I don't think I agree with oral & even anal sex. Your mouth was meant for speaking/worship/praise, & eating. & your anus is an exit, not an entry. That is one of the things that can cause anal cancer. Those acts are called sodomy, just like that sinful village in the Bible (Sodom). Though heterosexual couples can also do it, they are also mainly done by homosexual couples. & I'm sure that is what the group of men wanted to do to those angels. Therefore, these are the reasons why I don't think I can agree on this.
I love these videos and how the biblical aspects are obvious in your advice! Y'alls perspectives in each of these videos have completely opened my eyes to concepts and reasoning that I had never thought of before. It has been very helpful. I wish you guys a lovely and blessed Christmas 🎄
@@joshuaramos6522And that's your choice, but remember the word Sodomy doesn't appear in the Bible. It didn't exist until the middle ages and was coined by the Catholic Church by the Pope who decided any sex other than the missionary position was sinful. Oral sex on the other hand is found in the Bible in the Song of Solomon where God shows the story of a husband and wife enjoying each other, and God blessed it. So again if you and your spouse don't want to engage in it, that's your choice. Anal sex is a topic that isn't discussed in the Bible either. It's only inferred to in the context of man with man or woman with woman as being wrong because that breaks the intended design God made for marriage, but no where does the Bible say it's wrong for a husband and wife. If you can find scripture that says otherwise please post it here for all of us to see, otherwise again it's a personal conviction on your part, and that's okay.
I love that you two are so open. Warming a woman up doesn't just start in the bedroom, it starts throughout the day, even the week. Making sure you don't just touch a woman with the intent of having sex.
@@melonhead122908, that definitely helps with how tired we are, especially if we're home with the kids all day. Sometimes we'd almost prefer to do those things while you play with the kids, too. I still subscribe to gender roles for the most part, the best thing my husband can do for me is lovingly touch me or kiss my forehead and say he appreciates me without expectation of intimacy for doing that.
Very happy with the advice you gave the woman who thinks she is less sexual then her husband by pointing out that maybe he isn’t making it pleasurable for her and that may be why she feels less sexual
Luka is adorable! Y'all did good with this Q&A. Good advice. My husband and I have been married 21 years and since our kids are now growing up, we are having more fun and act more like newlyweds again!
Yall do a great job. As a Catholic, years ago I remember reading a booklet written by a priest, he said he had met many women that on their wedding night felt like a prostitute and could no longer love their husbands, the church knows the problem but won't talk about it. I am glad you are. And that book was written in the 50s.
Honestly I think it's a shame that we don't encourage men to have more self sacrifice and discipline when it comes to their ego and sex and self desire. There should be more encouragement for anyone who believes in chrsitianity to work on self discipline unless for example that part of your life is starting to be highly negatively affected, then communication would be key. Also Luca is such a beautiful baby omydays.
Physiologically, it takes the female anatomy 20-40mins to warm up and be ready for sex. Hence why a lot of women prefer to be warmed up. It is a need. No one's first time having sex shouldn't hurt, especially women. When the female body is properly warmed up, physiologically, she is ready for penetrate. The gentiles have a resting state and an arousal state. Sex during the resting state can be very painful and dry.
Regarding "when to start talking about sex" My partner and I did a marriage prep course with an older couple from our church. The last session was about sex, and they postponed that until a couple of days before our wedding. They gave us DVD's to watch separately and then I had a sit down with 2 ladies from church and they explained EVERYTHING. It was very informative and helpful. I would not have wanted it any earlier. My fiancé and I only spoke about sex after that. And the couple of days before was fine. Our homeymoon went really well.
we did something similar to that; our last pre-marital counselling session was on sex. We were encouraged to read the book on the topic separately, and yes, it all worked.
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE - JOHN 3:16
I wish my husband would watch your videos! Sadly, we are unequally yoked. If he doesn’t get sex, he gets extremely toxic and abusive (he’s already like this all the time anyway)…. Obviously I’m turned off to that and now it’s to the point where even the idea of sex grosses me out.
From my understanding of the bible, you can divorce if you're unequally yoked. Do what you can just stay safe and get out of there as soon as you can. God will be with you
Thanks for the honest video! I have a question/video idea: How important is physical attraction? Should I date/marry someone I'm not physically attracted to?
If you're repulsed, I'd strongly recommend against it. If it's more neutral, give him a chance. Get to know his personality, goals in life, hobbies etc. You might become more attracted to his personality than his physical appearance, and that works. Before marrying someone just be sure you're sure you can handle it and keep putting in the work any good marriage requires even if the level of attraction doesn't increase, because that's a decision you make for life. And not just for your life, but the life of the guy you marry. You can have a good marriage that doesn't look like a romance novel.
I really would not recommend it. I dated someone for 3 years who was a great friend and I thought the attraction would develop but it NEVER did. My husband is so attractive and that physical compatibility has given us a great sex life and honestly is really important to us. Emotional compatibility is JUST AS important though and thankfully we have that too. You need both
While I needed surgeries and couldn’t be intimate for 4 months postpartum, we would have struggled to be intimate then anyway as our son ONLY slept on us/carried by us most of the time. Maybe once or twice a week he’d nap elsewhere successfully… but no guarantee my husband was home or available at that time. So for our first time or two we hired babysitters. It wasn’t until 3-4 months when our son started going to bed an hour before us when we became capable of more one-on-one time.
In regards to the husband not doing what the wife wants...Ephesians talks about the wife's body not being her own but his and the husband's body not being his own but hers. Assuming both parties are believers, they should obey scripture. Laying down our own desires to serve the other, unless what is being asked is sinful, is important.
As this is a Christian channel we all know that Satan is alive and he attacks us with television or music to get on mines wanting the opposite sex. But something that keeps me clean is reading the Bible daily and crying out to God at night and ask him to help me stay in control. Because I know that that sinful desire is inside of me and I know with the power of Jesus helping me I could defeat that. It’s not easy but I am a man waiting for marriage and waiting for God’s timing. I think Paul and Morgan are doing excellent job explaining it for Christian couples and people who want to safe themselves for marriage. God bless you both 🙌😃
I will just say this about the suddenly finding youre not sexually attracted to your spouse: You will know pretty early, if you’re not attracted to someone WITHOUT sex. If the non-attraction is because of actions the spouse is taking that’s something to talk about.
Ohhhh ohhh question! What happens when a man wants to be more physical but he hasn't been emotionally connecting with his wife, and she needs that in order to want the intimacy? If the woman gives in to the intimacy to see if her husband will reciprocate emotionally and he doesn't, but he keeps expecting the same type of and timing of intimacy? Therapy hasn't worked, it always falls back. Is a sexless marriage ever ok?
I am working through trauma and being a survivor of purity culture. My husband will not work through past betrayal with me or emotionally connect on a regular basis. Honestly he ignores me most of the time. I have told him I will not have sex with him if we aren’t connecting outside of sex. It makes me feel like a whore. So we haven’t had sex In 3 months and I will not allow him into my body if he won’t try to enter my heart. I am also and have been experiencing pain in sex forever and didn’t realize it. So having sex when I don’t feel safe makes the pain worse too. It’s making my quality of life suck. Also side note, I love sex but I love myself too much to be used.
Marriage isn’t just sex. Sex is an over flowing of the love and intimacy you have. Husbands are told to love their wives like Christ loves the church laying his life down.
@@Iou655, I've definitely been there. I ended up realizing that you can't continue to have expectations of someone that they will never meet because you'll never end up feeling whole. Husband's like that are why I'm so glad that Paul and Morgan are covering these topics, holding everyone accountable for their role in not just reading their Bible, but committing to what God asks of you. Sex isn't talked about enough within the Christian community, particularly in this type of way. Enjoying your marital bed, enjoying your spouse! Worshiping their body! I absolutely love this.
Love is something that can only come from a heart in the state to love. Sex without love is just a physical act and not what I believe Paul is referring to in Corinthians. That being said, not having sex freely can be loving, and giving sex freely can be loving. Any act is good so long as it comes from an act of love driven by the Holy Spirit. Oral anal feet hair hands Having fun, excitement, throwing down, and getting freaky all is good, but without love, you edn up bitter. One thing to consider is that men experience swx much differently. There's not a lot of nerve stimulation it's mostly hydraulic. So for men, the experience of sex mostly has to do with the personality and act of the woman. Men want at least 2/3 initiation from the woman. For her to surprise him and to keep him on his toes. Women can have sex with whoever they want, but men can't that's nature, so if a wife never initiates, he isn't satisfied .so he wants it more often. But if he isn't seeing sex as a way to bring a sense of love into your heart, he isn't going to change. It's no different than a hug. If someone isn't a hugger, then hugs are not going to make them feel love. Same with gifts, acts of service quality time, etc. There is no need in the human heart to express love a certain way only to receive.
The early church fathers explicitly condemned oral sex even within marriage. (There were people having both oral and anal sex in their days) You can go look up their writings for yourself. In fact they deemed oral sex to be an even worse sin than anal sex because of the fact that your mouth is used to receive holy communion! They even went as far as to say that the practice of spilling one's seed in "unnatural locations" is a "grave sin". They made it clear that the only place a man is allowed to spill his seed is in his wife's vagina. So therefore not just anal sex but any non vaginal penis intercourse (oral sex, mutual masturbation, sex toys ect.) is deemed to be off limits.
I’ve lived a life of sin before becoming born again at 27 (including sexually) but even I completely agree with this. Before even coming to the truth of our Biblical reality, I felt these things on a soul level. You can see by our anatomy what things are made for and it there’s something about those inversions that just make you feel dirty.
Brother you nailed it 🙏🙏 these sexual acts are a abomination to the Lord our bodies should not be defiled nor our martial bed. These sexual acts invite demonic forces into our marriage
Early church fathers decide what is and isn't sin? I was raised conservative Christian and even I've never heard they had that authority. So glad I bailed on Christianity once I became an adult.
@@williambartholmey5946just make sure you don't let people's mistakes define who God is in your mind. U really want to encourage you, come back to Jesus, He's waiting for you with neverending love and with open arms, He loves you so much. I can tell you now you will really find a joy that cannot get taken away from you, its different than happiness my friend. Lots of love! ❤
Your bitterness overflows. The utter shock/disgust you inject into a conversation about people who are actually enjoying their partners in marriage as one would is disturbing to me. You're probably just old/bitter/unhealthy/out of shape and now all you have left is your bitter snotty attitude for you to stick your nose up at.
Thanks for your honesty! I totally agree with you about the answer to oral sex, it's important to enjoy each other and this can be part of it (of course if someone doesn't like it - okay than don't do it) but I think we should stop making sexual intimacy an issue of shame and judging others for what they do. God has given us so much joy and freedom between a married couple! To be honest, it makes me sad when I see that some Christians want to create rules that don't exist at all. Of course, if someone feels they shouldn't do it, don't go against your conviction. But stop making others feel guilty about something that can be totally okay and good. That's my opinion :)
@Apracity it's almost like God put nerve endings in the anus that makes it pleasurable, same as the clitoris. It's almost like the head of a penis is made of the same tissue as the nipples and is always the same shade, meaning it was intended to be sucked on It's almost as if the lips don't have skin on them and instead a membrane that detects pheromones for the purposes of putting the lips on the source of hormones. It's almost as if most sexolgy knowledge isn't passed down and sex Ed has been reduced to penis go in vagina.
@@11footmidget92 You have perverted God's creation. Do you really think nerve endings in the anus are so that men can thrust their penises into this place? The anus is for defecation. The nerves are simply there to add sensorial capabilities in order to know when to push or when to stop pushing. This is common sense. Furthermore, by your chain of reasoning, sodomy would not be sinful. Yet, the Bible clearly condemns sodomy. Therefore, you err
I read a Catholic sex article stating, "All sexual activity (i.e., foreplay) is ordered fulfillment in sexual intercourse, i.e., a completed sexual act. Hence, activities such as bringing the husband to orgasm without intercourse through mutual masturbation is gravely immoral." What are your thoughts? Does every sexual act HAVE to end in sex?
The bible says that the marriage bed is undefiled, so I take that as anything goes as long as both people are okay with it as it’s covered under the marriage bond.
Well yeah, that's not just the Catholic church's beliefs but the belief of the early church as well. The early church fathers explicitly condemned oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation ect. even within marriage. They made no distinction between using those acts as foreplay or not because they viewed those acts as instricntly evil themselves so therefore a gravely sinful act can not be made moral all of a sudden by using it before intercourse. You can go look up their writings for yourself. In fact they deemed oral sex to be an even worse sin than anal sex because of the fact that your mouth is used to receive holy communion! They even went as far as to say that the practice of spilling one's seed in "unnatural locations" is a "grave sin". They made it clear that the only place a man is allowed to spill his seed is in his wife's vagina. So therefore not just anal sex but any non vaginal penis intercourse (oral sex, mutual masturbation, sex toys ect.) is deemed to be off limits.
@@mariahcooke5157 That scripture just simply means you can have sex with your spouse and it will not be sinful. It definitely does not mean that anything goes and that you can bring lust, perversion, uncleanliness, unnatural sex acts and kinky demonic sex into your bedroom.
@@dougml4549 where are you getting this information? Can you point to scriptures in the bible that mentions their beliefs on these matters? I’ve never read such things
@@mariahcooke5157 I got my information by studying the early church's writings and teachings on sexuality. Where do you get your information from? Here are some scriptures: -"Do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! Fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, SODOMITES, thieves, the greedy, drunkards, revilers, robbers-none of these will inherit the kingdom of God." (1 Corinthians 6:9-11.) SODOMY is defined as by Wikipedia: anal sex , oral sex between people, or any sexual activity between a human and an animal (bestiality). It may also mean any non-procreative sexual activity. - Genesis 38:9-10 talks about the sin of Onan where Onan spilled his seed on the ground and God struck him dead on the spot. The use of any non reproductive sexual acts is the same as spilling your seed on the ground. Sperm was not meant to be wasted, swallowed, ejaculated into the anus, spilled onto your hands or into a napkin but was meant to go into the vagina so that it can bear fruit and bring forth the next generation. -“God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth' ” (Gen. 1:28a). God commanded us to be "fruitful and multiply" and one can not do that through unnatural and non reproductive sexual acts because those acts are all fruitless to God's kingdom. It's clear from this scripture that those acts did not come from Him. His original intent in creating sex was to reproduce (as well as to be a blessing to the spouses and unify them together) -"Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another" (Romans 1:26-27) Here it talks about people abandoning natural sexual relations (vaginal penile sex) for unnatural sexual relations. It does not matter if those acts are performed between people of the same sex or opposite sex, they are still unnatural because you can not reproduce either way. "Don't let sexual sin, perversion of any kind, or greed even be mentioned among you. This is not appropriate behavior for God's holy people." (Ephesians 5:3) Perversion is defined as "erring, straying or deviation from what is natural or right." So again God made sex the natural way, vaginal penile sex, and the devil made perversions because those acts stray from the natural way in which God made sex.
@@kylierhodes5440 yeah but the way they go about is weird LOL and so many of these TH-camrs talk about modesty but what is modest about sharing your sex life with the world? Some of the stuff they say is just corny or idk weird. But then again I wasn’t raised in purity culture and I did have sex before marriage so
@@lenaackerman2499 I believe it's because a lot of evangelical teaching is geared solely for a sex connection in marriage. That's what it's all about and it's a "need" for men so they must do it often or else. Instead of focusing on intimacy, true intimacy, everyone looks at the frequency of sex in a Christian marriage to determine if it's healthy.
@@lenaackerman2499 how exactly is it weird? They’re answering questions from other Christians you usually talk about your own experiences when it comes to anything it’s only for people who are married sex is huge and usually pushed under the rug for Christians I remember someone actually say they would invite God and pray over their sex life and it’s weird to think about it because when Adam and Eve were naked from the garden they didn’t hide it’s only when they ate from the apple then they covered and ashamed sex shouldn’t be something we should be ashamed of course as long as it’s in marriage and as long as it glorifies God He did make it to have fun with your partner
I grew up with purity culture & have talked to a lot of women who have as well. We were taught in church & by Christian family that sex before marriage is an awful, shameful sin. So as teens/young adults with normal hormones, we repressed our very normal sexual desires. Or just thought something was wrong with ourselves if we did feel any desire. Then when we got married & COULD have sex, it was hard to “flip the switch” and fully embrace our sexual selves. This is what came to mind with the last question about a “dirty mindset” about sex. A lot of the Christian circles I’ve been in paint the picture that sex before marriage is this dirty, very shameful thing, which has been harmful to so many people and ruined their sex lives. Or at least has made it a big hurdle to overcome. I also doubt that a God who allows three million children to die of starvation every year really cares that much about our sex lives. I also noticed that you didn’t even touch the subject of masturbation *pun intended
Marriage gives you the stamp of approval to have sex. Sex isn't a shameful thing but it is intended for marriage. When the flood of Noah came only 8 people were saved. The rest thought they were crazy and it says they gave unto marriage. So even marriage itself outside of God's will can be bad. Sex is good but abnormal use of anything is abuse.
@@11footmidget92 yes, I get the concept. But the underlying message I got from Christians growing up is that sex (especially premarital sex) is a dirty shameful thing, that we awkwardly talk about, which led to repressing any natural sexual desire. It’s unrealistic to think that one can just “unrepress” that desire when they get married. There are whole forums & groups on the internet who have been negatively impacted by purity culture. Maybe you should hear them out.
@@11footmidget92 let me put it a different way… when you are told your whole life that sex is wrong, and then you go through the teenage years when you’re hormones are raging and you feel desire, you feel like you are bad for having those feelings. You then either give in to temptation & feel ashamed or repress those feelings altogether. All of this is harmful to an individual! When you get married & sex is finally a good thing, it’s hard to see it as such.
I'm sorry, but we Christians didn't make up these rules around sex. These are God's laws, and you better believe that the Creator cares about how we use the gifts that He has given us - especially when that gift is something tied with creating new life. And yes, sex outside of marriage is a grave sin and should be seen as such. As a Christian, I'm not someone who hates sex. Sex is a beautiful thing when (and only when) it is enjoyed within the confines of God's perfect law. Outside of that, sex becomes a perversion. Your comments seems quite Freudian to me...
@@jamie7880I get where all these people are coming from…and it’s understandable how purity culture can damage someone. I’m 25, a virgin, severely struggling with sexual desires and over the years I’ve had HATRED for my body because I was ashamed of it. It’s not a good feeling, and just now I’m coming to terms with this. I now love my body, and now look at my body as finally something beautiful. It’s a SHAME it took 25 years for me to finally not look at myself as disgusting for feeling desires. I think the Christian faith is beautiful..but..no one should live in shame. And still…I catch myself slipping into toxic shame and need to be pulled out.
Hello new watcher here I love that you’re tackling the subject I do have one question do you think it would be ok if I kissed or hugged my girlfriend even though we’re not married?
What are your views on birth control? Do you ever address this? Would be interesting to hear what you think (a lot of ppl shy away from this topic and believe it’s a matter of personal preference) but I’m not so sure it really is.
If the adults are comfortable, I don't have a problem with people choosing to have sex while their Under 6month Old is sleeping nearby. If they are awake, I'd say No. I personally am not comfortable with a baby being asleep in the room because Baby coos snap me right out of the mood. 😅
You two are awesome! You are right, porn needs to go out of a man and woman's life. And if whoever is addicted to porn works on it while in a marriage, it can still be a beautiful Godly marriage. Because as I've learned, once addicted to porn like other addictions, you will never be free of the addiction, unfortunately. With God's help, your marriage can still thrive in time if both married people are willing to work through it together and communicate through the struggles. Love and communication are Key!
I LOVE the way you ended your chat today! I sang right along with y’all. It made me want to set up a zoom call with my friends and have a Christmas singalong. 😊😀
Most ppl that struggle with po$n are religious and it’s due to the belief and scrutiny itself. Normal non believers do not have such problems. You can watch occasionally (it varies from person to person) but it’s just not an issue🤷🏻♀️ kinda weird hearing it can wreak havoc in marriages
It’s honestly hard for me to imagine being lucky enough to find my special woman. But, I’ll keep trying. Women are so beautiful, and I wish so badly to experience intimacy in a God approved way.
Y’all I’m probably the worst sinner in the body buuut…. It’s hard to wait for marriage I’m not even in the dating scene yet still in a healing season but …. Woof not fun
I am less than 5 months away from my wedding day, and I feel very clueless…😅 These videos have been very helpful; thank you!! Just curious, how do I research safely? I would like to do more research on the topic of sex, but I am afraid of what will come up if I google things. I don’t want to regret the research that I do. Is googling safe? Are there any specific websites/books/etc. that you would recommend? You guys are awesome! Thanks!
Talk to your fiancé. How much research is he doing, how much is he comfortable with you doing? I don't know your guy, but if he's not comfortable researching it at all and you approach your wedding night with a bunch of research and expectations that could leave him really insecure and you really frustrated. There's plenty of time to learn together in marriage, so I'd rather err on the side of not knowing everything beforehand.
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On the topic of "What if you get married and realized you are not attracted to them?": I say that is a sign they shouldn't be with you. God let's bad things happen all the time, and always for Good, so I would stress about angering Him if you went through the whole marriage thing only to wake up after marriage and find you aren't attracted to your spouse at all. I don't see divorce as a sin given Legal Marriage as we have it today is purely societal and not biblical. I believe when God talks about Marriage, he is talking about your body, heart, and soul being married. That is attraction, the body, heart, and soul being married to that person. In the case, I suggest that you can try to see if you become attracted to them but if you aren't, it is okay to end things safely and cordially. Spending your life trying to get attracted to someone you have legal ties to can cause far more damage to your spiritual relationship with God than learning a lesson about who you are as a person and letting the marriage go.
Honestly, yeah, most people in the church have false marriages. But let's not kid ourselves and think that Joe and jane fornicating to live together and Have a loose relationship bound only by their desire to benefit from each other is marriage either. If you look at Genesis, Adam gave vows in a language he probably made with poetry and in front of God. And Jesus himself gave teachings that referred to cultural marriage tropes of the local Jewish towns. A ceremony created by your ancestors can be something honorable to abide by and the basis of the expression you choose to use to make those vows before God.
1. God does not punish His children, He disciplines them. This situation is neither punishment or discipline. This is a consequence of a life choice this man made himself. 2. Perhaps she may warm up to whatever he is desiring. However, in the meantime he should respect her feelings towards whatever he is talking about. 27:05
@@НиколайРоманов-л6ю uh… no lol, videos such as this only push me further away from religion. That’s why I said it’s fascinating- it’s fascinating to try and understand how some people live their lives like this.
@@НиколайРоманов-л6ю I know you think I’m misguided or I just haven’t sought “god” out yet, but try to understand I genuinely don’t believe in any higher power. Not because I’m “angry at god” or vengeful, etc. No. I simply don’t believe due to the fact that there isn’t any convincing scientific evidence. The burden of proof is on the individual making the claim, not the person who denies the claim.
@@Ristofec what's fascinating about what? That over 3 Billion people don't betray their spouse and sleep with someone else? Fascinating how over 3 billion people don't murder someone everyday? Fascinating how over 3 Billion people try to forgive everyone? What's fascinating about normal life? Why do you hate a normal life? Can Satanism do any better? By s*x and murder and cussing all the time? The fascinating thing is that God gave us morality and we preferred filth, yes truly fascinating indeed
@@Ristofec it's OK, if you don't love God, but God loves you, and that's why he sacrificed his Son for us. Its pretty selfish, and honestly, very unusual to say I don't believe in a higher power, like, even atheists believe the nature is stronger than humans, so what's the deal with no higher power? There are evidences, first of all, the flood is one of the most important stories in the Bible, and by total coincidence, from Ancient China to India to Mesopotamia to Greece and all the way to the Inca and Aztec civilization, every culture has a great flood that changed everything, and by total coincidence, all civilization emphasise on how developed world was before the Flood, there are many other examples of cities like Atlantis, yes the every culture has a city like Atlantis that sank, and by total coincidence all cultures believe it happened so long ago that world has completely changed, want more proof? Why are there fish fossils on top of mountains? Because the flood picked up the fish and smacked it onto the mountain, there is no other logical conclusion that that fish got on top of a mountain, because the mountain was too high for any bird to hunt a fish and drop its remains of the mountain. Even more proof? Why did Apostle Peter want to be crucified, not only that but UPSIDE DOWN? Why did he want to die horribly for a lie? Alright want more? How did Paul turn from a murderer into a missionary? What changed him? God changed him.
I think the only problem I see with oral sex is the verse talking about abstaining from things strangled and from blood (speaking of eating i'm pretty sure). Blood is blood.
Yes. Certain strains of HPV cause throat cancer and can be transmitted orally. Obviously not a concern if neither partner is infected and activities are confined to marriage. Source: I'm a dentist, I've diagnosed it 😔
This sort of seems like a reference Song of Solomon 2:3 [3]As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
@@kyyyniThey your Christian friend have no idea of when it was written and how the Bible, specifically the Old Testament was compiled. Tell them to do some research and educate themselves.
I’ve heard from a Christian couple video series that they had created a system where the man would always text the wife well in advance so she has time to prepare 😅 Remember. Men are like microwaves. Women are like crockpots.
I find it very inappropriate to have your baby present in the video while discussing sex related topics! I am by no means religious at all but just found it a bit discomforting.
Child educator here. 👋 (Edit: grammar) Under 8months old, Baby isn't going to pick up on anything except the energy of what their parents are saying. Whether the parents are speaking calmly, angrily, unsure, etc. With that in mind, I would go about taking about sex in the presence of a newborn with maturity and confidence. Beyond that, I see no issue with it. It's just sex. Sex is a glorious thing but at the end of the day, it's just sex. Older than 6months, that's when babies start to be able to understand simple nouns and verbs with visual information. In that case, I'm still not worried about them being in the same room, provided we aren't providing visual cues for what sex is for the kid to pick up on. If we don't draw Baby's attention to sexual words, it will fly right over their head. Around age 11-14mos is when I would cut off my child being present with sex talks. That is around the age they start copying words in an attempt to ask what those words mean. That all said, if YOU aren't comfortable with your newborn being around while people are talking about sex, then don't let them be there. Babies pick up on our energy so if you are feeling uncomfortable, they will pick up on that uncomfortable feeling (and not understand why).
Care to elaborate? Sex is a biological act and how that baby got here lol. They aren't being explicit. Sex is as natural as going to the bathroom who cares?
Heavy kissing would be foreplay. Getting turned on actually starts to shut down the part of your brain that governs good decision making. As Song of Solomon said, Don't awaken love until it pleases.
Here is one thing I find interesting… I’ve noticed in these conversations is when the girl doesn’t want to have sex it’s because she doesn’t feel like it & there is valid justification… but when the guy doesn’t want to please the wife in a certain way, he is selfish, putting himself before you, not loving you as the Bible commands, he needs counseling? Shouldn’t that be the case for either party denying sex/ sexual favor? To be clear, I think it’s wrong to deny the sexual needs of the other in a Christian marriage. Maybe I’m crazy, I’ve just heard these contradictory points before🤷♂️
I think the difference there is whether it is an occasional occurance or a constant thing, you not feeling like it this time is different than refusing to do it ever.
It should be judged case by case. From what I've heard, men are usually demanding when a woman is either in the middle of serving the whole family, is physically sick or recovering from childbirth. And the guys are usually just lazy and would rather be pleased and move on when the wife needs more attention. We should be fair though, so I would call a wife selfish if she's demanding favors after her husband has worked a 16 hour shift and is coming down with a cold. He would need to rest. Our first priority should be our spouses wellbeing, not our own pleasure. I just haven't heard about a wife doing that. Usually she'd be waiting on him and being a caretaker while when she's exhausted and sick she's still expected to perform. Or at least be willing to be used without affection and honestly that's heartbreaking. I know women are more emotional but I don't know how guys don't understand how hurtful it is to be used by the person who you are the most intimate with.
You got his family is so cute When I get married and have kids I really want a big family to have a lot of kids I know it's weird for modern people at least for some that it's weird for some people to have more than one or two kids which it's the opposite for me I don't get why people have one or two kids I would love to have a huge big family like they did in the past I personally don't have a number set
And a big family is weird to me, with me not wanting any children, so I don't get why people have big families. But go you! 👏🏼👏🏼 If you are chosen to parent many children, that is great!
In all honesty, this is the first video from this channel that I actually liked. Not overly religious. Just genuine transparency as fellow brothers & sisters 🤗 thank you for sharing🫶🏽
It's sad but I don't know if I want to comment under y'all's videos anymore cuz there's some rude ppl with no lives that are mean and try to hurt ppl on here
@@WaywardBunnyy I've been in this position and even though it might mess with your mind. Just enjoy your husband and Him enjoy you and pray for him. During the night and through out the day. God can convict his heart and change his mind my husband changed and there is hope!
I would say no because its a general Christian principle that one should not pay back a wrong with another wrong. However, the person who watches porn ought to be severely reprimanded
Hey P&M Fam, hope you’re enjoying these intimacy vids! How’d you feel about today’s questions and answers? :)
I don't think I agree with oral & even anal sex. Your mouth was meant for speaking/worship/praise, & eating. & your anus is an exit, not an entry. That is one of the things that can cause anal cancer. Those acts are called sodomy, just like that sinful village in the Bible (Sodom). Though heterosexual couples can also do it, they are also mainly done by homosexual couples. & I'm sure that is what the group of men wanted to do to those angels. Therefore, these are the reasons why I don't think I can agree on this.
I love these videos and how the biblical aspects are obvious in your advice! Y'alls perspectives in each of these videos have completely opened my eyes to concepts and reasoning that I had never thought of before. It has been very helpful. I wish you guys a lovely and blessed Christmas 🎄
@@joshuaramos6522And that's your choice, but remember the word Sodomy doesn't appear in the Bible. It didn't exist until the middle ages and was coined by the Catholic Church by the Pope who decided any sex other than the missionary position was sinful. Oral sex on the other hand is found in the Bible in the Song of Solomon where God shows the story of a husband and wife enjoying each other, and God blessed it. So again if you and your spouse don't want to engage in it, that's your choice. Anal sex is a topic that isn't discussed in the Bible either. It's only inferred to in the context of man with man or woman with woman as being wrong because that breaks the intended design God made for marriage, but no where does the Bible say it's wrong for a husband and wife. If you can find scripture that says otherwise please post it here for all of us to see, otherwise again it's a personal conviction on your part, and that's okay.
I love that you two are so open. Warming a woman up doesn't just start in the bedroom, it starts throughout the day, even the week. Making sure you don't just touch a woman with the intent of having sex.
Good stuff!
You know what really turns women on? Dinner, laundry, taking care of stuff. Come on guys!!! 😀
THIS.
@@melonhead122908, that definitely helps with how tired we are, especially if we're home with the kids all day. Sometimes we'd almost prefer to do those things while you play with the kids, too. I still subscribe to gender roles for the most part, the best thing my husband can do for me is lovingly touch me or kiss my forehead and say he appreciates me without expectation of intimacy for doing that.
Thkx for that. IT is really important to say
Or... You help her with that vacuuming and let her go get 'ready'
True!
Very happy with the advice you gave the woman who thinks she is less sexual then her husband by pointing out that maybe he isn’t making it pleasurable for her and that may be why she feels less sexual
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Luka is adorable! Y'all did good with this Q&A. Good advice. My husband and I have been married 21 years and since our kids are now growing up, we are having more fun and act more like newlyweds again!
That’s awesome to hear!🙌
Luca is so cute. I love how he's just sitting there and has zero clue about what his parents are talking about. 😂
Haha true😁
I knoww! I have been watching him and missing some parts of the video. He is giving me baby fever
Yall do a great job. As a Catholic, years ago I remember reading a booklet written by a priest, he said he had met many women that on their wedding night felt like a prostitute and could no longer love their husbands, the church knows the problem but won't talk about it. I am glad you are. And that book was written in the 50s.
Honestly I think it's a shame that we don't encourage men to have more self sacrifice and discipline when it comes to their ego and sex and self desire. There should be more encouragement for anyone who believes in chrsitianity to work on self discipline unless for example that part of your life is starting to be highly negatively affected, then communication would be key. Also Luca is such a beautiful baby omydays.
Physiologically, it takes the female anatomy 20-40mins to warm up and be ready for sex. Hence why a lot of women prefer to be warmed up. It is a need. No one's first time having sex shouldn't hurt, especially women. When the female body is properly warmed up, physiologically, she is ready for penetrate. The gentiles have a resting state and an arousal state. Sex during the resting state can be very painful and dry.
Although I come from a different religion but watching you guys has helped me a lot in terms of my connection with God, thank you! 😊
Regarding "when to start talking about sex"
My partner and I did a marriage prep course with an older couple from our church. The last session was about sex, and they postponed that until a couple of days before our wedding. They gave us DVD's to watch separately and then I had a sit down with 2 ladies from church and they explained EVERYTHING. It was very informative and helpful. I would not have wanted it any earlier. My fiancé and I only spoke about sex after that. And the couple of days before was fine. Our homeymoon went really well.
Are you saying you didn’t know what sex was until a few days before the wedding? That could be dangerous.
we did something similar to that; our last pre-marital counselling session was on sex. We were encouraged to read the book on the topic separately, and yes, it all worked.
Oral; i go by 3 criteria; 1) if the Bible isn't against it, 2) hygenically clean & 3) both husband & wife agree to it.
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE
- JOHN 3:16
Dont forget JOHN 3:36
I wish my husband would watch your videos! Sadly, we are unequally yoked. If he doesn’t get sex, he gets extremely toxic and abusive (he’s already like this all the time anyway)…. Obviously I’m turned off to that and now it’s to the point where even the idea of sex grosses me out.
You need to get out of there
From my understanding of the bible, you can divorce if you're unequally yoked. Do what you can just stay safe and get out of there as soon as you can. God will be with you
im praying u get out of there safely and as soon as possible ❤️
Girl pls leave, I’m so sorry ❤
Thanks for the honest video! I have a question/video idea: How important is physical attraction? Should I date/marry someone I'm not physically attracted to?
If you're repulsed, I'd strongly recommend against it. If it's more neutral, give him a chance. Get to know his personality, goals in life, hobbies etc. You might become more attracted to his personality than his physical appearance, and that works. Before marrying someone just be sure you're sure you can handle it and keep putting in the work any good marriage requires even if the level of attraction doesn't increase, because that's a decision you make for life. And not just for your life, but the life of the guy you marry. You can have a good marriage that doesn't look like a romance novel.
I really would not recommend it. I dated someone for 3 years who was a great friend and I thought the attraction would develop but it NEVER did. My husband is so attractive and that physical compatibility has given us a great sex life and honestly is really important to us. Emotional compatibility is JUST AS important though and thankfully we have that too. You need both
While I needed surgeries and couldn’t be intimate for 4 months postpartum, we would have struggled to be intimate then anyway as our son ONLY slept on us/carried by us most of the time. Maybe once or twice a week he’d nap elsewhere successfully… but no guarantee my husband was home or available at that time. So for our first time or two we hired babysitters. It wasn’t until 3-4 months when our son started going to bed an hour before us when we became capable of more one-on-one time.
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In regards to the husband not doing what the wife wants...Ephesians talks about the wife's body not being her own but his and the husband's body not being his own but hers. Assuming both parties are believers, they should obey scripture. Laying down our own desires to serve the other, unless what is being asked is sinful, is important.
As this is a Christian channel we all know that Satan is alive and he attacks us with television or music to get on mines wanting the opposite sex. But something that keeps me clean is reading the Bible daily and crying out to God at night and ask him to help me stay in control. Because I know that that sinful desire is inside of me and I know with the power of Jesus helping me I could defeat that. It’s not easy but I am a man waiting for marriage and waiting for God’s timing. I think Paul and Morgan are doing excellent job explaining it for Christian couples and people who want to safe themselves for marriage. God bless you both 🙌😃
I will just say this about the suddenly finding youre not sexually attracted to your spouse: You will know pretty early, if you’re not attracted to someone WITHOUT sex. If the non-attraction is because of actions the spouse is taking that’s something to talk about.
Just kind and friendly suggestion on Luca🤴. He needs some colorful toys or books when you hold him💕
Ohhhh ohhh question! What happens when a man wants to be more physical but he hasn't been emotionally connecting with his wife, and she needs that in order to want the intimacy? If the woman gives in to the intimacy to see if her husband will reciprocate emotionally and he doesn't, but he keeps expecting the same type of and timing of intimacy? Therapy hasn't worked, it always falls back. Is a sexless marriage ever ok?
I am working through trauma and being a survivor of purity culture. My husband will not work through past betrayal with me or emotionally connect on a regular basis. Honestly he ignores me most of the time. I have told him I will not have sex with him if we aren’t connecting outside of sex. It makes me feel like a whore. So we haven’t had sex In 3 months and I will not allow him into my body if he won’t try to enter my heart. I am also and have been experiencing pain in sex forever and didn’t realize it. So having sex when I don’t feel safe makes the pain worse too. It’s making my quality of life suck. Also side note, I love sex but I love myself too much to be used.
Marriage isn’t just sex. Sex is an over flowing of the love and intimacy you have. Husbands are told to love their wives like Christ loves the church laying his life down.
@@Iou655, I've definitely been there. I ended up realizing that you can't continue to have expectations of someone that they will never meet because you'll never end up feeling whole. Husband's like that are why I'm so glad that Paul and Morgan are covering these topics, holding everyone accountable for their role in not just reading their Bible, but committing to what God asks of you. Sex isn't talked about enough within the Christian community, particularly in this type of way. Enjoying your marital bed, enjoying your spouse! Worshiping their body! I absolutely love this.
Love is something that can only come from a heart in the state to love. Sex without love is just a physical act and not what I believe Paul is referring to in Corinthians.
That being said, not having sex freely can be loving, and giving sex freely can be loving.
Any act is good so long as it comes from an act of love driven by the Holy Spirit.
Oral anal feet hair hands
Having fun, excitement, throwing down, and getting freaky all is good, but without love, you edn up bitter.
One thing to consider is that men experience swx much differently.
There's not a lot of nerve stimulation it's mostly hydraulic.
So for men, the experience of sex mostly has to do with the personality and act of the woman. Men want at least 2/3 initiation from the woman. For her to surprise him and to keep him on his toes. Women can have sex with whoever they want, but men can't that's nature, so if a wife never initiates, he isn't satisfied .so he wants it more often.
But if he isn't seeing sex as a way to bring a sense of love into your heart, he isn't going to change.
It's no different than a hug. If someone isn't a hugger, then hugs are not going to make them feel love. Same with gifts, acts of service quality time, etc. There is no need in the human heart to express love a certain way only to receive.
1 Peter 3
The early church fathers explicitly condemned oral sex even within marriage. (There were people having both oral and anal sex in their days) You can go look up their writings for yourself. In fact they deemed oral sex to be an even worse sin than anal sex because of the fact that your mouth is used to receive holy communion! They even went as far as to say that the practice of spilling one's seed in "unnatural locations" is a "grave sin". They made it clear that the only place a man is allowed to spill his seed is in his wife's vagina. So therefore not just anal sex but any non vaginal penis intercourse (oral sex, mutual masturbation, sex toys ect.) is deemed to be off limits.
I’ve lived a life of sin before becoming born again at 27 (including sexually) but even I completely agree with this. Before even coming to the truth of our Biblical reality, I felt these things on a soul level. You can see by our anatomy what things are made for and it there’s something about those inversions that just make you feel dirty.
Yep! Procreative and unitive!!
Brother you nailed it 🙏🙏 these sexual acts are a abomination to the Lord our bodies should not be defiled nor our martial bed. These sexual acts invite demonic forces into our marriage
Early church fathers decide what is and isn't sin? I was raised conservative Christian and even I've never heard they had that authority. So glad I bailed on Christianity once I became an adult.
@@williambartholmey5946just make sure you don't let people's mistakes define who God is in your mind. U really want to encourage you, come back to Jesus, He's waiting for you with neverending love and with open arms, He loves you so much. I can tell you now you will really find a joy that cannot get taken away from you, its different than happiness my friend. Lots of love! ❤
Several days without sex! Wow the world is ending 🙄wtf
Your bitterness overflows. The utter shock/disgust you inject into a conversation about people who are actually enjoying their partners in marriage as one would is disturbing to me. You're probably just old/bitter/unhealthy/out of shape and now all you have left is your bitter snotty attitude for you to stick your nose up at.
You have no idea about the male existence..
Thanks for your honesty! I totally agree with you about the answer to oral sex, it's important to enjoy each other and this can be part of it (of course if someone doesn't like it - okay than don't do it) but I think we should stop making sexual intimacy an issue of shame and judging others for what they do. God has given us so much joy and freedom between a married couple!
To be honest, it makes me sad when I see that some Christians want to create rules that don't exist at all. Of course, if someone feels they shouldn't do it, don't go against your conviction. But stop making others feel guilty about something that can be totally okay and good. That's my opinion :)
Thanks for sharing! I think you put that well😊
This reasoning is used to justify anal sex
@@apracity7672 eww
@Apracity it's almost like God put nerve endings in the anus that makes it pleasurable, same as the clitoris.
It's almost like the head of a penis is made of the same tissue as the nipples and is always the same shade, meaning it was intended to be sucked on
It's almost as if the lips don't have skin on them and instead a membrane that detects pheromones for the purposes of putting the lips on the source of hormones.
It's almost as if most sexolgy knowledge isn't passed down and sex Ed has been reduced to penis go in vagina.
@@11footmidget92 You have perverted God's creation. Do you really think nerve endings in the anus are so that men can thrust their penises into this place? The anus is for defecation. The nerves are simply there to add sensorial capabilities in order to know when to push or when to stop pushing. This is common sense. Furthermore, by your chain of reasoning, sodomy would not be sinful. Yet, the Bible clearly condemns sodomy. Therefore, you err
I don't think anyone has the courage to ask about "the back door."
I read a Catholic sex article stating, "All sexual activity (i.e., foreplay) is ordered fulfillment in sexual intercourse, i.e., a completed sexual act. Hence, activities such as bringing the husband to orgasm without intercourse through mutual masturbation is gravely immoral."
What are your thoughts? Does every sexual act HAVE to end in sex?
The bible says that the marriage bed is undefiled, so I take that as anything goes as long as both people are okay with it as it’s covered under the marriage bond.
Well yeah, that's not just the Catholic church's beliefs but the belief of the early church as well. The early church fathers explicitly condemned oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation ect. even within marriage. They made no distinction between using those acts as foreplay or not because they viewed those acts as instricntly evil themselves so therefore a gravely sinful act can not be made moral all of a sudden by using it before intercourse. You can go look up their writings for yourself. In fact they deemed oral sex to be an even worse sin than anal sex because of the fact that your mouth is used to receive holy communion! They even went as far as to say that the practice of spilling one's seed in "unnatural locations" is a "grave sin". They made it clear that the only place a man is allowed to spill his seed is in his wife's vagina. So therefore not just anal sex but any non vaginal penis intercourse (oral sex, mutual masturbation, sex toys ect.) is deemed to be off limits.
@@mariahcooke5157 That scripture just simply means you can have sex with your spouse and it will not be sinful. It definitely does not mean that anything goes and that you can bring lust, perversion, uncleanliness, unnatural sex acts and kinky demonic sex into your bedroom.
@@dougml4549 where are you getting this information? Can you point to scriptures in the bible that mentions their beliefs on these matters? I’ve never read such things
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I got my information by studying the early church's writings and teachings on sexuality. Where do you get your information from?
Here are some scriptures:
-"Do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! Fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, SODOMITES, thieves, the greedy, drunkards, revilers, robbers-none of these will inherit the kingdom of God."
(1 Corinthians 6:9-11.)
SODOMY is defined as by Wikipedia: anal sex , oral sex between people, or any sexual activity between a human and an animal (bestiality). It may also mean any non-procreative sexual activity.
- Genesis 38:9-10 talks about the sin of Onan where Onan spilled his seed on the ground and God struck him dead on the spot. The use of any non reproductive sexual acts is the same as spilling your seed on the ground. Sperm was not meant to be wasted, swallowed, ejaculated into the anus, spilled onto your hands or into a napkin but was meant to go into the vagina so that it can bear fruit and bring forth the next generation.
-“God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth' ” (Gen. 1:28a). God commanded us to be "fruitful and multiply" and one can not do that through unnatural and non reproductive sexual acts because those acts are all fruitless to God's kingdom. It's clear from this scripture that those acts did not come from Him. His original intent in creating sex was to reproduce (as well as to be a blessing to the spouses and unify them together)
-"Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another" (Romans 1:26-27) Here it talks about people abandoning natural sexual relations (vaginal penile sex) for unnatural sexual relations. It does not matter if those acts are performed between people of the same sex or opposite sex, they are still unnatural because you can not reproduce either way.
"Don't let sexual sin, perversion of any kind, or greed even be mentioned among you. This is not appropriate behavior for God's holy people." (Ephesians 5:3)
Perversion is defined as "erring, straying or deviation from what is natural or right." So again God made sex the natural way, vaginal penile sex, and the devil made perversions because those acts stray from the natural way in which God made sex.
Such a cute, calm baby 🥹
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Oh my gosh Luca Is BEAUTIFUL 😍
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bruh i am Christian but i seriously do not understand the OBSESSION with sex and some of the things they say make me go WTF out loud!
I agree
it’s a beautiful thing created by God for in the confines of marriage.
@@kylierhodes5440 yeah but the way they go about is weird LOL and so many of these TH-camrs talk about modesty but what is modest about sharing your sex life with the world?
Some of the stuff they say is just corny or idk weird. But then again I wasn’t raised in purity culture and I did have sex before marriage so
@@lenaackerman2499 I believe it's because a lot of evangelical teaching is geared solely for a sex connection in marriage. That's what it's all about and it's a "need" for men so they must do it often or else. Instead of focusing on intimacy, true intimacy, everyone looks at the frequency of sex in a Christian marriage to determine if it's healthy.
@@lenaackerman2499 how exactly is it weird? They’re answering questions from other Christians you usually talk about your own experiences when it comes to anything it’s only for people who are married sex is huge and usually pushed under the rug for Christians I remember someone actually say they would invite God and pray over their sex life and it’s weird to think about it because when Adam and Eve were naked from the garden they didn’t hide it’s only when they ate from the apple then they covered and ashamed sex shouldn’t be something we should be ashamed of course as long as it’s in marriage and as long as it glorifies God He did make it to have fun with your partner
I grew up with purity culture & have talked to a lot of women who have as well.
We were taught in church & by Christian family that sex before marriage is an awful, shameful sin. So as teens/young adults with normal hormones, we repressed our very normal sexual desires. Or just thought something was wrong with ourselves if we did feel any desire.
Then when we got married & COULD have sex, it was hard to “flip the switch” and fully embrace our sexual selves. This is what came to mind with the last question about a “dirty mindset” about sex. A lot of the Christian circles I’ve been in paint the picture that sex before marriage is this dirty, very shameful thing, which has been harmful to so many people and ruined their sex lives. Or at least has made it a big hurdle to overcome.
I also doubt that a God who allows three million children to die of starvation every year really cares that much about our sex lives.
I also noticed that you didn’t even touch the subject of masturbation *pun intended
Marriage gives you the stamp of approval to have sex.
Sex isn't a shameful thing but it is intended for marriage.
When the flood of Noah came only 8 people were saved.
The rest thought they were crazy and it says they gave unto marriage. So even marriage itself outside of God's will can be bad. Sex is good but abnormal use of anything is abuse.
@@11footmidget92 yes, I get the concept. But the underlying message I got from Christians growing up is that sex (especially premarital sex) is a dirty shameful thing, that we awkwardly talk about, which led to repressing any natural sexual desire. It’s unrealistic to think that one can just “unrepress” that desire when they get married. There are whole forums & groups on the internet who have been negatively impacted by purity culture. Maybe you should hear them out.
@@11footmidget92 let me put it a different way… when you are told your whole life that sex is wrong, and then you go through the teenage years when you’re hormones are raging and you feel desire, you feel like you are bad for having those feelings. You then either give in to temptation & feel ashamed or repress those feelings altogether. All of this is harmful to an individual!
When you get married & sex is finally a good thing, it’s hard to see it as such.
I'm sorry, but we Christians didn't make up these rules around sex. These are God's laws, and you better believe that the Creator cares about how we use the gifts that He has given us - especially when that gift is something tied with creating new life. And yes, sex outside of marriage is a grave sin and should be seen as such. As a Christian, I'm not someone who hates sex. Sex is a beautiful thing when (and only when) it is enjoyed within the confines of God's perfect law. Outside of that, sex becomes a perversion. Your comments seems quite Freudian to me...
@@jamie7880I get where all these people are coming from…and it’s understandable how purity culture can damage someone. I’m 25, a virgin, severely struggling with sexual desires and over the years I’ve had HATRED for my body because I was ashamed of it. It’s not a good feeling, and just now I’m coming to terms with this. I now love my body, and now look at my body as finally something beautiful. It’s a SHAME it took 25 years for me to finally not look at myself as disgusting for feeling desires. I think the Christian faith is beautiful..but..no one should live in shame. And still…I catch myself slipping into toxic shame and need to be pulled out.
Hello new watcher here I love that you’re tackling the subject I do have one question do you think it would be ok if I kissed or hugged my girlfriend even though we’re not married?
they also have a video about that
Ahh just can't get enough of Luca 😍😍😍😍
Haha aww❤️
I have a question, do you guys think that masturbation is a sin before and after marriage ??
What are your views on birth control? Do you ever address this? Would be interesting to hear what you think (a lot of ppl shy away from this topic and believe it’s a matter of personal preference) but I’m not so sure it really is.
If the adults are comfortable, I don't have a problem with people choosing to have sex while their Under 6month Old is sleeping nearby. If they are awake, I'd say No.
I personally am not comfortable with a baby being asleep in the room because Baby coos snap me right out of the mood. 😅
You two are awesome! You are right, porn needs to go out of a man and woman's life. And if whoever is addicted to porn works on it while in a marriage, it can still be a beautiful Godly marriage. Because as I've learned, once addicted to porn like other addictions, you will never be free of the addiction, unfortunately. With God's help, your marriage can still thrive in time if both married people are willing to work through it together and communicate through the struggles. Love and communication are Key!
The baby just wanted to sit with y’all and be a part of the video 🥹😂 he’s sooo adorable!!!
Haha😛
I LOVE the way you ended your chat today! I sang right along with y’all. It made me want to set up a zoom call with my friends and have a Christmas singalong. 😊😀
Haha🎄
Love u guys :))
I ask for prayer, I do confess that I have played with fire, and suffered sexual sins.... please pray for me, love u guys, :))
Most ppl that struggle with po$n are religious and it’s due to the belief and scrutiny itself. Normal non believers do not have such problems. You can watch occasionally (it varies from person to person) but it’s just not an issue🤷🏻♀️ kinda weird hearing it can wreak havoc in marriages
Thanks for showing us your little angel
May God bless him and protect him in Jesus name💕🥰❤️🙏
It’s honestly hard for me to imagine being lucky enough to find my special woman. But, I’ll keep trying. Women are so beautiful, and I wish so badly to experience intimacy in a God approved way.
Y’all I’m probably the worst sinner in the body buuut…. It’s hard to wait for marriage I’m not even in the dating scene yet still in a healing season but …. Woof not fun
Man I feel you. But God is faithful
I am less than 5 months away from my wedding day, and I feel very clueless…😅 These videos have been very helpful; thank you!!
Just curious, how do I research safely? I would like to do more research on the topic of sex, but I am afraid of what will come up if I google things. I don’t want to regret the research that I do.
Is googling safe? Are there any specific websites/books/etc. that you would recommend?
You guys are awesome! Thanks!
Talk to your fiancé. How much research is he doing, how much is he comfortable with you doing? I don't know your guy, but if he's not comfortable researching it at all and you approach your wedding night with a bunch of research and expectations that could leave him really insecure and you really frustrated. There's plenty of time to learn together in marriage, so I'd rather err on the side of not knowing everything beforehand.
This definitely makes sense. Thank you!
You can set safe search to strict
You can read Song of Solomon
“The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex” is a good resource-new edition. I think that was 2022.
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS
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Paul you are everything I do not want in a partner 😊
On the topic of "What if you get married and realized you are not attracted to them?": I say that is a sign they shouldn't be with you. God let's bad things happen all the time, and always for Good, so I would stress about angering Him if you went through the whole marriage thing only to wake up after marriage and find you aren't attracted to your spouse at all. I don't see divorce as a sin given Legal Marriage as we have it today is purely societal and not biblical. I believe when God talks about Marriage, he is talking about your body, heart, and soul being married. That is attraction, the body, heart, and soul being married to that person.
In the case, I suggest that you can try to see if you become attracted to them but if you aren't, it is okay to end things safely and cordially. Spending your life trying to get attracted to someone you have legal ties to can cause far more damage to your spiritual relationship with God than learning a lesson about who you are as a person and letting the marriage go.
Honestly, yeah, most people in the church have false marriages. But let's not kid ourselves and think that Joe and jane fornicating to live together and
Have a loose relationship bound only by their desire to benefit from each other is marriage either. If you look at Genesis, Adam gave vows in a language he probably made with poetry and in front of God. And Jesus himself gave teachings that referred to cultural marriage tropes of the local Jewish towns. A ceremony created by your ancestors can be something honorable to abide by and the basis of the expression you choose to use to make those vows before God.
1. God does not punish His children, He disciplines them. This situation is neither punishment or discipline. This is a consequence of a life choice this man made himself.
2. Perhaps she may warm up to whatever he is desiring. However, in the meantime he should respect her feelings towards whatever he is talking about. 27:05
I’m an anti-theist, but I can’t stop watching these videos. It’s fascinating to witness.
It's the call of the Holy Spirit
@@НиколайРоманов-л6ю uh… no lol, videos such as this only push me further away from religion. That’s why I said it’s fascinating- it’s fascinating to try and understand how some people live their lives like this.
@@НиколайРоманов-л6ю I know you think I’m misguided or I just haven’t sought “god” out yet, but try to understand I genuinely don’t believe in any higher power. Not because I’m “angry at god” or vengeful, etc. No. I simply don’t believe due to the fact that there isn’t any convincing scientific evidence. The burden of proof is on the individual making the claim, not the person who denies the claim.
@@Ristofec what's fascinating about what? That over 3 Billion people don't betray their spouse and sleep with someone else? Fascinating how over 3 billion people don't murder someone everyday? Fascinating how over 3 Billion people try to forgive everyone? What's fascinating about normal life? Why do you hate a normal life? Can Satanism do any better? By s*x and murder and cussing all the time?
The fascinating thing is that God gave us morality and we preferred filth, yes truly fascinating indeed
@@Ristofec it's OK, if you don't love God, but God loves you, and that's why he sacrificed his Son for us. Its pretty selfish, and honestly, very unusual to say I don't believe in a higher power, like, even atheists believe the nature is stronger than humans, so what's the deal with no higher power?
There are evidences, first of all, the flood is one of the most important stories in the Bible, and by total coincidence, from Ancient China to India to Mesopotamia to Greece and all the way to the Inca and Aztec civilization, every culture has a great flood that changed everything, and by total coincidence, all civilization emphasise on how developed world was before the Flood, there are many other examples of cities like Atlantis, yes the every culture has a city like Atlantis that sank, and by total coincidence all cultures believe it happened so long ago that world has completely changed, want more proof? Why are there fish fossils on top of mountains? Because the flood picked up the fish and smacked it onto the mountain, there is no other logical conclusion that that fish got on top of a mountain, because the mountain was too high for any bird to hunt a fish and drop its remains of the mountain. Even more proof? Why did Apostle Peter want to be crucified, not only that but UPSIDE DOWN? Why did he want to die horribly for a lie? Alright want more? How did Paul turn from a murderer into a missionary? What changed him? God changed him.
Great video! Kingdom Sexuality Podcast is also a great resource that dives deeper into these topics!!
I think the only problem I see with oral sex is the verse talking about abstaining from things strangled and from blood (speaking of eating i'm pretty sure). Blood is blood.
I have a question for you guys but it's not related to the video do you guys believe in the rapture
I want to know this too :)
They do. Most denominations in Christianity do!!
Majority of Christians belong to denominations which regard rapture as heresy.
@@solochristo65most do not lol. The rapture is something that John Darby popularised in the 1800s..
Is it true that oral sex can give throat cancer? Honestly asking.
Yes. Certain strains of HPV cause throat cancer and can be transmitted orally. Obviously not a concern if neither partner is infected and activities are confined to marriage. Source: I'm a dentist, I've diagnosed it 😔
Only if the other is infected
@@alternamacif both are virgins this can’t be dangerous right?
This sort of seems like a reference
Song of Solomon 2:3
[3]As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
Every single confessing Christian knows that the pornographic "Song of Solomon" has been added to the Bible by Satan.
@@kyyyniThey your Christian friend have no idea of when it was written and how the Bible, specifically the Old Testament was compiled. Tell them to do some research and educate themselves.
I’ve heard from a Christian couple video series that they had created a system where the man would always text the wife well in advance so she has time to prepare 😅 Remember. Men are like microwaves. Women are like crockpots.
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Get em Paul and Morgan !
Luca: CUTE!
I find it very inappropriate to have your baby present in the video while discussing sex related topics! I am by no means religious at all but just found it a bit discomforting.
He doesn’t understand anything, he’s a baby LOL 😂
@@melissacalderon1515 exactly 😂
Child educator here. 👋 (Edit: grammar)
Under 8months old, Baby isn't going to pick up on anything except the energy of what their parents are saying. Whether the parents are speaking calmly, angrily, unsure, etc. With that in mind, I would go about taking about sex in the presence of a newborn with maturity and confidence.
Beyond that, I see no issue with it. It's just sex. Sex is a glorious thing but at the end of the day, it's just sex.
Older than 6months, that's when babies start to be able to understand simple nouns and verbs with visual information. In that case, I'm still not worried about them being in the same room, provided we aren't providing visual cues for what sex is for the kid to pick up on. If we don't draw Baby's attention to sexual words, it will fly right over their head.
Around age 11-14mos is when I would cut off my child being present with sex talks. That is around the age they start copying words in an attempt to ask what those words mean.
That all said, if YOU aren't comfortable with your newborn being around while people are talking about sex, then don't let them be there. Babies pick up on our energy so if you are feeling uncomfortable, they will pick up on that uncomfortable feeling (and not understand why).
Care to elaborate? Sex is a biological act and how that baby got here lol. They aren't being explicit. Sex is as natural as going to the bathroom who cares?
I certainly would have an issue if, as an adult, I'd come across a TH-cam video with my parents discussing the old in-out action, with me present.
When a woman or a Man know what to Do but doesnt Do IT. Well. Maybe he/she His preserving IT. For a better Time better place
Yea..
Responding to myself maybe IT isnt the right one
Which is the honeymoon video?
Would kissing be foreplay? If so, should we wait until marriage to kiss?
It’s not. If it causes you to lust tho, wait
It's not, but if it causes lustful thoughts, I will say wait. Use your own convictions though.
Heavy kissing would be foreplay. Getting turned on actually starts to shut down the part of your brain that governs good decision making. As Song of Solomon said, Don't awaken love until it pleases.
@@kodesh_intentions thank you ♡ I love how you used a specific part of the bible that is very helpful and creditable. God bless you
@@GeorgiaChapa thank you ♡ God bless you
Here is one thing I find interesting… I’ve noticed in these conversations is when the girl doesn’t want to have sex it’s because she doesn’t feel like it & there is valid justification… but when the guy doesn’t want to please the wife in a certain way, he is selfish, putting himself before you, not loving you as the Bible commands, he needs counseling? Shouldn’t that be the case for either party denying sex/ sexual favor?
To be clear, I think it’s wrong to deny the sexual needs of the other in a Christian marriage. Maybe I’m crazy, I’ve just heard these contradictory points before🤷♂️
You may have a point :)
I think the difference there is whether it is an occasional occurance or a constant thing, you not feeling like it this time is different than refusing to do it ever.
Not taking sides but a man does physically enter a woman’s body. It is quite a different experience
It should be judged case by case. From what I've heard, men are usually demanding when a woman is either in the middle of serving the whole family, is physically sick or recovering from childbirth. And the guys are usually just lazy and would rather be pleased and move on when the wife needs more attention. We should be fair though, so I would call a wife selfish if she's demanding favors after her husband has worked a 16 hour shift and is coming down with a cold. He would need to rest. Our first priority should be our spouses wellbeing, not our own pleasure. I just haven't heard about a wife doing that. Usually she'd be waiting on him and being a caretaker while when she's exhausted and sick she's still expected to perform. Or at least be willing to be used without affection and honestly that's heartbreaking. I know women are more emotional but I don't know how guys don't understand how hurtful it is to be used by the person who you are the most intimate with.
Oral is in the Bible
Love these videos!!
31:34 the duggars....
You got his family is so cute
When I get married and have kids I really want a big family to have a lot of kids I know it's weird for modern people at least for some that it's weird for some people to have more
than one or two kids which it's the opposite for me I don't get why people have one or two kids I would love to have a huge big family like they did in the past I personally don't have a number set
Lord willing, He will bless you with many children 🙏🏻. I wanted more kids, but I became infertile. So, I just have the one son.
And a big family is weird to me, with me not wanting any children, so I don't get why people have big families. But go you! 👏🏼👏🏼 If you are chosen to parent many children, that is great!
What kind of sex are you guys talking about?? Is it about nu-
In all honesty, this is the first video from this channel that I actually liked. Not overly religious. Just genuine transparency as fellow brothers & sisters 🤗 thank you for sharing🫶🏽
Can’t you comment without the WTF?
It's sad but I don't know if I want to comment under y'all's videos anymore cuz there's some rude ppl with no lives that are mean and try to hurt ppl on here
Sorry to hear that. If I notice anything too trolling I try to get rid of it :)
@@PaulandMorgan thank u that's very kind
I have a question regarding porn. If one partner in the marriage struggles with porn is it right for the other partner to withhold sex?
No that sounds really counter productive
@@WaywardBunnyy I've been in this position and even though it might mess with your mind. Just enjoy your husband and Him enjoy you and pray for him. During the night and through out the day. God can convict his heart and change his mind my husband changed and there is hope!
Also I would say talk to him about getting deliverance prayer for porn commanding that lustful spirit out of him
I would say no because its a general Christian principle that one should not pay back a wrong with another wrong. However, the person who watches porn ought to be severely reprimanded
Thank you all for sharing your thoughts. What if the person addicted to porn has no intention of changing?
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This video is so cringe! Ick!
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Gorgeous baby you guys!!!🥰