How to deal with overthinking & worrying 😌
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TIMELINE & RECIPES
00:00 Intro
01:06 Why we overthink & worry
03:29 Things we have no control over
04:54 Things we have control over
06:07 Summary
06:44 Outro
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I just heard it from somewhere but became practice in my life: "When overthinking, write. When underthinking, read."
Good tips. You can take a walk too, and pay attention to your breath...
@@tambaldocarletti I agree with you! Getting to know how hormones work and its impact to my well-being involves those exercises you mentioned. ✨
That's a very good quote you shared with us....Yeah....writing does help, reading too.
Great quote. Took me years to figure that out. Reading gets my brain going if I want it to. Writing is like thinking in slow motion - it helps me shaping and organising an otherwise chaotic stream of consciousness.
Tnx🥺
“My life is full of terrible things… that never happened. “ So relatable.
So relatable😣
Omg! Story of my life
unfortunately, for me, what i had been worried came true. indeed, i should stop worrying things
Story of everyone ...
That quote really hit the nail on the head for me!!
“I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
― Mark Twain
"My philosophy is that worrying means you suffer twice." - Newt Scamander
Prayers for families in Haiti and Afghanistan.
It is terrible. So much going on it's enough to get anxiety just watching the news, lol.
I was literally overthinking about the Afghanis and I even broke down in tears looking at their condition. And, this turned to worst,as I reaslised, that I could do nothing to help them except to be silent spectator. You see how the overthinking works. I was unable to focus and wanted somehow to not dwell on this matter anymore, but it was just not getting out of my head.
And Sadia's video came as a life savior. I can now try it in a better way and with some new perspectives.
Thank God and Sadia !♡
@@somadhandas1638 so you really care about, but just think about it when its in the news?
Think about the people who are not in the news atm.
Endless Depression.
Would be easier when people are able to help themselve and get stronger as a community.
Like this it will always Stay in chaos and just about time when the next crisis is in the news...
My thoughts, no Front.
@@hanswurst9437 ikr! Easier said than done...we can just sit and worry and continue with our roles of silent spectators.
I wish sometimes I had some clandestinely power in me with which I could solve it.
I am so worried for them and it just keeps on getting worse with the passing time.😭
Amen!
You got me at “worrying about my parents getting old and that i don’t spend much time with them 😞”
Same 😟 my parents live far away 😔
It's the same with me....but when I stay home for too long, say extend my visit home, I start missing my independence and feel wretched 🙃
Same 😔
Thanks for sharing this. A big time over thinker myself, here’s how I combat those monstrous cycles:
1. I usually try to write it down, or go over my notes from happy days in the journal
2. I start moving around. Amygdala feels less threatened when in motion and so we start calming down (taking some action)
3. Cleaning the room
4. Run/short walk outside. Change of space quickly breaks the thought.
5. Drink water. Dehydration works in very devious ways.
6. Eat something. Again, low blood sugar can also trigger a lot of doomsday thoughts.
7. Fresh air. Deep breathing.
One of the best things is to write it down. Sometimes when you look at what you wrote later, you really gain some better perspective on what you were concerned about.
Thank you very much for this advice.
all the suggestions you gave are priceless. I have copied. Thanks
Thanks very much...very good advice!
Hi, thank you very much for sharing this list :)
Wowww I love this comment section or this community. Everyone is giving their own advices and sharing their experiences which are truly inspiring and helpful to me and to others. Thanks everyone! Grateful for Sadia's work and for people like you guys! 🥰✨
She is that big sister everyone needs. 🥰🥰
Ikr ❤️
Being someone who is clinically diagnosed for severe anxiety, I gotta say literally "sitting" with the thoughts of dark clouds and watching the wave come and go has really helped me.
You have no idea how much this video means to many of us, soo much to be grateful for you Sadia 🌈
Thanks so much, Aleena 🌼
This is the absolute best thing you can do. It teaches the lizard part of your brain (the part that creates the anxious response) that you’re not under threat, and eventually it gets better. And it’s a great skill to have either way, because we all experience anxiety sometimes.
There is also medication and herbal types of supplements to help as well.
@@skywalker6648 really can you explain please
@@ishmaelwatson1278 can you be more specific with what you want me to explain?
I am also an over thinker and a worrier. When I have a hard time sleeping because of it I pray and I listen to instrumental classical music. This help me most of the time.
I'd love it if you had a podcast ♥ You are so pleasant and inspiring to listen to
yes! pleasant to watch and listen to. please start a podcast!!
Yes, please! We would like a PUL podcast, please!
I'm begging for a podcast! She is so calming and inspiring!!
You don't even know how much I have missed these talks of yours and these type of vlogs Sadia... Much love to you 💜
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@@PickUpLimes Very glad they're back as well :)
I totally agree :)
Yes please continue these!!
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Giving us food for thought too ily 😭💗
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Hi , I love you pick up limes .
I tend to overthink since this pandemic happen.
And still fighting to stop overthinking and worrying things i can’t control.
Thank you for this another tea time tuesday☕️☕️
It gave me the idea to separate the things i can control vs the things i can’t.
thank you PUL FAM.💚
Cried while watching this because you put so beautifully into words exactly how I’ve been feeling this past year and a half, and it’s such a relief to know I’m not alone. I get so caught up in hypothetical situations and trying to control the uncontrollable that I take it out on other people and myself, it’s such a destructive cycle but I don’t know how to stop. 😔
Watch doctor Jud videos he explains very well that cicle and how to stop it th-cam.com/users/DrJudfeatured
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Overthinking used to leave me in knots. Nowadays I release my thoughts in my head by journaling.
I write everything down and I realise everything that I cannot control. By focusing on the here and now, breathe work and myself. Doing this I can cope with things better.
This topic reminds me of the Serenity Prayer written by Reinhold Niebuhr:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.
Thank you
Wonderful words!!!!
That’s is very nice! Thank you 🙏
My all time FAV!!!
I love this❤
“Pointless thinking 💭 is worse than no thinking at all.”-Haruki murakami.
Ever since I read this quote my perspective got a bit more relaxing ,also like always love your videos Sadia❤️❤️💛💛✨✨you are a global therapist 🙌🏼💕😄
Ik word altijd zo heerlijk rustig van jouw video's... De editing, muziek, jouw rustige stem... heel mooi!
Whenever worry creeps in, i always remember these words from the Bible Matthew 6:34 'Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. "
I had a friend that told me my overthinking was a form of not being able to cope with lack of control.
When I'm able to accept my lack of control in all these areas, I'd stop worrying
This.
How did you know I needed this right now? 😆 Thank you so much for bringing a piece of calm and serenity into the world
I often catch myself overthinking. I'm aware that I start thinking negatively, but I often don't know how to stop. What happens then is that I get tangled in a spiral of negativity and catastrophizing situations that haven't even happened. Yet, I still don't stop, and it completely paralyzes me. One night, I couldn't sleep. So, how do I deal with it? I talk to people close to me, either on the phone or in person. I do something else, drink a glass of water, go to the bathroom, take a walk in the park, leave my apartment, or simply take a break from books, my phone, and the internet. Sometimes, I just go outside to get some fresh air. I look for anything that can help me in a healthy way at that moment. I hope my comment can be helpful to someone. ❤ Thank you Sadia for this video! Helps a lot because we are not alone.
Thanks Sadia! I keep rewatching this as I am an overthinker as well and sometimes I need a reminder. I think one of the reasons why we overthink may be because we have not grieved our past. We have to learn that just because something happened in our past does not mean it will happen again - however we fear it might do and imagine even worse case scenarios. Externalising it, even through crying, does help us grieve our painful past experiences and look at our future with excitement rather than fear/worry.
With everything going on in my country Afghanistan this video came just in time ❤️
Zahra I wish I knew of something I could say that will comfort you, just know that so many people are thinking of you all at this time and whatever religion we might follow I know that so many people are praying for you. Lots of Love Zahra 💝
Sending you hugs. It's so sad.
@@lpcdavey9599 Thank you, I appreciate it ❤️
@@chaank1069 Thank you 🤗
I'm right there with you, Zahra ❤️ Afghanistan is constantly in my thoughts and in my heart 🇦🇫❤️
As an over-thinker myself, I soo get this.
Putting things on paper really helps me distance myself from those thoughts and look at it from a different perspective.
Another thing that helps me is to ask myself "What is the one things I can do to make it better?" And take one step towards resolving it.
And you're right about how taking action helps you worry less 🤩
Really loved this video Sadia ❤️
Oh I love that, thanks for sharing, Sadhana!
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Writing things down and meditation really helped me!
When im anxious , I write on my notepad . Poem or something. And im really depressed I pray .It keeps me get going in life.
you've basically just described ocd in a nutshell - developing unhealthy "resolutions" to sources of stress. the only escape is relinquishing control, and accepting ambiguity.
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I'm sending you and your parents and siblings a big hug Sadia, I know it hasn't't been the calmest these last few days so sending you guys so much love!
Thanks so much, Charlie 💛
I've heard about that as well. I guess the world has by now!
I really enjoy your videos and the honest way you talk about everything.
The way that I deal with overthinking and worrying is by praying, reading the bible and putting my trust in God's promises, because I have understood that when I'm not in control, He is. One of my favorite verse is in Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God". Greeting from Chile, a long, narrow strip of land :)
I'm an overthinker. Rn I'm overthinking a lot. I didn't do anything for a week cause any new action leads my mind to overthinking and anxiety. I just stopped, feeling stuck. But I'm so anxious rn. I need to write it all down and move on, get through this sickening feeling
Having a anxiety attack at work in front of a client today. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I am taking a moment, finding therapy and wonderful videos like this one show up to help at the perfect time.Thank you
I really appreciate hearing that other people struggle with overthinking in the same way I do. One of my big repeating worries is that something is off with me because I get stuck in these thought loops. 🖤
I am a huge overthinker and it takes up most of my energy I really hate it
You are correct people worry too much about things that might happen and stress themselves to a point of a panic attack.
Worrying does not solve tomorrow’s problems, it takes away today’s peace. Love these introspective videos.
It's like you were listening to my thoughts! I really needed this.
Oh and I don't know if this is a tip but I am also an overthinker and I say to myself when stressed out -> "You know Alice, life is so so so so so short so is this really necessary to worry so much about this?" (usually I sweat up the small things). Big hugs!
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Tea time Tuesday is my favourite part of this channel.
I honestly overthink so much and I think it ties back to anxiety so walking and hiking helps
One book that really helped me handle worrying and anxiety in my life is "the happiness trap", it helped me soooo much. It has actual exercises and tips to accept your feelings and so deal with them in a much more efficient manner. Great choice of background music by the way! Loved the video as always ❤️
I have that same book by Russ Harris, 'The Happiness Trap'. It was recommended to me by my CBT Therapist. I still read chapters from time to time, it's a constant on my bedside table.
I'm on it! Thank you for the recommendation. :)
where can I get it ?
@@lailakhan9410 you can buy this book in any book shop or Amazon.
@@carolineatkins3037 ok dear Thank you.
"How To Stop Worrying and Start Living" book by Dale Carnegie been is a great resource!
„dont be a worrier, be a warrior“ :)
My life is full of terrible things .. that never happened.... That's wonderful..
One thing that I find helpful is that I think about the past. Things that I have overcome before and how I remember I was overthinking about that very problem. And then I tell myself that this is something manageable too. I don’t know if this applies to a lot of people, this is something that kinda helped me ❤️
I can relate.
I was watching a movie the other day in which one of the characters said, "And this too shall pass". It's also a good reminder that we will get through difficult times.
Thank u Preethi it works
Hello! Sadia we need more tea time Tuesdays like before! Enjoyed watching this video😁
I learned that by worrying you don’t add a single day to your life but also, it doesn’t help you solve the problem. Let things handle themselves, they always will. And then we find out we worried for nothing😀
You don’t have to worry about us; we adore you.
Wish I could hug you through this screen because you're soo helpful. Thank you!
Lovely stream of thoughts. Calming ocean and piano music in the background. Felt like therapy, unwinding, cathartic. Thanks for tea and the talk. You're amazing.
The Lord calls us to not worry. Prayer is what helps me. I enjoy your videos.
I read it on 8 facts that 85% of the things we worry about never happen. So whenever I start overthinking, I reiterate this to my logical brain and it seems to work sometimes :)
I’ve been praying for some sort of sign to keep on working on myself. This felt like a page from my brain! I am a huge over thinker to the point where it induces insomnia. When I start to feel like a sink full of water that is never ending, I simply say “let it go, tomorrow is a new day, we can conquer it then”. Praying for everyone’s emotional health and growth ❤️
Best way to stop overthinking is watching PUL videos
mark twain said: I have had alot of problems in my life, most of which never happened, good video
How is it possible that 94 people didn’t like this video? It was awesome, thanks for the advice, if you can’t change something why worry about it? Looking forward to more videos like this one.
The way you explain and break down concepts while soothing all anxious thoughts that even my adhd brain calms down and concentrates fully for the length of the video is magic. I love this type of talk videos💗. I still replay the confidence one every time I begin to get anxious or worked up. Thank you.
Sadia, your transparency and authenticity is so refreshing ❤️ thank you for this, your Tea Time Tuesdays are my favorite!
When I overthink I talk to my mind in the third person. “Hello mind, I recognize your concerns, but it’s time to listen to the heart.” Then I try to settle in to deep breath and repeat. Be kind and recognize the thoughts, like Sadia said, there was and still is a purpose for worrying (motivation, safety, etc..)
If they are not useful, Question where they can from? Who is saying them? And then put them to the truth test. Don’t get upset or frustrated that “I can’t “stop thinking”, simply return to the breath and heart sensation :)
Prayer always helps me take my mind off myself and helps me refocus on others and the collective. Audiobooks like The alchemist, The Book of Joy, and the 4 agreements are saviors in times I can’t sleep.
How Incredible to have just seen this video when yesterday I was robbed in my car when I was returning the shopping cart here in Mallorca. It all happened so fast. And I have tried to lighten the effect it had on me all day yesterday, as it all happened so quickly and I was totally unaware until I got home. Yes I started worrying and then I calmed myself saying I am healthy, no one has been injured in an accident. So no point in worrying and dwelling on it, but I feel annoyed to say the least. However, I cannot tell you how frantic I became the moment I noticed the disappearance of my bag and all that it contained, it was in fact as robbing a cherished part of me kept in my cellular. But again I keep telling me you are fine...your life goes on a those of your beloved one,;that is the most essesital part.
Really wanted this as I'm devastated with anxiety for a long time and this made my mind lighter. Thank you soo much Sadia, Love you❤️ You inspired me to stay vegan and this time to find my inner peace.
So so so relatable. Thank you!! I find my overthinking is linked to a conflict between what I think I should do and what I actually want to do. It's a process of letting go of others' expectations and leading a more intentional, reflective life! 😌
I am overthinker but meditation, breathe work and reading is helping me.
The mindset that we can resolve everything makes one anxious.
Trusting one deity that controls the universe has helped me shed some worries off.
Also, doing things with excellence and not perfection is what my faith has taught me and I try to adhere to it. It has helped me a LOT.
I’ve watched this video countless time❤️ so comforting to hear what exactly I feel!
Love you girl!
Writing things down helps me a lot too!
I’m also a practicing Muslim, I feel praying & seeking for mental peace from allah helps me too!
Ah so you believe in God’s existence?
You are a strong women ... Thanks for being an inspiration 🥰
Even I'm also a overthinker, always dreaming on what happened in past at that moment I'll choose the things makes me happy and I'll share my worries with my close one's ❤
I have noticed that just ignoring things that I cannot change is working well for me. I work continuously towards my goals. Always forward. It has come to a point that I am completely able to walk away from triggers for terrible arguments and fights by just moving away. Watch something funny and then I réalise that no matter how awful someone or something is to me ,I can kill it’s power to hurt me . I stop thinking about anything but certain set goals that will improve my skills or mindset.
Thanks for this video! In my case, whenever an uncertain situation makes me feel anxious, I say this situation will unfold, it will reveal its self and I let it go - it gives me inmediate peace ✨️
"There are more things that frighten us than injure us. We suffer more in imagination than in reality." Thank you so much for sharing these tips! I have severe OCD and intrusive thinking that really weighs on me from day-to-day. This helps so much. Thank you, Sadia!
This video is exactly something that I needed at my current state of mind...
Mine too ,and I was not like this , its only after marriage I became so , may be because it was then only I was exposed to real world and no well wishers
I think journaling is really helping me to calm down during overthinking
Such perfect timing, thank you so much, Sadia! I really enjoy these Tea Time Tuesdays.
I so needed this ❤️
She is the most authentic women I have seen on TH-cam. Listening to her feels like she really sits in front of me and talking to me. ❤
I am a terrible over thinker and worrier. I have no tips, but thank you for yours.
I literally needed this👏🏻 I relate so much🙏🏻
Whenever I start to worry about something I can't control, I immediately get a pen and paper to write about things that I can control about the situation. Most of the time its about controlling my emotions not the outcome. It cuts the loop of overthinking when you repeatedly do this.
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I also like the quote from Buddha "Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die". This pandemic and my job as a healthcare worker has made me so angry and hurt that people still don't care. But what I realize is that if I care, then that's enough.
I deal with it by sometimes simply accepting it and try and do as much as possible things that I like to do. Writing every day helps...
Right when I needed ♥️
I love how you put into words things that I have in my head and for me are so difficult to express. Thanks for this video ❤️
I don't like the fact, that every TH-camr these days thinks, he/she has so much to say, that it's necessary for them to get a podcast.. that being said: I NEED you to make a podcast! You have such an inspiring way of looking at the world and i just need more advice from you! So PLEASE! :) xx, from Germany
I am watching this before an extremely scary job interview. Since the beginning of the video my bpm went from 137 to 98. Thank you.
The timing is just perfect! Thank you so much for posting this ❤️ sending so much love to you and your loved ones 🥰
This was so relatable (and right on time). I feel like there’s so much more to worry about now days, but I try to focus on the positive.
I'm an overthinker. I recommend meditation. Although I know you do that already 😊
Overthinking is the only job I never had to do an intake for and can’t ever quit. It comes in waves. There are times that it all goes well. Then the wave of overthinking comes that can last for days to weeks and can be so hard that I get a little anxiety from it. What helps for me is to quit the news. I blocked the url’s from the news pages from my iPad. It’s a detox but it helps. The really big and important news will always find a way to me via friends, family or on the streets. And if someone wants to talk about it, than it’s a good conversation topic to learn about. Thanks for the video. I’m seeing this just in the right moment. :)
You’re amazing and inspiring! Thank you for always sharing relatable and perfectly curated content! I discovered your channel earlier this week and have resonated with so many of your videos! And have been inspired by your vegan cooking videos !!!!
being a person who has anxiety disorder and depression this made me so relaxed and calm
Hi. Beeing active & busy helps a lot. Be grateful for what you have and what you have reached in life. Be mindful to yourself. Be mindful outdoors and look at nature as a child. Wake up your inner child and think of who you were and who you wanted to be and go step by step. Be with friends & family. Laugh a lot. Listen music and sing, dance like nobody is watching. Clean up the appartment, declutter… so many ideas. Everyone has once a crises of worring to much.
You learn more by sharing similar experiences. It's just like having tea that refreshes you.
Woah, I feel so seen. Thank you for sharing your own struggles and advice
Always been a sucker for teatime tuesdays ❤️
It takes realisation that your thoughts are robbing you of the present moment and then it takes practice to clear your mind and focus on more important/ productive things
I’m an over thinker. I’ve simply realized I need not be perfect, nor does any situation need to be.
This came just in time. We need more tea time tuesdays. Feels like just made for us to explore ourselves and then resolve in deep inside. Love to PUL.
Wow!! This video literally summed me up!! I’m so relieved to hear I’m not the only one like this and since I am huge fan of yours it makes you that much more relatable!! Thanks for this!
Yes! I tend to overthink things that are uncertain. My mind starts visualizing things that are unlikely to happen and then stay stuck in a cycle.