This speaks to me so much. I quit drinking and drugs about 20 years ago, cut off all my old friends, but then got into an abusive relationship with a narcissist who is now my ex-wife. I quit the sauce but I never got better, just ended up being traumatized more. Now recognizing that I have CPTSD, I realize that's truly what I have to recover from. Recovery is hard but these videos have been invaluable. Keep up the good work, Tim!
Ps I did the same was all good until I met married a Narcissist, whom I now see represented EVERY Abuse/abuser rolled into ONE Person, I learnt so much about myself in that relationship Healed myself while still in it, I was extremely lucky 'something' inside of me WOKE UP started guiding me through the healing process, had no outside support or teachings it all come from Within my own self, that's when I also TRULY UNDERSTOOD what who 'God/Jesus truly was/is ❤️
Touché Tim. After six months of sobriety my daughter kept asking me if something “was wrong”. Obviously the change in me was dramatic enough for her to see.
I do belive this with my whole heart. This journey is just beginning for me. I'm being tossed between massive discouragment and having hope to recover on a daily basis. Looking at the sheer amount of stuff i need to deal with if ever gonna be able to have healthy relationships. This frightens me a lot.
Me too. My pastor focuses so much on salvation and eternal life, but I told him the truth of my conversion to Christianity was I wanted to be loved by somebody. Accepted as I am. I'm a Christian because Jesus loves me.
Cutting toxic people is very difficult, but I have done it but it took me 3 years to forget about my old friends. Learning how to make new friendships or intimate relationships is a lot harder and it takes a lot of time and effort.
Gates, not walls. So some people are permitted on my sidewalk, other in my front porch and only a select few may enter my home. Thanks for all the help. Blessings to You and your family
Dunno if you guys gives a damn but if you guys are stoned like me during the covid times you can watch pretty much all the new movies and series on instaflixxer. Been streaming with my brother for the last days :)
this dude step by step really vocalizes my inner world, thanks for this. Isolation at age 8 years old was the only situation that equaled safety, I literally spent years, day after day, when mom would go into one of her bi polar rants, I removed myself from the situation and literally hid inside the old dog house until she went to sleep and even that wasn't enough, sometimes at 3 am in the morning she'd come into my room and stand at the foot of my bed in the dark, why she didn't murder me then I dont kno, but it doesn't matter I guess. I prayed when I was 8 years old that God would take me back to heaven to get me the hel out of this screwed up world, there's nothing here but pain anger its nasty. I honestly dont know why God put me here in the first place.
I have worked CNA hospice and 80% ask for one more something , day , moment, cigarette even .. they all want one more .. I am 48 and God is just now calling me to Chaplin part of hospice … I have literally gone from witchcraft to the holy spirit in a matter of a week.. find your one more something and you may not know why you r here but keep yourself healthy cuz when he calls … oh it’s instant he CALLS.. I want you to know you R special .. you believe that and you’ll enjoy the ride before tha call many blessings ❤️✝️🙏🏻
5:10 relapse is a process as well as an event, 10:25 unrealistic expectations about life, recovery, others to treat us perfectly and set yourself up to be mad and feel sorry for self all the time, 11:30 nostalgia 12:30 unrealistic expctations about present life 14:29 people who will keep us sick
Thank you from the bottom of my heart Tim. I've been watching self help videos for the past few years since I getting my ADHD diagnosis at 60 years old. For the past week I have a very difficult time and my suicide ideation that I'd had before returned with a vengeance. Although I do not consider my addiction to be alcohol, but do drink, I have a relationship addiction. The complex trauma I had as a child in a severely emotional home where my father drank to excess every evening, was overwhelming after the ex left after I discovered his multiple affairs. We were married for 25 years, and I loved and respected him as I had believed him to be everything my father was not. That was 16 years ago, and that trauma overtook my life. Today I live 3000 miles from where we had our home, away from life long friends, and family of origin. My two adult children are 1600 miles away. Today I have no relationship with anyone I had known, including my children. I have been on my recovery journey since I ended a very toxic codependent romantic relationship three years ago. This talk helped me more than words can say. God bless you Tim.
At sixty six years old these videos are invaluable in helping me understand who I am and why I became that way. I believe with the help of God I can leave self blame behind and get to know me.
@@AClay-mv2xhrelationships can be addictions too. Especially when it’s to a disordered individual that mirrors one of our disordered parents. At least this is what my therapist told me.
We can have a addiction together to dysfunction or victimization because it allows us to stay in the norm Of what has become comfortable and doesn’t force us to change because change is hard and often times makes us feel uncomfortable and view ourselves for what we have been and are operating in
@@laurenmosley2920100% I am addicted to the victim complex. I only realised it recently, but even knowing isn't enough to stop. I hope this series can help me learn much better skills.
I moved across the United States by myself. Been alone for over 5 years. I’m slowly building healthy relationships now but I still don’t date. Professional, friends and my children, this is what I focus on. I will never invite family or romantic relationships in my life again. I love being by myself.
I'm back with day 5. I'm glad that a caring friend in recovery sent me this link it's reinforcing alot of things that I have already seen in myself and others. A happy life is possible for you and me.
I am definitely firm n fully grounded as for who I am in my present self. No need to rewire or change one inch from whom I am. Never in a lifetime. Bad ppl are. Bad ppl. Come in various forms n types. Types n forms , better.
Yes, I found it really boring for a year or 2, not going drinking with my friends and having crazy nights. I thought I would feel amazing once sober. I didn't. Taken me 3 years so far to get to my acceptance. I don't see it as dull anymore, I see it as peaceful and calm. Lost friends along the way, wrestled with many demons. Recently something clicked and I am feeling less conflicted with sober me & drunk me. Great video.
Great talk Tim. However I am disappointed you breezed right over dating and sexuality. You mentioned it and then moved on quickly. I think it’s important to recommend that in the first couple years of recovery a person is not equipped to make a healthy choice in a romantic partner. Abstinence from sex and dating will help a person stay on track in recovery. I have seen many people get romantically involved too soon when they were emotionally vulnerable and didn’t know how to have a healthy relationship. Many of them left their recovery programs and their partner became their addiction. They thought love would heal them. The only love that heals us is love for self and a loving relationship with higher power.
You are absolutely correct in stating that we must love ourselves before we can be capable of loving another human being. As I heal from my childhood trauma and two major relationships, the last one being the worst (almost 30 years), I realize that I wanted “Dad’s love” and neither partner was capable of loving themselves, much less me. The converse was also true - I didn’t love me, so could not love them. The latest ex uses the anonymous groups to scoop up new “supply” to love and adore him and do whatever he wants, for a time. Unfortunately, those women are totally vulnerable to his charms and his money, so they get sucked in. It’s when they’re IN the relationship, that the “charm” mask drops and he shows his angry, miserable “victim” self. If he’s lucky, they’ll stick around for a while. If not, he’ll continue to troll the various groups to find someone new. The groups I’ve been in mentioned that being in relationship is not a good idea for attendees until they are well on their way to healing - at least a year or two. However, many of us (I included) considered that being “on the way” to healing was enough! Blessings!
Yes! Absolutely this 👆I was one of those individuals who thought I had recovered. However, I ended up in an extremely toxic relationship, again. I saw the signs, broke up with him and I began a whole new healing journey. I’ve now been in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in! Initially it was so hard because I despised affection and my bf is very affectionate and compassionate, totally opposite of the men in my family but that’s how I know I’m on the right track. He doesn’t mirror my disordered parents like all of my exes in the past did.
Im only realizing that i have CPTSD. From childhood trauma in the form of sexual, emotional, and psychological abuse for years. Alientation from my mom, who was toxic, but i didn't know until now. I ended up finding a partner who was abusive and hit on me and cheating and would get cops involved constantly, showing up all hours of the night. Lied to her family, got my kids taken from me and have recently gottten them back once her family figured out who is who. I had another abusive relationship after my boys mom. Had a daugther and got married, had a second chance, and then she divorced me after abusing me again afrer i told her everything. I dont think i have enough time or space to put every detail of my past that haunts me. From my mother to siblings to father, kids and ex's. Everyone in my life has given me trauma. Ive suffered economically my whole life and have had over 25 jobs at 31. Diagnosed with bipolar and cant kicked the weed for years. My dad pulled me out of school at 15 and was gone out of town and i couch hopped to survive. Things are changing, and it's new, and it's opening up old emotions. I sit this as i write in bed. Didnt go to work today because i saw my kids yesterday and it was amazing. Everytime i see them and it heals me a bit, i am so emotional the next day i call into work bc i just wanna lay in bed. I just kicked the weed and alcohol a bit ago so im doing this sober, but i am having a hard time. Ive lost so many jobs due to these feelings. I cant stop self sabotaging. This is a battle. I commend anyone who has fought it. Whoever reads this, i dont know you, but i know your pain. I hope you heal from whatever and whoever broke you. I hope one day we all love ourselves and find true healing. This man is a God send. Thank the Lord i found him, PLEASE PRAY FOR ME. I am struggling, and i just want to be whole for my kids. Their mother isn't in the picture, and they need me to step up, im just so fragile still. Family is helping for now ( her side). They are starting to see the issue wasn't me all along, and it hurts but also is healing bc its prayers answered and truth revealed.
Well is there anything positive to listen to an IV of these videos because I've listened to like 20 of them and I'm more depressed now than I was before I started a more discouraged now that I ever was. I just need the steps on how to get better from complex trauma I don't need to know what it is and all the obstacles that I have to face
I started feeling the same way. I learned about all the ways I was broken, and it just left me feeling defeated and miserable. But that's part of the process. Grieving for all the things your caregivers broke inside you. Cry, get angry, and feel awful. And once you can grieve that loss, you can start healing. At least that's how I understand it. I'm just starting too.
I waited 9 months then I found the house of my dreams far away by a childhood friend I move in 2 weeks I can hardly contain myself and the pain of waiting and still being here is something I tolerate by exercising hard depth soothing and mindfulness.
I had to cut my father out of my life a little over 25 years ago. I pray that God would heal whatever warped him into the sullen, abusive and aggressive father and manager he became, but there can be no contact between him and me.
Culture shock. Then there's the fears, lies, prejudices goals and whatever of the new imperfect people you associate with that can drive you if you let it back into trying to escape through addictions. Someone said they imagined that the "Good" people hate them for doing bad, and the "Wicked" people hate them for doing good. It's a struggle, a war within and without. Even the people who seem ok are struggling also. What kind of a healthy friend am I? Can I become a healthy influence, not the judge jury and controller of others, but a healthier person and influence. Now who or what am I. They spent their time being responsible now I'm embarrassed in front of my new peers, because I spent my time wasting myself. In in the end we all die like king Solomon who ended up an apostate basket case. He just couldn't get satisfaction, he was a billionaire genius , King who fell into false worship and idolatry . He disregarded God's direction to have just one wife, and collected at least a thousand or more woman, many who didn't have the same beliefs as him ,he tried to make them happy, but cut his own throat. Get over blaming it on God,.... but face it if you have blamed it on God, ...and trust that God can deal with it, ....that is your blaming Him.....and He will ease you into the reality of life with other imperfect dying people, who choose not to blame " it " on God but choose to be on His side in the issue of good verses evil, live or die. God's right, the Angel who chose to be His enemy is wrong , that Angel is called Satan the Devil. The devil had billions of years of life he turned against God. There are other angels who sided with him, they are demons, yet at the same time there are more angles who remain on God's side even though they have been subject to Him for billions of years. In contrast humans live a short life pretty much knowing their going to die and even though they never saw God, believe in Him, hope in Him, learn about Him, come to trust and love Him and live for Him. Why couldn't the Angels who turned away from God do that . Many humans have stayed loyal to God till death and died with the hope of living again in a world free from evil trauma, and many of those people turned from a life filled with addiction, picked up the pieces if there were any pieces, or got some pieces from God and people who love Him and found something to live for. You can too is what I choose to tell myself. And that's my story and I'm sticking with it. O yea God has a formal name. How can you know someone without knowing their name. Look it up, it beats looking for drugs or alcohol or porn or whatever. Search for God. Why not?
LIFEISAJOURNEY LETITGO I was doing the same thing. Today I broke out of my Isolation, and It’s Beautiful!!! Sometimes we just have to force ourselves out. Give it a try and let me know how it works for you.♥️
Yes, thank- God ! I started going to church when I was 21. It was an incredibly unsafe place to be. I began to see that so many were manipulators and needed healing on many levels. I started by going to recovery as I soon realized I too had many of the issues I was seeing in others. Mentally unhealthy people can not shine the Light of Christ to others. We have to start with us. 🙌💥
Fact is … full, long lasting addiction recovery is very low. Some even trade illicit narcotics for “legal” ones and claim they are recovered. Dated a female that thinks she is recovered … but has just traded illegal drugs for legally obtainable ones. That’s not addiction recovery. Not in the least. God help her.
It would help if there was help to speed up recovery, because there is practically zero tolerance/acceptance for trauma damage in society, on the contrary, it’s like „we always knew there is something wrong with you, now we are confirmed, and good luck with that“. All alone then to recover? Really?
the part about Israel having all those bad things happening is just how things are beginning to look as they're being bombed. God please protect us all.
HA HA!! THANKS! RECOVERY?? Seriously? I never was a drug or a drug addict. My Mom was Mentally Ill and my family was taught to treat me like I was the problem, by HER! OK! Recovery from the source which has turned into Family Mobbing, robbing and beating me up! THAT is what recovery for me the CPTSD has been. THEY WISH I WAS DEAD!
My deseased grandfather McKenzie was army and ministry of God christ and ans my uncle lenair died was navy and ministry of God christ and schizophrenic and my grandfather McKenzie was army and ministry of God christ and my uncle Charles McKenzie was army and and uncle samuel McKenzie was navy uncle lenair died was navy and ministry of God christ and schizophrenic I have prophet es my jounel entry HELEN Marlene Evans DRIGGERS prophetess and Ellen Darlene Evans prophet es my jounel entry
This speaks to me so much. I quit drinking and drugs about 20 years ago, cut off all my old friends, but then got into an abusive relationship with a narcissist who is now my ex-wife. I quit the sauce but I never got better, just ended up being traumatized more. Now recognizing that I have CPTSD, I realize that's truly what I have to recover from. Recovery is hard but these videos have been invaluable. Keep up the good work, Tim!
You have already come a long way!! May God bless you, and the Love of Jesus give you peace and joy :)
All the best on your healing , hope you have a better life 👍.
Be proud of your awareness brother. Hugs in Christ.
Hearing you feeling you sending much loving healing supportive Energy your way ❤
Ps I did the same was all good until I met married a Narcissist, whom I now see represented EVERY Abuse/abuser rolled into ONE Person, I learnt so much about myself in that relationship Healed myself while still in it, I was extremely lucky 'something' inside of me WOKE UP started guiding me through the healing process, had no outside support or teachings it all come from Within my own self, that's when I also TRULY UNDERSTOOD what who 'God/Jesus truly was/is ❤️
Tim is my complex trauma healing cheerleader 😊
Agree! I wish there was someone like him me near me!
I HAVE NEVER FELT SO VALIDATED IN MY LIFE!!
48 days clean!! Y’all got this. This disease is taking too many of us
Wish you all the best!!
I think Tim deserves a billion subscribers, his videos are the most educative and relatable so far❤
Touché Tim. After six months of sobriety my daughter kept asking me if something “was wrong”. Obviously the change in me was dramatic enough for her to see.
This dude is incredible
When I started to believe what God says about me I started to see a different me. Healthy,lovable, accepted, regardless of what siblings say or do.
I do belive this with my whole heart. This journey is just beginning for me. I'm being tossed between massive discouragment and having hope to recover on a daily basis. Looking at the sheer amount of stuff i need to deal with if ever gonna be able to have healthy relationships. This frightens me a lot.
Me too. My pastor focuses so much on salvation and eternal life, but I told him the truth of my conversion to Christianity was I wanted to be loved by somebody. Accepted as I am. I'm a Christian because Jesus loves me.
This streamed to the top and was highlighted for me to read. Thank you
Cutting toxic people is very difficult, but I have done it but it took me 3 years to forget about my old friends. Learning how to make new friendships or intimate relationships is a lot harder and it takes a lot of time and effort.
Gates, not walls. So some people are permitted on my sidewalk, other in my front porch and only a select few may enter my home. Thanks for all the help. Blessings to You and your family
Dunno if you guys gives a damn but if you guys are stoned like me during the covid times you can watch pretty much all the new movies and series on instaflixxer. Been streaming with my brother for the last days :)
@Ezra Rhett yup, have been using instaflixxer for since december myself :D
I've recently started Boundaries similar to this. So far its a Healing CHANGE. Blessed!!!!
Can be very hard to discern and get right who goes where though.
Your series on Complex Trauma is life changing!
This man is gold
It would be a blessing to see one of these addressing porn and sec addiction. So many men and our youth are struggling with this addiction.
Yes, I want to see that one too. My ex husband had a porn addiction
Many of the same principles apply, particularly seeking a healthy purpose in life, which Tim's videos can help with.
I thought he did address those issues in one or two of his videos?
Maybe he didn’t address them specifically?
this dude step by step really vocalizes my inner world, thanks for this. Isolation at age 8 years old was the only situation that equaled safety, I literally spent years, day after day, when mom would go into one of her bi polar rants, I removed myself from the situation and literally hid inside the old dog house until she went to sleep and even that wasn't enough, sometimes at 3 am in the morning she'd come into my room and stand at the foot of my bed in the dark, why she didn't murder me then I dont kno, but it doesn't matter I guess. I prayed when I was 8 years old that God would take me back to heaven to get me the hel out of this screwed up world, there's nothing here but pain anger its nasty. I honestly dont know why God put me here in the first place.
I am so sorry what you have been through. You were meant to be in this world and you can still recover. Never give up hope. I wish you the best❤
I am sorry 😞 this happens to you, its a loss of childhood. I Hope you find your inner peace and heal your pain.
I am so sorry I did isolating too but got found by my abusive sister
Ditto,same dog house,same mother
I have worked CNA hospice and 80% ask for one more something , day , moment, cigarette even .. they all want one more .. I am 48 and God is just now calling me to Chaplin part of hospice … I have literally gone from witchcraft to the holy spirit in a matter of a week.. find your one more something and you may not know why you r here but keep yourself healthy cuz when he calls … oh it’s instant he CALLS.. I want you to know you R special .. you believe that and you’ll enjoy the ride before tha call many blessings ❤️✝️🙏🏻
Man Tim your correlation to rebuilding the walls in
Jerusalem to rebuilding our lives wow! Thank You Love you Brother!
You, sir, are a rockstar.
5:10 relapse is a process as well as an event,
10:25 unrealistic expectations about life, recovery, others to treat us perfectly and set yourself up to be mad and feel sorry for self all the time,
11:30 nostalgia
12:30 unrealistic expctations about present life
14:29 people who will keep us sick
My life has been constant chaos. This is exactly what I needed.
You dear sir are anointed by The Most High God, what a blessing to have found you , thank you sincerely!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart Tim. I've been watching self help videos for the past few years since I getting my ADHD diagnosis at 60 years old. For the past week I have a very difficult time and my suicide ideation that I'd had before returned with a vengeance. Although I do not consider my addiction to be alcohol, but do drink, I have a relationship addiction. The complex trauma I had as a child in a severely emotional home where my father drank to excess every evening, was overwhelming after the ex left after I discovered his multiple affairs. We were married for 25 years, and I loved and respected him as I had believed him to be everything my father was not. That was 16 years ago, and that trauma overtook my life. Today I live 3000 miles from where we had our home, away from life long friends, and family of origin. My two adult children are 1600 miles away. Today I have no relationship with anyone I had known, including my children.
I have been on my recovery journey since I ended a very toxic codependent romantic relationship three years ago. This talk helped me more than words can say. God bless you Tim.
sumerrose88 You Are Not alone. Keep going. Expect a Miracle!♥️ Look for Good and you Will Find It!!!♥️
Sending love and strength. 💪
You had a very painful life, sorry to hear that 😞. All the best for your healing.
43 thousand views only? Billions are missing out. Thanks Tim
At sixty six years old these videos are invaluable in helping me understand who I am and why I became that way. I believe with the help of God I can leave self blame behind and get to know me.
I don't have addictions although I have CPTSD. So I have to just pick out what is meaningful for me.
Addictions can be food, shopping, work, sex, porn, etc. It's not just drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes.
@@AClay-mv2xhrelationships can be addictions too. Especially when it’s to a disordered individual that mirrors one of our disordered parents. At least this is what my therapist told me.
We can have a addiction together to dysfunction or victimization because it allows us to stay in the norm
Of what has become comfortable and doesn’t force us to change because change is hard and often times makes us feel uncomfortable and view ourselves for what we have been and are operating in
@@laurenmosley2920100% I am addicted to the victim complex. I only realised it recently, but even knowing isn't enough to stop. I hope this series can help me learn much better skills.
I moved across the United States by myself. Been alone for over 5 years. I’m slowly building healthy relationships now but I still don’t date. Professional, friends and my children, this is what I focus on. I will never invite family or romantic relationships in my life again. I love being by myself.
Needed this. Thank you, Tim.
Left the bad marriage and the bad workplace. Starting over completely at 50 and it’s so scary. Does it get better ever?
Well done!
He is a Very Knowledgable, Experienced Man! Genius!!!♥️
I'm back with day 5. I'm glad that a caring friend in recovery sent me this link it's reinforcing alot of things that I have already seen in myself and others. A happy life is possible for you and me.
God bless you, Tim! 🤲🏽
I am definitely firm n fully grounded as for who I am in my present self. No need to rewire or change one inch from whom I am. Never in a lifetime. Bad ppl are. Bad ppl. Come in various forms n types. Types n forms , better.
We need to open rehab s in legacy to this man's help to helping others
Thank you so much
❤❤❤❤powerful 💯 word thank you Lord
Yes, I found it really boring for a year or 2, not going drinking with my friends and having crazy nights. I thought I would feel amazing once sober. I didn't. Taken me 3 years so far to get to my acceptance. I don't see it as dull anymore, I see it as peaceful and calm. Lost friends along the way, wrestled with many demons. Recently something clicked and I am feeling less conflicted with sober me & drunk me. Great video.
Great talk Tim. However I am disappointed you breezed right over dating and sexuality. You mentioned it and then moved on quickly. I think it’s important to recommend that in the first couple years of recovery a person is not equipped to make a healthy choice in a romantic partner. Abstinence from sex and dating will help a person stay on track in recovery. I have seen many people get romantically involved too soon when they were emotionally vulnerable and didn’t know how to have a healthy relationship. Many of them left their recovery programs and their partner became their addiction. They thought love would heal them. The only love that heals us is love for self and a loving relationship with higher power.
You are absolutely correct in stating that we must love ourselves before we can be capable of loving another human being. As I heal from my childhood trauma and two major relationships, the last one being the worst (almost 30 years), I realize that I wanted “Dad’s love” and neither partner was capable of loving themselves, much less me. The converse was also true - I didn’t love me, so could not love them.
The latest ex uses the anonymous groups to scoop up new “supply” to love and adore him and do whatever he wants, for a time. Unfortunately, those women are totally vulnerable to his charms and his money, so they get sucked in. It’s when they’re IN the relationship, that the “charm” mask drops and he shows his angry, miserable “victim” self. If he’s lucky, they’ll stick around for a while. If not, he’ll continue to troll the various groups to find someone new.
The groups I’ve been in mentioned that being in relationship is not a good idea for attendees until they are well on their way to healing - at least a year or two. However, many of us (I included) considered that being “on the way” to healing was enough!
Blessings!
Yes! Absolutely this 👆I was one of those individuals who thought I had recovered. However, I ended up in an extremely toxic relationship, again. I saw the signs, broke up with him and I began a whole new healing journey. I’ve now been in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in! Initially it was so hard because I despised affection and my bf is very affectionate and compassionate, totally opposite of the men in my family but that’s how I know I’m on the right track. He doesn’t mirror my disordered parents like all of my exes in the past did.
Thanks again!😊
I needed to hear the man it exactly what I'm going thru.
yep, tyou truly have to question and examine and change everything from the core, the roots
Thank you for telling us about the book of Ester I appreciate you because part of my recovery has been religion
EXCELLENT!!! 💕
Catch it, check it change it. The biggest change
Powerful
Im only realizing that i have CPTSD. From childhood trauma in the form of sexual, emotional, and psychological abuse for years. Alientation from my mom, who was toxic, but i didn't know until now. I ended up finding a partner who was abusive and hit on me and cheating and would get cops involved constantly, showing up all hours of the night. Lied to her family, got my kids taken from me and have recently gottten them back once her family figured out who is who. I had another abusive relationship after my boys mom. Had a daugther and got married, had a second chance, and then she divorced me after abusing me again afrer i told her everything.
I dont think i have enough time or space to put every detail of my past that haunts me. From my mother to siblings to father, kids and ex's. Everyone in my life has given me trauma. Ive suffered economically my whole life and have had over 25 jobs at 31. Diagnosed with bipolar and cant kicked the weed for years. My dad pulled me out of school at 15 and was gone out of town and i couch hopped to survive.
Things are changing, and it's new, and it's opening up old emotions. I sit this as i write in bed. Didnt go to work today because i saw my kids yesterday and it was amazing. Everytime i see them and it heals me a bit, i am so emotional the next day i call into work bc i just wanna lay in bed. I just kicked the weed and alcohol a bit ago so im doing this sober, but i am having a hard time. Ive lost so many jobs due to these feelings. I cant stop self sabotaging. This is a battle. I commend anyone who has fought it.
Whoever reads this, i dont know you, but i know your pain. I hope you heal from whatever and whoever broke you. I hope one day we all love ourselves and find true healing. This man is a God send. Thank the Lord i found him, PLEASE PRAY FOR ME. I am struggling, and i just want to be whole for my kids.
Their mother isn't in the picture, and they need me to step up, im just so fragile still. Family is helping for now ( her side). They are starting to see the issue wasn't me all along, and it hurts but also is healing bc its prayers answered and truth revealed.
you will make it
Well is there anything positive to listen to an IV of these videos because I've listened to like 20 of them and I'm more depressed now than I was before I started a more discouraged now that I ever was. I just need the steps on how to get better from complex trauma I don't need to know what it is and all the obstacles that I have to face
I started feeling the same way. I learned about all the ways I was broken, and it just left me feeling defeated and miserable. But that's part of the process. Grieving for all the things your caregivers broke inside you. Cry, get angry, and feel awful. And once you can grieve that loss, you can start healing.
At least that's how I understand it. I'm just starting too.
I waited 9 months then I found the house of my dreams far away by a childhood friend I move in 2 weeks I can hardly contain myself and the pain of waiting and still being here is something I tolerate by exercising hard depth soothing and mindfulness.
I had to cut my father out of my life a little over 25 years ago. I pray that God would heal whatever warped him into the sullen, abusive and aggressive father and manager he became, but there can be no contact between him and me.
I'm 3000 of the views. Love this!
Culture shock. Then there's the fears, lies, prejudices goals and whatever of the new imperfect people you associate with that can drive you if you let it back into trying to escape through addictions. Someone said they imagined that the "Good" people hate them for doing bad, and the "Wicked" people hate them for doing good. It's a struggle, a war within and without. Even the people who seem ok are struggling also. What kind of a healthy friend am I? Can I become a healthy influence, not the judge jury and controller of others, but a healthier person and influence. Now who or what am I. They spent their time being responsible now I'm embarrassed in front of my new peers, because I spent my time wasting myself. In in the end we all die like king Solomon who ended up an apostate basket case. He just couldn't get satisfaction, he was a billionaire genius , King who fell into false worship and idolatry . He disregarded God's direction to have just one wife, and collected at least a thousand or more woman, many who didn't have the same beliefs as him ,he tried to make them happy, but cut his own throat. Get over blaming it on God,.... but face it if you have blamed it on God, ...and trust that God can deal with it, ....that is your blaming Him.....and He will ease you into the reality of life with other imperfect dying people, who choose not to blame " it " on God but choose to be on His side in the issue of good verses evil, live or die. God's right, the Angel who chose to be His enemy is wrong , that Angel is called Satan the Devil. The devil had billions of years of life he turned against God. There are other angels who sided with him, they are demons, yet at the same time there are more angles who remain on God's side even though they have been subject to Him for billions of years. In contrast humans live a short life pretty much knowing their going to die and even though they never saw God, believe in Him, hope in Him, learn about Him, come to trust and love Him and live for Him. Why couldn't the Angels who turned away from God do that . Many humans have stayed loyal to God till death and died with the hope of living again in a world free from evil trauma, and many of those people turned from a life filled with addiction, picked up the pieces if there were any pieces, or got some pieces from God and people who love Him and found something to live for. You can too is what I choose to tell myself. And that's my story and I'm sticking with it. O yea God has a formal name. How can you know someone without knowing their name. Look it up, it beats looking for drugs or alcohol or porn or whatever. Search for God. Why not?
agree 1000%
Thank you for the heads up.
I love Pity Pot Parties...thats my Problem! 😂
YEAH, I know 8-tracks! I had an eight-track-,player in my car and lidtened to "Supertramp"!
Im in isolation mode. Not good!
LIFEISAJOURNEY LETITGO I was doing the same thing. Today I broke out of my Isolation, and It’s Beautiful!!! Sometimes we just have to force ourselves out. Give it a try and let me know how it works for you.♥️
me too
@@CMoore8539 yes. I pushed myself to get out and be around people. Wishing you well!!!
LIFEISAJOURNEY LETITGO Same here. We have to. Isolating is extremely negative for Recovery. I’m happy that you got through it too. We Must keep on.😊♥️
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this guy seems very legit...so hoping he’s the real deal
He is 😊
20:40 _Technically_ there is a 3rd option...
20:25 That's harsh. And I think it's 'true'. Korzybski said prevention is better than cure. Sigh.
Nice ty
Where can I find counseling? The link shared is broken.
www.timfletcher.ca
Is this teaching going on in a church?
yes
Yes, thank- God !
I started going to church when I was 21.
It was an incredibly unsafe place to be. I began to see that so many were manipulators and needed healing on many levels.
I started by going to recovery as I soon realized I too had many of the issues I was seeing in others.
Mentally unhealthy people can not shine the Light of Christ to others.
We have to start with us.
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Fact is … full, long lasting addiction recovery is very low. Some even trade illicit narcotics for “legal” ones and claim they are recovered. Dated a female that thinks she is recovered … but has just traded illegal drugs for legally obtainable ones. That’s not addiction recovery. Not in the least. God help her.
Must change core beliefs
It would help if there was help to speed up recovery, because there is practically zero tolerance/acceptance for trauma damage in society, on the contrary, it’s like „we always knew there is something wrong with you, now we are confirmed, and good luck with that“. All alone then to recover? Really?
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the part about Israel having all those bad things happening is just how things are beginning to look as they're being bombed.
God please protect us all.
What if your addiction is the comfort of a religion?
I'm not sure about "you have to replace *everything* in your life around you" tbh...
It is not easy but been in hell is worse
HA HA!! THANKS! RECOVERY?? Seriously? I never was a drug or a drug addict. My Mom was Mentally Ill and my family was taught to treat me like I was the problem, by HER! OK! Recovery from the source which has turned into Family Mobbing, robbing and beating me up! THAT is what recovery for me the CPTSD has been. THEY WISH I WAS DEAD!
I am happy for you that you found Beyond Scapegoating Abuse with Rebecca Mandeville. 😊
Free Palestine 🥰
Staying sober? How tf does that help with codependency/CPTSD and all the other shit? This ain’t AA
My deseased grandfather McKenzie was army and ministry of God christ and ans my uncle lenair died was navy and ministry of God christ and schizophrenic and my grandfather McKenzie was army and ministry of God christ and my uncle Charles McKenzie was army and and uncle samuel McKenzie was navy uncle lenair died was navy and ministry of God christ and schizophrenic I have prophet es my jounel entry HELEN Marlene Evans DRIGGERS prophetess and Ellen Darlene Evans prophet es my jounel entry
Why does he use all this alcoholics terminology?