Finally a real woman telling it the way it really is. This is the real deal! I appreciate your transparency and honesty. I can totally relate. You are beautiful.
I was about to wash my hair when this popped up and I sat back down! I've just accepted that you cannot do everything. Especially with scrolling on social media, and I just scroll through TH-cam! It is a deadly time suck; reading is great but after watching content, there's no time, there are other things that need to be done. Just pick the things that are most important and keep it moving!
Someone told me, you can have everything but not everything at once. This resonated with me to where I can decide with this season of my life with a 19 month old, wife duties, friendships to maintain, and career, what are the few things I need to prioritize in this season. Little by little you can move forward with your goals but maybe not all at once.
Reflect on your own words…stay encouraged and enjoy your time with your family. You are not alone and we all have to learn how to make some time for ourselves. For instance, I get up (very quietly 😅) early to enjoy me a cup of coffee by myself… hang in there 🥰
I always say, single people are the busiest people (1st being a single parent). When you have to do EVERYTHING (and stressing about being the only source of income) on your own it is very exhausting 😑
This video came at the right time for me, i've been lazy with my routine, more specific with style. I started washing and going in 2020 watching your videos and since then it's the only style I've been doing and over time the routine was simplified because it got tiring, work and college take up a lot of my time. And I've been focusing lately on prioritizing the washing routine. Style? it took a back seat. If I have a mood, I do a wash and go if I don't wear my afro hair. For me the important thing is to keep the hair healthy without focusing on the PERFECT style.
I raised 3 Daughter's. Had 2 that are close in age. I don't remember having issues because my Husband & I were/are a TEAM. I really don't know what it is to struggle with children. I always knew it is hard work & I've always been up to the challenge. Perfection comes Naturally for some. Even lazy days are good days & I have lots of lazy days 😊.
Were you a staying home mom? My husband and I have 2 kids. We don’t have any money issues at all but the stress is very much present. Very hard to juggle between work and kids education ( school, tutoring, sports etc..).
@@Anonyme67 I wasn't a stay at home Mother. Very few Bw have that luxury & I wasn't one of them. My point is whether you're a stay at home Mother or not, Raising children is pure work. Be ready for the challenge.....
If you have multiple things to do, the only way to survive is to learn to prioritize and delegate. If you have a support system, prioritize what you can do, and ask for help for the things you wont get a chance to do. For an example - you can still be a great mom and work on your career. Have the father step up and do more to help with kid(s) - women didnt make them on their own. After work, it's his turn since mom had them all day. Have grand parents, aunts, uncles to help. That way you have time for your self/ tocus on other priorities If you dont have a support system- hire people to step in and help (if youre financially stable) once in a while to give a break/focus on other priorities. Mental health should always be is top priority. Being tired all the time is not mentally healthy.
Girl you are fine. We all get into this thing called life. Live your life for you and your family and remember we are all going through it one way or the other. Do what you can and forget the rest. It’s always tomorrow. I take it a day at a time.❤ love you 😘
Sis this video is the truth! I started just washing and conditioning in my twists a months ago. Then I detangle, remoisturize, and put them back in twists. I wear head wraps most the time so it works for me, and I'm finally retaining length 😳
Awww Jenn thanks so much for the video!!! I’m not a mother but as a woman that aspires to be a mother one day, I really love the authenticity of how life as a mother is (in relation to taking care of yourself). I’ve realized that as I’ve been getting older, my wash days are becoming my “peace of mind days” because it really does make me feel stress free but the fear it gives me before washing it, is what makes me prolong it. All this to say, life be life-ing, so in those small moments when you can just say “at least I did something today and I’m so thankful for that” than that’s better than not being able to anything at all.
I’m sorry that you feel you are drowning. Motherhood is the hardest job but the most rewarding. Slow down, breathe, and know you can only do what you can do. It will get easier as your baby girl grows older. My baby is no longer a baby but a young adult now, soon to be 24. Whew, it’s been a journey. 🥰
10-step skin care routine because of wrinkles, Jenn? I'm just gonna assume it's 'a figure of speech'. I'm turning 39 in less than a month, I cleanse, wear a mask once a week and moisturise, that's it. The thing I worry the most about is my spiritual growth, others I have little to no control over, by the grace of God, bills are taken care of monthly. I have a husband and two kids (11 & 6) most of the things I used to worry about seem to be distant when I look at my rear view mirror, I guess it comes with aging, needless to say, sometimes I just marvel at the confidence God stirs in me. You will be fine with time, Mommy, btw my 6 yo has 3 years 4C, mine is almost 2 years.
Jen, you are a true worry wart. Stop sweating the small steps and just live. Enjoy your family - wrinkles must come, hair will break but life goes on until it goes on no more. There are people in this world (and I'm sure you know some) who can't even afford a good bottle of shampoo. Just keeping it real.
I agree I am unmotivated to do my hair like the idea of doing it every week is annoying… but i need to wash it def on the weeks i workout 5x.. if i dont workout i give myself a pass on washing that week lmao…i can wash my hair but the styling it is so annoying. I dont even do the conscious beauty anymore because it is too much. I feel like my parents didn’t warn me that adulting would be this hard or a lot.. like i was in a rush to be an adult now im like nvm can i be a teenager…
Ok for all the moms. No I am not a mom but this is just how I feel I can give yall some tips to make your life’s easier. Lotioning after the shower. I KNOW. Annoying. Try in shower lotion. Doing ur hair after the shower and moisturizing? Try putting your leave in moisturizer on in the shower. Baby is crying while you’re doing chores? Try having them on u while u clean tied to your back or in a chair that vibrates them to sleep.
People create that pressure on them because they focus on what people think instead of what makes them comfortable and happy. I wear my hair frizzy in ugly twists and I couldn’t care less about what people think.
It goes deeper than appearance so I wouldn't say we always create the pressure on ourselves. For example, I worry about becoming the best version of myself for my child and family or living in my purpose etc, all of which has nothing to do with appearance. Worrying isn't necessarily a bad thing although how we deal with that worry can be. It's just our bodies letting us know what matters most to us. I recently learned that and it gave me a new perspective so I'd thought I'd share. .
I would say we have to pay for our village nowadays. I use babysitters when I can, cleaners, catering to get large batches of food, whatever it takes to reduce my load!
@JennJackson It still takes a village. We have to create our villages. Develop friendships and supportive relationships with other women who are caring for their babies and children. Take turns babysitting while someone else runs errands or attends maintenance and doctors appointments. Set up play, park, and library dates to break up the monotony of the day. Ask for and hire help when needed, if you can afford it. Yes, it's hard to trust people, but we have to find somebody we can trust if we want help. If you don't trust anyone with your baby, then get help with laundry, cooking and cleaning and running errands. You can also get part-rime help... someone to sit with the baby for a few hours a day while you take care of your body/haircare and handle daily business tasks, like answering emails, joining meetings and making calls, and filming and editing. This way, you're getting things done while still being present to keep a watchful eye on your baby. I hope these suggestions help. Hang in there! Love & Hugs❤
I didn't hear about your husband in this video. Are you still married? If so, are you able to split duties with him? I thought having a partner would help. Its interesting that you have the same complaints as me, a single mother.
I'm not doing anything out: no bantu knots out, braid outs or twist outs. It's just two strands twists sometimes put into bantu knots. And i wash them once every forthnight or once a month. Refresh with a tea that has glycerine in it once to twice every week. I cannot come and kee myself and come and go and die.
Finally a real woman telling it the way it really is. This is the real deal! I appreciate your transparency and honesty. I can totally relate. You are beautiful.
Thanks for watching
Is it me or has Jenn just been killing her content? Especially in the last year... Love watching her videos
Thank you Leah - I appreciate it ❤️
I was about to wash my hair when this popped up and I sat back down!
I've just accepted that you cannot do everything. Especially with scrolling on social media, and I just scroll through TH-cam! It is a deadly time suck; reading is great but after watching content, there's no time, there are other things that need to be done. Just pick the things that are most important and keep it moving!
Someone told me, you can have everything but not everything at once. This resonated with me to where I can decide with this season of my life with a 19 month old, wife duties, friendships to maintain, and career, what are the few things I need to prioritize in this season. Little by little you can move forward with your goals but maybe not all at once.
Reflect on your own words…stay encouraged and enjoy your time with your family. You are not alone and we all have to learn how to make some time for ourselves. For instance, I get up (very quietly 😅) early to enjoy me a cup of coffee by myself… hang in there 🥰
I may be showing my age but the way your voice over was structured and delivered gave me Carrie Bradshaw vibes. Perfect delivery ❤🇬🇧🇬🇭
Girl, I feel like I don’t want to be bothered everyday and my kid is an adult 😂😂😂😂
😂😂 so true lol…but I love them ❤😂
Lmaoooooooo
Tbh i love the vulnerability it’s refreshing
You got this ♥️
Thanks for watching
I have no children or husband to take care of & I'm still too tired 😭😭😭😭
I always say, single people are the busiest people (1st being a single parent). When you have to do EVERYTHING (and stressing about being the only source of income) on your own it is very exhausting 😑
🤗@@apara2005
This video came at the right time for me, i've been lazy with my routine, more specific with style.
I started washing and going in 2020 watching your videos and since then it's the only style I've been doing and over time the routine was simplified because it got tiring, work and college take up a lot of my time.
And I've been focusing lately on prioritizing the washing routine. Style? it took a back seat. If I have a mood, I do a wash and go if I don't wear my afro hair. For me the important thing is to keep the hair healthy without focusing on the PERFECT style.
This year is my protective hairstyle era because some of my goals require more time from me.
It’s about to be mine too 😴😅
Mine too!
I raised 3 Daughter's. Had 2 that are close in age. I don't remember having issues because my Husband & I were/are a TEAM. I really don't know what it is to struggle with children. I always knew it is hard work & I've always been up to the challenge.
Perfection comes Naturally for some. Even lazy days are good days & I have lots of lazy days 😊.
Were you a staying home mom? My husband and I have 2 kids. We don’t have any money issues at all but the stress is very much present. Very hard to juggle between work and kids education ( school, tutoring, sports etc..).
@@Anonyme67 I wasn't a stay at home Mother. Very few Bw have that luxury & I wasn't one of them. My point is whether you're a stay at home Mother or not, Raising children is pure work. Be ready for the challenge.....
What a perfect reminder to take the pressure off! Thanks & yes about to have a lazy but lovely wash day. 😊
If you have multiple things to do, the only way to survive is to learn to prioritize and delegate. If you have a support system, prioritize what you can do, and ask for help for the things you wont get a chance to do. For an example - you can still be a great mom and work on your career. Have the father step up and do more to help with kid(s) - women didnt make them on their own. After work, it's his turn since mom had them all day. Have grand parents, aunts, uncles to help. That way you have time for your self/ tocus on other priorities
If you dont have a support system- hire people to step in and help (if youre financially stable) once in a while to give a break/focus on other priorities. Mental health should always be is top priority. Being tired all the time is not mentally healthy.
🤗🥰💞🙏🤎 Thank you. Needed this as I get up the courage to go do mine right now. Blessings and peace to you.
I appreciate your honesty. Love to watch your channel!
I appreciate that!
Girl you are fine. We all get into this thing called life. Live your life for you and your family and remember we are all going through it one way or the other. Do what you can and forget the rest. It’s always tomorrow. I take it a day at a time.❤ love you 😘
Sis this video is the truth! I started just washing and conditioning in my twists a months ago. Then I detangle, remoisturize, and put them back in twists. I wear head wraps most the time so it works for me, and I'm finally retaining length 😳
Awww Jenn thanks so much for the video!!! I’m not a mother but as a woman that aspires to be a mother one day, I really love the authenticity of how life as a mother is (in relation to taking care of yourself). I’ve realized that as I’ve been getting older, my wash days are becoming my “peace of mind days” because it really does make me feel stress free but the fear it gives me before washing it, is what makes me prolong it. All this to say, life be life-ing, so in those small moments when you can just say “at least I did something today and I’m so thankful for that” than that’s better than not being able to anything at all.
I’m sorry that you feel you are drowning. Motherhood is the hardest job but the most rewarding. Slow down, breathe, and know you can only do what you can do. It will get easier as your baby girl grows older. My baby is no longer a baby but a young adult now, soon to be 24. Whew, it’s been a journey. 🥰
This definitely hit home, I feel so seen. These are important questions to be asking ourselves! Thanks for sharing them with us!
It's sooooooooo much 🫨🫨🫨🫨. My son is 5, and I still feel like I'm drowning every day 😪 .
I feel you girl - sending love your way
@@JennJackson back at ya. This video is appreciated 💖
Great video
You’ve got this Jen👍🏾👏🏾☀️💕!
Hi! Omg! I feel this video was made just for me. This is my mode today...lol
Thank you for this. It was very much needed. You are seen!
Hi girl nice hair,where do I find that white brush
Thank you! I am in that stage right now. ❤
And you got this. Take it a day at a time x
10-step skin care routine because of wrinkles, Jenn? I'm just gonna assume it's 'a figure of speech'.
I'm turning 39 in less than a month, I cleanse, wear a mask once a week and moisturise, that's it. The thing I worry the most about is my spiritual growth, others I have little to no control over, by the grace of God, bills are taken care of monthly.
I have a husband and two kids (11 & 6) most of the things I used to worry about seem to be distant when I look at my rear view mirror, I guess it comes with aging, needless to say, sometimes I just marvel at the confidence God stirs in me.
You will be fine with time, Mommy, btw my 6 yo has 3 years 4C, mine is almost 2 years.
Jen, you are a true worry wart. Stop sweating the small steps and just live. Enjoy your family - wrinkles must come, hair will break but life goes on until it goes on no more. There are people in this world (and I'm sure you know some) who can't even afford a good bottle of shampoo. Just keeping it real.
Beautifully said. Thank you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I get it Jenn J .. 🥰💙.. thank you 🫶🏽
Great content.
One thing I will say Jen is that was the perfect wash lol
👍🏽🥰! YOU’VE GOT THIS❤
I agree I am unmotivated to do my hair like the idea of doing it every week is annoying… but i need to wash it def on the weeks i workout 5x.. if i dont workout i give myself a pass on washing that week lmao…i can wash my hair but the styling it is so annoying. I dont even do the conscious beauty anymore because it is too much. I feel like my parents didn’t warn me that adulting would be this hard or a lot.. like i was in a rush to be an adult now im like nvm can i be a teenager…
It's hard work being a woman. But hang in there sis. God bless you
You really need a podcast.
Shrinkage is crazy
I noticed she's not detangling from the roots!? Should we not detangle our roots? 🙂 I can't hear the sound so if it's explained, sorry!
I detangle from tips and work my way to the roots to prevent breakage. It’s also a lot gentler for my hair.
Ah, gotcha! I do the same but I may have missed when it showed you detangling the roots, that's why I was curious
Ok for all the moms. No I am not a mom but this is just how I feel I can give yall some tips to make your life’s easier. Lotioning after the shower. I KNOW. Annoying. Try in shower lotion. Doing ur hair after the shower and moisturizing? Try putting your leave in moisturizer on in the shower. Baby is crying while you’re doing chores? Try having them on u while u clean tied to your back or in a chair that vibrates them to sleep.
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People create that pressure on them because they focus on what people think instead of what makes them comfortable and happy. I wear my hair frizzy in ugly twists and I couldn’t care less about what people think.
It goes deeper than appearance so I wouldn't say we always create the pressure on ourselves. For example, I worry about becoming the best version of myself for my child and family or living in my purpose etc, all of which has nothing to do with appearance. Worrying isn't necessarily a bad thing although how we deal with that worry can be. It's just our bodies letting us know what matters most to us. I recently learned that and it gave me a new perspective so I'd thought I'd share. .
Beautiful Soul...💜TFS
Remember, it takes a village
It used to take a village. Over half of us don’t have a village in this day and age
That is true.
I would say we have to pay for our village nowadays. I use babysitters when I can, cleaners, catering to get large batches of food, whatever it takes to reduce my load!
@@dream704 couldn’t agree more
@JennJackson It still takes a village. We have to create our villages. Develop friendships and supportive relationships with other women who are caring for their babies and children. Take turns babysitting while someone else runs errands or attends maintenance and doctors appointments. Set up play, park, and library dates to break up the monotony of the day. Ask for and hire help when needed, if you can afford it. Yes, it's hard to trust people, but we have to find somebody we can trust if we want help.
If you don't trust anyone with your baby, then get help with laundry, cooking and cleaning and running errands. You can also get part-rime help... someone to sit with the baby for a few hours a day while you take care of your body/haircare and handle daily business tasks, like answering emails, joining meetings and making calls, and filming and editing. This way, you're getting things done while still being present to keep a watchful eye on your baby. I hope these suggestions help. Hang in there! Love & Hugs❤
First!
I clicked on this vid so fast
I appreciate you
Maybe you need a social media / content creation break for a full month.
Great idea. And maybe on a regular basis. Maybe a few days per month, so she can look forward to short breaks and avoid getting overwhelmed.
I didn't hear about your husband in this video. Are you still married? If so, are you able to split duties with him? I thought having a partner would help. Its interesting that you have the same complaints as me, a single mother.
She mentionned having enough time to be a wife
I'm not doing anything out: no bantu knots out, braid outs or twist outs. It's just two strands twists sometimes put into bantu knots. And i wash them once every forthnight or once a month. Refresh with a tea that has glycerine in it once to twice every week. I cannot come and kee myself and come and go and die.
😂
The first part of this comment it too funny lol. But the last part I dont understand. Is there typos there? Thanks.