Understanding Trauma - Part 20 - Signs of Healing

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  • @ad6417
    @ad6417 หลายเดือนก่อน +308

    My number one sign of healing has been that I'm no longer looking to other people to take care of me.

    • @KJBaskett-wv2xb
      @KJBaskett-wv2xb หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Agreed. I am the opposite as I've always been the one to take care of people. I just don't want to care for anyone to the extent I used to.

    • @loragarcia5212
      @loragarcia5212 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      That is me still looking for people to take care of me at 64

    • @chueikiir
      @chueikiir 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      💜💜💜💜💜

    • @haraldthi
      @haraldthi 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​​@@loragarcia5212 The way I see things, you can't really judge things by age. It's just an average. And if your life, your input of experiences, has not been average then it's not strange that the results are not average either. So can you instead see it as a basic need that has not been met to a sufficient degree yet, and that you while aware of those needs and what consequences they have try to find out how you may be able to fulfill them in your current life, instead of judging yourself for something you have never had any way to influence? I'm no professional here, but could that at least be a beginning.

    • @ordinaryvalley
      @ordinaryvalley 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thats a big one! Happy for ya ❤

  • @MargrietS
    @MargrietS หลายเดือนก่อน +284

    Signs of healing: that you are watching a video about signs of healing 😍

    • @MarkThrive
      @MarkThrive หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      50min worth!
      If your heart isn't in it, Tim probably sounds like wah wah wah wah...😂😂😂

    • @sharonanderson-eh4on
      @sharonanderson-eh4on หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Guided to this video is the way I'm looking at it.❤

    • @bazinamelie9211
      @bazinamelie9211 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you from France, those videos are really helpful for people like me trying to better understand themselves

    • @cathsrq
      @cathsrq 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Good one

    • @CarolinNobles
      @CarolinNobles 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      So true :)

  • @kristenmerrill-nl2dh
    @kristenmerrill-nl2dh 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +600

    The 2nd best thing to having him as a therapist are these videos ….this man is so gifted and blesses so many troubled hearts.

    • @tanjalatussek3790
      @tanjalatussek3790 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      I couldn.t agree more. He is a big resource to me as a therapist too

    • @StorytimebyKorin
      @StorytimebyKorin 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      To me, he has been a virtual life saver. God bless you Tim 🙏

    • @deborahmartin236
      @deborahmartin236 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Changed my life…..❤❤❤. He’s a hero for sure 😊

    • @ChannellRajal
      @ChannellRajal 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@StorytimebyKorinI can’t remember what the term is called, but your comment is also an accurate play on words👍🏼

    • @michelemcintyre9749
      @michelemcintyre9749 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Yes, he's great! Another helpful one for me is also Dr Les Carter. ❤

  • @RaRa-el3iz
    @RaRa-el3iz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +518

    Who knew we'd grow up and find out one day that we have to grow up all over again ?
    Thank you so much for your contribution.

    • @AnaK-kx4lr
      @AnaK-kx4lr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Well said!

    • @Lemoncare
      @Lemoncare 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      What a ah ah moment that was.

    • @GNGU247
      @GNGU247 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I love this comment 💜🔥 It is so true. I could just laugh and cry thinking about this. Thank you and I hope you have a great day🌞🌻

    • @desertflower4627
      @desertflower4627 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Beautiful comment!? But wonder if we don't also grow down in some ways? Now I'm going to search out variations of nature where 'stuff' grows in all sorts of directions 😮

    • @RaRa-el3iz
      @RaRa-el3iz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Ahhhhh wow 😌 Thanks to you all as well. Appreciate it

  • @mskinetik
    @mskinetik 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +373

    This is the first time I've heard a therapist describe signs of healing. Very good to hear.

  • @lw6138
    @lw6138 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +410

    Thank you, friend. I am almost a year into this new knowledge. At 53, I had lived a life of anxiety and depression. I perceived rejection and internalized inadequacy, in nearly every social situation. My beloved and beleaguered husband held onto me despite my many attempts to push him away. My adult children knew that I was emotionally damaged and they gave me so much grace. But I had no peace. My mind was my enemy. My thoughts were a skipping record. I finally sought help and was given six ketamine treatments. During those treatments, I was able to have multiple breakthroughs that were life changing. The first was that regardless of how strongly I respond to a situation, it isn't necessarily about me. Then I realized that one second is a very long time. See, I had been in a car accident and I watched my dogs fly through the air into the back of the van. I recall processing the thoughts that I been in an accident. All of this before the air bags knocked me out. So I understood that one second is a long time. Therefore, I can take the time to respond to a situation. Then I realized that my fears affected my perception of God, and that I was actually in a good place with Him! Finally, I understood that there is an OPTIMAL me, buried inside, that is anxious to get out, beyond the damage, and to succeed and be healed.
    So this year, I have healed immensely. I can sleep most of the time now. I don't carry the world on my shoulders. I can be open about my anxiety. My pain has lessened a bit. My relationships with my husband and kids is so enriched and they are seeing my progress. I am able to talk myself out of anxiety attacks.
    All of my life, I thought that this hypervigilant, intense, rapid fire personality was who I was. But once I recognized that nearly all of it was on the list of symptoms for abandonment trauma, I knew that to continue on is to allow those awful people to steal my life even when they were dead. My inner rebel led me to adopt healthier patterns.
    I am grateful for this season. It was very difficult, but I am thinking clearer and cleaning house of the debris of thee past. So thank you for providing enlightening videos for those of us who are paralyzed in a time and place where horror entered our lives, and out us in a cage.
    I am sleeping better. I am honest about my anxiety with people. I am kinder to myself, knowing that I haven't always been. I've stopped fawning (normal people recoil). I am setting boundaries. I am not enduring emotionally abusive relationships because of blood relation. I am addressing my procrastination. I am becoming safe to talk to for those who I hurt, specifically my husband and kids. I am no longer taking everything personally. I've lost a lot of weight effortlessly. Today, I registered for school to learn a new skill.
    Life is good. It's never too late. Take care.

    • @roby9762
      @roby9762 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      I'm 25 yo & 7 months into this new knowledge. I'm not the person I was 7 months ago. Your story is amazing👍

    • @vintageragamuffin4570
      @vintageragamuffin4570 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      I am SO HAPPY for you! It was like a light went on. And you are still so young, you won't have to waste so many years like a cat backed into a corner. Keep moving forward. Be fearless. Love yourself. I was hitting myself. Now i look in the mirror and promise that I will never do that again. We are the walking wounded but when we heal, we will have still much to offer this world. Love you!

    • @nessyv.3802
      @nessyv.3802 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Thank you for sharing this 🙏 ❤️ there is hope

    • @emen6080
      @emen6080 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Beautiful story! 🙏

    • @robertafierro5592
      @robertafierro5592 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I do my artwork in the early morning hours while I listen to Tim and try to figure out where I'm going wrong..

  • @basilrose
    @basilrose 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +248

    Disassociation is equally as much due to overwhelm and not knowing what to do because anxiety blocks access to problem-solving executive function.

    • @gothboschincarnate3931
      @gothboschincarnate3931 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      right...your referring to autism....

    • @joshuapjung
      @joshuapjung 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Whoah. This is a new way for me to look at this.

    • @iloveFreedom.
      @iloveFreedom. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@gothboschincarnate3931? Or fear in general/ in most of the pop rt nw!! 😂

    • @5995Jiol
      @5995Jiol 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      That’s me

  • @maimunabey3164
    @maimunabey3164 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +96

    April 2024... anyone else finding this man is a blessing to healing?

    • @odonnell88m
      @odonnell88m 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      BINGO!

    • @Falloulla
      @Falloulla 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I hope you don't mind me asking, where are you from? How were you able to find this man? I am just curious of how many people are aware of him that aren't from Winnipeg or Canada.

    • @maimunabey3164
      @maimunabey3164 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@Falloulla of course, I don't mind. I am in United Arab Emirates, but from USA. I was searching on TH-cam for lectures on narcissistic personality in relationships and came across him. I was connected with his approach to CT after accidentally listening to him as I drove long distance. It wasn't until then that I realized what it is that I may be reacting from. I've put so much into perspective lately and listen almost every day applying what I can. I hope you are well, my friend.

    • @Falloulla
      @Falloulla 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@maimunabey3164 Nice to meet you and this sounds great, I will check his lecture on that. I am having my lunch break and listening to his lecture on self-discipline, I find it to be profound. I am recommending his material to people around me. I am in a healing journey, therapy has helped tremendously however there is still fear of success and blockages I don't understand from pursuing what I want to pursue, I feel his lectures are making me understand in depth slowly what could be the problem. The reward system in my brain is a bit dysfunctional lol. I am grateful for him and grateful for your response. I hope you are well and have a wonderful day :)

    • @wiktoriadrozdzynska3331
      @wiktoriadrozdzynska3331 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@Falloullafrom Poland and in process of healing after a narcissistic relationship. This videos been such a help especially that there is a lot of people explaining narcissism but not many talking about complex trauma and codependency. I now understand myself so much better and where my behaviours are coming from 😊

  • @MargrietS
    @MargrietS หลายเดือนก่อน +73

    And I want to add another one, I hear myself start laughing again! That’s a really important sign of healing. Also, having more fun or even just once in awhile smile again❤

    • @nuthinbutluv4u142
      @nuthinbutluv4u142 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This new chapter in my life is called My Turn and I'm changing things...some things are changing on their own. I noticed I stopped sleeping curled up with hands/wrists curled up in front of my chest, which I learned is a sign of trauma. I'm fully stretched out on my stomach again, which I haven't done in decades. Before The Troubles. I take that as a good sign.

    • @SLVC1127
      @SLVC1127 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for pointing that out. This last week I caught myself spontaneously laughing. I haven't done that in years.

    • @lavieenasmr1817
      @lavieenasmr1817 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      This resonates so heavily with me. Especially since someone else noticed who isn’t even a close friend. That gave me a spark and I hope to keep it growing

    • @alexanderalzate8560
      @alexanderalzate8560 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      its true.. even a friend notices it. hey you just laugh he said. ❤❤

    • @yvonnebertrand3731
      @yvonnebertrand3731 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes to laughing, even if it's at my own jokes

  • @JUSTME-ei5nh
    @JUSTME-ei5nh หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    My sign of healing is my immune is much better...my stress was so huge I stayed seriously ill constantly

  • @jasonmedeiros9492
    @jasonmedeiros9492 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +163

    i was in a fight or flight with my fiancee and My Dad. I was sitting with the disrespectful individuals and finally i could not be a part and broke up my relationship with both of them. I had to take my power and love my self and not tolerate disrespect from either one!

    • @punyashloka4946
      @punyashloka4946 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Good , heal yourself.

    • @mohanthasundaram5877
      @mohanthasundaram5877 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Hi I was in a similar situation too.

    • @G_Ozare
      @G_Ozare 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Good for your brother! Be well

    • @user-jf8ys9qb5m
      @user-jf8ys9qb5m 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Good For you.❤

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's right 🙌🏽👏🏽🤗 Respect yourself!!!!

  • @stevebutler812
    @stevebutler812 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    I found Deep Tissue massages during trauma work with increased walking (Feldenkrais) helped my body stop holding it all in: pain 24/7 went to way less overall.

    • @angelaraycroft233
      @angelaraycroft233 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Deep tissue massage has saved my life the last 10 years ❤

    • @Ayushisingh108
      @Ayushisingh108 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Are u talking about dpdr?

    • @nieczerwony
      @nieczerwony 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I was getting into lot of troubles and fighting just to get some hits. This reliefs my internal pain.😢

    • @KellyMartin0902
      @KellyMartin0902 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same! My pain was SO BAD!

    • @MissiJade
      @MissiJade หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Oh yes massage apparently helps stored trauma and blockages in the fascia. I had/have on and off crippling leg pain and it began after I went through a tragic and sudden loss. I found that acupuncture and Chinese medicine has helped me more so when the pain wouldn’t go away. I now do a combo of both. If anyone also has acupuncture with massage I would love to hear your experiences. The body really does hold the score. ❤️‍🩹

  • @robertafierro5592
    @robertafierro5592 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    People need to be listened TO.

    • @tizzlekizzle
      @tizzlekizzle 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      And seen.

  • @pringlypringles
    @pringlypringles 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    wow I am growing now to get rid of the controlling bullies

  • @tracyladams3601
    @tracyladams3601 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    It is so important that people understand the self inflicted and displaced shame that comes along with sexual abuse. Even though the body may have responded pleasurably to the experience, does not equate with complicity and the understanding between right and wrong. This has brought much confusion and misconception around the victims experience. The shame is born out of a misunderstanding and taking responsibility. This creates trauma in the body, not necessarily the sexual abuse. It is not until we get older that through the lens of society begin to perhaps perceive our role in it as complicit. If I liked it I must’ve wanted it. That is false. We were children and therefore powerless in it. We are not equipped with the knowledge and ability to protect ourselves. That is not our job. Fawning is often how we survive it and the body responds naturally. Thank you again for elucidating on that. Often times therapists leave out that critical piece to the puzzle and it is that knowledge that can mean the difference between someone healing from that shame or not. 🙏❤️

    • @michy7621
      @michy7621 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I agree with you i was 7yrs old and now i remembered what happened and my anxiety,delayed etc attacks!Its hard battle i wish i can make it

    • @thebaa63
      @thebaa63 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I did not enjoy it. I broke off and another part of me, cold and dead inside took over. I found myself out side of car being raped with knife pressed against me. I heard him from far away saying, why can't you move??? You feel did and cold. And i thought, why in the he l would i give you any pleasure?

  • @nakynaky2543
    @nakynaky2543 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    I'm wiping my eyes.. tears of hope embraced me..
    Thank you Tim!

    • @jyotisharma7730
      @jyotisharma7730 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That makes the two of us.

    • @imbolc8024
      @imbolc8024 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jyotisharma7730 3 😀

  • @estarriknight
    @estarriknight 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    6:04 "They're not as triggered to light or to noise" YES! OMG YES! My whole life, my dad was a raging monster over every little noise and I had many of the same traits. As I went through therapy in my 30s, I noticed that these things irritated me less and less. Wild!

  • @maggieAPF
    @maggieAPF หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I took a year off to focus on myself and I feel, after 14 months, I’m almost there. Listening to this video, I know I am. I’m starting to hope, and now am feeling capable. My husband has been very supportive, seeing my growth he is now in therapy as well. It gets rough with both of us in a session together, and yes it gets better then gets bad, then better. I see his growth and I’m so proud of him. It’s TOUGH. It’s WORK. Listening to this helps me pinpoint where my husband is (pretty far back), and I am there for him. It will take time, but I’m so excited for our future.

  • @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU
    @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +112

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @elizabethwilliams6651
      @elizabethwilliams6651 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @Jennifer-bw7ku
      @Jennifer-bw7ku 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @IkamiLog
      @IkamiLog 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @elizabethwilliams6651
      @elizabethwilliams6651 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Is he on instagram?

    • @Jennifer-bw7ku
      @Jennifer-bw7ku 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes he is. dr.sporessss

  • @clarkl4177
    @clarkl4177 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Phew! I was JUST WONDERING why I am so exhausted lately. Well, now I recognize how HARD it is to change 😮 So hard, in fact, that my entire self is struggling with being stretched, stressed and pressed. Thanks be to God who leads us in good--but usually difficult --ways🙌

  • @lisatoms8313
    @lisatoms8313 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I wish I had found this video a year ago🙏 I'm doing better than I thought

  • @STEPHANIEENAJE
    @STEPHANIEENAJE 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    This is so affirming ❤
    I am at the setting boundaries/breaking codependency stage and it is difficult but I can feel the sparks. I clicked this video to remind myself of all the work I’ve done thus far - which you describe perfectly and encourage myself for the work left to do. Thank you ❤

    • @Kamaya-gn8pf
      @Kamaya-gn8pf หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤❤❤❤

  • @m.mercedesalonsosevilla2090
    @m.mercedesalonsosevilla2090 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    He is so articulate,he is changing my life

    • @dianacudby7290
      @dianacudby7290 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You are doing the work, you are changing your life ... by the wisdom & guidance Tim offers in all his talks, I'm on that journey too.
      Yay for all of us doing the work to heal ourselves ❤❤

  • @sandrab601
    @sandrab601 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    So happy to have listened to this, Tim. I see now that I have come a very long way. I’d like to add that, in my opinion and experience, inner peace is earned through the process of healing. I protect my peace like it’s an innocent child. I don’t allow anything or anyone in who could compromise it.

  • @g0thbrittany9
    @g0thbrittany9 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    thank you so much for your video. as a 23 year old woman suffering from CPTSD it helped me a lot. i've got hope for myself :)

  • @kaishodge.
    @kaishodge. 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    This gentleman has been a psychological drink of water for my parched dessert of neglect. I've listened to countless wonderful videos on healing. This work hits in a way I have never experienced ❤I've been bingeing these videos thank you so much

  • @HoneyMontana406
    @HoneyMontana406 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Omg I just came across this. I know I’ve overcome 53 yrs of CPTSD and PTSD! It’s been a spiritual journey too. I’m writing a book and developing a podcast on my crazy first life and the magical few years I’ve had becoming my true self. Everyone left me, but hey, they didn’t help in the first place. Thanks for talking about the healing. It is possible, my nervous system is still off, but my brain is holding healthy new beliefs. ❤and I’m experiencing a better self than “normal “ people.

  • @satvik200994
    @satvik200994 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    TL;DR
    Signs of healing include a person's ability to feel and tolerate emotions, develop healthy relationships, and live a routine based on meeting their needs.
    For survivors of complex trauma, healing indicators may include the reduction of shame, the ability to set and enforce boundaries, and the emergence of authenticity, self-care, and boundary setting. The healing process involves developing self-awareness, recognizing false beliefs, and dealing with setbacks as progress is not always linear.

  • @robertafierro5592
    @robertafierro5592 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Without the ACKNOWLEDGEMENT in the first place, nothing can be corrected. You have to admit that the family is Toxic. When family members are reacting normally to abnormal situations within the family, they are often blamed for "not growing up fast enough" they are told to STOP CRYING!! MY GOD, when the whole family is affected by ONE member's BEHAVIOR, to the point where no one can hide their depression anymore..its BEEN time to seek professional help..dont ever be afraid as a family to ask for help. If that particular Family Member has no interest in growing as a Human Being, then that's THEIR problem. But one thing youve got to remember. Abuse is taught in the home. Tolerating abuse as a young Lady growing in an Abusive household, opened the door for me to tolerate Men putting their hands on me in front of my Son. See how this affects the younger generations so soon? They're always watching. The Children are watching, listening and learning..

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amen 🙏🏽 🙌🏽🤗 No More, No More!!!!

  • @Pheonix1111
    @Pheonix1111 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Thank you immensely Tim. I needed to have a realistic “map” through which I could discern my path towards (and status of) my full recovery. I endured extreme abuse from multiple abusers, so it took me my entire life to heal. Over the last 8 years, I was finally able to express my anger, rage, and pain that I had dissociated from throughout my life due to my survival, because it was so profoundly deep and overwhelming for me to address. I finally can say I survived, and I am truly healing. I will probably listen to this video again and again for my own encouragement.

    • @sheiladuke3289
      @sheiladuke3289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @nyarparablepsis872
    @nyarparablepsis872 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Thank you so much for this, particularly for giving examples for people with trauma from CSA. I've got PTSD and C-PTSD, and I felt myself getting better and started 2024 with great energy and hope. Then several of my deepest traumata were triggered by an health service official, and since then (3 weeks ago) I have been experiencing flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, tension and pain and huge emotional dysregulation. I've been blaming myself more or less non-stop for it. This video really helped me focus on the things that I have already achieved on my way to healing and accept that this is just a temporary setback that doesn't invalidate where I was before.
    So... thanks 🙏

    • @masterculturedunkerque7918
      @masterculturedunkerque7918 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ❤best of luck. The interruption of a therapy by the sole initiative of the therapist reactivate my PTSD (when she was supposed to treat me for that at first place lol) and turned it to CPTSD, life has been so so hard but I still have hope

    • @healerscreek
      @healerscreek 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      YES! YES! YES! ❤❤❤

  • @lisamareeaccary5132
    @lisamareeaccary5132 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I’m so glad I randomly came across this , because I feel like I’m getting acknowledgment, and the physical things like sensitivity to light and clenching all my facial and neck muscles to trying to tell others family members what was happening and being shut down because they think you making it up

    • @LissaRes
      @LissaRes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right?!

  • @sharondavis3535
    @sharondavis3535 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    ❤ thank you for suggesting signs of healing occurring because we already know what the trauma looks and feels like

  • @user-zz8zv5fm7p
    @user-zz8zv5fm7p 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    I cannot afford therapy and your series has been remarkable. I have complex PTSD from sexual child abuse and religious abuse. My wonderful church and pastor has also helped me along my journey. Thank you!

    • @happycreature3993
      @happycreature3993 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      what did you do besides watching this video? i don't know what to do because i can't affort Therapy 🥲

    • @sammihebert6493
      @sammihebert6493 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@happycreature3993there are videos on TH-cam that teach how to self sooth. Depending on your trauma you need to be able to self regulate your emotions, and you can do it with self sooth to calm your nervous system

  • @andreejohnston516
    @andreejohnston516 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Holy Smokes. You’re describing me totally. Thank goodness I’m relating to this video. Greatful. Thank you! ❤️

  • @user-jf8ys9qb5m
    @user-jf8ys9qb5m 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Listening to this is very comforting and healing. My husband died 2 years ago and my grown son abandoned me and deserted me the day my husband died. I was in shock and disbelief. In the months ahead i fell apart. I gave up. I didnt want to live anymore. I got help on my own and was diagnosed with severe PTSD. I had deep depression and non stop grief and crying 24/7. I had to.let people go that didnt have my best interest at heart. Im stronger and more wiser now
    Im so grateful. Ive learned my major triggers. With gods grace and mercy i survived what i thought would kill me. Thank you for your video's. You really get it. God bless you

    .

    • @sheiladuke3289
      @sheiladuke3289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ❤ God Bless You ❤❤

    • @goldfishonthefloor44
      @goldfishonthefloor44 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How did you overcome? I have had 8 deaths like dominoes I have been so impacted please share

  • @loveinthematrix
    @loveinthematrix 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Your voice immediately makes me feel safe in my body. I don’t know why I just felt that I know that sounds weird but I grew up with a very narcissistic father. Blessings to you, you have such a beautiful presence.

  • @elizabetharka
    @elizabetharka 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank you ❤ I see the healing within myself more now. I will cry and just let it happen. compassion + curiosity is key when you go backwards. I'm still not sleeping and sleep hygiene is a challenge. breathing, winding down, and relaxing and the structure in the evening is key..

  • @cassie4611
    @cassie4611 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Especially when gaslighting is involved

  • @Stereostupid
    @Stereostupid 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    This video is actually a miracle of work !

  • @lala5061
    @lala5061 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I want to give this man his flowers today...Mr. Tim Fletcher I appreciate u sir 🙏🏽...I thank God for your free therapy giving me what I already know but it makes clearer sense when u say it out loud and break it down...thank u sir...God bless u and yours....u are helping to save me (from my abuse long term spouse of 18 yearsI been trying to get out the last 5 and I been done! I will not marry him period)...and I just found u today because your anger/abuse series popped up on my feed out of nowhere and im thankful flowers 💐 ⚘️🌹🌺🌻

  • @aliciabadashian7234
    @aliciabadashian7234 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Thank you for this episode. I grew up in a dysfunctional house. And have been working in therapy and self development for over 20 years. My dad recently passed and all the emotional flooding rushed back having to deal with family members. I was devastated because prior I had done so much healing. So much healing to the point I was able to care for my father (the one who caused all my trauma) he was an alcoholic. But once he passed the intensity was real. I thought I regressed. But after listening to your episode I realize I’m still on my path of healing. I have come a long way. And of course, this life circumstance would bring up things. Thank you Tim! ❤

  • @ranahamdy8230
    @ranahamdy8230 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I feel like i just found a treasure, Thank you.

  • @fiaelle9268
    @fiaelle9268 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Growing up with a mother who had schizophrena and an abomination for a father there was unrelating violence in my house when I was a child. It came full circle when my ex-partner murdered my sister in the hunt for me. I was torn apart and paralyzed at the same time thrashing at night catatonic in the day completely alone lying in my own faeces.
    Five years on from the massive breakdown that led to psychosis, I am finally emerging. It is still an extreme battle with the push/pull dynamic of wanting to stay wanting to go but there are now safe people around me who cover me with such kindness and compassion that I have to stay as it reaches me encircles and protects me on the overstanding that the act of Kindness was such a deprivation for me that without it I may die.
    Thank you so much for this - I'm crying silently inside and out but you have touched a raw nerve deep down in the darkest recesses of my own kind caring empathetic soul, and I promise that I will reach out and grab this deeply moving teaching and start to open up from the chrysalis into the beautiful Butterfly I was always meant to be. Thank you.

  • @mirelladlima5278
    @mirelladlima5278 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Also one no longer remains a “bug in the rug” so to speak but now you are able to notice your reactions and behaviours from a drone perspective rather than a bug and noticing and being aware of my reactions and behaviour, I now can control my reactions and discern a more effective way to respond to the same trigger 🙏

  • @nosceteipsum371
    @nosceteipsum371 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Grazie mille per il lavoro che stai facendo......🙏 grazie da Milano Italia

  • @markberman6708
    @markberman6708 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I find it fascinating that virtually all my trauma is related, either directly or tangentially, related to the decisions of our government and military leadership.. Army brat and spent my life in the Army under multiple political party's... all the same in one way or another.

  • @jillbeemer5840
    @jillbeemer5840 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    You know he's good by his shirt😉. He doesnt have to 'dress to impress' and to "look" a certain way. He can just wear whatever he wants, because he knows what he's talking about. And he lets his words talk for themselves.

  • @susanburback8640
    @susanburback8640 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Dr. Fletcher I appreciate you being up this topic in such detail and kindness. I have had PTSD my whole life. I am going to my church and see if we can setup a time/date to watch all your videos. I appreciate you. I suffered from Trauma at a very young age. I had the feelings very negative I was the first known case of Vitamin D resistant rickets. I had many many surgeries to try to straighten my bowed legs. I felt tortured . I was in from 5 years to 15 years. All my surgeries were done at a university teaching hospital, not fun going through surgery and have 20 doctors to be staring at my legs. Not fun. I spent my entire 7th year of life in the hospital. I've seen many many doctors. Many good, some not so much! You are a healer! My prayers to you.😅

  • @thechrisburcher
    @thechrisburcher 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    This is excellent and something I have not seen in over a decade of therapy/counseling/coaching. Bravo, Tim and thanks.

  • @retta369
    @retta369 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you so much for your content going deep on subjects. I could never understand how I was selfish until I heard you.❤❤❤❤

  • @missymessy2641
    @missymessy2641 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I have been so blessed by your methods, videos, and overall calm, patient, and encouraging demeanor.
    Thank you so much 🙏🏼💗✝️
    May God bless you greatly and continue his anointing upon your healing ministry and your life. ✝️🙏🏼💗

  • @anaradu1835
    @anaradu1835 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is the most comprehensive channel I've found so far!

  • @caseylynn34
    @caseylynn34 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I needed this tonight, thank you.

  • @funkytomtom
    @funkytomtom 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you so much. The hope I feel is a blessing I never thought I would truly feel. I am, finally, healing. ❤

  • @marykennedysherin3330
    @marykennedysherin3330 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    He explains with so much detail and great examples that it’s a pleasure to learn!

  • @anthonyhernandez3569
    @anthonyhernandez3569 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m a very thankful to haven found this channel.

  • @yesslash1882
    @yesslash1882 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can’t express how grateful I am for you making these videos 🙏🏼

  • @KatherineDuque
    @KatherineDuque 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you, listening to you helps me put so many pieces together and realize a lot of things that I didn't understand.

  • @chosenstella7937
    @chosenstella7937 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    ❤❤🎉🎉🎉
    The first sign of healing is understanding what you're going through,and not to allow it to control you
    And then you begin to find a way to face it in order to break that circle !!!!
    Because I realised that many people are going through it unknowingly even when you try to talk about it they rebuke you !
    Thank you sir for helping us through this journey!!!!!

  • @Thegoodwitch8888
    @Thegoodwitch8888 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is so amazing. And what’s even more amazing is checking off all the signs of healing, one by one.… never thought I’d get this far. 🙏🏼

  • @judithpellegrino9897
    @judithpellegrino9897 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you Tim for helping me to fill in missing peices from my childhood. E.g When I was neglected emotionally by my mom because she was too busy or had a hard time coping with life. The other was when my Dad accidentally washed my tender genitals too roughly when I cried, he made me so wrong for crying he wanted to give me a REAL reason to cry. I realized this was another form of sexual and emotional abuse I minimized. Tim. Thank you for saying I believed I was weak. I wasn’t weak. I had a natural response to physical pain.
    I also appreciated hearing how far I’ve come in my recovery instead of always looking at how much further I have to go.

  • @lemontart159
    @lemontart159 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The shirt is hopeful and made me happy!

  • @thepersonaofgrace
    @thepersonaofgrace 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I literally have been looking for a video with this exact content in the last couple of days!
    Thank you 😊

  • @jillplott4986
    @jillplott4986 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    YOU are the absolute best! Thank you soooo very much! Thank you Tim!

  • @littlesherm
    @littlesherm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have gotten more from your videos than i have anywhere else before. Thank you so much for your content. I really like the series. Very helpful!

  • @mychalbrandon
    @mychalbrandon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I needed this. I’ve been working but your statement about the journey not being linear was what I needed. You make progress but you have a bad week and you question that growth. This is a great way to track my progress, thank you!

  • @kathleenbaker5034
    @kathleenbaker5034 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for this because I felt so hopeless that I would ever heal. I am seeing so much growth with the points you have discussed.

  • @jyotisharma7730
    @jyotisharma7730 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love the shirt!
    This video is profound, deeply resonating, and healing for me. Thank you 🙏🏾🦜🌿

  • @wiwiart-iw6lb
    @wiwiart-iw6lb 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I just saw the whole video. what a wonderful way to explain things. many of the points mentionned resonated with me. Thank you for making the effort to resume it in one video.i hope everyone heals and live a better life. we are all here for a reason

    • @Lemoncare
      @Lemoncare 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Recovery is a gift.

  • @GNGU247
    @GNGU247 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Tim-Thank you for being You and everything you do. The material you put out is very important. You helped me understand and connect some dots this morning. This part of the journey needs just as much light shed on it. God bless you. I hope you have a great day!💜

  • @donnag.3611
    @donnag.3611 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi Tim, I am glad to see you back! I enjoyed watching your videos & learning from them years ago & I continue to journey to health & wholeness. Thank you for who you are & how you help others be guided along the road w/ such encouragement!

  • @emmelinesprig489
    @emmelinesprig489 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow! I didn’t expect to see as many signs in myself. Thank you!

  • @MissiJade
    @MissiJade หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I can’t wait to watch your other videos because I have just realised that it is normal to be so severely burnt out so my focus is to work on learning to stop and learn how to relax. I don’t remember the last time I have actually relaxed. I have just subscribed to your channel and I want to share my gratitude. I have such a long way to go however the hope I have begun to feel deep inside is why (and I am sure others can relate) I have kept going. I am also sending everyone who is healing from CPTSD, Complex Trauma, Childhood and adulthood trauma healing energy and support ❤❤❤❤

  • @marluvs1909
    @marluvs1909 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I greatly appreciate this post. Best to you and to us all, in this sublime life journey 🙏🏻

  • @skinnypete3104
    @skinnypete3104 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sir thank you. From all of us who you are helping we appreciate you deeply

  • @Aleecya4433
    @Aleecya4433 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such important information. Ty 🙏🏽❤️

  • @mustafanaser9789
    @mustafanaser9789 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Wow that's a topic that I really need right now! Thanks a lot!

  • @clenclen
    @clenclen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dang, so succinct! Thank you!

  • @carmenseveri
    @carmenseveri 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much! 🙏

  • @maxlantano9076
    @maxlantano9076 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This dude has helped me so much it’s crazy

  • @danielmarques5980
    @danielmarques5980 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Tim!!!!

  • @dreambigger931
    @dreambigger931 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for all of the excellent content you provide on this channel.

  • @SannaNovaEmilia
    @SannaNovaEmilia หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for all your beautiful confirmations to my recovery and healing! I got really proud of myself while listening to this. Tears are streaming down my face in this moment... Tears of immense gratitude to myself and my dedication to heal. I did it! I really did it! I am still working on my boundaries but I am so blessed that I now can be with feelings of guild without acting on them. I am still detecting and transforming old lies into new truths about myself and life without getting lost in fantasy, but after listening to this I KNOW in all of my being that my life truly IS changed forever! Thank you for giving me that confirmation!

  • @laurenminter7306
    @laurenminter7306 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your videos have popped up on my feed for so long now but I’m ready to start listening to your videos because I know I need to hear it. This video is a wonderful start and thank you Tim ❤️

  • @jeneannebrown1944
    @jeneannebrown1944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tim, you have opened my eyes to do much I didn’t know

  • @user-sn5uq1ie6c
    @user-sn5uq1ie6c 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you. I'm new in my healing this way.

  • @toddborstad504
    @toddborstad504 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for this talk/lecture Tim.

  • @kevinaichele3172
    @kevinaichele3172 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for this. Really needed to hear those words. Appreciate your work.

  • @reginavarghese7876
    @reginavarghese7876 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hanging on every golden word in this video. Thank you so much for posting this.❤

  • @sharondavis3535
    @sharondavis3535 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am so glad I've found your channel 🌹

  • @simonewebber-nq9ep
    @simonewebber-nq9ep 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Love at first play!!! Thanks so much, Tim. You are wonderful, your knowledge is amazingly beautiful.

  • @berlinetta____2680
    @berlinetta____2680 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thank-you Tim. This was very helpful.

  • @GMc-iw2fy
    @GMc-iw2fy หลายเดือนก่อน

    This has been incredibly useful and has given me hope. I can see I am very slowly healing. Thank you so much for giving your time and compassion.

  • @AntonioTonyNewtonMusic
    @AntonioTonyNewtonMusic 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so very much Tim!

  • @qendrimsyla6495
    @qendrimsyla6495 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great work. Thank you!

  • @maha-madpedo-gayphukumber1533
    @maha-madpedo-gayphukumber1533 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Finally a real deal and finally a positive thing and talking about signs of healing of trauma.

  • @thetownleys
    @thetownleys 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hey Tim...This Kind Of Healing Is No Joke.

  • @shavonne4831
    @shavonne4831 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So much insight and wisdom that hit the nail and resonated. Thank you so much.

  • @sino4456
    @sino4456 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much. I'm further along than I thought❤❤