Why You SHOULD Tell Your Crush How you Feel | A Video Essay
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- Ask her out, you never know. I'm rooting for you. I hope you enjoyed today's video!
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TL;DR - Ask her out kings (sorry I got a bit repetitive towards the end lol)
😭i got no chance RIP
@@vfxgolden Take the shot you NEVER know
@@vfxgolden it's either you get the girl or get a heavy ass character development arch, win win bro you got it
@@quackykwulala5066 i didnt even ask her and she said she doesnt like me like that... 😭
@@quackykwulala5066 EXACTLY!
Pro tip: you can't just go and ask your crush out randomly, you gotta start talking to her first
That's what I'm trying to do but when I ask her questions about her self or her interests, it just ends up sounding like an interview/interrogation (please help)
@@lunarbat6009 Does it sound like an interrogation because she seems uninterested and doesn't ask you questions back?
@@necromancer871 @necromancer871 yea its like that. The conversation just doesn't really go anywhere and she doesn't answer questions back ☹️
I don't think she's uninterested bc she doesn't really show it
@@lunarbat6009 Thats the point. This video is bullshit. It only works in a society where women even bother with average men. But we live in one where 80% of the women are going for the top 5% of men. The rest are invisible to them, so its impossible to even start a conversation with most women let alone ask one out.
@@lunarbat6009talk to her like you having fun spending time with her and not just because you like her (I don't really know how to explain this better than this)
if you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away. If you spend your time making a beautiful garden the butterflies will come to you, and if they don't come, then you still have that beautiful garden
this advice applies to both genders and im LIVING for it. cool analogy!
If your main goal is to get butterflies and the garden doesn't work, then you failed. A beautiful garden requires maintanence - watering the plants, cutting bushes, etc. If the purpose isn't met, there's no point in maintaining that garden. In other words, if you don't get the butterflies, you'll be stuck with an ugly garden that you have to take care of.
I would like this but it would ruin the 69 likes it already has
@@ssbcakeman6443you missed The point, it's an analogy, you don't make The garden for The butterflies, you make It for yourself or in other words you improve yourself to grow as a person, not for The girl you like, sure, you gotta Go after her, but not fundamentally change yourself for someone else, Trust me, that always ends up bad
@@nicholassgobero You misunderstood the analogy. The analogy is saying that you're changing for the girl. But as a consolation if you didn't get the girl then you still have your beautiful transformation. That's the meaning of the analogy. That's where the problem is. The analogy is saying if you didn't have the butterfly then you still have the beautiful garden. If you don't get the butterfly then what's the point of having the garden in the first place? You still have to do maintenance for the garden and yet you still didn't have any butterfly in it. See the point?
As a female if a girl says ew after you confessed to her then there might be something wrong with you for liking her. No girl that has a heart would tell you "ew" that's messed up bro drop her QUICK
Yep, nowadays I'd say what guys are most afraid of isn't the rejection itself, but the chance of being publicly humiliated or made fun of for absolutely no reason, just cause you know, she felt like doing that and felt good about herself hurting someone like that.
I myself am like that, I'm not afraid to hear a no, but i want to avoid situations where they're trying their best to make me feel bad to make themselves feel good.
I never took a "no" as a loss or something that made feel defeated, they just don't see you that way , just as you don't see a lot of people like that, and that is fine, it's how the world works and applies to everything.
But, humiliating someone or publicly making fun of them is what causes a lot of guys to simply stop trying or think there's something wrong with them and like i said, today it seems to be quite common unfortunately......
Agreed. Doing that just means she's gross & doesn't give a rats ass about someone's feelings. Don't feel bad if you're rejected by a girl like this. I've rejected guys before but I make it clear that it's because I don't feel that way & would rather not be stuck in a relationship where I wasn't even interested to begin with.
I didn't even say "Ew, no." to the dude that wouldn't take NO for an answer. Up to plain stalker behavior & kept insisting he had a "glow up" to get me interested. In truth his attitude was awful, that's why I said no.
Mostly I try to give someone a chance, a date or two. Because I know it takes guts! I've been rejected myself 😅 But I'd never humiliate someone, that's just... Wrong.
@@_fussyfangsif it comes to someone treating you like shit, then giving them an "ew" isn't morally reprehensible
@@mahogania5536 Morally it's not bad.
But it's not good either.
And don't lean too far into it.
@@HiveatelTbf don’t expect people to be nice to you if you can’t even be nice to them, and that can be any situation
I'm a 17 year old girl and told a guy about my feelings, got rejected in such a manner by the gentlemen that i feel absolutely free, we were and are friends, i wasn't expecting a relationship out of us, he have a crush on someone else, we talked for 40 minutes afterwards, and i must say am grateful to have such friends with me
Edit: i just added comas cause someone got a stroke reading this earlier
Rejection aside, that's really nice to hear
i had a stroke reading that
@@Melvin-14 lol
I’m a girl too, and I’m thinking of confessing to this guy, who is very handsome and everyone also agrees with me, but he most likely has a gf (uh I saw him dancing with another girl) but my friend says that he might be single now, who knows? I think it might be a dumb move for me to confess because I’ve already seen him dancing with someone, but then again my friend telling me he might be single now is throwing me off 😭
@@GatozpartyAre you two friends? cause the one i told was actually my friend so i knew very well about his love life. Maybe ask him if he's single, as a friend.
The single worst but also best thing that ever happened to me was asking my crush out. The girl who I was madly in love with rejected me, and it was so utterly horrific. I thank God every single day for her saying no.
It hurt me so bad. Felt like the end of the world. Felt like I’d never be happy again. It took months to get over it. But now? I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. The amount of confidence that gave me was insane. Showed me I can do scary things even if I’m terrified. Really taught me a valuable life lesson that you don’t always get everything you want, but that’s okay. Since her, I’ve started self improvement so much. I started working out intensely as a way to cope with the rejection. Thanks to her, I now have a 6 pack and huge biceps. I do things for myself more these days. I’m stronger, more confident, happier. I have a healthier and more realistic understanding of relationships. I’m more independent, and I love myself a whole lot more.
Ask your crush out. Even if they say no. So worth it in the long run.
what if when u do u mighjt loose that person
Yeah. Been in love with someone for like 5 years, asked her, got rejected, and now lm glad i got rejected because shes never managed to be in a relationahip for over 4 months.
but did you enjoy talking to her did u enjoy her presence do you still talk to her and is there anything thats not the same and if yall dont talk do you miss it@@boiledtea479
@@notghostej It really f*cking hurts. I’m still friends with the girl but in a way I did lose her. I lost a future marriage with her, I lost my dream with her. I felt quite alone and depressed for ages, but it gets better. Even to this day it still hurts a bit that I don’t have her, but I have grown so much and realise that I suppose it wasn’t meant to be even if I still love her a lot. If you lose her then you lose her. It hurts but it does get better with time.
@@boiledtea479 That’s rough man, and I’m sorry she said no. Glad you’re seeing the bright side of it though and maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. Wishing you the best man.
Best advice I can give, as a girl myself, is to not ask right away if you've only been talking 2 days. It can come off as creepy. Give it time, hang out as much as you can so you can get to know each other. Also, keep in mind that everyone is human & flawed. There will be no "perfect girl."
I dated my friend for years, gave the geeky guy a chance. He turned out to be such a gentleman & so fun to be with. We had nearly the same interests so that helped too. We fell out of love after some distance was put between us, but heck my dude was surprised I ever even agreed to a date. He told me he kept thinking I would say no. We're still friends to this day since things ended in a positive note, we just weren't feeling like we were going anywhere with the relationship.
Question: Is there a good way to get to know a girl better cause I ask questions about her/interests but it feels more like an interrogation cause the conversation isn't going anywhere
@@lunarbat6009 Really depends.
Scenario 1: Are you asking her open ended questions? (Not just yes/no stuff). If so maybe try more follow up questions if she's being bland
Scenario 2: If she's purposefully being dry, then just leave her. She ain't worth your time and you can do so much better.
@@lunarbat6009 try asking something relatable. Like family life, childhood, events, weird dreams you get sometimes, issues with friends, or life in general. Sometimes the conversation may even end up becoming deep
i feel like you've already done half of what i mentioned but you get the idea 😭
@@lunarbat6009 Yeah, I totally understand what you mean. I’ve been there before too. Try talking about things you have in common, if not go for something relatable. Maybe you have class together, know someone in common, both have siblings? Or you can talk about places you’d like to go to one day.
When all else fails, you can let them talk more about a certain thing they feel passionate about and include thoughts about that there to make the conversation more organic.
I am by no means a relationship expert, but I think great communication is a good way to start any kind of relationship with someone 🙂
@@Emulysse I already tried asking all that lol
If it wasn’t for this video, I wouldn’t have even gotten the courage to ask my homies mom out. Now, I am one step closer to being a step dad!
Same bro
Wilddd but hey you do you my guy 😂
That's my man right there
let him cook 🔥
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It's not always as simple as telling them. In my case I keep ending up stuck in toxic relationships after seeing a girl's true colors once we're dating. Now I always approach girls I like with extreme caution and avoid starting relationships at all unless I'm 100% sure that they're not insane first.
I understand man, but I believe you're smart to maneuver around those bad girls, king. Be aware of those crazy girls, but if you TRULY like her go for it! That's all I'm saying
Spoiler alert! They're all insane.
@@Mellow3300 Sometimes insane is a good thing. You just gotta find the insane that’s right for you.
@@Oliver_DaNinjahell nah
@@theworldmayneverknow3876 Chess
Here's my experience that no one asked for. I fell in love with my best friend. I met her at high school, and at the beginning, she was just a friend and thought she was kinda cute. Then I went to university and lost contact with her, but I didn't like my career so I changed it and went to another university, and there I found her again, prettier than ever and, in general, better than ever, we were so happy we would study together. Sadly she has a boyfriend, and when I decided I'd tell her I like her and then I heard about it, I backed out.
We continued being friends and forged a better relationship, to a point that now I consider her more than just my best friend. One day at a party, I felt kinda bad about my repressed feelings, so I decided I'd tell her, I was scared cause I thought she would see me differently in a bad way, but actually she was touched, then I told her how I felt about her in general and how much I cared about her, she told me that at some point she came to like me too, but then she met her boyfriend who she's really happy with.
Man, I do not regret at all telling her about my feelings. It felt like taking a big weight off my back.
Today, we are still friends, and let me tell you, we are much closer together, we are more open to each other in general, and I feel like we have a really strong bond built on trust, honesty and love.
What I'm trying to say is that, even when I was scared about rejection, I got something even better, I got closer to the one I love the most, and one of the people that matters most to me. So, even if you're scared, maybe you can win much more. And if you get rejected, there's so many great people out there, so there will always be room for love with someone, always.
This is such a sweet and genuine comment. You did a great thing and you should be proud of yourself. I'm kinda in a similar situation right now. I'm a senior in HS and have liked a girl for about a year. She's also a friend of mine that I hold very dear to my heart. We talk here and there, and have had good conversations in the past. At the end of last year I decided that I would ask for her number. I was terrified but I knew it was something that I had to do, otherwise I would regret it. We would talk here and there over the summer. I told her one time when I hadn't heard from her in a little while, how I just wanted to check up on her to make sure she was ok. She hearted that message I sent her, and it meant a lot to me and still does. She also has a boyfriend at the moment, at least I'm pretty positive. I do know that the best thing I can do is to keep being her friend. I know she's more to me than just some girl I want to be my girlfriend. That's not what matters to me or what made me fall in love with her. I'm glad she's doing good with her boyfriend, I at least hope she is. I've met him before and he seems like a really cool and nice dude. So yeah I love her with all my heart, but that doesn't matter as long as she's happy. I've done a lot of stupid things and there's a lot of things I don't like about myself. If she's with a guy that truly loves her and accepts her for who she is, then I can rest easy. I plan on telling her, and I don't want to keep things from her. I don't know how she sees or feels about me. Now that I'm back in school and we have a class together I've been trying to talk to her more. I want this year to be the year I can get to know her better as her friend. Love is crazy, because we don't always know what to do with it. We make mistakes and sometimes even make a fool of ourselves. In the end though that's living and learning from your mistakes. So thank you for this lovely comment. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone that you can relate to a situation with. I hope this has helped you in some way, and if not I'm sorry for wasting your time. When I do tell her though, I want her to feel comfortable and loved. I just want her to be safe, and to live her life to the fullest. She's the most beautiful person I've ever seen, and is caring and sweet in ways I didn't know possible. She deserves a happy life that I don't ever want to take away from her. If I have to sacrifice my own happiness for hers, then that's what I'll do. My life doesn't matter, as long as she's happy living hers. I want to love her in the way that she wants to be loved, not in the way I want to love her. It will be the scariest thing I've probably done, but I know it'll be worth it in the end. I'll keep on being her friend, and will have to just move on with time. It'll take time, but I'll feel better eventually. Like you said there are plenty of great people out there. Have a lovely future and always keep your head up! ❤
i confessed after a month of hesitation, I wasn't reject nor was i liked back, she just thanked me and at that point i knew i had to focus more on myself
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So you were rejected
Bro did infact, get rejected
"Nah bro I didnt get rejected" Once I got a "probably not" and i didnt assume i was improbable. You got rejected big dawg own it
Ok, but I don’t think I can talk to a biblically accurate angel
AYE ! You never know
@@KingTheodore100 true
Real
I can’t tell if that’s a good thing or a bad thing since they look absolutely terrifying.
neither a 2D big tiddy highschool anime onee-san 😔💔
I'm about to be 18 in a couple months, and I haven't even held a girl's hand romantically. However, looking at it like that discards most of my efforts in the recent past. I remember that only 3 years ago, I was stuttering over every word when talking to pretty girls, but now I can actually hold a conversation and act nonchalant. After 6 rejections, I have been forced to look within myself more intently and question all aspects of my life. The best things in life are indeed on the opposite of fear. Thank you for creating such an inspiring video.
THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT KING ! I’m proud Fr:)
I wish you luck in your future king👑
the 22 yo me : 👀😂
King🙏🏿
The fact that you found 6 girls you were interested in was impressive enough. You'll def find someone at this rate. I don't have anyone who I even want to ask out
Don't forget to do it when you both know eachother long enough, don't do it after 2 days of falling for her. When you two know eachother atleast for a good amount of time is when it's worth to try
That’s right king! Great take!
Okay but what if my first interaction with this person ever was "Hey I think you're cute"
@@RainbowKittyy That's one way to start I suppose lol
That's where it gets confusing for me bro. If ur already talking to them u might as well already be with em. I mean it ain't like it is impossible nowadays because nobody tries, the hardest part is just talking to them normally without getting smacked by a phone camera and put all over tiktok and shit because drama queens are drama queens. I think once u talk to them u pretty much got em.
Uh, but if that girl isnt your classmate or whatever. Lets suppose you just spotted her outside... If you approach her it becomes obvious that you somehow interested in her, isnt it?
And also... if you dont have same friends with this girl to hang out with then what else can you do to spend time with her except asking her out?
Either I am just dumb, cuz i am not a native speaker. But fix me if im wrong. Asking out - means aks her for a date? Or confess that you have a crush on her?
I know a friend who got rejected so many times that it's not even funny, but all those rejections made turned him into a cool and down to earth dude
I recently asked a girl out and she said yes. After 3 rejections between different girls, I found one, and my god is she a sweetheart, I want to spend every moment with her. I'm not even that attractive or funny, yet I found a girl who cares and genuinely loves me. So remember Kings, ask her out, if she says no, improve yourself if she says yes you secured the bag.
Congrats dude
Your comment really got me, thanks 🙏 ❤
Nah don’t improve yourself for a girl, improve yourself for yourself
@@liamp1 Fair. Don't mean you gotta be single
:) hope youre doing good
i did have a crush that had a crush on me too, but we were so embarrassed that we never really "dated", I just find it hard too even speak to someone, let alone attempt to make friends.
Same
That happened to me too… we both were awkward teens and didn’t confess
I am literally unable to make friends if they dont talk to me first. I just stay silent whenever I try to start a conversation with anyone
As an very shy introvert awkward guy i suggest u should still approach the person u like and if it's too much for u then u could start with communicating with that person online to build momentum and when u finally have the courage to talk to her irl then go for it if u still can't after that then force yourself to do it and the results would be worth to find out since u wouldn't know unless u try and who knows u might even become that person's friend and from there u start to build it up more if u want to ;)
This is literally me rn bro 💀
I think the hardest but most important lesson I've had to learn from rejection is "Just because I like her, does not make her special". What I mean by that is that she's still a human being with flaws and insecurities like me, and this isn't gonna be my only chance in life to get a life partner. There are plenty of people who can be a better fit for me than her. And I know it's hard, it's really f*cking hard, because if u think she isn't special until you get something out of her, doesn't that mean that u don't truly love her? No! Just don't put all the hopes of ur life into a girl simply because she was kind or pretty. It takes a long time to get to know someone and u can't truly love someone until you understand their deepest flaws and insecurities and they reciprocate that love. The average lifespan of a human is 70 years, don't worry u have plenty of time, just take it slow and u'll find the right person. And don't blame urself when they reject u, because then they weren't the right person and realise that sometimes ur gonna be wrong and that's ok.
You're spitting facts dude this is all 1000℅ true even if some sounds cliche. Its cliche for a reason. If things don't work out with a girl, its ok, you will survive and grow from it. We run away desperately from emotions like sadness and disappointment and social embarrassment. But these emotions cannot harm you, we shouldn't be so afraid of experiencing them. Happiness will come. You just need to believe in your own ability to improve, and its just a matter of time
mannnnnn, really liked your comment. thanks for posting
This was great, thank you
0:10 Sorry, but I'm not either of those. It just looked interesting ✋️💀
Same
this video helped me bro i asked my crush if she liked me and she liked me back thanks man
"Never be guided by the feeling of lust or love"
-Miyamoto Musashi
That means that you should be logical then? I believe you should be logical but still follow your feelings. Find a logical way to follow your feelings. Logic without heart is behaving like a machine, a robot, and that is not you.
Jesus said it first
@@ghostlypitou2746wasnt musashi like 500 bc?
@@NoNono-o3h you seriously dude? 1 Jesus is eternal, he’s the first and the last 2. Show me any historical documentation of the real life musashi saying that, he has very few documented writing and non have said that phrase. 3. A historical manage character saying something in a manga doesn’t know mean that historical figure said that.
@@ghostlypitou2746 "a historicsl character saying someone said something doesnt mean the character said that"
Bro do i have news for you about the scripture
If she says “ew” when you ask her out or explain your feelings, then you just dodged a bullet fr
real
I watched this video a month after it came out. At the time there was a girl that I liked but was too scared to ask her out, this video along with the support of friends helped me build the courage to ask her. She's now my girlfriend and we've been together over 6 months now, still going strong. I'm glad this video showed up in my recommended again so I can say thank you for playing a part in giving me the confidence to shoot my shot. Ended up being the best thing I ever did. I hope you have a great day. ^^
good job king
Still together bro?
Let's gooooo, SonicKai! 💙
Congratulations! I'm happy for you two. Y'all still together?
Congrats king
1. You lose nothing.
2. You might gain something
3. You won't waste your emotions on someone who might not be for you either and move on faster.
4. Start by actually communicating
First point is baseless.
My advice for boys (as a girl) is that the best thing you can do is either body language meant to attract them or show your attraction because girls love when your confident like that. If you're close enough you could dance with her, or just give her a little twirl. Or you could try and be their friend or atleast rly nice to them because they'll remember u and prefer to talk to u more if you're nicer than every other dude. You may also do both
My situation is quite the opposite. When I started having feelings I stepped back to access and think about how I felt. I decided I did have feelings for this girl. So I asked her out. The problem is she already knew somehow despite me telling literally no one. She then went on to state how there is no good quality’s about me in any way and that she was stringing me on and using me. Then she said “I’m just kidding”. I replied with “wether you aren’t or are joking I’m done I don’t want to be your friend your boyfriend or anything to you” then I left and she proceeded to aggressively and concerningly stalk me and my sister and then my girlfirend who I may add is perfect to me for the next 3 months and a half and then would move away and then mail concerning images and information of my whereabouts for those past 3 and a half months proving she stalked me. She had a screw loose.
That's a lot more than just a screw loose holy shit. I hope you are better now
bullet dodged
6 months update?
You, sir, dodged a fucking nuclear warhead.
bro that's fuckeddd, get a restraining order if u can. That bitch is crazyy.
remember to give them a good impression of who you are first before hand. It doesn't matter how effortless and confident you are, if she is emotionally mature and she doesn't know you she ain't gonna go out with you until she knows you aint a creep. Make it easier on yourself and make sure she knows who you are before asking her out.
but i am a creep. what do i do now?
@@hokagehunter_6991 pretend to be someone you aren't until the crushing weight of undiagnosed impostor syndrome takes you to your therapist where you will learn the name of what you are suffering from. upon learning you have impostor syndrome the among us flashbacks will send you spiraling into a blissful rage the likes of which no man can comprehend
@@quatromanthefourth4413best reply, ever.
@@quatromanthefourth4413sigma reply
@@quatromanthefourth4413You take the award of best reply in the century lmao
0:04 no, I don't have a crush rn, but this got into my recomended so I thought it'd be useful in the future.
Lmao same
Where the reply’s????
@@LMGTheAimbotMachineikr
@@sword6813 yes
I searched up "how to confess" completely deprived by fear of rejection, YOU JUST EARNED ANOTHER SUB BRO👍
fuck it. you actually convinced me
edit: tomorrow's the day! wish me luck..
SHE SAID YES! TYSM THEO I DUNNO WHY YOU GAVE ME THE CONFIDENCE TO DO THIS BUT IM SO GLAD
YOOOOO NICE WORK
update ?
good for you king 👑👑👑👑
Good for you bro 🎉
I waited too long to tell her how I felt, and now that she is with someone else, it hurts so bad that I'm not sure if I could ever see myself with anyone else. However, if there is a next time, I won't wait; I'll tell them how I feel right away and won't let them pass me by.
I WISH YOU WELL ON YOUR FUTURE ENDEAVOR. GOOD LUCK KING
Dude that's litterly me
I was too scared to ask her, now it's too late
Now i'm hating myself for it, i had over 5 years, since 4th grade i had a crush on her, in 7th grade she got a boyfriend and that was when i completly shutted off myself from talking to her, now it just felt awkward as hell
I just let it go eventually...
I know you said we shouldn’t be fearful of rejection and should be confident and talk to these girls. But there’s a point where after many rejections and seemingly nothing really changing you can’t help but be fearful and feel you aren’t good enough. Women do not find me attractive in the slightest, it doesn’t matter how confident I am or what I do I just can’t seem to change that fact in their eyes. And at this point that’s fine. I know I’ll be alone forever but if that’s how it has to be then so be it
Someone will find you attractive, never give up bro.
@@sliteturtlez that’s what I’m saying! Facts man
@@sliteturtlezmaybe one day. Thank you.
My point exactly
Keep trying 👑 you got the support of some random dude in the youtube comments section! What a milestone! Jokes aside I feel you man.
I've known this one girl for about a year now and are friends with her currently. She's really, nice, funny, and looks nice as well, with a lot of similar interests as me. But for like the past 3 months now, I've really liked her but haven't worked up the courage to actually tell her how I feel. This video has given me a lot of confidence. Thank you. I still plan to get to know her more before I say anything, but I feel like this video has given me more confidence in myself to talk to her when I'm ready. Thank you so much.
Have you asked her out yet?
get that bag king
I dont have a crush, and have never watched your content. Yet im here.
Same man, what do you think about the video?
I had a crush in my life five times, and I got rejected four times. The one I got accepted was just some "fantasy fairy tale romance," as it ended up with somebody I used to know when we were more mature. It's just better if you find a good friend, are in a good community, and have a stable life, cuh.
Always be honest to yourself, that's all matter.
I had to click off the video cause it's not always about fear and rejection. I decided to watch the video cause I truly am in a rough spot where if I were to confess feelings, it would affect my entire friend group long term... it's just that complicated sometimes. But I hope this video helps most people, keep up the good work man!
You end up confessing?
@@Nav20755 nah... if I ever do, it'll be years from now. Just taking one for the team. Even if I still have feelings, I don't really like her like that as much anymore and I'm like the only person who knows who she likes cause she trusts me, so I might as well just continue being that friend to her.
@@princepscretaceus1046 you're a good friend. Maybe you shouldn't be. Why not be greedy? Friend groups aren't assigned to you for life.
@@princepscretaceus1046 oh alright. I think though if this does mentally affect you, ypu should probably stop being friends but if it isnt then youre good
@@raresmocanu1743 I've decided I'm gonna confess at the end of this academic year, because I feel uncomfortable about the fact that she decides to tell me everything and I'm hiding something from her, I also feel like it's kind of a pathetic move to just be the guy best friend that secretly likes her...
this video has some great points, not just for asking out a girl, but for facing fear and rejection in general
Drake reference aged well
I'm almost 18 now, and I've never landed myself a girlfriend and never really had a "crush" either. I mean, there were girls who were pretty and make me nervous to talk to, but I just wanted someone to love me in that way. I've seen the rough sides of relationships from my friends and family, so I'm scared of just about all the outcomes, and I know there wont be a "perfect girl", but I'm definitely seeing how I can be off-putting to others. This video is inspirational, but I don't know if I have the strength to go out and do this yet.
You're still very young bro! If you begin some serious self-improvement stuff now (nofap, clean living, gym, keeping promises to yourself, trying new stuff, being a good and reliable person for your friends and family), in just a year you'll be feeling amazing, confident and far ahead of your peers. That will attract a lot of people to you, not just a future crush.
I'm only taking this stuff seriously at 22 and I wasted the last 4 years of my life since I was 18 doing the most stereotypically dumbass shit ever - smoking weed, playing video games, drinking, not socialising, not upholding promises or being reliable, eating junk food, never exercising, and just in general being a piece of shit lol.
Had I started getting my act together at 18, I'd be in an even better place now. But I've been improving a lot lately. I could have gotten myself a girlfriend from my first crush, who I met a few months back, unfortunately due to the circumstances of how I 'met' her, I waited too long to tell her and she is with someone else now. She was single for a bit, so had I told her sooner, maybe something could have come of it, as I felt we got along really well. Although to be fair, due to the situation of how we met I wasn't in a position to tell her sooner anyway, and I say maybe because she ended up going back to her ex so it's clear where her heart lies, but it's all good. I'm glad I did tell her, it got it off my chest, and she was cool about it, sadly we seem to have gone our separate ways. Anyway, sorry for the ramble. Have a good one!
@@sircharcoalthegoatik you'll find someone good
Just focus on being autonomy supportive and that should solve most relationship problems right there.
Also learn what you truly implicitly want. For me I learned by drawing upon the platonic and emotional intimacy I already have with my friends. Also, physical intimacy (like cuddling) is really important to me, and generally what I crave when I feel lonely. Also a safe place to explore my sexuality. A partner would be someone who can help me meet those needs while you can help them meet theirs, and feel awesome doing it! (a relationship!).
everything fun and games until she tells her friends, they tell the class, they tell the school and now ur getting bullied by the whole school
i think the hardest thing is dealing with the struggle of: "do they not like me for who i am or for who they dont know i am?"
and the best way to find out is to start talking to them beforehand, a month is a good time to tell them but not straight away, then you dont have to deal with that question, and you'll know she likes you because you're a little nerdy, or that he doesnt like you because hes gay.
at the end of the day, you'll find someone, whether platonically or romantically, that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
back then i had a crush on a girl who had a crush on me, but when i confess she somewhat rejected me but in a nice way that it wont hurt as much (doesn’t matter how it is, rejection is still painful 💀).
back then i didn’t know how to “confess” to someone even if that person likes me but im glad that i did because now i feel so much better and not constantly thinking about her and all the possibilities 24/7 now. It still stings whenever i think back at it and how well it could’ve gone if i know how to actually confess to her, but at least now i can use that experience and learn from my mistakes and avoid doing the same thing in the future. My advice is that if you truly have a crush on someone (even if that person likes you back or not) be friends with them first before confessing, if you just confess straight away then the chances of you getting rejected is really high.
I have a crush for years now, i don’t if she knows that I like her yet but she’s given signs though very mixed. 99% sure she’ll reject me but I’m going to take the risk. If anything it’s better to lose than to regret.
Did you confess? If yes, then how did it go? Hope it went well.
Broo tell us
Howd it go bro tell us
2:53 bro really said: Rejection is a cannon event.
this showed up on my feed at literally the worst time 😭😭
i wanted to get to know my crush more, just because i moved a little too quickly in the past. and as soon as i was like close to confessing, HE SOMEHOW MANAGES TO GET A GIRLFRIEND. punching air tbh.
A better reason why rejection can be a good thing: What if it wouldn't have worked out in the first place and them rejecting you would've saved you
Don't be scared of rejections or even breaking up, cause when things don't work, it won't hurt
I think I watched this video atleast 10 times leading up to when I finally confessed to my crush. things may have not gone perfectly but this video allowed me to really understand and reflect from that whole experience.
For anyone out there who is terrified to confess similar to me. Do it. Things may not go perfectly but either way you will grow as a person.
My problem is weird; I technically got friend zoned but we are still very, very close friends and talk daily. If you were to ask if I feel the same as I did, I’d say yes because I want to be honest. It’s not that she didn’t find me attractive as a guy, it was that I am just that; a guy. In other words, she’s into women which is something I can appreciate; it just means she likes what I like! Jokes aside, the dilemma is no longer the desire to be more than friends, it’s the inability to let go. I appreciate our friendship and, if it weren’t for another close friend accidentally letting the secret out, she’d have never known about how I felt. Back to the present, I’m not here for advice on dating, no, I am here to figure out how to forget; I want to forget about how I feel while retaining a friendship since she is someone I can openly talk to. Finished the video and learned more than I anticipated but it will be applicable mostly in a different scenario; any suggestions/advice is welcome.
Edit: found the video again and have had no luck. I was able to gather the courage to formally ask her and got absolutely denied, friend-zoned to be specific. After that, I decided it’d be best to go our separate ways since being in the friend-zone is bad for me while she gets to live everyday as though nothing happened. I’ve been focusing on myself and actually start college this coming August. I gained more motivation in my weightlifting journey and crushed my biggest goal; I hit 300lbs on back squat. While I was bummed about it originally, I have no regrets as there are more opportunities waiting later on. I just wanted to say that if it doesn’t work out for you, that is alright. A solid home cannot be constructed in a day; you need to lay a proper foundation, take the time to build a solid frame and focus on having a home you are happy with. Something might go wrong, maybe a wall falls down but that’s okay, you just need to build it back up even stronger than before. Like this house, a good relationship cannot flourish in a single day. You gotta take the time to talk to this person, to get to know them, before you try to progress the relationship. Like they say, you must learn to walk before you can run. You may feel hopeless at times but you will get it right someday, trust me. I have failed multiple times and yet I’m still going, don’t let a couple of failures hold you back!
I think its not a good idea and healthy trying to forget and push away our feelings. But letting go is hard isn't it? I kinda understand, because Im also trying to forget someone. Maybe its impossible unless I get brain washed or they disappear from my or this world.
Have you tried getting a new perspective on her? Or any chance she's into guy in the future?
Hope it helps you somehow, and sorry for my clumsy writing
How many girls are rug munching these days? In this comments section I've seen so many men say their crushes end up being lesbian. I've read this more often than guys claiming any sort of success with their crushes.
Gonna ask out my crush in my dreams bro, thanks for the confidence
How did it go?
WISHING THE BEST! Remember, win or lose it’s all in your favor!
@@USSFFRU Guys my crush isn't real, they're in my dreams cause I don't currently have a crush 😭
lol
Well i basically told my crush what i feel by being obvious about it, it didnt end well i ended up doing weird and creepy things(following her around, staring at her, etc.) And at the time i didnt know what i was doing, i was clueless on how my actions look. She also looks back at me from time to time in my mind i was saying maybe if she likes me too, but in reality, shes just being on guard because im a creep. In the end one of her friends told me about what i do and that she gets creeped out about my actions. So i got depressed(really depressed), hated myself and it lasted for a few months until i healed myself by having a better personality, mindset, and I even made new friends and established a friend group from scratch. I also started avoiding her, sometimes my body just runs away when i see her, its gotten a bit better now i dont run instinctively as often. Now I actually feel happy but, seeing her in class, she would sometimes look at me(i think shes looking at my eyes to sew if im looking at her) and i just, not look back at her. Its nearly the end, only 1 month more and ill stop going to that school cause ill go somewhere else, i think i wont ever be seeing her again after july
To sum up, I dont think telling her my feelings is good, i already messed up its too late now sadly. Ill wait for this to pass and hopefully move on in the future. Dont be depressed or hate yourself for what you did fellas, find ways to better yourself and forgive yourself. In my case i changed as a person and realized that the me then, didnt know what he was doing, but because of him, I became the me today. Thanks for reading hope its not too long, stay strong and always strive to be better.
I'm a lesbian, and this video inspired me to finally go out and ask my crush out to a homecoming dance. She said yes! Even though we decided to not commit to a relationship, it was still an amazing experience. I doubt you will ever see this comment, but I just want to say thank you for encouraging me and all the other kings and queens out there to finally do it. You rock!
I just helped out my friend this way and they did the same you did, along with the homecoming dance! I am a man but with something called emotional intelligence (where I come from only the gay men have that), not that it matters I’m mega insecure and tell myself lies convincing myself that others could view me as something of a creep; being the person I am I then set boundaries and everything becomes a loop of me worrying about someone/something and either invalidating myself or ending up with bleach in my mouth. I’m sorry for the rambling, and trauma and self invalidation aside, I told my friend to “Go commit lesbian! ❤” after they told me that they might have gotten sparks for another one of my friends during a sleepover. (I love girl friend-groups, I feel like I belong and I’m heard and I’m valued where as they guy friend-groups I have at home are all sporty spaghetti brains.)
"If you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away, If you spend your time making a beautiful garden, the butterflies will come to you. And if they don't come, you still have your garden."
Deep man
You put quotation marks, but you failed to provide the identity of the individual themselves.
Bro's positive vibes r crazy
Rejection = character development👍🏻
Canon event
I'm 17, and I haven't had much love stories in my life, in fact, outside of one online relationship, I've had none. It's hard to explain why, but I just didn't look at the world right, I just thought that I was worthless and rejection would be the end of me, so instad of aproaching the people I had interest in, I just became close friends with them. This lack of confidence came from my excessive weight, but now I've started my journey by loosing it, and yes, I haven't reached the place I want in terms of body, I am deffenetly way more confident about my looks. It's been under a year from when I finally saw the world as I do today, and I do now feel like I have a shot at her accepting, though I got mood and paranoia problems now, at least my view is clear now. I'm planning on asking a girl out, I'm not sure what I should say, and I'm 90% certain I'll get rejected, but it's worth a try. I wont begin describing this girl, but just know that we're good friends and she has helped me a lot. My only problem is, I don't think I'll be able to deal with rejection in a way where it will help me, and I really don't know what to do about it, I will not let it stop me from shooting my shot, but the fear is there. Anyways, would like to know if there's any advice anyone can give me on any topic I've mentioned in my comment, besides that, great vid.
Very similar story, i just got rejected, but i rlly wanna see someone else succeed so what happened between u two?
@@madness_bomb9601 believe it or not, I haven't gotten the balls to do it yet. I'm trying to get into that spot where I think I'm ready. We got into the same class again, after school starts I will tell her. Sorry for what happend to you and I hope youre doing good. After I confess I'll get back here and tell you how it went.
19 years old here, ive been single almost my life (one relationship which i massively regret; i lost a very good friend by dating her) but ive asked friends out before, been rejected, and remained close friends after the fact. this advice is probably out of date rn but if itd help anyone else: i'd recommend making it absolutely clear that even if she rejects you, you'd like to continue being friends and that you won't ask her again. it sounds like she cares about you, and so would want to maintain your friendship; as someone who has also been confessed to by a friend i wasn't interested in, that was my number one concern. in the event of rejection id try to arrange for coffee with mutual friends to prove there's no hard feelings, and try to move on, although that last bit goes without saying of course. i hope whichever decision you made, everything went well!
@@toothfairy10133 well if you're interested in an update, I haven't confessed and I gave up on her because were going to different universities in different cities. We still remain close friends, even closer now. It's a relationship I cherish, I have gotten slightly better with confidence but I still dont know how to get to social events to meet new people since I dont get invited much. But, I'm doing better and thanks for the advice.
Forget Andrew Tate, You the only internet motivational speaker that be spitting facts
Tate represents the false belief of men's fantasies towards women for pleasures, aka Toxic Masculinity or Toxic Men in general. That's not true love.
Not even into anyone rn and just felt like watching to prepare, great video keep up the good work king.
Got a crush on her 8 months ago, 3 months into us talking, first crush ever, now we are basically best friends and now i know how I feel but haven't found the time to tell her mainly because of school, she's in my grade but just in the female section, I was planning on confessing on farewell but it got moved, and I don't want to stress her with it before exams but I don't want to overwhelm myself by hiding this throughout exams so I've chosen to confess today, she was in another city over the weekend and I'm just waiting for her to come back to our city so she's home when I break the news to her, I know the outcome is going to be negative, but all I want is to get it off my chest and am just hoping our friendship doesn't get effected by it, because it isn't just a little crush, I truly love her, it just took me months to realise it.
Good luck brother
Remember that its never the end of the world.
i clicked on this cuz i thought it’d be entertaining but i genuinely loved this vid. i’m a girl and i have a guy i’ve liked for a long time and it’s driven me like insane. i don’t think i’m attractive at all and very few people have told me that i am, but i love positive videos like this and it gives me a little hope + courage. also rlly cool to see this from a guy’s perspective !
I waited 1½ years, slowly decaying, to be honest with her. I always knew she didn't feel the same, but that mixture of fear and hope made me pursuing that way. In the end I understood the best thing was to tell her anyways, because our friendship turned toxic, and it would have gotten worse if I waited more. You can't suppress your feelings, pretending every time it's needed, it's just impossible, you'll feel worse and worse as the time passes, and for nothing. The best way is being honest, always, for yourself and your loved ones. Yourself because you don't need to pretend anymore, and for your loved ones because you may convince them that you're friends, but as your happiness starts to collapse, even your "friendship" will, and they will suffer too
oh no, its been a little over a year for me now and I'm starting to feel worse and worse each passing day. also yeah, she def doesn't feel the same
i am not talked to ever and abandoned by friends often, so i tend to just not develop a crush anymore, when i was even younger i said to myself that i gave up on love, now i just live by myself in every escenario, always kind and speaking happily to anyone who cares enough to give me the word, but i learned to not try hard anymore for anyone who isnt there
Women advice from a biological female:
Having been a woman for all of my life, here are some tips on how to attract your crush
1. Become friends with her first
Making sure she's comfortable around you makes a huge difference, and once you know her a little better, then's the time to start flirting
2. Do not just respond ok to everything
Use a synonym, such as "alright", "got it", or "no problem" if using it multiple times in a conversation
3. Don't come on too strong
Don't shower her with all the attention, talk to her casually for the most part
4. Don't use the internet psychology tricks
We know you're using them
If you follow these steps you'll probably at least be friends with her
Also if she demands you buy her things, leave her. She's only in it for the money.
Don't be afraid to say something just because you're close friends or something. In fact, this is all the more reason to do so. Frankly, its unfair to the other person to keep this quiet, as keeping it quiet for too long may lead them to think that you were only spending time with them in hopes of getting into a relationship with them, and not solely to spend time with them. Don't let yourself be afraid, come clean and keep your expectations realistic.
A month ago, (I think) I gathered up the courage to ask her out. I gave her a note and a week later, she gave me a note with her number. We went out (as frens) until I asked her if we should start to date she said no. Annnnnnnnddd thats when shit started to go downwards, alcohol was on my mind and her. After a while, the pain is there. But its manageable. Then I realized, damn I really did ask someone out and the girl had somewhat of interest in me. Something that I couldnt do a year ago. I now attempt to be better, observe my mistakes and be a good friend to my homies.
That is my promise.
and to those wondering how I did it. This is cringe but I always have the same words in my head to ignore fear.
"I am the master of my fear, fear is my servant"
One more reason rejection is good and confessin is bad
Pro: You see the character of that person, if she says eww, she wasnt good for you anyway, but if she nice, then you might as well have a friend for later
Keep it lighthearted!
Counter: you might make things awkward if they are someone you meet on a daily basis
It's not always that simple. I've had a crush on this girl for about a year and I haven't told her anything because A) I don't want to go through what I went through with my last crush, and B) I've been in a position where I COULD NOT tell her anything. At my college, we have this class/friend group she and I are in. Now, I've liked her well before that group was established, but once classes began, I was walking a thin line. However, at least for a few months, it seemed like she was showing genuine interest in me. Like she was doing things with me a normal friend wouldn't do. But then it went silent over the summer, and now I'm more unsure than ever. Now we're out of that class so I am free to tell her, but the fear of past failure or making a bad decision creep up on me every time I think about it.
Is there any way you can see her again? Ask her to something you would do with friends and see if she likes you?
when i first met this girl, i was hooked. full on obsessed with her. i became the biggest creep i ever was and i hated myself for it. i was so confident i would have her as a gf that it just like flew over me that she could say no. i ended up telling her when ill ask her out (BAD IDEA) and i did and i got rejected. cried for weeks but i was only like 15 so who was really surprised at the end of it. Months went by when we realised we were in the same year next year (here you can choose to do an extra year or not, we both did it) from there i started to talk to her in person more, we text more and we would always have fun talking to eachother whether it be on the phone or irl. I said to myself "im not in love with her anymore" and as the weeks and months went by i kept saying that knowing i was in denial at that point. we talked 24/7 sure. i thought i wouldve been stupid to not ask again, so i did. i asked her out again. i got rejected again. i got bullied, depressed for that whole year and so much more. Before when i was sad i would go to her but now she is why im sad and no matter how many times ive held her tears. it was for nothing. we went back talking the next month and when i realised what i was doing i stopped. no more texting. no more calling. all i did was go to work, do push ups and go to gym. 3 months later she asked why i blocked her for literally no reason and well, i wasnt going to abandon her, anymore. We went back talking and now i focus way more on myself than anyone else but shes always been there whenever i need it and i help out whatever way i can. I kinda dont want to admit it but she has shaped my life. she made me become someone i didnt know existed. Im not saying "oh im a sigma now look at me" but if i didnt just ask her in the first place, none of this would even be a thought. i am happier then i have been for the past 4 years. i dont let people push me around because now, im strong literally both mentally and physically to say no f#k off. I have been single forever, my younger brother has had more girlfriends than me, all my friends have girlfriends. i am the definition of a loser. but im happy and im different so i dont care about any of that
Wow dude you’re such an inspiration
This is the story of my life man. I had a crush on the same girl from kindergarten all the way to highschool and i never told her. The was my one and only crush in my whole life so far.
I'm honestly just scared not because she'll reject me. I'm just scared that I'll be too much for her, and it'll ruin her emotionally. She's very fragile, and I don't know if she'll be okay if I cut it off.
I never had a crush so this video helped me to look at the idea of what to do when you do have a crush. If I get a crush, I think the advice in this video will help. It seems clear-cut and concise to me.
This video has me thinking about all the times I've been rejected. From my school crushes brutally rejecting me to getting ghosted. One of the greatest examples had to be one of my high school crushes. I was so in love with her that I wanted to find ways to talk to her or even say hi. That is until I saw her kissing a guy while trying to get to class. I was so heartbroken after seeing that. I told one of my classmates about it and she convinced me to write a poem to my crush to win her heart over. Unfortunately, because I was socially awkward (I believe), I ended up making the poem perverted to her and she turned me down. Some time after that, she seemed to have accepted to an extent until Senior Lunch. She avoided me like hell. The first time I thought she was in a rush to meet her friends, but the second time I realized she was really avoiding me. I didn't want to continue chasing her despite the fact that I just wanted to talk to her. As soon as she hid behind some big guy, I walked up to her friend that was pretty much following her as well and asked her "why is she running away from me like I'm a psycho perv?", she responded "Oh, I don't know". The way she said it indicated that she KNEW why, but didn't want to tell me. Once I got the jist of the situation, I decided to give her space which REALLY hurt me. It also didn't help that I couldn't graduate that year because of the amount of credits I had. It was one of the worst days of my life and I was depressed for a whole month. But after thinking about how everything think went, it made me realize that I really needed to work on myself more and NEVER do that stupid poem thing again otherwise history would repeat itself. Weirdly enough, I want actually THANK her for running away from me that day in order for me to improve myself! Ain't that something? I'm more warey of my actions when meeting women and make sure that I don't do anything as cringeworthy as I did in the past. Otherwise, the girl of my dreams that I may meet one day will run away the same way my high school crush did. However, seeing how today's society is, I might not ever get that chance for a long time...
I won't lie. Someone once told me something eye opener, and I suddenly stopped dating people and dont plan on dating anyone in the future.
"I am too much. Being clingy scares men away. "
Thank you to that old friend.
Depends on what you mean by clingy.
Though that’s the path I’m going, though the difference is that I’ve never dated anyone and never will.
@a_randomuser4402 I guess I wanted to talk to my ex how my day was and tell how it went. Sometimes, I randomly share stuff. I remember wanting to check how he was because he usually was down and didn't want him to be upset.
I even warned the guy I'm clingy. I always want to share and talk and just spend time as much as I can when he is free or doesn't have anything planned. He had other motives the more I think about it.
I guess after he dipped and i told my friend about it and her telling me that made me just lose complete interest in dating. So i guess I was clingy, and that spooked him, haha 🤣
@@StrangeCoquiLoves, seems more like you were in the honeymoon stage of the relationship, kind of normal to be like that at first.
Though I don’t know, lol.
I’d probably be clingy as well, and considering I’m a boy it would probably spook the girl a bit more.
Probably. They might think you are joking and start to have doubts but it depends who it is h9nestly
I'm pretty loyal when it comes to having a crush and not switching easily
For me, the biggest thing stopping me was anxiety that I could somehow do it better. That if I worded it, or waited for juuuuust the right time then they'd say yes. It never worked. Now there are good and bad times to ask someone out, but there will never be a perfect moment. Sometimes you have to do something before you have the chance to think about it, and realize that the usually the worst that will happen is your friendship being a little awkward for a bit. And if you can't be their friend, you don't have to be.
Man, it's so unfortunate my years of young love are over and I'm only 21. Yes, it can end that soon if you let it. I unfortunately let it and now I'm in an uncomfortably stuck situation that doesn't really have a bright ending to it due to my disability and my living situation. If you really like someone, now is the best time to start going forward with it. You can take it slow, you don't have to tell them right away, but just getting to know them and making the relationship more and more special makes you more confident and positive that they're the one. Good luck to you young lovers.
My man you’re still young ! 21 ain’t old brother, keep looking. I’m sorry for your situation, but you’re life isn’t over! Keep going
about 5 years ago i met my soulmate. i felt connected to her as soon as i heard her voice and i fell in love within the first week. she’s an amazing girl and not a day goes by where i don’t think of her, i never had love like that before or since. it was authentic and true and real. we broke up almost 3 years ago and i’ll still text her here and there but she doesn’t respond much anymore, has a new boyfriend these days and i support her happiness, i want her to have a good life and i dont like being selfish but i know that i’m the one for her. we were so comfortable around each other and were always open with everything, we would occasionally argue but nothing bad, we disagreed plenty but we had the same goals and outlook on life and i loved getting her opinions on anything, just hearing her speak. i used to talk her to sleep after she went to bed even though i knew she was still awake, telling her how grateful i was for a girl like her, about how perfect to me she was, and telling her about my day. she left a void in my heart nobody else could fill. and i still think about her every day and i just wish her the happiness she deserves . and maybe one day that she’ll see me in the crowd, and give me one last chance. then maybe grow to love me again.
You have got to let her go. Reciprocating passion doesn’t work. Be strong and hard.
Last time a girl rejected me, I became enlightened and had the happiest day of my life. And when I had a crush again, it was easy to let it go.
I want to make a video and elaborate further on this later, but I stopped defining my value with romance. I stopped entitling myself to anyone because everyone exists just to be themselves, not to serve me.
I’m still curious about people and that’s okay, you should allow yourself to be curious and adore the beauty of others. But instead of dreaming about romancing them, think about what they want. Hope and wish that they have a loving partner.
Most importantly, accept that you are whole with or without this crush, and you will not fear asking them out.
I confessed to my friend, went to the bathroom, looked in the mirror and thought "I'm such a beautiful strong woman".
I have only ever had one crush, and that was when I was 7.
I stopped having a crush on her, once I found out we were actually related...
wtf?
@@wornplatypus4781 ya turns out she was a distant cousin on my dads side.
WTF 😭SHIT ESCLATED FAST
@@kyobere9413 ya. You can see why I don’t have crushes anymore
I had a crush on my now girlfriend for 3 years… and she had a crush on me for 3 years. Funny, eh? And it was my brother who asked her if she liked me.
I told her how I feel that time, and surprisingly, she had crush on me too, so I became her BF for 3 years, just broke up with her 10 days ago.
Always try it, you'll never know the outcome before you try
Update 04/01/2023: I got a new crush, she's my classmate, I'm still getting some courage to tell her how I feel, but I think she already knew that I had crush on her, and sometime she act like flattered after that time I ask her out to take picture together in the last year, so hopefully, I can be her BF real soon :)
I’m happy you overcame your fear to ask her out!! I’m sorry it didn’t work tho, I’m wishing the best king
@@KingTheodore100 Thank youu!! I hope your channel can grow big so all of the kings out there can know your channel!
any update?
Ngl, fear of success hits hard. You spend so much time working on yourself or a goal and right before you accomplish something, you ask yourself, "then what?" To this day it's still a huge deterant for me but I refuse it to allow me to quit.
I think YOU dropped this 👑
ahhh thank you king!!
My brother, Im one of those who are kind of scared to fall in love for the reasons you mentioned, but it's not something that I despise I simply don't want to.
But this video made me think otherwise; you made me realize that by overcoming that fear I'll be a better person, so yeah, I'll try this year. Obviously with caution, cause comments like Brendon's one made me think a bit deeper, but I'll make sure to try to fall in love and confess it.
Thank you Kings, you, and everyone in the comment section
I told her, she doesn't feel the same, she never did and she never will. Now she wants to take distance, I bet if we weren't on the same classes, she would avoid me at all. I didn't want this to happen, I just wanted to clarify things so I could get over it and finally be her friend without any romantic desires. Now we won't talk, we won't joke and I won't feel good being around her.
Was it really worth it? I lost everything I had with her, I really enjoyed spending time with her and now that's over. Probably for ever, who knows.
didnt work im dead now goodbye
are you okay?
I hope we arent too late
If she said no, she wasn’t right for you. Keep your chin up and keep moving bro!
Ofc i did, got friendzoned :/
Same 😭
atleast you can stop pursuing her without knowing
Ngl this was a really good video! The message was very nice and I really enjoyed your voice and editing style! I am a little confused on why it was recommended to me though since I'm a lesbian in a relationship, but none the less I'm grateful it was. Keep up the good work!
HAHA IDK WHY IT WAS RECOMMENDED TO YOU EITHER BUT IM HAPPY TO HEAR YOURE IN A RELATIONSHIP! Maybe the advice could suit you elsewhere
If your going to admit you like them, but don’t see it working, make sure to include that. Not as a guilt trip or anything, but openly admit you have feelings but you can pick up it isn’t going anywhere but you still would like to tell them. Also when you like someone your going to act weird no matter what. So telling them can explain why you act a certain way around them
Tell him or her, you will be laughed or loved. That's all no big deal.
Life is still going. Just no matter what. Be brave and focus on yourself: be better till the best, honey ❤
The most romantic love is with yourself 😉
For mem my roadblock in asking someone out is this little thought in my head "Do you REALLY like her, or are you just trying to follow a guide to life?" Its really hard to explain. Its like I'm convincing myself in my mind that I don't like this girl and that I'm just trying to get a girlfriend because you need to have one. The thing is, I flip between the 2 frequently. I seem to have moments where I truly wish I had someone to call my love and be together with. But then a few days later I'll think I'm just trying to follow the teenager guide. It sucks because that means that in myself, I don't even know the truth, so its really hard for me to ask them out because what if I don't actually like them? Whats that gonna do for them?
- dont be creepy
- dont be desperate
- be genuine
- be straight forward
If they say no, it's their loss
If they say yes, then 🎉🎉
Just remember in the end
It won't hurt as much than never telling them
I told her. She rejected me. Then after like 2 months being friends she asked me out. I accepted and we were going out for 2 months more or less and then she broke up with me. We are still good friends and it didn’t hurt our relationship. Just ask her out bro.
whaat??? Bro i was COPING.
Bro I've known this girl for like a month now, we stay up late texting every day and I think I'm catching feelings for her but idk if I should just tell her now and get it over with or wait. What do you think?
@@LebbyTalks depends on if youre scared of not being involved with her. Its always embarrasing being the one to ask, but in my opinion its also always the most rewarding. Itll be okay, the world wont end, and you will stay the same. So to answer your question, if you like her, ask. If you do not, dont. it is that easy.
As the great fire lord liu kang once said to the doubtful and anxious raiden.
"Don't think about the outcome, think about your actions. They are the only thing you can control."
I confessed my feelings to her on christmas and it went better than I expected, because I was afraid it would've ruined our friendship, but it didn't! She thinks of me as a friend, but she would defeniteley consider me.
So maybe one day that could change!
Thank you making this video
Leave the situation you just got friendzoned
@@solansigilknight welp
"She would consider me" LMAO
@@PurXion_777 cool u find it funny
there was a girl in my class that i had feelings for but i couldnt tell her how i feel because i was scared and now i regret it a lot
regret hurts a lot more than rejection
thank you, now we dont talk anymore :D
solid vid bro, got rejected by a close friend. We're still good friends almost like nothings happened lmao. She's kind of oblivious to how much i cared abt it but tbf I played it off really well, but damn that hurted. Still not that bad I'm chilling, I'm not content with these results though. Call me a simp, delusional, copium addict but Imma try again LOL. Not anytime soon though, don't want to be pesky and annoying and ruin the friendship but why not yknow. We're one year apart and she leaves for college next year might as well try for prom (I'm younger). But yeah video's cool thought I'd share my story on the internet with my fellow strangers.
I’m glad you shared! Regardless man, I wish the absolute best and if she does reject focus and improve king! You got this
Btw all the character developement stuff goes the same way with breakups. Once you get dumped, if you channel your energy into wanting to get better, you can have one incredible character arch and that stuff is super great for getting back in a relationship as well
My story is simple as it is. I’m currently in freshmen year and have been rejected twice already. But that didn’t stop me from going to the gym more with my mother, she gave me the proper ways to lift and now I push my limits beyond what I can lift. Not to go off topic but my advice to you guys is when you want to impress her, don’t make it obvious, be yourself and do what you are good at doing. Even if it means to make funny jokes (dark jokes are for the boys only, don’t tell her any of them). And if she comes back to you after rejecting you. Remember this quote I made “ she had her chance and she didn’t take it, so stay away from her”