, so all the kids of all the parents drank, and there were just so many issues. So many lies so much toxicity. It was a community of drunks. A city of alcoholics. When you try to break away from something like that, everyone hates you and calls you crazy.
Hey, I am as well. I will pray for your healing. Anxiety is a form of worry. Sorry you had to go through those terrible issues, Satan uses Narcs to get us into anger, bitterness and anxiety.
@@mog5630 So true and being your best self exposes them since they lie and cheat their way through life. Be the shining light that exposes all their darkness. It'll make them crawl under a rock in shame once you take your power back. God will give it you just ask Him. in Jesus name.
Thank You Kris, Jesus used you to take the blinders off, I was a magnet for Narcissist but I didn't even know what a Narc was until I watched your channel. Wow I'm 54 years old...lol Freedom! Wisdom!
I've been a target all my life and I recently trusted an old man at church for rides to the bank and store,then he started calling me every hour and then reached out and grabbed my arm in front of the whole church...I already have major trust issues..
@@glendaschilder3048 I've had that sort of experience. Simone popped right up and told me she'd read that sometimes we are with someone "for a season, for a reason". And then we aren't. I had a friend who was both good and bad finally couldn't be there for the bad. I felt guilty, but couldn't go back. I sincerely prayed for the person as best I could, to get saved because he seemed like he wasn't close enough to God. Turns out he had a disease from childhood that got the best of him, rather young, a few years after I lost contact. More years later, I had a dream where he contacted me saying the reason why he was really mean sometimes. I think the information was accurate, and I felt better, knowing he'd just made a mistake as I have many times. I keep hearing that people say in near death experiences that this is how the Spirit world operates. Or as I heard growing up many times, "the Lord works in mysterious ways". But you do find out later on that it's for your benefit or someone else's.
Finally after 29yrs, I was let go. I was free!! That was 17yrs ago. I feel like I'm still recovering. I aimed to be the Proverbs 31 woman and for many years thought every marriage was like mine. The Lord had it all planned in His perfect timing after the kids left for college. I will be forever grateful! I'm so glad I came across your channel. I look forward to some great education!!
Wow mab God can do that for my Daughter, Naomi Akiko Demers pls pray 4 her she's a survivor I think in a 20yr relationship, when she was a lil girl she used to sing "Iam a conquered, I'm victorious I'm reigning with Jesus...I'm praying God still can touch her heart to return to God, Jesus thru Holy Spirit...
That's me. I asked God why isn't my marriage getting any better after 18.5 years. Please show me what is the problem It was like our God, through Jesus, said I'm glad you asked. I've been trying to tell you That's when I was led to this podcast and others Letting this man go was life-changing. I now love God and myself more!
So TRUE ‼️ My adult child is very abusive, I'm finally able, through therapy, prayer, a support group to back off, she's broken my heart yrs, and for my granddaughter I have tolerated my daughter's Godless behaviors. I'm so grateful I discovered your channel, God has led me to.
Thank you for eloquently describing God's gifts of grace during chaotic seasons of fighting the evil spirits that some people hide and carry into relationships.
While I was living with my boyfriend's family, I went through all of what you just described. Glory to God that he showed me his father's true character and I could set myself free!
For me it was never a feeling of relief. I was devastated. My marriage gone forever with the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. It’s been 13 years and the hurt is still there. But then I guess if he had been physically abusive or yelled at me continuously I may have been happy to see him go. Everything was so beautiful accept for the infidelity, lies and gaslighting. Not to mention making me feel like less of a person I’ve educated myself on the narcissist. It doesn’t heal the hurt but it allows me to understand why our relationship would never work and how I need to put those boundaries in place. However, God has helped me get through it and has brought me closer to Him.
Thank you for the video. The red flags have been waving for a long time and the more I lingered, the more flags come up. The more I think things will change and get better or are getting better, the worse it gets. The flags are redder and bigger. 🤦🏾♂️
#2 is tough when it is a parent. It's difficult to think that any parent would discard their child. I'm so grateful for that gift, though. God certainly knows what we need when we need it. Leaning on our perfect heavenly Father is so much better than having unrealistic expectations of earthly parents. ❤
Education, knowledge, and understanding was the door of freedom. Narcissism is a form of living death. I didn’t realize how powerful these individuals were. Both narcissistic individuals in our family married into a family of empathetic people. My sister and son are perfect flying monkeys. I live freedom but my heart still hurts deeply.
I am at the phase of realizing how bad it was. I stopped talking with my mother 2 months ago and it’s been extremely hard. Hard because at first I felt very guilty, but just the other day the guilt lifted. I realized most of my life I have been guilt tripped non stop. I was always shamed for the most ridiculous things. So it had been hard to go through realizing that I’m ok, and I do not have get defensive for everything trying to protect myself. That’s where freedom has come in. I’m just starting to see the changes in my attitude and looking over the last month and a half I can now see some healing which is so encouraging. Especially when you can see progress. That helps so much to keep going. Once the guilt is gone it gets easier for sure. I am so grateful now and for my future.
I left a very toxic relationship about 4 years ago I lost everything I owned now I'm homeless I'm trying to start over and I'm currently trying to get a place of my own it has been very difficult and slow but the main thing is it's in a working progress I've been removing toxic people from my life
I might still be in relationship with my narcissistic older sister if God hadn't suddenly provided me with a wonderful Christian friend - unexpected support!🙏
I'm still living the nightmare today. I've stepped back and have seen how bad this really is showing up in my life. It's so toxic and Together 9 years this past May and I'm feeling so lost. I'm dealing with the lying, the flying monkeys, the chaos, the gaslighting, the cheating, and drama amongst other things going on. I'm exhausted and we live together I have tried to get him to leave he isn't ready though I've learned. I'm codependent all the way and I feel like there is some trauma bonding going on. God is on my side I feel it in my blood. He is helping me get through but I'm scared of him. I just found your videos and plan on watching them as much as possible while he is gone to work. Thank you..
You are such a blessings! I have been with a narcissist for 34 years. He never was physically abusive until 3 months ago. It was a wake up call for me. After years of chaos, infidelity, etc, we are separated. God has given me so much support and peace. I'm not secure financially, but i know who owns the cattle on a thousand hills.
Took me over 8 years after the divorce from a narcissist to realize I was married to one. I didn’t have a name for it, but he was definitely a psycopath narcissist! I was hooked up until 4 years ago! These people are truly SICK, only God can heal them. I pray for every person who is Ina relationship with these kind of people. God bless!
My two younger toxic sisters … I know who they are… I accept who they are… I understand their emotional struggles and pain… I ask God to bring me Peace Safety Respect and Love… I pray God will take care of them with Justice and protect me from harm the evil and the wicked ♥️…God is saying to me “Let them go and I will take care of them!”💞
Thank you! I needed this. I am a survivor from parents, siblings, ex husband (after 30 years of marriage) and my adult daughter. Have always blamed myself for not being better. I am trying so much but see now I have to be different, not better for them. I miss my grandsons. All Praise and Glory to the Almighty, I know he will always be with me.
All things ARE definitely possible with GOD. I've been stuck for 50 years with no hope of leaving until a few months ago and in a very neat way. Because of my husband's spending I had no way of making it on my own, but recently a friend mentioned needing a roommate if she rented an apartment yet couldn't afford it on her own. Jokingly I said, 'me???'. She immediately said YES!! Now we're waiting for the ok to rent a place. After all these years of praying for release from my toxic environment, GOD has answered. I'm not looking for a divorce or another husband, simply peace. The answer finally came and I have a peace about it, although I don't want to hurt anyone and this action will likely have an effect on a lot of people. That is the most difficult part. I love that you pray during your video. I sure do appreciate that!!
And he has memory laps and can't remember even leaving things burning on the stove and blaming it on me I use to make excuses but now that I know I call it out to him what he's doing and he still tries to gaslight me by switching up the lie and turning it around back to me I keep a lot of what he has done 👍
After almost 6 years of "waiting" for him and loving him n forgiving him over n over....I became totally exhausted. I asked God please please give me a sign if I should not be with him. Give me the eyes and wisdom I need to see your sign. The very next week, sign after sign after sign. The final sign was him screaming at me in public restaurant for not ordering the correct food. I woke up the next day, waited for him to leave. Texted him I'm done and cannot do this anymore and then blocked him on everything!! I'm now experiencing sadness, anger and peace! Peace n quiet!!😊💕Thank you Jesus!!
Kris, I love your prayers. You pray for things I think about but can't put them into prayers like you do. Our God is so loving to use you to help give me the right words to pray
Let life and let go of narcissism.. and never oiwn up the door again for a narc..dont even give the narc an umbrella if you first realize that a narc virus is close to you.. save yourself from any narc and live your own life with love and care, awareness and clearness
Your videos are a blessing!!! God's best blessings and thank you for the wisdom and encouragement you share. God has blessed you to help others. You speak truth, God's truth!!!! I'm so so so so thankful to have found you . 23 years with a narcissist, trying to rebuild my life! Thank you Kris❤
I knew it was toxic - but after I allowed God to really open my eyes - it was worse than i thought or had imagined. this man knew exactly what he was doing. I am convinced.
That was totally me. 7 years and blew through ever red flag. Tried to change someone before realizing that was never gonna happen. Thanks you have helped alot.
I thank you so for this video! It seems like God wanted me to hear this VERY message. I have an old friend of 30 years and I am re-thinking this relationship now. I simply do not want to be around her anymore; I cannot believe I put up with her regular drama and disrespect for so many years. Your ministry is helping me to heal and I thank you for that. I want mature, Godly women only in my life now.
Thank you so much for these videos. Six years ago I didn't know what a Narcissist was. Through your videos, I've been finding strength but also coming to the realization of the many, many toxic habits I have developed over the years. It's heartbreaking and humbling but also liberating bringing these issues to the Lord and realizing it's not just my ex-wife that was the narcissist. It's not just my son's. It's me too. I can't control anyone else. All I can do is humble myself before the Lord and ask him for change, but it breaks my heart to know that many of these things triangulation love bombing blame shifting. The more I listen to you talk about narcissism the more I realize. Oh my God that's me. That's me, I'm the problem and it makes me so sad to think that I'm hurting my loved ones, my kids and everyone around me. Thank you for your videos. Keep them coming!!
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You cannot be around toxic people at all.2 Timothy ch 3 :5 you should have nothing to do with them. It is a death of a thousand cuts. Was married for 42 years
Thank you for the survival guide and for the online course information. Will be diving into them today. Just Want To Praise God's name! Saying thank you for showing christ-like concern and kindness to a stranger. I'm praying for this Channel and everyone involved may it be blessed and continue to help and lead to Jesus.
Thank you so much, replied but it went below.
@@TimothyFreeman-iy8xl thank you for sharing scripture as well as your story. Prayers that you are healed and whole. 🙏
I appreciate you guys for positive feedback.
The closer you get to God the more the devil will throw at you.
So true, remove the evil one from your life!
Finally someone who speaks truth. I have heard many pastors who told me it was because I had left doors open. Such ludacris.... its when we draw very close that we pose a threat to the realm of darkness.
So true!
Amen & Amen
Amen ❤
I am in a narcissist marriage. I endured to the point that I felt I was either going to lose my mind and have a nervous breakdown or have a heart attack. Either way, I somehow knew I was going to lose my life. I prayed and prayed and one day in prayer the Lord spoke to me and told me to leave, and as hard as it actually was and as much as I felt my heart ripped in two, I left. That was a little over two years ago, and I know with no doubt, God saved my life.
I hope you are doing much better now ❣️
All glory be to God! Your story is inspiring thank you for offering hope in God's plan. Just when it feels like my heart's going to break or I'm not going to make it. Jesus swoops in fills me with love, hope and faith. He reminds me that I have found what is good and it will not be taken from me. He reminds me that he has started a good work in me. He is my streangth and only hope❤💪🙏
I hope all is well,It is awful.I know the feeling .I would be dead if she did not leave,terrible experience.Bless You
I was married to a Narcissist 28years and God is still working on me Helping me heal!!!
What were some of your sufferings? Just curious to compare what I'm going through. Sometimes I think I should be able to endure.
When a narc is being silent find it as a blessing..
They may not be silent behind your back!😯
Worst they might be contemplating in how to get rid of you without putting self in trouble
@@maridonis542Exactly. I have had a few 'accidents' in the company of a certain person!
@@LibbySlaughter101 always smile, they hate it.
Hallelujah!!
You should pray for all of us who can't afford to leave these relationships, have no family or friends to go to, and exhausted all resources that won't help for years. Thank you.
@@UnityLove-tj3qg you can’t afford to *not* leave! Where there’s a will, there’s a way. It’s something to think about….
If there isn’t a way out yet it’s because God isn’t done growing you. I am an orphan and don’t have anyone else other than my narc husband but God has made this my circumstance so that I could grow closer to Him. If you have no one start weeping to God and watch him work. It’s all I can do myself…
Don't give up pray❤❤❤❤
Prayers sent 🔥
?.? I am 50 years married. I just found out what a narcissist is. I just talked to a Christian counsellor . You are spot on. At this stage in my life , I made the decision I am staying in my home, sleeping in MY bed, Not as asking permission or forgiveness for being who I am. We both are in mid to late 70s. Uprooting is not where I want to be. Now that I understand what a narcissist is, when he plays that hand,I smile. I think it sends him off guard.I-took his power away.
Thank you for being so clear and Kind and scriptural.
I will keep those who are not free to leave abuse like I am,in prayer.
Thank you for making these podcasts. They have been a Godsend.
Thank you. You are my hero!
Same here, soon to be 44 years. Recently learning more about Narssicim. Mine, he is the Malignant Nares, one of the most dangerous. I am learning, & now knowing that I am not the one with issues.
Wow you are so str0ng!! I kept crumbling and I just couldn’t be that sly. I admire you and I wish I could have been strong enough to stay and “conquer him”.
God bless you
@@laurenharper1510 it's not about conquering him. Dear lady, my heart breaks with you. It's not about strength or being sly. Be grateful slyness doesn't come easy for you. I had to learn it to survive, and pray it doesn't bleed into other parts of my life. This is not a job for you to conquer. THAT will be God, and believe me - what he will dole out will be exactly just and right. Your job is to love yourself and pray for discernment. To be closer with God, the beautiful side effect is that you are no longer conflicted on what's right and wrong. He's pulled the wool over your eyes, but remember we are HIS sheep, nobody else's. You are HIS daughter. Remember who you are, Who loved you before you were born, and loves you now and forever. It is unchanging. Does any other being, much less a goofy narcissist even come even close to that relationship?
I write this to you as well as to myself. We have been embedded in long marriages where we've deferred to our husbands for so long, we don't know what's right from left. Let God guide you and he WILL give you strength. It may be a strength to endure for just a little while longer. It may just be a peace he can give while all the pieces come together. Don't force anything. Stay true to your nature. Let God do the talking.
1 unexpected support
2 closed doors
3 persistent red flags
4 positive changes, after distancing yourself
5 exposure of facades
THANK YOU!
Praises
@@syebethel Thank you!
I was in a narcissistic marriage 11/12yrs ago (for 10yrs) up until I got saved (God was an issue). I was single 7yrs and then attracted 2 different types of narcissist over 4/5yrs. After learning about narcissism I realised my parents were both narcs. To test it I tried to open up to my mum about some things she's said most recently that hurt me. I was accused of causing her poo (not her exact words) and that i should f'off and leave her alone, she's done! This isn't the first time I've heard that, but its the first time I've heard with my eyes open and I won't be running back to apologise when its I who is owed the apology. Unpacking the sheer amount of enabling I did as a kid that totally set me up for the abusive relationships I've attracted since is a lot. I had received the love of God and spiritual healing since being born again, but until I got the knowledge/understanding of narcissistic personalities I had no real idea of how broken I truly was and still am in many ways. If not for developing a sense of righteousness in Christ and basic self worth I wouldn't have learnt to set firm boundaries. I'm so grateful to these educating videos, especially from a Christian perspective! THANK YOU
PTL! Praise the Lord!
20years I put up with shear Hell. The Lord carried me out of the house with my husband right there. I had no purse phone or ID on me. My husband didn't lay a hand on me. It looked like he was frozen. The police came to my aid when I walked 1.5 miles. I was crippled and broken. I was carried, by something unseen. Praise the Lord.
Where did you end up, did you go to a friend or family members house?
30 here
Over 26 years
@@debbieheidrick3682 we're kindred spirits.💗
I went through a similar hell. Weighing 86 lbs. at the time of my escape- I dragged a duffle bag into a taxi- parked in front of the house. My husband at the time- just watched me. Almost as if he was enjoying "watching me struggle." Yeshua gave me the strength to get in that taxi. Yeshua gave me the strength to see the truth. I am free and becoming stronger every day. Get out NOW if you are entrapped, if you are able. Don't waste another day living in darkness!!! Your life is too precious.
My experience is when you mention God around a narcissistic person or give thanks to God they start to distance them self's as they start to realize you insist on putting someone above them they can't compete with .
Or they say lm an Atheist?
I told my X not to take the poison v,. A X . He did with serious health issues... God has blessed me with protection all of my life..
When anyone says they are an atheist REALLY they just identify them self as a narcissist...no one is above them and they are never wrong...if you call them out they WILL have you removed so as you can't blow thier cover to anyone else (which they all ready do to themselfs)
So true, I couldn't understand this concept until now
My ex would say u praise God had especially in church bc u do so much sin u gotta ask for forgiveness. And in actuality Im praising God for his mercy and grace and asking God to help him bc he's the one doing everything wrong. He is sitting in jail right now for his narcissistic abuse among other thing
So true!
It’s like what the guy says in the movie: War Room. In the scene where the cheating husband realized that his wife was getting support to fight against his nonsense, so he asked his best friend for help him. His friend said my dear if her defense is Jesus, I can’t help you coz I can’t go up against Jesus coz am no match for Him. Isn’t that powerful?
Hence the scripture said that even demons tremble at His name/words🙏🏽
I saw the Red Flags 🚩 but i thought i could help her. She said she was loyal she said she was my best friend forever. But over 2 years she left me was never there when i needed her and i always was there for her. Gave away $250,000 to a narcissistic user. So praise God it didn’t go further but God is healing me. The little boy is getting the Love he never got. I am loving him.
When I distanced from a toxic friend after seeing her dishonesty and insensitivity, I felt my peace & joy return. Amazing.
The covert narc hated me because God is first in my life. The last i can remember was the smirks and the non stop passive aggressive silent treatment. I forgave him and just let God. 12 hours later i found him dead in his room. God indeed takes care of the faithful. Let go. Let God.
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You are truly blessed. Letting God..
Christian narcissists are so subtle. They use scripture, and sound pious. But they show you no support, and compassion .
Become self righteous!
Scripture out of context too. They are legalistic deliberately. Not genuine.
Go figure that.
Narcissist can't truly be Christian cause they can't put Christ first, it's all about them and what they feel like they are getting by playing the part
So true. Been there
I made excuses because the reality was too ugly. Once I got away, I found I felt so stupid and couldn't forgive myself. I have finally forgiven myself and am thankful to God for rescuing me.
I'm praising God for your freedom from bondage @!! Go With God and have faith that He will always be with you! God will Never leave You nor Forsake You!!! Amen!
I felt immense shame, too, and was unable to forgive myself when I got out from a relationship with an overt narc.
That is me. I felt so bad for being so fooled. I feel that feeling of stupidity especially when some Job friend declare that they would NEVER be caught like I was. In other words they are smarter than me! 😢I am sorry I let God down. I know God has forgiven me and He has shown me, with love, how I even got here. I can't thank God enough for His faithfulness to me. Loving me when I was and are not loving myself the way I should. I'm happy for your deliverance. Stay in the process...I believe it will be worth it in the end. ❤
Yes, God is healing me while living with a narcissist. Learning to set boundaries with wisdom. Letting go of the ‘Hallmark Channel’ fantasies. Not fun but God is changing me into the person He created me to be. I am being set free in the storm.
God exposes the person but many times we ignore it.
@@SharonWallace-um1pf True, Jesus help me to trust and obey the Holy Spirit and not my flesh. Amen
Very true
Their abuse does not define us
I never realized how much I needed a Christian's input on narcissists. I am old and have had so many in my life. As a Christian, I did not know how to handle them. Thank you for opening my eyes. You are truly God sent.
Be careful of making idols
I totally understand and have also endured these types of people most my adult life.
I didn't see a Christian I saw a very intelligent woman
@@faysmith7248 I see both.
That was me in a 30 uear toxic relationship with a covert narcissist who believes that his lies, job loss, and behaviors were all my fault. 1 month separated, and my blood sugars have come down so fast, and there is peace!
Type 1 diabetic here . Blood sugars are as sporadic as are my emotions and mentality. Dealing with spouse with narcissistic tendencies. So exhausted! Glad your blood sugars are more stable !!!
Forty years here and I hear you loud and clear. Haven’t left yet but suspect I may be soon. Glad you have found some peace.!
Thank you 🙏 so much, I am so appreciative of having you to show me all this. I have had difficulty thinking it was me or all my issues. So much abuse and toxicity. It's been 6 years. Working on me and taking care of my kids to heal and move forward.
May you be blessed with 30 years of peace, health, and joy! 🙏🏾 May God give you back what has been taken away from you. God bless you
They all have the same play book. My ex narc said the same thing. Blamed me for his failures
I'm like Houdini when people start acting crazy, jealous, toxic and miserable: here one minute, gone the next.
Yes Lawd 🙌🙌....We don't have time for playing!....Wish 'em well & bounce ✌️
😂😂😂😂 Amen!!! Once the Lord open your eyes, you can't unseen it!!!
This is true
The Lord helped me through the toughest time. I became emotionally detached and had to play the waiting game. We had to sell our house but I received the best advice to have escrow write two separate checks when house sold which was my out to take my kids and I away from my narcissistic husband. That was 20 plus years ago. Our lives have been blessed in so many ways since. Thank you Jesus!
Thank you!
I was someone who thought I have no way out of my toxic relationship. I worked on strengthening my relationship with God, gaining better understanding of who I am and most importantly surrender that God has a plan. At some point I felt ready to make a change. I just didn’t know how. Help came from someone I didn’t expected. Yes, I had to let go of some perks in my life, some financial stability and convenience . The fear was creeping in every step of the way..” what if…”
Today, 6 months later I look back and ask “ why didn’t I do it many years ago”. Perhaps I wasn’t ready.
To all my brothers and sisters in Christ: believe me, there IS A WAY . With God every thing is possible!
Thank you for such an encouraging comment. God bless you.
Your videos are blessing me so very much! Thank you...and thank you Yeshua for guiding me to Kris's videos.
I have had a narcissistic mother, 2 narcissistic husbands and a relationship with a diagnosed NPD (dishonourably discharged from the military). Until I went into therapy, started studying on the topic, and distanced myself from the narcissism, I finally learned how I was primed to believe I deserved abuse. I am 66, and I know that a healthy relationship is not in the cards for me, but I finally love myself, and treat myself as if I matter, and that is ok because I finally have peace.
Lots of them in the military too....
Peace is also all that I'm looking for now. I'm 64 y/o. You inspire me to not lose hope. Be blessed.
I’m in a similar situation. I still believe I will be cherished one day.
@@kimberlyadams3580 I hope you will be!
Thank you for the hope you have given me
Kris the “church”is a narcs playground 😢. Thanks for your timely word. 😊
It’s true
They do! Put on a Religious mask like they are the most Righteous person. SO helpful to all the people in the church. While cheating them with overcharging them for supplies extra labor cost from his grandiose skills he thinks he gives!!! God will be the advenger! God will pay wrong for wrong!!!
@vickyjohnson2704 The Bible quotes. Not by works least anyone can boost!
I totally agree. Yes, "the church is a narc's playground," as you've aptly stated.
🎉that is one of the best comments I have ever heard. Raised in the church, sexually abused as a pre-teen by church men, experienced more narcissistic pastors than Godly ones. The list goes on. Yes the church IS the narcs playground.
Absolutely, after 6 months no contact God is still revealing things I didn't realize we're lies and manipulation. It was absolutely worse than I thought. Every day I take that deep breath... hold it a second.. and realize I'm free. There is no elephant on my chest squishing the life out of me! Love your channel and Christian perspective! ❤
Kris thanks again for this blog and what u say my ex-wife narc she is or has played the victim card with everyone and everybody too me for alot of money 💰 and my time I was gaslighted,yelled and screamed at for over 17 years by this girl she is totally insecure and constantly Accused me of cheating when I was not Always creating chaos and confusion and drams always blame shited everything on me I gave too much money too her she took advantage of me and my kindness I'm empathic that's why,she held me prisoner in rooms screaming at at me we quite often,she used too too try too keep me fearful by threatening divorce or she was going too leave me I used too do everything around the house i cut the grass,cleaned up the pool,cleaned in the he house,the dishes,,cleaned in the house for her nothing was ever enough for her I gave her most of my money monthly check and when I worked when she got a really good job she treated me worse after that she thought she was above me then talked down too me and disrespected me was also jealous and envious of me she finally discarded me via a divorce no tears from her Nothing no empathy what so ever she cheated on me and I'm assuming she met someone at her job who had more money I'm glad she's gone no more fights or mental and emotional abuse and physical abuse I can see everything better now for what it was she was a covert Narc
No weapon gormed against me shall prosper in Jesus mighty name...
I detached by reading library books, one of my joys. I also refused to be baited into an argument. It got worse but I am alive & that is a blessing. Also exercised my body according to what I can do at my age, and started eating healthier. And dived into the biblical teachings. God certainly showed me what I was dealing with. You are very correct in what you say.
And iPad!
Yes eventually God does show us what we're dealing with. Then we must govern ourselves a quarterly. By putting on the whole armor of God.
These days we now have the blessings of earpods and headphones to listen to our music
Even if the narc disconnects the internet signal, you can still have downloaded music on your device if you have a way to download
Losst my sister , lost an eye due to a doctors neglect, lost my brother tragicaly. Thought was true gentleman friend ends 24 year friendship. Realizing he was a narcicist. I'm grieving all by my self. I am lost. I know God is guiding me, he has a plan for me, but I cry a lot
I’m so sorry ❤
So sorry for the grief you are feeling for so much loss. I’ll pray for you today to find new friends and to find a way to grieve in peace with no more hardships. God bless you ❤
Beckysue I'm sorry for your loss, I feel ya,:-) I have a lot of lonely times
@Beckysue7789... You are His beloved... You are not alone... You are so loved and cherished. Hide underneath His wings, hug The Lord tight, and know all of heaven is Fighting for you, JESUS Your Savior already defeated the enemy. He will restore EVERYTHING the enemy stole from you... Like Job, like Joseph. God bless you greatly.... You are His beloved in Jesus name!
Becky Sue, i know how much it hurts to have to leave someone you cared about so much. I went through this with a former boyfriend, and it almost destroyed me psychologically. I checked into a psychiatric hospital because i fell apart mentally. It is very difficult at first to feel ok. But, in time, you will cry less and slowly feel like yourself. Don't be hard on yourself. Reach out to friends and ask for support, go to God, and bear your soul to Him. Let yourself mourn over the death of your friendship. Also, learn from this breakup and ask yourself why you thought this person was good enough for you. This is what I did after i had time to cry my feelings out. My realization was that i grew up in a verbally abusive family that didn't praise or allow me to resolve issues in our dysfunctional family. There wasn't praise when i had successes in my life. So, i was looking for a man who would love and nurture the injured child in me. Now, i'm being loved by Jesus, and He has isolated me from others to heal my soul. Go to Him in prayer and ask for the support you need to look deep within yourself and find what is missing. When you begin to accept yourself as a child of the Lord, you will start to forgive yourself for all of the pain that came upon you and the other person who created it. Once you can let it go, you will heal and move on. It took me three years not to hate men after the terrible breakup of my relationship with my partner. I stayed away from all men, closed myself off, and didn't socialize throughout this period. It was a really hard time for me. But i'm glad i went through it. It taught me to embrace all of me....good and bad, and trust God with everything. Now, I put my faith and hope in Jesus Christ. Whatever path He wants me to take, I obey.
You will be ok eventually. Give yourself a break from others for a while, and go inward. This is your time to heal and learn from this. God will give you strength even in despair. I promise.
May you be blessed by the Lord. He loves you very much. Remember that. 🙏🙇♀️✝️💕🕊
I'm very blessed. I just left a 35-year marriage. He has blamed ME for everything.
I think so Lord that he allowed me to leave a 33 year marriage that has so many twist in terms. Living with a narcissist drag you down to the point that you don’t want to live. Luckily was God‘s help. I fought my way back up, it is so wonderful not living like that any longer. Maria lynn
@@GayleDuggerwhat you said gives me hope. Thank you.
No surprise here!... now you can have a Deep Breathing that Kris talked about!
I’ve been struggling in my 17 year marriage for almost the entire time before I “woke up” about 5 years ago & started setting boundaries which of course has made things worse in our marriage. Im still struggling with the biblical reasons to end my marriage which is when God out your channel in front of me. (I am not normally one who scrolls through social media).
I’m very thankful God put your channel in front of me because this past year I believe God has put almost all of these signs in front of me-God provided an opportunity for me to ‘leave’, we are living in two different states, I have experienced many blessings this last year while God had been revealing more and more about him. Even through all this, I am still married because I am struggling with biblically justify divorcing him. Especially since divorcing seems very selfish 😢
Everytime I discern a narcissistic partner and end the relationship, I get attacked brutally for a few weeks by random people and circumstances. Every single time. However afterwards, I get blessed emensely by God for enduring. You cannot remain near toxic people.
Yes, the demonic hive is mad that you escaped
It took me becoming a mom and wanting better for my child, for me to finally hear God's still, quiet voice - telling me that my child and I deserved better than where we were stuck 🙏. If not for becoming a mom, I would have likely stayed even longer in abuse because I did not feel very valuable or worthwhile before God giving me a purpose outside of myself 🥹🥲🥰
That was me!!!! 30 years! I’m so thankful I left and I’m so grateful for my peace. I had no clue how bad it was.❤️😌😊
Same here. 30 years, he left, cause he was going to get fired from the 29th job he was about to lose.
Praise God !! Pray for me I have been in this toxic marriage going on 33 years.
@@tinabrockmeyer8398, me too. Prayers 🙏
I got Discarded on 5/27/24 after 27 years Ms, so I definitely know and understand your pain
@@tinabrockmeyer8398Ms know that you're absolutely not alone
It would have been 37 years tomorrow. I left two months ago after it turned violent and he hurt me. He went to jail and I finally got help. I am homeless jobless and alone, but Im safe.
And you are alive! Hang onto God, and let Him lead you step by step!
Things will get better for you. Believe me, they do.
You are not alone, 36 long years in two months. In the beginning, I did not see the side he kept hid very well until after the marriage. Then slowly he began to de-mask revealing his true self, but kept hoping and praying he would change (since we were Christians). I knew something was wrong, but did not understand what was happening. I kept hoping for change, telling myself I’m staying because of the kids, I needed his financial resources to take care of the kids, he knew it too that’s why he was so satisfied in knowing I was trapped, but that was a mistake. I just could not see my way out with children having no support system.
I got away 20 yrs ago., moved back home and was about to take a job, but he showed up to bring us back, he was so kind and that he missed us, the children were young they were glad to see their dad, I went back.
But It never gets better, after a few months of kindness the crazy behavior began again, the yelling, gaslighting, name calling, cursing, the nothing you do satisfies them, the emotional neglect, the silent treatment, the threats, raised fist, but during all this I could here the LORD says show him No Fear, that’s how I survived it. After the children were in school, I took a job to help get financial support and to help out the household and things children need, education and such and tried to save a few dollars. I beg for us to go to marriage counseling.
Not until 3 years ago I stumbled on this article about narcissism, all the symptoms he met. I felt good knowing that this was what I was suffering, this is wickedness.
Finally after years of emotional, verbal, mental, abuse, I knew it would end with physical abuse, and it did, after being physically attacked. I then told the LORD (who was probably waiting on me), get me outta here, that afternoon, I was gone from the house, made a police report and not looking back. A month later after I found a place for us. I went back to the house and moved some of my things into my new place while he was at work.
Now that I am free five months, I have had so much calm and peace. I was able to get a quick non contested divorce, and really do not want anything more, the price is worth my freedom and peace. Not sure about my future, but I shall trust GOD with that too, not looking back.
Hang in there you will be ok. I pray that you are.
Praying for your strength in the lord and for God to make provisions for you
So true. After leaving my narcissist relationship I was unsure if I could afford counseling. I'm receiving free counseling. Unexpected support.
Praise the LORD GOD I am too!
@@dorothywest2053 Yes, I tried many times to find out where my problems were coming from, tried to find good counseling and they seemed to ignore basics and morals and rely on find points and blarney language. And pharmaceuticals. (Trying to shut you up because they can't figure out real solutions either.)
I had to be desperate but not looked at churches and found a lot of help. I guess I had to live my life to the point where I needed help AND believed I could get it.
That's when people started making more sense. And it was free. I learned that a lot of people say they'll help but they just want to get paid and "live their best life now".
My wife had me believing everything was my fault and I fell for the enemies lies. I saw the red flags but was too timid to say anything about it. I was so deceived, but God is revealing a lot of what I swept under the rug. We are separated and I can now see how she’s been planning all this for years. The events that have progressed, how I’m being alienated from my daughters and a multitude of other things.
We have no biblical grounds for divorce but she is convinced that’s what needs to happen. I’m now guarding my heart.
Actually there is biblical grounds for a divorce. When you look up what a revolver is in the Bible, we are told not even to eat with such a person...
The church has kept many destructive marriages together and totally missed this.
Look up revilers in the dictionary and all its synonyms. That's what you're probably dealing with.
@@mactine2k7 You said "revolver" the first time, I thought that's not in the Bible. Then the second time, "reviler". Now I get it!
Lord bless and help everyone going through w a narcissist especially a covert one.
@kayesmith2518... Thank you ✝️ blessings 🙌 to you as well.
I did not even know that I had been abused until - I picked up a little pamphlet at a hospital. Wow! I had been divorced 2 years until I started walking up.
As far as narcissism keep those doors closed.
now I know why the door slammed so loud just before religious narc was up to their evil shannanigans in church. Door slammed shut, no going back to their gaslighting narc baiting and picking fights and crossing boundaries. When one door shuts many others will open
After I got out of a 29 year marriage. I feel hurt but free. God be praised. He always makes a way. Excuse after Excuse for bad treatment.
After 25 years of living with a narcissist, and now looking back 12 years later, and really delving into what I was living with. Wow you don’t know how bad it is until you on the outside.
I see myself as a soldier of GOD. There is nothing before or after him in importance. I have gone through incredible bad hardship yet succeeded over all. Though I worked hard to overcome problems I believe God and his son walked with me all the way.
Yes, God saw you to have Favor upon... what a testimony you must have!
In the midst of the abuse we hold on by the Mercies of GOD..
Yes after you're out of that relationship the reality of how bad it was will hit you.
And then the PTSD sets in
PTSD happened to me. Flashbacks in dreams and at times late night while still awake. As I have more distance from the toxicity it gets much better.
Oh! Maybe that's what I've been going thru. Always getting better though :)
@@carolsnelten7659 very good Yes time does help It took me about 3 years after a really physically abusive relationship to heal
@@55mallen Yes that's very possible.
I was in a 3-year very abusive physically relationship It took about 3 to 4 years to heal from the PTSD
I was just diagnosed with it. It's hard to keep your head up but just keep trying.
Just got free from toxic narcissist relationship today, Praise God he made a way for me to break free despite years and months of struggle.
Pray for me to a way of escape too! I'm 77 y old, 45 years married alone, emotional abuse I had to get Brain Echo for stree fitness & emotional abuse treatments for 5 years to date.
Just breaking up with narcissist yesterday. Again. So stressed out but disgusted. Your message really hit home. And I know I’m truly done this time. I got flowers this morning as I knew he would do but I feel nothing because they really mean nothing. Thank you!!
Yup truth...
Most of the time they do send flowers and gifts to “Hoover” you back in. It may happen 6 days, 6 weeks or even 6 months later. But it almost always happens because it works to suck you back in.
@@romancecatsandwhimsy Yep, I got sucked back in, there had been such trauma and so severe I couldn't even remember it. I thought this person was really good deep down, he wasn't even religious. I was used to religious people being the scary evil jerks.
He wasn't, that's why I kept going back. Haha, he was religious alright, but an actual 😈 worshipper. And a "hooverist", unspeakably evil. Oh well, he will pay the eternal Price.
What a *#@&$#*^ۤ@$&! Glad to be rid of that gigantic stinking 'teurd'.
Sounds like I'm a terrible hater now, but I'd rather be that than someone who just doesn't care.
Hello, i am so sorry for u🙏🙏🥺🥺
Ive had same thing again and again after even physical abuse, last time was insane but he kept doing so many good things flowers flowers etc. and it happend again🥺 so dont go back never he will never change unless magic🥺🥺🥺
It's part of their manipulation
My Grandma and my sister is a spiritual Narcissist, I always knew things were not quite right. Never knew of Narcissists, I do now. I never realized just all what I were thru. I told my sister I gave her 59 years of grace and know I am giving it to my self. Self Care
I'm at the positive changes stage. I have distanced myself from my husband for over a year and a half. I have no feelings for him. It is so liberating.
Yes thank you for posting this I’m in the same situation I want the positive changes to ❤
The one thing that is rarely recognized is the fact that love is stronger than death, and for the believer we can even have a healthy love; and hope that creates immense heartache. Also, we are holding out for change! "...Love bears all things, believes all things." Our godly attitude causes us to endure longer and suffer more!
yesss! For me it was always trying to biblically by forgiving turn the other cheek etc...God help us
I too wanted to forgive biblically and I endured over forty years of marriage. I only learned after his death how negatively my children were impacted. In the last ten years my character has completely changed and I am popular, funny, ( I’ve discovered a sense of humour!) Am I glad I stayed? Was the heartache worth it? My relationship with the Lord became so deep in that time. He was all I had and He constantly ministered to me. So yes. I’m glad I stayed. Financially I had no alternative.
OHMYGOSH!! My 2 sons 40 and 34 have been verbally and emotionally abusive for years and years tellingly me I was the “psychopath” and now after years of therapy, I was finally able to say NO set boundaries and stop the abuse. Unfortunately I did loose the ability to see my grandsons and it’s a lot of pain that I had to accept to live a healthier life!🥺🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
So hurtful, the suffering carrying over, for now. In the mean time you maybe could be the grandma for other kids out there who have no one
Yes, I believe that..I have began to do that. God is good
@@theresaalbano4363 Although you can never replace your Grandchildren there’s a good chance that you can still give your love to them. The Lord can find your strength and good character and use you to help children grow. Maybe your Grandchildren can eventually benefit from our special gifts. Surely there’s a need in your community for people who care to share time and talents with children.
My daughter cut me off from her 5 daughters. She is a daddy's girl. My ex is a toxic narc. I was married and trapped by him for 33 years. I have been divorced now for 13 wonderful years.
Good for you. Experienced similar trauma but learning to move forward.
‘Demonic enabling…’
I’ve always just moved forward (grace) but here recently, I’ve asked God to reveal to me when to standup and to cover me from the attacks that may come, from seeking justice. In Jesus Name!!!!
You are the first female counselor who bases what you say on the Bible that I have found! You are a blessing!! God has put you in my life at the right time❤
I wish I could find people like her in my real life. I grew up in a toxic, abusive and alcoholic family. The parents drank, all their friends drank excessively, so all the kids of all the parents drank, and there were just so many issues. So many lies so much toxicity. It was a community of drunks. A city of alcoholics. When you try to break away from something like that, everyone hates you and calls you crazy.
True they will but you deserve to have an alcoholic free new start
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Adult Child of Alcoholics groups really helped me
Yeah me too!!
Yup they call me crazy getting used to it...
Dealing with health issues because of the abuse
Hey, I am as well. I will pray for your healing. Anxiety is a form of worry. Sorry you had to go through those terrible issues, Satan uses Narcs to get us into anger, bitterness and anxiety.
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@@mog5630 So true and being your best self exposes them since they lie and cheat their way through life. Be the shining light that exposes all their darkness. It'll make them crawl under a rock in shame once you take your power back. God will give it you just ask Him. in Jesus name.
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I have stress seizures I get it. It totally affects your health
Thank You Kris, Jesus used you to take the blinders off, I was a magnet for Narcissist but I didn't even know what a Narc was until I watched your channel. Wow I'm 54 years old...lol Freedom! Wisdom!
I've been a target all my life and I recently trusted an old man at church for rides to the bank and store,then he started calling me every hour and then reached out and grabbed my arm in front of the whole church...I already have major trust issues..
@@glendaschilder3048 I've had that sort of experience. Simone popped right up and told me she'd read that sometimes we are with someone "for a season, for a reason". And then we aren't.
I had a friend who was both good and bad finally couldn't be there for the bad. I felt guilty, but couldn't go back. I sincerely prayed for the person as best I could, to get saved because he seemed like he wasn't close enough to God.
Turns out he had a disease from childhood that got the best of him, rather young, a few years after I lost contact. More years later, I had a dream where he contacted me saying the reason why he was really mean sometimes. I think the information was accurate, and I felt better, knowing he'd just made a mistake as I have many times.
I keep hearing that people say in near death experiences that this is how the Spirit world operates. Or as I heard growing up many times, "the Lord works in mysterious ways".
But you do find out later on that it's for your benefit or someone else's.
"Draw closer to Me, I will draw closer to you."
Finally after 29yrs, I was let go. I was free!! That was 17yrs ago. I feel like I'm still recovering. I aimed to be the Proverbs 31 woman and for many years thought every marriage was like mine. The Lord had it all planned in His perfect timing after the kids left for college. I will be forever grateful! I'm so glad I came across your channel. I look forward to some great education!!
I paray for protection on a regular basis. Keep me in your prayers from narcissist abuse.
I always pray for protection. It must be for survival.
Yes that happened. God sent a powerful man to speak to my Narcissist. Problems ended
May I ask?
Thank you ❤blessings
Wow mab God can do that for my Daughter, Naomi Akiko Demers pls pray 4 her she's a survivor I think in a 20yr relationship, when she was a lil girl she used to sing "Iam a conquered, I'm victorious I'm reigning with Jesus...I'm praying God still can touch her heart to return to God, Jesus thru Holy Spirit...
That's me. I asked God why isn't my marriage getting any better after 18.5 years. Please show me what is the problem
It was like our God, through Jesus, said I'm glad you asked. I've been trying to tell you
That's when I was led to this podcast and others
Letting this man go was life-changing. I now love God and myself more!
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Each word coming from your mouth is healing every blood cell in our bodies after gone through the narcissistic abuse.
So TRUE ‼️ My adult child is very abusive, I'm finally able, through therapy, prayer, a support group to back off, she's broken my heart yrs, and for my granddaughter I have tolerated my daughter's Godless behaviors. I'm so grateful I discovered your channel, God has led me to.
No God closed the door in slow motion allowing me to adjust
Thank you for eloquently describing God's gifts of grace during chaotic seasons of fighting the evil spirits that some people hide and carry into relationships.
While I was living with my boyfriend's family, I went through all of what you just described. Glory to God that he showed me his father's true character and I could set myself free!
For me it was never a feeling of relief. I was devastated. My marriage gone forever with the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
It’s been 13 years and the hurt is still there. But then I guess if he had been physically abusive or yelled at me continuously I may have been happy to see him go.
Everything was so beautiful accept for the infidelity, lies and gaslighting. Not to mention making me feel like less of a person
I’ve educated myself on the narcissist. It doesn’t heal the hurt but it allows me to understand why our relationship would never work and how I need to put those boundaries in place. However, God has helped me get through it and has brought me closer to Him.
God was always there for me my entire life, and I never saw it until now. I used to cry tears of agony, now I cry tears of joy 🩷🙏
Thank you for the video. The red flags have been waving for a long time and the more I lingered, the more flags come up. The more I think things will change and get better or are getting better, the worse it gets. The flags are redder and bigger. 🤦🏾♂️
Why are we so afraid to leave toxic people if you can? Save your self!
Oh my! Yes! The toxicity was way worse than I thought it was!
#2 is tough when it is a parent. It's difficult to think that any parent would discard their child. I'm so grateful for that gift, though. God certainly knows what we need when we need it. Leaning on our perfect heavenly Father is so much better than having unrealistic expectations of earthly parents. ❤
U r transferring God’s light n hope to us!! Thanxxxx blessingssss
From Yerevan Armenia
Education, knowledge, and understanding was the door of freedom. Narcissism is a form of living death. I didn’t realize how powerful these individuals were. Both narcissistic individuals in our family married into a family of empathetic people. My sister and son are perfect flying monkeys. I live freedom but my heart still hurts deeply.
It's me. Thank God he place you in my life.This message and prayer were heaven sent. Just left after 7 years of marriage.
12 years i just left and my counselor just advice me zero contact
Writing in a journal helped me see and face what I had experienced. Take good loving care of yourself and get your rest.
@@saraG100 Thank you. Your comment is a blessing. Very much appreciate you taking time to think about me, may God bless you for your kindness.
I am at the phase of realizing how bad it was. I stopped talking with my mother 2 months ago and it’s been extremely hard. Hard because at first I felt very guilty, but just the other day the guilt lifted. I realized most of my life I have been guilt tripped non stop. I was always shamed for the most ridiculous things. So it had been hard to go through realizing that I’m ok, and I do not have get defensive for everything trying to protect myself. That’s where freedom has come in. I’m just starting to see the changes in my attitude and looking over the last month and a half I can now see some healing which is so encouraging. Especially when you can see progress. That helps so much to keep going. Once the guilt is gone it gets easier for sure. I am so grateful now and for my future.
I left a very toxic relationship about 4 years ago I lost everything I owned now I'm homeless I'm trying to start over and I'm currently trying to get a place of my own it has been very difficult and slow but the main thing is it's in a working progress I've been removing toxic people from my life
It was bad!! God got me out and I went no contact!! I'm not looking back and most of all, I'm at peace!!
I can't be anything but faithful to God words 🙏 and true to myself ❤️❤️ whole heartedly
I might still be in relationship with my narcissistic older sister if God hadn't suddenly provided me with a wonderful Christian friend - unexpected support!🙏
I'm still living the nightmare today. I've stepped back and have seen how bad this really is showing up in my life. It's so toxic and Together 9 years this past May and I'm feeling so lost. I'm dealing with the lying, the flying monkeys, the chaos, the gaslighting, the cheating, and drama amongst other things going on. I'm exhausted and we live together I have tried to get him to leave he isn't ready though I've learned. I'm codependent all the way and I feel like there is some trauma bonding going on. God is on my side I feel it in my blood. He is helping me get through but I'm scared of him. I just found your videos and plan on watching them as much as possible while he is gone to work. Thank you..
Praise God....
....finally aware, see whats been going on for 48 yrs...on a journey of being set free.....
You are such a blessings! I have been with a narcissist for 34 years. He never was physically abusive until 3 months ago. It was a wake up call for me. After years of chaos, infidelity, etc, we are separated. God has given me so much support and peace. I'm not secure financially, but i know who owns the cattle on a thousand hills.
i realized more and more that God placed me where i went from the culpret so i am safe so i know God isprotecting me. thank you and God Bless You
Some closed doors may mean I'm not ready for the open door. I'm still in Jesus's training course 101...Working to course 102
Took me over 8 years after the divorce from a narcissist to realize I was married to one. I didn’t have a name for it, but he was definitely a psycopath narcissist! I was hooked up until 4 years ago! These people are truly SICK, only God can heal them. I pray for every person who is Ina relationship with these kind of people. God bless!
Pray for me pls. I suffered for 20years but I'm released by His grace 🎉
My two younger toxic sisters … I know who they are… I accept who they are… I understand their emotional struggles and pain… I ask God to bring me Peace Safety Respect and Love… I pray God will take care of them with Justice and protect me from harm the evil and the wicked ♥️…God is saying to me “Let them go and I will take care of them!”💞
Thank you! I needed this. I am a survivor from parents, siblings, ex husband (after 30 years of marriage) and my adult daughter. Have always blamed myself for not being better. I am trying so much but see now I have to be different, not better for them.
I miss my grandsons. All Praise and Glory to the Almighty, I know he will always be with me.
That was me, 30 years ago,
Christian’s both, wow,
Still hard to comprehend,
Thank you for clarifying some things,
All things ARE definitely possible with GOD. I've been stuck for 50 years with no hope of leaving until a few months ago and in a very neat way. Because of my husband's spending I had no way of making it on my own, but recently a friend mentioned needing a roommate if she rented an apartment yet couldn't afford it on her own. Jokingly I said, 'me???'. She immediately said YES!! Now we're waiting for the ok to rent a place. After all these years of praying for release from my toxic environment, GOD has answered. I'm not looking for a divorce or another husband, simply peace. The answer finally came and I have a peace about it, although I don't want to hurt anyone and this action will likely have an effect on a lot of people. That is the most difficult part. I love that you pray during your video. I sure do appreciate that!!
The best of luck to you ! ❤
And he has memory laps and can't remember even leaving things burning on the stove and blaming it on me I use to make excuses but now that I know I call it out to him what he's doing and he still tries to gaslight me by switching up the lie and turning it around back to me I keep a lot of what he has done 👍
That's me, Kris. God indeed turned this channel to me. He led me to you. Thank you. You came just in time. I know it's God's hand.
After almost 6 years of "waiting" for him and loving him n forgiving him over n over....I became totally exhausted. I asked God please please give me a sign if I should not be with him. Give me the eyes and wisdom I need to see your sign. The very next week, sign after sign after sign. The final sign was him screaming at me in public restaurant for not ordering the correct food. I woke up the next day, waited for him to leave. Texted him I'm done and cannot do this anymore and then blocked him on everything!! I'm now experiencing sadness, anger and peace! Peace n quiet!!😊💕Thank you Jesus!!
If you cannot be ok unless others are ok with you…I can’t believe I’ve never heard that before. Again, thank you. 🙏
Kris, I love your prayers. You pray for things I think about but can't put them into prayers like you do. Our God is so loving to use you to help give me the right words to pray
Let life and let go of narcissism.. and never oiwn up the door again for a narc..dont even give the narc an umbrella if you first realize that a narc virus is close to you.. save yourself from any narc and live your own life with love and care, awareness and clearness
Your videos are a blessing!!! God's best blessings and thank you for the wisdom and encouragement you share. God has blessed you to help others. You speak truth, God's truth!!!! I'm so so so so thankful to have found you . 23 years with a narcissist, trying to rebuild my life! Thank you Kris❤
I knew it was toxic - but after I allowed God to really open my eyes - it was worse than i thought or had imagined. this man knew exactly what he was doing. I am convinced.
That was totally me. 7 years and blew through ever red flag. Tried to change someone before realizing that was never gonna happen. Thanks you have helped alot.
Absolutely resonates Jesus Christ keep guiding me please...on the way out! It is happening already!!! Deliverance. Thank you Kris...
I thank you so for this video! It seems like God wanted me to hear this VERY message. I have an old friend of 30 years and I am re-thinking this relationship now. I simply do not want to be around her anymore; I cannot believe I put up with her regular drama and disrespect for so many years. Your ministry is helping me to heal and I thank you for that. I want mature, Godly women only in my life now.
Thank you so much for these videos.
Six years ago I didn't know what a Narcissist was.
Through your videos, I've been finding strength but also coming to the realization of the many, many toxic habits I have developed over the years. It's heartbreaking and humbling but also liberating bringing these issues to the Lord and realizing it's not just my ex-wife that was the narcissist. It's not just my son's. It's me too. I can't control anyone else. All I can do is humble myself before the Lord and ask him for change, but it breaks my heart to know that many of these things triangulation love bombing blame shifting. The more I listen to you talk about narcissism the more I realize. Oh my God that's me. That's me, I'm the problem and it makes me so sad to think that I'm hurting my loved ones, my kids and everyone around me. Thank you for your videos. Keep them coming!!