Apparently, some of you are in my comments simply to try to critique and correct and engage in oppression Olympics. That is not the purpose of this content and if you have nothing else to contribute, I suggest you keep your comments to yourself because it will get you blocked. I don’t argue with strangers on the Internet, and I’m not gonna entertain that kind of nonsense in my comments. Govern yourselves accordingly. and all those of Caribbean descent who want to come in and argue that being born on an island is a race or ethnicity - take that somewhere else as well. I said what I said, and I meant what I said, and if you don’t like it, you can go elsewhere. You can go make a whole video on your platform about all the reasons you believe that just because you were born on an island means that you can distance yourself from being black. it doesn’t change the reality that if you are of African descent and you were born on an island you are still BLACK. In the United States of the America, you are black black black whether you like it or not And if you were born in the United States and you’re black, you are black American your desire for white proximity is not my problem. It’s yours. Work it out just not in my comment section. Cheers!
Whats the difference between a white american and a european? Whats the difference between that and all these non americans and double agents coming to america and studying america?
@@Lakersman24It's not her job to give a voice to dissent. Those with ears to hear will hear. She drew a very clear line in the sand before she began. Frankly, I'm glad she blocked the knit-pickers. I find people who quibble over unimportant detail instead of focusing on the big picture annoying.
I'm a Black American, but I can relate to the "You're not like them" & the "You're a credit to your race" comments because I was a Black child in Mississippi in gifted classes. The idea that Black Americans are lesser in every way is ingrained in our country and they do try to separate you from your own people.
My manager is an Indian woman. She is an absolute tyrant. When I found out she was married to a white man, I should have known she thought she was better. I am resigning on August 30th. I started planning my exit in March 2024. I secured a ‘bridge’ job to hold me over during this transition, which I told them I could not start until October. I am taking September off to decompress from all the toxicity. I will have been there for 2 years and a day on my last day of August 30th. I feel free already!
Good for you!!! Unfortunately the majority of Indians believe they are superior to Black people including Africans. I buy ayuveric medicine and sometimes I go to India stores and they have an air about them that make them think they are better. Caste system.
I'm sorry this happened to you. My experience with Indian men, and Chinese men and women, is worse than any interaction with white people at work. They just seem to loathe Black women. A Malaysian woman was my boss and I was so THRILLED TO HAVE HER GO GET MY RESIGNATION LETTER FROM MY DESK. 😂😅 She was stupified, shocked, and about to pass out when she realized the joke was on her now.
I did the same😂😂😂. I actually used mental health issues to get short term disability while I unwind my therapist agreed. My new gig starts in September.
I had the experience of an Asian female librarian at work thinking she could tell me what to do, chastise me via emails, etc. Her not being the boss or immediate supervisor meant I could let her have it in a professional way. Not surprisingly, she treated ww respectfully, even collaborated with them.
I worked as a student librarian and the director was a black woman. I had zero problems😊. The assistant director was a YT woman who tried it but was always reminded who was in charge.
I am a black Canadian epidemiologist trained in the U.K. and conducted medical research in 100 countries. I have witnessed and experienced EVERYTHING YOU HAVE STATED. G-d bless you.
Thank you, I am of the belief that your channel is badly needed. As a black man, I was truly touched by your honesty and insights regarding "the employment environment" in which our people are systematically disrespected simply for existing and being highly qualified. May G-d bless you.
I dated a young man who came to the United States in the 90's and he told me on his layover in the UK the white citizens over there told him not to socialize with black people in the United States because we are trouble. He also told me he didn't know why all Black Americans aren't rich. After he lived in the US for 10 years he apologized for his statements.
At 25:38 you dropped a gem 💎. I've been in HR 19 years and I've never had a job more than 3 years for this reason. If you are a knowledgeable professional and have moral character you see all kinds of foolishness and stand up to it and refuse to comply and either voluntarily leave or are pushed out (I know when to leave and have never had a problem finding a job so I always do the former). People thought that was strange and now they are waking up to the fact that even when they played the game they lost they soul. My soul is not for sale.
@@theantihr Please stop talking about white supremacy. Everyone knows about it. The best way for black women to move forward is to travel. Your passport as an American carries power, go abroad and make money outside of USA to escape discrimination: Japan, Korea, Singapore are great
@suezcontours6653, why are you here if you don't want to hear about white supremacy? Clearly black women want to hear about it with over 300 comments. Go find something else to do with your time
@@ivyworth862 Black women also are on 20v1 pop the balloon TH-cam reality shows, it doesn't mean it's good for them. Humiliation content is kind of our specialty. It's not constructive but it seems like we have no alternative.
@@suezcontours6653-This is a guide for people to avoid thr pitfalls thst she went through. Every Black person needs to be shown this video before they reach working age!
I am also from Brooklyn and grew up in Crown Heights. Your break down of the relationship between the American blacks and the Caribbean black is 1000% accurate. I grew up in the eighties and nineties and remember getting along great with my West Indian friends. I ate and slept in there homes and my mother married a Trinidadian. It was when I encountered the Spanish speaking blacks( Dominicans, Puerto Ricans) is when I experienced a need for them to separate themselves from blacks, even when they were darker than me! Plenty of the older West Indians had negative stereotypes about blacks too don’t get me wrong. I married a Haitian and his family had terrible things to say about Americans. However my family (Southerners) felt the same way about them and I was discouraged as a child from ever having marrying a Haitian! In the workplace unfortunately the relationships we formed in our hood was not solidified and many of black West Indians were pit against black Americans to keep us in line. West Indians felt a need to disassociate themselves from black Americans and this played into the WS agenda in the workplace. Black Americans felt as though opportunities were being given to West Indians over them., while West Indians were seen as hardworking and willing to do what American Blacks wouldn’t. I could talk about this for days but we all were used in different ways to suppress our communities! Thank you for this discussion, it was very informative!
Thank you, Sis, for your very balanced explanation of Black American and Caribbean relations in NYC. Too many times it's discussed in a one-sided manner. Both groups distrusted each other in the earlier days. In some places like Brooklyn things improved, and in other places like the Bronx the divisions were more resilient. Be blessed 🙏🏿
Thank you for sharing. Your experience is very similar to mines. In the workplace everybody gets divided and put against each other in furtherance of white supremacy.
I will never forget. I know a white girl from America who was anti affirmative action, dei etc etc. She told me she went to a club in Africa (maybe Uganda or Zambia) and she said the DJs were changed the music from Afro beats to Taylor swift when she walked in. The whole time she was there she said they took her temperature. If she didnt seem to like the music they would change it. Insane.
I wish I had your expertise and knowledge 15-20 years ago! You are amazing and spot on…we as black women need to understand that we have no allies, None! 💕
As a 66 year old black man born in the USA, I have encountered much of what you said about "corporate America/HR". It is disheartening to see some black and brown people trying their best to cling around be around whiteness. Colonialism/slavery both go had in hand and many black and brown people are kept fighting against each other by the colonizers. I never sold my soul to "go along to get along" with people (white). Highly educated with AA, BA and MA degrees ( work in IT industry over 30 years). Never had a problem telling "them" what "they" can do with that "BS". Thank G-d I'm retiring from "CA" at the end of this year! But. I will continue to try educating "us" as long as I can! Remember Brother Chairman Fred Hampton. Thank You Sis for the education you presented! Continue the "Fight of Truth!"
You are so on point and speaks to my lived experience. I am of Nigerian origin and had a good job with the State Government. I implemented new and more effective ways of doing things in my Division. Yet, when it came to replacing the Director who was just a grade senior to me, they chose a White woman whom I was four grades senior to. I was devastated . Till today I'm still trying to recover from the experience. it's racial injustice at its worst. Incidentally, I have an MBA from an Ivy League School. She on the other hand has a diploma from a Community College. I trained her, yet they chose her. Finally, most Nigerians know, empathise with and sympathise with blacks regarding the racial divide here in America. It pains me when some black Americans want to paint us as the enemy along with others.
THANK YOU!!! I will share this. It needs to be shared internationally. IMMEDIATELY! My heart is full of appreciation for you, your experiences, understanding, insight, and more. I am so grateful that you are on planet Earth with me at this time in history : -)
Thank you for this informative lecture. Being 72 years old and having had careers in management, as well as read on many related topics, I know the examples you provided are factual. I have shared your video with my grandchildren, one who recently graduated with a MBA and started his career, to help them avoid the landmines.
As African_Canadian Medical Professional ,I worked with Native , Asian, Hispanic _Canadians for over27 yrs and felt their DESPERATION for WHITENESS , while denigrating Black Canadians ,which as a clinical Psychologist saw it as a Mental disease similar to those I was working with. Thank you and looking forward to your program.
@Canada-1958 your views are the same as my own as a Black American PsyD in a Large Metropolitan City on the West Coast! Thank you for sharing your perspective! Best wishes 1958!🇺🇸
I would also like to thank the content creator for sharing her personal experiences and perspectives that also align with my own, especially as a former HR Mgr who entered the HR field B L I N D and got the wake up call that HR is about selling your soul if you are Black and the same applies to being an Equal Opportunity And Diversity Manager. No one will tell the truth about what it “really” takes to succeed in the US workplace as you have clearly demonstrated and I sincerely appreciate you and the work you do to help others who eventually realize the true realities of “working while Black.” ❤️⭐️💙🎯💕🇺🇸
If I may ask, why don't you call yourself a Black Canadian instead of African Canadian? I believe that immigrants & their descendants in America should follow the same terms. Most Black Americans view it as erasure
Love this channel, Having an African name put so many barriers up for me and also looking more African. I had to double mask. Can’t work in these corporate and non profit spaces anymore.
You are truly marvelous and I'm a dark complexed woman born in Arkansas. Ann Marie I can't thank You enough for your knowledge, your candour, your wisdom of the not only the history of America, but other places in the world and their cast systems. Thank You young lady and please keep up the great work and May The Most High God Continue To Bless You And Your Family!
This is crazy to me. I just realized I have been tested in previous jobs to see if I’m the type to “ align “ with wyt against my own. The first time was my first job out of college. My manager literally forbid me to speak with the only other black employee. She grabbed me under my arm and walked me back to my desk whispering into my ear that I was not to speak to her during company time. It was very uncomfortable and confusing to have that WW put her hands on me and forbid me to speak to my coworker. That coworker was the only one helping me learn how to do my job. I went to her with questions and she’d answer me. I was hired by the male director and assigned to a WW manager. On my first day I was introduced to her and she refused to even shake my hand. It was a terrible experience overall and her dragging me back to my desk was the last straw. I went to HR and that was another level of heck. All of a sudden I was being questioned like I did something wrong. It was my first lesson in HR not being my friend. I ended up leaving because it felt extremely uncomfortable. It’s been many years and as I think about it now, it pisses me off. Nobody should have to deal with this craziness.
Peacefreedom you had every right to talk to your black coworker, who the hell did she think she is telling you not to. No employer has ever forbade me from speaking to any work colleague in fact we are encouraged to work together as part of a team, and share ideas. Posted from Britain
@@maureenjackson2041 There’s so much I could say about what I experienced there. It was bad. However, what are you supposed to do when you’re put in these situations. Going to HR made it worse. So, I just left. Another thing she did: she eliminated the Senior level position when the other employee left. At first they posted the job internally. The other black lady applied and talked me into applying. I didn’t expect to get it. She had more experience. But I went for it anyway. After the interviews neither of us got the job and they literally eliminated the position. The problem for me was, the policy stated we could only move up one step at a time. HR said the manager claimed the Senior position wasn’t necessary. When I asked about the path for promotions without that position, they basically said it wouldn’t be possible without that position. So the manager essentially locked the other black woman and I into dead end positions. The manager also hired her friend who had no experience and no degree. She assigned me to train her. I literally had to bring my textbooks from college in to give her a crash course. While I was training her she started complaining about her pay. Turned out she was being paid more than me, her title was Junior which is what a non degreed person would have. I had a 4 year degree and had to take a test as a part of the interview. I got 97% on the exam and that woman clearly didn’t take an exam because she had never worked in the industry, taken a class, nothing. She knew NOTHING! I was so upset I couldn’t even think straight. Of course see was white. Any work she was given, I had to complete. When she was able to do some of the work, I was responsible for double checking it and making any necessary corrections. Yet she was making more than I was.
This is hell, @peacefreedom4930. Take good care of you. Can you share where you were working? What town, etc.? Are you ethnic Black American, meaning U.S. slavery descendant? I AM. You should write about this, either nonfiction or fiction.
@@MarianDouglasUngaro I am a descendant of Africans enslaved in America. My family is from the Deep South and migrated north during the Great Migration. I am the only one to go to college. I have usually been the only or one of very few, black people in certain spaces. The way I’ve been treated has traumatized me. Maybe one day I’ll be able to write about it. But I’m currently not able to face all of what I’ve pushed down to keep moving forward.
Thank you so much for articulating this. I left corporate America during the pandemic and have been extremely hesitant to return and I think this hits the issue on the head for me. Many of the organizations I've worked in have all operated in the fog of racism and I don't want to participate in that ish any more. I understand that I live in America and that racism will be present every where but some organizations encourage it more than others and I've just been more selective on where I chose to work based on my past experiences with every thing you just mentioned
My niece told me about your podcast after I told her I'm in the middle of writing a novel about a black woman and the years she's spent looking for a job, after getting both a bachelor's and a master's degree. I am almost halfway done with the book (it will be around 80,000 words) and I cannot believe how closely what the protagonist goes through (which is based on my personal experiences and my research) matches what you've talked about in this video. Wow. I subscribed!
Egyptians shocked me the most . Many I knew had Caucasian on their drivers license . I was shocked , I asked an Egyptian friend who admittedly said that they prefer to be considered white . Nappy hair flat ironed and permed straight to hide their roots .
OMG this behavior is very prominent in the medical field. I was fired from my job and I just couldn’t put in words what was happening to me. As a CNA this behavior is really overwhelming and you receive it from your coworkers and patients.
As so called Black individuals, it would be extremely beneficial to form uplifting and healing support groups. Time to recover from the psychological beat downs. 🦋
Please follow Dr. Kimani Norrington Sands. She talks a lot about the healing process after hostile work environments. Lifting as we climb is the name of her channel.
Yes! Indeed healing from this system is needed our nervous systems need to be reset, when we learn our melanin is a spiritual conductor, we master in the "Spiritual" others charge themselves up from the Material realm✨ Its time to recharge & cleanse from this vexed system!
Ma’am, thank you for the gems of knowledge you share with us. I’m Senegalese (naturalized American) and I’ve lived in the United States for 27 years and only finally GOT IT (it being how WS works) after 20 years of living here. I was sheltered from the inner workings of American society because I interacted more deeply with peers from Senegal/Africa or other immigrants. I married a WM but still was platonic with American politics, news, culture for a long time. I’m a loner and hyper focused on my kids/home life. When Trump came on the stage in 2015 I started paying close attention. My eyes have been wide open ever since.
As a white woman there were a mixture of both white and black workers in our office. The supervisor was a Driving Ms Daisy type white woman. Anyway, she played favorites and picked on certain individuals, myself included. Her favorites were Hispanic women and they could come in an hour or two late, long breaks and lunches where she would occasionally join. The black women, three clerical and two the same position as myself, were "talked too" whenever they were late whether arrival, break or lunch. A new black woman transferred to our office and Ms Daisy told everyone she ended up with her and she was trouble. Of course, those in the office gave her the snub job as we didnt want to be associated with trouble. Everyday this woman took notes and sent off an email whenever she felt she was treated differently. Unlike the other black workers and myself we just put up with it. She didnt take any slight. Black workers had lunch with black workers nary was there intermingling. One day she notices the supervisor belittling me , as well as, one of her favorites joined in. The favorite ordered me to do what was her work and usually I just went along to get along. I knew the black worker located within ear shot was listening in and I mustered the courage to tell that favorite, "its your job you do it " and after the favorite left the black lady came in and we had a conversation. She realized it wasnt just the black workers being picked on. I was a weirdo with autism no matter if I was white. After that encounter I would regularly be invited to lunch with the black ladies and accepted. I admired this black lady standing up for herself and others and we remained friends until she passed. I am still a weirdo autistic white woman and that bitch of a supervisor got her just due. I got another job out of state and the supervisor gave me a bad reference after ten years of superior performance. I wrote the CEO of the company and everyone and anyone else that I would sue their arses. They not only made her apologize but she was reprimanded and her boss became my new reference. Got a backbone thanks to my gal pal, Sendra ..may she rest in peace.
I last worked in an office run by the City of Philadelphia before I retired nearly nine years ago. It was a part-time position, but was fine for me since I'd moved back home to help my elderly parents who were going through health issues. One of my co-workers was a very pretty Puerto Rican young woman who was 20-something at that time. Although she was light-skinned, she could not pass for a WW. However, her father had brought her and her siblings to believe they were better than PRs with darker skin, and African-Americans, regardless of their complexions. For instance, she told me her sister had an ex-boyfriend who was a young BM, college educated, co-owner of a small business that was doing well, and did not do drugs. It didn't matter to their father; he did not speak to his daughter for two years because she had a black beau. My co-worker also told me that whenever an elevator stop, and if there was a BM in the elevator alone, she would not get on it. This young lady's father had raised her to believe that because they were nearly white-skinned PRs, that made them better than than brown and black skinned people.
I just discovered you, glad I did. I quit my job last Thursday . I kept getting offers to take inferior jobs, other than law, where I worked. They offered me a job in the County, get this, the animal shelter. Also I am proud to say, I am always complemented on my professional dress. They also tried to make a para-legal with a college degree to take a job on Public Safety and to wear a uniform. It bothered them that I received many complements on my professional dress. I quit last week.
This is so true! HR at my place of work is not for the people. They are for the company. I have been on my job for 30 years and never trusted HR. No they will not choose you. At this stage I am hoping to be chosen to be offered a separation settlement.
I hope you get that. My company did not want to give me a separation settlement. According to them, they had no issue with me and my work product and performance was never a problem so, they're not going to pay me to leave. They didn't.
@lemonaid13 I just started having issues with my managers that took over our team. It's evident they don't want me there and I don't want to be there. 30 years was enough me. When they started flipping the script, I said it's time to go. So I went on medical leave.
@tangyharris5478 @tangyharris5478 Definitely time to go. I still need that money. While I'm actively looking, I'll be damned if I move on. I already had a lawsuit on them. Now I'm going back in the office, I wish they would. Ironically, they hust re-hired the dude that I replaced after his retirement. That fool is coming back his job....my job. If they're good for another round, so am I until I get the hell out of there. My advice to you is that after 30 years, I would be finding me a psychiatrist and begin boohooing about thoughts of you know what, etcetera. Either file for workmans comp or Retire if you can and Look into your Social Security "Disability"options. If you stay longer, your retirement could be in major jeopardy.
I am an African American Muslim women and most people do not know if am African American. They have made nasty & derogatory comments about African Americans to me. These people are usually Carribean & West African, A few East African too. Then, have the nerve and the audacity to try to relate to racially. It's disgusting! Honor those you serve & serve those you honor.
Sister, I commend you for your valiant presentation that could be a significant step in repairing the broken relationship between blacks all over the world. In a brief 45-minute video, this American sister with Trinidadian roots provides an outstanding masterclass on how blacks throughout the diaspora have their commonalities and differences weaponized against each other. Presented with grace and clarity, you have posted a signpost and paved the road so that Africans globally can begin to engage each other with more understanding and empathy. Stay with this sister, you are on to something of utmost importance. Thank you.
It’s very unfortunate. Haiti is a place. I have always wanted to visit, but I cannot because of the security issues. the history of the island is very very sad. It’s really immoral what the US government and France and others have done to keep it the way that it is and to block its progress.
My first job was when I was 17 at McDonalds , I worked there during my high school and college years. When I was 20 they hired a white man I would say in his mid 20s to work as a regular crew member/cashier. Within a few weeks he was promoted and trained to be a manager. He didn’t know how to run the drive thru or to get orders out fast enough, and needed me and others to guide him. There was another worker a black women who worked there for 6 years always opening the store at 4am, she was ready to quit during the pandemic but they begged her to stay and then offered her a manger position after so many years. I’m glad at a young age I learned that if your black especially if your a black woman , the workplace is not a fair place to you. If your denying that white supremacy doesn’t exist in the workplace , that wake up call is going to happen one way or another you just have to be observant.
This conversation is a real eye opener!!! First of all. I want to express my gratitude and appreciation of you sharing your experiences and knowledge. You are a very intelligent, inspiring and kind person who is sincerely trying to help individuals navigate common workplace issues with dignity, respect and intelligence. I have suffered so much from these experiences and I believe God has directed me to your channel for wisdom and guidance. I am a 55 year old African American Christian female with Doctorate level education and a CV which reflects very unique, comprehensive and diverse work experiences. Naturally I am a target of jealousy, racism, strife, etc. in every work setting from women of color and white women. Jealousy and envy are very dangerous emotions and will destroy every relationship if it is not recognized, addressed and resolved. I am a very sincere, respectful, hardworking, humble and God fearing woman. I am so tired of these struggles in every workplace in which I enter into. I oftentimes feel like totally giving up!!!
Thank you! This was so helpful although I just retired because I was drained and tired of fighting the bad behaving managers because they definitely were not leaders. I totally understand the the aggressive, bullying, toxicity & bad behavior that I dealt with working in the academic arena. I'm currently reclaiming my peace.😊
Annmarie ❤. Thanks. Many thanks. It is true. Knowledge is power. Thanks for the clarity. I am a black man from Cuba. Your comments are very much on point. Also, in my experience living in the United States of America since I was 18 years old. Your vast and extensive history is parallel to mine. Since I have your great videos, I am saving and sharing them. I agree. America needs to be escaped.
She is dropping real knowledge. Thank you for sharing the many things that we just brush off when encountering these issues. This topic is very important and insightful.
Ann Marie you have framed your explanation perfectly. I appreciate your break down, being 60+ year black American woman, you explained anti-blackness exactly as it is in America. Unfortunately, we do have, even black Americans that choose to separate themselves from black Americans, for example the "Uncle Tom or step and fetch-it" characters. Thank you for your clarity and work.
On Christmas 2022, I went to a Christmas party at my friends’ house (whom I’ve known since 2007) and discussed all these issues with them, and gave them personal anecdotes about the things I saw when I visited my family in Africa. Once I gave them the rundown on the US/Israel Palestine fiasco, everyone lost their minds and called me a conspiracy theorist, and I was never invited back to their home again. I guess I displeased their friend’s white-adjacent son who was arguing with me with no facts to back himself up with. I wish I could have been there to see their faces when the true reality was exposed after October 7th. Mind you, I visited West Africa in the 1980’s and was in awe of the cities and towns and how modern so many areas were. West Africa has devolved horribly compared to what it looked like in the 1980’s, so there is nothing that anyone can say to convince me that we are not the original ‘Ev1l Emp1re’.
Very insightful and excellent commentary. I’m at a loss when wanting yo explain to people why I am okay not moving up in my workplace. You nailed it. I wish I can carry this content with me, but then it’ll be an HR issue. So i just say I’d rather not deal with the stress & family is more of a priority. Thanks for sharing.
You are hitting the nail on the head! They hate us but love the culture. Everyone wants to be black until the cops come 😂. I had a Spanish supervisor transfer me because I would not ( and never will) snitch in a co-worker. I told her" It's not my forte, I excel on my own merit." I was transferred within a week and mase myself comfortable ans she constantly would come to see how I was managing. I managed VERY well, you will never see me sweat ✌️
Your "you're not like them" experience brought to mind a video of a police encounter I saw a while ago between a pregnant BW and a W male officer. In this vid, he was trying to pull her over on a dark road, but, out of concern for her and her children's safety, she chose to drive to a well-lit area. She did acknowledge his presence, though, by engaging her emergency lights/flashers. Long story short, once she stopped, he drew his weapon and threatened to shoot her if she made one wrong move. He was beyond hostile, and the whole thing was distressing to watch. Almost equally as distressing was what she attempted to tell him --- in between all of his yelling and telling her to shut the hell up --- she began to list her educational credentials, her profession, her clean background, etc... imploring him to see her differently from any preconceptions about black people he may have been harboring. It was essentially a "I'm not like them" statement. It was heartbreaking that she felt she needed to say all of that. Not that it did any good; he didn’t have an empathetic bone in his body and repeatedly told her how he didn’t care about anything she had to say.
Probably because people report the channel and get it shut down. Wouldn’t be surprised if that happens here but I’m gonna keep telling the truth until it does. I got kicked off LinkedIn for talking about these kinds of things. And I already had a couple of the 🖐🏻people accuse me of “ black supremacy” as if that’s even a thing 😳
@@theantihr People hate the truth. I am proud of us, period. We have endured (and still do) so much negativity from others worldwide - whether we consider ourselves Black or not.🙂 I love unity but realize that it won't happen in my lifetime. I constantly either left jobs or was fired because I hated what I had to do to remain on these jobs. I am sure that I blocked my "earthly blessings" in the process but destroying other people's lives was not a goal of mine. Thank you so much for your content.
I was born in Jamaican and for me saying where I am from is not trying to be close to whiteness, it's about being proud of cultural background. Still I'm aware of Jamaicans obsession with whitness and our wonderful motto (out of many, one people) for population that's 90% black.
Although I may be wrong about this and I'm open to anybody correcting me, it appears to me that the antebellum social contract between Southern aristocrats and lower class whites was that if you help us maintain the social system that maintains slavery, we will ensure that you will occupy space above black slaves. After the abolition of slavery, there seems to be a social anxiety among whites that are not in the top 1% that the essence of this social contract will not be honored by the wealthy classes that rose to economic prominence after world war II. This is why, in my view, it is so unsettling for white people to see a black person who has outperformed them either through knowledge, experience, education or material possessions. I believe there is an anxiety that white people will be left behind. Many whites were raised to believe that their birthright is to always be above blacks at all times and in all places and in all things and the new class of Rich people they see seem to be less concerned about that at the highest levels. That is why, in my view, they are easy to motivate in our current political climate.
If I’m not mistaken Brazil had the largest amount of slave shipments. Slaves generally went to South America and the Caribbean for “tempering” to the weather as many would die from not being acclimated to the temperatures of North America. Tempering took about 3-5 years with gradual movements to the north. Thank you for speaking this as many don’t seem to know.
This was a great presentation on the interpersonal sociology of America . The biggest problem in America is not that socio-economic classes and ethnic prejudices exist. The biggedt problem is the lack of honesty on the oart of the majority group to afmit that these divisions and orejudices exist. If someone were to ask what is thf number one problem in this country the answer would be "dishonety" . To solve all the other problems, there first needs to be honesty about the problems that exist.
Thank you for taking the time to systematically break down discrimination. You’ve explained it from the origin and how it continues to be perpetrated by those who are desperate to be accepted in the workplace by turning on their own.
Being black in America and my parents being Afro Cuban I see it first hand. I was reading a E book on the earlier history of Cuba in the late nineteenth century going into the early twentieth century where Cuba and other Spanish speaking colonies in the Caribbean where the Government sanctioned the immigration policy of white Europeans from Spain to settle in Cuba with their families because the black population in the Eastern portion of Cuba was so high and that part of the island was also close to Haiti. The term used for this migration in Spanish was called “Blanqueamiento” meaning the Whitening of Cuba and its people. Even back then and always white supremacy was playing its part in being superior to the “OTHER”.
Excellent master class! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I really appreciate the historical grounding and nuance as well as delivering clarity and discernment without emotional charge. It supported me in accessing the wisdom. 💗
I just found your videos today and although I'm retired I will be listening to them. I will give your link to my friend girls who are still grinding on the job and still having issues with the white supervisors. Thank you so very much for taking time to post this information.
"You're not like them!" Or "You're different!" 😂 Heard it before... Several times throughout my life, too! The first time I heard it, I knew it was an insult, but I wasn't sure what to do with it. I didn't have then the knowledge that I have now as a descendant of slaves from the USA. My parents just wanted me to have the best and because I was a classically trained instrumentalist, the white folk around me thought that that was something different because I wasn't rapping on an R&B singer, etc. However, lately I've been able to correct several people in my self- employment, to let them know, how offensive that is and how much I love my people. And how different we are, yet they make their stereotypical images of us perpetuate so they are surprised when they see that we are people, too, with gifts and talents just like others. And how much I'll never be on the white supremacist team! What typically follows is, tears and I didn't mean it or did I say something wrong? Lol. My belief is that we are the children of the lost tribes of Israel so when I read Deuteronomy 28 or Psalms 83, it makes so much sense to me the plight of my people and why we are a "byword and a proverb in all nations!" Thanks for sharing your commentary, Anne Marie. I appreciate your channel!😊 Peace.
While I’ve shared her content with others that claim they have seen and suffered at the hands of ws, discrimination within the work environment, and even want to leave their current position with severance pay-they have NEITHER continually tuned in to this channel NOR have they taken the steps she shares, let alone a discovery call. Perhaps they just like to complain and remain.
I appreciate this comment, but I want to point out to you that people have to get to these things on their own. All you can do is try to provide the information, but each individual has to come to these things on their own. I’ve learnt that in my own personal life as well. Thank you for sharing my channel. At least they now know of the resource if they ever need it or are willing to use it. And unfortunately, some people like to be the victim in their own story. They don’t know how to do any thing else. My content is for people who are tired of being victims and want to do something else.
I would also add that to take action means that not only is their experience "that bad," it's also deliberate. It usually means letting go of lots of other ideas, and not just around race, that made it easier to sleep at night. That one thread of reality starts unwinding a whole ball of other things people have kept out of their awareness.
Years ago, a woman from Japan and I became good friends. We were in college together and shared many of the same classes. One of the things she talked about with me was how race was a non-concept in Japan. This was not a new idea to me as I had long been atheistic on the anthropological experiment called “race” and knew that race was not a real thing, but a process, one becomes “white”, one becomes “Black” by virtue of, I’ll use your term,”hyper-capitalism.” Eventually, after college, my friend had entered the work force and began having a series of experiences where she began to see that the white men she encountered racialized her sex and sexualized her being a Japanese female. We could both see that she was now very much a racialized subject by having lived in America for so long. I wonder; what were the disparate pieces your father put together that drove him to the conclusion that there is something really wrong with America? Thanks for the video. It’s a public service you provide in this video by linking together how colonialism is not “post”, but here and now in Black and people of colors’ treatment of each other in the workplace.
This is the struggle many people have when they come to America is the racialized-ation(my made-up term) of their being. That they don’t really know in their home country. and Africa has a continent and in the individual countries there’s not really a concept of race. People belong to tribes. Everybody looks the same. There is some aspects of colorism, but that’s not really a major factor as it is in the Caribbean. It is when people come to the United States that they become racialized and learn that they have to pick a side. And being black because they realize that it’s a negative so they seek white proximity but they don’t realize they don’t have any choice but to be black especially if your skin is brown. Your skin is dark. Nobody cares who you pick. And when time comes, they’ll make it very clear that they will not choose you. No matter how many times you choose them.
Apparently, some of you are in my comments simply to try to critique and correct and engage in oppression Olympics. That is not the purpose of this content and if you have nothing else to contribute, I suggest you keep your comments to yourself because it will get you blocked. I don’t argue with strangers on the Internet, and I’m not gonna entertain that kind of nonsense in my comments. Govern yourselves accordingly. and all those of Caribbean descent who want to come in and argue that being born on an island is a race or ethnicity - take that somewhere else as well. I said what I said, and I meant what I said, and if you don’t like it, you can go elsewhere. You can go make a whole video on your platform about all the reasons you believe that just because you were born on an island means that you can distance yourself from being black. it doesn’t change the reality that if you are of African descent and you were born on an island you are still BLACK. In the United States of the America, you are black black black whether you like it or not And if you were born in the United States and you’re black, you are black American your desire for white proximity is not my problem. It’s yours. Work it out just not in my comment section. Cheers!
Yes ma'am....loud and clear!
Whats the difference between a white american and a european? Whats the difference between that and all these non americans and double agents coming to america and studying america?
@@Lakersman24It's not her job to give a voice to dissent. Those with ears to hear will hear. She drew a very clear line in the sand before she began. Frankly, I'm glad she blocked the knit-pickers. I find people who quibble over unimportant detail instead of focusing on the big picture annoying.
CORRECT 😅👌✅🖤🙏🏾
I absolutely love your content. Thanks for sharing.
I'm a Black American, but I can relate to the "You're not like them" & the "You're a credit to your race" comments because I was a Black child in Mississippi in gifted classes. The idea that Black Americans are lesser in every way is ingrained in our country and they do try to separate you from your own people.
I am glad you recognized that a lot of black people don't.
My manager is an Indian woman. She is an absolute tyrant. When I found out she was married to a white man, I should have known she thought she was better. I am resigning on August 30th. I started planning my exit in March 2024. I secured a ‘bridge’ job to hold me over during this transition, which I told them I could not start until October. I am taking September off to decompress from all the toxicity. I will have been there for 2 years and a day on my last day of August 30th. I feel free already!
Good for you. Definitely need time to destress from that toxicity
Good for you!!! Unfortunately the majority of Indians believe they are superior to Black people including Africans. I buy ayuveric medicine and sometimes I go to India stores and they have an air about them that make them think they are better. Caste system.
I'm sorry this happened to you. My experience with Indian men, and Chinese men and women, is worse than any interaction with white people at work. They just seem to loathe Black women. A Malaysian woman was my boss and I was so THRILLED TO HAVE HER GO GET MY RESIGNATION LETTER FROM MY DESK. 😂😅 She was stupified, shocked, and about to pass out when she realized the joke was on her now.
I did the same😂😂😂. I actually used mental health issues to get short term disability while I unwind my therapist agreed. My new gig starts in September.
Congratulations 🎉
I had the experience of an Asian female librarian at work thinking she could tell me what to do, chastise me via emails, etc. Her not being the boss or immediate supervisor meant I could let her have it in a professional way. Not surprisingly, she treated ww respectfully, even collaborated with them.
I worked as a student librarian and the director was a black woman. I had zero problems😊. The assistant director was a YT woman who tried it but was always reminded who was in charge.
I'm not surprised. Asian women have the mindset of treating BW the poorest, POC women poorly, and WW with reverence. This is their modus operandi.
I am a black Canadian epidemiologist trained in the U.K. and conducted medical research in 100 countries. I have witnessed and experienced EVERYTHING YOU HAVE STATED. G-d bless you.
Thank you, I am of the belief that your channel is badly needed. As a black man, I was truly touched by your honesty
and insights regarding "the employment environment" in which our people are systematically disrespected simply for existing and being highly qualified. May G-d bless you.
I dated a young man who came to the United States in the 90's and he told me on his layover in the UK the white citizens over there told him not to socialize with black people in the United States because we are trouble. He also told me he didn't know why all Black Americans aren't rich. After he lived in the US for 10 years he apologized for his statements.
She's absolutely correct division is the reason for the WS success.
At 25:38 you dropped a gem 💎. I've been in HR 19 years and I've never had a job more than 3 years for this reason. If you are a knowledgeable professional and have moral character you see all kinds of foolishness and stand up to it and refuse to comply and either voluntarily leave or are pushed out (I know when to leave and have never had a problem finding a job so I always do the former). People thought that was strange and now they are waking up to the fact that even when they played the game they lost they soul. My soul is not for sale.
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@@theantihr Please stop talking about white supremacy. Everyone knows about it. The best way for black women to move forward is to travel. Your passport as an American carries power, go abroad and make money outside of USA to escape discrimination: Japan, Korea, Singapore are great
@suezcontours6653, why are you here if you don't want to hear about white supremacy? Clearly black women want to hear about it with over 300 comments. Go find something else to do with your time
@@ivyworth862 Black women also are on 20v1 pop the balloon TH-cam reality shows, it doesn't mean it's good for them. Humiliation content is kind of our specialty. It's not constructive but it seems like we have no alternative.
@@suezcontours6653-This is a guide for people to avoid thr pitfalls thst she went through. Every Black person needs to be shown this video before they reach working age!
Sister, you are SPOT-ON! You are God-Sent; and I thank you for your brilliance and your help to our community.
The best comprehensive education ever. I wish that this was being taught in school.
I’d love to know about your experience living in 🇲🇽
……so much unlearning to do! Thank you for sharing your perspective.
It's not meant to be taught in schools, that's the way they uphold the WS structure
I love the professionalism and accuracy of this channel 😊
I am also from Brooklyn and grew up in Crown Heights. Your break down of the relationship between the American blacks and the Caribbean black is 1000% accurate. I grew up in the eighties and nineties and remember getting along great with my West Indian friends. I ate and slept in there homes and my mother married a Trinidadian. It was when I encountered the Spanish speaking blacks( Dominicans, Puerto Ricans) is when I experienced a need for them to separate themselves from blacks, even when they were darker than me! Plenty of the older West Indians had negative stereotypes about blacks too don’t get me wrong. I married a Haitian and his family had terrible things to say about Americans. However my family (Southerners) felt the same way about them and I was discouraged as a child from ever having marrying a Haitian!
In the workplace unfortunately the relationships we formed in our hood was not solidified and many of black West Indians were pit against black Americans to keep us in line. West Indians felt a need to disassociate themselves from black Americans and this played into the WS agenda in the workplace. Black Americans felt as though opportunities were being given to West Indians over them., while West Indians were seen as hardworking and willing to do what American Blacks wouldn’t. I could talk about this for days but we all were used in different ways to suppress our communities!
Thank you for this discussion, it was very informative!
Thank you, Sis, for your very balanced explanation of Black American and Caribbean relations in NYC.
Too many times it's discussed in a one-sided manner. Both groups distrusted each other in the earlier days. In some places like Brooklyn things improved, and in other places like the Bronx the divisions were more resilient. Be blessed 🙏🏿
Thank you for sharing. Your experience is very similar to mines. In the workplace everybody gets divided and put against each other in furtherance of white supremacy.
@@tracienatural2405 Yes, I agree! Thank you 🙏🏽
@@theantihr Thank you for responding friend!🙏🏽🤗
Like the Belgians who were complicit in the Rawandan genocide.
I will never forget. I know a white girl from America who was anti affirmative action, dei etc etc. She told me she went to a club in Africa (maybe Uganda or Zambia) and she said the DJs were changed the music from Afro beats to Taylor swift when she walked in. The whole time she was there she said they took her temperature. If she didnt seem to like the music they would change it. Insane.
Sick self hatred...disgusting 🤮
These africans can be something else.
WOW!!!!!
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Unbelievable talking about bending over backwards for ONE white individual.
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I wish I had your expertise and knowledge 15-20 years ago! You are amazing and spot on…we as black women need to understand that we have no allies, None! 💕
As a 66 year old black man born in the USA, I have encountered much of what you said about "corporate America/HR". It is disheartening to see some black and brown people trying their best to cling around be around whiteness. Colonialism/slavery both go had in hand and many black and brown people are kept fighting against each other by the colonizers. I never sold my soul to "go along to get along" with people (white).
Highly educated with AA, BA and MA degrees ( work in IT industry over 30 years). Never had a problem telling "them" what "they" can do with that "BS". Thank G-d I'm retiring from "CA" at the end of this year! But. I will continue to try educating "us" as long as I can! Remember Brother Chairman Fred Hampton. Thank You Sis for the education you presented! Continue the "Fight of Truth!"
You are so on point and speaks to my lived experience. I am of Nigerian origin and had a good job with the State Government. I implemented new and more effective ways of doing things in my Division. Yet, when it came to replacing the Director who was just a grade senior to me, they chose a White woman whom I was four grades senior to. I was devastated . Till today I'm still trying to recover from the experience. it's racial injustice at its worst. Incidentally, I have an
MBA from an Ivy League School. She on the other hand has a diploma from a Community College. I trained her, yet they chose her. Finally, most Nigerians know, empathise with and sympathise with blacks regarding the racial divide here in America. It pains me when some black Americans want to paint us as the enemy along with others.
THANK YOU!!! I will share this. It needs to be shared internationally. IMMEDIATELY! My heart is full of appreciation for you, your experiences, understanding, insight, and more. I am so grateful that you are on planet Earth with me at this time in history : -)
I appreciate and received your kind words. Thank you.
Thank you for this informative lecture. Being 72 years old and having had careers in management, as well as read on many related topics, I know the examples you provided are factual. I have shared your video with my grandchildren, one who recently graduated with a MBA and started his career, to help them avoid the landmines.
As African_Canadian Medical Professional ,I worked with Native , Asian, Hispanic _Canadians for over27 yrs and felt their DESPERATION for WHITENESS , while denigrating Black Canadians ,which as a clinical Psychologist saw it as a Mental disease similar to those I was working with. Thank you and looking forward to your program.
@Canada-1958 your views are the same as my own as a Black American PsyD in a Large Metropolitan City on the West Coast! Thank you for sharing your perspective! Best wishes 1958!🇺🇸
I would also like to thank the content creator for sharing her personal experiences and perspectives that also align with my own, especially as a former HR Mgr who entered the HR field B L I N D and got the wake up call that HR is about selling your soul if you are Black and the same applies to being an Equal Opportunity And Diversity Manager. No one will tell the truth about what it “really” takes to succeed in the US workplace as you have clearly demonstrated and I sincerely appreciate you and the work you do to help others who eventually realize the true realities of “working while Black.” ❤️⭐️💙🎯💕🇺🇸
If I may ask, why don't you call yourself a Black Canadian instead of African Canadian?
I believe that immigrants & their descendants in America should follow the same terms. Most Black Americans view it as erasure
This is profound. It's a disease.
Love this channel, Having an African name put so many barriers up for me and also looking more African. I had to double mask. Can’t work in these corporate and non profit spaces anymore.
You are truly marvelous and I'm a dark complexed woman born in Arkansas. Ann Marie I can't thank You enough for your knowledge, your candour, your wisdom of the not only the history of America, but other places in the world and their cast systems. Thank You young lady and please keep up the great work and May The Most High God Continue To Bless You And Your Family!
I appreciate your kind words. Thank you.
This is crazy to me. I just realized I have been tested in previous jobs to see if I’m the type to “ align “ with wyt against my own. The first time was my first job out of college. My manager literally forbid me to speak with the only other black employee. She grabbed me under my arm and walked me back to my desk whispering into my ear that I was not to speak to her during company time. It was very uncomfortable and confusing to have that WW put her hands on me and forbid me to speak to my coworker. That coworker was the only one helping me learn how to do my job. I went to her with questions and she’d answer me. I was hired by the male director and assigned to a WW manager. On my first day I was introduced to her and she refused to even shake my hand. It was a terrible experience overall and her dragging me back to my desk was the last straw. I went to HR and that was another level of heck. All of a sudden I was being questioned like I did something wrong. It was my first lesson in HR not being my friend. I ended up leaving because it felt extremely uncomfortable. It’s been many years and as I think about it now, it pisses me off. Nobody should have to deal with this craziness.
Wow! That’s all I can say is wow. You could’ve made them pay you.
Peacefreedom you had every right to talk to your black coworker, who the hell did she think she is telling you not to. No employer has ever forbade me from speaking to any work colleague in fact we are encouraged to work together as part of a team, and share ideas.
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@@maureenjackson2041 There’s so much I could say about what I experienced there. It was bad. However, what are you supposed to do when you’re put in these situations. Going to HR made it worse. So, I just left.
Another thing she did: she eliminated the Senior level position when the other employee left. At first they posted the job internally. The other black lady applied and talked me into applying. I didn’t expect to get it. She had more experience. But I went for it anyway. After the interviews neither of us got the job and they literally eliminated the position. The problem for me was, the policy stated we could only move up one step at a time. HR said the manager claimed the Senior position wasn’t necessary. When I asked about the path for promotions without that position, they basically said it wouldn’t be possible without that position. So the manager essentially locked the other black woman and I into dead end positions.
The manager also hired her friend who had no experience and no degree. She assigned me to train her. I literally had to bring my textbooks from college in to give her a crash course. While I was training her she started complaining about her pay. Turned out she was being paid more than me, her title was Junior which is what a non degreed person would have. I had a 4 year degree and had to take a test as a part of the interview. I got 97% on the exam and that woman clearly didn’t take an exam because she had never worked in the industry, taken a class, nothing. She knew NOTHING! I was so upset I couldn’t even think straight. Of course see was white. Any work she was given, I had to complete. When she was able to do some of the work, I was responsible for double checking it and making any necessary corrections. Yet she was making more than I was.
This is hell, @peacefreedom4930. Take good care of you. Can you share where you were working? What town, etc.? Are you ethnic Black American, meaning U.S. slavery descendant? I AM. You should write about this, either nonfiction or fiction.
@@MarianDouglasUngaro I am a descendant of Africans enslaved in America. My family is from the Deep South and migrated north during the Great Migration. I am the only one to go to college. I have usually been the only or one of very few, black people in certain spaces. The way I’ve been treated has traumatized me. Maybe one day I’ll be able to write about it. But I’m currently not able to face all of what I’ve pushed down to keep moving forward.
Thank you for telling the truth.
Thank you so much for articulating this. I left corporate America during the pandemic and have been extremely hesitant to return and I think this hits the issue on the head for me. Many of the organizations I've worked in have all operated in the fog of racism and I don't want to participate in that ish any more. I understand that I live in America and that racism will be present every where but some organizations encourage it more than others and I've just been more selective on where I chose to work based on my past experiences with every thing you just mentioned
My niece told me about your podcast after I told her I'm in the middle of writing a novel about a black woman and the years she's spent looking for a job, after getting both a bachelor's and a master's degree. I am almost halfway done with the book (it will be around 80,000 words) and I cannot believe how closely what the protagonist goes through (which is based on my personal experiences and my research) matches what you've talked about in this video. Wow. I subscribed!
Egyptians shocked me the most . Many I knew had Caucasian on their drivers license . I was shocked , I asked an Egyptian friend who admittedly said that they prefer to be considered white . Nappy hair flat ironed and permed straight to hide their roots .
...or they shave their hair low, so you won't see their roots.
OMG this behavior is very prominent in the medical field. I was fired from my job and I just couldn’t put in words what was happening to me. As a CNA this behavior is really overwhelming and you receive it from your coworkers and patients.
As so called Black individuals, it would be extremely beneficial to form uplifting and healing support groups. Time to recover from the psychological beat downs. 🦋
Please follow Dr. Kimani Norrington Sands. She talks a lot about the healing process after hostile work environments. Lifting as we climb is the name of her channel.
Thank you Anne Marie! @@theantihr
Yes! Indeed healing from this system is needed our nervous systems need to be reset, when we learn our melanin is a spiritual conductor, we master in the
"Spiritual" others charge themselves up from the Material realm✨ Its time to recharge & cleanse from this vexed system!
Ma’am, thank you for the gems of knowledge you share with us. I’m Senegalese (naturalized American) and I’ve lived in the United States for 27 years and only finally GOT IT (it being how WS works) after 20 years of living here. I was sheltered from the inner workings of American society because I interacted more deeply with peers from Senegal/Africa or other immigrants. I married a WM but still was platonic with American politics, news, culture for a long time. I’m a loner and hyper focused on my kids/home life. When Trump came on the stage in 2015 I started paying close attention. My eyes have been wide open ever since.
Are you still together?
As a white woman there were a mixture of both white and black workers in our office. The supervisor was a Driving Ms Daisy type white woman. Anyway, she played favorites and picked on certain individuals, myself included. Her favorites were Hispanic women and they could come in an hour or two late, long breaks and lunches where she would occasionally join. The black women, three clerical and two the same position as myself, were "talked too" whenever they were late whether arrival, break or lunch. A new black woman transferred to our office and Ms Daisy told everyone she ended up with her and she was trouble. Of course, those in the office gave her the snub job as we didnt want to be associated with trouble. Everyday this woman took notes and sent off an email whenever she felt she was treated differently. Unlike the other black workers and myself we just put up with it. She didnt take any slight. Black workers had lunch with black workers nary was there intermingling. One day she notices the supervisor belittling me , as well as, one of her favorites joined in. The favorite ordered me to do what was her work and usually I just went along to get along. I knew the black worker located within ear shot was listening in and I mustered the courage to tell that favorite, "its your job you do it " and after the favorite left the black lady came in and we had a conversation. She realized it wasnt just the black workers being picked on. I was a weirdo with autism no matter if I was white. After that encounter I would regularly be invited to lunch with the black ladies and accepted. I admired this black lady standing up for herself and others and we remained friends until she passed. I am still a weirdo autistic white woman and that bitch of a supervisor got her just due. I got another job out of state and the supervisor gave me a bad reference after ten years of superior performance. I wrote the CEO of the company and everyone and anyone else that I would sue their arses. They not only made her apologize but she was reprimanded and her boss became my new reference. Got a backbone thanks to my gal pal, Sendra ..may she rest in peace.
I last worked in an office run by the City of Philadelphia before I retired nearly nine years ago. It was a part-time position, but was fine for me since I'd moved back home to help my elderly parents who were going through health issues.
One of my co-workers was a very pretty Puerto Rican young woman who was 20-something at that time. Although she was light-skinned, she could not pass for a WW. However, her father had brought her and her siblings to believe they were better than PRs with darker skin, and African-Americans, regardless of their complexions. For instance, she told me her sister had an ex-boyfriend who was a young BM, college educated, co-owner of a small business that was doing well, and did not do drugs. It didn't matter to their father; he did not speak to his daughter for two years because she had a black beau.
My co-worker also told me that whenever an elevator stop, and if there was a BM in the elevator alone, she would not get on it. This young lady's father had raised her to believe that because they were nearly white-skinned PRs, that made them better than than brown and black skinned people.
As a black woman from the Caribbean this is the most thorough and thoughtful analysis of this issue I’ve heard. I agree 1,000%.
Thank you for your video. Everything you said is true. I have experienced this personally and professionally. Not a lie told 😎
I just discovered you, glad I did. I quit my job last Thursday . I kept getting offers to take inferior jobs, other than law, where I worked. They offered me a job in the County, get this, the animal shelter. Also I am proud to say, I am always complemented on my professional dress. They also tried to make a para-legal with a college degree to take a job on Public Safety and to wear a uniform. It bothered them that I received many complements on my professional dress. I quit last week.
I just have one thing to say: when is your book coming out and where can i buy it?
This is so true! HR at my place of work is not for the people. They are for the company. I have been on my job for 30 years and never trusted HR. No they will not choose you. At this stage I am hoping to be chosen to be offered a separation settlement.
I hope you get that. My company did not want to give me a separation settlement. According to them, they had no issue with me and my work product and performance was never a problem so, they're not going to pay me to leave. They didn't.
@lemonaid13 I just started having issues with my managers that took over our team. It's evident they don't want me there and I don't want to be there. 30 years was enough me. When they started flipping the script, I said it's time to go. So I went on medical leave.
30 years. Wow
@@soulnspired888 Yes. I was 19 when I started. Now it’s time for me to separate and live my life in freedom.
@tangyharris5478 @tangyharris5478 Definitely time to go. I still need that money. While I'm actively looking, I'll be damned if I move on. I already had a lawsuit on them. Now I'm going back in the office, I wish they would.
Ironically, they hust re-hired the dude that I replaced after his retirement. That fool is coming back his job....my job. If they're good for another round, so am I until I get the hell out of there.
My advice to you is that after 30 years, I would be finding me a psychiatrist and begin boohooing about thoughts of you know what, etcetera. Either file for workmans comp or Retire if you can and Look into your Social Security "Disability"options. If you stay longer, your retirement could be in major jeopardy.
I am an African American Muslim women and most people do not know if am African American. They have made nasty & derogatory comments about African Americans to me. These people are usually Carribean & West African, A few East African too. Then, have the nerve and the audacity to try to relate to racially. It's disgusting! Honor those you serve & serve those you honor.
Sister, I commend you for your valiant presentation that could be a significant step in repairing the broken relationship between blacks all over the world. In a brief 45-minute video, this American sister with Trinidadian roots provides an outstanding masterclass on how blacks throughout the diaspora have their commonalities and differences weaponized against each other. Presented with grace and clarity, you have posted a signpost and paved the road so that Africans globally can begin to engage each other with more understanding and empathy. Stay with this sister, you are on to something of utmost importance. Thank you.
All of this, every bit of what Anne Marie stated manifests in some form or fashion in corporate america.
THIS TOPIC WAS SO WELL ARTICULATED!!! OMG! 🖤👌✅🙏🏾😎
Thank you so much! I was beginning to feel that I was the only one seeing my workplace experiences this way. A curtain has been lifted!
Yes I’m Haitian and it’s so sad how I can’t visit the country due to the crime
It’s very unfortunate. Haiti is a place. I have always wanted to visit, but I cannot because of the security issues. the history of the island is very very sad. It’s really immoral what the US government and France and others have done to keep it the way that it is and to block its progress.
Thank you for providing such valuable information.
Caste is pronounced like cast. It's alive and well.
My first job was when I was 17 at McDonalds , I worked there during my high school and college years. When I was 20 they hired a white man I would say in his mid 20s to work as a regular crew member/cashier. Within a few weeks he was promoted and trained to be a manager. He didn’t know how to run the drive thru or to get orders out fast enough, and needed me and others to guide him. There was another worker a black women who worked there for 6 years always opening the store at 4am, she was ready to quit during the pandemic but they begged her to stay and then offered her a manger position after so many years. I’m glad at a young age I learned that if your black especially if your a black woman , the workplace is not a fair place to you. If your denying that white supremacy doesn’t exist in the workplace , that wake up call is going to happen one way or another you just have to be observant.
Keep speaking your truth. Don't stop. We need you.
This conversation is a real eye opener!!! First of all. I want to express my gratitude and appreciation of you sharing your experiences and knowledge. You are a very intelligent, inspiring and kind person who is sincerely trying to help individuals navigate common workplace issues with dignity, respect and intelligence. I have suffered so much from these experiences and I believe God has directed me to your channel for wisdom and guidance. I am a 55 year old African American Christian female with Doctorate level education and a CV which reflects very unique, comprehensive and diverse work experiences. Naturally I am a target of jealousy, racism, strife, etc. in every work setting from women of color and white women. Jealousy and envy are very dangerous emotions and will destroy every relationship if it is not recognized, addressed and resolved. I am a very sincere, respectful, hardworking, humble and God fearing woman. I am so tired of these struggles in every workplace in which I enter into. I oftentimes feel like totally giving up!!!
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood....
Trini Gal!!! You said a whoooooooole word!!!!!! 💯🙌🏾 Facts all over de place!!! No lies detected!
Thank you! This was so helpful although I just retired because I was drained and tired of fighting the bad behaving managers because they definitely were not leaders. I totally understand the the aggressive, bullying, toxicity & bad behavior that I dealt with working in the academic arena. I'm currently reclaiming my peace.😊
Annmarie ❤. Thanks. Many thanks. It is true. Knowledge is power. Thanks for the clarity. I am a black man from Cuba. Your comments are very much on point. Also, in my experience living in the United States of America since I was 18 years old. Your vast and extensive history is parallel to mine. Since I have your great videos, I am saving and sharing them. I agree. America needs to be escaped.
Cuba! I wanna go there so much. I’m trying to figure it out.
She is dropping real knowledge. Thank you for sharing the many things that we just brush off when encountering these issues. This topic is very important and insightful.
From my own experience as Black person when it comes to immigrants its not just the one experience it's the multiple experiences since childhood.
Ann Marie you have framed your explanation perfectly. I appreciate your break down, being 60+ year black American woman, you explained anti-blackness exactly as it is in America. Unfortunately, we do have, even black Americans that choose to separate themselves from black Americans, for example the "Uncle Tom or step and fetch-it" characters.
Thank you for your clarity and work.
Thank you for sharing such powerful facts and knowledge, all unapologetically!
This was a good one. I have experience this issue and almost every single place I've worked. I'm so glad I'm about to retire.
OUTSTANDING lesson on workplace dynamics!
Thank you so much for educating us…..
You’re welcome. I really do hope the content is helpful.
On Christmas 2022, I went to a Christmas party at my friends’ house (whom I’ve known since 2007) and discussed all these issues with them, and gave them personal anecdotes about the things I saw when I visited my family in Africa.
Once I gave them the rundown on the US/Israel Palestine fiasco, everyone lost their minds and called me a conspiracy theorist, and I was never invited back to their home again.
I guess I displeased their friend’s white-adjacent son who was arguing with me with no facts to back himself up with.
I wish I could have been there to see their faces when the true reality was exposed after October 7th.
Mind you, I visited West Africa in the 1980’s and was in awe of the cities and towns and how modern so many areas were. West Africa has devolved horribly compared to what it looked like in the 1980’s, so there is nothing that anyone can say to convince me that we are not the original ‘Ev1l Emp1re’.
Thanks!
Welcome! Thank you.
I look forward to it.
Just found your videos. Binging them now. Thanks for sharing.
This is a dammm good and informative video....I absolutely loved it.
Say that again HRlady “it will not serve you” you will get your wake up call
This!!! & yet, people continue to try.
Shuuuu...!It will not serve you!
Very insightful and excellent commentary. I’m at a loss when wanting yo explain to people why I am okay not moving up in my workplace. You nailed it. I wish I can carry this content with me, but then it’ll be an HR issue. So i just say I’d rather not deal with the stress & family is more of a priority. Thanks for sharing.
You are hitting the nail on the head!
They hate us but love the culture.
Everyone wants to be black until the cops come 😂.
I had a Spanish supervisor transfer me because I would not ( and never will) snitch in a co-worker.
I told her" It's not my forte, I excel on my own merit." I was transferred within a week and mase myself comfortable ans she constantly would come to see how I was managing. I managed VERY well, you will never see me sweat ✌️
Your "you're not like them" experience brought to mind a video of a police encounter I saw a while ago between a pregnant BW and a W male officer. In this vid, he was trying to pull her over on a dark road, but, out of concern for her and her children's safety, she chose to drive to a well-lit area. She did acknowledge his presence, though, by engaging her emergency lights/flashers. Long story short, once she stopped, he drew his weapon and threatened to shoot her if she made one wrong move. He was beyond hostile, and the whole thing was distressing to watch. Almost equally as distressing was what she attempted to tell him --- in between all of his yelling and telling her to shut the hell up --- she began to list her educational credentials, her profession, her clean background, etc... imploring him to see her differently from any preconceptions about black people he may have been harboring. It was essentially a "I'm not like them" statement. It was heartbreaking that she felt she needed to say all of that. Not that it did any good; he didn’t have an empathetic bone in his body and repeatedly told her how he didn’t care about anything she had to say.
So true…nothing but grinning sellouts and yt supremacists
Thank you for shining a light on this very real issue. 🙌🏽
This was excellent and insightful! You shed light on my lived experience. Thank you!
This was all true, honest and well said!! Thank you
Thank you for this detailed overview, it was inspiring and reflective, I appreciate it. 😊
Well said! And I shared this video with my friends. Bravo!
Thank you for this video. The information was definitely needed.
Who are you? I have not ever come across an objective and honest individual on YT! Bless you, 😇.
Probably because people report the channel and get it shut down. Wouldn’t be surprised if that happens here but I’m gonna keep telling the truth until it does. I got kicked off LinkedIn for talking about these kinds of things. And I already had a couple of the 🖐🏻people accuse me of “ black supremacy” as if that’s even a thing 😳
@@theantihr People hate the truth. I am proud of us, period. We have endured (and still do) so much negativity from others worldwide - whether we consider ourselves Black or not.🙂 I love unity but realize that it won't happen in my lifetime. I constantly either left jobs or was fired because I hated what I had to do to remain on these jobs. I am sure that I blocked my "earthly blessings" in the process but destroying other people's lives was not a goal of mine. Thank you so much for your content.
I am so happy that i discovered your wonderful channel❤❤ so helpful! Take good care!!!!❤❤😊
I was born in Jamaican and for me saying where I am from is not trying to be close to whiteness, it's about being proud of cultural background. Still I'm aware of Jamaicans obsession with whitness and our wonderful motto (out of many, one people) for population that's 90% black.
Although I may be wrong about this and I'm open to anybody correcting me, it appears to me that the antebellum social contract between Southern aristocrats and lower class whites was that if you help us maintain the social system that maintains slavery, we will ensure that you will occupy space above black slaves. After the abolition of slavery, there seems to be a social anxiety among whites that are not in the top 1% that the essence of this social contract will not be honored by the wealthy classes that rose to economic prominence after world war II. This is why, in my view, it is so unsettling for white people to see a black person who has outperformed them either through knowledge, experience, education or material possessions. I believe there is an anxiety that white people will be left behind. Many whites were raised to believe that their birthright is to always be above blacks at all times and in all places and in all things and the new class of Rich people they see seem to be less concerned about that at the highest levels. That is why, in my view, they are easy to motivate in our current political climate.
Thank you for so beautifully articulating the WS situation: SHEER BRILLIANCE 😊‼️
If I’m not mistaken Brazil had the largest amount of slave shipments. Slaves generally went to South America and the Caribbean for “tempering” to the weather as many would die from not being acclimated to the temperatures of North America. Tempering took about 3-5 years with gradual movements to the north. Thank you for speaking this as many don’t seem to know.
You are correct Brazil had the largest amount of slaves and they were the last to abolish slavery
Thank you for this stellar video! I wish I could "like" it 100 times! Sharing and educating my children about this topic as they prepare for college.
I'm a French Black Woman from African and Caribbean descent living in Canada, and all you stated were the h*ll right.
This was a great presentation on the interpersonal sociology of America .
The biggest problem in America is not that socio-economic classes and ethnic prejudices exist.
The biggedt problem is the lack of honesty on the oart of the majority group to afmit that these divisions and orejudices exist.
If someone were to ask what is thf number one problem in this country the answer would be "dishonety" .
To solve all the other problems, there first needs to be honesty about the problems that exist.
Broken down very well.
GOD please continue to keep Ms. Ann Marie! A blessing she is by using her platform to spread the truth
Thank you for taking the time to systematically break down discrimination. You’ve explained it from the origin and how it continues to be perpetrated by those who are desperate to be accepted in the workplace by turning on their own.
Just found this page and I appreciate your perspective. I am American btw.
Being black in America and my parents being Afro Cuban I see it first hand. I was reading a E book on the earlier history of Cuba in the late nineteenth century going into the early twentieth century where Cuba and other Spanish speaking colonies in the Caribbean where the Government sanctioned the immigration policy of white Europeans from Spain to settle in Cuba with their families because the black population in the Eastern portion of Cuba was so high and that part of the island was also close to Haiti. The term used for this migration in Spanish was called “Blanqueamiento” meaning the Whitening of Cuba and its people. Even back then and always white supremacy was playing its part in being superior to the “OTHER”.
Excellent master class! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I really appreciate the historical grounding and nuance as well as delivering clarity and discernment without emotional charge. It supported me in accessing the wisdom. 💗
I just found your videos today and although I'm retired I will be listening to them. I will give your link to my friend girls who are still grinding on the job and still having issues with the white supervisors. Thank you so very much for taking time to post this information.
Oceans of blessings y'all ❤
This was definitely a masterclass. I can appreciate the truth and reality of the information. Keep up the great work. 👍
You are so knowledgeable.
"You're not like them!" Or "You're different!" 😂 Heard it before... Several times throughout my life, too!
The first time I heard it, I knew it was an insult, but I wasn't sure what to do with it. I didn't have then the knowledge that I have now as a descendant of slaves from the USA. My parents just wanted me to have the best and because I was a classically trained instrumentalist, the white folk around me thought that that was something different because I wasn't rapping on an R&B singer, etc. However, lately I've been able to correct several people in my self- employment, to let them know, how offensive that is and how much I love my people. And how different we are, yet they make their stereotypical images of us perpetuate so they are surprised when they see that we are people, too, with gifts and talents just like others. And how much I'll never be on the white supremacist team! What typically follows is, tears and I didn't mean it or did I say something wrong? Lol.
My belief is that we are the children of the lost tribes of Israel so when I read Deuteronomy 28 or Psalms 83, it makes so much sense to me the plight of my people and why we are a "byword and a proverb in all nations!" Thanks for sharing your commentary, Anne Marie. I appreciate your channel!😊 Peace.
This is so true!
You are absolutely majestic.
While I’ve shared her content with others that claim they have seen and suffered at the hands of ws, discrimination within the work environment, and even want to leave their current position with severance pay-they have NEITHER continually tuned in to this channel NOR have they taken the steps she shares, let alone a discovery call. Perhaps they just like to complain and remain.
I appreciate this comment, but I want to point out to you that people have to get to these things on their own. All you can do is try to provide the information, but each individual has to come to these things on their own. I’ve learnt that in my own personal life as well. Thank you for sharing my channel. At least they now know of the resource if they ever need it or are willing to use it. And unfortunately, some people like to be the victim in their own story. They don’t know how to do any thing else. My content is for people who are tired of being victims and want to do something else.
I would also add that to take action means that not only is their experience "that bad," it's also deliberate. It usually means letting go of lots of other ideas, and not just around race, that made it easier to sleep at night. That one thread of reality starts unwinding a whole ball of other things people have kept out of their awareness.
Excellent conversation!!!!!
Gratitude.
That was very well articulated.
Every colored person needs to watch this.
Years ago, a woman from Japan and I became good friends. We were in college together and shared many of the same classes. One of the things she talked about with me was how race was a non-concept in Japan. This was not a new idea to me as I had long been atheistic on the anthropological experiment called “race” and knew that race was not a real thing, but a process, one becomes “white”, one becomes “Black” by virtue of, I’ll use your term,”hyper-capitalism.” Eventually, after college, my friend had entered the work force and began having a series of experiences where she began to see that the white men she encountered racialized her sex and sexualized her being a Japanese female. We could both see that she was now very much a racialized subject by having lived in America for so long.
I wonder; what were the disparate pieces your father put together that drove him to the conclusion that there is something really wrong with America?
Thanks for the video. It’s a public service you provide in this video by linking together how colonialism is not “post”, but here and now in Black and people of colors’ treatment of each other in the workplace.
This is the struggle many people have when they come to America is the racialized-ation(my made-up term) of their being. That they don’t really know in their home country. and Africa has a continent and in the individual countries there’s not really a concept of race. People belong to tribes. Everybody looks the same. There is some aspects of colorism, but that’s not really a major factor as it is in the Caribbean. It is when people come to the United States that they become racialized and learn that they have to pick a side. And being black because they realize that it’s a negative so they seek white proximity but they don’t realize they don’t have any choice but to be black especially if your skin is brown. Your skin is dark. Nobody cares who you pick. And when time comes, they’ll make it very clear that they will not choose you. No matter how many times you choose them.
Oh, they understand it quite well in Japan, which is why they have many caricatures of "Sambo" and the like. She's lying.
@@KamalasNotLikeUsI see.