Attracting your crush is (a lot) easier than you think…
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- How to actually start talking to the people you like (without being awkward)
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Next time, when you feel awkward or fear rejection, remember that in the grand scheme of things, none of these interactions matter. Embrace the absurdity and let social anxiety fade away.
100%, should have mentioned this in the video to be honest, we’re all gonna be dead one day so who really cares 😂
I thought the same thing one day and now I never feel scared of anything. People really need to realise that most things you think matter really just don't. So if you embarrass yourself what's the big deal? You're still alive and well so why care so much if you messed up once?
Idky but this seems easier said than done (no offense) but when you try it out irl it's just that most people still hesitate.......
I actually commented NGAFAD on one of your videos before, this stands for „Nobody gives a fuck all die.” Try it, good shit.
I mean, we'll die and be in heaven together one day, so yeah, I'm gonna be a little worried, because in the grand scheme of things, God's in control
Getting used to failure and being rejected is the gateway to fearlessness and therefore winning
100% bro, it’s the same in life as well, not just with dating 👊
@@JakPiggott yeah I meant that in every aspect of life 😁
It's not that I'm afraid of rejection, it's that I dont want to want them and yet I still do 😭
This dude is probably the realest person you’ll ever see online lol. Everyone is fake as hell online
@DirectorDelta damn, you got a point, instead of being yourself you are forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. Basically comparing yourself to the better, more confident version of yourself that doesn’t exist
for real. and in sucks.
because almost nobody likes their real self its kinda sad
True
So real
Im 18, as you are, and you are very mature for our age, it's really hard finding someone who speaks like you in any kind of age gap, let alone ours,
Keep going mate
Damn I’m 19, hes more mature than me
Thank you my brother, words like this mean for to me than you think 🤞❤️
@@JakPiggott 🫶
I'm 18 too and I feel like this guy makes his points really clear and he talks in a really easy going and calm tone and I wish we could have more people our age that are mature like him
18 year old community💪🏼💪🏼
Thanks Jak,I was able to talk to my crush and ask her out.She said yes!
W man! Good luck with her!
W's lmao
W bruh
Yes sir, this man. This man is the chosen one.
W mans
0:15 Jak tryna date the local neighborhood cats be like:
Haha yessir you know me 👊
HOW DARE YOU DATE CATS?!?!?!?!?@@JakPiggott
Without me?😏🤙
@@BlaxkEdits damn he left both of us
Every single time this guy uploads a new video, my heart feels so warm.
❤❤facts he is a life saver
🤝❤️
This had surprisingly interesting timing for me
So damn real
Same dude
Why?
Same
I've prayed to not be as awkward in conversations recently
I've never able to talk to anyone very well. Thanks for the tips, you advice is great! My most embarrassing conversation start was: "Have you seen any of the one foot crows?"
Whats even a one foot crow
@@Sonicwavejumpscaresa crow with one foot
We are interested tell us about one foot crows.
Yes.
@@elizadion4410agreed
This guy really changed my life I wouldn’t be here without you I would have no girlfriend no job or more thank you I hope you have a amazing day
Don’t give me to much credit man, give yourself the most, you’re the reason you are where you are ❤️
The part about talking for a conversation rather than purely for validation is so powerful. Changing your mindset and shifting your focus in what you do and why really is the key to understanding yourself and building confidence.
Much love Jak and to the rest of the community ❤
Yeah it’s a game changer bro, perspective is everything. I learnt that from sport, the more nervous I was the worse I’d play. And when I shifted my perspective from having to play well to just having fun I ended up playing better, crazy
@@JakPiggott That's pretty awesome, I'm so happy for you 😊
She said no and always thought of me as a best friend
LMAOOOOO. No offense tho
@@itspegasus8785 I took no offense but how is it funny?
you didnt fail.... you won.
you were the best in someones eyes. thats a good relationship.
you may not be in a love relationship but a relationship that you can trust in with good foundations nonetheless.
Happy for you brother.
@@GalArcT1c thanks
Bro you did it and will only get stronger 💪🏻
One thing that i have learned when trying to approach women is that the more you do it the more uncomfortable you get overtime the fear of embarrassment goes away. You never learn if you stay in you’re comfort zone.
Much love Jak love the content 👊❤️
I find it pretty sad that men have to practice talking to women, like we’re some prize, instead of just another human being
@@emma6648a prize? Who said that. And this video is for all genders. Don't act like women don't do this either. One bad apple doesn't ruin the bunch. They didn't objectify women anywhere in their comment. It's sad that your here and commenting these bad takes on this video.
100% brother 🙌❤️
@@emma6648it’s not that there valuing you as a prize we have to practice because of our anxiety and we get nervous too. Think of it like there so special to us that we want to have the best possible conversation with them that we can.
I talked to a girl I liked a few months ago and actually got her number, what’s crazy is the interaction was nothing like what I had imagined in my head and was a lot smoother and faster than my anxiety was telling me it would. She turned out to be lesbian but I’m still glad I took my shot :)
Dang, nice! Even if it didn't turn out exactly as you thought out it still gives so much confidence for you in the future
Lol have you heard of Pink Triangle by Weezer
wait how did that exact thing also happen to me
W rizz
Nice brother ❤ even though it didn’t work out you should be proud that you put yourself out there and learned something about yourself and your values
As a woman I have to thank you immensely, you’re out here giving genuine advice for self-improvement and wellbeing for young men, not the unrealistic and misogynistic nonsense that Tate spews like Venom to vulnerable people, thank you for your kind words
Honestly loved the video. Also a good tip that I have learned is that as a man we should have experience being a friend with a girl before we try to date her. For example I know a guy that was only a friend with one girl and he married her. But that was the worst decision of his life because he only found out after they got married that she was mean and not kind to him. So all men reading this, please try to be a friend with a female. No matter if you have a crush on her or not, just do it so that you can have the experience of a relationship with a girl.
My humble advice - Nai
also pretty random question for anyone here...what age gap would you say is to big to date a girl?
W advice
@@NaiFarangit depends, if you're talking about a minor then 2 years is good but if it's someone above the age of consent of your country then there's no limit
@@Idkots Okay, thanks 😁
I think it really depends first on when you meet them and how old yall are at the time, and second how many years apart you are. My parents are 10 years apart, and that sounds bad but they met at 21 and 31 got married and had kids. My 7th grade teacher was 11 years apart with her husband and 2 teachers at my primary school got married even though they mightve been 12+ years.
You're one of the most inspirational people I know. Please continue doing this.
I will brother, thank you for your support 🤞❤️
Hey jak I just wanted to say that your videos and they have helped me feel more comfortable in every way, I've also started my own youtube channel and I'm trying really hard to fulfill my dream of playing professional basketball in either the NBL or NBA jak your a great man the greatest self improvement youtuber I've ever watched keep it up❤
I’ll do 1 chin up every like I get and I’ll record it
3 chin ups, go!
@@Resiksim of course my dude! I’m hoping to get some more first thou
I consider myself to be a great communicator, so there wasnt any need to watch this video. But your videos are like a bird singing in a storm, making the environment even more beautiful. Thank you so, so much. I always come to your channel when I'm sad, and will continue to do so!!
Agreed😊
Hey Jak, I wanted to say thanks for all your content has done for me. I wish I could give you a hug out of pure love and respect for it.
Hi, I’m 15 and I don’t know why I’m watching your videos. I am confortable socially, I have a good self-confidence, a nice lifestyle, no addictions to corn or social media. But there is someting that makes me feel good when I watch them, I don’t know why and how, but something that I like. Anyway, thanks for what you do for all the people who need it !
Lezzzz go jak I’ve been needing this I am preparing to talk to my crush when I see her in like a week or 2 at camp wish me luck
Good luck
Godspeed bro
good luck bro!
Good luck
This is really helpful advice. I will be starting school in like 2 months and it will be a completely different school where i can meet all kinds of new people to talk to!
"the deeper you go, the better" -Jack Piggot, 2024
Bruh
as soon as i realised what youre trying to say, my mind immediately clicked. this is probably the best advice ive heard from anyone, and even sounds fucking fun. ty for the idea g
Hey brother, i've wanted to tell you that a few weeks ago, i was praying to God for fuel to finally get in shape. Im 14 currently, and i recently fell in love with a girl. You'r videos also started showing up, which they never did. You inspired me to finnaly commit to the "grind" and loose my fat, and then tell her once i am fit. Keep making these relationship videos brother, you're changing me.
Good Luck :)
I don't get crushes and I tend to say I am an aromantic, so I wasn't so interested in the topic of this video
however, I still listen to these videos in the background. i felt suicidal just a bit ago, but i listened to two of your videos, and it felt like someone was comforting me, in a way. so thanks. you take my mind off things. :)
Dude.... your tip at 7:45 or so changed my mind set a lot. I'm hell bent on talking to a girl at my school, but I want to take my time, but my friends act like it's the last time I'll see her for years. I felt this way already, but hearing it come from someone I know I can trust like you definitely confirmed it. Appreciate the content bro, keep it up!
If a guy try to act awkward as a joke just to mess with me, I think it's be more embarrassed than him! 😅😂😬
Truee 😅
Haha exactly, and you’d be surprised how many people share this mindset, both men and women, so never be afraid ❤️
I’m trying to ask out someone right now, so this works for confidence boost! Thank you!! 🙏
I was a missionary for my church for two years. We would walk up to random people and start conversations with them in any and every situation. One fun thing we would do is play the "bolder game". We had to one-up the other person in how boldly we introduced ourselves and talked with people. It was amazingly effective because it made talking with people a game, refocused your energy away from fears, made your communication clear, and softened the blow of rejection. You could look like a creep if you go 100% on this game with approaching girls, but it could be effective, especially if you are shy and struggle to talk with them.
If we were ever around lots of young people our age, we would often find the cutest girl there, walk up to the and ask, "Have you ever met my friend Elder ________?" It was then fun to watch your friend try and talk with them without blushing or stammering. Or they would pull it on you, and you had to talk with them. 😂 As missionaries, we weren't allowed to flirt, date, or have any non-professional relationship with girls, but it was mind-blowing how many were still interested in us simply because we were bold enough to approach and talk with them.
This has been a word salad, but I'm reliving so many good memories writing this!
Thank you jak, I having a hard time to talk to people and I will get nervous 😔
Hope this helps then, don’t overthink it, you got this 👊❤️
As a girl, I know I'm not generally your target audience for most of the videos you create.
However, I find your channel/yourself to be so genuine with your honesty and ability to communicate so respectfully yet directly.
Your channel is so informative. Thanks for taking the time to create the content and vibe that you do. 👏
Thank you jak piggott, i have finally made up my confidence to ask a girl out. Today has been the day i have felt love in many years. this all happened yesterday when i was in a cruise ship for the first time in my life, best 2 days i have ever lived since, Thank you.
Hey jack, ive been watching your vids for a while. (2 per day), and all i have to say is thank you, you really have helped me get better in life and live a life i wanted, this video really helped me because im only 13, but theres this girl that just drags my attention, just because how nice and caring she is. This video helped because it helped me communitcate with her better and now we are currently dating, so thank you and keep up the good work, ill see ya in the next one bro.
Great video brother. I love the quality of your videos and the background music makes it so cinimatic 🔥👊
Thank you Curtis, means more than you think bro ❤️
Love you Jak
Same goes brother 🤞❤️
@@JakPiggott Thanks brother
honestly Jak, Ive been watching your videos for the past few weeks and in these past few weeks youve helped me so much in life and its crazy how watching someone online talk about his past and present can change the life of someone else.In the past few days ive been talking to a girl and now im way more comfortable while talking to women because of your videos and she setup a date with me because im the most comfortable guy shes ever talked to.Thank you so much for these videos and ill keep watching these videos❤
I'm glad that girl likes you the way you are, you are that one standing out in a good way, good luck bro :)
This really give a good idea on how conversations go, how to create them, and how they form naturally. I’m an extrovert but I have a guy friend who is sort of an introvert. He can’t really start convos, but every once in a while, I talk to him and say things such as, “ask me something” or “wait, you did _(something part of that he said)_? How’d that go?” (To expand conversation) And I think he’s gaining confidence from starting more and more convos. (Not just with me, but with other people too!) Thank you so much for making these types of videos, Jak!
as someone who has autism, it was super insightful hearing these simple reminders of ways of socialization conversation, I will make sure to continue to keep learning more from you.
Thanks for all the videos ive watched from you
Nah thank YOU for the support ❤️
I talked to my crush, got her number, asked her out but she didn’t reply, so I ended the conversation, women have so much opinion about themselves
You probably made her feel cornered so she gave you her number in order to get away from you without any conflict. Maybe before assuming women are “stuck up” consider if you make them uncomfortable?
@@garbagesoup3099 it’s her loss, have better looking girls lined up ☺️💪🏼
@@bekabeka71I think I see why she didn't respond now. She dodged a bullet. Why don't "nice guys" understand how hypocritical they are? "A woman rejected me? Well, it's her fault for not being able to see what she's missing out on." No. That is what is called being a narcissist, and it is probably your fault if you think that they are in the wrong for not wanting to go out with you. Then, after you know that your chances with her are destroyed, you start with your backhanded comments. "Well, you weren't pretty anyways." That's like messing something up and saying you meant to do that. Just accept that she does not want to date you and that not every woman has to fall head over heels for you. If a man makes advances and when he is rejected, he throws a hissy fit, that's a major red flag.
@@galacgacwatson3102 okay i take your criticism as an advice
Harsh but very true, respecting the boundaries is important. I mean if I want to go back into dating I would make sure they are comfortable to talk and let them talk. I had a friend that would when he got a potential girlfriend they would be somewhere between an 8-10 and he would immediately try to get in bed with them. When someone says they have got other women "lined up" it makes me think of him. I'd just prefer to date a personality person then a girl with Curtin like eyelasshes or something (nothing wrong with it, it's just not my cup of tea). Also there should be standards in place before you start to date, I realised that after my 4th so I stopped dating so I can figure out what I'm looking for. But yeah respect is a big thing. Just hope this guy learns that this isn't just for your benefit, when you have a partner your a team and a team works together like well oiled cogs n stuff. 🙂
My friend once went up to a girl and forced a conversation, she replied twice and walked away. I really did feel bad for him, but like you said, you need human connection, not just validation
I'm amazed with this raw info I've only been hearing garbage from content creators.Thank You Jak for being REAL 😁
There’s this girl at my school that I have a crush on, but I didn’t know how to talk to her. This video has helped me quite a bit. I haven’t talked to her yet but I think I might try soon.
These videos are making me a better person, i feel it, thank you so much Jak, this means so much to me...❤
You should do a video on how to talk to girls you like, like in your year at school or something when you talk to everyone but are nervous when it comes to the future and what might happen, but in the end nothing bad will, so how do you get over that and speak???? That's probably the biggest question, 'why'.
Btw you're quite inspirational, soo keep it up, you're making peoples days
JAK PLEASE RECORD YOURSELF COLD APPROACHING WOMEN AND PUT THAT CLIP HERE
I will bro, I’ll make a whole video on it soon, just wait ❤️
🤝🤝🤝@@JakPiggott
@@JakPiggott Man, you're awesome
Jack every time i watch one of your videos they inspire me to be a better person, thanks bro
Bro I swear this man be coming in clutch every single time. Thanks for taking your time for us man. Thanks for all the help fam
Man. I love how genuine you are. Been hooked on your content since November, when I completed NNN, and actually started to turn my life around. You’ve been there with me. I love you so much for that. Thank you brother
Thank you for being so awesome and, I've been watching your videos for a few weeks now I think and you've really turned my life around. Thank you😊
Love the red flannel therapist Jack
Haha I ain’t no therapist but thanks bro ❤️❤️
I don't think therapist help but you do!@@JakPiggott
its the summer and im just browsin, and while I'm supposed to be doing math I just watch this.
I usually watch vids at 2x speed bc my attention span is trash(I try to self justify it by saying there's better things to do with my time) but this is the first vid I watched fully 1x speed bc u just got it bro. u actually know wat ur talking about, and you know how to help ppl. keep it up man!
Hey Jak! I loved listening to this. Have you ever thought about doing a podcast? I think it'd be quite a cool thing, imo.
i think this is a really good way to start off, my problen tbh isnt about talking to a girl ive talked to plenty in the past (not as attraction just as normal convos), but my problem is the girls i usually see around me either has this genz/alpha kind of appearance, im not picky when it comes to finding attraction i just need a normal one atleast..
Wait what im hella early jak since im early i hope u see this, you genuinely dont know how much youve done for me ive been subbed to you since 100k man and your growth is crazy you deserve it all ❤❤
Words can’t explain how much I enjoy watching your videos. Every video you post I either learn something new, or it’s affirming my current beliefs, it’s really refreshing to watch you. God bless, keep up the great work brother👏👏
Hope y'all havin a great day🌟 and if not tomorrow will be better ❤❤
Thank you so much Jak! Favorite youtuber
Thank you my man ❤️❤️
nice vid jak, almost at a million subs?! thats crazyy
I Am alright at talking with woman bring up funny things you’ve done, challenge them, and make a inside joke it builds so much confidence and character
So a few weeks ago, I met a coworker and developed a HUGE crush on her. I haven't talked to her a whole lot, because I haven't worked with her in a couple weeks, but I work the exact same shift with her this Friday, so this video could not have been recommended at a better time. I plan to talk to her on Friday, and get to know her as a friend. Wish me luck, I am really hoping it goes okay.
I love when you talk about social skills please make more videos about it
Yes subwoofer lullaby intro 😩😩
I might never see my crush of 3 years ever again :(
I feel you man.
I bet that hurts man, but you'll find a new one, and then you can take your shot for a great relationship. Like I tell myself, look to the future, cause it's lookin bright.
damn bro, why not?
let go bruh
@@Syrup1 As a person who will also probably never see their crush again I feel like I’m somewhat qualified to answer your question. It could be A) he asked her out and she said no. B) either she or he is moving away from the certain school / campus. Or C) their school zones and stuff don’t match up. Personally I lost mines because I had to move but the girl is still at the school so I could be that one guy and send a email via school mail and tell her that I like her and + there’s no harm. I hope you guys can try to overcome the fear of thinking you would get clowned because I get it if you still see them it might be embarrassing but if it’s your last chance don’t make my mistake.
This video speaks volumes! Was the exact same until I started pushing myself to practice small conversations with people I just so happen to be meet at the shops, waiter at resturant etc. These small conversations are kinda like training wheels since its usually has a topic already, but it helps so much. Great video Jak!
"people love talking about themselves" no truer words have ever been said. I can't tell you how many people I know inside and out but who wouldn't even know my favorite color, what food I like, or even my intentions after 20 years of knowing each other, just because they've never asked.
being cringe on purpose is actually so fun. me and my friends will scream in the hallways and laugh really loud and ppl give us weird looks, but its actually really fun.
Especially when you have the confidence to do so 🥰
@@JakPiggott Fr
tried it at a theme park with my friends felt great but lost my voice
Thanks so much much for the vid brotha!
needed it!!
Damn man, TH-cam algorithms never been so perfect. Thanks for your content, keep going)!
Thanks brother 💪
watching these videos made me realize i am an extremely lucky person, i've watched so many of your videos and i could not relate to one thing in them other than the age group it was directed to, however i still feel compelled to watch them, thanks Jak for entertaining me and teaching others
"see what motivates people into taking actions, its when they see someone succeed in doing rather than just talking about it" - the wise sheep
Ive watched a few of your videos and these have helped me become an actually decent communicator. Thanks you legend.
Damn boys, lately I’ve had this boost of confidence and asking girls out because I’m not afraid of rejection anymore because even if she doesn’t like you she appreciates that you tried. Now I have a crush on my Sargent and she is my age. The momemt she finishes with the army in a month I’m asking her out boys
Good luck bro, I wish you the best :)
@dorygrynholc2512 how did it go?
I just read a beak on trading physcology and Im seeing a connection overcoming the fear of rejection and fear. its the same technique. wow
These videos showed up at the perfect time. All of the things ive learned are really helpful. Nobody else can give this good of information.
1 like = 1/4 mile or 400 meters by monday next week
this guy needs more subs and he is a real one thanks for the advice!
Bold to assume I'm afraid of going outside and having a life, in fact quite the opposite my mom seems to be afraid of me going outside.
I in fact would love to be outside and social often and it's been hard which is why i clicked this in case i got in a situation i needed this, this is motivational so i subscribed.
Your voice is really calming btw.
Your majestic jack!
Haha getting there bro ❤️
I always like the advice, be the best version of yourself. You can’t be someone you aren’t because that’s disingenuous.
Be you, but just, a really good you. That just does it for me…
I needed this BigBro
Hope this helps brother 🤞❤️
As a just turned 18 year old, I really hope you never stop making content. You are a motivational and inspirational person with so many valuable lessons to give. Thank you for all you content 👌❤️
B' free from self-centered communication ( -me,- -I,- -my,- ...)
Take interest in someone's life and let their lives inspire your own.
Treat other people the same way you'd treat your love.
Remain authentic and keep your own principles and goals.
Thank you so much! Your videos make me a better person and make me happier. Ive come such a long way because of these videos! Cant appreciate you enough!
This man gave me the motivation to run a 5k to improve and impress myself, i ran a 28 minute 5k without stopping
Thanks bro you really showed me why PPL dosen't respect me that was because I was forcing a coversation but from now onwards I am not gonna do that I'll jus wait for a natural conversation to begin and THX ALOT!! for helping me and showing me a right way THX
Haven't watched the video yet, but damn your glowing up mate
Idk why but i like this guy so much :)
Damn, I never thought of that. I usually just have a feeling that it’s my “moment” But I’m still single
just ask her out on april 1st, if she says "no" you just say april fools!!
I have no problem talking to women. Actually most of my friend group is girls, they dont have a crush on me or anything, but it all started with a hello
LOL I'm a girl, and my friend group is ALL girls and ONE guy 😂 if he read this it would be so relatable for him!! 🤣🤣🤣
Edit: I have no problem talking to guys same a your fine with girls! even if I have a crush on him it's no problem :0
@@anuktouceda5242 haha thats my friend group 😂
Big love for big bro❤️
just be yourself cuz then you will only attract someone who actually cares about you
A month agoI got rejected. I was heartbroken. But u made find that u have to get used to getting rejected and that’s why I’m asking another girl out soon. Wish me luck!
Every time I see a new Jak Piggot video in my recommended it's the highlight of my day. Keep up the amazing videos man.
I agree with everything you say. I just cant be a better me. Its too late. I give up on myself. But i hope everyone has a great day/night