The Top 10 Reasons to STAY with a Narcissist.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ธ.ค. 2023
- Dr. David Clarke, will be hosting a special session titled "The Top 10 Reasons to Stay with a Narcissist."
Event Details: 📅 Date: Wednesday Dec 6th ⏰ Time: 7:30 PM EST📍 Livestream Platforms: TH-cam and Facebook.
Key Highlights:
Expert Guidance: Benefit from Dr. Clarke's wealth of experience as he shares practical advice and strategies for those dealing with narcissistic relationships.
Topical Exploration: Gain a comprehensive understanding of the key factors that may keep individuals in relationships with narcissists.
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I have also been environmentally abused.. I have rheumatoid arthritis, being cold is the worst things for my body.. He put a lockbox on the thermostat & has it set to have the heat turn on 15 min before he comes home. He has changed the locks to the basement, &
of course I didn’t get a key. The hot water is set so low, it won’t melt butter off
a knife. When I say “I am really cold” He actually tells me. “you’re not cold”.
i’m on my way outta this prison.
Omg, that’s awful. 😢 mine does similar but not as bad. Hope you can leave. Good luck
The narcissist gaslights you all the time by telling you how you feel, they want to confuse you so you second guess yourself. Narcissists are weak, cowardly, immature people, they go through their whole life playing mind-games on everyone they come in contact with.
Oh gosh. Mine is similar. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
Make sure you leave
So glad you are exiting! Mine pulled similar stuff, it was miserable,, good luck! I'm sure you'll be greatly relieved once you're in your new ( abuse free) home!
I left my Narc ex-husband when my children were 6, 4, and 1. It has broken my heart to realize that my youngest has picked up the behaviour of the Narc. The two older children (now adults) self-identify as empaths. But they both see sociopathic traits in their younger brother. I tried so hard but I couldn’t save him. My youngest son has completely rejected me. I am being given the silent treatment now and stonewalling. I’m the good parent. This is so very, very sad. My heart is broken.
Jesus can help your child, find great counseling and inner healing
Praying for you and your youngest that God completely heals him and restores all relationship in Jesus name 🙏🏾
Amen they told me to pray over myself and kids bind and rebuke that spirit in the blood of the Lamb for every generational curse over us may God be with u as He is with me@@shirlspark_stardust
I don’t understand why most don’t see that narcissism is in the blood too. It’s clear that your youngest is more like he’s dad. I know this for a fact. You can see it in many families with more the one kid. Some are narcissists and some are not. It’s clear that narcissist are not made only. They are born with some of the traits which can be more accentuated if they are raised by a narcissist.
I tried going to pastors but when it got violent and my only response was," that's spiritual warfare you need to pray." Or they side with him and say I need to work on my forgiveness. It's a major frustration.......I believe God showed me what I was dealing with. This relationship has been a nightmare but I see how it has changed me for the better. I no longer need to find my value in what others say of me. Only Jesus defines my worth. I never knew I was codependent. Well I prayed to be healed and to finally see how I keep myself trapped is nice but I still feel stuck. I told my husband I can't do this anymore. Now he is making sure to publicly cry out to God. I've seen this all before. I don't believe it is genuine. I can wish but only God can change this evil. ...I'm a stay at home mom. He told me he doesn't want me to get a job so I can leave him. My only chance is a domestic violence shelter. Jesus please give me strength. I need you.
Praying for you tonight. Yes, God will deliver you. My advice: get some of the abuse on video if you can and stop telling your abuser that you are leaving. Pretend you are staying and begin to plan and heal. If he knows, it will just cause you more pain. Stop talking to those pastors. The Bible is the truth, not what they say. They've all shown you who they are. Believe them. 💛
Get a job if it is within your ability to do it. It will help a lot with your confidence. I would like to say praying for a person like this helps, but you have to remember that there is free will and usually they harden their hearts and you will get to a point where YOU lose HOPE.
My ex claimed to be a Christian. I pointed out that according to the Bible, we may not divorce he said, "God would not want me to be unhappy." I've unfortunately seen that he is just getting worse and worse. It is like a downward spiral. Many more lies, manipulation of our son, updated his LinkedIn profile where his first job experience doesn't read "Service representative" anymore, but "Regional manager of sales" with 7 people under him.
Know that you are not the only person being lied to. They get progressively worse, and he is definitely looking for a new supply since he knows you are onto him.
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I would like to mention that I am in no contact with him, and I don't look at his social media or anything. I believe that God sent me the truth so that I can divorce without feeling guilt because he denied adultery, and I received proof of it. The LinkedIn thing was mentioned by a co-worker of his to our son.
WHAAAAT.? Spiritual Warfare. Well then let that pastor stay with the physically abusive narcissist for a week end, ya know, to cast out the demons etc. These narcissists are HALFLINGS, by choice. They KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING.!!!
These violent marriages are NOT MARRIAGES.COME ON FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, GET OUT BEFORE YOUR ARE PHYSICALLY INCAPABLE TO WORK,SAVE YOUR CHILDREN, STAY SANE. GET OUT & STAY OUT. DR.CLARKE is telling the TRUTH. THERE IS NO LOVE, NO AUTHENTIC LOVE.
God doesn't expect you stay in a abusive relationship some people you cannot live in peace with you have to give them permission to mistreat you they can't do no more than you allow them to do i been in physical and mental abuse got a divorce last year iam 75 years old its never to late to move on don't ever make your self a victim by staying in a toxic relationship learn to love your self sign Cynthia Smith
Hi you are lucky I am 78 and cannot leave because we have a disabled daughter who wouldn't ever survive without his support!
The abuse cycle means fake nice (manipulation) followed by abuse, followed by fake nice, and repeat. The first step is a giant step back. No more supply. No more emotion. No more investment, even if u can't leave. That is the first step to freedom. And stop sharing your thoughts. Gray Rock, Baby.
Had a nice Thanksgiving. Our beautiful son visited us. My narc spouse was on best behavior as he’d never want our son seeing his mother mistreated by his father..a few times my narc spouse got a little edgy with me and he noticed our son’s response to his behavior, then narc looked scared and immediately started being nicer to me…
“Time to fly!🦋” is a good mindset for those who have had enough.
Thank you, Dr, Clarke, for being frank.
A lot of counsellors won’t tell you what to do, in fact they encourage you to stay.
My best friend is a counselor. She doesn’t get it! At. All. Understanding narcissism takes special training that so many are missing. I have a masters in psychology and I didn’t know about covert narcissism until I lived with one!
@@teachertracee I know. I didn’t have a name for these abusers for a long time either.
They may advise you to stay out of fear the Narc will go after them
That’s the biggest regret I have… stayed for the kids…
You can still leave. 💜
@@roses72141 They are both out the house.
I’m leaving as we speak.
May you find the peace and happiness you deserve.
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Thank you, That is all i’ve ever wanted or
needed..
God Bless us all
& keep us safe..
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“Depart from me I never knew you !!! “The most horrific sentence ever spoken !!!
Dr Clark God use you to educate me and make me laugh Thank you for sharing your God giving wisdom on narc abuse
I love your phrases and how you advocate for me and others ❤❤
❤❤❤ you are a blessing . To the people without a voice . So refreshing
They are under demonic influence, thus making it impossible to deal with them unless it's spiritually. Cast out the demons. Flee from them.
I used to cast them out and it scared him so he’d cast them out, too. Problem was he invited them right back. They could no longer be around me so he finally left.
You can’t cast out the flesh…. He has a sin problem…
I just love you, Dr. Clarke! God bless you for being a hero for the broken, weak, and vulnerable. I wish pastors would listen to you. I opened up after 11 months and finally decided I'm not giving up and worked up the courage to tell my current pastor about leaving abuse and he has since ghosted me.
Every single one of them will regret losing you I’m talking about the people that listened to the liar. The liar will also regret it . They will all regret the loss they have not having you in their life. Don’t let them make you sick. Them leaving is for your health sake if anything else. My daughter is also married to a narc and she is staying g for the kids because she is horrified to have to share custody and her not be there to protect them. She is strong but I see what it’s doing to her. I’m praying for all of us here and those that are not but in same situation dealing with a narc in any circumstances. God bless everyone of you. We love you all. Thank you for this message!!
Yes, my narc monopolizes my eldest daughter since she was born. He treats her like a wife. His mother did the same thing to her favourite grand daughter.
I went through this also.
Self care.. I love that you take time for yourself, so that you can better help us.. Thank
you!!❤
Thanks, Dr. Clarke! The more I watch your videos, the more I learn and the more empowered I feel.
Its NOT better for the kids! My 8 year old was like do i have to get married? I said no he said good.
Thank you Dr Clarke. They are indeed weak! No better way of describing these Pastors, marriage counselors and the list goes on.
They are literally afraid to tackle this evil, wicked narcissistic behavior.
Just read Enough Is Enough! GET THIS BOOK! Thanks Dr. Clarke.
Watching on replay thank you
Thank you Dr Clark God led me to your ministry. I've been watching tons of your videos and lives and ordered your books. I'm starting my plan of escape. God bless!
That's what happened to me. He scted like he owned me. I told him that. I said: you act like you own me. What's your problem? You dont define me.
Going through my journey, I am able to see other narcissist in my life and one is a female friend and she is so abusive to her fiance. He takes blame and is belittled and she is so enraged when I called her on it. How to deal with a female friend who is a narc.? She can never see things from my side I realized bec she's been the abuser
Unfriend her… Narcissistic behavior is demonic.. What does light have with darkness ? Let your Journey be free of Narcissistic SLAVERY!!!
Is it one of the traits of a Narc to have amnesia about events of abuse.
He would say I said sorry but continue to see the girl multiple times after. He can't grasp that washes the Apology no changed behavior. Won't leave or come up with his portion of lawyer fee. He thinks I will just forget abt it and "get over it" sits smug
I love you❤ your kind im very strong believer and i left its war fare get out
My mother 70 y is a loving believer.
She would leave if she didnt say yes to him (covenant) marriage, she fears god will judge her.. to hell. Thats the only reason why she never left. Despite him cheating and almpst leaving us for another wealthy woman w kids, when i was young.
He was almost always away when growing up spending moms money on boat trips etc
One day i found out and called the mistress and she told me thank you. She didnt believe me at first. Because He never told her that he had any kids, and his wife was on mental home.
He came home furious after she called him up.
And said this you will regret for the rest of your life.
I saved her family from distaster
He is a stranger to us
Still living w mom, and when meeting her, i feel her stressed energy😢
Don't let them know you are leaving have a plan if they are violent get out quickly they could kill you these people are led by a evil spirit talking to them don't help you will be wasting your time and energy Jesus Christ in my life is helping me to love myself sign Cynthia Smith
I thought when you started and were sitting silent for just a second, that was going to be the point😂There are no good reasons to stay with a narcissist not even 1 much less 10.
Venti Starbucks you're so right❤
Hello Dr. Clarke
He will not initiate counseling. He will say there is nothing wrong with him. He will blame your children for not being responsible and independent which is the worst form of abuse resulting from narcissistic parental alienation syndrome.
Staying makes you sick and unhealthy. Believe me. I was a tank and now I’m a sink hole.
Your my peeps
My narc husband's other woman tried very hard to ruin Thanksgiving. He was pleased with her efforts and the effect. First she started the rumors that it was canceled, then she went through the kitchen where it was to be hosted and moved everything 3 days before and got rid of a whole bunch of things just to spite me. Then the day before she took down all the decorations and I had to try to find them.
Other woman? I am confused by that. So he's with someone and you, too?
@@Tymdden5790 I didn't know she was such a thing until she rearranged the kitchen so II left him and took the cat. He's more upset that I took the cat then that I'm gone. I only came around the next couple days for Thanksgiving and then I don't know what's happening to our marriage but I am not living with him. It is probably over because I haven't stopped communicating but he has stonewalled me because of the narcissistic injury and plus the new supply.
@@Tymdden5790Thank you 😢
Let those go that believe the liars.
How much will your new course be?
Hi, how are you? I have a question I need you to tell me that if only one person can change a relationship because I just saw a documentary like a webinar that it’s called unsinkable I need you to please tell me what do you think about this?
Relationships take both people working towards a common goal. You will not get that with a narc! Quite the opposite. You get someone working AGAINST you.
I am sad because financially I cannot leave mine. I keep applying to jobs but I have no formal education and I’m 54 so it’s so hard to find a good paying job. He had me so bad I took a gun out to unalive myself and rather than going through with it I did shoot it off and now I’m in trouble with the law. My life only gets worse and worse. I feel I hate life and living, there isn’t much to look forward to. I pray God comes through for me because I don’t know how much more I actually can take…
What to do when he calls u the nasossist and I don't feel that I am. He has abused me in every way a person can and yes he lies, and has Cheated too
I am so sorry. I hope Dave addresses this. It is a very typical type of deflection, projection, gaslighting and abuse. Mine did from time to time. There are some videos on this. I am sorry you are going this.
@@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat thank u for understanding.
Call it out for what it is to him.
They HATE the TRUTH!
Say "You are projecting who you are and what you do on me."
Guess what?
Tell him this too.
"That's NOT going to work."
Then walk away.
Done. If you keep talking he will twist it around.
Short and to the point with the truth. Do not over explain yourself.
Speak the truth call wrong out every time with what are facts.
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God hates divorce because it HURTS His people... this is NOT saying, "God forbids divorce", it says He hates it. Let's face it, dirtbags hurt His people. I hate divorce, too, because it's a MESS, but it's necessary in cases like this. Staying married is an even BIGGER mess.
HERE IS MY REASON I CANT LEAVE .. We are 61 yrs old been together since 16 yrs old .. He lost his job 2 yrs ago .. he made 250,000 a yr good insurance.. i’m a school bus driver. ..So last year i got on my works insurance plan for us both..so now we find out he has cancer.. CLL .. slow growing kind .. Now what .. I don’t hate him but i’ve been his victim for forty yrs.. In my heart i know i can’t leave him because of his cancer .. .. and insurance won’t except a preexisting condition.. he did find a job that makes 70,000 a year .. Hus condition is fine for now .. watch and wait.. medicaid won’t happen till we are 65 and a half.. .. any suggestions? please.
Can you find a small apartment close by and still check on him? Or maybe live with a family member nearby?
A lady I know bought a condo, similar situation, she just sees him on the weekends.
He is a cancer to you! Get out! Let him figure it out.
I’m in a similar boat with narc spouse who’s in cancer treatment, ( fin. I can do it, his brain tumor has 90 % chance of returning, mri showed no regrowth but another mri will be done in 2 mos.
He has gr 4 glioblastoma…it was all removed but stats say 1-2 yr life expectancy as it grows back in 98%. I do know I can’t stay many mos. Longer as it’s too toxic) these are good alternatives to think about, though..
It’s his problem. Please leave now.
Dr Clarke:
I have a problem with any therakist thatcwoll not be smartbenough to to relily help you. I went to one after another who said the stupidest things and had nothing else to offer. 1) You need to rethink your marriage! 2) you need to leave him!
As if i didn't think about these? I fekt ripped off. I teskky felt like ivwanted tongue all the more. My nerves were raw i was going down hill. I was so abused by assh-le narc. I didn't know all the things about narcissm and eventually I studied and got it. uosetbatvthese sane comments. Do tgeyvwakt to kill je? I m
3) did you think anout divorce,
Yes then says it's not his fault how they perceive it. Not his prob she thinks they are an item. No accountability
Never to quit terrorizing her…
@lauriediandrea:
Is that your advice?
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My comment was made in response to a question Dr Clarke asked during the live broadcast.. Thanks, i’ll delete it..
Take your children and leave! Almost not an option for men who have narc wives. Our society protects and covers narc wives.
Oh great, another live! Yes, my holiday was ruined, and resolved to never let it happen again. It's my son, and I keep trying to stay connected, but resolved to let go with love. I can't allow myself to be hurt like that young or old, just wrong. 🕯️🫂
Hello!!
@@lauriediandrea715 👋☕🎄hope tonight finds you in good spirits 🤞
How long have you been free??
@@Stardustpal25 Thank you.. You too! It’s so good to hear Dr. C speaks the truth..