Why Does Your Partner Put You Down or Devalue You?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 พ.ย. 2022
- Why Does Your Partner Put You Down or Devalue You?
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"My partner puts me down, and I don't know why."
Is this your reality? If so, you need to know what's behind your partner's belittling behavior and how to deal with it.
In this video, I explain the psychology behind why your partner belittles you and, more importantly, what you need to do to protect yourself.
They lie and make excuses to treat the closest one to them like crap but treat complete strangers better
Thank you!
I was sick to my stomach, but, NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!
Thank you Yumay. Some parts of this remind me of how my mom treated me when I was growing up. Was a perfect way for me to learn how to be treated poorly by my partner.
That's a keen observation! Our childhood sets up the blueprint for a relationship, and how our parents value us also seeds our self-valuation. It's why childhood abuse victims often become abuse victims in their adult relationships too. The good news is that we can heal and correct these distortions once we learn about the connection between our childhood and present-day. Thank you for sharing!
This is true for me too. It's affected me in every relationship I've been in since my childhood.
Me too my mother is narrsessist so I needed to cut off contackt many times
And she did like my whole famely cut me off last time I told here if you do this one more time you never see me and my children again
Me too !! Mean abusive mother and past spouse and current husband is not respectful I’m tired of it.
I was getting a promotion my girlfiend was so upset tearing me down when everyone else was happy for me
This happens to me as well...
I can say I was an ugly person at first with my girlfriend, honestly. Now, I am trying so hard to change who I am in her eyes, but it does not help when my ex-wife is on her side. To them, I will always be that person, and so that's why I usually say ...what's the use.
Currently going through this with my husband … it’s so hard and I’m holding on for our baby who is only a few months old … I call out his behaviour and he scolds me more for calling him out or ignores me for days for speaking up…. It’s so hard 😢
I hope you gain the strength to leave him without having any big altercations.
🎉if u stay ur teaching ur child to accept self-abuse. run🏃♀️ . lean on God for strength to put urself & baby 1st 🙏 leave toxicity by any means necessary...love is NEVER pain.
So sorry, he sounds like a narcissist
Amazing video , thank you for the guidance❤.
Thank you so much!
Everything you say is true.
I’m tired. I don’t want to live anymore.
Hey .. please don’t say that ..there’s so much to live for.. also know that no matter what God loves .. the best is yet to come .. be hopeful ❤
Hold on. Things WILL get better. Please hold on.
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@@pingoochee I’m trying 🫶
Thank you for your support
Yeah, things will get better. I'm cheering us all on. ❤
Thank you yumay im in the same relationship for 20 years😢😢😢😢
So true
Am helpless as am getting married to such person and a lot ot money has already been invested by my parents and now i cant back off😢
Yes you can.
Yes you can and should! First of all it'll be so wrong for you to live, and have others watch you be unhappy, no amount of money spent is worth that. Your parents love you and would not want you to live sad everyly after!! Don't do it!!
ADVICE PLEASE ANYBODY...colleague at work partner is nice person but puts her down at home. People don't believe. They adore him. What must she do? She feels broken but not even her pastor believes it. Overheard him and i believe her. Why he doing that? She changed. Not happy person anymore. PLEASE HELP.
Wow its like have it and had it before how i get stronger?i am now there i feel everything is wrong with me and that im a bad person and thats not good..what do i need to do to protect my feelings..
The other night I was looking something up with my remote, he says to me here give it to me you're too slow I'm much quicker what can zi say to that?
All of this!!!!!!!!
Please keep making videos- the word needs to understand what a toxic and healthy relationship is. So many people suffer in silence.
He has been, talking down to me moaning about things i havent done.
Being hot and cold.
And am having his baby next month.
I wish the best for your delivery 🙏🏻 I hope you have a support system to get you through… 💜 never give up on yourself!
I do everything to try to make us financially stable because he is NOT working. Shut down all my business ideas which are for helping us move towards the future. Everyday he video games, I send him job opportunities I try to invest in his ideas but it's always constant criticism. I have made 2 online streams of income but they're not bringing enough but it does works. Just now, we had another argument about me doing too much, I should slow down he say. And the criticism doesn't come in the financial departments. It's really hard cause sometimes he praises me and sometimes he is just... I don't know. So now I'm being pushed into wearing the pants in relationship and I feel like I'm so close to having a mental breakdown or psychosis and if that happens it's the downfall of us. I almost lost him to another woman when I was sick in the hospital with bipolar disorder. Yes I have bipolar disorder now... stress makes me manic and psychosis. But I love him... I think his criticism is constructive I guess... but I wish he would just be more active in finding a job so that I can relax and focus on my health. But he has been jobless since January... it's June 😢
Do you focus all your energy on work and neglect your relationship?
Are you overly focussed on your image toward the outside world and giving to strangers and coworkers but treat him with less respect than other people (especially other males)?
Do you subtly put him down with snide remarks at home or try to himiliate him infront of others? Do you love him or are you just hoping to check a box of having a man in your life so that you look like a "complete package"?
(Career, looks, relationship and whatever else)
Was he employed and more vibrant and healthy and driven before you both started the relationship?
Im asking you these questions NOT to be accusatory. But your comment sounds vaguely like my last relationship. Ive never been a video games guy. Ive always wanted to be successful and have an entrepreneurial mindset but i also have cptsd,adhd and autism and although i have great idwas and am very creative i lack the knowledge of how to get things off the ground so to speak with any business ideas.
I have confidence but also self doubt. I put in all this effort and burnout at the last minute stressing about how maybe it wont work and i have asked the wrong people for advice who seem to only find fault in my ideas therefore i feel unsupported.
No man wants to be in a relationship where his woman thinks she is wearing the pants. It breeds disrespect in her and she will start to subconsciously pick him apart in a futile attempt to motivate him to do better.
I understand. No I work from home. I'm home 24/7, we see each other every second and we are each other's closest friends presently. We are just struggling because I only bring in 150 USD per week... and it's hard for it to sustain both people. The situation is dire but it's not as bad as people in the Palestine so I'm greatful.
I love him, we are each other's cheerleaders. Meeting him I've gained more depth about myself as a person. Maybe it's this constant disconnecting from the outside world and other people is affecting us. This is the most social I've been all year.
@hillandgullyride-o have you looked into attachment styles. I am anxious avoidant and she is dismissive avoidant and rhat equates to her feeling trapped and smothered with even the minimum of closeness. I feel abandoned and unloved with the less than required quality time.
Mine compares me to her ex or other people even my My own City i live in is compared. I lost my voice because im afraid if i defend myself it will cause us to fight again and we were in LDR only seeing twice a month. But its been 2 month since we lsst communicated and broke up i thought i was doing well until 3 days ago i just starting missing the idea of her and the regrets how could i have handled the situation. I dont know why. Keep fighting focusing on my busness right now and how to make lots of money.
Yes focus on yourself, on your own well-being, on what makes you happy. Do the things you want to do. That's not selfish. Don't go looking for someone or wait for someone. It'll happen spontaneously 😊 Best of luck
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Do jokes count too?
Mine joked with me all the time i started to feel like i worth nothing😢
Jokes? or making fun of the other person? Depends who is laughing and how it makes you feel ...
You are so very beautiful.
Iʻm his master
I dont do anything wrong eather😮
Me either 😢😢😢
They lie and fool you talk behind youre back to all. You loose EVERY THING IN LIFE
Everything
I tryed end my life before becouse of this but god want me to live
@@user-yd8ls7tj1m so sorry to hear that I know this horrible dark helpless lonely feeling. There big bullies.my boyfriend has been treating me like complete garbage lately after coming back and I feel like such a idiot.i have been considering moving into my tent but im terrified. I don't want to life like this anymore .I've done this with him wayyy too many times and I hate conflict. I'm exhausted!!!! He will never ever ever change.hes gotten so used to being disrespectful. I can't believe the man i see standing in front of me sometimes .it tears my heart out