Why You Shouldn’t Get Back with Your Baby mom

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  • @OrdinaryToExtraordinary1
    @OrdinaryToExtraordinary1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Bro me and my bm started when we was 18 .. 4 months after high school I was homeless and couch hopping because we would get into fights at my moms house , my brothers and my dads.. and I still stayed with the bitch. I slept outside , in garages and couches because I didn’t wanna let this go. Now I’m 22we have 2 babies together and worse than ever. BUT I just got outta jail because back when we was homeless with no kids we caught a case because we stole from target cuz we was homeless. Got a warrant 2 years later and go locked up . Well anyways I got out and now I am doing better with my life at least I live in a studio trying to get a 2 bed apt. For me n my kids . But I gotta stop fw my bm . And that’s why I’m finna binge your page cuz ANYTHING you can think of that a sour bm could do . SHE HAS DONE. So I’m DONE

    • @OrdinaryToExtraordinary1
      @OrdinaryToExtraordinary1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Update I got the apartment lol

    • @colinwall8804
      @colinwall8804 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@OrdinaryToExtraordinary1praying for ya brotha stay up 💯✊🏽

    • @kingglo3798
      @kingglo3798 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Bro our story is so similar! But I turned my BM down and worked on my self bro that’s the greatest thing I ever did. I was couching hopping ! Her and her mom called me homeless and I lived with different people ( family members ) my older brother gave me a real talk and told me get my shit together I seen him making 6 figures. And started doing the same and never looked back !!! Best advice to you is keep going leave that mf she’s going to come back they always do !

  • @eddiembugua8995
    @eddiembugua8995 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Going through this, this shit hurts bad but I'll turn the negativity into Success. Word#

    • @djrickygaz
      @djrickygaz หลายเดือนก่อน

      Keep your head up whatever you do do not destroy yourself. Stay focused and become a successful man. It’s been six years and I’m still not over her because I see her in my kids faces and mannerisms everyday. It sucks but I push through the bs and move forward

  • @fvhellcat1060
    @fvhellcat1060 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    This is all facts. My baby mama didn’t know who the dad was to our child and she randomly reached out when she was born, took a dna test and long story short I have majority custody of our daughter. Had to cut ties with my ex after 2 years of her stepping out of the relationship(lots of drama). Now I’m happy single and working hard for my daughter.

  • @daltonschave2732
    @daltonschave2732 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Mannn 13 yrs. Dude is preaching facts! You'll accept a lot you shouldn't have to accept. I'm still struggling. Leave these girls for the streets. Dedicate to a woman that can make a house a home.

  • @530horses9
    @530horses9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is making me feel a ton better than i did 1 hour ago.

  • @AmericanVices
    @AmericanVices 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    baby mama drama is my worst fear. i plan on adopting children and living the stress free life

  • @cardough550
    @cardough550 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You was talking that Cash Shittttt, Stating Nothing but Facts 😮‍💨😮‍💨
    OnGod 🙏🏽🙏🏽😮‍💨😮‍💨

  • @TreLambo
    @TreLambo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You gave him some good game bro!

  • @AriShah
    @AriShah 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great video man. Can’t imagine a kid at 19. I had 2 at 26. I agree with you 100%.
    Woman only want you when you’re a winner.

  • @JoyKaramel
    @JoyKaramel 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Im a woman and this is💯

  • @EricBCalhoun
    @EricBCalhoun 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Get a second baby mother, problem solved. Neither of them will have any leverage over you. That’s what you’re supposed to do anyways, conquer and procreate.

    • @BobBuilder-mq9wr
      @BobBuilder-mq9wr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Kings of the pasr had no idea how many kids that had . Good take on it all

    • @ADayInTheLifeOfJames
      @ADayInTheLifeOfJames 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sounds like kicking your toe on a coffee table then buying another one just to kick it again 🤔

  • @AcapellaNutella6
    @AcapellaNutella6 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You are my new mentor. I am 45 going thru my one and only divorce after a little over 9 years. 3 young boys, 10, 6, and 3. This is the realest, most relevant content I have seen on youtube. You deserve way more subs.

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you bro I’m glad I can offer value

  • @Objectivestanceonlysike
    @Objectivestanceonlysike 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thankyou man!

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No problem! Bro

  • @zaymusic6796
    @zaymusic6796 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Facts I was wit my bm 3 years we was on a break but was working on our relationship she let a married man clap her cheeks and throwed it in my face now she mad I got a new girl and a new kid always playing on my phone texting my girl crazy stuff seem like she’s jealous too it be funny how the tables turn I was round here crying wanting to off my self now it’s on the other foot I be lmao she thought the grass was greener on the other side man ain’t leave his wife for her smh

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Braaaa that’s hilarious but the tables always turn

  • @EastHumbled
    @EastHumbled 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Keep it up bro 💯💪🏾

  • @LunaDaSavage
    @LunaDaSavage 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Damn bro spat out straight fire 🔥
    Subbed.

  • @JPPRESSUREWASHING
    @JPPRESSUREWASHING 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    bro 2:44 WAS UNHINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGED🤣🤣🤣

    • @rapelangm.8258
      @rapelangm.8258 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Listen !!!

    • @LovelyMie
      @LovelyMie หลายเดือนก่อน

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @kyysofyee
    @kyysofyee 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    As a young 20 year old single father your channel really helping me and inspiring me and giving me hope i appreciate you 💯❤️

    • @jayo3074
      @jayo3074 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Make sure you stay in your kids life bro. I was in the same situation as you so I know what you going through

  • @dirkdiggler2695
    @dirkdiggler2695 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My baby mama left me and our 2 kids after 15 years together. She ask for them only on holidays like Thanksgiving or Christmas, barley been in their life this past year. Kids seem fine with it though, They never ask me why mom is gone or why things are different?

  • @trinityv162
    @trinityv162 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so true and you guys might not believe me, but I give myself a lot of credit for not being one of those baby mamas that doesn’t give space to the baby father when he needs it when he tells me I’m pressuring him I backtrack and basically like slow down Because at the end of the day, we both have our own issues and we’re both going through a lot and a lot of times his issue is that he makes everything about him not considering what I’m dealing with. But at the end of the day, I never take his son away for him. And he appreciates me for that because he has two girls before my son that their mom took them away from him, even though he doesn’t really try to be in their life in my son life. He loves him so much. And I always tell him to our son meet him like you said in the video about the masculine energy that’s something I cannot give my son. I might love him care for him, but I am not a man and I don’t know how to give that to my son.

  • @ADayInTheLifeOfJames
    @ADayInTheLifeOfJames 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Personal comment bro but may I ask when you finally moved on & she found out you were seeing someone else how did that switch her up. Do they start behaving or does it get worse. LSS I left her years ago as she wasn’t treating me right, unappreciative etc after my sons birth; then tried hard to get her back but I was just being used as she thought grass would be greener… my boundaries up now stopped letting her hang-out when she wants friendzoning me last 6 months & accepting she didn’t want me back now it’s time to reveal I’m seeing someone new right thing to do as new girl will be meeting my son.

  • @sadiranybreez
    @sadiranybreez 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Lol @ 2:44

  • @bigham2xx4L
    @bigham2xx4L 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    FASHO BRO! ian even tryna leave but just seek a better solution... staying AINT it.

  • @jevonjames3241
    @jevonjames3241 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    How can you say without a father these kids will fall through the cracks and then say no don't chase her?

    • @DivinevirgoFeminine
      @DivinevirgoFeminine 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is half the problem no one knows how to work together or own their own faults. So sad.

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Being her man & being a father are two different things bro

    • @jevonjames3241
      @jevonjames3241 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @Swain_ nah co parenting is just as bad. She ends up getting a stepfather who touches her kids and somehow she sides with him. It's just messy...

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      U have a good point

    • @DivinevirgoFeminine
      @DivinevirgoFeminine 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@jevonjames3241 that reason is exactly why only my kids father will be around them. On my soul I will do everything in my power to make sure I do my part so we can work things out. What you just said is my whole fear and why I will not let other men around my kids.

  • @StefsFrameOfReference
    @StefsFrameOfReference 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This cannot be solid advice for every man. This is two situational, and every relationship is different. The advice that you’re giving here is misleading a lot of men who may have mistreated their children’s mother should be.

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well this advice only apply to the men in this situation

    • @trinityv162
      @trinityv162 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@StefsFrameOfReference yes I get disrespected from my sons father all the time and all I can do is tell his mom because I know she got it. Literally anything I say is useless so I stay quiet

  • @tehjboney4249
    @tehjboney4249 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I mean the best thing we can do as men is just do what we should do as men,
    As fathers is to be a father to our children but in terms of a relationship thats a choice in the end of the day but not just a choice made on you its a choice made in general.
    Me and the woman I was with were together for a bit the problem was that I didnt pay attention to the signs that I was a rebound and that plays with your mindset and how you look at yourself in the mirror come to find out she sent her Mom's boyfriend to tell me that she was pregnant and now she is 20 weeks pregnant.

  • @Sirdrewzee
    @Sirdrewzee 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I dont even have a kid, and i agree with you

  • @abdulrahim8446
    @abdulrahim8446 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    King beard🙏🏾💪🏽

  • @woleolaoye7251
    @woleolaoye7251 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bro please how do Dm you.

  • @alwaysaccurate8725
    @alwaysaccurate8725 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Any chick who hold ur kid hostage is not worth it!! Walk away

  • @IAMZACK369
    @IAMZACK369 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @EricBCalhoun
    @EricBCalhoun 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    First email. Dude, that’s your kid, she can’t just keep you from him…😅

  • @Xxiii__
    @Xxiii__ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    These help

  • @tomcarter9580
    @tomcarter9580 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dont play with ya booboo. Leave it where you left it.

  • @William-pm5kr
    @William-pm5kr 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    my baby mama russian and crazy …..never again

    • @Gvijinfilms
      @Gvijinfilms 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      SAME WTF

  • @XLBVP
    @XLBVP 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    🦾

  • @Matt-nf9my
    @Matt-nf9my 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is the most fact video I said facts about 12 times bro

  • @justicevibes1252
    @justicevibes1252 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Why are single moms told to go back to their child's father?

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It’s usually their best option and it’s. Better for the children

    • @trinityv162
      @trinityv162 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Swain_ yes but how do I do that when his father is so ignorant and just wants to live his life? I’m not gonna lie he is trying to change his ways for our son. But all I can do is focus on myself. His family wants us to get married in the future and believe we will find our way back to eachother again but I don’t see it. When we argue he always says “that’s why we’re not together” or “ I’m never getting back with you”. And then some people just tell me to just keep focusing on me and then he’ll realize one day that I’m the right person for him, but I don’t even know if he deserved me anymore.

    • @justicevibes1252
      @justicevibes1252 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Swain_ What if the father abandons his child and ignores the mother of his child? What is the single mother supposed to do? It doesn't make sense.

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@trinityv162 he has to love his life how else’s is he going to leave a legacy he has to get out and conquer the world

    • @robertmarley8852
      @robertmarley8852 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are you willing to commit

  • @sweezy9667
    @sweezy9667 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Whats your email bro

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Jaimcswain@yahoo.com

  • @beautifulinterlude7044
    @beautifulinterlude7044 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    You're speaking from a place of hurt and giving out bad advice. I heard no viable solutions being offered. Not once did you advise this young man to use his resources to go through the legal system to obtain a custody agreement for his child. That's how you do it when dealing with an emotionally immature parent using the child as a pawn ….point blank period…being together and not seeing the child doesn't have to be seen so mutually exclusive. You instead focused on the power struggles between a man and a woman in a toxic connection. Cucking? Encouraging him to date younger as a solution? Telling him a man could raise a child better than a woman? Yikes on a bike….

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That’s what my channel is about dealing with the emotional struggles of society reality and dating. I dnt give legal advice I’m not a lawyer or a legal professional. I appreciate the views 😎

    • @beautifulinterlude7044
      @beautifulinterlude7044 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Swain_ you're also not a therapist, counselor or life coach yet here you are acting in that capacity and offering unqualified advice to impressionable young men😅 Do better

    • @Swain_
      @Swain_  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Never claimed to be we as content creators dnt decide who we are the viewers do. If men feel comfortable enough to ask for my advice then obviously they find value in my content. Nobody likes the truth and you are probably the type of women i discuss on this channel which is probably touching a nerve either way you still watching my content thank you

    • @scitec6166
      @scitec6166 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Your right I was thinking that the dude should go down legal route, I know a dude who got 50/50 custody agreement, but know another dude who's spent 20k in and still ain't seen his children for over a year but he still fighting it

    • @prettyandfun7777
      @prettyandfun7777 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes this screams bad advice and screaming frm a place of hurt...first of all as a man why did you all reached yu highest potential before getting her preggo??!!! Why get ass and not put a ring on it!??? Secondly some women do all those attics cuz they hurt and want the family together I bee there done that ...how can another women make you as A man happy if she see most man aka a baby daddy a red flag?! Wat yall gonna be players till yall age 90 ??! A wise man once told me if u laid with her and she had your baby why u scared to make her a honest women aka put a ring and keep the ring together!!

  • @DanielAcostadaca661
    @DanielAcostadaca661 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    oyeee TO MI😊 WORTH-IT MY TESTIMONY bruh LEGEND(.WW.) YES IT'S WORTH-IT YADA-I-MEAN, REACHING FULL POTENTIAL 🙏 BECAUSE OF HER❤