This just happened to me. So fun, such a connection, affectionate, great chat, chat of future plans. He communicated so nicely for the 2 weeks, we spoke of how we felt we knew each other for so long. Then ghost... Nothing.. ignored. Doesn't make sense. It was like I'd met my twin flame. Then poof! Gone. It saddened me so badly
I'm sorry that happened to you and hope you have been healed! It just happened to me and I did all the same with her after 4 weeks she got flaky and ghosted me 2 months later she reached out just to dump me. Ruined my summer I'm still hurt but will bounce back eventually.
I truly believe this. Sometimes we later find out information about a person who seemed so wonderful at the time that in fact showed we dodged a bullet! Incredible how it works.
it's human nature to try to bring reasoning and logic to an unresolved situation and make it come out like it was a positive situation for us. Sometimes shit happens in life and to everybody.. Just like some people are fortunate to be born in America and some end up being born in a 3rd world country. Why some people in wrong place or time and end up getting murdered.
@@trendafile6356 because one is likely going to what is familiar. And, for a lot of people it's rooted in dysfunctional family of origin stuff. That is why I wrote the comment. But, also, one may not take the time to "look behind the curtain" if your brain/nervous system is full of oxytocin and dopamine. Dopamine prevents you from making rational decisions. It's the chemical that is activated by sex...and cocaine. Other than that, I can't speak for Susan.
I have dated so many 2-3 times, good communication, then they ghost. I just move on, then they return 1-2 months later... All kinds of lies, sick, car accident etc... They are simply immature and cannot cope with dating and the commitment that relationships need.
She says "they don't have the skills to make a relationship work" and of course are not willing to learn either at least not with us. "They don't have the tools/skills to explain themselves" They don't want to disappoint you either.
My ghoster ended up finding out he had a long criminal record, suspended license no auto insurance dwis family violence drugs,I checked him out on instant checkmate,found jail mug shots, I have none of this so on me so it's ok that he took himself away
Damn y'all I'm DISAPPOINTED BOTTOM LINE in those guys!!!! I have the opposite side of trouble,,,,,, women being messy and ignorant immature in their 40s SMH🤔
We had something special and then after several months he decided he couldn't move forward with me. He was an unavailable man with obligations. He often ghosted me and I was patient, then he attempted to pull away and friend zone me. I would have none of it and told him I would not be his friend. We were lovers and I wasn't going backwards. I finally told him on the phone that he's made his choice and he would never hear from or see me again. He broke my heart and I was DONE with this crap. It's been more than 2 weeks and my heart has been smashed to bits. I'll keep doing what I'm doing...living my life.
Same thing happened to me ! He pursued me and then backed of because of his commitments and tried to tell me that we can only be friends - after I thought it through I thought I’m not being a by stander while he treats me like this - so I blocked him 2 weeks ago.
Don't worry it will make you stronger. Most people are confused and don't know what they wont, or are just scared of the unknown. Sometimes its not meant to be because something better for you and something that suits you more is coming along.
You have done it the right way, the same thing happened to me, and he was the one that came on strong. Months later he decided we should just be friends. Foolishly I accepted this, even though it wasn't what I wanted, Partly because we had known each other along time.. Since our schooldays and partly because I hoped that eventually he would get over his wife! Roll on two years after texting each other daily and weekly calls etc, he now tells me he as meet someone else. For a few weeks he had been more distant and then left it a whole week to contact me, he had never done that before. I asked him on the phone if I had done something wrong, and eventually he told me, turns out he had been lying about what he had been doing. He wasent busy with work like he had said. The fact he lied to me, after sharing all our secrets with each other as crushed me 💔 I wish I had never taken the friendzone route.. I certainly deserved alot more. Have now lost the friend I loved and will find it hard to trust again. You have done the right thing by not accepting the little he as to offer you x
It hurts so badly 💔 I’ve never felt that way for someone. He would stare into my eyes for 20+ minutes.a soul connection. I saw home when I look into his eyes…
Was ghosted a year ago by someone whom I thought I had a good connection with. We had some differences but I was willing to meet her halfway on things but she was not as willing. I thought we could at least stay friends since IMO it's hard to find people that you really connect with and I value that greatly. But she apparently did not value that. I've moved on emotionally but the whole experience still leaves a sour feeling inside.
this is my experience, in my case the woman kept harping on my flaws and kept telling me who she thought I was. It was as if I had to always explain myself to her and it was as if she never tried to see things from my side. I got tired of that and ended things and she did not take it well. I really miss her but its best we stay apart
@@bagley232 It sounds like you did the right thing, even though it was painful. I can't help but wonder though, did you ever try to talk to her about how she was making you feel with her criticisms and remarks?
What I have learnt when you get these opportunities and then they are taken away from you - it's actually an opportunity for you to grow and become a person that is actually capable of having and sustaining this big thing that you want. I don't believe that the universe is showing you something that you can't have, it's your subconscious mind that knows and sees that you are actually really not ready for this and all your internal things that require improvement get highlighted so that you can become that person. In the end opportunities have a habit of coming back over and over again until you have leveled up (in your concept of self) enough to actually seize and master them. No big love/excitement/thing is ever lost.
Thank you, Susan! I'm in this situation now. Had an amazing connection with a guy, dated for a few months (unofficially) before he randomly had a change of heart and seemed to lose interest. I don't think exhibited any major red flags, so I've spent a lot of time upset about it and wondering what I could've possibly done wrong. This is the video I truly needed today! Perhaps something better for me is out there.
Twice- failed and back to back. But I’m still here and standing and I’m going to fight for myself and everyone who has went to sleep with tears in their eyes. ✊🏼❤️
My name is Barbara!! This very situation happened to me a few weeks ago, I was crushed. I'm working myself back to strengthen!!.. this piece came at exactly the right time for me! 💜 I realize that the universe loves me and only supports my highest good!
Interesting question, and insightful response! Yes, I've been there, too! Reminds me of the song, "Sometimes God's greatest gifts...are unanswered prayers...". Even when my feelings are hurt, I try to takeaway "lessons learned" and reflect on how even perceived adversity can be turned into being stronger and wiser.
Sometimes being unable to 'make ' them want you makes them more attractive. I've said to my girlfriends, "I don't know why I feel like I want him when I don't find him that attractive. I do not like his politics and I sense there is something sneaky about him, but he just somehow has managed to get under my skin." Once the feelings eventually subsides all these other thoughts I had about him I see much more clearly and I am glad he did not want me.
Bianca, human nature finds what's running away, intriguing. It's the chase game. BUT- when the same person who distances stands still, we often find them lacking.
I can't believe you posted this on the same night it happened to me! Last night I met a guy who could easily be my soulmate, but he's from a different country and is leaving today. So all we could have was one single date. But it restored my faith that there are guys like that out there :)
@@lolacookie453 we're texting at this very moment haha. We're just friends and everything is so smooth. If we're ever in the same country I'm pretty sure we'd end up trying something out, but we're pretty chill. No obsessive bullshit, which only seems to happen to me when I meet the wrong men!
S good to hear it’s going well for the two of you! I’m also enjoying the safety of communicating with someone who is so far away (I’m a commitmentphobe 😂) and has no idea when he will be back. It’s just easy and light with him.
Thank you Susan!! People, self-love will always be key before everything & everyone. If they want to leave, open the door. Growing IS very painful. When you get to that place w yourself it's priceless. Trust in the process of the universe. What is meant will always be and what is not, will pass you by. Things happen for us not to us. ❤️
this happened to me. met a woman spent 5 months of hanging out almost every day. we had the deepest connection ive ever felt in my life. but she told me about another man that has been waiting to be in a relationship with her. well last month she decided to move in with the guy but he lives over 2000 miles away so now shes gone and I feel like my heart was totally torn to shreds!!! I fell for her so hard. we had a bunch of adventures together the past few months I felt like a part of me has died!!
Change is the only constant. People change. You and I are forever changing too. Often times we aren't equipped to accept the change. We keep ourselves deluded because it's comfortable to do so. It's a hard place. It is so so so difficult to begin training ourselves to change our own behavioral patterns and resistances to allow room for something else. Something better. Something out of the ordinary. Something that may seem unfamiliar, unsavoury, unwelcome. But certainly something inevitable in the grander scheme of our lives. Acceptance is the only way to learn, heal and move on 🌟 Thank you Susan ❤️
Omg this happened to me ! It was an instant attraction/ connection. We were in a long distance relationship . But we finally got together and it seemed like he was instantly ripped away from me! 😣😫 he and I had a great night together. But after that he started acting so distant. I was very confused 🤷🏻♀️😑 didn’t know what was going on. I texted him and he would reply but it would take him the whole day to text me back. I started feeling him slowly but surely slipping away from me. I was so devastated and didn’t know what was happening. So I finally had to let him go. But I’m ok now . Im still healing from it . Its only been 5 months since this happened. I know that everything happens for a reason but I still love him and wish he would tel me why he pulled away for my peace of mind. But I’m praying everyday and it’s getting better as time passes by. But it was on of worst feeling I’ve ever experienced unfortunately. Felt like my heart was literally ripped out of my chest ! 😖😖😣😫😢🥺 I wouldn’t wish it on my worse enemy. But I wish everyone a happy healthy healing after experiencing anything like this. 🙏🏻🤗🌷😘💋 thank you Susan for explaining it the doggie way . Perfect 👌🏼
Omg this sounds just like my relationship... We met online and it was a long distance relationship. We talked for about a year and both felt this strong connection. I flew out to Florida for 10 days and it had its ups and downs and thought I wouldn't hear from her again once I got back to Colorado. Then the following months passed and her and her daughter came to Colorado and we had an amazing visit. We came to that point were we had to decide on the next step. We talked alot and she thought since I was closer to my family, that it would be best if they moved out here. Then once they moved out here she couldn't find a job in her field and took a job to help with bills and then we fell into a routine. They went back to Florida for a vacation during spring break and after that everything changed between us. Her daughter told me she felt like I was her dad and I thought of her as my daughter. I did all I could do to learn about her autism. Then her mom told me one day I dont see this going anywhere. I took that as breaking up and we decided she would pay 600 a month til she could save up to move back to Florida. Less than a week later she was seeing someone else and wasn't paying me. I told her she needed to move out because it's not fair to all.
dcowboys70 aww sorry to hear that. At least you tried. We didn’t go that far. Lol I would of liked to just go see if he and I were at least meant to be . 🤷🏻♀️ I guess I’ll never know. But I believe everything happens for a reason.😉 best of luck to you 😊 oh and by the way I also live in Florida . Lol
I am so very sorry this happened to you. No one deserves to feel so wretched and heart broken. Life's lessons are painful and life at times is difficult. Self care while healing is so very important. Heal and move forward slowly. Best wishes.
J Love this happened exactly the same to me, I could have written this. I know this deep pain, so well. But when you truly let go and stop hoping, you grieve but then peace rushes in. Hanging on ruins everything. It turns something to beautiful into toxicity. You can do it xx
Good teachers remind us of what we already know. Thank you for bringing me back down to earth. He is not for me. I have to accept that better is in my future.
Notes: There was a connection, you feel excited first time in a very long time.. Then when you start sinking your teeth in, it's ripped from your mouth. it happens to all of us. You get mad at the universe, where is the justice, why? Only solace: it seemed great, but would it have led to something not good? Don't be resentful....we have to trust.... do not feel disheartened.... Open our minds that there is a lesson here...
This is something I've been wrestling with for the past six months. I've understood this point intellectually, but it didn't do anything to move the needle on my struggle. Notwithstanding the immediate euphoria of validation, I feel that hearing you speak about it in your own way has helped to catalyse some sort of alchemical reaction in my emotions and spirit. Thank you.
Wow, I've had one of those. Met a pretty Army 2nd Lt. when I was a Sgt. in the Marines. Sparks flew - instant connection! We had very much in common; values, life experiences, cheating fiancés that wrecked our first loves, etc. She wanted to get together with me when she got her next leave, but I got orders overseas. That pretty much cooked it - we wrote for awhile, but that gradually faded away. I never saw her again, so I assume she moved on OK, as did I, but I still wonder what might have been if not for circumstances.
What's stopping you now, go find her. Maybe you can be friends if nothing else comes out of the situation. I wouldn't lose someone because of circumstances, after all aren't you a fighter? Go find her
Yeah I feel this was the case with myself. Hading we both liked and see each other during school I planned that I'd make it serious with her when we both finish our studies and started our careers as we'd be able to support each other financially. Little did I know I found that she got married to someone in her family and left all her studies behind. I'm happy I waited it out but now heartbroken seeing that she's gone now and did not meet my expectations.
Yet again I feel like you are speaking to me! And yet again I see truth and wisdom in all you said! You truly are a blessing on this earth. After each video I watch of yours I get such a peace of mind and a calmness about my dilemma that nothing else brings me. It’s like you bring me closure! ♥️ Mad Love
THIS has got to be the best video of yours. EVERYTHING you said gave me chills. This is perfect. Everything makes sense. Thank you so so so much Susan, you made my day (if not my week, month, year)
Susan, my deepest thanks. This perspective and understanding really does make sense. I feel like I can begin to let it go, and that has brought me a lot of peace as I continue forward. 🌺
Oh Susan I just met your channel, and has become a blessing! I love every minute of it, you have opened my eyes to the reality, like anyone has done before. Thank you beautiful ❤❤❤
I had this exact experience in Paris. Even though it was one night, I met this guy who was what I have been looking for for ages, and was excited. But I was going home the next day and he was also on break with his gf (so he said). I see now that it was just a sign that there are people out there for me, and I will eventually find my perfect match. I needed that lesson.
Susan, this video comes just in time. I can’t say thank you enough for your words of wisdom and encouragement. Life isn’t here to torment, torture or torn me. Thank you, once again, wish you all the love and blessings in the world. ❤️
This happened to me and I am so over it but I just love to hear your take on different subjects you really tell it so that people can understand Thank You
You are simply awesome Susan ! How come you understand human mind and emotions so perfectly and top of that comprehend so beautifully in words ! It’s definitely an art . Thank you sharing !!
Thx for this reminder and gem of wisdom.. been wondering what the heck happened for the last 9 months. When we finally met...the connection was there. Even after more than a year and a half of no contact, the connection was there. Then we met...oh wow, baby what fireworks there were lol. Still learning to trust and to put how he pulled away behind me...he will try to indirectly communicate on social media every now and then and I just remain radio silent for my sanity. Because we can't be friends. :-( whew.
Thank you soooo much for this, Susan. On point, on time. I am living through this scenario as you speak. How soothing to my heart pain. What a healing baum!
I was in a blossoming relationship with a man who was a widower like me. He even proposed that we move in together and was so excited that he felt a connection with me. Then he ghosted me. I know he is still mourning the loss of his late wife because we had the conversation so I know it is not me. I didn't think about what the after affect would be living together knowing that he still had a heavy heart. Thank you susan, now I can live with that possibility that the other side would have been a cost to living my life.
Hi patricia I read your comments and its really wired to hear that that you have a partner now but still heavy heart you must pray for him and it will be a work on you good in your relationship don't take advice contained for anybody else Just prayer from the God🙏🏻
Let me start off by saying that you are a beautiful person inside and out ☺. You made a very good point. If God found someone to be your lifetime partner, why would he drive him away. If he leaves, there is a reason. We may not see it, but God does. I learned from my experience. Dated a guy, thought he was the one, had a major argument, broke off, took him back 1 wk later. Bad, bad, mistake ! 2 months later, he began physically abusing me. Let it be a warning sign, when they leave, let them go. God can forsee what we can't. Sending love to you and all your viewers a big HUG !!
I've found when relationships work out like this - not what we would like - it often turns out to be a "blessing in disguise", so to speak. Over the past three years, I've had an old boyfriend periodically come into my place of work trying to patch up a relationship that ended TEN YEARS AGO. I was crazy about him at the time, and he blatantly used me. I felt he would only repeat his performance in any resurrection of the original relationship. So I said "no way". Guess what - I just found out he died about a year ago and his estate was settled up only in about the last ten days or so. It is so obvious - he was sick and looking for some poor fool to take care of him. I'm glad I didn't fall for his trickery. I learned something from that situation and am rather proud of myself - Diane.
Susan, thank you, this is brilliant. It's hard to realize what you espouse when you meet someone and ... magic happens!!! And then for one reason or another that doesn't feel fair, you never get to see that person again. We should have faith in the Universe that there is a good reason why. Thank you.
I love all of your videos, Susan! Thank you! This keeps happening to me, and most recently with a very confusing ex that fades in and out of my life. The more I tune in to serving my highest self and giving her what she needs, the less I take these circumstances to heart. But boy oh boy, it hurts like heck when you can't have that chicken bone!
This HAS helped me so much thank you Susan. I recently had such a powerful and intense connection like I haven't felt in years. As you say it was delicious! But overwhelming and almost terrifying in how incredibly strong it was, disrupting my concentration and peace of mind. He was in a super busy and high powered career and also a single father of a little girl, so couldn't give me the level of interaction I needed despite our attraction. Thankfully this man had the wisdom to make a boundary and end things before it got out of hand - I would have been swept away! I have been so very disappointed but I can see how it would have led to stress, dissatisfaction and suffering ultimately. But I so enjoyed the brief (about 6 weeks) exhilarating ride while it lasted. I feel alive! Hopefully next time I will meet someone just as exciting who is also available to meet me in the same place.
If you're just chasing that high, then you're gonna be surprised. That feeling will go away after a while and you're gonna end up leaving him to chase that addiction again.
Thank you so much for this perspective. Much love Susan. Truly feel she was fearful of the greatness we shared. Maybe just maybe the chance a real love was to much at this time. 3 weeks into no contact, giving her the space to feel the loss of what we shared. You’re helping me down this bumpy road.
Perfect timing, synchronicity is amazing...Thanks for sharing the thoughts from the higher perspective, really helped. Although I am still so gutted about the missed opportunity with him, asked myself over and over again, "what on earth this happened? what universe is trying to tell me??"... but your words make sense. We should open our mind to the possibilities, to the possible blessing that we cannot see for now, perhaps there is a wisdom far greater than our little mind....so right...Everything happens for a reason...I should let this go as quick as possible, otherwise, it will waste more of my time and energy, life is too short, time to move on...Thank you again for your message!
Glad this came up. Love what you say that implies that it wasn’t for our good, or part of the plan. And that something greater knows it wasn’t for us. I can accept that more with a sense of peace rather than fighting against it.
wow, susan! this applies to my situation astronomically right now. i’m only 16 and this is the first time this has happened to me, romantically. thank you so much for the guidance.
I discovered your channel just recently but your advices are helping me a great deal. As a single man (36) for a while now I had quite some struggles on decoding signals and "digest" blow backs for quite a period of time. With your advices I managed to distance myself from a married older woman playing the hot and cold game. Thank you so much for your effort and great vlogs. Kind greetings from germany.
..at the very tail end, Susan relates: " we've all been there." Thought about it for a second , and yes being selfish, but in a way glad it's happened to our loving 'Coach.' For it not, we wouldn't have her lovely videos here and her guidance. Think about it..my personal battles, and what I've gone through the past year..having Susan here, for us, has enlightened me and helped immensely! Anyway, not to ramble, but say thanks again Susan for your wisdom. It inspires me to move. Maybe the next time, "the one," won't go flying off the conveyor belt at 'warp' speed!💙💙💙
I find people are always looking for the next best thing these days, they are fickle as hell. Also be sure not to confuse vulnerability with over sharing. You don’t tell someone your whole life in one night and vice versa. This happened to me with an ex, twice! There were external factors for sure. I kinda feel like I won’t connect with anyone else the way we did but I could be wrong. All I do know is as you get older, genuine connection is harder to find and harder to get over.
I also feel that sometimes after someone leaves us, the rejection and our ego makes us think they were so much more or better than they actually were. And then out of that hurt, we start to forget the unattractive parts of them and the situation. It's like when we're rejected we (or our minds) just forget all the bad and we re-injure ourselves by focusing on only the good parts. I think our ego betrays us more often and in more ways in life than it helps us. We have to learn to separate what is real loss from something that is more just a hurt to our pride. They are two separate things. It's very, very hard to do I know. I am struggling with a heartbreak right now myself. But it's NECESSARY to get real honest with ourselves quickly after rejection in order to put things into a more logical perspective. It takes some time, and it's not an easily acquired skill in such an emotional state, but if you really look at it, it might be the case that it's more your pride, ego, and innate sense of self that is the problem, and less that you REALLY loved them or REALLY thought it could work in the long term. Not always the case, but atleast ask yourself the tough questions and be aware of the reality.
Thank you so much for this video. It comforted me so much. My 8 month relationship ended yesterday and I thought he was the one but he was not ready to commit to a relationship as he thought. His children are still young and are demanding more time of him.
Hmmm he should be able to give both his kids and you his time. 8 months you're lucky. 11 years of raising someone else child. Since the dad was not always there. Dumped and blocked for simply just wanting a bit more of that person's time. Never to see or hear from them again. You had a lucky escape cause the pain would be more if it went on longer
lolliman21 I'm sorry to hear that. Sending you hugs. I'm the type of person that needs to know where I stand in a relationship at all times. It sometimes comes off as controlling. I now accept that about myself given what happened. I don't want to waste my time with any man. I'm also glad it happened now. I hope you find your person soon. That was so unfair what happened to you. Trust your gut more and listen to your body. It gives us clues when something is not right or there's a block. I felt like there was a blocked and I couldn't control the urge to get to the bottom of it.
As a man with young kids he is bullshiting you. He either found someone else or he didn't like you as much and got what he needed from you. Be glad that you dodged a bullet.
After a certain age, it's harder to just move on. It's not like we're meeting a new person with relationship potential every month.
I just want to hug each and every one of you who is reading because of this painful experience I share with all of you.
Jannie Schlüter - thank you Jannie. A big hug back to you 🤗 the very best to you. -Paige
thank you...when will this suffering end?
@@solidcatink When U decide he/she can't simply stay above U in ur heart.
@@chi8319 i am finally healing. thanks.
Thank you sister
If it doesn't open, it isn't your door.
Fantastic line!
"There's a direction our blueprint is trying to avoid." This is gold Susan!
Yes! Powerful! Definitely reasonated with me ❤️
Wow powerful and sooo true..🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing these words of wisdom god bless you..🙏🏽🥰
This just happened to me. So fun, such a connection, affectionate, great chat, chat of future plans. He communicated so nicely for the 2 weeks, we spoke of how we felt we knew each other for so long. Then ghost... Nothing.. ignored. Doesn't make sense. It was like I'd met my twin flame. Then poof! Gone. It saddened me so badly
OMG, can I relate!!! I've accepted the fate and got happy memories. No regrets here, I just wanted it to go on longer ✨
I'm sorry that happened to you and hope you have been healed! It just happened to me and I did all the same with her after 4 weeks she got flaky and ghosted me 2 months later she reached out just to dump me. Ruined my summer I'm still hurt but will bounce back eventually.
I truly believe this. Sometimes we later find out information about a person who seemed so wonderful at the time that in fact showed we dodged a bullet! Incredible how it works.
it's human nature to try to bring reasoning and logic to an unresolved situation and make it come out like it was a positive situation for us. Sometimes shit happens in life and to everybody.. Just like some people are fortunate to be born in America and some end up being born in a 3rd world country. Why some people in wrong place or time and end up getting murdered.
Sending Love ❤️…@taracresswell…Are you single?
Something I'm learning is that immediate attraction can be a huge red flag in and of itself.
@Amerokee that's YOUR expierence. That doesn't happen to everyone
@@schneefritz all they were saying is it can happen either way, and that isn't always a red flag.
@@ladennayoung2939 yeah, but that doesn't make the first statement "wrong" :)
Susan hearted this. Why is an instant attraction a red flag?
@@trendafile6356 because one is likely going to what is familiar. And, for a lot of people it's rooted in dysfunctional family of origin stuff. That is why I wrote the comment. But, also, one may not take the time to "look behind the curtain" if your brain/nervous system is full of oxytocin and dopamine. Dopamine prevents you from making rational decisions. It's the chemical that is activated by sex...and cocaine. Other than that, I can't speak for Susan.
I have dated so many 2-3 times, good communication, then they ghost. I just move on, then they return 1-2 months later... All kinds of lies, sick, car accident etc... They are simply immature and cannot cope with dating and the commitment that relationships need.
She says "they don't have the skills to make a relationship work" and of course are not willing to learn either at least not with us. "They don't have the tools/skills to explain themselves" They don't want to disappoint you either.
My ghoster ended up finding out he had a long criminal record, suspended license no auto insurance dwis family violence drugs,I checked him out on instant checkmate,found jail mug shots, I have none of this so on me so it's ok that he took himself away
Lynn Letran: Agreed!!^^
Damn y'all I'm DISAPPOINTED BOTTOM LINE in those guys!!!! I have the opposite side of trouble,,,,,, women being messy and ignorant immature in their 40s SMH🤔
@@rubenbell7685 Men or Women, maturity doesn't come with gender my man. Some are just never mature enough smh.
Universe, please, be practical. If it wasn't to be there for us, then it doesn't need to show up. There's is no need to be painful.
We had something special and then after several months he decided he couldn't move forward with me. He was an unavailable man with obligations. He often ghosted me and I was patient, then he attempted to pull away and friend zone me. I would have none of it and told him I would not be his friend. We were lovers and I wasn't going backwards. I finally told him on the phone that he's made his choice and he would never hear from or see me again. He broke my heart and I was DONE with this crap. It's been more than 2 weeks and my heart has been smashed to bits. I'll keep doing what I'm doing...living my life.
Hang in there, mi fa so la
You deserve better and will meet someone evan better !
Same thing happened to me ! He pursued me and then backed of because of his commitments and tried to tell me that we can only be friends - after I thought it through I thought I’m not being a by stander while he treats me like this - so I blocked him 2 weeks ago.
Don't worry it will make you stronger. Most people are confused and don't know what they wont, or are just scared of the unknown. Sometimes its not meant to be because something better for you and something that suits you more is coming along.
You have done it the right way, the same thing happened to me, and he was the one that came on strong. Months later he decided we should just be friends. Foolishly I accepted this, even though it wasn't what I wanted, Partly because we had known each other along time.. Since our schooldays and partly because I hoped that eventually he would get over his wife! Roll on two years after texting each other daily and weekly calls etc, he now tells me he as meet someone else. For a few weeks he had been more distant and then left it a whole week to contact me, he had never done that before. I asked him on the phone if I had done something wrong, and eventually he told me, turns out he had been lying about what he had been doing. He wasent busy with work like he had said. The fact he lied to me, after sharing all our secrets with each other as crushed me 💔 I wish I had never taken the friendzone route.. I certainly deserved alot more.
Have now lost the friend I loved and will find it hard to trust again. You have done the right thing by not accepting the little he as to offer you x
It hurts so badly 💔 I’ve never felt that way for someone. He would stare into my eyes for 20+ minutes.a soul connection. I saw home when I look into his eyes…
Sending Love ❤️…@sacred_alchemy…Are you single?
"A direction our blueprint is trying to avoid." Trust that the universe knows best.
Brilliant--yes, have been there, too.
Was ghosted a year ago by someone whom I thought I had a good connection with. We had some differences but I was willing to meet her halfway on things but she was not as willing. I thought we could at least stay friends since IMO it's hard to find people that you really connect with and I value that greatly. But she apparently did not value that. I've moved on emotionally but the whole experience still leaves a sour feeling inside.
this is my experience, in my case the woman kept harping on my flaws and kept telling me who she thought I was. It was as if I had to always explain myself to her and it was as if she never tried to see things from my side. I got tired of that and ended things and she did not take it well. I really miss her but its best we stay apart
@@bagley232
It sounds like you did the right thing, even though it was painful. I can't help but wonder though, did you ever try to talk to her about how she was making you feel with her criticisms and remarks?
I can relate to that and have an even worse sitch of ghosting, but there was a genuine connection and no harping on Flaws.
@Kry Kry you got an interesting name.
@Kry Kry it appears your work is just to make people kry kry😪
There is something better on the way and we have not found our center we are not yet grounded in our higher self
I love these words
I always remind myself that life tries to rescue me from mistakes, if I only let it!
What I have learnt when you get these opportunities and then they are taken away from you - it's actually an opportunity for you to grow and become a person that is actually capable of having and sustaining this big thing that you want. I don't believe that the universe is showing you something that you can't have, it's your subconscious mind that knows and sees that you are actually really not ready for this and all your internal things that require improvement get highlighted so that you can become that person. In the end opportunities have a habit of coming back over and over again until you have leveled up (in your concept of self) enough to actually seize and master them. No big love/excitement/thing is ever lost.
Thank you, Susan! I'm in this situation now. Had an amazing connection with a guy, dated for a few months (unofficially) before he randomly had a change of heart and seemed to lose interest. I don't think exhibited any major red flags, so I've spent a lot of time upset about it and wondering what I could've possibly done wrong. This is the video I truly needed today! Perhaps something better for me is out there.
Something better is out there.
Twice- failed and back to back. But I’m still here and standing and I’m going to fight for myself and everyone who has went to sleep with tears in their eyes. ✊🏼❤️
"I'm Still Standing" Elton John, 1983.
My name is Barbara!!
This very situation happened to me a few weeks ago, I was crushed.
I'm working myself back to strengthen!!.. this piece came at exactly the right time for me! 💜
I realize that the universe loves me and only supports my highest good!
Sending Love ❤️…@barbarasutton…Are you single?
Oh Susan. Your wisdom holds no bounds. You are the only dating coach I ever believe.
Huge hug!! Thanks Inaxa
Interesting question, and insightful response! Yes, I've been there, too! Reminds me of the song, "Sometimes God's greatest gifts...are unanswered prayers...". Even when my feelings are hurt, I try to takeaway "lessons learned" and reflect on how even perceived adversity can be turned into being stronger and wiser.
I cried towards the end, because you explained this so beautifully
I love you so much. You're like my second mother haha. Thank you for everything and helping me get through my break up.
Sometimes being unable to 'make ' them want you makes them more attractive. I've said to my girlfriends, "I don't know why I feel like I want him when I don't find him that attractive. I do not like his politics and I sense there is something sneaky about him, but he just somehow has managed to get under my skin." Once the feelings eventually subsides all these other thoughts I had about him I see much more clearly and I am glad he did not want me.
Bianca, human nature finds what's running away, intriguing. It's the chase game. BUT- when the same person who distances stands still, we often find them lacking.
Same, amazing timing again. Needed this, thank you Susan! best therapy sessions i've ever had
Ohhhh. So happy to read this, Taylor!
Me too 💔
Taylor Scott - Susan's a gem. :)
I can't believe you posted this on the same night it happened to me! Last night I met a guy who could easily be my soulmate, but he's from a different country and is leaving today. So all we could have was one single date. But it restored my faith that there are guys like that out there :)
S the same thing happened to me. Are you still in contact with him?
@@lolacookie453 we're texting at this very moment haha. We're just friends and everything is so smooth. If we're ever in the same country I'm pretty sure we'd end up trying something out, but we're pretty chill. No obsessive bullshit, which only seems to happen to me when I meet the wrong men!
S good to hear it’s going well for the two of you! I’m also enjoying the safety of communicating with someone who is so far away (I’m a commitmentphobe 😂) and has no idea when he will be back. It’s just easy and light with him.
Thank you Susan!! People, self-love will always be key before everything & everyone. If they want to leave, open the door. Growing IS very painful. When you get to that place w yourself it's priceless. Trust in the process of the universe. What is meant will always be and what is not, will pass you by. Things happen for us not to us. ❤️
Susan, you’re the only one that has been able to help me throughout countless breakups and fallouts. All I can say is I’m so grateful to know you 💕
this happened to me. met a woman spent 5 months of hanging out almost every day. we had the deepest connection ive ever felt in my life. but she told me about another man that has been waiting to be in a relationship with her. well last month she decided to move in with the guy but he lives over 2000 miles away so now shes gone and I feel like my heart was totally torn to shreds!!! I fell for her so hard. we had a bunch of adventures together the past few months I felt like a part of me has died!!
Change is the only constant. People change. You and I are forever changing too. Often times we aren't equipped to accept the change. We keep ourselves deluded because it's comfortable to do so. It's a hard place. It is so so so difficult to begin training ourselves to change our own behavioral patterns and resistances to allow room for something else. Something better. Something out of the ordinary. Something that may seem unfamiliar, unsavoury, unwelcome. But certainly something inevitable in the grander scheme of our lives. Acceptance is the only way to learn, heal and move on 🌟 Thank you Susan ❤️
Omg this happened to me ! It was an instant attraction/ connection. We were in a long distance relationship . But we finally got together and it seemed like he was instantly ripped away from me! 😣😫 he and I had a great night together. But after that he started acting so distant. I was very confused 🤷🏻♀️😑 didn’t know what was going on. I texted him and he would reply but it would take him the whole day to text me back. I started feeling him slowly but surely slipping away from me. I was so devastated and didn’t know what was happening. So I finally had to let him go. But I’m ok now . Im still healing from it . Its only been 5 months since this happened. I know that everything happens for a reason but I still love him and wish he would tel me why he pulled away for my peace of mind. But I’m praying everyday and it’s getting better as time passes by. But it was on of worst feeling I’ve ever experienced unfortunately. Felt like my heart was literally ripped out of my chest ! 😖😖😣😫😢🥺
I wouldn’t wish it on my worse enemy. But I wish everyone a happy healthy healing after experiencing anything like this. 🙏🏻🤗🌷😘💋 thank you Susan for explaining it the doggie way . Perfect 👌🏼
Omg this sounds just like my relationship... We met online and it was a long distance relationship. We talked for about a year and both felt this strong connection. I flew out to Florida for 10 days and it had its ups and downs and thought I wouldn't hear from her again once I got back to Colorado. Then the following months passed and her and her daughter came to Colorado and we had an amazing visit. We came to that point were we had to decide on the next step. We talked alot and she thought since I was closer to my family, that it would be best if they moved out here. Then once they moved out here she couldn't find a job in her field and took a job to help with bills and then we fell into a routine. They went back to Florida for a vacation during spring break and after that everything changed between us. Her daughter told me she felt like I was her dad and I thought of her as my daughter. I did all I could do to learn about her autism. Then her mom told me one day I dont see this going anywhere. I took that as breaking up and we decided she would pay 600 a month til she could save up to move back to Florida. Less than a week later she was seeing someone else and wasn't paying me. I told her she needed to move out because it's not fair to all.
dcowboys70 aww sorry to hear that. At least you tried. We didn’t go that far. Lol I would of liked to just go see if he and I were at least meant to be . 🤷🏻♀️ I guess I’ll never know. But I believe everything happens for a reason.😉 best of luck to you 😊 oh and by the way I also live in Florida . Lol
I am so very sorry this happened to you. No one deserves to feel so wretched and heart broken. Life's lessons are painful and life at times is difficult. Self care while healing is so very important. Heal and move forward slowly. Best wishes.
J Love this happened exactly the same to me, I could have written this. I know this deep pain, so well. But when you truly let go and stop hoping, you grieve but then peace rushes in. Hanging on ruins everything. It turns something to beautiful into toxicity. You can do it xx
@@dcowboys70 ouch
What a great message....
if something is not working I always say thank you and move on.
... Susan, you're amazing. And you've saved me. Truly saved me.
I can't thank you enough.
I have tears in my eyes after this video.....you are so right, Susan!
Thank you for your heartfelt comment, Thais.
You are a gem! Thank you!! Beautiful words from a beautiful lady!
Good teachers remind us of what we already know. Thank you for bringing me back down to earth. He is not for me. I have to accept that better is in my future.
Simply EMPOWERING!! Found gold..
Thanks bunch Susan...
Notes:
There was a connection, you feel excited first time in a very long time..
Then when you start sinking your teeth in, it's ripped from your mouth.
it happens to all of us.
You get mad at the universe, where is the justice, why?
Only solace: it seemed great, but would it have led to something not good?
Don't be resentful....we have to trust....
do not feel disheartened....
Open our minds that there is a lesson here...
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Absolutely. Always a lesson or something to be taken away from it. Gracefully
@@clarissamckSending Love ❤️…Are you single?
Everything you said make sense in my mind and in my heart at the same time! You nailed it Susan! Thank you for your valuable presence in our lives!!!
This is something I've been wrestling with for the past six months. I've understood this point intellectually, but it didn't do anything to move the needle on my struggle. Notwithstanding the immediate euphoria of validation, I feel that hearing you speak about it in your own way has helped to catalyse some sort of alchemical reaction in my emotions and spirit. Thank you.
Wow, I've had one of those. Met a pretty Army 2nd Lt. when I was a Sgt. in the Marines. Sparks flew - instant connection! We had very much in common; values, life experiences, cheating fiancés that wrecked our first loves, etc. She wanted to get together with me when she got her next leave, but I got orders overseas. That pretty much cooked it - we wrote for awhile, but that gradually faded away. I never saw her again, so I assume she moved on OK, as did I, but I still wonder what might have been if not for circumstances.
What's stopping you now, go find her. Maybe you can be friends if nothing else comes out of the situation. I wouldn't lose someone because of circumstances, after all aren't you a fighter? Go find her
Maybe we have too many expectations and too soon...
Yes I think you may be right. Sometimes we are too quick to assume what we really want.
Yeah I feel this was the case with myself. Hading we both liked and see each other during school I planned that I'd make it serious with her when we both finish our studies and started our careers as we'd be able to support each other financially. Little did I know I found that she got married to someone in her family and left all her studies behind. I'm happy I waited it out but now heartbroken seeing that she's gone now and did not meet my expectations.
Your wisdom is unmatched 🙏🏾🥺
Yet again I feel like you are speaking to me!
And yet again I see truth and wisdom in all you said!
You truly are a blessing on this earth. After each video I watch of yours I get such a peace of mind and a calmness about my dilemma that nothing else brings me. It’s like you bring me closure! ♥️ Mad Love
Oh Minnie, thank you!!
Sending Love ❤️…@IamMinnie..Are you single?
THIS has got to be the best video of yours. EVERYTHING you said gave me chills. This is perfect. Everything makes sense. Thank you so so so much Susan, you made my day (if not my week, month, year)
Susan, you are the best of the best. There is no other way to describe you.
I love this Emily. Thank you!!
So true. Thank you so much for reminding us the Universe is wise and loving. It all happens for a reason...blessings and keep the wisdom coming
Susan, my deepest thanks. This perspective and understanding really does make sense. I feel like I can begin to let it go, and that has brought me a lot of peace as I continue forward. 🌺
Sending Love ❤️…@krytiessolfyre…Are you single?
Your timing is always so perfect.
I've got goosebumps! I've experienced this - it truly is the universe ✨ saving us from the chicken bone!!!!
Oh Susan I just met your channel, and has become a blessing! I love every minute of it, you have opened my eyes to the reality, like anyone has done before. Thank you beautiful ❤❤❤
You give such amazing empathetic reasonable advice !
What a fantastic way to look at it! You’ve made me feel so much better.......again! Thanks Susan. Much love 💖
I had this exact experience in Paris. Even though it was one night, I met this guy who was what I have been looking for for ages, and was excited. But I was going home the next day and he was also on break with his gf (so he said). I see now that it was just a sign that there are people out there for me, and I will eventually find my perfect match. I needed that lesson.
Susan, this video comes just in time. I can’t say thank you enough for your words of wisdom and encouragement. Life isn’t here to torment, torture or torn me. Thank you, once again, wish you all the love and blessings in the world. ❤️
Ruth... you're a doll. Thanks for your lovely note.
This happened to me and I am so over it but I just love to hear your take on different subjects you really tell it so that people can understand Thank You
You're welcome.
Amazing speech from a wonderful mentor. Susan, you are my idol.
You are simply awesome Susan ! How come you understand human mind and emotions so perfectly and top of that comprehend so beautifully in words ! It’s definitely an art . Thank you sharing !!
Thank you for ALL your wisdom💎
This was healing ❤️🩹 for me!!! You reminded me how much God really loves me 💞.
Thx for this reminder and gem of wisdom.. been wondering what the heck happened for the last 9 months. When we finally met...the connection was there. Even after more than a year and a half of no contact, the connection was there. Then we met...oh wow, baby what fireworks there were lol. Still learning to trust and to put how he pulled away behind me...he will try to indirectly communicate on social media every now and then and I just remain radio silent for my sanity. Because we can't be friends. :-( whew.
bravo Barbara... I love this video... Your advice applies to more than just relationships. Thank you.
I meant Bravo Susan... sorry.
OMG Susan I felt you were speaking to me! I have been dealing with this issue for two months! Thank you, thank you, thank you! ❤️🙏🥰
You are welcome, welcome, welcome!
@@SusanWinter lol
Thank you soooo much for this, Susan. On point, on time. I am living through this scenario as you speak. How soothing to my heart pain. What a healing baum!
Marcia, I appreciate your sharing this with me. Hang in there sweet one.
Hi
Thank you Susan!!
I was in a blossoming relationship with a man who was a widower like me. He even proposed that we move in together and was so excited that he felt a connection with me. Then he ghosted me. I know he is still mourning the loss of his late wife because we had the conversation so I know it is not me. I didn't think about what the after affect would be living together knowing that he still had a heavy heart. Thank you susan, now I can live with that possibility that the other side would have been a cost to living my life.
Hi patricia I read your comments and its really wired to hear that that you have a partner now but still heavy heart you must pray for him and it will be a work on you good in your relationship don't take advice contained for anybody else Just prayer from the God🙏🏻
It’s always wise advices helping me to center myself, to take a foot back to observe. Thank you so much!
❤️ from Paris
as last summer ; again at the right time. thank you Susan.. I simply love you.. 🙏🙏💙💙
Let me start off by saying that you are a beautiful person inside and out ☺. You made a very good point. If God found someone to be your lifetime partner, why would he drive him away. If he leaves, there is a reason. We may not see it, but God does. I learned from my experience. Dated a guy, thought he was the one, had a major argument, broke off, took him back 1 wk later. Bad, bad, mistake ! 2 months later, he began physically abusing me. Let it be a warning sign, when they leave, let them go. God can forsee what we can't. Sending love to you and all your viewers a big HUG !!
I've found when relationships work out like this - not what we would like - it often turns out to be a "blessing in disguise", so to speak. Over the past three years, I've had an old boyfriend periodically come into my place of work trying to patch up a relationship that ended TEN YEARS AGO. I was crazy about him at the time, and he blatantly used me. I felt he would only repeat his performance in any resurrection of the original relationship. So I said "no way". Guess what - I just found out he died about a year ago and his estate was settled up only in about the last ten days or so. It is so obvious - he was sick and looking for some poor fool to take care of him. I'm glad I didn't fall for his trickery. I learned something from that situation and am rather proud of myself - Diane.
Yeah, but you could have inherited that
Or maybe he realised on his deathbed that you were the one and wanted forgiveness but you turned away a dying man
@@kaylasheppard7746 I was not interested in money from him.
@@bbuster5667 If you knew the full details of that situation, your viewpoint would be different.
I think you dodged a bullet
Susan, thank you, this is brilliant. It's hard to realize what you espouse when you meet someone and ... magic happens!!! And then for one reason or another that doesn't feel fair, you never get to see that person again. We should have faith in the Universe that there is a good reason why. Thank you.
I love all of your videos, Susan! Thank you! This keeps happening to me, and most recently with a very confusing ex that fades in and out of my life. The more I tune in to serving my highest self and giving her what she needs, the less I take these circumstances to heart. But boy oh boy, it hurts like heck when you can't have that chicken bone!
Oh I know Tanya... that chicken bones tastes delicious (at first). Wishing you well!
This HAS helped me so much thank you Susan. I recently had such a powerful and intense connection like I haven't felt in years. As you say it was delicious! But overwhelming and almost terrifying in how incredibly strong it was, disrupting my concentration and peace of mind. He was in a super busy and high powered career and also a single father of a little girl, so couldn't give me the level of interaction I needed despite our attraction. Thankfully this man had the wisdom to make a boundary and end things before it got out of hand - I would have been swept away! I have been so very disappointed but I can see how it would have led to stress, dissatisfaction and suffering ultimately. But I so enjoyed the brief (about 6 weeks) exhilarating ride while it lasted. I feel alive! Hopefully next time I will meet someone just as exciting who is also available to meet me in the same place.
If you're just chasing that high, then you're gonna be surprised. That feeling will go away after a while and you're gonna end up leaving him to chase that addiction again.
Wow this ist huge! Such a great mystical point of view which release our tention and anxiety. I accept the fact that im not the omniscient.
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I find comfort in believing everything happens for a reason. Thank you. 💜
Thank you so much for this perspective. Much love Susan. Truly feel she was fearful of the greatness we shared. Maybe just maybe the chance a real love was to much at this time. 3 weeks into no contact, giving her the space to feel the loss of what we shared. You’re helping me down this bumpy road.
Perfect timing, synchronicity is amazing...Thanks for sharing the thoughts from the higher perspective, really helped. Although I am still so gutted about the missed opportunity with him, asked myself over and over again, "what on earth this happened? what universe is trying to tell me??"... but your words make sense. We should open our mind to the possibilities, to the possible blessing that we cannot see for now, perhaps there is a wisdom far greater than our little mind....so right...Everything happens for a reason...I should let this go as quick as possible, otherwise, it will waste more of my time and energy, life is too short, time to move on...Thank you again for your message!
Profound analogy.
Glad this came up. Love what you say that implies that it wasn’t for our good, or part of the plan. And that something greater knows it wasn’t for us. I can accept that more with a sense of peace rather than fighting against it.
wow, susan! this applies to my situation astronomically right now. i’m only 16 and this is the first time this has happened to me, romantically. thank you so much for the guidance.
It's happened to me a few times, it's heartbreaking😢
Hi Susan, a greater power?? I would so like to believe this. It would ease my mind and help me feel worthy.
I love this Susan.
You are such a silver lining for me. Thank you for your magnificent work so much appreciated ❤
I discovered your channel just recently but your advices are helping me a great deal. As a single man (36) for a while now I had quite some struggles on decoding signals and "digest" blow backs for quite a period of time. With your advices I managed to distance myself from a married older woman playing the hot and cold game. Thank you so much for your effort and great vlogs. Kind greetings from germany.
Wish you were in the states
Hi Mad Django. Thanks for your note.
@@maragirl1658 Thank you :)
Tank you Susan. A lot of wisdom in this one.
This video came as great comfort to me in a current relationship. Thank you!
Susan, you are glowing in this video!! Thank you for your lovely words of encouragement and wisdom as always ❤️
Hi
..at the very tail end, Susan relates: " we've all been there." Thought about it for a second , and yes being selfish, but in a way glad it's happened to our loving 'Coach.' For it not, we wouldn't have her lovely videos here and her guidance. Think about it..my personal battles, and what I've gone through the past year..having Susan here, for us, has enlightened me and helped immensely! Anyway, not to ramble, but say thanks again Susan for your wisdom. It inspires me to move. Maybe the next time, "the one," won't go flying off the conveyor belt at 'warp' speed!💙💙💙
THE TRUTH IS.... reality is not constant...
Thank you, thank you so much, Susan. Exactly the reminder I needed! Embracing the blessing, even if it doesn't feel like it in this moment.
I find people are always looking for the next best thing these days, they are fickle as hell. Also be sure not to confuse vulnerability with over sharing. You don’t tell someone your whole life in one night and vice versa.
This happened to me with an ex, twice! There were external factors for sure. I kinda feel like I won’t connect with anyone else the way we did but I could be wrong. All I do know is as you get older, genuine connection is harder to find and harder to get over.
SHE IS JUST SO FREAKING AMAZING!!!
Happy birthday Susan!
Huge aha moment for! Aaarrrgghhh! This is more than amazing! Thank you so much! 😭
That dog and bone analogy was POWERFUL! Needed this! Loved and subscribed.
Thanks, thanks, thanks...
I nearly wrote "of course"
Blessed once again by the universe, to learn me a lesson.
Thank you, Susan. It's an amazing video with an extremely vivid example. There's a lot to learn from life!
I also feel that sometimes after someone leaves us, the rejection and our ego makes us think they were so much more or better than they actually were. And then out of that hurt, we start to forget the unattractive parts of them and the situation. It's like when we're rejected we (or our minds) just forget all the bad and we re-injure ourselves by focusing on only the good parts. I think our ego betrays us more often and in more ways in life than it helps us. We have to learn to separate what is real loss from something that is more just a hurt to our pride. They are two separate things. It's very, very hard to do I know. I am struggling with a heartbreak right now myself. But it's NECESSARY to get real honest with ourselves quickly after rejection in order to put things into a more logical perspective. It takes some time, and it's not an easily acquired skill in such an emotional state, but if you really look at it, it might be the case that it's more your pride, ego, and innate sense of self that is the problem, and less that you REALLY loved them or REALLY thought it could work in the long term. Not always the case, but atleast ask yourself the tough questions and be aware of the reality.
Thank you susan
Your video is always on point. Just experienced this yesterday. Your videos have always helped me. Thank you for another great one!
Thank you so much for this video. It comforted me so much. My 8 month relationship ended yesterday and I thought he was the one but he was not ready to commit to a relationship as he thought. His children are still young and are demanding more time of him.
Hmmm he should be able to give both his kids and you his time. 8 months you're lucky. 11 years of raising someone else child. Since the dad was not always there. Dumped and blocked for simply just wanting a bit more of that person's time. Never to see or hear from them again. You had a lucky escape cause the pain would be more if it went on longer
lolliman21 I'm sorry to hear that. Sending you hugs. I'm the type of person that needs to know where I stand in a relationship at all times. It sometimes comes off as controlling. I now accept that about myself given what happened. I don't want to waste my time with any man. I'm also glad it happened now. I hope you find your person soon. That was so unfair what happened to you. Trust your gut more and listen to your body. It gives us clues when something is not right or there's a block. I felt like there was a blocked and I couldn't control the urge to get to the bottom of it.
As a man with young kids he is bullshiting you. He either found someone else or he didn't like you as much and got what he needed from you. Be glad that you dodged a bullet.
What a great perspective!