it only sounds easy, but it’s not always very obvious. In my case, it was bread crumbing . Bit bit bit bit by bit, he was doing it in a very convoluted and manipulative way. He’s incredibly deceptive you will not always notice that you are controlled in my case. It took me 20 years to notice.
@JWSpencer-qj5jn Or if it's somebody who you would least expect, such as a family member. They could be manipulating you for years before you realize it.
The people a narcissist hates the most are those they cannot control-those who see through the mask, who refuse to be manipulated, and who won’t bend to their twisted games. My wife, my mother-they are queens in their kingdoms of lies, lashing out when their power slips, hating anyone who dares to expose their darkness. I’ve been their target, the one who dared to look behind the façade, who saw the evil beneath the smiles. They fear me not because I’m weak, but because I’ve seen their truth and still choose to stand. Their hatred is their weakness, not mine. I am the mirror they can’t shatter, the light they can’t dim, the strength they never saw coming. And in that, I am their worst nightmare.
Indeed I don't care if I ever see them again They are in my family n my workplace Just to be in a room is a most disgusting thing the air is filled with a dark n unclean energy Only God make me deal with these demonic hypocrites n devils
Amen to that brother. Narc mother here, narc father, narc ex wife. My ex wife even said it out loud ( I saved the email to show my children when they old enough) “I hate when I can’t control a situation and I hate your guts”. They often confess strangely enough when they realize you’ve caught on and won’t have any bs games! Like a little girl in woman’s body losing her possession…
I cannot believe it. I grew up in a severely narcissistic, sadistic family system. and they all ditch me because of all the 7 reasons that they hate me that you mentioned. Thank you so much for the clarification. Now I know I'm not in the wrong at all, In being the way I am.
I am definitely the scapegoat of my family, they put me down anytime they can and copy what I do. When they see me cry, they feel so uncomfortable. You are so spit on Bashir, as usual.
After enduring unexplainable emotional trauma from an abusive relationship, I feel deeply disconnected from my true self. Although two years have passed with no contact, the scars remain. For five years, I focused on helping her become her best self, yet she relentlessly worked to sever my connection with who I truly am. It's not just the torment during those 4.5 years that hurts, but also the aftermath. The trauma she left behind is incomparable to the usual heartbreak-it's something that lingers, making it hard to trust again, or even to reconnect with myself. I wouldn’t want anyone to endure such a relationship, where the emotional damage stays long after the person is gone.
It takes a while to regain SOME of your essence . You have to realize you won't get it back the way you were. I realized this just this a.m. I will never be the brave roll off my back person I was . I will have some but to much damage was done . I think everybody has a agenda . That I'm not sure when or if it will ever go away. it takes time
Don't let the abuse of others take the core soul out of you. Is still there, just don't lose hope and keep fighting for yourself. It is a battle worth winning. Bless.
This was a very well thought out, articulate and concise explanation of not only what a narcissist hates, but also a precise description of narcissism over all. As always, the main focus encompasses all that a narcissist is devoid of; imagination, intuition and empathy. Point #7 expresses this clearly and intelligently.
This describes the dynamics of my workplace. I have experienced & healed from a narcissistic romantic relationship. In this workplace, i am seeing it so clearly & getting out ASAP. Much of my healing was energetic through the Angelic Realms....but your concise videos helped with the words so i could identify it....& keep myself safe until I can get out.
He hates crowds , hates party’s , he likes going to the woods and make his own tracks , he don’t follow what’s given . He walks miles away , so I refuse to go as end up walking in my own in the woods .
Hell,I live in the woods,I love nature, what you see, is what you get,no bullshit, I'd rather deal with wild animals,than cull through the misfits of humanity
Last relationship, told him this. "Every conversation ends with you angry and me in tears." I became disinterested in apologies. Many of us have been through difficult times and didn't hurt others. Now, I find myself smiling again after a long time. Many blessings 🙌 🙏 ✨️ 💓
i told a narc that i spent the morning making banana bread from two black bananas. they spent the next several minutes in a loud voice telling me where to find and obtain over ripe bananas, as if I didn't already finish making the banana bread...as if I asked them where to find bananas, and as if it isn't the most easy thing in the world to get bananas and let them ripen. it was completely bizarre
I've learned the hard way to cut off the umbilical cord from my mother and her flying monkeys,my siblings. I am mourning the loss of my family, but I also know that this is part of my road to recovery. I'm 57 years old, and I know it is not too late for me to start living again like any other normal person. Thanks be to God!
"They like it when you are crying". I am not a cryer but my husband was so hurtful at one point I started to cry. He said "You should cry more". He LIKED it! I immediately stopped and never cried in front of him again and shortly after I divorced him.
👍🫶Hi Danish. This video is so on point. Narcissists don't want to see us succeed, so they try to sabotage our life at work, home, socially, anything to dull our shine. That's the very moment we shine more❣️. I'm glad I found your channel to make my life better by your good exlpanations of their nightmare brhavior. ✌️ Peace, love, MISS JANINE🆒️ ♏️ 🌹🦋
4,5,6 is what I’m facing right now. Exactly the same. I feel like you are peeking into my life and seeing everything what’s going on and doing a video lol😅thanks Danish. You brought peace to my life by telling reality about narcissism and their victims
I'd told my up-to-speed amazing son I'd pissed someone off recently and he replied "Good for you!", ah, thank goodness some people are still made like they used to be! 😊
I used to not to hate myself ...because of some people and the way they treated me ...the way how they used my adversity to back stap me...because of that I hate myself more than anything in this life
hello dear danish! there is a distinction to be made here: "communal narcissists"are often sen by the surrounding public as impact-makers and visionaries, but upon closer examination you'll find a great deal of suffering caused by them to those who trust and assist them. understanding that takes time and willingness to separate fact from fiction. an important part of exposing a narcissist involves looking beyond THEIR narratives into the facts that feel wrong and that don't add up.
I came to understand that all the folks who hate me are narcs, but it also meant I was a self made victim all this time because I let them in my life thinking it was my idea, but I know now that I was tricked. well I feel better today because now I do make my own choices and therefore have only myself to blame from this point on.
Not at all; you are not to blame. Now is a time of learning, healing and getting/keeping them out of our lives. They see us coming. They use and abuse us in such subtle ways at first we don't even feel it until they beat us down. heal, my friend
A narcissist partner may deeply hate you but still want sex with you if they have no other supply. So crazy it feels like a 1 night stand it’s just impersonal and robot like it’s scary after years and years. I cannot wait to leave that is my goal. Wish I could think of things that matter instead of his bullshit!
Watching your videos I'm always like yes! Omg. Mmhmmm. You got that right 😂 Thank you Danish! Your videos are keeping me sane🙏 My fiance is super supportive. He doesn't always fully understand though. He had a normal childhood. It's such a relief to hear from other survivors 🩷 Sometimes it's all so overwhelming. My body doesn't know what to do. Stuck. I don't want to be frozen anymore. I pray the fear will go away 🙏 Did I hear a cow? Moo 🐮 awww I love cows 🩷 I don't know what person I am in all of this. I'm just trying to learn as much as possible. Absorb some wisdom from people that aren't selfish. I learned all the wrong things growing up now It feels like i have to start from scratch. Every day I wish to learn something new ✨️ Oh yeah when I cried I got it worse. That always seemed to be her kryptonite 💥 I have to watch your videos a few times 😂 I miss bits that cow distracted me lmao
Great insights, especially the bit about creatives. I think, though, that grandiose narcs who are unaware of their flaws see all of these traits (not just vulnerable types) as weakneses, like they are inferior and socially unacceptable, and don't deserve their talents and need to be punished just for exhibiting a degree of self-confidence, because it's one's ability to display dominence that defines one's value in society. They think we have ulterior motives, and are competing with them out jealousy of their alpha status. There are niche sub-sectors of industries who attract both types, and younger people just entering these job markets are literally groomed to act this way; it's how they're trained to 'manage' nerds who can't hack it in a tough environment and taught to identify all the traits you just described and minimise (marginalise) their 'impact'.
All of them I wear Silver the Hedgehog tshirts im autistic and Silvers color scheme does have a way of having me go to my happy place teal especially is a great color Silvers color scheme is Silver, White, Gold, Cyan, Aqua Green, Red, Peach, Teal, and Royal Blue there awesome and legendary.
I remember when I became engaged to be married and my Narcissist Mother said " don't think your Marriage will be a bed of roses" I'm still happily Married (36 years) 1-0 🤣
Danish, I have a question, whats the relation between narcisists and violence? Are there any scientific evidence on that? Cause I know not all narcissists are violent, but is this something to be worried about? Love your channel, thanks! 😊
Oh, I have another question! You think someone who isn't a narcisist but gets married to one, and who believes that marriage should be "in sickness and in health" can, over time, because of trauma and this like, pact, becaume so part of this narcisistic fantasy that they become narcissists themselves? Turning from survivor to narcissist? If so, is it the case to consider it almost like a contagious desease?
Please denish sir, make videos simultaneously in hindi also as will understand better those who are hindi are mother tongue. They understand better, it's also kind of help those who are dealing with narcissist abuse. Hope you consider my request 😢😢😢😢
Kuch to hoga koi way to hogi ki ki narcissist khud bhi khush rahe aur hame bhi rehne di... Apko kuch toh pata hoga ki kaise wo saath bhi rahe aur hame effect na kare😢😢😢
I'm done dream catching for the abusers _ oh I got one more dream for them - hamburger for India. My condolences for your culture of abusers _ we in Canada being nicely abused by the new Indian government that had bought all the business and houses.
I'm an independant woman with à buisnes vision. My husband hated when I Warner à 5000$ from my investissement and hate when I do buisnes related stuff.
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Narcissists hate those they cannot manipulate or control.
You're an outcast showing resistance you want your own head on your own shoulders!😊
Along with bravery, they hate people who have boundaries that don't allow themselves to be manipulated or controlled.
it only sounds easy, but it’s not always very obvious. In my case, it was bread crumbing . Bit bit bit bit by bit, he was doing it in a very convoluted and manipulative way. He’s incredibly deceptive you will not always notice that you are controlled in my case. It took me 20 years to notice.
@JWSpencer-qj5jn Or if it's somebody who you would least expect, such as a family member. They could be manipulating you for years before you realize it.
They try to destroy your life with lies , because theirs can be destroyed with the truth .
They want you to be insecure, because "Your insecurity IS their security "
The people a narcissist hates the most are those they cannot control-those who see through the mask, who refuse to be manipulated, and who won’t bend to their twisted games. My wife, my mother-they are queens in their kingdoms of lies, lashing out when their power slips, hating anyone who dares to expose their darkness. I’ve been their target, the one who dared to look behind the façade, who saw the evil beneath the smiles. They fear me not because I’m weak, but because I’ve seen their truth and still choose to stand. Their hatred is their weakness, not mine. I am the mirror they can’t shatter, the light they can’t dim, the strength they never saw coming. And in that, I am their worst nightmare.
Amen 🙏🏻🙌🏻
Indeed
I don't care if I ever see them again
They are in my family n my workplace
Just to be in a room is a most disgusting thing the air is filled with a dark n unclean energy
Only God make me deal with these demonic hypocrites n devils
Amen to that brother. Narc mother here, narc father, narc ex wife. My ex wife even said it out loud ( I saved the email to show my children when they old enough) “I hate when I can’t control a situation and I hate your guts”. They often confess strangely enough when they realize you’ve caught on and won’t have any bs games! Like a little girl in woman’s body losing her possession…
YES! The truth teller is always casted out!
I cannot believe it. I grew up in a severely narcissistic, sadistic family system. and they all ditch me because of all the 7 reasons that they hate me that you mentioned. Thank you so much for the clarification. Now I know I'm not in the wrong at all, In being the way I am.
💯🙏🏽💜 I’m realizing this recently too & all about what the family Scape Goat is. I wish you lots of Healing Kryssy.
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@@Wellness_Rose I'm glad I could help.
I am definitely the scapegoat of my family, they put me down anytime they can and copy what I do. When they see me cry, they feel so uncomfortable.
You are so spit on Bashir, as usual.
After enduring unexplainable emotional trauma from an abusive relationship, I feel deeply disconnected from my true self. Although two years have passed with no contact, the scars remain. For five years, I focused on helping her become her best self, yet she relentlessly worked to sever my connection with who I truly am. It's not just the torment during those 4.5 years that hurts, but also the aftermath. The trauma she left behind is incomparable to the usual heartbreak-it's something that lingers, making it hard to trust again, or even to reconnect with myself. I wouldn’t want anyone to endure such a relationship, where the emotional damage stays long after the person is gone.
It takes a while to regain SOME of your essence . You have to realize you won't get it back the way you were. I realized this just this a.m. I will never be the brave roll off my back person I was . I will have some but to much damage was done . I think everybody has a agenda . That I'm not sure when or if it will ever go away. it takes time
Don't let the abuse of others take the core soul out of you. Is still there, just don't lose hope and keep fighting for yourself. It is a battle worth winning. Bless.
I’m the one who stopped playing his petty games & detached myself from the foolishness!
Yes, "any amount I do is not enough" a famous statement
They hate me the most as I've dealt with and destroyed many narcissists.
Hate anyone who can see through their BS
This was a very well thought out, articulate and concise explanation of not only what a narcissist hates, but also a precise description of narcissism over all.
As always, the main focus encompasses all that a narcissist is devoid of; imagination, intuition and empathy. Point #7 expresses this clearly and intelligently.
I can always connect to whatever you say. You are doing a great job brother
Isn't it wonderful finding others we are on the same wave length with!🎉
@@joseenoel8093 True
This describes the dynamics of my workplace. I have experienced & healed from a narcissistic romantic relationship. In this workplace, i am seeing it so clearly & getting out ASAP. Much of my healing was energetic through the Angelic Realms....but your concise videos helped with the words so i could identify it....& keep myself safe until I can get out.
This is all so true: stunning to see all this listed! Thank you so much, Danish! 💛
Thank you- You May never know how much your insight has meant , Such a comfort ❤
He hates crowds , hates party’s , he likes going to the woods and make his own tracks , he don’t follow what’s given . He walks miles away , so I refuse to go as end up walking in my own in the woods .
I wouldn't go into the woods with anyone for any reason . 😵💫
Hell,I live in the woods,I love nature, what you see, is what you get,no bullshit, I'd rather deal with wild animals,than cull through the misfits of humanity
Last relationship, told him this. "Every conversation ends with you angry and me in tears." I became disinterested in apologies. Many of us have been through difficult times and didn't hurt others. Now, I find myself smiling again after a long time. Many blessings 🙌 🙏 ✨️ 💓
i told a narc that i spent the morning making banana bread from two black bananas. they spent the next several minutes in a loud voice telling me where to find and obtain over ripe bananas, as if I didn't already finish making the banana bread...as if I asked them where to find bananas, and as if it isn't the most easy thing in the world to get bananas and let them ripen. it was completely bizarre
Dude, this video is scary accurate. I have discussed ALL the same things regarding narcissistic familys/ people
I've learned the hard way to cut off the umbilical cord from my mother and her flying monkeys,my siblings. I am mourning the loss of my family, but I also know that this is part of my road to recovery. I'm 57 years old, and I know it is not too late for me to start living again like any other normal person. Thanks be to God!
Some kind of relief after your every episode..Thks from bottom Danish..
You make good points they hate you for being you I saw your checklist.
"They like it when you are crying". I am not a cryer but my husband was so hurtful at one point I started to cry. He said "You should cry more". He LIKED it! I immediately stopped and never cried in front of him again and shortly after I divorced him.
👍🫶Hi Danish. This video is so on point. Narcissists don't want to see us succeed, so they try to sabotage our life at work, home, socially, anything to dull our shine. That's the very moment we shine more❣️. I'm glad I found your channel to make my life better by your good exlpanations of their nightmare brhavior. ✌️ Peace, love, MISS JANINE🆒️ ♏️ 🌹🦋
Thank you for clarifing WHY the narcissistn dealt with me the way he did.
Having gratitude towards well wishers 🤝
4,5,6 is what I’m facing right now. Exactly the same. I feel like you are peeking into my life and seeing everything what’s going on and doing a video lol😅thanks Danish. You brought peace to my life by telling reality about narcissism and their victims
I'd told my up-to-speed amazing son I'd pissed someone off recently and he replied "Good for you!", ah, thank goodness some people are still made like they used to be! 😊
I used to not to hate myself ...because of some people and the way they treated me ...the way how they used my adversity to back stap me...because of that I hate myself more than anything in this life
hello dear danish! there is a distinction to be made here: "communal narcissists"are often sen by the surrounding public as impact-makers and visionaries, but upon closer examination you'll find a great deal of suffering caused by them to those who trust and assist them. understanding that takes time and willingness to separate fact from fiction. an important part of exposing a narcissist involves looking beyond THEIR narratives into the facts that feel wrong and that don't add up.
You just explained my childhood and my entire life experiences. These videos you make are helping me a great deal. Ty
I came to understand that all the folks who hate me are narcs, but it also meant I was a self made victim all this time because I let them in my life thinking it was my idea, but I know now that I was tricked. well I feel better today because now I do make my own choices and therefore have only myself to blame from this point on.
Not at all; you are not to blame. Now is a time of learning, healing and getting/keeping them out of our lives. They see us coming. They use and abuse us in such subtle ways at first we don't even feel it until they beat us down. heal, my friend
@@elizabethtowers3321 thank you.
A narcissist partner may deeply hate you but still want sex with you if they have no other supply. So crazy it feels like a 1 night stand it’s just impersonal and robot like it’s scary after years and years. I cannot wait to leave that is my goal. Wish I could think of things that matter instead of his bullshit!
Danish, 😊although I already knew. I thank you for remainding me of the forces a narcissist can bring into a realationship. You are a real healer❤
They hate people who are weak and imperfect but still decide to not surrender to them and become a better person with the help of God.
Authentic can’t stand fake
thank you
Thank you for ding so many videos. When a person is whittled down a little mouthful of medicine often is better. Go well.
Watching your videos I'm always like yes! Omg. Mmhmmm. You got that right 😂 Thank you Danish! Your videos are keeping me sane🙏 My fiance is super supportive. He doesn't always fully understand though. He had a normal childhood. It's such a relief to hear from other survivors 🩷 Sometimes it's all so overwhelming. My body doesn't know what to do. Stuck. I don't want to be frozen anymore. I pray the fear will go away 🙏
Did I hear a cow? Moo 🐮 awww I love cows 🩷
I don't know what person I am in all of this. I'm just trying to learn as much as possible. Absorb some wisdom from people that aren't selfish. I learned all the wrong things growing up now It feels like i have to start from scratch. Every day I wish to learn something new ✨️
Oh yeah when I cried I got it worse. That always seemed to be her kryptonite 💥 I have to watch your videos a few times 😂 I miss bits that cow distracted me lmao
I’m all of these lol no wonder narcs hate me 😅
I was thinking the same thing: story of my life!
Yes , me too .
Great insights, especially the bit about creatives. I think, though, that grandiose narcs who are unaware of their flaws see all of these traits (not just vulnerable types) as weakneses, like they are inferior and socially unacceptable, and don't deserve their talents and need to be punished just for exhibiting a degree of self-confidence, because it's one's ability to display dominence that defines one's value in society. They think we have ulterior motives, and are competing with them out jealousy of their alpha status. There are niche sub-sectors of industries who attract both types, and younger people just entering these job markets are literally groomed to act this way; it's how they're trained to 'manage' nerds who can't hack it in a tough environment and taught to identify all the traits you just described and minimise (marginalise) their 'impact'.
Unfortunately you are right 🤕
My friend "you said it again".
Famtastic list of truths !! 11:33
Thanks Danish. A High Sch teacher hated me.Students told me it was bec i was too well off.
It was living in an environment of constant disapproval.
Illusions reinforced through our illusions
Spot on Danish. So true.
because this you dont feel safe to conversations with them, and they say: you dont talk to me! How?
Wow great video Danish! I have all of those qualities. No wonder my parents hate me. 😂
All of them I wear Silver the Hedgehog tshirts im autistic and Silvers color scheme does have a way of having me go to my happy place teal especially is a great color Silvers color scheme is Silver, White, Gold, Cyan, Aqua Green, Red, Peach, Teal, and Royal Blue there awesome and legendary.
First comment danish 🎉 u r saviour for most 😊
I remember when I became engaged to be married and my Narcissist Mother said " don't think your Marriage will be a bed of roses" I'm still happily Married (36 years) 1-0 🤣
Danish, I have a question, whats the relation between narcisists and violence? Are there any scientific evidence on that? Cause I know not all narcissists are violent, but is this something to be worried about?
Love your channel, thanks! 😊
How to deal with overthinking after narcissistic abuse??
The negative thinking? How to deal with it?
I'm experiencing all of these from my own brother from past 9 months... Don't know what to do.. I just kinda distance from him slowly as much as I can
Could jealousy be the reason ■ for what is known as the "starving artist?" M
i am highly creative person .and it happens to me also
How accurate you are
I wish I heard this when I was a younger man
Interesting.
Oh, I have another question! You think someone who isn't a narcisist but gets married to one, and who believes that marriage should be "in sickness and in health" can, over time, because of trauma and this like, pact, becaume so part of this narcisistic fantasy that they become narcissists themselves? Turning from survivor to narcissist? If so, is it the case to consider it almost like a contagious desease?
Please denish sir, make videos simultaneously in hindi also as will understand better those who are hindi are mother tongue. They understand better, it's also kind of help those who are dealing with narcissist abuse. Hope you consider my request 😢😢😢😢
Never knew this
Kuch to hoga koi way to hogi ki ki narcissist khud bhi khush rahe aur hame bhi rehne di... Apko kuch toh pata hoga ki kaise wo saath bhi rahe aur hame effect na kare😢😢😢
Awesome 👍
I'm done dream catching for the abusers _ oh I got one more dream for them - hamburger for India.
My condolences for your culture of abusers _ we in Canada being nicely abused by the new Indian government that had bought all the business and houses.
I'm an independant woman with à buisnes vision. My husband hated when I Warner à 5000$ from my investissement and hate when I do buisnes related stuff.
❤
💯👍