How to deal with people or someone who constantly opposes and contradicts you. Reason and Remdy.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ม.ค. 2019
- Why do some people always oppose You? Your wife, family member, even coworkers or friends say the opposite of whatever you say. How to deal with such a person, and how to remedy this. What happens when someone constantly opposes you.
1. Not a kind person. 2. Not confident. 3. Might hate you. 4. You have an agreeable personality and they consider you to be a great psychological punch-bag. 5. They build self-confidence by putting you down. 6. Might be manipulation to make you do the opposite you want to. 6. They like and feed on seeing you harassed, confused or annoyed. 7. KEEP THE HELL AWAY FROM THEM!
It's my coworker. Only hope is she retires.
1. They are not confident
2. They see you as weak or in a weak position,so they attack to feel even a slight feeling a power over somebody
3. They lost respect for you,and don't see you as valuable anymore
My advice is to just politely and slowly fade them away from your life. Nothing else to do.
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People who do this are mean spirited people , low self esteem ,and who most likely dont like you but are hiding the fact while it manifest itself through their continual need to contradict you .
Exactly, it's a passive aggressive strategy to get to you. You will also realize that this person will side with ANYONE who has a different opinion from yours EVERYTIME. It's a sign of someone who doesn't really like you. Also pay attention to some other additional tactics they may be using on you
@@mailulamukheli2272I am so glad to know I'm not alone when it comes to this. Don't get me wrong. I know everybody has their own opinions but it gets annoying if that person is constantly disagreeing with you.
Damn, it be my own mama. 😢
Yes,I know that's right!
"you always disagree with me....." - No i don't !!! ".....
Just say : '' you always agrew with me '' .
Personally, I think that you should just give in. If it seems like they are disagreeing with you on something that is so irrelevant or unnecessary it probably means they are just trying to fuck with you in which case just agree with them, they won’t get the satisfaction of making you mad and you won’t car. It may be hard to win an argument against an intelligent person, but it is impossible to win an argument with an idiot.
Well put!
I just had been compromised by my older brother.
Nope ain't here to make myself look dumb for somebody's else self esteem. Let them go get it somewhere. Ain't feeding nobody to my detriment.
@@rses916exactly I'm not here to coddle an adult baby if they wanna argue with me over dumb shit I'll let them have what I really feel about their contrarian bs or I'll just walk away from the conversation they don't deserve an ego boost for just taking the opposite of everyone's opinion just to be some troll debate lord
I know few people who are like this. They explained that they're aware that they irritate others, but they do it on purpose because they think it's "fun" to belittle other people. Even if they agree with the opposite party, they pretend to disagree anyways, just for the sake of arguing. Some people just love to look for something to argue about.
Exactly, most annoying people
chichicharron That's exactly right and my sister and brother, to a lesser extent, as well as other people I know, including neighbours, are like this, which has caused immense harm!
I'm slowly getting all of them out of my life, yet it's more difficult with family members, especially since our mother died recently. 🙁
I met someone a couple of months ago that constantly disagrees with me. In the beginning it was just sometimes but has gradually increased to point of absurdity. Last time I talked with them they disagreed or ridiculed EVERY single thing I said. So rude and disrespectful..I've decided I DO NOT LIKE THEM, and will not interact with them anymore.
What bothers me the most is when people contradict the truth. I see this going on in politics right now people can't distinguish the truth from the lies.
Welcome to 2022, it's even worse.
@@Noitisnt-ns7mo 2023 would like a word.
They also think that everything is just a matter of opinion. As if truth doesn’t exist🤣.
This is accurate.. people like this as he mentioned are insecure 🙄 and they try to push you down or brake you down to build themselves up.. it's a really bad cycle. They need help but if they don't see it or think they need help then you should leave them alone.. it will only hurt you in the long run. Your mental and emotional mindset isn't worth it.. peace and love to all XOXO!
True but what if you can’t escape it
Very true
@@ccf3195 my heart goes out to you
@@conversationswithadrianne Instead of dreading over it I’ve realized that I rather learn from it. I have thick skin and I guess it helps me to inform myself about that person. They have a hard past and I can see why they’re like that. So instead I motivate and let go of things that I don’t need to get offended of or actually call them out for their bullshit. I’ll be in a much better place where I can focus on myself soon so I’m not stressing over it. Thanks anyways
My older brother always suspects me when I talk. I talked with him is I can do it, understand it but he never trust me. He told me LIE. I was depressed for a long time. I always try my do best and at Last just a words " LIE". I work so hard like A Dog, my hand and my feet are cold cause I worked so much.
When I finished one thing. Then he asks " Can you do that, Can you do that, understand that ". It's like a knife try to stab on me.
I refer to it as poison dripping. Cut them off, or limit conversation...
Sometimes, you just need to walk away from people who are toxic. It's better for your mental health
I can do much relate to this.. I am totally fed up dealing with unsolicited advices and contradictory statements for every word I speak
They just read it from books. 📚. The same phrase, Sentences. We always know. I'm get sick about it.
I’m 57 and my perfectionism, and moments of indecision were fueled by my mother’s constant (unintelligent) criticism. It took me all these years to figure out why I felt so confused growing up
I work in a pharmacy and one of the pharmacists who is very intelligent which I will make clear- consistently disagrees with whatever I say, no matter what it is it's wrong, even if it's right. I believe it's because she is a young pharmacist and kind of has that ego where she can't be wrong and everyone else is wrong. If I told her the grass is green outside she would argue that a couple strands are brown. Unfortunately I cannot simply cut her off because she is a coworker, and I don't want to cut her off because for the most part it's good to work with her, but I can tell she is the type that likes to fight and argue, picky picky (which is why she is single and can't find the right one because everyone to her is wrong). I just thank God we are not married 😂😂😂
I've got a close friend who disagrees with a lot of what I say and then says the same thing in a different way... And then gets very defensive if confronted haha. So I've just learned to accept the way they are and try not to get too bothered.
Isn’t that exhausting?
Same
@@conversationswithadrianne Absolutely.
Got the same friend. Will give the shirt off his back. I just know not to conversate with him much odd as it may seem.
I know someone who consistently contradicts me. Makes excuses for everything and everyone. I was telling her something and she couldn't think of anything to contradict me and she says I don't know. It doesn't matter if she knows because I'm telling her the story. Not a oh yeah that's interesting.
Yes i get that same thing from my moms
i Get the same SH|+, Constantly... disagree's With me, makes Excuses, as To why My View, is Not Something to Be On Board With,..
Outstanding perspective. You are right.
Riiight! I’ve experienced the same and I am so confused as to why they do this.
Usually from women in my experience. Not all women but the behavior is most common amongst them. In my experience.
They don't want you to build them up....they want you to feel bad like them. They don't want you to say anything that shows you can relate to them...just shut up and let them drain your energy
Oooohhh... never thought of it like that. That's craaazy that people are like that.
Lol! Exactly
Just tell the person that they’re cute and then they’ll automatically say no…
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You can also just say "bless your heart."
Almost every time i talk to my cousin. He either has to add on to almost everything i say, or says its not really like that way. And this happens when i am speaking facts. It is exhausting. I know it is because of his lack of self esteem and his ego needing to prove superiority . But still furiates me. Then i also realize that my OWN ego is what is getting me upset. And i do not know what to do.
Thank you ... because I’m sick of people doing this
i know one buddy of mine who doesnt even have arguments, he just says "NO", and then doesnt say anything 😂
Ya, I Got a "Buddy" Like that.. Needs a Swift Kick in the Balls..
I laughed lol 😂
@Juan Kavka 🤣🤣🤣
😂 Ewwww 😂
Best way to explain that whole situation.
My father was critical about minor things. You couldn’t make a mistake in front of him. I’ve met a few people like that but not many. Don’t get into a pissing contest with them. Avoid them or ignore them because they want confrontation. Others see the truth of the pettiness too.
There are people who want to bicker about literally everything.
Ain't nobody got time for that.
If you want to see someone like that get mad disagree with one of their strong opinions. When you catch them verbalizing it. Don't back down.
Oppositional Defiance Disorder.
NO I DISAGREE. YOU'RE WRONG!
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This video is so good. I needed it. Everything you said validated my feelings and thoughts about what I have been experiencing my entire life.
I don’t agree with this I get it if it’s your spouse or family maybe that will work but most of the time it’s friendships and if you build them up to make them feel better you’re devaluing yourself to pretty much get run over and accepting it if you have any self respect and you know that they are railroading you cut them off they are battling a problem way above your pay grade and if you know what they are battling with and they continue it becomes habit then it becomes personality in any relation ship if someone says hot and the other says cold well maybe we can agree maybe it’s warm?
No, on my perspective. It will be opposited versus what are you saying. It tilts a little about the thing called "Persipscapicity and preceive knowledges ".
Means your truly real abilities that you can do and learn.
Thank you Shans. Very sincere and wise advise. Appreciated !
This video is about the three who disliked the video
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Oh my goodness 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂
I'm literally trying to leave the country because my entire family is like this and I'm sincerely OVER IT. These are not nice people. Scapegoating me like I asked to be on the planet. I will be happy, I don't care.
Sometimes distance and space helps regain the self respect the world tries to rob you off. I would love to see people pour love on hurting hearts via comments. Thank you
If you want everything in your life to be in order, your health,your relationships with family, friends and all your loved ones as well as kids
Trust in the name and the power of Our Lord Jesus Christ, The Father and The Holy Spirit.
Say this Prayer to ask God for Freedom in Christ Jesus.
●Say: Jesus Christ i ask you to please come into my heart and be my Lord and Saviour, please Bless my soul and make me a true child of God.
Thank you for saving me and setting me free. In Jesus name. Amen
.
GOD LOVES YOU❤️❤❤❤❤.
My immediate supervisor does that. When I ask her and other managers a question, she won’t respond and when I finally make a decision - she’ll come back and contradict everything I say or she’ll say that she send me an email four months ago.
Toxic
If you can, leave.
You mean she was trying to make you can't say The accurate things or the correct things before you want to say that
@@shetheyithe8894what?
The person I’m involved with doesn’t only contradict me but also himself; he says he wants, feels, thinks one way but then does, acts and behaves the opposite.
He can one day be warm, understanding and say that he has so much pain and suffering, stress etc. But the next day he can say he is not struggling at all, that his life is shit and he will always have stress and pain but he is really happy so he doesn’t need or want anyone to be there for him.
Another day he can say that he is always here for me and that we need to take care of each other and ourselves. The same day he can say that he believes in health by eating healthy - but it’s not for him. He says he believes in positive thinking, yet he expresses that his life is shit and that he is a victim under circumstances, that things will not get better.
I can’t say or do anything right. If I should say that to him he would become very upset and say that all we do is argue (even if that’s far from true). And if I would leave our friendship, which sometimes it feels like he wants me to/is pushing me towards doing, he would have a new reason to be negative.
He sounds toxic.
Is he a gemini they're nuts 😂
@@rses916 He is Cancer, but both my parents are Geminis. 😬 I don’t trust Geminis (even though I am friends with a few of them) because every Gemini I have ever encountered, during my 40 years here, has proven to be non-trustworthy.
Thank you for a great advice and priceless indeed!
Thanks for the upload on this topic!
Thank you for this!
They don’t like you full stop. When you sense jealousy, walk away.
Wow excellent 👍 speech love the resolution, great ideas!
Domestic Disharmony. I like that one.
Why does my family get mad when i have an opinion and want to compare me with other family??
Robert, Love yourself and draw closer to who you truely are. I'll try to make a video to share some thoughts because you are not alone in this.
Welcome to the club scapegoat aka blacksheep. Please dig deep into narcissism, there might be a few answers there
Because they have no respect for you.
The compulsively contentious. "No it isn't." If you don't exceedingly succeed in life you are only fodder for these people.
That was awesome, thank you 🙏
I know one person like this and do everything I can do avoid him
Good 😂
If you want everything in your life to be in order, your health,your relationships with family, friends and all your loved ones as well as kids
Trust in the name and the power of Our Lord Jesus Christ, The Father and The Holy Spirit.
Say this Prayer to ask God for Freedom in Christ Jesus.
●Say: Jesus Christ i ask you to please come into my heart and be my Lord and Saviour, please Bless my soul and make me a true child of God.
Thank you for saving me and setting me free. In Jesus name. Amen
.
GOD LOVES YOU❤️❤❤❤❤.
I watched whole video, he simply talks in this video without even providing any solution. In some context you will also feel like he is really confused, about what he is speaking.
Thank you ever so much for this ...
I’ve noticed it can come from someone who has pure beliefs or viewpoints, (a pedantic person) caught up in the meaningless details or strict rules that they lose the point of the conversation or activity. For others it seems to come from a narcissistic “wanting to argue or put you down” viewpoint, these people seem to lack self esteem… 👀
Start at Mark 5:20
I've even tried building them up and they disagree with that I don't believe there's an answer for it.😀
Thats hilarious James.. 😄 you are right theres no winning with them, choose peace and harmony in your life.
Bro to be honest people that blatantly choose to oppose or jus disagree are straight leeches n weirdos
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This is a life saver video... It depicts my current reality vividly.. thank you for the solution
This is a form of oneupsmanship in an effort to position themselves above you in status or value.
Just,thanks.
This really helped Me, cause I feel my supervisor is very self conscious of himself..he probably is intimidated by me and he always contradicts himself and he projects alot on me and I've already talked to him before and do I have to keep talking to him about it? I talked to my mental health counselor and she is the one who said he probably intimidated by me...just wanted to get that off chest on here haha..anyways good video
thanks for this video, it happens with certain friends and with an ex-colleague.. I try to reduce the contact. By the way, you are my type!
This is very hard especially when it comes to work...especially if you are a manager
I like that… no bandwidth left ❤
Aweosme video
I feel like IM the one with low self-esteem because I get bothered by someone always going "actually" etc.
Makes me question if I talk out of my butt a lot.... though I tend to find many people talk out of their butt without contest
thank you sir
I get that from some people all the time. It's not good, but you just got to carry on.
Omg my mother does this. For example:
Me: omg Mom I hate flies
Mom: I think flies are kinda cute
Me: I love ice cream
Mom: I don’t eat it….
Me: So you literally eat ice cream everyday but you just said you didn’t like ice cream bc I said I did. You say the opposite of everything I say. You do this literally everyday
Truth! Their loss.
This is a little off topic, I guess, but I think this is the type of video I can share my story on. You could say it involves a "disagreement." Once, I was telling this new coworker how the k95 masks feel on me (after I stated he was lucky he and others don't have to mask up in school), but two of my other coworkers said something like "that's enough" or "let's not talk about that"? See, I guess in the past, I had expressed a bit too much my opinions that face masks aren't so necessary and Covid isn't so dreadful? I don't know. I guess they wanted to stop me from being a negative nellie or something. Later, I *more or less* said to one of them, "Just for the record, I was just casually saying the masks make my nose feel congested, pointing out the irony." Something like that. She shook her head and said "I don't care." What do you guys think? Was that really wrong and obnoxious of her? In fact, was it immoral for her and the other to, as far as I'm concerned, "gang up" on me? Maybe they could and _should_ have handled it differently, especially since there was a new guy here? Why make me out to be the "bad guy," just by lecturing me in front of him. I feel disagreeing with someone can somewhat be the same as ganging up on a person, especially if you _and_ a partner disagree with said person.
They sound like the type of people who are scared of having an outside of the box/underground/different type of opinions if they're not from mainstream media/mainstream opinions.
But you sound like the type of people who need to repeat the same sh over and over in order to forcefully convince people basically shoving it down peoples throats.
Yall are toxic.
Yes. That was immoral, ignorant, entitled and disrespectful of them. Brainwashed zombies that were angry that you didn’t bow down to the dictates of their overlords.
dealt with these kind of people maximum in my professional life ,it was time wastage and only if you have the patience of god then only you will not thrash their jaws for their idiocy or else if you are truly their bootlicker then also you wont thrash them
Tyvm
Someone is doing this to me now, but im not seeing it as a negative, I use their own words to put them in very bad positions and have them saying some ridiculously stupid things. Making them sound crazy to other people.
The thing is, the reason why this person is mad at me makes no sense. They are mad at one of my family members but are taking aim at me.
If the person is relentless, dont be afraid to use their own words against them. I know it sounds sinister but some people deserve it.
The only thing that works
Question, have you ever tried to agree with them? And watch them go against their own original idea just becase you agreed with them. I mean say hot is best and they say I like cold. So now say yea let's do cold. You might be right and watch them say I don't feel comfortable doing cold.
Yeah, I was tried agreed with them. And they ask "Can you do that" after I finished the things they asked me "
@@shetheyithe8894?
Ty✌️❣️
Give the hands a rest.
Ignore them
Thankyou !
My brother use to do this but when he got sick he chilled
I feel attacked
pettiness and insecurity... constantly posturing instead of just relaxing and enjoying each other's co.
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Play video in 1.25x speed and thanks me later.
My friend keeps doing this and im so mad!! And he says im annoying lol
My solution cut them out or limit contact as much as possible. they're trying to build themselves off of you while trying to diminish you.
Lol girl bye aint nobody got time for this. They sound so silly after a while it sounds obvious they have low self esteem.
I hate arguing explaining or even sharing my opinions cause I aint tryna convince nobody Im confident in who I am and what I believe. Some people need to spread their bs need everybody to agree. My inner life' s too rich for that sh.
no. i contradict/challenge mine and others opinions and beliefs because i see multiple perspectives and would want to primarily form mine, independently and reasonably. and whenever i contradict others, i always do it with respect, but i’d want theirs to be justified so i and them, could completely understand their povs more
This is me
Wow the crazy thing is I totally understand this
It could be youtube
This is a completely subjective video. I happen to be one of those people who always argues with ny authority figures (college professors). And I do it because some of them are really incompetent, like a few of them just come into the class to dictate study notes and don't even teach anything. Other times I find myself arguing with people when they spew out false information, it irritates me when people don't do proper research and I can get very argumentative to ensure the accuracy of information.