I'm really glad I read your comment and then you username in that order, that made me laugh quite a bit. I walk with a stick and it's just the **worst** when someone offers me their seat on a train, HOW DARE THEY?!!?!?! :)
I love the way he was like "if I was in a wheelchair, I wouldn't be afraid of the wheelchair" like... yeah dude, I don't think actual wheelchair users are scared of their wheelchairs either..
"I spent money on this thing to help with my mobility but AHHH it is tooooo scary. Gosh, golly, why did I let this into my home. Ahhhh. So scary. Sure, it would help me move around and experience more of life, probably due to a chronic illness, but IT IS SOO SPOOKY"
One of my professors in college (this particular class met once a week) would have us close our eyes and do some motivational talk and trying to get us to forget about everything that’s going on outside the class. One of the things, I remember, every week she would say something about noticing your feet on the ground and just being attached to the earth. And honestly, that shit helped me get into the rhythm of the class and just be grounded and mentally prepped.
Kurtis:,“They’ll say the craziest shit, and then just keep talking” Also Kurtis, 9 minutes later: “why motivate, when you can motivenine?” *begins to do a brand deal*
i feel so bad for all of those people who are so bad about themselves that they VOLUNTEERED to be bullied in front of a room full of people and then get it uploaded for the world to see
I feel so bad for people that are too lazy to watch the full video because its "an hour long", then judge based on short entertaining video. The guy that was "bullied" actually looked like a totally different person in another video Owen posted. Please don't talk about something you have 0 knowledge of (in this case, trauma release and social conditioning)
@@gamingpig4997that still doesn’t like make me still feel bad form some of theses people, maybe I’m just a snowflake because if I was in that spot and got bullied I would just cry on the floor
@@gamingpig4997 Okay GamingPig, you've got it all figured out 😂 imagine thinking this Owen douche is a good motivator with all his Alpha male shit while also being one of the most unattractive & unlikable people alive. Just imagine being THAT dense.
He's just so jittery, and the way he talks, it's like he's keeping himself distracted so he doesn't start thinking about himself and get crushed under the weight of introspect. He gives people such a desperate look, too, like, "For the love of God, don't let this conversation end, or I will die in myself"
Yeah, especially with the math teacher bit because it took me back to my primary school days when teachers berated me for getting math problems wrong 😅😢.
Kurtis made an excellent point too that the inconveniences disabled people face due to most things being made to be used by abled people is pretty high. People being nice to disabled people is never an insult.
I think the way people are "too nice" is when they keep trying to help when nobody asked ya know, I've done that to a classmate multiple times, and I fell so shity for it nowadays cause he was clearly bothered but I didn't realize it
Honestly, I think he miscommunicated what he was trying to say. He isn't afraid of people being "too nice", he's afraid of being pitied. I think this is probably a deep-seated ego fear that a lot of these guys have. They can't handle pity because they have no self-awareness or confidence.
@@logangantner3863 I see the point you were trying to make about being mindful of your wording. In which case you should have stopped talking after that thought, because the rest of what you typed out was simply a meaningless guess.
@@blackparademistress1 the dude who wrote the paper on “alpha wolves” quickly realized his assumptions were wrongs, and the alpha wolves were the parents of the wolf pack; but his paper on “alpha wolves” had already been published and the american public already adapted the idea, so no one listened when he tried to fix it
Something to note: if someone is genuinely struggling with motivation, self image, self esteem, etc., it’s probably something rooted much deeper than any “alpha-male-motivational-speaker” can comprehend or help with
On point, and sometimes the whole “alpha-male-motivational-speaker” shit is the root of it. This people prey on the young and radicalize them, I've seen nice guys turn "absolute savages" because of this type of content...sad, man...
that’s why therapy exists. yes, it is expensive, but if someone decides to drop $500-2500 on a self proclaimed “motivational speaker” then i’m sure that they can also afford going to a therapist or like a support group (which usually targets a specific community). also, in addition to what you said, they plant these messed up ideas in their heads and i am almost certain that they don’t help anyone in the long run, if anything, these alpha men are shitty, egoistic and pretty misogynistic too.
The "advice" that motivational speakers spew is literally the opposite of what any therapist would tell you and I'm pretty sure it's actively harmful to those who do struggle with it
I'm so glad Curtis has stayed so humble after winning all those game shows in the 80s Dunno why he spells his name with a K now though. I guess...money really does change people.
my family forced me to go to a "motivational course" when i was in highschool, the lady there said that people have cancer bc they live resentful lives and that deppresion didnt exist, and then i skipped classes for the rest of the summer :)
Assuming u have money please seek professional therapy instead of these "courses". IF u are actually unhappy with self image or depressed then these courses/conventions are very damaging instead.
excuse me- I find it very ignorant but I do know people don't believe depression exists but I have NEVER heard someone say that people get cancer because they live resentful lives. Like wut the fuq. My grandma and aunt died of cancer bro-
@@Chikaboom_Boom my grandpa died of it too what the motivational speaker said is so ignorant. a lot of people live happily but still get cancer so it really irked me when i read that part. i'd like to see that speaker get cancer and then have someone tell them "well maybe you were living a resentful life🤷" to see how they would react
Him berating that man on stage and then being like “you know when I’m doing that I’m teaching?” Is the same as when parents beat their kids and say “I do this because I love you” so disgustingly toxic
When I was a kid my soccer coach pressured me to scream as loud as I could because I was too quiet thinking it would help somehow, I did it, and then I cried the whole drive home. He reminds me of this guy.
My elementary school gym teacher took my shyness personally too for some reason. If he called on me (his choice- I never put my hand up)and couldn’t hear my answer he’d start bitching and complaining that he knew I was capable of being louder because he heard me on the playground once.
As someone with severe depression and who struggled with motivation for years, this guy actually does motivate me to keep going, solely for the miniscule possibility that I could meet him and thus have the chance to smack him upside the head.
I like how he says “I want people to like me for the real me” is a beta mindset, but the number one trait of an alpha is apparently being comfortable with yourself
As a wheelchair user, I can confirm that I am NEVER worried about people being too nice to me. People straight up see you as subhuman, going grocery shopping makes me actually wanna die
When I had a serious knee injury, I used one of those motorized carts & people literally went out of their way to sneer & obstruct my path because they assumed I riding it to goof off. People are vile to the disabled.
Awww well that fucking sucks. My friend has been in a wheel chair for years. She gets her fair share of shit as well but we love her so it doesn’t matter.
"alpha male" sounds like boys who are emotionally stunted and neglected but instead of doing the work to identify their trauma/triggers just grew up into hurt men. the real boss move is to introspectively look within yourself and notice the shortcomings you have and deal with them and lean on others when you need help. A friend will always be there.
@@pepperchan6471 yea ur right, it's hard for others to be there for you the way you want. i'm going thru so much and i have to somewhat be there for myself so idk.
@@pepperchan6471 seek a professional. not a motivational seeker or weird people with 0 credibility trying to steal your money, i mean a therapist. i'm of the belief that relying on friends and seeking help with family can lead to more harm than good, because not everyone is equipped to handle someone else's baggage and it's frankly not fair to expect that of everyone at all times. you shouldn't be relying on friends or family for your mental well-being, that'll only drag you both down to the ground. you'll slowly ruin all your relationships by constantly dumping negativity on everyone around you and hoping to get positivity out of other people. you need to learn how to be stable and functional on your own first, and getting therapy might help you get your footing for that.
@@wrioculus @kirin I'm not saying I like motivational speakers or anything, I find them cringey too. And yes, I know that one should not use friends or family as an emotional dumpster, because from a young age my own parents have unloaded their emotional baggage on me, effectively fucking me up. However, a lot of people in my position CANNOT AFFORD THERAPY, and live in shitty countries where seeking help for mental problems is a huge stigma. I'm a minor, and am trapped in a abusive household and have no money. Lots of kids out there like me. Worst thing is that this is normal in my country. Services for child protection won't do shit. So I understand if someone turns to Motivational Speakers as a last desperate resort. It is easy to attract and manipulate emotionally vulnerable and lonely people.
@@wrioculus that sounds much like victim blaming, also as the other comments said not everyone can afford a therapist, especially while being underage and in a non-supportive household. Or maybe they tried and had a bad experience (I got a shitty therapist [which my mom didnt even actually get for my mental health, she just wanted to get a paper saying that I needed a support dog or whatever so our dog could stay home] that costed hundreds and they literally just made me feel like shit and my mom got angry at me for "exaggerating" things. I know this was only 1 therapist and doesn't reflect on all the others, but lmao my mom ain't taking me to another one since she got the paper for the dog. Also, saying that you shouldn't rely on friends or family is only your personal belief. My friends have been what are keeping me floating and alive. I understand than friends are not professionals and they are not equipped to help with your emotional baggage, but that isn't what it is about. It's just about having someone who you know likes you despite you thinking that you're shit. They just listen to me, I listen to them and then we play games together and forget the bad things. It's one of the only times I'm happy and having fun.
This is basically if one of those dudes that swears bullying "builds character" took a couple of improv comedy classes and decided he would get rich off seminars.
The principal of my high school was a motivational speaker and I swear he was the weirdest person. Every assembly felt like an over the top business seminar. It always felt like he had no idea what actually went on at a high school and was just using us to test out new motivational material. He also had one of those face mics!
I recently revealed the genders of my two girlfriends. It got a lot of hate and now has 30 times more dislikes than likes. I am really sad that people can be so mean. Sorry for using your comment to talk about my problems, dear av
Motivational speakers are a lot like fake psychics in that they say incredibly generic things but their audience is going to interpret those generic sayings to apply to their specific situation without even realizing it so they will attribute wisdom or knowledge to the psychic or speaker. It's a natural human instinct to relate to other humans and relate what other humans are saying to our situation. It's a basic part of human empathy. Unfortunately con artists know this and they use it to manipulate people. Which is why so many people believe in horoscopes and those psychics that claim to speak to your dead relatives and motivational speakers apparently.
‘’Oh u just witnessed someone getting murdered which scarred you and will slowly drive you to insanity for lying to everyone that you didn’t witness such a thing…just forget about it, sensitive prick’’
Just be confident in yourself and stop thinking others are judging you! It's easy! Just do it! JUST DO IT! DO IT! FUCKING DO IT!!!! - Him if he was my therapist
Lol what are u supposed to say to them? I remember when my friend was having a asthma attack, I didn't know what to say so my dumbass just said "Just Breathe"
Plus, we need to get rid of the stigma surrounding therapy. A lot of people in professional careers, like lawyers, avoid therapy as it make their records look bad.
Disabled people had to literally fight the Supreme Court to get even the most minuscule accessibility and anti discrimination rights but yeah they’re worried about people being too nice. He’s totally empathetic to disabled folks.
this is what empathetic means by the way: "showing an ability to understand and share the feelings of another." i think the word you are looking for might be apathetic or unsympathetic :)
Owen originally started as a pick up artist, idk if he's still doing it but he usually would bring these guys for seminars, hot seats, then go out together and pick up girls after. I'd love to see a deep dive into this bc Kurtis would find all the wild shit Owen used to say and do and make it hilarious
I'm not trying to sink to his level, but as a straight guy, Owen is one of if not THE most unappealing people I have ever witnessed, physically & mentally. Imagine being around this Brian Posehn looking dude who WILL NOT JUST STOP TALKING, who looks a hot mess AND thinks they have it all figured out. It's just like when you go to jail & every inmate tries to claim that they have the idea for the "perfect crime", like dude YOU GOT CAUGHT lmao 😂
one of the best motivational speakers i’ve ever seen was a veteran who lost his sight while in action. His speech was about his pursuit of education after coming back home, and the difficulties he faced as a disabled person, and the value of education. Hearing him tell his story from a place of personal ups and downs was way more meaningful than any surface level “you can do it”
sooo true. I find that shit motivational. Hearing people talk about ACTUAL adversity they had to overcome - makes you realize how lucky your are and more likely to make the most of each day imo
what a champ! the only good motivational speech I've ever heard was from muniba mazari, in which she told the story of her accident and how she ended up in a wheelchair and everything that followed!
thank u for the pushback on the wheelchair comment, i literally did have to crawl into my dentist's office using my arms because they had multiple steps and no ramp lmao, so right on the mark there
Me as a person in a wheelchair: yes! my disability/wheelchair isn’t the issue, the lack of accessibility, living in a world not built for us, and large amount of ableism that still exists nah not it- people are TOO nice to meee ♿️😂
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere such people are just very insecure due to failing to achieve what they desire, as well as feeling lonely and not appreciated/recognised by people. They get so desperate to get the attention they're unable to get with their set of skills that it makes them jealous someone can actually have it (even when it's mere courtesy) - it's similar to how misogynists always focus on how "men are expected to open doors/carry things" whenever there's an argument about women's rights, as if it's relevant and the "extra niceties" they bring up are at all comparable to the issues discussed. Similarly, they will find any excuse to think to themselves that when someone else has what they want it is undeserved, and must be due to (for example) disability, since everyone is "too nice" - they can't face the fact that they're just not good enough. They almost wish they were in the same situation as they know they wouldn't get the "attention" otherwise, convincing themselves that even mere courtesy is some kind of special treatment (that they crave but can't have), therefore demonising it and staying ignorant to all the issues that come with disabilities. It all stems from hurt egos that are too fragile to face reality, and it's honestly pathetic.
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere most typicals aren’t even aware that there’s a whole differently abled world out there that is absolutely different from how they function. It’s like we’re unicorns lol
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere It’s so insane to me how so many people when they can’t relate on a personal level just decide that it’s ok to throw empathy out of the way.
I had to use a cane for about a year last year because of a huge surgery left me very very weak. I’m 24 and people were so incredibly nice to me, it made me want to vomit.
"Babe, that was not very pog of you." I am going to say this to my boyfriend and watch him exhale forcefully through his nose. Edit: I did it, he reacted exactly as I said. Also, shit man, I didn't expect this many people to care.
Also Kurtis posted this on his story and im new to this channel and is this like a inside joke? or did kurtis make this if so then why? i've asked many people but they can't explain it lmao 😭😭here's the link lmao please tell me i you know th-cam.com/video/jvghBUcdyGw/w-d-xo.html
Yeah but i am sure you would not want people to deliberately be jerks to you because they think if they act nice, it would be insulting. I mean, people have to learn difference between pity and being nice but that doesn't mean people should be taught to act thoughtless like this owen dude seems to be
I love it when a motivational speaker says not to be a "beta" and then goes ahead and says be comfortable with yourself because "alphas" are comfortable with themselves... he does realize that just because he's insecure about himself and hides behind a wall of "manliness" doesn't mean he has to get people to think the same way he does???
@Alice Kae I've never understood the logic of "alphas" and "betas". They kinda don't exist... Either way it's pretty dumb and funny how people can be so serious about this obvious bullshit XD
@Alice Kae Well for one thing, they arent "Alphas" at all. They try to project it in a "fake it till you make it" kind of way. But you will find many men who arent speakers also try to enforce that ideal of manhood in their own lives. I'm sure you noticed that the actual likely response of the audience is that they become less confident right? They are protecting a very narrow version of what masculinity is, and can be. I think fear is likely at the root of it. Fear of having lived their lives "wrong", or resentment that maybe this new generations will be able to follow their own true personalities when it hadn't felt like an option before, or fear of realizing that their actions throughout life weren't 100% their own, that propaganda played into it, society did, that they arent the only influence over their own lives that they thought they were. Etc etc. Plenty of reasons, even if they are still hurtful.
The comment he made about being in a wheelchair just shows that he has never, in fact, had to use a wheelchair before. My grandmother was in a wheelchair and people were far from nice, people straight up would not move out of the way for us coming through, and the stares people would give you for being in a wheelchair was absurd. That comment is so gross to make.
I've been yelled at and complained at by so many people since I started using my chair. People honk at me when I cross the street to go faster. I've been discriminated against at job interviews. Doctors have been dismissive and abusive. It's not easy.
I agree. My uncle was in a wheelchair for the 2nd half of his life and people were rude all the time and it pissed me off. One example: sometimes if he was going through a door/entrance people would cut him off, etc. He was always so chill about it though. That "motivational" guy for sure didn't know what he was talking about lol.
that teacher skit happened to me when i told my fifth grade teach they/them could be used as singular pronouns and it ended bcos i started crying bcos i couldnt think of an example after she started counting down saying "go ahead go tell me when give us an example if ur so smart" and then the other kids got quiet bcos they felt bad
DUDE I'm so sorry. A teacher tried to do the same thing to me, too. I was like "if someone drops THEIR pencil you pick it up and give it back to THEM and THEY say thank you." I've been repping singular They pronoun since I was in elementary because of that one shit teacher, mainly because I was disgusted that she tried to incorrectly correct me lol. But I think it was a great coincidence, I ended up being nonbinary. I think it's insane that someone can grow up speaking a whole language where they regularly use singular They, and not even realize they do it. That teacher sucked, I'm sorry you went through that.
That’s something I will never understand, teachers are just like the students sometimes, lots of them want validation from people less than half their age just because some are popular it’s pathetic
My friend teaches youth music camps wearing a Britney mic, and it’s the most iconic thing I’ve ever seen. TLDR please wear a gamer mic while doing stand up.
Lmao is kurtis is all about details? because he posted a yt link on his insta story yesterday and im pretty new to the channel and i couldn't understand why he would post this? and what does it mean anyway? is it a inside joke? will you kurtis fans please explain what it means? 😭 here's the link he posted- th-cam.com/video/jvghBUcdyGw/w-d-xo.html
I would think a motivational speaker would be in a crowd of a stand up act, and when the comic fails, the motivational speaker starts to motivate him. Everyone else will be like, 'wow, what a good motivation, I think I'll pay $300 to hear him motivate me.' Bam, that's how you start your motivational speaker career.
Owen strikes me as the person in the friend group who says "I am the most honest person you will ever meet" and then spends all night trash talking other people
@@BigOwl51 i dont know if he capitalizes on common talking point or he genuinely been thru a lot but dude has taught me alot. I must admit tho over the last 2 years his material changed alot and he became a little douchey.
The only “motivational speaker” I can think of that ever helped me is Brene Brown, but also she does so much more than motivation speaking, bc she’s an actual researcher in psychology. And all of her work and advice are the polar opposite of the hustle culture stuff you usually see. All of her stuff is based in compassion.
I love Molly Burke, but mostly because her motivation speaking work also helps with disability advocacy and education, which is dope. It’s not just ‘hustle hard, make money, objectify women’ that a lot of speakers preach
as a wheelchair user, my biggest problem isn't the lack of accessibility, ableism, my chronic pain, no, all that is easy compared to the true horror.... people being too nice to me
Kurtis, fellow canadian, did you not have those random ass motivational speakers come into your elementary/high school? Shit was wack but we got to miss math🥲
@@vbm8992 only thing i know about johnny appleseed is that one weird ass prayer we had to do in catholic elementary school. That’s a weird ass assembly lolll
I cannot help but feel intensely anxious and mortified for the people getting bullied on stage for motivational speaking. Like if that were me I'd commit die right there on the spot from sheer anxiety. The dude from the wheelchair part looked so uncomfortable and I just would like to give him a hug or something holy shit.
yeah it's especially uncomfortable because it looks like in the 54 minute video that he was up there for a large chunk of the seminar. poor guy, to attend a seminar by your 5 year hero in PERSON just to be singled out & berated by him :( I can't imagine that this helped him
"Do you wanna know my greatest fear of being in a wheelchair? Not the wheelchair. Everybody's gonna be too nice" sounds like one of these insane t-shirts Kurtis made fun of
I saw a motivational speaker in high school named Cupcake Brown (yup, her real name), and she talked about the hellish childhood and adolescence she’d had in foster care, plus her struggles with addiction. She pulled herself out of it to become a successful lawyer. I don’t know if she changed my life, but it was definitely a moving experience and I think about her story often. Plus it did inspire me to become a foster parent. Not quite what that weasel-voiced Richard Dreyfus impersonator was laying down though.
Yeah I think the issue with motivational speakers is not they can't be good but that there is literally zero oversight or even self-policing within the industry.
13:42 I've legitimately had a teacher exactly like this. Everyone hated him. He made the shy girl cry because she messed up a multiplication question just like this. She also got a kid to stand up at the front of the class so he could make fun of his appearance.
Same here, my 7th-9th grade teacher would love to point out how stupid and worthless people were if they didn’t get the full points on a test and got enjoyment out of berating KIDS for failing the classes because she wasn’t a good teacher 😭
13:05 I had this teacher who was like this, he taught me for 4 years 3D animation in my art school and he always insulted me and humiliated me in front of others just because he could ,almost exactly like this speech guy…well and now I’m so disgusted to even try learning 3D animation again but I guess it was more bullying then the “actual” motivation (sorry I couldn’t help I needed to mention him)
Unironically the most moving motivational speech I ever heard came from my elementary school janitor who was allowed to talk at an assembly one day because everyone loved him so much. I still think about his story two decades later and how he pulled himself from addiction. I don't think that's the answer you wanted though.
This is what I think of when I think of motivational speakers! Someone who overcame an addiction or a bad childhood, someone who has a disability and learned to adapt and teaches others to do the same. Not whatever tf this crap is.
the most motivating speech i heard was from my community college eng professor bc he told us how he was an addict who has been to prison twice and he was in a car accident that almost killed him so he decided to turn his life around and become a teacher
I hate it when people use wolfs as examples of the whole “beta” and “alpha” superiority measures, when alphas are usually just the parents of wolf packs, they’re not even superior in strength. It’s literally just age.
12:58 GAVE ME GENUINE FLASHBACKS??? that shit is exactly how an abusive partner or friend or whatever would talk. this is genuinely concerning what the fuck how does this guy have a platform
@@Br1anwastaken no idea how to answer this as you are a complete stranger and i don't think it's very appropriate to just delve into my traumas like that to someone i don't know lol. im fine as i can be now, trauma leaves it's marks but you get better, rough as it is, i haven't seen the people who hurt me for years even when i made that comment it'd been a few years since they were out of my life. my comment was just my reaction to seeing people like the ones who hurt me get a cult following; it's terrifying knowing the power these folks are handing them by giving them a platform.
@@cirqueradio9715 i totally understand, dont worry, good to know you are in a Better Place now! Im here if u need anithing, Wish u the best. And yeah its scary how much these people have influece :(
The teacher skit hit me in my deepest meat parts. That's literally how my chemistry teacher would "teach". Bullying you when you're wrong and borderline emotionally abusing you. It totally destroyed my love for science.
My 5th grade math/science teacher was the same way. He’s the reason I had such a lack of confidence in math that it was affecting my grades. He would get up in front of everyone and throw out two three-digit numbers and ask us to multiply them (without use of a calculator or pencil and paper, might I add) and after a minute of silence he would clap his hands together and say “c’mon guys, this is simple stuff!” Like, no, we learned how to do long division six months ago! You think we can do that level of multiplication?!
My chem teacher was similar but her bullying was more passive aggressive. And then she wouldn’t answer questions & would tell us to just look at the textbook if we didn’t understand something.
I hate the passive aggressive behavior teachers sometimes have. I had an AP English teacher look me dead in the eye on the first day of my freshman high school class and say, “I’m the kind of person who if I don’t like you, I won’t even talk to you.” … … … And those were the only words he ever spoke to me. I’m now 37 years old and this still hits me like it was yesterday.
The worst fear of being in a wheelchair is people being “too nice” really got me as someone who is scared of being in a wheelchair because I know I’ll be harassed and questioned by strangers because I am not paralyzed. Wheelchairs would probably benefit me but how people will react scares me
I understand the fear you feel about this, but if something will provide you with aid and you can get it, please do. Potential judgement by strangers shouldn’t outweigh the actual benefit for you. I understand your fear, but too many people (including myself) are afraid of using tools to assist themselves and make their lives easier just because they think they don’t need it bad enough or they’re afraid of judgment.
I'm very late but I feel the same way tbh. I've recently started using a cane and have got endless questions ("oh, did you hurt your leg?" "But you're so young!"). It's frustrating because I don't have a diagnosis or really any clue as to what the issue is. All I know is that I get extremely dizzy randomly and fall a *lot*, as well as just having a bad ankle that gives out sometimes. It helps me be a lot less likely to fall, but because of the lack of a proper diagnosis, it's hard to explain to people who ask (and a lot of people do). Going so far as getting a wheelchair sounds nice but by god do I fear having to deal with that.
@@luminationbutthisisforvide522 before I got officially diagnosed with persistent nerve issues, they labeled my chronic pain as "fibromyalgia". its basically the word for when doctors can't figure out what's wrong with you. it's a pretty broad term, and people might get off your back a bit if they hear an "actual" diagnosis. there's also this huge, persistent assumption that everyone in a wheelchair is "crippled" without it. that's not true. just like how you use a cane to help, I sometimes use a wheelchair on my bad days. but ableists just can't wrap their head around the fact that not every single disabled person always needs their support tools to function. being disabled is a spectrum; some people are more mobile than others, but that doesn't make ones pain lesser or greater. apologies for the long comment, but I didn't get a lot of support because my chronic pain origins were so vague. I don't want someone else to go through the same thing. your pain is valid. you're valid. don't let anyone convince you that your pain is "all in your head". just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there. cheers
@@luminationbutthisisforvide522 If you can, a diagnosis would be amazing for you. Those symptoms can be anything from diabetes to epilepsy and it's important to know how to treat it. I really hope you end up making the right decision for yourself, though.
What did we do as a society that made it seem like it wasn't super cringey and awkward to use the phrase "alpha male" as anything but a joke? I keep hearing people calling themselves that, and it immediately makes me think they're insecure and overcompensating for that.
Back in the day we used to hide the fact that we were reading weird shit on AO3 way too much. I guess in modern times it's considered cool to just passionately talk about your love for A/B/O dynamics and disguise it as motivational speaking. What a time to be alive!
The worst part of being in a wheelchair is everyone saying if you love God then you will be cured. Or suggesting you go on a juice cleanse then you will be cured.
@@loraloo It's complicated, you kinda understand the mindset if you grew up in a radical christian environment. They give a lot of emphasis on "Jesus took everything on the cross" which is interpreted as every kind of illness by many, therefore, if you have faith that he died for you, then you will be cured. The problem is that this interpretation is spat out like a mantra like every other christian phrases you may often hear, and it's extremely ableist. Like, what about the people who are born visibly disabled? Did they not love God enough before being born, so that they could be born with a "perfect" body? And so on. But the perfectly able bodied people who frequent churches don't think about that. They don't have to. You wouldn't imagine how much judgmental comments I started getting there after getting disabled, because it's interpreted in many ways by christians, many of them being that I sinned to get like this and that all would get back to normal if I repent, implying that disabled people ain't normal lol
men's motivational speakers just tell them to disrespect women and never cry, two things a man should never do. don't disrespect anyone at least for no reason, and it's okay to cry as a man, a woman, as a non-binary, as a human. it's human to cry.
Me, an amputee: "Yes, Owen, the world being TOO NICE to you is definitely the problem with wheelchairs...." 👀
I'm really glad I read your comment and then you username in that order, that made me laugh quite a bit.
I walk with a stick and it's just the **worst** when someone offers me their seat on a train, HOW DARE THEY?!!?!?! :)
I like ur username lol
Right? He's an albeist POS
what’s up, checkmark.
@@kailajensen1021 She's a youtuber and has great content
I love the way he was like "if I was in a wheelchair, I wouldn't be afraid of the wheelchair" like... yeah dude, I don't think actual wheelchair users are scared of their wheelchairs either..
LMAO
"I spent money on this thing to help with my mobility but AHHH it is tooooo scary. Gosh, golly, why did I let this into my home. Ahhhh. So scary. Sure, it would help me move around and experience more of life, probably due to a chronic illness, but IT IS SOO SPOOKY"
@@Pinkcatninja hahaha
Wheelchair user:just vibing
*looks down*
Wheelchair user: aah!
[wheelchair user looks down]
uh- aH- (HORRIFIED SCREAMING)
he has such "unhinged drama teacher with no sense of boundaries" vibes
this is so true LMAOOOO
omfg best comment lololl
SIKOWITZ
Or like 10th grade world history teacher that thinks they are funny
Who def gets fired cos he snaps and beats up a student
One of my professors in college (this particular class met once a week) would have us close our eyes and do some motivational talk and trying to get us to forget about everything that’s going on outside the class. One of the things, I remember, every week she would say something about noticing your feet on the ground and just being attached to the earth. And honestly, that shit helped me get into the rhythm of the class and just be grounded and mentally prepped.
Sounds beta
Your professor is the real alpha sogma
Dude thats so gamma and rho🤨🤨🤨
"Stop being uncomfortable with yourself" has "Just buy a house if you're homeless" energy
same with “oh you’re depressed just be happy” it pisses me off so much
@@jex638I'm glad most people now have realised that you can't just turn that frown upside down
So true. Also, me, a wheelchair user: *everyone is tOo nIcE to me!!*
@@jex638 chill out
Just breathe if you're choking idiot
Kurtis:,“They’ll say the craziest shit, and then just keep talking”
Also Kurtis, 9 minutes later: “why motivate, when you can motivenine?” *begins to do a brand deal*
It's different when kurt does it 😤
Lol
motivenein
Movtiveno
I actually took so long to figure out the stupid joke that he was already halfway into the brand deal when I finally laughed
This dude's whole schtick is just yelling, "BE BETTER! STOP BEING BAD!"
"WHY ARE YOU IN THAT WHEELCHAIR, JUST GET UP AND WALK"
I assume that's what he'd say...
YOU ARE NOT BLIND JUST SEE
stop poor 🤨🤨🤨 make money👹😟😩😳🙇🏻♀️🙏🏼
RENAL FAILURE?? YOU’RE THE FAILURE! STAND YOUR GROUND, MAKE THOSE KIDNEYS WORK!
GET GOOD
i feel so bad for all of those people who are so bad about themselves that they VOLUNTEERED to be bullied in front of a room full of people and then get it uploaded for the world to see
I feel so bad for people that are too lazy to watch the full video because its "an hour long", then judge based on short entertaining video. The guy that was "bullied" actually looked like a totally different person in another video Owen posted. Please don't talk about something you have 0 knowledge of (in this case, trauma release and social conditioning)
@@gamingpig4997that still doesn’t like make me still feel bad form some of theses people, maybe I’m just a snowflake because if I was in that spot and got bullied I would just cry on the floor
@@gamingpig4997 Okay GamingPig, you've got it all figured out 😂 imagine thinking this Owen douche is a good motivator with all his Alpha male shit while also being one of the most unattractive & unlikable people alive. Just imagine being THAT dense.
He gives me dad who physically and emotionally abuses his children to "prepare them for the real world" vibes
I second this as someone who has a father like that💖
I third this except it’s my mother who does that
@@FiendEnder hey! Me too! It's always fun to bond over abusive parents, isn't it?
@@nana-qn1zc same
Basically he’s punchable 😊
This guy does NOT strike me as someone who is comfortable with himself
He's just so jittery, and the way he talks, it's like he's keeping himself distracted so he doesn't start thinking about himself and get crushed under the weight of introspect. He gives people such a desperate look, too, like, "For the love of God, don't let this conversation end, or I will die in myself"
Are you talking about Kurtis or the subject of this video?
@@aldentetoes130 it's definitely the dude Kurtis is talking about, Owen
@@deuceydee3506 So people can't be jittery and confident? 😂 I guess tourettes people or autistic people are fucked, ripppp
That's exactly what I thought too.
This is literally just one of those people who are like "Anxious? Just relax! Depressed? Just stop being sad!"
"Eating disorder? Just eat right"
Why do you have asthma there’s so much air around you just don’t know how to breathe properly
"In a wheelchair? People are too nice to you!"
“Homeless? Just buy a house!”
Broke? Just work hard become a CEO
Kurtis is really good at pretending to be mean. It actually managed to make me a little uncomfortable
Right!😂
Yeah, especially with the math teacher bit because it took me back to my primary school days when teachers berated me for getting math problems wrong 😅😢.
kurtis rlly does have the potential to be a bully and the fact that he isnt makes him 10000x better
I’m in a wheelchair, and trust me: everybody is not “too nice.” I’m happy to get “nice enough,” really.
thats what i was thinking too like ppl are more often than not just awful to disabled ppl?? so idky he said that
Kurtis made an excellent point too that the inconveniences disabled people face due to most things being made to be used by abled people is pretty high. People being nice to disabled people is never an insult.
I think the way people are "too nice" is when they keep trying to help when nobody asked ya know, I've done that to a classmate multiple times, and I fell so shity for it nowadays cause he was clearly bothered but I didn't realize it
Honestly, I think he miscommunicated what he was trying to say. He isn't afraid of people being "too nice", he's afraid of being pitied. I think this is probably a deep-seated ego fear that a lot of these guys have. They can't handle pity because they have no self-awareness or confidence.
@@logangantner3863 I see the point you were trying to make about being mindful of your wording. In which case you should have stopped talking after that thought, because the rest of what you typed out was simply a meaningless guess.
"don't be yourself. Don't be your beta self. Your life will be miserable" "the first step to being an alpha is being comfortable with yourself"
LMFAO
First step is realising alpha wolves don’t exist 😊
@@blackparademistress1 the dude who wrote the paper on “alpha wolves” quickly realized his assumptions were wrongs, and the alpha wolves were the parents of the wolf pack; but his paper on “alpha wolves” had already been published and the american public already adapted the idea, so no one listened when he tried to fix it
@@blackparademistress1 your name is killing me 😩👌
he obviously meant your alpha self not your real self
So, his advice to be an alpha is "never be a beta"? Isn't that like someone's advice for getting rich to be "never be poor"?
if you have depression: just never be sad!
@@GandSsavoy if you are missing an eye,
!!!just get a new one!!!🤯
If you're an orphan, just don't lose your parents!
If you are homeless: just buy a house!
If you're dead, just be alive! It's that easy1!1!1!1!1!1
I work at a car wash and from now on when a customers car is done I will just go up to them and say “car done” :)
Nice! xD
I’m a year late but if you have, how did they react
“I look exactly like you.” Oh no, the skits are becoming self-aware.
They always were
Uh oh
I looked at the comments the exact moment that this was said
It kind of reminded me of Ryan George's videos LOL. "super easy barely an inconvenience"
Oh no. Oh God. Ohhh.
Dude: “Do NOT be a beta!” Also him: *keeps his hands in his skinny jeans the entire speech*
Underrated comment :D
Bothered me so much. This dude is so obvious
"The number one trait of an alpha is being comfortable with yourself"
*Does not know what to do with his hands*
@@fabiobalassia EXACTLY
@@Itsme-qo2le thank you! :]
Something to note: if someone is genuinely struggling with motivation, self image, self esteem, etc., it’s probably something rooted much deeper than any “alpha-male-motivational-speaker” can comprehend or help with
100%
On point, and sometimes the whole “alpha-male-motivational-speaker” shit is the root of it. This people prey on the young and radicalize them, I've seen nice guys turn "absolute savages" because of this type of content...sad, man...
Absolutely right ✅
that’s why therapy exists. yes, it is expensive, but if someone decides to drop $500-2500 on a self proclaimed “motivational speaker” then i’m sure that they can also afford going to a therapist or like a support group (which usually targets a specific community). also, in addition to what you said, they plant these messed up ideas in their heads and i am almost certain that they don’t help anyone in the long run, if anything, these alpha men are shitty, egoistic and pretty misogynistic too.
The "advice" that motivational speakers spew is literally the opposite of what any therapist would tell you and I'm pretty sure it's actively harmful to those who do struggle with it
You just know that guy uses the word “snowflake” every single day
Fr
I'm so glad Curtis has stayed so humble after winning all those game shows in the 80s
Dunno why he spells his name with a K now though. I guess...money really does change people.
Mannn he’s so smart
Its Curtis Konner* get it right
THISSS LMFAO
It was his alter ego! How can you not tell! Why else would he have a mullet?
I love you mwa mwa
my family forced me to go to a "motivational course" when i was in highschool, the lady there said that people have cancer bc they live resentful lives and that deppresion didnt exist, and then i skipped classes for the rest of the summer :)
Assuming u have money please seek professional therapy instead of these "courses".
IF u are actually unhappy with self image or depressed then these courses/conventions are very damaging instead.
I hope youre doing great now! Everything will turn out great for you I just know it!
you made the right choice
excuse me- I find it very ignorant but I do know people don't believe depression exists
but I have NEVER heard someone say that people get cancer because they live resentful lives. Like wut the fuq. My grandma and aunt died of cancer bro-
@@Chikaboom_Boom my grandpa died of it too what the motivational speaker said is so ignorant. a lot of people live happily but still get cancer so it really irked me when i read that part. i'd like to see that speaker get cancer and then have someone tell them "well maybe you were living a resentful life🤷" to see how they would react
Him berating that man on stage and then being like “you know when I’m doing that I’m teaching?” Is the same as when parents beat their kids and say “I do this because I love you” so disgustingly toxic
Hey, were you there when I was a kid?
@@DragonMaiden77 lol
@@DragonMaiden77 im sorry :(
Natsu knows what I've been through wow
@@DragonMaiden77 even if its a joke, hope you’re doing okay right now
When I was a kid my soccer coach pressured me to scream as loud as I could because I was too quiet thinking it would help somehow, I did it, and then I cried the whole drive home. He reminds me of this guy.
:( That’s so sad tho
My elementary school gym teacher took my shyness personally too for some reason. If he called on me (his choice- I never put my hand up)and couldn’t hear my answer he’d start bitching and complaining that he knew I was capable of being louder because he heard me on the playground once.
@@PotsandPansWhatsPotsandPansu good??
U good???
As someone with severe depression and who struggled with motivation for years, this guy actually does motivate me to keep going, solely for the miniscule possibility that I could meet him and thus have the chance to smack him upside the head.
hell to the yeah
they had us in he first half, not gonna lie 😂
Yess 👏🏻👏🏻
This is how a feel about nicacado avacado. The only reason I haven’t killed myself is because nicacado avacado will have outlived me.
He motivates me to never be like him
His tour might be free in terms of money but imagine spending any amount of TIME at this mess
and braincells...because they’ll be DEAD for sure
They saved money but they lost brain cells
fuckin opportunity cost man
ESPECIALLY if “time is money” according to many of these speakers
Too high of a price.
It’s so painfully obvious that Owen is just projecting his own insecurities onto everyone else it almost makes me feel bad for him
he's crying rn cuz you insulted him by being nice to him by worrying about him *dabs*
*almost*
Too true
I was going to comment the same thing
he guides others to treasure he cannot posess
I like how he says “I want people to like me for the real me” is a beta mindset, but the number one trait of an alpha is apparently being comfortable with yourself
As a wheelchair user, I can confirm that I am NEVER worried about people being too nice to me. People straight up see you as subhuman, going grocery shopping makes me actually wanna die
When I had a serious knee injury, I used one of those motorized carts & people literally went out of their way to sneer & obstruct my path because they assumed I riding it to goof off. People are vile to the disabled.
I love your pfp
ppl in my class would fight over who got to push the person in the wheelchair😭
Awww well that fucking sucks. My friend has been in a wheel chair for years. She gets her fair share of shit as well but we love her so it doesn’t matter.
@@ongakira lol so would we but it was to do races with her lol I race her around disney when we went. It was a blast.
Owen is 100% a high school bully who discovered the most genius outlet for his bullying.
he probably got bullied tbh
@@skitzstuff5788 Maybe? Idk. He has such natural bully energy I feel like he's always been this way.
And tbh i respect the hustle.
@@skitzstuff5788 many people have been in both situations
@@Jabadamazo He grew up and is now yelling at people 10+ years younger than him
"alpha male" sounds like boys who are emotionally stunted and neglected but instead of doing the work to identify their trauma/triggers just grew up into hurt men. the real boss move is to introspectively look within yourself and notice the shortcomings you have and deal with them and lean on others when you need help. A friend will always be there.
What if you got no friends or support to lean on though
@@pepperchan6471 yea ur right, it's hard for others to be there for you the way you want. i'm going thru so much and i have to somewhat be there for myself so idk.
@@pepperchan6471 seek a professional. not a motivational seeker or weird people with 0 credibility trying to steal your money, i mean a therapist. i'm of the belief that relying on friends and seeking help with family can lead to more harm than good, because not everyone is equipped to handle someone else's baggage and it's frankly not fair to expect that of everyone at all times.
you shouldn't be relying on friends or family for your mental well-being, that'll only drag you both down to the ground. you'll slowly ruin all your relationships by constantly dumping negativity on everyone around you and hoping to get positivity out of other people. you need to learn how to be stable and functional on your own first, and getting therapy might help you get your footing for that.
@@wrioculus @kirin I'm not saying I like motivational speakers or anything, I find them cringey too. And yes, I know that one should not use friends or family as an emotional dumpster, because from a young age my own parents have unloaded their emotional baggage on me, effectively fucking me up.
However, a lot of people in my position CANNOT AFFORD THERAPY, and live in shitty countries where seeking help for mental problems is a huge stigma. I'm a minor, and am trapped in a abusive household and have no money. Lots of kids out there like me. Worst thing is that this is normal in my country. Services for child protection won't do shit. So I understand if someone turns to Motivational Speakers as a last desperate resort. It is easy to attract and manipulate emotionally vulnerable and lonely people.
@@wrioculus that sounds much like victim blaming, also as the other comments said not everyone can afford a therapist, especially while being underage and in a non-supportive household. Or maybe they tried and had a bad experience (I got a shitty therapist [which my mom didnt even actually get for my mental health, she just wanted to get a paper saying that I needed a support dog or whatever so our dog could stay home] that costed hundreds and they literally just made me feel like shit and my mom got angry at me for "exaggerating" things. I know this was only 1 therapist and doesn't reflect on all the others, but lmao my mom ain't taking me to another one since she got the paper for the dog.
Also, saying that you shouldn't rely on friends or family is only your personal belief. My friends have been what are keeping me floating and alive. I understand than friends are not professionals and they are not equipped to help with your emotional baggage, but that isn't what it is about. It's just about having someone who you know likes you despite you thinking that you're shit. They just listen to me, I listen to them and then we play games together and forget the bad things. It's one of the only times I'm happy and having fun.
0:45 lmao my airpods disconnected and i thought he genuinely stopped filming the video
lmao
This is basically if one of those dudes that swears bullying "builds character" took a couple of improv comedy classes and decided he would get rich off seminars.
Yeah I’d say that’s pretty much it
It’s just a little bit of a darwanism
The principal of my high school was a motivational speaker and I swear he was the weirdest person. Every assembly felt like an over the top business seminar. It always felt like he had no idea what actually went on at a high school and was just using us to test out new motivational material. He also had one of those face mics!
I recently revealed the genders of my two girlfriends. It got a lot of hate and now has 30 times more dislikes than likes. I am really sad that people can be so mean. Sorry for using your comment to talk about my problems, dear av
sounds like a heck of an assembly
Motivational speakers are a lot like fake psychics in that they say incredibly generic things but their audience is going to interpret those generic sayings to apply to their specific situation without even realizing it so they will attribute wisdom or knowledge to the psychic or speaker. It's a natural human instinct to relate to other humans and relate what other humans are saying to our situation. It's a basic part of human empathy. Unfortunately con artists know this and they use it to manipulate people. Which is why so many people believe in horoscopes and those psychics that claim to speak to your dead relatives and motivational speakers apparently.
@@AxxLAfriku wat
Ur from india
“Ever have a friend your age die”
“no”
“Soon you will”
Well that felt like a threat
*If you're lucky*
Kill your friends.
(To be lucky.)
"What I'm saying is I'll murder your friends"
he followed that kid home after this event and shot the first person the kid talked to and was like "told you"
I'm terrified
That “Watch him get fixed” joke makes me laugh every time I see it or even just think about it.
SAMEEE OMFG IM HYSTERICAL
That dude 100% got bullied hard as a kid and now has “free” seminars just so he can for once in his miserable life be the bully!
What a sad little man
He actually was
Talks about it in this video
th-cam.com/video/f7HIyQaJN9Q/w-d-xo.html
Little baby man
He sounds like his best advice for someone suffering with crippling anxiety to just stay calm
he sounds like the type of guy to say "how are you blind? just see."
‘’Oh u just witnessed someone getting murdered which scarred you and will slowly drive you to insanity for lying to everyone that you didn’t witness such a thing…just forget about it, sensitive prick’’
Just be confident in yourself and stop thinking others are judging you! It's easy! Just do it! JUST DO IT! DO IT! FUCKING DO IT!!!! - Him if he was my therapist
Lol what are u supposed to say to them? I remember when my friend was having a asthma attack, I didn't know what to say so my dumbass just said "Just Breathe"
“Oh you’re having an asthma attack? Just breathe loser”
It feels like he’s talking to himself desperately trying to convince himself he’s the alpha
I was thinking the same thing!
Exactly
dude exactly!! it's so obvious he's projecting his insecurities onto his audience😭
@@treshurchest 100% agree! The anger with which he said “never let it happen, it’s death” and so on and so forth, is proof enough for me.
Man needs to treat himself to some therapy
I really love how he's literally wearing a "please be nice to me" cap and the teacher does the complete opposite
We really need to make therapy more accessible so people can stop wasting their time with some of these motivational speakers.
Preach!
100%
Plus, we need to get rid of the stigma surrounding therapy. A lot of people in professional careers, like lawyers, avoid therapy as it make their records look bad.
THIS it def needs to be more affordable to ppl who need it and to those who want to go but cant afford
Yessss
i feel like anyone who uses the words “alpha” and “beta” unironically to describe people shouldn’t be allowed to give life advice
Agreed
unless they’re a math teacher i guess idk lmao
1000% agree. Let’s make this the Law!
And you best believe they are the same people that make fun of astrology 😂😂😂
@The Up Paradigm I can't tell you're joking or not, but if you're not...... THAT'S HILARIOUS!
Disabled people had to literally fight the Supreme Court to get even the most minuscule accessibility and anti discrimination rights but yeah they’re worried about people being too nice. He’s totally empathetic to disabled folks.
I had to argue to my school board so many times to get my accommodations. But yeah, the hardest part was that they were so nice :(
thought he meant like he was afraid of being infantilized or sum but nah that's way too wise for him
this is what empathetic means by the way: "showing an ability to understand and share the feelings of another."
i think the word you are looking for might be apathetic or unsympathetic :)
@@DARKENINGTIMES they're being sarcastic, I believe
@@skellish Indeed, he's **totally** empathetic to disabled folks.
Owen originally started as a pick up artist, idk if he's still doing it but he usually would bring these guys for seminars, hot seats, then go out together and pick up girls after. I'd love to see a deep dive into this bc Kurtis would find all the wild shit Owen used to say and do and make it hilarious
I'm not trying to sink to his level, but as a straight guy, Owen is one of if not THE most unappealing people I have ever witnessed, physically & mentally. Imagine being around this Brian Posehn looking dude who WILL NOT JUST STOP TALKING, who looks a hot mess AND thinks they have it all figured out. It's just like when you go to jail & every inmate tries to claim that they have the idea for the "perfect crime", like dude YOU GOT CAUGHT lmao 😂
when he said “folks” and waited so long to clap it felt like the verbal equivalent to edging
I-
ok but you're not wrong
I came ngl
Jesus
no...... no
"just be comfortable with yourself" really motivational.
I'm going to turn off my dysphoria now thank you /s
Has "Just stop being sad" energy
👽
@cloverseas it looks like trash
@@davitothevillios4316 wtf
one of the best motivational speakers i’ve ever seen was a veteran who lost his sight while in action. His speech was about his pursuit of education after coming back home, and the difficulties he faced as a disabled person, and the value of education. Hearing him tell his story from a place of personal ups and downs was way more meaningful than any surface level “you can do it”
Do you know if he has a TH-cam channel. I would love to hear about more about him.
sooo true. I find that shit motivational. Hearing people talk about ACTUAL adversity they had to overcome - makes you realize how lucky your are and more likely to make the most of each day imo
what a champ! the only good motivational speech I've ever heard was from muniba mazari, in which she told the story of her accident and how she ended up in a wheelchair and everything that followed!
Clint Malarchuk gave a speech in my high school once and genuinely brought me to tears. He has SUCH an inspirational story, it's insane
you mean surface leather?
thank u for the pushback on the wheelchair comment, i literally did have to crawl into my dentist's office using my arms because they had multiple steps and no ramp lmao, so right on the mark there
BuT wErE ThEy TOO NICE tO yOu???!?!?!
Omg u good?
kurtis, your editing is so accurate to my brain, it's honestly scary
th-cam.com/video/tAnyvY6KHrw/w-d-xo.html
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AYEEE pfp buddy
ikr
@Hart
AYYYY
You have adhd
Me as a person in a wheelchair: yes! my disability/wheelchair isn’t the issue, the lack of accessibility, living in a world not built for us, and large amount of ableism that still exists nah not it- people are TOO nice to meee ♿️😂
The way neuro and physio-typical people perceive differently abled people is real strange. Almost a weird sense of jealousy.
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere such people are just very insecure due to failing to achieve what they desire, as well as feeling lonely and not appreciated/recognised by people. They get so desperate to get the attention they're unable to get with their set of skills that it makes them jealous someone can actually have it (even when it's mere courtesy) - it's similar to how misogynists always focus on how "men are expected to open doors/carry things" whenever there's an argument about women's rights, as if it's relevant and the "extra niceties" they bring up are at all comparable to the issues discussed. Similarly, they will find any excuse to think to themselves that when someone else has what they want it is undeserved, and must be due to (for example) disability, since everyone is "too nice" - they can't face the fact that they're just not good enough. They almost wish they were in the same situation as they know they wouldn't get the "attention" otherwise, convincing themselves that even mere courtesy is some kind of special treatment (that they crave but can't have), therefore demonising it and staying ignorant to all the issues that come with disabilities. It all stems from hurt egos that are too fragile to face reality, and it's honestly pathetic.
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere most typicals aren’t even aware that there’s a whole differently abled world out there that is absolutely different from how they function. It’s like we’re unicorns lol
@@ChezzaOuttaNowhere It’s so insane to me how so many people when they can’t relate on a personal level just decide that it’s ok to throw empathy out of the way.
I had to use a cane for about a year last year because of a huge surgery left me very very weak. I’m 24 and people were so incredibly nice to me, it made me want to vomit.
"Babe, that was not very pog of you." I am going to say this to my boyfriend and watch him exhale forcefully through his nose.
Edit: I did it, he reacted exactly as I said. Also, shit man, I didn't expect this many people to care.
powerful
I'm pretty sure I've already said this to my partner
i say this on the daily to everyone
I exhaled forcefully through my nose after reading this comment
@@guydisorder tbh, that's how I thought everyone else would react instead of liking this comment.
honestly that guy reminds me of parents who verbally berate their children to "discipline them", there is a fine line between discipline and abuse
Damn ive never seen men this into the omegaverse. They're even role-playing with all their friends.
I'm having an awful day at work, and your comment made me exhale so loud, thanks
Meanwhile, middle-school lesbians: omg I left fuzzy cat ears at home!!! Whatever will the pack do now?
Bruh this comment made me laugh out loud
Also what's the flag on your profile picture?
@@Korra228 its the agender flag
@@Korra228 and if u dont know what that is its when u dont have a gender :))
This guy's speech just sounds like me trying to write a thousand word essay
Also Kurtis posted this on his story and im new to this channel and is this like a inside joke? or did kurtis make this if so then why? i've asked many people but they can't explain it lmao 😭😭here's the link lmao please tell me i you know th-cam.com/video/jvghBUcdyGw/w-d-xo.html
Yeah, when you've got nothing to say filler words and repetition really fill out your show/essay length.
As a wheelchair user, it’s more inconvenient when people are nice to me than when I literally cannot enter a building because of a staircase!!
Yeah but i am sure you would not want people to deliberately be jerks to you because they think if they act nice, it would be insulting. I mean, people have to learn difference between pity and being nice but that doesn't mean people should be taught to act thoughtless like this owen dude seems to be
@@royaneekhalil6488 i think they're being sarcastic
@@royaneekhalil6488 they were being sarcastic chill
@@royaneekhalil6488 Kinda feel obliged to say chill dude
“Be a parrot” “here I go” (turns into a macaw) 15:58
“Never be a beta. Just stop being insecure.”
“Dude you’re anxious? Just calm down.”
“Dude you’re depressed? Just cheer up!”
"homeless? buy a house"
"no food? get something to eat"
people give the most mind blowing advice. and nice username, must be some good wifi
“You have bees? Just give the hive a formal eviction notice and taunt them with your having-a-homeness, then punt the hive into the next house over.”
i know this is a joke but my band director once told the whole band (who is full of mentally ill kids) the anxiety and depression things 😕
Adhd? Just focus!
Schizophrenia? Just stop hearing things
I love it when a motivational speaker says not to be a "beta" and then goes ahead and says be comfortable with yourself because "alphas" are comfortable with themselves... he does realize that just because he's insecure about himself and hides behind a wall of "manliness" doesn't mean he has to get people to think the same way he does???
th-cam.com/video/A8ppedmqXSA/w-d-xo.html
Over generalization
@Alice Kae I've never understood the logic of "alphas" and "betas". They kinda don't exist...
Either way it's pretty dumb and funny how people can be so serious about this obvious bullshit XD
@Alice Kae Well for one thing, they arent "Alphas" at all. They try to project it in a "fake it till you make it" kind of way.
But you will find many men who arent speakers also try to enforce that ideal of manhood in their own lives. I'm sure you noticed that the actual likely response of the audience is that they become less confident right? They are protecting a very narrow version of what masculinity is, and can be.
I think fear is likely at the root of it. Fear of having lived their lives "wrong", or resentment that maybe this new generations will be able to follow their own true personalities when it hadn't felt like an option before, or fear of realizing that their actions throughout life weren't 100% their own, that propaganda played into it, society did, that they arent the only influence over their own lives that they thought they were. Etc etc. Plenty of reasons, even if they are still hurtful.
If Owen and a Betta fish were locked in a tank together, the fish would eat him.
Betta fish are alpha af
underrated comment
yes
Lol
Betta fish do wanna fight 😳
I’ve struggled with self image and self esteem (and still do) and this is the type of guy who would make me legit cry
"you can't call urself an alpha male...he's dressed like a Zumiez manager" that shit had me laughing so hard
that’s actually a really common manipulation tactic with abusers. they are abusive to you and then try to convince you that it’s for your own good.
Owen had "I was bullied by my dad" energy.
The comment he made about being in a wheelchair just shows that he has never, in fact, had to use a wheelchair before. My grandmother was in a wheelchair and people were far from nice, people straight up would not move out of the way for us coming through, and the stares people would give you for being in a wheelchair was absurd. That comment is so gross to make.
Ikr. People aren't nice in general. Maybe to a St. Jude kid they'd be even half decent lmfao
I've been yelled at and complained at by so many people since I started using my chair. People honk at me when I cross the street to go faster. I've been discriminated against at job interviews. Doctors have been dismissive and abusive. It's not easy.
I agree. My uncle was in a wheelchair for the 2nd half of his life and people were rude all the time and it pissed me off. One example: sometimes if he was going through a door/entrance people would cut him off, etc. He was always so chill about it though.
That "motivational" guy for sure didn't know what he was talking about lol.
Thats horrible man, I had no idea that using a wheelchair could be that bad
@@slimysloth516 it's not the end of the world, but it isnt easy.
that teacher skit happened to me when i told my fifth grade teach they/them could be used as singular pronouns and it ended bcos i started crying bcos i couldnt think of an example after she started counting down saying "go ahead go tell me when give us an example if ur so smart" and then the other kids got quiet bcos they felt bad
DUDE I'm so sorry. A teacher tried to do the same thing to me, too. I was like "if someone drops THEIR pencil you pick it up and give it back to THEM and THEY say thank you." I've been repping singular They pronoun since I was in elementary because of that one shit teacher, mainly because I was disgusted that she tried to incorrectly correct me lol. But I think it was a great coincidence, I ended up being nonbinary. I think it's insane that someone can grow up speaking a whole language where they regularly use singular They, and not even realize they do it. That teacher sucked, I'm sorry you went through that.
U good???
@@jazwhoaskedforthisu good??
He actually seems so much more insecure about himself than the ppl he picks out of the crowd
damm sam th-cam.com/video/xwgJtolLGYE/w-d-xo.html
"Bullying isn't what teachers do"
Me: *Remembers all of the teachers who emotionally/mentally bullied tf outta me for just existing*
man, your teachers sucked. sorry you had to got through it
That’s something I will never understand, teachers are just like the students sometimes, lots of them want validation from people less than half their age just because some are popular it’s pathetic
Throwback to ninth grade when my "caretaker" assigned by the school threw me into the wall
@@adrienneczerni6516 wut :0
@@taratih Most of them are just fed up or no one ever told them they were doing it wrong. Like you said, they're just like students
My friend teaches youth music camps wearing a Britney mic, and it’s the most iconic thing I’ve ever seen. TLDR please wear a gamer mic while doing stand up.
Love the fact you put a TL;DR for a nineteen-word comment
not you putting a tldr after a single sentence lmaooo
@@hottieschickenLove the fact you counted the words in the sentence.
14:33 teachers actually do that. All the time. They do in fact do that
The fact that kurtis is wearing the “please be nice to me” hat in the bullying sketch is 👌
Lmao is kurtis is all about details? because he posted a yt link on his insta story yesterday and im pretty new to the channel and i couldn't understand why he would post this? and what does it mean anyway? is it a inside joke? will you kurtis fans please explain what it means? 😭
here's the link he posted- th-cam.com/video/jvghBUcdyGw/w-d-xo.html
@@holly___ he posted this on his insta story and im more confused
I was thinking the same thing haha
I would think a motivational speaker would be in a crowd of a stand up act, and when the comic fails, the motivational speaker starts to motivate him. Everyone else will be like, 'wow, what a good motivation, I think I'll pay $300 to hear him motivate me.' Bam, that's how you start your motivational speaker career.
I read “bam” and thought you said “barn”
But good point
Owen strikes me as the person in the friend group who says "I am the most honest person you will ever meet" and then spends all night trash talking other people
Honestly he actually takes care of his peers. He is a nice guy who was bullied alot. And yes I was a fanboy. I have known Owen for over 10 years.
SO TRUE
@@mosesagabon7152 taking care of his peers doesn’t make him a good motivational speaker and doesn’t make his mindset any less trash
*cough* Onision *cough*
@@BigOwl51 i dont know if he capitalizes on common talking point or he genuinely been thru a lot but dude has taught me alot. I must admit tho over the last 2 years his material changed alot and he became a little douchey.
That skit at 13:45 was almost word for word an interaction i had with my 4th grade teacher.
The “oh yeah” sound effect still makes everything better to this day
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I'm more of a "BALLS (with reverb and echo)" man myself.
@@amonsumdomshiette9695 THE WAY I ACTUALLY HEARD THE AUDIO
i prefer > insert overly confused caveman effect < 😩😩😩
@@amonsumdomshiette9695 I'm more of an *EUGH?* gentleman
This guy has the same energy as people who say "if you're depressed, just stop being depressed 😊"
Just don't do that ❤✨
just stop being depressed 😜🤞 smile 😃‼️
Just that he'd scream that at your face 😂😂
guy literally said "stop being uncomfortable with yourself, just be comfortable with yourself"
@@muskratloggin right like wow I'm cured thanks buddy why didnt I think of that
The only “motivational speaker” I can think of that ever helped me is Brene Brown, but also she does so much more than motivation speaking, bc she’s an actual researcher in psychology. And all of her work and advice are the polar opposite of the hustle culture stuff you usually see. All of her stuff is based in compassion.
I love Molly Burke, but mostly because her motivation speaking work also helps with disability advocacy and education, which is dope. It’s not just ‘hustle hard, make money, objectify women’ that a lot of speakers preach
I suppose Alan Watts probably counts too; his stuff is interesting.
is brene brown an author? i recognise the name
@@scarlettrg911 Yeah she is.
as a wheelchair user, my biggest problem isn't the lack of accessibility, ableism, my chronic pain, no, all that is easy compared to the true horror.... people being too nice to me
Kurtis, fellow canadian, did you not have those random ass motivational speakers come into your elementary/high school? Shit was wack but we got to miss math🥲
Im german, but ive had the same experience. It was so strange and i hated it 😭✌🏻
@@piaj2742 im swiss and same😭😭
in America we had someone come in and sing about Johnny Appleseed and the dangers of high fructose corn syrup🥴
@@vbm8992 only thing i know about johnny appleseed is that one weird ass prayer we had to do in catholic elementary school. That’s a weird ass assembly lolll
@@vbm8992 WAIT DID HE WEAR A GREEN SUIT AND HAVE A WHOLE MOVIE THING ABOUT LUNCH FOOD
I cannot help but feel intensely anxious and mortified for the people getting bullied on stage for motivational speaking. Like if that were me I'd commit die right there on the spot from sheer anxiety. The dude from the wheelchair part looked so uncomfortable and I just would like to give him a hug or something holy shit.
fr me too id be crying on the stage 😃
I would be so angry you have no idea
I'd be so embarrassed I'd cry omg
yeah it's especially uncomfortable because it looks like in the 54 minute video that he was up there for a large chunk of the seminar. poor guy, to attend a seminar by your 5 year hero in PERSON just to be singled out & berated by him :( I can't imagine that this helped him
Power Move: Tell him to shut the hell up, cuz his words are meaningless to you. Watch how quickly his fragile masculinity crumbles.
"Do you wanna know my greatest fear of being in a wheelchair? Not the wheelchair. Everybody's gonna be too nice" sounds like one of these insane t-shirts Kurtis made fun of
"don't be paranoid" boy I have schizophrenia. that is the one thing that I cannot stop.
THAT KILLED ME 😂😂😂😂😂😂
U good??
I saw a motivational speaker in high school named Cupcake Brown (yup, her real name), and she talked about the hellish childhood and adolescence she’d had in foster care, plus her struggles with addiction. She pulled herself out of it to become a successful lawyer. I don’t know if she changed my life, but it was definitely a moving experience and I think about her story often. Plus it did inspire me to become a foster parent.
Not quite what that weasel-voiced Richard Dreyfus impersonator was laying down though.
Yeah I think the issue with motivational speakers is not they can't be good but that there is literally zero oversight or even self-policing within the industry.
I consider those to be inspirational speakers
@@XOmangoXO Oh yeah good point. It wasn’t like a paid-to-attend deal either, she spoke as part of a women’s day event that was free to attend
does cupcake rap too?
Wow! I read her book, that really cool 🙂
13:42
I've legitimately had a teacher exactly like this. Everyone hated him. He made the shy girl cry because she messed up a multiplication question just like this. She also got a kid to stand up at the front of the class so he could make fun of his appearance.
Same here, my 7th-9th grade teacher would love to point out how stupid and worthless people were if they didn’t get the full points on a test and got enjoyment out of berating KIDS for failing the classes because she wasn’t a good teacher 😭
I hope a student beats them up.
I was straight up getting flashback & triggered
@@bloblovlalalulu3422 same
There’s so many teachers out in the world that need to be fired now
Owen is totally a motivational speaker! He motivates himself by bullying others :)
If you listen to Owen but dont watch he sounds just like Zack Galifinanakis doing a funny sketch.
13:05 I had this teacher who was like this, he taught me for 4 years 3D animation in my art school and he always insulted me and humiliated me in front of others just because he could ,almost exactly like this speech guy…well and now I’m so disgusted to even try learning 3D animation again but I guess it was more bullying then the “actual” motivation
(sorry I couldn’t help I needed to mention him)
U good??
Unironically the most moving motivational speech I ever heard came from my elementary school janitor who was allowed to talk at an assembly one day because everyone loved him so much. I still think about his story two decades later and how he pulled himself from addiction. I don't think that's the answer you wanted though.
Omg every school janitor I’ve ever had has just been a great person, happy that his success helped you too!
This is what I think of when I think of motivational speakers! Someone who overcame an addiction or a bad childhood, someone who has a disability and learned to adapt and teaches others to do the same. Not whatever tf this crap is.
the most motivating speech i heard was from my community college eng professor bc he told us how he was an addict who has been to prison twice and he was in a car accident that almost killed him so he decided to turn his life around and become a teacher
Keep going, I’m interested tbh lol like legit… what else he say? Janitors are one of the coolest ppl ever, we had a cool one too. Still miss him tbh
I hate it when people use wolfs as examples of the whole “beta” and “alpha” superiority measures, when alphas are usually just the parents of wolf packs, they’re not even superior in strength. It’s literally just age.
"Alpha males"- No, no, don't be an average man, be an *old* man!!
David Mech: Fucking THANK YOU
even funnier considering the whole "alpha/beta" rhetoric in wolves was made up too
And there are SO MANY other animals you can take inspiration from!
In that case, that motivational speaker guy has the hairline of a wizened grandpa, and we should definitely listen to him!
Kurtis clearly doesn't know about American schools, that bit he did was literally a reenactment of my high school years
Seriously 🤾
🤸♀️🤸
Yeah these types of people were always speaking at my grade school and high school. It was so cringe
that’s very sad
disappointed but not surprised 😔😔
I went to Business Club conventions (FBLA/DECA) in high school… it gave me war flashbacks lol
12:58 GAVE ME GENUINE FLASHBACKS??? that shit is exactly how an abusive partner or friend or whatever would talk. this is genuinely concerning what the fuck how does this guy have a platform
U good???
@@Br1anwastaken no idea how to answer this as you are a complete stranger and i don't think it's very appropriate to just delve into my traumas like that to someone i don't know lol. im fine as i can be now, trauma leaves it's marks but you get better, rough as it is, i haven't seen the people who hurt me for years even when i made that comment it'd been a few years since they were out of my life. my comment was just my reaction to seeing people like the ones who hurt me get a cult following; it's terrifying knowing the power these folks are handing them by giving them a platform.
@@cirqueradio9715 i totally understand, dont worry, good to know you are in a Better Place now! Im here if u need anithing, Wish u the best.
And yeah its scary how much these people have influece :(
"Just be comfortable with yourself"
Ah yes and if you're depressed just be happy
Anxious? Just relax 😌
Dying? Just live ✨
ADHD? Just focus!
Sick? Just be healthy!
anorexic? just love your body!
Poor? Just get money!
have asthma? just breathe 🥰
I knew after Drew you or Danny couldn’t be far behind
*Clap* we missed you ✨
Im literally so sorry half of these replys are- yknow- but i shall also clap
*claps*
what the hell do you mean “we missed you”
he hasn’t uploaded in only two weeks and that’s fast for him
@Not RickRoll 👇👌 surprisingly, it’s not a Rick Roll
I can’t believe you would clap for him that’s such an insult
Danny wasn’t far behind either
This guy is straight up that one guy you meet at a party with a massive coke addiction that you never should have started talking to
OMG yes!! & theyre always sweating, even in winter.
Yes! Like if people want to be like him, it’s easy. Just do some meth.
IT MAKES ME SO HAPPY EVERY TIME I HEAR KURTIS SAY “A GAME THEORY”
The teacher skit hit me in my deepest meat parts. That's literally how my chemistry teacher would "teach". Bullying you when you're wrong and borderline emotionally abusing you. It totally destroyed my love for science.
Sorry to hear that.
My 5th grade math/science teacher was the same way. He’s the reason I had such a lack of confidence in math that it was affecting my grades. He would get up in front of everyone and throw out two three-digit numbers and ask us to multiply them (without use of a calculator or pencil and paper, might I add) and after a minute of silence he would clap his hands together and say “c’mon guys, this is simple stuff!”
Like, no, we learned how to do long division six months ago! You think we can do that level of multiplication?!
My chem teacher was similar but her bullying was more passive aggressive. And then she wouldn’t answer questions & would tell us to just look at the textbook if we didn’t understand something.
I hate the passive aggressive behavior teachers sometimes have. I had an AP English teacher look me dead in the eye on the first day of my freshman high school class and say, “I’m the kind of person who if I don’t like you, I won’t even talk to you.” … … … And those were the only words he ever spoke to me. I’m now 37 years old and this still hits me like it was yesterday.
I hope you get to rekindle your love for science one day
The worst fear of being in a wheelchair is people being “too nice” really got me as someone who is scared of being in a wheelchair because I know I’ll be harassed and questioned by strangers because I am not paralyzed. Wheelchairs would probably benefit me but how people will react scares me
I understand the fear you feel about this, but if something will provide you with aid and you can get it, please do. Potential judgement by strangers shouldn’t outweigh the actual benefit for you. I understand your fear, but too many people (including myself) are afraid of using tools to assist themselves and make their lives easier just because they think they don’t need it bad enough or they’re afraid of judgment.
I'm very late but I feel the same way tbh. I've recently started using a cane and have got endless questions ("oh, did you hurt your leg?" "But you're so young!"). It's frustrating because I don't have a diagnosis or really any clue as to what the issue is. All I know is that I get extremely dizzy randomly and fall a *lot*, as well as just having a bad ankle that gives out sometimes. It helps me be a lot less likely to fall, but because of the lack of a proper diagnosis, it's hard to explain to people who ask (and a lot of people do). Going so far as getting a wheelchair sounds nice but by god do I fear having to deal with that.
@@luminationbutthisisforvide522 before I got officially diagnosed with persistent nerve issues, they labeled my chronic pain as "fibromyalgia". its basically the word for when doctors can't figure out what's wrong with you. it's a pretty broad term, and people might get off your back a bit if they hear an "actual" diagnosis. there's also this huge, persistent assumption that everyone in a wheelchair is "crippled" without it. that's not true. just like how you use a cane to help, I sometimes use a wheelchair on my bad days. but ableists just can't wrap their head around the fact that not every single disabled person always needs their support tools to function. being disabled is a spectrum; some people are more mobile than others, but that doesn't make ones pain lesser or greater.
apologies for the long comment, but I didn't get a lot of support because my chronic pain origins were so vague. I don't want someone else to go through the same thing. your pain is valid. you're valid. don't let anyone convince you that your pain is "all in your head". just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there. cheers
@@luminationbutthisisforvide522 If you can, a diagnosis would be amazing for you. Those symptoms can be anything from diabetes to epilepsy and it's important to know how to treat it. I really hope you end up making the right decision for yourself, though.
What did we do as a society that made it seem like it wasn't super cringey and awkward to use the phrase "alpha male" as anything but a joke? I keep hearing people calling themselves that, and it immediately makes me think they're insecure and overcompensating for that.
I feel like the only real use of "alpha" should be to make a joke or when you mean like the complete opposite.
I like that idiots still use words like that because it just lets me know who to avoid.
This guy is the Goop of motivational speakers
Back in the day we used to hide the fact that we were reading weird shit on AO3 way too much.
I guess in modern times it's considered cool to just passionately talk about your love for A/B/O dynamics and disguise it as motivational speaking. What a time to be alive!
I'm wheezing-
That’s what comes to my mind every time someone talks about alphas vs betas it’s been killing me all this time
Thanks
I dont understand what is AO3 and A/B/O dynamics?
Every single time my first thought is ao3 istg
what him saying 'what im doing right now, is teaching' is the equivalent of a parent going 'me beating my child is disciplining them'
Lmao yes I got flashbacks of my dad while watching
My parents
The worst part of being in a wheelchair is everyone saying if you love God then you will be cured. Or suggesting you go on a juice cleanse then you will be cured.
"YoU GotTa ThInK PoSiTiVe"
Bruh wtf. Why would people think thats okay?
@@loraloo It's complicated, you kinda understand the mindset if you grew up in a radical christian environment. They give a lot of emphasis on "Jesus took everything on the cross" which is interpreted as every kind of illness by many, therefore, if you have faith that he died for you, then you will be cured. The problem is that this interpretation is spat out like a mantra like every other christian phrases you may often hear, and it's extremely ableist. Like, what about the people who are born visibly disabled? Did they not love God enough before being born, so that they could be born with a "perfect" body? And so on. But the perfectly able bodied people who frequent churches don't think about that. They don't have to. You wouldn't imagine how much judgmental comments I started getting there after getting disabled, because it's interpreted in many ways by christians, many of them being that I sinned to get like this and that all would get back to normal if I repent, implying that disabled people ain't normal lol
@@pocketspider7839 I'm not disabled, but I've grew up around religious people and I've definiteoy heard them say shit like this. Uff
the fucking audacity of some people
men's motivational speakers just tell them to disrespect women and never cry, two things a man should never do. don't disrespect anyone at least for no reason, and it's okay to cry as a man, a woman, as a non-binary, as a human. it's human to cry.