A recent study said many men in that age range who commit suicide aren't even depressed. They simply don't want the life they are living and see no other options. (Given combat experience this case is probably different)
As a suicidal husband and father myself, I really appreciated hearing your advice. The pain each day is real and I’m just white knuckling it right now. Thank you.
I was suicidal for years up until recently. Medication was the only thing that did anything, the right medication that is. For me, venlafaxine and bupropion together are working but different medications work for different people. I feel your pain man, hang in there.
I'm praying for them. I lost my husband of 30 years to suicide in Jan. 2021. I don't think I'll ever be okay again. My heart goes out to them. I am praying they get the help they need.
If you think this way, then you won't be okay ever again. If you believe in prayer, God will give you the peace you need. You will be okay if you believe. God can get you through anything.
I am so sorry! I struggle with suicidal thoughts and depression. I have been well for a year, but this gives me some great tools to help myself and help my spouse in battling this disease with me.
At 9:17- Dr. John- "The majority of people who commit suicide do not want to be dead, they just want the hurt to stop." I've been at that dark precipice, the edge crumbling beneath my feet. The only reason I'm here to post this is thanks to my beloved (late) wife, my pastoral counselor, and my two wonderful brothers. I truly saw no alternative. They led me back to the world. I owe them everything.
So true. But many of the suicidal persons want DEATH. Me included. Death as a punishment for your mistake (you deserve to die mentality) or death as an escape from hardship or agony. I tried committing suicide out of both. I went bankrupt and I couldn’t dare to face anybody who always had high expectations on me “not to fail”. I couldn’t face THE DAY AFTER so I decided that ending my life is the only way out.
You are fortunate to have such a close loving family. My brother wants me dead so he can get my mother's money . I have had two open heart surgeries and two strokes. He did not come to see me or even a phone call .
And the best part is he absolutely honored his word because the husband called in several days after and Dr. John got him some help he needed and even offered to get coffee with him if he came to the studios since they live in the same community. Dr. John is truly the best! ❤
Yes, the pain is very real. But, let me affirm: depression is curable. Don't give up, don't give in. Express the truth of it, even if in stumbling words.
Just lost someone yesterday to suicide, wasn't too close to him but he was my best friend brother. I used to cut his hair and never expected him to do what he did. It hurts a lot but aint nothing compared to the pain that his family is going through. Suicide will never be an easy way out. You leave behind way more problems and issues for your family rather than "helping them" by leaving them. Talk to someone, be open about your feelings, let all of your emotions out. Get out of that dark place and walk alongside the people that love you through the tough journey.
You can laugh and smile, pretend like everything is fine while holding a conversation with people and all the while the internal pain that has become too much to bare is right there. Ending it feels like the only option in getting relief.
I haven't known how to deal with my suicidal fiance and father of my two young children. Toddler and infant daughters. This has helped me so much. Thank you. I'm in tears.
To anyone going through this, I want you to hear me. The SOS moments are so important. My wife saved me with love. Talking is part of the process, but a silent moment over and over is powerful.
Can we just take a second to remember that as of 2-3 days ago dailing 988 came out. If you call 988, the suicide prevention hotline, you will speak with a trained counselor. I don't care about likes, but please get this to the top to help remind those in need ❤️
This may sound strange, but Psilocybin therapy has been incredibly useful to veterans who are suicidal. Incredible statistics of success. For anyone going through this, seriously look into it. It will be legal in Colorado in 2024.
28Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. MATTHEW 11:28-30
Consider if you, Emily, would risk, in the courage of your utter despair, to tell him calmly and tenderly, how much you need him, how badly you could cope without him, how much you feel dependent on his help and strength. Admit that you might handle him as the most fragile little butterfly, and nevertheless it is not your whole picture of him, on the contrary. Everybody hurts sometime, it is not a permanent personality defect. What if he needs to be reminded of, to remember that you trust him to be your support, too. That he isn't at all broken beyond repair to your mind. Remind him why you feel your concept of him is reasonable and true. Do your remember incidents when he impressed on you, when he took care for you, or did some other heroic thing? Remind him that life is complicated, there is black and there is white and all the other colors. Remind him that most of the time you admire him immensely, and at others time you admire him more than enough. With the tone of your voice you can make him hear that you open your heart to him and are very honest and trustworthy. You could confess that you need him to help you sustain the traumas he has gone true. Tell him that its terrible for you to be a helpless bystander when he hurts. Tell him that it feels better for you to sleep in his arms. And if he has nightmares that both of you then should get up and shift to sit in a sofa or in the kitchen and talk for a while, planning a strategy for how you handle these things. He will have nightmares, he will feel restless, he will be afraid that his life will turn out to be a failure - but it is good to look risks in the eyes, and be prepared to tackle the scares. He has very good reasons to live and you have very good reasons for loving him. Plan five years ahead, and all the years in between, and plan for tomorrow, next week and so on. Remind each other that a plan is a plan, not a promise, but execute a plan if nothing absolutely makes it impossible - make plans on a day that is a little bit better, and then "just do it" even if your not in the mood, as moods can change, as the weather. Feelings are not your deepest values. I write this because I did battle suicide-thoughts for almost 15 years, but now have been free of them for 40 years. I have helped some 10 persons in my life to get through suicidal crises as a fellow human being, friend or relative. Believe in your capacity to be of support. If you are fearful of saying or doing something that makes it worse for you hubby, tell him so. He is not the only one who has fears. He is not the only one who does not have failure-proof strategy for the future. But you can be in the insecurity together, in as much of a cocoon of love as possible. I think you are awesome, Emily, with the small glimpses of humor and all, and for not giving up hope, for your readiness to take on hurt, and for your immense caring. All the best, all love, all hope, you will not regret trying your best!
My 27 year old husband just died by suicide 4 months ago. Mothers day. I had left the week before and got some clothes the day before. All i can say is please pray to god. Please dont give up. We bonded partially because we both struggled with suicidal thoughts and attempts but god told me i never can do it about 2 years ago. My job is to take care of my 5 year old now. I wish god healed him. I would do anything to have him alive even if he hated me. But god is in control and god will always be in control. God has already won the battle against evil and will restore this world and all of us.
I know it's been about a year and I don't mean to reopen old wounds, but I just wanted to say I hope you and your child are still managing to live life, and continue to do so. Before I was born, at least from the things I've heard here and there, I had an uncle by marriage who had a daughter with my aunt. After they separated he took his own life, and to this day I don't think it's unlikely that it has impacted the quality of life of my aunt and her daughter (my cousin) who now has a husband and two children of her own, who luckily still have both parents but aren't in a great financial situation with multiple hospital visits for my cousin for both mental and physical illnesses each year. People often say suicide is selfish, but I feel like that might downplay the pain that the one who's gone felt which led them to do it. I just think sometimes the pain is so unbearable that it prevents them from seeing how it could devastate the people they leave behind by multiplying all that grief and pain and forcing them to take on all of it. Again I hope you're doing well, and I wish you the best; and if you ever see something like that again as difficult as it may be, like you said it's better for someone to be alive and hate you for stopping them from ending it than for them to never even have the chance to regret their choice in the first place. I don't know if I'm remembering this correctly, but I've heard when someone finally goes through with it there's almost never clear and rational thinking at that moment; it's completely spur-of-the-moment, and in the cases where the chosen method was something like falling from a bridge or rooftop and the person lives, they almost always say that during the fall they had just enough time to realize what they were doing and wish more than anything else they hadn't jumped. I've also struggled with suicidal thoughts for a long time, even I believe as far back as late 2014 when I was in the 5th grade (I'm 20 now) and thankfully I rarely if ever think about it without also thinking about how much it would hurt the people around me. I pray to God you stay strong, and I beg God forbid it but if you ever see the signs of that kind of thinking in your child later in life, please be as patient with them as you can and try to get them the help they need. The last thing we need in this world is more pain and suffering, both for those who want to end their own pain and everyone who's lost someone that did.
I knew my husband was going to committ suiside as he would talk about it but I tried everything I could to get help but could not. They said hed have to seek it out himself which I knew he would not. Sure enough he shot himself and had plans to take us all with him just lucky none of us were at home that day or I believe he would have. He was 39 at that time, I went and raised our two boys by myself and Im still single at 70 but I have a beautiful family 15 grandchildren and great and I think everyday what he missed out on😢
My wonderful, perfect boy friend is dealing with this terrible illness, and I'm so angry 'cause he doesn't deserve this. He is the best person I know, I wish I could punch depression right in the face. I've never had violent thoughts before, but if I could actually take it down, I would do so highly effectively. My boyfriend is everything you'd want a man to be, and I don't understand how this could be happening to him. So in case you don't know this for yourself, YOU ARE LOVED. You are cherished, and special, and deserving of so much more. I want you to know that the voice in your head saying the world would be better off without you is a LIAR. You can and will get over this. There is so much more behind the corner for you, so much you couldn't expect or dare to wish for. You are every bit as capable of finding joy and happiness in this life as anyone else, even though the situation might feel hopeless now. You are NOT the problem. Something is happening to you, but it's outside of you. Your loved ones want to be there for you, so let them. You are going to see this through. Sending you a massive hug
Please pray for your boyfriend. God has great power to change any difficult situation. Just like you rightly say there’s an outside force lying to them, you need to outsource greater power to oppose that force driving him. That outside source is the power of the name of Jesus. Jesus demonstrated power by raising Himself from the dead, He certainly has power to drive out every force that is driving the negative thoughts in your boyfriend. Wishing you the best.
Thank you for sharing this, maybe it's cause I'm chronically online so I tend to see the worst parts of humanity. When I see women genuinely caring for men's issues, it gives me hope. Hope you have a wonderful life.
So sad. Why isn’t he hospitalized after trying so many times? Suicidal ideation is bases for inpatient treatment. They need to protect him from himself, until they can figure out a plan with meds and therapy.
As a suicidal person myself (by jumping from the building) with the father who committed suicide by drowning and succeeded . The problem about suicide is your loved ones never get it. As this wife never get her husband. And that makes those people feel more alone in the dark. So true that many suicidal person don’t want to die but need the pain to stop. HOWEVER many among them want DEATH. Me included. Death as a punishment for your mistake (“you deserve to die” mentality) or death as an escape from hardship or agony. I tried committing suicide out of both. I went bankrupt and I couldn’t dare to face anybody who always had high expectations on me “not to fail”. I couldn’t face THE DAY AFTER so I decided that ending my life is the only way out. My dad did it out of despair. He felt he failed and nobody loved him. Those dark despairs are one of the root cause. Other causes are self-loathing, secret guilt or escaping the reality. We need to figure it out together WHAT IS THE ROOT CAUSE.
What do you do when the person keeps saying they don’t want to live anymore? Is that enough to call the cops? They don’t want to get help and they’ve never made an attempt (yet).
What does showing it look like? We live 1000 miles apart. Like sending him texts to check in, or sending him pics of my cat/funny meme/something “inspirational”? We had a falling out a couple years ago and don’t talk anymore in a causal way. But the few times we have talked (when it was important), it’s always good/okay and we say I love you before we hang up.
See my "letter" to Emily - is there something you could apply? Don't be passive, don't be intimidated, persist with your opposite wish for that person, the last word is not yet said!!!
@@DNA350ppm where would I find that letter? I’m not passive or intimidated in any area of my life. If anything, at this point I’m more guarded of my energy/emotions b/c this person is my older brother whom I’ve grown up with and has impacted every corner of my life, impacted my parents’ relationship, which in turn impacted the household, and ultimately my relationship w/my parents. I’m at the point where I expect and am prepared for him to “do something”, but I refuse to be emotionally held hostage anymore. I’ve accepted that I could/will get “the call” any day that he’s gone, or has been 5150’d. But in the mean time, I want him to know I love him. I’m trying to remain emotionally removed in order to protect myself, but I do love my brother and I want him to know that while he’s still here.
@@l-train7876 The "letter" was my long comment posted not an hour ago. Hope you find it in the thread, or I can copy it here below, if TH-cam allows it. So your brother has had a psychological problem for a long time. I'm glad that you are not intimidated, because that is a very common and understandable reaction, we don't want to say or do anything to make it worse for anyone who already suffers. Neverthelss it is very hard for you all, and I guess you have already tried lots and lots of solutions. I think you do right to protect yourself and also in wanting to make him know that you love him. Only he is responsible for his life as an adult man. Have you got support for your own well-being? Who cares about your feelings and supports you to thrive? In the case you describe I get the gut-feeling that you need to do your best to look to it, that the bucket stops with you - your family has been "delivered" a difficult task, for sure. Stay determined not to be defeated. I wish you strength and all the best, and don't give a damn about any bad advice, for example from me - of course you can feel what works best for you, and stay on your track and be happy for having an inner compass!
My husband was a veteran and killed himself in a VA facility. If you see this, understand you cannot depend on them to keep him safe and unfortunately there's nothing you can do to stop him. So get him help. If I had been able to get mine admitted to the state hospital he would still be alive. Mine was also borderline personality disorder but do everything you can. The fact that he's willing to get treatment actually makes it harder for him to get what he really needs but I hope you're more successful at figuring that out than I was.
0:45...that was a very sharp left turn from the good day start... he needs help immediately!! this is dangerous territory that he is in psychologically considering his multiple suicide attempts.
I'll take it a step further.....get him medically evaluated first...for medication side effects, nutritional deficiencies, etc. A complete physical with blood work. Sometimes an underlying, undiagnosed medical condition can masquerade as a mental health issue like depression. If found to be physically healthy, move forward with a mental health professional.
Idk to me she doesn’t sound as shook up by this as she should be. Probably just because she’s trying to keep it together on the phone. But I say this because as someone who has dealt with suicidal thoughts for years, we hope to hear your concern in your voice. Also DON’T talk to us like we’re crazy, we’ve been through a lot mentally and that only makes it worse to have our pain invalidated. There is honestly something so soothing about someone just being there with us to listen, no advice, no judgement, just to listen and give us a genuine hug 🥺
He needs to be seen or admitted immediately. He’s going to do it because ptsd (from the military) does not easily go away. It eats away at you every day if it is not intervened. His family may be in danger too. This needs to be addressed immediately by a highly trained and skilled psychologist or psychotherapist. A regular person/family members talking with him will not suffice. I cannot stress this enough. One thing his wife can do though is to remind him that he is not in Afghanistan or Iraq anymore. That it’s safer back here at home.
Just at 1:30, and sickened. This man served your country, and it took him to drive out to a bridge to get help??!? How sad is that? The most powerful nation on earth does that to its own …
Oh he's a veteran, the poor man probably has ptsd. They font do enough for veterans/soldiers. He's probably having terrible flash back on what he saw and what happened.
Hope deferred make the heart sick as the Bible states. Suicidal people are spiritually/emotionally sick and have a fading hope or none at all. Please reach out to someone, a professional or loved one. Pain is inevitable and we must respond to it better. Change your routine, change your environment. Do something different, go somewhere different, be someone different so you could invite more hope in your life
@Starting_anew you would need to identify just what it is your depressed about. Confront it head on and go through the steps to conquer it. Depending on what it is, it would be different for everyone. If it's something you can do nothing about, your going to have to come to terms with that. Invest your emotional energy in what you can influence and change, not on what you cannot. Seek a bigger purpose for living that is bigger than you, one that would outlive you.
I had my first suicidal ideation at 16.. I decided push on but since then I've known in the back of my head that I won't make it to 30. I'm 28 now and can feel my time running short, fast. I don't know why I'm saying this here. I've never told anyone. I guess I just want to say it out.
Sorry to hear what you are going through. I cannot unfortunately give you any advice or motivate you to not take the drastic step since I'm also in the same shoes that you are in. All I can do is pray to lessen your pain.
I'm struggling with self-harm since I was 15 and now I'm 21 I'm am a special needs adult and I struggling badly and I see my psychiatric next Thursday I feel I need help I have been Inpatient on and off since I was 15 years old and my psychiatric therapist and my mom all said that I don't need to be hospitalized I don't know what to do
My mother committed suicide in 04 she was schizophrenic I get the people want to be out of pain and they get the break it’s the family that’s left behind that spends the rest of their lives picking up the broken pieces and trying to survive.. it’s such a selfish act.
Never call suicide selfish. It's not. We truly belive that the world will be a better place without us. Isn't it selfish of others to want to keep someone in so much pain and suffering alive? You probably disagree which is why I disagree with you as well. We're humans. We always do what's best for ourselves, at least for the most part. Wanting to be free from the suffering is only human. If you've ever been there, planning to take your own life and caught up in the pure darkness, you'd fully understand where we're coming from. Suicide is not selfish. It's not cowardly (try to kill yourself, it goes against our most primal instinct and it takes COURAGE to go through with it. If it was easy, more people would die. I'm sorry about your mother and I know the pain and anguish of losing someone but I will never call that person selfish. That'd be selfish of me.
Yeah you’re right! It’s one of the most selfish thing one can do! Everyone has problems! There’s a time to laugh and a time to cry a time to live and a time to die. But not at your own hands! Everyone goes through pain once and a while.
@@TheChiGirl1Shame on you! Thinking people should kill themselves just because they’re going through trials and tribulations in their life. Everybody goes through them! And that’s the key word (THROUGH!) it comes and it (GOES!) that is life! Not to kill your self!? And then let the people that know and love you now have to deal with the consequences of their actions!
I am praying for your husband . We have no idea what he went through and is going through . I’m glad he’s getting help. Write your congressman about this matter and you will get a response
My personal experience aside (my Mom committed suicide when I was 16), there are no easy answers here, especially in THIS world. No one can say with absolute certainty why anyone chooses suicide. Let us, please, send Emily and her husband love and light... I understand suicide entirely...and the reasons behind it. I also understand the pain of the families affected by it. Just please know, if your loved one succeeds at suicide, it has NOTHING to do with you. You could NOT have done ANYTHING to prevent it. But Dr. John...…it's my belief that you are wrong in telling her to ask him for a "Wellness Contract" Especially if he's prone to "shameful thoughts about himself." Are you asking her to put more (possible) shame on him? FLIPPING NO. Emily, please just do your best. If he succeeds, just send him love into the next world. It wasn't about anything except his unbelievable pain.
Please look for inpatient hospitalization. If the patient is suicidal they will admit the patient. That will help. My prayers are with you and your family. Sorry for what is going on. You all will be alright. My prayers.
Inpatient hospitalization can only do so much. I worked at a psychiatric hospital and we had a lot of patients admitted due to suicidal attempts or ideation. I only know of one who kill herself after she was discharged. She was not on my caseload at that time but she was on my caseload a few months back for suicidal ideation. Mother said she was raped by her brother, so perhaps trauma from that started the suicidal thoughts. She also had started using meth. All I know is her mom said she changed after brother raped her. She was admitted months later for suicidal attempt and was successful sometime after discharge. My heart was broken to hear she had killed herself. The worst part was that her social worker and psychiatrist didn't seem to care.
Also, I worked in a hospital too with psych patients and it’s almost like contradictory away because they literally talk to each other and figure out other ways to try it. It’s a double edge sword.
As somebody that has done more than a few suicide attempts throughout my life at different points I didn’t necessarily want to die and I believe that’s why I chose the methods I did so I would still have a way out if I change my mind, but life can be so overwhelming and painful that It’s hard to find any other path sometimes so now that I look back, I would call it more self harm than an actual attempt because if I really wanted to check out I could’ve jumped off of the building but the pain and the misery and the stress is still there, sothere’s that but yeah it’s tough when you get to the point where you really feel there’s no way out and they’re kind of isn’t in way in a lot of cases and that’s sad part
Great phone call and plans. I had a boyfriend in middle school who's dad had committed suicide when he was young. Kids blame themselves and are heart broken they weren't enough and wonder if they could have shown more love to their parent who did that or if they would have behaved better. It is super heartbreaking. It leaves a whole in their heart forever... If anyone is readying this and thinking about suicide or leaving, please remember that kids would rather have a parent that isn't perfect rather than missing a parent altogether. Also, you can learn new skills, try new things and things will change as people & kids grow and develop. Also, Dr John didn't mention this, but there's nothing wrong with meds if they help, but be super careful because some that help a lot of people also backfire on others, so work super closely with a doc when trying new meds (like weekly/ daily check ins until the med & dose is right)... I have adhd, was diagnosed a year ago and meds took me from feeling like a failure 8 of 10 times throughout the day with a lot of stress and anxiety to now where I have no anxiety and realizing that if I don't get something right, I make notes and try to do better next time. Anyway, it's a total different feeling and no more anxiety. I still can't believe how much a pill can change feelings. Also along the way the doc had me take both welbtrin and Strattera and I ended in crying all day long which totally isn't like me. So I stopped both and called the doc, which is why you have to work closely with the doc while figuring out what works.
Be really careful suggesting that the suicidal person should not be allowed to talk. That is probably the WORST advice I have ever heard in a case like this. John what are you doing here bro?
I get how he feels a lot, I have those same feelings off and on but I will disagree with Dr. John on one thing, do not call 911 for someone struggling with mental health
First we have to pray to our Heavenly Father for His Protection. It is a spiritual battle. Then to ask GOD to show us specifically- what to do ! JESUS! CALL UPON JESUS! ONLY HE HEALED ME !!
Dr.John , do you accept calls from Canada? My daughter died by suicide in 2021 and my son lost the only person he believed he could talk to. He is an addict and wants to die. Sometimes I feel maybe he should, for his sake, for his 2$4 year old girls who he can’t see cause of meth use and for my mental health:::shameful! Mentally I have BPD and depression. How do I fix myself to help him?
Jesus is the King of peace! Do you hear me! And He’s the Lord of peace! And He’s the GOD of peace! There is nothing else that can compare! Jesus is the one! Run to Him!
Let's take a bunch of tax dollars that are spent on people buying Icee's, and Cheetos on EBT, and pump the VA so our soldiers can get the help they need. Too many military men, and women are affected by PTSD. I can't imagine what it would feel like to go through that.
The sad truth is you can't help him. You will burn yourself out trying to do everything for someone you love. They need professional help as soon as possible. You can lead a horse to water...
There is no escape from living! Once you’re born you are going to live forever! This life is a test. You must come to the realization of Truth. That there is a GOD and He loves you but you are evil as well! And GOD is good, righteous and Holy. And you must come to the conclusion that you are a sinner and not so good as you think you are. You must have a change of mind of how you are living your life. Because everything is going to be brought up good or bad in Judgment on that day. And GOD provided a way to be saved and cleansed of your old ways of living and thinking. And Jesus is thee way!
The only way you can Endure this life is that you have to have God in your life! You might think everything is fine now. But wait! Trouble is coming for everyone! It’s just a matter of time! Ultimately if you don’t have Jesus then you have nothing! And you won’t last! Because He (Jesus) is life!
The sad part of this is that this poor veteran, who honorably served our country cannot get the mental health help he needs, but folks who just walk over our border and get right on the Medicaid system get all the free care and help they need!! I hope this lady is taking this seriously, because things can change quickly when you have depression!
I would get surrounded by a praying church! Not one that just does basic worship and has 0 community! They sound like they may be good for a young adult Church group as well!
When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken. Psalm 34:17-20
Call it a spirit that somehow latched on, a mental stronghold, emotional blockade, corrupt thoughts or whatever, but obviously something is going on internally beyond the surface that the rest of the world cannot see, yet the person struggling with the suicide is feeling the intense pain. Surgery is an inner work, not a topical remedy like merely applying on ointment, thus internal spiritual/mental rearranging and internal dissection/repair must be undergone
That's a really incredibly dumb thing to say. He's already in a contract. It's called a marriage. He's not alone, floating in the universe and just unconnected to anyone. He's part of a family. A father. A husband. A husband who chose to be with the woman He's with. You call that "entrapment "? His choices of life or death, all choices make or break others' lives. I hope you're not married to anyone with this kind of attitude. Ew.
Tell him to buck up and snap out of it. We are all depressed. This is America one of the lousiest countries to ever live in. Capitalist violence guns everywhere. Schools not safe for children. Health Care it Costs!!!!!! Yes depressing but one has to get on with it.😮
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"The majority of people who die by suicide do not want to be dead, they want their hurt to stop." Soo true. 😢
They also want people to get off our back. People are suffocating.
😢 true
For real I understand
A recent study said many men in that age range who commit suicide aren't even depressed. They simply don't want the life they are living and see no other options. (Given combat experience this case is probably different)
It’s a truth.
As a suicidal husband and father myself, I really appreciated hearing your advice. The pain each day is real and I’m just white knuckling it right now. Thank you.
Notice this has no likes or comments. I'm right there with you brother. It's clear we don't matter to anybody.
I was suicidal for years up until recently. Medication was the only thing that did anything, the right medication that is. For me, venlafaxine and bupropion together are working but different medications work for different people. I feel your pain man, hang in there.
Why are you white knuckling?
No 😢 man think about the kids see a therapist and I hope you get well
I'm praying for them. I lost my husband of 30 years to suicide in Jan. 2021. I don't think I'll ever be okay again. My heart goes out to them. I am praying they get the help they need.
If you think this way, then you won't be okay ever again. If you believe in prayer, God will give you the peace you need. You will be okay if you believe. God can get you through anything.
I am so sorry! I struggle with suicidal thoughts and depression. I have been well for a year, but this gives me some great tools to help myself and help my spouse in battling this disease with me.
I'm so so sorry. 😢
Please know that theres nothing u couldve done to stop him from taking that step.. its not ur fault . N it doesnt erase the 30 yrs of love u shared
🙏💔😓 I’m so sorry for your loss
At 9:17- Dr. John- "The majority of people who commit suicide do not want to be dead, they just want the hurt to stop." I've been at that dark precipice, the edge crumbling beneath my feet. The only reason I'm here to post this is thanks to my beloved (late) wife, my pastoral counselor, and my two wonderful brothers. I truly saw no alternative. They led me back to the world. I owe them everything.
So true. But many of the suicidal persons want DEATH. Me included. Death as a punishment for your mistake (you deserve to die mentality) or death as an escape from hardship or agony.
I tried committing suicide out of both. I went bankrupt and I couldn’t dare to face anybody who always had high expectations on me “not to fail”. I couldn’t face THE DAY AFTER so I decided that ending my life is the only way out.
You are fortunate to have such a close loving family.
My brother wants me dead so he can get my mother's money .
I have had two open heart surgeries and two strokes. He did not come to see me or even a phone call .
"if he calls in we'll move him to the front of the line" I love how Dr. John puts first things first and cares so much.
And the best part is he absolutely honored his word because the husband called in several days after and Dr. John got him some help he needed and even offered to get coffee with him if he came to the studios since they live in the same community. Dr. John is truly the best! ❤
The pain is real. Depression sucks.
Yes, the pain is very real. But, let me affirm: depression is curable. Don't give up, don't give in. Express the truth of it, even if in stumbling words.
@@DNA350ppmYou damn right.
This is hard for this family. God, please protect them.
Dr. John, wow, what a professional !
Just lost someone yesterday to suicide, wasn't too close to him but he was my best friend brother. I used to cut his hair and never expected him to do what he did. It hurts a lot but aint nothing compared to the pain that his family is going through. Suicide will never be an easy way out. You leave behind way more problems and issues for your family rather than "helping them" by leaving them. Talk to someone, be open about your feelings, let all of your emotions out. Get out of that dark place and walk alongside the people that love you through the tough journey.
Amen. Toxicity is better out than in, hence our excretory system
Man this call brought tears to my eyes, you can just hear the love in her voice. I hope their family can come out of this ❤️
100 % agreement from me also!
You can laugh and smile, pretend like everything is fine while holding a conversation with people and all the while the internal pain that has become too much to bare is right there.
Ending it feels like the only option in getting relief.
I haven't known how to deal with my suicidal fiance and father of my two young children. Toddler and infant daughters. This has helped me so much. Thank you. I'm in tears.
I hope he can get the help he needs. Prayers for this family.
To anyone going through this, I want you to hear me. The SOS moments are so important. My wife saved me with love. Talking is part of the process, but a silent moment over and over is powerful.
Can we just take a second to remember that as of 2-3 days ago dailing 988 came out. If you call 988, the suicide prevention hotline, you will speak with a trained counselor.
I don't care about likes, but please get this to the top to help remind those in need ❤️
You can also text that number.
This is how veteran get treated unfortunately. So sad 😞 😥
Love this callers positive mindset and approach.
I'm both moved and impressed!
This may sound strange, but Psilocybin therapy has been incredibly useful to veterans who are suicidal. Incredible statistics of success. For anyone going through this, seriously look into it. It will be legal in Colorado in 2024.
28Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
30For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
MATTHEW 11:28-30
I lost my son due to suicide almost 2 years ago it’s very devastating for the family 😢. I’m so sorry the person on the phone
That’s hard. I pray this man is making progress.
Consider if you, Emily, would risk, in the courage of your utter despair, to tell him calmly and tenderly, how much you need him, how badly you could cope without him, how much you feel dependent on his help and strength. Admit that you might handle him as the most fragile little butterfly, and nevertheless it is not your whole picture of him, on the contrary. Everybody hurts sometime, it is not a permanent personality defect.
What if he needs to be reminded of, to remember that you trust him to be your support, too. That he isn't at all broken beyond repair to your mind. Remind him why you feel your concept of him is reasonable and true. Do your remember incidents when he impressed on you, when he took care for you, or did some other heroic thing? Remind him that life is complicated, there is black and there is white and all the other colors. Remind him that most of the time you admire him immensely, and at others time you admire him more than enough.
With the tone of your voice you can make him hear that you open your heart to him and are very honest and trustworthy. You could confess that you need him to help you sustain the traumas he has gone true. Tell him that its terrible for you to be a helpless bystander when he hurts. Tell him that it feels better for you to sleep in his arms. And if he has nightmares that both of you then should get up and shift to sit in a sofa or in the kitchen and talk for a while, planning a strategy for how you handle these things.
He will have nightmares, he will feel restless, he will be afraid that his life will turn out to be a failure - but it is good to look risks in the eyes, and be prepared to tackle the scares. He has very good reasons to live and you have very good reasons for loving him. Plan five years ahead, and all the years in between, and plan for tomorrow, next week and so on. Remind each other that a plan is a plan, not a promise, but execute a plan if nothing absolutely makes it impossible - make plans on a day that is a little bit better, and then "just do it" even if your not in the mood, as moods can change, as the weather. Feelings are not your deepest values.
I write this because I did battle suicide-thoughts for almost 15 years, but now have been free of them for 40 years. I have helped some 10 persons in my life to get through suicidal crises as a fellow human being, friend or relative. Believe in your capacity to be of support. If you are fearful of saying or doing something that makes it worse for you hubby, tell him so. He is not the only one who has fears. He is not the only one who does not have failure-proof strategy for the future. But you can be in the insecurity together, in as much of a cocoon of love as possible. I think you are awesome, Emily, with the small glimpses of humor and all, and for not giving up hope, for your readiness to take on hurt, and for your immense caring.
All the best, all love, all hope, you will not regret trying your best!
Wow. That was poetic and breathtaking. Thank you
@@drchristineobrien9704 Thank you so much for your kind response!
Beautifully put!
@@ayishas4385 Thank you so very much!
He is lucky to have her.
My 27 year old husband just died by suicide 4 months ago. Mothers day. I had left the week before and got some clothes the day before. All i can say is please pray to god. Please dont give up. We bonded partially because we both struggled with suicidal thoughts and attempts but god told me i never can do it about 2 years ago. My job is to take care of my 5 year old now. I wish god healed him. I would do anything to have him alive even if he hated me. But god is in control and god will always be in control. God has already won the battle against evil and will restore this world and all of us.
I know it's been about a year and I don't mean to reopen old wounds, but I just wanted to say I hope you and your child are still managing to live life, and continue to do so. Before I was born, at least from the things I've heard here and there, I had an uncle by marriage who had a daughter with my aunt. After they separated he took his own life, and to this day I don't think it's unlikely that it has impacted the quality of life of my aunt and her daughter (my cousin) who now has a husband and two children of her own, who luckily still have both parents but aren't in a great financial situation with multiple hospital visits for my cousin for both mental and physical illnesses each year.
People often say suicide is selfish, but I feel like that might downplay the pain that the one who's gone felt which led them to do it. I just think sometimes the pain is so unbearable that it prevents them from seeing how it could devastate the people they leave behind by multiplying all that grief and pain and forcing them to take on all of it. Again I hope you're doing well, and I wish you the best; and if you ever see something like that again as difficult as it may be, like you said it's better for someone to be alive and hate you for stopping them from ending it than for them to never even have the chance to regret their choice in the first place.
I don't know if I'm remembering this correctly, but I've heard when someone finally goes through with it there's almost never clear and rational thinking at that moment; it's completely spur-of-the-moment, and in the cases where the chosen method was something like falling from a bridge or rooftop and the person lives, they almost always say that during the fall they had just enough time to realize what they were doing and wish more than anything else they hadn't jumped.
I've also struggled with suicidal thoughts for a long time, even I believe as far back as late 2014 when I was in the 5th grade (I'm 20 now) and thankfully I rarely if ever think about it without also thinking about how much it would hurt the people around me. I pray to God you stay strong, and I beg God forbid it but if you ever see the signs of that kind of thinking in your child later in life, please be as patient with them as you can and try to get them the help they need. The last thing we need in this world is more pain and suffering, both for those who want to end their own pain and everyone who's lost someone that did.
I knew my husband was going to committ suiside as he would talk about it but I tried everything I could to get help but could not. They said hed have to seek it out himself which I knew he would not. Sure enough he shot himself and had plans to take us all with him just lucky none of us were at home that day or I believe he would have. He was 39 at that time, I went and raised our two boys by myself and Im still single at 70 but I have a beautiful family 15 grandchildren and great and I think everyday what he missed out on😢
what a loser of a man. what man would even consider killing his family.
What a tragedy. Yes awful to get that answer when a loved one struggles for you. And yes thank god non of you werent home that day
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God bless you Paula! You are amazing!!!🙏🏻♥️
I am so sorry.
My wonderful, perfect boy friend is dealing with this terrible illness, and I'm so angry 'cause he doesn't deserve this. He is the best person I know, I wish I could punch depression right in the face. I've never had violent thoughts before, but if I could actually take it down, I would do so highly effectively. My boyfriend is everything you'd want a man to be, and I don't understand how this could be happening to him.
So in case you don't know this for yourself, YOU ARE LOVED. You are cherished, and special, and deserving of so much more. I want you to know that the voice in your head saying the world would be better off without you is a LIAR. You can and will get over this. There is so much more behind the corner for you, so much you couldn't expect or dare to wish for. You are every bit as capable of finding joy and happiness in this life as anyone else, even though the situation might feel hopeless now. You are NOT the problem. Something is happening to you, but it's outside of you. Your loved ones want to be there for you, so let them. You are going to see this through.
Sending you a massive hug
Please pray for your boyfriend. God has great power to change any difficult situation. Just like you rightly say there’s an outside force lying to them, you need to outsource greater power to oppose that force driving him. That outside source is the power of the name of Jesus. Jesus demonstrated power by raising Himself from the dead, He certainly has power to drive out every force that is driving the negative thoughts in your boyfriend. Wishing you the best.
Thank you for sharing this, maybe it's cause I'm chronically online so I tend to see the worst parts of humanity. When I see women genuinely caring for men's issues, it gives me hope. Hope you have a wonderful life.
So sad. Why isn’t he hospitalized after trying so many times? Suicidal ideation is bases for inpatient treatment. They need to protect him from himself, until they can figure out a plan with meds and therapy.
Shame on the VA. Our veterans deserve better! 🇺🇸
Agree with you! Prisoners get more help than Veterans. Shameful!
As a suicidal person myself (by jumping from the building) with the father who committed suicide by drowning and succeeded . The problem about suicide is your loved ones never get it. As this wife never get her husband. And that makes those people feel more alone in the dark.
So true that many suicidal person don’t want to die but need the pain to stop. HOWEVER many among them want DEATH. Me included. Death as a punishment for your mistake (“you deserve to die” mentality) or death as an escape from hardship or agony.
I tried committing suicide out of both. I went bankrupt and I couldn’t dare to face anybody who always had high expectations on me “not to fail”. I couldn’t face THE DAY AFTER so I decided that ending my life is the only way out. My dad did it out of despair. He felt he failed and nobody loved him.
Those dark despairs are one of the root cause. Other causes are self-loathing, secret guilt or escaping the reality. We need to figure it out together WHAT IS THE ROOT CAUSE.
Have you looked into things like EMDR?
You are a strong woman praying for your family.
What do you do when the person keeps saying they don’t want to live anymore? Is that enough to call the cops? They don’t want to get help and they’ve never made an attempt (yet).
Just keep showing up for them. Let them know someone truly cares. You don't have to say it. Just show it. It'll make a difference.
What does showing it look like? We live 1000 miles apart. Like sending him texts to check in, or sending him pics of my cat/funny meme/something “inspirational”? We had a falling out a couple years ago and don’t talk anymore in a causal way. But the few times we have talked (when it was important), it’s always good/okay and we say I love you before we hang up.
See my "letter" to Emily - is there something you could apply? Don't be passive, don't be intimidated, persist with your opposite wish for that person, the last word is not yet said!!!
@@DNA350ppm where would I find that letter? I’m not passive or intimidated in any area of my life. If anything, at this point I’m more guarded of my energy/emotions b/c this person is my older brother whom I’ve grown up with and has impacted every corner of my life, impacted my parents’ relationship, which in turn impacted the household, and ultimately my relationship w/my parents. I’m at the point where I expect and am prepared for him to “do something”, but I refuse to be emotionally held hostage anymore. I’ve accepted that I could/will get “the call” any day that he’s gone, or has been 5150’d. But in the mean time, I want him to know I love him. I’m trying to remain emotionally removed in order to protect myself, but I do love my brother and I want him to know that while he’s still here.
@@l-train7876 The "letter" was my long comment posted not an hour ago. Hope you find it in the thread, or I can copy it here below, if TH-cam allows it. So your brother has had a psychological problem for a long time. I'm glad that you are not intimidated, because that is a very common and understandable reaction, we don't want to say or do anything to make it worse for anyone who already suffers. Neverthelss it is very hard for you all, and I guess you have already tried lots and lots of solutions.
I think you do right to protect yourself and also in wanting to make him know that you love him. Only he is responsible for his life as an adult man. Have you got support for your own well-being? Who cares about your feelings and supports you to thrive?
In the case you describe I get the gut-feeling that you need to do your best to look to it, that the bucket stops with you - your family has been "delivered" a difficult task, for sure. Stay determined not to be defeated. I wish you strength and all the best, and don't give a damn about any bad advice, for example from me - of course you can feel what works best for you, and stay on your track and be happy for having an inner compass!
My husband was a veteran and killed himself in a VA facility. If you see this, understand you cannot depend on them to keep him safe and unfortunately there's nothing you can do to stop him. So get him help. If I had been able to get mine admitted to the state hospital he would still be alive. Mine was also borderline personality disorder but do everything you can. The fact that he's willing to get treatment actually makes it harder for him to get what he really needs but I hope you're more successful at figuring that out than I was.
0:45...that was a very sharp left turn from the good day start... he needs help immediately!! this is dangerous territory that he is in psychologically considering his multiple suicide attempts.
My boyfriend attempted suicide and I don’t know how to help him deal with it.
If he's on statins, get him off right now! It exacerbates PTSD.
I'll take it a step further.....get him medically evaluated first...for medication side effects, nutritional deficiencies, etc. A complete physical with blood work. Sometimes an underlying, undiagnosed medical condition can masquerade as a mental health issue like depression. If found to be physically healthy, move forward with a mental health professional.
Idk to me she doesn’t sound as shook up by this as she should be. Probably just because she’s trying to keep it together on the phone. But I say this because as someone who has dealt with suicidal thoughts for years, we hope to hear your concern in your voice. Also DON’T talk to us like we’re crazy, we’ve been through a lot mentally and that only makes it worse to have our pain invalidated. There is honestly something so soothing about someone just being there with us to listen, no advice, no judgement, just to listen and give us a genuine hug 🥺
He needs to be seen or admitted immediately. He’s going to do it because ptsd (from the military) does not easily go away. It eats away at you every day if it is not intervened. His family may be in danger too. This needs to be addressed immediately by a highly trained and skilled psychologist or psychotherapist. A regular person/family members talking with him will not suffice. I cannot stress this enough. One thing his wife can do though is to remind him that he is not in Afghanistan or Iraq anymore. That it’s safer back here at home.
You are a great women.There are many therapies for ptsd.Emdr mindfulness etc
I don't think I wanna live past my 30s or 40s
Just at 1:30, and sickened. This man served your country, and it took him to drive out to a bridge to get help??!? How sad is that? The most powerful nation on earth does that to its own …
Oh he's a veteran, the poor man probably has ptsd. They font do enough for veterans/soldiers. He's probably having terrible flash back on what he saw and what happened.
Hope deferred make the heart sick as the Bible states. Suicidal people are spiritually/emotionally sick and have a fading hope or none at all. Please reach out to someone, a professional or loved one. Pain is inevitable and we must respond to it better. Change your routine, change your environment. Do something different, go somewhere different, be someone different so you could invite more hope in your life
Thanks for this message. But what if you’ve done all of that and none of it works?
@Starting_anew you would need to identify just what it is your depressed about. Confront it head on and go through the steps to conquer it. Depending on what it is, it would be different for everyone. If it's something you can do nothing about, your going to have to come to terms with that. Invest your emotional energy in what you can influence and change, not on what you cannot. Seek a bigger purpose for living that is bigger than you, one that would outlive you.
This was so sad 😞
I had my first suicidal ideation at 16.. I decided push on but since then I've known in the back of my head that I won't make it to 30. I'm 28 now and can feel my time running short, fast. I don't know why I'm saying this here. I've never told anyone. I guess I just want to say it out.
Sorry to hear what you are going through. I cannot unfortunately give you any advice or motivate you to not take the drastic step since I'm also in the same shoes that you are in. All I can do is pray to lessen your pain.
I'm struggling with self-harm since I was 15 and now I'm 21 I'm am a special needs adult and I struggling badly and I see my psychiatric next Thursday I feel I need help I have been Inpatient on and off since I was 15 years old and my psychiatric therapist and my mom all said that I don't need to be hospitalized I don't know what to do
If someone is suicidal, they need to be admitted to a hospital immediately.
If you can afford that. My ex was admitted twice, still killed himself and left me with close to $10,000 of dollars in hospital bills.
The mental health system is counter-productive, incredibly and shockingly. Pray instead. God is listening and WILL help
This guy is brilliant!
My mother committed suicide in 04 she was schizophrenic I get the people want to be out of pain and they get the break it’s the family that’s left behind that spends the rest of their lives picking up the broken pieces and trying to survive.. it’s such a selfish act.
Never call suicide selfish. It's not. We truly belive that the world will be a better place without us. Isn't it selfish of others to want to keep someone in so much pain and suffering alive? You probably disagree which is why I disagree with you as well. We're humans. We always do what's best for ourselves, at least for the most part. Wanting to be free from the suffering is only human. If you've ever been there, planning to take your own life and caught up in the pure darkness, you'd fully understand where we're coming from.
Suicide is not selfish. It's not cowardly (try to kill yourself, it goes against our most primal instinct and it takes COURAGE to go through with it. If it was easy, more people would die.
I'm sorry about your mother and I know the pain and anguish of losing someone but I will never call that person selfish. That'd be selfish of me.
Yeah you’re right! It’s one of the most selfish thing one can do! Everyone has problems! There’s a time to laugh and a time to cry a time to live and a time to die. But not at your own hands! Everyone goes through pain once and a while.
You say it’s selfish but you don’t know that persons suffering ,shame on you. If you haven’t ever been in the pits of hell please don’t judge.
@@TheChiGirl1Shame on you! Thinking people should kill themselves just because they’re going through trials and tribulations in their life. Everybody goes through them! And that’s the key word (THROUGH!) it comes and it (GOES!) that is life! Not to kill your self!? And then let the people that know and love you now have to deal with the consequences of their actions!
I am praying for your husband . We have no idea what he went through and is going through . I’m glad he’s getting help. Write your congressman about this matter and you will get a response
My personal experience aside (my Mom committed suicide when I was 16), there are no easy answers here, especially in THIS world. No one can say with absolute certainty why anyone chooses suicide. Let us, please, send Emily and her husband love and light... I understand suicide entirely...and the reasons behind it. I also understand the pain of the families affected by it. Just please know, if your loved one succeeds at suicide, it has NOTHING to do with you. You could NOT have done ANYTHING to prevent it. But Dr. John...…it's my belief that you are wrong in telling her to ask him for a "Wellness Contract" Especially if he's prone to "shameful thoughts about himself." Are you asking her to put more (possible) shame on him? FLIPPING NO. Emily, please just do your best. If he succeeds, just send him love into the next world. It wasn't about anything except his unbelievable pain.
Please look for inpatient hospitalization. If the patient is suicidal they will admit the patient. That will help.
My prayers are with you and your family. Sorry for what is going on. You all will be alright. My prayers.
Inpatient hospitalization can only do so much. I worked at a psychiatric hospital and we had a lot of patients admitted due to suicidal attempts or ideation. I only know of one who kill herself after she was discharged. She was not on my caseload at that time but she was on my caseload a few months back for suicidal ideation. Mother said she was raped by her brother, so perhaps trauma from that started the suicidal thoughts. She also had started using meth. All I know is her mom said she changed after brother raped her. She was admitted months later for suicidal attempt and was successful sometime after discharge. My heart was broken to hear she had killed herself. The worst part was that her social worker and psychiatrist didn't seem to care.
Also, I worked in a hospital too with psych patients and it’s almost like contradictory away because they literally talk to each other and figure out other ways to try it. It’s a double edge sword.
He probably is just suicidal. Some people don’t act on it, but they think about it every day.
As somebody that has done more than a few suicide attempts throughout my life at different points I didn’t necessarily want to die and I believe that’s why I chose the methods I did so I would still have a way out if I change my mind, but life can be so overwhelming and painful that It’s hard to find any other path sometimes so now that I look back, I would call it more self harm than an actual attempt because if I really wanted to check out I could’ve jumped off of the building but the pain and the misery and the stress is still there, sothere’s that but yeah it’s tough when you get to the point where you really feel there’s no way out and they’re kind of isn’t in way in a lot of cases and that’s sad part
Great phone call and plans. I had a boyfriend in middle school who's dad had committed suicide when he was young. Kids blame themselves and are heart broken they weren't enough and wonder if they could have shown more love to their parent who did that or if they would have behaved better. It is super heartbreaking. It leaves a whole in their heart forever... If anyone is readying this and thinking about suicide or leaving, please remember that kids would rather have a parent that isn't perfect rather than missing a parent altogether. Also, you can learn new skills, try new things and things will change as people & kids grow and develop.
Also, Dr John didn't mention this, but there's nothing wrong with meds if they help, but be super careful because some that help a lot of people also backfire on others, so work super closely with a doc when trying new meds (like weekly/ daily check ins until the med & dose is right)... I have adhd, was diagnosed a year ago and meds took me from feeling like a failure 8 of 10 times throughout the day with a lot of stress and anxiety to now where I have no anxiety and realizing that if I don't get something right, I make notes and try to do better next time. Anyway, it's a total different feeling and no more anxiety. I still can't believe how much a pill can change feelings. Also along the way the doc had me take both welbtrin and Strattera and I ended in crying all day long which totally isn't like me. So I stopped both and called the doc, which is why you have to work closely with the doc while figuring out what works.
Do we have any update on them?
Be really careful suggesting that the suicidal person should not be allowed to talk. That is probably the WORST advice I have ever heard in a case like this. John what are you doing here bro?
I get how he feels a lot, I have those same feelings off and on but I will disagree with Dr. John on one thing, do not call 911 for someone struggling with mental health
If someone says "suicide" it's 911. Anything else I agree with you.
The thing about Suicide is all up to the person who's Suicidal. Not much can be done by the love ones. Only talking to Vets is his only other option.
First we have to pray to our Heavenly Father for His Protection.
It is a spiritual battle.
Then to ask GOD to show us specifically- what to do !
JESUS! CALL UPON JESUS!
ONLY HE HEALED ME !!
Stop treating him with lack of respect
I wonder if she actually did something and just isn’t saying anything about it
As a veteran I can say I hate the VA so much.
my grandpa is going through them and he says dealing with them is worse then vietnam, and he disarmed explosives for 6 years.
Dr.John , do you accept calls from Canada?
My daughter died by suicide in 2021 and my son lost the only person he believed he could talk to. He is an addict and wants to die. Sometimes I feel maybe he should, for his sake, for his 2$4 year old girls who he can’t see cause of meth use and for my mental health:::shameful!
Mentally I have BPD and depression. How do I fix myself to help him?
I’m very sorry you’re going through these struggles. For what it’s worth, I’ve seen Dr. John take calls from Canada. Give it a try.
Jesus is the King of peace! Do you hear me! And He’s the Lord of peace! And He’s the GOD of peace! There is nothing else that can compare! Jesus is the one! Run to Him!
My friend Maddie committed suicide Nov 14 2020 I felt the same way I broke down in tears 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Im sorry for ur loss
Let's take a bunch of tax dollars that are spent on people buying Icee's, and Cheetos on EBT, and pump the VA so our soldiers can get the help they need. Too many military men, and women are affected by PTSD. I can't imagine what it would feel like to go through that.
Miss couple of your show
The sad truth is you can't help him. You will burn yourself out trying to do everything for someone you love. They need professional help as soon as possible. You can lead a horse to water...
There is no escape from living! Once you’re born you are going to live forever! This life is a test. You must come to the realization of Truth. That there is a GOD and He loves you but you are evil as well! And GOD is good, righteous and Holy. And you must come to the conclusion that you are a sinner and not so good as you think you are. You must have a change of mind of how you are living your life. Because everything is going to be brought up good or bad in Judgment on that day. And GOD provided a way to be saved and cleansed of your old ways of living and thinking. And Jesus is thee way!
Does anyone else think that if they kill them self they won’t actually die ? I keep getting that thought when I attempt to.
You cannot stop him.if he wants to do it, he does. My husband hung himself. nobody could do anything to save him. It was his decision.
It's a great day John!! Even though my Husband is trying to end his life SMH..
The only way you can Endure this life is that you have to have God in your life! You might think everything is fine now. But wait! Trouble is coming for everyone! It’s just a matter of time! Ultimately if you don’t have Jesus then you have nothing! And you won’t last! Because He (Jesus) is life!
Have him eat a dozen Chocolate Primatali chili peppers. He will forget all about self harm.
Does anyone know if he called the show?
The sad part of this is that this poor veteran, who honorably served our country cannot get the mental health help he needs, but folks who just walk over our border and get right on the Medicaid system get all the free care and help they need!! I hope this lady is taking this seriously, because things can change quickly when you have depression!
Exactly!! So sad how our leaders have left behind the veterans who served our country for those who aren’t even citizens!!😡
So sad.
Betrayal Al it’s worse not looking after people who serve the country.. the government sux
Im surprised the question is about how to make herself feel better instead of “how can i help my husband”
I would get surrounded by a praying church! Not one that just does basic worship and has 0 community! They sound like they may be good for a young adult Church group as well!
AMEEEEEEEN YEEEEEEES, A CHAIN BREAKING CHURCH!!!
When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken.
Psalm 34:17-20
He needs to see other Vets who went through what he's going through. No God or Church will help. Maybe make it even worse.
There is a book called The Mood Cure, it goes through all the Amino Acids needed for depression, addiction etc.
PRAY FOR HIM‼️‼️‼️ SUICIDE IS A SPIRIT ‼️‼️‼️ PRAY AGAINST IT IN JESUS NAME‼️
It is
How do you know it’s a spirit? Just curious
Call it a spirit that somehow latched on, a mental stronghold, emotional blockade, corrupt thoughts or whatever, but obviously something is going on internally beyond the surface that the rest of the world cannot see, yet the person struggling with the suicide is feeling the intense pain. Surgery is an inner work, not a topical remedy like merely applying on ointment, thus internal spiritual/mental rearranging and internal dissection/repair must be undergone
Jesus understands suicide and tells tired people to come to Him.
Love how it's all about them. Sad people are so selfish.
Do you really understand so little about how mental illness works?
Entrapping and tormenting someone with a contract just sounds manipulative and incredibly selfish.
That's a really incredibly dumb thing to say.
He's already in a contract.
It's called a marriage.
He's not alone, floating in the universe and just unconnected to anyone.
He's part of a family. A father. A husband. A husband who chose to be with the woman He's with.
You call that "entrapment "?
His choices of life or death, all choices make or break others' lives.
I hope you're not married to anyone with this kind of attitude.
Ew.
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so her first question is "how does she find peace" ....
Ok. Let’s talk about the title. How do I help him. Maybe not the best sentence to follow my husband is suicidal
Call the cops tell them he’s dangerous and armed and they will take care of him
But that's a lie
Sure will. Suicide by Cop.
Why does the husband want to pop his Cork???😮
Tell him to buck up and snap out of it. We are all depressed. This is America one of the lousiest countries to ever live in. Capitalist violence guns everywhere. Schools not safe for children. Health Care it Costs!!!!!!
Yes depressing but one has to get on with it.😮
Get life ins on him at least lol
No man should have to fight a dragon with his bare hands
depression is so gay. quit being a sad little downer and start living
Everyone you'll encounter from now on then will be a flaming homosexual..