You didn't fail your grandfather because of your college experience. You got your degree. Just by how you present yourself in your videos, I'm sure he's very proud of you.
college sucked. it was expensive, many of the classes were useless (general ed classes), and if you were an introvert, that was it for your social life. i lived at home for the last three years of college and literally only went to campus for classes and came right back home. and honestly, i regret nothing. the bright side about not having a social life in college is focusing on classes and being able to finish sooner. nothing about the experience was memorable in any way.
I love hearing it from that perspective! I’m definitely an extrovert who regrets not making more social connections, but as an introvert I can imagine it makes you focus more on the academics! Glad you have no regrets!
I'm glad you have a positive view of your college experience now. My college years weren't great because I was depressed most of the time but it was better than High School because there was more freedom and less people who didn't want to be there.
Yes! The independence in college was great, just a stronger learning curve for me I suppose lol. But sending you lots of love and hoping that depression was just in the scope of school 😔
I never went to college. I actually hated high school, I hated school in general. People were very very mean to me for no reason at all, I never went to my prom or got my grad photo taken. I have never been good with people and as a result of all of this I have next to no friends. It really sucks not having any friends and it’s very hard to make friends. I am basically alone 24/7 and at times it’s very very hard. I guess it is true that you make life long friends in college.
Oh my goodness, I relate SO MUCH. I was an excellent student at school, but when I got to a very prestigious foreign University I felt alone. I chose to study graphic design. Ended up HATING my major and actually feeling ashamed to be a designer. I felt like it's a fake degree, you don't really need to study to graduate... I've written my diploma work in two weeks, never read any books for my studies. I couldn't relate to any of the students nor my roommates, didn't make any friends. And this Uni was so hyped, there's only positive reviews about it online. I hated my major since day 1 of Uni, but I couldn't leave or switch majors because so much money was already paid.
I also sympathize with many of the things you said in the video. Especially the thing about the photos. When I was in college, I enrolled too many classes and also missed many opportunities to make connections, make friends, have fun... What I regret the most is that I missed my graduation ceremony. That day I went to a side job to earn money. While at work I realized that I had missed the most important college memory without a second chance to get it back in my life. I made wrong decision, I learned that money is not as important as my memories. To this day I still feel bitter envious when I see someone wearing a bachelor's coat and receiving a diploma from the principal because I missed the chance to take that picture.
Wow, thank you for sharing Tuyet!! I can totally see how in the moment, making money was more important than some silly ceremony. But in hindsight you missed out on one of life’s most meaningful milestones to be celebrated! I can imagine how regretful that is, but be proud that you even graduated and you have opportunities to document other life events in the future ♥️
I am 29 years old and had a similar experience Jacy! I missed out on a lot during my time at university, mainly because I was a transfer student and older than most of the other students in my nursing program. I ended up graduating with people who also were not in my cohort because I had to retake a class. Wish things could have turned out differently, I feel your pain, but love your channel all the way from Texas.
I can imagine being a transfer student is very similar, as everyone else got a head start in making and keeping a friend group 😔 but I appreciate the support from the south ♥️
Jacy, I went to school out of state at the University of Michigan--Ann Arbor after high school. I was in the College of Engineering. I don't think I ever really fit in. I worked at the UM Medical Center doing my computer job, and eventually I left school to do that full time in my FRESHMAN year with Bell Atlantic Network Integration. I did go to football and basketball games, but in my early college days, I kind of felt that I was walking amongst people, but not with them. Later, after the army, I went back. However, they wanted me to jump through a bunch of hoops, so I took my G.I. Bill elsewhere. My second time around in college was all about getting skills and grades. The social aspect of school was small. That's alright, because prior experience informed me that the grandeur and architecture of a school does not an education make. I had discipline and a goal. I was older. It's nice to have people to talk to, but in the end, they are the competition. Some people do not need good grades to go on with their careers, so social life really fills a need for them. Anyway, my point is that college works out differently for everyone. There is no one college experience. There are the popular, well known parts of going to college, but then there are the unsaid things that can leave you high and dry with no degree. Be happy and glad that you made it. Many don't. Congratulations.
Even though scrapbooks can be lovely, it honestly didn't need to be another burdensome factor in the already difficult experience you had. A lot of people don't get college right, it's hard to get something right when you're doing it the first time and having a serious boyfriend makes it more challenging. A lot of people seem to have regrets about college from what I've learned, and a good number don't work in the field they majored in so go figure. Some have ended up with huge regrets after frat parties for one reason or another. Basically, the scrapbook is a nice gesture but it doesn't have to be a must in all situations when it'll make for a sad memory, you know, moms can sometimes be set in their visions or habits a bit much. Anyway great story and you're a great story teller. Journalism might have taken some shine out of you because mostly bad news sell...you might be great at some kind of a show where you explore places, food or people's stories and where you're free to be your bubbly self.
I loved this video! I'm a scrapbooker too! I'm a Rambler and the basketball team has been in the news quite a bit in the last few years, but when I was a student ai did not attend one game. They played at the Allstate Arena and it was too far for me and I worked full time. Back then the downtown campus had a more commuter feel. I felt very disconnected after I left the radio station to with a she young woman who had been my producer of ny show. I didn't know her well and she wasn't friendly but I up ended my opportunity to be the air to work for a psychologist in the Gold Coast. I worked and went to class. I graduated in January, though I finished in June of the year before, but wasn't allowed to walk because I needed 2 credit hours for the may graduation. by the time I came back I was working it just had a different feel. I also was the only African American that graduated with a Political Science degree from the school and it had been very stressful. I felt unwanted. But, I did what you did and I reconnected and I attend events and engage with my Dept. and I love it now. I'm proud to be a graduate and what I've accomplished.Good for you.
This is interesting. When I went to college I didn't care about the social aspect at all. I went to a commuter school and a lot of people didn't live on campus or participate in any activities. I mostly regret going because it took so much time and focus away from other priorities I should have had like beginning a career. In some ways I think college sent me back.
thank u for sharing! i’m currently a college student and this definitely reminded me to make the most of it. and it doesn’t have to the stereotypical way of making the most of it, but in my own way of enjoying it and having no regrets
When I looked back on life at 30, I believed that I should have had more fun. When I looked back at 40, I realized that fun is not as good as focus. I no longer need to look back at 50. I am where I am supposed to be. It is a good place.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It seems you came out well on the other side of things regarding your perspective. I also had what I would call a mediocre college experience. I lived on campus all four years but had a difficult time connecting with people on a more than surface level. I had a fair number of acquaintances but few friends. The group I met freshman year drifted apart as time went on and by junior/senior year I was a bit of a lone wolf. I had a bit of depression about it but never really engaged with it too much. I was turned off by the party scene and did not drink much. It was hard finding “my people”. I too was a stellar student in high school and got my first B’s and C’s in college, which was a bit of a blow to my self-esteem. Going to a large state school did not help on any fronts, where it became hard to make connections with people you rarely see and trying to stand out to professors feels like a Herculean task. I kind of just swam along until I graduated. I fortunately had a better time at grad school, which was a much, much smaller cohort of people who I could more easily connect with. I also have had to work on myself and push myself to be more social and become more vulnerable with others, as well as be willing to initiate friendships. It takes work, especially as we get older and are not naturally surrounded by large groups of peers. This was longer than I wanted it to be, but just know a lot of us had these experiences. At the time, I felt like I was the only one who “failed” the college experience but it’s been good to know many of us felt this way. I am in my late 30’s now and live a pretty great life, so overall I have few regrets. ❤
Hey Jacy thanks for being so open and honest about how you feel. You are a. beautiful being, thanks for having the courage to be so open and honest, would love to meet you one day. Very few of you exist…
Enjoyed your video and raw emotions/ honesty! Regret can definitely eat us up, specially when we dwell on what things could of been like if we had made different decisions. Definitely can relate to that! But so glad you have a “second chance” to embrace the Trojan spirit, live and explore the city, and reconnect with friends! Every experience are lessons learned so definitely not a time waisted!
I never went to college, its not as big of a thing where I’m from and frankly I just had no desire to go to college. However I can somewhat relate to your regret about not having photos in such a pivotal time in my life. When I went through chemotherapy at 16, I dodged photos because I looked so sick and I felt super self conscious, but now wish I had photos of that time, it’s a part of me and my story. Thanks for sharing ❤
Wow, thank you for sharing Nancy! I can imagine in that moment how little you’d want to capture it, but it shows in hindsight how we crave those photos to look back on. Hope your health is doing better ♥️♥️
@@JacyErin oh no worries at all, happy to share, it’s always better when it’s a two way street. Yes definitely, there’s something about those memories even if they aren’t “the best time in your life” but it IS A PART OF YOUR LIFE. & yesI’m cancer free, I finished chemo at 18 and got the ALL CLEAR 5 years after that. I’m now about to be 27 (in 2 week)
You are so raw in this video and emotional and towards the end it sounds like you feel its because you let your grandfather down. But I think he would be extremely proud of you if he were alive. You made your college experience what worked for you at the time, what you needed. Just because you didn't party or make tons of friends or were a star in the yearbook doesn't mean it was a failure. What you are doing right now probably at least in part comes from what you learned, though mostly probably comes from your natural personality and charisma. My own situation is irrelevant here but you inspire me to open up, since you are so open. My college experience was a lot like yours. I tested out of high school early (my own choice) amd spent three years in community college when I was 16-19. I sailed through with straight As. Then I got accepted to an amazing university. Oh I relate sooo much to the small fish big pond thing. You described it soo well. I did graduate but I struggled for that degree. I didn't do any parties or make friends. I lived with a boyfriend off campus. Its amazing how relatable your story is. I don't really regret not doing that stuff though. I know full well I was never a joiner type. Just not into clubs or cliques. Not that I have anything against those that are. You went there to learn and you obviously did. You are a very accomplished person. Does it matter if you weren't Party Girl in college? I don't think it matters. You are amazing to share your experiences and its great to hear someone telling stories I relate to. Enjoying your channel so much. You do have a quality about you that comes across as wholesome and its very endearing. Not everyone has to be whhhoot party girl. Intelligent and wholesome has its place!
Hey Jacy. Thanks for letting us peek into your life. I did the USC film school summer program. So my entire college experience was just one summer. Plus I was in my late 20s. So I aways felt like the old guy at the party. In hindsight. I would love to be that “old” again. Part of me feels like I missed out on a full college experience. While also spending full college money. But it’s was exciting while it lasted and I’ll always have that Trojan connection. I’m glad you’re still repping the USC. Fight on.
I found your YT page looking for info on joining Orange Theory. Great vid, btw. I feel your pain with regard to this one. I was a transfer student at UCLA and a little older. I also had to work a lot and didn't have much time for social groups or events but I still love my school. It's one of the best things I ever did in my life and I have no regrets. Glad you're able to look back and appreciate the positives about your college experience. Your grandfather would have been proud of you. Go Bruins!!! :)
I can relate alot to some of what you said. Going to college, I was an only child and had never lived away from home. I chose to go home every weekend and not join in with what was available to me. I was very home sick and when I was alone, like you I would sleep alot. I've since learned that's my body's way of shutting down to what I can't handle at the time. I'm glad you have more positive experiences now ❤️
Wow, what a great way to describe it- our bodies were shutting down! But it’s a period of our lives we can look back on and grow from without regrets ♥️
Awwww!! I just wanna give you a hug!! College ain’t everything for everybody! I had a very similar college experience. I had a pretty small group of friends and ended up not going to class and dropping out
I needed to hear this. I just graduated from college and I can relate to your experiences including sticking with a major you hate, not taking advantage of career and networking opportunities, and not going out. My biggest mistake was going to a school I could afford versus one I would have enjoyed. Anyway I loved hearing your story and I can't wait for more cooking tutorials!
You don't know. More social life could have backfired, too. You have to play the hand you're dealt. You were a high performing student, so of course it was easy to fall prey to the draw of the big schools. Community colleges in PA (DCCC) and Michigan (WCC) are great places to find your career, but big schools do provide an experience that community college can't provide. Later in life, you will be glad to be able to share what a big school experience is about. You'll be able to make better decisions about what is really necessary for education and career. You have nothing to regret. Make the best of your life TODAY. Take advantage of your education and meet new people along the way. College is not supposed to be the end of life. It's only a possible beginning.
Love your video and honesty! I had could relate to some of things you said about! Especially the part about your grandfather! My grandfather was a Tuskegee Airman and attended Tuskegee University and I went there as well and had some hard experiences to the point that I dropped out and felt so ashamed that I let him down. He did live to see me graduate from The University of Arizona. and always told me that he was proud of me and that I finished what I started. I know that your grandfather is proud and smiling down on you as you made your video! Plus, you got me curious about hand casting lol!
A Tuskegee Airman?!?!?! Sam!!!! Wow that’s amazing, but I can imagine how much pressure that put on you. But our family will always be proud of us no matter what, despite our shortcomings with which we think we’ve disappointed them. Proud of you for still persevering and getting that degree ♥️
I loved this video and you expressed your true feelings.. Our decisions when we are younger are sometimes flawed - you told it well!! Thank you for mentioning your Grandpa - he loved you so very much! Love you Jacy! I still have his huge USC lapel button!! (from the Rosebowl).
First of all your other sounds like an angel. I love the scrapbooks. I want to do this for my daughter one day! And it breaks my heart seeing you so upset and regretting not enjoying your college days. Love you Jacy 💚
We LITERALLY had identical college experiences in reference to academics And relationship wise! I lived 45 mins out and went home every weekend to visit a boyfriend And why you got me crying at work because same, i literally have zero college pics
I feel you. I went to calstate Fullerton (commuter university). I didn’t go to any parties, live in the dorms (I was going to until I saw the price), or join any clubs or fraternities at my college. I hated school and just wanted to graduate. I was also in a long term relationship(high school sweethearts). She went to a private college in riverside so I would go to class on Friday, drive up to riverside, pick her up (I couldn’t go in her dorm because it was private), and drive us back home to la. That was mainly what I did for a long time. We broke up while in my third year. I had friends in college because of my major. We were all taking the same classes so we ran into each other a lot and became friends by default. I kind of wish I went to a big school to enjoy the parties and have a real college life. I wanted to go to Arizona or San Diego (because they were party schools lol) but didn’t get accepted. Yet I’m so glad I didn’t because I have no college debt now. I worked at target while in college and had an annuity that paid for most of my schooling. All those wasted years on nothing it feels like. The main memories I have from college is waiting in traffic. You don’t know what you don’t know
This is interesting to hear from the opposite perspective of wanting to go to a bigger school. While I think you would’ve LOVED going to a place like USC, that college tuition price is no joke, and I’m envious you’re debt free 😅 but that time of our lives is for a good balance of schooling and social time, so we both missed out there 😔 but just means we have to prioritize those kinds of opportunities in the future!
Very entertaining stories. Your experiences need to be shared and, IMHO, are not unique, but you convey these stories in a very engaging and interesting way. Many can take some lessons from what you share
Thanks so much Emilia! Yes, I premiered it so there was a live chat, but TH-cam sometimes buries those notifications 😖 I’ll give more notice next premiere video!
Jacy, as you can tell, you aren't the only one to have a lonely college experience. So did I, but on top of that I had a very bad high school experience with a lot of pseudo-friends. Even worse, I didn't know how to think for myself, and thus didn't even know how to defend my core authentic self from peer pressure. In my hs and college days - 80s and early 90s - the media and especially the entertainment industry shoved down our throats the unspoken but obviously present message "If you aren't part of some tight-knit, gimme five (before high-fives were a thing) one of the gang buddy clique, you aren't worth the gum that sticks to your shoes". It would take me well over a decade before I finally broke free of it. BTW, I found far too much of this college party stuff shallow, drama, and basically High School 2.0 (no offense intended to your own H.S. experience, but a lot of people didn't have as good a one as you did). I say you still came out ahead despite your pain.
I want to thank you for sharing such a raw piece of your life! I can truly relate to this even though my situation was very different. The raw emotions you showed and felt during this video is exactly how I felt with my high school experience and my community college experience. My situation was different because I had severe major depressive disorder and crippling anxiety and a few other disorders that made it hard to even live. I missed so much in high school and college that I had absolutely no pictures to even have as memories because I simply didn’t have those memories to begin with. I also had no friends or made any new ones or got involved as much as I wanted to because of my debilitating mental illnesses. But, come a few years later, I met my husband and got married and completely changed my “major” and did a 6 month program to become a vet assistant and I couldn’t see myself doing anything else. I didn’t need a degree or to follow a path I didn’t even enjoy. I may have missed a ton and I regret many things but, I am a completely different person and have a very different life that now, I am able to look back and appreciate how much I’ve grown and who I’ve become today. Everything truly happened for a reason and although my story is different, it goes to show that there is a reason we cross certain paths or get derailed on other paths. Life is simply a journey! I appreciate you showing a little glimpse of your life that many can relate to, so thank you again for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing your story Karissa!! I totally understand that sadness of not capturing the memories, but simply because they weren’t there! Overcoming that depression is extremely difficult, but I’m so glad to hear how wonderfully your personal and academic life turned out! Be proud of yourself ♥️♥️
This was such a great video, Jacy! College was way better for me than middle and high school, but there were some cons for sure. Overall, what I experienced at college prepared me for the work environment I am in (to some degree). I’m just thankful it’s over and I can be an adult adult lol🤣! P.S. - I am happy you have friends in my city (NYC)🗽
This video makes me sad because this is how I feel about graduate school so I can relate so much. I was so active in undergrad, but now I work full-time and I have to take classes that are evening or online rather than ones I'm truly interested in. I would like to be in more organizations, go to conferences, etc. because my current job is not in the field of my degree so I feel like I'm wasting time. ❤
I had a similar experience in that I started out in journalism and realized I didn't want to do that. I didn't figure out what I really wanted to do until well after I graduated and I'm still working on that. I had two roommates that went home every weekend and they missed out on a lot of fun. I didn't drink or party either, but our school had fun activities like Casino night and murder mystery night that the other roommates weren't around for. And my one roommate that was there I'm really close to. We still talk and visit and are best friends nearly 20 years later. And I think we got so close because it was just us most of the time. I'm sorry your college experience wasn't great. My life sucked after college but those college years were wonderful for me, but I went to a small school my largest class was 30 people. I think if I'd gone to a big school it would have be a much different story. I actually used to work at UC Berkeley and I don't think your experience there would have been much different/better just based on the students I worked with and what they told me. But having that USC name on your resume is good. I've seen those schools open doors for people and some jobs automatically put you at the top of the list if they see it regardless of other qualifications.
Hey, thanks for sharing. I went through something similar from high school to college. I also went from being the big fish in a small pond to just another tiny fish in a huge pond, if I said it right. I ended up graduating early, and went on to grad school, so I have lots of debt. I made a lot of friends but I wish I did more on campus and with my friends. I wish I had taken more advantage of the opportunities around me. I was very insecure. I definitely wished I didn't have to worry about money like some of my friends and roommates. But one of my biggest regrets is not attending my college or grad school graduation ceremonies. I'm not in any pictures or yearbooks. I sometimes would get upset when my parents bring up my old schools, even high school, which I had the worst time in. I didn't even go to prom. I'm kind of scared and feel a bit bad to think my high school ten-year reunion should be coming up next year but as the way I am now, I'd be too embarrassed to show up.
Omg you thought of you as 😂 a news host and I said in my mind you're a you tube news Anchor You are loved You did the right thing Focus ! Is a Gift. You got it.
I'm a computer science student and I think I realized that I might just hate cs or hate this one class that I'm taking as a part of my major. I see so many other people getting better grades than me and I feel like crying everytime I see this because it impacted my confidence so much. I also see so many other people also getting jobs and I just keep getting rejected. I haven't told my parents any of this and I just feel so sad, idk what's wrong with me, I struggle so much in academics. This is also my 3rd year and idk anymore and my university is a commuter campus. I'm seriously questioning my degree
THIS is exactly how I was feeling, and I’m so sorry you have to experience this. As someone who went through that, my best advice since you’re so far in is to finish up your degree. When you graduate, you can take additional courses or bootcamps relating to a different field that you might be interested in. I did this with Marketing and ended up getting a marketing job, which was unrelated to my major! Not sure if this is applicable to CS necessarily, but hopefully it helps to keep a light at the end of the tunnel ♥️
I can relate to your experiences in college.( I had a straight “ A “ average in high school, a nerd in college, went through Medical school, ( didn’t attend any parties), & missed all the popular stuff!
I went to college bars on occassion. Believe me, you didn't miss much. It's basically High School "in-crowd popularity crap 2.0", the 20-something scene I only went to a couple of times and it's 3.0. There, I learned that I get more out of life by surfing the internet and making my own adventures (however I define them, which is not the photogenic definition).
Easily the best video I’ve watched in a long time. I’m at USC rn and I wish I had watched this as a freshman! I might have learned to appreciate it sooner
I love to watch your videos, not just because you are a good storyteller and a charismatic person, but also because as a brazilian, i love the american culture in several aspects.
I dropped out of college after five years of trying because of my ADHD, luckily I made some friends and we still meet up once in a while, fifteen years later!
I’m living this exact life right now, it doesn’t bother me too much as I pretty much have always been a no life 😂😢. I’m similar to my mom, we just kind’ve do what we’re supposed to and move on. I understand that I may regret it later, but tbh, I also just have 0 energy to try, it doesn’t interest me that much to go and socialize with these peeps… I have more fun watching movies and joking around with my siblings, parents and cousins than trying to make friends out at college. What doesn’t help is that im a commuter and live at home. Im not rich, just like you, I work part time to pay for everything and Im pursuing engineering, so I practically have 0 free time 😂… I’m also an A student and have not made below an A yet. Im not necessarily a square, becuase I honestly don’t care what people do. I grew up around environments that dealt with trauma, drugs, CPS, horrible living situations, poverty etc… so I’m decently humble I would say..and have an understanding of why people are the way they are. Do you have any advice for me? I didn’t even know there were college yearbooks till you mentioned it, I guess that shows just how much of a loner I am😂. I’m on a similar path to you, and while I don’t see it as important as you, do you think there’s a must do that I should accomplish while here? I attend Texas Tech University
My college story was similar, I hated college. Biology department was super competitive and I didn’t end up doing anything with it. I was a commuter. I made my friends outside of school. I was trying to spend as less money as possible since I was already taking out student loans, so I stayed off campus. Graduation was one of my life’s highlights because of the flood of relief. I will never go back to university for a degree. If anything, I’ll learn a trade 😁 Also had feminine surgeries at 18 as well. Sucks.
The dorms and orientation are all about "the hook." They want you to be all in and brand indoctrinated. If I had kids, I would NEVER let them live in a dorm. There is far too much opportunity for drama to distract and derail a young person.
Can you edit the title? Here's are my regrets don't sound right for a College graduate . (And looking at it makes me judgmental... which doesn't bode well with my overall demeanour). Just asking. Peace.
Why does it say free in green under your video. I feel strange about TH-cam and trick journalism. Only truly watch this channel because you’re extremely intelligent. Your USC experience doesn’t seem so bad. Love my mother a lot and grandparents too. Father not so bad either. So much I’d like to say. Spent some time with a professor I liked in my college and pre-doctoral graduate school days and took classes with him. End up going to Europe for my post-Masters instead of Colburn/USC. Like the channel but yeah USC and parties… as with the internet not all things sincere.
You didn't fail your grandfather because of your college experience. You got your degree. Just by how you present yourself in your videos, I'm sure he's very proud of you.
college sucked. it was expensive, many of the classes were useless (general ed classes), and if you were an introvert, that was it for your social life. i lived at home for the last three years of college and literally only went to campus for classes and came right back home. and honestly, i regret nothing. the bright side about not having a social life in college is focusing on classes and being able to finish sooner. nothing about the experience was memorable in any way.
I love hearing it from that perspective! I’m definitely an extrovert who regrets not making more social connections, but as an introvert I can imagine it makes you focus more on the academics! Glad you have no regrets!
I'm glad you have a positive view of your college experience now. My college years weren't great because I was depressed most of the time but it was better than High School because there was more freedom and less people who didn't want to be there.
Yes! The independence in college was great, just a stronger learning curve for me I suppose lol. But sending you lots of love and hoping that depression was just in the scope of school 😔
I never went to college. I actually hated high school, I hated school in general. People were very very mean to me for no reason at all, I never went to my prom or got my grad photo taken. I have never been good with people and as a result of all of this I have next to no friends. It really sucks not having any friends and it’s very hard to make friends. I am basically alone 24/7 and at times it’s very very hard.
I guess it is true that you make life long friends in college.
Oh my goodness, I relate SO MUCH. I was an excellent student at school, but when I got to a very prestigious foreign University I felt alone. I chose to study graphic design. Ended up HATING my major and actually feeling ashamed to be a designer. I felt like it's a fake degree, you don't really need to study to graduate... I've written my diploma work in two weeks, never read any books for my studies. I couldn't relate to any of the students nor my roommates, didn't make any friends. And this Uni was so hyped, there's only positive reviews about it online. I hated my major since day 1 of Uni, but I couldn't leave or switch majors because so much money was already paid.
Touching, eye-opening, real, raw. Thank you for your honesty.
It helps I had such a beautiful scrapbook to look back on ♥️♥️
❤ I loved how honest you were, I just wanted to give you a hug.
I also sympathize with many of the things you said in the video. Especially the thing about the photos. When I was in college, I enrolled too many classes and also missed many opportunities to make connections, make friends, have fun... What I regret the most is that I missed my graduation ceremony. That day I went to a side job to earn money. While at work I realized that I had missed the most important college memory without a second chance to get it back in my life. I made wrong decision, I learned that money is not as important as my memories. To this day I still feel bitter envious when I see someone wearing a bachelor's coat and receiving a diploma from the principal because I missed the chance to take that picture.
Wow, thank you for sharing Tuyet!! I can totally see how in the moment, making money was more important than some silly ceremony. But in hindsight you missed out on one of life’s most meaningful milestones to be celebrated! I can imagine how regretful that is, but be proud that you even graduated and you have opportunities to document other life events in the future ♥️
I am 29 years old and had a similar experience Jacy! I missed out on a lot during my time at university, mainly because I was a transfer student and older than most of the other students in my nursing program. I ended up graduating with people who also were not in my cohort because I had to retake a class. Wish things could have turned out differently, I feel your pain, but love your channel all the way from Texas.
I can imagine being a transfer student is very similar, as everyone else got a head start in making and keeping a friend group 😔 but I appreciate the support from the south ♥️
Jacy, I went to school out of state at the University of Michigan--Ann Arbor after high school. I was in the College of Engineering. I don't think I ever really fit in. I worked at the UM Medical Center doing my computer job, and eventually I left school to do that full time in my FRESHMAN year with Bell Atlantic Network Integration. I did go to football and basketball games, but in my early college days, I kind of felt that I was walking amongst people, but not with them. Later, after the army, I went back. However, they wanted me to jump through a bunch of hoops, so I took my G.I. Bill elsewhere. My second time around in college was all about getting skills and grades. The social aspect of school was small. That's alright, because prior experience informed me that the grandeur and architecture of a school does not an education make. I had discipline and a goal. I was older. It's nice to have people to talk to, but in the end, they are the competition. Some people do not need good grades to go on with their careers, so social life really fills a need for them. Anyway, my point is that college works out differently for everyone. There is no one college experience. There are the popular, well known parts of going to college, but then there are the unsaid things that can leave you high and dry with no degree. Be happy and glad that you made it. Many don't. Congratulations.
Even though scrapbooks can be lovely, it honestly didn't need to be another burdensome factor in the already difficult experience you had. A lot of people don't get college right, it's hard to get something right when you're doing it the first time and having a serious boyfriend makes it more challenging. A lot of people seem to have regrets about college from what I've learned, and a good number don't work in the field they majored in so go figure. Some have ended up with huge regrets after frat parties for one reason or another. Basically, the scrapbook is a nice gesture but it doesn't have to be a must in all situations when it'll make for a sad memory, you know, moms can sometimes be set in their visions or habits a bit much.
Anyway great story and you're a great story teller. Journalism might have taken some shine out of you because mostly bad news sell...you might be great at some kind of a show where you explore places, food or people's stories and where you're free to be your bubbly self.
I loved this video! I'm a scrapbooker too! I'm a Rambler and the basketball team has been in the news quite a bit in the last few years, but when I was a student ai did not attend one game. They played at the Allstate Arena and it was too far for me and I worked full time. Back then the downtown campus had a more commuter feel. I felt very disconnected after I left the radio station to with a she young woman who had been my producer of ny show. I didn't know her well and she wasn't friendly but I up ended my opportunity to be the air to work for a psychologist in the Gold Coast. I worked and went to class. I graduated in January, though I finished in June of the year before, but wasn't allowed to walk because I needed 2 credit hours for the may graduation. by the time I came back I was working it just had a different feel. I also was the only African American that graduated with a Political Science degree from the school and it had been very stressful. I felt unwanted. But, I did what you did and I reconnected and I attend events and engage with my Dept. and I love it now. I'm proud to be a graduate and what I've accomplished.Good for you.
This is interesting. When I went to college I didn't care about the social aspect at all. I went to a commuter school and a lot of people didn't live on campus or participate in any activities. I mostly regret going because it took so much time and focus away from other priorities I should have had like beginning a career. In some ways I think college sent me back.
thank u for sharing! i’m currently a college student and this definitely reminded me to make the most of it. and it doesn’t have to the stereotypical way of making the most of it, but in my own way of enjoying it and having no regrets
When I looked back on life at 30, I believed that I should have had more fun. When I looked back at 40, I realized that fun is not as good as focus. I no longer need to look back at 50. I am where I am supposed to be. It is a good place.
That’s nice. I’m 37 and still feel like I need to have more fun! 😂
Thank you for sharing your experience! It seems you came out well on the other side of things regarding your perspective. I also had what I would call a mediocre college experience. I lived on campus all four years but had a difficult time connecting with people on a more than surface level. I had a fair number of acquaintances but few friends. The group I met freshman year drifted apart as time went on and by junior/senior year I was a bit of a lone wolf. I had a bit of depression about it but never really engaged with it too much. I was turned off by the party scene and did not drink much. It was hard finding “my people”.
I too was a stellar student in high school and got my first B’s and C’s in college, which was a bit of a blow to my self-esteem. Going to a large state school did not help on any fronts, where it became hard to make connections with people you rarely see and trying to stand out to professors feels like a Herculean task. I kind of just swam along until I graduated.
I fortunately had a better time at grad school, which was a much, much smaller cohort of people who I could more easily connect with. I also have had to work on myself and push myself to be more social and become more vulnerable with others, as well as be willing to initiate friendships. It takes work, especially as we get older and are not naturally surrounded by large groups of peers.
This was longer than I wanted it to be, but just know a lot of us had these experiences. At the time, I felt like I was the only one who “failed” the college experience but it’s been good to know many of us felt this way. I am in my late 30’s now and live a pretty great life, so overall I have few regrets. ❤
Hey Jacy thanks for being so open and honest about how you feel. You are a. beautiful being, thanks for having the courage to be so open and honest, would love to meet you one day. Very few of you exist…
Enjoyed your video and raw emotions/ honesty! Regret can definitely eat us up, specially when we dwell on what things could of been like if we had made different decisions. Definitely can relate to that! But so glad you have a “second chance” to embrace the Trojan spirit, live and explore the city, and reconnect with friends! Every experience are lessons learned so definitely not a time waisted!
Love this message that every timeexperience is a lesson learned ♥️ thanks so much!!
I never went to college, its not as big of a thing where I’m from and frankly I just had no desire to go to college.
However I can somewhat relate to your regret about not having photos in such a pivotal time in my life.
When I went through chemotherapy at 16, I dodged photos because I looked so sick and I felt super self conscious, but now wish I had photos of that time, it’s a part of me and my story.
Thanks for sharing ❤
Wow, thank you for sharing Nancy! I can imagine in that moment how little you’d want to capture it, but it shows in hindsight how we crave those photos to look back on. Hope your health is doing better ♥️♥️
@@JacyErin oh no worries at all, happy to share, it’s always better when it’s a two way street.
Yes definitely, there’s something about those memories even if they aren’t “the best time in your life” but it IS A PART OF YOUR LIFE.
& yesI’m cancer free, I finished chemo at 18 and got the ALL CLEAR 5 years after that. I’m now about to be 27 (in 2 week)
You are so raw in this video and emotional and towards the end it sounds like you feel its because you let your grandfather down. But I think he would be extremely proud of you if he were alive. You made your college experience what worked for you at the time, what you needed. Just because you didn't party or make tons of friends or were a star in the yearbook doesn't mean it was a failure. What you are doing right now probably at least in part comes from what you learned, though mostly probably comes from your natural personality and charisma.
My own situation is irrelevant here but you inspire me to open up, since you are so open. My college experience was a lot like yours. I tested out of high school early (my own choice) amd spent three years in community college when I was 16-19. I sailed through with straight As. Then I got accepted to an amazing university.
Oh I relate sooo much to the small fish big pond thing. You described it soo well. I did graduate but I struggled for that degree. I didn't do any parties or make friends. I lived with a boyfriend off campus. Its amazing how relatable your story is.
I don't really regret not doing that stuff though. I know full well I was never a joiner type. Just not into clubs or cliques. Not that I have anything against those that are.
You went there to learn and you obviously did. You are a very accomplished person. Does it matter if you weren't Party Girl in college? I don't think it matters. You are amazing to share your experiences and its great to hear someone telling stories I relate to. Enjoying your channel so much. You do have a quality about you that comes across as wholesome and its very endearing. Not everyone has to be whhhoot party girl. Intelligent and wholesome has its place!
Hey Jacy. Thanks for letting us peek into your life.
I did the USC film school summer program. So my entire college experience was just one summer. Plus I was in my late 20s. So I aways felt like the old guy at the party.
In hindsight. I would love to be that “old” again.
Part of me feels like I missed out on a full college experience. While also spending full college money. But it’s was exciting while it lasted and I’ll always have that Trojan connection.
I’m glad you’re still repping the USC. Fight on.
I found your YT page looking for info on joining Orange Theory. Great vid, btw. I feel your pain with regard to this one. I was a transfer student at UCLA and a little older. I also had to work a lot and didn't have much time for social groups or events but I still love my school. It's one of the best things I ever did in my life and I have no regrets. Glad you're able to look back and appreciate the positives about your college experience. Your grandfather would have been proud of you. Go Bruins!!! :)
I can relate alot to some of what you said. Going to college, I was an only child and had never lived away from home. I chose to go home every weekend and not join in with what was available to me. I was very home sick and when I was alone, like you I would sleep alot. I've since learned that's my body's way of shutting down to what I can't handle at the time. I'm glad you have more positive experiences now ❤️
Wow, what a great way to describe it- our bodies were shutting down! But it’s a period of our lives we can look back on and grow from without regrets ♥️
Absolutely. Sometimes if the body is in a prolonged period of stress, it needs to close down as protection. Glad your doing well now 💕
Awwww!! I just wanna give you a hug!! College ain’t everything for everybody! I had a very similar college experience. I had a pretty small group of friends and ended up not going to class and dropping out
I appreciate it, and can totally relate ♥️
I needed to hear this. I just graduated from college and I can relate to your experiences including sticking with a major you hate, not taking advantage of career and networking opportunities, and not going out. My biggest mistake was going to a school I could afford versus one I would have enjoyed. Anyway I loved hearing your story and I can't wait for more cooking tutorials!
You don't know. More social life could have backfired, too. You have to play the hand you're dealt. You were a high performing student, so of course it was easy to fall prey to the draw of the big schools. Community colleges in PA (DCCC) and Michigan (WCC) are great places to find your career, but big schools do provide an experience that community college can't provide. Later in life, you will be glad to be able to share what a big school experience is about. You'll be able to make better decisions about what is really necessary for education and career. You have nothing to regret. Make the best of your life TODAY. Take advantage of your education and meet new people along the way. College is not supposed to be the end of life. It's only a possible beginning.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You deserve credit for overcoming challenges both physical and emotional.
Love your video and honesty! I had could relate to some of things you said about! Especially the part about your grandfather! My grandfather was a Tuskegee Airman and attended Tuskegee University and I went there as well and had some hard experiences to the point that I dropped out and felt so ashamed that I let him down. He did live to see me graduate from The University of Arizona. and always told me that he was proud of me and that I finished what I started. I know that your grandfather is proud and smiling down on you as you made your video! Plus, you got me curious about hand casting lol!
A Tuskegee Airman?!?!?! Sam!!!! Wow that’s amazing, but I can imagine how much pressure that put on you. But our family will always be proud of us no matter what, despite our shortcomings with which we think we’ve disappointed them. Proud of you for still persevering and getting that degree ♥️
I loved this video and you expressed your true feelings.. Our decisions when we are younger are sometimes flawed - you told it well!! Thank you for mentioning your Grandpa - he loved you so very much! Love you Jacy! I still have his huge USC lapel button!! (from the Rosebowl).
Thank you Lorraine 😭 would’ve done things differently in hindsight, but I think it all worked out as it was meant to be! Love you and Fight on!!
First of all your other sounds like an angel. I love the scrapbooks. I want to do this for my daughter one day! And it breaks my heart seeing you so upset and regretting not enjoying your college days. Love you Jacy 💚
Thanks Lindsey ♥️ it’s truly the most touching gift compiling memories into such a beautiful way, highly recommend!
All high schoolers should see this
I’m actually going through this right now and i’m only a freshman. But i’m still single, yeah it can get pretty lonely at times :(
We LITERALLY had identical college experiences in reference to academics
And relationship wise! I lived 45 mins out and went home every weekend to visit a boyfriend
And why you got me crying at work because same, i literally have zero college pics
I feel you. I went to calstate Fullerton (commuter university). I didn’t go to any parties, live in the dorms (I was going to until I saw the price), or join any clubs or fraternities at my college. I hated school and just wanted to graduate. I was also in a long term relationship(high school sweethearts). She went to a private college in riverside so I would go to class on Friday, drive up to riverside, pick her up (I couldn’t go in her dorm because it was private), and drive us back home to la. That was mainly what I did for a long time. We broke up while in my third year. I had friends in college because of my major. We were all taking the same classes so we ran into each other a lot and became friends by default. I kind of wish I went to a big school to enjoy the parties and have a real college life. I wanted to go to Arizona or San Diego (because they were party schools lol) but didn’t get accepted. Yet I’m so glad I didn’t because I have no college debt now. I worked at target while in college and had an annuity that paid for most of my schooling. All those wasted years on nothing it feels like. The main memories I have from college is waiting in traffic. You don’t know what you don’t know
This is interesting to hear from the opposite perspective of wanting to go to a bigger school. While I think you would’ve LOVED going to a place like USC, that college tuition price is no joke, and I’m envious you’re debt free 😅 but that time of our lives is for a good balance of schooling and social time, so we both missed out there 😔 but just means we have to prioritize those kinds of opportunities in the future!
Very entertaining stories. Your experiences need to be shared and, IMHO, are not unique, but you convey these stories in a very engaging and interesting way. Many can take some lessons from what you share
Hey Jacy! I'm so sorry you didn't have the best time in college :( Thank you for opening up to us, we really appreciate it
Thanks so much Emilia! Yes, I premiered it so there was a live chat, but TH-cam sometimes buries those notifications 😖 I’ll give more notice next premiere video!
@@JacyErin ohh that's a shame I missed it, but I'll definitely try and watch the next video as it's premiering!
Jacy, as you can tell, you aren't the only one to have a lonely college experience. So did I, but on top of that I had a very bad high school experience with a lot of pseudo-friends. Even worse, I didn't know how to think for myself, and thus didn't even know how to defend my core authentic self from peer pressure. In my hs and college days - 80s and early 90s - the media and especially the entertainment industry shoved down our throats the unspoken but obviously present message "If you aren't part of some tight-knit, gimme five (before high-fives were a thing) one of the gang buddy clique, you aren't worth the gum that sticks to your shoes". It would take me well over a decade before I finally broke free of it. BTW, I found far too much of this college party stuff shallow, drama, and basically High School 2.0 (no offense intended to your own H.S. experience, but a lot of people didn't have as good a one as you did). I say you still came out ahead despite your pain.
I love your channel and your open honesty. U are awesome.
I want to thank you for sharing such a raw piece of your life! I can truly relate to this even though my situation was very different. The raw emotions you showed and felt during this video is exactly how I felt with my high school experience and my community college experience. My situation was different because I had severe major depressive disorder and crippling anxiety and a few other disorders that made it hard to even live. I missed so much in high school and college that I had absolutely no pictures to even have as memories because I simply didn’t have those memories to begin with. I also had no friends or made any new ones or got involved as much as I wanted to because of my debilitating mental illnesses. But, come a few years later, I met my husband and got married and completely changed my “major” and did a 6 month program to become a vet assistant and I couldn’t see myself doing anything else. I didn’t need a degree or to follow a path I didn’t even enjoy. I may have missed a ton and I regret many things but, I am a completely different person and have a very different life that now, I am able to look back and appreciate how much I’ve grown and who I’ve become today. Everything truly happened for a reason and although my story is different, it goes to show that there is a reason we cross certain paths or get derailed on other paths. Life is simply a journey! I appreciate you showing a little glimpse of your life that many can relate to, so thank you again for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing your story Karissa!! I totally understand that sadness of not capturing the memories, but simply because they weren’t there! Overcoming that depression is extremely difficult, but I’m so glad to hear how wonderfully your personal and academic life turned out! Be proud of yourself ♥️♥️
This was such a great video, Jacy! College was way better for me than middle and high school, but there were some cons for sure. Overall, what I experienced at college prepared me for the work environment I am in (to some degree). I’m just thankful it’s over and I can be an adult adult lol🤣!
P.S. - I am happy you have friends in my city (NYC)🗽
Thanks Julian!! I can totally agree it prepares you for the workforce, and I can definitely relate to just wanting to be an adult already haha
I always love your videos, but this one meant a lot. 🖤
Thanks Khanh ♥️♥️
This video makes me sad because this is how I feel about graduate school so I can relate so much. I was so active in undergrad, but now I work full-time and I have to take classes that are evening or online rather than ones I'm truly interested in. I would like to be in more organizations, go to conferences, etc. because my current job is not in the field of my degree so I feel like I'm wasting time. ❤
I had a similar experience in that I started out in journalism and realized I didn't want to do that. I didn't figure out what I really wanted to do until well after I graduated and I'm still working on that. I had two roommates that went home every weekend and they missed out on a lot of fun. I didn't drink or party either, but our school had fun activities like Casino night and murder mystery night that the other roommates weren't around for. And my one roommate that was there I'm really close to. We still talk and visit and are best friends nearly 20 years later. And I think we got so close because it was just us most of the time. I'm sorry your college experience wasn't great. My life sucked after college but those college years were wonderful for me, but I went to a small school my largest class was 30 people. I think if I'd gone to a big school it would have be a much different story. I actually used to work at UC Berkeley and I don't think your experience there would have been much different/better just based on the students I worked with and what they told me. But having that USC name on your resume is good. I've seen those schools open doors for people and some jobs automatically put you at the top of the list if they see it regardless of other qualifications.
Hey, thanks for sharing. I went through something similar from high school to college. I also went from being the big fish in a small pond to just another tiny fish in a huge pond, if I said it right. I ended up graduating early, and went on to grad school, so I have lots of debt. I made a lot of friends but I wish I did more on campus and with my friends. I wish I had taken more advantage of the opportunities around me. I was very insecure. I definitely wished I didn't have to worry about money like some of my friends and roommates. But one of my biggest regrets is not attending my college or grad school graduation ceremonies. I'm not in any pictures or yearbooks. I sometimes would get upset when my parents bring up my old schools, even high school, which I had the worst time in. I didn't even go to prom. I'm kind of scared and feel a bit bad to think my high school ten-year reunion should be coming up next year but as the way I am now, I'd be too embarrassed to show up.
Your mom did a great job on the scrape books.❤
Omg you thought of you as 😂 a news host and I said in my mind you're a you tube news
Anchor
You are loved
You did the right thing
Focus ! Is a
Gift. You got it.
I'm a computer science student and I think I realized that I might just hate cs or hate this one class that I'm taking as a part of my major. I see so many other people getting better grades than me and I feel like crying everytime I see this because it impacted my confidence so much. I also see so many other people also getting jobs and I just keep getting rejected. I haven't told my parents any of this and I just feel so sad, idk what's wrong with me, I struggle so much in academics. This is also my 3rd year and idk anymore and my university is a commuter campus. I'm seriously questioning my degree
Keep going, and God bless you!
THIS is exactly how I was feeling, and I’m so sorry you have to experience this. As someone who went through that, my best advice since you’re so far in is to finish up your degree. When you graduate, you can take additional courses or bootcamps relating to a different field that you might be interested in. I did this with Marketing and ended up getting a marketing job, which was unrelated to my major! Not sure if this is applicable to CS necessarily, but hopefully it helps to keep a light at the end of the tunnel ♥️
@@JacyErin Thank you
In Southern California we refer to USC as the University of Spoiled Children. No wonder it was a drag.
I can relate to your experiences in college.( I had a straight “ A “ average in high school, a nerd in college, went through Medical school, ( didn’t attend any parties), & missed all the popular stuff!
I went to college bars on occassion. Believe me, you didn't miss much. It's basically High School "in-crowd popularity crap 2.0", the 20-something scene I only went to a couple of times and it's 3.0. There, I learned that I get more out of life by surfing the internet and making my own adventures (however I define them, which is not the photogenic definition).
Easily the best video I’ve watched in a long time. I’m at USC rn and I wish I had watched this as a freshman! I might have learned to appreciate it sooner
Fight on Dara! It’s definitely not just a USC thing, but hoping other college students know it’s a different experience for everyone
So sorry you didn't get the college experience that you would have wanted 🌸 The scrapbooks your mom made look soo special though! ❤️
Those scrapbooks were honestly the highlight of my college years ♥️
I love to watch your videos, not just because you are a good storyteller and a charismatic person, but also because as a brazilian, i love the american culture in several aspects.
Yes! I’m sure the college experience is very different, so glad I can give that glimpse into American life!
Great video! I loved college, hated high school 😅
Haha I peaked in high school 😂 so at least you progressed chronologically! Hope you’re at your best now ♥️
I think I also enjoy being a big fish in a small pond more and can relate to a lot of your experiences
I dropped out of college after five years of trying because of my ADHD, luckily I made some friends and we still meet up once in a while, fifteen years later!
That’s amazing! There’s positives in going to college regardless, it sounds like ♥️
Jacy,
Berkeley was my 1st choice college, originally when I attended high school.
I’m living this exact life right now, it doesn’t bother me too much as I pretty much have always been a no life 😂😢.
I’m similar to my mom, we just kind’ve do what we’re supposed to and move on.
I understand that I may regret it later, but tbh, I also just have 0 energy to try, it doesn’t interest me that much to go and socialize with these peeps…
I have more fun watching movies and joking around with my siblings, parents and cousins than trying to make friends out at college.
What doesn’t help is that im a commuter and live at home. Im not rich, just like you, I work part time to pay for everything and Im pursuing engineering, so I practically have 0 free time 😂… I’m also an A student and have not made below an A yet.
Im not necessarily a square, becuase I honestly don’t care what people do. I grew up around environments that dealt with trauma, drugs, CPS, horrible living situations, poverty etc… so I’m decently humble I would say..and have an understanding of why people are the way they are. Do you have any advice for me? I didn’t even know there were college yearbooks till you mentioned it, I guess that shows just how much of a loner I am😂. I’m on a similar path to you, and while I don’t see it as important as you, do you think there’s a must do that I should accomplish while here?
I attend Texas Tech University
My college story was similar, I hated college. Biology department was super competitive and I didn’t end up doing anything with it. I was a commuter. I made my friends outside of school. I was trying to spend as less money as possible since I was already taking out student loans, so I stayed off campus. Graduation was one of my life’s highlights because of the flood of relief. I will never go back to university for a degree. If anything, I’ll learn a trade 😁 Also had feminine surgeries at 18 as well. Sucks.
thanks for sharing
FIGHT ON!!!!!
I relate so much to everything said here
I was like you, but I started earlier, in high school. I didn't give a damn about high school or college.
Great video
The dorms and orientation are all about "the hook." They want you to be all in and brand indoctrinated. If I had kids, I would NEVER let them live in a dorm. There is far too much opportunity for drama to distract and derail a young person.
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I appreciate it so much ♥️♥️
Can you edit the title? Here's are my regrets don't sound right for a College graduate . (And looking at it makes me judgmental... which doesn't bode well with my overall demeanour).
Just asking.
Peace.
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Why does it say free in green under your video. I feel strange about TH-cam and trick journalism. Only truly watch this channel because you’re extremely intelligent. Your USC experience doesn’t seem so bad. Love my mother a lot and grandparents too. Father not so bad either. So much I’d like to say. Spent some time with a professor I liked in my college and pre-doctoral graduate school days and took classes with him. End up going to Europe for my post-Masters instead of Colburn/USC. Like the channel but yeah USC and parties… as with the internet not all things sincere.