I would like to know more about Rebecca Slang…… Clear precise message of what my soon to be ex narc is going to throw at me next. I have already been through these lessons. What is my next lesson when going through this divorce?
Don't expect demonic assholes to a) Care about you, once your usefulness has expired; and b) That they will operate with any integrity. Once they realize that you are truly out... Their next program of trying to destroy you will be put into play. I am living this now in real time. Stay strong, people...
Thanks i am out of words to express myself but what you are saying is true I NEVER KNEW PEOPLE like this exist i am in tears right now after 41 ýears of marriage i found out that there are very negative selfish hateful people love you thanks again
I'm DONE... absolutely done with my Narcissistic daughter. My new motto is: " Unconditional Love does NOT mean Unconditional tolerance. " DONE! Low contact for 5 years. And the last abusive message to me was the Last straw. I didn't even respond. I didn't have to have the last word. The candle in my heart for her was blown out. Feeling freedom and peace ever since. 5 months now and NEVER going back. Rebecca...I listen to your videos everyday to reinforce my feelings! Thank you!
@@RatedArggg that's funny Marta..I love that movie... When I first saw it I said to myself, "OMG " Brittany" is Veda." And she was VEDA 100%...And I even worked as a waitress raising 2 daughters without child support. I went back to college and was exhausted trying to give us a better life...and she wanted more, and more and more. ( I didn't give more like Mildred) She didn't do the dishes once ( 13) when I came home at 9 exhausted from school and work and she said, " Do them yourself...I didn't ask you to go to school. " I will tell you I never hit a child, but now I wish I would have slapped her across the face. That was one of hundreds of stories. and then she'd love bomb me and it would be good for a little bit and then BOOOM Veda would show up again! Woo Hoo DONE! and Marta...Don't feel bad for me..My EX ( her dad) was a Narcissist too.. So it was genetic. I got through it and now I am at peace.
agreed 100% but she is still going after me. She burned my house down, commited PPP loan fraud against me and now I am told that she is doing a "murder for hire" on me! All about her wanting my money. But none of it is coming her way! I'm DONE even with my granddaughters. She will have to step up and take care of them with their father! It hurts but I have learned a lot from Rebecca
TOTALLY...I just recently left my third narc a couple of weeks ago. I'm over the future faking, the vices, the compulsion to lie and just the overall attitude that I have to put up with bad behavior. May I never fall for one again.
@@michaelbergeron1554 Because these sick individuals are very good at what they do and once you've been tainted by one it's like the others can smell the blood. I hope it never happens to you.
@@michaelbergeron1554 until I realized I WAS BORN FOR MORE THAN DOING EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE ELSE, AANNDD I MATTERED, I PICKED MORE THAN 3 IN MY LIFE.
Hey Rebecca! Don't expect the narcissist to ever get you or apologize, it's never going to happen! Best only to look inward and to understand and love yourself! Thank you for your wonderful videos! Be well and all the best!
TOTALLY !!! Rebecca Thank you for all your videos & everyone comments here & I Hoped you all survivors to have a wonderful blessed evening 🙏 . Happy 😊 the Friday the 13 everyone !!
Totally! I made all these mistakes. Examples as follows on a couple. I tried to be nice and allow certain items go out of the house midway through this divorce. One time being her photo albums she had from before we were married. Guess what happened? Do you think she said thank you? No! She instead said that is not all her pictures, she said every picture in this house was hers. She went so far as to try filing theft charges on me for not giving her every picture in the house. Thankfully the police told her it is a civil matter. Another example is that i stuck it out with her for 3 additional years because she came down with cervical cancer. I stuck by her side and did whatever it took to keep her alive ( which i now regret) to the point i had nothing left to give of myself. I literally saved her life 4 times by calling EMS out. Being the narc she is she was not helping herself and insisted that i had to do every little thing for her. She fought with her doctors because she thought she knew more than them because she is a LPN. She refused to eat or take in liquids and even refused meds. Again do you think she ever gave me any credit or acknowledgment that i contributed to her recovery after all the hours i spent taking care of her at home and the weeks i spent with her at the hospital 3.5 hours from home away from our daughter? Hell no! Instead she is telling her flying monkees that i was trying to kill her, poisoning her food. That makes me regret having called the squad out the first time after she became nonresponsive from loss of fluids. I could have just let her die in the bed. Thank god i have documentation from text messages and the squad reports to counter those claims not to mention her medical records detailing the level of noncompliance she had while in the hospitals. She even refused to go into a long term acute care facility and chose to come home on hospice care. In the end she was physically and mentally assaulting me as i was changing her urine bag and tempoarary colostomy bag, which she no longer has. Her flying monkees even got mad at me when i was pushing for her to go into a rehab. Now when she refused do you think any of those monkees gave any help to me caring for her. Again no. I begged for all of them to get trained on how to change her bags and iv bags if only for one night each so i could sleep. Nope. It was all on me and then when i finally gave out from exhaustion i was called lazy. Called lazy after going 5 nights in a row of zero sleep. At this point the cancer was gone. She was in the last part of recovering. When i made my escape after a suicide attempt, guess where she ended up? Thats right, a rehab facility. All those flying monkees that said they would never let her go to a place like that did not back those words up with action. It is because she finally pulled through after receiving 24 hour care and could get meds there they could not allow to be administered in the home that the claims of me trying to kill her stem from. Those are just two of many many examples of mistakes i made. I have 12 people that is showing up on my behalf in june 15th when our final divorce date is composed of close family friends, our employees, local police, childrens protective services, counselor from daughters school, her doctor, our son, and my daughters treating therapist and my therapist. I have nearly 600 pages of texts that occurred between my narc and i as well as between her monkees and i. I have 20 hours of video and 120 hours of audio. She has no idea how much she is going to be hit with in this final showdown. We have saved the bulk of this for the last minute. We will have all this presented two days before we are legally required to do so for it to be admissable in the court. This is a fight for the life of my daughter and i. I tried being the nice guy all this time and continue to be but on june 15th the gloves come off and eveything will be brought to the light. It is my day to get myself closure and be acknowledged for what i have done. God dropped in my spirit assurance that he has got this, i just got to do the footwork. I have done "THE HARD STUFF" and i am all set to "SLAY" this evil diabolical narc with humility and truth.
J logged, I love your tenacious ways . I love you, & don't know you. Then i realized why. My spirit bears witness with you as a child of God.. I am FOR YOU, OBVIOUSLY! WHAT A GENTLEMEN YOU ARE! THE EVIL IN THIS WORLD TRIES TO KILL US.. YOU'RE AWESOME!! YOU DID EVERYTHING YOU COULD! I WANT YOU TO COME BACK IN AFTER IT ALL GOES DOWN & SHARE! ❤️ 💙 💜
@@tinai2744 thank you sis. I sure will be not just coming back here to share the hope and joy but then move on with the next stage of my life. There is a void in where male victims have to go to get away from violent women either alone or with their kids. I am 5 classes away from having my BA in psychology and will be going in to get my masters. A RN friend of mine is going to join with me and open a first of its kind domestic violence shelter and program designed to serve the male population in my area. It is imoprtant to me to share to other men that they are not alone in becoming victims to women emotionally, physically, and sexually as i was raped by my soon to be ex wife and the ahane and guilt us men feel from that is exponentially more than what women go through as society has yet to acknowledge men can be victims too and society tends to shun men whereas there is ample support and acceptance of the females that get abused by their make partners.
@@jloggy7643 omg that is awesome. I'm so thrilled for you and you will be in my mind and my prayers of support. You rock, and Yes, men go thru a whole lot more then many think with these demonically controlled Liars. The Bible says REBELLION IS AS THE SIN OF WITCHCRAFT! Heck these narcs are full with manipulation, domination, intimidation all for the purposes of TOTAL CONTROL! IT'S FLAT OUT EVIL DISGUSTING & DRAINING physically mentally emotionally and spiritually .. BEST TO YOU MY DEAR MAN!
1:49 1. "Do not make the mistake of falling into the trap of their future faking" Totally! As I commented on Dr Ramani's today's video, I stuck in a toxic workplace. My boss promised a lot of things, but nothing happened. Things got worse and worse. I saw through his lie when he said another future promise, so I ran away from the workplace.
The one that gets me is when I give her some gift, some "I saw this and thought of you" gift, she always, ALWAYS, does the quick expression that says, "what sort of messed up rubbish is this?" before saying thank you in a way that says, "you're an idiot and I don't like this gift". And it never makes the slightest bit of difference. No warming of her attitude, no acknowledgement. Just puts it to one side and carries on like nothing happened. It's a put down. She's very good at it.
I made mistakes dealing with the ex a narc for 7.5 years and years of emotional physical and financial abuse until I left him. Not making any mistakes now and he’s being prosecuted in court!
seal the deal,but this isn't the deal that needs to be sealed,it's hatred not love we are dealing with,the mistakes made when dealing with a narcissistist,have they changed,I doubt it,you need closure from them,but they make you feel like the victim,if you don't learn from it,you'll repeat your mistakes,don't acknowledge there existence if they annoy you,and where is their loyalty,don't take it personal,it's their fault for being a narcissist,negotiating a truce,could backfire,if they don't realise what they are doing is wrong,don't waste time on agreements,you'll end up,used and or abused,the lure of being rewarded is a trap,don't fool yourself into believing that⚠️🚧🆘
Rebecca you are a gem !!!!! Thank you for all your videos. I am clear, I am strong, and I will never be fooled again. It's very sad how many narcs roam the Earth. This knowledge is gold and are the guardrails for FREEDOM.
I want to thank you for your words and the videos you put out I've been in a relationship in married for 10 years and everything you've ever said in your videos just about has neither happened 1 or 4 2 times over the course of our relationship she is the love of my life and the person I changed my life for she made me better I thought but at the same time everything you've ever said like from being ghosted to pinning people against you to spreading lies about me to love bombing everything it's just as if you literally wrote A playbook and she read it and made it happen and I'm sorry for running on and on and on but I'm really nervous and this is really the first time I've ever put a label on it but I'm in the process of trying to heal so again thank you
You can do this! If you need extra support, go ahead and join my webinar here: www.rebeccazung.com/faq/. And, don't hesitate to reach out, we are a community helping each other here. Stay strong!
I feel like you know my narc. Watching these videos gives me a tad smell of relief because I thought no-one could ever fathom what I'm going through even if I explain it in detail. But you definitely know. It's so bad I actually feel bad for myself lol...funny but not funny. I have to laugh sometimes how selfish and self centered they are because if I didn't actually see their selfishness in 3D I wouldn't be able to believe it. It's like watching a television show of the most self centered person on earth. I'm so deep in it that it has become amusing to witness her selfishness on a daily basis. I can't lie I kind of do feel bad for her because i know it all stems from an insecurity issue and God has given me the strength to be secure and selfless I get it. Honestly if she didn't carry herself with such with that out right entitlement that everything revolves around her she would be a candidate for suicide and I'm a God fearing man so what always makes me feel better is it could be worst where she could end up killing herself or even worst hutting herself in front of the kids. I will not lie I have it really really bad and I Absolutely don't deserve it but I know it could be worst so I am grateful for my blessings. Thank you though because your videos are very helpful and do guide me. Its ironic that I was already ignoring the sugar out of her right when I came across your vids so I'm assuming it's the divine spirits way of letting me know im on the right path. I don't even care about justice I just don't want the stress anymore. The draining of my energy has deflated my true self and it's sickening to go through. Everyday I bust my butt and try to get out the house before her and her daughter come home just so their vibes don't drain me. Her daughter is her replica by the way don't even get me started lol. Ugh I could write a book, seriously. Anyway I'm sorry for the rant I don't vent much. God bless and keep the vids coming. I go to sleep and wake up to these things lol. Peace n Love.....
Teach meeee! :) i need you right now in my life. Really deally with a toxic situation with a narcissist. Needing the support from your videos right now
I was raised by a narcissistic mother who disowned me 8 years ago after a lifetime of abuse. I haven't been the same since, and I doubt that I ever will. Trust me folks, narcissists have no loyalty to anyone, including their own children, so if you find yourself in a relationship with one, run away, and whatever you do, do NOT bring a child into this world with them.
Totally! Don't fall for that bargaining chip game. It's a winner takes all enterprise with a narc. Unfortunately we have to play the same strategy at times to get even a small slice of the pie.
Can you do a video about how a Narcissist interprets the 5 Languages of Love? Too be honest I am having difficulty on recalling anything coming my way from her other than some sleazy matching lock n key type jewelry which was probably only done out of practicality to mark her property. 14 yrs/3 children with this woman, off and on 3 times at the final 2 years. Just last week I was about to fall for it again. After learning what a covert narc is my whole world has been illuminated and everything now makes sense… the comments on every video and forums are assuring as well… assuring in a way that now I know I am not crazy. I understand not all people are like this, and definitely believe that there are people on the other side of the spectrum who are saints. What does bother me is that this almost feels like taboo or occult knowledge that is not mainstreamed like other disorders. I appreciate your work. God bless.
Hey Rebecca.ive been subscribed to your channel for some time now and I just went through a narcissistic girlfriend relationship and everything you have stated so far happened, with the exception being not much smearing my name.not really.shes a passive aggressive narcissist and she just more or less slowly cut it off and hides mostly in her apartment alone now.hardly see her outside our complex anymore.it lasted roughly four months the relationship.it was full of holes.ive studied physcology myself over the years and knew right away the red flags.but,stupid me got involved anyway and I got hurt.im better off away from the T-800 model terminator.thats what I think of her now.im 60 and she's only 31.thats not the point.she seemed so awesome at first,then,her programming altered and she went into kill mode.to be honest,I'm glad she's out of my life.
I can't get rid of the narcissist on my devices. My friend gave me his LG phone today so I could use it at a public wifi spot and hopefully finally have a bit of privacy after two years being stalked. Not. When I arrived at McDonalds for wifi, I typed in his name and psychopath/narcissist videos were served up. Unbelievable!
I knew something was wrong but my love blinded me for 36yrs and I thank-you for your videos I'm planning my escape but I went threw her phone and found that for years she has turn or tried to turn all family and friends into flying monkeys it's going to be hard
Yes absolutely right you are 👍🏻❤️👍🏻I have learned from you how to deal with them and feel strong doing so. I am truly thankful for you being in my life 🤗👍🏻❤️
I'm disabled and the person who is supposed to be helping me is a narcissist. I'm really scared for myself. I have no one else. I was surprised they offered to help but now I know why and it's too late and I'm trapped. They future faked me to get here.
I SEE I GOT TO 🛑. AND I GO OUT MY WAY TO BE NICE CAUSE THEN I BE CONTENT THEN I IN A WAY OVER DO IT THEN THE PERSON PLAYS ME IN THE END. OVER & OVER AGAIN. BUT I NOW KNOW I BEEN KIDDING MYSELF. BUT THAT’S IT GIVING UP LEVERAGE. NOW I WISH I HADN’T DID ANY OF IT. AND ALL THEY DO IS TAKE BUT I ALREADY KNEW ANYWAY I FELL IN TO THAT TRAP. DO WHAT I GOT TO DO TO TAKE CARE MY BABY AND MYSELF.
Did all that in the divorce except I got an attorney first and followed his advice. The nasty email he got about everything from her was just horrible.
Yes.You said it very very true,..with my Parents,specialy my mother,..she never stops manipulating my life then,..up until now with my family , with my children.She is a Very OLD BRAT,indeed.Even you ask for space that you need.because of exhuastions of thier ONLY WANTS that they forcely pushing you to do..and even they see you,..that you didn't even have enough rest.my mother just force you to do what she wants.and NEVER EVER ACKNOWLEDGE whatSo Ever you did Good for her,SHE NEVER KNOWS THE WORD #THANK YOU..She do have More than the Worst and Stupid Attitude that i really thought Other UnEducated people Only HAVE.#SHE GAS LIGHT us EVERY SINGLE TIME of her MISTAKES.and even Hurt Us Physically.SPIRITUALLY,EMOTIONALLY,And We(Me and my Children) are All So Drained.somewhat like if Only I have that much Money i would Absolutely GET MY CHILDREN OUT OF THIS HELLBOUND CURSED LIFE of OURS.The People She Hated the Most Bad Attitude From my childhood Years,..She Made it Worst Of her Own EVIL ATTITUDES as She Grow older.
On your last one I stupidly made the mistake of shoveling the snow around the apartment building which is a corner apartment building because he's supposingly the caretaker has scoliosis and I used to be paralyzed for 7 years how stupid of me how stupid of me it'll never ever ever happen again
Watch lots of videos like these so you can understand exactly what you are dealing with. You'll know what to do and how to interact without being victimized.
A person who has truly changed for the better will NEVER announce it, or talk about it. They will be beyond talking about it because with positive change comes contentment. The one who has made authentic, positive change will not attempt to sell that change on you because they're busy LIVING the change. They are BEING the changes they've made... Any person who throws you the sweet line, "Let's start things afresh again - I've changed", is straight up LYING! They're looking for validation from YOU in announcing their apparent "change". If they've really changed, they won't need that validation or approval. Secondly, if their change really is genuine, they most likely won't return to you anyway. Not because YOU are flawed; but because their lives will be so improved that they won't return to old territory. It's "on and up" for them. Their change will have introduced them to new ways, new ideas and new environments. They will never need to say that they have changed because those changes will already be self-evident through their LIVING them! The talkers and announcers are out there... DON'T GET SUCKED IN! Nothing is more genuine or powerful than a person making real change, but then LIVING and DEMONSTRATING it! No words necessary. 😉
What can I do when this narcissist works for Amazon she hacked my credit card account, I already let Amazon know and they didn't do anything...she already works for the district attorney already let them know as well about she hacking my credit card account then also let them she committed fraud to immigration she paid a citizen to marry and get her green card she got away with this however nobody believes went to police and was told there's no crime so they didn't take my report went to FBI and they did take my report 4 different times what should I do? I got an attorney sending her a cease and desist letter and instead of her apologies she got an attorney and responded to my letter saying that I'm the one harassing her when it's the other way around...please help, advice
If you are not sure whether you’re in a toxic relationship or not, ask yourself these two most important questions. How has this relationship affected my self-esteem? How do I feel when I am around my partner? 💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Just a "heads up".i've never heard this this mentioned but during the devaluation phase you are never mentioned again by your name.At best,maybe by a pronoun in the company of others.Stay clear,remain strong..The good guys win.
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I would like to know more about Rebecca Slang……
Clear precise message of what my soon to be ex narc is going to throw at me next. I have already been through these lessons. What is my next lesson when going through this divorce?
Rebecca Zang I meant to say
@@jacquiesegafredo886 check out my free live webinar right here. www.slayyournegotiation.com/rzwebinar Here for you.
Yes, Rebecca. Enquiring minds need to know. Thank you in advance ❤️😊
Don't expect demonic assholes to a) Care about you, once your usefulness has expired; and b) That they will operate with any integrity. Once they realize that you are truly out... Their next program of trying to destroy you will be put into play. I am living this now in real time. Stay strong, people...
We need to stay strong indeed!
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thanks so much for your clips, Rebecca Zung. So helpful, and very much appreciated. Thank you for caring about us.
Thanks i am out of words to express myself but what you are saying is true I NEVER KNEW PEOPLE like this exist i am in tears right now after 41 ýears of marriage i found out that there are very negative selfish hateful people love you thanks again
I'm DONE... absolutely done with my Narcissistic daughter.
My new motto is: " Unconditional Love does NOT mean Unconditional tolerance. "
DONE! Low contact for 5 years. And the last abusive message to me was the Last straw.
I didn't even respond. I didn't have to have the last word. The candle in my heart for her was blown out. Feeling freedom and peace ever since. 5 months now and NEVER going back.
Rebecca...I listen to your videos everyday to reinforce my feelings! Thank you!
@@RatedArggg that's funny Marta..I love that movie...
When I first saw it I said to myself, "OMG
" Brittany" is Veda."
And she was VEDA 100%...And I even worked as a waitress raising 2 daughters without child support.
I went back to college and was exhausted trying to give us a better life...and she wanted more, and more and more. ( I didn't give more like Mildred)
She didn't do the dishes once ( 13) when I came home at 9 exhausted from school and work and she said, " Do them yourself...I didn't ask you to go to school. "
I will tell you I never hit a child, but now I wish I would have slapped her across the face. That was one of hundreds of stories.
and then she'd love bomb me and it would be good for a little bit and then BOOOM Veda would show up again!
Woo Hoo DONE! and Marta...Don't feel bad for me..My EX ( her dad) was a Narcissist too.. So it was genetic. I got through it and now I am at peace.
agreed 100% but she is still going after me. She burned my house down, commited PPP loan fraud against me and now I am told that she is doing a "murder for hire" on me! All about her wanting my money. But none of it is coming her way! I'm DONE even with my granddaughters. She will have to step up and take care of them with their father! It hurts but I have learned a lot from Rebecca
Great point about gratuitous giving. Giving to them feeds their narcissism, makes them feel more powerful, and prompts them to go for it all.
TOTALLY...I just recently left my third narc a couple of weeks ago. I'm over the future faking, the vices, the compulsion to lie and just the overall attitude that I have to put up with bad behavior. May I never fall for one again.
3rd narcissist? Why
@@michaelbergeron1554 Because these sick individuals are very good at what they do and once you've been tainted by one it's like the others can smell the blood. I hope it never happens to you.
@@michaelbergeron1554 until I realized I WAS BORN FOR MORE THAN DOING EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE ELSE, AANNDD I MATTERED, I PICKED MORE THAN 3 IN MY LIFE.
Daisy Nadal- Try not to feel bad. When we learn different, we do different. Take your energy and thoughts and put them on you. You will be happy! 😊😃
Totally!
YOU JUST TOTALLY TOLD THE TRUTH THE WHOLE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH.THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE FOR US.
Hey Rebecca!
Don't expect the narcissist to ever get you or apologize, it's never going to happen!
Best only to look inward and to understand and love yourself!
Thank you for your wonderful videos!
Be well and all the best!
TOTALLY !!! Rebecca Thank you for all your videos & everyone comments here & I Hoped you all survivors to have a wonderful blessed evening 🙏 . Happy 😊 the Friday the 13 everyone !!
This is indeed the right term: SURVIVOR 🏆
Have an awesome weekend Sue!
Totally! I made all these mistakes. Examples as follows on a couple.
I tried to be nice and allow certain items go out of the house midway through this divorce. One time being her photo albums she had from before we were married. Guess what happened? Do you think she said thank you? No! She instead said that is not all her pictures, she said every picture in this house was hers. She went so far as to try filing theft charges on me for not giving her every picture in the house. Thankfully the police told her it is a civil matter.
Another example is that i stuck it out with her for 3 additional years because she came down with cervical cancer. I stuck by her side and did whatever it took to keep her alive ( which i now regret) to the point i had nothing left to give of myself. I literally saved her life 4 times by calling EMS out. Being the narc she is she was not helping herself and insisted that i had to do every little thing for her. She fought with her doctors because she thought she knew more than them because she is a LPN. She refused to eat or take in liquids and even refused meds. Again do you think she ever gave me any credit or acknowledgment that i contributed to her recovery after all the hours i spent taking care of her at home and the weeks i spent with her at the hospital 3.5 hours from home away from our daughter? Hell no! Instead she is telling her flying monkees that i was trying to kill her, poisoning her food. That makes me regret having called the squad out the first time after she became nonresponsive from loss of fluids. I could have just let her die in the bed. Thank god i have documentation from text messages and the squad reports to counter those claims not to mention her medical records detailing the level of noncompliance she had while in the hospitals. She even refused to go into a long term acute care facility and chose to come home on hospice care. In the end she was physically and mentally assaulting me as i was changing her urine bag and tempoarary colostomy bag, which she no longer has. Her flying monkees even got mad at me when i was pushing for her to go into a rehab. Now when she refused do you think any of those monkees gave any help to me caring for her. Again no. I begged for all of them to get trained on how to change her bags and iv bags if only for one night each so i could sleep. Nope. It was all on me and then when i finally gave out from exhaustion i was called lazy. Called lazy after going 5 nights in a row of zero sleep. At this point the cancer was gone. She was in the last part of recovering. When i made my escape after a suicide attempt, guess where she ended up? Thats right, a rehab facility. All those flying monkees that said they would never let her go to a place like that did not back those words up with action. It is because she finally pulled through after receiving 24 hour care and could get meds there they could not allow to be administered in the home that the claims of me trying to kill her stem from.
Those are just two of many many examples of mistakes i made.
I have 12 people that is showing up on my behalf in june 15th when our final divorce date is composed of close family friends, our employees, local police, childrens protective services, counselor from daughters school, her doctor, our son, and my daughters treating therapist and my therapist. I have nearly 600 pages of texts that occurred between my narc and i as well as between her monkees and i. I have 20 hours of video and 120 hours of audio. She has no idea how much she is going to be hit with in this final showdown. We have saved the bulk of this for the last minute. We will have all this presented two days before we are legally required to do so for it to be admissable in the court. This is a fight for the life of my daughter and i. I tried being the nice guy all this time and continue to be but on june 15th the gloves come off and eveything will be brought to the light. It is my day to get myself closure and be acknowledged for what i have done. God dropped in my spirit assurance that he has got this, i just got to do the footwork. I have done "THE HARD STUFF" and i am all set to "SLAY" this evil diabolical narc with humility and truth.
Ugh! They're just so difficult to deal with! But you got this and you can definitely SLAY this!💪
J logged, I love your tenacious ways . I love you, & don't know you. Then i realized why. My spirit bears witness with you as a child of God.. I am FOR YOU, OBVIOUSLY! WHAT A GENTLEMEN YOU ARE! THE EVIL IN THIS WORLD TRIES TO KILL US.. YOU'RE AWESOME!! YOU DID EVERYTHING YOU COULD! I WANT YOU TO COME BACK IN AFTER IT ALL GOES DOWN & SHARE! ❤️ 💙 💜
@@tinai2744 thank you sis. I sure will be not just coming back here to share the hope and joy but then move on with the next stage of my life. There is a void in where male victims have to go to get away from violent women either alone or with their kids. I am 5 classes away from having my BA in psychology and will be going in to get my masters. A RN friend of mine is going to join with me and open a first of its kind domestic violence shelter and program designed to serve the male population in my area. It is imoprtant to me to share to other men that they are not alone in becoming victims to women emotionally, physically, and sexually as i was raped by my soon to be ex wife and the ahane and guilt us men feel from that is exponentially more than what women go through as society has yet to acknowledge men can be victims too and society tends to shun men whereas there is ample support and acceptance of the females that get abused by their make partners.
@@jloggy7643 omg that is awesome. I'm so thrilled for you and you will be in my mind and my prayers of support. You rock, and Yes, men go thru a whole lot more then many think with these demonically controlled Liars. The Bible says REBELLION IS AS THE SIN OF WITCHCRAFT! Heck these narcs are full with manipulation, domination, intimidation all for the purposes of TOTAL CONTROL! IT'S FLAT OUT EVIL DISGUSTING & DRAINING physically mentally emotionally and spiritually .. BEST TO YOU MY DEAR MAN!
Brilliant Rebecca..
Keep educating us more.
Thank you Rebecca!♥️🤍♥️🤍♥️🤍🌺💛
Thank YOU!
1:49 1. "Do not make the mistake of falling into the trap of their future faking"
Totally! As I commented on Dr Ramani's today's video, I stuck in a toxic workplace. My boss promised a lot of things, but nothing happened. Things got worse and worse. I saw through his lie when he said another future promise, so I ran away from the workplace.
The one that gets me is when I give her some gift, some "I saw this and thought of you" gift, she always, ALWAYS, does the quick expression that says, "what sort of messed up rubbish is this?" before saying thank you in a way that says, "you're an idiot and I don't like this gift".
And it never makes the slightest bit of difference. No warming of her attitude, no acknowledgement. Just puts it to one side and carries on like nothing happened.
It's a put down. She's very good at it.
😳😳😳
Walk away when someone
Treats you with disrespect.
I am almost free and my boundary meter is pegged out. Another great video!
I made mistakes dealing with the ex a narc for 7.5 years and years of emotional physical and financial abuse until I left him. Not making any mistakes now and he’s being prosecuted in court!
seal the deal,but this isn't the deal that needs to be sealed,it's hatred not love we are dealing with,the mistakes made when dealing with a narcissistist,have they changed,I doubt it,you need closure from them,but they make you feel like the victim,if you don't learn from it,you'll repeat your mistakes,don't acknowledge there existence if they annoy you,and where is their loyalty,don't take it personal,it's their fault for being a narcissist,negotiating a truce,could backfire,if they don't realise what they are doing is wrong,don't waste time on agreements,you'll end up,used and or abused,the lure of being rewarded is a trap,don't fool yourself into believing that⚠️🚧🆘
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Rebecca you are a gem !!!!! Thank you for all your videos. I am clear, I am strong, and I will never be fooled again. It's very sad how many narcs roam the Earth. This knowledge is gold and are the guardrails for FREEDOM.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq i have had my power back for years. I am great !!!! Thank you
I want to thank you for your words and the videos you put out I've been in a relationship in married for 10 years and everything you've ever said in your videos just about has neither happened 1 or 4 2 times over the course of our relationship she is the love of my life and the person I changed my life for she made me better I thought but at the same time everything you've ever said like from being ghosted to pinning people against you to spreading lies about me to love bombing everything it's just as if you literally wrote A playbook and she read it and made it happen and I'm sorry for running on and on and on but I'm really nervous and this is really the first time I've ever put a label on it but I'm in the process of trying to heal so again thank you
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Totally.. everything you say, bang on!
Thank you all your knowledge and guidance.. much love and blessings to you 🙏 ❤️
Thank you
I feel like you know my narc. Watching these videos gives me a tad smell of relief because I thought no-one could ever fathom what I'm going through even if I explain it in detail. But you definitely know. It's so bad I actually feel bad for myself lol...funny but not funny. I have to laugh sometimes how selfish and self centered they are because if I didn't actually see their selfishness in 3D I wouldn't be able to believe it. It's like watching a television show of the most self centered person on earth. I'm so deep in it that it has become amusing to witness her selfishness on a daily basis. I can't lie I kind of do feel bad for her because i know it all stems from an insecurity issue and God has given me the strength to be secure and selfless I get it. Honestly if she didn't carry herself with such with that out right entitlement that everything revolves around her she would be a candidate for suicide and I'm a God fearing man so what always makes me feel better is it could be worst where she could end up killing herself or even worst hutting herself in front of the kids. I will not lie I have it really really bad and I Absolutely don't deserve it but I know it could be worst so I am grateful for my blessings. Thank you though because your videos are very helpful and do guide me. Its ironic that I was already ignoring the sugar out of her right when I came across your vids so I'm assuming it's the divine spirits way of letting me know im on the right path. I don't even care about justice I just don't want the stress anymore. The draining of my energy has deflated my true self and it's sickening to go through. Everyday I bust my butt and try to get out the house before her and her daughter come home just so their vibes don't drain me. Her daughter is her replica by the way don't even get me started lol. Ugh I could write a book, seriously. Anyway I'm sorry for the rant I don't vent much. God bless and keep the vids coming. I go to sleep and wake up to these things lol. Peace n Love.....
Teach meeee! :) i need you right now in my life. Really deally with a toxic situation with a narcissist. Needing the support from your videos right now
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I was raised by a narcissistic mother who disowned me 8 years ago after a lifetime of abuse. I haven't been the same since, and I doubt that I ever will. Trust me folks, narcissists have no loyalty to anyone, including their own children, so if you find yourself in a relationship with one, run away, and whatever you do, do NOT bring a child into this world with them.
Totally, along with your absolutely correct , sadly
You're so bad ass!!! Thanks for your help. I love your videos! I'm stuck with a gaslighting narcissistic asshole at work & can't dump him lol
Taking a break ... Working on myself ... You can help with legal .. thanks
You got this! 💪
@@RebeccaZungEsq you got this ... I'm just studying the law and respect you ....
Totally LOYALTY is non existent
totally. peace and love. thanks for everything. namaslay
NamaSLAY!
Totally! Don't fall for that bargaining chip game. It's a winner takes all enterprise with a narc. Unfortunately we have to play the same strategy at times to get even a small slice of the pie.
Can you do a video about how a Narcissist interprets the 5 Languages of Love?
Too be honest I am having difficulty on recalling anything coming my way from her other than some sleazy matching lock n key type jewelry which was probably only done out of practicality to mark her property.
14 yrs/3 children with this woman, off and on 3 times at the final 2 years. Just last week I was about to fall for it again. After learning what a covert narc is my whole world has been illuminated and everything now makes sense… the comments on every video and forums are assuring as well… assuring in a way that now I know I am not crazy.
I understand not all people are like this, and definitely believe that there are people on the other side of the spectrum who are saints.
What does bother me is that this almost feels like taboo or occult knowledge that is not mainstreamed like other disorders. I appreciate your work. God bless.
TOTALLY.
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Hey Rebecca.ive been subscribed to your channel for some time now and I just went through a narcissistic girlfriend relationship and everything you have stated so far happened, with the exception being not much smearing my name.not really.shes a passive aggressive narcissist and she just more or less slowly cut it off and hides mostly in her apartment alone now.hardly see her outside our complex anymore.it lasted roughly four months the relationship.it was full of holes.ive studied physcology myself over the years and knew right away the red flags.but,stupid me got involved anyway and I got hurt.im better off away from the T-800 model terminator.thats what I think of her now.im 60 and she's only 31.thats not the point.she seemed so awesome at first,then,her programming altered and she went into kill mode.to be honest,I'm glad she's out of my life.
Good to hear she's out of your life now. It's never too late to start fresh, John! You got this!
Definitely in acknowledgment yet will tell me they say this to others but not me
Well said excellent thank you
THANKS GOD BLESS YOU
Totally 💯 in agreement. And I did a relationship for decades . No more .. out and free
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Totally!!! Great vid!
👍 very encouraging video
All of your videos are so helpful and has educated me so much. Thank you so much for everything.
Totally! Thanks for your advice. It helps.
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One day at a time.
One day at a time.
TOTALLY 👍
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TOTALLY !
Totally.
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I can't get rid of the narcissist on my devices. My friend gave me his LG phone today so I could use it at a public wifi spot and hopefully finally have a bit of privacy after two years being stalked. Not. When I arrived at McDonalds for wifi, I typed in his name and psychopath/narcissist videos were served up. Unbelievable!
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WooooooooooW they are unbelievable
Absolutely great video as always. I also recently subscribed to your tik tok channel as well😃😃😃 have a great day
Awesome! Thanks!
Thank you!
Always here to empower! 🙌
100% True.... I agree 1000% to #5!
TOTALLY!!!
TOTALLY ON POINT “!
Totally!
I knew something was wrong but my love blinded me for 36yrs and I thank-you for your videos I'm planning my escape but I went threw her phone and found that for years she has turn or tried to turn all family and friends into flying monkeys it's going to be hard
Totally. I’ve wanted all of those and am having to learn to let it go :/
Yes absolutely right you are 👍🏻❤️👍🏻I have learned from you how to deal with them and feel strong doing so. I am truly thankful for you being in my life 🤗👍🏻❤️
This is so good and true. Succinct and totally on point!!
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Thank you! Your absolutely right!
Yep!
Much love, favor, and protection to you! 💞💫
I'm so proud of you!
I'm disabled and the person who is supposed to be helping me is a narcissist. I'm really scared for myself. I have no one else. I was surprised they offered to help but now I know why and it's too late and I'm trapped. They future faked me to get here.
Totally!!! That's so true
I do! 22 years of lies!
Totally! Going through a divorce with one right now
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Totally xx
I am the leader on my ship
Go sail on your own pile of logs.
Pretending not to have a ship?
Go swim.
Oh you can't swim?
Go take a hike!
Great
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I SEE I GOT TO 🛑. AND I GO OUT MY WAY TO BE NICE CAUSE THEN I BE CONTENT THEN I IN A WAY OVER DO IT THEN THE PERSON PLAYS ME IN THE END. OVER & OVER AGAIN. BUT I NOW KNOW I BEEN KIDDING MYSELF. BUT THAT’S IT GIVING UP LEVERAGE. NOW I WISH I HADN’T DID ANY OF IT. AND ALL THEY DO IS TAKE BUT I ALREADY KNEW ANYWAY I FELL IN TO THAT TRAP. DO WHAT I GOT TO DO TO TAKE CARE MY BABY AND MYSELF.
Totally agree.
Wish I’d watched this before!
Totally....
Did all that in the divorce except I got an attorney first and followed his advice. The nasty email he got about everything from her was just horrible.
Never too late for a fresh start. You got this!
Yes.You said it very very true,..with my Parents,specialy my mother,..she never stops manipulating my life then,..up until now with my family , with my children.She is a Very OLD BRAT,indeed.Even you ask for space that you need.because of exhuastions of thier ONLY WANTS that they forcely pushing you to do..and even they see you,..that you didn't even have enough rest.my mother just force you to do what she wants.and NEVER EVER ACKNOWLEDGE whatSo Ever you did Good for her,SHE NEVER KNOWS THE WORD #THANK YOU..She do have More than the Worst and Stupid Attitude that i really thought Other UnEducated people Only HAVE.#SHE GAS LIGHT us EVERY SINGLE TIME of her MISTAKES.and even Hurt Us Physically.SPIRITUALLY,EMOTIONALLY,And We(Me and my Children) are All So Drained.somewhat like if Only I have that much Money i would Absolutely GET MY CHILDREN OUT OF THIS HELLBOUND CURSED LIFE of OURS.The People She Hated the Most Bad Attitude From my childhood Years,..She Made it Worst Of her Own EVIL ATTITUDES as She Grow older.
Totally 😾
Totally 💯
On your last one I stupidly made the mistake of shoveling the snow around the apartment building which is a corner apartment building because he's supposingly the caretaker has scoliosis and I used to be paralyzed for 7 years how stupid of me how stupid of me it'll never ever ever happen again
Right!!!!
TOTALLY
Totally !!!
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Yes please 🙏
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Totally 😘
Totally
I fear this with a relationship I started back up with a relative and it kinda scares me.
They're disgusting! You have to wonder if they even have a soul?!!!
I'm with a narcissist as we speaking..... so what should I do?
Watch lots of videos like these so you can understand exactly what you are dealing with. You'll know what to do and how to interact without being victimized.
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A person who has truly changed for the better will NEVER announce it, or talk about it. They will be beyond talking about it because with positive change comes contentment. The one who has made authentic, positive change will not attempt to sell that change on you because they're busy LIVING the change. They are BEING the changes they've made...
Any person who throws you the sweet line, "Let's start things afresh again - I've changed", is straight up LYING! They're looking for validation from YOU in announcing their apparent "change". If they've really changed, they won't need that validation or approval.
Secondly, if their change really is genuine, they most likely won't return to you anyway. Not because YOU are flawed; but because their lives will be so improved that they won't return to old territory. It's "on and up" for them. Their change will have introduced them to new ways, new ideas and new environments.
They will never need to say that they have changed because those changes will already be self-evident through their LIVING them!
The talkers and announcers are out there...
DON'T GET SUCKED IN!
Nothing is more genuine or powerful than a person making real change, but then LIVING and DEMONSTRATING it!
No words necessary.
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How do you do this with a small child involved?? I try not to give them ammo but I then get emails back pushing buttons about my daughter
Need to discuss with you .Long pending trial .to be forwarded to the court for peaceful legal solution
@6:22- That's a fact!
They are voulchers!
What can I do when this narcissist works for Amazon she hacked my credit card account, I already let Amazon know and they didn't do anything...she already works for the district attorney already let them know as well about she hacking my credit card account then also let them she committed fraud to immigration she paid a citizen to marry and get her green card she got away with this however nobody believes went to police and was told there's no crime so they didn't take my report went to FBI and they did take my report 4 different times what should I do? I got an attorney sending her a cease and desist letter and instead of her apologies she got an attorney and responded to my letter saying that I'm the one harassing her when it's the other way around...please help, advice
Tottaly
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I need a real attirney to understand on a preoperty partition that she is a narc and is going to do anything to help or agree.
If you are not sure whether you’re in a toxic relationship or not, ask yourself these two most important questions. How has this relationship affected my self-esteem? How do I feel when I am around my partner?
💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Stop killing
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Right! They're so disgusting!
Just a "heads up".i've never heard this this mentioned but during the devaluation phase you are never mentioned again by your name.At best,maybe by a pronoun in the company of others.Stay clear,remain strong..The good guys win.
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He Not RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL HE NOT HOLLOW HUMAN DNA
Totally.
Thank you ♥️