EMBRACE REJECTION... Creepy Dude GETS DESTROYED By Crush.
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The fact that she said he doesn't take no for an answer means this isn't the first time she's had to reject him.
Sherlock Holmes here.
they pointed that out like five times in the video 😭
I bet she never directly said no, but beat around the bush or sent mixed messages. She is not his friend, so why do they still have contact? She enabled the behavior somehow. I wouldn't have even agreed to go on this 'Cut' show if I was her because he wouldn't be able to contact me.
Nah.. she's keeping him around for the ego boost. She won't flat out say no because she knows that the free validation goes away as well. My girl ain't stupid.
@fook mi Absolutely. There are plenty of women who don't want to hurt feelings, appear like the good nice girl they project to the world, but you have some guys that don't get social clues; you just have to be direct with them. Most guys in this area are socially awkward, doing that hover thing because they like you and stuff, but they don't know that they're making you uncomfortable. Just tell them, and they'll quickly do what needs to be done to stop that, ie., they'll go away and not bother you anymore. Of course, every now and then, you get the chud that doesn't want to acknowledge social clues because they're not into you like the socially awkward dude -- they just want to get into you. But, I feel like they're easier to spot because they tend to be bolder but still very much clueless about you particularly.
I was so uncomfortable when he immediately began piling on the complements that I forgot what “cringe”meant. I could only think of the phrase “vicarious embarrassment”
I like that!!
Anyone else believe creeps should be bullied and beaten for harassing women? Only good looking and polite people should be allowed. If you have a neckbeards your time is up and you will be hunted /s
I'm going to start saying that now😆
Stealing
I call it secondhand embarrassment 😂
Here's something I wish I knew earlier. Don't chase people that don't want you, don't love people that don't love you. Go after people that like you. It's really that simple and it saves you a lot of heart aches
yup! exactly
This ^
Idk about that one chief, I dated a girl that wanted me, and she ended up breaking my heart
So no one for some people
@@mrkrabs6412 You missed the point
It’s not even that he’s overweight or he’s wearing a tshirt, it’s that his beard is unkempt and his aura is giving depressed and desperate
You forgot clingy and obsessive. I don't give a fuck about the weight thing, that's easier to control. Some women like big boned guys. What matters is how a person acts. And the way this dude refuses to take 'no' is a HUGE red flag.
Nah, physical appearance plays a big part.
Nah he looks gross and unhealthy
He looks unhygienic he doesn’t work out he doesn’t keep him self looking nice he’s kind of weird and obsessed and desperate
"I look like if League if Legends was a person. Why dont I have a waifu?"
I agree with Aba bruv. You should NEVER crush on a friends significant other. Thinking someone looks good and crushing on em is a totally different thing ✌🏾
cant really help a crush imo
I mean it’s pretty hard to stop yourself but eventually over time you’d just forget about her
Who got Saniya IG?
@@Blueorange22 yeah you can't control the feelings you have for someone but what you can do is choose rather to act upon those feelings.
Honestly, to add to this, if you and your best friend are truly best friends, you shouldn’t even be talking to the same girl, cuz it’s not that hard to know when someone’s crushing on a girl so just be a good person sometimes
I've been in the same shoes as creepy guy. It's insane how blind you are to your actions when it's you but looking at the shit from the outside... that's not alarm bells that's a fucking air raid siren. But you know what, it's been a fair few years since then and I've learned from my mistakes. Hopefully this guy develops his self-awareness too
Gained a bit of self awareness at 19, quickly realized how fucking creepy, needy, and boring I was (still boring tho). As much as it sucks to realize how woefully disappointing you are, that awareness is the best gift God ever gave me. And I'm agnostic.
I got the feeling, guys like this a so isolated to women, if any women is just basic friendly to them, it means the whole world and their directly fall in love
@@fuwahaschi Yes! Spot on, dude
@@fuwahaschi yup, that's how it was for me in HS. Basically if you said my shoes looked nice I had a crush on you lol. I'm fortunate to have broken out of that tho, and now my best friend is a woman who I can be myself with and there's no romantic feelings involved.
If he was more attractive & she was into him it be different. He'd also have more confidence. He just needs to fix his bread & get nicer clothes. & work on confidence. Losing weight would help a lot. But I would told him don't go on video.
That guy has DEFINITELY tried before. She said his toxic trait is not taking no for an answer.....wow.... this makes me feel like she needs a restraining order...cuz he's getting rejected on camera and he can't take no for an answer....
Yup women have been killed over a no
@@rookholgado2966 sadly, some dudes/psycho simps are incapable of rejection and need counseling
@@o.gparamount3099 It's that single mom upbringing.
@@chumajamesnxele106 fuck outta here it has nothing to do with that.
Bro, exactly my thought.
He probably only set up this whole telling her on camera thing to pressure her into giving a different answer
Man he's a sad case. He poorly groomed, aint got no sense of style, you can tell he aint touched no weights or a treadmill. And he brought all this on himself. I truly hope this experience helped him to genuinely improve himself and gain real confidence
Hahahahahahaha
Ahem man he's a sad case but at least he's not Skippy
@@Verbatimorgish who's Skippy?
@@vSilverXXProduction ah yes, skippy. Skippy is a fella on TH-cam that i DON'T feel sorry for. Aba and Preach have covered him in the past.
I met a guy like this my first semester in college 6 years ago. He was extremely overweight, did not pick up on my blatant discomfort (I was trying to politely show I wasn't interested without outright saying it, other people picked up on it though). The class would start at 9:00 and he ate a king size chocolate bar and drank a large grape soda for breakfast almost every class, his hygiene was terrible and his clothes were either practically falling off of him or too small.There was always two seats between us and I would catch him staring at me in my periphery (there was nowhere else to sit, he would have followed me anyway). When I had to work with him in class, I had to repeat what I said constantly because he would stare at me but not actually listen. One day, he sat in the chair right next to me, his extra skin and fat hanging off his body would jiggle and touch me everytime he moved. One day he stood at the door waiting for me so he could open the door for me. This is when he made his first and only attempt at a move. My mom was waiting outside and I was fast walking through the lobby to get away from him, he nearly sprinted to catch up, nearly flashing his a*s to the other students in the process and told me he wanted to "hang-out" and "study." I put my b*tch voice on and said "I don't hang out, alone, with guys I don't know well and my parents will not let me anyway even if I wanted to." Unphased, he then asked "how old are you" to which I said "I'm eighteen." He then stopped walking, said "oh, I'm 25," and walked away. I never saw him again, he dropped the class right after that. When your 25 and that bad at reading an woman's blatant discomfort, and you don't understand the concept of listening without oogling, self-awareness, showering and especially shampooing, don't be surprised when you gain a reputation for being a creep. You can't expect to get any when your that d*mn dumb and gross. Good hygiene, self-control, and self-awareness are some of the top traits I value In a person.
I have an overweight friend that would get obsessed with any girl that was nice to him. I tried to help my guy lose weight but he wouldn’t take care of himself. Dude is miserable still and I feel like it’s his fault
unless he has health conditions it is his fault, but hopefully he gets over it.
Cause it's his fault. Had a roommate like that. Doesn't shower, doesn't wash his clothes, food and takeout all over his room, overweight... he tries to hit on every women who talks to him, and he confesses his kinks to them early into the interaction. You can tell that his mom did everything for him, and now he's desperate for a gf to do everything his mom did for him.
@@stevennguyen4993 man that makes me shudder, must of sucked to be his roommate, let alone his GF. Unless she don't mind the BO and Chores.
@@stevennguyen4993 Ngl. A man who just hits on all women and speaks about se/xual subjects with them (outside of a mature discussion between partners)... I mean, come on.
We all know what he wants from her, and it isn't a wife.
It's a se/x toy.
Does he happen to be Skippy?
It’s on the dude tbh. Taking a shower, wearing clean cool clothes, getting a haircut and hitting the gym will make you feel on top of the world. Your confidence will shoot through the roof and your whole demeanor will change. Girls take note of that. Nobody will take you if you don’t even take yourself seriously. Even if you’re an unattractive dude, hygiene and confidence will turn you from a 3 to a 5
You're right, although one thing that amuses me though is how these women might have these crazy high standards and don't even look all that great themselves.. for example the girl talking about she likes a man with strong shoulders and a nice back, so she's implying the guy has to workout and be fit, but I guarantee she has never hit the gym a day in her life. So, in other words women want to constantly date up while most guys will settle for scraps.
@@victorsoto4821 while that’s all true, that’s just the way it goes. there’s plenty advantages to being a guy. i wouldn’t trade given the chance.
A 3 to a 5 lmao
@@Stephanie-dx1eo haha exactly , almost same shit. Regardless what he does to “improve his looks” it won’t be much of a difference
@@victorsoto4821 facts but also there’s certain Dudes who without working out , they have those attributes
People that don't take no for an answer is crazy frustrating. I had to literally block a guy like that because simply responding politely to his messages was a green flag for him and completely negated all the times I made it clear I wasn't interested. You can't give guys (or women) like that an inch at all because they'll keep pushing boundaries.
facts thats one of my pet peeves.
I've had it happen with women, but yet I get called out on it by people how why I won't give the girl a chance etc. It's a funny double standard..It's like men are suppose to settle for a woman who show's interest but women are constantly pressured to get something better.
@@victorsoto4821 please tell me you have cut those people out of your life. Those people are not good for your sanity.
@@victorsoto4821 it's not a double standard. Anyone can be creepy lmfao
My GF dealt with this. She was hooking up with a guy for awhile. They never actually were serious, but he kept screwing with her. So she cut him off, we started dating. He would message her every day on IG. She would never respond but he kept it up. Then one day he said he was grabbing a drink across the street from her place. It got creepy as hell. I told her she may want to firmly say no, this is not okay. He finally got the hint after she fully told him off.
Lmao I died when she said shoulders and strong back while he looks like a melted ice cream trying to re freeze
That’s sad.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I am dying!!!!!
😂😂😂😂
when you’re a physically unattractive male it’s very likely that you’ll be perceived as creepy. however, most guys can significantly improve their looks if they hit the gym, lose some weight, take a shower and wash their clothes. i don’t feel bad for the “creepy” guy cause he doesn’t seem to be even trying. while attractiveness is not everything, it is surely important when you’re trying ti start a relationship with somebody.
facts
Exactly, no woman has ever seen a random guy on the street and said, "look at the morals on that guy."
You aren't digging his stretched out collar on his T Shirt?
@@z1_Rome 🤣🤣
This level of obsession would be creepy if he was a gym bro too
I’d be way too shy to reveal my feelings for a crush in such a public space.
Many of these Jubilees people are actors.
@@joynelbonet194 that’s a plausible theory
Good that you don't.
He probably thought it was building up between them and it'd be a flood of romanticism for everyone to see; that she'd finally let the act go and declare her love for him. This shit happens at weddings when some guy objects and everyone including the bride looks at him like "what the fuck are you talking about"
@@joynelbonet194 I doubt it.
You know the insults is real when Aba switches languages.
🤣🤣🤣 omg so true! This needs to be voted to the top. Actually kinda true in Preachs' case too🤣 when he starts the French creole!!
You look like the darkskin version of that nigga in the video.
Hm.
should i skip school for youtube video making? i making good stuff but i need much time to making. maybe replace school with making videos. i have two girlfriends. thanks for your opinion dear ri
@@Elhastezy888 Most of the time it's French Canadian or more precisely Québecois (a bit different from Manitoba French), which is also some kind of French creole when spoken in full force I must admit.
The fact that he can’t take no for an answer is just plain creepy. If she doesn’t like you, then move on. Stop chasing after someone who isn’t attracted to you. It’s a huge waste of time.
You have no respect for men feminazi femcel
@@michikatsutsugikuni4096 I do. But chasing after someone who doesn't like you is a huge waste of time, whether you're a man or woman.
And that's the thing, the amount of time wasted on a person that will never want you...just so much wasted in being hard headed
100% agreed. Leads to nothing but unhappiness
It's just sad and pathetic. He knows she doesn't want him but still tries to put her on the spot, hoping for the slight chance she may recipitate his feelings for her.
I bet you she doesn't even want to be friends with him now and cut off all contact with the weirdo.
She was genuinely flattered by the first compliment. However, once my man drifted off to Dreamland she got creeped out real fast. I know it can be tough if a guy is not used to it, but you cannot let yourself get like that about women.
LOOOOL you can but he clearlyyyy knows she’s not interested and he keeps pursuing her.. a woman loves a man that’s all about her but it needs to be a man that she’s also all about. Lmaoooo it’s so easy and doesn’t need to be over complicated at all
@Harry Johnson how much more direct can she get she literally said no means no to him and shared that he’s the one who keeps trying these incels don’t take no for an answer
I don't think that was genuine flattery
@@dani3168 100%%%%%%
She wasnt flattered at all, u can see how uncomfortable she actually was
A lot of people romanticize not taking no as an answer. It’s mad creepy and no one has to want you back! This video is much needed
Bruh anytime I’m rejected I never wanna talk to that female again and never will I don’t know how these guys have to be told no more than once 🤦🏾♂️😂
@@shawnsouth327 it’s like the enjoy defeat!
That is what most of these "alpha red pill" channels teach.
@@thepositionalplay5307 Wtf you be watching 😂
@@BackBeater I watch Aba and Preach make videos on these people and that's how I know 😂 and mostly on those dumbass scammers fresh and fit.
I think it's underrated how much more attractive men will appear to women, if they just did some superficial changes: good hygiene, a clean shaven, if you have a beard make sure to keep it trim/lined up, a good haircut, wearing something better than a t-shirt and jeans for a date, etc...
As a former slob myself, I only realized all this in my early twenties, but better late than never lol
I approve of this statement
Thank you. The way you present yourself matters.
Just cause he's fat and ugly doesn't mean he doesn't have good hygiene
This doesn’t apply to the average man who already does this and still gets nothing. Maybe the problem is the women? No, always blame the man.
add a good workout program to that and you're good to go.
He's been told no several times, but he's hoping that in front of a camera, she'll feel so awkward about it she'll say yes to him. It's clear that she's told him no several times. He is awfully aware that she doesn't like him, he's just obsessed with her, and is trying EVERY POSSIBLE SCENARIO to force her to say yes.
I knew a girl like him before, it's disgusting.
Am I the only one that gets hyped and happy when the feelings are very clearly mutual? lol, its dope seeing that
You've gotta have that balance. It's annoying when they aren't interested. Or overly invested and sending you 20+ messages in a row while you take a piss.
Sameee it's so nice to see
I don’t cuz never had the chance to feel it, tho im 22 so is not late by any means:3
Guy crushed girl "Oh, yyeah that sweet......no"
Girl Crushes guy " YouCrushMeLet'sGo"
Guy will always go along to at least smash for a while. Girl will outright reject
You never know if it's the guy getting crushed on
Wow it’s the first time I’ve met someone with the same name
I gotta agree with Aba here...crushing on your best friends girl is sus. Every time a girl I had a crush on gets into a relationship with a friend a switch turns on and I feel no sexual attraction anymore. You can control it
I mean you can still find them attractive but it'd just be weird to still actually WANT them.
It's almost like dating your friend's sibling at that point.
don't even open that door in the first place. tells you how dry it was for him
Bro code violation
He might have crush on his friend's girl because that is the only non family member female he has some sort of relationship with.
Facts bro, I had a similar situation earlier this year when my friends girlfriend broke up with him and then started talking to me. I was bamboozled like a mf but then I quickly nipped that in the bud. Good thing I did too because she got back together with him, imagine if I took the sus road and got with her.. Fuck that
"Currencysexual" 💀I'm dead. You're totally right btw. We don't need freaking labels for every preference. It's so annoying, and it's such a turnoff. I'm antilabelsexual. That's what I am.
😭😂😂😂
Agreed my community has two many damn letters and numbers 🤣.
@@itsDjjayyArt huh...xD
i mean its not that hard. why we cant now tell things by the name lmao👀😬
but i guess this was meant as a jokexD
Antilabelsexual 🤣🤣🤣
But you just did what you said annoys and turns you off 🥴
Goddamn I have zero "game" when it comes to women but even I know when to shut the hell up.
😂
hahahahaha
@@SkullkeeperVSK facts🙌🏻
Well you’re already a little bit in there with that attitude. Knowing when to shut the hell up is huuuugge!!! So good for you
Same
Respect to her for not leading him on, feel bad for her, I feel bad for him aswell as I can't imagine when you cant read even read the most basic and obvious social cues like rejection
She did lead him on wtf. She knew him for a year and a half and clearly wasn’t into him. Brought him on the show for validation only
@@RK-yu7mp I would've assumed he brought her on the show though
I don't think he cant read the signs. I think he's choosing to misinterpret them. There was a king who went to an oracle before going to war. The oracle said if he goes to war a great empire will fall. He understood it as he would win and his enemy would fall. He lost because he chose the interpretation he wanted. Same as this guy.
Yep.
I feel so bad for him, literally heartbreaking. I've noticed how social media is really putting guys like him down but the most average women think they deserve Ryan Reynolds. Just because they get hits on Tinder everyone thinks they're the shyt. Im sorry but if he lost weight, hit the gym she isn't any "better" looking than him. If they asked me to rate her attractiveness I'd take a drink. Effin hate how we now think its okay to just put men down. And trust me Im no "man lover".
"What are my toxic traits?"
"Not taking no for an answer" 😬
That man should have said "Cut! You're right, I don't know why I wasted your time with this. Have a nice life."
he'd need self awareness for that one.
@@truthprevails4386 if he had self awareness both of them would not of even been there.
This guy is gonna end up on IncelTV
@@TheTranceCartel hopefully not, seems like a lot of dudes in the comments section are on their way.
@@MusMasi I wonder why Hasan Piker isn’t though….doesn’t PeRsOnALiTy play a huge part?
He set himself up for failure on that one …
Stg! Dude's built like The Michelin Man
Look, I'm going to be real with you. It is okay to be a good guy. Girls don't like assholes, they just go for charismatic and confident men who happen to be assholes. There is nothing wrong with being a good guy but you need to have more to your personality other than being "Nice".
In terms of liking the bad guys, it might be real to some extent but thats mostly for girls who are 17 and have watched too many movies where the girl changes the "bad boy".
PREACH!!
Yes this is true, yes Ofc there’s girls who just genuinely enjoy messing wit the dicks but more often than not girls want a nice dude who isn’t an asshole to them. The problem is these self proclaimed “nice dudes” are only nice to get pussy not because it’s just inherent in their nature and girls pick up on that. Which is why a lot of these “nice guys” don’t get pussy. u think u can neglect every other aspect in life, just being a nice dude won’t always get u pussy u gotta take care of yourself and be interesting and not creepy lol
I get stereotype as a bad boy because I'm very outwardly aggressive but I never show aggression towards females.....now if u know I'm with a female and a girl decides to flirt with me I take that as them disrespecting my girl and I won't tolerate it but I'm not always mean when I let female down only if they can't take no for an answer
All good guys are week
@@shaolinmaster8583 No, nice guys are week.
My great great grandfather was said to be a good, respectful man but he was a British soldier in World War I and a boxer in the 1920s. He was a hard worker, a good man who respected his wife and those around him. I don't think a WWI veteran who was a boxer could be considered weak.
Nice guys on the other hand let everyone walk over them, they have no dignity, they are afraid of confrontation and to stand up for what they believe is right.
My wife while laughing herself stupid, "That's every internet page definition of 'the Niceguy', get that man a Mountain Dew and a Blizzard gift card."
Lmfao
I don't think it's funny. it fucking hurts
I’m dead, not a blizzard gift card 🤦🏽♂️😂😂😂
I'm not even a nice guy, but I'll take a Mountain Dew lol
Pretty harsh but some facts said
My takeaways:
Bystander embarrassment is a real thing.
“Pause” after a questionable statement is absolutely necessary.
That one girl is fine AF.
@@quesoqueso7598 the one BOTH Aba & Preach said was hott🔥
nah she's not
@@ko-Daegu yeah she is just because you're not attracted to her doesn't change the fact that she's pretty
@@ko-Daegu she may not be YOUR preference but if you ask most men they'll say she's fine
Bystander embarrassment. That’s the perfect phrase for it. My the middle of back and shoulders always tense when I see people on tv/online doing something cringe.
“Rate me from a scale of 1-10” *takes shot*
You can see the exact moment Aba lost his eyesight.😂
It was the slow silent reach that had me howling
Mans got bodied
Idk why anyone would go on shows like this. It ends in humiliation 90% of the time, and it's there for the world to see
Same here and it'll always be there in some capacity
People like fame and some people get off on humiliation.
Watching her say "take no for an answer" made me cringe so hard. I felt bad for BOTH of them. That made me just feel....bad
I dont feel bad for him, I get the vibe that he asked for her to be invited on the show after being turned down multiple times.
So he was on the show specifically hoping she'd feel obligated to be nice to him and reciprocate. Thats manipulative asf.
@@rasmachris94 he reminds me of Hal from the movie Megamind
I have a feeling that if you reverse the roles, you wouldn't feel bad about a woman being overly persistent.
@@Nok112 thank you for your honesty. However, I have to add that in either case the pursuer who can't take no for an answer deserve no sympathy because they are actively making someone else on comfortable and purposely disrespecting their boundaries.
@@rasmachris94 I considered a theory similar to that. That he thought that by bringing her on there, that she was going to be demanded to accept him since it was being seen by many people. And he also might have considered that it would make her look bad if she rejected him.
Aba's cringe face is absolutely one of the best things about this channel.
It's exactly how I feel on the inside
nah its the arabic insult and spit for me
Its creepy Aba with the law and order music for me
He said FROGGY STYLE 😂🤣😅
@@mzmendy I was just going to write that but you did it for me.
It's odd to want someone after your friend dates them, especially for a year and a half.
When there are ZERO options before during & after & long after ..... its starts to make more sense 👍🏻
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[edit] it's easy to make a joke BUT I'm in full agreement w/o.p.
Exactly and there’s ppl commenting “you can’t help a crush” WTF YES YOU CAN 🤣 how you even look at ya homie girl like that.
My friends have what I would consider attractive wives. Would I ever be interested in them romantically? Absolutely not. It’s just… I don’t know… gross! I have too much personal pride to put myself in that kind of situation. I rather be alone then deal with that kind of situation.
This sad sack really needs to find someone to help with his self esteem. Thinking your buddy’s girlfriend is cute/attractive is one thing. Secretly having a crush on them for 1.5 years is a whole nother problem. Get some help youngin and build your self esteem up. Don’t put yourself in these positions where you know you’re going to be taking L’s.
Dude is sus AF.
@@quesoqueso7598 still though. Your supposed friend dated her. Do you really want to be sloppy seconds? It’s clear she’s not into him like that, yet he wasted a year and a half pinning for not even bread crumbs.
I feel for Vanessa. I had a good friend from high school try to make moves on me a few times and I eventually cut him off entirely. I had to explicitly tell him never to contact me again because he clearly couldn't and/or wouldn't accept 'No.'
what happened to him now
@@MrBrandonStarprobably hunting rabbits in alaska
@@mrtrollnator123 maybe
The most guaranteed way to be unhappy is to chase after someone who doesn’t want you. Even IF you end up with them, it’ll be a terrible one-sided relationship.
Yea just look at Will Smith
@@lenny8911 LOOOOOOOOOOOOL oh man truer words
@@lenny8911 💯🎯
Yeppppppppp
True, I learnt it the hard way
Bruh that dude never had a chance. Why would you ever go there and get humiliated like that. I hope it’s staged.
Hopefully the money was good
Some people are just really disillusioned-men AND women. They only want to see/hear what they want. To hell with reality.🤷🏾
He likes to humiliate himself , it’s self harm he needs to work on himself
@SOUL SEEKER I agree, I hope Mohamed watches this and goes hardcore at the gym. I'd love to see an update video of him 1 year from now, showing his weight loss/ muscle gain progress.
I felt awkward just watching and I don't know why people would put themselves in that kind of position. If you're gonna do it, do it privately, why put yourself in a public setting and increase your chances of getting publicly humiliated?
Dude should hit the gym and put on some gains, at least he'll live a healthy longer life, and he'll probably get a better girl in the process.
People are stupid and lack self awareness. What makes sense to you, never crosses the mind of these types of people
That's exactly why I never do those match maker/ speed dating events. Odds are most of the girls at the end of the night aren't going to not want most of the guys anyway. So why even bother?
Wouldn't all the girls he get be low value. And most lv are willing to trade.
exercise would be a start, but he also needs to work on his social awareness, no means no, no matter how you look, and believe it or not, fit guys do get no as an answer, and some do not know how to handle it, and over pursue like this guy did here, let alone crushing on someone who dated a good friend for a year and a half. Plus grooming and hygiene is also another thing.
They get money for it
It's nice to see men actually acknowledge the position women are in when someone has an unrequited crush on them, and they have already repeatedly either directly told them they're not interested, or dropped a ton of obvious hints.
I had that kind of situation in high school, and I'm a very honest and direct person. I told him multiple times I wasn't interested. I dated two other guys throughout our friendship. He still continued to make me incredibly uncomfortable and act like I was leaving him on or unfairly "friend zoning" him or something.
Unfortunately, as a young woman, I wasn't wise enough to realize that I didn't do anything wrong. I felt guilty for, like, literally years, only to eventually wise up and realize I was just living my life and I didn't do anything wrong at all.
I'm really glad other people have learned that lesson faster than I did. It's so unfair. It's why I really hate the term "friendzone," because sometimes it's a girl leading a guy on, but a lot of the time it's just a girl minding her own business and a guy not taking no for an answer or not picking up on extremely obvious signs.
Fk the signs. Just tell straight up and block.
@@JT-bt6jy many women do tell men directly that they are not interested. I have done so, many times, and sometimes men still continue to act as if you're leading them on by simply continuing to treat them with human decency. It's ridiculous.
@@JT-bt6jy also, if you're talking about my story, you must have missed the part where I clearly said that I told him directly, multiple times, that I was not interested in him. Smh. But sure, it's still somehow my fault I guess?
Also, not sure how you can "block" someone you go to school with and are friends with. Not everything is happening on the internet, dude. I'm not going to cut someone out of my life and refuse to speak to them just because they expressed interest in me and I don't feel the same. That would be cruel.
@CassTeaElle yeah I feel for u, I used to be obsessive until when I stopped caring, I finally got what I wanted. Guys do so much cringe shit it actually makes me feel ashamed
It’s true. I found the more often I had to reject the guy the more interested and obsessive he’d become. It starts with being afraid to tell me his feelings and once I said no then it’s more frequent and more intense the next time he asks. It goes from not wanting to tell you to just pouring it all over you every time you speak. Yea ended those relationships.
Bro looks like the embodiment of “nice guy”
Why?? Because he’s not that good looking??
@@damonestephens8722 YES. It's tuff but it's the truth
nice guys aren't fat
@@damonestephens8722 Yes and because he can't take a hint
@@damonestephens8722 Not to hate on the guy but he didn't seem to be trying in any other dimensions of himself other than he's nice, at least thats how it appears. So yes and no.
Shout out to the women that don’t mind speaking up first. Cuz us dudes don’t always know, so it’s nice to be approached sometimes.
They are a rare commodity
No fuck them too
@@SuperMurray2009 Nah
@@emmad9344 Are you litterally trying to deny that women that approach men arent rare?
@@SuperMurray2009 lol this cut off at the first word. I was going to say that when I was single I would always approach guys I like
They clearly have had this conversation numerous times he can't take no for an answer she ripped the Band-Aid off. He has probably never showed any interest in him at all but was just a decent human being and kind to him and he's confused kindness with flirtation because no one's ever just been nice to him. It literally hurt to watch
That's alot of men tbh. The world looks down on us. So when someone is nice it means the world to us. I hope the best for him and my advice to him is to leave her be. He's got alot of work to do internally and externally. The less of his problems are women.
@getoffmygrass4857 the world doesn't look down on us men. Stop having a victim mentality and you'll be a lot better off.
@@getoffmygrass4857I thought this way before. But then, I started to accept people’s kindness, and reciprocated without romantic intentions. Basically just got friends. Then later I learned some were interested in me because they got to know me naturally on a normal friendship level.
Definitely agree with Aba on this one. If I had a crush on her it definitely goes away once she starts dating a friend. I just imagine the girl doing stuff with the best friend and it’s done lol
You're overweight, sloppy, and starting to go bald, what did you think she was gonna say? The sad part is, he probably thinks he still has a chance because she was so polite to him. He reminds me of a buddy, he's one of those guys that believe's every waitress likes him because they're nice. He doesn't get that it's their job.
What if the role was reversed?
@@Sigmaasphere same. Believe it or not but ugly people aren’t attractive. Breaking news ! Do you live in a fairy tale unicorn world ? Women that look like him are being mocked all the time, called whales, and stuff like that. It’s not only for men. Stop that victim card
@@Sigmaasphere women get ragged on all the time for being overweight by men. Stop pretending like this is something new.
@@Sigmaasphere The same facts would apply
@@Sigmaasphere they already are
Shout out to the shy girl. Takes guts and getting out of your comfort zone. You go girl. Get that W or that L but don't feel bad for putting yourself out there.
Simp
Still think that's completely ludicrous to put your face online exposing yourself to billions of people, to roast you in front of your crush. If you say the wrong thing, you're going to get death threats for it, or be cancelled and I'm not even a celebrity.
Settle down there captain simp
@@redfather5342 ugh why did you had to remind me of this comment of his, just reading that again makes me cringe so hard lmao
@@redfather5342 You probably smell like onions
3 things he can do right away.
1. Get a good barber to shape the thinning hair or go BALD
2. Get rectangular black frame glasses to offset the round face. Harder edges are more masculine.
3. Get that beard shaped up right.
Boom, looks much more attractive.
Add a good cologne and make sure your breath and smile is right, he's good to go... And sit up straight.
Going to the gym should be switched out for #2. Why buy glasses to hide the roundness when you can get in shape and increase your attractiveness naturally?🤷🏾♂️
get some counseling as well, learn how to pick up on social ques.
@@DVRKKNIGHT does going to the gym help right away? Caz that's what was his post was about....
And also learn to just leave a girl alone if she's not interested.
@@DVRKKNIGHT Going to the gym should be on the list but this list was supposed to be "things he can do right away"
weight loss takes time
My ex was a sapiosexual. He only dated women who were going for their PhD's. It seems more like they are attracted to what they lack In themselves.
Humble brag, Dr. Ray?
So college-aged, basically.
@@reyjonhsmith lol I wish! I have five more years until I'm done with school.
Not always the case ,,I know very intelligent girls who are sapiosexuals
Yes. People are attracted to their opposites-people that have what they lack.
Man or women. Nothing annoys me more in dating is people who can't take rejection and are entitled. Deal with the fact that not everyone will want to date you, move on and find one who will. No one is entitled to anyone
Especially people who shame women for wanting to date men who are taller than them or shaming men who don't want to date single mothers. It's their choice
Personally the reason i talk about the tall thing, even though I’m 6’ is that whenever women say that they want a guy who’s at minimum 6’ then it’s fine, but if I talk about the ideal body type I’d like then I’m not supporting her body positivity, I don’t like double standards m.
You choose to have a kid, you don’t choose your height
@@patrickbosworth9037 I will say, a woman's preference for height is more of a biological preference. It stems from bigger being associated with protection and dominance which is pure science and you'll see it across animal species whereas men's preference for body type (many times, not always) is influenced by societal standards of beauty.
However, my little ass is 5'0 hell possibly even 4'9 🥴😂 so I dont have a height preference BUT men and women preferences for physical attraction typically come from different places.
@@bossytweed6664 I don't think men like obese really fat women no matter what society says. I don't like the magazine models that I see online or the big booty women even if the internet is filled with that. Most women just aren't attractive to me. Genuine, modest, feminine women are usually what I am interested in.
Oh no athletic healthy bodies represent vitality. It represents a partner that can survive with you and the offsprings.
Fat isnt a thing in nature hence its unattractive (Safe for fetishists and certain individuals who are more attracted to personality.).
So no its not a socidal or social thing. Asking any woman in the body positivity movement if theyd date a fat man id guarante you they would say no. Thats why nobody takes them serious.
If you love your body you take care of it. You put in no garbage, and work out. That leads to a fit figure of your statue. Meaning not everyone is exsactly the same, but you will shine out health. Feel good and that equals attractiveness.
Him: what are my toxic traits?
Her: not taking no for an answer.
I mean she got right to it. That would’ve been a good time to play it off and stop this 🤣🤣
Yeah. Guy should have got up and left right then and there. Dont waste anymore time on this chick.
how dense does he have to be? Hopefully it sinks in, hopefully he is not a stalker. no means no, do not waste time.
@@MusMasithe bad part is she doesn't just say no, she'll say "no, but looks are subjective" or "feelings aren't reciprocated because I met you through my ex so it's kinda weird"
She should say no and end it, that's what gives those kind of guys false hope
@@alexalverez9297 nah she said no. Women do this because we are afraid of creeps like him murdering us when we reject them. She literally said not taking no for an answer was his toxic trait.
@@alexalverez9297 "She doesn't just say no"
yeah, because when women do that we get kiIIed for being "bitc/hes". There is nothing more dangerous than a man with a bruised ego, you have to make that rejection as soft as can be because if you don't, you'll get hurt (or worse) and then you'll have people say he was justified because you "acted like a bi/tch" for rejecting him too harshly.
That guy could have a strong back and big shoulders. Instead of crushing on his friends SO, he should be running in the treadmill and lifting some weights. You cant be lazy and expect women to be attracted to you.
He could get with a fat woman
I mean, maybe he didn't know that, but ya, you gotta keep leveling up. If you getting bad feedback, then start working on yourself. At some point, accept you suck. That's the problem today, people won't admit to themselves, they suck.
This is exactly the comment I was looking for. Like...what would even make people like him (men and women) think that you can just look slovenly and unhealthy, have obviously questionable hygiene, look like you don't gives a shit about life, and still expect people to be attracted to you?? It doesn't compute.
But they can be and men are attracted
@@CosmicEremite women with horses faces and sloppy body get men but yea that’s our fault for having low standards
Thank you both for being good examples of masculinity for chronically online men who don’t know how to socialize with women
Every time someone uses the word "sapiosexual" unironically, the hatred inside of me grows.
SAME
I saw that on a Tinder profile recently and the woman in question had bad grammar.
Just, 🤷♂
It's total BS. Like the woman who said that would have been interested in some brainy spotty guy with no muscles.
Why jack? Don’t you like minds?? 😍😍 /s
That was the worst thing I've ever heard
The creepy dude made me realize how different that conversation and interaction looks if he was actually attractive and in shape. Guys really need to stop underestimating how much their appearance matters to women. Your "personality" can only do so much when you look like that.
Edit: Guys don't overthink and take my comment out of context. The dude is definitely a creep attractive or not I'm simply saying that the interaction would look different if he presented himself much better physically. that's all
Yeah I think his personality matches his appearance so far from the interactions there, friends long term girl friend, she already said no, hes still trying, not a good look, even if he was stunning. People will crutch on their looks, then there are others who will blame it all on their looks when they actually have social awareness problems, are rude, and thats why they will not improve because its everyone elses fault and never in any way theirs. He has no one else to blame for this outcome but himself.
@@MusMasi Looks aren't everything but part of social awareness is recognizing how your looks change the perception of an interaction. If he was a Chad her saying no would be a lot more circumstantial(i.e his a fuckboy/"only wants me for sex" not a creep) than her outright having no interest him. This is where plausible deniability takes affect.
@@keyzprogression4539 sure looks aren’t everything but looks so the most important factor of them all. It’s all about looks
On average looks don't matter but when someone is clearly neglecting themselves it shows and it's not attractive, same when someone is clearly attractive it does matter, we are visual creatures through and through. a personality can make an handsome person not attractive, but the opposite is hard to achieve without putting effort into ur appearance
@@saranaila5905 On average looks definitely matter people just downplay it's importance.
"Look at all the Monopoly money, people are confused. Americans are like 'yo why they got colored money?'"
I just moved up to Canada from The States and have said nearly those exact words lmao
Yeah, that's exactly how we Canadians described that money.
But one great thing about it: if you forgot a five in your pants and you put it in the wash, it will come out completely intact! It's actually pretty neat!
Welcome to coloured money land !
@@madderthanever yeah and it does not pick up the dirt and oils from peoples hands as much but where I live people nearly always use plastic hardly ever have cash anymore its all eftpos
@@MusMasi hey, same here. Only got change, only pay in plastic.
Why the HELL did u move to Canada?? Im Canadian btw.
Lemme just show a ✊🏽 of respect for Preach realizing he owed Aba bread and IMMEDIATELY paid up when it was brought to his attention. That's man shit 💯🙌🏽
Honestly, as a person who was part of a one sided crush. I can at least relate a little. It can hurt immensely to see how uninterested the other person can be. And you just want to move on but whenever you see that person the attraction is always there. It sucks to not be in control of your emotions
Yeah but then you eventually got to learn that you're wasting your time and ruining how you look to people, anyone she knows she will probably tell how creepy you are and the world is a small place also.
*Yeah! But sometimes you have a better chance moving on and focusing on yourself. Also, by the time you’re done- you might not even be interested in that person anymore. No matter how strong your feelings are, you need to respect yourself. I have empathy for the guy, but he’s just hurting himself this way*
understand your brain is not you, it wants to catch feelings for someone so it can influence you to reproduce. No, I'm not trying to be edgy that's just the truth, you can assign your own spiritual meaning to feelings and the connections you have with people. But with practice and patience you can get yourself to the point where the strong feelings aren't there anymore, or at least aren't strong enough to disturb you. Reassure yourself that you don't need this person to be happy, you have everything you need within yourself and there will be other opportunities for love. Intense longing is really lust combined with the fear of not being complete
I've had a one-sided crush that went terribly. His response, not the unrequited love, is what really hurt my feelings and took a long time to get over. He wrote me this long letter, essentially reprimanding me for trying to get to know him and that I was "gross" for it. (this was after really only knowing him a month). Ouch, that hurt. In retrospect, he's an a-hole and through the grapevine I think women had treated him this way, so he was just passing it on to me. But at the time I was so hurt and felt unnecessarily humiliated.
Man no lie this is bullshit she not even fine.just let him live and learn from this.yeah he's not perfect but neither is she.
This man asked for disappointment and that he received.
That he did
@@mellowknight9350 I mean isn't the definition of insanity doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result?
@@MusMasi indeed it is. I just don't understand the concept of not taking no for an answer and having to be repeatedly told that someone isn't interested. His self esteem has to be at rock-bottom to keep trying her like that. Best thing he can do is step back, tale a long look at himself and do the work both physically and emotionally
@@mellowknight9350 maybe counseling might be able to help him?
@@MusMasi I agree and would certainly hope so
You’re sure right! Those who oversell their sexual prowess are lacking in performance just like the crazy people who say”I’m a nice person” are also false
Yes.
"I'm a nice guy, these women nowadays don't want a good man."
100% it isn't that guy
If you need to say the thing, than you aren't. Actions speak so much more.
And the "I'm an open book"
@SOUL SEEKER nah. There's a balance & you're being too absolute.
I'm actually glad that one guy got rejected publicly. Hopefully it will sink in finally and he moves on. She looks so over him and his repeated attempts lol
Pretty sure he probably hit her up after the show like, “since the show I feel things have been weird btw us. Just reaching out bc I need closure.” 🙃
Don't step up and say "how hot am I" when you are fat, dressed like a slob and make no effort otherwise to look attractive. That's not even fair, you are forcing people to tell you the truth or lie to you, either way it's not good. It's not the responsibility of people to pretend you are attractive, when you make no truly transformative efforts to actually LOOK attractive. I'm not saying this as a smug guy who the cheerleaders dreamed of in high school, I'm the guy who had to CONSTANTLY work (I have to work out 5-10 hours a week minimum just to not look like a noodle and/or fat, I have to dress and groom carefully to accentuate what little advantage I can even claim as to looks, I have to watch what I eat carefully at all times due to gaining fat easily and having difficulty maintaining any muscle mass -- not crying, it's a lot of work but it's a first world f__ing problem, not something to cry over).
Ain’t much but it’s honest work.
I mean for 50 bucks you can go to a second hand store and buy black leather shoes, pleated trousers and Oxford shirt, for most women in my experiance that's enough when it comes to clothes
@@alexcarter2461 Right. You get it. It's work, but it's not like crazy. Again, it's a first world problem. Cheers, thank you for proving to me someone gets it lol.
She’s told the man multiple times she is not interested in him and he still brought her on there…. If you don’t love yourself nobody is gonna love you bruv
As a straight man I'm really glad that girl turned down the "reverse doggy" guy. You can tell that dude is a headache just by looking at him. Hearing him speak for 30 seconds will remove any further doubts.
I dont try to judge but I just dont see any straight man wanting to or asking to try that cause... why
still not sure what the fuck reverse doggy is
He's most likely a virgin because I've never heard anyone mention a "reverse doggy"
@@jerichojones2722 when you make dogs race in reverse
Wtf are you talking about? lol
Having a "crush" on a friend's partner only shows insecurity, since you see this woman/man dating your friend, in your mind that person is "accesible" , that dude has self confidence issues
At first I felt pity for the guy and wanted to help him because of the insecurity issues but damn after finding out he still attempted to pursue her after she said no multiple times is kind of weird. I’ll admit I did a lot to make someone happy and please them to the point where it started to mentally destroy me but whenever I heard a no, I just walked away. He needs to understand that. Rejection is good because it is straight forward honesty, it isn’t lying or being mislead and having your emotions toyed with, I wish he knew that. Also being kind is ok as long as you have self awareness and boundaries too. I don’t know why some people keep spamming simp in the comments and giving “fresh and fit” style advice. I hope he finds the help he NEEDS which in turn will hopefully help him find the right person for him:
dude can't take a hint. these women aren't going to rip out your heart the first time like in the movies, but they can go there if a dude keeps pressin' them. being too nice keeps that false hope alive lmao
@@360.Tapestry yeah once you hear that no, you gotta keep it moving.
a fresh and fit advice would be to go to the gym and make money, how is that bad?
@@Leoshti for what purpose tho, to get sugar babies?
@@Ivan-xk4uy no, to get u in place for the best opportunities. I know fresh n fit don't like monogamy, but that doesn't mean every viewer agrees with that. They just unravel the female nature that craves wanting a dude who can take care of em in some way. Same way us men would like a cute feminine woman as a wife.
But the gym part is mostly for yourself confidence and improved attraction in general
Status comes with Money. Whilst it doesnt mean everything, it can definitely help u build a strong foundation and help deal with shit which would have given u immense stress if u were broke.
I dated a buddy's ex (they dated for 2 months in high school) years after they split. He told me he didnt approve only for the sake of knowing how she is and how badly she is gonna hurt me. I didnt listen and dated her for a year and a half. She cheated and when I was in my worst depression, said buddy helped pull me back from the brink. He is the best man to my wedding in a few days.
Dont date your friends exes. There is too much mutual history and my instance was easily the "best case" for how a situation like that would play out
he a real one for that, congratulations on your wedding
@@clkgtr12 Thank you. I was able to help him when he went into rehab after falling into his rock bottom. He has always been my brother
@@TBone4Breakfast amazi'g proud of u guys having each others back
sounds like a beautiful friendship
Awwh I love stories like these 🥰 good on you both and congratulations 🎉
"I am a currencysexual, you need money to be attractive to me." -Some new gen goldigger
Hey honesty best policy 😂
That man comes off as disrespectful and entitled. I feel bad for the woman, having attracted a creep. Shit never ends well. Best case is he backs off and betters himself- does some growing. She lives her life, safe. Most people like him lack self awareness and the emotional maturity for that though. Worse case he fcking unalives her or some terrible shit. It’ll more than likely come to him calling her a b!tch since she -surprise!- never liked him so *she* must be the problem. Might harass her and waste everyone’s time for a hot minute after. Then some new game or anime will come out that he’ll obsess over. Will have weird ‘hate flair ups’ about her throughout the years. Such a cliche.
You good?
Niggа you gud?
You wrote this comment like a girl in Quora called Emilie Harpe.
She had a particularly interesting way of writing stuff.
This reminds me of her.
You are very observant. You remind me of myself @@Δ-Δ-Δ-Δ
I hope that man goes on a big transformation to better himself. Heartbreak can be the catalyst for great change.
It was for me. Helped me to lose weight
I empathize with him to an extent. I used to have social anxiety that was pretty bad, and its somethnig im still working on. Its the unfortunate reality of not learning a lot of social skills early on (whether it be through upbringing or other shit), not having a great sense of self-awareness, and having to go through life learning these lessons on your own the hard way, whether it be thru embarassing ways or non-embarassing ways. As cringy as it sounds, self love and self esteem are important, and I always found it a good thing to pick up healthy hobbies that will boost your self esteem.
One thing I learned is, people, even if they say they like it, or dont care, don't like awkwardness or shyness. That's just a harsh reality. You could mean entirely well but your body language, if it betrays your intention, people will think differently of you. Its just the truth. I don't want people to see this and think anxiety, nervousness, or shyness is something intrisically bad. It is not. You are not a bad person for being shy. But, because you cannot control how people react, and because people react the way they do to shyness, you have to change your behavior around so people don't get the wrong impression of you. Its just the way it is.
You explained something that's been lingering in my head for years, but I could never really put into words. People get very uncomfortable around you if you're shy. If you show low-energy/shyness/nervousness, it rubs onto people and makes them feel awkward. I noticed when I speak to people with confidence and not a shaky voice, they respond better.
Bro M.M.A as a hobbie or Working out in general will definitely get your confidence up.
@source
That last bit, very well said. I couldn't agree more. Saying the quiet bits out loud. And the difference in representation when you stow or show that energy that helps connect those people in a first chance meeting.
Business-wise or otherwise especially. Well said 👏 hope y'all have an amazing day.
“ You have to change your behavior around people so they don’t get the wrong impression of you” How so? Examples would be helpful here.
@@icu3869 Don't slouch, don't talk quietly or mumble, don't be afraid of taking up physical space, don't overly apologize, don't talk like you are unsure or worried about how you will be perceived. Don't wear plain boring clothing like you are trying to hide, take care of your personal hygiene & appearance like regular hair cuts & style, also wear what you genuinly like rather than just trying to fit in, ask for fashion advice if you need it.
Don't let people ignore you, like if you address somone & they don't reply then don't be scared to be more direct & force them to at least aknowledge your presence, it also makes others around you respect you more. But on the same note don't be like the guy in the video & not take no for an answer, if it's romantic interest just say ok & move on/hide your feelings until they go. Don't show how bothered you are about stuff & try to keep it in perspective & not case everything is your fault, everyone you interact with has their own stuff going on, good & bad, & some may just be assholes, that isn't a reflection on you.
Don't be afraid to interact with your enviroment & look interested & engaged, even just waiting in line if you look about, so you don't seem shy or closer off laser focused on the staff or like a horse with fear blinkers on. Focus on prioritizing having fun over looking foolish, even if you appear a bit hyped up people will value confidence over being timid. If other people don't appreciate you having fun, them you still have a good time & it's good practice to not care so much about what others think. I used to go to arcades & when my shy friends were engaged in that they built confidence & often talked to other people there in a more confident way. Like somone else said hobbies are a good way to work on confidence & social skills as it's something to focus on so takes the pressure off the conversation, you know you have at least something in common, there is more pressure on the other people to positively engage & at least you learn something & enjoy the activity.
That was probably too long but I hope at least one of those examples helped.
Let's say hypothetically, for the sake of the argument, shawty was indeed like a melody in my head. Following that logic couldn't you say that I can't keep them out, interim it would got me singing like na-na-na na-na everyday. This of course wouldn't be too dissimilar to my ipod being stuck in replay.
That was so sapio-sexy
Bruh what 😂
Bars
🤣🤣
This comment is top tier lmao
The weird dude, i guess, is actually would be attractive if his obsession wasn't over people, but himself. If he was fit and was looking after his looks, he'd be having girls. But the problem with these people is mental.
I think psychologists work very poorly at schools and that's exactly where it starts. I think teachers and medical workers at schools should spot kids who don't wash, attend a dentist and wears clothing that smells. Sometimes parents fail their children. So....
People will be weird and those people can attack weird people. Let the nigga be and stop being so judgy
"What are my toxic traits?" "Not taking no for answer."
Me:"☠ God damn it.🤦♀️That's Skippy level cringe. He doesn't respect her boundaries when she rejects him several times."
8:25- You raise an interesting point, people ALWAYS put sexual in everything. It's excessive.
12:06- That's very commendable for people who possess that courage. I, unfortunately, haven't retained that skill. If I'm attracted to a guy, I keep it bottled up and bury it deep down and never act on it. I don't know why I do that, but I don't think I'm good enough for love. I don't believe I'm worthy for that.
14:53: Pause, Aba.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
2:50- For your information Aba, I know currency is different all around the world. Just because I'm born and raised in America doesn't mean I was born yesterday, thank you very much.😤
3:35- My advice to that girl, get a restraining order. Get away from that sex offender, protect yourself. Purchase a taser, just in case.
I'm a guy, and I've never confessed to any of the crushes I had over the course of my life. I am aware of how much my IQ drops when it comes to girls, so I strive to never put myself in a position to be someone's simp or doormat. My relationships have all been initiated when a girl overtly shows me that she wants one.
Hm. Lol.
I was waiting for a Skippy comment 😅
@@polarissolaris-q3x that's not always good dude. She's essentially in the driver's seat at that point. You gotta take control of the situation. Women look at us to lead
Most people are afraid of rejection and women in particular rarely shoot their shot directly, but they really should. Admittedly I've never asked a woman out, they've all asked me; 3 total. All were fantastic but didn't work out for logistical reasons like moving far away for work etc and I've ultimately been married for 14 years now. I'm glad she asked in any case. Over 80% of divorces are initiated by women. Gotta ask how many women weren't really into the man in the first place and it slowly fell off from there. 🤔 If you dig someone, say something!
I cringed out and couldn't keep watching after he said "i think you have a nice smile" and she replied with an AWWW that you reserve for children.
I noticed a long time ago that a woman complimenting a guy in most cases is BAD. That means they usually see you as a friend. When women really like you, they usually tease or insult you in a jokey manner.
@@SuperMurray2009 depends on the compliments, if they are flirting and say you look hot or they like the way you look or your voice is nice, and its how they look or sound when they say these things. How they smile, their body language, how they purse their lips, lean in, look into your face, breath deeply, also if they touch you, like your bicep, chest, or thigh If they do none of those things well good chance they are just being nice. A lot of women like compliments, they often give them to other women as well, and if they want to be nice or they like a guy as a person they will give him a compliment it does not mean they have the hots for someone.
@@SuperMurray2009 there are many that are users, but not every girl is some jezebel out to get a man blinded and imprisoned. Just like how not guy is not a *nice guy*.
@@MusMasi Most women usually only really like compliments when they are very specific and done by a guy they like.
@@SuperMurray2009 women like compliments from other women and anyone really, they do not generally like being hit on from guys they do not like, compliments is something else.
The "creepy" dude seems like he's doing this for closure. He already more or less knew she wasn't into him, he just needed to hear it.
Unlikely, but I guess he still deserves to get the benefit of the doubt.
she already said no previously tho
@@schokococoa575 Did she? That's not exactly what she said.
you need to watch the video again she said one of his toxic traits was not taking no for an answer.
@@amethysting3389 She didn't say she was the one who told him no. She just said he doesn't take no for an answer. That could be referring to a lot of things. The way he admitted that he had a crush and the mild surprise she had leads me to believe it was referring to something completely different.
“Good guys” believe they are entitled to women because they are acting good…
Keyword acting
Under it all is toxicity
Be real and don’t expect anything in return
Do you go to work for free and not expect a paycheck.. no? Didn’t think so
@@Schinzo__ women aren’t money
Yet chads leave their women and thoses f women wants them to raise chads mistakes.
@@Schinzo__ it’s normal to expect a paycheck cause you need it to survive. It’s not comparable to «nice » guys being disingenious at all. It’s a really stupid example you used there
@@Sarah-rj3fh the mental gymnastics you just went through cope harder
14:22 LOL Aba, you might want to give Preach back that 1k as hush money to NEVER bring this up again in future vids. This last part was too funny.
Literally laughed out loud at work 😂
You know the haters finna make an Aba Exposed video after this😭
@David Austin patreon get unlisted videos before public
@@RaisedbyMalcolm_ facts 😂
You know Preach was roasting him after the video
I knew someone like that first guy. It didn’t end well. He was broken, there was something different in his eyes. Like the spark that he once had faded away from hurt. I hope he’s doing better and found a woman that truly loves him.
That’s reality sinking in because he failed to take ownership of his life and lived in his fantasy
@@spa9920 cool 👍
I know that feeling. Folks in those situations definitely need good folks to trust and confide in. You don’t wanna be broken AND alone - that’s a disaster waiting to happen.
@@izzylandyt I agree.
Dude must have no life if being rejected can fuck up his whole world.
It’s a lot of fun finding out the friend you have a crush on feels the same way. Happened to me a few times. I’m not friends with any of them anymore, so don’t expect it to help your relationship last
You took me on a Rollercoaster in so few words
Same here such an emotional roller-coaster of wtfs 😆
I'm so happy Aba's spreading financexual awareness. THANK YOU, ABA!! We need to be heard!
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This comment is so underrated😂😂😂
Sapiosexual is such a weird ass made up term. Most people dont want a brick for a significant other. These made up terms are so cringe
Talking about weird made up terms, have you heard about "love language" ?
All terms are made up. That's how language works.
Wait until you find out every word is made up. 🤭
It doesn't even seem to be the right term to be using.
Sapiosexual implies that it's a sexual orientation revolving around you being attracted to intelligence. Meaning you are a more specific version of a pansexual, you are open to all genders and sexes given that they are an intelligent individual. Yet plenty of heterosexual people use this term.
Sapio(philia) seems like a better term, since it merely describes a trait of your attraction/adoration for a specific thing, without overriding the sexual orientation. But people don't like tagging themselves with "philia" because it sounds similar to paedophilia.
I can speak to this.
I agree it's weird, but have you seen the profiles on dating apps? Nobody can write a decent sentence or show any depth of thought. Also, it shows *effort* if you go and look it up before you ask me what it means. It automatically weeds out willingly uneducated knuckleheads. I switched to using the word because I usually go for nerdy dudes, but I quickly came to find that nerdy didn't necessarily mean intelligent or engaging.
You're right that nobody wants a brick for a significant other, but that doesn't stop bricks from trying to find an SO. Already dated sentient brick, not doing it again.
Poor guy. I was like him when I was younger. I'm still not exactly a savant with women, but I am at least self aware and I am unwilling to chase someone who doesn't have interest. Honestly he's probably a really nice dude, but he doesn't present himself in a way that women want. When you're overweight to that extent, you can't also be shy and unsure of yourself.
Well, those same women better not come to him in their 50s.
@@mr_imperfectiongamingchann1962 - if he steps his game up and makes a lot of money, it’s inevitable that they will swing back around.
It’s only perceived as creepy because he’s unattractive. If he was good looking he would be seen as flirty and kind. This proves the blackpill, lookism, heightism, and JWB theory. Your looks completely dictate how people perceive your entire personality
He literally can’t take no for an answer. Homie doesn’t understand boundaries and rejection……I don’t think that’s a “nice” person but okay.
@@t-rizzle0509 Game has nothing to do with this. These women are spoiled entitled children! If a God damn trillion dollar man can not keep a wife
Then what are this guys chances?
I knew I was ugly from the age of 12. When I saw how girls acted around other boys I knew what my place was. But later on I became very confident and that combined with me being tall it compensated. But I still know my place. Moral of the story: know ur place!
Same....I would never hear in gossip about girls thinking I was "hot". It was always other boys. *Sigh* Such is life
@@lonewolf604 you don't like guys?
How did you become very confident?
@@WithPeaceBe I grew up in an environment where girls didn’t really matter. You just work hard and girls opinions about you shouldn’t matter. That combined with working on myself spiritually and physically I didn’t care about other people.
You can literally tell within half a second if a woman is interested in conversation with you or not
I promise lmao if she looks at you like she’s disgusted, pack up the convo and keep it pushin. Just that simple. People really do he clueless tho. Lack any typa self awareness.
It's a big difference between having a crush on a girl and thinking a girl is attractive. When you have a crush you believe that person should be with you and nobody else do he definitely was looking at his best friend differently. Dude can probably can get that girl if he went away for a year and lost mad weight and dropped 90% of his lust for her. The staying ghost part helps you get out of the friend zone because it breaks all familiarity with her
That's the best comment I've seen in a while.
Yea... She will come back with chads kids.
I'm quoting y'all on "currencysexual".
"Nah she ain't a gold digger, she just a currencysexual!"
God, I love these breaks from politics. This is good shit. I'm in tears, laughing. Thanks for the content, fellas.
politics...
“I like when someone is sure of themselves and their direction in life.” *gulp*
3:40
"...at one point, just move the f*ck on."
I agree that obsessing over somebody is unhealthy and can even be dangerous to all parties involved, but to be a devils advocate here; it ain't always easy moving on. Some people aren't self-aware. It's not always something that a person just wakes up and decides to do. Homie needs help, not a lecture lol.
some ppl don’t take the help they’re offered.
Props to that creepy dude. The fact he stayed on that show after getting the shit roasted out of him just is insane. Man I would left my guy.
@Louis Kingsta that part lol
So being honest with someone is getting roasted?🙄
@@roygbiv9038 apparently lol
@@roygbiv9038 you purposefully are ignoring context and what happened in the video...but go ahead act naive...
This isn't even close to roasted. That shit wasn't even lukewarm. Be honest, if she wanted to roast him she could've torn him apart. She was legit just trying to show that she wasn't interested but he wasn't having it. He already knew how she felt and he deserved any humiliation he got from this. Imo
Had a friend that was crushing on my chick, he “accidentally” told her how he felt about her.
Notice the past tense on “Had a friend” ….
Never was a friend.
how some people just don’t notice other peoples body language or mannerisms is beyond me
Reduced mirror neuron cell density decreases ability to read non verbal understanding.
Women are much more in tune with it because they are more socially driven. Introverts especially need to actually learn them
some people have conditions that contribute to this, they do not pick up on social ques I know some, they are extremely annoying, like people literally running to get away from them.
Women are naturally better at reading body language than men
It can be autism
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ahaha, count me in as well. my pronouns are 'her majesty', 'empress', 'lordess of all wealth'.
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You can't force someone to answer a question "Could you see yourself falling in love with me." That is insane.
If you say, "That's fair," when somebody says you don't take no for an answer, then you are terrible.
You'll never know how hard it is for some guys out there. I eat rejection for breakfast, like literally this morning. I'm not a bad looking guy, average maybe slightly below average, I have a good career, got my life together, I have confidence and no fear to put myself out there. But it's really defeating to keep running into rejection. It got to the point, where I don't even crush on girls because it makes the rejection that much worse. It's a struggle. Kudos to all these guys for at least putting themselves out there, it takes more courage then a lot of people will ever understand.
Maybe reevaluate your standards?
@@eddie4249 I go for girls in my league. I’m not a 5 shooting for a 10, but that’s good input.
Idk rejection always hurts but best thing is not to get obsessed over a girl like that .mostly if you aren't even actually dating them . Shits weird
@@JayCuts its tough, you'll find someone.
Sometimes rejection isn't even your fault. With this creepy guy, it's definitely him.
But there are women who are just too busy for a relationship, and will reject someone. Or they could be gay.
Or if you're one of those people who just approach women randomly at the gym or library, no matter how sociable you are, they might just be BUSY at that moment.
But then online dating is just... cancer...
...And then I've known many other women that don't want to date men who try to date them too quickly as well. I mean if you walk up to a random woman you've known for 2 days and go "Will you date me?" why would she ever say yes? Like who even are you? You don't know me, I don't know you, and you want to date me? CLEARLY it's for one reason, aka appearance.
People who get rejected a lot tend to go for quantity over quality, and that's just not a good way to get a partner unless you're EXCEEDINGLY attractive. Being rejected a lot means you're asking a lot, and when you're average or ugly, it's better to do fewer, but higher quality proposals for dating, rather than going to a club and asking every woman there.
The best way to (probably) get a date as an average or ugly looking person (for both women and men) is to get a proper social circle, and build from there. Honestly I've had the best luck when I'm not even LOOKING for a partner and just being out in the world. Getting to know a lot of people, and I don't mean just people I look at and go "oh yeah that one is hot." Just being a person, speaking to multiple people, and then once I actually know the person then we can consider proper dating. If they say no, well then 'oh well,' I didn't have high expectations anyways, we were just hanging out.
A lot of dating troubles nowadays is literally just because everyone is so online and doesn't go out or talk to people. We have dating apps that turn people into products to be perused, rather than people to make a life with, and this dating app mentality has bled into irl dating culture. Phones being on people all the time hasn't helped either, no one seems to talk anymore. Not to sound like a boomer or anything. I could write a whole essay on how the internet has simultaneously helped people socialize more than ever, while never being able to socialize at all.
Damn, being ugly is one of the most brutal things to be out there, 100% this dude wouldn't be in this situation if he was attractive.
Yeah, but you could always work on the way you look. He needs to take way better care of himself.
Its called losing weight taking a shower and getting a trim not as complicated as a lot of self pitying kids these days make it
Why do you assume girls would be into some creepy attractive dude? People get the ick factor for all sorts of people. It’s so annoying when you guys try to excuse creepy behaviour by making it about physical attractiveness. Dude is weird as hell. She said no multiple times and he still kept pursuing her.
@@thezu9250 how you sitting here acting like looks aren't a defining factor. You could have the greatest personality in the world, but if they're not physically into you, there's no shot of anything happening. Yeah the dudes weird, but so is she. If he was better looking chances are he wouldn't look so weird, and be acting so weird. I'm in no way saying she owes him anything, but acting like the fact that he looks like he lives in his mom's basement isn't hurting him is crazy.
Edit. I want to change one thing that I said. He reminds me of grimace too. The purple thing that used to hang out with Ronald McDonald
@@truth294 saying those things is saying “things happen for a reason” when someone gets raped or mugged. Basically you’re dismissing the real issue because you lack the knowledge to give an actual good answer
Unfortunately when you're unattractive anything you say is creepy. I hope that guy loses weight and get's game together. Use this as motivation.
I mean what he said was creepy tbh , and that's coming from someone who used to be the same way. Too obsessive and don't understand no, chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same back thats the creepy part.
@@rushking19 yeah he could look like a movie star and how that played out would be creepy, no means no folks.
It’s more than that he’s genuinely obsessed :/ he need to find his self value
@@MusMasi yeah and you gotta understand you're also doing is a dishonesty to yourself because you're wasting your time and making yourself look bad. There's plenty more women our there. You just gotta do you and take care of yourself first do things that's in your best interests and realize when a girl isn't interested just move on. You'll fine someone eventually.
In this case, hes acting creepy
I would not have the audacity to publicly come out and say that I've had a crush on my best friend's partner while they were together. Like wtf. It's your best friend, their partners are taboo.
Always a good day when y’all upload
It's time to d-d-d-duel!!!
Yup!