If you’re a pretty girl, over 25 and have no girlfriends….trust me, you’re normal. Don’t let people think you need friends to survive. You don’t. You your own best friend period ❤
Not having friends isn't normal. Any woman can have a man. We act like men have these insane standards. They don't. Be in a little shape and you'll attract someone. Men care about more than just looks. So, if you're over 25 and can't maintain looking for your tribe. Life is not meant to be lived in isolation. Life is to be shared with friends and a partner. You don't want to overload a partner with your need for friendships. Friends play such a great role in your life. Brunch, happy hour, and a lot more.
@jewlzn7130 who mentioned having a man? Lol. It may not be normal but its okay. Why resist your natural path in life? If God wants you in isolation so you can develop new skills and work on yourself...this is a beautiful period of time for a pretty woman. Less attractive women will never know this because they go through way less stress in friendships than pretty women do. Women can have great friendships again in their 40s and up, when looks and competition aren't as necessary. But before then? It's okay to be friendless and work on yourself and peace. A man that truly loves you will understand. ❤️
@@jewlzn7130 thats not the case for everyone, dont get me wrong, some socialization is needed but life can be enjoyed on your own. i think society has just made it seem weird to go out for example to the movies alone even though theres people who need a lot more alone time than time with others
It gets to a point where I don’t contribute to conversations or give an opinion anymore. I keep quiet. Once I open my mouth, people try to discredit my intellect. It’s makes them feel good to view me as beautiful and dumb. It’s that title of “bimbo” that they can refer to me as, that soothes their envy. They feel more comfortable if you’re just attractive. Being intelligent and attractive wakes up the vice in question, envy. Ive always hated the idea of calling people jealous or “haters” 😅 But the writings on the wall on this one.
“An attractive person always stays at home because beauty thrives in the sanctuary of their solitude.” - Carl Jung There are studies which suggest people are threatened by attractive women. Look up the “Femme Fatale” effect. No one is calling ALL attractive women saints, but ppl do actively discriminate AGAINST attractive, confident women.
@@zk6019 "people discriminate against pretty girls" lmao yes, very true. Except by employers, men, wealthy men, other pretty women, law enforcement, the judicial system, the academic system, talent agencies, libraries, garbage-men, post office, the general public, radio DJs, children, babies, dogs, cats, fish, The State of Ohio, that little bug who got blown in from the storm in Wisconsin, Jake from Statefarm, ...
I realised I was the problem long ago, I have an unhealthy ego from unhealed childhood trauma. I put up a wall and subconsciously repel people. I don't mean to but I'm working on it.
Women don't have no friends. Ugly women don't have no friends people make women feel like there ain't nothing and guess what I do have a best friend her name is my sister❤ and she's pretty.
There are pretty women who are mean girls, and pretty women who get hated on just for being pretty. If you're pretty, friendly, yet a bit quiet and not an over sharer?! The hyenas at the workplace will try to eat you up!!!! Subtle jabs, dirty looks, they will try to humiliate & humble you. Being a beautiful woman especially at the workplace provokes the worst behavior in insecure women co-workers.
Exactly, I was definitely treated better at work when I didn't wear anything that looked nice. A lot of people will get mad if you're the type who doesn't talk much and just keep to yourself at work.
Exactly!! Very few people know how VISCOUS hateful and envious women are to other women in the workplace, and those situations can sometimes reach a life-threatening degree of danger. But I just wish that people would stop jumping to conclusions and passing judgments about each other before knowing each other, especially judgments towards women.
Men are worse. If you are an attractive woman in a male dominated environment, men will gossip, spread rumours and make false accusations about the woman. It's horrible. It's worse because once one man spreads false accusations, other men will start harassing the woman and putting her in danger.
Omg yes this!!! They be trying to make you jealous but it never works because they are jealous and trying to force you into competition. Like man I'm tired from working hard! I don't have time for you HS mentality nor your cliques.
Especially if you’re pretty and kind. Story of my life I got bullied. But once I put up a wall now all the girls want to be my friend. I am still kind but I protect myself A-LOT better now.
@@Apricot90 setting boundaries with people (especially new people) not being so easily trusting/naive and slowly getting to know the character of people instead of giving every singly person the benefit of the doubt always. Keeping my heart sacred and realizing that most people (not all) are inherently selfish.
Im a grown ass women and I don’t have any friends and yep it’s a me problem cause I have a problem getting my energy mixed up with bullshit. Once you get to a certain age you realize no one is your friend. Stay safe y’all.
Not true. I have friends that I can always count on and they can very much count on me. Same for my mom. They even give services when they don't have that much time or are really tired or are living very sad things in their lives. My mom and I do the same for them. Not everyone is the same. I'm 28 years old by the way and I don't want any bs in my life either. You just have to choose people very wisely and the right people will come.
Same here... They KNEW my potential and saw my light, even when I was a little girl. They even sexually abused me. Broke my soul on so many levels. But I am still standing and keep rising, I'm more successful and beautiful than ever. They were always beneath me and my light was showing their evil.
Yes this is true , I don’t care what anyone says. If you are pretty/beautiful, and to add insult to injury you are intelligent, carry yourself confidently and have things going for you in your life , YOU will have a hard time keeping friends. Sure you will attract women who will want to hang out with you at first but usually it dies out because of the reason I just stated. Even some mothers are jealous of their own daughters and a mother is suppose to be a girls first friend or the example of it. Life isn’t just black and white , we humans are funny creatures with very complex natures. We compare and contrast a lot especially when it comes to beauty. Pretty privilege is real and people assume if you have it along with if you have other things going for you , your life is set when we all know that this is far from the truth.
@@canesugar911 duh we know that. The point I was trying to make is your relationship with your mom /dad , especially your mother sets the foundation for how have relationship with other women and influences how you pick your romantic partners as well.
@@canesugar911when I was in high school I couldn’t trust women but I was comfortable around men. They didn’t insult or manipulate me. Now I know it’s mommy issues.
THANK YOU for saying this. the part that hit the most was "even some mothers are jealous of their own daughters". not just my mother, but even my grandmother and aunts are competing with me, not just my friends. it's painful and sad knowing that the women in my life see me as a threat or a competition.
When you bring up a negative experience with a man and they say "well you are so pretty,sooo.. " Run for your life. They think you deserve bad things to compensate for what they envy. Your natural beauty..
I modelled once and know how cruel people can be. Jealous and aggressive women, sexualizing and immoral men.. So I gained over 100 pounds to protect myself... They only got nastier and meaner, and I got some chronic illnesses. Now that I've lost all the weight again and am more attractive than ever, they try to keep me small collectively and harass me. And there is nothing I can do about it, no one I can turn to. You really can't win. I often think about ending things. This world is a cess pool of primitive and dangerous idiots...
You can talk to me....I am a kind person and applaud you for your weight loss. Please don't give up. I got bullied and isolated myself and my son is 5, outgoing and smart and gets bullied from jealousy. He got in trouble today at school and said he wants to kill himself because of bullying
Girl you are a sunshine and I'm proud of you ❤❤❤ Don't let them dime your light, don't let them take your voice from you. The secret is to wear a mask - Don't be an open book. Don't reveal your story to everybody, your weaknesses are the key to be mistreated. And have standards, boundaries - once you get disrespect, be out. And surround yourself with kind hearted people, people who give. They exist, you just have to observe
Ending things? Please get a therapist to help you examine your feelings, please, we humans are not worth your life Ending. Please. Sending you love and strength to seek wisdom. There are still good humans out here, don't loose hope. ❤❤
Sis, they act this way because they center men. When you center men you’re afraid to lose them, you walk a tightrope to attract them, then when you get them you resolve yourself to unhappiness to be with them. The good news is many women are starting to de center them, I would set my sights on befriending women who don’t obsess over men. In the meantime center yourself and take care of you and embrace sovereignty. I am not a pretty girl and don’t have many female friends. I have always found it easier to befriend men than women, nobody talks about how judgmental women can be a lot women will judge you on the most superficial of things. Women have unspoken social codes that some women may not pick up on. If you get it wrong they shut you out, god forbid you bring this up and they call you a pick me and dismiss you or tell you something is wrong with you.
Imagine every job you had being harassed by male coworkers to the point that you got to take them to HR imagine every job you had being harassed by your female coworkers being bullied by people that you barely knew is not easy at all, but is there some benefits to it at the same time? Yes, there is so I guess we all gotta pick up crosses and carry on. Being stoic helped me a lot meditating too be strong
Sooo true! What is it about being happy and smiling that triggers the evil and nastiness in people? I won't show myself or my feelings ever again. Moving the country now and changing my job. I will even make up a lie and tell them I have a marriage and kids, so they will leave me alone.
@@Apricot90the only reason I deal with them is because I'm trying to put some money away but those at home businesses seem like a scam for the most part unless you have the right equipment to set everything up and you build it yourself. But yeah sometimes co workers can be severely competitive they probably think I'm weird for not talking a lot or smiling at them but if you smile at them it really pisses them off too so either way there going to be hating on you. That's the one thing that makes it hard on introverts to keep jobs a lot of us just want to make our money and go home. We don't want to stand around and talk about the football game or who called in last night. Extroverted people have a vendetta for loners because we come there and do the jobs that there too lazy to do and go home. They think life is some kind of movie and a lot of them want raises and benefits for standing around and letting other people clean up after them and putting in the bare minimum. If an introvert did some of the same things that they do at work we'd get fired.
That is a good way to describe it. They make you feel out of place just because they're insecure with the way they look or dress. I've known some people like this too that want to be seen as different or unique there was a day me and this woman both ironically wore the same sweater it was just a weird concedience but she seemed like she had a bigger issue with it then I did it was one of those weird little emo girl sweaters and honestly I didn't think anyone else would buy it but she did and her and the lady's in the deli and bakery have been snappy at me ever sense I'm not sure what I did wrong but when men hire preppy girls to work with goth girls it's not always the best combination.
In the Barbie movie it was best said, they said “Men,” ima say boys. Boys objectify you, “Women” hate you. The main Barbie said something along those lines. I know one thing for sure, all my life I been a girls’ girl. It’s never quite worked in my favor when I was in pageantry and beyond-ACTUALLY graduating with high-level degrees, using them, building, and continuing to strive, while maintaining the looks they “Hate.” The looks cause stares, but the stares have to be welcomed and some of us just aren’t interested in dating and relationships presently. Anywho, I am rarely tripping on lagging “Friendships.” I make peace with my authenticity and GENUINE attempts at it. I STILL travel, brunch, go to the movies, bar hop, church, and any other things I want to do. One or few monkeys (like a group not literally like Spice/Erica Mena) don’t stop no show, not one bit. That confidence punches like Floyd Mayweather and that’s cool. I ain’t reducing myself for them.
Every female friend I've ever had has either tried to bring my confidence down to her level, or straight up tried to compete with me- even for the most random things. I was at a bar with one friend, and i was wearing a vintage tee that the male bartender commented on and struck up a conversation with me about. Ill never forget the way my "friend" just sat and glared at me THE WHOLE TIME... it was bizarre! A friend at work was jealous, i guess, that a certain customer enjoyed working with me and complimented me to management. This friend then tried to intercept this customer (who was an old lady btw) everytime she came in. She even bought her a small gift. Ive had another "friend" hop on my boyfriend's lap while we were out- he pushed her off lucky for him lol! 😅 so yeah, now i have one friend- but she's great so i consider myself blessed.
I felt this 🫠 my “friend” would glare and she literally said “ugh! Here we go again” when a man struck up a convo with me one time! It was one of the very last times we ever hung out ✌🏽Terrible behavior!
Girl I've had 2 friendship break UPS because someone guys said I'm the prettiest. My first friend in varsity was very pretty and she got all the attention but somehow I got prettier than her and her bf said I'm the prettiest, second girl was my bestfriend she used to get all the attention growing up then I got prettier and some guy mention that on social media that friendship ended too, lastly my friend invited her friend to go out with us and I was like oh great what kind of vibe us she like you or me my friend was like she's prettier than you lol 😂
in my experience a lot of girls are super competitive especially when a lot of pretty girls are in the same friend group. They are all competing for attention and they always try to one up each other. A lot of the pretty girls I have been friends with are back-stabbers and have no respect for other people. I think that some pretty girls make being pretty their whole personality, which is why they have a hard time making friends. This is just my experience im not generalizing all pretty girls.
I’ve litterly heard all my life “oh I can’t hang with you ~ your prettier than me”. Even now, in my big age in corporate America. I’ve never been one for relationships (never getting married) so when I go out, I’m not all over guys or looking for guys. I get attention tho without even tryin~ and I’ve been told by multiple women “it’s not fair! You don’t even want a guy or get married” (been proposed to 3x turned them down). Idk if it’s jealousy, but their energy and attitude change and they takes shots at me or try and make fun of me in front of men. Same way men feel like they need to “humble” beautiful women. Now because I don’t put marriage, kids, relationships as a priority it’s hard to connect with ppl in this mindset. This also has allowed me to focus on my goals and careers~ built up 3 businesses (accounting, beauty, and art). So now ppl get mad and I’ve lost my old 9-5 friends because they see me with freedom, more money, able to do more things than them, with things they don’t have & we “started” in the same place. I’ve been told I got “pretty privilege” and this is why I’m successful 🤯😳, Not because of my hard work, dedication, and business smarts. I have a very very small circle of friends and family ~ but many acquaintances. I’m loving this new movement of decentering men 🤗🙌🏽🙌🏽. For the first time in my life, I’m making more genuine connections with women than I have ever had. Love this for us ladies 🫶🏽🙌🏽💯💯. My other issue is I’m shy. So it’s hard for me to talk and open up to strangers~ I have bad anxiety from childhood trama. I get called out for “resting B face” or being “stuck up”. Ppl think I think I’m better than them because I don’t say much.😢. I’ve learned tho, ppl who are supposed to be in your life will ~ and I only like good vibes. I don’t like making fun of ppl or gossiping about ppl so I’m call “werid” by mean girls 🤷🏽♀️😂 that one I really don’t care about tho cause I’m Not dragging ppl to make myself feel superior. If you made it this far ~ Thanks for reading *my Ted talk 😎😂 Love these vids, but yes plz! Make more vids of empowering women and brining us together ❤🙏🏽💯😎.
@@user-jw7pu1rw4i that makes both of us 😎🙌🏽😂. Trust you would never meet me, your generic name already implies your a bot. Your other triggered comments you left say A lot about you and the low vibrational life you lead 😬🤣
The worst part about being attractive is your family member likes you. That's scary. Another thing is another attractive women feel intimidated by you that they will bully you.
That has nothing to do with how attractive you are, and has everything to do with how power hungry, predatory, and demonic the family member is. I’m very sorry that you had to go through that.
I never considered myself even attractive, because I had no friends. I was around 22 when someone said "Girl, they are jealous of you- your success, your looks!!!, your outlook and outcomes in life." I had no clue! All the animosity was from being jealous. I found out most guys thought I was cute and perky. I found out friends were trying to undermine my successful business. I found out that my constant work on myself was causing MAJOR jealous overload from many, especially other women, including my mom and sister. My confidence was killing them. Now that I know, it's my super power.
My best friend growing up was conventionally attractive and embodied all beauty standards for the early 2000s. She and I were best friends while I was the fat awkward fiend, but baby, when I started to blossom and bloom and get the attention that she always got? It was over!
@Hyear2030 I agree. That 1st girl is just a basic girl with 50 lbs of make up on. People need to work on their personality and deal with their traumas
@@jewlzn7130 yes. Work on the inside. A bunch of plain women with makeup and hair done complaining about pretty privilege really have people issues and they need to work on that! Actually attractive women never talk about this stuff.
It’s a mix. Some are really hated on but some are just meeeeeeeeean. If you’re only concerned about how you’re always winning and never supportive of your friends then people won’t want to be around you.
Im the successful pretty girl. Had a friend who was just pretty. And anything i did, finished and accomplished she had something negative to say. The examples are vast and all over the map. So i cooled off on speaking to her. What made me stop all together is when she was saying slick stuff about me being in nursing school and how she got in because she had to finish before me. The last dig was that im old and i was going to fail because she failed her classes. I told her, im not failing, i have A's and B's. Im stopping next semester and putting it on pause because im sick. I was diagnosed with a rare blood cancer. She says im sorry, what is it. I tell her and i guess she looked it up on her phone, a minute later says "damn that sucks your going to die in eight years" i said well that escalated quickly, have a good day. Hadnt talked to her since 2020. Now mind you its three years later, im in remission, doing great, moving better but still not all the way there. Guess who still hasnt finished nursing school. Her. Because she had three years to finish while I was fighting for my life and still hasn't succeeded. You're right. Hang out with other successful pretty girls because the ones who aren't successful, will try to drag you down because how dare you be pretty, smart and successful while they arent.
I think she would’ve slowed your journey to remission down if she would’ve still been speaking negativity into your life. Her making that comment and it being the last straw for you happened intentionally! So that you can heal w/o the negativity. I went through a similar situation as well. Glad you are doing good!
@@mrenae6798 completely agree! Going thru chemo was terrible and I'm happy everyone I spoke to was positive. Because I don't plan on letting this take me down and I don't need someone plotting for it to take me down. I now know many were worried but they never said anything negative. And they still don't.
It's very true that the more beautiful the woman is the less friends she has. Especially if she doesn't realize how beautiful she is. They don't get asked out because people assume that she already has plans because why wouldn't she? Plus beauty is intimidating to people that are mid.
Yes the woman in pink explained it perfectly thats been my experience, ppl hate when youre pretty and intelligent and not a hater , they look for problems with you its weird asf
It's just jealousy, pettiness, and cattiness. Women, especially BLACK women, really need to lean on each other because THE WORLD HATES US simply for existing. At the end of the day, we're all we have. Set boundaries and respect other womens' boundaries. 😊
Well yes, but more importantly no…I rather be friends with literally anyone else. Black women especially the ones that are dick-a-tized by black and black adjacent men are ones I will warn everyone to stay away from😅
In my first year at uni, one of the girls I lived with was really nice to my face, but I noticed she sometimes gave me weird side looks and made small snidey comments. It was never anything big so I told myself I was probably imagining it. Then after a while she started doing things like inviting everyone on a trip to her home town and ‘forgetting’ to invite me. I never bothered bringing it up with her, and she carried on being nice to my face, so I never knew what the problem was. None of the other girls living there seemed to have an issue with me, or acted like this towards me. However I have experienced similar behaviour from other females in school too, without knowing the reason. I think some women just don’t like certain women but I don’t think it’s everyone. It definitely does make you feel more paranoid and insecure though, and because of that I think I have difficulty making friends, because I dont know who I can trust enough to open up to.
I always felt like people liked my image but made other assumptions about me such as that I was a b*** or that I was dumb. I had girls admit they assumed I would be mean because I was so pretty. Guys couldn't see past it. They played the game hoping for more and when it didn't lead to more they didn't just cut me off, they displayed a vitriol and bitterness about me that was palpable. I not only began schooling for neuroscience, but also have a strong passion for music, and I am good at it. I also used to dance and do music in shows, paint for art galleries, model. I'm a complex being and it sucked to just be reduced down to what my mama gave me when the stuff I curated for myself ended up mattering less. Nowadays I tone down my look to draw authentic people, and my husband is bummed about it because he loves my style. Slowly I'm getting back into the stylish me who stands out instead of wearing frumpy clothes and a head scarf , and no makeup in public. Every once and a while someone still comments about my natural beauty, but I deliberately shrunk down to fit in and trust that people were approaching me for the right reasons. I'm excited to get back to creatively styling myself and amplifying my light, but this period of diminishing has taught me a lot of lessons that I needed to learn. I am always me. My image is an expression of my artistry and intelligence and who I am inside, also the beauty I want to add to the world is uniquely my own. Not only should I not dim myself but I should realize that it is up to others what they perceive, and my beauty is the least important thing to me, but not to many others. And that's ok. Maybe they are looking for the whimsy they find in my looks, but the people who take the time to know me past the outside, and value the looks I create as an expression of my inside world instead of my primary value should be appreciated so much more. That kind of beauty cannot be replaced, or emulated and it is beyond skin and bones.
Oh my god it means so so much to me what you said so assertive and emotionally helpful ! I also enjoy presenting myself with certain styles based on my artwork and always seems to be a problem when they do not even know you and already have something negative to point out at. Blessings and keep shining
I'v been told I'm very attractive- I have no female friends, I noticed when a couple is in my presence the girl would look directly at me then turn to her man get very close to him and grab on to him. I had cases where other females would try to style their hair like mine, even copy how I talk, talk behind my back, make synd remarks, it's also problematic dating, the first question men ask me is where is my boyfriend? when I say I don't have one, they think I'm lying, then think something is wrong with me because I'm single.
Same, I'm old now and I still see this in public. I'm convinced that if a woman hasn't considered herself attractive in her youth, then when she ages, she will still be considered attractive because the light does come from within.
Pretty girls that I have met seem to think looks are everything. Let you be good at relating to men( being able to talk about politics, joke around, etc) and they attack you and try to feel less than.
I am friends with people who only feel good about their looks nowadays and mostly ok with their age. I don't have time for women age shaming me, slut shaming, making katty remarks etc. But usually women who take care of themselves and have dealt with the same harassment are nice people and we become good friends. The last friend I had to cut off was a woman supposedly struggling with her obesity, she would waste hours of my time complaining and reject every advice or idea I gave her. I told her I can no longer be friends with her when she chose to spend $10k (yes, ten thousand) dollars in a designer bag! The money could have been spent on a doctor, nutritionist and personal trailer and help her become healthy, but no, she needed that bag so that ''people are envious of her''. No, sis the world doesn't work that way.
Pretty people also different from person to person two of my best friends very conventionally attractive one was introvert but most kind, humble person other is extrovert and life of a party she's a caring person too with lots of friends, people really loved her. And there were other Pretty girls I knew so full of themselves. Downside of having Pretty friend is your crush won't notice you but her.
im grown ass woman with no friends...but that's probably because im an introvert lol..I have no problems with other women. i just csnt be around groups of women for long periods of time. Too much estrogen gives me anxiety. Now ive been told im attractive by many. I too have experienced other women judging without speaking to me. Assumptions like im stuck up, or an idiot, or they'll try to pick apart everything about me. And The Men...they will try to humble you to feel powerful, or treat you weak and helpless. It Dosent matter if im friendly or not , both sexes do these things. I know Women do this to each other on a daily basis. but when youre attractive its twice as hard to gain your respect.
I noticed something else about very attractive women. Sometimes when you have a more attractive friend they can not handle when the supposed less attractive friend gets attention or has access to something that they do not. Many times they can become a little frustrated not being the center of attention. It’s true that they are sometimes treated poorly due to jealousy but lots of times they come to expect better treatment and can’t take when it’s not their turn. Attractive people are typically treated better overall.
I agree, it's sad but a lot of attractive people come to view their beauty as a currency. And they are annoyed when the "hierarchy" gets messed up and someone gets access to something their current level of attractiveness shouldn't be able to "afford " them. There's been studies on this phenomena, it's fascinating
I feel that. I stopped taking care of myself and looking more humble around other women. I had so many friends act nice to my face and then I'll end up seeing them hang out with out me and even overheard them talking about me. I would be with them everything seemed fine and the next day they are all silent and speaking short with a harsh tone and I would ask if anything wrong and they would just give me the cold shoulder. I've constantly seen women overcast me when I'm speaking and rolling their eyes especially if there are men around. I know I'm not the problem because there have been times I haven't spoken the whole evening but when I do it's annoying to them .I've had my cousin point out flaws in front of other purposely to embarrass me. Example I had eyeliner in my tear duct and I had been with the for over 30 minutes and she decided to say something once a guy is around. Literally watching women clutch boyfriend husband's when I'm around. Scoffing and judging my outfits and downplaying my outfits. For example someone compliments my outfit and their like it was on sale or I have one or seen one better. Or the it's cute but I like them this way because it looks better. Even women telling me i have it easy cause of my looks. Now I'm all humble af looking because it's the only way to not get dragged down by other women. Hell I can't say intelligent shit or share ideas because they roll their eyes and try to disassemble what I say. This happens at work.
@suziemuchiri5727 this is all in the past now. None of those people are my friends but it's just an example of how mean girls can be just cause of looks.
No girl don't be " humble af looking" ,enjoy your pretty and youth . I feel the same but I just keep on searching for the right people . I'm not gonna act/look how they want me to just to make them feel less jealous. TF?!
The first girl- shes not friend-less because shes pretty, she has no friends bc she has a horrible personality 😂 having self confidence and being cocky are two different things
I'll tell you tea as someone who went from cute to beautiful in adult age, and professionally models. Friendships turn sour due to inferiority complexes in other Women. Husbands, BFs, Fiancés and FWB get jealous and possessive. They really try to become your dad giving you rules and threatening harm on other Men. Strangers stare and acknowledge your beauty which can give serious anxiety. I've heard "she's beautiful" in so many languages due to traveling a lot for work. Women can be competitive and or try and eye laser you for their Men looking at you. SA and Males eye-fu0king you. I've been grabbed, stalked, followed from the street, cars pulling over and Men getting out and meeting me on the sidewalk, and coercion and leverage for sex and relationships. It's not cute, here and I'll be relived to be 70 yrs old one day. I miss the invisibility. I appreciate compliments but I don't let them stick because my looks aren't forever.
Looks are somewhat forever. You will still be the prettier 70year old in comparison to other 70year olds. Beauty is a gift from God. Embrace the good and bad like a queen. Like a queen - guard your accessibility with even your life. Shine on sis.
Yeah it does. It also shows how cruel women can be to each other just over male attention. Maléna just wanted to be left alone...but no one would allow it.
@@TheLeslieMichelle those women beat her badly cutting her hair to where her scalp was bleeding. Then when her husband came home from the war and brought her back, all of a sudden they wanted to be nice. Women have such demonic hate for women over the male gaze, I was terrified watching that scene where they beat her. They were like possessed animals.
From what i’ve seen is most of them make being “pretty” their whole personality. I have gorgeous friends even ones who are conventionally attractive (when im not which is ok) but the ones that im not friends with anymore is because they have bad personalities and narcissistic traits and think the world revolves around them. Beauty is subjective so yes some women are envious but if you don’t have one friend it’s you and it doesn’t matter how pretty you are.
I agree, if you are a good person people will be drawn to you, no matter what you look like. Some pretty women are genuinely nice people, but the kind who complain they have no friends tends to be the kind who are hyper focused on looks, have a lot of social media presence and are entitled enough to think they are owed things from others. If you are that kind of person first the people in your circle will be people like you, so it's no wonder you don't have any success. Those kind of girls don't strike me as the ones who will try to make friends with a random nerd
pretty ,ugly ,tbh people just dont like women , ugly less likeley to be lonley cuz dont see us a s a threat than preety but still people often judge your value based on looks cuz ur a woman ,jealousy is a reason preety womena re lonley ,but also the other person feeling out of their league so scarred to be friends ,there is also the stereotype of preety girls being dumb or mean ,and ppl sxualising them...like gay/straight if ur preety ppl will sxualise you so u wont have ''friends'' ur gonna be fuk-zoned im ugly +mentaly disabled /neurodivergent and have no friends rly cuz most people just use me for their boredom etc cuz think im worthless so ''its ok to use me'' and they throw me away when they find someone else or get bored of me ,or ''its ok to sa /use finantialy her since shes worthless'' or let her do all the work cuz i wont ''lower myself to her let her chase me for ego so she has a crumb of friendship'' it goes bouth ways tbh ,mostly humans being shallow ,mean ,selfish ,believe in dumb stereotypes , intsead of having deep friendships based on who they are as a person and bullding eachother up in crisis and celebrating together in victory , you have the dumb ''competitions'' and ego trips and sxism its exhausting for everyone especialy non insane people to deal with the insane ones for me idc who im friends with as long as they chill ,race gender sxuality ,idc as long as we vibe and they are good
*learn to be more selective after u detox from all ur fake narcissistic toxic relationships + it's better to enjoy ur sacred solitude than be surrounded or worse coupled with envious of ur divine spark selfish traitors or sexist pigs.*
Well some pretty girls don't have friends because they are wrongfully judged and made fun of but others don't have friends because they can't be friends self. In my experience and I'm sure most other people as well the pretty girls with good personalities usually always have friends and people kind to them. It doesn't matter what you look like people will find someway to make fun of you and sometimes your not the great person you believe yourself to be.
Nah I acted friendly and nice and people love me but I am an introvert so once I turned the sweet and nice switch off people don’t really like me as much and start to avoiding me because they thinks I’m a fake. It doesn’t matter if you are pretty or not. It is your personality.
I definitely agree. I think the friendless pretty people… a lot of them….are well…autistic..plain and simple. But of course more people are surprised when the pretty person has no friends. I’m just going by my own experience of pretty people who aren’t on the spectrum. I’m not gonna say they had no trouble…but they definitely had friends and a lot of them are pretty popular amongst their surroundings.
It’s the profile pic for me 🥰🥰🥰🥰 I love hanging with other successful, God-fearing, pretty women no matter who gets the attention. I just want what’s and who’s meant for me with me 🥰
@@elleea6565 Agree, i don't believe when women say " Omg everybody's jealous of mE, I'm too pretty to have friends" because according to my experience i have seen ton of gorgeous women with solid friendships, I have seen conventionally unattractive women lonely and their loneliness was mainly due to their shitty personality. So i think its mainly the personality of person that matters when it comes to friendships. Cuz if no one ones to be your friend then maybe its the you problem Cuz you are the common dinominator , every one can't be wrong everytime.
people in this comment section sound like they got no social skills and don't understand how friendships are formed AND maintained ngl. i'm not here to erase experiences of people who have hurt you or say that there aren't more people out to get you but some self reflection is needed and most people don't engage in it half as much as they think they do lol. some friendships come and go whilst others stay and yes you should be happy within and by yourself but realistically most of us are social creatures to some extent (even if it's just 1 person that is close to us).
To be fair most people on the video look slightly above average to me. But if they didn't wear makeup they would definitely be average, there is nothing wrong with that but it's hardly the kind of beauty you couldn't escape from if you wanted
If you are pretty other women won't like hanging out with you, because men will always look at you first. That's the reason why. Even if you don't like and don't want that, even if you are already engaged, your friends will always feel like second choice. It's sad but that's why it's so hard to find friends if you are better looking than the agerage woman. Find yourselves other women who are just as pretty as you are and you will be fine. If you are pretty and have an outgoing personality/like to enjoy life and be happy, than you will get even more hate, because people think you are trying to get attention.
Ok, but that first "beautiful girl", (beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but anyway) even that few second clip is enough for me to kinda get the idea why she ain't got no friends... and it's nothing to do with her uh... 'beauty'. The "I'm always gunna weeen," bit gave strong nasty personality vibes from her. Some girls will be intensely jealous and threatened by pretty people in their circle. But I feel like it'll be obvious that it's THEIR problem, not yours. But the girls out there going "I'm too beautiful to have friends" more than likely THEY are the problem. They are those girls. Not their looks, their personality. Tons of these women who think they are too beautiful to have friends are just really not even pretty, tbh.
She does look kind of agressive, as an autistic person I would be scared of talking to her, she feels like the kind of person who would admonish me for saying the wrong thing
I dont know if im pretty or not so i wouldnt know Personally i dont have many friends i really just have one people drain my energy and i dont need random people in my house or even people i know for years and is toxic i just cant But i can read people energies
I’m considered in a weird place: I’m technically a “pretty girl” but I’m an adult tomboy, who does body weight for real strength (medical issues), and the two things other women cite when they start distancing themselves is A) they’re in a relationship and assume for literally no reason other than I have done a lot of stuff despite my medical disabilities, and they think I’ll steal their bf (this happened to my mom too, so much so that in the 70s and 80s she couldn’t even _be_ around a married man without his wife there to “protect him” from the successful business woman,) and B) by being a tomboy who legitimately like cars, classic or not, gaming, and other “societal stereotypical ‘man things’” but am traditional pretty if you don’t see me with my arm crutches (then ableism strikes really hard and violently about how I want to steal a bf/husband because I’m too broken to find my own) so they think I’m just _making up_ the hobbies and interests I had _before puberty_ and didn’t know what “liking” someone meant, just to impress their bf and steal him away. And as much as I hate to say it, if people don’t know about my medical issues, I could date whomever I want. I don’t want to steal someone’s bf because it’s against my morals and if the guy starts being inappropriate I tell his gf-which usually backfires because I had to be some sort of temptress as a tomboy while they’re a “semi-girly girl” or just very traditional in their idea of what a “real woman” is. My _whole thing_ is if a guy is gonna cheat on his GF he’s _always_ going to cheat on his GF. And yes, you’re absolutely right there are “queen bees” in HS and the sorority chicks in Uni, but I don’t fit in with that crowd nor do I fit into the kind of guys who want that crowd. My current bf is (in private, his job makes him an adorable loudmouth being paid by the word, and I’m trying to convince him he could start a podcast and not work for the local and dying radio station) a sweet guy who’s a nerd and like restoring old tech as do I. We bonded over our shared interest and then became physically attracted. I don’t worry about him stepping out with someone who looks like a bombshell bunnie, and he’s not worried I’m going to go find some gym-bro. Because healthy relationships are healthy. And I don’t think HS and Uni students realize that so they never end up growing out of it. Which is sad.
Hey, this doesn't only aply to pretty women. I am 24 not really pretty and I don't really have close friends. I think it is sometimes hard to maintain friends. Especially if you are an adult, it is hard to put some time apart for friends and hobbies when you have family, studies and work.
I thought the video would be about people who like being alone (like me). Nope. Ya'll jumped straight to "JEALOUS 😤". Like your "beauty" is such a hardship? no. you just want to be a victim.
Listen I consider myself and my best friend pretty girls...ppl generally say I look mean in person because I do have resting bitch face but ppl, even other women, generally love me when they get to know me. My best friend too.... Don't get me wrong, there r jealous insecure ppl who hate on ppl they feel are pretty but imo its not the majority and its subjective. Just because u think ur pretty doesn't mean someone is jealous or even thinks ur pretty. Not to be mean just honest.
I'm lucky that I have one friend, in which we acknowledge each other's beauty. We've both gone through experiences of people being jealous of our attractiveness. Apart from that though, I don't see myself making more friends to be honest.
I have friends that compete with me. Constantly. If I do something, they do it. If I TALK about doing something, they rush to do it. Jealousy, envy. I think they try to make me as miserable as they feel. Not sure…
LoL 😂😂😂 I have this belief that if you think people are jealous of you because you are pretty you are somewhat a narcissist... like beauty is in the eye of the beholder someone can think your pretty and I can think your ugly😂😂 however I love pretty girls and I don't spend time on the mirror trying to see if I'm pretty what matters more is I'm fit (healthy) and clean as for beauty standards yea I'm out
Some girls/women are ostracized by other women and don’t even know why. In some cases, it’s just bc of their looks (or other superficial differences). 🤷🏽♀️
Honest. I don't go out of my way to be friends with the pretty girls but I can't imagine being mean to someone for looking good. Like I'm built wrong and insecure ngl but that's not really some other woman's problem.
FR FR !! Being pretty, slim, intelligent, hard working, good mother, loyal woman, and SINGLE - makes you kryptonite for 99% of women because their insecurity cant handle it 🙄
I've had the most hate come from popular or pretty girls. Pretty girls bullied me in school, isolated me from a friend group, spread lies about me. I had pretty friends who started to hate me maybe because I got more confident, I was traveling more and I was making more money. They would start to diss me in front of others but in private act like a friend so I had to cut off those pretty friends.
I think it depends tbh. My sister is really pretty and she genuinely did get targeted a lot by other women. But even so, she’s still a girls girl. I had another friend who was disliked by everyone we knew. She befriended me and I liked her but as we were becoming friends I saw her ostracise a friend group she had for no real reason (they were all white and it seemed she only wanted to have non white friends, weird but whatever). She was one of those girls that was boy crazy and would ghost me for months for her bf (I was her only friend atp). I wasn’t too pressed even tho I did feel somewhat used since she only hit me up if her bf was busy. Long story short I moved abroad and when I told her she didn’t even wanna meet up to say goodbye or stay in touch. All she cared about is who would be there for her if I left😐
5:27 OMG, this was my experience with most of the girls I considered my friends. I only have 1 friend now, we hae been friends since school, but live in different countries now. I do not consider myself a 'pretty girl' and don't think others do either, but from what I've manages to piece together after all this time is that I'm too kind for this world, people see it and shitty ones use it.
a little of both Priscilla, so probably fluctuating is good. I would like to see stories of women, making it. So, for example: I went through this and this and this but I came out on top, story. An edifying feel good story. It's good to have the decenter xy stories, because it keeps us safe as well.
I'll give you all an example of how people find you threatening without you literally doing anything. I worked for a small non-profit and when I started my boss (woman) forced us to start wearing a uniform to work even though that rule never existed before. When I quit that position I saw that she removed the uniform policy immediately. Before she instituted the uniform policy she accused me of trying to compete with her. Like what? I don't even think about you.
Men and women be jealous! I’m chocolate and have had people jealous of me since I can remember which is middle school and a few elementary cases BUT I didn’t realize it early on. I grew into my confidence so it’s rooted! They hate that!
Um .. the reality is the friendship word is freely used WAY too much. You may have lots of associates, but friends are rare. If you are an Ass, no one will want to be around you. People can feel energy and see the underhanded things you do, even if they are small. If you want friends show yourself to be friendly. But pretty girls with great hearts and character absolutely have friends. ***You don’t need lots of friends. 1 or 2 is it, and is more than enough
I'm in uni and one of my classmates complained a lot about not having any female friends. She seemed to think it was because she was pretty, but I think it was mostly her behaviour. She was the one who felt threatened by other women, not the other way around. The only person she seemed comfortable to be around was me, I didn't wonder why at first but later I understood it was because I am autistic. I don't talk a lot so people often put me in the role of the listener, like I am not my own person with my own thoughts. I think that's why she liked me, she didn't see me as possible competition but as an empty vessel that only existed to validate her superiority, she didn't talk to me but AT me. She definitely was hungry for female companionship, but ultimately she didn't know how to exist with other women without establishing some kind of hierarchy based on looks and male attention. I don't believe every pretty woman is like that, but having absolutely no female friends is not normal and cannot be only due to people being jealous.
the majority of them don’t have PERSONALITIES. They get by on their looks, their childhood experiences have been stunted because they didn’t have to develop a personality. So when it comes time to function in the real world, “everyone is a hater”. No ma’am, they just don’t like you.
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Don’t change your content sorry but if they want more female centered content there’s plenty of that on TH-cam like the luxury,self care,motivational,self help etc they just need to subscribe to those channels as well but personally I enjoy your content.❤
Yes, I'm beautiful. My older sister is also beautiful. We've always been pretty girls. I learned faster than my older sister that no matter how nice you are to other girls. Or be as friendly as a Saint with them they will stab you in your back if they felt they're not as pretty as you. I've watched for years how my older sister would be mistreated over and over and over again by girls who were jealous of her. Didn't matter what she did. The same as it didn't matter whatever I did they hated us.
I have noticed 2 things 1) Girl friendships are weird 2) Women are willing to be around other women that they either they don’t like or the girls don’t like them, feel like they won’t leave unless they can leave as the official victim & not look like the bad guy
As someone who evolved from being extremely overweight and was depressed and bitter who is now thin I can speak from both sides. I was the bitter hater, and now as a healthier more vibrant woman who has worked on herself it’s true people turn on you. I had people like me but only as long as I was below them. Let go of the haters and the dead weight and commit to your success
being pretty is part of it but also got sick of other female friends parading their bfs and being worried their bfs will cheat on them with me, idc if its pick me most women are catty, jealous, and very fake. specially if youre pretty
I will just say jealousy is real and someone can encounter that a lot of their life even if there's nothing wrong with the person. It's human nature, but someone can deal with that since they're young all throughout their life.
My “friends” used to use me as a scapegoat to talk shit about n crack jokes on. I used to think it was just for fun n laughs but as I got older I realized how hateful n jealous they were. None of those friendships lasted after high school n I’m okay with that. I was the only one that would get ostracized out the group so I distanced myself.
As we evolve (love this new gen) I think that statement will be true someday. But not today 💔💔. Women/girls are judged and treated accordingly to current “beauty standards”. I love how this is going away. Pretty privilege is Not a privilege and makes life harder. That’s why I try at every chance to speak out against beauty standards (I have a beauty business to redefine the standard of beauty). Love that you have elevated your mindset to this 😎🫶🏽💯. Cause yess!! Beauty has nothing to do with looks (superficial aspects) ❤️
Notice how none of these women are actually pretty looking, but they all have some trait of narcissism and have ego problems. I have no friends currently because I stopped keeping up with them. It's less about looks, and more about how much you invest time in others and how you make others feel.
I don't think all of them are even pretty. Where I'm from, they are average! Some are above, but most talking aren't. So that's interesting to me. Girl at 3:40 wouldn't be considered pretty where I grew up 😂
The woman at 3:40 was sharing a story about her pretty friend who was rude, she never claimed she was the pretty one. Secondly, all of them were average 😅 according to me, pretty women are Angelina, Zendaya, Taylor Swift, Gigi Hadid, Priyanka Chopra, Selena Gomez, etc and these women always have a big group of female friends. So clearly, it's not about looks, it's about our character 🤷♀️
I think insecure people just can’t have real friends. Whether you’re pretty or not. As a woman you have to have discernment to not get wrapped up in people who have bad intentions towards you. Some pretty girls just try to act like a victim when they hang out with people who are bad to her and there are some pretty girls who have a big ego and project their insecurities onto others. And of course vice versa but you don’t hear too much about the former.
Yes I agree pretty beautiful intelligent woman unable to get friends because other woman or even men feel very insecure in many ways around confident person.
Some, not all, of the very neautiful women and pretty girls have always had things handed to them, got dates, attention, compliments and etc. and never had to develop a true personality or character so they come off as boring, vapid, shallow, or lacking depth. Others tend to be narcissistic, like some of the women in this video.
9:20 is soooo real. my friends were like that and it makes me sad bc i genuinely loved them. 😢 edit: 14:45 i badly needed to remind myself of this. thank you.
If you’re a pretty girl, over 25 and have no girlfriends….trust me, you’re normal. Don’t let people think you need friends to survive. You don’t. You your own best friend period ❤
Not having friends isn't normal. Any woman can have a man. We act like men have these insane standards. They don't. Be in a little shape and you'll attract someone. Men care about more than just looks. So, if you're over 25 and can't maintain looking for your tribe. Life is not meant to be lived in isolation. Life is to be shared with friends and a partner. You don't want to overload a partner with your need for friendships. Friends play such a great role in your life. Brunch, happy hour, and a lot more.
@jewlzn7130 who mentioned having a man? Lol.
It may not be normal but its okay. Why resist your natural path in life? If God wants you in isolation so you can develop new skills and work on yourself...this is a beautiful period of time for a pretty woman. Less attractive women will never know this because they go through way less stress in friendships than pretty women do. Women can have great friendships again in their 40s and up, when looks and competition aren't as necessary. But before then? It's okay to be friendless and work on yourself and peace. A man that truly loves you will understand. ❤️
In today's climate not having "friends" is safe
If you're over 25, you're a woman, not a girl.
@@jewlzn7130 thats not the case for everyone, dont get me wrong, some socialization is needed but life can be enjoyed on your own. i think society has just made it seem weird to go out for example to the movies alone even though theres people who need a lot more alone time than time with others
When you’re a beautiful woman AND you’re an intellect… yeah, they can’t allow you to be both. You take up too much space.
It gets to a point where I don’t contribute to conversations or give an opinion anymore. I keep quiet. Once I open my mouth, people try to discredit my intellect. It’s makes them feel good to view me as beautiful and dumb. It’s that title of “bimbo” that they can refer to me as, that soothes their envy. They feel more comfortable if you’re just attractive. Being intelligent and attractive wakes up the vice in question, envy. Ive always hated the idea of calling people jealous or “haters” 😅 But the writings on the wall on this one.
@@thegoodchow4385I hate attractive dumb girls but I love attractive smart and intellectual girls so much why am I different?
So they can find another :) keep shining.
The amount of times men have told me I talk too much 🤦♀️
@@theconsciousearthangeltrue
“An attractive person always stays at home because beauty thrives in the sanctuary of their solitude.”
- Carl Jung
There are studies which suggest people are threatened by attractive women.
Look up the “Femme Fatale” effect.
No one is calling ALL attractive women saints, but ppl do actively discriminate AGAINST attractive, confident women.
You have to be strong because you will be bullied even in your own family
I mean... not employers. Especially not if you are any kind of mediocre white woman but also are blonde.
@@mmxw2294fr, my SIL does this to me every chance she gets
noope. pretty prevlige is much more common than any of this.
@@zk6019 "people discriminate against pretty girls" lmao yes, very true. Except by employers, men, wealthy men, other pretty women, law enforcement, the judicial system, the academic system, talent agencies, libraries, garbage-men, post office, the general public, radio DJs, children, babies, dogs, cats, fish, The State of Ohio, that little bug who got blown in from the storm in Wisconsin, Jake from Statefarm, ...
I realised I was the problem long ago, I have an unhealthy ego from unhealed childhood trauma. I put up a wall and subconsciously repel people. I don't mean to but I'm working on it.
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Me too, sending good vibes ❤
Women don't have no friends. Ugly women don't have no friends people make women feel like there ain't nothing and guess what I do have a best friend her name is my sister❤ and she's pretty.
Keep up the good work 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Me Too 🤦🏾♀️
There are pretty women who are mean girls, and pretty women who get hated on just for being pretty. If you're pretty, friendly, yet a bit quiet and not an over sharer?! The hyenas at the workplace will try to eat you up!!!! Subtle jabs, dirty looks, they will try to humiliate & humble you. Being a beautiful woman especially at the workplace provokes the worst behavior in insecure women co-workers.
Exactly, I was definitely treated better at work when I didn't wear anything that looked nice. A lot of people will get mad if you're the type who doesn't talk much and just keep to yourself at work.
Exactly!! Very few people know how VISCOUS hateful and envious women are to other women in the workplace, and those situations can sometimes reach a life-threatening degree of danger. But I just wish that people would stop jumping to conclusions and passing judgments about each other before knowing each other, especially judgments towards women.
Men are worse. If you are an attractive woman in a male dominated environment, men will gossip, spread rumours and make false accusations about the woman. It's horrible. It's worse because once one man spreads false accusations, other men will start harassing the woman and putting her in danger.
Omg yes this!!! They be trying to make you jealous but it never works because they are jealous and trying to force you into competition. Like man I'm tired from working hard! I don't have time for you HS mentality nor your cliques.
Especially if you’re pretty and kind. Story of my life I got bullied. But once I put up a wall now all the girls want to be my friend. I am still kind but I protect myself A-LOT better now.
How do you put up a wall?
@@Apricot90 setting boundaries with people (especially new people) not being so easily trusting/naive and slowly getting to know the character of people instead of giving every singly person the benefit of the doubt always. Keeping my heart sacred and realizing that most people (not all) are inherently selfish.
i feel you.
@@Key-Key444 yes, this is the unfortunate truth about people…
I relate to you 100%! I’ve always been bullied and abused, including by family of origin.
Im a grown ass women and I don’t have any friends and yep it’s a me problem cause I have a problem getting my energy mixed up with bullshit. Once you get to a certain age you realize no one is your friend. Stay safe y’all.
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Absolutely !!!!!!!💯💗
Yep
Yes, facts
Not true. I have friends that I can always count on and they can very much count on me. Same for my mom. They even give services when they don't have that much time or are really tired or are living very sad things in their lives. My mom and I do the same for them. Not everyone is the same. I'm 28 years old by the way and I don't want any bs in my life either. You just have to choose people very wisely and the right people will come.
For me, my mum and auntie were my biggest bullies growing up so it's hard to trust women and befriend them
Same here... They KNEW my potential and saw my light, even when I was a little girl. They even sexually abused me. Broke my soul on so many levels. But I am still standing and keep rising, I'm more successful and beautiful than ever. They were always beneath me and my light was showing their evil.
@@Apricot90 💔 💔
I’m so sorry, boo.
@@Apricot90 that's so heartbreaking. Happy you are healing, I wish you more empowerment on your journey, may you continue to bloom and flourish 🌻
same to you, sister. Hope you are doing well! @@tinalifestyle888
My mother was mean as well to me.
Yes this is true , I don’t care what anyone says. If you are pretty/beautiful, and to add insult to injury you are intelligent, carry yourself confidently and have things going for you in your life , YOU will have a hard time keeping friends.
Sure you will attract women who will want to hang out with you at first but usually it dies out because of the reason I just stated.
Even some mothers are jealous of their own daughters and a mother is suppose to be a girls first friend or the example of it.
Life isn’t just black and white , we humans are funny creatures with very complex natures. We compare and contrast a lot especially when it comes to beauty.
Pretty privilege is real and people assume if you have it along with if you have other things going for you , your life is set when we all know that this is far from the truth.
Your parent is supposed to be a parent, not a friend.
@@canesugar911 duh we know that. The point I was trying to make is your relationship with your mom /dad , especially your mother sets the foundation for how have relationship with other women and influences how you pick your romantic partners as well.
@@canesugar911no but it sure as hell serves as the very blueprint for relationships from teen to adulthood it literally sets everything into place.
@@canesugar911when I was in high school I couldn’t trust women but I was comfortable around men. They didn’t insult or manipulate me. Now I know it’s mommy issues.
THANK YOU for saying this. the part that hit the most was "even some mothers are jealous of their own daughters". not just my mother, but even my grandmother and aunts are competing with me, not just my friends. it's painful and sad knowing that the women in my life see me as a threat or a competition.
When you bring up a negative experience with a man and they say "well you are so pretty,sooo.. "
Run for your life.
They think you deserve bad things to compensate for what they envy. Your natural beauty..
Yes! As if being pretty is somehow a shield from the knocks in life. It's disturbing.
Yes!
I modelled once and know how cruel people can be. Jealous and aggressive women, sexualizing and immoral men.. So I gained over 100 pounds to protect myself... They only got nastier and meaner, and I got some chronic illnesses. Now that I've lost all the weight again and am more attractive than ever, they try to keep me small collectively and harass me. And there is nothing I can do about it, no one I can turn to. You really can't win. I often think about ending things. This world is a cess pool of primitive and dangerous idiots...
You can talk to me....I am a kind person and applaud you for your weight loss. Please don't give up. I got bullied and isolated myself and my son is 5, outgoing and smart and gets bullied from jealousy. He got in trouble today at school and said he wants to kill himself because of bullying
Girl you are a sunshine and I'm proud of you ❤❤❤
Don't let them dime your light, don't let them take your voice from you.
The secret is to wear a mask - Don't be an open book.
Don't reveal your story to everybody, your weaknesses are the key to be mistreated.
And have standards, boundaries - once you get disrespect, be out.
And surround yourself with kind hearted people, people who give.
They exist, you just have to observe
Ending things? Please get a therapist to help you examine your feelings, please, we humans are not worth your life Ending. Please. Sending you love and strength to seek wisdom. There are still good humans out here, don't loose hope. ❤❤
Sis, they act this way because they center men. When you center men you’re afraid to lose them, you walk a tightrope to attract them, then when you get them you resolve yourself to unhappiness to be with them. The good news is many women are starting to de center them, I would set my sights on befriending women who don’t obsess over men. In the meantime center yourself and take care of you and embrace sovereignty. I am not a pretty girl and don’t have many female friends. I have always found it easier to befriend men than women, nobody talks about how judgmental women can be a lot women will judge you on the most superficial of things. Women have unspoken social codes that some women may not pick up on. If you get it wrong they shut you out, god forbid you bring this up and they call you a pick me and dismiss you or tell you something is wrong with you.
You're a queen
Imagine every job you had being harassed by male coworkers to the point that you got to take them to HR imagine every job you had being harassed by your female coworkers being bullied by people that you barely knew is not easy at all, but is there some benefits to it at the same time? Yes, there is so I guess we all gotta pick up crosses and carry on. Being stoic helped me a lot meditating too be strong
Sooo true! What is it about being happy and smiling that triggers the evil and nastiness in people? I won't show myself or my feelings ever again. Moving the country now and changing my job. I will even make up a lie and tell them I have a marriage and kids, so they will leave me alone.
@@Apricot90Your most likely fat.
The job part is me! EVERY LAST ONE!
Working from home is a lot better than having to deal with these kinds of people all day.
@@Apricot90the only reason I deal with them is because I'm trying to put some money away but those at home businesses seem like a scam for the most part unless you have the right equipment to set everything up and you build it yourself. But yeah sometimes co workers can be severely competitive they probably think I'm weird for not talking a lot or smiling at them but if you smile at them it really pisses them off too so either way there going to be hating on you.
That's the one thing that makes it hard on introverts to keep jobs a lot of us just want to make our money and go home. We don't want to stand around and talk about the football game or who called in last night. Extroverted people have a vendetta for loners because we come there and do the jobs that there too lazy to do and go home. They think life is some kind of movie and a lot of them want raises and benefits for standing around and letting other people clean up after them and putting in the bare minimum. If an introvert did some of the same things that they do at work we'd get fired.
Men feeling entitled to you, woman envying that and hating your for it, the CONSTANT harrassment from EVERYBODY, the jealousy AND SO ON!
I Agree
That is a good way to describe it. They make you feel out of place just because they're insecure with the way they look or dress.
I've known some people like this too that want to be seen as different or unique there was a day me and this woman both ironically wore the same sweater it was just a weird concedience but she seemed like she had a bigger issue with it then I did it was one of those weird little emo girl sweaters and honestly I didn't think anyone else would buy it but she did and her and the lady's in the deli and bakery have been snappy at me ever sense I'm not sure what I did wrong but when men hire preppy girls to work with goth girls it's not always the best combination.
In the Barbie movie it was best said, they said “Men,” ima say boys. Boys objectify you, “Women” hate you. The main Barbie said something along those lines. I know one thing for sure, all my life I been a girls’ girl. It’s never quite worked in my favor when I was in pageantry and beyond-ACTUALLY graduating with high-level degrees, using them, building, and continuing to strive, while maintaining the looks they “Hate.” The looks cause stares, but the stares have to be welcomed and some of us just aren’t interested in dating and relationships presently. Anywho, I am rarely tripping on lagging “Friendships.” I make peace with my authenticity and GENUINE attempts at it. I STILL travel, brunch, go to the movies, bar hop, church, and any other things I want to do. One or few monkeys (like a group not literally like Spice/Erica Mena) don’t stop no show, not one bit. That confidence punches like Floyd Mayweather and that’s cool. I ain’t reducing myself for them.
Very true ❤
Every female friend I've ever had has either tried to bring my confidence down to her level, or straight up tried to compete with me- even for the most random things. I was at a bar with one friend, and i was wearing a vintage tee that the male bartender commented on and struck up a conversation with me about. Ill never forget the way my "friend" just sat and glared at me THE WHOLE TIME... it was bizarre! A friend at work was jealous, i guess, that a certain customer enjoyed working with me and complimented me to management. This friend then tried to intercept this customer (who was an old lady btw) everytime she came in. She even bought her a small gift. Ive had another "friend" hop on my boyfriend's lap while we were out- he pushed her off lucky for him lol! 😅 so yeah, now i have one friend- but she's great so i consider myself blessed.
I felt this 🫠 my “friend” would glare and she literally said “ugh! Here we go again” when a man struck up a convo with me one time! It was one of the very last times we ever hung out ✌🏽Terrible behavior!
Girl I've had 2 friendship break UPS because someone guys said I'm the prettiest. My first friend in varsity was very pretty and she got all the attention but somehow I got prettier than her and her bf said I'm the prettiest, second girl was my bestfriend she used to get all the attention growing up then I got prettier and some guy mention that on social media that friendship ended too, lastly my friend invited her friend to go out with us and I was like oh great what kind of vibe us she like you or me my friend was like she's prettier than you lol 😂
in my experience a lot of girls are super competitive especially when a lot of pretty girls are in the same friend group. They are all competing for attention and they always try to one up each other. A lot of the pretty girls I have been friends with are back-stabbers and have no respect for other people. I think that some pretty girls make being pretty their whole personality, which is why they have a hard time making friends. This is just my experience im not generalizing all pretty girls.
It's time 2000 with black women. No matter how old you get, the competitiveness for no reason never stops. Thank goodness I enjoy my own company.
I’ve litterly heard all my life “oh I can’t hang with you ~ your prettier than me”. Even now, in my big age in corporate America. I’ve never been one for relationships (never getting married) so when I go out, I’m not all over guys or looking for guys. I get attention tho without even tryin~ and I’ve been told by multiple women “it’s not fair! You don’t even want a guy or get married” (been proposed to 3x turned them down).
Idk if it’s jealousy, but their energy and attitude change and they takes shots at me or try and make fun of me in front of men. Same way men feel like they need to “humble” beautiful women.
Now because I don’t put marriage, kids, relationships as a priority it’s hard to connect with ppl in this mindset.
This also has allowed me to focus on my goals and careers~ built up 3 businesses (accounting, beauty, and art). So now ppl get mad and I’ve lost my old 9-5 friends because they see me with freedom, more money, able to do more things than them, with things they don’t have & we “started” in the same place. I’ve been told I got “pretty privilege” and this is why I’m successful 🤯😳, Not because of my hard work, dedication, and business smarts.
I have a very very small circle of friends and family ~ but many acquaintances.
I’m loving this new movement of decentering men 🤗🙌🏽🙌🏽. For the first time in my life, I’m making more genuine connections with women than I have ever had. Love this for us ladies 🫶🏽🙌🏽💯💯.
My other issue is I’m shy. So it’s hard for me to talk and open up to strangers~ I have bad anxiety from childhood trama. I get called out for “resting B face” or being “stuck up”. Ppl think I think I’m better than them because I don’t say much.😢. I’ve learned tho, ppl who are supposed to be in your life will ~ and I only like good vibes. I don’t like making fun of ppl or gossiping about ppl so I’m call “werid” by mean girls 🤷🏽♀️😂 that one I really don’t care about tho cause I’m Not dragging ppl to make myself feel superior.
If you made it this far ~ Thanks for reading *my Ted talk 😎😂
Love these vids, but yes plz! Make more vids of empowering women and brining us together ❤🙏🏽💯😎.
Thank you
As a man I want to say congratulations on all you have done and I hope you find the peace and good friends your looking for.
@@JaydenHolland-wo4fd 🙏🏽😎🫶🏽. Ty for that, I really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart.
God lady just reading this makes me feel lucky that I'll never meet you in real life.
@@user-jw7pu1rw4i that makes both of us 😎🙌🏽😂. Trust you would never meet me, your generic name already implies your a bot. Your other triggered comments you left say A lot about you and the low vibrational life you lead 😬🤣
The one arrogant woman who could use some grammar lessons, didn't exactly win me over. You can be attractive and still be a decent person.
Right, some are confusing being repelled by an off putting personality with jealousy like no one is jealous, you’re just mean. 😬
I Agree
to me shes very average looking too, her way of talking and arrogance at her age put me off right away
The first one?
I was thinking the exact same thing I didn't like the attitude from the very beginning@@ayatokirishima 💞
The worst part about being attractive is your family member likes you. That's scary. Another thing is another attractive women feel intimidated by you that they will bully you.
What do you mean family members like the pretty one? Families always like each other
@@fatemad4012 I think she’s talking about incest… and no, family members usually don’t like one another at all.
That has nothing to do with how attractive you are, and has everything to do with how power hungry, predatory, and demonic the family member is. I’m very sorry that you had to go through that.
@@winxclubstellamusa I know, but they would use that as an excuse to victim blame you when you get SA'ed
@@winxclubstellamusa It definitely can contribute though, cause If there’s a choice they will usually go for the prettiest sibling or cousin.
I never considered myself even attractive, because I had no friends. I was around 22 when someone said "Girl, they are jealous of you- your success, your looks!!!, your outlook and outcomes in life." I had no clue! All the animosity was from being jealous. I found out most guys thought I was cute and perky. I found out friends were trying to undermine my successful business. I found out that my constant work on myself was causing MAJOR jealous overload from many, especially other women, including my mom and sister. My confidence was killing them. Now that I know, it's my super power.
My best friend growing up was conventionally attractive and embodied all beauty standards for the early 2000s. She and I were best friends while I was the fat awkward fiend, but baby, when I started to blossom and bloom and get the attention that she always got? It was over!
Letting be pretty your whole personality is often the problem. I enjoy all of your content.
Thanks
That definitely is an issue for many very girly girls.
Or people who are just average, like some in the video, thinking they are pretty.
@Hyear2030 I agree. That 1st girl is just a basic girl with 50 lbs of make up on. People need to work on their personality and deal with their traumas
@@jewlzn7130 yes. Work on the inside. A bunch of plain women with makeup and hair done complaining about pretty privilege really have people issues and they need to work on that! Actually attractive women never talk about this stuff.
It’s a mix. Some are really hated on but some are just meeeeeeeeean. If you’re only concerned about how you’re always winning and never supportive of your friends then people won’t want to be around you.
Exactly some of these women are just shitty people that's why no one wants to be around them.
Im the successful pretty girl. Had a friend who was just pretty. And anything i did, finished and accomplished she had something negative to say. The examples are vast and all over the map. So i cooled off on speaking to her. What made me stop all together is when she was saying slick stuff about me being in nursing school and how she got in because she had to finish before me. The last dig was that im old and i was going to fail because she failed her classes. I told her, im not failing, i have A's and B's. Im stopping next semester and putting it on pause because im sick. I was diagnosed with a rare blood cancer. She says im sorry, what is it. I tell her and i guess she looked it up on her phone, a minute later says "damn that sucks your going to die in eight years" i said well that escalated quickly, have a good day. Hadnt talked to her since 2020. Now mind you its three years later, im in remission, doing great, moving better but still not all the way there. Guess who still hasnt finished nursing school. Her. Because she had three years to finish while I was fighting for my life and still hasn't succeeded. You're right. Hang out with other successful pretty girls because the ones who aren't successful, will try to drag you down because how dare you be pretty, smart and successful while they arent.
I think she would’ve slowed your journey to remission down if she would’ve still been speaking negativity into your life. Her making that comment and it being the last straw for you happened intentionally! So that you can heal w/o the negativity. I went through a similar situation as well. Glad you are doing good!
@@mrenae6798 completely agree! Going thru chemo was terrible and I'm happy everyone I spoke to was positive. Because I don't plan on letting this take me down and I don't need someone plotting for it to take me down. I now know many were worried but they never said anything negative. And they still don't.
Girls aren’t jealous of me, but they def hate that I am charismatic 😢 I can’t help I have a rockin’ bright shining personality 🤷♀️
That's still jealousy love
I'm jealous of that too! Looks are so superficial and blah. Personality is everything
That’s really funny to me and I don’t know why! 😂 It’s awesome that your personality is like this.
Yep my personality got me everything I wanted in life.
It's very true that the more beautiful the woman is the less friends she has. Especially if she doesn't realize how beautiful she is. They don't get asked out because people assume that she already has plans because why wouldn't she? Plus beauty is intimidating to people that are mid.
Yes the woman in pink explained it perfectly thats been my experience, ppl hate when youre pretty and intelligent and not a hater , they look for problems with you its weird asf
It's just jealousy, pettiness, and cattiness. Women, especially BLACK women, really need to lean on each other because THE WORLD HATES US simply for existing. At the end of the day, we're all we have. Set boundaries and respect other womens' boundaries. 😊
Well yes, but more importantly no…I rather be friends with literally anyone else. Black women especially the ones that are dick-a-tized by black and black adjacent men are ones I will warn everyone to stay away from😅
I like the switch to talking about female issues and experiences. Men don't need to be the center of everything. A good mix is nice. 🙌
"I like hanging out with guys, cause girls are so much drama 🤡🔫". -that last chick
Most of my friends are males too
😂yep 🤡 🔫
Exactly!! She’s a total female misogynist.
Pickmeisha move
In my first year at uni, one of the girls I lived with was really nice to my face, but I noticed she sometimes gave me weird side looks and made small snidey comments. It was never anything big so I told myself I was probably imagining it. Then after a while she started doing things like inviting everyone on a trip to her home town and ‘forgetting’ to invite me. I never bothered bringing it up with her, and she carried on being nice to my face, so I never knew what the problem was. None of the other girls living there seemed to have an issue with me, or acted like this towards me.
However I have experienced similar behaviour from other females in school too, without knowing the reason. I think some women just don’t like certain women but I don’t think it’s everyone.
It definitely does make you feel more paranoid and insecure though, and because of that I think I have difficulty making friends, because I dont know who I can trust enough to open up to.
I always felt like people liked my image but made other assumptions about me such as that I was a b*** or that I was dumb. I had girls admit they assumed I would be mean because I was so pretty. Guys couldn't see past it. They played the game hoping for more and when it didn't lead to more they didn't just cut me off, they displayed a vitriol and bitterness about me that was palpable. I not only began schooling for neuroscience, but also have a strong passion for music, and I am good at it. I also used to dance and do music in shows, paint for art galleries, model. I'm a complex being and it sucked to just be reduced down to what my mama gave me when the stuff I curated for myself ended up mattering less. Nowadays I tone down my look to draw authentic people, and my husband is bummed about it because he loves my style. Slowly I'm getting back into the stylish me who stands out instead of wearing frumpy clothes and a head scarf , and no makeup in public. Every once and a while someone still comments about my natural beauty, but I deliberately shrunk down to fit in and trust that people were approaching me for the right reasons. I'm excited to get back to creatively styling myself and amplifying my light, but this period of diminishing has taught me a lot of lessons that I needed to learn. I am always me. My image is an expression of my artistry and intelligence and who I am inside, also the beauty I want to add to the world is uniquely my own. Not only should I not dim myself but I should realize that it is up to others what they perceive, and my beauty is the least important thing to me, but not to many others. And that's ok. Maybe they are looking for the whimsy they find in my looks, but the people who take the time to know me past the outside, and value the looks I create as an expression of my inside world instead of my primary value should be appreciated so much more. That kind of beauty cannot be replaced, or emulated and it is beyond skin and bones.
You sound awesome! ❤
Oh my god it means so so much to me what you said so assertive and emotionally helpful ! I also enjoy presenting myself with certain styles based on my artwork and always seems to be a problem when they do not even know you and already have something negative to point out at. Blessings and keep shining
I hear you. I shrank myself too to keep men away. It's sad that women have to do that at all.
I'v been told I'm very attractive- I have no female friends, I noticed when a couple is in my presence the girl would look directly at me then turn to her man get very close to him and grab on to him. I had cases where other females would try to style their hair like mine, even copy how I talk, talk behind my back, make synd remarks, it's also problematic dating, the first question men ask me is where is my boyfriend? when I say I don't have one, they think I'm lying, then think something is wrong with me because I'm single.
Same, I'm old now and I still see this in public. I'm convinced that if a woman hasn't considered herself attractive in her youth, then when she ages, she will still be considered attractive because the light does come from within.
Pretty girls that I have met seem to think looks are everything. Let you be good at relating to men( being able to talk about politics, joke around, etc) and they attack you and try to feel less than.
Agreed
I told I am pretty girl I have conversations about politics and interesting things I think other things like looks are very boring
It's the case for many
I am friends with people who only feel good about their looks nowadays and mostly ok with their age. I don't have time for women age shaming me, slut shaming, making katty remarks etc. But usually women who take care of themselves and have dealt with the same harassment are nice people and we become good friends. The last friend I had to cut off was a woman supposedly struggling with her obesity, she would waste hours of my time complaining and reject every advice or idea I gave her. I told her I can no longer be friends with her when she chose to spend $10k (yes, ten thousand) dollars in a designer bag! The money could have been spent on a doctor, nutritionist and personal trailer and help her become healthy, but no, she needed that bag so that ''people are envious of her''. No, sis the world doesn't work that way.
Pretty people also different from person to person two of my best friends very conventionally attractive one was introvert but most kind, humble person other is extrovert and life of a party she's a caring person too with lots of friends, people really loved her. And there were other Pretty girls I knew so full of themselves. Downside of having Pretty friend is your crush won't notice you but her.
im grown ass woman with no friends...but that's probably because im an introvert lol..I have no problems with other women. i just csnt be around groups of women for long periods of time. Too much estrogen gives me anxiety. Now ive been told im attractive by many. I too have experienced other women judging without speaking to me. Assumptions like im stuck up, or an idiot, or they'll try to pick apart everything about me. And The Men...they will try to humble you to feel powerful, or treat you weak and helpless. It Dosent matter if im friendly or not , both sexes do these things. I know Women do this to each other on a daily basis. but when youre attractive its twice as hard to gain your respect.
Yes - they get extremely jealous and insecure and especially if you are pretty on the inside. It's incredibly sad honestly.
I noticed something else about very attractive women. Sometimes when you have a more attractive friend they can not handle when the supposed less attractive friend gets attention or has access to something that they do not. Many times they can become a little frustrated not being the center of attention. It’s true that they are sometimes treated poorly due to jealousy but lots of times they come to expect better treatment and can’t take when it’s not their turn. Attractive people are typically treated better overall.
I agree, it's sad but a lot of attractive people come to view their beauty as a currency. And they are annoyed when the "hierarchy" gets messed up and someone gets access to something their current level of attractiveness shouldn't be able to "afford " them.
There's been studies on this phenomena, it's fascinating
I feel that. I stopped taking care of myself and looking more humble around other women. I had so many friends act nice to my face and then I'll end up seeing them hang out with out me and even overheard them talking about me. I would be with them everything seemed fine and the next day they are all silent and speaking short with a harsh tone and I would ask if anything wrong and they would just give me the cold shoulder. I've constantly seen women overcast me when I'm speaking and rolling their eyes especially if there are men around. I know I'm not the problem because there have been times I haven't spoken the whole evening but when I do it's annoying to them .I've had my cousin point out flaws in front of other purposely to embarrass me. Example I had eyeliner in my tear duct and I had been with the for over 30 minutes and she decided to say something once a guy is around. Literally watching women clutch boyfriend husband's when I'm around. Scoffing and judging my outfits and downplaying my outfits. For example someone compliments my outfit and their like it was on sale or I have one or seen one better. Or the it's cute but I like them this way because it looks better. Even women telling me i have it easy cause of my looks. Now I'm all humble af looking because it's the only way to not get dragged down by other women. Hell I can't say intelligent shit or share ideas because they roll their eyes and try to disassemble what I say. This happens at work.
Change your friends sweetie or better yet just stay without em.
@suziemuchiri5727 this is all in the past now. None of those people are my friends but it's just an example of how mean girls can be just cause of looks.
No girl don't be " humble af looking" ,enjoy your pretty and youth . I feel the same but I just keep on searching for the right people . I'm not gonna act/look how they want me to just to make them feel less jealous. TF?!
@@cottoncandyxunicornthen it's hard to find any friends when I am with girls I am very modest they are modest themselves so they like me more
The first girl- shes not friend-less because shes pretty, she has no friends bc she has a horrible personality 😂 having self confidence and being cocky are two different things
She seems so insufferable but it's also insecurity I guess
Yes I thought the same thing, she seems exhausting
I'll tell you tea as someone who went from cute to beautiful in adult age, and professionally models. Friendships turn sour due to inferiority complexes in other Women. Husbands, BFs, Fiancés and FWB get jealous and possessive. They really try to become your dad giving you rules and threatening harm on other Men. Strangers stare and acknowledge your beauty which can give serious anxiety. I've heard "she's beautiful" in so many languages due to traveling a lot for work.
Women can be competitive and or try and eye laser you for their Men looking at you. SA and Males eye-fu0king you. I've been grabbed, stalked, followed from the street, cars pulling over and Men getting out and meeting me on the sidewalk, and coercion and leverage for sex and relationships. It's not cute, here and I'll be relived to be 70 yrs old one day. I miss the invisibility. I appreciate compliments but I don't let them stick because my looks aren't forever.
Looks are somewhat forever. You will still be the prettier 70year old in comparison to other 70year olds. Beauty is a gift from God. Embrace the good and bad like a queen. Like a queen - guard your accessibility with even your life. Shine on sis.
It might just be aura-based and not necessarily beauty-based
The movie Malena with Monica Belluci depicts this perfectly.❤
Thanks for the movie tip, I'm going to watch it
@kayshawnsimmons5585 you'll love it. One of my top faves ❤️
@@Blissedx yes, I just finished it, that lil boy was a creepy lil perv. That whole town was so hateful towards her.
Yeah it does. It also shows how cruel women can be to each other just over male attention. Maléna just wanted to be left alone...but no one would allow it.
@@TheLeslieMichelle those women beat her badly cutting her hair to where her scalp was bleeding. Then when her husband came home from the war and brought her back, all of a sudden they wanted to be nice. Women have such demonic hate for women over the male gaze, I was terrified watching that scene where they beat her. They were like possessed animals.
From what i’ve seen is most of them make being “pretty” their whole personality. I have gorgeous friends even ones who are conventionally attractive (when im not which is ok) but the ones that im not friends with anymore is because they have bad personalities and narcissistic traits and think the world revolves around them. Beauty is subjective so yes some women are envious but if you don’t have one friend it’s you and it doesn’t matter how pretty you are.
I agree, if you are a good person people will be drawn to you, no matter what you look like.
Some pretty women are genuinely nice people, but the kind who complain they have no friends tends to be the kind who are hyper focused on looks, have a lot of social media presence and are entitled enough to think they are owed things from others. If you are that kind of person first the people in your circle will be people like you, so it's no wonder you don't have any success. Those kind of girls don't strike me as the ones who will try to make friends with a random nerd
pretty ,ugly ,tbh people just dont like women , ugly less likeley to be lonley cuz dont see us a s a threat than preety but still
people often judge your value based on looks cuz ur a woman ,jealousy is a reason preety womena re lonley ,but also the other person feeling out of their league so scarred to be friends ,there is also the stereotype of preety girls being dumb or mean ,and ppl sxualising them...like gay/straight if ur preety ppl will sxualise you so u wont have ''friends'' ur gonna be fuk-zoned
im ugly +mentaly disabled /neurodivergent and have no friends rly cuz most people just use me for their boredom etc cuz think im worthless so ''its ok to use me'' and they throw me away when they find someone else or get bored of me ,or ''its ok to sa /use finantialy her since shes worthless'' or let her do all the work cuz i wont ''lower myself to her let her chase me for ego so she has a crumb of friendship''
it goes bouth ways tbh ,mostly humans being shallow ,mean ,selfish ,believe in dumb stereotypes , intsead of having deep friendships based on who they are as a person and bullding eachother up in crisis and celebrating together in victory , you have the dumb ''competitions'' and ego trips and sxism
its exhausting for everyone especialy non insane people to deal with the insane ones
for me idc who im friends with as long as they chill ,race gender sxuality ,idc as long as we vibe and they are good
*perceptive wiser empathic brave souls are truly beautiful inside out...*
*learn to be more selective after u detox from all ur fake narcissistic toxic relationships + it's better to enjoy ur sacred solitude than be surrounded or worse coupled with envious of ur divine spark selfish traitors or sexist pigs.*
Well some pretty girls don't have friends because they are wrongfully judged and made fun of but others don't have friends because they can't be friends self. In my experience and I'm sure most other people as well the pretty girls with good personalities usually always have friends and people kind to them. It doesn't matter what you look like people will find someway to make fun of you and sometimes your not the great person you believe yourself to be.
Nah I acted friendly and nice and people love me but I am an introvert so once I turned the sweet and nice switch off people don’t really like me as much and start to avoiding me because they thinks I’m a fake. It doesn’t matter if you are pretty or not. It is your personality.
I definitely agree. I think the friendless pretty people… a lot of them….are well…autistic..plain and simple. But of course more people are surprised when the pretty person has no friends. I’m just going by my own experience of pretty people who aren’t on the spectrum. I’m not gonna say they had no trouble…but they definitely had friends and a lot of them are pretty popular amongst their surroundings.
@@pistachiosandpopcorn7146 interesting take. I have bipolar tendencies and that is a huge factor when it come to maintaining relationships.
It’s the profile pic for me 🥰🥰🥰🥰 I love hanging with other successful, God-fearing, pretty women no matter who gets the attention. I just want what’s and who’s meant for me with me 🥰
@@elleea6565 Agree, i don't believe when women say " Omg everybody's jealous of mE, I'm too pretty to have friends" because according to my experience i have seen ton of gorgeous women with solid friendships, I have seen conventionally unattractive women lonely and their loneliness was mainly due to their shitty personality. So i think its mainly the personality of person that matters when it comes to friendships. Cuz if no one ones to be your friend then maybe its the you problem Cuz you are the common dinominator , every one can't be wrong everytime.
people in this comment section sound like they got no social skills and don't understand how friendships are formed AND maintained ngl. i'm not here to erase experiences of people who have hurt you or say that there aren't more people out to get you but some self reflection is needed and most people don't engage in it half as much as they think they do lol. some friendships come and go whilst others stay and yes you should be happy within and by yourself but realistically most of us are social creatures to some extent (even if it's just 1 person that is close to us).
It's amazing to me the people that really think they are exceptionally pretty.
Everybody in the comment section thinks their loneliness is because of their exceptional beauty.
To be fair most people on the video look slightly above average to me. But if they didn't wear makeup they would definitely be average, there is nothing wrong with that but it's hardly the kind of beauty you couldn't escape from if you wanted
If you are pretty other women won't like hanging out with you, because men will always look at you first. That's the reason why. Even if you don't like and don't want that, even if you are already engaged, your friends will always feel like second choice. It's sad but that's why it's so hard to find friends if you are better looking than the agerage woman. Find yourselves other women who are just as pretty as you are and you will be fine. If you are pretty and have an outgoing personality/like to enjoy life and be happy, than you will get even more hate, because people think you are trying to get attention.
Ok, but that first "beautiful girl", (beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but anyway) even that few second clip is enough for me to kinda get the idea why she ain't got no friends... and it's nothing to do with her uh... 'beauty'. The "I'm always gunna weeen," bit gave strong nasty personality vibes from her. Some girls will be intensely jealous and threatened by pretty people in their circle. But I feel like it'll be obvious that it's THEIR problem, not yours. But the girls out there going "I'm too beautiful to have friends" more than likely THEY are the problem. They are those girls. Not their looks, their personality. Tons of these women who think they are too beautiful to have friends are just really not even pretty, tbh.
Right 😂😂
She does look kind of agressive, as an autistic person I would be scared of talking to her, she feels like the kind of person who would admonish me for saying the wrong thing
I dont know if im pretty or not so i wouldnt know
Personally i dont have many friends i really just have one people drain my energy and i dont need random people in my house or even people i know for years and is toxic i just cant
But i can read people energies
I’m considered in a weird place: I’m technically a “pretty girl” but I’m an adult tomboy, who does body weight for real strength (medical issues), and the two things other women cite when they start distancing themselves is A) they’re in a relationship and assume for literally no reason other than I have done a lot of stuff despite my medical disabilities, and they think I’ll steal their bf (this happened to my mom too, so much so that in the 70s and 80s she couldn’t even _be_ around a married man without his wife there to “protect him” from the successful business woman,) and B) by being a tomboy who legitimately like cars, classic or not, gaming, and other “societal stereotypical ‘man things’” but am traditional pretty if you don’t see me with my arm crutches (then ableism strikes really hard and violently about how I want to steal a bf/husband because I’m too broken to find my own) so they think I’m just _making up_ the hobbies and interests I had _before puberty_ and didn’t know what “liking” someone meant, just to impress their bf and steal him away.
And as much as I hate to say it, if people don’t know about my medical issues, I could date whomever I want. I don’t want to steal someone’s bf because it’s against my morals and if the guy starts being inappropriate I tell his gf-which usually backfires because I had to be some sort of temptress as a tomboy while they’re a “semi-girly girl” or just very traditional in their idea of what a “real woman” is.
My _whole thing_ is if a guy is gonna cheat on his GF he’s _always_ going to cheat on his GF.
And yes, you’re absolutely right there are “queen bees” in HS and the sorority chicks in Uni, but I don’t fit in with that crowd nor do I fit into the kind of guys who want that crowd.
My current bf is (in private, his job makes him an adorable loudmouth being paid by the word, and I’m trying to convince him he could start a podcast and not work for the local and dying radio station) a sweet guy who’s a nerd and like restoring old tech as do I. We bonded over our shared interest and then became physically attracted. I don’t worry about him stepping out with someone who looks like a bombshell bunnie, and he’s not worried I’m going to go find some gym-bro. Because healthy relationships are healthy. And I don’t think HS and Uni students realize that so they never end up growing out of it. Which is sad.
Hey, this doesn't only aply to pretty women. I am 24 not really pretty and I don't really have close friends. I think it is sometimes hard to maintain friends. Especially if you are an adult, it is hard to put some time apart for friends and hobbies when you have family, studies and work.
Then you must be prettier than you think!
@@winxclubstellamusa Thanks, but I would describe me as mediocre.
I guarantee that what you see is not what others see. Don't doubt yourself!
I thought the video would be about people who like being alone (like me). Nope. Ya'll jumped straight to "JEALOUS 😤". Like your "beauty" is such a hardship? no. you just want to be a victim.
Victim mentality
I just stay byself, the people I loved had a silent competition with me, people lying on me..I even HAD men hating on me
How men hated you?
Men are much worse because they will use an attractive woman with the intent to "knock her down a few pegs." Some do it for years.
Listen I consider myself and my best friend pretty girls...ppl generally say I look mean in person because I do have resting bitch face but ppl, even other women, generally love me when they get to know me. My best friend too....
Don't get me wrong, there r jealous insecure ppl who hate on ppl they feel are pretty but imo its not the majority and its subjective. Just because u think ur pretty doesn't mean someone is jealous or even thinks ur pretty. Not to be mean just honest.
I'm lucky that I have one friend, in which we acknowledge each other's beauty. We've both gone through experiences of people being jealous of our attractiveness. Apart from that though, I don't see myself making more friends to be honest.
I have friends that compete with me. Constantly. If I do something, they do it. If I TALK about doing something, they rush to do it. Jealousy, envy. I think they try to make me as miserable as they feel. Not sure…
LoL 😂😂😂 I have this belief that if you think people are jealous of you because you are pretty you are somewhat a narcissist... like beauty is in the eye of the beholder someone can think your pretty and I can think your ugly😂😂 however I love pretty girls and I don't spend time on the mirror trying to see if I'm pretty what matters more is I'm fit (healthy) and clean as for beauty standards yea I'm out
yeah narcs are always thinking that everyone is jealous of them
Some girls/women are ostracized by other women and don’t even know why.
In some cases, it’s just bc of their looks (or other superficial differences).
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I disagree. Watch the movie Malena with Monica Belluci and you'll change your perspective on this topic too
Honest. I don't go out of my way to be friends with the pretty girls but I can't imagine being mean to someone for looking good. Like I'm built wrong and insecure ngl but that's not really some other woman's problem.
FR FR !! Being pretty, slim, intelligent, hard working, good mother, loyal woman, and SINGLE - makes you kryptonite for 99% of women because their insecurity cant handle it 🙄
Priscilla, I enjoy watching your videos.
I'm realizing how superficial people are and it's sad. People really have inflated egos! I am tickled 🤣😂
Thank you so much!
I've had the most hate come from popular or pretty girls. Pretty girls bullied me in school, isolated me from a friend group, spread lies about me. I had pretty friends who started to hate me maybe because I got more confident, I was traveling more and I was making more money. They would start to diss me in front of others but in private act like a friend so I had to cut off those pretty friends.
I think it depends tbh. My sister is really pretty and she genuinely did get targeted a lot by other women. But even so, she’s still a girls girl.
I had another friend who was disliked by everyone we knew. She befriended me and I liked her but as we were becoming friends I saw her ostracise a friend group she had for no real reason (they were all white and it seemed she only wanted to have non white friends, weird but whatever). She was one of those girls that was boy crazy and would ghost me for months for her bf (I was her only friend atp). I wasn’t too pressed even tho I did feel somewhat used since she only hit me up if her bf was busy. Long story short I moved abroad and when I told her she didn’t even wanna meet up to say goodbye or stay in touch. All she cared about is who would be there for her if I left😐
You freaking idiot she clearly doesn't like white people and wasn't a good friend you were just desperate and dumb.
Or maybe they are narcissistic? All my girlfriends are extremely beautiful and I loooooove them.
I am addicted to your channel.
You bring to discussion important issues, thanks for that ⭐️⭐️⭐️.
5:27 OMG, this was my experience with most of the girls I considered my friends. I only have 1 friend now, we hae been friends since school, but live in different countries now. I do not consider myself a 'pretty girl' and don't think others do either, but from what I've manages to piece together after all this time is that I'm too kind for this world, people see it and shitty ones use it.
a little of both Priscilla, so probably fluctuating is good. I would like to see stories of women, making it. So, for example: I went through this and this and this but I came out on top, story. An edifying feel good story. It's good to have the decenter xy stories, because it keeps us safe as well.
I'll give you all an example of how people find you threatening without you literally doing anything. I worked for a small non-profit and when I started my boss (woman) forced us to start wearing a uniform to work even though that rule never existed before. When I quit that position I saw that she removed the uniform policy immediately. Before she instituted the uniform policy she accused me of trying to compete with her. Like what? I don't even think about you.
She thinks about you everyday though. You’re living a whole century in Her head 😂😇😇, complete with a pool and a spa.
I think your regular videos are fine. This was interesting but I don’t think you need to change your content
Thank you😊
Men and women be jealous! I’m chocolate and have had people jealous of me since I can remember which is middle school and a few elementary cases BUT I didn’t realize it early on. I grew into my confidence so it’s rooted! They hate that!
Just hang out with other pretty girls?
Um .. the reality is the friendship word is freely used WAY too much. You may have lots of associates, but friends are rare.
If you are an Ass, no one will want to be around you. People can feel energy and see the underhanded things you do, even if they are small.
If you want friends show yourself to be friendly. But pretty girls with great hearts and character absolutely have friends.
***You don’t need lots of friends. 1 or 2 is it, and is more than enough
I'm in uni and one of my classmates complained a lot about not having any female friends. She seemed to think it was because she was pretty, but I think it was mostly her behaviour. She was the one who felt threatened by other women, not the other way around. The only person she seemed comfortable to be around was me, I didn't wonder why at first but later I understood it was because I am autistic.
I don't talk a lot so people often put me in the role of the listener, like I am not my own person with my own thoughts. I think that's why she liked me, she didn't see me as possible competition but as an empty vessel that only existed to validate her superiority, she didn't talk to me but AT me.
She definitely was hungry for female companionship, but ultimately she didn't know how to exist with other women without establishing some kind of hierarchy based on looks and male attention. I don't believe every pretty woman is like that, but having absolutely no female friends is not normal and cannot be only due to people being jealous.
the majority of them don’t have PERSONALITIES.
They get by on their looks, their childhood experiences have been stunted because they didn’t have to develop a personality. So when it comes time to function in the real world, “everyone is a hater”. No ma’am, they just don’t like you.
2. I actually love the videos about men more because it made me realised tht I'm not alone and man have a lot of work to do...these videos are very educational thank u so much for starting this chanel oh also ur consistency 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 wow.
Thanks ☺️
Don’t change your content sorry but if they want more female centered content there’s plenty of that on TH-cam like the luxury,self care,motivational,self help etc they just need to subscribe to those channels as well but personally I enjoy your content.❤
Yes, I'm beautiful. My older sister is also beautiful. We've always been pretty girls. I learned faster than my older sister that no matter how nice you are to other girls. Or be as friendly as a Saint with them they will stab you in your back if they felt they're not as pretty as you. I've watched for years how my older sister would be mistreated over and over and over again by girls who were jealous of her. Didn't matter what she did. The same as it didn't matter whatever I did they hated us.
I have noticed 2 things 1) Girl friendships are weird 2) Women are willing to be around other women that they either they don’t like or the girls don’t like them, feel like they won’t leave unless they can leave as the official victim & not look like the bad guy
As someone who evolved from being extremely overweight and was depressed and bitter who is now thin I can speak from both sides. I was the bitter hater, and now as a healthier more vibrant woman who has worked on herself it’s true people turn on you. I had people like me but only as long as I was below them. Let go of the haters and the dead weight and commit to your success
being pretty is part of it but also got sick of other female friends parading their bfs and being worried their bfs will cheat on them with me, idc if its pick me most women are catty, jealous, and very fake. specially if youre pretty
I will just say jealousy is real and someone can encounter that a lot of their life even if there's nothing wrong with the person. It's human nature, but someone can deal with that since they're young all throughout their life.
anyone wanna be friends for real ? legit
Yes this is true I cut off
All my friend because of their
Jealousy and Fked up behaviors towards me behind my back as well
My “friends” used to use me as a scapegoat to talk shit about n crack jokes on. I used to think it was just for fun n laughs but as I got older I realized how hateful n jealous they were. None of those friendships lasted after high school n I’m okay with that. I was the only one that would get ostracized out the group so I distanced myself.
Great video, interesting topic :) Please make more content centering women!
Beauty has nothing to do with looks
not in this shallow world ,womens worth is often judged by her preetyness/desirability /fukability saying that what u sayed is being ignorant
As we evolve (love this new gen) I think that statement will be true someday. But not today 💔💔. Women/girls are judged and treated accordingly to current “beauty standards”.
I love how this is going away. Pretty privilege is Not a privilege and makes life harder. That’s why I try at every chance to speak out against beauty standards (I have a beauty business to redefine the standard of beauty).
Love that you have elevated your mindset to this 😎🫶🏽💯. Cause yess!! Beauty has nothing to do with looks (superficial aspects) ❤️
I Agree 💯
Give us a balance of both. We need to open our eye more.
This is a good topic
Notice how none of these women are actually pretty looking, but they all have some trait of narcissism and have ego problems. I have no friends currently because I stopped keeping up with them. It's less about looks, and more about how much you invest time in others and how you make others feel.
Look at this healthy mature response 🙂
I don't think all of them are even pretty. Where I'm from, they are average! Some are above, but most talking aren't. So that's interesting to me. Girl at 3:40 wouldn't be considered pretty where I grew up 😂
The woman at 3:40 was sharing a story about her pretty friend who was rude, she never claimed she was the pretty one. Secondly, all of them were average 😅 according to me, pretty women are Angelina, Zendaya, Taylor Swift, Gigi Hadid, Priyanka Chopra, Selena Gomez, etc and these women always have a big group of female friends. So clearly, it's not about looks, it's about our character 🤷♀️
@@Hyear2030 No dear, she was talking about her beautiful friend not herself.
@@talkingtochapri On point!
This is so true.
"Pretty"is subjective and thse women have less friends for the same reason regulars and asthetically lacking people have less friends
I think insecure people just can’t have real friends. Whether you’re pretty or not. As a woman you have to have discernment to not get wrapped up in people who have bad intentions towards you. Some pretty girls just try to act like a victim when they hang out with people who are bad to her and there are some pretty girls who have a big ego and project their insecurities onto others. And of course vice versa but you don’t hear too much about the former.
Shut up!You are one of the jealous women giving pretty girls a hard time.
I don't mind either content.
Yes I agree pretty beautiful intelligent woman unable to get friends because other woman or even men feel very insecure in many ways around confident person.
Some, not all, of the very neautiful women and pretty girls have always had things handed to them, got dates, attention, compliments and etc. and never had to develop a true personality or character so they come off as boring, vapid, shallow, or lacking depth. Others tend to be narcissistic, like some of the women in this video.
Sometimes it's theor attitude they act like they ate better than others etc sometimes it's that.
9:20 is soooo real. my friends were like that and it makes me sad bc i genuinely loved them. 😢
edit: 14:45 i badly needed to remind myself of this. thank you.
2:25 yep