Nah the fish sauce bit isn't crazy. Getting back at those that hurt you is faid game. The fact that people hurt the most when you hit them in their finances is just easy payback.
Revenge just makes u the same as the person that hurt u. If this is your situation then get back together cus u have a lot in common. Keep the bad apples in a separate basket, we don't need the crazies spreading their plague to others
Not surprising, the woman who admitted she was, herself, crazy interpreted irrational behavior in another woman as being "strength" and "knowing your worth."
I’m glad you guys brought that up, I’ve taught my daughter about stuff like this since she was about 6 and a boy liked her that she didn’t like… but today my daughter likes a boy, she’s 10, he don’t like her back, her friend goes “he probably likes boys” and I immediately stepped in & told my daughter “someone not liking you doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you, but it also don’t mean there’s something wrong with him…do you like every single boy in your class? No? So don’t ever expect everyone to like you. It’s okay. We aren’t for everyone. Everyone has different personalities, different interests, it’s OKAY if a boy don’t like you.. don’t ever put him down to make you feel better, because I know it hurts but your going to have a real issue if you wonder why he don’t like you and what’s wrong with you or him… not everyone will like you as a friend or more than that and it’s OKAY!!!!! Girls do that all the time, don’t be like them” and she was like I know mom, I’m just glad we are still friends. I get people say that to try to make there friend feel better, and it’s okay as long as your joking and as long as your not teaching your kids that. You don’t say that.. even jokingly to your kids, because it sticks with them. Women get mad at men for doing the New York shit preach just did… but women do it even more… they just talk about it with eachother instead of shouting it at them.
Yea that was the worst advice she could give her. This girl is dependant on her partner for her self esteem, AND she also still regularly has sex with the man she broker up with. So she's good enough to f*ck, but not good enough to be with? That doesn't sound like you know your "worth" if you're letting a man hit it for free, with no relationship.
‘I think she just knows her worth.’ No. If she knew her worth and her worth is high, she’d be less concerned with her relationships failing, and she’d be less clingy and outright obsessed. That comes from low self esteem. I’ve learned that the hard way. You refuse to let that relationship go, because you’re terrified that you won’t be able to find a new, healthier relationship.
When I came to that part of the vid, I paused the video, gave a blank expression 😐 face Palmed and took a deep breath. And stood in scilence for five minutes wondering why God made me straight lmao 😂
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw bruh same! I legit paused the video and just had to ponder on that shit. Still makes no sense 😂 Made me cringe myself having me think about going to fuck my ex “to cope.”
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw nothing with being straight, you pointing the wrong way here🤣 there's alot of sane and wife material women out there, you just need to avoid crazy ones😂😂
I wish she would’ve told that girl that independence is key, stop fucking for validation and to get therapy. It should never hurt you to be alone, that’s when you’re supposed to be the most comfortable.
spot on, she needs help her behavior is not healthy for her or the people around her, but instead she encouraged her to continue.................I guess because women must stick together? A man admitting that stuff would rightly get torn down.
You know what really confirms her being crazy? Acknowledging she makes her guy drive her to work even though she has an own car, without any grain of shame on a public platform
I think every once in a while letting your spouse drive you to qork might be sweet, but it's completely inconvenient since you're just having to wait there without a car. You also have to wait for your spouse/partner to pick you up if you need to leave early (say, you're sick, or a family emergency).
@@Major003 Yup its just added inconvenience for both sides, seems completely selfish. Personally if i really love someone i wouldn't want to put unnecessary inconveniences on my partner, just seems like the wrong thing to do.
"When you're an unattractive man to them, is that your love looks like clinginess. When you're attractive, you're sweet." Props to Aba and Preach for calling out the hypocrisy lol. Game. Set. Match.
I think it's more the opposite. It's clingy either way but women are more willing to accept clingy behavior from men they are attracted to. Either way it's crossing boundaries when both guys do it, just cute ones can get away with it hints why they tend to have more problems with self control when they get rejected bc it's so rare. (Same for attractive women when they get rejected- they're not used to it)
@@treeve13 the point being, the same energy needs to be kept when the action and circumstances is the same. Women are way too willing to criminalize behavior based on looks and how it makes them feel. It's wrong to do that based on subjectivity and not objectivity. Keep. The. Same. Energy.
@@adrianchatman5734 In a perfect world, that’d make sense. But the majority people move off of their emotions & feelings. Not facts & logic. That’s why being good looking, for both men AND women, is an advantage. But character, skills, & a good personality is everlasting for those who aren’t “naturally” good looking. (I think ugly is only if you don’t know how to or choose not to take care of yourself with hygiene & wardrobe.)
@@adrianchatman5734 But humans are that way in general. Like if you are attractive and in a relationship with someone who is "uglier" than you, it is more acceptable for you to cheat, mistreat them or even leave them for somebody more attractive, even if they were never a bad partner. Socially people give them the right to do that based on how they look. A guy who a girl is attracted to can blow up her phone, show up at her work with flowers, or invite himself to one of her events just to "spend time with her," and people see it as sweet and chivalrous, when it's oftentimes just obsessive behaviour. But that applies to everything that people do. Prettier girls and more handsome men generally are able to get away with more things. I think that we all need to stop granting more value to humans based on looks entirely, but it's unlikely to ever happen.
@@adrianchatman5734 Like just think about how overweight people or people with not the best skin, not the ideal height or body type are scrutinized for talking about their types or what they are most attracted to. They are told by society that they aren't even allowed to have standards or preferences. Our culture gives more attractive people the upper hand, and I think the women who act on that simply display what they have been conditioned to, it is not like it is a unique phenomenon
She said it and the first response from the other woman was: "Wow! Powerful." That's where we are today, people. Self destructive behavior is 'powerful'. I mean who cares about stds, kids or abortion... no, instead of helping her address what the issues are, it's "powerful" that she's screwing around instead.
You'd be surprised how many people attacked me for openly criticizing Chloe Price from Life Is Strange. It's amazing and appalling how people simp so hard for a toxic, self-destructive, conceited, selfish, hypocritical narcissistic twat.
@@milton7763 Did you mean that in a literal way or a figurative way? Because I'm pretty certain that channels like the Cut and Jubilee just take whoever is walking in the streets of California at the time of searching.
@@thefruityking6722 Then they need to get fuck out of L.A. I dare Jubilee to cast people from southern Texas, Alabama, Arkansas(My point is for The Cut and Jubilee to get out of that delusional Hollywood Performative Activism fake wokeness bubble and come back down to earth with their heads out from their asses) perhaps. We'd roast the shit out of Jubilee.
I've been slapped out of nowhere by a girl i never talked to because she was mad that i wasn't paying attention to her, and been harassed by girl asking me if i was gay. People around me don't understand why i am single, when i see how annoying people are i rather live by myself
I dated a girl 10 times and no sex or kiss. I felt like a friend and told her I think we should just be friends and stop dating. She started saying to give her a chance. After 3 more dates I still felt like just a friend feeding someone. I broke up with her and she said that she never liked me to begin with and called me names. Yet she the one who was using me for free food and didn't like me the whole time, yet I am the bad person in her eyes.
I'll be straight up with you women are willing to break rules for alpha's and make rule's for guys that might deem as "weak" not saying you're weak, but def take this as a learning experience and don't let a girl take advantage of you in this regard. If you date a girl and after 2-3 dates and she isn't even trying to kiss you? Don't bother, leave her in the friendzone and move on.
The girl who said to the crazy eyed Asian that she "knows her worth", KNOWS that the asian girl is ducking herself up emotionally, and she, maniacally, enables it. I'm telling you
As someone who has BPD I agree that I shouldn't be in a relationship if I'm not in therapy the whole time. It wouldn't be good for either of us and I've expirienced that both ways. I've dated someone had untreated schizophrenia while I had untreated BPD. It's a recipe for disaster even with someone who isn't as mentally ill as I am. You have to be at least trying to manage that shit.
the rainbow girl stated she has Bipolar but I think the Asian crazy girl might have BPD or a variant of it, but of course even professionals do not diagnose over watching a short video like this, but some of the stuff she described sounds like what a lot of people with BPD go through with relationships.
@Fenrir Sadly yeah. I think society has put a lot of weight on the importance of relationships but you should really be focused more on yourself first before getting into one. Especially if you know you have a disorder that can affect someone you're dating.
Remember tho: They get mad at the F-boy but still stay with him, have their kids, or both. They choose these kinds of ppl then wonder why their lives turn to crap afterwards. Actions have consequences.
Bro I have BPD and when I'm off my meds... I'm INSANE. Moodswings ranging from rage to suicidal, popping off at any moment, fights etc.. BPD is no joke and if someone can't handle the emotional baggage, Aba is right, don't go for it. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong if you can't and it doesn't make you a weak person though, there's people that can and can't and either or at least you know yourself enough to decide if it's for you or not
I had to put a stop to that "yes queen" ish with my daughter. She is so impressionable and easy wants to do what she sees on tik tok. She ain't on social media for now. I am trying to show her to find true self.
Honestly I think girls tend to fall down the rabbit hole of group think far more easily than men do. Obviously young people and teenagers do it regardless of gender, but I just think a young girl is much more likely to listen to what a female authority figure will tell her thinking its wisdom. Best to delete tik tok of her phone entirely. That shit has no benefits to young people's brains end off.
No one is complaining, and I don't if your a parent. But you cant shelter kids. The more they are not suppose do something, they tend to want to do it more. I do let her on TH-cam, but it's also my job to make sure she is not doing anything she ain't suppose to. So no one was complaining I was simply stating the fact that I had to correct that certain situation. can't control what's on the internet but you can control what your kids watch (for the most part)
Yeah, no social media for my daughter. Zero benefits to it for a young girl. It was different when I was growing up. It's dangerous now. People derive their sense of self worth from it and constantly compare themselves, create unrealistic body goals. Don't get me started on the terrible messaging. No sir. When I was growing up we had MySpace, now you can argue with people across the globe who don't know what they are even talking about. Strange times.
"The Crazy One" isn't actually crazy but has a condition. "Clingy AF" is actually crazy. "Habitual Ghoster" is also crazy, judging by the things he says. Those are all self assesments, and most people can't or don't want to paint their true picture.
Having a condition doesn’t exclude you from being crazy. It’s interesting you say that since it makes me think of how funny it is how people are so quick to make fun of people they disagree with for being stupid but if you take someone who’s stupid enough to be diagnosed they somehow become a protected class
@@pettycrocker1715 To be specific, all habitual ghosters aren't narcissistic, but if they first dance around the subject about their past life of being a fuckboy like this guy did then yea, there's deeper issues going on. He prided himself on a rule system, which by default, places him in a hierarchy of dominance over his date. That's a very King all mighty attitude vs Aba's simple explanation of why someone might be a habitual ghoster. Hope that made sense.
My brother dated a girl who was diagnosed bipolar. He couldn’t handle it and they broke up amicably. She asked for him to be gone the full day while she packed her stuff up and left. He respectfully did so. He came home to his house blasting 85 degree heat in Michigan during the winter (windows and doors open), all of his dishes broken, all of his clothes cut up, his bedding and mattress slashed, his tv and computer crushed with a bat. Yep.
My brother had a baby with a crazy and on Christmas she didn't want to go to our family's. So I picked him and my niece up an 2 hrs later she called and accused him of cheating. We stayed for another hr and she called like 3 more times. I took him back home and we walked in the TV was smashed, bookcase all on the floor, all the furniture was flipped. I just laughed and said have fun with this one.
As a woman who has definitely taken rejection before, I can’t imagine trying to “convince” someone to stay with you. A lot of women twist it around or call it “ghosting” just to not feel the embarrassment or to avoid that feeling of “unwantedness” which, yes, of course you want to avoid that hurt, but that’s still no reason to act unhinged. Be an adult and move on. I literally just dealt with a pretty hurtful rejection last night, and what did I do? I just took my L and moved on with my night and day today. Men definitely do some shitty things, but this is something I do wish more women could buck up and just deal with because if you put yourself out there, it’s just going to happen, doesn’t matter what gender you are.
Had to do it to my ex. She was an emotional wreck. We would fight all the time. She kept threatening to kill her self. One day mid fight on the phone I just hung up and blocked her on everything. The relationship was already over. I dont know why I kept talking with her. I just felt bad and thought it would help. That was wrong of me. I was just prolonging her ability to move on.
I ended some relationships in the past on a good note, I told them what I didn’t like and where we were headed then I parted ways. To just block and let them wonder about you is psychotic and beyond immature.
@@moonknight4053I blocked someone after she hurt me so much by having sex with someone on vacation. We were non exclusive friends with benefits for 2 years but I had grown bigger feelings for her than I first thought. I blocked her to think on my own for 5 days. I was able to give my feelings a place in my head and life before I could talk to her again to resolve the issues that had come up. I agree blocking is immature, but if I hadn't done that I would've screamed and yelled, while I didn't have the right to do so. Please let me know where I might have been wrong.
I've dated someone with severe depression and someone who'd been raped multiple times and it is a lot of work. I didn't break it off because of the work mind you but my god it was like trying to talk about trans issues around a militant sjw in that you had to watch what you said with the depression one anything that might be taken as calling them lazy or weak would instantly start them crying and with the raped one that was even harder because if you express a desire for sex they get worried and if you don't express a desire for sex they think he doesn't want to have sex with someone who's been raped. So yeah you cannot win.
@@Alsshion That’s not hard G. Shake the spot and leave her alone.. Stop putting up with less than stellar behavior from these broads.. You got a put yourself and these women on high standards and if they’re not meeting those standards ..leave them be. If she’s taking away from your life more than she’s adding to it.. it’s time to find a new bitch
@@Alsshion The thing to remember is yes it is hard on you but obviously it's even harder on them so what I would say is that you want to make sure they have good support systems in place so that they have people around them to help them cope you can do this by encouraging them to spend time with their friends although you don't want to make it seem like you really want to hang out with her friends as she might think you fancy them. (I'm assuming you are a straight guy given your masculine username) You should also get her to spend a lot of time with her family and you might honestly have to suck it up if you don't like her family. Once you have made sure she has good support you will be in a good situation no matter what you decide to do. With her friends and family being more involved you won't always have to be the one to rescue her from her problems and if you end up ending the relationship then all these people will support her if she gets upset about it. If the person should be on meds as some people with depression do then make sure they are taking their meds and if they get defensive about it maybe start taking some vitamins and both of you can take them at the same time. If you've got someone who has been assaulted sexually in the past then it's probably worth letting them know that you are ready when they are but that you are willing to wait until that is the case. This was difficult for me because she was incapable of basically being alone with a man even when she picked me up she brought along 2 friends. If you break up with a person like that then that's one person who they were with that didn't try to do stuff to them without their consent so that's a positive even if they feel shit about it in the short term. Anyway bit of a rant there but I guess the summary is try to be empathetic.
@@Alsshion I mean that means that you cannot physically be there as a shoulder to cry on in person. That's a real bad situation to be in and it's a real pain to deal with so I'm just going to say good luck.
Honestly I've been rejected a good amount of times for wanting just engaging further (obviously not nearly as much as the average man has), I've taken it fine. I don't believe in forcing people to do something that they don't desire to do, I would want the same grace to put on me (that hasn't gone well either).
I think dating is stupid. If you're looking for a partner, I would urge you to look within your circles, friends, acquaintances. But, do remember that that route means having a serious relationship, not something you can just pick up and leave again.
4:10 The song Preach is singing is "Say it Ain't So" by the band Weezer. The song Abba got it confused with was "All the Small Things" by Blink-182. Weezer Chorus: Say it ain't so Your drug is a heartbreaker Say it ain't so My love is a life taker Blink-182 Chorus (Final): Say it ain't so, I will not go Turn the lights off, carry me home Keep your head still, I'll be your thrill The night will go on, my little windmill It's completely understandable as they were both released around the same time, with the former being released in '94 and the later in '99, and (especially to those outside the scene) are very similar bands with similar sounds. Both songs and bands are great but I just wanted to clear that up.
Preach is 200% correct. The wrong medication can do way more damage than good and side effects are crazy. My family suffers from side effects in meds bad. If there are side effects going to suffer from them. Like we are sensitive to it.
@@yingyang7448 I was prescribed Zoloft at 15 by a court ordered counselor because I got arrested as a minor with a knife for possession of illegal weapon as it was a butterfly knife. It was pretty new and it was very clear to not take it unless at least 18. It scared me pretty bad. First two weeks I was taking it I dropped my favorite comic book that I had for years and hit the spine on the floor ruining it. I can feel turmoil inside like it hurt me and all I could do was uncontrollably laugh like a psycho. After that it got dark quick. I stopped hanging out with my friends and family. I would come home from school and lock myself in my room as all I could do was fight myself with thinking about slaughtering my family. Legitimately murdering them. I never ever thought anything close to this ever before taking it. I stopped taking it and my mom would push me to take it like the counselor knew better. She pressed me for weeks and wouldn't stop till I told her the truth and I can't stop thinking about killing all of you when on it she never mentioned it again. I wish I had better parental guidance growing up. Scary to go through that basically alone in a single parent household. Could have easily went the other way and that's not me in the slightest.
The thing that sucks most about being borderline is that you basically have emotional blackouts and watch your life crumble apart. Especially if your parents never did shit to help
Been a while, but my friends always claimed that the easiest way for them to know who're the crazies in the room was that they just went to me and said "Ok, which of these girls do YOU feel attracted to?" and then they just went for literally everyone else, except those...
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD in the first grade, and this was a legit diagnose wires in the head and everything. As a child it was extremely difficult to control. But as an adult I have a better handling on the situation. Are used to take nine different medication‘s as a child, the side effects were no joke. Extreme weight gain potential liver damage etc. my last relationship the woman was crazy, ended up having two kids together. But she would lie and manipulate and use my bipolar disorder against me. Anytime I would stress my opinion on something I didn’t agree with or try to talk woofer she will say oh you’re having a manic episode it’s your bipolar you need to stop freaking out and yelling. And I wouldn’t even yell I don’t like that, especially since I grew up in a house where I would be yelled at. I might raise my voice every once in a while but never yell. I understand dealing with somebody that has bipolar and ADHD can be extremely difficult, but it takes a shitty person to use someone else’s disorder against them.
I think most of us men can immediately tell what a crazy woman is like only after we've graduated from having a very bad relationship with a woman that has a cluster b personality disorder. My ex is exactly that. It's scary how a lot of them have no qualms deliberately sabotaging relationships and still believe it's our fault
@@ritualsillustrated i actually didnt understand until I began studying and making sense of it after the abuse. Good thing that's what I came across at rock bottom. I didnt know about the attraction of a and b though. I'd better go look that up. Thanks
@@ritualsillustrated Richard Grannon actually. I only happened upon Sam Vaknin because Richard mentioned him a lot. Sam has a very academic view on narcissism. He himself has NPD, but he barey talks about the empathy for victims, which initially turned me off to his lectures when I was still hurting. But I do occasionally listen still
if you raise them right and are in their lives the chances of this happening might eb less but the influence of other people might make it a lot harder.
i see this shit with places like Calefornia, New York and Seattille. When im watching a show and the characters say some shit in the back of my mind i say " this is from XXXX state" and most of the time it turns out to be correct.
What you guys said at the 6:30 mark in regards to if your attractive its viewed as caring and loving, and if your ugly its viewed as clingy and creepy. Women will never ever ever admit to this as they know it makes them appear more shallow than men.
It's getting scary to approach women at this point. A wink and a smile, and they will blush if they find you attractive, but if they find you ugly, it's sudenly harassement and you are canceled. Allright, i'm exagerating but still, flirting feels a little like you are being held at gunpoint these days.
As someone with a number of autoimmune disorders, I tremendously appreciate what y'all said about being in a relationship with someone who has a physical disability or mental illness. Thanks, my dudes.
Yo Aba when talking about Bipolar and mood swings, you’re most likely thinking of Borderline Personality Disorder not Bipolar disorder. BPD is more of the “You’re my favorite person in the world and I am so attached to you that if you left I’d hurt myself. I’d also watch you 24/7 for any inkling that you don’t like me and run with it as betrayal.” Whereas Bipolar is characterized by manic episodes followed by depressive episodes. A manic episode is different than how you were describing it. It’s more “I am invincible and practically a god amongst humans so let’s party” if that makes sense.
This is 100% spot on. I just commented on how it's borderline instead of bipolar, but I hadn't laid out the differences like you. I also urge people to read up on Borderline, because a lot of people suffer from it, and you need to be able to recognise it. Another tidbit, if you're dating someone with ANY diagnosis, know that there are mental health organisations out there that can help you learn how to deal with these. If you discuss this with your partner, they should react grateful and happy, as it means you're learning how to properly engage with them. If it leads to anger, dissapointment, or any negative reaction, I recommend you pack and run away, since that's the biggest red flag ever.
Along with fears of abandonment there's also switching "You're my favorite person/I ffkkin hate you you're the worst" back and forth with little middle ground. Person is either all bad or perfect.
Slimmiest thing I ever did was the situation Aba explained. I knew it was over, I wasn't in it. She wasn't even happy and I knew it but she begged me to try and make it work and I couldn't tell her no. I ended up cheating the whole 4 months I remained and one day I broke and she knew it was coming. Sparing thier feelings is a lie. Just leave. No matter what they're saying, you're not doing them a favor. You building up your reasons to go
I think this is a lesson a few of us had to learn. My last few relationships, one went on WAY too long before I said "F it!" & kicked her out my apartment, the last one, I knew it was done, but waited for her to end it.
11:38 it annoys me a lot this behavior in women, like they're so blinded in feminism they can't see a women doing wrong, ffs be a voice of reason for a change
side note, if on the mobile phone when you pause the video its almost in line with the play button pretty cool, also aba with the last statment reminded me of the comedy central skit with meegan and brad by key and peele its pretty funny haha
Knew a guy who was stuck in a relationship because he loved the person, as a decent person, but had no romantic or sexual connection. They had planned to move from the UK to Australia, and a week before the move, he ghosted her. She did move, and I believe is doing well. He is doing well too.
@@canadianturtle7240 I would rather have neither, that is not a relationship that is an affair with a *hate* f***. I have had that before we did not hate each other eventually but we where not overly fond of each other, and it was not a *relationship* it was just a situation where just had a real strong sexual attraction. Good thing is we got to the stage where we understood each other and did not dislike each other but saw no long term future, and there was not petty vindictiveness and we went our different ways, no hard feelings.
@@MusMasi It's much more beneficial for your mental health to be attractive and hated than to be unattractive with an over-loving personality. When you're attractive, you can always rest knowing that you can start again with a different person. If you're ugly, imagine how you'd feel putting all that love into someone, and they don't love you back the same way. It would destroy my confidence.
Nah Clingy Af = CRAZY because they’re the type that’s turns into “ if i can’t have you ... no one else can” 🤨 Aba’s “emotional labor” is very triggering and powerful. Take heed. 🖤
You are absolutely right. There is this girl that dresses the same as the crazy/clingy one. We went on a field trip and I offered everyone fruit, I look at her and she stares into my soul. Found it very bizarre and weird as it was first encountering this.
Ion kno where these people from but a fuckboy is fighting words. None of these mfs would use that term at least in Atlanta since at least 1995. Im dead ass triggered cause if you hear it somebody getting punched, slapped, or shot. These mfs would learn real quick
Lmao yes! Men do that too and then it's like this whole thing where you have to kindly and diplomatically explain to them why you're not interested any more..🥴 I had to break up with my second bf 6 times. 6 TIMES. I feel you on this one Aba. 💯
Hahaha The dude that said something like 'I identify as a good partner.' made me bust out laughing. It has to be the most American thing I've ever heard.
Had a crazy ex once. For me I can see the crazy in only one way: there's this crazy intensity in their eyes even in the most mundane of conversations. That's a crazy giveaway for me
Once was engaged to a young woman that was a habitual liar/cheater, I broke it off with her and started dating someone else, but the ex continued trying to contact me. My current girlfriend got tired of it and wanted to have a meeting - all three of us. During the meeting my ex continually said that, "He's mine," and she'd, "...never let me go." By the end of the meeting my current gf told me that she couldn't compete with the crazy and felt that we'd be better off breaking up - despite me telling her I was already done with my ex and had been for awhile. Turned out that BOTH of them were crazy - the current gf had been poking holes in my condoms trying to get pregnant to trap me into marriage.
Dude it might be you. Perhaps you attract certain types of women aka crazy. Try going for different types of women and start buying condoms fresh from the store.
One of the things I tell my friends, is: "If you rely on logic to explain emotion, you'll doom yourself to fail". Perhaps not immediately, but eventually we will fail to connect the dots of logic from a perspective which we can't relate to.
@@gavinfarris7624 If humans were 100% logical, I would agree. However, mapping the human brain concisely is a concept which is currently out of modern reach.
OK guys let's be real "Clingy" is Bad but "Clingy AF" IS Crazy. AF adds lvls to that shit. Like "If you hang up before I want you to hang up, I'm never talking to you so you better keep talking" type of shit
My partner as OCD, anxiety and depression. Mental gymnastics that was going on without medication was insane. Told her she needed to go on them and now she has been better since. Still has her tendencies but more manageable now. She is lucky I am a patient and calm person. Couldn't imagine a lot of guys being able to cope with her outbursts.
Me and most other people out there have all 3 or at least 2 of those and don't explode on people and use that as an excuse. Sometimes it's just a personality thing.
I can vouch for Aba's experience dealing with people with BPD-like behaviour. All I know is, interacting with them for an extended period of time feels like scooping out your brain, throwing it in a blender, and pouring the mush back into your skull. Attempting to deal with them rationally will just give them an opportunity to suck you back into their chaos. Just leave and don't look back.
See it’s interesting, I was chatting to someone with BPD (and tbf they were on meds) but I found because I was dealing with intrusive thoughts, depression and anxiety at the time. When we spoke about what they were dealing with we were the only two people we met in our lives that shared a lot of those emotional experiences. And if you have high empathy you can acc rationalise certain people out of positions that have BPD, but you have to be so specific with your words because if you get it wrong it can set it all off
I love my friend with BPD but I would never want to be in a relationship with anyone with her disorder. I value peace in a partner & in my life & she is not that.
@@beewest5704 see this is totally fair, and I think a lot of people with BPD totally get that. But then there’s always those outliers where they’ll guilt you into it, or make you feel bad for not wanting to deal with it and that’s never okay. And honestly if you’re not able to deal with someone like that you’re doing them a favour by not going out with them because it will make their life a lot harder and it’ll make your life a lot more miserable and difficult
@@beewest5704 Good point. I think being friends affords you a certain level of emotional distance that can make it manageable. When you get too close, that's when the interpersonal turbulence sets in and your personal peace is threatened.
6:25 I'd say the most important part is whether they are charming and confident or insecure and scared when saying shit. It's not about what you say, it's about how you say it.
@@djjukeboxhero6491 yeah the asian girl giving off BPD, though she did not admit it, the big girl has BP and the blonde one has issues saying the asian girls behavior is good? like what? she obviously needs help. shes still seeing an ex, while sleeping around for validation, and is so afraid of being alone she makes them drive her to work when she has her own car.
I don’t approach because I know I’m not attractive enough to get most girls. Not that I’m ugly either. I’m often rated a 7 and once rated an 8 and the lowest was 6 but the sad thing is average women view average men like me as ugly. And I hate how they say all I need is confidence but than those same girls will be like “well yeah she rejected you because she’s too pretty for you” when the girl like a solid 7.5 and only looks like an 8 when she applies makeup on. It’s just a waste of time now. I wish I wasn’t born broke or average looking. But these are the cards I been dealt with
Oof... Aba's point near the 16 minute mark hits hard. I've been that girl who repeatedly tried to change his mind, even though he didn't want us together anymore. Held on way too long because I was afraid to be alone. I learned to respect when a person says no, even if I want to change their mind. Actions speak louder than words and knowing yourself is important before getting into a relationship.
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Nah the fish sauce bit isn't crazy. Getting back at those that hurt you is faid game. The fact that people hurt the most when you hit them in their finances is just easy payback.
Another crazy person.
Da fuck I just read?
you belong to psych ward !
Bro what is wrong with you
Revenge just makes u the same as the person that hurt u. If this is your situation then get back together cus u have a lot in common. Keep the bad apples in a separate basket, we don't need the crazies spreading their plague to others
ABA right on about the “ if you’re ugly you’re clingy / stalker” , “ if you’re good looking you’re sweet and caring” 100% correct
Not true. I had a clinger and she’s gorgeous.
@@CyborgNS6NL key word "she"
@@CyborgNS6NL Most definitely. It doesn't matter how attractive they are if she can't allow you to have time for yourself
@@xXJLNINJAXx man speaking factss
100% how women see men. Same words and actions interpreted two ways based on attractiveness.
Not surprising, the woman who admitted she was, herself, crazy interpreted irrational behavior in another woman as being "strength" and "knowing your worth."
Eh well, at least we she was honest, good to know
LMAO!!!!
And that’s how toxic female culture spreads.
99% of the time when women say "yas queen" it's in response to toxic behaviour sooo
@Fenrir True, we were lucky to wittness it
I saw some great dating advice today. “If they ghost you, respect the dead and move on” 😂😂
I "ghost" an ex by pretending they are dead.
@@djjukeboxhero6491 maybe they are inside now….
@@BlckToothGriN
You’s a clown, bruh. I love this thread. 😂
🤣😂🤣😂
"Gender Neutral Fuckboy" well now that I've heard that I'm gonna need to have a beer. I'm already fed up with the internet today
Not the only dumb word the wolves use badly. Now eating out a girl is “giving her head” doesn’t make any fucking sense
I still struggle to understand where they get all these commies, hippies and retards for these videos lmao
What happened to "slut"?
I think they meant the term could be used for all genders, despite having the word “boy” in it.
Gender Neitral Fuckboi is my new band name
I’m glad you guys brought that up, I’ve taught my daughter about stuff like this since she was about 6 and a boy liked her that she didn’t like… but today my daughter likes a boy, she’s 10, he don’t like her back, her friend goes “he probably likes boys” and I immediately stepped in & told my daughter “someone not liking you doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you, but it also don’t mean there’s something wrong with him…do you like every single boy in your class? No? So don’t ever expect everyone to like you. It’s okay. We aren’t for everyone. Everyone has different personalities, different interests, it’s OKAY if a boy don’t like you.. don’t ever put him down to make you feel better, because I know it hurts but your going to have a real issue if you wonder why he don’t like you and what’s wrong with you or him… not everyone will like you as a friend or more than that and it’s OKAY!!!!! Girls do that all the time, don’t be like them” and she was like I know mom, I’m just glad we are still friends.
I get people say that to try to make there friend feel better, and it’s okay as long as your joking and as long as your not teaching your kids that. You don’t say that.. even jokingly to your kids, because it sticks with them. Women get mad at men for doing the New York shit preach just did… but women do it even more… they just talk about it with eachother instead of shouting it at them.
"You know your own worth." There's always a fool around to enable bad behavior to justify their toxic world view.
I respect the profile pic sir
I hate hearing that in this context. Genuinely grinds my gears.
Makes me run up all over the wall
The crazy one, "I'm fucking to cope."
Also crazy one, " You know you own worth."
Yea that was the worst advice she could give her.
This girl is dependant on her partner for her self esteem, AND she also still regularly has sex with the man she broker up with.
So she's good enough to f*ck, but not good enough to be with? That doesn't sound like you know your "worth" if you're letting a man hit it for free, with no relationship.
I am so glad that Aba and Preach watch these videos for us. Cause I cannot handle watching the cringe fest alone 😆
Me too. The Cut and Jubilee are a big uncomfortable pill that's difficult to swallow and Aba and Preach are a glass of water to ease the cringe.
Literally same now that I think of it 🤣
Facts lol
Reply Two days ?!🤔
@@Strength_In_Wisdom Supa sus
Fun fact, crazy people don't know they are crazy. So the girl who claims to be clingy af, doesn't know she is crazy.
how can she when shes got a whole lot of people like that blonde who say that not only is her behavior not crazy, its in fact good behavior?
That’s crazy
@Fenrir ACTUALY REALITY: The Losers are the evil crazy ones
Most people are crazy they keep doing the same thing day after day, year after year and expect change = insanity
@@MusMasi I couldn't stand that blonde woman personally.
‘I think she just knows her worth.’
No. If she knew her worth and her worth is high, she’d be less concerned with her relationships failing, and she’d be less clingy and outright obsessed. That comes from low self esteem. I’ve learned that the hard way. You refuse to let that relationship go, because you’re terrified that you won’t be able to find a new, healthier relationship.
Exactly
You done preached the gospel. Amen. 🙏🏿
Sooo...maybe she does know her worth?
@@gavinfarris7624: Good point 🤓
I learned that the hard way too, but its very much possible to change if you really want to
Self admitted crazy girl: Are you single?
Crazy eyes: Fucking to cope.
Self admitted crazy girl: Powerful.
Welcome to dating 2022.
When I came to that part of the vid, I paused the video, gave a blank expression 😐 face Palmed and took a deep breath. And stood in scilence for five minutes wondering why God made me straight lmao 😂
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw bruh same! I legit paused the video and just had to ponder on that shit. Still makes no sense 😂
Made me cringe myself having me think about going to fuck my ex “to cope.”
Thats one hell of a first date though if you play your quarters right :D She'll probably sleep with any guy that gives her attention.
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw nothing with being straight, you pointing the wrong way here🤣 there's alot of sane and wife material women out there, you just need to avoid crazy ones😂😂
Yeah no
"Yeah. That's how I feel about women on online dating."
Man, you never lie.
lol
I wish she would’ve told that girl that independence is key, stop fucking for validation and to get therapy. It should never hurt you to be alone, that’s when you’re supposed to be the most comfortable.
spot on, she needs help her behavior is not healthy for her or the people around her, but instead she encouraged her to continue.................I guess because women must stick together? A man admitting that stuff would rightly get torn down.
I feel bad for that girl
@@MusMasi a man who would say say something like that in this day of age will get cancelled and lose his job
Yea but alot off us made that mistake. Maby not if you had a loving family. Uderwise its confusing as fuck
@@Margriet101 💯 Agee, I was one of them and I wish someone had given me that advice, and the lady just missed a good opportunity.
You know what really confirms her being crazy? Acknowledging she makes her guy drive her to work even though she has an own car, without any grain of shame on a public platform
She "made" her guy drive her to work.
She's now "fu¢king to cope" remember?
I think every once in a while letting your spouse drive you to qork might be sweet, but it's completely inconvenient since you're just having to wait there without a car. You also have to wait for your spouse/partner to pick you up if you need to leave early (say, you're sick, or a family emergency).
@@Major003 Yup its just added inconvenience for both sides, seems completely selfish. Personally if i really love someone i wouldn't want to put unnecessary inconveniences on my partner, just seems like the wrong thing to do.
If she said I let em drive me me to work cuz I can’t drive I would’ve said no worries understandable but she didn’t say that so “worries”.
@@Major003 why would you assume her beta male bf would just drop her off? He has to pick her up to drop her off at the bulls place.
"When you're an unattractive man to them, is that your love looks like clinginess. When you're attractive, you're sweet."
Props to Aba and Preach for calling out the hypocrisy lol. Game. Set. Match.
I think it's more the opposite. It's clingy either way but women are more willing to accept clingy behavior from men they are attracted to.
Either way it's crossing boundaries when both guys do it, just cute ones can get away with it hints why they tend to have more problems with self control when they get rejected bc it's so rare. (Same for attractive women when they get rejected- they're not used to it)
@@treeve13 the point being, the same energy needs to be kept when the action and circumstances is the same. Women are way too willing to criminalize behavior based on looks and how it makes them feel. It's wrong to do that based on subjectivity and not objectivity. Keep. The. Same. Energy.
@@adrianchatman5734
In a perfect world, that’d make sense. But the majority people move off of their emotions & feelings. Not facts & logic. That’s why being good looking, for both men AND women, is an advantage.
But character, skills, & a good personality is everlasting for those who aren’t “naturally” good looking. (I think ugly is only if you don’t know how to or choose not to take care of yourself with hygiene & wardrobe.)
@@adrianchatman5734 But humans are that way in general. Like if you are attractive and in a relationship with someone who is "uglier" than you, it is more acceptable for you to cheat, mistreat them or even leave them for somebody more attractive, even if they were never a bad partner. Socially people give them the right to do that based on how they look. A guy who a girl is attracted to can blow up her phone, show up at her work with flowers, or invite himself to one of her events just to "spend time with her," and people see it as sweet and chivalrous, when it's oftentimes just obsessive behaviour.
But that applies to everything that people do. Prettier girls and more handsome men generally are able to get away with more things. I think that we all need to stop granting more value to humans based on looks entirely, but it's unlikely to ever happen.
@@adrianchatman5734 Like just think about how overweight people or people with not the best skin, not the ideal height or body type are scrutinized for talking about their types or what they are most attracted to. They are told by society that they aren't even allowed to have standards or preferences.
Our culture gives more attractive people the upper hand, and I think the women who act on that simply display what they have been conditioned to, it is not like it is a unique phenomenon
She said it and the first response from the other woman was: "Wow! Powerful." That's where we are today, people. Self destructive behavior is 'powerful'. I mean who cares about stds, kids or abortion... no, instead of helping her address what the issues are, it's "powerful" that she's screwing around instead.
You'd be surprised how many people attacked me for openly criticizing Chloe Price from Life Is Strange. It's amazing and appalling how people simp so hard for a toxic, self-destructive, conceited, selfish, hypocritical narcissistic twat.
Yes seems like people have forgotten STI’s and STDs exist.. The statistics are insane now.
These people managed to confirm every stereotype with the first impression you'd have of them without hesitation. Beautiful.
That’s because they are actors, with assigned roles
@@milton7763 You have proof?
@@milton7763 Did you mean that in a literal way or a figurative way? Because I'm pretty certain that channels like the Cut and Jubilee just take whoever is walking in the streets of California at the time of searching.
@@thefruityking6722 Then they need to get fuck out of L.A. I dare Jubilee to cast people from southern Texas, Alabama, Arkansas(My point is for The Cut and Jubilee to get out of that delusional Hollywood Performative Activism fake wokeness bubble and come back down to earth with their heads out from their asses) perhaps. We'd roast the shit out of Jubilee.
They call it "physiognomy check" for a reason
I've been slapped out of nowhere by a girl i never talked to because she was mad that i wasn't paying attention to her, and been harassed by girl asking me if i was gay.
People around me don't understand why i am single, when i see how annoying people are i rather live by myself
You should’ve pressed charges on that bish
Lol they love calling you gay when you don’t give them the attention they feel entitled too
Wanna just say I've had similar experiences... I hope you have more positive interactions with people
Bruh, people are weird as fuck with their insecurities. This girl slapped you cause you didn’t pay attention to her? Bruh, that’s assault.
Chicks ask me all the time if I'm gay just because I'm not throwing my dick at them. It's disgusting and straight up a waste of time.
I swear Jubilee thinks they are transformational and inspirational but they are just pushing out the most cringe possible
Cut and jubilee are the same studios??
Oh, they know what they're doing. They're selling it like what you say though.
@@casanovasparks89 No they aren't. CUT is Seattle, Jubilee is in California.
@@K.TH-cam2 pretty much the same thing
Lmao!
I dated a girl 10 times and no sex or kiss. I felt like a friend and told her I think we should just be friends and stop dating. She started saying to give her a chance. After 3 more dates I still felt like just a friend feeding someone. I broke up with her and she said that she never liked me to begin with and called me names. Yet she the one who was using me for free food and didn't like me the whole time, yet I am the bad person in her eyes.
I'll be straight up with you women are willing to break rules for alpha's and make rule's for guys that might deem as "weak" not saying you're weak, but def take this as a learning experience and don't let a girl take advantage of you in this regard. If you date a girl and after 2-3 dates and she isn't even trying to kiss you? Don't bother, leave her in the friendzone and move on.
10 times across how long? If we’ve been thru 10 legit full dates and we haven’t figured out what we are by that time, I’d move on.
“Just a friend feeding someone.”
That’s rough buddy.
The girl who said to the crazy eyed Asian that she "knows her worth", KNOWS that the asian girl is ducking herself up emotionally, and she, maniacally, enables it. I'm telling you
As someone who has BPD I agree that I shouldn't be in a relationship if I'm not in therapy the whole time. It wouldn't be good for either of us and I've expirienced that both ways. I've dated someone had untreated schizophrenia while I had untreated BPD. It's a recipe for disaster even with someone who isn't as mentally ill as I am. You have to be at least trying to manage that shit.
the rainbow girl stated she has Bipolar but I think the Asian crazy girl might have BPD or a variant of it, but of course even professionals do not diagnose over watching a short video like this, but some of the stuff she described sounds like what a lot of people with BPD go through with relationships.
@@MusMasi Yeah I caught that. She has Bipolar (bp) not borderline (bpd) Aba was definitely describing bpd though. He just mixed it up
@Fenrir Sadly yeah. I think society has put a lot of weight on the importance of relationships but you should really be focused more on yourself first before getting into one. Especially if you know you have a disorder that can affect someone you're dating.
@@illona2537 if you are broken a relationship is not likely to fix you.
@Fenrir I can't answer that one, that's something you'd have to figure out. No one knows you better than you.
This is so cringey to watch that I started twitching - if it wasn’t for Preach’s laugh, I would be dead
Lol.
The magical healing powers of ✨Preach’s Laugh✨
That chick crazy. They guessed right!
Lmao 😂
Casper the ghost almost killed me.
Remember tho:
They get mad at the F-boy but still stay with him, have their kids, or both. They choose these kinds of ppl then wonder why their lives turn to crap afterwards. Actions have consequences.
And then exepct another man to come in and be everything he wasn't for her and those kids
@@user-um5dz9gt4o precisely. No man is obligated to stay with them or deal with their own poor choices they made in the past.
Then ask for government handouts
🎯
On the flip side, F Boys pop up like an STD flair
Bro I have BPD and when I'm off my meds... I'm INSANE. Moodswings ranging from rage to suicidal, popping off at any moment, fights etc.. BPD is no joke and if someone can't handle the emotional baggage, Aba is right, don't go for it. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong if you can't and it doesn't make you a weak person though, there's people that can and can't and either or at least you know yourself enough to decide if it's for you or not
"Not really dating but...fucking to cope"
I need to market and mass produce tshirts with THAT QUOTE on them!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I had to put a stop to that "yes queen" ish with my daughter. She is so impressionable and easy wants to do what she sees on tik tok. She ain't on social media for now. I am trying to show her to find true self.
Lol you let your kids on tictok, youtube, or any of that trash? You can't let them be on that trash then complain that they are picking it up.
Honestly I think girls tend to fall down the rabbit hole of group think far more easily than men do. Obviously young people and teenagers do it regardless of gender, but I just think a young girl is much more likely to listen to what a female authority figure will tell her thinking its wisdom. Best to delete tik tok of her phone entirely. That shit has no benefits to young people's brains end off.
No one is complaining, and I don't if your a parent. But you cant shelter kids. The more they are not suppose do something, they tend to want to do it more. I do let her on TH-cam, but it's also my job to make sure she is not doing anything she ain't suppose to. So no one was complaining I was simply stating the fact that I had to correct that certain situation. can't control what's on the internet but you can control what your kids watch (for the most part)
You’re doing great ma’am respect you you!
Yeah, no social media for my daughter. Zero benefits to it for a young girl. It was different when I was growing up. It's dangerous now. People derive their sense of self worth from it and constantly compare themselves, create unrealistic body goals. Don't get me started on the terrible messaging. No sir. When I was growing up we had MySpace, now you can argue with people across the globe who don't know what they are even talking about. Strange times.
"The Crazy One" isn't actually crazy but has a condition.
"Clingy AF" is actually crazy.
"Habitual Ghoster" is also crazy, judging by the things he says.
Those are all self assesments, and most people can't or don't want to paint their true picture.
What did he say?
Crazy one = courageous one
Clingy af = traumatized one
Habitual ghoster = narcissistic one
How is the habitual ghoster narcissistic? 🤔
Having a condition doesn’t exclude you from being crazy. It’s interesting you say that since it makes me think of how funny it is how people are so quick to make fun of people they disagree with for being stupid but if you take someone who’s stupid enough to be diagnosed they somehow become a protected class
@@pettycrocker1715 To be specific, all habitual ghosters aren't narcissistic, but if they first dance around the subject about their past life of being a fuckboy like this guy did then yea, there's deeper issues going on. He prided himself on a rule system, which by default, places him in a hierarchy of dominance over his date.
That's a very King all mighty attitude vs Aba's simple explanation of why someone might be a habitual ghoster. Hope that made sense.
The Habitual Ghoster was so good I didn't even notice him until they labeled him.
The professional ghoster 😆
amazing with his hair, but I guess if they have white walls hes harder to notice, i do not think anyone can get whiter than that.
My brother dated a girl who was diagnosed bipolar. He couldn’t handle it and they broke up amicably. She asked for him to be gone the full day while she packed her stuff up and left. He respectfully did so. He came home to his house blasting 85 degree heat in Michigan during the winter (windows and doors open), all of his dishes broken, all of his clothes cut up, his bedding and mattress slashed, his tv and computer crushed with a bat. Yep.
Did he press charges
@@SirDerpofCamelot even if he did nothing happened. That’s a woman’s accountability
My brother had a baby with a crazy and on Christmas she didn't want to go to our family's. So I picked him and my niece up an 2 hrs later she called and accused him of cheating. We stayed for another hr and she called like 3 more times. I took him back home and we walked in the TV was smashed, bookcase all on the floor, all the furniture was flipped. I just laughed and said have fun with this one.
@@jessehardin8500 is he still alive
@@joshjonson2368 yes he is still alive
As a woman who has definitely taken rejection before, I can’t imagine trying to “convince” someone to stay with you. A lot of women twist it around or call it “ghosting” just to not feel the embarrassment or to avoid that feeling of “unwantedness” which, yes, of course you want to avoid that hurt, but that’s still no reason to act unhinged. Be an adult and move on. I literally just dealt with a pretty hurtful rejection last night, and what did I do? I just took my L and moved on with my night and day today. Men definitely do some shitty things, but this is something I do wish more women could buck up and just deal with because if you put yourself out there, it’s just going to happen, doesn’t matter what gender you are.
Ghosting someone for their own good, Aba is a hero. Lol
Had to do it to my ex. She was an emotional wreck. We would fight all the time. She kept threatening to kill her self. One day mid fight on the phone I just hung up and blocked her on everything. The relationship was already over. I dont know why I kept talking with her. I just felt bad and thought it would help. That was wrong of me. I was just prolonging her ability to move on.
I ended some relationships in the past on a good note, I told them what I didn’t like and where we were headed then I parted ways. To just block and let them wonder about you is psychotic and beyond immature.
@@moonknight4053 I feel that blocking someone isn't immature, it's a way to protect yourself.
@@moonknight4053I blocked someone after she hurt me so much by having sex with someone on vacation. We were non exclusive friends with benefits for 2 years but I had grown bigger feelings for her than I first thought. I blocked her to think on my own for 5 days. I was able to give my feelings a place in my head and life before I could talk to her again to resolve the issues that had come up. I agree blocking is immature, but if I hadn't done that I would've screamed and yelled, while I didn't have the right to do so. Please let me know where I might have been wrong.
I've dated someone with severe depression and someone who'd been raped multiple times and it is a lot of work. I didn't break it off because of the work mind you but my god it was like trying to talk about trans issues around a militant sjw in that you had to watch what you said with the depression one anything that might be taken as calling them lazy or weak would instantly start them crying and with the raped one that was even harder because if you express a desire for sex they get worried and if you don't express a desire for sex they think he doesn't want to have sex with someone who's been raped. So yeah you cannot win.
You are a patient man to deal with that baggage
Fuuuuuck that!! Who wants to deal with all that? It’s not your job to fix or heal these broads.
@@Alsshion That’s not hard G. Shake the spot and leave her alone.. Stop putting up with less than stellar behavior from these broads.. You got a put yourself and these women on high standards and if they’re not meeting those standards ..leave them be. If she’s taking away from your life more than she’s adding to it.. it’s time to find a new bitch
@@Alsshion The thing to remember is yes it is hard on you but obviously it's even harder on them so what I would say is that you want to make sure they have good support systems in place so that they have people around them to help them cope you can do this by encouraging them to spend time with their friends although you don't want to make it seem like you really want to hang out with her friends as she might think you fancy them. (I'm assuming you are a straight guy given your masculine username) You should also get her to spend a lot of time with her family and you might honestly have to suck it up if you don't like her family. Once you have made sure she has good support you will be in a good situation no matter what you decide to do. With her friends and family being more involved you won't always have to be the one to rescue her from her problems and if you end up ending the relationship then all these people will support her if she gets upset about it. If the person should be on meds as some people with depression do then make sure they are taking their meds and if they get defensive about it maybe start taking some vitamins and both of you can take them at the same time. If you've got someone who has been assaulted sexually in the past then it's probably worth letting them know that you are ready when they are but that you are willing to wait until that is the case. This was difficult for me because she was incapable of basically being alone with a man even when she picked me up she brought along 2 friends. If you break up with a person like that then that's one person who they were with that didn't try to do stuff to them without their consent so that's a positive even if they feel shit about it in the short term. Anyway bit of a rant there but I guess the summary is try to be empathetic.
@@Alsshion I mean that means that you cannot physically be there as a shoulder to cry on in person. That's a real bad situation to be in and it's a real pain to deal with so I'm just going to say good luck.
Bullring in the nose is an automatic hell no.
its to stop her rooting up the pasture, she looks like the freaky type :P
I love how you guys get the vibe right all the time, like "thats what im saying" is always on my mind when I watch yall, keep it up gs
8:11 That guy's hair looks like a half empty Pepsi bottle
Honestly I've been rejected a good amount of times for wanting just engaging further (obviously not nearly as much as the average man has), I've taken it fine. I don't believe in forcing people to do something that they don't desire to do, I would want the same grace to put on me (that hasn't gone well either).
That's a great mindset! Hope you find a fulfilling connection, friend
@@krumblemumble8628 thank you, appreciate it!
Best mindset: "Relationships are like farts. If you have to force them, it's probably going to be a mess"
@@Ash_Wen-li Marriage is like a Tornado: In the beginning, there's a lot of blowing and sucking, then you lose your house.
@@TiborMiklosAE And if you’re unlucky you catch something along the way.
The more I watch these types of videos the more I feel like dating is HUGE hassle....
It is.
It is ur right
Dating is the lucky ones' sport. It's all about praying you find someone without a glaring, gigantic, waving red flag and then calling it quits.
I think dating is stupid. If you're looking for a partner, I would urge you to look within your circles, friends, acquaintances. But, do remember that that route means having a serious relationship, not something you can just pick up and leave again.
seems like it in north america, other parts of the world people are more chill.
That "scuse me honey, *tongue click* I think I am." line had me rolling.
I love these guys.
4:10 The song Preach is singing is "Say it Ain't So" by the band Weezer. The song Abba got it confused with was "All the Small Things" by Blink-182.
Weezer Chorus:
Say it ain't so
Your drug is a heartbreaker
Say it ain't so
My love is a life taker
Blink-182 Chorus (Final):
Say it ain't so, I will not go
Turn the lights off, carry me home
Keep your head still, I'll be your thrill
The night will go on, my little windmill
It's completely understandable as they were both released around the same time, with the former being released in '94 and the later in '99, and (especially to those outside the scene) are very similar bands with similar sounds. Both songs and bands are great but I just wanted to clear that up.
9:40 "The eyes, chico. They never lie."
Preach is 200% correct. The wrong medication can do way more damage than good and side effects are crazy. My family suffers from side effects in meds bad. If there are side effects going to suffer from them. Like we are sensitive to it.
Can you go into detail in how bad the side effects get?
@@yingyang7448 Lived with my uncle and he stopped taking his meds and he had scary outbursts,stopped eating and drinking
@@payyourrentbabes
Yikes...
Friggin Prozac with the hallucinations and neurological seizures.
@@yingyang7448 I was prescribed Zoloft at 15 by a court ordered counselor because I got arrested as a minor with a knife for possession of illegal weapon as it was a butterfly knife. It was pretty new and it was very clear to not take it unless at least 18. It scared me pretty bad. First two weeks I was taking it I dropped my favorite comic book that I had for years and hit the spine on the floor ruining it. I can feel turmoil inside like it hurt me and all I could do was uncontrollably laugh like a psycho. After that it got dark quick. I stopped hanging out with my friends and family. I would come home from school and lock myself in my room as all I could do was fight myself with thinking about slaughtering my family. Legitimately murdering them. I never ever thought anything close to this ever before taking it. I stopped taking it and my mom would push me to take it like the counselor knew better. She pressed me for weeks and wouldn't stop till I told her the truth and I can't stop thinking about killing all of you when on it she never mentioned it again. I wish I had better parental guidance growing up. Scary to go through that basically alone in a single parent household. Could have easily went the other way and that's not me in the slightest.
I just noticed that the pause button lines up with the youtube play button. The attention to detail is impeccable.
The thing that sucks most about being borderline is that you basically have emotional blackouts and watch your life crumble apart. Especially if your parents never did shit to help
When did you realize you were borderline?
@@jackhawk8997 like 2 years ago
@@ferdtheterd3897 How did you find out?
@@jackhawk8997 by wondering wtf is wrong with me and doing research lmao
@Rectum Abdominus What should I have done? Not gotten borderline? Lmfao you people have no empathy
Been a while, but my friends always claimed that the easiest way for them to know who're the crazies in the room was that they just went to me and said "Ok, which of these girls do YOU feel attracted to?" and then they just went for literally everyone else, except those...
Living on the edge
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD in the first grade, and this was a legit diagnose wires in the head and everything. As a child it was extremely difficult to control. But as an adult I have a better handling on the situation. Are used to take nine different medication‘s as a child, the side effects were no joke. Extreme weight gain potential liver damage etc.
my last relationship the woman was crazy, ended up having two kids together. But she would lie and manipulate and use my bipolar disorder against me. Anytime I would stress my opinion on something I didn’t agree with or try to talk woofer she will say oh you’re having a manic episode it’s your bipolar you need to stop freaking out and yelling. And I wouldn’t even yell I don’t like that, especially since I grew up in a house where I would be yelled at. I might raise my voice every once in a while but never yell. I understand dealing with somebody that has bipolar and ADHD can be extremely difficult, but it takes a shitty person to use someone else’s disorder against them.
I think most of us men can immediately tell what a crazy woman is like only after we've graduated from having a very bad relationship with a woman that has a cluster b personality disorder. My ex is exactly that. It's scary how a lot of them have no qualms deliberately sabotaging relationships and still believe it's our fault
Because no one around them will hold them accountable
@@mohamedbarrie7970 I know women and men like that, very possessive and insecure.
@@ritualsillustrated i actually didnt understand until I began studying and making sense of it after the abuse. Good thing that's what I came across at rock bottom. I didnt know about the attraction of a and b though. I'd better go look that up. Thanks
The f ing worse
@@ritualsillustrated Richard Grannon actually. I only happened upon Sam Vaknin because Richard mentioned him a lot. Sam has a very academic view on narcissism. He himself has NPD, but he barey talks about the empathy for victims, which initially turned me off to his lectures when I was still hurting. But I do occasionally listen still
Goddamn kids are getting more and more fucking weird these days
It’s starting to make me rethink wanting a family if my kids end up like this
if you raise them right and are in their lives the chances of this happening might eb less but the influence of other people might make it a lot harder.
@@MusMasi That's the number one thing I'm worried about if I ever have kids. Other messed up kids influencing my kids.
Just be like the rest of us…don’t have kids
i see this shit with places like Calefornia, New York and Seattille. When im watching a show and the characters say some shit in the back of my mind i say " this is from XXXX state" and most of the time it turns out to be correct.
Pick your partner wisely..
What you guys said at the 6:30 mark in regards to if your attractive its viewed as caring and loving, and if your ugly its viewed as clingy and creepy. Women will never ever ever admit to this as they know it makes them appear more shallow than men.
They already know they are shallower. Their lists prove this
I'm curious if women in the comments would admit to it.
It's getting scary to approach women at this point. A wink and a smile, and they will blush if they find you attractive, but if they find you ugly, it's sudenly harassement and you are canceled. Allright, i'm exagerating but still, flirting feels a little like you are being held at gunpoint these days.
@@Owen-sx4jj but they will never admit it.
@@yingyang7448 Dating apps already proved it to most men so they might as well admit to it.
As someone with a number of autoimmune disorders, I tremendously appreciate what y'all said about being in a relationship with someone who has a physical disability or mental illness. Thanks, my dudes.
Yo Aba when talking about Bipolar and mood swings, you’re most likely thinking of Borderline Personality Disorder not Bipolar disorder. BPD is more of the “You’re my favorite person in the world and I am so attached to you that if you left I’d hurt myself. I’d also watch you 24/7 for any inkling that you don’t like me and run with it as betrayal.” Whereas Bipolar is characterized by manic episodes followed by depressive episodes. A manic episode is different than how you were describing it. It’s more “I am invincible and practically a god amongst humans so let’s party” if that makes sense.
This is 100% spot on. I just commented on how it's borderline instead of bipolar, but I hadn't laid out the differences like you.
I also urge people to read up on Borderline, because a lot of people suffer from it, and you need to be able to recognise it.
Another tidbit, if you're dating someone with ANY diagnosis, know that there are mental health organisations out there that can help you learn how to deal with these. If you discuss this with your partner, they should react grateful and happy, as it means you're learning how to properly engage with them. If it leads to anger, dissapointment, or any negative reaction, I recommend you pack and run away, since that's the biggest red flag ever.
Along with fears of abandonment there's also switching "You're my favorite person/I ffkkin hate you you're the worst" back and forth with little middle ground. Person is either all bad or perfect.
@@EricK-tb2dn they also lash out at anyone else who are close to and try and isolate you, many BPD sufferers do that. Also distortion campaigns.
He said he was once seeing someone with Borderline, didn't mention Bipolarity. Listen to it again.
@@BobBaked Could you give me a time stamp? He says borderline undiagnosed not borderline personality in the part I’m referencing. Mine is 12:22 ish.
Slimmiest thing I ever did was the situation Aba explained. I knew it was over, I wasn't in it. She wasn't even happy and I knew it but she begged me to try and make it work and I couldn't tell her no. I ended up cheating the whole 4 months I remained and one day I broke and she knew it was coming. Sparing thier feelings is a lie. Just leave. No matter what they're saying, you're not doing them a favor. You building up your reasons to go
I think this is a lesson a few of us had to learn. My last few relationships, one went on WAY too long before I said "F it!" & kicked her out my apartment, the last one, I knew it was done, but waited for her to end it.
Cheating makes it a million times worse for them. So if staying pushes you to that you shouldn’t be with that person in anyway what so ever
You cheated you're disgusting
If you tried to spare her emotions you shouldn’t have cheated. You were just a coward.
You pretty much explained my last relationship. I didn't know how to describe it until I read this. Thank you
11:38 it annoys me a lot this behavior in women, like they're so blinded in feminism they can't see a women doing wrong, ffs be a voice of reason for a change
Female solipsism and delusion
Bruh I’m dying cause the comment about the clingy af girl giving Head with no self respect I can attest to this.🤣
side note, if on the mobile phone when you pause the video its almost in line with the play button pretty cool, also aba with the last statment reminded me of the comedy central skit with meegan and brad by key and peele its pretty funny haha
The fked up part is there are ppl out there trying to normalize these behaviors
Knew a guy who was stuck in a relationship because he loved the person, as a decent person, but had no romantic or sexual connection. They had planned to move from the UK to Australia, and a week before the move, he ghosted her. She did move, and I believe is doing well. He is doing well too.
That's tragic. I'd rather be hated in a relationship while being sexually attractive, rather than being the ugly person who's loving.
This is so unclear yet interesting.
@@canadianturtle7240
What?
@@canadianturtle7240 I would rather have neither, that is not a relationship that is an affair with a *hate* f***. I have had that before we did not hate each other eventually but we where not overly fond of each other, and it was not a *relationship* it was just a situation where just had a real strong sexual attraction. Good thing is we got to the stage where we understood each other and did not dislike each other but saw no long term future, and there was not petty vindictiveness and we went our different ways, no hard feelings.
@@MusMasi It's much more beneficial for your mental health to be attractive and hated than to be unattractive with an over-loving personality. When you're attractive, you can always rest knowing that you can start again with a different person. If you're ugly, imagine how you'd feel putting all that love into someone, and they don't love you back the same way. It would destroy my confidence.
Nah Clingy Af = CRAZY because they’re the type that’s turns into “ if i can’t have you ... no one else can” 🤨
Aba’s “emotional labor” is very triggering and powerful. Take heed. 🖤
I mean, the bush incident really shook him up bad!
@@Farhan_049 Don't clown him like that.
i like that . habitual ghoster man is just a person learning how to navigate the waters of life and not get used up and played out ... LESSON!!!
“You’re all that, and a bag of chips.” Man that’s wholesome.
Lmao I always tell my guy friends not to fuck with crazy if they're not willing to deal with the consequences
You don't tell your gal friends that too?
Very true. Crazy strange always makes you regret it at some point. Lol
@@michaelwaninger3155 I do, context of the video tho is men dating crazy women
You are absolutely right. There is this girl that dresses the same as the crazy/clingy one. We went on a field trip and I offered everyone fruit, I look at her and she stares into my soul. Found it very bizarre and weird as it was first encountering this.
don't be a fool wrap your tool, and these days get video evidence of consent and forms and ID as well.
You know the fact that I immediately spotted the f boy was laughable 😂😂😂 I swear hear aba and preach beat boxing that second
Cuz u a 304 that's why
@@sashavenka ayo where that come from
Ion kno where these people from but a fuckboy is fighting words. None of these mfs would use that term at least in Atlanta since at least 1995. Im dead ass triggered cause if you hear it somebody getting punched, slapped, or shot. These mfs would learn real quick
"i understand the black struggle, I can't breathe-" that fucking SENT ME
Ironically it's the girl who labels a man who's loving and a good listener "clingy af." They don't see good behavior positively.
she’s also the self professed “crazy” one
"so it's like self defence mechanisms" 😅😅😅
she said, "fuqqing to cope"
......dyam dat's real.
"Say it ain't so, I will not go" is Blink 182 😂
Ya'll sure is not outfield
Y’all trollin it’s weezer…
@@bustercaps sure, Say it Ain’t So is Weezer. « Say it ain’t so, I will not go (turn the light off, carry me home) » is Blink 182 😋
Lmao yes! Men do that too and then it's like this whole thing where you have to kindly and diplomatically explain to them why you're not interested any more..🥴
I had to break up with my second bf 6 times. 6 TIMES.
I feel you on this one Aba. 💯
Thank you for acknowledging how bad the meds can be, thats not often spoken about
6:13 didn’t expect blackpills from that channel ! 😂
Hahaha The dude that said something like 'I identify as a good partner.' made me bust out laughing. It has to be the most American thing I've ever heard.
lmaooo he was such a generic guy 😂😂 lmao not too much, not too little, like just an all around okay dude 😂😂😂
Had a crazy ex once.
For me I can see the crazy in only one way: there's this crazy intensity in their eyes even in the most mundane of conversations. That's a crazy giveaway for me
Ok Damaged man
@@ziyamalik1666 why do you got to be like that?
@@YukiA816 he prolly has a case of crazy eyes
They're just making these for Aba and Preach, aren't they?
Who knows
7:26 omg ABA you are Awesome 👏 😎
Cracking me TF up!😅
Don’t save her……… she don’t wanna b save
Once was engaged to a young woman that was a habitual liar/cheater, I broke it off with her and started dating someone else, but the ex continued trying to contact me. My current girlfriend got tired of it and wanted to have a meeting - all three of us. During the meeting my ex continually said that, "He's mine," and she'd, "...never let me go." By the end of the meeting my current gf told me that she couldn't compete with the crazy and felt that we'd be better off breaking up - despite me telling her I was already done with my ex and had been for awhile.
Turned out that BOTH of them were crazy - the current gf had been poking holes in my condoms trying to get pregnant to trap me into marriage.
How did you find out about the poking holes?
@@NiklasAV They were lubricated and the outside of the package felt oily - not just one, ALL of them...
Dudeee seems like you DUDGED A BULLET 😅
Why does this sound like a lifetime movie
Dude it might be you. Perhaps you attract certain types of women aka crazy. Try going for different types of women and start buying condoms fresh from the store.
‘Head with no self-respect’ was the statement that killed me. I’m done, LMAO!
"Mascara running down her face" 😅😅😅
Women love playing games and then wonder why they always getting played.
-Sun Tzu probably
No, but men do that too.
The habitual ghoster is blending with the background
"Licorice at a state fair."
I'm gonna remember that one.
One of the things I tell my friends, is: "If you rely on logic to explain emotion, you'll doom yourself to fail". Perhaps not immediately, but eventually we will fail to connect the dots of logic from a perspective which we can't relate to.
Interesting thought
Emotion is impossible to navigate without logic. It's like being a sail boat in the ocean without a rudder.
@@gavinfarris7624 If humans were 100% logical, I would agree. However, mapping the human brain concisely is a concept which is currently out of modern reach.
OK guys let's be real "Clingy" is Bad but "Clingy AF" IS Crazy.
AF adds lvls to that shit.
Like "If you hang up before I want you to hang up, I'm never talking to you so you better keep talking" type of shit
My partner as OCD, anxiety and depression. Mental gymnastics that was going on without medication was insane. Told her she needed to go on them and now she has been better since. Still has her tendencies but more manageable now. She is lucky I am a patient and calm person. Couldn't imagine a lot of guys being able to cope with her outbursts.
depends on her personality when she's sane
Me and most other people out there have all 3 or at least 2 of those and don't explode on people and use that as an excuse.
Sometimes it's just a personality thing.
Mad respect on your healthy dose of "copium." For real though you're a good man. :)
Thank you for your service sir!
Yeah I would’ve left king time ago
@@paul-ye3ut the ocd/anxiety doesn't really have sane days. They are always a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs.
🤣😂🤣😂🤣y’all be having me crack up first phuck gal then sloptop with no self respect 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤦🏽♀️
15:10 he looking like kratos...
“The ghost of sparta” 😂
dude's Rock Lee shirt is fire
“Cause who would love.. someone that looks like you”
😂😂😂
I need a Preach bobblehead or something that says "THAT'S YOOOOUUU NIGGAAAAA" 1:24
He needs to pop his head out the side of a door and shout that out.
Lmao you guys are soooo on point and I'm living for it
Knowing this is shot in Seattle makes so much sense for all the episodes from this show...
I can vouch for Aba's experience dealing with people with BPD-like behaviour. All I know is, interacting with them for an extended period of time feels like scooping out your brain, throwing it in a blender, and pouring the mush back into your skull. Attempting to deal with them rationally will just give them an opportunity to suck you back into their chaos. Just leave and don't look back.
See it’s interesting, I was chatting to someone with BPD (and tbf they were on meds) but I found because I was dealing with intrusive thoughts, depression and anxiety at the time. When we spoke about what they were dealing with we were the only two people we met in our lives that shared a lot of those emotional experiences. And if you have high empathy you can acc rationalise certain people out of positions that have BPD, but you have to be so specific with your words because if you get it wrong it can set it all off
That just sounds like women in general.
I love my friend with BPD but I would never want to be in a relationship with anyone with her disorder. I value peace in a partner & in my life & she is not that.
@@beewest5704 see this is totally fair, and I think a lot of people with BPD totally get that. But then there’s always those outliers where they’ll guilt you into it, or make you feel bad for not wanting to deal with it and that’s never okay. And honestly if you’re not able to deal with someone like that you’re doing them a favour by not going out with them because it will make their life a lot harder and it’ll make your life a lot more miserable and difficult
@@beewest5704 Good point. I think being friends affords you a certain level of emotional distance that can make it manageable. When you get too close, that's when the interpersonal turbulence sets in and your personal peace is threatened.
19:48 That discord notification sounded like that person is still messaging u essays.
Crazy ones are never gonna label themselves as the crazy ones but the clingy afs and the hopeless romantics will label themselves as the crazy ones
6:25 I'd say the most important part is whether they are charming and confident or insecure and scared when saying shit. It's not about what you say, it's about how you say it.
THAT"S CRAZYYYY idc it's not "empowerment" it's crazyy what
Can we really blame men for not approaching when this is what they have to deal with?
4 real...only one attractive girl and she has BPD
@@djjukeboxhero6491 yeah the asian girl giving off BPD, though she did not admit it, the big girl has BP and the blonde one has issues saying the asian girls behavior is good? like what? she obviously needs help. shes still seeing an ex, while sleeping around for validation, and is so afraid of being alone she makes them drive her to work when she has her own car.
I don’t approach because I know I’m not attractive enough to get most girls. Not that I’m ugly either. I’m often rated a 7 and once rated an 8 and the lowest was 6 but the sad thing is average women view average men like me as ugly. And I hate how they say all I need is confidence but than those same girls will be like “well yeah she rejected you because she’s too pretty for you” when the girl like a solid 7.5 and only looks like an 8 when she applies makeup on. It’s just a waste of time now. I wish I wasn’t born broke or average looking. But these are the cards I been dealt with
7:24 Aba's "f*king to cope" impersonation is too good
ok, so i know they are a geeky band(but also my favorite band) and the fact preach just started singing it made my frickin' day. love the content.
When they said that's a song that make white people wild out. There's nothing I can agree more with.
Weezer is the shit...my brothers are cholos from LA and they like Weezer too.
teenage dirtbag baby. they are funny and fun, but I like a lot of different music for different times.
Oof... Aba's point near the 16 minute mark hits hard. I've been that girl who repeatedly tried to change his mind, even though he didn't want us together anymore. Held on way too long because I was afraid to be alone.
I learned to respect when a person says no, even if I want to change their mind. Actions speak louder than words and knowing yourself is important before getting into a relationship.
2:25 Jamaican call them yamhead gal/ batta-ears gal