Everything you said is so true. And yes, silence is the best when it comes to narcs. Never tell them your plans or how you're feeling, they'll just pull you back in. Just focus on your life and stay away from them. And once you leave, never let them in again.
Danish, you are one of the Real Ones. When I listen to you, I KNOW you have truly experienced narcissistic abuse and your advice is both solid and very much appreciated. ♥️
The best short regarding narcissists. And also, when you can, leave him/her and break the so called “friendship”. Your peace of mind is more important than having a friend or relative who belittles you and disrespects you.
I went no contact for life with the whole narcissistic family pack who abused me for decades. I moved home and blocked them without a single word spoken and now I’m born again. It’s been five years now.
So true, I used to constantly try to explain and get him to understand how I felt and it did no good. Especially about his flirtatious behavior with women.
I so understand your feelings. Always trying him to understand the hurt he caused me until I didn't care anymore. When I showed him I didn't care he tried other ways or went beyond flirting. When I understood he needs my hurt I made him believe it hurt when it didn't. That saved me! He didn't try to extend his behaviour, because I told him how this all hurt me and that was right up his alley! And I was able to get strong er because I didn't care anymore!
Yes.i tried to reasonably explain how he has hurt me and it always used to come back to the same conversation.gaslighting.i just wonder myself why the fuck was I traumabinded with him
Best training for me is putting "idiot" or "bs" or "enemy" or "my heater" or "parasite" as names on phone number, so when they call and phone rings I'm always prepared emotionally. Soon after I adopt that in myself. They are finished in me!
Sometimes it's better to fake a reaction, so they think they'll have you. They'll just try something worse because they want a reaction, they feed on it! Fake it and they're satisfied and you'll have time to regain strength!
Out of HUNDREDS of videos I've watched on your channel, you packed more useful information into this one per second than any of the others. Well done!!! I'm going to watch this one every night for the next 30 days minimum.
I love what he said about DO NOT explain yourself. You don’t owe any explanations! Obviously I understand this is in context of course. But it is a slippery slope to start feeling you need to explain yourself. I love my therapist and one thing she has said is “you don’t have to ever feel guilty for saying NO!” The end
You are "SO RIGHT"‼️👍 I’m doing ALL 5 things have been for a while ‼️ And when I do respond I say ‼️”WHAT EVER “‼️ and WALK ‼️ I won’t let ANYONE ELSE TAKE MY MIND,HEART, SOUL ‼️‼️ GOD made you for this my friend KEEP GOING 🕊️🕊️🕊️
I come from a narcissistic family and because of unhealed wounds. I attracted a narcissistic man. After several therapy sessions, I learned about narcissism and ready to move on with my life and rebuild myself for my daughter
When I realized he love seeing me hurt I started telling him I'm hurt when I wasn't. He backed of satisfited and I regain strength. He didn't know that I wasn't hurt at all when he said he met a new woman, but I made him believe I did. He then spent even more time with her and I wasn't bothered with thing he could have done if he knew
Thank you. I had been trying to deactivate that impulse of telling everything to him and to explain myself too much. Is difficult when they're blamers nd they ask stupid questions about stupid things just to make you talk to provoque reactions. I've achieved sone good stuff.
Yes.. I taught my self not to rise to the bait. I don't react. I didn't help out either, and last night I got tossed out of the house after she engaged my dad into yelling at me . But I knew something was going to happen. Her and my dad yelling and screaming..wow.. i patted myself on the back for not rising to take the bait.. and now I am sleeping outside in my truck.
I know for a fact you have the best advices for us to navigate through this difficult time in our life Thank you for everything you have done for your friends 🎉🎉🎉
Not telling others is a hard one. But yeah. When you tell family. The flying monkeys stand for the Narcissist! Since your crying and telling what happen. They still believe the crazy one!
Been there done lived that. It’s painfull... but at least now you know that they have never been in your corner. 🍀🍀 Get new social circles, loving, honest ones.
"Do not do a closure with narassist" but narassist are smart, they have been playing the mind game for decades and moreover they will come to know that they are been treated on silent or ignore mode. How do we disconnect permanently especially if they are family members.
My spouse asked me why I’m not talking to him? My answer was , I don’t want to argue with you, that’s not holding a conversation. So just like I thought 💭 the evening is nice and quiet 🤫 😊 PERFECT!!!
#4 is what I am working on right now. I have PTSD so it's easy for them to trigger my feelings. Even though I act calm and unruffled, they can tell that my feelings are involved. I am watching the Stoic channel for help with corralling my emotions.
Say I am not having this conversation with you. Leave the room. Or tell him/her to leave the room and when you can be quiet we can be in the same room together.
To invoke a full high speed wobble within your elderly Narc MOTHER, just add one additional year to the Century of life they've had & step back to watch chuckies head spin like an old spinning top
Why not give them a closure? I did send a note to them showing them they are not material individual. I forwarded it to his boss to show him what kind of individual he was and I informed the administration of their abusive behavior to protect others from them. This Ed to his termination and protecting other innocent people and went No contact forever.
I found out today that my right atrium is creating pain through stress. No I can't escape because she takes all my money. So, I have no choice but to lay down and croak. I think I'm telling you because no one else does. Take care.
I wish you the best maybe try to put some money back every time you get paid before she gets the money don't let her know what you are doing then you can get free from her
There's not a lot of work I can do. What I can do is very little. So, I'm pretty sure I'm going to be gone before I can save up. Thank you for caring. I really do appreciate it.
@devai5827 I am sorry you are having to go through this she needs to understand what she's doing to you and the stress it's doing to you I pray for you and God Bless you
I’ve run into “friends” who don’t understand. Isolated incidents do not explain the whole picture, so they portray I’m being petty and not a Christian wife. Ugg.
I think there are two ways. First, make a good enough living so you never have to depend on a narcissist for your support. And secondly, stay away from them. They are bad news. The further you are away from them, the better off you will be.
Hello Danish, I feel like my narc parents destroyed my life. I am 38 year old woman, no kids, no husband. I went no contact with them, but I think it is too late for me.
@@andiincali.4663 I heard that alot, but I feel numb yet I feel drained & I feel not to be here. I can sometimes be sadistic & also resentful, so I discarded everyone & isolated myself to keep them away from me because I’m aware of how I can get when I’m around people too long… I something think about suicide & it’s quite funny to me because I feel nothing.
@@andiincali.4663 I keep such things inside because I don’t want to be seen as a victim but I’ve started venting in certain comments to let stuff out, hoping I get some sort of external advice to help me not feel less dissociated.
Stop chasing. I found a therapy for me. I tried getting him to go to marriage counseling but he thinks everything is fine. You need to start putting yourself first. Love you first. Start doing things for you. I know that it is so hard and hurts so bad. I'm so sorry that you are in this relationship. I wish you the best. Life is good and you don't need someone to make you feel bad when there's people out there that can really care about you but first you must love yourself. Choose you. Good luck my friend.❤
All true but at the end of the day if you fight or just simply cut that narcissist out of your life always choose to just cut them out off your life don’t waste your time and energy on people who are just a lost cause because at the end of the day no matter how much you want to fix them you will only hurt yourself don’t put yourself through hell because believe me it’s really hard building yourself up peace by peace after going through hell with those people just live your life and prioritize your self and your people and if you want peace and happiness no cheap talkers allowed they are all agents of chaos don’t bring chaos into your life set strong boundaries and enjoy everything good and everything real life has to offer 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Few days back I got message from unknown number saying" I m his friend can I know why u back away from marriage ". I block his friend cause I don't want to explain my point with words done by action nd going to stand by it.
Whenever I create boundaries for narcissist he became agressive like devil behave like he is the only victim and I am the one who torturing him by creating boundaries and someone he threatens me that he will leave me or block me forever and he block me manier times for weeks months just to gain his control back and after blocking he pretend that he is happy without me or having someone else in his lifee😂😂
#4 is hard so what do you recommend? I'm in therapy but i wish i know what the best kind of therapy was for nervous system regulation. I need it so bad
Their disrespect was the closure. Let them think on that themselves.
THIS 👉🎯👈!!!
"do not tell them your plans". This one is so real! The narc in my life always wants to ask me my plans and have conversations.
Yeah so they can sabbatoge it!!!
Everything you said is so true. And yes, silence is the best when it comes to narcs. Never tell them your plans or how you're feeling, they'll just pull you back in. Just focus on your life and stay away from them. And once you leave, never let them in again.
Explaining: Your friends don't need it, and your enemies won't believe it.
Well said.
Don't ever forget that last part.
💯‼️
@@hopeausbyn1734Wow. That tells me a lot about who my real friends are. Thank you!
Danish, you are one of the Real Ones. When I listen to you, I KNOW you have truly experienced narcissistic abuse and your advice is both solid and very much appreciated. ♥️
I'm there. I finally reached that place. I prayed and prayed and one day it just clicked like a light switch. Everything you just said. I get it now.
The best short regarding narcissists. And also, when you can, leave him/her and break the so called “friendship”. Your peace of mind is more important than having a friend or relative who belittles you and disrespects you.
I went no contact for life with the whole narcissistic family pack who abused me for decades. I moved home and blocked them without a single word spoken and now I’m born again. It’s been five years now.
So true, I used to constantly try to explain and get him to understand how I felt and it did no good. Especially about his flirtatious behavior with women.
I so understand your feelings. Always trying him to understand the hurt he caused me until I didn't care anymore. When I showed him I didn't care he tried other ways or went beyond flirting. When I understood he needs my hurt I made him believe it hurt when it didn't. That saved me! He didn't try to extend his behaviour, because I told him how this all hurt me and that was right up his alley! And I was able to get strong er because I didn't care anymore!
@@milaeri5109same for me not caring really helps me out a lot 😊
Yes.i tried to reasonably explain how he has hurt me and it always used to come back to the same conversation.gaslighting.i just wonder myself why the fuck was I traumabinded with him
once more your advice is simply invaluable - thank you ever so much!
Best training for me is putting "idiot" or "bs" or "enemy" or "my heater" or "parasite" as names on phone number, so when they call and phone rings I'm always prepared emotionally.
Soon after I adopt that in myself.
They are finished in me!
I put c*m sl*t n she even saw it once by accident n didn’t make a big deal at all. Likely cuz she knows she’s a pos
Words/reactions of any kind are fuel for a narcissist. Just maintain silence. Don’t react. They will try EVERYTHING to get you to react.
Sometimes it's better to fake a reaction, so they think they'll have you. They'll just try something worse because they want a reaction, they feed on it! Fake it and they're satisfied and you'll have time to regain strength!
Absolutely
PHENOMENAL ADVICE! Thank-You!!!!!🤙🏼🌺
Thank you Danish for reminding us how to deal with these narcissists. These points are all very important. Bless you❤
I agree with you, Danish. You're very accurate. Thanks for the wonderful advice. It helped us a lot.❤
Thank you for putting it all together
NO CLOSING, ONLY FOR YOURSELF!!!
Out of HUNDREDS of videos I've watched on your channel, you packed more useful information into this one per second than any of the others. Well done!!!
I'm going to watch this one every night for the next 30 days minimum.
I love what he said about DO NOT explain yourself. You don’t owe any explanations! Obviously I understand this is in context of course. But it is a slippery slope to start feeling you need to explain yourself.
I love my therapist and one thing she has said is “you don’t have to ever feel guilty for saying NO!” The end
It was a no brainer. Blocked any way for them to be able to contact me, then went no-contact with them.....Haven’t looked back!!!!
You are "SO RIGHT"‼️👍
I’m doing ALL 5 things have been for a while ‼️
And when I do respond
I say ‼️”WHAT EVER “‼️
and WALK ‼️
I won’t let ANYONE ELSE
TAKE MY MIND,HEART,
SOUL ‼️‼️
GOD made you for this
my friend KEEP GOING 🕊️🕊️🕊️
This is so true and valuable tools to use dealing with a narcissist. 👍
Done MOVING ON THANK YOU DANISH
Totally true .....directly related to personal development.
#5..Facts..very important..💯
Living with a narcissist is a perilous condition that always turns to nightmare 😢
I live with both.
Very true indeed. It's so sad when we think we can trust someone and then figure out this person is absolutely not who we thought /believed they were.
This is so helpful!
I come from a narcissistic family and because of unhealed wounds. I attracted a narcissistic man. After several therapy sessions, I learned about narcissism and ready to move on with my life and rebuild myself for my daughter
One thing about a narcissist is there are patient. They can rip you apart or little by little they and do not try to get in a hurry with it.
When I realized he love seeing me hurt I started telling him I'm hurt when I wasn't. He backed of satisfited and I regain strength. He didn't know that I wasn't hurt at all when he said he met a new woman, but I made him believe I did. He then spent even more time with her and I wasn't bothered with thing he could have done if he knew
The coping mechanisms here people have been uinn with these monsters is itself showing resilience.finally i feel that I am not alone.
Your emotional response for anything is food for them. VILE!! If you see them zero emotional reaction to anything they say.
I gotta practice that! What if they say when Hello to me in public? Should I just ignore them?🥰
@@mesalouis8976Don't fall for their lies or fake promises.
Thank you. I had been trying to deactivate that impulse of telling everything to him and to explain myself too much. Is difficult when they're blamers nd they ask stupid questions about stupid things just to make you talk to provoque reactions. I've achieved sone good stuff.
Thank u ..❤u r really helping people..
Oh my brother l love you Danish you the best 🙏thank you so much l really appreciate the advice.
Thank you because I don't think I can leave
Yes.. I taught my self not to rise to the bait. I don't react. I didn't help out either, and last night I got tossed out of the house after she engaged my dad into yelling at me . But I knew something was going to happen. Her and my dad yelling and screaming..wow.. i patted myself on the back for not rising to take the bait.. and now I am sleeping outside in my truck.
💯 OUTSTANDING 🎉
I know for a fact you have the best advices for us to navigate through this difficult time in our life
Thank you for everything you have done for your friends 🎉🎉🎉
❤ thank u so much. Need also a video on how to naturally repel a narcissist! Keep it up ❤
Sounds like you basically mirror their behavior!! Defeat a narcissist by acting like one. Brilliant.
You are so right.
Not telling others is a hard one. But yeah. When you tell family. The flying monkeys stand for the Narcissist! Since your crying and telling what happen. They still believe the crazy one!
Been there done lived that. It’s painfull... but at least now you know that they have never been in your corner. 🍀🍀
Get new social circles, loving, honest ones.
"Do not do a closure with narassist" but narassist are smart, they have been playing the mind game for decades and moreover they will come to know that they are been treated on silent or ignore mode. How do we disconnect permanently especially if they are family members.
No contact.
Or min gray rock if u must see them few times a year.
NO CONTACT. PERIOD. EVER.
Perfect help
So clever and important. Thank you
Spot on ❤danish you re the best
My spouse asked me why I’m not talking to him? My answer was , I don’t want to argue with you, that’s not holding a conversation. So just like I thought 💭 the evening is nice and quiet 🤫 😊 PERFECT!!!
They try everything to get through to you, even calling you through the kids' phone
Leave and ghost them don't go back defeated foot soldier of darkness 😂thank God I'm not longer deal with evil
Crazy 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you once again❤❤❤❤❤
#4 is what I am working on right now. I have PTSD so it's easy for them to trigger my feelings. Even though I act calm and unruffled, they can tell that my feelings are involved. I am watching the Stoic channel for help with corralling my emotions.
I needed this reminder
There is no closure
Thee are things I cannot change
Thank you so much, Danish Bashir.
Thank you Danish !
You are either angel or you have done through something similar that we have experienced.. Thank for your tips and insights
Danish is both an angel and experienced.
I agree to your advices, Sir!
Thank you very much Angels Danish❤
I am silent around them but that doesn't stop them. They pick pick pick to try to get a response.
Say I am not having this conversation with you. Leave the room. Or tell him/her to leave the room and when you can be quiet we can be in the same room together.
Thank you 😢
To invoke a full high speed wobble within your elderly Narc MOTHER, just add one additional year to the Century of life they've had & step back to watch chuckies head spin like an old spinning top
Thank you. 🌟🌟💯😃👍
Why not give them a closure? I did send a note to them showing them they are not material individual. I forwarded it to his boss to show him what kind of individual he was and I informed the administration of their abusive behavior to protect others from them. This Ed to his termination and protecting other innocent people and went No contact forever.
I found out today that my right atrium is creating pain through stress. No I can't escape because she takes all my money. So, I have no choice but to lay down and croak. I think I'm telling you because no one else does. Take care.
I wish you the best maybe try to put some money back every time you get paid before she gets the money don't let her know what you are doing then you can get free from her
There's not a lot of work I can do. What I can do is very little. So, I'm pretty sure I'm going to be gone before I can save up. Thank you for caring. I really do appreciate it.
@devai5827 I am sorry you are having to go through this she needs to understand what she's doing to you and the stress it's doing to you I pray for you and God Bless you
I see them like shadows of real human beings and like insects
I’ve run into “friends” who don’t understand. Isolated incidents do not explain the whole picture, so they portray I’m being petty and not a Christian wife. Ugg.
Yep. You know the truth and that's what matters.
Definitely yes
I follow all and I am sane😂
You are right.
I think there are two ways. First, make a good enough living so you never have to depend on a narcissist for your support.
And secondly, stay away from them. They are bad news. The further you are away from them, the better off you will be.
Nr 6 talk about death around them, they are terrified of it 😂
T.H.A.N.K. Y.O.U.
Thank you
God bless Danish
🙏🙏🙏
Um suffering with such a devil
How do you avoid their constant questions though? When I've tried not to answer or explain, it leads to an argument
Say "I'm not having this conversation with you."
Hello Danish, I feel like my narc parents destroyed my life. I am 38 year old woman, no kids, no husband. I went no contact with them, but I think it is too late for me.
It's not too late. You are young. You are loved by a Higher Power
What to do, the more I watch these, the more I believe I’m actually the narcissist & it makes me feel sick, shame & guilty 😢
That right there proves you're not. Narcs don't feel guilt or shame! They absolve themselves by putting it on you!
@@andiincali.4663 I heard that alot, but I feel numb yet I feel drained & I feel not to be here. I can sometimes be sadistic & also resentful, so I discarded everyone & isolated myself to keep them away from me because I’m aware of how I can get when I’m around people too long… I something think about suicide & it’s quite funny to me because I feel nothing.
@@andiincali.4663 I keep such things inside because I don’t want to be seen as a victim but I’ve started venting in certain comments to let stuff out, hoping I get some sort of external advice to help me not feel less dissociated.
I think it's possible to discover oneself, you can continuously work on your self with prayers to deal with those spirits behind it
@@adedokunbolaji6943 thank you
Namaste 🙏
What should i do when he intimidates me and orders me to do something and if i dont , he blocks me and leaves me forever and then i chase him ?
You don't chase any more. You are done with self-abuse. Greave, go to therapy, move on. It’s a processss. ❤🍀
Stop chasing. I found a therapy for me. I tried getting him to go to marriage counseling but he thinks everything is fine. You need to start putting yourself first. Love you first. Start doing things for you. I know that it is so hard and hurts so bad. I'm so sorry that you are in this relationship. I wish you the best. Life is good and you don't need someone to make you feel bad when there's people out there that can really care about you but first you must love yourself. Choose you. Good luck my friend.❤
All true but at the end of the day if you fight or just simply cut that narcissist out of your life always choose to just cut them out off your life don’t waste your time and energy on people who are just a lost cause because at the end of the day no matter how much you want to fix them you will only hurt yourself don’t put yourself through hell because believe me it’s really hard building yourself up peace by peace after going through hell with those people just live your life and prioritize your self and your people and if you want peace and happiness no cheap talkers allowed they are all agents of chaos don’t bring chaos into your life set strong boundaries and enjoy everything good and everything real life has to offer
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
True 💯
Few days back I got message from unknown number saying" I m his friend can I know why u back away from marriage ". I block his friend cause I don't want to explain my point with words done by action nd going to stand by it.
Amen
Yes
what about legally, a narc in law trying to fight to get rights to my daughter (don’t have money for a lawyer). so stressed
Please explain trauma dumping. 😊
Dorothy Stratten this wkd ve saved her life. She was in dire danger w Paul Snider. Star80.
Why be with them to begin with!!!!
How to regulate our emotions?
What is nervous system regulation?
What do you do if you are stalked by narcissists. That is online via telephone. I can’t do much. I find this appalling. Thank you
Whenever I create boundaries for narcissist he became agressive like devil behave like he is the only victim and I am the one who torturing him by creating boundaries and someone he threatens me that he will leave me or block me forever and he block me manier times for weeks months just to gain his control back and after blocking he pretend that he is happy without me or having someone else in his lifee😂😂
#4 is hard so what do you recommend? I'm in therapy but i wish i know what the best kind of therapy was for nervous system regulation. I need it so bad
🙏 🙏 🙏
by talking about him to everyone?
🙏🏻🌹✨
They are hell bond souls according to Quran.
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