Yes, that's why Krishna said No one is your friend no one is your enemy, it's the situation and time that make people as your enemy and friends. So, he led his life focusing on Karma and Dharma..Sadhguru, Thank You🙏🙏🙏
There is no such thing as friend actually. Some who we think is close to us we label them as friends. But it is all life acting in their own nature and cycles.
There is no bad friend either... Just people that aligns with your path...or ones that take you off it(is what your calling bad friends) since they are going a different way in their own way .. And the ones that are lost in harmful habits is exactly the time when every person needs a friend.. not someone who avoid/runs thinking it's self preservation..when actuality it's because of lack of experience insecurity runs away.. instead of being present and walking away in mindful decisions is two different things
@@raymondtendau2749 Sadhguru never said to walk away unless it is real physical damage. All emotional hurt are self created. The hurt is because of what we expect and expectation not coming true. If you are truly enlightened, you need not walk away to save yourself from emotional damage.
And some never realise, my opinion is lots of people think every thing should revolve around them 😵 I'm lonely at times but feel better off by myself ( we me and my cats are better off)
Hi . In my workplace, I have a small issue. I have a manager who doesn't do any work and our project doesn't follow any guidelines and always there is always a pressure from clients on the employees. Actually, many of the seniors have left the organization because of this toxic culture. But myself and some of the other people are freshers, we have worked for 1 1/2 year but didn't receive any promotion. Hoping that after we get some promotion, we will leave the organization. Our managers always give more work than we can do. So, we have to work for longer hours and we don't have any work life balance. Please guide me on how to respond to such situations and how to speak up for myself in the corporate culture? Because our manager doesn't speak for us. Myself and my friends do more work, so he assigns all the tickets to me and my friends. There are some people who doesn't do any work and are in the favour of manager. So they chill around. So, The manager assigns their work also to us saying they are on leave. But when they go on leave, not a single line of code will be written for the objects. If we inform the same to manager, he just nods his head and asks us to the development as the deadline is running out of time. Please guide me on the above issue.
That's why you need a disciplined mind. Meditate and stay fit. Write if it helps. Eat healthy and sleep enough. Remember your past. Know that you will die some day, and what hurts today will not hurt tomorrow.
At first I thought, hey did I just keep escaping from pain inflicting by myself? But then I realized that, no. I only walk away from people which not only ignoring me but also not offering something that lift me up. It's a waste of time spending with people like that. I'm glad I did so, and found a group of people which could offer their knowledges and opinions to help improve everyone including themselves. It's nice to have a group of people the love to improve.
At philosophical level what Sadhguru said is right. But in real life its very difficult to digest when someone keeps hurting you or cheats you or takes advantage of your position ... Especially its very difficult when you have to live with them forever 😢😢😢
It is only philosophical because we all are seeing that way, we all don’t want to put efforts. There is a whole process of putting all that to practical and sadhguru and other yogis have just mastered it
@@bentridermaybe you can’t grasp the concept that taking things personal is hard to let go of and not get emotionally attached to. Some people are living you know
Yes and no. Sometimes some people *try* to treat you poorly because of being jealous, or simply because they are not responsible enough to deal with what their perception of *you* provokes in them, not you. And you are like, "I did nothing to you, why are you behaving this way?" It is important to unmask this behaviour
👍🏼, सही कहा सदगुरू जी ने Basically all आधिभौतिक दुख जो दूसरों से हमें होते हैं, वास्तव में आध्यात्मिक दुख (जो हम स्वयं उठाते हैं) में ही बदल जाते हैं और आध्यात्मिक दुखों को दूर करने का उपाय केवल और केवल हमारे हाथ में ही है।
Yes...this is very true.All you can do is move away from situations and people which retards your growth and peace.Because they are doing what is the only thing they know to do ....and all we can do is uproot yourself from that area and root yourself where you can grow healthy.
Hurtful or deceitful words can wound as much as, or even more than, a punch on your face or stomach. If someone is exposed to emotional aggression, lies, manipulation, despise, etc, for a longe period of time this will normally cause ALL sort of pain and misery and emotional distress. Of course, those few enlightened ones may have the strength to not being so hurt by the emotional aggression coming from others.
It's true it is very difficult. But what Sadhguru says is the only intelligent way to deal with life. We have no choice over our external circumstances many a times and how long do we suffer for life, bit by bit?It is so tiring. I am constantly reminding myself with the words of yogis to become inward focussed.
Emotional aggression normally leaves scars, bruises, the eyes cannot see, but which are real. This is something that needs to be embraced before the person may heal and move away from the abusive relationship - as Sadhguru recommend. Of course the person's ability to do that will depends on a number of factors. Sadhguru is not encouraging anyone to follow him blindly, unquestionably. This would be very unintelligent for a wise and realizem Teacher to say.
Me also. Were I work they all have to be together but I stay by my self and they can't stand it, but when they tare up equipment they blame someone else but can't blame me.
Children suffer terribly from abusive parents and they have no escape. They internalize their parents words. He needs to clarify that this advice is for adults.
I have to somewhat disagree. My mother was very abusive towards my sisters and I. I had a hyphema, and a giant bruise on my face, she hit my head against a cement floor and gave me a concussion, she almost drowned my little sister. But I only thought one thing, she doesn't know any better and I never want to do that to my children... ever!! I now know I was wrong. She did know better but still chose to hurt us, but she has sinced to apologized and I have forgiven her. I am 42 now. How can I hold a grudge forever, I would only hurt myself.
Sadhguru have experienced everything well ! 🙏 He is saying it's the mental drama that is causing more pain than others actually cause. 100% I agree that abusive words must not be spoken to a child, it has bad effects on the individual. Parents must teach them how to deal nasty people ? Actually Staying away and being safe is not a solution at all.
The main reason behind of watching all this vedios is one person I have in my life... causing me lots of pain and love both ..to get rid from all this situation ..now iam fond all this vedios it's giving me hope..I dnt know what destiny will create for me..may be all this pain will be worth it someday 😌🧿💞
Sadhguru ❤..I suffer from neurophathic pains in my legs and arms ..after have listened to his teachings I started to do daily Hatha yoga..eats primarily vegetables...I sense I've started a process towards healing of my body ...my body feels better ..love from Michael in Denmark ❤️ thank u so much for sharing your knowledge with me and everyone who u initiate ...
Yes it's true,I don't create my own pain,words ,behaviors,can deeply hurt....I never suffer with good people,they can make mistakes,that's ok,but being ugly,vilain,toxic etc...is another story
No sadhguru its not that easy! Litrall abusive words are more painful than somebody stabbing you a knife. It really hurts esp when it comes from your own family 💔 Also what if you're not eligible to move out ? How do you survive?
Correct.main yahi dekh rahi thi ki real situation wala koi hai kya.sub acha acha bol rhe hai par jab kya jab hum usko move nhi kr sakte na move ho sakte.ase baate mujhe unreal lgti hai
That's a good way of putting it, he's saying only physical pain is real and any other pain is your mind interpreting it as such. It goes against what psychology says though which I sometimes thinks overly focuses on the problems. I'm a highly sensitive, empathic person so I feel on a deeper level, things hurt me for a long time but I'm going to try to keep this in mind, "only physical pain is real, the rest is nothing".
Wow.. Sadghuru put it so simply here... the words i could never find to describe the many situations i find myself in... We look for places were we can be effective with our lives and energy to evolve... some places and people create atmospheres where this is not conducive and energy is wasted on madden things instead of evoling into better beings ❤
171 / 5,000 Sadhguru's wise teachings are precious. Thank you and your team for making this video. May everyone always spend a lot of time listening to the Dharma to expand our wisdom ❤️🙏❤️
Thankyou Sadhguru, for showing me the way I was thinking was wrong, and seeing it from a new perspective. I love listening to your videos, thankyou for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with the world, you help to make the struggle a little bit easier to handle when you are able to understand better, especially the way you explain it, someone who actually cares but can also tells you exactly how it is and how you must look at it instead. Many many thanks and much love to you. P.S I never believed a Prince Charming would ride into my life one day and knock on my door announce himself and whisk me away to greener pastures lol. But I did feel ripped off by my family members, who gave me Fairytale like such to read as a child, filling you full of hopes & dreams that one day he would come to save you, when I realized they were all just stories, or big lies lol.
Sadh is so right on about this! People aren't the way you want or expect them to be lots of times, even most of the time. I think I'm finally learning not to try to talk to a person who doesn't know me.
There is a significant overlap with what Sadhguru is saying here and 'stoicism'. "It's in your head' Don't let the mean, vile, rude, and malicious people 'hurt' you by 'living' in your mind. The way you react to it is important and what you can control. I am living some difficulty at this moment and understand this, however I am making no illusions as this is extremely difficult. I hope it will get better day by day.
I don't know when I heard this I feel confident because I practice what sadhguru has said people do ignore me but I kept being same as I am but with better version
Life teaches us no one is with us except parents and so don’t keep dependency with any one just believe in you and God You are everything and capable for achieve your goals
It's not always about "that's what they know best". Some people deliberately shoot ans poke and stab with words. Word is powerful. Shabd is said to be Brahm
He is not telling move away from the person or situation he is saying when yu are being hurt see your reaction to it what is happenning within once yu see that the hurt miraculously goes away dont focus on the other but on oneself once yu see you are free
Emotions are an essential part of who we are,but they can be messy, complicated and downright confusing at times. Every situation we go through has the potential to teach us something. Writing down things like emotions can really help so that we're not holding it in anymore and can release it. Thanks.
It’s not their words who hurt you is the energy they send to you , its their pain you’re feeling. So it’s not only when you hurt yourself by the way you percieve what is being said, but sometimes is also the energy or intention they are sending to you, and this is what you have to learn to manage. You will feel it but you just got to let it through.🙏
I learned this from my last relationship: No matter what happens or how much it hurts, keep loving them and learn how to love them so you are also taken care of. Love yourself first. Pranam ~
@@nickthepiker if they cheat they loose not you, if you think somebody can fulfill you please don’t expect such a thing. You do what you can do rest leave it just find your tune of life. Life will poke you to give taste of reality if you still look after the unreal or illusion for fulfilment, you are going to get hurt either today or tomorrow one day definitely will come. It is better you find the truth of life then nothing will hurt you otherwise like a newborn child you are going to hurt yourself because of your incompetence
"They are doing what they know best"- Such a powerful and insightful comment to be so simple. And it's 100% accurate. When I apply such to those who perpetrated the negative experience, it fits and I smile because I have seen beneath the facade that they betray.
Sadhguru ,This talk came at the perfect time for me.Thank you for your unending words of wisdom.May I ask you what the name of the music was playing in the background.
As I grow and reflect over things, I learning to ask myself this question" What can I learn from this situation. Believe you me, if we are sincere in our quest, there is indeed a lesson and it's often at least two-fold: we learn something about ourselves and others.
If they make it a habit, i'll remove them without a doubt. Of course no one's perfect, but some are just too flawed and toxic. All the same, thanks, Sadhguru💙💙💙
Do not get weary by doing good..hartred will make ye weary...that weary will make you to hurt others..no one is perfect...but..we should keep on trying to be perfect..do not get weary....
His logic implies bullying is ok because it’s the victim who should not let their words affect them. This is not ok. Pain can be inflicted in so many other ways than just physically.
Actually we don't get hurt by the people's who hate us but we get hurt by the people's who always tell us what others are thinking about us. that's why try to stay away from this people's first.
Ok, so they are doing what they know best and their actions are hurting me, I agree. But what if I did something that I know best and it hurts them then what should I do? Should I change my behaviour to make them happy ? Should I limit myself so as not to hurt them? Should I hurt my feelings to make them happy? Please someone reply me because I am stuck in very difficult situation.
So the advice is to recognize that a person is ignorant if they are speaking insults directed toward you, because if they knew any better than they wouldn’t do it. So it’s there problem and they’re projecting it onto me. It’s their problem, not mine. This advise helps me to detach and look at my problems subjectively. Thanks. I will try my best not to give in to anger.
Yes, that's why Krishna said No one is your friend no one is your enemy, it's the situation and time that make people as your enemy and friends. So, he led his life focusing on Karma and Dharma..Sadhguru, Thank You🙏🙏🙏
So true ❤️
❤🙏🏼
Just curious how you know krishna said this.. i mean is it written somewhere in scripture?
Reference please
Absolutely sir, we must change ourselves not others and we should be with the 'life'.
*”Do not fear having no friends. Fear having bad friends”* ~My life taught lesson
More wisdom in our channel ;)
There is no such thing as friend actually. Some who we think is close to us we label them as friends. But it is all life acting in their own nature and cycles.
There is no bad friend either...
Just people that aligns with your path...or ones that take you off it(is what your calling bad friends) since they are going a different way in their own way
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And the ones that are lost in harmful habits is exactly the time when every person needs a friend.. not someone who avoid/runs thinking it's self preservation..when actuality it's because of lack of experience insecurity runs away.. instead of being present and walking away in mindful decisions is two different things
I'm in my mid 50s and I have so many friends I all I need is two fingers to count with!. I tell people ( kids) life is not a popularity contest.
So true 🙏🏻🇬🇧💝
It’s easier said than done .. and the art of ‘letting go ‘ is probably the most difficult to overcome ..
true
Since it has been happening again and again to me , now I am not bothered about it , and it’s become simple to move
When someone is being nasty to you, first try love. If that doesn't work then try compassion. If that doesn't work, distance.
-Sadhguru
Coran said that first.
@@rassoul3548 oh really..Which chapter please.??
@@raymondtendau2749 Sadhguru never said to walk away unless it is real physical damage. All emotional hurt are self created. The hurt is because of what we expect and expectation not coming true. If you are truly enlightened, you need not walk away to save yourself from emotional damage.
@@pragyan507 Do not misquote or misintreprete me. I only quoted Sadhguru. You can verify this quote by Sadhguru pls. Thank you.🙏🏿
@@raymondtendau2749 I am not. I am explaining what he truly means
He explained a thing in under 3 minutes what some of us take life time to realise. 🙏
And even when you realize it might not even be true
And some never realise, my opinion is lots of people think every thing should revolve around them 😵 I'm lonely at times but feel better off by myself ( we me and my cats are better off)
Some people have real maliciousness and try to hurt your ego and peace of mind. They should be removed.
It hutrts am tired ...
Everyone is important
Exactly!!
Physical pain might be caused by others.
But NO ONE can hurt us mentally & emotionally.
Emotional pain is our own creation. 🙏🏻😇
Hi . In my workplace, I have a small issue. I have a manager who doesn't do any work and our project doesn't follow any guidelines and always there is always a pressure from clients on the employees. Actually, many of the seniors have left the organization because of this toxic culture. But myself and some of the other people are freshers, we have worked for 1 1/2 year but didn't receive any promotion. Hoping that after we get some promotion, we will leave the organization. Our managers always give more work than we can do. So, we have to work for longer hours and we don't have any work life balance. Please guide me on how to respond to such situations and how to speak up for myself in the corporate culture? Because our manager doesn't speak for us. Myself and my friends do more work, so he assigns all the tickets to me and my friends. There are some people who doesn't do any work and are in the favour of manager. So they chill around. So, The manager assigns their work also to us saying they are on leave. But when they go on leave, not a single line of code will be written for the objects. If we inform the same to manager, he just nods his head and asks us to the development as the deadline is running out of time. Please guide me on the above issue.
I am in need of money urgently as I have some responsibility to pay the fees. So, I can't quit the job as well as of now.
I don't believe that
That's why you need a disciplined mind. Meditate and stay fit. Write if it helps. Eat healthy and sleep enough. Remember your past. Know that you will die some day, and what hurts today will not hurt tomorrow.
@@babushkapoponick3384 Let's start a discussion. Why do you feel that way?
I don't know how but my mind was asking the same question and this video popped up. So universe is listening. Thankful grateful and blessed.....
Same happened with me
Me too
I had to search for it :-)
Same here
Same here
Never give anyone that much power over your emotions or behavior. Be yourself and if they don’t like it allow it to be their problem not yours.
Thank you......
At first I thought, hey did I just keep escaping from pain inflicting by myself? But then I realized that, no. I only walk away from people which not only ignoring me but also not offering something that lift me up. It's a waste of time spending with people like that. I'm glad I did so, and found a group of people which could offer their knowledges and opinions to help improve everyone including themselves. It's nice to have a group of people the love to improve.
This came at the perfect time when I needed guidance. ❤
For me as well 🙏
yes
At philosophical level what Sadhguru said is right. But in real life its very difficult to digest when someone keeps hurting you or cheats you or takes advantage of your position ... Especially its very difficult when you have to live with them forever 😢😢😢
True yar
True
It is only philosophical because we all are seeing that way, we all don’t want to put efforts. There is a whole process of putting all that to practical and sadhguru and other yogis have just mastered it
Also you can "distance" when love and compassion don't work.
@@bentridermaybe you can’t grasp the concept that taking things personal is hard to let go of and not get emotionally attached to. Some people are living you know
Yes and no. Sometimes some people *try* to treat you poorly because of being jealous, or simply because they are not responsible enough to deal with what their perception of *you* provokes in them, not you. And you are like, "I did nothing to you, why are you behaving this way?" It is important to unmask this behaviour
So true
Spot on!
👍🏼, सही कहा सदगुरू जी ने
Basically all आधिभौतिक दुख जो दूसरों से हमें होते हैं, वास्तव में आध्यात्मिक दुख (जो हम स्वयं उठाते हैं) में ही बदल जाते हैं और आध्यात्मिक दुखों को दूर करने का उपाय केवल और केवल हमारे हाथ में ही है।
Yes...this is very true.All you can do is move away from situations and people which retards your growth and peace.Because they are doing what is the only thing they know to do ....and all we can do is uproot yourself from that area and root yourself where you can grow healthy.
So true❤Thank you!
Sadhguru is the real inspiration for everone......... agree ? Yes or no ?
No
Yesss, love him 😍😍😍😍
Yes
Yes yes yes....only
He is one of them, but there are many. Taking the ideas from multiple people can provide you the best viewpoint
Hurtful or deceitful words can wound as much as, or even more than, a punch on your face or stomach.
If someone is exposed to emotional aggression, lies, manipulation, despise, etc, for a longe period of time this will normally cause ALL sort of pain and misery and emotional distress.
Of course, those few enlightened ones may have the strength to not being so hurt by the emotional aggression coming from others.
It's true it is very difficult. But what Sadhguru says is the only intelligent way to deal with life. We have no choice over our external circumstances many a times and how long do we suffer for life, bit by bit?It is so tiring. I am constantly reminding myself with the words of yogis to become inward focussed.
Emotional aggression normally leaves scars, bruises, the eyes cannot see, but which are real. This is something that needs to be embraced before the person may heal and move away from the abusive relationship - as Sadhguru recommend. Of course the person's ability to do that will depends on a number of factors.
Sadhguru is not encouraging anyone to follow him blindly, unquestionably. This would be very unintelligent for a wise and realizem Teacher to say.
I am already feeling better. just by hearing this and realizing that I am the one casing pain to myself. Thanks for those wise words
Me also. Were I work they all have to be together but I stay by my self and they can't stand it, but when they tare up equipment they blame someone else but can't blame me.
When you are hurt by someone you forgive no matter and continue forwards praying for them and knowing God has you.
Awhh so kind of you ❤
Escapism is believing in gods of any kind.
Children suffer terribly from abusive parents and they have no escape. They internalize their parents words. He needs to clarify that this advice is for adults.
I have to somewhat disagree. My mother was very abusive towards my sisters and I. I had a hyphema, and a giant bruise on my face, she hit my head against a cement floor and gave me a concussion, she almost drowned my little sister. But I only thought one thing, she doesn't know any better and I never want to do that to my children... ever!! I now know I was wrong. She did know better but still chose to hurt us, but she has sinced to apologized and I have forgiven her. I am 42 now. How can I hold a grudge forever, I would only hurt myself.
Sadhguru have experienced everything well ! 🙏
He is saying it's the mental drama that is causing more pain than others actually cause.
100% I agree that abusive words must not be spoken to a child, it has bad effects on the individual. Parents must teach them how to deal nasty people ? Actually Staying away and being safe is not a solution at all.
True
I Heard this about 20times.... And each time i learnt many exciting things.... Thank you 🙏
The main reason behind of watching all this vedios is one person I have in my life... causing me lots of pain and love both ..to get rid from all this situation ..now iam fond all this vedios it's giving me hope..I dnt know what destiny will create for me..may be all this pain will be worth it someday 😌🧿💞
Sadhguru ❤..I suffer from neurophathic pains in my legs and arms ..after have listened to his teachings I started to do daily Hatha yoga..eats primarily vegetables...I sense I've started a process towards healing of my body ...my body feels better ..love from Michael in Denmark ❤️ thank u so much for sharing your knowledge with me and everyone who u initiate ...
Please listen some healing music and frequency as well.
Love and light 🙏💕
Try Vipassana meditation.
Words have psychological power. If Sadhguru's words heal us then toxic people hurt with their words as well.
True. But that's a conscious choice we have to take!
Yes it's true,I don't create my own pain,words ,behaviors,can deeply hurt....I never suffer with good people,they can make mistakes,that's ok,but being ugly,vilain,toxic etc...is another story
Exactly!
Indeed, rightly said we need to build a power to take what we want and leave the rest
Toxic people hurt us with their words and actions.
I love the way the young lady asked the question
Sadhguru is the real inspiration for everyone..Because it has a very good inspiration & a very true inspiration quotes.
Your iglis blows my mind
@@parth2sukhadiya Yes
So profound! This mindset stops you from thinking like a victim! Which in turn allows you to move with acceptance and self awareness. 💯💪🏾🙏🏾❤️🩹☮️
Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.
No sadhguru its not that easy! Litrall abusive words are more painful than somebody stabbing you a knife. It really hurts esp when it comes from your own family 💔 Also what if you're not eligible to move out ? How do you survive?
Correct.main yahi dekh rahi thi ki real situation wala koi hai kya.sub acha acha bol rhe hai par jab kya jab hum usko move nhi kr sakte na move ho sakte.ase baate mujhe unreal lgti hai
I've hurt people also in my past, but I'm trying to improve on that.
Absolutely sir, we must change ourselves not others and we should be with the 'life'
Simple way to leave it all behind. I've seen & heard enough to know what others fail to.
That's a good way of putting it, he's saying only physical pain is real and any other pain is your mind interpreting it as such. It goes against what psychology says though which I sometimes thinks overly focuses on the problems. I'm a highly sensitive, empathic person so I feel on a deeper level, things hurt me for a long time but I'm going to try to keep this in mind, "only physical pain is real, the rest is nothing".
Wow.. Sadghuru put it so simply here... the words i could never find to describe the many situations i find myself in...
We look for places were we can be effective with our lives and energy to evolve... some places and people create atmospheres where this is not conducive and energy is wasted on madden things instead of evoling into better beings ❤
"What you are asking for cannot be found in humans"- Divine inspiration.
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Sadhguru's wise teachings are precious. Thank you and your team for making this video. May everyone always spend a lot of time listening to the Dharma to expand our wisdom ❤️🙏❤️
Thank you..i was angry for something but now feeling better 😊❤
Sadhguru❤️ you are a real inspiration thank you for always putting a smile on my face with your awesome video
you're everywhere..how ?
I highly suggest (Secrets of sanatan dharma) book by Author sai prasad panda ...
So many youtubers trying to defame Sadhguru, only person who give clarity to us.❤❤❤
Yes
This guy gets better like aged wine, truly this man has some real wisdom.
🍷🍷🍷
The right time and correct words
Guruji. I was going through an emotional turmoil that anything cud happen. It was yr words saved me.
It feels like he said what my inner self really want to hear thankyou Sadhguru 🙏❤️
Your mind reader sadguru thank you 😔🙏🏻
Thank You Mr.Sadhguru for your words of wisdom !!Love to hear you !! I am thinking about going on a spiritual retreat for three months !
Thankyou Sadhguru, for showing me the way I was thinking was wrong, and seeing it from a new perspective.
I love listening to your videos, thankyou for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with the world, you help to make the struggle a little bit easier to handle when you are able to understand better, especially the way you explain it, someone who actually cares but can also tells you exactly how it is and how you must look at it instead.
Many many thanks and much love to you.
P.S I never believed a Prince Charming would ride into my life one day and knock on my door announce himself and whisk me away to greener pastures lol. But I did feel ripped off by my family members, who gave me Fairytale like such to read as a child, filling you full of hopes & dreams that one day he would come to save you, when I realized they were all just stories, or big lies lol.
your family did what they knew best. no need to feel ripped off by them
@@Invoker-10000 hahaha 😆🤣 a sh#💩skinned indian is imitating what a sh#💩skinned guru said LOL🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
To be fair,they also gave you all the good stuff that help you develop into the person you are now.
Life is a journey and that realization is a detour towards a clearer path
Dont let someones Bad Feelings make you change your focus .
Sadh is so right on about this! People aren't the way you want or expect them to be lots of times, even most of the time. I think I'm finally learning not to try to talk to a person who doesn't know me.
It's really so simple. You are correct. Thanks Sadhguru! I don't know why it seems to get so complicated in my mind.
People do what they know best.. it is up to us to respond or react.
Because we will do what we know the best ❤👌
Yes, this is true. I didn’t realize how true until Sadhguru opened my mind
What a lovely looking place. Sadhguru really goes his own way of living his life.
Keep distance is only a way.....Sadhguru..🙏
Just his presence in India is a blessing 🙏
I second your statement on Sadguru.
Sadhguru's answer bring tears to my eyes
There is a significant overlap with what Sadhguru is saying here and 'stoicism'. "It's in your head' Don't let the mean, vile, rude, and malicious people 'hurt' you by 'living' in your mind. The way you react to it is important and what you can control. I am living some difficulty at this moment and understand this, however I am making no illusions as this is extremely difficult. I hope it will get better day by day.
I don't know when I heard this I feel confident because I practice what sadhguru has said people do ignore me but I kept being same as I am but with better version
Life teaches us no one is with us except parents and so don’t keep dependency with any one just believe in you and God
You are everything and capable for achieve your goals
It's not always about "that's what they know best". Some people deliberately shoot ans poke and stab with words. Word is powerful. Shabd is said to be Brahm
"Of value to those you love"
He is not telling move away from the person or situation he is saying when yu are being hurt see your reaction to it what is happenning within once yu see that the hurt miraculously goes away dont focus on the other but on oneself once yu see you are free
I understand. It is not another person who harms you. Rather: how do you respond to their speech & behavior is up to you. Thank You.
Perfect timing sadgharu thankyou ❤️😊
Keep distance is only a way Sadhguru..becaz...it's time of waste to argue or fight with others...if, we are not willing to move...just keep quiet....
I really need this thank you so much for the video ❤️
Emotions are an essential part of who we are,but they can be messy, complicated and downright confusing at times. Every situation we go through has the potential to teach us something. Writing down things like emotions can really help so that we're not holding it in anymore and can release it. Thanks.
It’s not their words who hurt you is the energy they send to you , its their pain you’re feeling. So it’s not only when you hurt yourself by the way you percieve what is being said, but sometimes is also the energy or intention they are sending to you, and this is what you have to learn to manage. You will feel it but you just got to let it through.🙏
I learned this from my last relationship: No matter what happens or how much it hurts, keep loving them and learn how to love them so you are also taken care of. Love yourself first. Pranam ~
What if you get cheated on
@@nickthepiker Love them still. Sometimes loving means walking away to keep oneself safe.
@@nickthepiker if they cheat they loose not you, if you think somebody can fulfill you please don’t expect such a thing. You do what you can do rest leave it just find your tune of life. Life will poke you to give taste of reality if you still look after the unreal or illusion for fulfilment, you are going to get hurt either today or tomorrow one day definitely will come. It is better you find the truth of life then nothing will hurt you otherwise like a newborn child you are going to hurt yourself because of your incompetence
Life is more complex then this. It’s helpful to see this perspective however. Ownership of our reactions is essential ☯️💗🙏
Finally found solace in your words. Thank you!
Yes. They say what they say because that is the best they know. Right.
Thank you Bigger Sadhguru
Once we understand we are immensely stronger🌟
Honestly ❤
"They are doing what they know best"- Such a powerful and insightful comment to be so simple. And it's 100% accurate.
When I apply such to those who perpetrated the negative experience, it fits and I smile because I have seen beneath the facade that they betray.
Sadhguru ,This talk came at the perfect time for me.Thank you for your unending words of wisdom.May I ask you what the name of the music was playing in the background.
As I grow and reflect over things, I learning to ask myself this question" What can I learn from this situation. Believe you me, if we are sincere in our quest, there is indeed a lesson and it's often at least two-fold: we learn something about ourselves and others.
Exactly everybody hurts sometimes even our own shadow hurts us
If they make it a habit, i'll remove them without a doubt. Of course no one's perfect, but some are just too flawed and toxic. All the same, thanks, Sadhguru💙💙💙
You only hurt the ones you love and only love can mend a broken heart.
Everybody will hurt you. No such perfect human beings. That is very true.
Do not get weary by doing good..hartred will make ye weary...that weary will make you to hurt others..no one is perfect...but..we should keep on trying to be perfect..do not get weary....
Needed this 😢❤
Such a powerful, yet simple message, that few know. Thank you for pushing the word to more minds!!!✊🏾💯🙏🏾
I highly suggest (Secrets of sanatan dharma) book by Author sai prasad panda ..
Right ✅️
Yes dear Sadhguru, what you are saying is right. There is no perfect human being anywhere.
His logic implies bullying is ok because it’s the victim who should not let their words affect them. This is not ok. Pain can be inflicted in so many other ways than just physically.
~~Sadguru Is Sadguru !!🙏🏻🥰
Pranam,sadguru
This video dropped on point. I am pissed today at someone. Maybe this person was not trying to cause pain to me. I was going to walk away.
Actually we don't get hurt by the people's who hate us but we get hurt by the people's who always tell us what others are thinking about us. that's why try to stay away from this people's first.
Ok, so they are doing what they know best and their actions are hurting me, I agree. But what if I did something that I know best and it hurts them then what should I do? Should I change my behaviour to make them happy ? Should I limit myself so as not to hurt them? Should I hurt my feelings to make them happy? Please someone reply me because I am stuck in very difficult situation.
So the advice is to recognize that a person is ignorant if they are speaking insults directed toward you, because if they knew any better than they wouldn’t do it. So it’s there problem and they’re projecting it onto me. It’s their problem, not mine. This advise helps me to detach and look at my problems subjectively. Thanks. I will try my best not to give in to anger.
I highly suggest (Secrets of sanatan dharma) book by Author sai prasad panda . Thanks
@@radhika5933 ok I added it to my amazon account. Looks interesting. Thanks!
very good explanation, no one can hurt us, others are doing what they know....
Thank you so much sadguruji
Sir this is not easy to heal and recover when someone hurts you we r human with emotions 😞
Hes a guru....what about the regular joe with feelings not realistic!
As my old man would say to me as a kid…..sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me ….
Best way to make understand thats y he is special..Namadkaram 🙏
Every Body will Hurt u ....There is no Perfect Human Being which will not Hurt u ..... Well said Guruji
I love this! because If you are the student & the teacher.? You are teaching yourself to love & not need right? 😅❤
Thank you Sadhguru .. you have opened my eyes ..
I got the clarity within me..
That's nice
Don’t live in fear as it makes it hell to live nothing going to happen to you, meditate take care of yourself The rest is a secret good luck.
This helps, thank you.