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WE LIVE A NARROW MARGINAL LIFE THAT INCLUDES BEING TOLD WHO WE ARE MEASURED FROM PEOPLE WHO ABSOLUTELY CANNOT COMPARE YOU TO ANYONE ELSE AND WORDS THAT DETERMINE YOUR SHAME OF EXISTENCE OR GUILT ETC WE ARE NOT ENCOURAGED TO THINK OUTSIDE OF WHAT WE DO TO OURSELVES IN LIFE WE AREN'T HELPLESS I'M NOT SAYING THAT WE JUST ARE TO AFRAID OF UNDERSTANDING WHAT WE ACTUALLY NEED WAKING UP TO THESE CAN BE CONFUSING HOWEVER ENLIGHTENING
@yeh nah The Rockefellers are the ones that introduced porn to society decades ago so they could destroy the family bond. The Rockefellers and the Rothchild's are the ones in charge of this whole reset and will do anything to destroy all of us and the connection we have to each other.
“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.” ― Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper.
@@waterfallwoods5450 Yes, we will all have better relationships if we let go of expectations, assumptions, projections and judgments. And... Apparently, Gurdieff only liked being with toddlers or people over 55 or so because they are typically more authentic or less egoic. Sometimes loneliness breaks down societal programming and later, if you have been on a spiritual path and experienced altered states and awakenings and dark nights of the soul, then spiritual programming. After months of isolation I question my current ideas and beliefs and even my interpretations of my spiritual experiences. More layers are peeling away.
"Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape." ~ Unknown
Being lonely and being ALL ALONE are truly two different things. People have no clue how it really is maintaining stoicism as the decades life pass by without Friends or Family, you can easily end up truly alone and forgotten. Like the old people that were found dead in their house years later. Nobody missed them.. there's nothing artistic about it.. no amount of religion, art or meditation will help.
You will have to REALIZE it by experience, not intellectual knowledge. Do indeed feel the loneliness, it's very precious but it takes courage. Eventually you will celebrate that feeling. We die alone, and we do not go to god in groups, we meet the guy alone. Feeling alone and beeing alone, is really not a problem. It just doesn't fit in with western culture. Not benefecial for economy.📿🕉️ If it's difficult to dit with the feeling, try to express yourself by intuitive dance,painting,or musik or even better, all three together. Enjoy it, be playful about it. It's a call from the inside to attend to yourself. Have fun, and good luck with it.🌺💎⚛️
@P JL "Ordinary men hate solitude. But the Master makes use of it, embracing his aloneness, realizing he is one with the whole universe." ~ Lao Tzu It's part of the process of enlightenment.
@Darren "Spirituality does not come from religion. It comes from our soul. We must stop confusing religion and spirituality. Religion is a set of rules, regulations, and rituals created by humans, which were supposed to help people spiritually. Due to human imperfection religion has become corrupt, political, divisive and a tool for power struggle. Spirituality is not theology or ideology. It is simply a way of life, pure and original as given by the Most High. Spirituality is a network linking us to the Most High, the universe, and each other." ~ Haile Selassie I Stop pushing religion cause I'm not the least bit interested
Aww goats are so cute! I live out in the country and was wanting to get a couple and even started researching how to care for them. But then one night, a 4mo puppy showed up at my shed door and adopted me. She barked and growled at everyone else but snuggled with me and let me pick her up. I guess I was supposed to have her instead of a couple cute goats :/
I feel like i know who i am... most of my life i spend alone and enjoy just thinking and being still with myself. But that doesn't make me mind fully healthy because i still feel so stressed and uncomfortable around others... what I'm trying to say is that people can still feel lonely when comfortable with themselves. I think we need a balance of being comfortable w ourselves alone and having healthy relationships outside of ourselves in order to feel at one with the world.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day... ‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’ People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us. The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely. If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone. When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves. Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves. This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months. One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them. But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’. And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life. So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’. But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life. People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
All of my childhood and highscool friends went by the wayside over the years. Trying to make new friends is impossible. Because finding my people. People who want to spend time hanging out with me simply do not exist. So yes, I am extremely lonely. I miss having friends to lean on. I miss having friends call to check on me. And I miss having someone to talk to who genuinely cares about how I'm feeling. Not just a paid therapist.
Not one person on here has spoken about empaths... PROBABLY EVER ONE OF YOU ARE a empath. Let's build a commune and live together, everyone! All of you seem so kind and genuine. You'z my people. We are a tribe! Peace be with you!
There's nothing I want more than to live in a self-sustaining intentional commune with like minded spiritually oriented people, away from the noise of city-living.
I’m reading Oprah and Dr Perry’s “What happened to you” and they explain how compassion fades after 6 months, so people who are traumatised lose the support over time, especially if they keep being re-traumatised or don’t have a good change to heal from an event. Then the person is more and more isolated as people pull away from someone with chronic trauma or ptsd. I’ve had chronic illness and the social economic impacts are worse than the symptoms itself. Our western culture is not available to community and connection, and “relational poverty” is rampant without local communities. I don’t know how to remedy this, I certainly don’t want to go back to dogmatic exclusionary religions for that community. We need more socio economic equality and outlets so that we can reasonably resource folks with the right talents and resources to support, rather than relying on a select few “givers” who are absolutely giving until they drop dead. Support nurturing roles, readdress the ratio of 6 supportive adults per child, elder, or sick person… we need a whole restructuring. Trying to raise your vibe or meditate to connection when you are literally socially isolated or suffering relational poverty cannot solve the problem.
Well said. What you've described resonates with much of my personal experiences. This plandem!c has rubbed salt in wounds being that local charity agencies charge impoverished immunocompromised folk to access assistance. Been using a granny cart to help get home groceries all this past year. Last Sunday the cart broke, dragged 60lbs of cat litter home over 1km, no help. We're not all in this together.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day... ‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’ People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us. The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely. If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone. When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves. Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves. This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months. One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them. But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’. And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life. So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’. But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life. People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
I enjoyed/benefited from your comment more than the vid, love R dearly though these topics are super serious and need special care in how they're talked about. I wholeheartedly agree with how you describe it. Dr. Gabor Mate says it's the response to the trauma that leaves you more harmed than the trauma itself - I've found this to be true in my life. Also Sebastian Junger talks about in Tribe that people who've been in war / seen war and been tight nit in a group, will yearn for these difficult times again when they felt such close connection and support (they get to experience the feeling that 'someone will actually defend me with their life') and can be traumatised with the loss of that connection / support when the war is over, they return home.
I can't help but feel a deep sense of sorrow toward people who were chronically lonely, who did try to reach out, and who told friends and family that they were lonely and these people ended up taking their own life. Then I feel anger because after these people died everyone around them said they never saw it coming or expressed anger toward the deceased for being so selfish. I think this is extremely common
Hi Russell. There is a massive difference between being alone and being lonely.... The worst kind of loneliness is being around the wrong people and worse still the wrong partner.... That's hell on Earth.
That would be weird to me to feel angry, sad, or scared when you are surrounded by your own energy and emotions. I have been surrounded by outgoing people , and have been in with "popular people", but being alone is where I feel most loved and accepted.
That’s interesting. I’ve felt lonely and then spiraled down with fearful reactions to it before. I absolutely relate. I love your name! “Alien From Mars” Lol!
Russel is our modern day Allen Watts. So grateful we have someone like him in this crazy mad world to keep us reminding that we are humans, with flaws, with passions, with purpose. Even I as an atheist can relate to this search of meaning. Not a cosmological meaning but a real viceral meaning for our lives. Without a doubt Russel has helped me (and Im sure many others) with their demons. I think we can only show our gratitude by, in our turn, helping others the same way he has done to us.
The more contemplative one is, the more focus put on creating a healthy relationship with one's self, the less there is a need to be distracted with old relationship habits, even those stemming from childhood. More true, gritty power to you, comrade!
I felt that when you said, “Join my community,” that was when the relief set in from those horrid thoughts of ‘what community will accept me?’ So often we don’t even know which community we are like or identify with but we are all very similar on here and so I think sticking together is a fab way to start!
go church shopping. See if there is a welcoming group attached to the church. I got in the sewing group. Crocheting, hanging out, finding a good deed to do every so often
I have reached the age of inner peace and comfort within my own body. I absolutely cherish the time I'm alone with my own thoughts and silence. A beautiful trip to a stream in the mountains surrounded by nothing but nature. Heaven on Earth 🌎
I'm far too interested in too many things to care about whether or not others are present or not. Probably comes from being neglected at such a young age. So,I just see "loneliness" as a normal state of being. And usually prefer it. Because my fellow humans usually just wish to impose their wills upon me. Which isn't always a bad thing. But usually is. Especially when their will doesn't wash off,lol. In the words of some brilliant fella....silence is golden. If your vocal chords are the bottle necking between your thoughts and the outside world then I can't imagine Russell EVER being silent enough upstairs to even notice that nobody is around,lol. The boy can cram ALOT of words into a tiny space of time! But I enjoy trying to keep up,lol. Your a real hoot!
Weird how as a introverted, 19 year old girl I really related to Russell's explanations of his personal loneliness from time to time. Humans are really all so similar, it's talking and openining up to oneanother that helps us learn that and feel more connected.
Just love you God in you accept your different and let that be your beauty cause we all are different. Don’t try and change for anyone cause it will make you unhappy; bedsides if another person can’t love you for being yourself then that person isn’t worth dealing with. Peace begins with you. Trust the most high that he may bring light in all places and situations in your life. ❤️☘️🙏☘️❤️
@@williamoarlock8634 i do actually, trying to get out of my family's home officially kicked out. got a van cause it's the cheapest option and i'm trying to make it liveable w as little money as possible but it's hard especially since my job doesn't pay much per hour
Yeah its a natural pre condition to being a human. People are scared of it.. I have to mqke myelf social sometimes.. Maybe also extreme.. I like being alone but I do know lonelyness too, solitude it good, Lonelyness is like a scratchy feeling on the soul.. Painful indeed x
I enjoy watching/listening to your vids/podcast clips,and doing so takes away the loneliness, just letting you know you bring positivity to people's lives🙂
This was super helpful! I have caught myself being addicted to distraction rather than connecting with myself so this is a wake up call for me. Thank you Russell!
I love being by myself. The last 20 years was a mess of to many people. High ,,pills,,,anything that would keep Me high. Then being by myself a stopped doing anything. I found me for a change. Everyone wanting something from me. Dear God it's nice to be by myself for a change in this life. Sober and clean. And when I go outside just for a walk I know that people are not going to give me the time to just walk by myself. Ugh ... Not Lonely at all. Just the opposite live me alone! Sober clean and loving me for a change.
Having spent a long time in this state so I feel numb now. Years ago the emotional pain was too much and I tend to disassociate. After 14 years of mourning I’m tired of suffering. the consequences of my depression which makes my life unmanageable has my back against wall and desperation to start letting go and start to heal. 💜🙏
- removal from community (immigration, seeking too much materialistic wealth, colonialism legacy) - not knowing your neighbour, isolated physical living, high rise condos etc - currency as method of economy - capitalistic and competition vs bartering or exchanging services/helping each other - high divorce rates - trauma for children and future generations unhealthy emotional development
Wrong. There is no cause . I am lonely is simply a thought. We can climb inside it and have a particular experience if we wish to...or not , once we realise that we do it by choice.
7:43 "Im lonely because I'm worthless, nobody likes me, I can't trust anyone, I will spent my whole life alone" may I add "Im not good enough" This is the internal dialogue (toxic pattern) I had after being rejected, as Russel said acknowledge these feelings then slowly try to dump them, cause If you don't, your whole mental well being will be at play.
I'm so glad there is a place on the internet I can go for content like this when I'm feeling lonely, it helps me re-calibrate. Thanks for all your work.
Apparently my meditation practice has become to sit outside and watch these videos in the woods of my yard and learn how to more effectively live a calmer and more morally valuable, virtuous and impactful life. With everything happening now, it's become a way to take a step back and reevaluate which direction to go.
I desperately need some alone time. Nearly all the time I have is spent on helping others with their problems, which would be fine if my value to them equated to more than just a band-aid or a multi-tool. I definitely agree with creation as a coping mechanism. It's incredibly fulfilling to bring an idea you have to life.
As someone who's in the process of recovery from behavioural addictions; I recognise much of my compulsive behaviour has stemmed from a deep seated feeling of loneliness at my core. I understand that now to be a desire to connect to something greater and more transcendent than my egoic self or the material world. I think that's the thing I struggle with the most when it comes to loneliness; that feeling of shame that tells me there's something intrinsically wrong with my Being! Anyhow, great video Russell, all my gratitude to you for it!!
The fear created by government, media, people about pandemic has definitely changed my life this past year. Now suddenly, lockdown is lifted and we can assemble again. I'm dipping my toe by going to rooftop meditation. I don't want to live in fear, but I have been affected.
For all of those who've mentioned the desire to befriend like-minded people... look into the app/website MEETUP. It's been around for years now & I just checked - it's still very active. You can find interesting events & groups in your area. This is best for large or small cities... but it's worth checking out if you don't know where to start but really do want to get out & meet people with similar interests. It also provides the ability to start your own specific group - if you desire.
Russell. This is very strange to hear. People sometimes feeling lonely even been surrounded by friends. It's not ' a solution for everyone'. It's a choice sometimes. It's much deeper then you proposed- reading, meeting.
I really glad I found this!...or shall we say, it found me!...I can relate as a recovering heroin addict - I am totally alone, and the problem is, I got used to that during my 20 year addiction. I hate AA, but now I think I'll start going back...I will join Luminary soon. I think we are close to the same age...I remember you when you were very famous...sorry, wasn't a fan...if you can be completely transformed as you are now, I am sold!...I only found you about 6 months ago; gonna be a regular listener...
I tend to feel the most lonely when I am around people. Of course the isolation is an illusion-we can never be alone. I think the longing is to reunite with our greater self, for love, and bliss, and perhaps the longing for peace and beauty is also a longing to return home. In any case, we are one, your loneliness is ours, and ours yours if we must use terms of separation.
Reading the comments is difficult, there are many deeply lonely people out there, and I wanted to voice another experience in the comments. I have a very good community of friends around me that I can talk to about health, spirituality, gratitude, tragedy and whatnot. My circle of friends is very small, and it took me years to cultivate this group. I don't think there is one way to make and keep solid friends, but I do know that the first couple of years of making these friends and keeping them were difficult. There were times I'd be vulnerable and honest with 'friends', and then learn those people had gossiped, judged, or laughed about my experiences with others. I don't know how, but I didn't let the betrayals get in the way of my goal of making friends. Now I don't have any toxic fake-friends, and instead I love and trust my core group of friends. I can go to them for anything, and they can come to me. Easier written in a paragraph than lived, but don't give up on friendships and community. In the words of Belinda from 'Fleabag': "People are all we got."
Thank you - your words really helped me just now. I'm trying my best to make genuine friends, and have experienced something similar so far. I won't give up!
Thanks for expressing the issue so well Russell. “When I feel cut off or distracted or incapable of an authentic relationship”. This really describes a true state of loneliness. I think we can feel this if we live alone or we are in relationships that are not connecting on the same wave length. But as you said, self work and a spiritual practice of meditation can help make one work towards self love. 🌈Love the tips at the end well!
All I have words for at the moment is thank you. The despair can be momentous and hearing Mr. B express having been there makes it a little easier to bear.
I’ve missssseeddd youuu RUSSELL🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤗💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🥰🥰🤠🤩😇😇 I’ve got a lot of catching up to do and This podcast you so kindly and genuinely put yourself out there time and time again…… I cannot express in words how honestly i needed to LISTEN AND HEAR ALL OF THIS ONE! A million thank yous It’s amazing how much my heart mind and soul feels a little lighter…..☺️🙏🏼✌🏻
"Many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."
Great video ❤️❤️❤️Pretending somone else on the front of others... Doing job which we hate, competing, fearing of loosing it, being pushed by the boss, who don't respect us as living and thinking creatures. Material goods as representation of you as valuble person.. It is the core of the problem.
Thank you for you being you Russell xxx you addressed loneliness in a way that I can relate to... glad you are there/ here.... we are all with you... so you have the kids the cats and us herd...... xxx god bless xxx
I do appreciate solitude, which is the main reason I fail to accept that I do feel lonely at times. Thanks for the insight RB, and keep doing what you're doing.
Thank you so much Russell. I am feeling very lonely, more so in a lockdown in my country. But watching your videos are helpful because I feel you are genuine
I grew up in a very rural place in ND on a ranch many miles from nowhere. But the loneliest time that I ever experienced in my life was in a large city surrounded by millions of people
I almost always love your content. This was, as usual, wonderful. Thank you Russell for the brilliant and funny way you navigate through life and for sharing your brilliance with all of us. I often think; "That is EXACTLY what I think and you express it so beautifully."
I allow my dog to tell me to stop when I start to go into “ I don’t know what to do… blah, blah and I literally look at my dog and accept that she is saying,Mom stop, don’t lose it. It works to make me stop myself at the beginning of the downward spiral.
Thank you sooo much Russell. This is distilled brillancy, and you're the only youtuber of your type where I agree with / resonate with everything you say. Your spiritual angles of social situations are incredibly important. Peace and love to all the eyes that see this xo
I went to a Russell live show once. I had a great time. The most interesting/surprising thing was how he spent the whole of the int4erval mixing in front of the stage with anyone who wanted to chat or meet him. Might not always happen, but seems to me to be a very much 'practice what you preach' kinda person. I'm getting a Shakespeare ticket at the last minute then it's closest to payday.
People really need to learn how to connect with themselves, and indeed meditation will very much help with that. And also endeavor to really discover who they are. Very often ppl are desperately lonely, and that's something that can't really be healed just with the presence of others. In fact, I think the most "lonely" I've ever felt was being among ppl to which I just couldn't relate. I know there are ppl who feel lonely even inside their own family. Even with their partner. Either they're with the wrong person, or they just don't communicate honestly with each other (which is the thing that establishes/maintains real connection). Due to fear of losing the relationship. But what good is it if you still feel lonely. I think that's why a lot of men cheat; they can freely communicate with a temporary partner (no fear of losing them). I have to say, I have plenty wrong with me, my life, but loneliness isn't one of my issues. The details of my life though would make most ppl think that it is. A lot of woo-woo knowledge (ha) helps me to know why I am not lonely. There's a calculation that can be done on one's b-day, and it will reflect our "life path." Interestingly, mine is an archetype of a very solitary one. And indeed, I love silence and solitude. It is my element. Also interesting are my "animal totem" energies (we all have them), the majority of them are animals that are very solitary. It's so fascinating how this stuff overlaps. Thing is, I don't ever feel alone, because we aren't ("god" is one thing, one life, always connected to us, ultimately it is us). I have a potent connection with nature; totally in love with nature. And it does speak to me :-) Which is pretty cool. But I have a variety of ways of instantly communicating with the "Universe." Like, I can pick up a book, any book (the old book isn't really special) and pretty much have a conversation with it. That is, I ask a question, open the book randomly and point. And it's often mind-blowing how on point the answer is. So yeah, when you begin to experience such things, powerful indicators that we're not really alone, then ya' don't really feel lonely. These groups that you speak of, being pretty empathic, I can feel very overwhelmed/sad in them (don't do well in crowds in general). It's where so many desperately lonely ppl land. Not all, but a lot. I think before ppl seek out such groups or the like, they should try to figure out why they can't bear being alone. They need to learn to be their own best friend first. Not doing so, can land one in relationships that aren't healthy, at best. Because whatever we're running from, we'll run into. Just in another person. Additionally, we came into this reality "alone," and we'll be leaving alone. I think that may be part of the problem, that potent fear of death (because of that "alone" aspect of it). And I think that fear diminishes the more comfortable we become with being alone. And that's a very good thing.
Thank You Russell,,, Always great to Listen to you,,,,Very much Identify,, with you,,,all the Time,,, Lonliness,,, and overthinking Mind,,,,, Very much part of me,,, i try Not to,, Overthink,,,,, But get so far,,,, and Then,,, The mind,, Starts up,,,,,,,, martin,,,
Thank you Russell, I don’t know how I keep catching you within 20 minutes of your most recent awakenings and I would love to give you millions of thanks for your philosophical work and your mind and your thoughts and your life and your home and love ❤️ love 💕 you! Not so lonely now I would love to know you might pop in on our infamous Psychedelic Salon via zoom and Thursday, 6:30PM your time.
Social media is the cause of modern loneliness, people don't have social skills, I have not been approached by anyone in my age group in public ever, just to say hello and chit chat, and people I have approached to say hello and have a chat well, they are shocked and don't know how to respond, it's so unnaturally awkward, The only group of people that have social skills are the older generations the pre social media generation, the situation has caused me to feel like there is something wrong with me, I smoke cannabis everyday and it helps suppress the loneliness feelings I have 😑
Loneliness causes depression. Depression causes one to visit the doctor. The doctor prescribes drugs. The Government controls people much easier if people are dumbed down from drugs. Therefore, loneliness = money and control.
@@bls5160 Thanks, buddy; I figured there would be a few people that understood why the Government and social media has caused separation and division amongst the people. Sadly, I am fairly certain everything they do has to do with money and control.
@@jeremyw4806 That is so true but it goes much deeper than that. If you get a chance to look up "Rockefeller Medicine" it will really open your eyes about how they took over the medical schools since 1910 to teach med students to only use pharmaceuticals to treat patients. They were only interested in profit above what was good for patients. Doctors up into then only used natural treatments like vitamins, minerals, herbs etc and the patients got well without side effects. Most of the drugs cause problems so they need more and more. As far as antidepressants and pain pills - yep they just want people to be dumbed down and cause so many to be a burden to society because they can no longer think for themselves = control.
@@bls5160 Yes, very well said. I have personally been on a bunch of doctor's medications at one point in time. More or less, it was because my parents informed me to listen to the doctor regarding my sleep problem. That day the doc prescribed me and anti-depressant med and a sleep med. 13 years later, I was taking 20 pills a day, I gained almost 100 pounds, and I had accumulated a mind-boggling 40 some-odd suicide attempts, all on account of taking these "so-called" help medications. Since then, I wrote an autobiography book, and in the book I touched on the side effects of the medications. PS, thanks for the "Rockeffeler Medicine." I am going to investigate. This will probably be good information for me to have, especially because I am currently writing a new book on a bunch of the trickery and wrong that social media, the school, the news, and the Government teach people.
I learnt from an very early age that interaction with other human beings was not beneficial for my mental health, hence the reason I like being introverted as people drain me, I can be sociable and interact with people but after about a couple of hours i need to bugger off and charge my batteries. I prefer to be by myself as it's a great time for some introspection also you do get to a certain age where you feel happy with yourself because you realise there is nothing to prove to anyone. It's like the old saying if people can't take you the way you are then they ain't work bothering with.
You can be lonely even in a relationship. I've been lonely in relationships and while not in them. You have to connect with yourself and learn to love yourself. You also need to learn how to be comfortable in your own company. There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. I go through phases where I am perfectly content alone and then times where I feel lonely. Then have to remind myself to make sure I am connecting with people.
I always feel comforted and understood after I watch one of your videos. And I feel especially elevated after one of your podcasts. I naturally relate to your experiences with being in a life of recovery, and am grateful that you are using your platform to truly help others. Thank you!
I need to accept it. It’s where my life is right now. I didn’t expect to be 41 and alone. But I’m not the only one. Control my reaction to it. Pray and mediate. Try to do activities I enjoy. Let go.
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WE LIVE A NARROW MARGINAL LIFE THAT INCLUDES BEING TOLD WHO WE ARE MEASURED FROM PEOPLE WHO ABSOLUTELY CANNOT COMPARE YOU TO ANYONE ELSE AND WORDS THAT DETERMINE YOUR SHAME OF EXISTENCE OR GUILT ETC WE ARE NOT ENCOURAGED TO THINK OUTSIDE OF WHAT WE DO TO OURSELVES IN LIFE WE AREN'T HELPLESS I'M NOT SAYING THAT WE JUST ARE TO AFRAID OF UNDERSTANDING WHAT WE ACTUALLY NEED WAKING UP TO THESE CAN BE CONFUSING HOWEVER ENLIGHTENING
@yeh nah The Rockefellers are the ones that introduced porn to society decades ago so they could destroy the family bond. The Rockefellers and the Rothchild's are the ones in charge of this whole reset and will do anything to destroy all of us and the connection we have to each other.
Lonely with millions in the bank?
You can start by putting the I in shit, for fuck sake if you want to serve God don't worry about offending anyone with swear words.
@@markrymanowski719 feeling lonely has nothing to do with money Mark
“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper.
deeeeeep
A wise person once told me, "Let go of expectations and you won't be disappointed."
@@waterfallwoods5450 Yes, we will all have better relationships if we let go of expectations, assumptions, projections and judgments. And... Apparently, Gurdieff only liked being with toddlers or people over 55 or so because they are typically more authentic or less egoic. Sometimes loneliness breaks down societal programming and later, if you have been on a spiritual path and experienced altered states and awakenings and dark nights of the soul, then spiritual programming. After months of isolation I question my current ideas and beliefs and even my interpretations of my spiritual experiences. More layers are peeling away.
@@luxulyandalish6483 I can relate, hugs.
@@eclecticbeing toddlers and elderly have reduced brain function - of course a charlatan like Gurdjieff would prefer their company.
"Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape." ~ Unknown
Genius
Being lonely and being ALL ALONE are truly two different things. People have no clue how it really is maintaining stoicism as the decades life pass by without Friends or Family, you can easily end up truly alone and forgotten. Like the old people that were found dead in their house years later. Nobody missed them.. there's nothing artistic about it.. no amount of religion, art or meditation will help.
@@johnpittscom I politely disagree with your statement.
Love that!
@@D9xAbstract I disagree with it too but that's my life.
"Do not feel lonely. The entire Universe is inside you." ~ Rumi
Love that.
You will have to REALIZE it by experience, not intellectual knowledge.
Do indeed feel the loneliness, it's very precious but it takes courage. Eventually you will celebrate that feeling.
We die alone, and we do not go to god in groups, we meet the guy alone.
Feeling alone and beeing alone, is really not a problem. It just doesn't fit in with western culture. Not benefecial for economy.📿🕉️
If it's difficult to dit with the feeling, try to express yourself by intuitive dance,painting,or musik or even
better, all three together. Enjoy it, be playful about it. It's a call from the inside to attend to yourself. Have fun, and good luck with it.🌺💎⚛️
Ohhh....so just DONT feel lonely. Right on, what useless advice to someone going through it.
@P JL "Ordinary men hate solitude. But the Master makes use of it, embracing his aloneness, realizing he is one with the whole universe." ~ Lao Tzu
It's part of the process of enlightenment.
@Darren
"Spirituality does not come from religion. It comes from our soul. We must stop confusing religion and spirituality. Religion is a set of rules, regulations, and rituals created by humans, which were supposed to help people spiritually. Due to human imperfection religion has become corrupt, political, divisive and a tool for power struggle. Spirituality is not theology or ideology. It is simply a way of life, pure and original as given by the Most High. Spirituality is a network linking us to the Most High, the universe, and each other." ~ Haile Selassie I
Stop pushing religion cause I'm not the least bit interested
I got goats 🐐💚 I know it sounds weird but they’ve brought me incredible joy. That’s what life is truly about. Finding your joy!
Aww goats are so cute! I live out in the country and was wanting to get a couple and even started researching how to care for them. But then one night, a 4mo puppy showed up at my shed door and adopted me. She barked and growled at everyone else but snuggled with me and let me pick her up. I guess I was supposed to have her instead of a couple cute goats :/
They are full on.
Goats are so much fun! God bless you and your lovely goats, my dear
Why are we lonely? Rumi says "don't be lonely the whole universe is within you". We are lonely because we do not know who we truly are.
I feel like i know who i am... most of my life i spend alone and enjoy just thinking and being still with myself. But that doesn't make me mind fully healthy because i still feel so stressed and uncomfortable around others... what I'm trying to say is that people can still feel lonely when comfortable with themselves. I think we need a balance of being comfortable w ourselves alone and having healthy relationships outside of ourselves in order to feel at one with the world.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day...
‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’
People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us.
The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely.
If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone.
When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves.
Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves.
This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months.
One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them.
But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’.
And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life.
So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’.
But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life.
People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
Amazingly well put.
Wow so beautiful and detailed. Thank you.
That is wisdom experienced! Love and light to you. If it's a book I would be happy to read it!💫💖
Thank you piccalilli pit 💙
@@morganstokes1930 THANK YOU :-D
@@betinafrederiksen4468 - Wisdom gained through analysing a lifetime of bad decisions... :-D
Because we lack closeness and healthy, meaningful relationships of all kinds.
So true.
We always beg for more and desperate fore pleasures in life sadly
Who's 'we'? Maybe that's something more recent. Friendships are more about what you contribute to the relationship than what others give back to you.
All of my childhood and highscool friends went by the wayside over the years. Trying to make new friends is impossible. Because finding my people. People who want to spend time hanging out with me simply do not exist. So yes, I am extremely lonely. I miss having friends to lean on. I miss having friends call to check on me. And I miss having someone to talk to who genuinely cares about how I'm feeling. Not just a paid therapist.
I know how you feel. Has anything improved a year on?
"Becoming a father has helped me become a father to myself." A good one, no doubt.
Not one person on here has spoken about empaths... PROBABLY EVER ONE OF YOU ARE a empath. Let's build a commune and live together, everyone!
All of you seem so kind and genuine. You'z my people. We are a tribe! Peace be with you!
There's nothing I want more than to live in a self-sustaining intentional commune with like minded spiritually oriented people, away from the noise of city-living.
Btw I would edit my posts but they won't always let me. I'll just sound like a idiot that Iam. Lol
❤️❤️❤️
I had two posts deleted. HEY UTUBE THANKS FOR SAVING ME FROM MY SELF! .
Roll my eyes 😠
What is one??? How do o know what I am???
I’m reading Oprah and Dr Perry’s “What happened to you” and they explain how compassion fades after 6 months, so people who are traumatised lose the support over time, especially if they keep being re-traumatised or don’t have a good change to heal from an event. Then the person is more and more isolated as people pull away from someone with chronic trauma or ptsd. I’ve had chronic illness and the social economic impacts are worse than the symptoms itself. Our western culture is not available to community and connection, and “relational poverty” is rampant without local communities. I don’t know how to remedy this, I certainly don’t want to go back to dogmatic exclusionary religions for that community. We need more socio economic equality and outlets so that we can reasonably resource folks with the right talents and resources to support, rather than relying on a select few “givers” who are absolutely giving until they drop dead. Support nurturing roles, readdress the ratio of 6 supportive adults per child, elder, or sick person… we need a whole restructuring. Trying to raise your vibe or meditate to connection when you are literally socially isolated or suffering relational poverty cannot solve the problem.
Well said. What you've described resonates with much of my personal experiences.
This plandem!c has rubbed salt in wounds being that local charity agencies charge impoverished immunocompromised folk to access assistance.
Been using a granny cart to help get home groceries all this past year. Last Sunday the cart broke, dragged 60lbs of cat litter home over 1km, no help.
We're not all in this together.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day...
‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’
People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us.
The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely.
If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone.
When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves.
Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves.
This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months.
One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them.
But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’.
And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life.
So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’.
But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life.
People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
I enjoyed/benefited from your comment more than the vid, love R dearly though these topics are super serious and need special care in how they're talked about. I wholeheartedly agree with how you describe it. Dr. Gabor Mate says it's the response to the trauma that leaves you more harmed than the trauma itself - I've found this to be true in my life. Also Sebastian Junger talks about in Tribe that people who've been in war / seen war and been tight nit in a group, will yearn for these difficult times again when they felt such close connection and support (they get to experience the feeling that 'someone will actually defend me with their life') and can be traumatised with the loss of that connection / support when the war is over, they return home.
@Daniel Kins _ I am not religious do ti say "grace" every day. Thankful for the food I have...
@@stephanienewton6618 - Thank you :-D
I can't help but feel a deep sense of sorrow toward people who were chronically lonely, who did try to reach out, and who told friends and family that they were lonely and these people ended up taking their own life.
Then I feel anger because after these people died everyone around them said they never saw it coming or expressed anger toward the deceased for being so selfish.
I think this is extremely common
Hi Russell. There is a massive difference between being alone and being lonely.... The worst kind of loneliness is being around the wrong people and worse still the wrong partner.... That's hell on Earth.
To make whole, be whole
John Butler uses that phrase a lot. His videos are popular on here. I enjoy them myself.
So true. Stop chasing happiness as it's fleeting, self-contentment is lasting once you find it in yourself.
Spot on
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I’m getting better at dealing with loneliness im happy to say
Everyone has this fundamental loneliness.
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Not everyone, alot of people have big happy families and lots of friends. I WISH I did
That would be weird to me to feel angry, sad, or scared when you are surrounded by your own energy and emotions. I have been surrounded by outgoing people , and have been in with "popular people", but being alone is where I feel most loved and accepted.
That’s interesting. I’ve felt lonely and then spiraled down with fearful reactions to it before. I absolutely relate. I love your name! “Alien From Mars” Lol!
Lovely
I wonder what that feels like..
Russel is our modern day Allen Watts. So grateful we have someone like him in this crazy mad world to keep us reminding that we are humans, with flaws, with passions, with purpose. Even I as an atheist can relate to this search of meaning. Not a cosmological meaning but a real viceral meaning for our lives.
Without a doubt Russel has helped me (and Im sure many others) with their demons. I think we can only show our gratitude by, in our turn, helping others the same way he has done to us.
Watts died an alcoholic Brand got clean - big difference
"Lonely. Even in a crowded room". It's true but I was thinking how long 'til someone says that. Russell read my mind! 😀
Being raised as an only child might have something to do with being me being a loner but not lonely.
Yes, it is a symptom of a bigger problem
Being a scapegoated diseased orphan social outcast, I've had to learn not to be lonely as result from always being left alone..
@Man in the Moon very good
The more contemplative one is, the more focus put on creating a healthy relationship with one's self, the less there is a need to be distracted with old relationship habits, even those stemming from childhood. More true, gritty power to you, comrade!
Thank you Russell 😘
I felt that when you said, “Join my community,” that was when the relief set in from those horrid thoughts of ‘what community will accept me?’ So often we don’t even know which community we are like or identify with but we are all very similar on here and so I think sticking together is a fab way to start!
I am in. No more to be said
go church shopping. See if there is a welcoming group attached to the church. I got in the sewing group. Crocheting, hanging out, finding a good deed to do every so often
I have reached the age of inner peace and comfort within my own body. I absolutely cherish the time I'm alone with my own thoughts and silence. A beautiful trip to a stream in the mountains surrounded by nothing but nature. Heaven on Earth 🌎
I'm far too interested in too many things to care about whether or not others are present or not. Probably comes from being neglected at such a young age. So,I just see "loneliness" as a normal state of being. And usually prefer it. Because my fellow humans usually just wish to impose their wills upon me. Which isn't always a bad thing. But usually is. Especially when their will doesn't wash off,lol.
In the words of some brilliant fella....silence is golden. If your vocal chords are the bottle necking between your thoughts and the outside world then I can't imagine Russell EVER being silent enough upstairs to even notice that nobody is around,lol. The boy can cram ALOT of words into a tiny space of time! But I enjoy trying to keep up,lol. Your a real hoot!
Weird how as a introverted, 19 year old girl I really related to Russell's explanations of his personal loneliness from time to time. Humans are really all so similar, it's talking and openining up to oneanother that helps us learn that and feel more connected.
Just love you God in you accept your different and let that be your beauty cause we all are different. Don’t try and change for anyone cause it will make you unhappy; bedsides if another person can’t love you for being yourself then that person isn’t worth dealing with. Peace begins with you. Trust the most high that he may bring light in all places and situations in your life. ❤️☘️🙏☘️❤️
You most likely have no financial worries like Brand as well...
@@williamoarlock8634 i do actually, trying to get out of my family's home officially kicked out. got a van cause it's the cheapest option and i'm trying to make it liveable w as little money as possible but it's hard especially since my job doesn't pay much per hour
@@an6350 Well the more I talk and learn to humans (I'm autistic which is subhuman) the more isolated and disconnected I am.
@@an6350 Also I hate the word 'introvert'. It should be 'defective' or 'social misfit'.
Yeah its a natural pre condition to being a human. People are scared of it.. I have to mqke myelf social sometimes.. Maybe also extreme.. I like being alone but I do know lonelyness too,
solitude it good, Lonelyness is like a scratchy feeling on the soul.. Painful indeed x
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I enjoy watching/listening to your vids/podcast clips,and doing so takes away the loneliness, just letting you know you bring positivity to people's lives🙂
This was super helpful! I have caught myself being addicted to distraction rather than connecting with myself so this is a wake up call for me. Thank you Russell!
I love being by myself.
The last 20 years was a mess of to many people. High ,,pills,,,anything that would keep Me high. Then being by myself a stopped doing anything.
I found me for a change.
Everyone wanting something from me. Dear God it's nice to be by myself for a change in this life.
Sober and clean.
And when I go outside just for a walk I know that people are not going to give me the time to just walk by myself.
Ugh ...
Not Lonely at all.
Just the opposite live me alone!
Sober clean and loving me for a change.
Shoutout to Ian Hanomansing and the CBC! Great post and commentary on addressing distraction and disconnection in our world today
Having spent a long time in this state so I feel numb now. Years ago the emotional pain was too much and I tend to disassociate. After 14 years of mourning I’m tired of suffering. the consequences of my depression which makes my life unmanageable has my back against wall and desperation to start letting go and start to heal. 💜🙏
- removal from community (immigration, seeking too much materialistic wealth, colonialism legacy)
- not knowing your neighbour, isolated physical living, high rise condos etc
- currency as method of economy - capitalistic and competition vs bartering or exchanging services/helping each other
- high divorce rates - trauma for children and future generations unhealthy emotional development
Wrong. There is no cause . I am lonely is simply a thought. We can climb inside it and have a particular experience if we wish to...or not , once we realise that we do it by choice.
7:43 "Im lonely because I'm worthless, nobody likes me, I can't trust anyone, I will spent my whole life alone" may I add "Im not good enough"
This is the internal dialogue (toxic pattern) I had after being rejected, as Russel said acknowledge these feelings then slowly try to dump them, cause If you don't, your whole mental well being will be at play.
I'm so glad there is a place on the internet I can go for content like this when I'm feeling lonely, it helps me re-calibrate. Thanks for all your work.
Apparently my meditation practice has become to sit outside and watch these videos in the woods of my yard and learn how to more effectively live a calmer and more morally valuable, virtuous and impactful life. With everything happening now, it's become a way to take a step back and reevaluate which direction to go.
I desperately need some alone time. Nearly all the time I have is spent on helping others with their problems, which would be fine if my value to them equated to more than just a band-aid or a multi-tool. I definitely agree with creation as a coping mechanism. It's incredibly fulfilling to bring an idea you have to life.
Russell, you are an amazing human being, and I am so grateful you exist. Your talks take away the occasional loneliness, too. Thank you🙏❤
I find you so very easy to listen to. Great passion for so many worthy and interesting issues and great compassion for people.
Great stuff!
As someone who's in the process of
recovery from behavioural addictions; I recognise much of my compulsive behaviour has stemmed from a deep seated feeling of loneliness at my core. I understand that now to be a desire to connect to something greater and more transcendent than my egoic self or the material world. I think that's the thing I struggle with the most when it comes to loneliness; that feeling of shame that tells me there's something intrinsically wrong with my Being! Anyhow, great video Russell, all my gratitude to you for it!!
The fear created by government, media, people about pandemic has definitely changed my life this past year. Now suddenly, lockdown is lifted and we can assemble again. I'm dipping my toe by going to rooftop meditation. I don't want to live in fear, but I have been affected.
Same here. I have become a home body. Before the pandemic you could hardly find me at home .
For all of those who've mentioned the desire to befriend like-minded people... look into the app/website MEETUP. It's been around for years now & I just checked - it's still very active. You can find interesting events & groups in your area. This is best for large or small cities... but it's worth checking out if you don't know where to start but really do want to get out & meet people with similar interests. It also provides the ability to start your own specific group - if you desire.
Russell. This is very strange to hear. People sometimes feeling lonely even been surrounded by friends. It's not ' a solution for everyone'. It's a choice sometimes. It's much deeper then you proposed- reading, meeting.
Julia my darling when are we going out for a nice dinner?
I really glad I found this!...or shall we say, it found me!...I can relate as a recovering heroin addict - I am totally alone, and the problem is, I got used to that during my 20 year addiction. I hate AA, but now I think I'll start going back...I will join Luminary soon. I think we are close to the same age...I remember you when you were very famous...sorry, wasn't a fan...if you can be completely transformed as you are now, I am sold!...I only found you about 6 months ago; gonna be a regular listener...
Yes. Your meditations are great.👌🙏
I tend to feel the most lonely when I am around people. Of course the isolation is an illusion-we can never be alone. I think the longing is to reunite with our greater self, for love, and bliss, and perhaps the longing for peace and beauty is also a longing to return home. In any case, we are one, your loneliness is ours, and ours yours if we must use terms of separation.
your never alone when you have a mirror and a sense of hummer!
When our SOUL wakes within we are never lonely again...
Just starting recovery. So glad to find your videos
Rus I cry every time I watch your videos thanks for what you do, you're letting me here at the moment...
Reading the comments is difficult, there are many deeply lonely people out there, and I wanted to voice another experience in the comments. I have a very good community of friends around me that I can talk to about health, spirituality, gratitude, tragedy and whatnot. My circle of friends is very small, and it took me years to cultivate this group. I don't think there is one way to make and keep solid friends, but I do know that the first couple of years of making these friends and keeping them were difficult. There were times I'd be vulnerable and honest with 'friends', and then learn those people had gossiped, judged, or laughed about my experiences with others. I don't know how, but I didn't let the betrayals get in the way of my goal of making friends. Now I don't have any toxic fake-friends, and instead I love and trust my core group of friends. I can go to them for anything, and they can come to me. Easier written in a paragraph than lived, but don't give up on friendships and community. In the words of Belinda from 'Fleabag': "People are all we got."
I loved that show wish they would have done another season.
Thank you - your words really helped me just now. I'm trying my best to make genuine friends, and have experienced something similar so far. I won't give up!
Thanks for expressing the issue so well Russell.
“When I feel cut off or distracted or incapable of an authentic relationship”. This really describes a true state of loneliness. I think we can feel this if we live alone or we are in relationships that are not connecting on the same wave length. But as you said, self work and a spiritual practice of meditation can help make one work towards self love. 🌈Love the tips at the end well!
Wise advice. You are not alone when you are alone with your Self. You just need to become aware of the connection by being still and looking within.
Russell, it's really kind of you to talk about this issue and try to help people.
All I have words for at the moment is thank you. The despair can be momentous and hearing Mr. B express having been there makes it a little easier to bear.
I’ve missssseeddd youuu RUSSELL🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤗💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🥰🥰🤠🤩😇😇 I’ve got a lot of catching up to do and This podcast you so kindly and genuinely put yourself out there time and time again…… I cannot express in words how honestly i needed to LISTEN AND HEAR ALL OF THIS ONE! A million thank yous
It’s amazing how much my heart mind and soul feels a little lighter…..☺️🙏🏼✌🏻
"Many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."
Leading by example, cheers bro
I always feel better after watching your videos from this channel. You're a constant support Russell 🙏
Love this! Get to know yourself! Stop accepting others' or culture's expectations as your own! What a freedom that is!
I am almost always alone these days. But I am never lonely. I LOVE being alone. Just as well I enjoy my own company! Lol.
Great video ❤️❤️❤️Pretending somone else on the front of others... Doing job which we hate, competing, fearing of loosing it, being pushed by the boss, who don't respect us as living and thinking creatures. Material goods as representation of you as valuble person.. It is the core of the problem.
Thank you for you being you Russell xxx you addressed loneliness in a way that I can relate to... glad you are there/ here.... we are all with you... so you have the kids the cats and us herd...... xxx god bless xxx
I do appreciate solitude, which is the main reason I fail to accept that I do feel lonely at times. Thanks for the insight RB, and keep doing what you're doing.
I think you are probably saving lives or at least helping fill the holes in peoples hearts.
I think you are good.
Thank you so much Russell. I am feeling very lonely, more so in a lockdown in my country. But watching your videos are helpful because I feel you are genuine
Thankyou Russell 😊
I grew up in a very rural place in ND on a ranch many miles from nowhere. But the loneliest time that I ever experienced in my life was in a large city surrounded by millions of people
I almost always love your content. This was, as usual, wonderful. Thank you Russell for the brilliant and funny way you navigate through life and for sharing your brilliance with all of us. I often think; "That is EXACTLY what I think and you express it so beautifully."
Ok. Thank you. I'll try.
Russell, Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your videos.
I missed the wood shed… thank you for the food for thought and the words of wisdom Russell.
Reishi mushroom , mushroom of immortality, or mushroom of spirituality,changed my life, ♥️🙏
Will be looking for your podcast!
Thanks!
I allow my dog to tell me to stop when I start to go into “ I don’t know what to do… blah, blah and I literally look at my dog and accept that she is saying,Mom stop, don’t lose it. It works to make me stop myself at the beginning of the downward spiral.
I love those talks. It helps me tremendously. Thank you
Amazing Russell !! No more words needed here.
Thank you sooo much Russell. This is distilled brillancy, and you're the only youtuber of your type where I agree with / resonate with everything you say. Your spiritual angles of social situations are incredibly important.
Peace and love to all the eyes that see this xo
I went to a Russell live show once. I had a great time. The most interesting/surprising thing was how he spent the whole of the int4erval mixing in front of the stage with anyone who wanted to chat or meet him. Might not always happen, but seems to me to be a very much 'practice what you preach' kinda person. I'm getting a Shakespeare ticket at the last minute then it's closest to payday.
You say hello, Russell! Simple, but a good first step. 😃💙
People really need to learn how to connect with themselves, and indeed meditation will very much help with that. And also endeavor to really discover who they are. Very often ppl are desperately lonely, and that's something that can't really be healed just with the presence of others. In fact, I think the most "lonely" I've ever felt was being among ppl to which I just couldn't relate. I know there are ppl who feel lonely even inside their own family. Even with their partner. Either they're with the wrong person, or they just don't communicate honestly with each other (which is the thing that establishes/maintains real connection). Due to fear of losing the relationship. But what good is it if you still feel lonely. I think that's why a lot of men cheat; they can freely communicate with a temporary partner (no fear of losing them).
I have to say, I have plenty wrong with me, my life, but loneliness isn't one of my issues. The details of my life though would make most ppl think that it is. A lot of woo-woo knowledge (ha) helps me to know why I am not lonely. There's a calculation that can be done on one's b-day, and it will reflect our "life path." Interestingly, mine is an archetype of a very solitary one. And indeed, I love silence and solitude. It is my element. Also interesting are my "animal totem" energies (we all have them), the majority of them are animals that are very solitary. It's so fascinating how this stuff overlaps. Thing is, I don't ever feel alone, because we aren't ("god" is one thing, one life, always connected to us, ultimately it is us). I have a potent connection with nature; totally in love with nature. And it does speak to me :-) Which is pretty cool. But I have a variety of ways of instantly communicating with the "Universe." Like, I can pick up a book, any book (the old book isn't really special) and pretty much have a conversation with it. That is, I ask a question, open the book randomly and point. And it's often mind-blowing how on point the answer is. So yeah, when you begin to experience such things, powerful indicators that we're not really alone, then ya' don't really feel lonely.
These groups that you speak of, being pretty empathic, I can feel very overwhelmed/sad in them (don't do well in crowds in general). It's where so many desperately lonely ppl land. Not all, but a lot. I think before ppl seek out such groups or the like, they should try to figure out why they can't bear being alone. They need to learn to be their own best friend first. Not doing so, can land one in relationships that aren't healthy, at best. Because whatever we're running from, we'll run into. Just in another person.
Additionally, we came into this reality "alone," and we'll be leaving alone. I think that may be part of the problem, that potent fear of death (because of that "alone" aspect of it). And I think that fear diminishes the more comfortable we become with being alone. And that's a very good thing.
Thank You Russell,,, Always great to Listen to you,,,,Very much Identify,, with you,,,all the Time,,, Lonliness,,, and overthinking Mind,,,,, Very much part of me,,, i try Not to,, Overthink,,,,, But get so far,,,, and Then,,, The mind,, Starts up,,,,,,,, martin,,,
Hope you get the fur babies fixed! So great you are taking care of so many animals. I would love to come to England! I'm 66 hope I can some day!
Thank you Russell, I don’t know how I keep catching you within 20 minutes of your most recent awakenings and I would love to give you millions of thanks for your philosophical work and your mind and your thoughts and your life and your home and love ❤️ love 💕 you! Not so lonely now I would love to know you might pop in on our infamous Psychedelic Salon via zoom and Thursday, 6:30PM your time.
What a simple and profound approach to loneliness! Thank you Russell🙏💕
Thank You
Social media is the cause of modern loneliness, people don't have social skills, I have not been approached by anyone in my age group in public ever, just to say hello and chit chat, and people I have approached to say hello and have a chat well, they are shocked and don't know how to respond, it's so unnaturally awkward, The only group of people that have social skills are the older generations the pre social media generation, the situation has caused me to feel like there is something wrong with me, I smoke cannabis everyday and it helps suppress the loneliness feelings I have 😑
Got used to being lonely after 50 years of it.
I feel alone even in company ,I’ve come to live with it and accept it
Raising hand ... lonely .. hopeless.. sad
Are you feeling any better these days?
Great video. Talking sense as always.
Loneliness causes depression. Depression causes one to visit the doctor. The doctor prescribes drugs. The Government controls people much easier if people are dumbed down from drugs. Therefore, loneliness = money and control.
Exactly!
@@bls5160 Thanks, buddy; I figured there would be a few people that understood why the Government and social media has caused separation and division amongst the people. Sadly, I am fairly certain everything they do has to do with money and control.
@@jeremyw4806 That is so true but it goes much deeper than that. If you get a chance to look up "Rockefeller Medicine" it will really open your eyes about how they took over the medical schools since 1910 to teach med students to only use pharmaceuticals to treat patients. They were only interested in profit above what was good for patients. Doctors up into then only used natural treatments like vitamins, minerals, herbs etc and the patients got well without side effects. Most of the drugs cause problems so they need more and more. As far as antidepressants and pain pills - yep they just want people to be dumbed down and cause so many to be a burden to society because they can no longer think for themselves = control.
@@bls5160 Yes, very well said. I have personally been on a bunch of doctor's medications at one point in time. More or less, it was because my parents informed me to listen to the doctor regarding my sleep problem. That day the doc prescribed me and anti-depressant med and a sleep med. 13 years later, I was taking 20 pills a day, I gained almost 100 pounds, and I had accumulated a mind-boggling 40 some-odd suicide attempts, all on account of taking these "so-called" help medications. Since then, I wrote an autobiography book, and in the book I touched on the side effects of the medications. PS, thanks for the "Rockeffeler Medicine." I am going to investigate. This will probably be good information for me to have, especially because I am currently writing a new book on a bunch of the trickery and wrong that social media, the school, the news, and the Government teach people.
We lift each other up always
I learnt from an very early age that interaction with other human beings was not beneficial for my mental health, hence the reason I like being introverted as people drain me, I can be sociable and interact with people but after about a couple of hours i need to bugger off and charge my batteries. I prefer to be by myself as it's a great time for some introspection also you do get to a certain age where you feel happy with yourself because you realise there is nothing to prove to anyone. It's like the old saying if people can't take you the way you are then they ain't work bothering with.
You can be lonely even in a relationship. I've been lonely in relationships and while not in them. You have to connect with yourself and learn to love yourself. You also need to learn how to be comfortable in your own company. There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. I go through phases where I am perfectly content alone and then times where I feel lonely. Then have to remind myself to make sure I am connecting with people.
I always feel comforted and understood after I watch one of your videos. And I feel especially elevated after one of your podcasts. I naturally relate to your experiences with being in a life of recovery, and am grateful that you are using your platform to truly help others. Thank you!
The family and a way to support them is what brings "happiness" or fulfillment in one's life unfortunately not much of that in today's world
I need to accept it. It’s where my life is right now. I didn’t expect to be 41 and alone. But I’m not the only one. Control my reaction to it. Pray and mediate. Try to do activities I enjoy. Let go.