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Thank you, Julien. I was molested when I was 5 by an 11 year old boy. I've never told a soul this. I'm 30, almost 31. I decided I needed to hide that part of me. Last night, I told my therapist. We had one session. I've had such exponential growth from watching your videos over the past few weeks. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Julien. Your words really have helped to start my healing process. One I thought I didn't deserve. ❤
Going back to the idea that whatever you’re yearning for from others, that’s what you need to give to yourself- that’s not exactly new for me for things like approval, acceptance, and love. But when you mentioned trust there… that really hit home. If I want others to trust me to handle things, I need to trust myself to do what needs to be done. Thank you.
My fiancé broke up with me recently due to my insecurities and anger. Found you after .. due to looking for videos on self help and how to save a marriage. I used a notebook and took so many notes and was starting to feel new in a way. Cried countless times to videos on our inner child. I for some reason stopped taking it seriously again and realized how depressed and sad I always am. I need to stay consistent because your videos have taught me so much, I’d be a fool to stop trying
I've been being authentic and very forward lately and basically everyone seems to be just more intimidated so what you're saying here is a great message but it isn't the real world. People are too uncomfortable just in their own health that there's no real way for people to get passed that road block. Figuring myself out from a health standpoint has changed how I feel from the inside but I'm not noticing anything different from anyone's responses In my Immediate surroundings. Great message for humanity but people aren't listening these days..
My whole adult life I had trouble with vulnerability. But I recently decided to be more open and vulnerable with people and I discovered just what you said - most people do actually relate. And if someone doesn't like something about me - oh well, it just means they're not my people. Also, completely off topic, your outfit reminds me of Cyberpunk 2077.
100% true, but being vulnerable in front of a bully or a critic is the worse you can do. In front of a bully stay neutral. Be vulnarable in front of someone who can help, niot in front of a a shark who will eat you a live.
Being authentic eliminated my anxiety for job interviews❤i used to fake a persona because i thought i wasnt good enough, didn’t have enough to offer and tried to overcompensate and act like somebody i was not. I had a lot of anxiety. Now i accept who i am, realize i have a lot to offer and i am authentic. No anxiety and fakeness ❤️❤️✨Thank you so much!!😊
@branem.2254 do something that builds your confidence. Exercise is a big one for many people. Doing something that afterwards makes you feel great. I'll go volunteer for the homeless every week and I feel great for weeks, even after only 1 hour of volunteering. So find something that's healthy and builds your confidence rather than deteriorating it.
i just dont understand how you can maintain or have a lot of these beliefs and attitudes in the atmosphere we have today. working 40 hours a week, and not doing work I particularly enjoy. is it just accepting that work is not fun/something that will make me feel better? i mean it seems easy for you julien to say these things and adopt this mindset when you get to authentically be yourself and speak to people for a living. most people dont have this luxury
Been watching your videos for like a year not consistently but whenever I watch a video it resonates and i soak it all in I appreciate you and your videos for helping me become a better person and contributor to society
atm im strong into getting one person to love me because i dont love myself... been going hard on this for 1 year now, im still struggling but helped me alot hearing this and that im not alone ❤
If you let go the hate you have for yourself love will appear naturally. Best Book: letting go by david hawkins. Its a hard process though and you gotta really want it 🫡
well explained! we are anxious with people when we want to hide that we are ashamed of ourselves in order to get something (most probably approval) from them. Nice lesson learned from this video 😎
A love you man, you have to be proud of what you have changed in my life and a lot of other people, it's not a new thing but you understand what you're talking about what makes understandable when you explain it I think
Ive always seen vulnerability as an absolute strength. Cutting yourself off and NOT being vulnerable makes you a weakling imo because you’re too scared of the judgement of others. Hearing people say vulnerability=feminine really makes me sad because those people must be miserable. They will have little to no meaningful relationships, personal or platonic, without being vulnerable.
Yes, it’s a sign of strength! And respect to those people for being honest with themselves and acknowledging having certain core beliefs around it like “feminine”, because they are there willing to work on it and let go of it… 🙏
@@JulienHimselfthats fair, perhaps they’re willing to change it. Others may not think like us and may think there’s not a problem with how they view vulnerability and thus dont wanna change it. Idk how your shows are titled or advertised though so i could be wrong. I just found you a day or two ago so i could be a big silly assumptive doofus atm
I’ve been in a weird state for quite some time where I always feel like I’m boring and I can’t never find the right thing to say at the right moment. The problem is I think I wanna be myself to eliminate resistance, but isn’t this all to change who I am, at least in this moment?
I keep trying to accept the sensations but I noticed that I still resist them, I also tried getting to the cause by journaling but I’m still stuck in the same place. What should I do
There are two sides to this actually. Vulnerability helps to strengthen you against negative emotions by embracing it. But usually people who don't know how to be vulnerable are really confident. The other side of confidence and magnetism is AGGRESSION. Cultivate your inner aggression quality and it will protect you against negative emotions you are not strong to be vulnerable
That’s what most humans do. They are able to control and limit vulnerability throughout their natural lives and show confidence albeit at times may come off as aggressive
the emotion of shame is actually lower than apathy on the energgy scale and it acn trigger fears that even if you try to release the fear if the shame is still there it will regenerate the fear and you won't get rid of it till you process the shame
You explain about how being ok with yourself loving yourself is better then fake you seeking approval. But you never talked about how to become ok with who you are. I can't go in front of a mirror and tell myself be ok with you and i just magically be ok and start to love myself. So what should i do?
I wanna ask something about letting go, whenever i try doing it , it makes me want to release the emotion by crying but if i cry it's *expressing* and to do letting go you don't have to express, repress, resist etc. So what do i do about it? **I resist the urge to cry cause if i cry it will be expressing not letting go**
@@LivinKhalybut it's not permanent, like people in sports cry before a match to release stress and anxiety but it's temporary cause in another match they'll get anxious and stressed again and they have to do same process again to release stress, so releasing by crying isn't working in long term. Stress goes away temporarily so why my trauma, social anxiety will go away permanently by releasing through crying?
it's just a release when you cry. The more you repress not to cry the more it triggers you probably to cry. Get in the shower, shower firstly normally how you do ussually and then with really really cold water ... experience it. Look and analyse how you feel there. How you breath, how your body resists etc. You will notice once you accept the coldness it's not as difficult anymore to hold it the cold shower. Yes the sensation is still kinda unpleasant but you don't suffer as much. That's what usually meant by not resisting or letting go. After such experience despite the coldness you feel way more warm then taking a warm shower. It's all about where your attention goes, what kind of emotions/feelings you give power/attention.
he talked about this and to answer you criying is a form of letting IF it is real NOT just somme fake self petty..... so it depends why you cried ... and great question👍
@@Ghostss071 I am not sure myself what is right or wrong. Howerver it should feel better. Isn't it amazing that our body is so smart and even when we repress something it will find another way to release our emotions! In my opinion it's the fastest way. At least you could try it. There is no lose for you. It's more about what you feel personally works best for you. And you can only know it by observing your body and feelings. Not even giving it specific meaning or analysing it too much till it feeds one overthinking but just experiencing it.
And one thing IMPORTANT. Whenever i feel bad about myself or just feel sad or demotivated i say myself *hope you die, why are you alive ,why doesn't a car hits you and you die , you don't deserve anything, i don't wanna do anything in my life, i have got no desire in my life, let's stop doing hard work leave everything and etc*. By doing that i feel better and the emotion passes away it's like i am feeding that energy BUT as you said this is wrong *cause you are feeding that emotion by saying things which amplifies the emotion even more* so i stopped doing it , instead i started observing it , but it feels like i am resisting the urge to say these things to me it feels just soo bad like i am resisting all the things that i wanna say to me cause few moments later of doing negetive self talk continuously the emotion goes away and it feels much better BUT IT'S AN TOXIC APPROACH , so what do i do now? How do i let go of emotion without resisting the urge to do negetive self talk , i express and release that feeling by negetive self talk instead of letting go , but by trying letting go i resist the urge to express my self hate feeling
Letting go is on the feeling dimension. Talking is mind. Start feeling your self hate and it will fade. Find the moment where you realize, that you betrayed yourself and how that hurts in your heart. Apologize afterwards to yourself if the moment and feelings are right and you will see the self hate go. And what is left is compassion for yourself. I cried when i first time in my life felt that. Went exactly through what i described. The only thing to do is to start feeling the hate you have for yourself. Rest comes with that. Good luck!
@@G7x433 i try to feel self hate but there's an intense urge to say things to myself to feed that energy and in order to JUST FEEL SELF HATE i have to resist the urge to say those things and by that resistance more stress will come, if I don't say things to myself it feels like i am blocking that feeling
All this stuff goes out the window when you realize that women want the bad boy, they don’t want to guy who is sharing his vulnerabilities and coming off as too safe. They want the guy who excites them and puts them on edge. Mysterious, bad, kind of intimidating, etc…
I think there is a difference from being a door mat and being vulnerable when the time calls for it. Of course mystery is exciting initially, for both parties, but the bad boy/girl thing is exhausting in a long term relationship and it’s 100% not the attributes that emotionally healthy and mature women look for in future father-material I can assure you. I look for confidence, openness but discernment in who a prospective partner is vulnerable with. Then I know I can trust them. I would love it if everyone could be open like this, but there are a lot of predators out there, so it’s a balance of working on authentic openness with emotional discernment. If I trust my partner I should be able to be vulnerable- and vice versa.
@@Dalabombana I mean I’ve seen it time and time again. A woman goes out with a guy, he’s emotionally mature, good father material, etc…and she gets bored of him. Instead she’s banging the bad boy every night, the guy who has a bad attitude, is disrespectful, is intimidating, tells her how much he’s gonna fuck her tonight, etc… I’ve seen this happen a million times. The truth is that emotionally mature men, good men, don’t get the sexual juices flowing in women. You need an edge to you. Or you’re just gonna get friend zoned. “He’s a good guy but…it’s just not there” is what she’s gonna say every single time. She craves the bad boy.
man fucking saddens me to see the responses to "vulnerability" in the first 50 sec, how much did they pay to join haha, I was thinking positive things about vulnerability, but their not incorrect cause it is still technically what they or others associate with vulnerability
Julien is the type of guy who goes shopping and says: Give me the most bs and goofy outfit so i can stand out. In a world without Strauss or mistery he would wear a fidora with black fingernails for sure.
When I watched this I thought of this movie quote…. Mr. Furious : Okay, am I the only one who finds these sayings just a little bit formulaic? "If you want to push something down, you have to pull it up. If you want to go left, you have to go right." It's... The Sphinx : Your temper is very quick, my friend. But until you learn to master your rage... Mr. Furious : ...your rage will become your master? That's what you were going to say. Right? Right? The Sphinx : Not necessarily. What movie? Lol
@@lilalto2036not probably. thats similar to saying idk, which he says you shouldnt do. be as concrete and honest with yourself as you can and keep asking why
I understand the message. I have. Tried counselling, life coaching and alternative spiritual stuff and the practitioners sound similar to what you are saying. It always makes me feel worse. Like I'm not good enough to be in their presence or that they look down on me for not understanding myself
@@JulienHimself thanks Julien, but what do you think. I think you should be only vulnerable with people you trust because others dont care. But also even if you are vulnerable with random people wouldnt that sometimes be annoying to them because then I just talk, overshare and just be a little annoying with my opinions.
Letting go is the craziest hack ever. Changed my life in one year for ever. Been reading and trying stuff for the results for 6 years and nothing helped me.
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Thank you, Julien. I was molested when I was 5 by an 11 year old boy. I've never told a soul this. I'm 30, almost 31. I decided I needed to hide that part of me. Last night, I told my therapist. We had one session. I've had such exponential growth from watching your videos over the past few weeks. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Julien. Your words really have helped to start my healing process. One I thought I didn't deserve. ❤
holy shit im sorry, u did not deserve that
Man I'm real sorry too hear about this
Ay man, Im sorry for what hapenned but I am especially proud of you for expressing it out and not letting it drag you. Good on you bro
this should have been taught to all of us without 'EXEPTION' when we where 6 years old ... 💎
Better late than never... 🙏
The fact that you put exception in all caps and quotations but still spelled it wrong is crazy.😂
I can't believe you spelt exception wrong
@@user-rb9pw8nk3cbro , you are watching the tree and losing the forest
@@user-rb9pw8nk3cIf spelling is so concerning perhaps you and potato should discuss the spelling of "spelled" and "spelt" with each other.
Going back to the idea that whatever you’re yearning for from others, that’s what you need to give to yourself- that’s not exactly new for me for things like approval, acceptance, and love. But when you mentioned trust there… that really hit home. If I want others to trust me to handle things, I need to trust myself to do what needs to be done. Thank you.
I’ve connected more with myself and people genuinely these past couple of days because of you
Thank you Julien
Amazing to hear! Glad my content has been so helpful for you!
My fiancé broke up with me recently due to my insecurities and anger. Found you after .. due to looking for videos on self help and how to save a marriage. I used a notebook and took so many notes and was starting to feel new in a way. Cried countless times to videos on our inner child. I for some reason stopped taking it seriously again and realized how depressed and sad I always am. I need to stay consistent because your videos have taught me so much, I’d be a fool to stop trying
I've been being authentic and very forward lately and basically everyone seems to be just more intimidated so what you're saying here is a great message but it isn't the real world.
People are too uncomfortable just in their own health that there's no real way for people to get passed that road block. Figuring myself out from a health standpoint has changed how I feel from the inside but I'm not noticing anything different from anyone's responses In my Immediate surroundings.
Great message for humanity but people aren't listening these days..
My whole adult life I had trouble with vulnerability. But I recently decided to be more open and vulnerable with people and I discovered just what you said - most people do actually relate. And if someone doesn't like something about me - oh well, it just means they're not my people.
Also, completely off topic, your outfit reminds me of Cyberpunk 2077.
100% true, but being vulnerable in front of a bully or a critic is the worse you can do. In front of a bully stay neutral. Be vulnarable in front of someone who can help, niot in front of a a shark who will eat you a live.
Thats probably very true! Thank you
Being authentic eliminated my anxiety for job interviews❤i used to fake a persona because i thought i wasnt good enough, didn’t have enough to offer and tried to overcompensate and act like somebody i was not. I had a lot of anxiety. Now i accept who i am, realize i have a lot to offer and i am authentic. No anxiety and fakeness ❤️❤️✨Thank you so much!!😊
Amazing! Congrats on your progress! 🙌
@branem.2254 do something that builds your confidence. Exercise is a big one for many people. Doing something that afterwards makes you feel great. I'll go volunteer for the homeless every week and I feel great for weeks, even after only 1 hour of volunteering. So find something that's healthy and builds your confidence rather than deteriorating it.
Love this guy! Much love bro imma do my best to take in what I learn in these vids it’s so hard but I know I’ll get through it ❤
Nice! You got this! 🔥👊
It’s crazy how I used to be like this before but somewhere along life I’ve lost myself thanks Julien for helping me find myself again ❤
You’re so welcome! 🙏
The strong always prevail👌
i just dont understand how you can maintain or have a lot of these beliefs and attitudes in the atmosphere we have today. working 40 hours a week, and not doing work I particularly enjoy. is it just accepting that work is not fun/something that will make me feel better? i mean it seems easy for you julien to say these things and adopt this mindset when you get to authentically be yourself and speak to people for a living. most people dont have this luxury
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Hey Julien. I need a video on a comprehensive description about "Desensitization Vs Letting go". With lot of practical examples will be helpful.
Julien you're really helping a lot of us 😊
Incredible speech, so much wisdom in these words. Thank you!
Been watching your videos for like a year not consistently but whenever I watch a video it resonates and i soak it all in I appreciate you and your videos for helping me become a better person and contributor to society
Thank you!
Great video Julien
Be sure to watch it first... 😉
atm im strong into getting one person to love me because i dont love myself... been going hard on this for 1 year now, im still struggling but helped me alot hearing this and that im not alone ❤
Getting someone to love you because you don't love yourself isn't the way... Learn to love yourself first! 🙏
If you let go the hate you have for yourself love will appear naturally. Best Book: letting go by david hawkins. Its a hard process though and you gotta really want it 🫡
Being vulnerable is one of the bravest things to do. That's why we fear it.
Master class Julien 🙏🏾
well explained! we are anxious with people when we want to hide that we are ashamed of ourselves in order to get something (most probably approval) from them. Nice lesson learned from this video 😎
A love you man, you have to be proud of what you have changed in my life and a lot of other people, it's not a new thing but you understand what you're talking about what makes understandable when you explain it I think
Ive always seen vulnerability as an absolute strength. Cutting yourself off and NOT being vulnerable makes you a weakling imo because you’re too scared of the judgement of others.
Hearing people say vulnerability=feminine really makes me sad because those people must be miserable. They will have little to no meaningful relationships, personal or platonic, without being vulnerable.
Yes, it’s a sign of strength! And respect to those people for being honest with themselves and acknowledging having certain core beliefs around it like “feminine”, because they are there willing to work on it and let go of it… 🙏
@@JulienHimselfthats fair, perhaps they’re willing to change it. Others may not think like us and may think there’s not a problem with how they view vulnerability and thus dont wanna change it.
Idk how your shows are titled or advertised though so i could be wrong. I just found you a day or two ago so i could be a big silly assumptive doofus atm
@@growingoaks All good! Welcome to the channel!!
Came for the message, stayed for the cool ass glasses
Whatever you said in this video is GOLD!!!!
Never be vulnerable doesn’t matter what anyone says
You know better!
I’ve been in a weird state for quite some time where I always feel like I’m boring and I can’t never find the right thing to say at the right moment. The problem is I think I wanna be myself to eliminate resistance, but isn’t this all to change who I am, at least in this moment?
Thank you Julien!
I love everything in this video, all great messages - But I just HAVE to ask, where did you get that overcoat / sweater?! I want it so bad!!!!
You and healthygamerGG are my free therapy ❤
Thank you Julien, ❤i think every human on earth should hear this 😢
I keep trying to accept the sensations but I noticed that I still resist them, I also tried getting to the cause by journaling but I’m still stuck in the same place. What should I do
This is common... Letting go is simple, but not easy. This is why I have a full method for this: www.julienhimself.com/8p?l=npbk83f2ts
This recent stuff is killing it, for me… spot on!!! Thank you!!! ❤
Glad to hear it! You're so welcome! 🙏
I love how you show your middle finger with your clothes :D
There are two sides to this actually. Vulnerability helps to strengthen you against negative emotions by embracing it. But usually people who don't know how to be vulnerable are really confident. The other side of confidence and magnetism is AGGRESSION. Cultivate your inner aggression quality and it will protect you against negative emotions you are not strong to be vulnerable
That’s what most humans do. They are able to control and limit vulnerability throughout their natural lives and show confidence albeit at times may come off as aggressive
That’s impressive and lasts for sometime. You be your truest self, you will emanate good things outward in general most of the time.
the emotion of shame is actually lower than apathy on the energgy scale and it acn trigger fears that even if you try to release the fear if the shame is still there it will regenerate the fear and you won't get rid of it till you process the shame
This is where I personally disagree with the "energy scale" 👌
Someone needs to make an edit like it is a movie. You are really look like an actor
You explain about how being ok with yourself loving yourself is better then fake you seeking approval. But you never talked about how to become ok with who you are. I can't go in front of a mirror and tell myself be ok with you and i just magically be ok and start to love myself.
So what should i do?
Here’s a good place to start: www.julienhimself.com/8p (My full method) 👌
The gloves looks so weird. LOVE IT! 🤣
Thanks! 😂
I realize he is dressing silly on purpose but I kind of like his style TBH.
I wanna ask something about letting go, whenever i try doing it , it makes me want to release the emotion by crying but if i cry it's *expressing* and to do letting go you don't have to express, repress, resist etc. So what do i do about it? **I resist the urge to cry cause if i cry it will be expressing not letting go**
@@LivinKhalybut it's not permanent, like people in sports cry before a match to release stress and anxiety but it's temporary cause in another match they'll get anxious and stressed again and they have to do same process again to release stress, so releasing by crying isn't working in long term. Stress goes away temporarily so why my trauma, social anxiety will go away permanently by releasing through crying?
it's just a release when you cry. The more you repress not to cry the more it triggers you probably to cry. Get in the shower, shower firstly normally how you do ussually and then with really really cold water ... experience it. Look and analyse how you feel there. How you breath, how your body resists etc. You will notice once you accept the coldness it's not as difficult anymore to hold it the cold shower. Yes the sensation is still kinda unpleasant but you don't suffer as much. That's what usually meant by not resisting or letting go. After such experience despite the coldness you feel way more warm then taking a warm shower.
It's all about where your attention goes, what kind of emotions/feelings you give power/attention.
he talked about this and to answer you criying is a form of letting IF it is real NOT just somme fake self petty..... so it depends why you cried ... and great question👍
@@iuinshine5213so if crying comes up while observing your sensations and emotions and triggered feelings it means you are going in right direction?
@@Ghostss071 I am not sure myself what is right or wrong. Howerver it should feel better. Isn't it amazing that our body is so smart and even when we repress something it will find another way to release our emotions! In my opinion it's the fastest way. At least you could try it. There is no lose for you. It's more about what you feel personally works best for you. And you can only know it by observing your body and feelings. Not even giving it specific meaning or analysing it too much till it feeds one overthinking but just experiencing it.
I needed this video , thanks Julien 💪💯
You're welcome! Glad it was helpful!
That Wyatt Earp can talk his way into anything
And one thing IMPORTANT. Whenever i feel bad about myself or just feel sad or demotivated i say myself *hope you die, why are you alive ,why doesn't a car hits you and you die , you don't deserve anything, i don't wanna do anything in my life, i have got no desire in my life, let's stop doing hard work leave everything and etc*. By doing that i feel better and the emotion passes away it's like i am feeding that energy BUT as you said this is wrong *cause you are feeding that emotion by saying things which amplifies the emotion even more* so i stopped doing it , instead i started observing it , but it feels like i am resisting the urge to say these things to me it feels just soo bad like i am resisting all the things that i wanna say to me cause few moments later of doing negetive self talk continuously the emotion goes away and it feels much better BUT IT'S AN TOXIC APPROACH , so what do i do now? How do i let go of emotion without resisting the urge to do negetive self talk , i express and release that feeling by negetive self talk instead of letting go , but by trying letting go i resist the urge to express my self hate feeling
Letting go is on the feeling dimension. Talking is mind. Start feeling your self hate and it will fade. Find the moment where you realize, that you betrayed yourself and how that hurts in your heart. Apologize afterwards to yourself if the moment and feelings are right and you will see the self hate go. And what is left is compassion for yourself. I cried when i first time in my life felt that. Went exactly through what i described. The only thing to do is to start feeling the hate you have for yourself. Rest comes with that. Good luck!
@@G7x433 i try to feel self hate but there's an intense urge to say things to myself to feed that energy and in order to JUST FEEL SELF HATE i have to resist the urge to say those things and by that resistance more stress will come, if I don't say things to myself it feels like i am blocking that feeling
@@Ghostss071 what are you gaining for hating yourself? What is the feeling you are getting actually saying those nasty things to yourself?
Droping the front=attracting real ones
Favorite speech from you
What if I say the wrong thing if I allow myself to be vulnerable. Should I say it anyway and not overthink?
Perhaps consider how to learn how to say the right thing
All this stuff goes out the window when you realize that women want the bad boy, they don’t want to guy who is sharing his vulnerabilities and coming off as too safe. They want the guy who excites them and puts them on edge. Mysterious, bad, kind of intimidating, etc…
I think there is a difference from being a door mat and being vulnerable when the time calls for it.
Of course mystery is exciting initially, for both parties, but the bad boy/girl thing is exhausting in a long term relationship and it’s 100% not the attributes that emotionally healthy and mature women look for in future father-material I can assure you. I look for confidence, openness but discernment in who a prospective partner is vulnerable with. Then I know I can trust them.
I would love it if everyone could be open like this, but there are a lot of predators out there, so it’s a balance of working on authentic openness with emotional discernment. If I trust my partner I should be able to be vulnerable- and vice versa.
@@Dalabombana I mean I’ve seen it time and time again. A woman goes out with a guy, he’s emotionally mature, good father material, etc…and she gets bored of him. Instead she’s banging the bad boy every night, the guy who has a bad attitude, is disrespectful, is intimidating, tells her how much he’s gonna fuck her tonight, etc…
I’ve seen this happen a million times. The truth is that emotionally mature men, good men, don’t get the sexual juices flowing in women. You need an edge to you. Or you’re just gonna get friend zoned. “He’s a good guy but…it’s just not there” is what she’s gonna say every single time. She craves the bad boy.
@@nickp3949being real gives u the edges.
there is no one saying u cant be both
Couldn't have said better myself
I dont have ducks to put in row. I have squirrels. And they're at a rave party.
imagine the world if Julien post 2 videos a week :)
New video every 5 days... 👌
Love Julien videos🎉
Thank you! Glad they resonate! 🙏
@@JulienHimself they always do💪
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I have so much to hide though. I think I'm in the wrong class here.
man fucking saddens me to see the responses to "vulnerability" in the first 50 sec, how much did they pay to join haha, I was thinking positive things about vulnerability, but their not incorrect cause it is still technically what they or others associate with vulnerability
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Julien is the type of guy who goes shopping and says:
Give me the most bs and goofy outfit so i can stand out.
In a world without Strauss or mistery he would wear a fidora with black fingernails for sure.
Jedi lecture talking about shame within haha
Needed this
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When I watched this I thought of this movie quote….
Mr. Furious : Okay, am I the only one who finds these sayings just a little bit formulaic? "If you want to push something down, you have to pull it up. If you want to go left, you have to go right." It's...
The Sphinx : Your temper is very quick, my friend. But until you learn to master your rage...
Mr. Furious : ...your rage will become your master? That's what you were going to say. Right? Right?
The Sphinx : Not necessarily.
What movie? Lol
A fool vents all his feeling, but a wise man holds them back. Proverbs 29:11
Is anybody else facing the issue of not being able to see Julien's videos in their feed? 🤔
RSD legends 🍺🍺🍺
Yohhhh here is Julien
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Did you see you were on the h3 podcast?
Nope… However from what I’ve seen that podcast is all about tearing people down, so it probably wasn’t a positive mention! 😂
Three false god:
1. Approval
2. Control
3. Safety/security
You have to come to Indonesia Bali
Why is he wearing sunglasses? Does he not want people to make eye contact while he's telling these important things?
Vulnerable = Strength
Yes! 👊
I just can't stop the feeling of cringe when singing next to someone, is it really that awkward
Why? 🤔
@@JulienHimself probably fear of judgment
@@lilalto2036not probably. thats similar to saying idk, which he says you shouldnt do. be as concrete and honest with yourself as you can and keep asking why
You need to write a book
Next year! 👌
I need to learn how to not be magnetic
hi Julien ❤
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Cool jacket. 😎
Thanks! 🕺🕺
So many gold nuggets.
Thanks! Glad this video spoke to you!
You are cool my dude
Interesting.
Listening to this guy makes me feel anxious and inferior
What about this video specifically made you feel this way? The whole message is how unified and connected we actually all are.
I understand the message. I have. Tried counselling, life coaching and alternative spiritual stuff and the practitioners sound similar to what you are saying. It always makes me feel worse. Like I'm not good enough to be in their presence or that they look down on me for not understanding myself
@@dunc71something absolutely perfect to let go.
@@dunc71 listen to Ralph Smart, I recommend. See if he's able to help
@@G7x433 thing is I don't have these feelings towards myself, I think I'm great. It's always coming from other people
Great
I spend my life putting on a front and being fake out of fear that is unconscious .
What the fook is he wearing lmao.
Anything unconventional helps u learn more
I want to be like you
Well you Should want to be like YOU
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@@JulienHimself thanks Julien, but what do you think. I think you should be only vulnerable with people you trust because others dont care. But also even if you are vulnerable with random people wouldnt that sometimes be annoying to them because then I just talk, overshare and just be a little annoying with my opinions.
Julien my guy....there is no "hack" in life
Letting go is the craziest hack ever. Changed my life in one year for ever. Been reading and trying stuff for the results for 6 years and nothing helped me.
this guy is projecting hard af lol
I'm unsubscribing get straight to the point bro!