I was taught to be codependent, I was brought up in a strict religious home that devalued women. I was taught to put others needs, wants, etc. in front of myself. If you know the good to do, not doing it was sin; that was how I was manipulated by a narcissistic parent. I did not realize my parent was a narc till I was in my late 50's. Better late than never, I'm starting to understand why I made poor choices in life.
You have hit the nail on the head!! And my church told me to submit and that I can't leave. What a horrific situation! Finally God told me to get out!!!!
Ophelia, I'm fighting a cold too, and recovering from a covert narcissist who did me a favor by throwing me out because he knew he couldn't control me anymore.
@@heatherkennedy8213 Hi Heather...it really is sad that we have to deal with these dirtball. I kbiw it may be hard but at least you are not stuck in that relationship anymore.
Beware of the trauma bonding early in the dating, Coverts are good at this. They will tell you about their sad childhood or former marriage or some other tragedy and that easily hooks an empathetic person in. Run if this happens.
First, DR. CLARKE, you are a Godsend. God bless you always. I recently broke up with my narc, 2nd time after being divorced! 🙋♀️me, super co dependent. anyways, when we are together he treats our daughter like 💩, but when we break up he treats her like a princess. So terrible. But she is 15. And she is so tired of his games. I am praying so hard that God will give me the strength to keep him away from my life.
How long were you in the relationship? My daughter is in one, not married (thank God). They have 4 girls together and he isn't engaging with them at all. I'm praying for my granddaughters to break this ugly chain. Thank you for listening
Thank you, Dr. Clarke! Watching your videos has been very helpful for me. I am seeing a therapist and trying to build up enough strength and courage to get out of my marriage. My husband is a big time narcissist. God bless you for making these videos available on youtube.
Thank you so much for calling things out so strongly. We’ve been with a number of counsellors who left me feeling completely confused. It’s only by the spirit of God that I’ve been able to discern what’s really going on. Your content is helping me so much to feel stronger and deal with things that had been unimaginable to me
Hey Dr. Clarke. I just in the last couple of months subscribed to your channel and started watching your videos. Even though you talk about a painful topic, I love your delivery. I be doubled over laughing at your responses. I love the way you call your wife “the Blond”.Please keep schooling us on these DIRT-BALLS/DIRT-BAGS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Will be ordering one of your books and the workbook.
A good man doesn’t act that way. Very impactful statement! Someone who loves you for you will not act like that to you! I also told the narc I live in the United States. I’m not tied to you for life!
Please do video on npd siblings…I have an awful narc sister who’s targeted me for decades….almost 0 contact since covid❤🎉…..not only do you give such wonderful information….you totally make me laugh 😂
My husband has stonewalled me for over 40 years! And some of the things have been for the entire 40 years! I just learned about this from my therapist……our therapist! And you’re right! He cares ZERO!
I need to heal with God's grace, made my mistakes and believing it was my problem. But after 8 and a half years, he did me a favor by throwing me out because he couldn't control me anymore. He even had the audacity to say I caused him PTSD, yet he would gaslight me so much, O rely believed it was my issue.
I don't think there is anything wrong with teenagers or adults wanting to be influencers! If they are living for Christ, they can be influencers for Him. It's all about motives, whether it's selfish or serving others.
Your podcast has changed so much for me I really thought it was me. Listening to your podcast has helped me so much I'm so grateful for your TikTok video. I'm recently married to my husband but we have been together since 2012. He's first wife left to be with another man so I came in knowing he was raising his 6 kids alone n I have 4 7:357:37
This might be weird question but how can you loose everything? Specifically When you have a joint checking account that you don’t have an access but him?
Some time these toxic people had something happen in their child hood they are little children with a grown person body they know nothing about love love your self Jesus Christ in my life helps me to move on never make your self a victim by staying in a toxic relationship sign Cynthia Smith
Dr Clark is right I have experienced everything he has on video I make my self not a victim by moving on Jesus Christ in my life is me from years of abuse sign Cynthia Smith
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I was taught to be codependent, I was brought up in a strict religious home that devalued women. I was taught to put others needs, wants, etc. in front of myself. If you know the good to do, not doing it was sin; that was how I was manipulated by a narcissistic parent. I did not realize my parent was a narc till I was in my late 50's. Better late than never, I'm starting to understand why I made poor choices in life.
This sounds exactly like my childhood. And life choices after the abuse! I feel your pain.
So true.
You have hit the nail on the head!! And my church told me to submit and that I can't leave. What a horrific situation! Finally God told me to get out!!!!
🤣🤣🤣....i am fighting a cold and i am meaner than usual...i love you Dr. Clarke..so real....so authentic....may God bless you and family🙏🙏.
Ophelia, I'm fighting a cold too, and recovering from a covert narcissist who did me a favor by throwing me out because he knew he couldn't control me anymore.
@@heatherkennedy8213 Hi Heather...it really is sad that we have to deal with these dirtball. I kbiw it may be hard but at least you are not stuck in that relationship anymore.
Beware of the trauma bonding early in the dating, Coverts are good at this. They will tell you about their sad childhood or former marriage or some other tragedy and that easily hooks an empathetic person in. Run if this happens.
That's how it was for me. My ex was married to his mom. It was horrible.
First, DR. CLARKE, you are a Godsend. God bless you always. I recently broke up with my narc, 2nd time after being divorced! 🙋♀️me, super co dependent. anyways, when we are together he treats our daughter like 💩, but when we break up he treats her like a princess. So terrible. But she is 15. And she is so tired of his games. I am praying so hard that God will give me the strength to keep him away from my life.
I got out of a narc relationship. I am so glad we weren't married.
How long were you in the relationship? My daughter is in one, not married (thank God). They have 4 girls together and he isn't engaging with them at all. I'm praying for my granddaughters to break this ugly chain. Thank you for listening
Thank you, Dr. Clarke! Watching your videos has been very helpful for me. I am seeing a therapist and trying to build up enough strength and courage to get out of my marriage. My husband is a big time narcissist. God bless you for making these videos available on youtube.
I love watching you Dr Clarke!! You make me feel better and not crazy. I'm still healing, I was in it for 23 years. Hello to the blonde 😊
Thank you so much for calling things out so strongly. We’ve been with a number of counsellors who left me feeling completely confused. It’s only by the spirit of God that I’ve been able to discern what’s really going on. Your content is helping me so much to feel stronger and deal with things that had been unimaginable to me
I’m so happy i found your channel!
Thank you, Dr. Clarke. Your wisdom and wise council has helped me so much. You're the best!
Hey Dr. Clarke. I just in the last couple of months subscribed to your channel and started watching your videos. Even though you talk about a painful topic, I love your delivery. I be doubled over laughing at your responses. I love the way you call your wife “the Blond”.Please keep schooling us on these DIRT-BALLS/DIRT-BAGS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Will be ordering one of your books and the workbook.
The pastor told me that he didn't know what to say to my cheating husband and still let him usher in the church. I left that church. I was crushed.
spineless. i hope you're doing better now
So true. Playing the victim is off the chart!!
good content. please add financial abuse to your list of abuses.
Thank you! Now I understand why both of my wives were narcissists!
A good man doesn’t act that way. Very impactful statement! Someone who loves you for you will not act like that to you! I also told the narc I live in the United States. I’m not tied to you for life!
Do you have a book about how to heal from the trauma from a Narcissist?
Thank you for hanging in there even when you have a cold...you are a trooper...
Please do video on npd siblings…I have an awful narc sister who’s targeted me for decades….almost 0 contact since covid❤🎉…..not only do you give such wonderful information….you totally make me laugh 😂
My husband has stonewalled me for over 40 years! And some of the things have been for the entire 40 years!
I just learned about this from my therapist……our therapist! And you’re right! He cares ZERO!
I need to heal with God's grace, made my mistakes and believing it was my problem. But after 8 and a half years, he did me a favor by throwing me out because he couldn't control me anymore. He even had the audacity to say I caused him PTSD, yet he would gaslight me so much, O rely believed it was my issue.
They hurt the victim in their head so it doesn't show their abuse
THANK YOU FOR THE GOOD WORK SIR
Thank you! I was with a Nac for 29 years I am still going through therapy and he still calls and trys to manipulate me
Thank you Dr. Clark ! Even down to their career! Wow!!
I love you Dr Clarke you maybe don't realise how you are healing and impacting life's you are full of wisdom and love. ❤
You mentioned everything that I was going thru. Amazing. I am purchasing some of your books
39:45 Vital info. To everyone reading this, I wish you love, peace and happiness. God bless and keep us all🙏
Love your videos thanks for the help
Try gargling with Pink Himalayan sea salt for your cough😃I learn SO much from you!!! Thank you❤
Thank you I got out
This is all true!
MaMa's boy gets a LOT of money from mommy too. So strange to witness. She pays him to be like her, even worse!
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How about living for Jesus !! I love it!! My daughter would laugh in my face. She rather work in a weed store she's under the narc kool-aid.
I don't think there is anything wrong with teenagers or adults wanting to be influencers! If they are living for Christ, they can be influencers for Him. It's all about motives, whether it's selfish or serving others.
Stay under the radar! That makes peace.
Your podcast has changed so much for me I really thought it was me. Listening to your podcast has helped me so much I'm so grateful for your TikTok video. I'm recently married to my husband but we have been together since 2012. He's first wife left to be with another man so I came in knowing he was raising his 6 kids alone n I have 4
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What to do about the house between us
Where can I buy this book? I can't find it on Amazon
This might be weird question but how can you loose everything? Specifically When you have a joint checking account that you don’t have an access but him?
We certainly have to focus on ourselves but I am wondering how narcissistic people became this way ? 🤔
Some time these toxic people had something happen in their child hood they are little children with a grown person body they know nothing about love love your self Jesus Christ in my life helps me to move on never make your self a victim by staying in a toxic relationship sign Cynthia Smith
Dr Clark is right I have experienced everything he has on video I make my self not a victim by moving on Jesus Christ in my life is me from years of abuse sign Cynthia Smith