This Is Why You Don’t DATE AT WORK.
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Ahh so Aba likes the conservative look... Hey Aba, I work at a library.🙂
Go on…
Hyuck hyuck. & you better not be no janitor
@@AbaNPreach 😂😂😂 made my day
Lessssss go baby
LOOOOOOOOL
good for you??
My wife hates when I bring toys to bed, she never wants to play legos, it's a point of contention in our marriage.
divorce
divorce. There is no saving grace in your marriage.
@@jayharris5086 That's none of your business anyways.
@@summerrose8110 They're kidding...
Rotfl
If I ever hear "work bf" or "work hubby" bs from a girl's mouth, I'll just get up an leave without even saying a word
Some people know not to sh*t where they eat. (Edit): If someone is in a relationship and has a work hubby/work wife, I would side-eye the situation.
"If she got a work husband, you get a home divorce"🤝🏾
i always found that particular thing in the workplace icky. its fucking weird that some ppl do this to keep themselves going during work whereas i'd prefer it if we just operate like colleagues. maybe im socially challenged bcoz its such a common occurrence and i dont know how to get into it but definitely something i vehemently dont want in my workplace
@@raggedyhaggity250 If two people are really right for each other and they meet at work, then something will eventually happen. Human attraction doesn't stop in the work place.
@@jessicamompoint1849 and there are very very few of us
In college, I told my high-school crush, very seriously and openly, that I really cared about her and that I have for a long time and I finally needed to just come out and tell her. She was so careful with how she responded, she took it seriously and we had a real conversation about it, and I will forever be grateful for that. No, the feelings weren't mutual and nothing happened, but we had been friends for a long time and still are.
*COPE*
Why i feel shit. After read this
Bruh the romantic "I HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOU" BS kills attraction. If you wanted to get with her you should've kept the conservation light and funny. A lot of guys don't know this, but females will straight bait you into complimenting them. If you fall victim to their trap and give them what they want, "of course honey, you're so beautiful", it kills any attraction they have for you. Honestly when females bait me with that BS I straight roast the hell out of them in a comedic way, that's the shit that gets them horny. lol
She friendzoned you but would let chad or Tyrone hit like it’s nothing. Respect yourself as a man and drop her. If she ain’t with the program, get you some baddies that are. Life’s too short to not be someone’s first choice 💯
Simp
Tell me why it made me so happy to hear Aba acknowledge how difficult it is to become a librarian? Almost at the end of my 2 year MLIS program just to enter a field that will in all likelihood never make more than what I paid for tuition each year. I love the field, but there was no reason I had to pour in so much time, effort, and money just so I can now work at a law library where I have hardly used anything I've learned in my degree 😩
What all do you learn?
@@yingyang7448 🤣🤣
@@richDarach Genuine question though. I'm curious.
I always assumed that librarian needed education to know what kinds of books to buy, and how to help people find the information that they are looking for. The people putting the books back were almost always either volunteers or college student working while attending school.
@@RiseUpToYourAbility
That's what I thought as well.
Aba gave everyone whose significant other works in a bar or restaurant crazy anxiety 😂😂😂
Bro, how your comment from four days ago?😂
The ones who already had insecurities at least 😂
@Throw Away not really. If you have insecurities you most likely to mess up the relationship and be alone before the cheating even happens, or your insecurities are showing that you’re the one cheating. That usually how it goes. But aye, to each it’s own bucko 😁👍🏽
@@LankyJay601 Exactly
Its true though
I didn't know the whole "that's cute" thing was such a big deal! Good to know. Thank you!!! Idk if I've intentionally done that to someone but now I know to be aware of it in the future.
The fact youre willing to be more careful is wonderful
3:05 he got you 😂😂😂😂
Here in Japan, that's basically how a shit ton of couples meet because work-life is essentially everything. Once people start working, they rarely have lives outside of that. It's changing
bit by bit, but it's still the norm. And they keep that shit on lockdown until they decide to get married. Then they tell the office...but there is a chance the office already knows but they keep quiet.
Also...why do people feel the need to air all their private stuff to the internet, is the perceived clout really worth it?
with the amount of time they spend in work, i think its understandable for the japanese. even necessary, bcoz the ppl over there just operate different and their culture has no chill. hoping the best for the ppl there.
They like the attention, it's dumb I agree
this one women uploaded a tiktok sharing her disbelief that people in the gym asked the manager to inform her that her extreme body odor was distracting/unpleasant.....she wanted sympathy and that was the last thing she got hahahaha. so heck yess its always for attention
I'd argue that Japan as a society has a problem with living for work. Money doesn't buy happiness it's just the down payment
It is the attention, let me tell a old story, in times of Orkut, a guy at work (nurse) was f*ing a lot of women at work, until one of them vented in Orkut saying someone was doing all the women, even the married ones... Some people were moved to other states after that.
"idk what it is but when a bitch looks like a librarian that shit turns me on"
that quote deserves to be in a fancy ass font and with a waterfall as the background
She looks "virginal"
But she not
No no no
i want to corrupt her knowledge real good
I can't explain it either, it's a good look, like Velma 👀.
@@kassaken6521 Velma is freaking amazing and hilarious when she can’t find her glasses
All the men were swooning over Dr. Curry during the Johnny Depp trial. Especially when she put on her big black eyeglasses.😂
Worked as a bartender a few years ago, I never hooked up with any of the others, and was entirely oblivious to the fact that they were all hooking up left and right ... xD
I worked at a restaurant for about 2 years and yea I found some of my coworkers attractive but i didn’t go further than that cuz I knew having that kinda of relationship with them in a work space will lead to more problems than anything besides it’s not high school it’s my job
Literally just had a female coworker blow up on me after giving the most confusing mixed signals ever. I done tried ignoring her but she kept at it, and now when I play along I’m met with hostility. Leave your coworkers alone. Real talk.
Ignore her for a few days don’t say a word to her. She gonna go crazy for a few days. She’s gonna ask you why your ignoring her eventually only then speak to her and just say I was giving you your space *boom*. You in
SoLobo....jus be real and say she flirted with you at work, you pulled out the monster a little to soon and she wasn't ready! 😜🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Tor-jv8je 😂😂😂
@@Tor-jv8je that is wild 😭
@@maldenfoster Your advice is spot on!!
I tell my sons the best way to get a girl is to act indifferent and ignore her.
People, women especially, hate being ignored and I swear acting like you don’t want a woman can make her want you more.
For fucks sake you two are the funniest people on this platform. never stop
Oh but they must stop 😏
@@thewatcher9546 🤣🤣🤣
Not the funniest, but they're good
They work together. Only a matter of time till they give each other colonoscopies.
Why is no-one talking about toys😏
The reason why we (men) are turned off by the "that's cute" comment, is because girls use it quite often to (or against) men they've put into the friend zone. It's a way of dismissing another person's feelings, without rejecting them. Which is what the friendzone is - they dismiss your feelings, but do not reject you because you're useful (either financially, physically or emotionally).
So that's it Aba; we're familiar with that line from being in the friendzone or seeing other guys in the friendzone. So when another girl says it, even if she genuinely means it, we're turned off by it because of its connotations.
So i think you're taking the rejection too personal.. dismissive means more like she gives you a nasty attitude.. seems like you need to heal.. being friends or friendzoned doesn't mean they are "just using you"
@@thomasbrooksjr380 Your reading comprehension is lacking. I never said all girls who put men into the friend zone are using them. That's not what I said. What I said or implied was, that there are girls who keep people in the friend zone, because they're useful. This doesn't apply to girls who don't do that, obviously. And the girls who use "aww that's cute" dismissively, do so usually because it's a nice way of dismissing or diminishing one's feelings, while not rejecting the person, outright. And for the girls who use people in the friendzone, it is important not to reject them, because they are useful.
Is that better?
Women put us in the friendzone usually because we put *ourselves* in the friendzone first.
@@DaAxiomatic While that happens a lot, and is certainly the case for many of us, that really doesn't have anything to do with what I'm talking about. Who put who in the friend zone first isn't relevant to my statement, at all.
but sometimes I do it without even realising when I'm moved by something my boyfriend said. so i always follow it by saying how much I appeciate him etc. so forgive us ladies if we sometimes get things wrong when talking to men - there's a lot less info on how to treat a guy in a relationship than vice versa
I watched some of your videos during the lockdown, and I've been searching for your channel for almost two months, couldn't remember what it was called. I just spent an hour scrolling through my history to find a video, I'm so excited I found the channel again. Subbed so I don't have this problem again.
It's a very confusing topic, bc SO many relationships start in the workplace...BUT u gotta navigate sexual harassment policies, HR disclosure rules, and what if the relationship ends badly? Or they cheat with another coworker? Some ppl say avoid it, but others say that's how they met their spouse. And others that's how they caught a case.
I'm on the side of don't risk it from my experience with working with my uncle and his ex girlfriend in a sales office. My uncle's ex girlfriend got with another guy in the office..soo awkward for him
Yes, we men have to worry about HR and harassment policies. YOU women don’t.
You women don’t even have to worry about age of consent, just look up Nathanial J. A 14 year old boy told to pay child support to his 36 year old baby mama.
@@SageVaughn ooo yikes! I did it once when I was much younger working in a retail shop, and it cost me my job when I broke it off with him. It was exciting in the beginning, but it's the ending ppl should consider.
i feel the same way. in a neutral way, where else would you start relationships esp when you spend most of your time at work? im not totally against romance in the office in terms of expanding your reach for potential relationships but personally i'd turn off that part of me bcoz work is work. but i do understand that it also depends on the times we live today and who we involved with. nowadays it seems more safe to not be entangled in work spaces bcoz there's more risk concerning your bag and possibly your social reputation
i mean i think of some of my female workers i really wanne F
I’m a person that likes privacy outside of work. Keeping them separated makes things so much easier. I dated once a person from work. It didn’t go too bad but that was the only time. I’ve seen plenty times when that wasn’t the case. Gossip, PDA, arguments and bitterness when a break up would happen. It’s just weird for everyone.
Yeah me and my wife worked together for 2 years, no pda at work. It wasn't always easy, but that was a standard we set because we didn't want our relationship to effect our income
Same goes for friendships.
Depends alot on the job. I met my fiance at work knew she was the the one immediately. However it was a special type of job bc we were doing contracts for 4-6 weeks at a time/living there and also we were in different departements. Maybe if you work in a cubicle/etc it will be much harder.
@@Qdawwg I’d say regular minimum wage jobs are easier to get away with. You can screw around and find another one. On a corporate level like the cubicle, a lot more is at stake. Especially if the pay is phenomenal.
@@TheWutangclan1995 yeah we were both down to get fired so we prioritized each other over the job 😅
That callback to the aisle shit at 7:22 is amazing
3:00 tbf I work in a commissary kitchen and you could argue that theres like 5 aisles
There are two rules to the workplace:
1. Don't date coworkers.
2. Don't work with relatives.
West Virginia, I'm looking at you right now.
Yes! My dad and sisters opened a bar together in 2018, my younger sister left last year and now they don't talk 😩
I’ve never understood the “don’t work with relatives”. I worked with immediate family and a bunch of cousins and it was just fine
@@AlphaTSH What kind of set up was it? Did you all own a business?
@@AlphaTSH it's depends on the relatives. And the family dynamics, if you're a strong unit anyways you will be fine.
@@joanna0988 that's because it's bar the devil is there seating with them
They’ll be all broken up within a year or one of them will quit their job.
They should’ve learned from the movie 500 Days of Summer
@@pinaculoda wat dat is?
@@marlom7882 a movie
My parents met at work and have been together for 35 years and still going strong. Their love gives me hope for the future
The other day a girl at work asked me out and as she was doing it, I was thinking what was the best way to reject her and turns out that the right answer was remind her that pressure and pain is out now on all digital platforms brav
Underrated comment braav
It shouldn't be surprising people often meet their significant other at work. When you're younger, most of our boyfriends and girlfriends came from our own school. Work is just like school. You see people all day, get to know them, why wouldn't you wind up liking them?
its like high school in my corporate office
This is a good take!
Plus there is everyone telling you not to do it, which just makes it more attractive to do it.
In school, there is no HR policy though, and I think that because of the age we live in, you have to be a little more careful with relationships at work nowadays, compared to back in the day.
Lol schools and workplaces are completely different.
Healthcare field is notorious for hookups. When you spent 10-12 hours with each other 3-4 days out of the week, you bond. As a rule, I'm against co-worker relations because it's way more downsides (emotions, jealousy, power dynamic, ethic violations, potential to turn into sexual harassment claims whether true or false). But I can't front, I wound up hooking up with a co-worker. We never brought any drama to the workplace, no PDA, was never seen outside the office together. The split was mutual, and we remained friends afterward. I was lucky. Most times it ends horribly.
Thats why you hookup with a coworker…from a different area in the company 🤣
@@ericvalverderosado2046 then It’s not really a coworker
It only ends poorly if emotions are involved. You set boundaries early on if you don’t then she’s going to think she can harass you. Cause harassment cases only occur against men
if she found you at work, she'll find your replacement at work.
@@markdsm-5157 Idfag if she replaces me. I fuck that’s all that matters. I’m careful with who I decide to fall in love with. if i do at all. You’re still scared to lose her
The vulnerability part made me think of the scene from boondock saints 2 where Rocco is talking to the brothers 😆
I heard there was an article called "hospitality workers need to stop ****ing each other". It's so true, I've been in the industry for 6 yrs and I've been in a relationship with my husband throughout it all, we weren't even married till a few months ago. I'm so glad I never got into co-workers; I stand HARD on the "dont go with coworkers" rule even if I were single. I never got into anyone period cause my man is really all I want but Restaurants are like the military. There is a high chance your spouse will flirt with someone else or cheat on you if there are deep issues with the relationship. You can't trust deez ppl. I've seen men and women flirting like crazy or straight up cheating on their partners all the time just cause it's sooo easy in this industry to get laid.
People be like: "NEVER date at work ever, it's always bad"
90% of married people when asked where they met their spouse: "at work"
Really depends on your occupation some jobs only attract a lot of of people from one sex or the other. There aren’t a lot of straight male hairstylists in salons or straight women on constructions sites
Maybe depends on workload, most of people where i live didn't married to coworkers. There are interactions but most don't lead to LTRs.
Actually most married people met through friends or online.
And nobody's happy. Coincidence
Hmmm thats not necessairly True
I think it is maybe just in your area
Most People where I live met their partner through friends or social gatherings
Back when I was 25, I was on a graduate program in a big corporation and a hot girl who worked in accounting on the same floor took a liking to me. One evening in a work function we got drunk and ended up kissing, but no more. I was naturally very stressed about the situation the next day as I had this 'don't sh!t where you eat, don't dip your wink in the company in' mindset instilled into me. I ended up calling a friend who was a bit older and a bit wiser, but still young at heart for advice. He told me: "In today's society you aren't likely to stay at the same company for longer than 2-3 years. I had chances to do this when I was single at work and never took them, and now I regret it, so don't end up like me" So I went for it. We ended up seeing each other for about 4 months, then we broke up, but cause she was quite serious about her career, her behavior at work was totally rational after the break up. I moved on to another job 8 months later, but the fond memories of that hot half Arab/half Irish accountant are still with me to this day! So the moral of the story - don't listen to people who give you one advice fit all for situation like this, make your own judgement and things just may turn out ok!
Function is the gayest word I’ve ever seen, I cringe every time someone uses it in this context without fail.
Um you sought someone else’s judgment and said someone told you to go for it so you did, had he said no don’t do it maybe you wouldn’t have so stfu and spare me lol
Half Arab and Irish sounds 🥵
Mandem be liking Russian roulette
I mean you didn’t seem to have put much on the line so i can see the play.
I don’t know the employers i had didnt want such a high turn over. You spend all that time and money bringing a person up to speed. And them you want them to stay a while
@@Pssst.ByTheWay I guess there is a degree of loving that risk taking that was a part of the equation for me. But unlike some more incel minded posters here, I do believe that the vast majority of women behave in a rational way when their job is involved, when it's a good job not worth losing.
Don’t sh*t where you eat. I have been attracted to some guys at work, but I like to separate my work life from my home life. Plus I like having space, so you see this person at work AND at home that would drive me nuts 😂, I would say more breakup’s probably happen when you date your co-worker.
My one that got away was a librarian. Never talked more than in passing when I’d see her at work when I’d go into town for stuff to read (lived at work at a remote place with no internet). She came up to me at a bar while I was playing pool and it really hit off but I was with people and needed to leave. That was the last week I was there and left a week later without seeing her again. Can’t even remember her name.
Hospitals and healthcare are sooooo bad for this and it almost always ends super ugly. Both my parents work in healthcare and the amount of cheating, hookups and divorces they’ve witnessed, as well as super creepy invites, is astounding!
I have been a nurse for four months and I see it.
So Grey's Anatomy is real? 😂😲
I work at a hospital. Should I be worried?
@@Edge9404 where do you work?
I'll tell straight up what it is with librarians.
It's not the books, it's not the long skirt. It's the demeanor that most librarians encompass, and the Glasses!!! Stay with me...
They are smart women but work in an environment that requires order and silence. And your personality has to be similar, soft, organized, and quiet. The image of taking a woman like that, and making say the most nasty shit ever out her mouth, to do the most nasty shit ever with her body, and then to know she has to hide it to keep appearences for that job, HUGE turn on.
Also, with the glasses. It's a classic Adrien fetish. The Adrien factor, from Rocky. That you see a very sweet girl wearing glasses, not much to look at on first notice, but then you get close to her, take off the glasses, and you see how hot she really is? Well shit, it does it for me. It's the same with school teachers.
😳. That's what ya'll thinking about when I ask how you plan to pay your fines?
@@Cosmiccoffeecup Got to be at least a 6 though...
@@Cosmiccoffeecup yeah, that’s why I pay mine in installments
i dont know if i respect this comment or i wanna side eye you. but thanks for the tidbit i guess? also with much of the comments aba made, i think aba like women who seem prim and proper. like good girl aesthetic
People are weird
No shot will you guys see this. But I just found this channel yesterday. I just worked a brutal 22 hr shift and you guys had me laughing the hardest I have in years the whole shift. Thank you
7:34 when he said that I already knew 💀😂
During my 3 years at a call center, I never dated any coworkers. Yes, there were plenty of beautiful ladies in the office. However, most were already engaged or married. Several people I knew were always dropping the same lines about how "Oh, you're too good a guy to be single! Just ask one of these coworkers out." My own PERSONAL POLICY is to NEVER date coworkers.
If nothing else, it kept my name out of office gossip and I was never in the know of who was dating who. I would clock in, do my job and clock out. The last thing I wanted to do was get involved with someone, somehow it didn't work and then I'd dread going to work more than I already did because I knew I'd see this person around the office.
Heck, there were at least five couples that made it all the way to marriage. Props to them, but I ain't about that life...
Facts. Dont shit where you eat. Yeah, When its good, its good… but when its bad, its unreal levels of bad. Major Loss of respect and resignation and loss of income levels of bad!!!… and just for some pu**y??? ah HELL NO! Money and respect over everything!
@@Kumari_44just watched Zohan
I guess its that also u couldnt even try if u wanted to. Since all ur coworkers were either engaged or married
My god, this is EXACTLY what I think and follow. Business over personal matters at work.
Yup. I have the same motto. And i almost learned the hard way tho luckily it never happened.
I don't hang out with coworkers, not as friends or anything else. Don't go to company parties, trips etc. Let me go home and forget about you. TBH I don't even like people.
😂😂
Ok Anja.
@@SageVaughn Ok SAGE. Sounds like you should be dancing around a pole.
Facts!
you and me anja. messy ppl they are, the ones from work
As a woman, I have also dropped emotions/feelings for the person. At least in a romantic sense. I like to keep friendships, but I've had women think I've never cared in the first place and try to convince the people I've been with that it is somehow true. It sucks when people try to say that especially if I don't have any anger or resentment for the person I've been with. It's understandable that people drop those feelings to protect themselves. It's certainly better than holding a grudge like how a lot of people do it nowadays just before they become toxic around others.
3:00 kitchens do have sections for different types of cuisines in a banquet-style kitchen setup.
Whenever a woman calls something you do cute you lose a millimeter off your Richard. Really kills the mood quick. Lol
How is this commented a day before the video goes live 🤔
Dr Strange is that you?
@@Adefuye i noticed but wasnt sure how to pose the question so appreciated that you did
and also to the guy who's losing his dick, dont take it so hard maybe? just tell the girl she be macho😂😂
@@Adefuye video uploaded as unlisted are that dumb?
@@Adefuye Patreon supporter get early access
it's because "cute" is either used as condescending, or a step above "not ugly"
I man when I say a girl is cute it's not a step above ugly like it's a different facial structure from pretty but it's not lesser.
Yo the commentary had me rolling today! Great job foos
the slow looking up at 0:22 sent me cuz i was thinking the same thing 😂
Dating a coworker highly depends on the maturity of the people involved. I met my bf at work. We were coworkers for 3 years, went out on 1 movie date and on the 2nd date we moved in together. I eventually left that job 3 years later and I got him hired at my current job a year later. We share a 2 inch cubicle wall and we’ve been together 8 years and have worked together 7 out of those 8. We love working together and we know how to compartmentalize our work life and home life. We don’t drive to work together except on Fridays because we go to his parents for dinner, we don’t go to lunch at the same time and we complain and talk about work when we get home just like everyone else since during the day I do that with my work “bestie”. Lol. People know we’re a couple, but we don’t refer to each other as such when speaking about our relationship at work. Even when new employees come on board and ask me about his “status” I always say he’s in a relationship or dating someone. I never say he’s my boyfriend. Sometimes I’ll hear one of them trying to flirt with him from my cubicle and I just laugh.
One word
-luckkkkyyyy
Wait, you moved in together only after the second date? Just how well did you two really know each other? Who does that?
the word is wat?? compartmentalize🤨
@@KamenKami LMAO. Trust me, I know! Not a day goes by that I don’t think how insane it was of me, but I don’t regret it. I always used to talk shit to my brother about how impulsive he is moving in within 3 months of dating someone and here I go and do it on the second date! We were coworkers and friends for 3 years before that so we felt we knew each other pretty well. We always went to lunch together on paydays and his brother also worked with us and I was also friends with other people that knew him that also worked with us so I felt a lot of people could vouch for him, if that makes sense. Here’s how crazy this story gets, though. Lol. He was actually dating someone during those 3 years (and that relationship was even more crazy than ours and I would love to expand on it because to this day I can’t believe he went out with this girl as long as he did lmao) and he broke up with her the week before he asked me out, which I didn’t even know was a date. I literally asked him when he dropped me off “wait, this was a date?!” We went out on a Saturday. That following Monday he asked me if I wanted to come over and he’ll cook me dinner, it was a goddamn chicken sandwich made of leftovers, and I never left. He’s also my first boyfriend and my first anything and everything and hopefully my last. Lol. He checks off all the boxes except the height. We’re both 5’8”, but he claims to be 5’8.5” just to say he’s taller than me. 🙄 He’s absolutely not. We’re the same height and if anything, I’m slightly taller than he is, by a hair.
@@nandozzy2.055 oh, you have no idea. 😂
I worked as a bartender for 9 months. Can confirm that everyone was f*cking or dating one another. The turnover rate for relationships was insane, they'd come and go like the morning dew lmfao.
Loved that job though, met so many cool ladies and gentlemen at my bar. Only left because I found a much higher paying job. Loved the ambiance of the bar though.
May go back and do it again one day or just make my own at home for when I have guests over.
Yeah a bunch of my friends that worked in bars and restaurants said pretty much the same thing, lots of hooking up and ruined relationships/ marriages
Man I think you're right. The kitchen in my head has aisles too.
8:10 yeah. you go in and ask for a kinda book with different aspects in it and they can recommend a good book for you.
I always had this rule of not dating co-workers…I worked at a few call centers after graduating high school and let me just say the DRAMAAAAAAAAA was more than enough to have me like “NOPE. NEVER” 😂
I've worked both call center and the been in the military after HS. Shit is wild! Good entertainment though.
@@njpme definitely good entertainment 🤣
My Italian father always said: "You don'ta shit where you eat!"
Yep.
Go work for the postal service. It’s never ending
Rule #1: don’t go around telling all the other coworkers if y’all not in a relationship
It is weird how one has to dodge this situation so often. Worse part: Deny the wrong person and they ruin your life at work which usually leads to you losing your job. It's made me bitter and generally just be stoic and separate from people at work.
My theory is that we hate the whole “aw that’s cute” thing is because we don’t freely share emotions and vulnerabilities when we do chose to do so it’s a PRETTY FUCKING BIG DEAL and reacting to it the same way you react to seeing a puppy or baby sea lion is pretty degrading to us. No guy in any situation wants to be equated to a puppy dog.
Everyone agrees Preach hypothetically made our DAY:
Those sultry looks at the camera kept killing me. Love these more chilled videos.
True.
That boy FADED hahaha
Don't think you need hypothetically there homie
Its not because she looks like a librarian, its because of her femininity that is more attractive than revealing clothes.
I just made a similar comment before seeing this one 😅
I would moreso cause it’s supposed to be to be forbidden kinda like you’re not supposed to sleep with your teachers but people fantasize about it 🤷🏾♂️
@@Kirbystare1992 Maybe. On the other hand. For me, I like reserved looking women with just a hint of dorkyness. Glasses and long hair are a huge plus. It is tattoos, piercings, and unnatural hair colors that I cannot stand.
@@KamenKami oh man i'm the complete opposite lol, i like short hair, unnatural colors and nose piercings, i think it's fun to see different peoples' types because it really shows just how varied peoples' tastes are.
@@KamenKami I can agree with most of that piercings as long she doesn’t have a tongue one or a million other piercings, don’t like heavily tatted girls or weird hair either.
In a library is definitely about the hush hush, but also it’s about getting all up in those books!
2:26 He gave that “we almost got caught by the boss fucking at work” look 🤣
If your boyfriend/girlfriend works at a bar/restaurant, they're cheating on you. More likely than not.
BF/GF is a nurse? Man, are they cheating on you! And if you're in the army? She's with Jody!
Things become stereotypes because they tend to be based on a lot of real life events...
Exactly people may think I’m prejudiced with some things but stereotypes come from somewhere
Damn nurses? Never heard that stereotype
@@MrLazerCatt Of course you did - ever heard of _General Hospital_ ? _Grey's Anatomy_ ? If anything, those shows downplays how the affairs in there! Why do you think all soaps must have a hospital in their settings? Because docs and nurses *get it in* in there!
And that's based on RL - Reddit is full of stories of poor bastards married to unfaithful nurses and lonely housewives hooked to philandering doctors... it's definitely a known thing, you just really paid it no mind til today, but, if you really think about it... you'll have to agree with its obviousness.
Why nurses though ?
If he a truck driver he definitely cheating
"Cleanup at register 6."
"Bro we in a hospital what the FUUUH?"
How you make this reokt days ago?
You a time traveler?
@@dzyrewainwright3377 Patreon
Yooo the law&order music with that smile. Yall should do comdey skits man
Preach is on it!! Oh my days! First what kitchen, shush then isles again!
Thank you Aba & Preach!!
Had a friend who was like that with her boss from Circuit City. Clowned the piss out of her about that's why they went out of business.
Also had a time at my place when my neighbor invited me over, she cooked extra steaks and wanted to get rid of some wine. I didn't take that and kept to myself since I was already dating somebody else. Me and the neighbor always kept it cordial, go figures when we had an apartment building fire next to ours during Hurricane Ida she was banging on my door to get me out. Not sure if that would have been the same if I took her up on that scenario to get it pushing.
These days, she's about 8 months pregnant with the dude I always see walking her dogs. Happy for her and even happier I didn't commit to the thirst.
Brooo......
Dude said circut city.
I haven't heard someone speak of circuit city in a minute 😂
My professor told me to never hook up with your coworkers, like he did. He ended up having a divorce and a tumultuous relationship with his ex wife
Maybe he just selected the wrong coworker for the wrong reasons and ultimately faced the consequences later on in life. I find divorced people often give younger people advice based off of the bitterness that remains from the divorce and when er take that advice we get the wrong idea about life. Coworker or not if they’re a good person and you like them don’t hesitate. If they’re not interested, take the L. I bet you the company isn’t going to make you any happier when you reject your emotions to be a good corporate drone that’s hardly human.
What professor?
@@Xkaled2008X my business intelligence professor in college.
This has nothing to do with him hooking up with his coworker. They obviously didn't put enough time into getting to know each other before getting married. Even after getting to know each other things can go wrong, people/situation can change.
this was a great one
I swear when Aba & Preach laugh I feel as if I am apart of the conversation. They are so real and natural lmao.
P.S my middle school library legit had one aisle. Anyone who went to SRS in East New York Brooklyn, would know.
The "That's cute" feels just like a "Good for you". Feels like you're trying to pretend that you care when you actually don't
Dated one dude from work, he turned into a complete stalker ... Things got extremely uncomfortable. I stopped having any communication but he would always insert in conversations with my other colleagues. Finally he moved to a different unit. Never again!
So let’s see you ostracised him from the group and when he attempted to join in convos it made him a stalker. But clearly you made him feel a type a way for him to get the fuck away from you and go to a different unit 😂😂.
Lmfao 1:56 in and I am rolling 🤣
Preach, you killing me with those faces. F'ing hysterical.
Preach dropping bars about that power hammer! Lol 🤣 My favorite ex was the one who asked to bring in toys for her and to Preach's point it made her hitting the roof so much easier which added a lot more fun to the situation than just roofing without them. But I'm not about any toys for myself, that doesn't interest me at all but in relationships since I have introduced bringing power tools for the ladies into the mix lol. Preach called it, some projects are perfectly fine to use a screwdriver on but sometimes there is some joy to be had to break out the power drill, it's all preference and job type that make the difference.
Toys aren’t enjoyable for me personally, but the biggest turn on is making someone c*m and when you’re teasing, edging and using toys it makes the whole interaction more enjoyable. So the toy it’s self doesn’t provide me with any enjoyment, however it creates an environment where the sex is way better which in turn is more enjoyable for me
Easy tip: instead of saying "aww that's cute" just say something like "I like that" or "that makes me happy." Simple affirmative statements with a smile can remove any potential miscommunication or perceived condescension. If someone tells you how you make them feel, just reciprocate.
Noted!
Or don’t beat around the bush cause you still are and tell them you’re not interested if you’re talking about someone confessing their feelings. Your tip is just lightly leading and can still be taken the wrong way. It can come off as you’re playing hard to get. Blunt and direct will let someone know how you truly feel.
Had nothing to do with confessions of feelings. Simply put "that's cute" is easily misunderstood but "I like that" is not.
Maaan when Abba said, "I guess he musta fxcked the pizza!" I laughed so hard shot mouthwash through my nose 😂😂😂
I'm loving the synergy between Aba & Preach, I feel it getting stronger and it's so much funnier!
Aba & Preach reacting to The Cut/Jubilee is always a treat
I've dated people I worked with in the past mostly it was okay when things ended......but it only took that one bad time to make me realise I never want to do that again
You two crack me up great content
In terms of work, it doesn't work very well unless both parties are mature. You can't do it like dating because you can't ghost and be done. You either commit or gtfo and forget. Otherwise the fallout can be devastating. If I dated then it would have to work permanently or we would need to agree not to disclose it or mention it again and function as it never happened.
As someone who worked customer service for a library, yes you do need a degree to be an actual Librarian 😂
Wait seriously? Why? What for?
@@breakingbenjamin555 Just because universities just needed one more degree to squeeze out all your money for 😂😵 also it has to be a Masters at most places, undergrad doesn't count
Two degrees are required, aren't they? You need a degree before you can even take Library Science as your major.
All that just to make 45k is wild
@@dpatra7081 *smh*
I've never dated anyone from work. Working in corporate America, I keep my head down, do my work, and go home. I've only made one real friend during my entire work experience. I don't care about company politics, culture or climbing the career ladder. It's about the money, that's it.
I worked at a library while in college, and it was the best job ever. 10/10 would do it again.
You don't care about climbing the career ladder but still care about the money??? I mean sure you can get a raise every now and then but not often as much as a promotion can get you.
If you network then you can allow yourself more opportunities to make more money.
Agreed!! Even though I work at a restaurant there’s bound to be attractive coworkers, however I just could never seem flirt with any of them. I’m not interested in the slightest and I know for certain both customers AND coworkers are already hitting on them so it’s a constant competition and I don’t have the time for it. Im strictly there for the paycheck that’s all so I get how you feel.
@@FFAFANBOY I get promotions but from my experience, climbing the corporate ladder and making more money requires getting into management, which I am not interested in. I am also not interested in my life revolving around career progression. Been there, done that. I'd rather dedicate most of my time to my family.
What did you enjoy about working at a library?
I was with a coworker for a year; we worked same company but far sides of town. It still didn't lessen the drama and gossip. Company people got nothin better to do but be in EVERYONE'S business
Don't screw with crew PERIOD! And i been missing the Aba perv face to the law and order music🤣😂
that part about rejecting everything about someone to protect yourself is soo true. I can't see a future with someone that brings nothing to the table. Love only becomes unconditional after the honeymoon period is over and you both have each others backs.
0:18 - 0:23 is the greatest transition of all time. Keep it up fellas
That transition took me the f*** out🤣🤣🤣
😏😏😏
@Mariano Gomez Mullet Man is enroute!!
I keep replaying what kitchen part lol that shit is so damn hilarious
3:06 Caught. 😂
I get those needles too when I’m extremely put on the spot.
Yep. We have degrees in Librarinship. Being a Master Librarian is a thing. Still don't know why guys like the whole librarian thing. The long clothes are necessary, it tends to be cold. The glasses seem to be acquired over time.
I think you give off a look of innocence 😅 or people think you’re intelligent and that you read books whole day. So many misconceptions about being a librarian… they think we’re all old and tell you shut up 🤣
Serious question: what degree do you need? I didn't think this was actually a thing.
@@breakingbenjamin555 there are degrees in Library Sience. Where I work you need to at least have your bachelor's to be called a librarian. There are other positions in the library that do not require a degree, such as Library Aide.
@@kellyjohn7768 😅 I did not help with the misconceptions by joining the local chess federation. Are you a librarian too? What department are you in?
@@Cosmiccoffeecup 🤣🤣🤣… I am
actually a library assistant. I possess a degree but not in library science so not yet a librarian. I work in a school library. I’m from Trinidad 🇹🇹. How about you?
From what I see here this seems to make a case for dating at work. All these folks like each other. It only sucks if things go South and now you have to see the person you used to mess with ALL the time. That's tough.
I had to replay 5:41 several times that shit so *HILARIOUS!!!!* 🤣🤣🤣
Preach on point this video.
Every single time I fucked around with a co-worker it ended like the Hindenburg disaster, nothing, but pain and suffering for everyone involved. Ain't no chance in hell that I'm gonna do that now in my late 20s. 😁
Every single time, damn so you hit multiple coworkers lol
@@ginger_autry9722 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Met my wife at trader Joe's, we worked together for 4 years same schedule, we rarely fight and when we do they're discussions where we always agree at the end of find something to agree on. I believe it's essential to work with your significant other cuz marriage is a team effort, you have to work together and if you can handle a job together without negativity then you'll be ready for marriage
Agreed with you until you said it's essential you work together lol
Also ima former trader joe employee
Great job.
Essential ? What if the two of you dont have the same skill set in terms of jobs ? Time apart is also important . Interesting take though . My mom worked with my step dad for a few years ( they were already together a while before then )
You gota be able to work together, shows teamwork and ability to take achieve the same goal whether your being told what to do or vice versa. You gota have the same goal in the end. Luckily we're both the same and prefer each other's presence, after high school ended friends really arnt a thing...maybe that's why we have 2 dogs and 2 cats and a shit ton of plants haha.
Nope.
@@jmdiaz313 everything's opinion! What worked for me won't work for everyone, I'd just rather be with one person for the rest of my life, not everyone wants that
I met my gf at work in a restaurant, we never told anyone. Eventually some of our friends found out but we still kept it lowkey and eventually quit. Neither of us wanted to be the center of focus or peoples work gossip, and it’s worked out quite well
lol wid the librarian girls its the glasses and the shy look
The reason why I don’t date at work is because every woman I work with is divorced, overweight, horrible attitude’s, with multiple kids from multiple fathers.
I’m all set.
Where do you work lol?? Upgrade your job bro.
@@Feliciations sounds like the DMV
I get their money usually
Got damn does this match my coworkers. Sheng nu.
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I used to hook up with my coworkers 20 years ago that cleaned patient rooms when I worked at a hospital doing janitorial. The nurses and CNAs were all single or cheating on their partners 😁
Aba got that smolder down idk if the music makes it stronger but damn I laugh every time and can’t control it.
My question is this though if you have that kind of time to form a relationship at work then you probably don’t work that well. You’re not getting paid to play so maybe just do your job lol. If you have time to lean on someone then you have time to work on something.
This is awesome😊.
I worked at three bar/restaurant spots: Chilis, O'Briens Sports Pub and Bonefish Grill. There was more hooking up than in any whorehouse in the world. I had fun with two waitresses and one bar tender lady. At first, I thought it was cool. Then I found out these women's body counts were in the upper hundreds! Had a buddy who worked with me and he had bagged himself the entire female staff of the restaurant at Bonefish Grill. After watching and experiencing the work-mate hook up culture, I refuse to go near any and all women who are in that industry. Aba and Preach are correct. And the crazy part, my buddy who bagged the entire female staff at Bonefish Grill - ended up marrying a lawyer who has never worked in the hospitality industry! He told me he "knew better"! Aba and Preach are spitting true facts! Pay attention gents!
your buddy judges the sexually active women but doesn't judge himself?? lol ...the hypocrisy.
Wait so you were ok with smashing three coworkers and your friend smashed the whole female staff but the ladies with the high body counts is where you’re appalled? I bet you weren’t appalled when you were inside of them high body count women 🤣🤣🤣
@@evoltaocao5078 “sexually active woman” bro just say hoe
@@evoltaocao5078 .....upper hundreds is wildd for anybody
@@evoltaocao5078 That's how it works 🤷🏾♂️
I worked in a factory were part of my job was being a link in a chain from the engineering department to the manufacturing floor so I was up in the office area a few times a day, this was the early 90's when office women still dressed professionally and not like they haven't changed from a night of clubbing, that professional look really does it for me, so I ended up hooking up with an office lady who headed up the payroll department, so let's just say I started getting $paid$ it was all legit, it's just I used to travel for the company and she made sure I got paid for ever little thing. So if you're going to date at work someone in payroll is a good choice, but when things go south start looking for another job fast because that pay check will mysteriously start f-ing up
As a female I’m genuinely curious, when a man is being vulnerable about his feelings towards a woman, what do you want us to say/what is the appropriate reaction to it? Because if you guys feel that saying “Aww that’s cute” (even genuinely meaning it) is condescending and I feel like saying nothing is underwhelming and kinda like giving a “f$&* you” almost what do you guys want to hear when you put it all out there?
Again not looking for a fight I’m just curious to hear your perspective
Respond with something appropriate to what he said, the same you would do for any other vulnerable situation. When family or friends are opening up to you do you have a blanket "aww thats cute" type statement ready for them? no i imagine you'd listen and respond like a normal person should.
"thank you for telling me, i do/don't feel the same way" is just an all around great response because its acknowledges the fact you know it was difficult for the other person to open up
The scenarios in which most people encounter the phrase 'aww that's cute' is when a lady is petting a tiny animal or playing with a child. To me there's just an association with the word 'cute' as a patronising/demeaning term from the male perspective. Most men don't want to be cute lol. Words have power. I reckon it might be better to say: 'wow, thank you for being open and vulnerable with me, I appreciate that', that also sounds more genuine than a canned line.
Omg I was searching for this comment 😂 thank you
For me, if she says "aww, that's cute" or something like that, I would feel like I'd be treated like a child. I'm not a boy. I'm a grown ass man. Telling my feelings ain't cute. It's hard to do and we mean business when we're vulnerable.
A comment I read. "The reason why we (men) are turned off by the "that's cute" comment, is because girls use it quite often to (or against) men they've put into the friend zone. It's a way of dismissing another person's feelings, without rejecting them." Just reject us, lol.
What wonderboyTheArtist said is a perfect response. "thank you for telling me, i do/don't feel the same way".
I been at my Job for 14yrs now I work for the State at a Phyciatric Hospital and I started there when I was 24 and between the cleaning staff, kitchen staff, TA's, LPN's, Social Workers, RN's And Supervisors I ran thru all the ones I wanted and im talking about the 20,30,40 and 50 yr olds It was like being a kid in a candy shop I'm 38 now and just don't have the time for that behavior but when u work alot it's just gonna happen.. I've seen coworkers divorce their significant other and then get married