I appreciate you giving guidance to the young man who was about to be out of a job. This is why diversity in the workplace is essential. Had you not been there, he likely would have found himself unemployed.
Totally agree with aa a women you want to be shown equal respect. I hate the need to smile, or sugar coat when focus on work related things to get men to do their jobs. I let them know i am not his wife, mother, maid or therapist - its strictly about work, dont touch me - go touch your partner your legally bound by, dont care for gossip - mind your own business. Men call women the B word when she is assertive, and reject bs immediately. Men can be very to vendictive when rejected at work for dates. Some men see smile as an invitation not basic customer service.
No literally! It’s bad they try to put emotional labor on Black women they don’t even know and it’s weird! Like please seek help cause it’s not normal to have these expectations of a stranger.
@@cashmere109 there are levels to this, it becomes more difficult for foreign black women who English is 2nd or 3rd language and don't know how to navigate workplace harassment. Those with work permits or green card but no citizenship don't qualify for unemployment so losing a job is a big deal. Renewing documents require income. You can't be an immigrant and jobless.
Being forced to work near women is burdensome. This is how I feel about the situation, but it's not them. I don't know what a woman is except for what she "appears" to be. For sustenance, I'd be happy being apart from women for the most part and go back to the hunter-gathering days. The reason is that women and men no longer seem to have an understanding of how boundaries should work. I think because women are more in office workspaces than black men, the men are naturally less able to determine how boundaries work. But this is not unrelated to the fact that we are forced to be wage slaves in the first place, to be stripped naked of our personality to fit into small spaces like machines.
@@jcjcviews Men and women working only among same gender would be ideal but that's not the case in many industries. A clear boundary expectations at work to employees helps. Company culture also affects employees as well - consider cancelling happy hour networking, and alcohol served at company functions. The culture should not encourage work affairs or work spouses, maybe use it as a penalty clause for bonus - any romantic relationships at work is also tied losing to your bonus and raise. Possibly rewarding management with relationship status under title as a way to increase workplace accountability - everyone including new person knows their married will less likely tolerate inappropriate comments/offers for dates/excessive flirting, excessive unwanted touching, etc. In the land of plastic smiles (USA) we need women to be able to be authentic without being punished for it.
You did a very good job with explaining blk men in the workplace without throwing them under the bus like I did in a previous comment. You made me realize I needed to change in some areas in my own life. Thank you for having these conversations. You are very intelligent and aware of what's goes on in America.
@@theantihrI know of an older retired Black man who got fired because he ignored the flirting/ advances of Black female co workers and they retaliated and got him fired. There is a lot of toxic behavior which comes from Black women and projected at Black men.
@@theantihrBlack women are not the 100% innocent in these settings. And you guys can be misandrist towards Black men and homophobic as well. Homophobia doesn’t exclusively come from straight Black men.
No wonder all of my horrible experiences in the workplace that had been with blk mayles especially, but blk people in general is because BW ALWAYS excuse the bad that blk mayles ESPECIALLY do. Thanks for reminding me why I hope to never work in a job where there is a lot of blk people.
This has helped me with how I viewed negative experiences with BM’s in work place. I have had experiences where BM have teamed up with others in mistreatment in WP against BW or just distance themselves or ignoring BW in distress. It has helped to curb some of my frustration. Thanks so much for this!
I like how you break it down Sis. This should be the 'New Employee Handbook' written by you. Grab your videos off this internet, trademark and project your IP, then publish.
I have worked for some employers who only hire Black men who are gay. I definitely agree that some people see gay Black men as less threatening than heterosexual Black men and will promote them before they promote Black women.
@vickiblues That isn't true. Often black gay men who are hired in HR are abused behind closed doors, often by White AND Black women who use their power and position to be the bullies because of their religious or gender/sexual beliefs making professional women feel superior through their abuse. That's not okay -- especially when many women use sexual harassment, hostile work environment, and unequal pay among workplace issues to advance disdain for men -- gay men especially. Professional women do operate on a double standard...who calls them out? Also, what isn't talked about is how black and white people try to turn the workplace into a church, disguising their personal/religious beliefs as policy, then masking it as culture to evade the law or use business legal privilege to oppress marginalized people.
I genuinely dont understand why secual orientation is now being asked when filling out an application. Its like people are actively finding more ways to discriminate against everybody and framing it as something else
@@apollo105 I think employers are checking off performative boxes because they want to appear to be "inclusive" by hiring people who do not identify as heterosexual. They see hiring gay Black people as checking off two "woke" boxes.
Why is an employer asking questions about anything about sexual orientation? If you are a sex worker in the sex industry that type of information may have some use in that type of job.
Thanks for another intelligent, objective and informative discussion! Your channel is such a blessing as I’ve learned so much about workplace discrimination, retaliation and the comparative ways we all tend to interact with one another in the workplace and reasons why we may do so from watching your TH-cam’s and reading your website’s commentary and educational articles. Really appreciate your perspective!👍🏾
Cut the whole tree down and continuing with your analogy..... start over. I honestly don't know if it's possible but I think awareness is where we start. Great episode! Thank you.
Great video...I was going to vent as i have seen this too many times and i was embroiled in a situation that i came out fighting and winning...But i think you have said it all....Remember.... Co-workers are NOT your friends...Especially Caucasian, Hispanics, and Asian ones...Do not be so blind! Peace
It's understood that a gay man won't produce a family of descendants that will go and compete against this WS system. So, yes, gay men are not seen as problematic.
WW looooovvveee working with BM. It's the most interesting thing I have ever experienced. It is a push and pull dynamics! I also worked in a Law firm once where every single BM director was married to a WW. There was around ten BM directors and not one BW in the whole company. I was contracting on a peoject while I was there so I was shocked.
It goes both ways. As a BM, I can say BW looooooove working with and for WM. You just have to be honest and open your eyes to the reality. Although, I have to admit honesty and accountability is a very difficult thing for most woman. I don't care if you think that's sexist, it true.
@@DWEthiopiabecause many BM are colorist and many ww sabotage us 🤷🏾♀️ also BM center their experience when it comes to the “blk experience in America” and disregard bw’s complex existence within colorism, misogyny and racism…
34:00 As an older black man, my experience has been that the entire universe defining men and women has been radically reduced to confusion. I see no way of separating most people, no matter their hue, or culture, from what occurs at the moment. I could not know what motivates one person from another. For example, never have I seen the lack of control exhibited by women ever my life. Unfortunately, I believe that feminism makes it so that as a black man I am considered somehow something completely different from who I am. Instead, there seems to be a presupposition that in actuality I am a character in a book. To conclude, I believe that the reason for all of the confusion is that there has become such separation between the"genders" conceptually that no one is real to me. People have simply become ghosts, slogans, projections, and legal conceptualizations defined by law. Those who think otherwise tend to believe that they are avoiding the truth and ignoring reality.
My job is crawling with them. I had to educate myself on narcissism while watching my unsuspecting co workers struggle with it. Most narcissists are in positions of authority. So if your boss is a bully that is a tell tale sign...
Great episode. As always, thoughtful, accessible, well communicated. Thank you for driving home the point of equal justice under law. I'm 67 and worked in IT for over 45 years, primarily Fintech, as an engineer, systems analyst, project manager at a large midwestern bank headquartered in Cincinnati, Ohio. 20+ years ago, I transitioned MtF on the job while also serving on Over-the-Rhine community council and the executive board of Cincinnati Urban League. That ended my career, and relationships with all my family and friends. There are none of the benefits Black gay men are presumed to have. All the downsides every Cis Black woman faces and none of the social benefits, and it's even worse if you are trans and lesbian. To sum up, all the years I worked to learn from and support Black women were treated as meaningless. and though I've thought of leaving the US, there objectively are no nations where transmisogynoir hasn't been exported. White and aspirationally white trans PoC (Eurocentric Latinas and Asians) dominate the public discourse on trans rights, but they aren't the majority of those dying. The farther south, the greater the machismo, the more intense the homophobia and anti-Blackness. America wants us dead, but I have yet to find a place less dangerous than the US for dark-skinned LGBTQ+ folk.
I lived in a subsidized housing, the woman in charge of this subsidized program is a black woman. This woman they way she treats the black peoples will crush your heart, I have nightmares thinking about it.
Thank you for this video. I’ve learned so much from this video. As a young BW I’ve never understood fully the issues of WS and BM in the workplace to the depth that you have explained it. I work in the legal field and there is not many BM here. I can count on one hand. Now I understand why the ones that are move how they move on the job thanks to you.❤❤❤❤ I’m going to read the book you mentioned as well. Thank you for all that you do.❤
I had an incident last year with a white male supervisor. I always so him respect but, he could not stand me because I’am a black male that did not tolerate any shift and he knew that when he got in trouble with head maintenance personnel.Every one on my job got a summons for not caring there Walky Talkie not me and I always stud my ground and I got tired of putting up with him and I got my transfer.
Please do a talk on colorism in the workplace. That's a topic I haven't heard much about. It's also not something I've experienced or thought much about.
Only once in my 59 years working I have only experienced 1 bw. Do a statistical analysis of my work experience with black folks you would conclude bw are not in corporate America.
Oh I haven't lost empathy. But that high road nonsense has kept us stagnant. Can't be civil to uncivilized people. My humanity is still intact, my patience is not. It's been faaaaaaar too long... over 400 years of their b.s. and counting.
Great video. I feel that as a BM I got an MBA but I’m excluded in Korporate Amerikkka despite my potential but I decided not to apply for any promotion because of that. Now I’m looking at working overseas perhaps as a special education teacher
I remember a few years ago I had an incident with a co-worker a black guy who I started off friendly with and he wanted to move up the chains we have a pretty diverse workplace so he didn't really have to kiss up to white people or to we have a pretty diverse workplace so when a higher-paying job came up that he was qualified for he he was always nice to me a black woman and he was extra nice to all the white women not the white men the white women he was extra nice to in a weird way it seemed like he threw me along with the white boys as if I was his competition long story short he ended up getting the little promotion and he completely turned on me. If I would ask for a vacation he give me a hard time about it the white people ask for vacation and they get it and one day I talked to him about it and he pretty much rooted it down to his mother being abusive to him so basically he had mommy issues and I guess my melanin reminded him of something that was threatening him. And as you stated in your video I grew up with awesome black men and so I don't come into these environments hostile I come in ready to collaborate I come in ready to be supportive as long as the energy is receptive I didn't grow up with black men who behave this way so I wasn't used to it I didn't really know how to respond but I just responded the same way I would respond to anyone else regardless of color I'm going to fight you back and that's what I did. I ended up reporting him to higher ups about his behavior in general really because he was just laughing all together but when it came to me it was like he really wanted to push that he could discipline me or he has some kind of power over me meanwhile still being nice to white but always hostile and not so friendly with me anymore and I think he thought that that would give him an edge in his job only for it to get him demoted several months later like you said earlier in the video proximity doesn't protect you and I'm waiting for black men to understand that proximity to whiteness will never protect you it will actually make it worse because you're coming to them as a deficit ask someone who's deficient and they see you as a joke they see you was vulnerable they see you as weak anytime you're trying to get that much proximity and not much validation you are looked at as weak you are not looked at as equal because a man who's equal is going to go and be building with his people and if you can't build with his people he's at least going to show respect to the outside world that he respects his people. but you're so right proximity does not protect them I don't know when they'll understand it if ever but like you said there is some social discord with black males
as someone who has prominent Afro centric features. My features are always the topic of discussion every workplace I enter. I dress well , hygiene on point. Have a silk press . I’m starting to believe that people with my features are not often seen in the workplace hence why it’s a shocking factor and people treat me differently. I wanted to ask do you see black women whether they are darker skin or lighter skin. Are we in corporate?
@@whymillieAt workplaces my features are prominent than most people. I have full black features and I’m often be said you have unique features but not in a positive way. The undertone is a voice of embarrassment like ‘really there are people who look like you ‘ because they are comfortable with people who smaller features like Naomi Campbell in the workplace and not a whoopi Goldberg. This happen throughout my childhood but at work I would think people would have more a mature sense to just not say anything because it affects my financial when dealing with this . I tried ignoring this comments about my features throughout my life . However,I’m at a point where this doesn’t work anymore like when I was a child , it was slightly easier but now that I’m adult I actually have to work , to have a stable living for myself. Basically I’m been targeted or discriminated against my features . Can’t go HR as they also have a internalised bias towards women/ people with my features. So that why wanted to know if people with full features like full nose , full lips even a bigger bum . Are we in corporate?
This relates to me wow. Yes people often talk about my full lips and big nose often disrespect me a lot because of it. Even other black people at work. Make it uncomfortable and difficult to work. This happens all time. I often get told weird things ,stares laughter. People (all races) are just uncomfortable despite how I carry myself well. But I’m wondering if Afrocentric features whether it’s big noses lips eyes are seen. Or are we hiding from the corporate world. Often I’m the only person walking with Afrocentric features huge lips. This is a concern of mines.
To say that Black women protect Black men in the workplace is a complete joke. Dealing with Black women at work is often a dangerous situation and at best a precarious one.
There are some work situations where that may be true. From personal experience, I believe that is not the average scenario. Many black men compete with black women over competing with white men or other races. Also, black men can be extremely colorist towards darker skin black women.
Unless you have worked with every black woman ever in the workplace, I suggest you qualify your comment by talking about your own personal experience instead of making blanket statements.
@@theantihr, in fairness to @digitallhm8160, your video seemed to speak in generalizations in how you characterized Black men and their treatment/interactions with Black women (and vice versa). So, it is a bit incongruent to take this commenter to task for pushing back - his own generalizations, notwithstanding. Just making an objective observation here.
@@theantihr well let’s talk about personal experience shall we. In my 30+ in the workforce, I’ve experienced countless negative situations from black females. It seems that white supremacy uses them to do their dirty work, and to oppose and punish black men in the workplace. This is not just my experience. So what kind of covenant do black women have with white supremacy? This is a question worth answering.
@@theantihryour whole lecture is based on generalizations yet here you are chastising someone for making a blanket statement. Very hypocritical and disingenuous on your part.
This ww was giving me (BW) and this bm a tour of the department we would be working at she only looked at him and talked to him the whole time... She would not make eye contact with me, it was weird.
Featurism colourism video is needed for workplace I would like to know where are people with Afrocentric features big noses big lips big eyes etc. are we at work or do we hide from being seen? It’s seems we are hardly in good career positions.
I appreciate the information. I want to destroy the system of white supremacy, but everytime I put my head out there, it almost always get chopped off by someone who looks like me. That is very disheartening.
Your talk is very interesting. You have many philosophical perspectives that are sound and wise. It would be interesting to think about what a constructivist solution could look like. In my opinion, I think the educational system seems to be the first choice for radical change. Children learn behaviors, ways of thinking, and cultural identity in school. I say this as a teacher who enjoys teaching students of color. I hate the white savior kind of teachers and educational systems though... I love teaching in Gary and Chicago because I am the minority in those situations and I get to learn from my students as well. I embrace the critical consciousness philosophy of Paolo Freire, which focuses on educating students within their own values and ways of thinking. That means teachers must LEARN from their students. On the flip side, white students would also benefit from having diverse teachers who can impart alternative worldviews and perspectives. Exposure to people who don't look like them is mandatory, I think. While I am not conservative like Glenn Loury, I agree with his emphasis on excellence. His channel emphasizes that black people achieve excellence and excel in the face of discrimination and racism. He is a prime example, an esteemed professor, who is also black, at Brown who stays true to his roots and lives his own principles. He hates Ibram Kendi, though, as he thinks antiracism is an anti-intellectual philosophy, and said on his show "that m***f****r isn't even worthy of carrying our bookbag". What I most liked about your talk today is the idea that people only want to burn down the branches of the tree that inconvenience them. I haven't heard this idea before, but it seems so right! Perhaps too a sense of altruism and understanding for other humans, especially those that are very different from us, is necessary for radical change to happen.
Anyone that would call “anti-racism“ “anti-intellectualism is not someone I would have very much use for. I think black excellence is killing Black people especially black women. I’m aware of both men. I’ll leave my comment there.
@theantihr Fascinating! I would love to hear your perspectives on intersectionality, critical race theory, and antiracism. I would also love to learn more about your perspectives on Glenn Loury's philosophy. I do not agree with everything he says, but I respect his intellectual honesty and openness. I feel those two virtues are shared by you as well. Should any of those topics interest you, I will look forward to hearing your perspectives on them, as they seem to be foundational to critical studies today and essential to practices in diversity and inclusion. Thanks for responding to my post ❤
I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people and other people nope just black I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people and other people nope just black I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people and other people nope just black I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people play in this cannot destroy.. yet the part that white people play causes catastrophic outcomes not the same
My current boss is a WM, he’s cool I’ve only had 2 issues with him over a decade. He just doesn’t go to bat for me (or anyone) - selfish baby boomer but no threat. I’ve never been able to tolerate working for WW always quit. They are ins@n3!!!!
@millieconsultancy How about manipulative, always looking to throw you under the bus, always wanting to dominate and boss you around even when they're not on the same level. They live their lives in the workplace, feeling threatened by us. They're not to be dealt with.
That’s a lot of good experiences with bosses. I know of the exact same situation but they were both layed off, in this situation the ww was the supervisor of the bm and they hung outside of work with the ww boss who is a wm.
Please talk about colorism, age, appearance, and size in the workplace. Thank you 👍🏽
Ooh yes, and texturism too!
Yes!
Oh heck to the yes. Looking forward to it.❤
The appearance part and size ‼️
Yes
I appreciate you giving guidance to the young man who was about to be out of a job.
This is why diversity in the workplace is essential.
Had you not been there, he likely would have found himself unemployed.
I like that expression. "It's not the shark, it's the ocean"
Your videos are like listening to a college lecture......very informative.
Wow, thanks
Totally agree with aa a women you want to be shown equal respect. I hate the need to smile, or sugar coat when focus on work related things to get men to do their jobs. I let them know i am not his wife, mother, maid or therapist - its strictly about work, dont touch me - go touch your partner your legally bound by, dont care for gossip - mind your own business. Men call women the B word when she is assertive, and reject bs immediately. Men can be very to vendictive when rejected at work for dates. Some men see smile as an invitation not basic customer service.
No literally! It’s bad they try to put emotional labor on Black women they don’t even know and it’s weird! Like please seek help cause it’s not normal to have these expectations of a stranger.
@@cashmere109 there are levels to this, it becomes more difficult for foreign black women who English is 2nd or 3rd language and don't know how to navigate workplace harassment. Those with work permits or green card but no citizenship don't qualify for unemployment so losing a job is a big deal. Renewing documents require income. You can't be an immigrant and jobless.
Being forced to work near women is burdensome. This is how I feel about the situation, but it's not them. I don't know what a woman is except for what she "appears" to be. For sustenance, I'd be happy being apart from women for the most part and go back to the hunter-gathering days. The reason is that women and men no longer seem to have an understanding of how boundaries should work. I think because women are more in office workspaces than black men, the men are naturally less able to determine how boundaries work. But this is not unrelated to the fact that we are forced to be wage slaves in the first place, to be stripped naked of our personality to fit into small spaces like machines.
@@jcjcviews Men and women working only among same gender would be ideal but that's not the case in many industries. A clear boundary expectations at work to employees helps.
Company culture also affects employees as well - consider cancelling happy hour networking, and alcohol served at company functions.
The culture should not encourage work affairs or work spouses, maybe use it as a penalty clause for bonus - any romantic relationships at work is also tied losing to your bonus and raise.
Possibly rewarding management with relationship status under title as a way to increase workplace accountability - everyone including new person knows their married will less likely tolerate inappropriate comments/offers for dates/excessive flirting, excessive unwanted touching, etc.
In the land of plastic smiles (USA) we need women to be able to be authentic without being punished for it.
You did a very good job with explaining blk men in the workplace without throwing them under the bus like I did in a previous comment. You made me realize I needed to change in some areas in my own life. Thank you for having these conversations. You are very intelligent and aware of what's goes on in America.
I appreciate that
Wow. That's awesome
@@theantihrI know of an older retired Black man who got fired because he ignored the flirting/ advances of Black female co workers and they retaliated and got him fired. There is a lot of toxic behavior which comes from Black women and projected at Black men.
@@theantihrBlack women are not the 100% innocent in these settings. And you guys can be misandrist towards Black men and homophobic as well. Homophobia doesn’t exclusively come from straight Black men.
No wonder all of my horrible experiences in the workplace that had been with blk mayles especially, but blk people in general is because BW ALWAYS excuse the bad that blk mayles ESPECIALLY do.
Thanks for reminding me why I hope to never work in a job where there is a lot of blk people.
This has helped me with how I viewed negative experiences with BM’s in work place. I have had experiences where BM have teamed up with others in mistreatment in WP against BW or just distance themselves or ignoring BW in distress. It has helped to curb some of my frustration. Thanks so much for this!
I like how you break it down Sis. This should be the 'New Employee Handbook' written by you. Grab your videos off this internet, trademark and project your IP, then publish.
I have worked for some employers who only hire Black men who are gay. I definitely agree that some people see gay Black men as less threatening than heterosexual Black men and will promote them before they promote Black women.
@vickiblues That isn't true. Often black gay men who are hired in HR are abused behind closed doors, often by White AND Black women who use their power and position to be the bullies because of their religious or gender/sexual beliefs making professional women feel superior through their abuse. That's not okay -- especially when many women use sexual harassment, hostile work environment, and unequal pay among workplace issues to advance disdain for men -- gay men especially. Professional women do operate on a double standard...who calls them out? Also, what isn't talked about is how black and white people try to turn the workplace into a church, disguising their personal/religious beliefs as policy, then masking it as culture to evade the law or use business legal privilege to oppress marginalized people.
I genuinely dont understand why secual orientation is now being asked when filling out an application. Its like people are actively finding more ways to discriminate against everybody and framing it as something else
@@apollo105 I think employers are checking off performative boxes because they want to appear to be "inclusive" by hiring people who do not identify as heterosexual. They see hiring gay Black people as checking off two "woke" boxes.
Why is an employer asking questions about anything about sexual orientation? If you are a sex worker in the sex industry that type of information may have some use in that type of job.
Thank you AnneMarie🌸 this was a very insightful and informative video. You are a true gem 💎. Thank you for being here 🌷
You are so welcome
Thanks for another intelligent, objective and informative discussion! Your channel is such a blessing as I’ve learned so much about workplace discrimination, retaliation and the comparative ways we all tend to interact with one another in the workplace and reasons why we may do so from watching your TH-cam’s and reading your website’s commentary and educational articles. Really appreciate your perspective!👍🏾
You are so welcome!
Cut the whole tree down and continuing with your analogy..... start over. I honestly don't know if it's possible but I think awareness is where we start. Great episode! Thank you.
Great video...I was going to vent as i have seen this too many times and i was embroiled in a situation that i came out fighting and winning...But i think you have said it all....Remember.... Co-workers are NOT your friends...Especially Caucasian, Hispanics, and Asian ones...Do not be so blind! Peace
It's understood that a gay man won't produce a family of descendants that will go and compete against this WS system. So, yes, gay men are not seen as problematic.
You're speaking so many cathartic truths, I can't take it.
Very informative, extremely insightful, so so comforting. to obtain the wisdom and knowledge of a like minded individual. Thank you for your videos !
WW looooovvveee working with BM. It's the most interesting thing I have ever experienced. It is a push and pull dynamics! I also worked in a Law firm once where every single BM director was married to a WW. There was around ten BM directors and not one BW in the whole company. I was contracting on a peoject while I was there so I was shocked.
Marrying WP is a means of 🖐🏻 proximity for many POC & 🖤 people so this doesn’t surprise me. BW do it too.
It goes both ways. As a BM, I can say BW looooooove working with and for WM. You just have to be honest and open your eyes to the reality. Although, I have to admit honesty and accountability is a very difficult thing for most woman. I don't care if you think that's sexist, it true.
lol my mom is a nurse and said the same thing. The yt nurses she works with LOVE BM but HATE African American and African women 😂
@@DWEthiopiabecause many BM are colorist and many ww sabotage us 🤷🏾♀️ also BM center their experience when it comes to the “blk experience in America” and disregard bw’s complex existence within colorism, misogyny and racism…
@@DWEthiopiayou sound like a black manosphere guy
Dropped a like and this comment is for the algorithm. Keep up the great, important work. Food for thought for sure.
34:00 As an older black man, my experience has been that the entire universe defining men and women has been radically reduced to confusion. I see no way of separating most people, no matter their hue, or culture, from what occurs at the moment. I could not know what motivates one person from another. For example, never have I seen the lack of control exhibited by women ever my life. Unfortunately, I believe that feminism makes it so that as a black man I am considered somehow something completely different from who I am. Instead, there seems to be a presupposition that in actuality I am a character in a book. To conclude, I believe that the reason for all of the confusion is that there has become such separation between the"genders" conceptually that no one is real to me. People have simply become ghosts, slogans, projections, and legal conceptualizations defined by law. Those who think otherwise tend to believe that they are avoiding the truth and ignoring reality.
I admire and respect your understanding of the nuance of it all. I like your video when coming in. Thank you!
I appreciate that!
Thank you 🙏 for sharing and I’am learning a lot from you
Thank YOU for your kind words.
Besides what Ms. Benindakar mentioned also how to deal with covert narcissists in the workplace. Thank you!
My job is crawling with them. I had to educate myself on narcissism while watching my unsuspecting co workers struggle with it. Most narcissists are in positions of authority. So if your boss is a bully that is a tell tale sign...
Great episode. As always, thoughtful, accessible, well communicated. Thank you for driving home the point of equal justice under law. I'm 67 and worked in IT for over 45 years, primarily Fintech, as an engineer, systems analyst, project manager at a large midwestern bank headquartered in Cincinnati, Ohio. 20+ years ago, I transitioned MtF on the job while also serving on Over-the-Rhine community council and the executive board of Cincinnati Urban League. That ended my career, and relationships with all my family and friends. There are none of the benefits Black gay men are presumed to have. All the downsides every Cis Black woman faces and none of the social benefits, and it's even worse if you are trans and lesbian. To sum up, all the years I worked to learn from and support Black women were treated as meaningless. and though I've thought of leaving the US, there objectively are no nations where transmisogynoir hasn't been exported. White and aspirationally white trans PoC (Eurocentric Latinas and Asians) dominate the public discourse on trans rights, but they aren't the majority of those dying. The farther south, the greater the machismo, the more intense the homophobia and anti-Blackness. America wants us dead, but I have yet to find a place less dangerous than the US for dark-skinned LGBTQ+ folk.
Thank you for sharing. ❤
I just ordered your products ❤❤ love them. Your discussions are teachable moments.
Yay! Thank you!
Thank you for all of your videos, and yes, a commentary on colorism would be very much appreciated, 🌿
I lived in a subsidized housing, the woman in charge of this subsidized program is a black woman.
This woman they way she treats the black peoples will crush your heart, I have nightmares thinking about it.
She knows she can get away with it. No one cares how poor people are treated especially poor black people.
You look so cute 🥰❤ I love those glasses 🕶️ so cute ❤❤
Thank you 🤗
I think you greatly underestimate the impact of misandry in the black community.
Thank you for this video. I’ve learned so much from this video. As a young BW I’ve never understood fully the issues of WS and BM in the workplace to the depth that you have explained it. I work in the legal field and there is not many BM here. I can count on one hand. Now I understand why the ones that are move how they move on the job thanks to you.❤❤❤❤ I’m going to read the book you mentioned as well. Thank you for all that you do.❤
Thank you for sharing this truth.
My heart was warmed by the comment you made about both of your male bossess. ❤
Very good...appreciate the nuance.
I had an incident last year with a white male supervisor. I always so him respect but, he could not stand me because I’am a black male that did not tolerate any shift and he knew that when he got in trouble with head maintenance personnel.Every one on my job got a summons for not caring there Walky Talkie not me and I always stud my ground and I got tired of putting up with him and I got my transfer.
Sonya Massey has got me sick
It's deplorable. So much black people have seen the grave too soon and my heart is broken.
I'm a black gay man as a warehouse manager and we aren't as threatening but we still have to have boundaries
Fantastic video! Please talk about ageism as it pertains to gender and race in the workplace. Thank you.
Thank you for taking your valuable time to educate me my sister. I appreciate it.
You are so welcome
Yes ! I have observed all these things ! Please do talk about colorism it does exist in work place!
Please do a talk on colorism in the workplace. That's a topic I haven't heard much about. It's also not something I've experienced or thought much about.
Only once in my 59 years working I have only experienced 1 bw. Do a statistical analysis of my work experience with black folks you would conclude bw are not in corporate America.
Oh I haven't lost empathy. But that high road nonsense has kept us stagnant. Can't be civil to uncivilized people. My humanity is still intact, my patience is not. It's been faaaaaaar too long... over 400 years of their b.s. and counting.
The cast system is Real in the work place.
Great video. I feel that as a BM I got an MBA but I’m excluded in Korporate Amerikkka despite my potential but I decided not to apply for any promotion because of that. Now I’m looking at working overseas perhaps as a special education teacher
Spot on! Great video ❤
Thank you!
I remember a few years ago I had an incident with a co-worker a black guy who I started off friendly with and he wanted to move up the chains we have a pretty diverse workplace so he didn't really have to kiss up to white people or to we have a pretty diverse workplace so when a higher-paying job came up that he was qualified for he he was always nice to me a black woman and he was extra nice to all the white women not the white men the white women he was extra nice to in a weird way it seemed like he threw me along with the white boys as if I was his competition long story short he ended up getting the little promotion and he completely turned on me. If I would ask for a vacation he give me a hard time about it the white people ask for vacation and they get it and one day I talked to him about it and he pretty much rooted it down to his mother being abusive to him so basically he had mommy issues and I guess my melanin reminded him of something that was threatening him. And as you stated in your video I grew up with awesome black men and so I don't come into these environments hostile I come in ready to collaborate I come in ready to be supportive as long as the energy is receptive I didn't grow up with black men who behave this way so I wasn't used to it I didn't really know how to respond but I just responded the same way I would respond to anyone else regardless of color I'm going to fight you back and that's what I did. I ended up reporting him to higher ups about his behavior in general really because he was just laughing all together but when it came to me it was like he really wanted to push that he could discipline me or he has some kind of power over me meanwhile still being nice to white but always hostile and not so friendly with me anymore and I think he thought that that would give him an edge in his job only for it to get him demoted several months later like you said earlier in the video proximity doesn't protect you and I'm waiting for black men to understand that proximity to whiteness will never protect you it will actually make it worse because you're coming to them as a deficit ask someone who's deficient and they see you as a joke they see you was vulnerable they see you as weak anytime you're trying to get that much proximity and not much validation you are looked at as weak you are not looked at as equal because a man who's equal is going to go and be building with his people and if you can't build with his people he's at least going to show respect to the outside world that he respects his people. but you're so right proximity does not protect them I don't know when they'll understand it if ever but like you said there is some social discord with black males
Yes, a colorism video would be great. Thank you!
as someone who has prominent Afro centric features. My features are always the topic of discussion every workplace I enter. I dress well , hygiene on point. Have a silk press . I’m starting to believe that people with my features are not often seen in the workplace hence why it’s a shocking factor and people treat me differently.
I wanted to ask do you see black women whether they are darker skin or lighter skin. Are we in corporate?
Can you expand? What do you mean by " topic of discussion"
@@whymillieAt workplaces my features are prominent than most people. I have full black features and I’m often be said you have unique features but not in a positive way.
The undertone is a voice of embarrassment like ‘really there are people who look like you ‘ because they are comfortable with people who smaller features like Naomi Campbell in the workplace and not a whoopi Goldberg. This happen throughout my childhood but at work I would think people would have more a mature sense to just not say anything because it affects my financial when dealing with this .
I tried ignoring this comments about my features throughout my life . However,I’m at a point where this doesn’t work anymore like when I was a child , it was slightly easier but now that I’m adult
I actually have to work , to have a stable living for myself. Basically I’m been targeted or discriminated against my features . Can’t go HR as they also have a internalised bias towards women/ people with my features.
So that why wanted to know if people with full features like full nose , full lips even a bigger bum .
Are we in corporate?
This relates to me wow. Yes people often talk about my full lips and big nose often disrespect me a lot because of it. Even other black people at work. Make it uncomfortable and difficult to work. This happens all time. I often get told weird things ,stares laughter. People (all races) are just uncomfortable despite how I carry myself well. But I’m wondering if Afrocentric features whether it’s big noses lips eyes are seen. Or are we hiding from the corporate world. Often I’m the only person walking with Afrocentric features huge lips. This is a concern of mines.
To say that Black women protect Black men in the workplace is a complete joke. Dealing with Black women at work is often a dangerous situation and at best a precarious one.
There are some work situations where that may be true. From personal experience, I believe that is not the average scenario.
Many black men compete with black women over competing with white men or other races. Also, black men can be extremely colorist towards darker skin black women.
Unless you have worked with every black woman ever in the workplace, I suggest you qualify your comment by talking about your own personal experience instead of making blanket statements.
@@theantihr, in fairness to @digitallhm8160, your video seemed to speak in generalizations in how you characterized Black men and their treatment/interactions with Black women (and vice versa). So, it is a bit incongruent to take this commenter to task for pushing back - his own generalizations, notwithstanding. Just making an objective observation here.
@@theantihr well let’s talk about personal experience shall we. In my 30+ in the workforce, I’ve experienced countless negative situations from black females. It seems that white supremacy uses them to do their dirty work, and to oppose and punish black men in the workplace. This is not just my experience. So what kind of covenant do black women have with white supremacy? This is a question worth answering.
@@theantihryour whole lecture is based on generalizations yet here you are chastising someone for making a blanket statement. Very hypocritical and disingenuous on your part.
Keep the videos coming ❤😊
I really like your videos
Yes talk about colorism much needed
This ww was giving me (BW) and this bm a tour of the department we would be working at she only looked at him and talked to him the whole time... She would not make eye contact with me, it was weird.
Featurism colourism video is needed for workplace
I would like to know where are people with Afrocentric features big noses big lips big eyes etc. are we at work or do we hide from being seen? It’s seems we are hardly in good career positions.
I appreciate the information. I want to destroy the system of white supremacy, but everytime I put my head out there, it almost always get chopped off by someone who looks like me. That is very disheartening.
You are so highly knowledgeable in your craft. I learn so much. Many thanks!
Yes please do colorism i agree with everything you said this stuff is so deep
Do you think us having our own corporate companies would help to create harmonised environments ?
Honestly without doing work on ourselves no. Sometimes all 🖤 workplaces can be some of the most toxic. Why is a longer answer.
@@theantihr wow
Your talk is very interesting. You have many philosophical perspectives that are sound and wise.
It would be interesting to think about what a constructivist solution could look like. In my opinion, I think the educational system seems to be the first choice for radical change. Children learn behaviors, ways of thinking, and cultural identity in school.
I say this as a teacher who enjoys teaching students of color. I hate the white savior kind of teachers and educational systems though... I love teaching in Gary and Chicago because I am the minority in those situations and I get to learn from my students as well. I embrace the critical consciousness philosophy of Paolo Freire, which focuses on educating students within their own values and ways of thinking. That means teachers must LEARN from their students.
On the flip side, white students would also benefit from having diverse teachers who can impart alternative worldviews and perspectives. Exposure to people who don't look like them is mandatory, I think.
While I am not conservative like Glenn Loury, I agree with his emphasis on excellence. His channel emphasizes that black people achieve excellence and excel in the face of discrimination and racism. He is a prime example, an esteemed professor, who is also black, at Brown who stays true to his roots and lives his own principles. He hates Ibram Kendi, though, as he thinks antiracism is an anti-intellectual philosophy, and said on his show "that m***f****r isn't even worthy of carrying our bookbag".
What I most liked about your talk today is the idea that people only want to burn down the branches of the tree that inconvenience them. I haven't heard this idea before, but it seems so right! Perhaps too a sense of altruism and understanding for other humans, especially those that are very different from us, is necessary for radical change to happen.
Anyone that would call “anti-racism“ “anti-intellectualism is not someone I would have very much use for. I think black excellence is killing Black people especially black women. I’m aware of both men. I’ll leave my comment there.
@theantihr Fascinating! I would love to hear your perspectives on intersectionality, critical race theory, and antiracism. I would also love to learn more about your perspectives on Glenn Loury's philosophy.
I do not agree with everything he says, but I respect his intellectual honesty and openness. I feel those two virtues are shared by you as well.
Should any of those topics interest you, I will look forward to hearing your perspectives on them, as they seem to be foundational to critical studies today and essential to practices in diversity and inclusion.
Thanks for responding to my post ❤
Its funny about knowing not to raise your voice , the funny part though is once you get to the point where you do raise it , you DONT CARE 😀😀
4:35-5:35 cold hard facts
I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people and other people nope just black I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people and other people nope just black I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people and other people nope just black I think it's important to point out that although we all play A part the part that black people play in this cannot destroy.. yet the part that white people play causes catastrophic outcomes not the same
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My current boss is a WM, he’s cool I’ve only had 2 issues with him over a decade. He just doesn’t go to bat for me (or anyone) - selfish baby boomer but no threat. I’ve never been able to tolerate working for WW always quit. They are ins@n3!!!!
Can you share what you would experience for you to quit working with the WW?
@millieconsultancy How about manipulative, always looking to throw you under the bus, always wanting to dominate and boss you around even when they're not on the same level. They live their lives in the workplace, feeling threatened by us. They're not to be dealt with.
That’s a lot of good experiences with bosses.
I know of the exact same situation but they were both layed off, in this situation the ww was the supervisor of the bm and they hung outside of work with the ww boss who is a wm.
Are you Jamaican? We got the same ears lol
Yes, colorism!