I'm 29 now, I've been self-harming on and off since the age of 16. I never really wanted to quit. Sometimes I don't feel the need to do it for 6 months, sometimes I cut myself daily. I kinda just see it as a symptom of my illness at this point.
I'm 25 and I've been SH since I was 15 almost 16. I once tried to make an appointment with the school psychologist, but she had a full schedule. I never found the courage to try again.
Thank you for sharing this. I’m 37 and in recent months I’ve relapsed. Including tonight. I felt so stupid yet so relieved by it. Actually seeing someone my age is also in this cycle has helped me realise I’m not immature and idiotic for doing it. I needed to see your comment tonight, so thank you so much. Know you’ve helped someone lay down the blade tonight and stop them doing more harm.
People don’t understand how hard it is not to self harm, even as an 24 year old adult who has been clean for going on 3 years I often struggle with the urge. I wonder if life is worth it a lot of the time if it doesn’t get better.
It’s so incredibly easy to feel like I’ve failed myself and those who love me, because I can’t get past self harm. And the absolute disappointment on people’s faces when they find out I relapsed is devastating. It’s sad when I see how many other people are dealing with this, but I feel less alone with this struggle
I work at a facility for mentally ill teens and many of them have the same types of scars on their bodies that I do. I try not to draw any attention to my scars at work and I do wear long sleeves pretty often. I'm sure the kids have seen some of them anyways. I roll up my sleeves when I'm eating or washing dishes.
But hey, I'm not at all afraid of blood like some of my coworkers are and I am awesome at first aid. I don't shame the kids if they manage to have a relapse while under our care. I just take them to the nurses station and patch them up (and tell the on-call therapist obviously)
I’m not a super serious person; I take mental health seriously but better to feel at ease when discussing it. I’m glad it made you chuckle; and thank you for recommending; the message has reached many 🖤
Thanks for the 10 points you talked about. I think needed that. I’ve been struggling with selfharm for over 20 years now. (At least it happens less often.) I often feel like I’m a failure and “attention seeking” idiot. I think I’m my worst bully when it comes to my mental health struggles. But I’m working on it.
Thank you for this video, it is really insightful and encouraging. Unlike many people who start SH in childhood and continue into adulthood. I started when I was 26 and it continued for an year and then after medication and help from my parents i haven't relapsed for over an year and half. I do get mild urges when I feel extremely overwhelmed, but im fine, ive found other coping mechanisms. I'm actually more worried about my scars, I don't know if ill ever get courage to go out wearing a Tshirt, but its problematic during medical conditions while getting a blood tests. Its also an issue during swimming. Do scars fade away? I did some crazy carvings, so they don't look like normal sh scars, so wearing sleeves dresses are out of question.
I suffered a relapse a few years ago when I was 25 years old I would self harm only when I got angry It was like this until I was 29 years old I'm now 31
I’m 30. I recently started up again last month. I feel hopeless and behind in pretty much every way due to my autism and religious upbringing/background. Plus I’m into someone who probably can’t be into me. They are a friend but I’m disabled and a weak person. Nothing seems to work. And nothing seems to ever make a difference. I’ve been doing it pretty much every day for the past month.
I am 33 years old & I have been fighting with my demons started sadly SI in 1999 & still working on coping skills sadly . I have been dealing with 24 years for this ; I feel shame since I all relapsed , since their are kids that some times look at my SI .
Same age as me then. It’s hard not to feel the shame, especially when children can see it. I have two children and cover everything when I go and see them. But with the shame it will fade away when the time is right, but I’m sure you already know this. Keep up the fight, I know it’s tough though. I appreciate you taking the time to comment, share your experience and watching the video
Thank you for your kind words. I am nervous to usually leave even a small comment in many very good and interesting videos . Because I get worried if I might be viewed differently by others in the Digital World lol aka TH-cam since I may get confused about how I am trying to type out my thoughts . I really appreciate all your videos. I also had a sad painful 😣 💔 past experience which included with my nieces who were young back 10 years which might seem long ago yet children are extremely smart and 2 younger my nieces both noticed and one ran to her legitimate toy first aid toy say to me to come sit down on the couch " Auntie Mar please sit down you need you get clean , as the 1st niece who is youngest had already been trying to grab my wrist which I had a scars which I did not realize it still healing it had started little bleed which made me crying while I heading home . Because of how I might have made nieces view things since I do worry about their happiness at times due to loss of the head of home and family was my father .who I have not talked to after my biological brother and his baby momma had stopped any family at all after my father lost his fight with stage 4 lung cancer and bladder cancer . It has been difficult many times with my father's loss in March 2017 .
it's really strange bc as an adult you surely know that it's wrong and I feel the shame yet I still do it and sometime it's not for any clear reason. It feels like I can just tell myself to stop but it never happened.
I think it's funny because I started sh-ing around turning 17 and it only became bad near the end of high school around 18/19. It got better and then worst when I got to university but after doing a bit of counseling, I stopped doing it as much and even now I can mostly 70+% control myself before I do it and calm down
The love of God is a light in our darkness, is peace in our worries, relief in our suffering and hope in our fear. May God always protect us from ourselves.
28 and have been feeling "behind" and "immature" because of my struggles lately. I definitely needed this reminder, so thank you.
I have pretty much the same issue.
I'm 29 now, I've been self-harming on and off since the age of 16. I never really wanted to quit. Sometimes I don't feel the need to do it for 6 months, sometimes I cut myself daily. I kinda just see it as a symptom of my illness at this point.
I'm 25 and I've been SH since I was 15 almost 16. I once tried to make an appointment with the school psychologist, but she had a full schedule. I never found the courage to try again.
I'm 39 this year😞 best wishes to everyone here we can get through this, you are all worthy, your strong and you matter❤️
🥰Thank you for sharing some love❤️And thank you for watching
Thank you for sharing this. I’m 37 and in recent months I’ve relapsed. Including tonight. I felt so stupid yet so relieved by it. Actually seeing someone my age is also in this cycle has helped me realise I’m not immature and idiotic for doing it. I needed to see your comment tonight, so thank you so much. Know you’ve helped someone lay down the blade tonight and stop them doing more harm.
@@ManchesterVicky big hugs your worth it, your comment has also helped me toox
People don’t understand how hard it is not to self harm, even as an 24 year old adult who has been clean for going on 3 years I often struggle with the urge. I wonder if life is worth it a lot of the time if it doesn’t get better.
I am 42 years old and I recently SH again, after 6 yrs not doing it before that it was 13 yrs. Thank you for your videos they help greatly.
Really didnt think this would make me so emotional, but it did. Your message is so thoughtful and beautiful. Thank you 100x
It’s so incredibly easy to feel like I’ve failed myself and those who love me, because I can’t get past self harm. And the absolute disappointment on people’s faces when they find out I relapsed is devastating. It’s sad when I see how many other people are dealing with this, but I feel less alone with this struggle
Thank you for this. There is such a stigma involved around self harm. And it’s not easy to stop.
Thank you for watching ☺️ You’re absolutely right, it’s very hard to stop
“It’s fun for all the family!”
*wait a minute*
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Glad someone else found it hilarious 😂
I work at a facility for mentally ill teens and many of them have the same types of scars on their bodies that I do. I try not to draw any attention to my scars at work and I do wear long sleeves pretty often. I'm sure the kids have seen some of them anyways. I roll up my sleeves when I'm eating or washing dishes.
But hey, I'm not at all afraid of blood like some of my coworkers are and I am awesome at first aid. I don't shame the kids if they manage to have a relapse while under our care. I just take them to the nurses station and patch them up (and tell the on-call therapist obviously)
That first part gave me a chuckle. It's better to laugh than cry right? I recommended that 25+ video you're welcome lol.
I’m not a super serious person; I take mental health seriously but better to feel at ease when discussing it. I’m glad it made you chuckle; and thank you for recommending; the message has reached many 🖤
I am 37, i started selfharming when i whas 14. i can’t stop.
😢😔 I’m sorry to hear this
@@YouthPotentiali am gonna try, i won’t give up. ❤️
@@RandiCuteAngel Good luck friend, you have our support and love
@Nicole Dawn i am ok. Hope you are to❤️
self harm is for everyone literally, society says kids do it but adults do it too , mental illness doesnt discriminate
Thanks for the 10 points you talked about. I think needed that. I’ve been struggling with selfharm for over 20 years now. (At least it happens less often.) I often feel like I’m a failure and “attention seeking” idiot. I think I’m my worst bully when it comes to my mental health struggles. But I’m working on it.
Preach brother ,expose the truth they all need to hear
Thank you for this video, it is really insightful and encouraging. Unlike many people who start SH in childhood and continue into adulthood. I started when I was 26 and it continued for an year and then after medication and help from my parents i haven't relapsed for over an year and half. I do get mild urges when I feel extremely overwhelmed, but im fine, ive found other coping mechanisms.
I'm actually more worried about my scars, I don't know if ill ever get courage to go out wearing a Tshirt, but its problematic during medical conditions while getting a blood tests. Its also an issue during swimming.
Do scars fade away? I did some crazy carvings, so they don't look like normal sh scars, so wearing sleeves dresses are out of question.
Your doing so much for us adults, thank you ❤️
Glad I voted for this one! even though I *knew* all of these before, turns out I really needed to hear it today. Good reminders so thank you💪🏻
Thanks for voting and watching. Knowing is half the battle; remembering is another big chunk. I’m glad this video acted as a reminder 🖤
Thanks for voting and watching. Knowing is half the battle; remembering is another big chunk. I’m glad this video acted as a reminder 🖤
42 this year and started again after 15+yrs. Its Fucking hard.
Did you spend 15 years without self harming?
I have been looking for videos that are real and not patronising. Thank you for being this...there is so little out there that are this real.
I think I self harm due to repressed rage due to childhood and ongoing trauma and thats how it manifests itself
That’s quite common; and I appreciate you for being open about it. I hope this video is relatable
I suffered a relapse a few years ago when I was 25 years old I would self harm only when I got angry It was like this until I was 29 years old I'm now 31
Same age as me. I hope this video was relatable 🙏 And thank you for watching 🖤
I’m 30. I recently started up again last month. I feel hopeless and behind in pretty much every way due to my autism and religious upbringing/background. Plus I’m into someone who probably can’t be into me. They are a friend but I’m disabled and a weak person. Nothing seems to work. And nothing seems to ever make a difference. I’ve been doing it pretty much every day for the past month.
Thank you! I'm almost 22 and still struggle with self harm sometimes
I am 33 years old & I have been fighting with my demons started sadly SI in 1999 & still working on coping skills sadly . I have been dealing with 24 years for this ; I feel shame since I all relapsed , since their are kids that some times look at my SI .
Same age as me then. It’s hard not to feel the shame, especially when children can see it. I have two children and cover everything when I go and see them. But with the shame it will fade away when the time is right, but I’m sure you already know this. Keep up the fight, I know it’s tough though. I appreciate you taking the time to comment, share your experience and watching the video
Thank you for your kind words. I am nervous to usually leave even a small comment in many very good and interesting videos . Because I get worried if I might be viewed differently by others in the Digital World lol aka TH-cam since I may get confused about how I am trying to type out my thoughts . I really appreciate all your videos. I also had a sad painful 😣 💔 past experience which included with my nieces who were young back 10 years which might seem long ago yet children are extremely smart and 2 younger my nieces both noticed and one ran to her legitimate toy first aid toy say to me to come sit down on the couch " Auntie Mar please sit down you need you get clean , as the 1st niece who is youngest had already been trying to grab my wrist which I had a scars which I did not realize it still healing it had started little bleed which made me crying while I heading home . Because of how I might have made nieces view things since I do worry about their happiness at times due to loss of the head of home and family was my father .who I have not talked to after my biological brother and his baby momma had stopped any family at all after my father lost his fight with stage 4 lung cancer and bladder cancer . It has been difficult many times with my father's loss in March 2017 .
i am 16 years old teenager girl i can't stop self harming your videoes let me feel special which let me reduce the self harm thanks
As tears run from my nose, as a adult 😢
it's really strange bc as an adult you surely know that it's wrong and I feel the shame yet I still do it and sometime it's not for any clear reason. It feels like I can just tell myself to stop but it never happened.
I've just started again after maybe 3 years of not doing it
I think it's funny because I started sh-ing around turning 17 and it only became bad near the end of high school around 18/19. It got better and then worst when I got to university but after doing a bit of counseling, I stopped doing it as much and even now I can mostly 70+% control myself before I do it and calm down
Thank you for saying this. I really helped to hear it ❤️
24 male . And i'm here at 2a.m looking for validation
The love of God is a light in our darkness, is peace in our worries, relief in our suffering and hope in our fear. May God always protect us from ourselves.