I just realized this myself recently, I kept asking myself how could someone be so heartless and evil and I then I knew it’s because they have no empathy and no morals.
Yes , all kinds of bad situations are coming back in my memory and I,m shocked has this really happened ? Yes , it happened and indeed how can somebody be that way ? ! !
I stayed due to growing up with a Covert Narcissist mother and I had unresolved trauma. There was no way to break away until I just had enough and left.
I'm still remember I cried for a few days and move on at the same time which disturbing some my workdays after my therapists comforted me when I threw them my first question, "Am I a narcissist?" The saddest thing and hardest pill to swallow when I told my therapists about my family and they said, my family could be the narcissists/enablers/flying monkeys and I didn't become any of them. Yes, I despise my family because of their wrongdoings and acting like innocent people with good deeds. I'm not sure why I was grieving toward them. I hope I didn't let my tears, even one teardrop because of them. Narcissists didn't deserve the sympathy because of their cruelty to the victims and the lies to deceive so many people.
@@DustinHodgson I totally understand and I have been throwing up constantly when I think OMG that actually HAPPENED!! I wouldn’t listen to what other peoples opinions were my mom or dad or friends and I just kept on going down that rabbit hole until I finally reached the bottom and it woke me up !! I didn’t even realize just what kind of a fog I was in until I left him !!!! I was like OMG I was in danger with a weirdo!! Control freak etc
@@InfinityFinds-ge6gu I’m still struggling with ups and downs. I got no closure from her. Just endless reasons why I was always the problem I never listened etc. some was true. She made me goto this big outdoor expo thing. We wandered around a bit. Then she took me to these campers. I stay in a camper every summer working remote all around the state of Alaska doing road construction. She said this one is nice you should finance it. It was 80,000$. Uh no. I can sleep in a tent on the ground for all I care. She never came to visit me. I have a 1999 terry I purchased with bunk beds. Hoping she’d bring my sons to see me when she visited. This was only maybe 1-2 times a summer. When I scoffed at the idea of financing something like that. She exploded. Insults. Shaming me. There were 1000’s of people there. Everything you can imagine. “You never want to spend money on nice things!!” (I payed all the family bills. Groceries. Mortgage. Doctors. Everything. And only earn income during summers.) “EVERYTHING is impossible to you!!” (I wasn’t comfortable financing something like that at all and told her that) Just endless. Well. Guess what? She was angry because her mother had just financed a new camper the summer before. And her sisters husband had just financed one that winter. She had to compete via me. She was happy only when we moved into our newly constructed home. Built in 2013. And that only lasted a while. We had the nicest, newest, biggest house out of everyone we knew. Then her sisters husband started working on an addition. Her mother started one as well. Suddenly. We weren’t the best. I’ve recently had the epiphany about the camper thing. I was always used as a tool. A means to an end. Not viewed as a person. A way for her to compete and assert her self perceived superiority over others. Again. I feel sick with all the realizations. That just keep coming and coming.
@@donnasieli2158 believe whatever you want. I get sick at the realizations of how foolish, trusting and blind I was for 16 years. Always giving the benefit of the doubt. Always forgiving. Faults in my character. I am an existentialist. However thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts.
It's absolutely flabbergasting when you figure out who they really are. The hardest part for me is that the narc in my life is my sibling. I'll never understand it or accept her actions. The only option is to exclude her from my life permanently.
You keep raising the bar for all others on quora and TH-cam. Very simple answers to such complicated issues. I can see one day soon you will be the number 1 guy here . Very good post
@@sandrathomas2893Sure seems that way to me, and I am skeptical of anything paranormal to a degree. Narx are like a dark force of nature that seems determined to destroy me until I go no contact with each and every one of them. Better a broken heart than a tortured soul.
My sister & I talk about my father sometimes & she would say "I just don't understand how he could do those things to us!" I told her "If we understood, we'd be monsters too." I send her your vids quite a bit. Keep up the good work, you are amazing!
@@ang-e Such a great point! "If we understood, we'd be monsters, too." Thank you for this statement. Can I use it? It provides clarity. Thank you again.🦋👍🏼❤️🙏🏼💫💪🏼💥🌷☺️
One of the most valuable tool that has helped me move forward was radical acceptance. Without empathy and a conscious, they can't heal nor move forward.
I spent 41 years trying to fix one of these people because I didn't understand. Then they tried to kill me after I saved their life. Got all bad people out of my life. I'm happy now, I don't care about them anymore. Setting yourself free is the path to peace within yourself. .
Danish, you are a Godsend for me! You are so incredibly amazing at explaining this fuckery (sorry but Narcissistic Abuse is that) in ways I couldn’t or can’t. You’re helping me understand so much. Please don’t ever stop doing what you’re doing!! I’m beyond grateful for you & your kindness, support, knowledge & YOU!!! You’re awesome!! 🫶
I've thought these things for years and years. Thank you, Danish, for the validation. I understand my thoughts and feelings now and for the best reason.💚
Sometimes the narcissist prey does become like the narc. For example, I became so hyper-vigilant about detecting lies, deceit, and betrayal that I started thinking everyone was lying to me. I feel like such a horrible person.
they compete and compare no compersion only compare ,compare,,they cant reflect ,,am not crying because am 95% always crying but am crying because their heart is cold and unemotional and no reflection😢😢😢😢
I was thinking that for more than 2 years, until I understood that my husband is a narcissist..... He has tapped my phone and listening to each and every conversation.....
22 years of evil. Early on, I got to the point where I hated him. I would say to myself, "I wish you would die." I think to stop the hurt and pain. I don't understand how a person don't care to hurt you and take that to the girlfriend. When I left, it was his turn to cry. My kids were older and all three moved out. He lost the house. The Universal line they alway say, "If it wasn't for him, you would have nothing." A line of an abuser. When I left, I had a wonderful apartment and oh so much peace. He no longer had access to my holidays or home. My children are all successful also.
It's all about silly machiavellianism from their part. They think they're "winning" when they're actually losing their SOUL. (But if need be, take the so-called "L" and abandon ship..RUN LIKE YOUR ASS IS ON FIRE!)
I feel that I am stupid with still having and believing on moral, values and ethics when why to bother when all evil people are getting more rich, more moving forward, more promotion and more progress here I am watching them in awe beacuse this world is like them and they need them as cruel as them.
I tried to leave, found accommodation then charged my mind and stayed. It so difficult, especially as we can our little dog who we rescued Thanks for reaching out
💯God will redeem the years lost to those snakes! It was a great education beyond words! Now I know what I DON’T and NEVER want! I see and feel them a mile away but now they are powerless to me! Sad but they love to waste their time and energy on revenge only a demon would think of!! Thank you God! Thank you Danish!! 🙏🏻❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹🎚️⚖️
I have often ask myself maybe it's me. I really don't understand. I have ask for forgiveness for anything I have done that is offensive. He has never ever ask for forgiveness. Eccch. Another thing they don't cry.
When you dealing with narcissist you need not want to prove yourself to them. Walk away you know who you are, when they criticise block your ear with headphones and don't respond to them 😊
My divorce attorney told me that "He will never know what he did to you" Three months later he introduced his girlfriend to our kids after our 20 year marriage!
After I became aware of similar patterns of behavior in 2 people I was married to one at a time until they no longer could get away with it then that kind of behavior became easier for me to spot. However after the invasion into Ukraine like a lot of other people too I needed to become educated about systemic narcissism dynamic so I would not be convinced ever again not to be concerned.
Got married.. Separated within 3 months. Suffered from hell of a smear campaign (smear campaign in 40 villages and every home in my village). Divorced after 1 year. After divorce, I was asking the same question how can they do all this ? Then I found out about NPD and this channel Thank god, my healing process has begun and I am in right direction.
Oh trust me I was raised by five narcissist I understand that they do that what the real question is why when they know they are psycho why they refuse to get help when they absolutely know they are psychotic
because they thrive on chaos and anger- in empowers them ! If they went to therapy they would either lie or be sad - and they can’t tolerate introspection……
How do you make a narcissist suffer forever? You need to destroy narcissist ego and pride. You need to bring them back to reality. And there is a way you can do that. Without harming them directly. And that is by working on yourself. And going back to being the person you were before you got involved with the narcissist. The person that they were attracted to. And then becoming a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it, but you reject their hoover attempts. It will destroy their ego. Because thyey can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. Especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissists find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You being happy. Because what really destroys their ego is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result that they were intending for. Because now you're even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroys them. Because they remember how good things were back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to get revenge on the narcissist. You don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get the me the information and evidence that I need to gain my freedom from the abusive relationship. If you are in a similar situation you can contact him on instagram @ spy bruce
Yes, in many ways. Trauma, drama ,neglect, dad being more of a ‘bro’ or being spoiled, having too much expectation pushed on you… anything other than the all too rare normal parenting can cause it. Seems to be a defense mechanism. So we get stuck in childhood permanently. Yeah ‘we’ as in me.
@@geraldfriend256 Narcs are born that way. Out of 4 sons I raised the same way whom I loved all the same, 1 of them is a covert narc like his father. The other 3 are normal loving human beings.
I don't know... I still feel like both me and my partner both have narcissistic tendencies. I am massively jealous, for example, she wanted to go on a motorbike tour with a well-known customer of the gasstation she is working at. I didn't put up with it, I didn't like that, her being so close to a guy I have never seen. When she is with friends and talking about me, getting things off her chest apparently, I feel shitty, because I would never badmouth her anywhere. I'm apparently paranoid and controlling, because I don't trust people. Truth is, I'm worried, always, about her. Everytime she's out alone, or with somebody I don't trust. But what if my moral compass is wrong. What if I AM controlling. Sure, I get Monologues from her, that last half an hour and leaves me feeling guilty, and like, just useless... But I did bad things as well, at this point into the relationship. 2 Years now. And I feel myself turning into an evil person. Or maybe it was always inside me. I just don't know, man...
@@lilyluxuria2871 Nah, like... I just lost my Job. I couldn't handle the pressure anymore. I just couldn't meet everybody's expectations. I don't even know what exactly happened, but after closing up the shop, I took 2 shots of Vodka, while cleaning up the shop. She called me, because I needed to hurry up for a birthday party. Somehow that stressed me out... After hanging up, I took another 2 shots, tried to hurry even more, burned my hand... And Blackout: Apparently I smashed up half the shop while shouting bad things about everyone I didn't want to disappoint... And almost slashed my wrists with a box cutter... At least that's what the CCTV footage showed... xD Like, that's nothing a sane person would do, is it...? I royally fucked up, because I couldn't handle simple pressure and time management...
@@lilyluxuria2871 I doub't it. I recently lost control, got drunk, blacked out and smashed up half the shop I worked at, all apparently while badmouthing everyone who's expectations I was trying to meet, even my girlfriend... I MUST be the insane one...
Yes! How can they not regret their actions? How can they keep on hurting me and have no remorse? I've been so careful my whole life not to hurt them. I still don't want to see them hurt. But im saving myself, so screw them 😂 Thank you Danish 🩷
@soulTraveller144 I wish they would realise everyone has shame. They shamed me as a child, and I'm dealing with it. It would be one thing to just avoid the shame, but to take it out on your own children and harm them is evil. All to make themselves feel better. They enjoy it. "Do you think we like hurting you like this?" Yes, I do 😊
This guy hits the nail on the head every time. He deserves at least a million subs 🙂
@@chocolate4135 his parents or mother was a narcissist
He will exceed a million subs. There is nobody that comes even close to him. Totally relatable.
@@kerrytaggart8206Absolutely!!!
This is the proof that you are NOT like them 😞💪❤️
I just realized this myself recently, I kept asking myself how could someone be so heartless and evil and I then I knew it’s because they have no empathy and no morals.
The more you come out of the fog, the more you realize how shocking their behavior really is, and then you wonder why you stayed so long.
Yes , all kinds of bad situations are coming back in my memory and I,m shocked has this really happened ? Yes , it happened and indeed how can somebody be that way ? ! !
Yup this comment right here 🎉❤
100%
I stayed due to growing up with a Covert Narcissist mother and I had unresolved trauma. There was no way to break away until I just had enough and left.
Yeah it’s heartbreaking
Excellent and Accurate in Human psychology. Right on Point. ✅️
I'm still remember I cried for a few days and move on at the same time which disturbing some my workdays after my therapists comforted me when I threw them my first question, "Am I a narcissist?"
The saddest thing and hardest pill to swallow when I told my therapists about my family and they said, my family could be the narcissists/enablers/flying monkeys and I didn't become any of them.
Yes, I despise my family because of their wrongdoings and acting like innocent people with good deeds. I'm not sure why I was grieving toward them. I hope I didn't let my tears, even one teardrop because of them.
Narcissists didn't deserve the sympathy because of their cruelty to the victims and the lies to deceive so many people.
Same question repeatedly running in mind.. How can I missed all red flags....
Because they are con artists.
Thank you Danish. ` How Insightful we must be in understanding the waste of time we put in figuring out the Disordered´.Doc. C.
Danish Bashir, you're on a roll with your videos
It’s still difficult. No closure. Sudden divorce. The more I get things in order the more I discover. It makes me feel like I am going to throw up.
They're simply evil beings, empaths can't compete with them.
@@DustinHodgson throwing up is an indicator of being delivered from evil by devine intervention. God Bless you! Be healed In Jesus Name!
@@DustinHodgson I totally understand and I have been throwing up constantly when I think OMG that actually HAPPENED!! I wouldn’t listen to what other peoples opinions were my mom or dad or friends and I just kept on going down that rabbit hole until I finally reached the bottom and it woke me up !! I didn’t even realize just what kind of a fog I was in until I left him !!!! I was like OMG I was in danger with a weirdo!! Control freak etc
@@InfinityFinds-ge6gu I’m still struggling with ups and downs. I got no closure from her. Just endless reasons why I was always the problem I never listened etc. some was true. She made me goto this big outdoor expo thing. We wandered around a bit. Then she took me to these campers. I stay in a camper every summer working remote all around the state of Alaska doing road construction. She said this one is nice you should finance it.
It was 80,000$. Uh no. I can sleep in a tent on the ground for all I care. She never came to visit me. I have a 1999 terry I purchased with bunk beds. Hoping she’d bring my sons to see me when she visited. This was only maybe 1-2 times a summer.
When I scoffed at the idea of financing something like that. She exploded. Insults. Shaming me. There were 1000’s of people there. Everything you can imagine.
“You never want to spend money on nice things!!”
(I payed all the family bills. Groceries. Mortgage. Doctors. Everything. And only earn income during summers.)
“EVERYTHING is impossible to you!!”
(I wasn’t comfortable financing something like that at all and told her that)
Just endless. Well. Guess what? She was angry because her mother had just financed a new camper the summer before. And her sisters husband had just financed one that winter. She had to compete via me.
She was happy only when we moved into our newly constructed home. Built in 2013. And that only lasted a while. We had the nicest, newest, biggest house out of everyone we knew. Then her sisters husband started working on an addition. Her mother started one as well. Suddenly. We weren’t the best.
I’ve recently had the epiphany about the camper thing. I was always used as a tool. A means to an end. Not viewed as a person. A way for her to compete and assert her self perceived superiority over others.
Again. I feel sick with all the realizations. That just keep coming and coming.
@@donnasieli2158 believe whatever you want. I get sick at the realizations of how foolish, trusting and blind I was for 16 years. Always giving the benefit of the doubt. Always forgiving. Faults in my character. I am an existentialist. However thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts.
I tried very hard to understand.
It literally hurt my brain!
They lack humanity.
They are inhumane
A very helpful message ❤ much needed
I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
Me too!! Thank you Danish!! 🙂✝️🙏🕯️❤️
This is so true. I always wonder how they can do what they did.
Especially when all you have been is kind and compassionate towards them I’ll never understand.
It's absolutely flabbergasting when you figure out who they really are. The hardest part for me is that the narc in my life is my sibling. I'll never understand it or accept her actions. The only option is to exclude her from my life permanently.
I often asked myself that, daily
Same.😕
They have some evil, demonic hand on their heads which empaths can never understand.
Ya that is true....but they are not demonic with other or their own family member.its on us only they show their evil face and evil doings.
On their heads??
How about took up residence in their vessel and operates through them!
There's no human in there!
This is so true. I would never do to another human being what they did to me, because of my morals and values.
You keep raising the bar for all others on quora and TH-cam.
Very simple answers to such complicated issues. I can see one day soon you will be the number 1 guy here . Very good post
I agree 100%!
They are demonic. That's how they can be so cruel. Love this channel.
They're the very inversion of God and His will.
@@sandrathomas2893Sure seems that way to me, and I am skeptical of anything paranormal to a degree. Narx are like a dark force of nature that seems determined to destroy me until I go no contact with each and every one of them. Better a broken heart than a tortured soul.
Exactly 💯
I have a family full of them. They robbed me and my other brother of our inheritance ! I don't know how they can sleep at night ! Lieing Demons !
I cannot believe when my ex treated me like this way....but still I'm not able to digest the fact how he could treat me like that way
Thank you for this, Danish. This is reassuring. Your videos provide comfort & the courage to move forward. 👍🏼❤️🙏🏼🦋💫💪🏼💥
Thanx I need to listen this, I question myself often.
It amazes me how cruel their words can be and I recall asking "where does this comment come from"? bc I could not think to speak such things.
Thank you Danish, I was just thinking about this today. I was trying to understand, to make sense of it all… you just answered my questions
My sister & I talk about my father sometimes & she would say "I just don't understand how he could do those things to us!" I told her "If we understood, we'd be monsters too." I send her your vids quite a bit. Keep up the good work, you are amazing!
@@ang-e Such a great point! "If we understood, we'd be monsters, too." Thank you for this statement. Can I use it? It provides clarity. Thank you again.🦋👍🏼❤️🙏🏼💫💪🏼💥🌷☺️
@@lilyluxuria2871 yes, you surely can 😊❤
One of the most valuable tool that has helped me move forward was radical acceptance. Without empathy and a conscious, they can't heal nor move forward.
Thank you so much sir ❤🎉
I spent 41 years trying to fix one of these people because I didn't understand. Then they tried to kill me after I saved their life. Got all bad people out of my life. I'm happy now, I don't care about them anymore. Setting yourself free is the path to peace within yourself. .
Danish, you are a Godsend for me! You are so incredibly amazing at explaining this fuckery (sorry but Narcissistic Abuse is that) in ways I couldn’t or can’t. You’re helping me understand so much. Please don’t ever stop doing what you’re doing!! I’m beyond grateful for you & your kindness, support, knowledge & YOU!!! You’re awesome!! 🫶
I've thought these things for years and years. Thank you, Danish, for the validation. I understand my thoughts and feelings now and for the best reason.💚
Happened to me in my early Teenage life in my Narc Family .
Popped up by the right time ❤ thankyou ❤
Very well explained... Needed to hear that. Thank you very much. 🙏🏻
TQ sooo much Danish , your video s make me understand what n how it is with NPD behaviour...sooo can handle what's happening n how to go about it.
Sometimes the narcissist prey does become like the narc. For example, I became so hyper-vigilant about detecting lies, deceit, and betrayal that I started thinking everyone was lying to me. I feel like such a horrible person.
not horrible.. AWARE !
9 years asking, 4 months no contact still ask myself how can i love someone and gave him everything i can, and he was devil😢😢😢😢😢
they compete and compare no compersion only compare ,compare,,they cant reflect ,,am not crying because am 95% always crying but am crying because their heart is cold and unemotional and no reflection😢😢😢😢
I was thinking that for more than 2 years, until I understood that my husband is a narcissist.....
He has tapped my phone and listening to each and every conversation.....
How can you find out that someone is tapping your phone? 😮
22 years of evil. Early on, I got to the point where I hated him. I would say to myself, "I wish you would die." I think to stop the hurt and pain. I don't understand how a person don't care to hurt you and take that to the girlfriend. When I left, it was his turn to cry. My kids were older and all three moved out. He lost the house. The Universal line they alway say, "If it wasn't for him, you would have nothing." A line of an abuser. When I left, I had a wonderful apartment and oh so much peace. He no longer had access to my holidays or home. My children are all successful also.
CONGRATULATIONS!🥳💜💜💜
I'm so glad for you! Very happy that your kids are doing well, too.
Accurate has always. 💯
Thank you so much for this because I always say how can this be happening and now I understand thank you
I think it’s because we have a conscience
It's all about silly machiavellianism from their part. They think they're "winning" when they're actually losing their SOUL. (But if need be, take the so-called "L" and abandon ship..RUN LIKE YOUR ASS IS ON FIRE!)
I feel that I am stupid with still having and believing on moral, values and ethics when why to bother when all evil people are getting more rich, more moving forward, more promotion and more progress here I am watching them in awe beacuse this world is like them and they need them as cruel as them.
I had such a hard time understanding the things that the narcissists in my life did to me, that I started to doubt myself.
Its horrendous!
I’ll worry what I’ll be like when it’s over
Trust and believe that you are and will be okay.
I tried to leave, found accommodation then charged my mind and stayed.
It so difficult, especially as we can our little dog who we rescued
Thanks for reaching out
@@petermettler6149 You're welcome. I send prayers for your freedom. Never give up.
Yes i'm asking myself this question
They sold their soul to the devil ! They are lost souls, already given up on life ! Let them, but RUN !!!
God bless you mahn
I love the wallpaper behind you, Danish.
You’re absolutely correct 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
💯God will redeem the years lost to those snakes!
It was a great education beyond words!
Now I know what I DON’T and NEVER want!
I see and feel them a mile away but now they are powerless to me!
Sad but they love to waste their time and energy on revenge only a demon would think of!!
Thank you God!
Thank you Danish!!
🙏🏻❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹🎚️⚖️
Bingo! Exactly! Right on the nail Danish!
I have often ask myself maybe it's me. I really don't understand. I have ask for forgiveness for anything I have done that is offensive. He has never ever ask for forgiveness. Eccch. Another thing they don't cry.
Thank you
When you dealing with narcissist you need not want to prove yourself to them. Walk away you know who you are, when they criticise block your ear with headphones and don't respond to them 😊
My divorce attorney told me that "He will never know what he did to you" Three months later he introduced his girlfriend to our kids after our 20 year marriage!
@@BeachJumper Stay strong. He will never know what he did to you. Translation could be that you ultimately turn into (a) SUPER HERO! You got this!
We're empathetic, they're just pathetic
After I became aware of similar patterns of behavior in 2 people I was married to one at a time until they no longer could get away with it then that kind of behavior became easier for me to spot. However after the invasion into Ukraine like a lot of other people too I needed to become educated about systemic narcissism dynamic so I would not be convinced ever again not to be concerned.
Got married.. Separated within 3 months. Suffered from hell of a smear campaign (smear campaign in 40 villages and every home in my village). Divorced after 1 year.
After divorce, I was asking the same question how can they do all this ? Then I found out about NPD and this channel
Thank god, my healing process has begun and I am in right direction.
So true 👍
Bcs they are sick. Heavily sick!
True
His family the same
Oh my God. I use to ask my self to
So true
My question is, how he can be, act THAT stupid?
Oh trust me I was raised by five narcissist I understand that they do that what the real question is why when they know they are psycho why they refuse to get help when they absolutely know they are psychotic
because they thrive on chaos and anger- in empowers them ! If they went to therapy they would either lie or be sad - and they can’t tolerate introspection……
Narcissists are far away from God.😮
💯 facts
How do you make a narcissist suffer forever? You need to destroy narcissist ego and pride. You need to bring them back to reality. And there is a way you can do that. Without harming them directly. And that is by working on yourself. And going back to being the person you were before you got involved with the narcissist. The person that they were attracted to. And then becoming a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it, but you reject their hoover attempts. It will destroy their ego. Because thyey can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. Especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissists find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You being happy. Because what really destroys their ego is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result that they were intending for. Because now you're even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroys them. Because they remember how good things were back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to get revenge on the narcissist. You don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get the me the information and evidence that I need to gain my freedom from the abusive relationship. If you are in a similar situation you can contact him on instagram @ spy bruce
Does narcissm start in childhood a difficult upbringing
Yes, in many ways. Trauma, drama ,neglect, dad being more of a ‘bro’ or being spoiled, having too much expectation pushed on you… anything other than the all too rare normal parenting can cause it. Seems to be a defense mechanism. So we get stuck in childhood permanently. Yeah ‘we’ as in me.
@@geraldfriend256 Narcs are born that way. Out of 4 sons I raised the same way whom I loved all the same, 1 of them is a covert narc like his father. The other 3 are normal loving human beings.
Were the narcissists treated badly as a child
I don't know... I still feel like both me and my partner both have narcissistic tendencies.
I am massively jealous, for example, she wanted to go on a motorbike tour with a well-known customer of the gasstation she is working at. I didn't put up with it, I didn't like that, her being so close to a guy I have never seen. When she is with friends and talking about me, getting things off her chest apparently, I feel shitty, because I would never badmouth her anywhere. I'm apparently paranoid and controlling, because I don't trust people. Truth is, I'm worried, always, about her. Everytime she's out alone, or with somebody I don't trust.
But what if my moral compass is wrong. What if I AM controlling.
Sure, I get Monologues from her, that last half an hour and leaves me feeling guilty, and like, just useless... But I did bad things as well, at this point into the relationship. 2 Years now. And I feel myself turning into an evil person. Or maybe it was always inside me.
I just don't know, man...
Sounds like you are being manipulated into believing her lies about yourself.
@@selk6535 You're okay. Trust your instincts. She might be gaslighting you. Stay safe & strong. Keep reading & coming here.
@@lilyluxuria2871 Nah, like... I just lost my Job. I couldn't handle the pressure anymore. I just couldn't meet everybody's expectations.
I don't even know what exactly happened, but after closing up the shop, I took 2 shots of Vodka, while cleaning up the shop. She called me, because I needed to hurry up for a birthday party. Somehow that stressed me out...
After hanging up, I took another 2 shots, tried to hurry even more, burned my hand...
And Blackout:
Apparently I smashed up half the shop while shouting bad things about everyone I didn't want to disappoint... And almost slashed my wrists with a box cutter...
At least that's what the CCTV footage showed... xD
Like, that's nothing a sane person would do, is it...? I royally fucked up, because I couldn't handle simple pressure and time management...
@@lilyluxuria2871 I doub't it. I recently lost control, got drunk, blacked out and smashed up half the shop I worked at, all apparently while badmouthing everyone who's expectations I was trying to meet, even my girlfriend...
I MUST be the insane one...
I just tried telling how I messed up my life in an Instant, but TH-cam somehow doesn't show the comments on my end...
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Yes! How can they not regret their actions? How can they keep on hurting me and have no remorse? I've been so careful my whole life not to hurt them. I still don't want to see them hurt. But im saving myself, so screw them 😂
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@soulTraveller144 I wish they would realise everyone has shame. They shamed me as a child, and I'm dealing with it. It would be one thing to just avoid the shame, but to take it out on your own children and harm them is evil. All to make themselves feel better. They enjoy it. "Do you think we like hurting you like this?" Yes, I do 😊
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