THE NARCISSIST CAME INTO YOUR LIFE TO TEACH YOU A LESSON! : Relationship advice
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The Narcissist teaches you:
* Kindness by being unkind
* Tolerance by being judgmental
* Unconditional love by being withholding and punishing
* Honestly by being deceptive
These are profound spiritual lessons that take a lifetime to learn.
Overcoming a narcissist relationship requires a level of healing that many will never understand.
So true
Praying for you honey! I know first hand.
I haven’t dealt with him in 2 years & I’m just now getting to the point where I can tell my best friend the things he did to me. I will be healing for a very long time💯.
Oh I completely understand I'm a Narc Survivor
They sure won’t
My lesson was to stop blindly trusting people, and not throw my pearls to swine.
What you said is so good this is what I feel for my self it's what I said
Simply put, I agree
This was so me!!! I trusted my body with a men I thought I could trust after doing wht I thought was my research but whew child a man will say anything and be anybody to get wht he wants from you; so be very careful ppl can be so deceitful❤️🩹
@@shaunierockett4964 wolves in sheep's clothing...
This right here!!! A big lesson I had to learn. From childhood to my late 20s
When you have dealt with a narcissist, YOU HAVE TRULY COME ACROSS EVIL!!!!
Yup. I never experienced anything like the disrespect of a narcissist. I was in complete shock when he said certain things! I would just stand there stunned silent. Then I found my voice. I think I learned that I have to speak up, defend myself and make people respect me. If they don’t I won’t pay them no mind.
Agreed! My friend was married to one and he goes through the women and I feel so sorry for them.
It’s soo sad
Cruelty.
@@Tyndalic You did too much. You will not change the heart, mind, spirit, nor course of a narcissist.
The best thing to do after an encounter with a narcissist is to remain single and work on yourself so you know what to look for and avoid next time.
Straight Facts... Well stated..
I feel like the good air has been sucked out of me!
Yeah u know the best thing to do u have the antidote 😂😂😂😂
Yes.. life repeats itself until we get the lesson.
Yes. A wise man (my cousin) said, “Learn the lesson or repeat the course.”
Yep
Narcs are crazy, unpredictable, and dangerous! That sibling comment - I LIVED that mess, watching my brother pull away from our parents and myself was a MASTERCLASS in manipulation. That demon WILL be the focus of my upcoming published short story, then novel. Like the comment above "Learn the lesson or repeat the course."
So true!!
Facts. Unresolved childhood trauma im awake
When I see signs that someone is a narcissist, I immediately break contact and communication with them. I don't want that energy and abuse in my life.
You are right yo do so.
I had a true narcissist in my life once, it taught me a lesson: Change your taste in men.
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Amen sister
It's all spiritual! It's all! Keep your eyes open.
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The Deceiver !
FACTS!
Narcissist come into your life and you have no idea these people existed....true monsters!
I concur
It seems absurd to blame someone’s bad behavior on a literal demon, but unless you’ve dealt with this kind of evil you will never understand or believe how demonic it is. It’s not just a mean or cruel person. It is truly a supernatural experience.
Exactly. I grew up with a legion of them
Constantly being degraded, mistreated,as you said you'll never be enough. Never. They hate themselves and will NEVER give a d__m about you. They will never give you compassion or kindness. I actually called him a demon. Completely selfish and totally demonic!!! Please beware because they seek out pleasant, kind hearted, beautiful spirits.
Very true.
So true spot on
Bo doubt
Same experience. Never met a person like that ever.
True. They are looking for beautiful, spirited people because they know you are kindhearted, and it will be easier for them to control and manipulate you to get their supply.
Yes Ms Faye , I just got out of narcissistic relationship and Boy oh Boy I've learned sooo much about myself and grateful I learned my lesson ! I was so depressed , I lost weight , I felt like I was dying slowly ! But, I got my light, and my power back ! Ms Faye I got an inner peace I never felt before and it is Amazing and Beautiful! My lesson was to change the perception of myself , that was the gamechager for me ! I thought I had self love , nope False self love ! I am mediating more, saying Affirmations to build myself up again ! I have no contact with my ex and that helped me get stronger ! And watching these videos helped me recognize , what narcissistic is ! I didn't know, I was blind , not anymore, my eyes open ! I am still healing but grateful for my peace!
🎉 Love the way You expressed this.
I wish and pray You the Best💚
@@SS-cn3zw Thank you 💚
That was well said and beautiful, I’m proud and happy for you. I’m better than I was before answering thanks to that toxic experience. I always put others before me, now it’s all about me and it’s self empowering
@hidefinishon12 Thank you and yes to putting yourself 1st, We all don't realize that we show up for ourselves last , But now we are learning self love and show up 1st for ourselves! Huuuugs to you !
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Lately I find myself doing research about narcissists and now it all makes sense
Me too. I didnt know what was wrong with until i found the word " NARCISSIST" online. Im now out of that marriage and have peace at last. I dont know if I am completely healed but I am more spiritual and loving myself.
Same here
When you're invested in research you have reached a point of awareness and breaking. Learn as much as you can, so you know how to move wisely.
Same for me, it’s crazy of the things they are guilty of
Me too..I'm realizing my son is a narcissist..Because he was diagnosed with a mental illness i have been trying to help him but its been draining..all this i been learning he has more narcissist behavior
It’s been five years . Still feel messed up from it. My daily prayer is asking God for more healing. Thank you for your talk♥️
My husband's been dead almost 7 years so I'm still healing . . . just hold tight girl, you gon be ok.
Please pray for God to help you move past this experience. You deserve to feel normal again!
Wishing for your healing as well and you to take your full power back and step into the full beauty of who you are and who you were created to be!! ❤
Evil doers and haters don’t win!
It's been 12 years for me and I'm a ton stronger but there's still a little pain there. Worked best for me - Play like a child, remember who the real YOU is.
You’ve got to do that work but it does take time but they’re the greatest gift that life could ever give you ❤
It’s a harder lesson when the narcissist is your mother.
Aww that gotta be hard growing up with a Narcissistic parent. 😢
@@patriciacouch7214 It was, but I learned the lessons. She is to me the way her mother was to her. I just broke the cycle.
@4GilmoreGirl this is true! I’m my mothers only child. It hurts so bad. I have learned to love her afar
GIRL! THAT IS A WHOLE NOTHER BIG GNARLEY NOVEL THAT NEEDS TO BE WRITTEN AND THEN THROWN INTO AND BURNED IN THE PIT OF HELL..WHEN WE RISE AGAIN ! D9NT GIVE THE DEVIL ANY GLORY.. BY EVEN REHURSING THAT CRAP...IGNORE THE DEVIL ..BETTER YET ..YOU GOT THE POWER TELL THAT LITTLE SUCKER TO FLEE IN THE NAME OF JESUS AND HE MUST...HES JUST A SQUIRL TRYIN TO GET A NUT !
@@RealGilmoreGirl and all the people said...Yes! Halleluah!! And AMEN!!! THANK YOU LORD!
I've noticed a pattern that loads and loads of these men show signs of being DL (down low). When they use substances it worsens their mental health, brain chemistry, and self-hatred, and they take it all out on us, the cover woman being used. Dead bedroom is a tell-tale sign. Picking fights when the woman is trying to be intimate. Emotionless, robotic sex. Life is too short. It becomes a waste of a woman's life. I will never be someone's punching bag again.
Thank you, Miss Faye. Love your wisdom-filled videos. From true experience too.
When you leave a demon you have to level up times 7 with God cause he told us in scripture when one demon leave he will try to come back only with 7 more demons worse than he was.
I believe it!
wow didn't see this literally. Amour of TMH
It's the truth...people don't realize the things in the Bible is true of human beings and situations...I got several that lines up with the lessons in the Bible and every time I link it together I say oh my God u are so right and this so true...smh it's right there we shouldn't have to pearn these hard lessons being hard headed 🤦🏽♀️
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To me a narcissist seems no different than a pimp 😢and that’s sad
I can see the correlation.
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Spot on! I married a narcissist at 18 and had no clue what narcissism was or that he was one. We separated at 7 years and eventually divorced. I did my best to heal but as you said, when we don't fully heal and jump into another relationship it doesn't work. The next person was a player, I wouldn't say a narc but definitely a player. Into my 30's I fell for a guy who I thought was a great loving guy and he later broke things off because I was exploring my gifts and talents and not conforming to what he wanted. I was broken but moved on. I eventually met an older man and married and we had a good life together until his passing in 2019. Eventually I crossed paths with the guy from my past. We started to be in contact and it seemed like things were finally going to work this time but because I had had a real loving relationship with my husband and learned what that looks like I started to see things in this guy that were manipulative, bread crumbing etc. I overlooked red flags because I "thought" I knew him but in the end he was NOT who I thought he was. He thought he was going to come in and take over my life, manipulate me, my finances etc, but I stood up to him, told him what time it was, walked away and blocked him. He tried a couple times to make contact but to no avail. I can honestly say no one on this earth hurt me as bad as this man. It has taken 2 1/2 years of healing and I am still not fully healed but I also am not looking for a relationship. You are so correct that they are controlled by a demon. I know this is going to sound crazy but a few months after I blocked him I started to feel an Evil presence in my home. It frightened me and every night when I'd try to sleep it was as if something as attacking me. A girlfriend of mine started praying over the phone with me and we told it to go away and that I am a child of God and he is my Lord and Savior. It finally stopped. I researched about this and from what I learned is that Narcissists work for Satan and their job is to keep us from our Light. Keep us confused. I used to think the Spiritual battle was between God and Satan but the Spiritual battle is right here on Earth and Narcissists whether they truly understand or not, the demon attached to them is trying to keep us from our Spiritual Light, keep us doubting ourselves and confused and from believing in God. Once we get away from them, do the healing work, we go through a Spiritual awakening and take our Power back. Once we understand we are not of this world, that this is our school of lessons and blessings as you stated then we are on the path of understanding self love and the knowing that we will never let anyone take our Power again.
Amen 🙏❤
Amen
Thank you so much for sharing this helped me❤❤
Amen 🙏🏼
Let's keep in mind these videos weren't around back in the day, most of us had no knowledge/clue as to what a narcissist is, so now we have these videos at our fingertips there's no excuse to date a narcissist. My relationship with the worst narc was 40 years ago I thank God I made it out of that toxic hell. Thank you for sharing your video it's educational and informative.
Yeah for the home team! Glad you did too!!!!
After all that time you still want to do harm to them especially since now we know what we were dealing with.
I've known to never lay your life down for a man that's never layed his life down for you.
Yes, look at Tina Turner...her 1st husband Ike beat & ra4ped her. Her new husband took a risk at his age and had an operation to give her his kidney so she can live longer in her 80s and so she is still here thanks to his support. It's amazing how her 2 husbands are like night and day.
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She’s telling the truth I dated a horrible narcissist, I learned what a narcissist was by being with him. When I was finally able to let go of him and soon after he passed away . I was mourning and grieving such a horrible person and 8 months later I met another man exactly like him and got pregnant by him. Now I’m single and at peace and honestly I’ve never felt this type of peace before… Heal ladies you have too.
Best of luck as you continue to get your life back together. God has angels to watch over you. Mine tried to kill me with pot laced with Fentanyl.
@@totallynieve7108 Thank you … omg they are the most evil people . Im glad you are here to tell your story
I learnt my lesson twice ...I'm healing now never again 😮😮😮😮
@@vivianperdue4329 Never again is right, now we for sure know the signs of narcissism. That mistake should never be made again …
Exactly it’s about OUR OWN HEALING
One thing the narcissist and I had in common was that we both loved him.
He's leaving taught me how to love myself first!
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😂 This is funny.. I remember mine always saying how handsome he was and making me verify it. Even when I didn't want to say anything nice at that point. I'd HAVE to tell him he's handsome.
That’s right! You found your true love- yourself! ❤
You're telling us, get back to love and don't worry about what they are doing. That's excellent advise. I whole heartedly support that. Go on with your life. One thing we should know about demons is that, they need our permission to operate. If we withdrawal that, and refuse to care about them and focus on ourselves and our family and loved ones. They have nothing to work with.
Well said.
I so needed this.❤
Yeah but thats the scary part too...they will stalk you because the get board early and want to sabotage your life again....they have agendas people watch out...
Stop empowering the demons, fa real
Amen
You're right. Narcs need you to cooperate in your own demise. So, stop cooperating.
The narcissist taught me a lot that why I got rid of his ass. I can detect a narcissist now right away. 🥺
There are so many variations. Stay vigilant with no fear ❤
I have dealt with so many narcissists in my life. I would date them. One day, I came home and said, "That's it! I have had it! I just want to be at peace!" I felt like 50 pounds dropped off my body. I worked for narcissists. I realized that I should work for myself. My sibling is a narcissist. I have limited contact with him. We need to raise the younger generations not to be narcissists.
Rule of thumb, be at peace!
I love the fact even after all you’ve been through you can laugh about it. Bless you Ms Faye!
Yea after so long it becomes sad funny. I laugh in his face when he has a episode because it’s like watching Tv sitcom. You turn em on and you turn it off. They normally mess their lives up no matter what they do. If they are successful in money they have a plague of diseases if not much money they have drug problems always into trouble just daily it’s a upset. It’s oh had a accident a fall a argument ect… always something daily after a awhile. It’s a living hell he was cursed with. Sick sad and deathly.
The story about the popcorn made me cry. I went through something similar. I was wheezing and grasping for air constantly because of an autoimmune problem that developed during the time he was in my life trying to escape and yet survive all of his abuse. He stood over me once and said " I'm not taking you to the hospital" then walked away angry look on his face. I was able to get to my inhaler and it wouldn't work so I had to crawl to find my cell phone to call 911 myself. Paramedics came and gave me a breathing treatment on my couch because the ER wait times were 14 to 20 hours at the time in the middle of the start of covid virus. The narcissist played nice and attentive the whole time and even joking with the EMTs. I didn't know what I was dealing with but it all felt like evil. I was so hurt. 😢
This lady is telling you the truth but s Narcissistic personality can be a man or a WOMAN 👩
Also spiritual if you don’t Cut the Cords you can never truly be free. But most people don’t know about Chords
So glad you are okay. Mine would purposely light candles and incense when I was suspected to possibly have asthma and was having shortness of breath. It is intentional.
Sorry to hear...they are the most evil people in the world
@@HSBsoulsurfer I went through this he was burning something and I could not breathe and he told me it was meant to run me out the house I was in tears
The key component to never repeat this cycle ever again is by doing your inner child work with a spiritual psychotherapist which guides you back to your true authentic self by finding the root cause as to why you ended up with the narcassist. Its all about lack of self worth which you developed since childhood that causes you to ignore the abuse you're experiencing. After i left my narcassistic exhusband I found an amazing therapist which was paramount to my healing journey then 3 years later i found a sweet...tender...authentic partner which we had two beautful daughters and live a magical exsistence which is now 35 years ❤❤❤❤❤
You are the first person I have heard to speak about molestation with narcissistic men. I wish I had known this sooner!!!!! I knew he was bad for me but no idea that he would do what he did to my child. I found out and he went to jail. He killed himself 3 days later. Please pray for my daughter. She is struggling. God bless you!
Courtney, I am praying for you and your daughter. Love her intensely and show her some men who have integrity. God bless you both. ♥️🙏♥️
@@deborahedelman7866 thank you💜
@Courtney prayers for you and daughter, in the name of Jesus for His Love, grace, and mercy to embrace you for healing, guidance❤
Narcissists have an answer for everything
Rule #1 Nothing will ever please her or him ( Narcissist )
She is so right, in my case it was a female, my niece, she was draining the life out of me. I finally put her out of my house. I feel so much more alive and at peace.
Some narcissists take “till death do us part” into their own hands
I was married to a religious narcissist for many years and it was so painful..but I married him from my Pride so I had Pride lessons to Learn. I am Healing Now. I found Jesus and I Obey His Commandments and reestablished my worthiness. It was a long hard lesson but I am happy Now! 😊❤
Hallelujah Amen praise God!
Thank god you are out of that situation! I am struggling with trying to help my best friend get away from the narcissistic demon she is married too. I am so scared
one day he will go off the deep end and hurt her & the kids. I pray for her and let her know she has got to get out of this toxic marriage and I am here for her to help
in anyway I can. I told her I will always be here for her and whatever she needs when she leaves him.
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I had no one who understood and no one to help me. I didn’t even understand what was going on..all I knew is that I was very sick and could hardly do anything. It seems when there was no one there to control anymore and be of service to him..he divorced me! I was free! I don’t recommend this! But it is what happened. He married another lady..moved to another State..and I was free to enjoy my children and grandchildren. I Lost a daughter to a narcissist though..so always be there for her! My daughter was found dead in a hotel room with insulin injected into her neck. She was married to a body builder..a Roid Rager..who used insulin for his body building. I didn’t read the police report until later and I let it go because..she was Gone and I couldn’t bring her Back. Justice could not either..but she left two darling children who are grown now.
I'm so sorry. Any chance he was in the closet?🌈
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No! Lol 😆 He definately wants Women. He was ogling them our whole marriage. I just ignored that..that was one of least things that was difficult. He belongs to a church that believes in glorification and many wives. The commonality between Mormons and Moslems.
Life is a cruel teacher. It gives the test first and then the lesson. My narc had a way of giving praise in a way that was really an insult. I felt like I had a sparing partner instead of a life partner the entire relationship.
Sparing partner is right
The narcs think "self love" means that you give them everything and get nothing. I actually had this explained to me by my narc. I stood there in shock. I couldn't believe he just explained to me that's what their twisted, crazy-ass definition of "self love". I thought I was in the twilight zone. He totally believed this was true. When I asked about my self love. He I don't need any.
That's a narcissist for you. They nothing about love, empathy, compassion, cooperation, mutuality, equality, coordination, or self love for heavens sake.
For real Miss Faye, we do need self love. You couldn't be MORE RIGHT.
You hit the nail on the head
Ms. Faye you just summed up my whole life in this video. 😢 Both of my parents are narcissists and never showed me love. Once I branched out on my own it was a rough road. One narcissist to the next. Then I married one..smh…I went through everything you described; devalue, jealousy, hate. I was married to the spawn of satin (I told him that). One day I woke up and chose me! My life took many turns and I’m happy to say I have been winning ever since!!! Keep doing what you’re doing. ❤
Narcissists get spiritual intel from the demonic forces that work through them. This is why they are so in tune and perspective.
Yes ma’am one year out and I’m still healing Ms Faye, never been through anything like this out of 58yrs
Me too
My husband died when I was early fifties and I didn't realize the dating game changed so drastically so that happened to me as well Thousands of dollars later, lesson learned
Don’t beat yourself up. I had many years of psych nursing experience and unknowingly married one. Then had a boyfriend I adored who tried to kill me with Fentanyl.
I got rid of narcissists in my personal life. Now I have two for bosses. I just document their madness. And they know that I am. I’ve ran too many times. I’ve learned how to stand my ground ( and keep my attorney on speed dial.)
The way the abuse sneaks up on you with a little at a time, is something I can relate to, Faye. It's as if you were perfect in lots of ways, which you had hoped, but then there are cracks forming in how things are playing out. I can see all this more clearly now. It makes you feel YOU were the one who "slipped". But it was not your slip. It is the other person now demanding of you. Appreciation does not enter into it anymore, at least not for you. Now it is nothing but humiliations. These are great and freeing thoughts. Thank you. He is never going to support you in anything you do. This is the only conclusion that will now support my mental health.
Amen and Yes --- so so true .
Choose you. ♥
My narc even told me it was me n not him 😢
I understand the best and the worst of dealing with a narcissist.
I’ve been divorced 5 years now , I was married for 30 years and I didn’t know what the heck was going on.👀.God has given me everything that the enemy has stolen from me. He left me for another woman, God blessed me with siding for our house,a furnace a new roof a AC unit a new hot water tank and the list goes on. He was having another lady’s house fixed up, but God blessed me with more that I could ask for.🙌🏽❤️
Peacefully healing in Christ 🙌🏽
They will tell you nobody else wants you to your face.
There was a freind always asking me for money, i was always broke, so the universe said STOP, I did and I'm blessed, I can buy what I want I have gas in my car I feel better.
Fantastic!
A demon is not going to let you heal that's why you have to know the word of God to strengthen you, Lord is on our side just call n seek him
You can't be disrespected if you refuse to acknowledge that that they are trying to disrespect you. Don't let them know that you notice that they were doing that. And then do the opposite of their expectation and play dumb like like you don't know what they are talking about just the way the covert narc does you and then play the victim just like them. You'll get them discombobulated and they will want to leave. That's good for you.
I cant wait until the most high comes back
From age 28 until 61 it was really good for along time then slowly changed. By the time I was late 50’s he was stealing from me, lying, debt and other women. Your right it’s like going to hell and fighting to get out. Greed! By the end I barely knew me. Four years later I’m healed and loving myself for the first time. I lost me. I felt like I went by through spiritual warfare! The lies were every word coming out of his mouth, gaslighting almost made me loose my mind. Once I figured it out, oh hell it was on! God and I fought the demon and won.
You are describing a former boss of mine. He was a doctor in a clinic. Had seven nurses. He would pick his new favorite, and pit the others against each other. Make them jealous. So glad I got out out of there (but only after several years). Good lesson even in the workplace be careful. Oh yes, found fault no matter how perfectly something was done.
I’ve been through this and I couldn’t explain it but I left. I got out so fast! Now I can spot them. Ever since then, I've been running. I'll stay by myself if God doesn't tell me who my husband is. Don't lose yourself. Thank you so much!!
This the comment, I recently share this same sentiment with someone that God gets to choose my husband or tell me directly this man is your husband.
I have been with one, we have a daughter and it has been a roller coaster since 2019 up to November 2022. He wanted to keep our daughter so he could gained more access to me but I see right through his deceit. I thought to myself ok the abuse would stop but it just began when he left in 2019. The financial abuse started. I wasn't working at the time and when he is to send money for our daughter to buy her groceries he would carry on and behaved spiteful.
In 2021 I sent my daughter to visit him. When she was leaving with him she had a slight fever. I said to him let her stay I will send her to you when she feels better. He started to fuss so I let him leave with her and he did not even bother to take her to the doctor. I would speak with my daughter through video calls while she was with him and after 1 week and a few days when I called he didn't allow me to speak with her because he wanted her to spend an entire month.
At the time I advised him that "if" after 2 weeks she is fine I would let her stay. Please bear in mind that he didn't bond with our daughter as he was selfish with his time when our daughter born. I am at home so I have to stay with her 24-7 and since I am at home in his eyes I was not doing much. I brought groceries and juice for my daughter when she was leaving with him and pack them in box and send her off with him,. I asked him to get her some fruits and milk because she love milk. I think it was the third day of him being with our daughter I asked him about the milk and fruits and that did not go well "I heard how he's not a millionaire"
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Oh Mama. You speak the truth. What a wise woman you are. I held on for dear life thinking they would change. The lesson was narcissists never change. Save yourself!
The universe??? Lol! No, the CREATOR of the universe gets all the glory.
This also goes for children. My adult child acts just like the narcissistic family member that I no longer have any involvement with. When I put that person out of my life, the demon in him even told me, “I’m bringing your daughter into this,” and sure enough, a few years later, she now acts EXACTLY like that person. One lesson I definitely have had to learn is to choose joy and to choose myself, because I have learned that my family members love to choke all the happiness and life out of me.
Same here! It's very, very tiring! 😢
I’m a Christian and I will tell about the Lord any time any place, but I will say this I do not want any projects. I’m not in the business of fixing folks that’s for God to do. I’m about getting my healing and my fixing. I’m waiting on a whole healed good man. Meanwhile I’ll be sitting right here with my 2 dogs and my crochet books to read and building my business
My mom treated my sister better than she did me. That rejection really affected me throughout life. She was the first narcissist and I never knew it until now. After I left my ex husband who I found out is a narc. I didn’t know until I I told him to leave this year. You know what’s so crazy, both my Mom and ex husband reads the Bible or listens to gospel music all the time.
Same here. My mother is a narcissist and it took me at the age of 47 to realize that. Once I realize that, I loved her at a distance and started flourish in life. I met this handsome guy - a narcissist too. He drained me financially and mentally. Again, I distance myself from him and started to be blessed. It is a negative spirit.
Im recognizing this is actually going on & praying for a way out, my spouse has me across the world away from my family & has me broke & abandon with no way financially out, keep me in your prayers i have to keep hope for peace and an open door to getting out away from this so I can go heal cause this is very awful to deal with In Jesus name i pray Amen
Amen🙏
I can honestly say that he brought me to the foot of the Cross and left me there. That was he purpose. I knew God before him but I know now that God knows me more everyday. Life has been a blessing since he “divorced” Thank you Ex husband. 🙏🏼💐🎁
Amennnn ❤
I googled where the vows come from and it's NOT from the Bible!! I never knew that before. For that alone, thank you for bringing that to my attention!!!!
But the Bible says we are to stay with our husband until death unless there's adultery.
@@victoriahardin1560 Where? I'm just wondering where it says that?? I'm still here after 51 years, but it's a hard row to how. That's for sure.
@@lindamoore9729 Matthew 19:9, 10; Matthew 5:32
I'm willing to bet that a man wrote it.
What about if he physically abuses you
They will have a golden child and one that they abuse badly. Neglectful to that one and give that one very little
My narcissist abuser ended up having a stroke, I was taking care of him, even feeling guilty about the stress I caused him by not giving him my hard earned money when he asked me, I was doing everything for him, even wiping his @ss and feeding him. I was cleaning his room when I found a notebook he had, he had written out a list of insults about me, things that were so debilitating, I thought he said those things randomly during arguments, but no, he had them all written down. I was floored.
That soul tie is a monster
Your video makes so much sense to me. A few days ago my narcissist husband told me that he is being controlled by a demon that tells him what to do. He told me that this demon is draining my energy, that it hates me, that it loves manipulating me and wants to destroy my life. 😶 I know that it's time for me to leave even though I am financially dependant on him and raising our child
A Demon wrote the marriage saying to death do you part. They own us to treat us the way they want.
Exactly
It's not biblical, although some preachers may try to tell you it is. The Bible describes good relationships and also situations that are appropriate for divorce. It doesn't make sense to tell a person they have to stay with a demon-harnessed spouse to be right with God.
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Thank you for this message. I left a marriage with a narcissist in 2019 but yes, have seen this demon again and again. Learning to love yourself is the key. Then the narcissist won’t be able to see the open wound that you’re trying to fill.
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Everything she is saying is spot on. The only exception of that the Narc was my mom. And eeeeeverything she’s saying is accurate.
I'm watching cause of my mom too. She just pulled something that triggered my anxiety and a melt down.
That's where it starts - in childhood - and then you are attracting it in every area of your life, even friends, sometimes strangers. I even had a narcissistic therapist once. I believe in spirits. There's a spirit that you carry that attracts these situations that began in childhood. Pray it off you. Read the BIBLE. Limit your social until you become stronger and develop GOD, WORD, DIVINE boundaries.
My mom appeared to be the best mom and wife for 57 years.When she took that mask off oh My God as nice and friendly as she appeared was 10x’s worse the opposite….When I tell you evil & demonic spirit that’s her and read the Bible take communion, every day…She’s 81yrs old but very independent she has destroyed the whole family with her lies.People believe her because she’s charming…But My God She Will Be Exposed Eventually….It is so so heartbreaking!!!
@@janetherron8729 My mother's caretaker told me she couldn't repeat everything my mom said about me. I never spent a holiday at where I lived. I was always traveled 8 hours "home" to spend holidays with her. She hated it wasn't my sister. The place she ended up, the people there thought she was an angel. The damage to me, my life is immeasurable.
@@victoriahardin1560 I agree! I have seen these people everywhere including school, work, social circle and men! It is to the point that I always end up cutting people off once their true colors starts to show up! The issue started with my own family who treated me like dirt as a child. Now, I can kind of leave situations quicker than before! I am trusting my intuition after being gaslighted my whole life!
They are not nice people period. Always giving you ways to doubt yourself. Little by little breaking you down like he’s perfect.
I agree with you except for the part of the Universe its God ( Jesus Christ) who wants to save us and Heal us from Narcissistic Abuse!! Hallelujau!Hallelujah!! I found the Light! Jesus!!💖💖💖👑✝️🙌🙌🙌🦅
I would like to think that God wants the narcissist healed too. Especially considering they became narcissistic by no fault of their own. Most cases these disorders happened during their INNOCENCE.
@@snyhntnI believe what you are saying as well but until they make a “CHOICE” to heal you will sit there in continuous abuse. God gave us all free will so pray from a distance!
@@snyhntnSure it happened during innocence; that's when they're most easily and permanently taken over by evil. By definition they cannot be healed. If you believe a narcissist can be "healed" then we're not talking about a narcissist :-)
Yes, I too believe Jesus is our savior and not the randomness of 'the universe'. But I gain great help through my healing journey with Ms. Faye...am listening daily.
My narc ex husband treated our 1st child together (his 3rd) like the golden child. It was so bizarre. Anyway my bonus kids came for summer vacation and he said our child was his favorite in front of my bonus babies. We got to TUSSLING!!! I was so mad I could have started growling!!!! I made it a point to let my son know he was not better, but the same as his brothers.
They are grooming the next generation of narcissists.
I feel so broken. When u have a child with the narcissist. It makes things so much harder. 😔
I understand sis
We bring in high vibrations when we’re vibrating higher!
Great lesson as always. It took me so many years to understand that I have to stop thinking carnally, but spiritually. We as spirits in human flesh are sent down here to learn lessons and grow, so when it's time to go back home(heaven), we'll be better prepared for the Kingdom. We have to accept the fact that you have a part in that suffering and we must be honest with ourselves and heal. Also, repenting and baptism, praying to THE CREATOR with a broken heart & a contrite spirit helped me Greatly.
I almost forgot to add the "mommy" factor. A man's mother, how she treats him, plays a big part in your relationship. Deep down, he could have hatred for his mother until death, and all that hatred can and will turn towards you. When first meeting these men, ask questions about his upbringing. I'm too old now, I'm 60, but if I had female children, I would write a manifesto about NPD character flaws, mommy flaws, prison flaws and he should believe in THE CREATOR.
@@zorada755 yup I told him to repent he said repent for WHAT!??? I just said that’s the devil coming out
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Everything this woman is saying is true I repeated this lesson from 14-41 on and off and the last one🙄nearly killed me LIKE COMPLETELY I’m glad I learned boundaries and got closer to GOD I LITERALLY had nine lives through trying to save THESE NARCISSIST 🙏🏾while I was dieing❤PLZ SEE MY JACCOBS LATTER EXPERIENCE 😇GOD IS REAL SO IS EVERY WORD SHE IS SAYING🙌🏾please stay safe and blessings IM IN TOTAL PEACE AND JOY HAPPILY SINGLE❤❤
Narcissists dont know , they will never win with they way of thinking
I have been married 44 years. I never understood what was happening within him till recently. I have experienced more tears and confusion. I understand now what I’m up against. I have grown spiritually and I’m grateful for the experience now. I’m still with him but I feel powerful over the devil. You helped me so very much!!! Thank you!
I learned! I sure did! I am done with men, I lived thru an evil experience and I healed, and I grew! I love hearing this from you Miss Faye! thank you!
I'm not done with men, but I'm one in done with grooming shyt tried by any man! He could late one time and have some sorry excuse . . . I am out.
I am still kinda open to an actual relationship, but the last entanglement nearly took me out mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. He was beautiful, gorgeous. Satan. But, GOD. I reached for HIM and HE took my hand. I don'tever want to let go again. I'm good if I don't have another man and don't want anything else.
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Dont quit men thats not natural. Just Heal and learn narcissism. Women are narcs too. You can beat narcs they Coward AF. 💯 That last one that wasted my time is run n scared and still tried to pay my phone bill after I left his coward ass. They only buff up if you scared of them.
Two men got into a altercation in the grocery store where I was shopping with my ex narc. As they argued one man pulled a gun out n try to shot tored the other man. Everyone start screaming and running n my ex narc ran a total different way than me. As if he was saving hisself. It happened right in front of us n he left me for dead smh
They will never protect you. Even if a person targets you personally. It’s because they have no empathy for you. They will always run away unless it pertains to them. You are not safe with the narcissist.
I feel so bad for anyone who is married to a narcissist. Make a plan to leave or split. But just do it. You are worth too much even if he doesn’t think so. They hate everyone especially the people closest to them. ! So who needs that.
How can you start splitting to such a person
Yes,GOD, the creator of the universe, has revealed these things!
To deal with a narcissistic personality, you have to know who you are. And your worth. If you're centered you will automatically know who you're dealing with and that you deserve more than a leech on your emotions. It won't feel genuine being with them. It won't feel safe, and it won't feel right. But if you need a man, get one of these and you'll see you don't need someone who values their control over their ability to be empathic. They don't follow through with love EVER because their idea of love is worship, even subtly. Don't feed the vampire ever, aka the narcissistic ego. Humble yourself, then you can spot one a mile away. Love is a state of being, a choice. Love is NOT control, criticizing, nor making people feel bad to do more worshipping. Be accountable and heal from what you allowed and most importantly forgive yourself to learn the lesson.
Wow. I needed this advice. Thank you 🖤
@@DreamofJerine No problem. I've had friends and still have friends that are narcissistic. I just know how to deal with them. Some of them even pour back into you and you have to learn how to utilize their strengths and knowledge as people and not depend on their emotional sides to fulfill you.
Me too, I'm thankful for the experience with the narcissist I was with for a year. It made me realize how much I needed to learn how to protect myself in the future. Worst relationship I'd ever been in 11 years ago.
THIS IS A WAKEUP CALL PEOPLE😱😱 my my my save yourself.... Thank you and have a safe Blessed day
Yes run 🏃♀️ for your life been there but God deliver me see the signs before I got married close my eyes after 9 years I’m just starting to live 2022 oh God I’m free free but as she said the universe is warring you to leave but our eyes was blinded thank you God thank you God I’m heal set free
Ms. Faye, you made a very important point there, when you traced one of the rooot causes of this behaviour. Parents take note and treat kids from when they are young with love, tenderness and attention. That does not mean kids should not be discipline with love. It is the responsility of the parent(s) and communities to either sow this seed or destroy it in the kid/Chile state before they carry it to adulthood. Lets do our best to raise-up good kids, kids who feel loved, valued, attended to, and reduce narcissism.
Parents, it is our duty to correct this behaviour while they are kids, because it becomes difficult or impossibile at a later age.
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Miss Faye, I'm just stopping by to tell you I love ya! I think you're the bees knees. If my great grandma was still alive she would love you to no end. Keep speaking the truth. Some of us out here need it.
Yes!!!
Flashes of childhood comes to light in truth why we played our roles those people was summoned from hell always using love as entrance point
Indeed, which is why we have to heal the "inner child".
Just found your channel. I'm 71 yrs young & it's so refreshing to hear you. I've always believed the way you do .I made my share of mistakes. But now I'm by myself & very happy. You are spot on EVERYTHING YOUR SAYING!!!!
You are a great big blessing!!! I went through this 6 years ago. It took me 3 years to recover fully. I agree with the relationship being the best and the worst relationship. Yes, narcissists are masters of studying the focus. He was so interested in every detail of my being. The abuse is designed to come on gradually to test how far they can go. Each level is more supply for their addiction. I really believed this narcissist. They don’t care what they have to do to convince you into feeling like you’ve met your soulmate. He even dragged his mother and grandmother in on it. Then like a thief in the night…he disappeared when I thought I needed him the most. Mine was high up in the military so it was expected that his personality was directive. I am glad I learned my lesson. I haven’t had another serious relationship since. I also agree there was evil inside this man. I will wait forever before I settle ever again. Narcissist or whatever else…
I could listen to you all day. Thank you for helping me write my own wedding vows if I ever attract a non-narcissist. I can spot them on the first or second date. Say no! Set boundaries. Speak up. Ask the hard questions. Stand up for yourself. Value you and leave. Go no contact. You will be fine as long as you don’t go back! Move states if you have to but get free!!
I moved states, but was still having trauma replays when I would try to go to bed, anxiety when I’d see then call, and chronic, deep, body pain. It was only after I cut contact, that I began to feel free!! I’m still healing ❤️🩹, but going no contact helps so much, wow. I get why the videos all say that now.
I feel it’s harder the longer you know them. I was back and forth with mine from age 20-30 😔 you hold them in your heart as family, when time and time again, you see that they do not hold you the same. It’s so confusing and torturous. Stay long enough and you might actually end your own life.
Thank you for confirmation of the things I have learned about myself and men. It took me to reach 71 to realize that there are actually people who will treat you this way. To God be the Glory.
Ever since I was a kid I always made sure evil people thought twice about doing evil things again after dealing with me lol! I made sure they remembered me. I always felt the reason they kept being evil was because they got used to getting away with being evil all their lives. I applied this tactic in my every day life. Work, friends, family and boyfriends. Thanks for triggering these memories for me.
Hi Faye… I learned this was a Spiritual Lesson. The Universe pulled me out! It took me a long time to finding my ☮️. Back to being happy by myself. Not dating anyone. Enjoying Self Love 💕 And cut those cords that bound me to him…It is a Blessing to be free of that demon. 64 now. Free to live my life…Love that I found your channel❣️ Your a Blessing to us. I appreciate You for speaking your truth & sharing… You are Right On the $ Sister…
May God Bless U; as U are Blessing Us… with your kind words of wisdom. ❤ + ☮️
OMG I have goosebumps that’s why a lot of them have personality disorders and Narcissism is also one. It all makes sense. They accept the demon during the trauma 😢😢😢 OMGGGgGg
I only spent five months with a narcissist, and they were the best and most challenging of my life; I learned so much, and I am still fighting not to return to that nightmare. It got to the point that I did not recognize myself, and my mom was worried, but thanks to God, I can see things differently now. I'm blessed for the lesson I learned and for finding myself. I never thought I would encounter someone like this, but I feel bad for them, and I hope God gives them peace one day. No one deserves to be manipulated by any other human being.
We are here to win souls for the Lord. But we are not here to be held down by other people's demons.
I’m still making peace with the narcissistic trauma and experience I went through with my child father. I had to be the one to cut it off and get serious about my boundaries and what energy I wanted in my life. I had to look within and honestly letting go was so much better than holding on. There’s so much more pain to my story with my child father and family. But I feel better without him around me, we still trying to co-parent and I’m glad I can keep it short, graceful, and speak up for myself when we interact. It took a lot of time but it’s works to heal yourself and face the abuse with grace/forgiveness
Those hoovers are hell. They just suck you back in. I hate feeling like an asshole whenever I had to do whatever he does just so he can see how much it hurts. He wanted to diminish me with if ignoring. Me and pretending like while running a smear campaign. Ignoring and my non-existence started first. The beginning of the discard. When the hoover came. I just ignored him nor matter the temper tantrums, the smear, I paid no attention.
When neighbors told me what he was saying about me, I didn't defend myself, I just anyone can say anything. I can do it, you can do it. Anyone can do it. I don't care about what he says. That doesn't have anything to do with me.
Miss Faye, your commentary is so true. No testimony without a test. I am a living witness. Free at last, free at last! Thank God almighty, free at last. Self love is the best kind of love. Living my best life!
I am still trying to heal. It has been years.
Thank God I finally got the courage to leave the narcissist. I finally met a really good man, a Godly man. I’m so happy.
Yep & when you get out of them bad narcissistic relationships , you get build up & very blessed 👍🙏🤲 , so true sis God took me on a trip & showed me things all about my narcissist & made me sit & observed every bit of all that bad stuff through my spirit one Sunday morning bright & early